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This was a really cool video and I loved the fact that you did interviews in spanish with english translations. I think this really helps your viewers who are trying to learn spanish..you should definately do more.
I am an american and live in Colombia and In the United states for a few more years. Remember their is a Colombian price and an American price. I have a Colombian wife. She has taught me how to buy when we are there. That is one thing you need to learn when traveling abroad. You also need to shop around when exchanging money.
I recently got out of a long term relationship with a Venezuelan. Overall, after time, women are women no matter where you go. First the pros. Yes, she was attractive. Also she was feminine in that she did her best to take of me. Overall she was a good person. But over time, some of the things you mentioned came up. Obviously language barrier became frustrating (even though i am trying to learn Spanish, i am just terrible at learning languages, especially while juggling a full time job). She was also looking to be "kept" and looking for a man to save her, while simultaneously declaring her independence. It wasnt a terrible relationship, but ultimately cultural differences, language differences and a sprinkle of feminism ultimately led it to fail. Ultimately women are women. All men complain that they cant find a "traditional woman", but are we all fully and truly "traditional men"? Unless you have the money and willingness to provide for her and future children, its probably not a fair ask for most men. Most arent prepared for that responsibility in their heart of hearts. Though dating an attractive and traditional woman did teach me some things. A) women are women everywhere. The culture may be different, but their motivations are the same. Ultimately they date in their own best interests. If you arent attractive or wealthy or willing to FULLY provide, they will ultimately test you. B) I thought i would be much happier ina relationship. Its true, some things are nice, but you are only as happy as the other person. Her problems become yours and vica versa. If you arent in a fully happy and steady state yourself, no amount of traditional or beautiful women near you will solve for that. C) i have a greater appreciation for being single. Yes, sometimes its lonely. But more often than not its not. Between work, going to the gym, meeting other expats and other activities, life is easier when you arent obligated to solve the problems of other people. I only have to solve for myself. I think more men need to work on that last bit. If you cant solve for yourself, dating and/or a relationship is only going to amplify your own bullshit. Work through as many of your problems first if you want to date seriously (regardless of which country you are dating in). Work on your own health first. Your own finances first. Your own trauma first. Trying to skip that work and diving into a relationship is only going to make all of that work more difficult. Thats my 2 cents for what little it is worth.
Well said. That's the sad reality that many men don't want to hear. We (men) are imperfect ourselves, yet demand submission and perfection from another human being, who knows we can get up one day and leave them holding the bad (children).
Please stress to guys that being a young, hot woman from Colombia is NOTHING if she is not at your SES/class level, educationally, financially. You will NOT be able to form a functional relationship if the woman you meet has come from a severely disadvantaged background, filled with trauma.
Spot on! It applies to every country. I had the same experience even in my own country (Poland). If a woman come from dysfunctional family - it always cause a lot of problems. Regardless how hot she is, how feminine - it will fail. I am programmer and I am thinking about travel and work simultaneously. It crossed my mind to travel to Colombia. I think I wouldn't be a good fit there. Especially that I am an introvert and based on what I have seen - European extravert is South American introvert 😂. I would be an autistic there 😅
Of course if you go to fabelas, as in any other country maybe you will find single women's.. that happens when you all foreigners are coming to Colombia in search of sex and drugs... Coz when you related with educated people.... The reality change... Completely
True, but the alternative is almost always that the girl will quickly want to have kids with YOU. Then suddenly she is at home, bored and with no income, taking care of the kids. The likelihood of her cheating has skyrocketed, and in addition your costs have gone through the roof with the kids.
Wes, Wes, Wes. My man. You were one of the ones saying that Colombian women are fantastic. Believe me man, I'm not saying this in a way to disparage you but I'm like watching you do a complete 180 from your previous marriage and relationship videos regarding Colombian women. I mean I get it. I do. And I know you shouldn't worry about appearances, but it is just so weird hearing your talking points now, versus your talking points a year ago. I'm glad you did an ending clarifying. Ultimately, I think the selection process is just so key to things. And you can't do the 1-year courtship thing. You've got to really have a long-term relationship given the things you said to see if ANY woman is really fit for you. Marrying a Latin woman in many many cases (not all) is really a life altering change because culturally things ARE very different. That said, I think there are MANY Colombian women that can have successful relationships with "western" men. Marriage is hard no matter who it is with. That is the bottom line. Heck, my wife and I are the same race / culture / we even grew up together. Yes we used to play in the dirt together as little kids. And we STILL both had moments where we were ready to walk away. But here we are 30 years later still going strong. Religion has been a big contributor there, but as well, nothing forgoes the hard work that it takes to stay committed to one another and working through problems. PERIOD. I wrote some of this before I got to the ending, so your ending put it into better perspective. Good video as always, and still wishing you the best of luck on future endeavors.
Wes: I'm never dating Colombian women again Wes in 3 months: How I met my new Colombian wife 😂 Love the channel bro. Keep the content coming and stay safe.
I am Colombian and when I watch your videos, I wonder if you have ever met a Colombian woman whose interests go beyond the norm. I'm talking about a woman who is curious about other cultures, who likes to read, who likes to learn new things all the time and who considers that keeping up to date is vital, a woman who has travelled (or at least she's interested in doing so), who has had a good education, maybe speaks different languages or at least English and knows that there is more in the world than just Colombia, someone who knows how to differentiate between stereotypes and reality and who doesn't confuse the Chinese people with Japanese and Koreans or the Americans with the Europeans. I am from Barranquilla and I am surprised to see in your videos and in other expats' videos always the same type of Colombian women, but it's possible to meet educated women in Colombia. Don't get me wrong, I love your videos and I always watch them. Although I don't always agree with your ideas, I like the fact that you express them anyway, that's what freedom of speech is all about. I just think it's crucial to pay attention WHERE you meet people. I'm afraid Tinder, nightclubs, parties and churches are not going to cut it, with a few exceptions, of course. Keep up the good work and try to explore other types of Colombians. 😊
Very well said, Thank you for showing Wes that he doesn't have enough experience with life yet to be making that kind of statement about Colombian woman!!!
My family that lives in Colombia are exactly like the women you described, so I thought that was the "norm" in Colombia. Even their friends speak English and are very educated on politics and even on social issues (here in the U.S) very Highly educated, I felt pretty ignorant on world events compared to them. hehe I guess birds of a feather flock together? =) But yes I believe these women are not that "rare" to find.
@@WheresWesquality and quantity lol bro you want the world to be your oyster, move near any top university or live in a top tier city, NY, Hong Kong, Paris, Beijing. Singapore would be great for you, be great to see more of your content at an international level.
i also agree caro. if you only find girls on the streets that's bad, i met my colombian wife in EMMAT music university of BOGOTA. i would never meet a girl in a bar or out in the streets. i used to date a girl that was a dental assistant, hard working educated girls yes. my wife is very into politics and music. playing instrements and singing.
I'm from Colombia and it's really outstanding the way that you can summarize so well the people from the country. I'd say that nowdays there are less colombian women looking for a gringo -for the money- (maybe only the poor women) because as you said, they're very independent now and there is this new and strong culture to encourage that women become professionals and be in Senior and CEO positions, now is very normal that your girlfriend or wife gain more salary than you (ofc if they studied bachelor, master, etc), so, if you want to get an studied gf, you'll need to have something else beside money because they're very focused in their studies and jobs, that's a huge difference now, they're not in the house cooking and cleaning anymore.
Feminism is a cancer. The basic things in life don't change and many of the women that choose to follow these 'new and improved' ways will meet the same fate of older American and European women. They will be longing for Cpt Save a Hoe to make their lives better.
I've never met a more jealous people than colombian women, and ive dated almost all races. Most of the millennials think so highly of themselves while offering nearly nothing in return. They want their life to be easier, but don't realize the stress they induce on their partner. They want to be independent but also pampered. The crazy hot scale definitely applies here though, so i guess that's the trade off we have to accept if dating a colombian woman.
Maybe Colombian women are like that because people keep putting them on a pedestal. You guys praise them for their beauty so they’re going to take advantage of that and monetize it.. You can’t really blame them if that’s what everyone tells them their value is from (from their beauty). If I were a 9/10, shoot, I would use my beauty to manipulate guys and get things my way too.
"Most of the millennials think so highly of themselves while offering nearly nothing in return. They want their life to be easier, but don't realize the stress they induce on their partner. " TRUTH 100000%
As a colombian myself i cannot disagree with you. I find women in Medellín to be jealous and toxic. A big majority of them are looking for someone with money so they can maintain a good life. Sadly I think being a single man may be the way forward. At least that way i don't lose anything like money, time and energy
I say this with peace and love brudda because you’ve done so much for this community. But it seems like you’re a bit lost and you’re trying to find yourself. Your opinions and thoughts seem to shift from video to video. And no judgement because intense breakups swallow you. Just hoping you can find tranquility.
i would watch the video first so you can get a better understanding. The title is clickbaity but the reasoning is solid. Plus, just sharing what I learn as I grow
He's generalizing. From my experience these generalizations are pretty accurate. You would have to here them from with a non white ethnicity for the person to not be canceled. Obviously there are all types but there is a reason that these generalizations are observed. These actually might be a bit generous in some ways. Obviously colombians have some great qualities, but I have noticed in general from living and working with latin americans in general is that there is a high degree of what some would call straight up narcissism. The hard headedness, the dishonesty and lack of accountability among other things. Yes they are a good looking people but I have seen it in the family structure (obviously not all..). Narcissistic parents transmit narcissistic behavior patterns, on one end there is a lot of talk about morals with religion but on the other hand there is often a clear message that you are more important than the person next to you.
Watching this after finding out one of my dad's former coworkers got kidnapped and murdered in Colombia after meeting a Colombian woman online. I'm not saying you shouldn't date them, but that alone should be enough to convince you.
Is not a safe country, yes their women are pretty and sexy and take good care of themselves. But is it worth the hassle? They are very attractive women, at least thise I have seen in Europe
Lol I married a colombian woman. we have been married for over 6 years and can honestly say that she is a wonderful woman. If you are not a man with spanish women then you will have a lot of problems.
You guys hear about the rising kidnapping, ransom, and murders in Medellin? My friend Tou Ger Xiong was just kidnapped and killed a few days ago. He was lured by a girl who led him to gangsters. Be careful out there everyone. Always have a travel buddy and meet in public places. Don't do dating apps!
That guy was dating a 19 year old and he's 40. Come on man, he couldn't even speak spanish and he's messing with youngling thinking they want more than just his money.
Something not considered enough by foreigners is that even if you speak Spanish, it can be hard to talk about some issues as adeptly as you can in your own language. Fighting in a foreign language is tough - and most women when they are mad will not give you the benefit of the doubt when there is miscommunication.
Once I was crucified on another foreign RUclips channel when I gave my opinion. I am Colombian and have lived in the USA and Colombia, and I can give my testimony. I have dated women from various parts of the world. The best thing about living in the USA is the diversity of cultures that one encounters here, in my opinion. I don't know where they got the idea that Latinas were submissive, the perfect homemakers willing to give everything to their husbands, good cooks. You were describing my grandmother, and it made me laugh. Times have changed. Don't they do any research on the internet? The Internet invention from USA, Nowadays, no one wants a serious relationship. People have other goals, especially women. They don't want to have children. They have even started to outperform men in obtaining a university degree. They don't need us anymore. Now we focus on ourselves, on materialism that is consuming us, and this makes relationships superficial. It seems easy for us to jump from one romantic relationship to another. Look at what is happening in China and southern European countries. They are aging and getting married less to the point of disappearing. Look at the case of Italy. So, I see that many of you young people find it easier and cheaper to come to Latin America with the idea of rescuing a princess from poverty and saving them from the evil abusive Latin men (recurring comments that I have read in the comments of many videos by foreigners, not only about Colombia but also about other places). Look at divorce statistics in wealthy countries, not far from those in Latin America. There are good women and men, of course they exist. Logically, not in Parque Lleras or party places. Finding a good woman and a good man requires a lot of time, not just a summer vacation. The best woman I have had was a Texan. I regret losing her. We had different goals at that time, and when I returned, it was too late. In today's globalized world with social media, society has been transforming into a more homogeneous one. The goal is to live a stress-free life, traveling the world and working as little as possible but still being millionaires. I don't see the goals of women and men being any different from what I am saying. Times have changed, and we will reach a point where seeing a stable couple with children will be quite amazing thing. That's my humble opinion. Regenerate response
Like yourself I too am a Colombian American. As a young man I dated woman from all over the world. I've lived in Los Angeles, Miami and Houston. Mostly Texas where you can still find extremely conservative family oriented woman. Your comment is spot on. Wise and concise. It's all relative. Men nowadays need to learn how to navigate through these modern times. It is what it is. This is my personal motto. Men have to stop complaining and get their shit together. Focus on what you're seeking in life. A good woman will eventually "discover" you and it all depends on how you manage the opportunity. It's not complicated. At least I don't think it is but for many young men, dating seems to be unsolvable issue. That's very sad. Saludos amigo!
@@davidvalens3337 I did date a few Tejanas. Yee haw! 🤣 Lot's of fun. However, on a business trip I took to Venezuela I met my current wife. Been happily married for 27 years. I love Venezolanas. There's something about them I find extremely appealing. Very sexy and feminine. They rarely cuss at all. As long as they come from good families just like most Colombianas who do, they'll support you through thick and thin. Having said that, there are still lots of fine ladies within the US. I'm very happy to have settled down though. I enjoy being married to someone I know I can count on for the rest of my life. Cheers!
I think you’re comment is wise. To add on For East Asia hyper competitive society is one of the main reasons and the women are obsessed with status there. Southern Europe has economic issues and maybe it’s cultural as well.
@@LouieManza although I agree with your sentiments on men the problems start when you get in relationships with these modern women. That's when you find out all about how they view men. What they think your role in a relationship to be. If you follow said woman's advice she loses attraction for you and blames you for the relationship failing. These new relationships are catch 22's at best.
Wes you're on point on many of your comments. I'm Colombian and was married to a paisa i understand. The infidelity in Medellin is insane. The females there cheat just as much if not worse than the men. Medellin is not for relationship neither is Pereira though not as bad. You can't say you won't date a Colombian lady again unless you leave. LOL. You should for a bit go explore Argentina, Chile, Brazil and breathe a litte. Don't lose sight of your goals and importantly, don't lose sight of the Man upstairs. If anything you've gained is a closer understanding of yourself and the Man upstairs. Be safe. Go to Barranquilla get to know a little about that city. It has mad potential.
I’m from medellin but I was raised in Italy and paisa women are very promiscuous. They only care about money, Europe is full of women from medellin, pereira, Armenia and manizales that are prostitutes, Colombia is the country with most webcam girls in the world and almost all are paisa, thanks to god my family leaved Colombia a long time ago.
Lol good luck boo. My family is from Barranquilla and people are very classist there. I was just there with my boyfriend and although the food and culture is great I found the people to not be very open. I come from old money in Barranquilla but grew up in the states, and I can tell you that no woman from Barranquilla that’s from a “good family” will give any so called ghetto “passport bro” the time of day. They will usually go for men that are on their same level and a man that can speak Spanish. Barranquilla oozes classicism, and people even know each other by last name there. If you think that you’re going to get some submissive woman in Barranquilla you’re delusional.
A new paradigm every 6 months. I'd maybe take a breather on the absolute life takes. I dont mean this in a mean spirited way. I like your channel and content
After 20 years living ears in this cesspool, one of my favorite sayings is that when you meet a Colombian woman you need to ask her if she is hetero-curious. And the men in Medellin are at least 50% bi. VD has a 30% prevalence here and lying is an endemic part of the culture, so don't believe anyone who claims they are either faithful or have not been screwing around.
I'm dating a Colombian guy and I think he's learning alot of things from me. I see him evolving and becoming more responsible just like me. He admires my work ethics and wants to do better. We Converse via Google translate and we have no issues there while we learn each other's language. It's been a learning experience but I won't trade him for anything. I love him to pieces.
I feel like people always talk about the importance of respecting Muslims but its never talked about how they lack respect towards others religions. Why should Colombians be expected to convert and have Islamic nerratives pushed onto us? If Muslims come to Colombia they should be respectful of our culture and our religion. I am so tired of the double standard, In many Middle Eastern and African countries Christians and other religious minorities are persecuted and treated atrociously yet this is often ignored by much of the world. I am Colombian but live in North America and I am tired of having Muslims trying to convert me and argue that they are superior because of their religion or ethnic background (usually a combination of the two). In addition, the comment "I want to be with a Colombian woman" seems to fetishize us. It seems that they just want to be with us because of the stereotypes that they have of latin women which consist of the perception that we are beautiful and sexual ect. These stereotypes undermine the inherent dignity of the actual person and enable latin women to be viewed as sexual objects. This whole thing is gross and as a Colombian I feel violated and disrespected.
I don’t know about Africa but in the middle east christians have been living there for thousands of years,there many churches that are older than colombia by a thousand year,don’t spread fake news. If you have met muslims who are trying to convert you at the same time disrespecting your faith those people are obviously not very smart.
Totalmente de acuerdo. La única razón por la cual les gustan las latinas es por la hipersexualización y este tipo de vídeos es literal la fetichización...
Islam commands Muslims to convert kafirs(Non-Muslims) to Islam which is more of a political ideology than religion. Day of judgement will come when the whole world is Muslim under one Caliphate
Throughout the years in Colombia i have made my experiences. Overall Colombianas are just women too, and I don't mean that in a negative way. They are just more intense in any aspect than in other parts of the world. Western guys are used to jump through all of the hoops to make a woman happy. Happy wife, happy life right? Wrong. Her respect for you will quickly decline if you're not leading. They might claim they hate machismos toxicos, but in the end that's what they desire. If you make too many concessions, you'll lose her respect and it'll end badly. However, there are still plenty of red flags. If you avoid them, it'll be easier. No single moms, no party girls, no woman with bikini photos on Instagram (ideally no social media addict at all), no woman without a proper job, no woman with a high focus on status and things. She should be able to enjoy a hike as much as a fancy boat trip. And don't use your financial resources to get their attention, or you'll get a gold digger. Last but not least, learn how to say No and judge only based upon actions while completely ignoring her words. If her words don't align with her actions, you're being fooled.
Very sorry to hear about your divorce and the circumstances surrounding it. It’s been a while since I checked in on your channel and was shocked to see all that’s happened. Just my 2 cents as a complete stranger looking at the situation… I think you might be happier with a more well established worldly Colombian woman who’s traveled a bit and has some perspective on the world at large. This is probably a stark contrast to your ex wife who seemed live a very sheltered life. Even in North America I’ve always paid close attention to a women’s family life and the dynamics that are at play there. These are the people that you’ll likely be spending a good deal of time with for the rest of your life so it makes sense to make sure that you’re compatible with them in addition to your wife. Best of luck in the coming months. Keep your chin up and I hope that all goes well for you.
bro come on! 😂 1. you don't know that and 2. WE ALL buy womens love whether you realize it or not. You just don't be a simp about it and have self respect. But ain't no woman marrying a broke man. @@JK-nq1dl
Sorry man I think you're back back stepping on what you said many months ago. Although I agree with some of the points you made you're definitely looking on the negative side of things. After living and knowing my Colombian white for the past 6 years I look back and realize it would have been easier with an American woman and less expensive. It hasn't been easy ride I used to blame her for cultural differences and her family. But I realized after a long time it was me that was part of the problem as well. I feel you keep on blaming culture religion and other things. when I was living in Colombia for a couple years I never hung out with Americans or gringos as they all seemed very lost. Not saying that you are however give it some time take a step back and reassess. Good luck man!
As a Canadian , my Paisa lady is probably the most jealous woman I have ever been with .... and I am not a cheater , and give her no reason to worry ..... I think it's her past experiences as a Colombiana that make her suspicious for no reason ..... but she's getting better and better with her trust issues... I will never date another western woman .... Cheers 🍻
East Asian women are the opposite they give you no attention, can be cold and use sex as a weapon. Also they are obsessed with status. I rather have some jealously than a cold woman who barely reckons my existence.
I am Asian from the U.S. , was married to a Colombian woman from Bogota. Women from Bogota are different than women from a smaller cities or region, such as Barranquilla., or even Cali, from my personal experience. Feminism had been prevalent all over Latin America. Colombian women still retained the traditional family oriented role. However, basic culture in Colombia have not changed much due to limited education and exposure to the U.S. and other modern countries. A educated professional in Colombia is not equal to same professional in other countries. For example, you could see a practice doctor younger than 30 in Colombia. I personally would not live in Colombia even if my wife is from there. There are lots of career limitation for a foreigner. The fluctuation of currency and economy are big concern for many years. My ex-wife owned 5 houses in Bogota, and the inflation made them worthless. It may be OK if you retire there with money. U.S. provided much more career and business opportunities (including security) than anywhere else in the world. I had been happily married with another Latina from South America. To my opinion they are the best. I wouldn't touch any woman from the U.S. with a 10 feet pole.
@@anthonyfam5469 It sounds like the nominal price of the houses did not keep up with the rate of inflation. So not really inflation itself making the houses lose value, rather inflation being a symptom of a messed up economy with real estate value becoming debased relative to wages and other goods and services
Dated a Brazilian. Thought I was doing good by branching out dating a Latina. But that didn't work out since she was party type. I found myself a nice Asian girl from the mainland who traditional and good with family so that is way better for me
Brazilian w0men are worse then colombians. Brazilians just want to party and get drunk as much as possible. They cheat just as much, and more infected with f3minism. They also only think short term, not about the future. Only care about pleasure. Colombians may be g0ld diggers but at least they care about their family, kids and future. Its a shame as brazilians may be the most attractive w0men
Colombia is a country with 50 million people. Most international tourists think getting a wife is like getting a piece of meat. Among Colombian decent people, Medellin has gained a bad reputation over the last five years, just as Cartagena. Moreover, Colombian women that are open to start a relationship through nightlife and/or Tinder, tend to not to be the most respectable. It seems it is a lose or lose situation for Colombian women through what is expressed in this video. They only engage in relationships with foreigners to get some money out of it yet is neither good that there are so many holding job positions. You mention that there are educated, and a "different kind of Colombian women" in Bogota's high strata. I would say that there are also great girls in the low strata all around the country. Lots of girls that study hard to help their families, and have very healthy priorities. As also there are a number of ill intentioned women in Bogota's high strata. Divisions arent so black and white. Cheers
Calling women on clubs and Tinder not respectable shows machismo. Do you think the men there are any good? I downloaded dating apps in the past because I've been single for years, I'm shy and I only met people through work and I don't like mixing work and personal affairs. Everyone I met on the dating apps was a disgusting idi0t and a man wh0re. Or an emotionally unavailable divorced ugly loser in his 40s wanting to date beautiful women while looking like a midget Shrek. They sent me unrequested dick pics, refused going on a date and demanded I go have seggs with them in their house like an unpaid hooker and more. I only went on a date once and the guy became obsessive and scary while also actively pursuing a relationship with another girl. Seriously, most of this sexist content is focused on Colombian women being golddiggers, vapid and toxic while treating us like a piece of meat and ranking us for our beauty.
It's not just Colombian women, it's Latin American women in general. I've dated Puerto Rican, Dominican, Colombian, Cuban women and they were all very similar. Jealous, demanding, lacking chill (for lack of a better term), overly talkative, and prisoners to stereotypes - and by that I mean there's little room for individuality with them, everyone men and women alike are meant to fit a mold and anyone that doesn't is bad.
@@BubbleOfJellythey are just naive. That's it. Especially considering that most of passport bros are less confident than local men and insecure. They would be cheated on or left sooner or later. It seems to me that Colombian women are very very hypergamous.
It was so interesting hearing you say that there is such a high percentage of fatherless children. I had spoken to a Colombian woman who told me this, and I did not know it was such a widespread issue.
it is so worring, most of fathers abandoned their children, even after long term marriages, it is like part of that toxicity and jelousy culture, they think the woman has to be with him to deserve child support.
I was actually shocked to hear such a high percentage of single mother/parenthood in Colombia, like damn. And it sure does not help that ‘feminism’ is on the rise as well ☹️
I live in Medellin half the year and nyc the other half. Like every place in the world you will find genuine people , fake people, happy people, miserable people. I’ve found women are exactly the same everywhere- they want a man to be a man. Confident, respectful, make them laugh, be the man in the bedroom , treat them like a princess out side the bedroom. Noooooo matter what you hear most women still want a man not a feminine version of what you use to be. Lot of over analyzing, lot of generalizations in your videos buddy. Also Dress well, stay in shape, smell good
@@tednguyen7258 we’ll hey if some men in todays environment want to denounce there masculinity that’s fine. I just don’t like when they push it on all the other men. In other words…..lol dude is feminine/gay and there’s nothing wrong with that
Oh no! I just started watching your channel yesterday and went back to your older videos. I’m sorry to hear about your situation, but wish you the best!
Im Colombian and women there work hard and try to get their college in order to give good life to their kids many of these women choose a wrong man who doesn’t help them in any way. We are also independent because our dads were not there and many work at a very early age.
I disagree with a few points you made, specifically about point 2. While Latinas aren’t necessarily ultra trad, I’d say they are much more so then gringas. They are definitely very physically feminine. Their hygiene is on point, they are super worried about their appearance, they grow their hair down to their waist. They can’t even leave the house with doing themselves up let alone go out on a date with their hair pulled up and no make up (which is very common in middle America). They have a way higher degree of elegance and grace. on average they are much more likely to know how to cook. In the dating process they are definitely more submissive and easy to deal with. Very little nagging, obnoxiousness, or crassness( at least at the beginning lol). They let you fully take the lead most of the time, and it’s just above and beyond a way more pleasant experience from top to bottom. Although, they definitely are much more jealous!! 100 percent.
nahhh, you have not seen (Eastern) Europeans then :)) "elegance" and "grace", you mean Shein skirts, acrylic nails and plastic surgeries like BBL? Been to Brazil and Colombia :))
All this is very true. The cultural difference is almost impossible to resolve. E.g., Colombian women love dancing, and they are consquently attracted to very good, seductive dancers, which means Colombian guys - not foreigners. These Colombian guys have danced since they were two years old. Us foreigners will never be able to look superior and competent relative to them. So there we have a big disadvantage. Same with flirting, humor, etc.. So the "best option" for the Colombian woman is to have a foreigner pay the bills, house her and feed her, while she cheats on you as soon as she gets the chance with a local guy.
Hi Wes. I just wanted to respond to you. I've been watching your videos for a little while and enjoy them. I'm very sorry what happened to your marriage, and going through a break-up is the hardest thing, especially publicly. So, I get how you feel. But, I want to come back to a statement you made about single mothers. It is not just a Latino thing. This crisis is happening in my home country(Canada) and the UK. It is quite widespread, and has become normalized unfortunately. I think this is a generational, and a results from baby boomer parents. I am Canadian, but come from Colombian parents,, and seen the increase in single Moms. All I will say is, just stick to your beliefs and integrity and try not to let this situation paint all colombian women this way. All people are individuals, and should be treated as such. We all have our preferences. I hope things turn around for you. I look forward to seeing more videos and where your journey takes you. Take care.
@@hamletmedellin8011The USA has the highest rate of single mother households. Statistics are merely a way to quantity a situation but interpretation of facts and figures is extremely important.
My friend I have watched your videos for a while. I am also here in Colombia for 5 years now, and I think that you have started to peel the layers in what actually happens here behind everything.... at least in the perspective of a foreigner
I still will date a colombian after my adventures there but I'll really be selective with them. To be honest I think a peruvian will be a better partner after being in both countries.
Dating Colombian men is also very difficult. If I didn't have the alien boyfriend I have I would be with a gringo for sure. Man are incredible possessive and I would say they are more toxic than women because their nature and that's why Colombia is one of the countries with higher levels of crime of passion and acid attacks. Also men as you mention in the video are incredible bad fathers. Unfortunately this country is so damaged emotionally and most people don't know what's to have a healthy relationship and that's for both men and women. I am glad my students have found good women, well I have helped them a lot to learn not only Spanish but also how to spot a bad woman. It is as important as Spanish. 😅
You nailed it. I think many behaviours exhibited by both men and women are a symptom of deeper societal failures: a flawed parental system, low significance of education and the trauma that comes with the bad reputation/history of the country.
Wow, those are my same exact gripes with American-Mexican women here in Orange County! They are tremendously gifted in their looks but extremely close minded in dating outside their Banda (music)Zone. Havent made it down to Colombia yet, but it seems like you just dashed my Latina dreams. Maybe your parents are keeping it💯 in that culture pays a HUGE role in whom you should marry. I prolly should spend more time learning my native Cantonese than all that fruitless effort I put into learning Spanish.
Dated this Colombiana that came to California from Bogota (illegally). It was a dream come true, but everything you mentioned surfaced about 40 days into the relationship. She is very feminist, has never had a dad, her mom has been cycling boyfriends her whole life, and lives with so much trauma. My life is the complete opposite, so she for sure thought it was all too good to be true and that I am more "privileged." Complete flip of a switch when she tried to end things, legit had no reason to end it other than "I need to work on myself and I do not need your help" True waste of time and it drove me crazy investing all that emotion and time for it to the end the way it did.
Pretty accurate bro! Colombian here with and Australian wife. Best decision of my life. There are exceptions but honestly I think you deserve better than a crazy and toxic Latina. If you really want to settle down in Colombia, try to hang out with educated and well-off girls, especially in Bogotá. A lot of them have travelled, speak really good English and most importantly they care about you, not your money or what your nationality represents for them (Green card for her and the 50 members of her family). Greetings from Vancouver, Canada. 🎉
exactly can't be dating girls who are broke and not even young and physically attractive. What's the point? Could find a better looking girl in a developed country who's family has money at least.
Also, I would like to add it is difficult to date Colombian men because because out of eight months of dating various guys, I find that 85% of the men that I meet are looking for a handout looking for big gifts looking for my money. Even the one good when I settled on for six weeks he still ended up, not paying for his food not appreciating anything I did or paid for almost expecting it, as is right because I make four times as much money per month as he does, he had a budget for food, but he never shared money with me. He let me pay for everything in the food department, and then he asked to borrow money for a very expensive leather bag that I would not even buy for myself I would go with a no-name brand, so that is a big problem here if you’re gay, and you’re a man dating the men here
Soy colombiana, y la mayoría de los chicos piensan que las gringas son máquinas de dinero, y que son buenas para solo sexo, obvio algunos si son muy tiernos en ese aspecto.
For some reason, it's kind of similar to my experience in the Philippines. The women here seem to me more responsible and there also exists a single mom crisis.
I’m Mexican and also traveled around the world including Colombia. To refer to Colombian values as close minded just because it doesn’t fit your own, shows who is the close minded one. I think you are just sour from your personal relationship experience but don’t generalize.
I am Colombian myself and I actually have to agree with Wes in that part, believe it or not. To be honest, I never noticed that until I left my country, lived abroad for 6 years and then went back. That's when that cultural shock hit me hard. That thing that he says in 4:02 about Colombians thinking that our food is the best, our culture is the best and so on was actually what I faced when, after returning to my country, I was asked questions like if I had missed the food while I was overseas and I answered with all honestly _"not really, because I got the opportunity to taste some other dishes from different places of the world which I happen to love even more than the Colombian cuisine, and even when I love the Colombian cuisine, it's not really that diverse and most of the food relies a lot on deep fried stuff and carbohydrates"._ Basically that answer was not taken too well and I was perceived as an arrogant person, _"que me creí de mejor familia por haber vivido afuera"_ according to their own words, and even one of my uncles in law came out with this nationalist speech to try to make me feel bad in which he basically told me that if he had been given the choice to work and live outside Colombia he would vehemently have said "no!" because he was "TRULY" in love with Colombia because _"Colombia has all the ecosystems in the world, mountains, rainforest, landscapes, exit to two oceans, the best food, the warmest people and so on so there was no need to live abroad since we were in the best country to live in..."_ Being that said, yep, those impressions that Wes has are actually accurate, specially with people from small cities or towns that have never left the country.
I think people who don’t travel nor go around much nor go around other cultures tend to be closed minded. This is true regardless of race/nationality/etc. My mother is closed minded her father is even more closed minded. One of my friends is Filipino and is very open minded cause he travels and deals with people from just about every part of the globe.
I had a Brazilian girlfriend who didn't want to leave her country. Ever since then, I've been wary of Brazilian women with the "tem tudo aqui", "everything is here", mindset. Every country has its pros and cons.
@@WheresWes Looking forward to my upcoming trip and just learning about the people and their culture. I enjoyed hearing about your experiences, both specific and general.
That's was interesting and informative. I like the fact that you've asked some locals about certain issues and had addressed other ones too. Personally, for me, I think culture can do a lot more with the type of person someone wants to be or chooses to be, despite what country they are from. Who's to say someone can't find someone they will truly have a great relationship with from two different countries? Maybe a lot of their personal values line up? The possibilities are endless. Great video!👍
I think it’s great that Colombians in certain areas feel they are the best, because frankly they are. The biggest problems is Americans coming to Colombia and imposing their culture here. Foreigners are turning Colombia into the states or Europe with the pricing and culture. Colombia has its crime but nothing like the US. Been in country since 93. You guys coming here need to confirm to Colombia , not the other way around.
I grew up in Baja (Mex) and California and travelled extensively to South America mainly because of the climate and food there (the people are very warm, too). One thing you left out, is that Colombian women are for the most part "freer" and less coy about sex than women from other Latin countries. If a Colombian woman/girl likes you, generally she has no qualms about going to bed with you. Also, in my opinion, Colombian men are less attractive physically than other Latin men and, due to the fact that Colombian women are so hot, tend to be irresponsible blatant players and cheaters, which is another reason Colombian women favor foreign men over Colombian men, and to a certain extent, turn into cheaters themselves. Other than that, Colombian women are a lot of fun to be around, you just have to choose VERY wisely.
It seems like the window of opportunity is closing for men to find good wives in Latin America. It’s like do it now because in 5 or 10 years, it will be bad the same as the states.😢
Wes, you made fantastic points! Colombian women of this generation aren't what their mothers and grandmother's were. There is more of a hookup culture now and less tradition. I lived in Colombia for a year and fluent in Spanish and saw the same thing. I see more gringos marrying mexican women and other Latin countries. If you look at Abel torres or Casa Verde red pill is becoming mainstream in LATAM. I think western men should be focusing on Asia or Eastern europe
Well said I'm afraid this is actually true unfortunately. Because latin culture can get really spicy. The Latina women don't play when it comes to talking to other women they can get extremely jealous.
Bro, catching up to you after our chat at our homie's potluck. Love the video. The way you put it, I thank my lucky stars that my GF and her family are sooo chill. Hope all is well in Thailand. Hope to catch up with you in person again soon.
Bru I don’t know about you but I’ve been to cali Colombia many times and I can not miss, no pay to play real girls working and going to school low body count type females 18-22 and I’m 37 I’m talking less then 5 bodies on them we go for a coffee or ice cream and then back to the air b&b. If you take care of your body, you take care of your pockets, and you read, write, and speak the Spanish language I promise gentle men you are in. Best of luck P.s. if you’re a simp in the USA you’re a simp in Colombia you’re not getting any different results nowhere step your game up stop simping🤝
so you take girls to the air b n b and bang them? umm you should go slower. i would lose interest if a girl is that easy. you have to be a challenge. also 5 bodies is too much. my girl would have to be a virgin. maybe at maximum 2 men....
I totally agree with you? I don't know what planet this dude is on. Sure, Colombian women aren't perfect, but they are a million times better than women from the west.
lol no 18-20 year old wants a 37 year old in any sort of romantic or sexual way besides to receive money out of him, stop the cap. they'll take your bread and go spend it on their bandido boyfriend from their barrio
I divorced my colombian wife last year . After we actually started living together for a few months , she would get mad at me for doing things my way. So we would fight a lot until we called it quits
Things that you metioned are not exclusive to just Colombian women. This is accross latin America. Most latinas are very posesive and jealous. I've dated latinas from 6 different countries. You might as well not date any latinas .
Anyway I'm on the inpression that, for the most part, they seems over rated by naive gringos and unreliable despite their pretended good values. And, with all those single moms, it takes two to tango; no pun intend. It speaks.
I think these traits apply for both latinamerican men and women who haven't traveled much, come from a strong religious upbringing and have other limitations. I had major cultural shocks as a Venezuelan woman dating Argentinean and Colombian men who were extremely closed-minded, clingy, only liked local foods, where very traditionalists, very family-oriented, and so on, and so forth. So, I think cultural shocks come from being unable to empathize and be curious and open-minded about learning about and from other cultures, rather than by being from a specific country. That's my experience anyways...
Because I was following you I started visiting Colombia last year and have been there 3 times . I love the country, currently trying to set up a work situation where I can make money online and live in Colombia.
Dont blame others for your own decisions, and don't compare women as a general thing because in Colombia there's very big differences depending on where they we born. Age is also a factor that contributes to have a short marriage and quick divorce. Now days, young people have no clue about what the purpose of a marriage is.
You don't have to be submissive, just push your narrative harder and the person will either accept you for who you are or if not you most likely haven't met the right person. The other half has to accept that their partner is not going to change. It doesn't matter if the girl is Colombian or not. If as a man you want something - you can always make things work your way.
Good vid, covered all the relevant points very quickly. The single mom thing was a shock to me at first, back when I first visited Colombia in the late aughties. I remember going on two dates in a row, both of these paisas were 21 year old stunners, only to find out that they already had, not one, not two, but THREE kids at 21! I was totally fooled, as they were both knockouts, so it didn't even occur to me that their bodies could have gone through three pregnancies already! Kudos to them for taking care of their bodies like that, unlike so many gringas stateside . . . but this blew my mind at first. Then I realized this was sadly a common thing. One girl even confided to me the father of her kids was shot and killed in a botched robbery attempt (HE was one of the robbers by the way. . .). When I was staying in Bogota, an older woman I dated, this one 34 so one year younger than me at the time, was divorced with no kids . . . but yeah she mentioned her ex-husband was physically violent with her, so she had to leave him and move to Bogota from Bucaramanga (where she was from). As a tip to the guys here, I would say that while the weather in Bogota is perhaps not ideal when compared to Medallo, you will likely find a woman with more education, more professional background (if you value that), more travel experiences, maybe speaks a bit English, less likely to have 2 or 3 bambinos, etc . . . The language thing was never a problem as Spanish is my second language since I was a kid, but I can definitely see that as a major issue that a lot of guys here haven't seriously thought through. This is why I recommend Bogota, where you will find more ladies with international exposure or experiences, and can speak a little English. I suppose the "red pill" or "passport bro" critique here would be why go to a foreign country to look for a woman with "bad Western" influences, but I would argue a pure Colombiana might be too much for some gringos to handle, lol . . . 😆 The infidelity thing is something that would have bothered me a lot more when I was young and insecure, but now that I'm approaching old fart status, I'm more accepting of certain realities. I have no illusions or ideals about this anymore; it is what it is . . . but when in Rome . . . 😉
What changed that made Latina women "empowered"? They became able to productize themselves via Instagram and OF. Salaries doing regular jobs have not increased for women, that's for sure, and they're often subject to abusive and exploitative behaviour in the workplace, so many would prefer to succumb to the temptation of easy money marketing themselves as a product, to the point where it's become normalized. This is the biggest turn-off with dating in Latin America.
@@WheresWes Single motherhood is a symptom, not the cause. The cause is an extreme degradation of values, and trashy reguetonero culture. I also say "empowered" with the quotes because they are actually more enslaved than ever
Here is my long term view on marrying a Colombian. I met a Colombian in the US in high school. she was in the US since 10 years old. I met her in high school. now married 30 years with two grown children. I speak Spanish and have permanent residence in Colombia. I have many citizenships and am looking to move to Europe soon. To think you will drop in into Colombia and make a magic family is a fools errand.
Colombian women are great to look at but that is as far as it goes. I have lived there two times and they lack intelligence and their culture is very toxic. There are better countries to visit and find people who will respect you more. Every guy I know except for two who are older has a sad story with a Colombian woman. It usually always ends very badly.
they are clowns...lucky if they make $400 for the month and yet so snobby and think they're the best....best at what being poor and producing cocaine i suppose....the women dont know their place at all, which is BENEATH Western men
😳🥺😥 I think they're looking for a girlfriend in the wrong places, the way we socialize here is very different. I'm old now, but in my time they told me, if he invites you to a rumba "he's not", obviously times have changed. It´'s very unfortunate because many girls here have also had bad experiences with foreigners, so there are many red flags. In reality, finding the ideal partner is a challenge for human beings in all cultures. luck
As a Mexican even i wouldn’t date a Colombian woman. Seeing that language and religion is the same but its night and day when it comes to mexican and Colombian women . With the exception of english speaking countries in south America and brasil all the other women from the Spanish speaking countries in south america are a big no for me 😅
I tried to do relationships with Latin women when I was younger, and the simple fact is, the biggest con is that these women are very, very attached to their families. You own a house? She will try to move her parents, brother, brothers kids into your house. Her father needs $1500 to fix his truck, they'll try to guilt you into forking out the money. You want to go out to a fancy steak restaurant and have some good wine? You better be able to fork out cash for 11 people. At the end of the day, I ended up going Asian. There are cons too (very judgmental of your finances, and family background), but very feminine, and loyal. I definitely would skip all western born women, all of them. The majority of them are feminist and are not long term marriage material.
very true, my colombian wife moved in her younger sisters into our home during covid and it went down bad very fast. i had to kick younger sisters out and it really hurt the relationship. but also its good they are attached to their family, they can help you when you need it too. also every time i let my wife family borrow money they always paid it back. it builds trust. and when we go out to dinner we split bills i never paid for 11 people. i think only marry virgin. less baggage.
@@cc-92 they started to get annoying, they started to feel entitled. i was paying all the money for the bills, utilities and food. one of the sisters was very dirty, she was really hot tho, even prettier and younger than my wife and she would leave her smelly used panties and lingerie all over the place like in the bathroom floor, so i would find them when i went to take a shower. also they would start to fight with each other too much... they were just girls, 17, 19, and 22. hormonal. it was too much i started to feel like i had to become their father. meanwhile i was starting to lust over the girls. i would catch the little sister masterbating. i would hear her vibrator. and her moaning and she would try to flirt with me so also i would lust over her.i really wanted to start fcuking them and we were attracted to eachother, and stuck in a house during covid lockdowns. but i started to just actually get sick of them and wanted them out.... it started to feel like they took over my house. all of them wanted my attention. i feel they really needed a father figure. they also started to get lazy and didn't wanna contribute, one of the sisters had a dog and would not clean up the dogs poop and urine. another time the hot sister broke glass and she didnt clean it well so i cut myself on the glass because i didnt know she broke glass and she didnt care enough to get all the peices. so that was it, i blew up on them one day and started yelling at them, even made them cry. ... now we are good. but yea they dont live here anymore. almost ended the marriage after all that. it was that bad. sure they were hot and now that i think about it i should have started making love with all 4 of them and we would all have been happy during covid lockdowns. daddy happy and girls fed and fcuked good. of course secretly and i would only have sex with the 2 pretty ones. we used to cuddle in a freindly way and i woudl get erections. and they would laugh and gigglle so i know they were into me.
I’m going through the same thing dating a Latina(Colombian). Eventually a Colombian woman will come to expect the man in her life to do things for their family. Especially if you’re a foreigner, they automatically assume you have enough money to help her family. But I really believe this is true with women all around the world, especially in poor countries.
I went out with a girl from Barranquiila who tried that dominate crap with me. She shut up when I told her she might need to pay for her half of the date. She complied really quick.
I'm American but my ancestry in Kenyan. I consider myself very well educated (Ivy League). I've never been married. I got intrigued by Colombia and Brazil like 10 years ago. We have Colombian and Brazilian restaurants in Boston which I have really enjoyed. But that's been the extent of my exploration. Have been planning to visit Colombia but been hesitant due to the stories regarding foreigners getting robbed, drugged or worse. I will definitely hit Brazil soon. I have to say that I find Wes's channel to be very interesting. I'm new to it. I think I'm learning a lot from it and the comments from viewers. I think the more I view his channel, the more I realize that cross-cultural relationships are much harder than I thought. And if you throw in language differences, you have a steep mountain to climb. I have watched many other RUclips channels which make it seem easy but I'm slowly beginning to feel that it isn't so. Wes has more credibility to me because he has actually been married to a Colombian. I think for someone like me, it's better to try to find someone in America, as hard as it may seem, if I'm going to go the cross-cultural route. This could include a Black American, an African from any African country but who grew up in America, a Colombian or Brazilian who grew up in America, basically an American of any race who is cool with cross-cultural relationships. I think this would work best for me. I'm on the older side. I don't need hassles.
In hindsight you probably shouldn’t have got married so quickly. Now she’s entitled to half of your stuff. You are young, handsome and speak Spanish well so you will be able to find genuine Colombian women but these 40-50 yo unattractive Americans have to be realistic about why a hot 20yo is dating them
Yes, one would think that with the sheer volume of attractive women here that it would be a crap shoot, but the reality is quite different. Personally, I've decided they have to meet at least the following two criteria to consider getting involved with someone again: 1) college educated, and 2) at least some exposure to U.S. culture via either an extended visit, or prior time living there.
Good points, but once they become immersed in U.S. culture, even for a brief visit, it's a wrap. The further they are away from the wide spectrum of influences here, the better, IMO. Nonetheless, I respect your thoughts.
Goodness why on earth would you want them to be highly Educated (ultra indoctrinated) exposed to US culture? They are just going to hold super wacky far left beliefs and be easily manipulated. No thanks give me the ultra Latin ones that don’t care about Miley Cyrus twerking.
I was married to a Guatemalan for 12 years and 6 kids and yes the cultural difference can be a deal breaker. I was fortunate and ended up with the kids here in the US and she went back to her family in her country
Every relationship fails for the same reason. Letting the woman lead or letting her think she's your equal. And in most cases above you. I know, I get it. You try so hard to be a good man and do the right thing. That does not work!! Every successful business has a clear leader. And yes, a relationship is a business. Never tolerate any level of disrespect. I did not get to where I am in life because of a woman. I got to where I am in spite of a woman. This takes all the pressure off the woman to feel she needs to compete, or prove something.
As a woman, here is my two cents; If you do not want me to be your equal (by however you define equality) than you need to be the dominant leader by having the traits as well as the responsibilities of one. You need to be making money and lots of it. If we are both working, you need to be making double of what I make to be worthy of my "submissiveness." You need to be leading financially at the very least. Tell me; where it makes sense for you to be telling someone who outearns you what they can and cannot be doing. Because that is exactly what I have a hard time comprehending. Cause if you arent doing the bare minimum of making a lot of money, then what exactly makes you a man besides that appendage between your hips? You need to realize women Western or foreign are not slaves and housekeepers. It is ridiculous as well as childish to think that a woman is working as much as you, outearns you by pursuing draining jobs, and then come home to take care of you AND children. While you get to go home, crack open a beer and demand sex from your partner. You simple-minded fool if you think that that is okay.
@sydneewright6244 you talk about being an empowered w0men and how important it is to you. But if the man is mega rich you transform into a submissive f3male. You sound like some sort of pr0stiture that could be bought for the right price. Sounds like the modern w0men.
A relationship should be equal and flexible, not one in which a man is the master and his wife a dumb slave. Who is not allowed to disagree with him. The problem is that some men want a subservient wife who stays at home but they aren't even willing to provide a home, income, citizenship, or anything to their wives. They blame feminism and go to foreign countries for wives but they don't seem to realize that they have to be providers for their wife, their children, and their wife's family. For their entire lifetime. Also a woman who is subservient does not contribute to her husband's financial obligations. Unlike in Western countries, she may not divorce him and get half. She and her entire family will just use him for money for his entire life. Either way it cost money to have a wife. Or even a girlfriend who is a live in maid. All of these self-centered, selfish guys ask for the moon but don't give anything in return.
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Good video! good in-depth review of the points you've made. much to consider
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If you like Spanish woman, please go to Spain, here is totally different.
This was a really cool video and I loved the fact that you did interviews in spanish with english translations. I think this really helps your viewers who are trying to learn spanish..you should definately do more.
I am an american and live in Colombia and In the United states for a few more years. Remember their is a Colombian price and an American price. I have a Colombian wife. She has taught me how to buy when we are there. That is one thing you need to learn when traveling abroad. You also need to shop around when exchanging money.
I recently got out of a long term relationship with a Venezuelan. Overall, after time, women are women no matter where you go. First the pros. Yes, she was attractive. Also she was feminine in that she did her best to take of me. Overall she was a good person. But over time, some of the things you mentioned came up. Obviously language barrier became frustrating (even though i am trying to learn Spanish, i am just terrible at learning languages, especially while juggling a full time job). She was also looking to be "kept" and looking for a man to save her, while simultaneously declaring her independence. It wasnt a terrible relationship, but ultimately cultural differences, language differences and a sprinkle of feminism ultimately led it to fail.
Ultimately women are women. All men complain that they cant find a "traditional woman", but are we all fully and truly "traditional men"? Unless you have the money and willingness to provide for her and future children, its probably not a fair ask for most men. Most arent prepared for that responsibility in their heart of hearts.
Though dating an attractive and traditional woman did teach me some things. A) women are women everywhere. The culture may be different, but their motivations are the same. Ultimately they date in their own best interests. If you arent attractive or wealthy or willing to FULLY provide, they will ultimately test you. B) I thought i would be much happier ina relationship. Its true, some things are nice, but you are only as happy as the other person. Her problems become yours and vica versa. If you arent in a fully happy and steady state yourself, no amount of traditional or beautiful women near you will solve for that. C) i have a greater appreciation for being single. Yes, sometimes its lonely. But more often than not its not. Between work, going to the gym, meeting other expats and other activities, life is easier when you arent obligated to solve the problems of other people. I only have to solve for myself. I think more men need to work on that last bit. If you cant solve for yourself, dating and/or a relationship is only going to amplify your own bullshit. Work through as many of your problems first if you want to date seriously (regardless of which country you are dating in). Work on your own health first. Your own finances first. Your own trauma first. Trying to skip that work and diving into a relationship is only going to make all of that work more difficult.
Thats my 2 cents for what little it is worth.
Totally loved your thoughts and comments they touched my heart! :-) You seem to be very wise and thank you so much for your thoughts.
@@stevelarsen2314 Not sure about "wise", maybe just old enough to have some experience.
Anyway, happy my words landed somewhere with someone...
Well said. That's the sad reality that many men don't want to hear. We (men) are imperfect ourselves, yet demand submission and perfection from another human being, who knows we can get up one day and leave them holding the bad (children).
So true with their problems now become your own.
Damn that's bars bro
Please stress to guys that being a young, hot woman from Colombia is NOTHING if she is not at your SES/class level, educationally, financially. You will NOT be able to form a functional relationship if the woman you meet has come from a severely disadvantaged background, filled with trauma.
Yes from my experience you are very right.
Spot on! It applies to every country. I had the same experience even in my own country (Poland). If a woman come from dysfunctional family - it always cause a lot of problems. Regardless how hot she is, how feminine - it will fail. I am programmer and I am thinking about travel and work simultaneously. It crossed my mind to travel to Colombia. I think I wouldn't be a good fit there. Especially that I am an introvert and based on what I have seen - European extravert is South American introvert 😂. I would be an autistic there 😅
@@HCforLife1 "European extravert is South American introvert" that line is spot on mate. Good luck in finding a gf!
@@kevinlanier2 mine too
Exactly what happened to me lol.
I'm in Medellin and the amount of single moms is truly insane, It's not something I can compromise on .
Yup cause those Colombian men always have something else on the side to which they can retreat to anytime they want.
Dominican Republic has entered the chat… for every 100 girl I meet, about 90 of them are single mothers.
Of course if you go to fabelas, as in any other country maybe you will find single women's.. that happens when you all foreigners are coming to Colombia in search of sex and drugs... Coz when you related with educated people.... The reality change... Completely
Haha you been to the Philippines?
@@degraw52 I heard Philippines is on another level of single motherhood? Is it true??
Dating a single mother is like being asked to clean up at a party you were never invited too.
💀 😂
True, but the alternative is almost always that the girl will quickly want to have kids with YOU. Then suddenly she is at home, bored and with no income, taking care of the kids. The likelihood of her cheating has skyrocketed, and in addition your costs have gone through the roof with the kids.
@@luisamariarestrepocelis2048 They're all strong and independent until there is a crisis, then all the men have to come and rescue them.
Agree 100 percent
@@mikeclark9073 like every one, ;)
Wes, Wes, Wes. My man. You were one of the ones saying that Colombian women are fantastic. Believe me man, I'm not saying this in a way to disparage you but I'm like watching you do a complete 180 from your previous marriage and relationship videos regarding Colombian women. I mean I get it. I do. And I know you shouldn't worry about appearances, but it is just so weird hearing your talking points now, versus your talking points a year ago. I'm glad you did an ending clarifying. Ultimately, I think the selection process is just so key to things. And you can't do the 1-year courtship thing. You've got to really have a long-term relationship given the things you said to see if ANY woman is really fit for you. Marrying a Latin woman in many many cases (not all) is really a life altering change because culturally things ARE very different. That said, I think there are MANY Colombian women that can have successful relationships with "western" men. Marriage is hard no matter who it is with. That is the bottom line. Heck, my wife and I are the same race / culture / we even grew up together. Yes we used to play in the dirt together as little kids. And we STILL both had moments where we were ready to walk away. But here we are 30 years later still going strong. Religion has been a big contributor there, but as well, nothing forgoes the hard work that it takes to stay committed to one another and working through problems. PERIOD. I wrote some of this before I got to the ending, so your ending put it into better perspective. Good video as always, and still wishing you the best of luck on future endeavors.
Yeah thanks for watching to the end, most people will comment without watching the whole thing
Wes: I'm never dating Colombian women again
Wes in 3 months: How I met my new Colombian wife 😂
Love the channel bro. Keep the content coming and stay safe.
LMAO ahahahaha u right.
had to make the title clickbaity tho
They are not meant for dating but for marriage and commitment 😂
😆🤣😂😆
That's why he's not dating them anymore
@@WheresWes no, maybe you had to be some full of shit
I am Colombian and when I watch your videos, I wonder if you have ever met a Colombian woman whose interests go beyond the norm. I'm talking about a woman who is curious about other cultures, who likes to read, who likes to learn new things all the time and who considers that keeping up to date is vital, a woman who has travelled (or at least she's interested in doing so), who has had a good education, maybe speaks different languages or at least English and knows that there is more in the world than just Colombia, someone who knows how to differentiate between stereotypes and reality and who doesn't confuse the Chinese people with Japanese and Koreans or the Americans with the Europeans. I am from Barranquilla and I am surprised to see in your videos and in other expats' videos always the same type of Colombian women, but it's possible to meet educated women in Colombia. Don't get me wrong, I love your videos and I always watch them. Although I don't always agree with your ideas, I like the fact that you express them anyway, that's what freedom of speech is all about. I just think it's crucial to pay attention WHERE you meet people. I'm afraid Tinder, nightclubs, parties and churches are not going to cut it, with a few exceptions, of course. Keep up the good work and try to explore other types of Colombians. 😊
I have met plenty of women like that actually. It does seem to be the minority though.
Very well said, Thank you for showing Wes that he doesn't have enough experience with life yet to be making that kind of statement about Colombian woman!!!
My family that lives in Colombia are exactly like the women you described, so I thought that was the "norm" in Colombia. Even their friends speak English and are very educated on politics and even on social issues (here in the U.S) very Highly educated, I felt pretty ignorant on world events compared to them. hehe I guess birds of a feather flock together? =) But yes I believe these women are not that "rare" to find.
@@WheresWesquality and quantity lol bro you want the world to be your oyster, move near any top university or live in a top tier city, NY, Hong Kong, Paris, Beijing. Singapore would be great for you, be great to see more of your content at an international level.
i also agree caro. if you only find girls on the streets that's bad, i met my colombian wife in EMMAT music university of BOGOTA. i would never meet a girl in a bar or out in the streets. i used to date a girl that was a dental assistant, hard working educated girls yes. my wife is very into politics and music. playing instrements and singing.
I'm from Colombia and it's really outstanding the way that you can summarize so well the people from the country. I'd say that nowdays there are less colombian women looking for a gringo -for the money- (maybe only the poor women) because as you said, they're very independent now and there is this new and strong culture to encourage that women become professionals and be in Senior and CEO positions, now is very normal that your girlfriend or wife gain more salary than you (ofc if they studied bachelor, master, etc), so, if you want to get an studied gf, you'll need to have something else beside money because they're very focused in their studies and jobs, that's a huge difference now, they're not in the house cooking and cleaning anymore.
Thanks! I agree with that last part, it seems a lot of women can't cook nowadays (though I think both genders should learn how to do it)
Feminism is a cancer. The basic things in life don't change and many of the women that choose to follow these 'new and improved' ways will meet the same fate of older American and European women. They will be longing for Cpt Save a Hoe to make their lives better.
women from colombia and venezuela here in the states are the worse they always chasing the money and the citizenship
Ok so what does the average Columbian woman charge for full service?
@@monsterpig3270😂 🤷♂️ 😂
I've never met a more jealous people than colombian women, and ive dated almost all races. Most of the millennials think so highly of themselves while offering nearly nothing in return. They want their life to be easier, but don't realize the stress they induce on their partner. They want to be independent but also pampered. The crazy hot scale definitely applies here though, so i guess that's the trade off we have to accept if dating a colombian woman.
thanks for sharing
Maybe Colombian women are like that because people keep putting them on a pedestal. You guys praise them for their beauty so they’re going to take advantage of that and monetize it.. You can’t really blame them if that’s what everyone tells them their value is from (from their beauty). If I were a 9/10, shoot, I would use my beauty to manipulate guys and get things my way too.
"Most of the millennials think so highly of themselves while offering nearly nothing in return. They want their life to be easier, but don't realize the stress they induce on their partner. " TRUTH 100000%
As a colombian myself i cannot disagree with you. I find women in Medellín to be jealous and toxic. A big majority of them are looking for someone with money so they can maintain a good life. Sadly I think being a single man may be the way forward. At least that way i don't lose anything like money, time and energy
Come to Bogotá haha
@@user-ry1cc1im6f i'm not Colombian but i've heard that people in Bogota are more sophisticated than Medellin, any reason for that?
I say this with peace and love brudda because you’ve done so much for this community. But it seems like you’re a bit lost and you’re trying to find yourself. Your opinions and thoughts seem to shift from video to video. And no judgement because intense breakups swallow you. Just hoping you can find tranquility.
i would watch the video first so you can get a better understanding. The title is clickbaity but the reasoning is solid.
Plus, just sharing what I learn as I grow
He's generalizing. From my experience these generalizations are pretty accurate. You would have to here them from with a non white ethnicity for the person to not be canceled. Obviously there are all types but there is a reason that these generalizations are observed. These actually might be a bit generous in some ways. Obviously colombians have some great qualities, but I have noticed in general from living and working with latin americans in general is that there is a high degree of what some would call straight up narcissism. The hard headedness, the dishonesty and lack of accountability among other things. Yes they are a good looking people but I have seen it in the family structure (obviously not all..). Narcissistic parents transmit narcissistic behavior patterns, on one end there is a lot of talk about morals with religion but on the other hand there is often a clear message that you are more important than the person next to you.
Watching this after finding out one of my dad's former coworkers got kidnapped and murdered in Colombia after meeting a Colombian woman online. I'm not saying you shouldn't date them, but that alone should be enough to convince you.
Is not a safe country, yes their women are pretty and sexy and take good care of themselves. But is it worth the hassle? They are very attractive women, at least thise I have seen in Europe
Lol I married a colombian woman. we have been married for over 6 years and can honestly say that she is a wonderful woman. If you are not a man with spanish women then you will have a lot of problems.
You guys hear about the rising kidnapping, ransom, and murders in Medellin? My friend Tou Ger Xiong was just kidnapped and killed a few days ago. He was lured by a girl who led him to gangsters. Be careful out there everyone. Always have a travel buddy and meet in public places. Don't do dating apps!
Shit, is very bad for your friend, its true murder and robbery are very very common in colombia. Honeytrap robberies and other vicious things
I remember coming across this news story randomly on my youtube feed,May He Rest In Peace.
so fyi: Asians are getting killed all the time in the USA (NYC, LA, SF, Oakland), stop the fear mongering.
That guy was dating a 19 year old and he's 40. Come on man, he couldn't even speak spanish and he's messing with youngling thinking they want more than just his money.
Hope you healing, Wes. Good on ya for moving forward, brother.
appreciate you bro
Something not considered enough by foreigners is that even if you speak Spanish, it can be hard to talk about some issues as adeptly as you can in your own language. Fighting in a foreign language is tough - and most women when they are mad will not give you the benefit of the doubt when there is miscommunication.
That's a really good point
Thats when you tell them they trippin
Ahahahhaha this is true!!
Men don't fight or argue with women, bro. Only boys fall for that. LOL
That is very true
Once I was crucified on another foreign RUclips channel when I gave my opinion. I am Colombian and have lived in the USA and Colombia, and I can give my testimony. I have dated women from various parts of the world. The best thing about living in the USA is the diversity of cultures that one encounters here, in my opinion. I don't know where they got the idea that Latinas were submissive, the perfect homemakers willing to give everything to their husbands, good cooks. You were describing my grandmother, and it made me laugh. Times have changed. Don't they do any research on the internet? The Internet invention from USA, Nowadays, no one wants a serious relationship. People have other goals, especially women. They don't want to have children. They have even started to outperform men in obtaining a university degree. They don't need us anymore. Now we focus on ourselves, on materialism that is consuming us, and this makes relationships superficial. It seems easy for us to jump from one romantic relationship to another. Look at what is happening in China and southern European countries. They are aging and getting married less to the point of disappearing. Look at the case of Italy. So, I see that many of you young people find it easier and cheaper to come to Latin America with the idea of rescuing a princess from poverty and saving them from the evil abusive Latin men (recurring comments that I have read in the comments of many videos by foreigners, not only about Colombia but also about other places). Look at divorce statistics in wealthy countries, not far from those in Latin America. There are good women and men, of course they exist. Logically, not in Parque Lleras or party places. Finding a good woman and a good man requires a lot of time, not just a summer vacation. The best woman I have had was a Texan. I regret losing her. We had different goals at that time, and when I returned, it was too late. In today's globalized world with social media, society has been transforming into a more homogeneous one. The goal is to live a stress-free life, traveling the world and working as little as possible but still being millionaires. I don't see the goals of women and men being any different from what I am saying. Times have changed, and we will reach a point where seeing a stable couple with children will be quite amazing thing. That's my humble opinion.
Regenerate response
Like yourself I too am a Colombian American. As a young man I dated woman from all over the world. I've lived in Los Angeles, Miami and Houston. Mostly Texas where you can still find extremely conservative family oriented woman.
Your comment is spot on. Wise and concise. It's all relative. Men nowadays need to learn how to navigate through these modern times. It is what it is. This is my personal motto. Men have to stop complaining and get their shit together. Focus on what you're seeking in life. A good woman will eventually "discover" you and it all depends on how you manage the opportunity.
It's not complicated. At least I don't think it is but for many young men, dating seems to be unsolvable issue. That's very sad.
Saludos amigo!
What happened to the Texan? Was she mexican or gringo texan?
@@davidvalens3337 I did date a few Tejanas. Yee haw! 🤣 Lot's of fun.
However, on a business trip I took to Venezuela I met my current wife. Been happily married for 27 years.
I love Venezolanas. There's something about them I find extremely appealing. Very sexy and feminine. They rarely cuss at all.
As long as they come from good families just like most Colombianas who do, they'll support you through thick and thin.
Having said that, there are still lots of fine ladies within the US. I'm very happy to have settled down though. I enjoy being married to someone I know I can count on for the rest of my life.
Cheers!
I think you’re comment is wise. To add on For East Asia hyper competitive society is one of the main reasons and the women are obsessed with status there. Southern Europe has economic issues and maybe it’s cultural as well.
@@LouieManza although I agree with your sentiments on men the problems start when you get in relationships with these modern women. That's when you find out all about how they view men. What they think your role in a relationship to be. If you follow said woman's advice she loses attraction for you and blames you for the relationship failing. These new relationships are catch 22's at best.
Wes you're on point on many of your comments. I'm Colombian and was married to a paisa i understand. The infidelity in Medellin is insane. The females there cheat just as much if not worse than the men. Medellin is not for relationship neither is Pereira though not as bad. You can't say you won't date a Colombian lady again unless you leave. LOL. You should for a bit go explore Argentina, Chile, Brazil and breathe a litte. Don't lose sight of your goals and importantly, don't lose sight of the Man upstairs. If anything you've gained is a closer understanding of yourself and the Man upstairs. Be safe. Go to Barranquilla get to know a little about that city. It has mad potential.
I’m from medellin but I was raised in Italy and paisa women are very promiscuous. They only care about money, Europe is full of women from medellin, pereira, Armenia and manizales that are prostitutes, Colombia is the country with most webcam girls in the world and almost all are paisa, thanks to god my family leaved Colombia a long time ago.
Lol good luck boo. My family is from Barranquilla and people are very classist there. I was just there with my boyfriend and although the food and culture is great I found the people to not be very open. I come from old money in Barranquilla but grew up in the states, and I can tell you that no woman from Barranquilla that’s from a “good family” will give any so called ghetto “passport bro” the time of day. They will usually go for men that are on their same level and a man that can speak Spanish. Barranquilla oozes classicism, and people even know each other by last name there. If you think that you’re going to get some submissive woman in Barranquilla you’re delusional.
@@DeliciosaDestinations I remember "I Love Latinas", or "Bellezas de Barranquilla"; they were based in Houston, TX.
Is infidelity prevalent in Barranquilla
A new paradigm every 6 months. I'd maybe take a breather on the absolute life takes. I dont mean this in a mean spirited way. I like your channel and content
After 20 years living ears in this cesspool, one of my favorite sayings is that when you meet a Colombian woman you need to ask her if she is hetero-curious. And the men in Medellin are at least 50% bi. VD has a 30% prevalence here and lying is an endemic part of the culture, so don't believe anyone who claims they are either faithful or have not been screwing around.
I'm dating a Colombian guy and I think he's learning alot of things from me. I see him evolving and becoming more responsible just like me. He admires my work ethics and wants to do better. We Converse via Google translate and we have no issues there while we learn each other's language. It's been a learning experience but I won't trade him for anything. I love him to pieces.
I don't agree. I am Colombian and I am not jealous at all, in fact I am married to a foreigner and we have been married for 7 years....
The minority doesn’t make the majority
Bro your Spanish is incredible! Nice video.👍🏽
thanks bro
I feel like people always talk about the importance of respecting Muslims but its never talked about how they lack respect towards others religions. Why should Colombians be expected to convert and have Islamic nerratives pushed onto us? If Muslims come to Colombia they should be respectful of our culture and our religion. I am so tired of the double standard, In many Middle Eastern and African countries Christians and other religious minorities are persecuted and treated atrociously yet this is often ignored by much of the world. I am Colombian but live in North America and I am tired of having Muslims trying to convert me and argue that they are superior because of their religion or ethnic background (usually a combination of the two). In addition, the comment "I want to be with a Colombian woman" seems to fetishize us. It seems that they just want to be with us because of the stereotypes that they have of latin women which consist of the perception that we are beautiful and sexual ect. These stereotypes undermine the inherent dignity of the actual person and enable latin women to be viewed as sexual objects. This whole thing is gross and as a Colombian I feel violated and disrespected.
the exact same shit in france, and they're the one always crying
I don’t know about Africa but in the middle east christians have been living there for thousands of years,there many churches that are older than colombia by a thousand year,don’t spread fake news.
If you have met muslims who are trying to convert you at the same time disrespecting your faith those people are obviously not very smart.
Totalmente de acuerdo. La única razón por la cual les gustan las latinas es por la hipersexualización y este tipo de vídeos es literal la fetichización...
Islam commands Muslims to convert kafirs(Non-Muslims) to Islam which is more of a political ideology than religion. Day of judgement will come when the whole world is Muslim under one Caliphate
Throughout the years in Colombia i have made my experiences. Overall Colombianas are just women too, and I don't mean that in a negative way. They are just more intense in any aspect than in other parts of the world. Western guys are used to jump through all of the hoops to make a woman happy. Happy wife, happy life right? Wrong. Her respect for you will quickly decline if you're not leading. They might claim they hate machismos toxicos, but in the end that's what they desire. If you make too many concessions, you'll lose her respect and it'll end badly. However, there are still plenty of red flags. If you avoid them, it'll be easier. No single moms, no party girls, no woman with bikini photos on Instagram (ideally no social media addict at all), no woman without a proper job, no woman with a high focus on status and things. She should be able to enjoy a hike as much as a fancy boat trip. And don't use your financial resources to get their attention, or you'll get a gold digger. Last but not least, learn how to say No and judge only based upon actions while completely ignoring her words. If her words don't align with her actions, you're being fooled.
Amazing advice
Facts
Curious, what's your relationship status now; if single why, if married, how has it been?
Like you said correctly, it's just women after all. Men just need to learn female psychology and not that simp shit happy wife happy life. 😊
Very sorry to hear about your divorce and the circumstances surrounding it. It’s been a while since I checked in on your channel and was shocked to see all that’s happened.
Just my 2 cents as a complete stranger looking at the situation… I think you might be happier with a more well established worldly Colombian woman who’s traveled a bit and has some perspective on the world at large. This is probably a stark contrast to your ex wife who seemed live a very sheltered life. Even in North America I’ve always paid close attention to a women’s family life and the dynamics that are at play there. These are the people that you’ll likely be spending a good deal of time with for the rest of your life so it makes sense to make sure that you’re compatible with them in addition to your wife.
Best of luck in the coming months. Keep your chin up and I hope that all goes well for you.
I was lucky enough to marry an amazing Colombian woman. She's not clingy, but I really like it when she clings.
I will too hopefully! Good on you man!👌🏽
@@thefirsttrillionaire2925 He's not lucky, he's buying her "love". She's not clingy because she's cheating.
bro come on! 😂 1. you don't know that and 2. WE ALL buy womens love whether you realize it or not. You just don't be a simp about it and have self respect. But ain't no woman marrying a broke man. @@JK-nq1dl
get a well educated girl in bogota. Theres a lot there. Dont just stick to medellin.
i would agree with that actually
Sorry man I think you're back back stepping on what you said many months ago. Although I agree with some of the points you made you're definitely looking on the negative side of things. After living and knowing my Colombian white for the past 6 years I look back and realize it would have been easier with an American woman and less expensive. It hasn't been easy ride I used to blame her for cultural differences and her family. But I realized after a long time it was me that was part of the problem as well. I feel you keep on blaming culture religion and other things. when I was living in Colombia for a couple years I never hung out with Americans or gringos as they all seemed very lost. Not saying that you are however give it some time take a step back and reassess. Good luck man!
Crazy is crazy and narcissists will be narcissistic. These women (and men) exist all over the world. Keep pressing forward my man.
As a Canadian , my Paisa lady is probably the most jealous woman I have ever been with .... and I am not a cheater , and give her no reason to worry ..... I think it's her past experiences as a Colombiana that make her suspicious for no reason ..... but she's getting better and better with her trust issues... I will never date another western woman .... Cheers 🍻
East Asian women are the opposite they give you no attention, can be cold and use sex as a weapon. Also they are obsessed with status. I rather have some jealously than a cold woman who barely reckons my existence.
all that jealousy shit is just bs...they are the ones i bet that will cheat o you first
After being married to my Columbian wife, dating a "modern/western woman" would be a punishment.
Some of them are jealous and will be the first to cheat not you lol
I am Asian from the U.S. , was married to a Colombian woman from Bogota. Women from Bogota are different than women from a smaller cities or region, such as Barranquilla., or even Cali, from my personal experience. Feminism had been prevalent all over Latin America. Colombian women still retained the traditional family oriented role.
However, basic culture in Colombia have not changed much due to limited education and exposure to the U.S. and other modern countries. A educated professional in Colombia is not equal to same professional in other countries. For example, you could see a practice doctor younger than 30 in Colombia.
I personally would not live in Colombia even if my wife is from there. There are lots of career limitation for a foreigner. The fluctuation of currency and economy are big concern for many years. My ex-wife owned 5 houses in Bogota, and the inflation made them worthless. It may be OK if you retire there with money.
U.S. provided much more career and business opportunities (including security) than anywhere else in the world.
I had been happily married with another Latina from South America. To my opinion they are the best. I wouldn't touch any woman from the U.S. with a 10 feet pole.
Limited education? Where you met her? Ah the typical foreigner!
Great input.
How does inflation make 5 houses worthless ?
@@anthonyfam5469 It sounds like the nominal price of the houses did not keep up with the rate of inflation. So not really inflation itself making the houses lose value, rather inflation being a symptom of a messed up economy with real estate value becoming debased relative to wages and other goods and services
Dated a Brazilian. Thought I was doing good by branching out dating a Latina. But that didn't work out since she was party type. I found myself a nice Asian girl from the mainland who traditional and good with family so that is way better for me
Sounds like the problem was dating a party girl, firstly lol
Brazilian w0men are worse then colombians. Brazilians just want to party and get drunk as much as possible. They cheat just as much, and more infected with f3minism. They also only think short term, not about the future. Only care about pleasure. Colombians may be g0ld diggers but at least they care about their family, kids and future.
Its a shame as brazilians may be the most attractive w0men
@@nathancasey7712Exactly. Party girls are, in most cases, not long-term relationship material .
Colombia is a country with 50 million people. Most international tourists think getting a wife is like getting a piece of meat. Among Colombian decent people, Medellin has gained a bad reputation over the last five years, just as Cartagena. Moreover, Colombian women that are open to start a relationship through nightlife and/or Tinder, tend to not to be the most respectable.
It seems it is a lose or lose situation for Colombian women through what is expressed in this video. They only engage in relationships with foreigners to get some money out of it yet is neither good that there are so many holding job positions.
You mention that there are educated, and a "different kind of Colombian women" in Bogota's high strata. I would say that there are also great girls in the low strata all around the country. Lots of girls that study hard to help their families, and have very healthy priorities. As also there are a number of ill intentioned women in Bogota's high strata. Divisions arent so black and white.
Cheers
Calling women on clubs and Tinder not respectable shows machismo. Do you think the men there are any good? I downloaded dating apps in the past because I've been single for years, I'm shy and I only met people through work and I don't like mixing work and personal affairs. Everyone I met on the dating apps was a disgusting idi0t and a man wh0re. Or an emotionally unavailable divorced ugly loser in his 40s wanting to date beautiful women while looking like a midget Shrek. They sent me unrequested dick pics, refused going on a date and demanded I go have seggs with them in their house like an unpaid hooker and more. I only went on a date once and the guy became obsessive and scary while also actively pursuing a relationship with another girl. Seriously, most of this sexist content is focused on Colombian women being golddiggers, vapid and toxic while treating us like a piece of meat and ranking us for our beauty.
Clear and nice comment. Agree 100%
I use google translate 😂😂😂 and we have deep conversations. I know little Spanish and she knows little English and we get along great.
Same, I'm engaged to a Colombian & we use Google translator but we both know some of each other's language too and still have deep conversations
💯🎯 After divorcing my Colombian ex wife, I would never invest my energy into another Colombiana.
Why?
It's not just Colombian women, it's Latin American women in general. I've dated Puerto Rican, Dominican, Colombian, Cuban women and they were all very similar. Jealous, demanding, lacking chill (for lack of a better term), overly talkative, and prisoners to stereotypes - and by that I mean there's little room for individuality with them, everyone men and women alike are meant to fit a mold and anyone that doesn't is bad.
The jealousy is a problem but so is promiscuity and there’s a lot of STI’s
So… why are men still going to Colombia and putting these women on a pedestal?
@@BubbleOfJelly people don’t learn if they did we wouldn’t have any more wars or unwanted pregnancies
@@BubbleOfJellythey are just naive. That's it. Especially considering that most of passport bros are less confident than local men and insecure. They would be cheated on or left sooner or later. It seems to me that Colombian women are very very hypergamous.
Colombian women are not more submissive but they are more traditional than American women.
yeah I would agree with that
That is a very low bar to beat tbh lol
It was so interesting hearing you say that there is such a high percentage of fatherless children. I had spoken to a Colombian woman who told me this, and I did not know it was such a widespread issue.
it is so worring, most of fathers abandoned their children, even after long term marriages, it is like part of that toxicity and jelousy culture, they think the woman has to be with him to deserve child support.
I was actually shocked to hear such a high percentage of single mother/parenthood in Colombia, like damn.
And it sure does not help that ‘feminism’ is on the rise as well
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I live in Medellin half the year and nyc the other half. Like every place in the world you will find genuine people , fake people, happy people, miserable people. I’ve found women are exactly the same everywhere- they want a man to be a man. Confident, respectful, make them laugh, be the man in the bedroom , treat them like a princess out side the bedroom. Noooooo matter what you hear most women still want a man not a feminine version of what you use to be.
Lot of over analyzing, lot of generalizations in your videos buddy.
Also
Dress well, stay in shape, smell good
i think u called him gay...feminine..haha
@@tednguyen7258 we’ll hey if some men in todays environment want to denounce there masculinity that’s fine. I just don’t like when they push it on all the other men.
In other words…..lol dude is feminine/gay and there’s nothing wrong with that
Colombia is a religious country
but the majority of women have 1-3 children by different men & they're not married
😂😂😂😂😂
Are there Spanish learning courses geared towards English speaking people ?
Oh no! I just started watching your channel yesterday and went back to your older videos. I’m sorry to hear about your situation, but wish you the best!
We want to see you in ASIA next, WES!!! Love your videos and how you're evolving.
Shh... coming soon
OMG, I see a dark future if he goes for Asian women, they'll use him
Im Colombian and women there work hard and try to get their college in order to give good life to their kids many of these women choose a wrong man who doesn’t help them in any way. We are also independent because our dads were not there and many work at a very early age.
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Just started following you bro and you are top notch. 100% Accurate.
I disagree with a few points you made, specifically about point 2. While Latinas aren’t necessarily ultra trad, I’d say they are much more so then gringas. They are definitely very physically feminine. Their hygiene is on point, they are super worried about their appearance, they grow their hair down to their waist. They can’t even leave the house with doing themselves up let alone go out on a date with their hair pulled up and no make up (which is very common in middle America). They have a way higher degree of elegance and grace. on average they are much more likely to know how to cook. In the dating process they are definitely more submissive and easy to deal with. Very little nagging, obnoxiousness, or crassness( at least at the beginning lol). They let you fully take the lead most of the time, and it’s just above and beyond a way more pleasant experience from top to bottom. Although, they definitely are much more jealous!! 100 percent.
yeah the physical femininity is true for sure
nahhh, you have not seen (Eastern) Europeans then :)) "elegance" and "grace", you mean Shein skirts, acrylic nails and plastic surgeries like BBL? Been to Brazil and Colombia :))
omg are you serious? do you want a pet or a human partner? this is just misogynic and anti-human to be frank.
All this is very true. The cultural difference is almost impossible to resolve. E.g., Colombian women love dancing, and they are consquently attracted to very good, seductive dancers, which means Colombian guys - not foreigners. These Colombian guys have danced since they were two years old. Us foreigners will never be able to look superior and competent relative to them. So there we have a big disadvantage. Same with flirting, humor, etc.. So the "best option" for the Colombian woman is to have a foreigner pay the bills, house her and feed her, while she cheats on you as soon as she gets the chance with a local guy.
Hi Wes. I just wanted to respond to you. I've been watching your videos for a little while and enjoy them. I'm very sorry what happened to your marriage, and going through a break-up is the hardest thing, especially publicly. So, I get how you feel. But, I want to come back to a statement you made about single mothers. It is not just a Latino thing. This crisis is happening in my home country(Canada) and the UK. It is quite widespread, and has become normalized unfortunately. I think this is a generational, and a results from baby boomer parents. I am Canadian, but come from Colombian parents,, and seen the increase in single Moms. All I will say is, just stick to your beliefs and integrity and try not to let this situation paint all colombian women this way. All people are individuals, and should be treated as such. We all have our preferences. I hope things turn around for you. I look forward to seeing more videos and where your journey takes you. Take care.
whataboutism
@@hamletmedellin8011The USA has the highest rate of single mother households. Statistics are merely a way to quantity a situation but interpretation of facts and figures is extremely important.
I agree. Japanese women are stereotyped as traditional but have high infidelity rates.
You're right Victor! I think this is the result of the feminism agenda and much more. There's always a solution.
My friend I have watched your videos for a while. I am also here in Colombia for 5 years now, and I think that you have started to peel the layers in what actually happens here behind everything.... at least in the perspective of a foreigner
cheers mate
I still will date a colombian after my adventures there but I'll really be selective with them. To be honest I think a peruvian will be a better partner after being in both countries.
Dating Colombian men is also very difficult. If I didn't have the alien boyfriend I have I would be with a gringo for sure. Man are incredible possessive and I would say they are more toxic than women because their nature and that's why Colombia is one of the countries with higher levels of crime of passion and acid attacks. Also men as you mention in the video are incredible bad fathers. Unfortunately this country is so damaged emotionally and most people don't know what's to have a healthy relationship and that's for both men and women. I am glad my students have found good women, well I have helped them a lot to learn not only Spanish but also how to spot a bad woman. It is as important as Spanish. 😅
You nailed it. I think many behaviours exhibited by both men and women are a symptom of deeper societal failures: a flawed parental system, low significance of education and the trauma that comes with the bad reputation/history of the country.
Wow, those are my same exact gripes with American-Mexican women here in Orange County! They are tremendously gifted in their looks but extremely close minded in dating outside their Banda (music)Zone. Havent made it down to Colombia yet, but it seems like you just dashed my Latina dreams. Maybe your parents are keeping it💯 in that culture pays a HUGE role in whom you should marry. I prolly should spend more time learning my native Cantonese than all that fruitless effort I put into learning Spanish.
Yes, I had my problems with Mexicans American also. Latinas are hard. Just looks to me.
Your weird asf
Why do you so badly want to Marry a specific race of people that isnt yours??
Sound like a weirdo😂
--Can you say in short few words how are different latinas vs white originals americans women ? Thank you
Not sure I understand your question.
Dated this Colombiana that came to California from Bogota (illegally).
It was a dream come true, but everything you mentioned surfaced about 40 days into the relationship.
She is very feminist, has never had a dad, her mom has been cycling boyfriends her whole life, and lives with so much trauma.
My life is the complete opposite, so she for sure thought it was all too good to be true and that I am more "privileged."
Complete flip of a switch when she tried to end things, legit had no reason to end it other than "I need to work on myself and I do not need your help"
True waste of time and it drove me crazy investing all that emotion and time for it to the end the way it did.
Pretty accurate bro! Colombian here with and Australian wife. Best decision of my life. There are exceptions but honestly I think you deserve better than a crazy and toxic Latina. If you really want to settle down in Colombia, try to hang out with educated and well-off girls, especially in Bogotá. A lot of them have travelled, speak really good English and most importantly they care about you, not your money or what your nationality represents for them (Green card for her and the 50 members of her family). Greetings from Vancouver, Canada. 🎉
Yes, I agree with you.
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bro you just picked a bad one. she was old and not even hot. like really what's the point of having a colombian wife if she's not a 22 year old hottie
lmao bro what
The age difference was definitely a red flag. You should target a woman younger than you.
exactly can't be dating girls who are broke and not even young and physically attractive. What's the point? Could find a better looking girl in a developed country who's family has money at least.
Also, I would like to add it is difficult to date Colombian men because because out of eight months of dating various guys, I find that 85% of the men that I meet are looking for a handout looking for big gifts looking for my money. Even the one good when I settled on for six weeks he still ended up, not paying for his food not appreciating anything I did or paid for almost expecting it, as is right because I make four times as much money per month as he does, he had a budget for food, but he never shared money with me. He let me pay for everything in the food department, and then he asked to borrow money for a very expensive leather bag that I would not even buy for myself I would go with a no-name brand, so that is a big problem here if you’re gay, and you’re a man dating the men here
Soy colombiana, y la mayoría de los chicos piensan que las gringas son máquinas de dinero, y que son buenas para solo sexo, obvio algunos si son muy tiernos en ese aspecto.
For some reason, it's kind of similar to my experience in the Philippines. The women here seem to me more responsible and there also exists a single mom crisis.
I’m Mexican and also traveled around the world including Colombia. To refer to Colombian values as close minded just because it doesn’t fit your own, shows who is the close minded one. I think you are just sour from your personal relationship experience but don’t generalize.
Lol nah, people are close minded everywhere in the world bro. Also, read the comments
I am Colombian myself and I actually have to agree with Wes in that part, believe it or not. To be honest, I never noticed that until I left my country, lived abroad for 6 years and then went back. That's when that cultural shock hit me hard.
That thing that he says in 4:02 about Colombians thinking that our food is the best, our culture is the best and so on was actually what I faced when, after returning to my country, I was asked questions like if I had missed the food while I was overseas and I answered with all honestly _"not really, because I got the opportunity to taste some other dishes from different places of the world which I happen to love even more than the Colombian cuisine, and even when I love the Colombian cuisine, it's not really that diverse and most of the food relies a lot on deep fried stuff and carbohydrates"._
Basically that answer was not taken too well and I was perceived as an arrogant person, _"que me creí de mejor familia por haber vivido afuera"_ according to their own words, and even one of my uncles in law came out with this nationalist speech to try to make me feel bad in which he basically told me that if he had been given the choice to work and live outside Colombia he would vehemently have said "no!" because he was "TRULY" in love with Colombia because _"Colombia has all the ecosystems in the world, mountains, rainforest, landscapes, exit to two oceans, the best food, the warmest people and so on so there was no need to live abroad since we were in the best country to live in..."_ Being that said, yep, those impressions that Wes has are actually accurate, specially with people from small cities or towns that have never left the country.
I think people who don’t travel nor go around much nor go around other cultures tend to be closed minded. This is true regardless of race/nationality/etc. My mother is closed minded her father is even more closed minded. One of my friends is Filipino and is very open minded cause he travels and deals with people from just about every part of the globe.
I had a Brazilian girlfriend who didn't want to leave her country. Ever since then, I've been wary of Brazilian women with the "tem tudo aqui", "everything is here", mindset. Every country has its pros and cons.
@@WheresWes Looking forward to my upcoming trip and just learning about the people and their culture. I enjoyed hearing about your experiences, both specific and general.
That's was interesting and informative. I like the fact that you've asked some locals about certain issues and had addressed other ones too. Personally, for me, I think culture can do a lot more with the type of person someone wants to be or chooses to be, despite what country they are from. Who's to say someone can't find someone they will truly have a great relationship with from two different countries? Maybe a lot of their personal values line up? The possibilities are endless. Great video!👍
I think it’s great that Colombians in certain areas feel they are the best, because frankly they are. The biggest problems is Americans coming to Colombia and imposing their culture here. Foreigners are turning Colombia into the states or Europe with the pricing and culture. Colombia has its crime but nothing like the US. Been in country since 93. You guys coming here need to confirm to Colombia , not the other way around.
Internet connects everyone
I grew up in Baja (Mex) and California and travelled extensively to South America mainly because of the climate and food there (the people are very warm, too). One thing you left out, is that Colombian women are for the most part "freer" and less coy about sex than women from other Latin countries. If a Colombian woman/girl likes you, generally she has no qualms about going to bed with you. Also, in my opinion, Colombian men are less attractive physically than other Latin men and, due to the fact that Colombian women are so hot, tend to be irresponsible blatant players and cheaters, which is another reason Colombian women favor foreign men over Colombian men, and to a certain extent, turn into cheaters themselves. Other than that, Colombian women are a lot of fun to be around, you just have to choose VERY wisely.
Colombian men rank high in latin america, what are you talking about? Have you seen maluma, j balvin, camilo, juanes?
It seems like the window of opportunity is closing for men to find good wives in Latin America. It’s like do it now because in 5 or 10 years, it will be bad the same as the states.😢
Reality check....new generation has to know it was coming
To late youtubers.....
Bruhhhh,
You can’t be comparing Japanese & Middle Eastern women to Colombian or American women.
Wes, you made fantastic points! Colombian women of this generation aren't what their mothers and grandmother's were. There is more of a hookup culture now and less tradition. I lived in Colombia for a year and fluent in Spanish and saw the same thing. I see more gringos marrying mexican women and other Latin countries. If you look at Abel torres or Casa Verde red pill is becoming mainstream in LATAM. I think western men should be focusing on Asia or Eastern europe
Yes asian women are much better.
Yep, I think men nowadays should be focusing on Asia girls or girls from eastern europe e.g russian or smth.
Does this mean we'll been seeing "Where's Wes" in Asia in the future?
shhhh, don't ruin the secret lol. Thailand and Philippines coming at the end of the year
Well said I'm afraid this is actually true unfortunately. Because latin culture can get really spicy. The Latina women don't play when it comes to talking to other women they can get extremely jealous.
I Love hearing your views and insights!
Bro, catching up to you after our chat at our homie's potluck. Love the video. The way you put it, I thank my lucky stars that my GF and her family are sooo chill. Hope all is well in Thailand. Hope to catch up with you in person again soon.
Bru I don’t know about you but I’ve been to cali Colombia many times and I can not miss, no pay to play real girls working and going to school low body count type females 18-22 and I’m 37 I’m talking less then 5 bodies on them we go for a coffee or ice cream and then back to the air b&b. If you take care of your body, you take care of your pockets, and you read, write, and speak the Spanish language I promise gentle men you are in. Best of luck P.s. if you’re a simp in the USA you’re a simp in Colombia you’re not getting any different results nowhere step your game up stop simping🤝
so you take girls to the air b n b and bang them? umm you should go slower. i would lose interest if a girl is that easy. you have to be a challenge. also 5 bodies is too much. my girl would have to be a virgin. maybe at maximum 2 men....
I totally agree with you? I don't know what planet this dude is on. Sure, Colombian women aren't perfect, but they are a million times better than women from the west.
lol no 18-20 year old wants a 37 year old in any sort of romantic or sexual way besides to receive money out of him, stop the cap. they'll take your bread and go spend it on their bandido boyfriend from their barrio
Colombian women talk like angels, they use the terminology of respect when they talk
I divorced my colombian wife last year . After we actually started living together for a few months , she would get mad at me for doing things my way. So we would fight a lot until we called it quits
Things that you metioned are not exclusive to just Colombian women. This is accross latin America. Most latinas are very posesive and jealous. I've dated latinas from 6 different countries. You might as well not date any latinas .
Anyway I'm on the inpression that, for the most part, they seems over rated by naive gringos and unreliable despite their pretended good values. And, with all those single moms, it takes two to tango; no pun intend. It speaks.
Learned about those traits from latinas in the States
Peru ? mexico ?is there a difference
You just had a bad experience but dont get discouraged ❤
Sir, how did u learn Spanish? And how long did it take u to learn that level to have a adequate conversation?
6 months to get to B1, 3 years to get to the level in the video
@@WheresWes Roger that. How did u learn though? Babbel, Rosetta Stone??
Thanks Wes! Another great video! All thumbs up!
Dating an Americanized woman vs Latin woman is different but there are pros and cons to each one.
Yes exactly. Nothing is perfect, just different pros and cons
I think these traits apply for both latinamerican men and women who haven't traveled much, come from a strong religious upbringing and have other limitations. I had major cultural shocks as a Venezuelan woman dating Argentinean and Colombian men who were extremely closed-minded, clingy, only liked local foods, where very traditionalists, very family-oriented, and so on, and so forth. So, I think cultural shocks come from being unable to empathize and be curious and open-minded about learning about and from other cultures, rather than by being from a specific country. That's my experience anyways...
Glad your back making good content! I had to stop watching you, you got a little crazy at some point but I always found your info is very informative
lol
Because I was following you I started visiting Colombia last year and have been there 3 times . I love the country, currently trying to set up a work situation where I can make money online and live in Colombia.
Dont blame others for your own decisions, and don't compare women as a general thing because in Colombia there's very big differences depending on where they we born. Age is also a factor that contributes to have a short marriage and quick divorce. Now days, young people have no clue about what the purpose of a marriage is.
You don't have to be submissive, just push your narrative harder and the person will either accept you for who you are or if not you most likely haven't met the right person. The other half has to accept that their partner is not going to change. It doesn't matter if the girl is Colombian or not. If as a man you want something - you can always make things work your way.
@@leondejuda5353 you're a loser I can tell
Good vid, covered all the relevant points very quickly. The single mom thing was a shock to me at first, back when I first visited Colombia in the late aughties. I remember going on two dates in a row, both of these paisas were 21 year old stunners, only to find out that they already had, not one, not two, but THREE kids at 21! I was totally fooled, as they were both knockouts, so it didn't even occur to me that their bodies could have gone through three pregnancies already! Kudos to them for taking care of their bodies like that, unlike so many gringas stateside . . . but this blew my mind at first. Then I realized this was sadly a common thing. One girl even confided to me the father of her kids was shot and killed in a botched robbery attempt (HE was one of the robbers by the way. . .). When I was staying in Bogota, an older woman I dated, this one 34 so one year younger than me at the time, was divorced with no kids . . . but yeah she mentioned her ex-husband was physically violent with her, so she had to leave him and move to Bogota from Bucaramanga (where she was from).
As a tip to the guys here, I would say that while the weather in Bogota is perhaps not ideal when compared to Medallo, you will likely find a woman with more education, more professional background (if you value that), more travel experiences, maybe speaks a bit English, less likely to have 2 or 3 bambinos, etc . . .
The language thing was never a problem as Spanish is my second language since I was a kid, but I can definitely see that as a major issue that a lot of guys here haven't seriously thought through. This is why I recommend Bogota, where you will find more ladies with international exposure or experiences, and can speak a little English. I suppose the "red pill" or "passport bro" critique here would be why go to a foreign country to look for a woman with "bad Western" influences, but I would argue a pure Colombiana might be too much for some gringos to handle, lol . . . 😆
The infidelity thing is something that would have bothered me a lot more when I was young and insecure, but now that I'm approaching old fart status, I'm more accepting of certain realities. I have no illusions or ideals about this anymore; it is what it is . . . but when in Rome . . . 😉
What changed that made Latina women "empowered"? They became able to productize themselves via Instagram and OF. Salaries doing regular jobs have not increased for women, that's for sure, and they're often subject to abusive and exploitative behaviour in the workplace, so many would prefer to succumb to the temptation of easy money marketing themselves as a product, to the point where it's become normalized. This is the biggest turn-off with dating in Latin America.
Nah bro they are empowered because of the crazy single motherhood problem
@@WheresWes Single motherhood is a symptom, not the cause. The cause is an extreme degradation of values, and trashy reguetonero culture. I also say "empowered" with the quotes because they are actually more enslaved than ever
Oh man… to marry into a Colombian family (the aunts, the nephews, the nieces, everyone… ) and then go for a divorce. You are a brave man.
Here is my long term view on marrying a Colombian. I met a Colombian in the
US in high school. she was in the US since 10 years old. I met her in high school. now married 30 years with two grown children. I speak Spanish and have permanent residence in Colombia. I have many citizenships and am looking to move to Europe soon. To think you will drop in into Colombia and make a magic family is a fools errand.
Colombian women are great to look at but that is as far as it goes. I have lived there two times and they lack intelligence and their culture is very toxic. There are better countries to visit and find people who will respect you more. Every guy I know except for two who are older has a sad story with a Colombian woman. It usually always ends very badly.
thanks for the comment
they are clowns...lucky if they make $400 for the month and yet so snobby and think they're the best....best at what being poor and producing cocaine i suppose....the women dont know their place at all, which is BENEATH Western men
💯 FACTS DONT DO IT SIMPS 😂😂
😳🥺😥 I think they're looking for a girlfriend in the wrong places, the way we socialize here is very different. I'm old now, but in my time they told me, if he invites you to a rumba "he's not", obviously times have changed. It´'s very unfortunate because many girls here have also had bad experiences with foreigners, so there are many red flags. In reality, finding the ideal partner is a challenge for human beings in all cultures. luck
As a Mexican even i wouldn’t date a Colombian woman. Seeing that language and religion is the same but its night and day when it comes to mexican and Colombian women . With the exception of english speaking countries in south America and brasil all the other women from the Spanish speaking countries in south america are a big no for me 😅
Why don’t you Ike Colombian women ?
@@AilunChiang way too manny horror stories and the ones I’ve talked to our fail mouth and just give off this ora that you cant trust .
When my plane lands I will watch this Wes! 😂 I need to hear this !
I tried to do relationships with Latin women when I was younger, and the simple fact is, the biggest con is that these women are very, very attached to their families. You own a house? She will try to move her parents, brother, brothers kids into your house. Her father needs $1500 to fix his truck, they'll try to guilt you into forking out the money. You want to go out to a fancy steak restaurant and have some good wine? You better be able to fork out cash for 11 people.
At the end of the day, I ended up going Asian. There are cons too (very judgmental of your finances, and family background), but very feminine, and loyal.
I definitely would skip all western born women, all of them. The majority of them are feminist and are not long term marriage material.
Take home = AVOID WOMEN AT ALL COSTS!!😂🤣🤣
very true, my colombian wife moved in her younger sisters into our home during covid and it went down bad very fast. i had to kick younger sisters out and it really hurt the relationship. but also its good they are attached to their family, they can help you when you need it too. also every time i let my wife family borrow money they always paid it back. it builds trust. and when we go out to dinner we split bills i never paid for 11 people. i think only marry virgin. less baggage.
@@amandaburleson2035Why did you kick the sisters out? Just curious
@@cc-92 they started to get annoying, they started to feel entitled. i was paying all the money for the bills, utilities and food. one of the sisters was very dirty, she was really hot tho, even prettier and younger than my wife and she would leave her smelly used panties and lingerie all over the place like in the bathroom floor, so i would find them when i went to take a shower. also they would start to fight with each other too much... they were just girls, 17, 19, and 22. hormonal. it was too much i started to feel like i had to become their father. meanwhile i was starting to lust over the girls. i would catch the little sister masterbating. i would hear her vibrator. and her moaning and she would try to flirt with me so also i would lust over her.i really wanted to start fcuking them and we were attracted to eachother, and stuck in a house during covid lockdowns. but i started to just actually get sick of them and wanted them out.... it started to feel like they took over my house. all of them wanted my attention. i feel they really needed a father figure. they also started to get lazy and didn't wanna contribute, one of the sisters had a dog and would not clean up the dogs poop and urine. another time the hot sister broke glass and she didnt clean it well so i cut myself on the glass because i didnt know she broke glass and she didnt care enough to get all the peices. so that was it, i blew up on them one day and started yelling at them, even made them cry. ... now we are good. but yea they dont live here anymore. almost ended the marriage after all that. it was that bad. sure they were hot and now that i think about it i should have started making love with all 4 of them and we would all have been happy during covid lockdowns. daddy happy and girls fed and fcuked good. of course secretly and i would only have sex with the 2 pretty ones. we used to cuddle in a freindly way and i woudl get erections. and they would laugh and gigglle so i know they were into me.
I’m going through the same thing dating a Latina(Colombian). Eventually a Colombian woman will come to expect the man in her life to do things for their family. Especially if you’re a foreigner, they automatically assume you have enough money to help her family. But I really believe this is true with women all around the world, especially in poor countries.
I went out with a girl from Barranquiila who tried that dominate crap with me. She shut up when I told her she might need to pay for her half of the date. She complied really quick.
I'm American but my ancestry in Kenyan. I consider myself very well educated (Ivy League). I've never been married. I got intrigued by Colombia and Brazil like 10 years ago. We have Colombian and Brazilian restaurants in Boston which I have really enjoyed. But that's been the extent of my exploration. Have been planning to visit Colombia but been hesitant due to the stories regarding foreigners getting robbed, drugged or worse. I will definitely hit Brazil soon. I have to say that I find Wes's channel to be very interesting. I'm new to it. I think I'm learning a lot from it and the comments from viewers. I think the more I view his channel, the more I realize that cross-cultural relationships are much harder than I thought. And if you throw in language differences, you have a steep mountain to climb. I have watched many other RUclips channels which make it seem easy but I'm slowly beginning to feel that it isn't so. Wes has more credibility to me because he has actually been married to a Colombian. I think for someone like me, it's better to try to find someone in America, as hard as it may seem, if I'm going to go the cross-cultural route. This could include a Black American, an African from any African country but who grew up in America, a Colombian or Brazilian who grew up in America, basically an American of any race who is cool with cross-cultural relationships. I think this would work best for me. I'm on the older side. I don't need hassles.
Bro, you have grown so much. Very happy for you. Congrats!
In hindsight you probably shouldn’t have got married so quickly. Now she’s entitled to half of your stuff. You are young, handsome and speak Spanish well so you will be able to find genuine Colombian women but these 40-50 yo unattractive Americans have to be realistic about why a hot 20yo is dating them
i actually don't owe her anything because we don't have any property and the divorce isn't my fault.
In Colombia people get divorced and the woman doesn't get shit tbh, just like most countries in the world.
Yes, one would think that with the sheer volume of attractive women here that it would be a crap shoot, but the reality is quite different. Personally, I've decided they have to meet at least the following two criteria to consider getting involved with someone again: 1) college educated, and 2) at least some exposure to U.S. culture via either an extended visit, or prior time living there.
Good points, but once they become immersed in U.S. culture, even for a brief visit, it's a wrap. The further they are away from the wide spectrum of influences here, the better, IMO. Nonetheless, I respect your thoughts.
Goodness why on earth would you want them to be highly
Educated (ultra indoctrinated) exposed to US culture? They are just going to hold super wacky far left beliefs and be easily manipulated. No thanks give me the ultra Latin ones that don’t care about Miley Cyrus twerking.
Totally agree. A little education doesn't hurt.
I was married to a Guatemalan for 12 years and 6 kids and yes the cultural difference can be a deal breaker. I was fortunate and ended up with the kids here in the US and she went back to her family in her country
bro, I just seen your video on getting married. Yal broke it off already? I liked the video.. im invested...
Every relationship fails for the same reason. Letting the woman lead or letting her think she's your equal. And in most cases above you.
I know, I get it. You try so hard to be a good man and do the right thing. That does not work!! Every successful business has a clear leader. And yes, a relationship is a business.
Never tolerate any level of disrespect. I did not get to where I am in life because of a woman. I got to where I am in spite of a woman. This takes all the pressure off the woman to feel she needs to compete, or prove something.
But it is hard to do this, espicially in western countries. Because she can divorce rape you
As a woman, here is my two cents; If you do not want me to be your equal (by however you define equality) than you need to be the dominant leader by having the traits as well as the responsibilities of one. You need to be making money and lots of it. If we are both working, you need to be making double of what I make to be worthy of my "submissiveness." You need to be leading financially at the very least.
Tell me; where it makes sense for you to be telling someone who outearns you what they can and cannot be doing. Because that is exactly what I have a hard time comprehending. Cause if you arent doing the bare minimum of making a lot of money, then what exactly makes you a man besides that appendage between your hips?
You need to realize women Western or foreign are not slaves and housekeepers. It is ridiculous as well as childish to think that a woman is working as much as you, outearns you by pursuing draining jobs, and then come home to take care of you AND children. While you get to go home, crack open a beer and demand sex from your partner. You simple-minded fool if you think that that is okay.
@sydneewright6244 you talk about being an empowered w0men and how important it is to you. But if the man is mega rich you transform into a submissive f3male. You sound like some sort of pr0stiture that could be bought for the right price. Sounds like the modern w0men.
@@sydneewright6244 miss me with that sydnee, you will be obedient and docile i will make you my slave and make you pay everything.
A relationship should be equal and flexible, not one in which a man is the master and his wife a dumb slave. Who is not allowed to disagree with him.
The problem is that some men want a subservient wife who stays at home but they aren't even willing to provide a home, income, citizenship, or anything to their wives.
They blame feminism and go to foreign countries for wives but they don't seem to realize that they have to be providers for their wife, their children, and their wife's family. For their entire lifetime.
Also a woman who is subservient does not contribute to her husband's financial obligations.
Unlike in Western countries, she may not divorce him and get half. She and her entire family will just use him for money for his entire life.
Either way it cost money to have a wife. Or even a girlfriend who is a live in maid.
All of these self-centered, selfish guys ask for the moon but don't give anything in return.