A lot of these principles apply to mother/son just as much if not more. A young boy is home with you all day and looking to you for his sense of self. It really makes a difference to apply “understanding men” when he wants to spread his legos all over the floor and I need to remember that he is a visual/spacial guy, or he gets mad at the doctor for giving me a shot because he is learning to feel protective of mommy. Many of the times I am tempted to be impatient with the noise/mess/physical activity, I truly have an opportunity to appreciate my child.
Anyone else notice how touched men get by seeing a home-y home? I don’t have much money but I put a lot of love into my home. My male friends have a much stronger reaction to my little apartment than my female friends. I didn’t understand how powerful it was until I saw the reactions a few times, it’s amazing. They’re happy with the mismatched plates and the quilts and excited about just being handed a glass of water/coffee without having to ask. Welcoming someone into your home is one of the best things in life
Yes! Excepting him and not trying to change him is so key!! My marriage took a turn for the better when I started focusing on changing me! How can I do better? Instead of looking at the stick in his eye, I focused on the beam in mine. I did and do my part as a stay at home mom and wife. I stopped nagging and whining and did the dishes, made all meals, cleaned the home with a thankful heart, worked on letting go of anger, and focused on the precent. And boy was I truly thankful! God is so good! I have a healthy son and a loving husband who is faithful to me and works hard. I have a home and I have my Lord by my side. I excepted my role as a wife and looked to proverbs 31 and wow oh wow!!! My home atmosphere changed, my husband because the Godly man I always deamt of. We love one another more than ever and I enjoy so so much taking care of the home and my family. So yes!!! This is one way "excepting him" looks like. Focus on what you need to do and quit worrying about him and everyone else. Stop nagging, be thankful and see what happens 🥰
Thank you so much. Dixie, your mother's book saved our marriage over 20 years ago. It's great that you and your daughters are carrying on her legacy. God bless you🙏💕
I am loving your channel!! I adored your mother's book and am reading yours now! I even called her (Helen) one time and we had such a wonderful conversation. I was sooo excited that she answered! 😄 Thank you so much ladies for sharing wonderful content. ❤️
Thanks so much for this! I'm 27 female and it seems like a losing battle when you look at what sells on social media and even what men casually talk about and what men ACTUALLY desire. It's a struggle but this gives me hope and comfort knowing to continue walking out my womanhood in this way.
I read your mother's book years ago and learned so much. Could you ladies please address 2 questions I've struggled with for most of my married life? I absolutely understand the importance of showing your husband admiration and letting him know how much you love him; greeting him at the door and paying attention to him, etc. However, I keep hearing so much about how men love the hunt and love the chase. When I flood my husband with affection and attention he seems to take me for granted, but when I don't text him or pull away and occupy myself with something other than him he seems to be more attentive and affectionate and I feel "chased" again. Why do I have to play these games to keep him interested and engaged? How do I balance stroking his ego with making him enjoy the hunt? And my 2nd question would be, when he is distracted and "in his cave", I can understand why he is and be patient, but how do I act and what do I do with myself while he's in there? I feel like sulking and pouting and waiting for him to come back out, but that will push him away. Am I supposed to pretend I'm ok and happy and fine on my own and force a smile when he finally decides to pay attention to me again? Thank you so much for all the wisdom your three generations have imparted!!!
Hi Elana, what a great couple of questions! For the first one, I have to ask...do you feel that your "flood of affection and attention" is completely genuine and timely? I don't mean this in a way to offend you or to accuse you of anything negative, rather in a way of genuinely asking you if you are paying attention to why and when you are showing him this type of attention? A lot of men know the difference between a shower of love and a moment of deep admiration and attention. With the few things I know about your story, my guess is that he might be doubting that you are genuine in your approach. As for the "chasing" part, I think all men like to do a little more of the pursuing but when you are married, it's ok to have a balance of pursuit here and there between the two of you. Perhaps he enjoys it a bit more than other men? Without knowing him, I cannot be too sure. If he is a good man he is more than likely not playing games with you, although it certainly can seem that way to us ladies when we are feeling confused! 😊Most men in general do not purposely play games, especially after they've married you. I have known many not so great men in my life who might play games because they are controlling, narcissistic or very wounded; you might want to think about whether he falls into any of those categories. If I were in your shoes, I would study FW a lot more and practice the principles. My book goes into so much more than the first book - this is why I call it a sequel to my mothers book. I expanded on her book after living FW my entire life. My mother wrote her book when she had only been married a short time. I feel that my book went deeper into all of FW for this very reason. As for your second question, I suspect this is a moment for you to focus on your own personal development. When Bob was in medical school, he often came home late and watched basketball in our bedroom after eating his dinner after I had just spent a day with kids. Instead of feeling sorry for myself I had to learn how to take some time for myself. I would often read, take a bath or just fulfill myself with a hobby to take my mind off of feeling bad. He would always come out and appreciate me later. There were times where I still felt sad when he was in his cave because I truly missed him but I always made sure I conveyed that message to him when we were finally together. I guess my point here is that the man cave is a place where he is choosing to go whether we like it or not. Let him go in and wait for him to come out. While he's in there, think of it as "me time"! I don't know about you but I feel like I will be working on myself till the day I die - none of us are ever going to be perfect but striving to improve on something (even if it's just reading!) sure does make us feel great!
Dixie answered it perfectly! When men go into their cave I just go do my thing. It’s not easy feeling that detachment from our men but I learned that even then they are still leading, just leading us back to ourselves and how to fulfill our own needs. I’m divorced before the age of 30 so I had to learn better habits on taking care of myself. Obsessed over men’s validation was one bad habit. Thank you lovely ladies for opening the dialogue on this ❤️
@@DixieandBob Thank you for your thought provoking response. My husband is definitely not one to play games with me, so I don't think it's that. I do think I'm timing things inappropriately or doing it almost in a way that isn't entirely genuine. I want to make him happy, but maybe overdoing compliments isn't what he'd like most. He seems happiest when I'm transparent and he doesn't have to guess what I'm thinking. To many compliments make him feel almost suspicious. He likes when I'm at ease and just puttering around making small talk, I think knowing what's on my mind makes him feel good because he isn't guessing how to help me. I also LOVE your advice on bettering myself while he's in the cave. Perfect time to work out, read, pamper myself, so when he comes out it's to a fresh woman!
Fascinating Womanhood for the Timeless Woman (Companion workbook) Fascinating Womanhood - Vintage Edition (Companion Workbook) Fascinating Girl The Love Book (romantic journal)
Very brave of you to say those things about the gender fluidity... I mean those people no disrespect either, but I have to agree, personally, I think it's difficult to be most attractive if you're not basically masculine/feminine and somewhere in between instead. It's just a good observation.
8:06 Really good points! -What men want and value in women change as they mature... a lot of men, younger and older, may not really realize they're attracted to the deeper internal qualities. And what they want in a woman differs greatly depending on the TYPE of woman they're looking for. If he's not looking for somebody to settle down with... he'll just be looking for physically attractive women. When a man matures more and is looking to settle down with someone, the things he looks for and values in a woman drastically change.
A lot of these principles apply to mother/son just as much if not more. A young boy is home with you all day and looking to you for his sense of self. It really makes a difference to apply “understanding men” when he wants to spread his legos all over the floor and I need to remember that he is a visual/spacial guy, or he gets mad at the doctor for giving me a shot because he is learning to feel protective of mommy. Many of the times I am tempted to be impatient with the noise/mess/physical activity, I truly have an opportunity to appreciate my child.
I like your perspective!!
Anyone else notice how touched men get by seeing a home-y home? I don’t have much money but I put a lot of love into my home. My male friends have a much stronger reaction to my little apartment than my female friends. I didn’t understand how powerful it was until I saw the reactions a few times, it’s amazing. They’re happy with the mismatched plates and the quilts and excited about just being handed a glass of water/coffee without having to ask. Welcoming someone into your home is one of the best things in life
I love your videos. One of my favorite parts of the week is when you post a new video.
This has to be one of my favorites!
Oh yay!
Great video!
Very helpful
Yes! Excepting him and not trying to change him is so key!! My marriage took a turn for the better when I started focusing on changing me! How can I do better? Instead of looking at the stick in his eye, I focused on the beam in mine. I did and do my part as a stay at home mom and wife. I stopped nagging and whining and did the dishes, made all meals, cleaned the home with a thankful heart, worked on letting go of anger, and focused on the precent. And boy was I truly thankful! God is so good! I have a healthy son and a loving husband who is faithful to me and works hard. I have a home and I have my Lord by my side. I excepted my role as a wife and looked to proverbs 31 and wow oh wow!!! My home atmosphere changed, my husband because the Godly man I always deamt of. We love one another more than ever and I enjoy so so much taking care of the home and my family. So yes!!! This is one way "excepting him" looks like. Focus on what you need to do and quit worrying about him and everyone else. Stop nagging, be thankful and see what happens 🥰
I can attest to this truth 🙌🏽
Thank you so much. Dixie, your mother's book saved our marriage over 20 years ago. It's great that you and your daughters are carrying on her legacy. God bless you🙏💕
Wow, thank you!
I love that you revisited this topic ❤️ FW was life changing, and I’m going to read FW for the timeless woman this week!
So glad! ♥️
I am loving your channel!! I adored your mother's book and am reading yours now!
I even called her (Helen) one time and we had such a wonderful conversation. I was sooo excited that she answered! 😄
Thank you so much ladies for sharing wonderful content. ❤️
Thanks so much for this! I'm 27 female and it seems like a losing battle when you look at what sells on social media and even what men casually talk about and what men ACTUALLY desire. It's a struggle but this gives me hope and comfort knowing to continue walking out my womanhood in this way.
SO happy to hear a comment like this, thank you for sharing!
All very useful points, thank you ladies.
I'm 0.01% that wouldn't mind pidgins in our apartment ;p
So helpful! Love your videos and this one is no exception. Thank you so much for sharing! 💕
Love this!! ❣️❣️❣️
Thanks friend!
I read your mother's book years ago and learned so much. Could you ladies please address 2 questions I've struggled with for most of my married life? I absolutely understand the importance of showing your husband admiration and letting him know how much you love him; greeting him at the door and paying attention to him, etc. However, I keep hearing so much about how men love the hunt and love the chase. When I flood my husband with affection and attention he seems to take me for granted, but when I don't text him or pull away and occupy myself with something other than him he seems to be more attentive and affectionate and I feel "chased" again. Why do I have to play these games to keep him interested and engaged? How do I balance stroking his ego with making him enjoy the hunt? And my 2nd question would be, when he is distracted and "in his cave", I can understand why he is and be patient, but how do I act and what do I do with myself while he's in there? I feel like sulking and pouting and waiting for him to come back out, but that will push him away. Am I supposed to pretend I'm ok and happy and fine on my own and force a smile when he finally decides to pay attention to me again? Thank you so much for all the wisdom your three generations have imparted!!!
this is a great question I'm curious too
Thank you for such an honest question.
Hi Elana, what a great couple of questions! For the first one, I have to ask...do you feel that your "flood of affection and attention" is completely genuine and timely? I don't mean this in a way to offend you or to accuse you of anything negative, rather in a way of genuinely asking you if you are paying attention to why and when you are showing him this type of attention? A lot of men know the difference between a shower of love and a moment of deep admiration and attention. With the few things I know about your story, my guess is that he might be doubting that you are genuine in your approach. As for the "chasing" part, I think all men like to do a little more of the pursuing but when you are married, it's ok to have a balance of pursuit here and there between the two of you. Perhaps he enjoys it a bit more than other men? Without knowing him, I cannot be too sure. If he is a good man he is more than likely not playing games with you, although it certainly can seem that way to us ladies when we are feeling confused! 😊Most men in general do not purposely play games, especially after they've married you. I have known many not so great men in my life who might play games because they are controlling, narcissistic or very wounded; you might want to think about whether he falls into any of those categories. If I were in your shoes, I would study FW a lot more and practice the principles. My book goes into so much more than the first book - this is why I call it a sequel to my mothers book. I expanded on her book after living FW my entire life. My mother wrote her book when she had only been married a short time. I feel that my book went deeper into all of FW for this very reason. As for your second question, I suspect this is a moment for you to focus on your own personal development. When Bob was in medical school, he often came home late and watched basketball in our bedroom after eating his dinner after I had just spent a day with kids. Instead of feeling sorry for myself I had to learn how to take some time for myself. I would often read, take a bath or just fulfill myself with a hobby to take my mind off of feeling bad. He would always come out and appreciate me later. There were times where I still felt sad when he was in his cave because I truly missed him but I always made sure I conveyed that message to him when we were finally together. I guess my point here is that the man cave is a place where he is choosing to go whether we like it or not. Let him go in and wait for him to come out. While he's in there, think of it as "me time"! I don't know about you but I feel like I will be working on myself till the day I die - none of us are ever going to be perfect but striving to improve on something (even if it's just reading!) sure does make us feel great!
Dixie answered it perfectly! When men go into their cave I just go do my thing. It’s not easy feeling that detachment from our men but I learned that even then they are still leading, just leading us back to ourselves and how to fulfill our own needs. I’m divorced before the age of 30 so I had to learn better habits on taking care of myself. Obsessed over men’s validation was one bad habit. Thank you lovely ladies for opening the dialogue on this ❤️
@@DixieandBob Thank you for your thought provoking response. My husband is definitely not one to play games with me, so I don't think it's that. I do think I'm timing things inappropriately or doing it almost in a way that isn't entirely genuine. I want to make him happy, but maybe overdoing compliments isn't what he'd like most. He seems happiest when I'm transparent and he doesn't have to guess what I'm thinking. To many compliments make him feel almost suspicious. He likes when I'm at ease and just puttering around making small talk, I think knowing what's on my mind makes him feel good because he isn't guessing how to help me.
I also LOVE your advice on bettering myself while he's in the cave. Perfect time to work out, read, pamper myself, so when he comes out it's to a fresh woman!
😂"You can make atmosphere in a cave!" Love you guys so much. You give me hope.
I love this!!
Oh cherry, your daughter is adorable.
Thank you!
Could you tell me the title of your books please?
Fascinating Womanhood for the Timeless Woman
(Companion workbook)
Fascinating Womanhood - Vintage Edition
(Companion Workbook)
Fascinating Girl
The Love Book (romantic journal)
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Its so hard to be a feminine woman in this day as well as a housewife
Very brave of you to say those things about the gender fluidity... I mean those people no disrespect either, but I have to agree, personally, I think it's difficult to be most attractive if you're not basically masculine/feminine and somewhere in between instead. It's just a good observation.
This is, so far, my favourite video that you have done! So inspiring! Thank you, thank you, thank you!❤️❤️❤️❤️💐💐💐💐
8:06 Really good points! -What men want and value in women change as they mature... a lot of men, younger and older, may not really realize they're attracted to the deeper internal qualities. And what they want in a woman differs greatly depending on the TYPE of woman they're looking for. If he's not looking for somebody to settle down with... he'll just be looking for physically attractive women.
When a man matures more and is looking to settle down with someone, the things he looks for and values in a woman drastically change.
Love your videos. Totally helps me stay motivated and on track to keep my mind on my marriage in a healthy way! 🥰
Thanks for letting us know - we need this to keep us motivated too!
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Interesting topic. I’m only realizing that fascinating womanhood and secrets of fascinating womanhood are two different books. Am i right?
Correct. The man that wrote secrets was inspired by our book.
Thank you my dear friends.
Such a loyal friend - thank you!
I really enjoyed the video. Thank you
Thanks for this!!!!
Love it xo
Buen video, quiero aprender a ser una mujer tradicional