Korea Has Changed SO Much Since We Got Married 💍 Single Life, Relationships, Kids, etc. | SEOUL Life
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My fave couple. Kyuhos laugh is contagious.
Happy anniversary Kyuho and Sarah!
The US birth rate has been steadily declining since the 70s. To me, it signifies people having greater autonomy over their own bodies. Oral contraceptives and IUDs became available in the 60s, abortion became much safer with its legalization in the 70s (even though much of the country will likely lose access to it later this year).
But there's so many systemic reasons people in the US choose not to have kids. Raising kids is expensive here, even if they have no problems. No healthcare, no paid leave to care for your kids. So many of us are too poor to properly care for ourselves, let alone another human being. Pregnancy is still very stigmatized and is seen as a liability in the workplace despite the laws (as are children, if you are a woman).
Our generation is also breaking a lot of the silence on abuse, neglect, and mental health and how it's all generational. I see also a lot of "my parents were not good parents, and I am breaking the cycles of abuse by not having kids because I don't think I could be a good parent and I don't want my child to have to go through what I was put through." So many people of previous generations brought kids into the world for, quite frankly, bad reasons and our generation has had to pay the price with our mental wellbeing.
I think the access to information is changing many of our minds too. Despite medical advances, pregnancy is still incredibly dangerous. The access to information, be it direct research or just watching vlogs of pregnancy/childrearing has definitely put, in some ways, the reality of it to the forefront. And more of us are saying "no thank you." I often hear thrown around in the medical field "if you've never had kids, don't work labor and delivery - you'll never want kids." The implied "don't go into this with informed consent, because if people saw the reality of it, they'd never do it" says so much.
I also just think most of us see the writing on the wall of what the future will look like and are uncomfortable bringing children into a world who will be guaranteed to have a difficult life. I don't know a single person of my generation who has any hope that the future has anything positive with climate change, the rich destroying not just the planet but all of our societies to sustain their greed and immorality, and all the other global issues we face. A significant portion of my childless friends are doing so because they think it is ethically and morally wrong to bring a child into the world these days. This is where I personally stand and why I'm (almost certainly) never having kids. I worry a lot about what old age will look like for my generation because the US has dropped the ball so hard on its people and there will be nothing for us in terms of care as we age.
So many amazing points here 👏
The ‘access to information’ part REALLY stood out for me, and I could not agree more. Up until recently, it was very taboo to openly discuss the not-so-wonderful aspects of pregnancy, childbirth, and child-rearing. Everything used to be very ‘rose-colored glasses’ around these topics, but I’ve seen a huge shift in this over the last several years. I love how people are being way more honest and upfront about the realities of these-BOTH the good and bad!
It blows my mind that people ask couples when they will/why they don’t yet have kids … and I can’t believe someone made such a comment on your wedding day!!! I’m thankful that attitudes are changing because for whatever reason a couple doesn’t have kids, it’s not always an easy thing to talk about or explain.
Still blows our minds too 😅 We rarely get it these days, but once in a while we’ll get a rather…snarky and invasive comment about it. SO happy that attitudes are changing around this overall though!
Happy Anniversary Sarah and Kyuho! (side note: editor here, and my new most-favorite word is... Diversitizing!!) Thank you for always bringing Sunday cheer to my day.
My husband and I have been married ten years this year, and definitely want children. That said, I'm not sure I would feel so adamant about it if we weren't able to buy a house and set up roots throughout our 20s. We gave up certain things to be in this position - a lot of my friends spent their 20s travelling and experiencing different and wonderful things, whereas we were back here at home paying our mortgage and trying to grow our careers. We've decided to delay the travel until our children are old enough to travel with us (and appreciate it). There's always a tradeoff and we sadly can't have it all like some generations before us were able to.
You can travel. It may not be to Bali or something exotic/sexy. Don't forgo your lives, tomorrow isn't promised. Me and my husband did it on blue-collar incomes, and 3 kids. !
Really resonated with the end part there. Sadly you can’t have it all, and it’s hard to choose which sacrifices you’re ‘most ok’ making. Traveling with kids is definitely more difficult and expensive. If we had a child for example, it would cost around $4,500-7000 (depending on the time of year) for 3 people to fly to Nova Scotia to visit my family. That’s way too expensive for us to do yearly, especially with the added costs of raising a child. So sadly, we would only get to see my family every several years-if we’re lucky. I couldn’t handle that, personally.
OMG, Kyuho being squeamish about surgical procedures. I'm sure your KATUSA buddies would have a field day with that. 🤗 Happy anniversary to you both 🎉 I think all industrialised countries are facing the same issues. I lived in Italy for 18 years back in the 80s/90s and all I heard was the "problem" of having kids. They had a saying, " one child is too little and two are too many. " My husband and I had only 1 child and raising her in Italy was not easy. I finally moved us back to my home in Canada and even though life hasn't been easy, it's been better. Now my husband and I are retired and that is a whole lot of other issues. 😁
Happy Anniversary, and thank you for sharing this insightful discussion. I'm (most likely) the age of Kyuho's mom, and I remember her interview where she said that if she had the choice before, she probably wouldn't have had children. While I'm delighted with my own children, and I really wanted them, I also agree with her - we didn't have such a feeling of choice when we were younger. I think that ability to choose how to live is actually quite wonderful. (Also, I now want to go to Korea for eyelid surgery, which I need, and to take a Jun's Baking Class, which I want!)
Thank you so much! 😊 And thank you for your refreshing honestly. I love that it’s becoming far less taboo to admit that although an individual loves their children, if they could do it again, they wouldn’t choose that path. Ooohh, really hope you can come to Korea soon then-that’s an impressive list you’ve got going already 😎
Thank you for keeping the sneezing/laughing fit in. Absolutely loved seeing you two laugh like that with each other, hahaha
You are such a genuine couple!!!
so nice to watch your videos..
Happy belated anniversary! Wow, I was off RUclips for a while and it’s so nice to see your vlogs again. They are so soothing and chill.
I also loved hearing your insight to Korean culture evolution. The first time I was in Korea in 2014, was vastly different than the Korea I left in 2018. In 2014, when I explored on my own, I always felt odd being out by myself. But in 2017/2018 it wasn’t as bad.
Watching your vlog is making me nostalgic for Korea now.
Happy Anniversary to the sweetest couple! 🥰 You are both a riot - I laughed along with you! Very interesting topic. 😃
Wow ! What beautiful scenery on your bike ride home ! So lush & green
Boy, do your videos go by in a flash! I actually pouted a bit at the end because I wanted more. So glad Sarah is healing so quickly and so well. The weather looked so lovely for a bit of outdoor knocking about. Kyuho’s bike rig is so OG-LOL! Love you two to bits. Keep ‘em coming.
Oh, and Happy Anniversary to you two. You make my heart flutter😊
Great vlog! I’ve seen Tony in a lot of my subscribed RUclips channels. I really would like to visit his clinic when I visit Korea. Hopefully one of these days. So happy your procedure went well.🙏 Btw, love how your humorous side shows on video. Made me laugh as well.
The price of living (Canada - Southern Ontario to be specific) really makes the idea if having a child more daunting. For me, having a child is non-negotiable. I will forgo things just to be a mother.
Congrats good video and content as always
Happy Anniversary. Your videos are awesome. Love learning about Korea and it's beautiful scenery.
Thank you so much for watching ☺️
Loved your sunglasses Sarah 💖
Very interesting talk on single life in Korea! I'm single and want to live overseas so these types of talks are always informative for me. Also, it seems like Korea and Japan are starting to open their borders. I was curious if you noticed any changes now in Korea since more people are being let in. Maybe a topic for a future video?
Great video! Thanks!❤
Love your couples outfits at the end of the video!
Haha, thank you! It was totally accidental 😂
Such an interesting exercise to observe how things have changed in Korea since you two were married. Happy Anniversary!!!! May you have many more. The birth rate numbers don’t seem to be dissipating here in the US. From what I can tell it seems the numbers have been consistent if not slightly higher. My family and I still wear masks when 98% of people are no longer wearing masks. The struggle of wearing masks when it’s humid like it can sometimes get, or even just hot, is real. I do it to protect the older adults to whom I teach fitness.
Glad you are healing well after your surgery! Surgery can be scary, even if it is a simple procedure.
Also happy 7 years! Time goes by so fast 😪
Love you both i enjoy the conversation you are so right on ur topic keep safe you both all the best❤👍.
Happy anniversary!!!
@2hearts1seoul Do you guys have a video on what accessories you guys use for filming? 4:03 Like the light stands, tripod(s), etc. I want to get serious about RUclips!!
happy anniversary sweet couple !!!!!
Happy Anniversary fave Seoul Sunday night couple! 😄👋 Hehe thanks for completing our Sunday night always, it's actually a good talk since I turned 30 this month, felt that sense too, was your purpose actually to get married & reproduction after?😅 On the society's view, seeing friends or classmates getting married or building their own family in Social Media is like given already, while us still living single & independently & enjoying or surviving life felt different before but now it is ok, I think it goes down with our~ priorities & happiness. We all have different priorities financially & or mentally & as to what makes us happy. We live everyday before or even now like surviving coz of the pandemic but I hope for as long as we know our purpose & do good things & things we really want to do in life, it will come to us, good things (or having own kids? Haha) will come to us at the right time, I hope others would not feel the pressure from the society as well, STAY HAPPY!! 😊😊💙💙💙... & so nice seeing you outside in Seoul like Summer feels already? Have a great week ahead!!
I laughed so hard! Thanks guys! I needed it!
Happy Anniversary! 💕🎊🎉
Missed Beemo. Does that guy Tony work out? He looks jacked!
ME TOO!!!! Kyuho … I get weak when it comes to even an eye exam! I am not alone! 😂
One of the reason of growing childlessness rate is growing age of marriage. In age 19 years old only 3% of couples( who want give birth to baby ) childless for medical reasons, in age 35 years old 25% of couples childless for medical reasons, in age 39 years old about 50% of couples who want give birth to baby cannot do it because of medical reasons.
Very true~ but what 19 year old these days is financially stable enough to raise a child 😅 I mean damn, I was in my second year of uni then, I can’t even fathom having to raise a child while I’m a student trying to pay off student loans 💦
결혼 7주년 축하드립니다!
This video was beautiful, felt like Paris in springtime.
Thank you~ 🌞
Congratulations on seven years! Here's to many more 😍
Thank you so much! 🥰
Happy Anniversary guys!! My husband won't touch the thermostat to turn on the heat but in Seoul he would run the aircon from April to November 🤣🤣.
have yall been to Travel Maker? I went there and had some French Toast when I was visting seoul one weekend. Pretty good and a cute area.
Kept me pretty full too- had to get to a tattoo appointment later and sat for 8 hrs. Ate half a kimbab (I dont acutally like kimbab so I wasnt able to finish it- idk why I dont like it....) but that french toast probably saved my life lmao
I love these kind of videos!😍 Here, in Italy the fertility and birth rate are getting lower and lower , just like in many other European coutries and this is due to many different reasons. The gvt doesn't invest enough in family policies, many women have to give up working when they get pregnant or are refused a job if the employer finds out you plan to have kids in the future. The job market is saturated and decent salaries are hard to find, the majority of young people can't even afford to rent a place to live on their own. Education is free here ( excluding university), but raising a child can cost a lot in terms of other facilities, for example, the number of public kindergartens isn't enough to cover all the demands and many have to turn to private ones ( that cost a huge amount of money). Also, as you've stressed, things have changed and are still changing a lot in our society too. In addition to economic reasons, many young couples and singles prefer not to have children these days also due to the uncertainties of the environmental crisis. Personally, I don't intend to have kids by my own choice as I plan to build a solid career, but I can definitely understand those who actually want them and the difficulties they face. I totally agree that the concept of family should ( maybe it should always have been) be wider, two people may want to get married because they love each other and want to live together without wanting to have children; it's totally fine, and I think the younger generation is becoming more and more open to this. Love your videos, keep going! 🥰
The gov't is worried about how they will continue to pay pension if there is no one paying into the system. However, no one wants to pay for childcare and expects the women in society to bear the brunt of child rearing. This is only the result of failure to plan and giving women equal value in society.
There’s that same issue here when it comes to women having difficulty keeping their jobs if they get pregnant/have a child. It seems that more often than not, women must choose one or the other, which is really unfair.
Happy anniversary, you guys! :) To be honest, I think that what you are experiencing in Korea is kinda going on in many places. At least here in the states, I don't know that it's more "socially" acceptable (at least with older generatios), but there's definitely been a shift of people being okay with being alone. I, too, met my husband in 2011, and like... Those online dating apps/Facebook/Instagram and whatnot weren't really a thing back then like they are now? I think, in general, the idea of having to navigate dating online in the world of social media and the narrative (especially in the upcoming generations) shifting to one of, "you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else," plus the idea that you don't have to "settle" in a relationship with someone just because that's what society expects of you is really driving that movement. I see a lot of people talking about how in the past, people would stay in abusive or bad relationships because they simply had to (it wasn't as accepted to talk about mental health, it wasn't as accepted for women especially to be outside the home or sole providers, people stayed together 'for the kids', etc), not to mention the financial aspect of the breadwinner/SAHM dynamic that was so prevalent for so long. Here in the US there's still a large pocket of the population that abides by the more "traditional" family role, but with rising costs and stagnant wages, it's become a *lot* more acceptable and even understood that not everyone wants to jump into the normal "nuclear family with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence" mold.
I, personally, think it's great that people are really valuing themselves and their worth and realizing that happiness comes from within as opposed to outside validation (such as from a relationship). I like seeing more and more people stand up for themselves and not accept abusive or just non-compatible partners, or have kids with them, because you're just "supposed to" from a societal standpoint. I like that people are making sure they know who they are and what they want before they tackle adding another person (or kids) to the mix, if they even want to. I think, also, that LGBTQ+ communities being more openly accepted and talked about (at least here), and recognized as valid identities have kinda shifted things as well - people don't need to be in "beard" relationships anymore and they are able to figure themselves out and pursue their truly desired partner on their own time.
Overall, I think it's all positive. If my husband gets hit by a bus or something tomorrow, straight up, my new goal in life will be to just become an internet hermit in the woods with my dogs and trick the local towns children into thinking that I'm a witch. 🧙♀️🧹 I don't want to go through the hassle of dating or getting married or whatever again. I love my husband, he's my best friend in the world and I enjoy our life immensely, but once is enough for me, thanks! 😂🤣😂
Been married for 30 years, if my husband was to die, I would never remarry. I would be like you, a hermit with a cottage and a bedroom with white linens.🤣. All my married friends are saying the same thing. My husband said, he hopes I do stay single.🤣. If I should die he would travel around the world to watch cricket matches and spend his money on beautiful women. Or so he thinks. He forgot who his daughter is.🤣
@@annhans3535 Lol exactly! If I were to die and my husband wanted another wife, he's welcome to her, as long as she treats him well (or I'll haunt her ass)! As for me, I just want my tiny cabin, and my dogs, and to be an eccentric gardener who lives in the woods as a hermit, lol! I would probably also do some traveling, as there are many places I want to go that we haven't gotten around to yet, but overall I'm good never doing the whole sharing everything with someone thing again. :)
@@butterflymuse2707 amazing how us women think about serenity and the men thinks about women. I told my kids, if I die before daddy, let him find someone nice. Just help him make sure his selection would treat him good and don't be mad if he finds someone. I feel like he would need the companionship while I need my peace and quite.
Wow. SO.well.said. Completely agree with everything you talked about here 👏 Died a little at the witch part 😂
@@2hearts1seoul please don't die, Kyuho and Beemo would miss you! 🤣😂
Hi guys! First of all, congratulations on your 7th Anniversary of your wedding! You are so nice. I'd like to know who Tony is. I liked him a lot. I wish to see him in a video soon again. On the other hand, Honjok lifestyle is common nowadays, not only in Korea.
Happy 7th Anniversary guys!! 💜 😍 🍾 💜
Glad to hear that i'm not the only one that passes out even when someone is just talking about the medical procedures, I always end up laying beside the patient stealing their shine ^^
Same here😂😂 happened a couple of times when I almost passed out, very embarrassing. I wonder if this has a medical term
@@shayma95 It probably does ☺️
Happy anniversary guys 🎉 I'm on the 'wrong' side of 20 and I have no interest in ever getting married or having kids. I think it's great that people are beginning to accept that it's a personal choice and not a requirement once you hit a certain age.
Love when Tony makes a guest appearance 😉
Us too! ☺️
I really think lots of country’s around the world are going this way too regards kids and being single and property prices too!!!!✌🏻
Just happened upon your channel and am enjoying your videos. Love the range of topics y’all talk about. You’re such a cute couple. Btw happy 7th anniversary! Coincidentally my husband and I also got married in May 2015. We also don’t wanna have kids. We definitely feel the pressure (and resentment towards me) from his mom but I’m sticking to my guns. All the best to you both! 🤗
Thank you so much for watching 🥰
And good for you and your partner for sticking to your guns! Will having a child change your MIL’s daily life nearly as much as it would yours? Definitely not 😅 Your life, your body, your choice ✌️
So funny with all the sneezing 🤣
Haha I don't blame him, I would faint too! I have the same phobia of medical procedures!
Kyoho s laugh is hysterical and infectious🤣
Guys, have you heard of Michelle Choi ? She's going to Korea soon I think, I would absolutely love to see a vlog of you guys meeting her ^^ love you ♡
My friends and I talked about this too and we think Now this days peoples doesn’t want to have kids because of financial issues and raising kids is something important is not just like ok let’s have a kid. There are a lot of responsibilities like childcare, school, money, holidays, etc. so like in Australia a lot of young people doesn’t want to have kids because is just too hard financially and mentally.
Agree! I think people are actually thinking about it more carefully these days rather than taking such a decision so lightly.
Stores that cater to single person households sounds amazing! That doesnt exist yet in Canada:(.
Happy anniversary to you ! Interesting video. For me having kids was always a dream even now that I'm a mom I want more babies haha but I understand that a lot of couples don't want kids because you have to give up so many things when you become parents..
Thank you so much! ❤️
Yeah, I’ve seen the sacrifices people in my life (with kids) have had to make-mad props to parents out there, cause it is not easy! 👏
Omg i also have that weird thing where I faint when I just hear about certain medical procedures 😅 I passed out in a few doctors offices 😂 for me it’s not the eyes, it’s anything related to blood and heart stuff, but what is that phobia called?😂
10:30 부터 두 분 넘 귀여우신거 아닌가욬ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 특히 세라님 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 일상브이로그도 좋지만 토픽 정하고 얘기 나누는 이런 영상도 넘 좋아요! 진짜 지난 몇 년간 그 부분에서 너무 많은 변화가 휙휙- 체감되는게 당장 저만해도 비혼주의 혹 결혼하더라도 자녀는 x인데 제 주변에도 비혼주의인 사람이 꽤 많더라구요. 하더라도 자녀는 낳지 않는걸 원한다는. 채널 초반에 세라, 규호님께 자녀 계획에 대해 선넘는 댓글이 종종 달렸던게 생각이 나네요. 😬
Omg you guys were wearing the same thing when you went to the convenient store! So cute 😂
Hahaha, we didn’t even notice that until we were editing! 😂
♥️
At 4:44 , what an amazing couple!
happy anniversary form tampa, florida :)
I CANNOT WITH THE "I HATE YOU" LMAO!!! That part was too funny 😂😂
In my country of origin (Serbia) birth rate has been going down in the past 30 years. Current fertility rate is at 1.50/51.
몇년째봐오고있는 남자입니다
이십대때부터봐서 벌써 삼십대네요 저도
늘 응원하고 있어요ㅎㅎㅎ♡
Congrats to your anniversary of marriage.
Thank you so much 😊
와우! 몇년 만에 보니 정말 반갑네요 늘 행복하세요 종가집에 가는것을 볼때가 언젠가요
Korea is well-known of its collectivistic culture. Do you think the individualistic culture is more getting more prominent, given that honjok is now a thing?
Also, you might have answered this question before, but what do you think is the biggest change of yourself since you two got married? btw Happy Anniversary Sarah and Kyuho!!!
We also have the same prob when Singapore relaxed the wearing of masks for outdoors. i guess wearing mask as become such a second nature to us during this pandemic that it takes awhile to adjust back :)
Oh wow! Singapore is so hot and humid, we would struggle so much wearing masks outside in that heat 😰
Another Singaporean here 👋 For now, I'm quite happy to wear a mask everywhere 😅
Happy anniversary guys! I am single & happy with my choice. Too many divorces nowadays
I’ve also heard people around my age (I’m 26) giving up their choice to have children because of the climate crisis, in addition to the reasons you mentioned such as career choices or rising housing prices 😥
Happy 7th Anniversary Kyuho & Sarah. Wishing you many more happy years together.
*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Remember that your struggles have helped to make you the person you are today. Be thankful for them and know that they will guide you through difficult times.
Best burger I've had in Korea so far!
Best burger we’ve ever eaten, period 😎🍔
May I ask for the name of the Burger Place and where it's at? :)
One Star Old Fashioned Hamburgers 🍔
@@2hearts1seoul thanks a lot. :)
childfree for the win! honestly guys you are childfree goals! have a great life :)
Most Millennials I know (self and husb incl) don't want kids, especially in the US. Giving birth is absurdly expensive; adopting is expensive; we are already burdened with student loans; raising kids is expensive; the climate crisis is getting worse; there's no work-life balance; there's already no way we can afford (in both time and money) what we want out of life, let alone raising another human to have any decent quality of life themself. Even if we did want kids, which we 10000% don't, we would never even consider it with the above circumstances. Societies are going to have to change if they want to stop falling birth rates.
10000% how we think about the situation as well. There’s absolutely no way we could have a work/life balance and afford/experience what we would want out of life if we had a child. Even if we were a couple who wanted a child (which we are not), we would still choose not to have a child for the reasons you explained.
@@2hearts1seoul stop I can only love you guys so much!
Happy anniversary 🎉
I just had a baby here in Korea. The government is doing a lot to support families, but it is expensive to have a child. We are not sure how to manage everything. Especially housing is a burden.
We are very happy with our small family but I can understand everyone who doesn't want
to have a child. :)
I can’t even imagine trying to find a home suitable to raise a child in here-it’s already so expensive finding a decent place for the two of us 🥺
Crazy how society is changing like that. Maybe it's an East Asian thing? Cause I know Japan has a similar mindset and I think they have a pretty low birth rate as well. It'll be super interesting like 50 years from now, how things will turn out.
Yep I could see the changes the more people experienced other cultures, they wanted a different life for themselves.
With a lot of families sending their children overseas they saw a different way of doing things. There was more freedom to try things that they might like. Most women are just not into traditional marriage where they have little or no say in what happens. After watching those dramas back then with depressed, overworked mothers,husbands that don't help but leave everything to the wife, married life was not looking great.
Also not everyone can go in debt for a tutor and different programs to get their child into a great college. Family rentals are expensive especially the key money you need to have as a deposit. It's difficult all over, probably saw the stress of their mothers and fathers life and decided they wanted something that worked better for them
What neighborhood in Seoul do they live in? It's so green and quaint and gorgeous.
I love when you break into giggles together, I end up laughing too lol and I just Google it, you probably already know from research but '' Birth rate of Canada fell gradually from 16.1 per 1,000 people in 1971 to 10.3 per 1,000 people in 2020.'' It's funny because I'm 32 and don't want kids, I know many people who don't want kids, yet my sister got 3 and my cousin got 4! I feel like they contributed enough for me ahah I used to think not wanting kids was an act of selfishness from my part, like I want to live MY life and focus on MYSELF, MY NEEDS etc. It is, and it isn't. If some see it that way still, I couldn't care less. To each his own :)
How is it selfish? It's super unselfish, actually! If other people want kids, they can have their own (thinking otherwise is rather selfish of THEM). And focusing on yourself and your needs is great! That's called taking care of yourself.
Good for you! Live YOUR life and choose what suits you and brings your fulfillment! 👏 Everyone doesn’t feel fulfillment from the same things, after all! It takes a lot of different people to make up a world :)
I don't know why you guys aren't trending or something.
I love love love they way you shoot things, the way you edit. It's so aesthetically pleasing. Also you're thumbnails are so beautiful and pleasing for the eye😅
Alsooooo please never stop making each other laugh, that's precious
I really enjoy watching your videos with all the "outdoorsness".🤣. Congrats on your wedding anniversary.🎉🥂. I read somewhere that SK birthrate is now 1%. I think that is a worldwide issue now, young people are not willing to give up their lifestyle to have kids. Kids are expensive and my own kids are not planning on having kids. My daughter said, if she has kids she hopes it's a boy because she remembers herself being very expensive to maintain.🤣 It's not that having a kid is expensive, it everything is more expensive. The cost of housing, food, childcare(Childcare in the US can take half of your income)and education. Most of the young people in the US are now paying off student loans and so don't have the disposable income to spare for anything else. In world economics, women are becoming more educated and working than ever before (in 3rd world countries etc), as they are enjoying the economic freedom of earning their own money, they don't need to get married. And while it's not great that the birth rate for the world is down for economic reasons, it's great for the planet.
Bulgaria took a nosedive in birthrates due to the economy in the 1990s, but it started going back up now that the economy has gotten a bit better. Current birthrate is 1.58. Even with the nosedive it didn't reach below 1.0.
As for the US, basically the same issues as korea (although with a 1.7 birthrate), a growing number of people my age don't want children or don't want to get married. Personally, I don't want to have kids and I knew from a YOUNG age, but I was sort of feeling alone in that. But now that Im in my 20's, a lot more of my friends have said they also decided kids aren't for them. Some even feeling that they want a partner but don't want to get married (just live together).
Also, Japan is also encouraging not wearing masks in wide open spaces, but a majority of people still do. At the moment, I take mine off on my walk home from the station (I only see 2-4 people on a 12 min walk) because its uphills, humid AF, and Im usually tired after work. We'll see how this goes.
That’s so interesting about Bolivia’s rebounding birthrate. Honestly, it’s hard to imagine the same thing happening for Korea, as there are so many complex issues that contribute to the low birth rate that likely won’t be ‘fixed’ in the foreseeable future. I also think that more people in their 20s-30s simply don’t want children, even if there were none of these issues to contend with.
We still see that vast majority (more than 90% ) of people wearing masks outside on the streets, but in quieter side streets not so much.
One day I was reading a book on parenting and was asked if I was getting married lol. It’s this assumption that I can’t get married without having kids and I can’t have kids without getting married 💍👶🏼
YUP. It’s those assumptions that really grind my gears 😬 We all need to just stop assuming these types of things.
the lowering of birth rates put a strain on the older generations care but on the flip side it will help reduce the cost for homes, mother earth will be able to "catch" a break on mass agriculture negatives such as soil degradation and such and all in all it is just a sign that there are too many of us on this beautiful planet and we need to keep a balance.
Guys, be careful though. My aunt and uncle got covid in Cali and they are Double-Boosted. 😑
Don't know if it's the angle but the part where you 3 were having the burger under the gazebo makes Kyuho look so tiny in between Tony and Sarah 😂😅
Heheh, it’s the wide angle lens 😎
@@2hearts1seoul I had to rub my eyes cos I was feeling a bit sleepy 😂
For some people it’s simply not their lifestyle to get children. But if they get the feeling of having to sacrifice sth rather than having an enrichment added to your life without affecting you career or goals too much, it seems like not the children are the problem but the options you have as a parent by the society. So wouldn’t it become better if there were more options out there to make it easier for families?
세라님. 눈 수술 하신거 넘 자연스러워졌네요.
i think in a way the pandemic, while absolutely terrible in every way imaginable, was clarifying for a lot of people. I know I personally figured out a lot of what I wanted and moreover what I did not want and for whom and why I was doing things. In short, I think the current circumstances and what people have been through these past few years have made a lot of folks better understand what is best for them or at least have started to think about it more.
Very well said, and totally agree!
Hope Beemo is doing well too!
He’s been doing well, thanks! ☺️
I believe it has been happening in the west as well. Just yesterday I saw a popular tweet talking about it (but it was more critical about people who don't want children) and it is sad: "The number of young people who say they do not want to have children is striking. Is life so ugly for you that you don't want to allow others to live?" and it exploded with 17k people against the tweet and many giving their reasons as to why they don't want children, one of them being basically "that's not my life's end goal". One popular reply also said, "Not having a child is an act of conscience and responsibility. All of us "young adults" since our 20's realize how difficult it is to even have a home on your own. How difficult it is to access health and therefore how complicated it is..." I believe this is a recurring issue everwhere.
I personally got treated like a weird person for not wanting kids a couple years ago. Now however is much more common and people don't give me that "you're weird" look anymore, at least not that often.
Happy 7th Anniversary Sarah and Kyuho!
Yeeesh, the judgment with the tweet 😕 It’s refreshing to see the well-thought-out comments replying to it. Koreans have a saying “Birds can’t lay eggs without a nest”, which I think is dead on. It’s getting harder for our generation to even fathom having the ability to give kids a similar quality of life we had growing up. So glad you’re also not getting as much backlash for your choice! And thanks for the well wishes ☺️
Sadly yes. It definitely is happening where I live.
I sympathize with Kyuho because I get queasy when someone talks about anything with blood, veins etc
I'm late to the conversation, but I feel like another contributing factor to Gen Y/Millennials forgoing having children is that we're seeing Gen X/Elder Millenials be the "sandwich generation": caring for their elderly parents + their own children. With so many of us underemployed, underpaid, in debt, and no prospects of being able to own a home if we don't inherit one, the idea of taking care of children plus one or both aging parents in an apartment is draining.
And I work in elder care currently. The costs are mind-blowing. Where I work (senior living), the costs can range from $5K-$25K/MONTH, depending upon the level of care. Add that in with the costs of having children and it's beyond the checking accounts of most of us.
100%. I used to have discussions about this with a group of lawyers I taught. Even though they are all very well off, the cost of caring for their elderly parents AND putting their adult children through private academies since they were 3-4 years old, then university (in a few cases, law school), it was unreal.
I'm multicultural but I was surprised that my family in Asia, even my grandma, agreed with my family in the US about the fact that the world is too messed up to have children in. They all told me to just enjoy my life and be happy. I don't like children anyways but it was definitely surprising to hear that.
My (Sarah) mom actually said the same thing when in comes to the state of the world and raising kids in it.
@@2hearts1seoul You know it's bad when the parents say they don't want grandkids 😥I hope things get better and it's not just a big downhill for humanity.
Wow it’s been 7 years of marriage? I guess the Pandemic fast forwarded us 3 years since lots of life got put on hold and hasn’t been the same since.
Seriously, the pandemic really did something weird to our sense of time 😱
I am a honjok😂 ... most of the times by choice .. but sometimes because no one is free to join 😂😪( i think it's all about balance and the right company)... sometimes i just enjoy doing things alone than doing them with people I don't get that long with ... who is like this !
I swear sometimes you pronounce words in an Irish accent Sarah. I know there were Irish people that immigrated to Nova Scotia but is it prevalent or am I imagining it? It crops up in every couple of videos. For example, at 8:23.
Me and my husband want to have a child but i really can’t imagine how we can afford to have one here… we are struggling to find a good apartment for us, while in France i will be able to built a house for half the price of an appartement here. Housing is so so so expensive here omg….
Maybe my korean friends are 30y.o+ so they still have in their mind that they have to get married and have kids while my korean friends who are younger are really happy by themself and just living and enjoying right now. Korean society is so stressful ㅠㅠ
I want to take off my mask outside but i swear here in Suwon, nobody take off the mask ugh! I feel like everyone will look at me, and introvert as i am i don’t want people to look hahaha… also theses days my husband told me that there is this korean word 마기꾼 for people who look handsome with a mask, but ugly when they take it off! Do you think they don’t take off because of this ? Hahaha ㅋㅋㅋ
Housing here has just become insane…😣especially housing suitable for a family with a kid/kids.
Hahaha, we’ve heard of this 마기꾼 term recently too! Honestly, outside is so much safer to be without wearing a mask than in a packed restaurant 😅
Fertility rates decrasing and single households increasing is a normal trend for all developed countries. Germany is an aging population, too, although I feel like recently, fertility rates stabilized or even increased a bit. But an aging population will have tremendous effects on the German economy and its social security and health system. Therefore, immigration must increase, perhaps to the loss of other countries (brain drain). Or change said system. If not open for immigration, Korea and also Japan and their rapidly aging and shrinking populations will need to find other solutions, like more automation, robots etc. Which has its limits tho.
Also, in Germany, married couples with uneven earnings enjoy tax benefits. In the past, it was supposed to account for mothers earning less than fathers due to raising kids. The "mistake" was that the tax benefits are related to marital status, not number of kids. I think this system needs to change soon as DINKs should not benefit from it. But other than that, everyone should feel free to get married and have children as they please. Perhaps shrinking wealthy populations and collapsing industrialized economies is even good for the environment and health of this planet...