Don't text too much.Keep it short. Have friends,have social life. Don't ditch your friends for your man. Don't be too available. Don't be too needy. Trash talking about other women. Buying gifts in early stages of relationship. Stop nagging. Don't try to change him.
Rule no. 1)Texting him too much However don't wait for him to say that it's not working 2) Not having friends Have consistency in terms of friends 3) Always available 4) Being too need 5) Trash talking other women 6) Being too desperate 7) Trying to change him 8) Being a nag 9) Assuming everything Have missed one 💖
1.Texting him too much. 2.Not having Friends. 3.You ditch your Friends for your man. 4.Being too available. 5.Being too needy. 6.Trash talk other women. 7.Texing him complements, buying him gifts. 8.Tyring to change him. 9.Being a Nag. 10.Assuming everything.
It comes down to interest. If he interested, he will love all you do. When they ignore or don’t tell you when they are available to you, is simply because they don’t want the relationship. And that is ok. Time to move on.
Great points. I always enjoy your comments. It is easy to lose yourself in your man especially when he makes your heart go pitter-patter. In Song of Solomon, it states not to hurry love multiple times. Haste makes waste. Slow down and give him space. Absence can make the heart grow stronger. Take time to get to know the good and bad in the person. Everyone is nice in the beginning. Give it time to let the true character of the person come out of the closet. Ladies ppl are very tricky. Our goal is to find out how real love Wins! The result will be mutual love and we can grow old with the person we love. Sometimes finding true and real love is worth the Wait! Maybe true love is not a fairytale.
Why being in love is this difficults😢😢I just pray God bless and connect me with a man that will make feel that love is not hard a man that will continue to choose me everyday 🥺🙏and love me
Men love the chase/hunt. Never be needy or desperate. Don't chase him. He will run. This applies through marriage. We celebrated our Golden last July and we still have a wonderful marriage
These points stipulated here really have been helpful, I have made alot of these mistakes and it has cost so much damage in my relationship and the guy even thinks i'm naive. Now that i know i'm going to put it into practice and then see the outcome. Thank you Miss Vivian
Not that women should be overly preoccupied with "ensaring " men and keeping them but we are all human and when one gets left at the wayside it does hurt and us girls do wonder what went wrong so advice such as this is very much needed and respected . Loved the candid honest advice . A lot of these girls need to know what it is and stop texting the group chat crying about why Michael/Richard/Tom and Harry and left the building and blocked them after 2 dates . Go forth and prosper sister!!
I just found this channel and I'm loving it, everything u mentioned above is my traits haha I need to work on myself first before getting into another relationship cuz I may be really the problem and I'm willing to change
@@sharlynie2813 yes sometimes we are the red flags and we need to have self-reflection too rather than looking only for red flags of men cuz me I'm overly jealous and possessive🤣🤣
@@b3ll3edits hahaha trueee…I admit that I do have my own weaknesses too like I tend to assume everything about some situations & causing distrust in the relationship. Also, saying mean things…Perhaps we both need to work on that hehe 💖💁🏻♀️ Bless you & your journey towards Levelling-up! 🙌🏼
I just recently discovered your channel. You are so beautiful and articulate. I just adore you and wanted you to know how much I’ve enjoyed your content. Thank you !
If he lives in a large city He is victim to all of the heavy fluoride in the tap water...in addition to the air. This is known not only to negatively affect t the brain - but also the testosterone count. NOT a coincidence its the Large cities of the USA where masculine behavior no longer develops normally. Expanding your methods of meeting eligible men to include those who live in (or at least are from) the countryside - or from other countries, is a good idea.
I know many people and many people knows me. But i do not have friends but i still have social life. (With myself) i miss many enjoyments to work and save money and when money is there, i go to the beach, rent jetski, rent yatch, rent speedboat. In my ordinary days, i go to gym, sometimes i eat and try at fancy restaurants, i attend modeling class, and it keeps me busy.’sometimes theres fashion shows, i dont get paid but i have social life 😅😅 gosh i cant wait for God to send me the man and we will do all these things together❤❤
Great advice for us ladies, sure let's not be needy,it's good to know our value as women and take good care of ourselves. Also true,it's good to keep our true friends, for a balanced social life. Thanks for sharing. Liking this content 👏
I just stumbled on your videos to say the least you are adorable. Your so articulate, wao how can I speak like you ? I wouldn’t mind you train me for a fee honestly
Discovered you today!!! Binged listened on my commute into London ... this is serendipitous been stuck lately .. summer capsule project this weekend..thank you ! Such an inspiration x
(1) get to really KNOW HIM FIRST (2) take note of his RELIABILITY (3) develop a TRUST BOND (4) make sure you both make COMMITMENT to eachother (5) TOUCH ( which in my own old fashioned opinion should be when he honours you enough to marry you.
10:19 what she saying is facts you will set the standards for the relationship and any smart man will see all you do is take and I think on that one she's speaking from her experience and insecurities but I promise if gift giving is your thing do it, and that man will more confutable to exchange gift for you.
When I decided to congratulate a woman from my neighbourhood on 8th March, giving to her a bouquet of flowers, but instead to talking to me, she throws out the flowers in the dumpster, screaming at me to go away of her gate, because she is not home now, moreover, pushing her father in front, to tell me that she is really not …. but she was. No matter if our ways are crossing out daily, there it is almost one year already and she's even today did not said: sorry. I was amazed by her behaviour. I deeply appreciate your effort learning women how is need to be a "Lady".
That most definitely was not a Lady. My apologies on the behalf of All Ladies. And I would like to thank you for being a gentleman. It's really appreciated.
@@kayloveheart2513 Thank you. Because of rudeness, i forgot already when last time a woman said "Sorry or Thanks". Many thinks that Men are the obligations to do or offer Women everything for grant. But it is not. Thank you for your warming words. 🥰
I wish she knew how lucky she was to have search a thoughtful man in her life ..hopefully she realized how wrong she was and find a way to say sorry to you
Love you shared tips and my compliments to you. Just one point for you to consider, to reduce the use of the word "ladies" during your talkings. Wish you lots of success.b
Binge watching your videos, because I'm subscribed just recently and to me, your content is Top 5 for me. Wanted to note how you always look beautiful, which is also very inspiring. :)
9:55 she's soo wrong before you take these advice remember scare money don't make no money,, what man going to invest money, time and energy, on a girl who doesn't text him, compliment him or invest little bit of money, its always easy to catch biz with honey 🍯
How come you don't teach men how to love women and Getting smothered with attention is better than being lonely with none Especially during every holidays .It make men Adore that time
My friend asked me to write and tell you that she has made the 10 mistakes, relationship got shaky - any advice on how she can still salvage it at this point?
She needs to withdraw from him, be more warm & feminine, be more elegant (watch this channel), focus on her career life & social life & her other passions/interests/hobbies, be more independent than him, be MORE POSITIVE always, get more educated in dating/relationship subject, learn cooking, & she better apologise if she's done any wrongdoings. She better tell him exactly how she will make it right. Better yet, SHOW HIM. Actions speaks louder than words. Don't make promises she can't keep. and voila! the relationship will be repaired! hopefully....bless her!
The only way to balance the relationship is to back off. If he cares about her, he'll come looking for her. At that point appear happy, confident, enjoying life but not necessarily with him. Men find that alluring. But if he doesn't respond, I'm afraid there's really no relationship left.
Lol I can’t imagine me , being a lick arse 😂. I am nice to a point but I’ve got my own lil way and my dogs are more important then any man rich or poor, it’s normally the man thats to needy for me 😮
@@WomanOfElegance I mean that, women in humanities/academia are incredibly aggressive, throwing around the F word (Feminism) as a one-size-fits-all excuse to say and do as they please. Much love from Ireland (off to find a way to show my support for your work!) ... you're the feminist role model we ladies need xox
Love your channel-, please consider losing the background music otr at lowering it a lot. it is a distraction. Thank you, please keep the elegant training going. it is very helpful.
Thank you very much for this video. I just realized that its been my fault all along that the relationship isn't maintained. I have a question now to miss Vivi and every other person that wants to contribute. Do you think I should apologize to him and admit my wrongs by making things right even if the relationship is going to move forward or not? I just feel a bit guilty for those mistakes I've made.
May I ask what wrongs did you do..? If you are still in the relationship then yes, do apologise for any wrongdoings & tell him exactly how you will make it right. Or better yet, SHOW him. Actions always speaks louder than words. Don't make promises you can't keep. However, if he broke up with you, then NO. Don't do anything because you both need space to think & heal. It would be best to wait for 1 month after the breakup to apologise. Apologise sincerely & admit any wrongdoings. Tell him exactly how you will make it right. But DON'T EVER beg, plead etc he will feel manipulated. DON'T say you will be available for him...bla bla bla...just shut up for another 1 year before trying to get back together. But if you broke up with him, same strategy apply as above. Except for the last part. Just shut up for another 3 MONTHS before trying to get back together.
Good evening, I really would like for you, to mention your surname. I feel that it's a more correct way, to introduce yourself. I'm Lola Aremu, by the way! I'm Lola for short. I'm really pleased to interact with another African woman, it's a meaningful break away from meeting Nigerian content creators only. At least aside from the foreign ones! Cheers and do keep up the good work!
Thanks so much ma'am for the teaching...I have been enlightened. Pls I want to ask u, if my guy doesn't call in the morning bt he calls at lunch time, is there anything wrong with that ma'am??
5:38 true and false cuz we don't like going to the spa but we go to the spa with y'all, so when we saying we watching the game you better go get snacks
Don't text too much.Keep it short.
Have friends,have social life.
Don't ditch your friends for your man.
Don't be too available.
Don't be too needy.
Trash talking about other women.
Buying gifts in early stages of relationship.
Stop nagging.
Don't try to change him.
you forgot about being too desperate 😄🙃
Looking gorgeous as usual! Also rule no.1 when keeping a man- if it’s such hard work it’s probably not worth it 😅🤣
🤣
Rule no1 I know it from my 23 year old son. He dislikes novel😂. If I keep it short and simple he respond immediately.
Rule no.
1)Texting him too much
However don't wait for him to say that it's not working
2) Not having friends
Have consistency in terms of friends
3) Always available
4) Being too need
5) Trash talking other women
6) Being too desperate
7) Trying to change him
8) Being a nag
9) Assuming everything
Have missed one 💖
You're the perfect example of a beautiful classy and elegant lady. Even as a married lady of almost 22 years, I'm learning alot from you. Thank you!
Rcfyy
1.Texting him too much.
2.Not having Friends.
3.You ditch your Friends for your man.
4.Being too available.
5.Being too needy.
6.Trash talk other women.
7.Texing him complements, buying him gifts.
8.Tyring to change him.
9.Being a Nag.
10.Assuming everything.
It comes down to interest. If he interested, he will love all you do. When they ignore or don’t tell you when they are available to you, is simply because they don’t want the relationship. And that is ok. Time to move on.
Great points. I always enjoy your comments. It is easy to lose yourself in your man especially when he makes your heart go pitter-patter. In Song of Solomon, it states not to hurry love multiple times. Haste makes waste. Slow down and give him space. Absence can make the heart grow stronger. Take time to get to know the good and bad in the person. Everyone is nice in the beginning. Give it time to let the true character of the person come out of the closet. Ladies ppl are very tricky. Our goal is to find out how real love Wins! The result will be mutual love and we can grow old with the person we love. Sometimes finding true and real love is worth the Wait! Maybe true love is not a fairytale.
well said!
Why being in love is this difficults😢😢I just pray God bless and connect me with a man that will make feel that love is not hard a man that will continue to choose me everyday 🥺🙏and love me
Men love the chase/hunt. Never be needy or desperate. Don't chase him. He will run. This applies through marriage. We celebrated our Golden last July and we still have a wonderful marriage
Bless you & your family!
The truth here, so bitter but yet so true. So bitter especially when you're guilty of up to 80% of the things listed. Thank you ❤️
You're very brave in admitting your mistakes...Kudos!!
My standards are too high for all the childish games in these relationships.
These points stipulated here really have been helpful, I have made alot of these mistakes and it has cost so much damage in my relationship and the guy even thinks i'm naive. Now that i know i'm going to put it into practice and then see the outcome. Thank you Miss Vivian
How is it going
You're videos are highly educative..they have helped me understand relationships and know why some relationships fail.... Thank you Vivianne
Same for all you men , strong woman hates needy men , txtin , ringing to much etc , buying you gifts to see them , ANNOYING 😮
Not that women should be overly preoccupied with "ensaring " men and keeping them but we are all human and when one gets left at the wayside it does hurt and us girls do wonder what went wrong so advice such as this is very much needed and respected . Loved the candid honest advice . A lot of these girls need to know what it is and stop texting the group chat crying about why Michael/Richard/Tom and Harry and left the building and blocked them after 2 dates . Go forth and prosper sister!!
Thank you dear. I actually made these mistakes. I am branded now.
Rule number 1 Wait for God
FACTS!!!!🙏🏻💞
Love your comment well said .
And wait forever
@@brendarudman8806 😂😂😂
Even though I liked the comment, that's the hard part I'm going through right now.
Thank you mummy
You really thought me more
Thank you for your advice. At 63 years old, I am still taking notes ❤
3:53 thats wrong, its only prove it you're ready to move forward with the relationship that you're friends will be a problem and get in between.
I figured it depends on the kind of man you have or how well you relate with each other
I just found this channel and I'm loving it, everything u mentioned above is my traits haha I need to work on myself first before getting into another relationship cuz I may be really the problem and I'm willing to change
Bless you & your journey! You're very brave in admitting your mistakes...Kudos!!
@@sharlynie2813 yes sometimes we are the red flags and we need to have self-reflection too rather than looking only for red flags of men cuz me I'm overly jealous and possessive🤣🤣
@@b3ll3edits hahaha trueee…I admit that I do have my own weaknesses too like I tend to assume everything about some situations & causing distrust in the relationship. Also, saying mean things…Perhaps we both need to work on that hehe 💖💁🏻♀️
Bless you & your journey towards Levelling-up! 🙌🏼
@@sharlynie2813 yes I agree with that, can I get 1sub?
I'm loving this channel all the way from South Africa
I just recently discovered your channel. You are so beautiful and articulate. I just adore you and wanted you to know how much I’ve enjoyed your content. Thank you !
Looking so lush as usual.I really enjoy your videos, keep them coming 😘
Can u discuss about long distance relationship
Following these rules or not, these 21st Century Men are out of their minds...🤷🏿♀️
And it hurts coz you may put in much work and at the end of the day he doesn't give a fuck about them
PERIOD!
If he lives in a large city
He is victim to all of the heavy fluoride in the tap water...in addition to the air. This is known not only to negatively affect t the brain - but also the testosterone count. NOT a coincidence its the Large cities of the USA where masculine behavior no longer develops normally.
Expanding your methods of meeting eligible men to include those who live in (or at least are from) the countryside - or from other countries, is a good idea.
You look stunning...you’re definitely speaking to someone...A DEAR SIS OF MINE love it 😊
Thank you😊😘😘😘😘
I know many people and many people knows me. But i do not have friends but i still have social life. (With myself) i miss many enjoyments to work and save money and when money is there, i go to the beach, rent jetski, rent yatch, rent speedboat. In my ordinary days, i go to gym, sometimes i eat and try at fancy restaurants, i attend modeling class, and it keeps me busy.’sometimes theres fashion shows, i dont get paid but i have social life 😅😅 gosh i cant wait for God to send me the man and we will do all these things together❤❤
Love this video and I hope you make a part two to go deeper into details on how to change these habits etc.
Great advice for us ladies, sure let's not be needy,it's good to know our value as women and take good care of ourselves. Also true,it's good to keep our true friends, for a balanced social life. Thanks for sharing. Liking this content 👏
I just stumbled on your videos to say the least you are adorable. Your so articulate, wao how can I speak like you ? I wouldn’t mind you train me for a fee honestly
Wow!I have to watch this again,at some point I wished I had known these before now.thank you so much sis😘
Myself as well. I guess it’s never too late.
Discovered you today!!! Binged listened on my commute into London ... this is serendipitous been stuck lately .. summer capsule project this weekend..thank you ! Such an inspiration x
I wanted to like the video, and I realized I already did! 😂. So good!
(1) get to really KNOW HIM FIRST (2) take note of his RELIABILITY (3) develop a TRUST BOND (4) make sure you both make COMMITMENT to eachother (5) TOUCH ( which in my own old fashioned opinion should be when he honours you enough to marry you.
Wonderful teaching. 🙂 thank you ! All these pointers were helpful.
I'm scared because I feel like if I'm myself, I won't be able to have anyone. But everyone always says "be yourself"
Thank you, dear elegant woman! 🤍🤍 well wishes.
10:19 what she saying is facts you will set the standards for the relationship and any smart man will see all you do is take and I think on that one she's speaking from her experience and insecurities but I promise if gift giving is your thing do it, and that man will more confutable to exchange gift for you.
Taking/receiving from a man or anyone is not a problem. Its normal for men to give because they are providers.
enjoyed listening to you perfectly making good sense God bless you,
Thank for sharing. I agree with almost everything you listed here and really love your content. Thank you akwaaba
Can you do a talk on accepting far from perfect body after 40, 50, 60s? Thank you
I love your look here...you look beautiful Vivienne 😍
I really teach more important steps thank you and God blessed you Amen
I need that blouse! 😊
Really good advice, but the background music is highly distracting!
I really like to watch you look like Serena Williams
When I decided to congratulate a woman from my neighbourhood on 8th March, giving to her a bouquet of flowers, but instead to talking to me, she throws out the flowers in the dumpster, screaming at me to go away of her gate, because she is not home now, moreover, pushing her father in front, to tell me that she is really not …. but she was.
No matter if our ways are crossing out daily, there it is almost one year already and she's even today did not said: sorry.
I was amazed by her behaviour.
I deeply appreciate your effort learning women how is need to be a "Lady".
I wish she could read your comments. How rude she was!
Women in my home country would be delighted to receive flowers on International Women's Day.
@@thaobenn6339 Is a simple woman, with nothing something "wow". She do not speak english or another language.
BTW, Where are you from?
That most definitely was not a Lady. My apologies on the behalf of All Ladies. And I would like to thank you for being a gentleman. It's really appreciated.
@@kayloveheart2513 Thank you. Because of rudeness, i forgot already when last time a woman said "Sorry or Thanks".
Many thinks that Men are the obligations to do or offer Women everything for grant. But it is not.
Thank you for your warming words. 🥰
I wish she knew how lucky she was to have search a thoughtful man in her life ..hopefully she realized how wrong she was and find a way to say sorry to you
But Vivian you are so cool. Classy.
The correct clothing to wear to lever up
Love you shared tips and my compliments to you.
Just one point for you to consider, to reduce the use of the word "ladies" during your talkings.
Wish you lots of success.b
Great tips!
You look elegant and lovely.
So basically… I have been a “mumu”
Oh well I’m learning still
Ms. U r beautiful, loved ur video , I am suffering with my man so much…. U opened my eye. Thank u ❤
Binge watching your videos, because I'm subscribed just recently and to me, your content is Top 5 for me. Wanted to note how you always look beautiful, which is also very inspiring. :)
Wow, you are just so gorgeous my goodness.
Thank you for all of your wonderful clean sophisticated content Vivienne. I am a new subscriber. 💜
9:55 she's soo wrong before you take these advice remember scare money don't make no money,, what man going to invest money, time and energy, on a girl who doesn't text him, compliment him or invest little bit of money, its always easy to catch biz with honey 🍯
And about hairstyle and makeup
Please I love you
I am starting a platform about Sag women empowerment and you will fit right in with entrepreneurship
Can you mentor me
I love what you stand for and also positive for women
Very helpful thank you so much looking good Mrs💖💖
How come you don't teach men how to love women and Getting smothered with attention is better than being lonely with none Especially during every holidays .It make men Adore that time
Beautiful video and you are so elegant !
Excellent points, love your videos.
I really enjoy your video, thanks so much
My friend asked me to write and tell you that she has made the 10 mistakes, relationship got shaky - any advice on how she can still salvage it at this point?
She needs to withdraw from him, be more warm & feminine, be more elegant (watch this channel), focus on her career life & social life & her other passions/interests/hobbies, be more independent than him, be MORE POSITIVE always, get more educated in dating/relationship subject, learn cooking, & she better apologise if she's done any wrongdoings. She better tell him exactly how she will make it right. Better yet, SHOW HIM. Actions speaks louder than words. Don't make promises she can't keep. and voila! the relationship will be repaired! hopefully....bless her!
The only way to balance the relationship is to back off. If he cares about her, he'll come looking for her. At that point appear happy, confident, enjoying life but not necessarily with him. Men find that alluring. But if he doesn't respond, I'm afraid there's really no relationship left.
Let’s gooooo!
Lol I can’t imagine me , being a lick arse 😂. I am nice to a point but I’ve got my own lil way and my dogs are more important then any man rich or poor, it’s normally the man thats to needy for me 😮
I really need to know how to get rid of needy men 😂
I did all the listed mistakes.
He pulled back, what advise are you giving me. I need him back
Looooooovvvvvvvveeeeee your work Vivienne x and love your voice!!
Thank you☺❤
@@WomanOfElegance I mean that, women in humanities/academia are incredibly aggressive, throwing around the F word (Feminism) as a one-size-fits-all excuse to say and do as they please. Much love from Ireland (off to find a way to show my support for your work!) ... you're the feminist role model we ladies need xox
Another sign of desperation is being too sexual too early
Love your channel-, please consider losing the background music otr at lowering it a lot. it is a distraction. Thank you, please keep the elegant training going. it is very helpful.
You are a blessing!!!
Sis, I would love to see the cute dress you are wearing. Do you have a photo?
Thank you so much
Keep it moving
Thank you very much for this video. I just realized that its been my fault all along that the relationship isn't maintained.
I have a question now to miss Vivi and every other person that wants to contribute.
Do you think I should apologize to him and admit my wrongs by making things right even if the relationship is going to move forward or not?
I just feel a bit guilty for those mistakes I've made.
May I ask what wrongs did you do..? If you are still in the relationship then yes, do apologise for any wrongdoings & tell him exactly how you will make it right. Or better yet, SHOW him. Actions always speaks louder than words. Don't make promises you can't keep.
However, if he broke up with you, then NO. Don't do anything because you both need space to think & heal. It would be best to wait for 1 month after the breakup to apologise. Apologise sincerely & admit any wrongdoings. Tell him exactly how you will make it right. But DON'T EVER beg, plead etc he will feel manipulated. DON'T say you will be available for him...bla bla bla...just shut up for another 1 year before trying to get back together.
But if you broke up with him, same strategy apply as above. Except for the last part. Just shut up for another 3 MONTHS before trying to get back together.
Good evening, I really would like for you, to mention your surname. I feel that it's a more correct way, to introduce yourself. I'm Lola Aremu, by the way! I'm Lola for short. I'm really pleased to interact with another African woman, it's a meaningful break away from meeting Nigerian content creators only. At least aside from the foreign ones! Cheers and do keep up the good work!
Where have you been all my life 😢
Thanks again
Yaayyyyyyyy a lovely videooooooo
wow thanks love
😂😂😂😂weeuuuh hyo ya mwisho ni mm kabisa
Your soo pretty 😍 💓
Thanks so much ma'am for the teaching...I have been enlightened. Pls I want to ask u, if my guy doesn't call in the morning bt he calls at lunch time, is there anything wrong with that ma'am??
No dear. Nothing wrong with that. As long as he is consistent and kind ♥
5:38 true and false cuz we don't like going to the spa but we go to the spa with y'all, so when we saying we watching the game you better go get snacks
♥️
Love this video and I hope you make a part two to go deeper into details on how to change these habits etc.
Love this video and I hope you make a part two to go deeper into details on how to change these habits etc.
Love this video and I hope you make a part two to go deeper into details on how to change these habits etc.