I love you both dearly for trying to help married couples to endure in their marriage! But is always helpful to look for the originator of marriage for directions! And His advice always worked when applied. This Biblical advice in Ephesians 5:28,29 and verse 33 has helped millions of people to improve their marriages! So, if we are humble enough to apply His loving advice, our marriage will be be truly successful!
See finish is a Nigerian term for taking someone for granted because you have access to them or because you know them closely. In professional cases, it means crossing a boundary.
Wow! This is the first comment/the one showing on top as I'm scrolling. I'm not Nigerian, so, thank you for the very precise and clear explanation. I hope all non-Nigerians read your comment. Thank you again. This is perfect.
Firstly, i laughed so hard because I sometimes run into the same problem, trying to explain to my American wife a certain way I use the English language.
I was married for 6½ years and it failed when I least expected it. It's not easy to be married and requires a lot of effort. I discovered you guys after it broke down and I've followed your videos and learned a lot. I made too many mistakes and I've learned from them. I'm just praying that I can restore what I lost. Thank you 2 so much for sharing your life with us. You have no idea the impact you're making in my life.
Positive direction is where u heading ! U r bold to look back & admit ur mistakes, that is how u grow,because when u know better u do better .Keep doing the work as u prepare urself ready to marry again. By God's grace the next one will be enjoyable because u did the work. Marriage is not a joke, but if u have the tools, U can conquer all the challenges Be bless & safe.🙏🏻
Professor Lamb has spoken! Wow, you are engaging when you speak! My husband and I have been married 18 yrs, but I remember when we had been together a very short time, I had to put the brakes on things, cause I noticed something. My husband is a very pleasing man, and loves to please me often. And he is excellent at what he does, and I love it when he does. BUT, I noticed when we did things as often as he wanted, it DID get boring! And quickly! Which surprised me! We tried experimenting with different things, but even still, the desire to WANT to, wasn't there. So I suggested we not do it as often, and at first, he really didn't like that idea, but after trying it, it really worked for the DESIRE TO WANT TO. It automatically made us both desire one another even MORE, and left that weird feeling of boredom at the door. Men are ready all the time, because it's a physical act for them, but for most women, it's a physical AND emotional act, and we just don't want to ALL THE TIME. The pressure of it for a woman is especially taxing, because we have a lot going on down there, and trying to keep it a hundred, 100% of the time, for daily activity is next to impossible. So this method also works for women who have "issues" to have time to fix things, and not be so stressed over how her man is going to find things. I hope I'm not being too graphic. Most men don't care, I know my husband doesn't, but women can be embarrassed and stressed about normal body functions, and that can ruin the moment in itself. It also allows you to do and enjoy other things as a couple other than just sex all the time, which is nice. There's just something about it. And to this day, EVERY TIME is like heaven...for both of us...🥰😘
Well said.Spoken like a woman with experience and wisdom.It's true,we women don't always want it but men are always ready for it and some of them don't know how to get you in the mood (foreplay).
Married for 43 yrs and been through a lot but it all passed. I promised to stay with my marriage because I love my husband, not because he is perfect but we both accept our weakness and strengths. There was a point that we want to separate but with our Pastor’s help we managed to communicate and made decisions together. You have to remember what you love about each other and not the worst. My advice is read the book Men is from Mars and Women from Venus. Don’t ever compare your Spouse to anybody else. Above all we Put God first in our lives.
43 yrs, you are blood relatives. No need to separate because you have seen everything you dont like about each. Why start with somebody else - it will require too much energy and emotional drain🤔
See Finish a word commonly used by speakers of Nigerian Pidgin, to represent a situation where a person loses or has lost respect from one or more people, due to prolonged proximity. That small boy no dey respect me again, na see finish de worry am
Someone said to walk away…. I have to comment on this.. God never told us we wouldn’t have trials and tribulations. I think growth requires pressure. You just don’t leave your job because of a disagreement and keep changing jobs! Sometimes people don’t know how to endure because they never work through anything. It’s not a one size fits all but I think when it comes to marriage it’s important to exhaust all measures and persevere through the hard times. That’s the whole purpose of vows. Marriage is not easy and it’s important to recalibrate the relationship and have open communication ❤ I pray the couple looking for support continues to be blessed and lord brings them wisdom and understanding ❤❤
@ Walking Ministries.....When my husband &I got married (we are true Christians) we believe that when we met,it was and is JESUS CHRIST that brought us together for a reason...not for nothing. When we fell in love, it wasn't just for last. WE were only together once before we were married. We waited 2yrs before we married. Honestly, it was the best thing we did. People out there just want sex and don't think of their future together after marriage. You need to Wait&Want each other. My husband and I NEVER EVER SAY THE D-WORD. N-E-V-E-R!!!!!!. If you do,you are then putting that into your hearts. I find those people not only sad that they cannot talk to each other & work it out,but we quiet literally pitty those types of people who don't have the intelligence to think logically. 🤔 When you get married, you marry ONCE. PERIOD. If you think otherwise, then you obviously don't have the brain power to THINK OF WHAT MADE YOU 2 FALL IN LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE. IF WHAT MADE SOME IDIOTS GET MARRIED WAS LUST,THEN YOU PROBABLY SHOULD NOT BE LIVING.
Sparks comes and goes. It's part of a relationship. Up and down, good not so good, warm and cold. Marriage is no bed of roses. Pass through difficult times you get rewarded like everything in life.😁. I have been married for over 18 years now and our spark got back stronger 3 years ago.
Lamb: "See finish is like see finish na, you dunno see finish?" 🤣😂 See finish means familiarity. With familiarity comes the tendency to take something for granted. See finish is Nigerian pidgin translation directly saying one has seen all there is to see/ "finished seeing everything" about a person. Great tips there. My little addition is for the person to also COMMUNICATE the problem with their partner.
Lamb said, 'when you see somebody finish' 😂😂😂😂😂😂, ling said 'finish what?' 😂😂😂😂😂😂. English no easy my brother oo. Love you guys and nice points about the question raised.
Wow, Ling is so understanding and accepting. She doesn’t dismiss Lamb even when she’s never heard “see finish. She even tries to explain what “see finish” means for Lamb. I think this shows a very good side of her.
My marriage will be 5yrs this year. We lost our spark very early but along the way, we found it and it's even better than our courtship days. When I heard the question, I was trying to put my finger on what we did and I must say you both nailed it. You literally put into words the things that we did. But I'll add two more. 1. Remove from your mind, words or thoughts the possibility that either of you is walking away, decide that you're in it for the long haul. This helps you avoid the temptation for unhealthy options. 2. Communicate with each other, have real conversation about the real issues. There is a wide way to apply the tips already shared in the video, but communication helps you identify the best way to apply it in your situation for best results. To the person that asked the question and anyone else in similar situation, I just want to encourage you not to give up because there is potential for it to get a lot better 😘😘🤗🤗🤗
I love the way you guys answer questions its an exhibits to your answers the love , respect, playfulness and the boundaries all come into place showing the contentment respect and support for each other in public. I believe burning fire or fire not burning in marriage if there is contentment respect and support on both sides that fire should be blazing
Sometimes you just have to look within yourself to find, that it is not your partners responsibility to make you happy or satisfied. They play a role in your space. But, how you receive and observe the situation truly depends on where you are emotionally, spiritually and mentally. If you not in a good place with yourself, you won’t be able to be in a good place with your partner. Your happiness is in with you! Start there💜
Very true !! Sometimes you also have to look at yourself internally. Most issues are within ourselves. And we just have to be willing and ready to put in the effort . Blessings 💟
We have to remember that love and sparks are just parts of a marriage as there are other components like honour, respect, friendship, etc. Love is not merely an emotion but a principle of commitment so even when we fee the emotion or spark is fading we still have to be committed and value the other components. Seek counselling,etc work harder to bring things back to the way they were when you had the sparks.
See finish explanation weak me🤣🤣 Ling, see finish in Nigeria is when you have seen/known everything about someone to the end. Then you start taking them for granted 😂 That's "See Finish" in 9ja
People forget to continue to do for each other what they were doing in the beginning that aroused the attraction towards each other. They doesn't just mean keep up the intimate stuff. Couples forget how to communicate with each other, chase after each other, date each other, surprise each other, be spontaneous with each other, praise each other, feed each other's souls mentally and spiritually. We must also learn how to miss each other with time apart from each other for ourselves doing self care or things alone. We do that in our relationship and it has continued to work for ten years. We surprise each other by sitting down and having real conversations about our feelings without one of us trying to fix the issue or judgment. We pray for each other. We date each other. And surprise each other with the little unexpected things still to this day. Never forget that all of this is possible and still needed always for a successful marriage and life together. It's not easy to keep a love. Especially a type of love like a 1st Corinthians type of love as promised in the bible.
Hi I'm Lisa from South Africa, married for 27 years When you married never let your guard down, always look sexy, respect is also the key, God created men to be more attractive to someone who respect them, on the other side we attracted to someone who love us or show genuine love
Hi, am Seyi from Nigeria, I can attest to your comment, married for 5years, and I realised that when ever I compare my spouse with someone else, I begin to see faults on his part, forgetting that humans are not the same.
You guys literally touched on some of the critical issues. Sometimes though allowing the pressures of daily living take away the spark. Being blessed with children will sometimes also take away the spark too because those moments together is missing. Create time away from those pressures and enjoy each others company.
😀😃🙂 Lamb!!!! Why are you this way!! I lost it @ "see finish" 😀. Love you guys loads loads loads! And Lamb thanks for representing us Nigerians soooo well. Our mannerisms, our language, our vibe! Ling! Love you
Hey guys I hope that you and everyone watching has an amazing and blessed Sunday ❤🥰🙏 Being in a 18yr relationship it sometimes happens but it's important to do things to get it back whatever that is for you and your spouse.
Adoring and loving couple. Have to say the major key to your successful marriage is your faith in god and runs deep in the family with your daily prayers. Second most important is to never lose respect and embrace your differences abd value each other as a one of a kind individual Create romance by trying new things, so life does not become an everyday routine Write simple love notes, post on the fridge for example, or put it in his or her pocket Dont be in each others neck and throat constantly, give each other breathing room and space And last but not least, learn to forgive and if possible forget and dont lose respect to each other. Life goes where energy flows! Pour your life with love and energy, and charge yourself with prayer and appreciation and gratefullness for all that god has nourished and granted you. Get close to god, to experience real love, when you do, then you exude love and compassion without feeling deprived for less attention from your partner.
Tbh, Lamb is just a big brother you'll wish to have and Ling is just the kinda of woman you'll always pray to have as a wife. They've both set a standard for relationship that people will always come to RUclips just to seek advice from them and I believe it has definitely been God keeping them strong together, love you both. And not all Nigerian English can be completely expressed in the normal English language, just like see finish
Let me help Lamb with see finish 😂. See finish is like taking someone for granted because you've seen and known basically everything about them. So when someone says "you don see me finish" it means you've known about me so much you now take me as a joke. Sometimes the expression is on a light mode for example with a friend and sometimes it can be said out of anger depending on the tone of voice.
I love this conversation because it is a touchy subject for many married couples and those who have invested into a relationship period. I think in some ways it’s harder for the ones who have children involved. But you both made great points to consider. Also, could we please make videos like this longer?!??? Please & thank you!
Great explanation! We all have our opinions on how it will or can work and it’s great we all collaborate collectively on this. Personally speaking, I’m 34 and being in a relationship for 13 years/married for 5 years. You can get bored of the same thing and it’s ok to switch it up. A marriage/relationship is not a walk in the park so as a couple you first need to take care of yourself and feel good, because you can’t rely on someone to make you feel good if you don’t feel good about yourself. Then I would say communication, make sure you find ways to communicate with each other. You should be able to converse openly without fear of being put down for expressing yourself. Always respect each other in the process. I would also say patience. Patience with your partner is so important. Patience with them on letting them find themselves and be able to work on themselves while loving you at the same time. Sometimes while working on your self your partner can loose patients and gain frustration. And lastly just love each other throughout the process. Love has it’s trials and tribulations, in order to conquer the battles we must love each other through the process and understand we all are flawed. And, despite the flaws we will still come out loving each other harder and stronger ❤
Ling and Lamb, I appreciated how you both handled this important question. Many give up and run once the spark is gone. I like the idea of "never stop liking your partner." This is what can keep things going when things are rough, because you like the person with whom you are going through the challenge. ❤❤
Man! For a minute there, I thought y’all were talking about yourselves.Peace and blessings for the couple that is going through a tough time.May God bless your relationship.
Commitment takes more than a spark... Literally, a spark is only for a moment and I've learned that it will not always be there. It takes commitment to stick with someone regardless the passage of time. And yea, what Lamb says about friendship is very important. Listen.
I love the way Lamb still loves, craves and hungers for you so much Bambi! Having been married twice I can only say that being friends is vitally important. Never ever lose the sense of humor you started off with. 😃
"See finish" is the act of loosing Value for each other in marriage or relationship, then boredom sets in,and finally it ends in disrespect, so they must makes sure they both hold on to the inestimable value of what they both share. LOVE. As long as that relationship has lost its Value,the relationship is practically Dead.
See finish is like the person has taken you for granted. They have become too familiar that the other person has started taking you for granted, no more respect
Great job in answering the question guys. I would really love Lings parents to answer this question since they have been together for such a long time❤
I love being single but love watching happy couples. I tried being married and it wasn't for me. I wish people would take vows seriously because marriage is alot of work. God Bless you both.
The “see finish” got me rolling on the floor😂. She finish like when you see somebody finish 😂😂 Ling.. explain the see finish in English 😂 when she does not even know what it means.😂
Upon how serious this conversation is, I still laugh my ass at the end 😂😂😂😂.. Not lamb trying to express himself of what see finish means, in a better understanding. And still ended up saying See finish is like when you see finish na 😂😂… Lamb ooh 😅
Sometimes it’s refreshing to go out of town spend a wkend at a hotel. Make reservations on a boat for dinner. They do have them at the harbors and it’s not expensive it’s just different and romantic. Do something you’ve never done before like give him a face scrub or even a manicure/pedicure a massage. Yeah spice it up!😊
It's unveiling the finished look for date night. You two are so wise. Live, love and laugh together. We are blessed to witness the depth of your relationship 💜🙏🏽👍🏽👌🏽
Marriage shouldn’t just be based off sexual intercourse because after that subside, then the marriage will fail. Essentially, if persons are truly in love they will not get tired of each other, unless the relationship is based off only sex, $$$ etc. Again, real love isn’t about sex especially because even a prostitute can offer sex to anyone or everyone.
I totally agree, the foundation should be friendship and liking each other 1st and foremost. My husband and I were best friends before we got married and still are today because we not only love each other but we like each other as well.
This post is definitely coming from a person that is either not married, Matured or is just not thinking. Firstly Sex, Money, Friendship, Respect and even more are all the things that makes up a Very Happy Marriage. And even with all these things there are times you feel like ur loosing ur spark for eachother and that mostly comes with alot of things, work stress, Financial stress, kids, can also b a contributing factor, some women after giving birth can focus more on the child needs more that the husband, and some husband can b insensitive and react in an unpleasant way, alot of things However, it's always advisable for you n ur partner to still put in efforts to please each other and never stop dating each other. Try new things, go on a vacation, have goals and more.
@@UNSCRIPTEDSHAWNRAY WE ALL HAVE OPINIONS; THEREFORE, your failed attempt to tell me about myself is actually immature & ludicrous especially because my comment doesn’t call for a personal verbal attack of me, a total stranger. YOU ARE, INDEED, OBLIVIOUS ABOUT MANY THINGS BUT IF YOU WANT TO FLATTER YOURSELF WITH YOUR OPINIONS KEEP ON DOING SO; HOWEVER, PLEASE STOP GETTING OFFENDED BY OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS THAT ARE BASED OFF THEIR CULTURE, LIFE EXPERIENCES ETC. ALL THE BEST. Peace & ❤️.
@@UNSCRIPTEDSHAWNRAY Notably, my comment was made from the perspective of a marriage that’s based off “solely” LOVE; therefore, if a woman is married to a man and for some reason his 🍆 stopped working she wouldn’t or will not leave her husband because the marriage was/is based off love; not material acquisitions, a working 🍆, physical aesthetics etc. Marriages in America don’t work these days because people are too focused on conditional love aka fake love. Can you imagine being married to your spouse and your spouse leave you after you meet in a car accident, is that the kind of “IMMATURE” love you desire, so much that you saw it fit to label someone as immature for advising others to seek real authentic love? Let’s think critically here…🤔🤔🤔
No relationship is always on pink Clouds. You will fall in love with your partner again and again. It goes up and down in a way. But you have to have a common foundation. Respect, communication and a deep love for eachother. Look at what you fell for and be patient with eachother✌🏼🥰
1. Your spouse must always be your number 1! Do not forget this basic rule. Be a united front, that can never be separated by any one else! And do not take your misunderstandings, worries, fights etc. outside your house! This does not mean that you cannot have communication with others, but you have to be a united entity! And the above applies to both partners!
This is great advice, YES marriage is between 1 man and 1woman. Communication is so important in marriage because if one party feels that they're missing out on something, they need to communicate to work on building back up what's missing together.
I enjoyed this conversation today. You gave me a lot to think about and you know what I think everything you’re saying is very true. You have to continue to be friends with one another continue to love the person that you first met, and even though you have disappointments and relationships. We still gotta be in the relationship together and always remember the first love our friendships our true talks with one another.❤🙏🏾
Very interesting topic. Thank you for sharing. Having been married for 22 years + which is nothing compared to others I feel that this topic is an important one. It will happen to us all. Even Michelle Obama described difficult years. My small 2 cents of advice is to do everything you can to ensure you are able to laugh everyday either by yourself or together. Being able to laugh is an amazing antidote to sometimes wanting things that you may have to extend an extra ordinary amount of patience even if you feel you are entitled. I think this is what attracts me to Ling and Lamb. Their ability to laugh. This is priceless and something to be protected at all costs. Tuning in from 🇬🇧.
Ling is too intelligent. See how she summarised the take aways from both of you. That point of losing spark in a relationship is what I always think about assuming I get married. But there are two or three points from this video. Kudos.
Love you guys so much, you give me joy every time I watch your series, my advice is this. Every relationship has its mystery it is that mystery that keeps the relationship alive, think of it from when you were dating what made you fall in love with the lady or man was the interest you had in them, and now In the marriage, you have to hold on to that it is thinking you now know all about your partner that brings the fire down, you guys are still the same amazing people you were when you started dating and you need to hold on to this mentality of love, forgiveness, and mystery.
Love is a principle not based on feelings. Happiness is a choice that comes from within not based on external influences…be intentional in all you do not out of obligation or duty!❤
Communication is key! Are both parties willing to talk and work on the problem. And definitively both parties need to continue to date EACH OTHER! The things that attracted you to each other are still there but life might have gotten try to go back to what you loved about each. & take care if yourself so that you love yourself because if you don’t live yourself you can’t love someone else.
I totally agree.. never stop dating your spouse.. every marriage goes through things so always go back to what made you fall in love with that person and start doing the things you did in beginning or never stop doing those things!! Love you Ling and Lamb.. Ling you have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen.. it's the most beautiful curve on a woman's body.. we love you here in Arizona💛🏜💛
Lamb and Ling, you guys cracked me up so good this morning with that last piece of looking for a better word to say what you want to say. And I think you were looking for the term; "seen it all ". I think that is what you were trying to convey with that "see finish ". Thank you for the presentation.
See finish is when you’ve known so much about a person….the good and the ugly; you tend to treat them less because now you have seen their worst moments, and weaknesses. So Lamb says don’t see finish, meaning even when you’ve seen the worst of a person, still treat them like you used to when you haven’t seen the ugly side of them. Don’t treat them less because you now know their weaknesses. I hope I made sense. 😁
Communication is also key. If the communication is there, they would be able to talk out their issues. My wife and I talked for weeks before we ever laid eyes on one another. This gave us time to know more about each other and like one another before we saw a physical attraction. We became great friends long before we became lovers. We are best friends and there are few people in the world that would turn away from a best friend, so why do we turn away from a spouse, if we tell a bff everything, why not our spouse? We should always invest more in the one we choose the rest of our lives to be with.
I totally understand you Lamb See finish is not to take the other person for granted or it can also mean familiarity. Love you so much Ling and Lamb. Much love from🇬🇭🇬🇭
Mmm in this regard it simply means, any of the partners have seen it all or experienced it all and therefore not enthusiastic about each other anymore.
Been dating for 2.5 years now and currently going through a lot of emotional roller-coaster in my relationship. Watching your videos not only give me some comfort and hope but also it teaches me about how to become the bigger and better person in my relationship. I realized there is so much that my girlfriend and I need to learn about each other and relationships in general as we navigate our problems, and God willingly we will reach to a safe compromise.
Looolll, lamb says " you don't know see finish? English is hard o" See finish means taking someone or something for granted or getting too comfortable or used to something. To add to your points, I was thinking communication. Having a heart to heart with your partner on where and how each of you are dropping the ball might help. This also brings me to a question, how do you handle a partner that's unwilling to communicate?
See finish meaning you have gotten too familiar with the person so much that you don't regard the person as much as used to any longer. :) Thank you for sharing Ling and Lamb.
I just HAD to KEEP rewinding the "see finish"😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅 What the hell are you saying... What is see finish Bambi😂😅😅 Aah!!!😅 Started following you guys recently and I've learned so much. Introspection is key before we point fingers in relationships. I'm hopeful Love you too muchoooo from South Africa!!!
Yes, it's common for long-term couples to start wondering how to keep a relationship alive. It isn't the loss of the spark in a relationship that is the problem - the problem arises when couples lack the commitment to rekindle the romance. It shows that the initial feeling of infatuation or that long-term commitment has become challenging. If you do not have enough action in the bedroom, you might lose that spark sooner than you estimated. You need to keep things hot there Things to do when the spark is gone. 1. Reignite the bedroom. Try something new in bed. Try to ignite new flames. 2. Remember what it was like when you first met. Turn off the TV and reminisce about the fun times you had - even sexually, if that’s the case - when you first met. 3. Spend some time. Share some quality time while indulging in some common hobbies or activities. 4. Keep the mystery alive. No matter how long you’ve been together, make an effort to be seductive and keep your erotic connection fresh. “Put some surprise into the relationship. 5.Kiss more often. At the beginning of a relationship, couples often enjoy deep kissing, but over time they tend to stop. “Continuing to hug, kiss, cuddle is an important component of a healthy relationship 6. Clean up for your partner. Go on a movie date or a dinner date. Surprise them with little gifts 7. Don’t set false expectations. More importantly, always remember that not every day will be magical. 8. Show gratitude. Appreciate each other’s presence. Sometimes all that your partner wants to hear is ‘I Love You.’ These three words are magical. 9.Try to understand your feelings. Draw a clear picture of your feelings, and then discussing it with your partner will be a lot easier. 10.Now it’s time for you two to have a conversation. Every healthy relationship needs a constant and open chit-chat. Remember the picture you drew above. Now is the time when you share it with your partner.
😅😅"See finish" simply means over familiarity...in a derogatory way though. It happens when one of the partners has NOTHING going on(which in most cases isn't the actual situation, but just a perception from the other person), due to the way they presented theirself . When someone "sees you finish" then they assume you have NOTHING more to show (in terms of value, growth ...) Then disregard and disrespect kicks in. The relationship or friendship becomes unhealthy.
THIS IS LIFE Y'ALL...for the ones struggling, for the ones preparing themselves for dating and also for the ones who are "perfectly fine" as long as we ALL are mindful of this wisdom well succeed in our relationships! THANK YOU LING AND BAMBI
These were some of the most realist advice I have heard in years ,applying your own personal experiences just topped it of perfectly, keep loving each other the way you do ok ,lamdo you on point big brother...
Over familiarity breeds contempt, as the saying goes. I believe it's super crucial to respect the person you chose to be with as Lamb mentioned, even after seeing all of who they are- the good, the bad and the in between, still hold that person in high regard in your heart and mind, bc you picked him/her(and hope that was a conscious pick). As well the most important one that has stood out is to, like them: be really good friends, and hold your friendship very high bc it will take you through the test of time together; You will fight together to resolve issues, not against. And lastly I'll say place God first at the center of your marriage. Bc really knowing God and genuinely surrendering to Him daily, guides us through a lot of what we face in our relationships. Hope this helps someone as it has been for me. 🙏
What does she mean by satisfied? Everything in relationships has a range (ex. 1-10). Whatever you GIVE in a relationship SHOULD BE RECIPROCATED. And if you’re not getting that, then you TALK about it; break things down. Start with the smallest issue and then go from there ❤!
Happy Sunday morning 🥳 It's always good to see you guys on Sunday mornings. Good advice for married couples. I love the fact that not only do you guys love each other but you continue to LIKE each other and that requires working on your relationship Daily. 👏👏
Great responses!! On point! If they have kids that can really change much of the presenting,dating,being able to have time,privacy to spark...all advice was really on point...but there could be other things. .health,possibly finding spark elsewhere....the question left little on a little back story. Love yall..love that yall do this 😉
I love his advice he took the relationship apart and put it back together I love that and before this couple gives up get help counseling always helps with prayer great observations
Hello!!! I have been following you guys for awhile. One thing that shoots out at me is you guys share so much of your lives with the world. As Muslims we believe in something called "evil eye". This can affect your relationships and your life as a whole. So "evil eye" is basically jealousy and hatred from others towards you. The way to avoid this is to avoid over sharing and not show your blessings to everyone. Yes you have an amazing family here on RUclips but of course there are going to be jealous people and this can affect you. Also trials occur and we have to fight through them together as couples. This is how our relationship as wife and husband grow!! 💖🥰✌️
Bro! I low key get scared for people who share their “amazing life “ on social media such as couple influencers. It’s very dangerous, I have a scenario whereby one of my mother friends son died for no reason, there was living the life , am convinced it was evil eyes, only Allah s.w.t knows but ever since den she left Facebook and all social media platform. Evil eye is real but most people don’t know!
Good morning. I agree friendship is important you have to like each other. 😆 Lol serious topic but you kept saying a bag of beans 🤣you guys gave a great laugh break.
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You guys are so adorable 😍 I love y'all relationship. It's always such a joy to watch your vlogs.
"Snifish " means scornful
Absolutely correct! Blessings
I love you both dearly for trying to help married couples to endure in their marriage! But is always helpful to look for the originator of marriage for directions! And His advice always worked when applied.
This Biblical advice in Ephesians 5:28,29 and verse 33 has helped millions of people to improve their marriages! So, if we are humble enough to apply His loving advice, our marriage will be be truly successful!
See finish is a Nigerian term for taking someone for granted because you have access to them or because you know them closely. In professional cases, it means crossing a boundary.
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Wow! This is the first comment/the one showing on top as I'm scrolling. I'm not Nigerian, so, thank you for the very precise and clear explanation. I hope all non-Nigerians read your comment. Thank you again. This is perfect.
Don’t get too comfortable!!
I wouldn’t say crossing boundary, that’s a bit too much.
@@gloriaobianujuuwaezuoke5596 how do you mean by a bit too much? Do you speak legit pidgin English at all??
"See-finish" in English means "Over-familiarity" which could also mean "Taking Each Other For Granted." Hope that helps! Love you guys!
Yeah...as the saying goes "Familiafisation brings Contempt"
Good one, I hope Lamb sees this.
"See-finish" is a slang in Nigeria for the accurate definition given in the above comment.
Exactly 💯
Firstly, i laughed so hard because I sometimes run into the same problem, trying to explain to my American wife a certain way I use the English language.
You said exactly bro.
I was married for 6½ years and it failed when I least expected it. It's not easy to be married and requires a lot of effort. I discovered you guys after it broke down and I've followed your videos and learned a lot. I made too many mistakes and I've learned from them. I'm just praying that I can restore what I lost.
Thank you 2 so much for sharing your life with us. You have no idea the impact you're making in my life.
Positive direction is where u heading ! U r bold to look back & admit ur mistakes, that is how u grow,because when u know better u do better .Keep doing the work as u prepare urself ready to marry again. By God's grace the next one will be enjoyable because u did the work. Marriage is not a joke, but if u have the tools, U can conquer all the challenges Be bless & safe.🙏🏻
@@adwoaopoku8356 thanks for the words of encouragement.
Professor Lamb has spoken! Wow, you are engaging when you speak!
My husband and I have been married 18 yrs, but I remember when we had been together a very short time, I had to put the brakes on things, cause I noticed something.
My husband is a very pleasing man, and loves to please me often. And he is excellent at what he does, and I love it when he does.
BUT, I noticed when we did things as often as he wanted, it DID get boring!
And quickly! Which surprised me!
We tried experimenting with different things, but even still, the desire to WANT to, wasn't there.
So I suggested we not do it as often, and at first, he really didn't like that idea, but after trying it, it really worked for the DESIRE TO WANT TO.
It automatically made us both desire one another even MORE, and left that weird feeling of boredom at the door.
Men are ready all the time, because it's a physical act for them, but for most women, it's a physical AND emotional act, and we just don't want to ALL THE TIME.
The pressure of it for a woman is especially taxing, because we have a lot going on down there, and trying to keep it a hundred, 100% of the time, for daily activity is next to impossible. So this method also works for women who have "issues" to have time to fix things, and not be so stressed over how her man is going to find things. I hope I'm not being too graphic.
Most men don't care, I know my husband doesn't, but women can be embarrassed and stressed about normal body functions, and that can ruin the moment in itself.
It also allows you to do and enjoy other things as a couple other than just sex all the time, which is nice.
There's just something about it. And to this day, EVERY TIME is like heaven...for both of us...🥰😘
I'm happy for you both.
Well said.Spoken like a woman with experience and wisdom.It's true,we women don't always want it but men are always ready for it and some of them don't know how to get you in the mood (foreplay).
Am not married. Am a 24 year old girl and ling and lamb are raising me. I am on a journey to becoming a better woman through ling and lamb's videos
Ensure to get a like minded partner in future
22 year old single guy here same 😅😂 there raisin' me too.
Hello Nkali
@@thandod4635hi
@@christopheranibueze9368 thank you.
Married for 43 yrs and been through a lot but it all passed. I promised to stay with my marriage because I love my husband, not because he is perfect but we both accept our weakness and strengths. There was a point that we want to separate but with our Pastor’s help we managed to communicate and made decisions together. You have to remember what you love about each other and not the worst. My advice is read the book Men is from Mars and Women from Venus. Don’t ever compare your Spouse to anybody else. Above all we
Put God first in our lives.
I totally agree
Amen 🙏🏾❤️🌹
Yes!! Amen
43 yrs, you are blood relatives. No need to separate because you have seen everything you dont like about each. Why start with somebody else - it will require too much energy and emotional drain🤔
See Finish
a word commonly used by speakers of Nigerian Pidgin, to represent a situation where a person loses or has lost respect from one or more people, due to prolonged proximity.
That small boy no dey respect me again, na see finish de worry am
Someone said to walk away…. I have to comment on this.. God never told us we wouldn’t have trials and tribulations. I think growth requires pressure. You just don’t leave your job because of a disagreement and keep changing jobs! Sometimes people don’t know how to endure because they never work through anything. It’s not a one size fits all but I think when it comes to marriage it’s important to exhaust all measures and persevere through the hard times. That’s the whole purpose of vows. Marriage is not easy and it’s important to recalibrate the relationship and have open communication ❤ I pray the couple looking for support continues to be blessed and lord brings them wisdom and understanding ❤❤
Agree 100%
Facts
It takes patience and compromise to make it work you have to know you're self in order to be a better person for your spouse
@ Walking Ministries.....When my husband &I got married (we are true Christians) we believe that when we met,it was and is JESUS CHRIST that brought us together for a reason...not for nothing. When we fell in love, it wasn't just for last. WE were only together once before we were married. We waited 2yrs before we married. Honestly, it was the best thing we did. People out there just want sex and don't think of their future together after marriage. You need to Wait&Want each other. My husband and I NEVER EVER SAY THE D-WORD. N-E-V-E-R!!!!!!. If you do,you are then putting that into your hearts. I find those people not only sad that they cannot talk to each other & work it out,but we quiet literally pitty those types of people who don't have the intelligence to think logically. 🤔 When you get married, you marry ONCE. PERIOD. If you think otherwise, then you obviously don't have the brain power to THINK OF WHAT MADE YOU 2 FALL IN LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE. IF WHAT MADE SOME IDIOTS GET MARRIED WAS LUST,THEN YOU PROBABLY SHOULD NOT BE LIVING.
@@starrleneholloway8033 AMEN!!!!! This is beautiful! So true
Sparks comes and goes. It's part of a relationship. Up and down, good not so good, warm and cold. Marriage is no bed of roses. Pass through difficult times you get rewarded like everything in life.😁. I have been married for over 18 years now and our spark got back stronger 3 years ago.
On point.
Lamb: "See finish is like see finish na, you dunno see finish?" 🤣😂
See finish means familiarity. With familiarity comes the tendency to take something for granted.
See finish is Nigerian pidgin translation directly saying one has seen all there is to see/ "finished seeing everything" about a person.
Great tips there. My little addition is for the person to also COMMUNICATE the problem with their partner.
I agree. COMMUNICATION is key
You try ..no be small👏
😅😅😅Ling- see finish means see finish abeg. Eleena thank you for explaining what it meant🤗
Lamb said, 'when you see somebody finish' 😂😂😂😂😂😂, ling said 'finish what?' 😂😂😂😂😂😂. English no easy my brother oo. Love you guys and nice points about the question raised.
Wow, Ling is so understanding and accepting. She doesn’t dismiss Lamb even when she’s never heard “see finish. She even tries to explain what “see finish” means for Lamb. I think this shows a very good side of her.
My marriage will be 5yrs this year. We lost our spark very early but along the way, we found it and it's even better than our courtship days. When I heard the question, I was trying to put my finger on what we did and I must say you both nailed it. You literally put into words the things that we did. But I'll add two more.
1. Remove from your mind, words or thoughts the possibility that either of you is walking away, decide that you're in it for the long haul. This helps you avoid the temptation for unhealthy options.
2. Communicate with each other, have real conversation about the real issues. There is a wide way to apply the tips already shared in the video, but communication helps you identify the best way to apply it in your situation for best results.
To the person that asked the question and anyone else in similar situation, I just want to encourage you not to give up because there is potential for it to get a lot better 😘😘🤗🤗🤗
Love this comment and I agree
I love the way you guys answer questions its an exhibits to your answers the love , respect, playfulness and the boundaries all come into place showing the contentment respect and support for each other in public. I believe burning fire or fire not burning in marriage if there is contentment respect and support on both sides that fire should be blazing
Sometimes you just have to look within yourself to find, that it is not your partners responsibility to make you happy or satisfied. They play a role in your space. But, how you receive and observe the situation truly depends on where you are emotionally, spiritually and mentally. If you not in a good place with yourself, you won’t be able to be in a good place with your partner. Your happiness is in with you! Start there💜
Very true !! Sometimes you also have to look at yourself internally.
Most issues are within ourselves.
And we just have to be willing and ready to put in the effort .
Blessings 💟
See Finish = Overfamiliarity. -------------- 🖤🖤🖤 Love you guys
We have to remember that love and sparks are just parts of a marriage as there are other components like honour, respect, friendship, etc. Love is not merely an emotion but a principle of commitment so even when we fee the emotion or spark is fading we still have to be committed and value the other components. Seek counselling,etc work harder to bring things back to the way they were when you had the sparks.
See finish explanation weak me🤣🤣
Ling, see finish in Nigeria is when you have seen/known everything about someone to the end. Then you start taking them for granted 😂 That's "See Finish" in 9ja
People forget to continue to do for each other what they were doing in the beginning that aroused the attraction towards each other. They doesn't just mean keep up the intimate stuff. Couples forget how to communicate with each other, chase after each other, date each other, surprise each other, be spontaneous with each other, praise each other, feed each other's souls mentally and spiritually. We must also learn how to miss each other with time apart from each other for ourselves doing self care or things alone.
We do that in our relationship and it has continued to work for ten years. We surprise each other by sitting down and having real conversations about our feelings without one of us trying to fix the issue or judgment. We pray for each other. We date each other. And surprise each other with the little unexpected things still to this day. Never forget that all of this is possible and still needed always for a successful marriage and life together. It's not easy to keep a love. Especially a type of love like a 1st Corinthians type of love as promised in the bible.
Adding on to your wise words, one thing that will always kill the spark is when you start comparing your relationship with other relationships.
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Hi I'm Lisa from South Africa, married for 27 years When you married never let your guard down, always look sexy, respect is also the key, God created men to be more attractive to someone who respect them, on the other side we attracted to someone who love us or show genuine love
Hi, am Seyi from Nigeria, I can attest to your comment, married for 5years, and I realised that when ever I compare my spouse with someone else, I begin to see faults on his part, forgetting that humans are not the same.
Yes it will
Facts
You guys literally touched on some of the critical issues. Sometimes though allowing the pressures of daily living take away the spark. Being blessed with children will sometimes also take away the spark too because those moments together is missing. Create time away from those pressures and enjoy each others company.
Basic but true: COMMUNICATION! Talk to each other.
😀😃🙂 Lamb!!!! Why are you this way!! I lost it @ "see finish" 😀. Love you guys loads loads loads! And Lamb thanks for representing us Nigerians soooo well. Our mannerisms, our language, our vibe! Ling! Love you
Hey guys I hope that you and everyone watching has an amazing and blessed Sunday ❤🥰🙏 Being in a 18yr relationship it sometimes happens but it's important to do things to get it back whatever that is for you and your spouse.
Adoring and loving couple.
Have to say the major key to your successful marriage is your faith in god and runs deep in the family with your daily prayers.
Second most important is to never lose respect and embrace your differences abd value each other as a one of a kind individual
Create romance by trying new things, so life does not become an everyday routine
Write simple love notes, post on the fridge for example, or put it in his or her pocket
Dont be in each others neck and throat constantly, give each other breathing room and space
And last but not least, learn to forgive and if possible forget and dont lose respect to each other.
Life goes where energy flows!
Pour your life with love and energy, and charge yourself with prayer and appreciation and gratefullness for all that god has nourished and granted you.
Get close to god, to experience real love, when you do, then you exude love and compassion without feeling deprived for less attention from your partner.
Tbh, Lamb is just a big brother you'll wish to have and Ling is just the kinda of woman you'll always pray to have as a wife. They've both set a standard for relationship that people will always come to RUclips just to seek advice from them and I believe it has definitely been God keeping them strong together, love you both.
And not all Nigerian English can be completely expressed in the normal English language, just like see finish
Let me help Lamb with see finish 😂. See finish is like taking someone for granted because you've seen and known basically everything about them. So when someone says "you don see me finish" it means you've known about me so much you now take me as a joke. Sometimes the expression is on a light mode for example with a friend and sometimes it can be said out of anger depending on the tone of voice.
Thanks for the explanation 👍... makes sense.
I love this conversation because it is a touchy subject for many married couples and those who have invested into a relationship period. I think in some ways it’s harder for the ones who have children involved. But you both made great points to consider. Also, could we please make videos like this longer?!??? Please & thank you!
Great explanation! We all have our opinions on how it will or can work and it’s great we all collaborate collectively on this. Personally speaking, I’m 34 and being in a relationship for 13 years/married for 5 years. You can get bored of the same thing and it’s ok to switch it up. A marriage/relationship is not a walk in the park so as a couple you first need to take care of yourself and feel good, because you can’t rely on someone to make you feel good if you don’t feel good about yourself. Then I would say communication, make sure you find ways to communicate with each other. You should be able to converse openly without fear of being put down for expressing yourself. Always respect each other in the process. I would also say patience. Patience with your partner is so important. Patience with them on letting them find themselves and be able to work on themselves while loving you at the same time. Sometimes while working on your self your partner can loose patients and gain frustration. And lastly just love each other throughout the process. Love has it’s trials and tribulations, in order to conquer the battles we must love each other through the process and understand we all are flawed. And, despite the flaws we will still come out loving each other harder and stronger ❤
Ling and Lamb, I appreciated how you both handled this important question. Many give up and run once the spark is gone. I like the idea of "never stop liking your partner." This is what can keep things going when things are rough, because you like the person with whom you are going through the challenge. ❤❤
Man! For a minute there, I thought y’all were talking about yourselves.Peace and blessings for the couple that is going through a tough time.May God bless your relationship.
Commitment takes more than a spark... Literally, a spark is only for a moment and I've learned that it will not always be there. It takes commitment to stick with someone regardless the passage of time. And yea, what Lamb says about friendship is very important. Listen.
I love the way Lamb still loves, craves and hungers for you so much Bambi! Having been married twice I can only say that being friends is vitally important. Never ever lose the sense of humor you started off with. 😃
Your marriage is Ministry. Beautiful couple!
"See finish" is the act of loosing Value for each other in marriage or relationship, then boredom sets in,and finally it ends in disrespect, so they must makes sure they both hold on to the inestimable value of what they both share. LOVE. As long as that relationship has lost its Value,the relationship is practically Dead.
See finish is like the person has taken you for granted. They have become too familiar that the other person has started taking you for granted, no more respect
Great job in answering the question guys. I would really love Lings parents to answer this question since they have been together for such a long time❤
I love being single but love watching happy couples. I tried being married and it wasn't for me. I wish people would take vows seriously because marriage is alot of work.
God Bless you both.
😂😂😂 "see finish" is like "over familiarity,” the kind that leads to under estimating someone through clear acts of disrespect. Phew 😮💨
The “see finish” got me rolling on the floor😂. She finish like when you see somebody finish 😂😂 Ling.. explain the see finish in English 😂 when she does not even know what it means.😂
Upon how serious this conversation is, I still laugh my ass at the end 😂😂😂😂..
Not lamb trying to express himself of what see finish means, in a better understanding. And still ended up saying See finish is like when you see finish na 😂😂… Lamb ooh 😅
You guys have said it all, the place of preparation and presentation in a relationship can not be overemphasized. The little things really count.
I think another good word to explain "see finish" is complacency. Don't ever get complacent in a relationship.
Yes! 👍You nailed it, do not be complacent. ( See finish )
Nope, more like overfamiliarity. "see finish"
Sometimes it’s refreshing to go out of town spend a wkend at a hotel. Make reservations on a boat for dinner. They do have them at the harbors and it’s not expensive it’s just different and romantic. Do something you’ve never done before like give him a face scrub or even a manicure/pedicure a massage. Yeah spice it up!😊
It's unveiling the finished look for date night. You two are so wise. Live, love and laugh together. We are blessed to witness the depth of your relationship 💜🙏🏽👍🏽👌🏽
Marriage shouldn’t just be based off sexual intercourse because after that subside, then the marriage will fail. Essentially, if persons are truly in love they will not get tired of each other, unless the relationship is based off only sex, $$$ etc. Again, real love isn’t about sex especially because even a prostitute can offer sex to anyone or everyone.
I totally agree, the foundation should be friendship and liking each other 1st and foremost. My husband and I were best friends before we got married and still are today because we not only love each other but we like each other as well.
This post is definitely coming from a person that is either not married, Matured or is just not thinking. Firstly Sex, Money, Friendship, Respect and even more are all the things that makes up a Very Happy Marriage. And even with all these things there are times you feel like ur loosing ur spark for eachother and that mostly comes with alot of things, work stress, Financial stress, kids, can also b a contributing factor, some women after giving birth can focus more on the child needs more that the husband, and some husband can b insensitive and react in an unpleasant way, alot of things However, it's always advisable for you n ur partner to still put in efforts to please each other and never stop dating each other. Try new things, go on a vacation, have goals and more.
@@UNSCRIPTEDSHAWNRAY WE ALL HAVE OPINIONS; THEREFORE, your failed attempt to tell me about myself is actually immature & ludicrous especially because my comment doesn’t call for a personal verbal attack of me, a total stranger. YOU ARE, INDEED, OBLIVIOUS ABOUT MANY THINGS BUT IF YOU WANT TO FLATTER YOURSELF WITH YOUR OPINIONS KEEP ON DOING SO; HOWEVER, PLEASE STOP GETTING OFFENDED BY OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS THAT ARE BASED OFF THEIR CULTURE, LIFE EXPERIENCES ETC. ALL THE BEST. Peace & ❤️.
@@UNSCRIPTEDSHAWNRAY Notably, my comment was made from the perspective of a marriage that’s based off “solely” LOVE; therefore, if a woman is married to a man and for some reason his 🍆 stopped working she wouldn’t or will not leave her husband because the marriage was/is based off love; not material acquisitions, a working 🍆, physical aesthetics etc. Marriages in America don’t work these days because people are too focused on conditional love aka fake love. Can you imagine being married to your spouse and your spouse leave you after you meet in a car accident, is that the kind of “IMMATURE” love you desire, so much that you saw it fit to label someone as immature for advising others to seek real authentic love? Let’s think critically here…🤔🤔🤔
I agree with you.
No relationship is always on pink Clouds. You will fall in love with your partner again and again. It goes up and down in a way. But you have to have a common foundation. Respect, communication and a deep love for eachother. Look at what you fell for and be patient with eachother✌🏼🥰
1. Your spouse must always be your number 1! Do not forget this basic rule. Be a united front, that can never be separated by any one else! And do not take your misunderstandings, worries, fights etc. outside your house! This does not mean that you cannot have communication with others, but you have to be a united entity! And the above applies to both partners!
This is great advice, YES marriage is between 1 man and 1woman. Communication is so important in marriage because if one party feels that they're missing out on something, they need to communicate to work on building back up what's missing together.
I love the way you do your makeup Ling. It's so natural and flawless 😍❤️
Lamb see finish is "familiarity brings contempt"
Don't stress Ling's brain 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I enjoyed this conversation today. You gave me a lot to think about and you know what I think everything you’re saying is very true. You have to continue to be friends with one another continue to love the person that you first met, and even though you have disappointments and relationships. We still gotta be in the relationship together and always remember the first love our friendships our true talks with one another.❤🙏🏾
Guys, what happened? We were enjoying the conversation. There better be PT2 lol. May God continue to bless you guys
Very interesting topic. Thank you for sharing. Having been married for 22 years + which is nothing compared to others I feel that this topic is an important one. It will happen to us all. Even Michelle Obama described difficult years. My small 2 cents of advice is to do everything you can to ensure you are able to laugh everyday either by yourself or together. Being able to laugh is an amazing antidote to sometimes wanting things that you may have to extend an extra ordinary amount of patience even if you feel you are entitled. I think this is what attracts me to Ling and Lamb. Their ability to laugh. This is priceless and something to be protected at all costs. Tuning in from 🇬🇧.
Ling and Lamb I learnt so much from this. Thanks so much.
See-finish means "getting familiar with someone"
Or better put over-familiarity which brings contempt
Lamb, I had a certain essential word in my mind about this topic.
And thank God you mentioned it "like ".
You guys are awesome.
You talk with wisdom 😃
Ling is too intelligent. See how she summarised the take aways from both of you. That point of losing spark in a relationship is what I always think about assuming I get married. But there are two or three points from this video. Kudos.
Love you guys so much, you give me joy every time I watch your series, my advice is this. Every relationship has its mystery it is that mystery that keeps the relationship alive, think of it from when you were dating what made you fall in love with the lady or man was the interest you had in them, and now In the marriage, you have to hold on to that it is thinking you now know all about your partner that brings the fire down, you guys are still the same amazing people you were when you started dating and you need to hold on to this mentality of love, forgiveness, and mystery.
Love is a principle not based on feelings. Happiness is a choice that comes from within not based on external influences…be intentional in all you do not out of obligation or duty!❤
Communication is key! Are both parties willing to talk and work on the problem. And definitively both parties need to continue to date EACH OTHER! The things that attracted you to each other are still there but life might have gotten try to go back to what you loved about each. & take care if yourself so that you love yourself because if you don’t live yourself you can’t love someone else.
I totally agree.. never stop dating your spouse.. every marriage goes through things so always go back to what made you fall in love with that person and start doing the things you did in beginning or never stop doing those things!! Love you Ling and Lamb.. Ling you have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen.. it's the most beautiful curve on a woman's body.. we love you here in Arizona💛🏜💛
Lamb and Ling, you guys cracked me up so good this morning with that last piece of looking for a better word to say what you want to say. And I think you were looking for the term; "seen it all ". I think that is what you were trying to convey with that "see finish ". Thank you for the presentation.
Motivational speaker Ling and Lamb. Good job. The way of Lamb is so funny 🤣 but he explained nicely 😊
I love watching this young couple their so good for each other.
Lamb trying to explain see finish😂😂
I pray you two will continue to love each other NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS.
Thank you for these tips, very helpful coming from you two.
See finish is when you’ve known so much about a person….the good and the ugly; you tend to treat them less because now you have seen their worst moments, and weaknesses. So Lamb says don’t see finish, meaning even when you’ve seen the worst of a person, still treat them like you used to when you haven’t seen the ugly side of them. Don’t treat them less because you now know their weaknesses. I hope I made sense. 😁
Communication is also key. If the communication is there, they would be able to talk out their issues. My wife and I talked for weeks before we ever laid eyes on one another. This gave us time to know more about each other and like one another before we saw a physical attraction. We became great friends long before we became lovers. We are best friends and there are few people in the world that would turn away from a best friend, so why do we turn away from a spouse, if we tell a bff everything, why not our spouse? We should always invest more in the one we choose the rest of our lives to be with.
I totally understand you Lamb
See finish is not to take the other person for granted or it can also mean familiarity. Love you so much Ling and Lamb. Much love from🇬🇭🇬🇭
Mmm in this regard it simply means, any of the partners have seen it all or experienced it all and therefore not enthusiastic about each other anymore.
Ling and Lamb, you nailed it, liking someone is just as important as loving someone. Perfectly said. Love and prayers ❤❤🙏
In the Nigerian parlance: See finish means: having gotten so used to something/someone that the person/thing is taken for granted.
Been dating for 2.5 years now and currently going through a lot of emotional roller-coaster in my relationship. Watching your videos not only give me some comfort and hope but also it teaches me about how to become the bigger and better person in my relationship. I realized there is so much that my girlfriend and I need to learn about each other and relationships in general as we navigate our problems, and God willingly we will reach to a safe compromise.
There are seasons in life and marriage, seasons change often so hang in there and enjoy the journey together.
Lamb is so cute when he giggles and does his cute gestures 😊
Looolll, lamb says " you don't know see finish? English is hard o"
See finish means taking someone or something for granted or getting too comfortable or used to something.
To add to your points, I was thinking communication. Having a heart to heart with your partner on where and how each of you are dropping the ball might help.
This also brings me to a question, how do you handle a partner that's unwilling to communicate?
See finish meaning you have gotten too familiar with the person so much that you don't regard the person as much as used to any longer. :)
Thank you for sharing Ling and Lamb.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it's the "see finish" explanation for me... thanks for showing us your own spark. I've noted ✅ 😌 👌
Hi Guys! Loved your positive.. CLEAN and wise responses to such a common issue..❤ You both have OLD SOULS..Love you guys!
I just HAD to KEEP rewinding the "see finish"😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅
What the hell are you saying... What is see finish Bambi😂😅😅
Aah!!!😅
Started following you guys recently and I've learned so much. Introspection is key before we point fingers in relationships. I'm hopeful
Love you too muchoooo from South Africa!!!
Yes, it's common for long-term couples to start wondering how to keep a relationship alive. It isn't the loss of the spark in a relationship that is the problem - the problem arises when couples lack the commitment to rekindle the romance. It shows that the initial feeling of infatuation or that long-term commitment has become challenging. If you do not have enough action in the bedroom, you might lose that spark sooner than you estimated. You need to keep things hot there
Things to do when the spark is gone.
1. Reignite the bedroom.
Try something new in bed. Try to ignite new flames.
2. Remember what it was like when you first met.
Turn off the TV and reminisce about the fun times you had - even sexually, if that’s the case - when you first met.
3. Spend some time.
Share some quality time while indulging in some common hobbies or activities.
4. Keep the mystery alive.
No matter how long you’ve been together, make an effort to be seductive and keep your erotic connection fresh. “Put some surprise into the relationship.
5.Kiss more often.
At the beginning of a relationship, couples often enjoy deep kissing, but over time they tend to stop. “Continuing to hug, kiss, cuddle is an important component of a healthy relationship
6. Clean up for your partner.
Go on a movie date or a dinner date. Surprise them with little gifts
7. Don’t set false expectations.
More importantly, always remember that not every day will be magical.
8. Show gratitude.
Appreciate each other’s presence. Sometimes all that your partner wants to hear is ‘I Love You.’ These three words are magical.
9.Try to understand your feelings.
Draw a clear picture of your feelings, and then discussing it with your partner will be a lot easier.
10.Now it’s time for you two to have a conversation.
Every healthy relationship needs a constant and open chit-chat. Remember the picture you drew above. Now is the time when you share it with your partner.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 see finish is over familiarity
Laughed all through, you guys rock
😅😅"See finish" simply means over familiarity...in a derogatory way though. It happens when one of the partners has NOTHING going on(which in most cases isn't the actual situation, but just a perception from the other person), due to the way they presented theirself .
When someone "sees you finish" then they assume you have NOTHING more to show (in terms of value, growth ...) Then disregard and disrespect kicks in. The relationship or friendship becomes unhealthy.
THIS IS LIFE Y'ALL...for the ones struggling, for the ones preparing themselves for dating and also for the ones who are "perfectly fine" as long as we ALL are mindful of this wisdom well succeed in our relationships! THANK YOU LING AND BAMBI
These were some of the most realist advice I have heard in years ,applying your own personal experiences just topped it of perfectly, keep loving each other the way you do ok ,lamdo you on point big brother...
You guys have great points. Good communication and humor keeps the spark in the relationship.
Always on point!!! I love you guys.. May God continue bless your marriage beyond you could ever imagine.
Over familiarity breeds contempt, as the saying goes. I believe it's super crucial to respect the person you chose to be with as Lamb mentioned, even after seeing all of who they are- the good, the bad and the in between, still hold that person in high regard in your heart and mind, bc you picked him/her(and hope that was a conscious pick).
As well the most important one that has stood out is to, like them: be really good friends, and hold your friendship very high bc it will take you through the test of time together; You will fight together to resolve issues, not against. And lastly I'll say place God first at the center of your marriage. Bc really knowing God and genuinely surrendering to Him daily, guides us through a lot of what we face in our relationships.
Hope this helps someone as it has been for me. 🙏
What does she mean by satisfied? Everything in relationships has a range (ex. 1-10). Whatever you GIVE in a relationship SHOULD BE RECIPROCATED. And if you’re not getting that, then you TALK about it; break things down. Start with the smallest issue and then go from there ❤!
Losing your spark means you both didn’t go the work along the way ❤
You can’t take each other for granted the way you may have allowed ❤️
You guys are the bomb!
You have your act together
FRIENDSHIP IS FIRST❤️
Happy Sunday morning 🥳
It's always good to see you guys on Sunday mornings. Good advice for married couples. I love the fact that not only do you guys love each other but you continue to LIKE each other and that requires working on your relationship Daily. 👏👏
Lamb your are so gifted, everything your saying makes so much sense. I hope the lady is willing to apply your words in to her marriage.
Great advice guys. Lamb always gives me a good laugh, see finish , you people have to help me 🤣
I've been married for 47 year's and we still keep it lit! I say keep the relationship going exciting. They are giving good advice I agree.
Great responses!! On point! If they have kids that can really change much of the presenting,dating,being able to have time,privacy to spark...all advice was really on point...but there could be other things.
.health,possibly finding spark elsewhere....the question left little on a little back story. Love yall..love that yall do this 😉
Just started the vid, putting it on 2x speed so I can watch before I have to run production at church.. good to see y’all early this morning ❤
@@Oscar-lg7mo aww thank you very much 🙏
Amen Sister❤️💯
@@Oscar-lg7moit's against the law of all that is obvious. No no.....
I love his advice he took the relationship apart and put it back together I love that and before this couple gives up get help counseling always helps with prayer great observations
Hello!!! I have been following you guys for awhile. One thing that shoots out at me is you guys share so much of your lives with the world. As Muslims we believe in something called "evil eye". This can affect your relationships and your life as a whole. So "evil eye" is basically jealousy and hatred from others towards you. The way to avoid this is to avoid over sharing and not show your blessings to everyone. Yes you have an amazing family here on RUclips but of course there are going to be jealous people and this can affect you.
Also trials occur and we have to fight through them together as couples. This is how our relationship as wife and husband grow!! 💖🥰✌️
Bro! I low key get scared for people who share their “amazing life “ on social media such as couple influencers. It’s very dangerous, I have a scenario whereby one of my mother friends son died for no reason, there was living the life , am convinced it was evil eyes, only Allah s.w.t knows but ever since den she left Facebook and all social media platform. Evil eye is real but most people don’t know!
Good morning. I agree friendship is important you have to like each other. 😆 Lol serious topic but you kept saying a bag of beans 🤣you guys gave a great laugh break.
Lamb is really crazy with his explanation🤣 inuelus!!!
If Love Languages are not being heard or acted out that can affect the “engine”. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a great book.