I was married to a narcissistic man for almost 8 years. In October 2021, I made dua that Allah should give me a sign because I was about to take my life. This man destroyed me! Subhanallah I had never heard of narcissism before and the very NEXT DAY Subhanallah I discovered your video in which you explained about the narcissistic husband. I thank Allah swt for this, this video changed my life! Today I managed to separate from him, another 6 months and hopefully the divorce will be finalized in sha Allah! We have 2 children and he has destroyed my femininity, I have become depressed, ice cold and hard, I no longer trust people and I can no longer imagine that I would allow a man to lead me again... YOU ARE A GREAT WOMAN MAY ALLAH REWARD YOU FOR YOUR WORK!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
So happy that you made the right decision and got out. So many women stay “for the children” but end up hurting themselves and their kids. You’re so powerful and strong. May Allah swt grant you so so much happiness, peace and love in your life, Ameen 🤲🏽💕
@@umiixThank you so much sista❤️ it took me 2 years of mental preparation. My children are 4 years old, twins, they watched last time and I won't let that happen! When my son said to me "When I'm as tall as Dad, I'll punch you like that too......!" That's when I knew it was time to go. May Allah give us women strength and put Iman in our hearts, Allahuma amin🤲 We are aif this dunya to serve Allah and not to enslave ourselves for the mentally ill....I thank you so much for your words dear and wish you and strength and courage to all women outside. It's hard but it can be done alhamdulilah 🤲
Reading this gave me chills. I am so happy for you that you left. Your life is so worth living. I believe that life really starts for us once we leave these evil people. You will now begin to enjoy what it really means to have a peaceful life and the difference is outstanding. May Allah continue to bless and protect you. I believe Allah wanted you to know the truth and get out so please do not go back to him. Ameen to your duas ❤️🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Unmarried folks out here, here's a bit of hope for y'all. Recite this dua to get a pious spouse in which we all could find peace in. I pray we all find the missing part of ours soon, In Shaa Allah.. رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا “Our Lord, grant us from among our pious spouse and offsprings comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (Surah Furqan :74)
I'm 37 single woman and the amount of time of muslim men ( induct to me by family members or close friends) ask me nude pictures or pictures with my hair out was so many times. I blocked them or reply with long answer lectures them, and I never heard from them again because I don't play like that.
Feel that… Also had a lot of disappointing Muslim men, who basically just wanted nudes or just chitchatting for no reason… EVERY MEN I’ve met was like this… I’m so disappointed and think about the reason why I attract this kind of men
you are so right about 'living out your Islam' cz exactly today, i was from ordering food in a shop. went to go eat in my car. man from the shop approaches me etc [intros/asking no etc]. and so before anything i said to him "You must know I am a muslim woman." Note I am in my hijab. He replies, " I don't know anything about Islam but you can teach me." Lols.
😂 the guy had to shoot his shot. But well done on standing your ground, it only makes you come across more as a woman of integrity and that is extremely attractive. If he wants to improve his life , that will be up to him. 🎉
@@SheCanSmileSo what could this man have done differently? How could someone marry a Muslim woman they found attractive? Also why didn’t you take him up in his offer to teach him about your beliefs(religion)?
@@isailevilopez5134Muslim women can only marry Muslim men. So unless he wants to revert it’s not possible and even then he has to revert because he actually believes in Allah and wants to be a Muslim. If he finds her attractive but doesn’t want to be Muslim it’s better to just move on there’s non Muslims he’ll find attractive too
Learning how to communicate with men is soooo important!!! Sisters be feminine in your actions and words especially: don’t use words that’ll remind him of mandem (Nah, cool, bro, and the likes). This is something that was just engrained within my language and was actually brought up to me from a potential 😂 and I realised how masculine it really is. Be feminine in every single aspect ❤
Asalamualaikum, sister Nafisa. I hope you're doing well, in shaa Allah. My first ever comment on a video of yours, I just want to say your work here for the Muslim ummah is much needed and much appreciated. May Allah bless you for making these videos that are transforming lives. Jazak Allah khair, for doing what you do!
Walaikumsalam. Thank you for taking the time to show your support. May Allah continue to guide and bless us all. I too feel extremely blessed to be able to do this and have such a beautiful audience. Jazaka’Allahu khairan 🎉
Leaving a narcissist is very difficult The trauma bond after the break is soo hurtful. They just move on like they didn't destroy you. They will another girl and just live their life as victims. Sometimes their mothers and sisters help them to get a new wife to spite you. But we know better once the garbage is out it's no longer coming back to the house. You dodged a bullet.
Thank you for this video. Ive been on a long break from the ‘dating’ scene. As its tiring. Important to take breaks. Most Of the men I come across here in the west don’t have the qualities Id say a Muslim man or potential husband should have. I mean character and respect. But I know God has someone for everyone. Believing men are for the believing women.
This is so useful! Another masterpiece video from our sis Nafisa may Allah bless you for everything you’re doing to help us getting that ring☺️ SISTERS WE ARE ALL GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR INCHALLAH LET’S KEEP MAKING DUAAS!
Yes i have integrity, honor, sense of dignity, that's why i was tagged and lebelled as dramatic woman by ex husband and his mother....then i hear you saying A Man of Dignity... that's what i am looking for InshaAllah.
I can't say in words how much your videos motivate us ❤ lots of DUA and love for you❤.... Please remember me in your prayers may Allah bless us with pious spouses and offspring, and redirect us on right path Ameen ✨🌸🤲
Ameen. It’s such a pleasure to be able to do this. I also appreciate all the support I get from you all. I really feel blessed with the type of audience that I have. I will remember all the single ladies in my dua insha’Allah. May Allah bless you all with spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes.
@@NafisasPearlz you’re so lovely Nafisa, may Allah continue to bless and protect you and your family and grant you happiness and help in this world and the next 🤍
I had the traits that you describe of honour and integrity but unfortunately he betrayed me and dissappeared without giving me an explanation. I Feel so let down and ashamed of myself.
Hi Please pray I get married … I am desperately trying for marriage from very long time and have got good prospects but in the end always things didn’t go as planned I am losing hope sometimes getting negative thoughts that I wouldn’t find as my wishes a person and my last option is marrying someone low socioeconomic so that I have my own children atleast I don’t want to miss my biological clock i also feel lonely sometimes please pray I find my spouse who brings peace and support in my life 😢
Can't agree with you more. For real I am too serious for these apps, I can't talk multiple guys like guys talk with multiple girls the same time. Apps feel unislamic and out of my character. Most aren't even serious for marriage.
Because of hard financial situations men in my country are serching for high net worth women + good house wife qualities 🙃 like nope dear I'm better off not married.
Nafisa you're very articulate❤. What is your suggestion for a sister who's unemployed, of marriageable age, and is apprehensive of getting married without securing a job first?
Thank you for your kind words. I think she should do the best with were she is. Continue to look for ways she become financially stable but she should not let that stop her from opening doors for marriage. Her goal should be to ensure that the man that she says yes to shouldn’t have a problem with her working if it doesn’t get in the way of her marital duties, she will need a supportive man to ensure she also achieves her individual goals. Other than that, give love a chance with a good man.
Salam. First of all. Thank you so much for this video really need this. I have a concern to share. I like someone but idk how to communicate with him. Or just wanted him to know that I like him. Like how m suppose to do that ? Please reply!!
You can always get his email and forward some questions to him and cc your wali into the email exchanges if you can’t go the traditional route if you’re wali beings present.
But sis my case is very different , I'm facing a lot of rejections from men because I am not a working lady and also modest, and they want a woman who does job and modern.
Thank you for such beautiful advice, can you please talk about Muslim online apps.. How to attract a good man… It is so hard to get married as a single mother..
You're videos have helped me learn to take care of myself more. It's still an on going process but it had taken me a while to realize that I need to improve myself internally and present myself better. ❤❤
Salam sister, hope you are doing well. Can you please do a video on how to reject a guy in the islamic way. Especially with guys who cannot take no for an answer and as a result make you want to be rude to them. 😭😭😭😭
Please talk to your wali! This man shouldn't even have the chance to harass you for another answer, it's inappropriate. A no is a no, and he's out of line. It's not your place to tell him that though, and not very smart. You've made your decision, said your piece and stated a boundary. This isn't your battle, quietly flag down your wali (or another close male relative) tell them it makes you uncomfortable, relax and let them intervene. Trust me, he's doing this because you're a woman who doesn't want to be "rude." He may seem very nice or even come off as a romantic but he's either trying to bully you into it or has a very poor grasp of Islam and personal boundaries. Once another man is involved and protecting you, he'll back off to a respectable distance.
The answer above is so well put together. Follow it and you should be fine insha’Allah. Further to this. Do not worry about his feelings, you are not responsible for his feelings. You have the right to say no to someone you don’t want. Feeling the need to say yes would be a life of misery where you will not be able to fulfill his rights or needs so see your no as a favour you are doing for his own good as well as your then tell a male figure in your life, pass his number to your wali if he will not stop, that should get rid of him permanently if he is a sane man. Hope that helps.
Assalamu alykum Sister is THERE any way i can share my very personal issue with u? I am feeling so helpless, i need ur advice my dear sister. Please dont ignore me, please.
Allah SWT designed you, don’t worry. Don’t look at your features and think what He designed is ugly, it’s an honor that He made you and gave you life. Everyone looks so different, with different features. Believers are beautiful people. You seem like a person with a sensitive heart, and it might make you feel weak sometimes, but such sensitivity can be a strength too. And there’s nothing Allah SWT can’t do- if you’re lonely you can take that quiet time and opportunity to connect with Him and ask Him for help and guidance. I hope you have a wonderful week, and a future with wellness and happiness insha’Allah
I was married to a narcissistic man for almost 8 years. In October 2021, I made dua that Allah should give me a sign because I was about to take my life. This man destroyed me! Subhanallah I had never heard of narcissism before and the very NEXT DAY Subhanallah I discovered your video in which you explained about the narcissistic husband. I thank Allah swt for this, this video changed my life! Today I managed to separate from him, another 6 months and hopefully the divorce will be finalized in sha Allah! We have 2 children and he has destroyed my femininity, I have become depressed, ice cold and hard, I no longer trust people and I can no longer imagine that I would allow a man to lead me again... YOU ARE A GREAT WOMAN MAY ALLAH REWARD YOU FOR YOUR WORK!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
So happy that you made the right decision and got out. So many women stay “for the children” but end up hurting themselves and their kids. You’re so powerful and strong. May Allah swt grant you so so much happiness, peace and love in your life, Ameen 🤲🏽💕
@@umiixThank you so much sista❤️
it took me 2 years of mental preparation. My children are 4 years old, twins, they watched last time and I won't let that happen! When my son said to me "When I'm as tall as Dad, I'll punch you like that too......!" That's when I knew it was time to go. May Allah give us women strength and put Iman in our hearts, Allahuma amin🤲 We are aif this dunya to serve Allah and not to enslave ourselves for the mentally ill....I thank you so much for your words dear and wish you and strength and courage to all women outside. It's hard but it can be done alhamdulilah 🤲
@@L-I--I-A88what your son said 😭that’s so sad. Congrats for making the decision to leave may Allah make it easy for you and your kids
@@zoe-mv6ji thank you very much it is hard really hard but Allah is great🤲 May Allah bless and protect you all❤️🫶
Reading this gave me chills. I am so happy for you that you left. Your life is so worth living. I believe that life really starts for us once we leave these evil people. You will now begin to enjoy what it really means to have a peaceful life and the difference is outstanding. May Allah continue to bless and protect you.
I believe Allah wanted you to know the truth and get out so please do not go back to him. Ameen to your duas ❤️🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Unmarried folks out here, here's a bit of hope for y'all. Recite this dua to get a pious spouse in which we all could find peace in. I pray we all find the missing part of ours soon, In Shaa Allah..
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
“Our Lord, grant us from among our pious spouse and offsprings comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”
(Surah Furqan :74)
Aameen Summa Aameen
I'm 37 single woman and the amount of time of muslim men ( induct to me by family members or close friends) ask me nude pictures or pictures with my hair out was so many times. I blocked them or reply with long answer lectures them, and I never heard from them again because I don't play like that.
Feel that…
Also had a lot of disappointing Muslim men, who basically just wanted nudes or just chitchatting for no reason… EVERY MEN I’ve met was like this… I’m so disappointed and think about the reason why I attract this kind of men
Very unfortunate. Are these people that are in their 20s, 30s, 40+?@@Sarah-eg4wx
you are so right about 'living out your Islam' cz exactly today, i was from ordering food in a shop. went to go eat in my car. man from the shop approaches me etc [intros/asking no etc]. and so before anything i said to him "You must know I am a muslim woman." Note I am in my hijab. He replies, " I don't know anything about Islam but you can teach me." Lols.
😂 the guy had to shoot his shot. But well done on standing your ground, it only makes you come across more as a woman of integrity and that is extremely attractive. If he wants to improve his life , that will be up to him. 🎉
@@NafisasPearlz Indeed, shots were fired 😅🤣😂
@@SheCanSmileSo what could this man have done differently? How could someone marry a Muslim woman they found attractive?
Also why didn’t you take him up in his offer to teach him about your beliefs(religion)?
@@isailevilopez5134Muslim women can only marry Muslim men. So unless he wants to revert it’s not possible and even then he has to revert because he actually believes in Allah and wants to be a Muslim. If he finds her attractive but doesn’t want to be Muslim it’s better to just move on there’s non Muslims he’ll find attractive too
@@zoe-mv6ji what if you want to convert because you find her attractive and want to marry her? Also how long does it take to convert?
Learning how to communicate with men is soooo important!!! Sisters be feminine in your actions and words especially: don’t use words that’ll remind him of mandem (Nah, cool, bro, and the likes). This is something that was just engrained within my language and was actually brought up to me from a potential 😂 and I realised how masculine it really is. Be feminine in every single aspect ❤
Asalamualaikum, sister Nafisa. I hope you're doing well, in shaa Allah. My first ever comment on a video of yours, I just want to say your work here for the Muslim ummah is much needed and much appreciated. May Allah bless you for making these videos that are transforming lives. Jazak Allah khair, for doing what you do!
Walaikumsalam. Thank you for taking the time to show your support. May Allah continue to guide and bless us all. I too feel extremely blessed to be able to do this and have such a beautiful audience. Jazaka’Allahu khairan 🎉
Leaving a narcissist is very difficult
The trauma bond after the break is soo hurtful. They just move on like they didn't destroy you. They will another girl and just live their life as victims. Sometimes their mothers and sisters help them to get a new wife to spite you.
But we know better once the garbage is out it's no longer coming back to the house.
You dodged a bullet.
Thank you for this video. Ive been on a long break from the ‘dating’ scene. As its tiring. Important to take breaks. Most Of the men I come across here in the west don’t have the qualities Id say a Muslim man or potential husband should have. I mean character and respect. But I know God has someone for everyone. Believing men are for the believing women.
Love love love this video! ❤️
So glad sis. Hope you’re well.
This is so useful! Another masterpiece video from our sis Nafisa may Allah bless you for everything you’re doing to help us getting that ring☺️
SISTERS WE ARE ALL GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR INCHALLAH LET’S KEEP MAKING DUAAS!
Ameen Ameen and Ameen. And I better get an invite to some of these weddings too 😂😂🤲🏾
Yes i have integrity, honor, sense of dignity, that's why i was tagged and lebelled as dramatic woman by ex husband and his mother....then i hear you saying A Man of Dignity... that's what i am looking for InshaAllah.
I can't say in words how much your videos motivate us ❤ lots of DUA and love for you❤.... Please remember me in your prayers may Allah bless us with pious spouses and offspring, and redirect us on right path Ameen ✨🌸🤲
Ameen. It’s such a pleasure to be able to do this. I also appreciate all the support I get from you all. I really feel blessed with the type of audience that I have. I will remember all the single ladies in my dua insha’Allah. May Allah bless you all with spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes.
@@NafisasPearlz you’re so lovely Nafisa, may Allah continue to bless and protect you and your family and grant you happiness and help in this world and the next 🤍
Summa Aameen
the word "however" is mentioned twice in this video that accent sounds super😅😅
Lol I love the British accent ❤
@@dieynabadiallo5371 listen legend 12:13
I had the traits that you describe of honour and integrity but unfortunately he betrayed me and dissappeared without giving me an explanation. I Feel so let down and ashamed of myself.
He should be the one ashamed sister, Allah will deal with him, I give you all my support, barakAllahou fik❤
Thank you so much @@thatnaturalfatma
I love your energy Nafissa you really lift me up.
Alhamdulilah, glad to hear it.
Hi
Please pray I get married … I am desperately trying for marriage from very long time and have got good prospects but in the end always things didn’t go as planned I am losing hope sometimes getting negative thoughts that I wouldn’t find as my wishes a person and my last option is marrying someone low socioeconomic so that I have my own children atleast I don’t want to miss my biological clock i also feel lonely sometimes please pray I find my spouse who brings peace and support in my life 😢
Jazakallahu hair sis❤
You are doing a good job ❤
Thank you for the support
Is it ok that i never want to go on the apps ever again? My experience on them destroyed my spirit, i dont have it in me to do it again
I understand you, sister! But what are the other options out there fir us in the west?
Absolutely. You are in control if your life. You decide!
What apps did you use?
Can't agree with you more. For real I am too serious for these apps, I can't talk multiple guys like guys talk with multiple girls the same time. Apps feel unislamic and out of my character. Most aren't even serious for marriage.
Because of hard financial situations men in my country are serching for high net worth women + good house wife qualities 🙃 like nope dear I'm better off not married.
Jazakallahi kheir just what i needed. This video was a sign. Thank you Nafisa
Asalaamu Alaikum sister Nafisa
May Allah continue to preserve you for us 🤲🤲🤲🥰
Mashaa’Allah sis, you are looking so beautiful 🥰
Nafisa you're very articulate❤. What is your suggestion for a sister who's unemployed, of marriageable age, and is apprehensive of getting married without securing a job first?
Thank you for your kind words. I think she should do the best with were she is. Continue to look for ways she become financially stable but she should not let that stop her from opening doors for marriage. Her goal should be to ensure that the man that she says yes to shouldn’t have a problem with her working if it doesn’t get in the way of her marital duties, she will need a supportive man to ensure she also achieves her individual goals. Other than that, give love a chance with a good man.
Amazing video
May Allah bless you sister Nafisa for all your effort amd video, that help us a lot.
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Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
Very interesting
Keep it up ❤
Salam. First of all. Thank you so much for this video really need this. I have a concern to share. I like someone but idk how to communicate with him. Or just wanted him to know that I like him. Like how m suppose to do that ? Please reply!!
You can always get his email and forward some questions to him and cc your wali into the email exchanges if you can’t go the traditional route if you’re wali beings present.
I hope you will do a video about how to communicate with men. May Allah repay you SIS.
But sis my case is very different , I'm facing a lot of rejections from men because I am not a working lady and also modest, and they want a woman who does job and modern.
Haha, my goal is to be independent and secure before I involve a decent s.o in my life
Thank you for such beautiful advice, can you please talk about Muslim online apps.. How to attract a good man… It is so hard to get married as a single mother..
salam sister needed this video as usual thanksss
My pleasure 😊
Jazak Allah Khairun for this video! ❤
You're videos have helped me learn to take care of myself more. It's still an on going process but it had taken me a while to realize that I need to improve myself internally and present myself better. ❤❤
Salamoe alaikoem nafisa
A nother great video!!! 🌸
Walaikumsalam. Thank you
As salaamu alaikum. Lovely advice! Thank you sister ❤
Lovely video
Jazaki Allahu khairen
Waiyakum
thank you so much sister
I enjoyed ❤❤
Salam sister, hope you are doing well. Can you please do a video on how to reject a guy in the islamic way. Especially with guys who cannot take no for an answer and as a result make you want to be rude to them. 😭😭😭😭
Please talk to your wali! This man shouldn't even have the chance to harass you for another answer, it's inappropriate. A no is a no, and he's out of line. It's not your place to tell him that though, and not very smart. You've made your decision, said your piece and stated a boundary. This isn't your battle, quietly flag down your wali (or another close male relative) tell them it makes you uncomfortable, relax and let them intervene. Trust me, he's doing this because you're a woman who doesn't want to be "rude." He may seem very nice or even come off as a romantic but he's either trying to bully you into it or has a very poor grasp of Islam and personal boundaries. Once another man is involved and protecting you, he'll back off to a respectable distance.
The answer above is so well put together. Follow it and you should be fine insha’Allah. Further to this. Do not worry about his feelings, you are not responsible for his feelings. You have the right to say no to someone you don’t want. Feeling the need to say yes would be a life of misery where you will not be able to fulfill his rights or needs so see your no as a favour you are doing for his own good as well as your then tell a male figure in your life, pass his number to your wali if he will not stop, that should get rid of him permanently if he is a sane man. Hope that helps.
Tell him to not contact ever again. If he continues, just block him.
MaSha'Allah ❤
Sister Nafisa, is there any way I could ask you for some personal advice?
Sister hafisa, how does a revert prepare herself for marriage?
Assalamu alykum
Sister is THERE any way i can share my very personal issue with u? I am feeling so helpless, i need ur advice my dear sister. Please dont ignore me, please.
im too ugly and past my due date crippled and fat. sorry no chance💔 for me. 😢
No your not sis , u r beautiful ❤️ and may u find someone who appreciate u❤
Just be patient, God's timing is the Best.
Wishing u all the best ❤
There is someone for everybody, including you. Don’t loose hope!
Allah SWT designed you, don’t worry. Don’t look at your features and think what He designed is ugly, it’s an honor that He made you and gave you life. Everyone looks so different, with different features. Believers are beautiful people. You seem like a person with a sensitive heart, and it might make you feel weak sometimes, but such sensitivity can be a strength too. And there’s nothing Allah SWT can’t do- if you’re lonely you can take that quiet time and opportunity to connect with Him and ask Him for help and guidance. I hope you have a wonderful week, and a future with wellness and happiness insha’Allah
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Mashallah
Hi nafisa i want to get marry you?😢
Please likes ❤❤ and comment 🙏🙏
Thank you 🎉
@@NafisasPearlz u are wlc sis 🎉
All is ok but I never married islam believer muslim woman, i want independ3nt non religion woman
Sister it’s better to change thumbnail bc it exposes ur awrah.
❤❤❤❤❤❤mashallah
Salam sister we don't date
I mentioned that in the video
How could a stranger marry you? Would I ask to marry or would I go to your father and ask?
"strong and independent" black woman is the greatest lie they sold us... Most are single and childless and how is that beneficial? Subhan Allah
The fact that you have such a large audience but have no videos about Palestine 🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮 “how to get a man” 🤮🤮
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