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The Imprint and low self esteem is the reason why a lot of brothers make relationship choices that they wouldn't normally make ie homely, overweight, over bearing women. Even if a pretty girl came their way they would most probably mess that up to, by subconsciously telling themselves they ain't good enough for her. This stuff is deep. Great video
Yes indeed. I've met so many men who settled for a lessor woman even when an attractive woman would be choosing hard. A man's head can be messed up for life. A man's imprint is harder to clear than a woman's.
Deborah Yisrael the conventional wisdom is actually backwards: black men are more preyed upon than are predators. Men are generally the real prize in relationships. In most cases, women only bring a vagina; usually with a lot of mileage by her thirties and ulterior motives......Men bring love, financial support (even if the woman works) , a bodyguard, garbage hauler, plumber, chauffeur, gardener, snow shoveler, plumber, and a myriad of countless other jobs. Men even do the cooking, cleaning and share of the house work. So much is expected of men. So little is expected of Today's woman. If a man expects sex, its martial rape. If he expects her to cook, he's a chauvinist. If he expects her to clean, he's oppressing her . In modern relationships, the woman's agenda drives the relationship. other than infrequent sex, what do today's women really offer a man? And as for white women.. they are not innocent victims: they prey on black men looking for someone to love them, just like black women do! The majority of Neither group is any good for most men.
+mrS If half of the men who frequent certain types of channels really believed that they were "the prize" in relationships, they would not spend so much time having these "pity parties".
Deborah Yisrael I understand your point about "pity parties" but let me explain: men were sold a 'bill of goods' when it comes to women. The conventional wisdom says that women are these wonderful, deeply feeling and loving creatures that give so much when they LOVE. They will slave for the men they love, often losing the best years of their lives. Men on the other hand are these unfeeling creatures that always have ULTERIOR motives in all interactions with women....THE REVERSE is true. Men are the deep feeling ones, who LOVE. Women are the ones with ulterior motives in their dealings with men. Men love a woman for who she is. Women mercenary. After what a man has...men are the romantic ones. A few years ago, a study by a female sociologist said that ROMANTIC Comedies are bad for MEN because it gives them a false unrealistic idea about relationships. Women know that relationships are work. I agree with this assessment when men love, they open their hearts. Women know that love/relationships are "bullshit" and work; with ALL the WORK being done by the MAN. Many men thought that if we were good men and did everything RIGHT then we would find princess charming but the reality more often a tyrant in our home that doesn't love us, only what she can take until she gets bored or something "better " comes along...and there's NO WAY to know if the woman in front of you is the girl of your dreams or a big mistake that will take your money, your house, your sanity, your health, your freedom and your children ...THAT 's reason for the "pity party"...
All the women that ever called me unattractive were unattractive to me. But I’m very lowkey so that sat with me. I didn’t realize that I looked a lot better than I thought I did until I got older.
I remember(her name was actual "Jezebel" and the other was "churchy"), but my father was always telling me "You are the one that they need to be checking for, you are the valuable one."
Damn I was born an alpha Male but I was so aggressive as a kid , cool, and funny to everyone that my parents and the school in a way brainwashed me to become less of a man and it ruined me as I got older but now watching your vids is bringing me back to my real self thanks rom. I used to check everyone and fear nobody until everyone older around me berated me to the point that I became a passive beta male . Even my dad a simp would tell me to turn the other cheek basically everyday. Though it ruined my chances growing up the man in me won't allow my past to dictate my future
Man, this really resonates with me. Throughout the first 18 years of my life, literally all of my experiences with women were negative, and I was rejected constantly. Although I'm a lot better looking, and in great physical shape compared to how I was when I was young, I still have that same low level of confidence that I had when I was younger and unsuccessful with women. Honestly I don't know how to break out of that mindset.
I know what u mean fam. Most dudes that go through this have to do some serious work on their confidence and self esteem. As Rom said ‘One day at a time’
Most Men don't have the emotional insight or depth, not to mention the courage for such analysis. Those tools need to be taught to and developed by our young Men. If all your books are this helpful, then you are absolutely on point. Brilliant. I might have to start calling you, "Doctor Wills".
Thanks bruh. Well I plan to do a "How Rom Learned the Game Part 2." I didn't learn everything on the streets. The number of psychologists, therapists, and clinical social workers I've talked to over the years is staggering. Add to that the large number of books I've read that approached relationships from a clinical perspective. Add to that books on Eastern sexual practices. On top of that I have three or four graduate thesis papers I've downloaded off the internet which dealt with the social dynamics of male female relationships. I've put a lot of research into what I present. I just prefer to present the info in a down to Earth manner.
I'm a Women listening to this. Some real knowledge. Thank you Sir for this info. I'm healing a lot of wounds. I don't know how I ended up here, but I'm grateful.
She rejected me in a classy way. Don't hold a grudge against her. She's what sent me down this rabbit hole of seduction. Made me get the player's mindset I have today. So thanks A.
You know, a lot of times you'd like to think you're the only one experiencing or going through a situation until you get it laid out to you from someone else... DAMN Rom, you literally played back a FEW of my experiences... 💯💯💯
Man I appreciate you for making this video. Alot of women don't understand how rejection can affect a brother and his mating choices. That's why you see a lot of these MGTOW guys hating women.
I think you are wrong about MGTOW hating woman. Mgtow is a response to woman who uses feminism to there advantage to manipulate men into marrying and taking there resources in a divorce settlement. Therefore Mgtow men avoid most western minded women. However a lot of this stuff is socially engineered by the elite in the government to provoke a gender war.
sameer cherian I don't recall mentioning MGTOW by name in this video. I don't have an issue with MGTOW so I don't say anything good or bad. Any resemblance between something I said and MGTOW is purely coincidental.
Pure game right here. It all makes sense now. I always got the looks from pretty women in middle school and high school I was just kind of shy. I did actually date a few of them now I’m extremely confident as an adult and still get alpha females now. It all stems from the young days.
The Information/Game shared in this video is Extremely Powerful. I wish I knew this information when I was in High School because I was a Late Bloomer physically who for some reason Attracted Women abit older than me. It wasn't until 3-4 Years ago that I Really Began to Feel confident in myself physically and emotionally as a Man. Probably the reason why I'm not trying to get married at 31 years of age. Too Busy trying to improve and Build My Inner Self.
growing up inner city - woman wanted drug dealers and i was rejected by darkskin woman. accepted by pretty non black foreign woman or full figure light skin. figured this out in the military
I know how it was especially with Rayfuls around. That's how it is with some chocolate brothas which is why I need to do a video. I was accepted by the light brown and redbone sistas while the chocolate sistas, with a one exception, weren't feeling me. Then women will say we're the colorstruck ones.
Rom Wills , all but AKA woman accepted me in college (ohio) lol, again majority were lightskin back in the 90's. another gd topic, how men really meet woman for me it was in College or at wrk, not in clubs or social events
My imprint was negative from middle school through most of my early twenties. It wasn't until my late twenties and recently that my imprint was broken, mainly thanks to body game. The main woman who broke it was a woman on the job and she's the most attractive woman on my job.
One of Your Best Videos. Ultimately though It's the Nerds, Geeks, and Late Bloomers who predominantly End up winning in Life due to not having that Early Acceptance in Adolescence/High School. #ClassicDiscussion
I don’t really know who I was rejected by, but I know my confidence went up my last year of highschool. My school experience was weird I was cool with a lot of people and girls but I was more playful and friendly with them. I was also really shy to myself and had really low self esteem throughout school to the point of a pretty girl liked me I’d thought it was a prank or she was up to something because I never would hear it from the girl but I would hear it from someone else. Senior year women were more open to telling me themselves and also years of my god bro pushing me out my comfort zone to talk to women helped. I had been single for that year and I became a lot more confident when I saw the caliber of women who found me attractive.
Wish I kne this back oin 95. LOL. This explains a lot about female hypergamy. I felt bad not being acknowledge in highschool . At our one year reunion, I was like what the hell happened to half the girls who went to college. They were already 20 pounds hevier and had the look of being ran through already. AFTER ONE YEAR. Now I wasnt even awaken there as I am now, but man Im glad those women didnt give me the time of day even back then.
its true. indigenous cultures dealt w/ the reality of human nature, how it is on the basest level. western culture deals w/ how they WANT humans to act, not how we actually are
This is a very interesting topic. I know a lot of pretty girls who rejected me back in highschool are overweight with a bunch of kids then got the nerve to try to holla. These women backwards
WOW! I JUST STUMBLED ALONG THIS TOPIC ALTHOUGH IT'S OLD. YOU HIT A NERVE MAN. BECAUSE MY MOM NEGLECTED ME. WHICH IS THAT REJECTION THAT YOU SPOKE OF. I SABOTAGE PLENTY OF RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE I WAS SUBCONSCIOUSLY SAYING TO MYSELF...."IF MY MOTHER COULD LEAVE ME, YOU CAN TOO"...OR I'D SAY "SHE GONNA LEAVE SOONER OR LATER".....DAMN THAT'S SOME DEEP ISH.
You nailed it about the ego-stroking. My mother is very traditional, from the rural country, and told me how that's a woman's main job so the man can be his best version of himself because of how he feels when he's with a particular woman. My dad told me how he was in a horrible, emotionally abusive relationship with his first wife, then he met my mother and sprang from poverty into an elite job in six months. And... I remember EVERY rejection I've had... Every one in vivid detail. The worst one was hilarious though, and I needed to experience it to get out of a slump.
this is some real game from the survivor scrolls. I remember my first imprint by a girl was when I was in 3rd grade. she was in the sixth and had one of her friends to tell me she thought I was cute. Fast forward to middle school in 7th grade I went with 3 different girls and had a 8th grade girl giving me free snow comes at lunch from the snack bar. As you can see that first imprint I encountered made a huge mark on me early in life with girls
Her name was Chelsea. She rejected me from 5th to 9th grade. I wasn't even trying anymore pass 7th grade but would still give me little "ugh" looks from time to time. When we got to 10th grade tho I had lost 40 pounds from playing football and being in the weight room the whole freshman year and summer. One day I was in class laughing at what one of my friend said and she saw me smiling and I saw her out the corner of my eye put her hand over her mouth and heard her tell her friend "You know Dylan kinda cute now". I immediately stopped smiling and shot her a look and stared at her like don't even try it. Cuz at that time she had done gained a good amount of pounds and wasn't as fine as she used to be to me. The first girl I had sex with I didn't even try. She literally just called me up one day and invited me over to her house. I didn't even know how she got my number. She wasn't ugly. Was kinda fine. About an adjustable 5 in the face. Now idc about rejection and know i'ma get mine at the end of the day whether i'm trying or not. All i need to do is be at the right place at the right time and I'll take it from there.
Rom you ain't never lied! I still remember my rejection from my childhood all the way up to now, those thoughts are burned into my memory! I'm cool tho but I thought this subject was interesting! Great stuff!
Ooh okay, so this helps a lot with my question on the other video. I wasn't "The Man" in high school but I was definitely accepted by the Alpha Females. My first high school sweetheart and the one who took my virginity was mixed (B/W) and slim petite from an upper middle class family. My second and the one I took to prom was Mexican and German and while she wasn't necessarily petite (she was about 5'7") she looked like Jessica Alba, so you can imagine the ego boost I got there lol. My mom, while a full BW, is very "light bright and damn near white" This helps me understand more my "tribe" and the women that I overwhelmingly go for and are receptive to my advances as well as my comfort and cockiness when it comes to interacting with women, especially non-black women
Rom Wills; You know what? I think that a big part of the Imprint on me that has caused problems with my relationships with women in life is the fact that I never had a good relationship with My Mother. Then, she passed away before we could ever improve our Mother/Son relationship. What do you think?
Seriously you might want to consider professional counseling to heal those issues. Many men have issues with women because of a bad relationship with there mother. Do what you got to do to heal that issue.
I've been accepted by and even liked by the alpha female and by women who're my preference throughout high school and after, even though I didn't have the swagger, knowledge, or charm that I have now back then. My problem was that my game and closure rate sucked so I never got intimate with any of them. I'm still a youngin though so I don't sweat it now because I got plenty of time to still come across many women, but I used to really beat myself up about it not too long ago.
This hit home big time! I must say that taking the red pill made me look back at all the dumb mistakes I made by allowing negative imprints influence my well being.
Thanks just seeing this. It's awesome information. Helps me understand my son's. Why women of all type chased them. I thought is was they were confident athletic and nice.... Wow thank God I never rejected. However, may be I shouldn't have stroke their egos so much from youth. Even into their adulthood..... Thank you again
That so true my bro my girl and my mother reject me at the same time that really fuck me up I still recovering I could handle one break heart at time but two was to much
My first imprint was in elementary school, and she came to my school from 3rd to 5th grade and I liked her ever since I saw her. She was a twin as well and I remember I had the same class with her in 5th grade and I told my friend at the time to tell her I like her because she cool because I couldn't tell her myself. We were all in the same class together, and he went up and told her, "Then she responded smiling saying well that boy is ugly, and man, that shit broke me. " All the other girls around were laughing, and it was embarrassing.
Rom, I've been watching many of your video's and I gotta say, you are definitely on point with everything you talk about. I appreciate your video's and the knowledge, wisdom and understanding you are sharing with people. I appreciate the way you communicate your understanding and love that you're saying it applies to all groups of people which is true. I wanted to make a comment on something you mention on this Video... You spoke about black men being rejected by black women and how that makes them feel. How it relates to being felt like rejection from their mother in a sense... I can relate to that. I love my mother and always will, but I'm gonna share something from my childhood that affected me all my life and how I view certain women.... My mother showed her kids alot of love and spent time with us, but she wasn't mentally or emotionally mature. When I was 8 yrs old I actually got mad at my mother , yelled at her and had to correct my mother as if I was her parent. She use to ALWAYS make comments to her little kids as if we were her friends about guys, sex, dick, big dick and stuff along those lines.... When I was 8 I yelled at her and told her she shouldn't be talking about sex like that to her kids and that it was wrong.... She laughed like it was funny. She lost my respect at that point... Anyways, I heard that growing up all my life. When I was a teen, it made me think sex was really important. I was sexually active at a very young age. At 13 is when sex became a regular thing to me. At that age I was the most outgoing teen getting all kinds of girls because I thought that being good at sex was the most important thing, because that was what my mother imprinted in my mind. I wanted to make every chick I could be crazy about me. Which I went through my teen years with all the girls chasing me... had my first kid a month before I was 19. I had a daughter.... My whole entire veiw on life changed when I was holding my baby girl on the day she was born. It made me think about all the females I hurt. Made me think of all the dads that had to deal with their daughters having hurt feelings. Made me realize that I was living wrong and it made me feel guilty in a sense and It also made me change my view on females. It made me start treating females with respect and looking at them more then a piece of ass... I still would have 1 nights stands up until I was 23-24 but was honest with females before hand and say I only wanted sex.. Then I started to not feel good about myself when I had a 1 night stand with even very attractive females. I started asking myself, why are these females ok with using my body for sex? Is that all I'm worth to them... Then I started looking at females that talked like or acted like my mother as trash. Talking about sex or dick like she did. Lol I started looking at women like that as disgusting no matter how good they appear to look. Then I also started reading up on psychology on the subject. It helped me learn alot about myself , but also about the behavior of others as well. To this day, any woman that doesn't respect herself, any woman that speaks about sex or dick like my mother did is trashy in my eyes and I keep my distance and would never even concider dating someone that thinks of sex like she's did. I do respect respectable women, but after I see any female acting or thinking of sex like my mother did it's a COMPLETE turn off. I won't even be on a friends level with a chick like that. I'm attracted to intelligent women with morals, goals in life, women focused on mental/emotional growth, women family oriented and women with character. I try not to think negatively or judge anyone on a lower level of thinking, but I stay far away from anyone that is comfortable being small minded or immature like my mother. I don't/ can't get sexually turned on for a woman without having a mental or emotional connection. I refuse to be used. I value myself more then that and started thinking like that around the age of 28. And that grew with time. I'm 34 now and very strong in that way of thinking. I actually get offened if a female express sexual intrest in me if sex is all she's after. I don't want to waste my time or energy on any woman that just wants to use my body. Since I was 30, I actually make females talk to me for about a month or so before I will have sex. I want to see them showing real intrest in wanting to connect with me. I want to see effort from them that I'm the only man they want.... Otherwise, they don't deserve the dick! 😂
And thanks Rom you've been a great help to me and keep up the good work with teaching and helping the male and female of this messed up society...thanks man
I was very extrovert when I was a child, but growing up my way of handling things got me turning to a introvert type of person, scare a man about his sexuality you control his life on the down low
I was always shy when i was younger lol and fought the bullies of the school. I wasn't really interesting in them(girls) but they were. My first time was with a Alpha female but until now she(i don't have contact with here anymore) still thinks i had more partners before her but it was my first time. After that we were fuckbudy's for year lol Professor Rom she was an Alpha Female in the beginning but afterwards i was the Alpha Male and until now that never changed...
so if a guy is getting rejected by the women the reminds him of his mother does that mean that his mother is subconsciously or has secretly rejected her son?
Wow. This deep af! Come to think of it, my mom is a dark skinned urban female & that’s also my imprint with women so when a woman like that rejects me I see why that shit hurt a lil more! I don’t even be caring when females that I never had that imprint with rejects me lol
bro once she strokes my ego i’m already hooked in a sense it’s crazy. i wait for woman to compliment me and it gives me a high. with some woman, i wait for them to compliment me and then i never respond to their text/snapchat again
lets just say im getting acknowledged online like pics are liked on FB OR INSTAGRAM OR EVEN SNAPCHAT by alpha female anywhere from 7-9 chick does that also counts or it has be a face to face thing
this video is the absolute truth when I reflect on my life, but is there anything you can do to reverse that negative imprint so that I stop settling for the overweight mean chic??
Some little boys try to impress their teachers, seeking acceptance. Parental guidance and sex ed seems to do nothing to help kids make good choices. Parents need to be aware of what their kids need as far as sex is concerned and everyone needs to watch out for child molesters.
"Sixth grade ... Cecelia" Perfect. lol I said to myself, "he's talking about Boomer-gen guys: Is he going to stay in- time period with a plausible, non-Ayanna, or Keisha, kinda girls name? " And you came through nicely, in the clutch, on the fly, with "Cecelia". Cool, Rom.
My first was a chocolate big girl. And every since I seem to only have positive interactions with that type. To the point to where they even look similar in appearance. It used to blow me
Oh my God........ Lisa Palmer!!!!!! 6th grade / light skinned and the most beautiful eyes. Totally rejected me and I remember every detail! This subject merits deeper study.... Good looking out! :)
Im over it, i just had flash backs of my middle to highschool self. painful memories that i dont think ive ever gotten over. ive been on my self improvement journey for a while now. still need time.
Mine was a pretty and older Muslim girl wearing the hijab and very quiet and submissive. Took me over 10 years to get over older women. But 20+ years later I still haven't got over pretty submissive Muslim women in hijabs. And greatly irritated by the opposite i.e aggressive / masculine women.
My worst rejection was in middle school. Before that, i was a bit of an arrogant dick, but it got me the attention i wanted. Puberty wasnt very kind to me at the time(deep, DEEP voice at 12 y.o. man tits and acne). To this day, it's definitely caused from mental strife, but guys like Rom and T. Taw, and the clarity of their content, is gonna get me right again, i swear on it.
This is hard for me to admit but I was imprinted at a younger age by my cousin and I struggled with me masculinity for many years I still do but I'm a Jamaican with a fighting spirit so I have to keep that fight to be a man alive for myself and my family...I've been rejected more than accepted by beautiful women yea but I never let it be a problem with me that much...well not to the extent that I decide that I wanna turn gay or anything I love women and always will no matter whatever bullshit they keep up..
I got straight up choosing signals from a beautiful chick in eighth grade but I couldn't work up the confidence to do anything. I feared girls from the way my mom treated me and my father wasn't there to show me how to carry myself.😑😑😥😥
In college a lot of brothers that got treated bad by moms be the ones that be swirling. Like they never even gave the black women a chance cus moms fucked them up and the black women would be feeling them too like choosing them but the bros wouldn’t even look they way.
The Imprint and low self esteem is the reason why a lot of brothers make relationship choices that they wouldn't normally make ie homely, overweight, over bearing women. Even if a pretty girl came their way they would most probably mess that up to, by subconsciously telling themselves they ain't good enough for her.
This stuff is deep. Great video
Yes indeed. I've met so many men who settled for a lessor woman even when an attractive woman would be choosing hard. A man's head can be messed up for life. A man's imprint is harder to clear than a woman's.
Rom Wills How does a man change a male imprint?
Deborah Yisrael the conventional wisdom is actually backwards: black men are more preyed upon than are predators. Men are generally the real prize in relationships. In most cases, women only bring a vagina; usually with a lot of mileage by her thirties and ulterior motives......Men bring love, financial support (even if the woman works) , a bodyguard, garbage hauler, plumber, chauffeur, gardener, snow shoveler, plumber, and a myriad of countless other jobs. Men even do the cooking, cleaning and share of the house work. So much is expected of men. So little is expected of Today's woman. If a man expects sex, its martial rape. If he expects her to cook, he's a chauvinist. If he expects her to clean, he's oppressing her . In modern relationships, the woman's agenda drives the relationship. other than infrequent sex, what do today's women really offer a man? And as for white women.. they are not innocent victims: they prey on black men looking for someone to love them, just like black women do! The majority of Neither group is any good for most men.
+mrS If half of the men who frequent certain types of channels really believed that they were "the prize" in relationships, they would not spend so much time having these "pity parties".
Deborah Yisrael I understand your point about "pity parties" but let me explain: men were sold a 'bill of goods' when it comes to women. The conventional wisdom says that women are these wonderful, deeply feeling and loving creatures that give so much when they LOVE. They will slave for the men they love, often losing the best years of their lives. Men on the other hand are these unfeeling creatures that always have ULTERIOR motives in all interactions with women....THE REVERSE is true. Men are the deep feeling ones, who LOVE. Women are the ones with ulterior motives in their dealings with men. Men love a woman for who she is. Women mercenary. After what a man has...men are the romantic ones. A few years ago, a study by a female sociologist said that ROMANTIC Comedies are bad for MEN because it gives them a false unrealistic idea about relationships. Women know that relationships are work. I agree with this assessment when men love, they open their hearts. Women know that love/relationships are "bullshit" and work; with ALL the WORK being done by the MAN.
Many men thought that if we were good men and did everything RIGHT then we would find princess charming but the reality more often a tyrant in our home that doesn't love us, only what she can take until she gets bored or something "better " comes along...and there's NO WAY to know if the woman in front of you is the girl of your dreams or a big mistake that will take your money, your house, your sanity, your health, your freedom and your children ...THAT 's reason for the "pity party"...
All the women that ever called me unattractive were unattractive to me. But I’m very lowkey so that sat with me. I didn’t realize that I looked a lot better than I thought I did until I got older.
I remember(her name was actual "Jezebel" and the other was "churchy"), but my father was always telling me "You are the one that they need to be checking for, you are the valuable one."
Truth.
Damn I was born an alpha Male but I was so aggressive as a kid , cool, and funny to everyone that my parents and the school in a way brainwashed me to become less of a man and it ruined me as I got older but now watching your vids is bringing me back to my real self thanks rom. I used to check everyone and fear nobody until everyone older around me berated me to the point that I became a passive beta male . Even my dad a simp would tell me to turn the other cheek basically everyday. Though it ruined my chances growing up the man in me won't allow my past to dictate my future
A man's inner nature can't be contained. It will always come out.
Gotta love the information age. Information like this was not readily available or shared when I was younger.
The problem is that much of this info is unknown to the general public.
Rom Wills
Hmm...I agree.
Man, this really resonates with me. Throughout the first 18 years of my life, literally all of my experiences with women were negative, and I was rejected constantly. Although I'm a lot better looking, and in great physical shape compared to how I was when I was young, I still have that same low level of confidence that I had when I was younger and unsuccessful with women. Honestly I don't know how to break out of that mindset.
You have to fight through it one day at a time.
You gotta have the mindset of 'I'm the sh*t'.
Look up Corey Wayne on RUclips. Play chess not checkers 👍🏼👑
I know what u mean fam. Most dudes that go through this have to do some serious work on their confidence and self esteem. As Rom said ‘One day at a time’
Watch Alpha Male Strategies on RUclips. He talks about self improvement to boost men's confidence, swag, and charisma.
Most Men don't have the emotional insight or depth, not to mention the courage for such analysis. Those tools need to be taught to and developed by our young Men. If all your books are this helpful, then you are absolutely on point. Brilliant. I might have to start calling you, "Doctor Wills".
Thanks bruh. Well I plan to do a "How Rom Learned the Game Part 2." I didn't learn everything on the streets. The number of psychologists, therapists, and clinical social workers I've talked to over the years is staggering. Add to that the large number of books I've read that approached relationships from a clinical perspective. Add to that books on Eastern sexual practices. On top of that I have three or four graduate thesis papers I've downloaded off the internet which dealt with the social dynamics of male female relationships. I've put a lot of research into what I present. I just prefer to present the info in a down to Earth manner.
You are a Learned Man indeed Dr. Wills.
Leslie Porter Thank you.
I'm a Women listening to this. Some real knowledge. Thank you Sir for this info. I'm healing a lot of wounds. I don't know how I ended up here, but I'm grateful.
She rejected me in a classy way. Don't hold a grudge against her. She's what sent me down this rabbit hole of seduction. Made me get the player's mindset I have today. So thanks A.
You know, a lot of times you'd like to think you're the only one experiencing or going through a situation until you get it laid out to you from someone else... DAMN Rom, you literally played back a FEW of my experiences... 💯💯💯
The beauty of social media is that we can compare notes.
Man I appreciate you for making this video. Alot of women don't understand how rejection can affect a brother and his mating choices. That's why you see a lot of these MGTOW guys hating women.
Exactly. A woman's rejection can change the course of a man's life.
I think you are wrong about MGTOW hating woman. Mgtow is a response to woman who uses feminism to there advantage to manipulate men into marrying and taking there resources in a divorce settlement. Therefore Mgtow men avoid most western minded women. However a lot of this stuff is socially engineered by the elite in the government to provoke a gender war.
sameer cherian I don't recall mentioning MGTOW by name in this video. I don't have an issue with MGTOW so I don't say anything good or bad. Any resemblance between something I said and MGTOW is purely coincidental.
Lol I was replaying to Bamaboy123.
sameer cherian Okay my bad. Yeah because I know a lot of cats who claim MGTOW and their reasoning. I respect their choice.
Pure game right here. It all makes sense now. I always got the looks from pretty women in middle school and high school I was just kind of shy. I did actually date a few of them now I’m extremely confident as an adult and still get alpha females now. It all stems from the young days.
The Information/Game shared in this video is Extremely Powerful. I wish I knew this information when I was in High School because I was a Late Bloomer physically who for some reason Attracted Women abit older than me. It wasn't until 3-4 Years ago that I Really Began to Feel confident in myself physically and emotionally as a Man. Probably the reason why I'm not trying to get married at 31 years of age. Too Busy trying to improve and Build My Inner Self.
You're on the right path. Men always need to be working on themselves.
growing up inner city - woman wanted drug dealers and i was rejected by darkskin woman. accepted by pretty non black foreign woman or full figure light skin. figured this out in the military
I know how it was especially with Rayfuls around. That's how it is with some chocolate brothas which is why I need to do a video. I was accepted by the light brown and redbone sistas while the chocolate sistas, with a one exception, weren't feeling me. Then women will say we're the colorstruck ones.
To this day I click with AKA type of sistas. That imprint ain't no joke.
Rom Wills , all but AKA woman accepted me in college (ohio) lol, again majority were lightskin back in the 90's. another gd topic, how men really meet woman for me it was in College or at wrk, not in clubs or social events
Joseph Monroe Thanks. I'll write that one down.
***** Thank you.
A classic !!!!!
Thank you.
My imprint was negative from middle school through most of my early twenties. It wasn't until my late twenties and recently that my imprint was broken, mainly thanks to body game. The main woman who broke it was a woman on the job and she's the most attractive woman on my job.
One of Your Best Videos. Ultimately though It's the Nerds, Geeks, and Late Bloomers who predominantly End up winning in Life due to not having that Early Acceptance in Adolescence/High School.
#ClassicDiscussion
That's how it works.
I actually love this mindset, gives me a great way to reframe my early failures. Thanks.
I don’t really know who I was rejected by, but I know my confidence went up my last year of highschool. My school experience was weird I was cool with a lot of people and girls but I was more playful and friendly with them. I was also really shy to myself and had really low self esteem throughout school to the point of a pretty girl liked me I’d thought it was a prank or she was up to something because I never would hear it from the girl but I would hear it from someone else. Senior year women were more open to telling me themselves and also years of my god bro pushing me out my comfort zone to talk to women helped. I had been single for that year and I became a lot more confident when I saw the caliber of women who found me attractive.
Wish I kne this back oin 95. LOL. This explains a lot about female hypergamy. I felt bad not being acknowledge in highschool . At our one year reunion, I was like what the hell happened to half the girls who went to college. They were already 20 pounds hevier and had the look of being ran through already. AFTER ONE YEAR. Now I wasnt even awaken there as I am now, but man Im glad those women didnt give me the time of day even back then.
LOL! That's how it is. Be thankful you dodged some bullets.
@James Smith Man that freshmen life in college changes them . Trust me on that lol
Wow! I am studying psychology and really loved this video. This explains why certain people behave the way that they do. This is your BEST one yet!
To be honest with you study how indigenous cultures classified people. Way more accurate than western psychology.
Rom Wills What do you mean? I took a class in "Multicultural perspectives in human behavior".
Deborah Yisrael Shamans in indigenous cultures will tell you more about a person than any book.
Rom Wills Oh, ok. Someone had mentioned something like that to me years ago.
its true. indigenous cultures dealt w/ the reality of human nature, how it is on the basest level. western culture deals w/ how they WANT humans to act, not how we actually are
This is a very interesting topic. I know a lot of pretty girls who rejected me back in highschool are overweight with a bunch of kids then got the nerve to try to holla. These women backwards
That's how it goes.
WOW! I JUST STUMBLED ALONG THIS TOPIC ALTHOUGH IT'S OLD. YOU HIT A NERVE MAN. BECAUSE MY MOM NEGLECTED ME. WHICH IS THAT REJECTION THAT YOU SPOKE OF. I SABOTAGE PLENTY OF RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE I WAS SUBCONSCIOUSLY SAYING TO MYSELF...."IF MY MOTHER COULD LEAVE ME, YOU CAN TOO"...OR I'D SAY "SHE GONNA LEAVE SOONER OR LATER".....DAMN THAT'S SOME DEEP ISH.
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You nailed it about the ego-stroking. My mother is very traditional, from the rural country, and told me how that's a woman's main job so the man can be his best version of himself because of how he feels when he's with a particular woman. My dad told me how he was in a horrible, emotionally abusive relationship with his first wife, then he met my mother and sprang from poverty into an elite job in six months. And... I remember EVERY rejection I've had... Every one in vivid detail. The worst one was hilarious though, and I needed to experience it to get out of a slump.
this is some real game from the survivor scrolls. I remember my first imprint by a girl was when I was in 3rd grade. she was in the sixth and had one of her friends to tell me she thought I was cute. Fast forward to middle school in 7th grade I went with 3 different girls and had a 8th grade girl giving me free snow comes at lunch from the snack bar. As you can see that first imprint I encountered made a huge mark on me early in life with girls
That's what's up. It makes a difference.
Her name was Chelsea. She rejected me from 5th to 9th grade. I wasn't even trying anymore pass 7th grade but would still give me little "ugh" looks from time to time. When we got to 10th grade tho I had lost 40 pounds from playing football and being in the weight room the whole freshman year and summer. One day I was in class laughing at what one of my friend said and she saw me smiling and I saw her out the corner of my eye put her hand over her mouth and heard her tell her friend "You know Dylan kinda cute now". I immediately stopped smiling and shot her a look and stared at her like don't even try it. Cuz at that time she had done gained a good amount of pounds and wasn't as fine as she used to be to me.
The first girl I had sex with I didn't even try. She literally just called me up one day and invited me over to her house. I didn't even know how she got my number. She wasn't ugly. Was kinda fine. About an adjustable 5 in the face.
Now idc about rejection and know i'ma get mine at the end of the day whether i'm trying or not. All i need to do is be at the right place at the right time and I'll take it from there.
Rom you ain't never lied! I still remember my rejection from my childhood all the way up to now, those thoughts are burned into my memory! I'm cool tho but I thought this subject was interesting! Great stuff!
Ooh okay, so this helps a lot with my question on the other video.
I wasn't "The Man" in high school but I was definitely accepted by the Alpha Females. My first high school sweetheart and the one who took my virginity was mixed (B/W) and slim petite from an upper middle class family.
My second and the one I took to prom was Mexican and German and while she wasn't necessarily petite (she was about 5'7") she looked like Jessica Alba, so you can imagine the ego boost I got there lol.
My mom, while a full BW, is very "light bright and damn near white"
This helps me understand more my "tribe" and the women that I overwhelmingly go for and are receptive to my advances as well as my comfort and cockiness when it comes to interacting with women, especially non-black women
Rom Wills; You know what? I think that a big part of the Imprint on me that has caused problems with my relationships with women in life is the fact that I never had a good relationship with My Mother. Then, she passed away before we could ever improve our Mother/Son relationship. What do you think?
Seriously you might want to consider professional counseling to heal those issues. Many men have issues with women because of a bad relationship with there mother. Do what you got to do to heal that issue.
Rom Wills; thanks man. You're right, I'm working on that already.
damn u gave me the answer to a question I've been searching for for years your knowledge is much appreciated keep up da go work 💯!!
Thank you.
I've been accepted by and even liked by the alpha female and by women who're my preference throughout high school and after, even though I didn't have the swagger, knowledge, or charm that I have now back then. My problem was that my game and closure rate sucked so I never got intimate with any of them. I'm still a youngin though so I don't sweat it now because I got plenty of time to still come across many women, but I used to really beat myself up about it not too long ago.
This hit home big time! I must say that taking the red pill made me look back at all the dumb mistakes I made by allowing negative imprints influence my well being.
Thanks just seeing this. It's awesome information. Helps me understand my son's. Why women of all type chased them. I thought is was they were confident athletic and nice.... Wow thank God I never rejected. However, may be I shouldn't have stroke their egos so much from youth. Even into their adulthood..... Thank you again
You're welcome sis.
That so true my bro my girl and my mother reject me at the same time that really fuck me up I still recovering I could handle one break heart at time but two was to much
My first imprint was in elementary school, and she came to my school from 3rd to 5th grade and I liked her ever since I saw her. She was a twin as well and I remember I had the same class with her in 5th grade and I told my friend at the time to tell her I like her because she cool because I couldn't tell her myself. We were all in the same class together, and he went up and told her, "Then she responded smiling saying well that boy is ugly, and man, that shit broke me. " All the other girls around were laughing, and it was embarrassing.
Rom, I've been watching many of your video's and I gotta say, you are definitely on point with everything you talk about. I appreciate your video's and the knowledge, wisdom and understanding you are sharing with people. I appreciate the way you communicate your understanding and love that you're saying it applies to all groups of people which is true.
I wanted to make a comment on something you mention on this Video...
You spoke about black men being rejected by black women and how that makes them feel. How it relates to being felt like rejection from their mother in a sense...
I can relate to that.
I love my mother and always will, but I'm gonna share something from my childhood that affected me all my life and how I view certain women....
My mother showed her kids alot of love and spent time with us, but she wasn't mentally or emotionally mature. When I was 8 yrs old I actually got mad at my mother , yelled at her and had to correct my mother as if I was her parent. She use to ALWAYS make comments to her little kids as if we were her friends about guys, sex, dick, big dick and stuff along those lines.... When I was 8 I yelled at her and told her she shouldn't be talking about sex like that to her kids and that it was wrong.... She laughed like it was funny. She lost my respect at that point... Anyways, I heard that growing up all my life. When I was a teen, it made me think sex was really important. I was sexually active at a very young age. At 13 is when sex became a regular thing to me. At that age I was the most outgoing teen getting all kinds of girls because I thought that being good at sex was the most important thing, because that was what my mother imprinted in my mind. I wanted to make every chick I could be crazy about me. Which I went through my teen years with all the girls chasing me... had my first kid a month before I was 19. I had a daughter....
My whole entire veiw on life changed when I was holding my baby girl on the day she was born.
It made me think about all the females I hurt. Made me think of all the dads that had to deal with their daughters having hurt feelings. Made me realize that I was living wrong and it made me feel guilty in a sense and It also made me change my view on females. It made me start treating females with respect and looking at them more then a piece of ass...
I still would have 1 nights stands up until I was 23-24 but was honest with females before hand and say I only wanted sex..
Then I started to not feel good about myself when I had a 1 night stand with even very attractive females. I started asking myself, why are these females ok with using my body for sex? Is that all I'm worth to them...
Then I started looking at females that talked like or acted like my mother as trash. Talking about sex or dick like she did. Lol I started looking at women like that as disgusting no matter how good they appear to look.
Then I also started reading up on psychology on the subject. It helped me learn alot about myself , but also about the behavior of others as well.
To this day, any woman that doesn't respect herself, any woman that speaks about sex or dick like my mother did is trashy in my eyes and I keep my distance and would never even concider dating someone that thinks of sex like she's did. I do respect respectable women, but after I see any female acting or thinking of sex like my mother did it's a COMPLETE turn off. I won't even be on a friends level with a chick like that.
I'm attracted to intelligent women with morals, goals in life, women focused on mental/emotional growth, women family oriented and women with character.
I try not to think negatively or judge anyone on a lower level of thinking, but I stay far away from anyone that is comfortable being small minded or immature like my mother. I don't/ can't get sexually turned on for a woman without having a mental or emotional connection. I refuse to be used.
I value myself more then that and started thinking like that around the age of 28. And that grew with time. I'm 34 now and very strong in that way of thinking.
I actually get offened if a female express sexual intrest in me if sex is all she's after. I don't want to waste my time or energy on any woman that just wants to use my body. Since I was 30, I actually make females talk to me for about a month or so before I will have sex. I want to see them showing real intrest in wanting to connect with me. I want to see effort from them that I'm the only man they want.... Otherwise, they don't deserve the dick! 😂
Thanks for sharing your testimony. The first imprint for a boy is the mother.
Good insight bro, wow im 43 you took me back with the notes in class 😁
It worked tho! Thanks bruh.
Yes it did later on in Jr high lol that help set the table.
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This is a very deep. Thank you for this knowledge.
This opened my eyes brother Rom. Thank you
Cot Dam you Hit the nail on the coffin with this one .
Thank you.
Thanks for the share. Learned something.
You're welcome.
And thanks Rom you've been a great help to me and keep up the good work with teaching and helping the male and female of this messed up society...thanks man
You're welcome.
How does a man get over the women that imprinted them ? Serious question for you uncle Rom
Rom i love looking at old videos alot of Game be told here.. !
This explains a lot of colorism and other preferences men fall into.
It can.
Great channel brother!
Thank you brother.
This commentary resonates deeply.
I was very extrovert when I was a child, but growing up my way of handling things got me turning to a introvert type of person, scare a man about his sexuality you control his life on the down low
High Power game dropped in this. A lot of bitter educated lame dudes need to check this.
Yeah that imprint ain't no joke.
You are spewing game in this video
Thank you.
I'm taking notes! Thnk you👏🏾🙌🏽
Great video Rom, very insightful as always. You nailed this one on the head..
Man, if I could do my first imprint all over again and discovered the red pill early on...
I was always shy when i was younger lol and fought the bullies of the school. I wasn't really interesting in them(girls) but they were. My first time was with a Alpha female but until now she(i don't have contact with here anymore) still thinks i had more partners before her but it was my first time. After that we were fuckbudy's for year lol Professor Rom she was an Alpha Female in the beginning but afterwards i was the Alpha Male and until now that never changed...
That's how that works sometimes Dr. Sniper. Hey that sounds like a superhero name.
Call me the equalizer...nah i'm just playing. Very appreciate Professor Rom!
Sniper 11 N.D. Are u from Atl. Sounds like my first time also.😹
@@SweetUareDesi lol no brother. From Belguim and my roots are in Africa. 🙂
so if a guy is getting rejected by the women the reminds him of his mother does that mean that his mother is subconsciously or has secretly rejected her son?
Not really. In many cases a dude will be real close with his mother. So when someone who is her same race rejects that dude it can cause issues.
+Rom Wills yo I like your videos...plan on getting your book. is it only online?
Wow. This deep af! Come to think of it, my mom is a dark skinned urban female & that’s also my imprint with women so when a woman like that rejects me I see why that shit hurt a lil more! I don’t even be caring when females that I never had that imprint with rejects me lol
bro once she strokes my ego i’m already hooked in a sense it’s crazy. i wait for woman to compliment me and it gives me a high. with some woman, i wait for them to compliment me and then i never respond to their text/snapchat again
😂😂😂
Wow, such a powerful thing I haven't heard anyone else.
Uncle Rom could you do a Pt.2 of imprint on men...?
I think I did. Check my archives.
lets just say im getting acknowledged online like pics are liked on FB OR INSTAGRAM OR EVEN SNAPCHAT by alpha female anywhere from 7-9 chick does that also counts or it has be a face to face thing
Depends on your age. Most men are imprinted in their teens.
Fucking masterpiece.
Every man and woman should see this video.
Thank you.
Rom really kicks a lot of knowledge...
Deep stuff Rom. Trying to retrace my first rejections... can’t say I was that select fella 😄
Appreciate u
VERY interesting video, never heard this before...
There a lot of knowledge kept out of the public sphere. Plus there is a lot of knowledge that western science is just now catching up to.
Thank you for this information
How do you fix a negative imprint
You either fight through it or find a beautiful woman to validate you.
Thank you sir
rom have you ever stared at a picture of another man for half an hour? your videos are great to listen to and all....
Just listen bruh. I don't want to hurt anybody's eyes.
you spittin that real talk though man I enjoy absorbing wisdom wherever I can get it so keep at it
Another great video Rom. Do you feel a man have been Imprinted when he is Older?
He can be depending on the woman. It's very rare though.
Honestly speaking since I was a kid 6th grade on up I have always attracted beautiful girls and grown women.
this video is the absolute truth when I reflect on my life, but is there anything you can do to reverse that negative imprint so that I stop settling for the overweight mean chic??
You have to make an effort to get the attractive women. First you have to get over any hurdles in your mind. Then that women has to accept you.
Lmao! 🤣 Yeah Bro Rom! I still remember my 6th grade rejection. Took me back for sec. Thx!
That's how it works.
I appreciate you brother, wish i found this in my younger twenties but its never too late.
Good game, Rom!!!
Thank you.
very good game
Thank you.
Uncle Rom this was right on the money! #Genius
Thank you Smooth.
Some little boys try to impress their teachers, seeking acceptance. Parental guidance and sex ed seems to do nothing to help kids make good choices. Parents need to be aware of what their kids need as far as sex is concerned and everyone needs to watch out for child molesters.
21:29 applies to TFM.... He got rejected by his mother, that's why he is on some other level where it comes to MGTOW.
Interesting.
Which indigenous cultures would be ideal to study?
"Sixth grade ... Cecelia"
Perfect. lol I said to myself, "he's talking about Boomer-gen guys: Is he going to stay in- time period with a plausible, non-Ayanna, or Keisha, kinda girls name? " And you came through nicely, in the clutch, on the fly, with "Cecelia". Cool, Rom.
LOL Thanks.
David Lomax lol
Hello I'm Cecilia.....lol.. To funny😁
And some break my little middle school heart
My first was a chocolate big girl. And every since I seem to only have positive interactions with that type. To the point to where they even look similar in appearance. It used to blow me
Oh my God........ Lisa Palmer!!!!!! 6th grade / light skinned and the most beautiful eyes. Totally rejected me and I remember every detail! This subject merits deeper study.... Good looking out! :)
It's powerful.
@!#@! now i know why im broken inside.......im pissed.
Don't be pissed. Just understand and work on yourself.
Im over it, i just had flash backs of my middle to highschool self. painful memories that i dont think ive ever gotten over. ive been on my self improvement journey for a while now. still need time.
thanks for the information, i have subscribed.
***** Thank you.
If i woman doesnt like me, i look at it as she is doing me a favor..and i keep on truckin.
Appreciate it.
I got accepted
As men we don’t create the babies but we do plant the seeds that forms or becomes the babies. The female is really a host
Mine was a pretty and older Muslim girl wearing the hijab and very quiet and submissive. Took me over 10 years to get over older women. But 20+ years later I still haven't got over pretty submissive Muslim women in hijabs. And greatly irritated by the opposite i.e aggressive / masculine women.
I wonder if MGTOW isn't about this on a subconscious level.
That’s deep.
What if you end up smashing that girl that rejected you years ago
That happens.
Aww shit my homie is in the dmv.... Wheaton/Silver Spring in here yooo
I'm outside of Baltimore but I grew up in DC.
Gimme that chance, I remember.
LOL!
My worst rejection was in middle school. Before that, i was a bit of an arrogant dick, but it got me the attention i wanted. Puberty wasnt very kind to me at the time(deep, DEEP voice at 12 y.o. man tits and acne). To this day, it's definitely caused from mental strife, but guys like Rom and T. Taw, and the clarity of their content, is gonna get me right again, i swear on it.
Damn Rom... Im fucked up, thanks I didnt know.
This is hard for me to admit but I was imprinted at a younger age by my cousin and I struggled with me masculinity for many years I still do but I'm a Jamaican with a fighting spirit so I have to keep that fight to be a man alive for myself and my family...I've been rejected more than accepted by beautiful women yea but I never let it be a problem with me that much...well not to the extent that I decide that I wanna turn gay or anything I love women and always will no matter whatever bullshit they keep up..
I understand.
Interesting 👍
I got straight up choosing signals from a beautiful chick in eighth grade but I couldn't work up the confidence to do anything. I feared girls from the way my mom treated me and my father wasn't there to show me how to carry myself.😑😑😥😥
What do I do rom?
In college a lot of brothers that got treated bad by moms be the ones that be swirling. Like they never even gave the black women a chance cus moms fucked them up and the black women would be feeling them too like choosing them but the bros wouldn’t even look they way.
how do a man change his imprint?
He needs a woman he considers attractive to validate him.
ouch reality huh. Thank Mr. Wills I'll keep that in mind.
Real fucking shit
Uncle Rom, what’s your advice for an 18 year old virgin going off to college?
Take care in your choice of the first woman you sleep. She needs to be quality as far as her personality.
Rom Wills Will do. Thanks for the response.
Can a woman get reimprinted later in life
It takes some very advanced even esoteric techniques to do so.
Pretty face slim thick body is mine lol it’s less racial but white is preferred. I’m black lol 😂