Why You Feel Lonely in Your Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Is it possible to feel lonely when you spend so much time together with your partner in the same space? Absolutely, and it's surprisingly common. Despite raising kids together, eating together, and managing a house together, you can still feel disconnected from your partner. This video explains why and what you can do about it.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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You know something‘s wrong when you start to miss being single
Omg I do miss being single....this is not good.
damn that’s deep
I HV started feeling alone
Same. Single now and I'm happier. It's better to be single than I a relationship and lovely bc your person emotionally neglects you and Invalidates you. Ignored. Blamed. Put on the back burner.
Yes.
You know something is wrong when you have to constantly ask your partner for affection. Even reminding them to greet you with a hug or a kiss
I knew this very well
My heart hurts so much. It is a terrible feeling when you have a lot going for yourself, are healthy, loving, supportive, & respect your partner's need for space, but you just feel worthless because your partner just changed & doesn't prioritize you anymore. We can only be strong for so long before we break
Exactly.... how did you overcome that
@@saintmoises8161 still wondering myself...
@@saintmoises8161the sad part is, you don’t get over it, you learn to live with it. 😔
I am feeling the same in my relationship. I hope you are in a much better place than I am right now.
I've been lonely for so long in my marriage now. For just about my whole marriage I have felt like I was married and single at the same time.
I can relate with that so much
This is me as well.😢
This is where I am. Married and lonely, seeking connection outside of the person who was once my best friend. But I’ve tried communicating, but you can’t really call it communication when your partner doesn’t talk to you.
Hope things have gotten better for u since u posted this
@rajmtrue This is so true. I have tried everything. It's like a prison with the door open.
I was with a man like this. I was 2nd (last) to everything else in his life. I supported
- his career goals
- his time with friends
- his need for alone time
- him financially supporting his mom and sister
I never once complained about those things or tried to change him because i wanted him to feel comfortable and confident in who he was. I figured hed still include me in things, as im not a clingy person i can let my man have a day or 2 or week. But what he wasnt doing was making time for me. I was practically invisible. When we went on dates he was very awkward like nervous energy. I talked to him in the calmest and nice casual way, he had nothing to say when i presented my concerns.
He begged me multiple times to stay. I gave him a small window to correct himself......he dissapeared for a week then came crying with excuses. The end. Its been a year now. I chalked it up to him not being all that into me. But i also feel he needed to mature a bit more as he feared vulnerability in a relationship.
Wow I needed to read this. I couldn’t explain what I was feeling but this is it!
I been in a similar situation….maybe he was a narcissist
I'm sure you're the best woman he could ever have been with. Unfortunately people take each other for granted sometimes, but the worst part comes when they are communicated with & don't change. He likely lacks self awareness &/or the drive to work on himself. I pray you find yourself in a fulfilling, loving, reciprocal relationship soon 💛
I'm currently in a similar situation. He's always working. I see him once a month or twice a month if I'm lucky. We barely talk. If we do talk the last thing I want to bring up is how I feel b/c it's going to start a fight. I support his career as well. I'm always getting the short end of the stick when it comes to him. I care about him. He tells me he "loves" but never tries to make time for me. He knows me not seeing him often bothers me but he never does anything to change it. He's always saying "Ill do better". But not through his actions. I invested so much time on him and money. I'll go all out for xmas, bday, vday. I'd spend hundreds of dollars just for him to get me nothing. I come to my realization that he only does the bare minimum to keep me around. I seriously need to let go 😩
how are you coping now? i am in the same situation a decade of marriage and loneliest ive ever felt and the worst thing is no one understands me :(
This comes with being with a narcissist.
I’ve been with my partner for only 4 months and I feel lonely at least 1-2 times per week
Hey, i was looking for some advice. How are you guys now? I've been with my partner for 2 months and he's got anxiety so he finds it hard to open up and is generally very tired most days leading to us not spending time together as much as I'd like (we're in an ldr) and I've sorta just felt it every day of the week. I've never been this lonely. I realise he's trying his best but it doesn't..i just feel so lonely.
Pretty lonely in my relationship. It’s strange. Glad I’m not married and feeling this way.
I am crying so much during this video. I’ve watched it so many times. Thank you for this.
Feeling lonely sucks, but you are not alone. Nothing will change until you change, so start now✨
Same here
Same 🙏🏾
Over here crying too. Just helpless.
I've never been this lonely with my now ex dismissive avoidant partner. Just too much pain.
Be strong. Your amazing ❤️
but when we communicate the other person thinks that we complain
I don't want to have to ask. I know I'm being proud. Why do i have to ask, we're both here seeing the same things. And im certainly not going to applaud. I can eventually be grateful, but i have so much built up resentment for going it alone for so long at this point.
I pray we can fix this before it’s too late because I can’t do being lonely in a marriage feeling lonely all the time, our relationship was a little better before we got married!
Sounds all too familiar. Like divorce is on the horizon. I have learned that it doesn't matter what you do when that decision has been made.
Almost 17 yrs for us and I feel the same way. I speak up every few months and it gradually goes away again. I don't know what to do. I love him so much, but think more and more about divorce. Then I panic at how much I'd miss him, and how lonely I might be...then I think of how hard it is to have both of those things already still married. Married alone.
he works 13 hours a day, 7 days a week. when he comes home he just wants to eat dinner alone w his movie (in another language i don’t understand). i have to ask him for hugs or hug him first, if not it doesn’t happen at all.
How do you deal with a partner who does not want to communicate
My guess is it’s not that they don’t want to but feel insecure about opening up w/ you. Try couples work, go to a therapist or search for relationship retreats that educate you both of how to communicate w/ o feeling threatened.
Niet 'willen' communiceren kan idd betekenen niet adequaat 'kunnen' communiceren. Misschien is er ASS in het spel? Bovenstaande voornoemde behandelingen van MaryJo kunnen dan ook heel behulpzaam zijn. Erg belangrijk is dan dat de behandeling wordt gegeven door een behandelaar met kennis van Autisme. God bless you!❤
i am actually alone here in New York city and while i am married i am lonely... i want and desire attention, partnership, etc... but instead i get just texts and my partner says thats how we met... that he doesnt even report to his mom as much as he does with me.. oh its a long distance relationship... nothing but excuses i see or feel
So he has you aligned with his mom as far as priorities? That’s a huge imbalance.
She knows everything and its all correct.
my bf is behaving like a darn chilld and i cant take it anymore am trying but its like nothing i do is enough
We are 7k miles away it sucks we cannot be together. Not sure how long this will last.
I bet many in the comments have had affairs just to cope somehow. Not looking for affairs, but if the opportunity knocked too weak to turn it down.
Don’t cheat it will just complicate things and then your partner will have a reason to place blame on you, anyway cheating will not solve the issue.
Feel the same thing, but she is still the best I can see from all others
when am having a serious conversation with my bf he is always on his phone and when i tell him that i want his undivided attention he gets vex
After 25 years of marriage the only connection my wife is interested in is her phone she is cheating on me with social media 😕
Completely broken 💔
On valentines day as well :(
This seemed to put things really well.
He has been going to every stag do. Every long weekend. Leaving me at family get togethers alone for football. I feel like im nothing to him. And worse im starting to not care. I've been putting a lot more effort in my appearance. And thinking of the places I could go and what i would do if I was single. Making plans for if we fell out. Many red flags for us.
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Very informative and timely ❤️
Thank you for posting this video
Thank you ☺ ! stay safe 💛
How about when you feel replaced by their children
You arr letf abandoned by you partner.
lol happy times? I don’t think there really was any. If there was, it probably didn’t included me
Feeling really empty…. 😞
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Happy late from last year
When you ask your wife if she wants to go for a trip to Paris and she says no. What does it mean ?
😂 she doesn’t want
True
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Loneliness is marriage to a narcissist
Anyone ever feel this way and there's nothing wrong in the relationship u just feel like u don't belong with them?