If someone is rude even just to one person, it signifies they are emotionally unwell, and hence speak in that way. Someone whose state of mind is fine, cannot speak or behave wrongly to anyone.
When someone is mean to you, it is because you make them feel insecure. However, you still should not waist your time and energy trying to please others.
You’re describing my coworker to a tee. I ended up reporting her for being so mean and unprofessional 🤷♀️ I didn’t deserve to be treated with such disrespect.
Me too, but I was the one who had to leave because she was there for a long time before me. I hate hierarchy in corporations.. It was pretty traumatic for me, but since I’ve left for a new job far away from her, I’ve never felt happier.
@@booksarefromheaven49 Me neither. It’s likely because they are pathetic and unhappy with their lives so they feel the need to pick on someone else. I’m glad you are able to be far away from that bitch.
@@booksarefromheaven49oh God this is even the worse when they’re there longer than you they have privileges they also have gotten away with this before 😢
You are absolutely right, the mean people who act superior act as though they know their target but they really don't. The wish to believe things about their target because they are jealous or don't feel in control of them, so they choose what they want to believe bad. Those who treat people differently because of their attitude of superiority are showing their real selves, that is their inner heart is manipulative and unkind. Those who are kind and loving are that way toward everyone all the time. It is not in a kind person to be rude even to those they don't particularly like. Those who are only friendly to those they wish to impress are phoneys. Also, those who listen to the gossip of the superior acting person are also at their core rude and mean on the inside. Often we can sense the rudeness even before they open their mouths, they have a body demeanor that exudes their attitude of superiority. And, I have noticed that these rude people avoid those who are confident and bold. Their hatred toward confident people stems from their fear that the other person may be superior to them even if the other person doesn't feel that way. I am convinced rude people know they are and are angry when a kind person comes along and shows them up by being their lovely inner self.
If that person is not a family member and not a person you work with, you can be free to walk out on these type of people because all they know is bullying.
Miss Marie i’ve been watching you since i was a teenager almost 15. I’ve been a graduate for two years now and i think you still look dashing! Love from Egypt💖💖
Going through this now. I’ve been feeling like this girl has been so rude and petty to me for a long time. I’ve decided that this person is not for me. As much I desire to confront this person about the behavior, I know she will turn it around on me. It’s time to move on.
This is the perfect description of my ex "friends". They kept giving me back-handed compliments, insults, making fun of me, etc. But with eachother, they were really nice, caring and kind. I decided to drop them and cut communication with them permanently. They are still together years later, mind you, it shows how strong their friendship actually is compared to mine. And now these arseholes came back to me and are trying to get me to hang out with them. Like i would forget all the insults they'd thrown at me. They think i'm stupid. It's crazy. I keep finding excuses and avoid them. I don't ever want people like that in my life again.
Oof, I find this video at an untimely moment, but it still resonates so much. Months ago I found my boss was being mean, cold and inconsistent with me, yet so motherly and open with everyone else. She would even put her daughter on speakerphone, I guess to show everyone how good of a mom she was? but then she would ignore my need for workplace accommodations or scold me and helicopter around me. I gave it my all in that job, but I guess she must have felt intimidated or offended for correcting her or her colleagues, since I worked as an editor there. Personally I found her demeanor intimidating and unfriendly. I should have let go and move on, but my way of doing that was quitting, which felt cowardly. My pride got in the way, as I felt that my talents weren’t deserved, but really I just felt like a terrible employee all throughout, and couldn’t have the courage to speak up to a superior in whom I lost trust.
It doesn’t matter. Pretend you don’t even notice, it will get to them, because they want you to feel uncomfortable. And who knows, after 6 months, they might really warm up to you. That usually seems to be the way!
Usually, at first, they perceive you as some kind of threat. Then they notice how everyone else kind of likes you. Sometimes giving a small “just because” gift helps. A muffin on their desk. Something like that.
I like your example because this is same as saying time apart from them will have to make them notice their red flags and warm up to you. I mean it needs to start by pretending you don't notice them right. 6 months of separation will have to get them to realize what they did. I mean I have been there. Examples is like whatever mess my brother and my sister in law makes tends to be my fault. I am always the target for blaming all because my mom wants to give them a free pass while wanting to blame me when she is in a bad mood. They don't want to turn to them because is scared to blame them even when they are at fault. They are spoiled. I challenge her if you believe they don't make mistakes, try spending all day with them and then you will see that I am not at fault. She had to find out the truth the hard way. She may still have a habit to spoil them but whatever it takes to get her off my back.
i think it depends on who this person is to you.. if it's a coworker, keep a polite facade, talk to them if necessary with a neutral third party, as my workplace offers those in case of work conflict. if it's a new friend, ask yourself if they are worth the hassle. I've known people like that and they tend to be very pitiful individuals akin to children who are usually socially underdeveloped and thus cannot express themselves in a healthy way. whether you want to understand them or not is up to you, personally I don't find it worth disturbing my inner peace for.
I love all of your videos.....I have viewed every one & I have found them to be extremely informative.... Although I wish that you would have an email where individuals may be able to open up about some of the other "sensitive " social topics that I know that you would be able to share valuable information which is definitely a profound quality that you possess.
Yes my sister in law does this. She slapped my son twice and shook his wrist and yelled at him for playing with her kid. So i told her she should have never put her hands on my child. She ended uo lying so bad i had to apologize to her.
That's happened to me. When I approached a female employee on reception she was very bitchy and toney with me, spoke to me in a condenscending tone but she was very soft spoken and sweet with her staff members, speaks like a sweet little child. Insecurity or superiority complex or narcissistic personality disorder 🤔🤔🤔 two faced people or wolves behind sheeps clothing. Nice to people who they want to be nice to but mean to those who are inferior. it makes me sick.
If their being rude to you for no reason but nice to everyone especially if this is at work, I would just ignore he/her and pretend they don't ever exist in my line of sight every time they appear in front of me or walk past. Why should you even bother asking them in the first place why they are only giving you a cold reception but everyone else he/she is warm with, you're really only giving them the satisfaction and letting them also know in the process that you're bothered by it which is their intent to begin with, you're also making yourself look stupid and they will be laughing at you deep down.
I work with a lady in a grocery store and for some reason we got off on the wrong foot and I couldn't quite put 2 and 2 together on why she doesn't like me and is always rude to me. I did what you said to do in this situation and got her 1on 1 and asked her why she is mad at me all the time, did I do something to offend you. She looked at me and said no you haven't you just remind me of my ex husband. I said oh ..... I'm sorry you feel that way toward me... what I really wanted to ask her was your husband, as good-looking as I am.....
That was no excuse for her to bully you in a grocery store. Anyone in your position would of said that is not my business and I don't need to know about your ex-husband's problems. I am not here to replace your family member and I am not here to become your family member. If you have problems with me, fine, lets not see each other. Can't be your fault that your personality or looks matches to her ex husband after all. I don't blame outsiders for sounding like any of my family members because I don't bring it up and I don't make this drama there business.
Question: my mom keeps records on me like the fbi. My brother 5 years and a few months before he died he told me when he came back from visiting her. She belittles me in front of others and by myself, she berates me in front of others and privately.. she is abusive. when my brother and i were children we were abused by our parents. she is destructive, she is drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes, prob marajuana.. Please help. She intimidates and most of the time when i talk to her on the phone i feel like just DYING!!! she has the whole family what is left of it thinking i'm a hypochondriac. Please help. She treats me like a child. There's so much guild and she's getting older and i worry about her. i was visiting her in 2021 and i believe ihad 7 1/2 hours of seizures. i would shake my limbs would shake and i would then i would fall sleep. then it happened that way over and over seizure sleep seizure sleep. i was pretty helpless. i kept asking her during it if i was having a seizures and she said no. she told my uncle and other ppl that it was dehydration. i saw bright colors and i couldn't make it stop. :( She never took me to the hospital. help????!!!! She also records me on the phone.. idk how i just know it's this strange echo and i can hear my voice. It's like the sound is in the same room like a tv, or something. help... i can't take this anymore. :(((( HELPPPPP :'((
If you react that badly to your mother your body is telling you something. Like stay away. Severely limit contact. Look at your screen name, why would you call yourself that? You are allowing your mother to control what you think of yourself. Black sheep girl yes, around your mother. But what about to anyone else? How about Nicefriendlygirl? Sorry about your mother and how she has treated you. That's tough.
There’s these people at a local group I attend and local church I use to go but I stopped because everyone was always on their side and are too stupid to see through their lies these couple treated me like I’m not even their and sometimes they yell at me like I’m a stupid dog. They claim to be suicide survivors and they’re leaders of a church youth but not trying to judge but after the shit they pull on me I don’t think they’re suicide survivors because I’ve met suicide survivors and they don’t fit the bill and 1 John 3:15 states that if a man hates his brother but says he loves God than he’s still in the darkness and I told them that and they think it’s okay to practice hatred and that I should get over it. I just hate I left that church and group because everyone is on their side and they believe in there lies because they’re stupid that I said you know what I’m out of here because I don’t like being in a place where I’m the only guy people hate and I didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy
You need to be willing to prepare for a divorce because if you cannot detach, this is exactly how your husband sees you as an easy target. Don't let your husband be in charge because if your husband is acting like he is in charge, you give him a power to bully. Remember that husband is not supposed to be superior to wife and wife is not supposed to be superior to husband. Anyone in your positions can come up with thousands of reasons saying they cannot divorce because of etc etc. If you keep thinking that, that is how your husband can take advantage of you. Once you divorce him, it is no longer his job to fix you and no longer your job to fix him.
But sometimes ( not always) the one that is being mean to , may not be all sugar and spice and everything nice.. What is the other person's side of the story..
I feel that people are rude to those who they know they can't manipulate. When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
Bingo!
If someone is rude even just to one person, it signifies they are emotionally unwell, and hence speak in that way. Someone whose state of mind is fine, cannot speak or behave wrongly to anyone.
Well put, thank you!
Maybe not jealousy, but instead envy. Whatever it is, just shine it on.
When someone is mean to you, it is because you make them feel insecure. However, you still should not waist your time and energy trying to please others.
You’re describing my coworker to a tee. I ended up reporting her for being so mean and unprofessional 🤷♀️ I didn’t deserve to be treated with such disrespect.
Me too, but I was the one who had to leave because she was there for a long time before me. I hate hierarchy in corporations..
It was pretty traumatic for me, but since I’ve left for a new job far away from her, I’ve never felt happier.
I don’t understand why some coworkers can be like this. I am sorry she was mean to you
@@booksarefromheaven49 Me neither. It’s likely because they are pathetic and unhappy with their lives so they feel the need to pick on someone else. I’m glad you are able to be far away from that bitch.
good on you! how did the manager solve it? hope they did
@@booksarefromheaven49oh God this is even the worse when they’re there longer than you they have privileges they also have gotten away with this before 😢
People like that aren't nice to know when they are rude to you when you have done nothing wrong!
Sounds like jealousy to me - you are a threat to them.
That's a two faced person
It’s almost always jealousy. Best to ignore/do your best to ignore THEIR hang-up.
These people are not worth your time. Live your best life and smile. Let it eat their lunch!
You are absolutely right, the mean people who act superior act as though they know their target but they really don't. The wish to believe things about their target because they are jealous or don't feel in control of them, so they choose what they want to believe bad. Those who treat people differently because of their attitude of superiority are showing their real selves, that is their inner heart is manipulative and unkind. Those who are kind and loving are that way toward everyone all the time. It is not in a kind person to be rude even to those they don't particularly like. Those who are only friendly to those they wish to impress are phoneys. Also, those who listen to the gossip of the superior acting person are also at their core rude and mean on the inside. Often we can sense the rudeness even before they open their mouths, they have a body demeanor that exudes their attitude of superiority. And, I have noticed that these rude people avoid those who are confident and bold. Their hatred toward confident people stems from their fear that the other person may be superior to them even if the other person doesn't feel that way. I am convinced rude people know they are and are angry when a kind person comes along and shows them up by being their lovely inner self.
If that person is not a family member and not a person you work with, you can be free to walk out on these type of people because all they know is bullying.
Miss Marie i’ve been watching you since i was a teenager almost 15. I’ve been a graduate for two years now and i think you still look dashing! Love from Egypt💖💖
Thank you so much!!
Going through this now. I’ve been feeling like this girl has been so rude and petty to me for a long time. I’ve decided that this person is not for me. As much I desire to confront this person about the behavior, I know she will turn it around on me. It’s time to move on.
"accidentally" call someone in her circle when she's being/talking that way. Let them hear how she is, that they haven't experienced.
This is the perfect description of my ex "friends". They kept giving me back-handed compliments, insults, making fun of me, etc. But with eachother, they were really nice, caring and kind. I decided to drop them and cut communication with them permanently. They are still together years later, mind you, it shows how strong their friendship actually is compared to mine. And now these arseholes came back to me and are trying to get me to hang out with them. Like i would forget all the insults they'd thrown at me. They think i'm stupid. It's crazy. I keep finding excuses and avoid them. I don't ever want people like that in my life again.
this happened to me years ago and now i have 1 friend left
Oof, I find this video at an untimely moment, but it still resonates so much. Months ago I found my boss was being mean, cold and inconsistent with me, yet so motherly and open with everyone else. She would even put her daughter on speakerphone, I guess to show everyone how good of a mom she was? but then she would ignore my need for workplace accommodations or scold me and helicopter around me. I gave it my all in that job, but I guess she must have felt intimidated or offended for correcting her or her colleagues, since I worked as an editor there. Personally I found her demeanor intimidating and unfriendly. I should have let go and move on, but my way of doing that was quitting, which felt cowardly. My pride got in the way, as I felt that my talents weren’t deserved, but really I just felt like a terrible employee all throughout, and couldn’t have the courage to speak up to a superior in whom I lost trust.
Nothing fixes a relationship like that…move on….dont beg for friendships
It doesn’t matter. Pretend you don’t even notice, it will get to them, because they want you to feel uncomfortable. And who knows, after 6 months, they might really warm up to you. That usually seems to be the way!
True! At the point they decide to warm up it may still be a good idea to keep it distant. They have already shown their true colors.
Usually, at first, they perceive you as some kind of threat. Then they notice how everyone else kind of likes you. Sometimes giving a small “just because” gift helps. A muffin on their desk. Something like that.
I like your example because this is same as saying time apart from them will have to make them notice their red flags and warm up to you. I mean it needs to start by pretending you don't notice them right. 6 months of separation will have to get them to realize what they did. I mean I have been there. Examples is like whatever mess my brother and my sister in law makes tends to be my fault. I am always the target for blaming all because my mom wants to give them a free pass while wanting to blame me when she is in a bad mood. They don't want to turn to them because is scared to blame them even when they are at fault. They are spoiled. I challenge her if you believe they don't make mistakes, try spending all day with them and then you will see that I am not at fault. She had to find out the truth the hard way. She may still have a habit to spoil them but whatever it takes to get her off my back.
Your work is great, providing invaluable life coping mechanisms.
i think it depends on who this person is to you.. if it's a coworker, keep a polite facade, talk to them if necessary with a neutral third party, as my workplace offers those in case of work conflict. if it's a new friend, ask yourself if they are worth the hassle. I've known people like that and they tend to be very pitiful individuals akin to children who are usually socially underdeveloped and thus cannot express themselves in a healthy way. whether you want to understand them or not is up to you, personally I don't find it worth disturbing my inner peace for.
I love all of your videos.....I have viewed every one & I have found them to be extremely informative....
Although I wish that you would have an email where individuals may be able to open up about some of the other "sensitive " social topics that I know that you would be able to share valuable information which is definitely a profound quality that you possess.
Yes my sister in law does this. She slapped my son twice and shook his wrist and yelled at him for playing with her kid. So i told her she should have never put her hands on my child. She ended uo lying so bad i had to apologize to her.
She's like that one internet mom that you never had who has all the advice.
That's happened to me. When I approached a female employee on reception she was very bitchy and toney with me, spoke to me in a condenscending tone but she was very soft spoken and sweet with her staff members, speaks like a sweet little child. Insecurity or superiority complex or narcissistic personality disorder 🤔🤔🤔 two faced people or wolves behind sheeps clothing. Nice to people who they want to be nice to but mean to those who are inferior. it makes me sick.
I've just "re-discovered" your great videos again after a long absence. (My house burned down!). I'm so glad that I'm seeing them again. Thank you !
Good morning and happy Thursday Marie! Thanks for more excellent advice! Have a great day ahead awesome friend! 😊☀😎
Keeping it short and brief it is and really works best!
If their being rude to you for no reason but nice to everyone especially if this is at work, I would just ignore he/her and pretend they don't ever exist in my line of sight every time they appear in front of me or walk past. Why should you even bother asking them in the first place why they are only giving you a cold reception but everyone else he/she is warm with, you're really only giving them the satisfaction and letting them also know in the process that you're bothered by it which is their intent to begin with, you're also making yourself look stupid and they will be laughing at you deep down.
Thank you. I needed this today.❤
Jealousy
Thank you my friend ♥
I work with a lady in a grocery store and for some reason we got off on the wrong foot and I couldn't quite put 2 and 2 together on why she doesn't like me and is always rude to me. I did what you said to do in this situation and got her 1on 1 and asked her why she is mad at me all the time, did I do something to offend you. She looked at me and said no you haven't you just remind me of my ex husband. I said oh ..... I'm sorry you feel that way toward me... what I really wanted to ask her was your husband, as good-looking as I am.....
That was no excuse for her to bully you in a grocery store. Anyone in your position would of said that is not my business and I don't need to know about your ex-husband's problems. I am not here to replace your family member and I am not here to become your family member. If you have problems with me, fine, lets not see each other. Can't be your fault that your personality or looks matches to her ex husband after all. I don't blame outsiders for sounding like any of my family members because I don't bring it up and I don't make this drama there business.
Question: my mom keeps records on me like the fbi. My brother 5 years and a few months before he died he told me when he came back from visiting her. She belittles me in front of others and by myself, she berates me in front of others and privately.. she is abusive. when my brother and i were children we were abused by our parents. she is destructive, she is drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes, prob marajuana.. Please help. She intimidates and most of the time when i talk to her on the phone i feel like just DYING!!! she has the whole family what is left of it thinking i'm a hypochondriac. Please help. She treats me like a child. There's so much guild and she's getting older and i worry about her. i was visiting her in 2021 and i believe ihad 7 1/2 hours of seizures. i would shake my limbs would shake and i would then i would fall sleep. then it happened that way over and over seizure sleep seizure sleep. i was pretty helpless. i kept asking her during it if i was having a seizures and she said no. she told my uncle and other ppl that it was dehydration. i saw bright colors and i couldn't make it stop. :( She never took me to the hospital. help????!!!! She also records me on the phone.. idk how i just know it's this strange echo and i can hear my voice. It's like the sound is in the same room like a tv, or something. help... i can't take this anymore. :(((( HELPPPPP :'((
If you react that badly to your mother your body is telling you something. Like stay away. Severely limit contact. Look at your screen name, why would you call yourself that? You are allowing your mother to control what you think of yourself. Black sheep girl yes, around your mother. But what about to anyone else? How about Nicefriendlygirl? Sorry about your mother and how she has treated you. That's tough.
How do you deal with people who tell you to smile more?
There’s these people at a local group I attend and local church I use to go but I stopped because everyone was always on their side and are too stupid to see through their lies these couple treated me like I’m not even their and sometimes they yell at me like I’m a stupid dog. They claim to be suicide survivors and they’re leaders of a church youth but not trying to judge but after the shit they pull on me I don’t think they’re suicide survivors because I’ve met suicide survivors and they don’t fit the bill and 1 John 3:15 states that if a man hates his brother but says he loves God than he’s still in the darkness and I told them that and they think it’s okay to practice hatred and that I should get over it. I just hate I left that church and group because everyone is on their side and they believe in there lies because they’re stupid that I said you know what I’m out of here because I don’t like being in a place where I’m the only guy people hate and I didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy
2 church members
You mean like my Husband?
You need to be willing to prepare for a divorce because if you cannot detach, this is exactly how your husband sees you as an easy target. Don't let your husband be in charge because if your husband is acting like he is in charge, you give him a power to bully. Remember that husband is not supposed to be superior to wife and wife is not supposed to be superior to husband. Anyone in your positions can come up with thousands of reasons saying they cannot divorce because of etc etc. If you keep thinking that, that is how your husband can take advantage of you. Once you divorce him, it is no longer his job to fix you and no longer your job to fix him.
This girl is rude to me at school but nice to everyone and I know it's because of jealousy
Be around jelly difficult person? Nah I'm good. You burn bridge between us , take the consequences for your "thoughtful" behavior
Sounds like Chenekwa
You invite them to dinner
But sometimes ( not always) the one that is being mean to , may not be all sugar and spice and everything nice.. What is the other person's side of the story..