I'm a bit older and I'm Still Open to Learning about Relationships... Thankyou for Sharing Yourself!! And Congratulations on your New Relationshipโค๐XOXO
Interesting, I never had any issues with being gay when in school. I was born in 1961, nobody ever tried to beat me up for being gay. Nobody really knew me that way except my best friends and they never mentioned it and when I told them before we all graduated, they still accepted me. I never hid who I was, I thought I was the only one who never experienced hate for being gay. I was a foster, so I really didn't have parents growing up since I was never really adopted. I sometimes feel guilty about not going through hardships because I was gay, lots because I was a foster but never because I was a gay, lol. In today's world here in Florida, I feel like it might be an issue, sadly. An issue I don't want to have in my senior years. Thanks for sharing Rich!
Rich, I love hearing your story. I know I have heard it many times in our many camp outs we did with Different Spokes. But this is a really awesome interview.. Great story to hear and to share with others.
My experience was really similar. I'm 56 and grew up in Wichita, Kansas. I started to self-identity as gay around age 10, and I started to disclose to friends around age 12. My family was progressive and supportive, as were my friends. Even though I was selectively out in high school, I'm sure the word got around, but I was masculine-presenting, a big guy, and confident with who I was, so I didn't get picked on like some of the effeminate boys who weren't even out. I stood up for them when I could, though. I had a friend my age who experimented with me. He was definitely attracted to girls and identified as straight, but open to exploring. I remain baffled when I run across someone who is terrified of being found out and still "use" as cover women who are unknowing and victims of their husband's self-loathing closet. Life is so much easier when you own your queer identity.
Not saying you didn't face challenges, but your physical attributes definitely helped a lot for sure! Yes, I've had numerous guests who consider themselves effeminate, and they had the hardest time, especially in middle school. To be fair, though, when it comes to gays in heterosexual relationships, there's a lot more to consider, especially for those who are 20 years or so older than you. There are several videos on the channel that discuss these circumstances... .
Widowed, 60 and sober, and a serial monogamist, the landscape of gay courters is riddled with alcoholism, mental health issues, Oedipus complexes, emotional immaturity and promiscuity. Now alone and older, I'm very selective going forward. I'm becoming more accepting of being solitary, but I do still believe there could be magic on any given horizon.
faboulous this is the way world should be. sexuality is private no one must confess or accept the difference , we are all different from the others , who cares if one is tall fat bold or blue eyed ? nobody does ! so it should be the same about sexual orientation ! so useless to explain ยซ your life is different ยป great family great parents. great guy !
interesting what u said about being open mind in fact i realized that a relationship i had decades ago might have lasted if i were less possesive but 40 years passed since ...
@@lgbtqarchives well i am always nostalgc of the people i loved .. ( m & w)after all i spent with them some time of my youth life only one i am not nostalgic but he was a guy that loved creating problems ! few others i have been in contact all my life even if at 6 k km apart ... 60 years ๐๐ by now
what i love in listening these experiences of life , is that i review mine and similitudes we all lived so is a sort of psico analysis i realize we r all the same and very often traumas fears and this stupid ยซ coming out craze ยป is due to an education that nailed in our mind that love another man is sin. abomination and shameful
we all have a potentiel to be bisexual some can perfectly live love another man or woman or the two , we have been educated grown that reality is a man and a woman ( for reproduction is correct ) love attraction sex has no boudaries the proof is how many men experience during their life same sex love attraction and so on this is again a wrong assumption of our society religion education that was wrong ,that we could not have sex attraction feel love with same sex a rose does not match with an orchid nor a horse with a cow but YES WE CAN love same sex !
๐๐ข๐๐ก ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐๐ค shares his 'growing up gay' and 'Coming Out' story in Southern California.
Thanks Rich, you nailed it - many gay guys went through what you described.
I'm a bit older and I'm Still Open to Learning about Relationships... Thankyou for Sharing Yourself!! And Congratulations on your New Relationshipโค๐XOXO
When I was young, Rich would have been my dream. I wish I had had role models like this. โค
Thank you ๐ for sharing. Your story is paralleled by many of us ๐
Thank you so much for sharing your story โค๏ธ.
I agree with you.
Interesting, I never had any issues with being gay when in school. I was born in 1961, nobody ever tried to beat me up for being gay. Nobody really knew me that way except my best friends and they never mentioned it and when I told them before we all graduated, they still accepted me. I never hid who I was, I thought I was the only one who never experienced hate for being gay. I was a foster, so I really didn't have parents growing up since I was never really adopted. I sometimes feel guilty about not going through hardships because I was gay, lots because I was a foster but never because I was a gay, lol. In today's world here in Florida, I feel like it might be an issue, sadly. An issue I don't want to have in my senior years. Thanks for sharing Rich!
Wise words. Thank you for sharing.
Rich, I love hearing your story. I know I have heard it many times in our many camp outs we did with Different Spokes. But this is a really awesome interview.. Great story to hear and to share with others.
Great story... wishing you the best.
My experience was really similar. I'm 56 and grew up in Wichita, Kansas. I started to self-identity as gay around age 10, and I started to disclose to friends around age 12. My family was progressive and supportive, as were my friends. Even though I was selectively out in high school, I'm sure the word got around, but I was masculine-presenting, a big guy, and confident with who I was, so I didn't get picked on like some of the effeminate boys who weren't even out. I stood up for them when I could, though. I had a friend my age who experimented with me. He was definitely attracted to girls and identified as straight, but open to exploring. I remain baffled when I run across someone who is terrified of being found out and still "use" as cover women who are unknowing and victims of their husband's self-loathing closet. Life is so much easier when you own your queer identity.
Not saying you didn't face challenges, but your physical attributes definitely helped a lot for sure! Yes, I've had numerous guests who consider themselves effeminate, and they had the hardest time, especially in middle school. To be fair, though, when it comes to gays in heterosexual relationships, there's a lot more to consider, especially for those who are 20 years or so older than you. There are several videos on the channel that discuss these circumstances... .
Best advice
What a hunk !! your gorgeous! You were fine as a young guy but handsome now with the beard!
So proud of you, handsome man. It can definitely be a struggle.
The ones from hardcore religious families had it real hard. I've had a few guest speakers who came from that type of situation.
Widowed, 60 and sober, and a serial monogamist, the landscape of gay courters is riddled with alcoholism, mental health issues, Oedipus complexes, emotional immaturity and promiscuity. Now alone and older, I'm very selective going forward. I'm becoming more accepting of being solitary, but I do still believe there could be magic on any given horizon.
And yet many people do have successful long-term relationships.
faboulous
this is the way world should be. sexuality is private no one must confess or accept the difference , we are all different from the others , who cares if one is tall fat bold or blue eyed ? nobody does ! so it should be the same about sexual orientation ! so useless to explain ยซ your life is different ยป great family great parents. great guy !
interesting what u said about being open mind
in fact i realized that a relationship i had decades ago might have lasted if i were less possesive but 40 years passed since ...
Seems like you still think about it. Must've been special.
@@lgbtqarchives well i am always nostalgc of the people i loved .. ( m & w)after all i spent with them some time of my youth life
only one i am not nostalgic but he was a guy that loved creating problems !
few others i have been in contact all my life even if at 6 k km apart ... 60 years ๐๐ by now
Not relevant to this channel, but I would like to know what Mr. Haluschak does at Art Center. (Teacher? Administrator?) GREAT school!!
Heโs in charge of accounting and finance.
@@lgbtqarchives Somebody's got to do the dirty work!
what i love in listening these experiences of life , is that i review mine and similitudes we all lived
so is a sort of psico analysis
i realize we r all the same and very often traumas fears and this stupid ยซ coming out craze ยป is due to an education that nailed in our mind that love another man is sin. abomination and shameful
I love โค๏ธ you man love to meet you sometime โค๏ธ ๐
Your very a hawt guy โค
we all have a potentiel to be bisexual some can perfectly live love another man or woman or the two ,
we have been educated grown that reality is a man and a woman ( for reproduction is correct )
love attraction sex has no boudaries the proof is how many men experience during their life same sex love attraction and so on
this is again a wrong assumption of our society religion education
that was wrong ,that we could not have sex attraction feel love with same sex
a rose does not match with an orchid nor a horse with a cow
but YES WE CAN love same sex !