what questions should i ask her to know that she is the right woman Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem
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Narrated Jarir bin Abdullah:
I gave the pledge of allegiance to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) for the following:
1. offer prayers perfectly
2. pay the Zakat (obligatory charity)
3. and be sincere and true to every Muslim.
Sahih al-Bukhari 57
Unfortunately doing enquiries about people before 'interview' is not fair either sometimes. My father and I (as the eldest sibling) are fair, just and kind people in every way, yet we have neighbours and 'family-friends' who tell lies about us and drive away good families who ask about my siblings regarding marriage. It is not even matters of dispute that they say- they tell out-right lies and it drives me crazy. May Allah give us all patience and strength of character
Ameen. I don't understand what they gain from this
It's funny that under sharia, they'd get 80 lashes for slandering
Same situation. My mother is a revert and Alhamdulilah she’s doing great, my father and mother are religious, gives charity to literally everyone they can and taught us the best of qualities and we have a very blessed life by the grace of Allah but unfortunately our close relatives(fathers side) dont like how my mom is doing better than them, how my father protects her from all the accusations they make towards her and us and how jealous of how happy we are and has tainted our image everywhere. All praise be to Allah they are notorious among out family to be troublesome people so they didn’t hurt much but they do say everything worse about us whenever they can.
May Allah keep us safe from these kinds of people. Ameen
@@NadeemAhmed-nv2br how is it funny?
Don't worry, their lies will turn into Hassanat for you without any effort from you AND the right spouse Allah has will reach you regardless of what lies they spread against you.
You're quite right Sheikh. One should check on her with everybody. My nephew married a girl wearing niqab, she said she prays 5 times, knows shariah. But after marriage, he discovered she is worst than a devil. She practiced black magic
Subhanallahi
Hmm, a very common scenario nowadays.
B r u h
Scary
😬😬😬😂
Thanks for your motivateable lecture.May bless you to upload plenty of video coming days.
MashaAllah really helpful
JazakAllah
بارك الله فیكم
Jazakallah shaikh
The fear and dangers of social media scared me to the point I never joined any
I’ve always been around my family and that it.
Apparently people like to tell speak good of me, yet I’m expired my health is deteriorating and single
Please make duaa for me, I’m worried what my future holds, alone and confused
لا اله الا انت سبحانك اني كنت من الظالمين
I really want to get married but I feel like everything is against my odds. I always make dua that Allāh can give me a spouse in this dunya.
May Allah make it easy for you brother/sister. If not in this life, then you will definitely get one in the hereafter
If u think negativly about allah, then you will get negative results. Dont think the odds are stacked against me, think allah is preparing something wonderful for me and in order for me to get that, i must go trough some difficulties first.
JaaZakallah Khairr Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem
Assalamu Alaikum Sheikh
In the beginning of this video I saw you controlling your smile😊. Subhan Allah, you seem to be very romantic. May Allah bless you. In Shaa Allah will see you in Jannah if not in this Dunya.
😂👽
May ALMIGHTY ALLAH SAVE US FROM SINS AMEEN
Dawah to Christians
Matthew 24:36
" But of that day and hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only."
This is a definite proof that the final hour is unknown to any but Allah, thus Jesus' knowledge is imperfect like all other men; Allah Alone is All-knowing, omniscient.
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu
I request all muslim brothers to share this .
Subhan Allah
@@ummzubair3560
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu
Matthew 14: 23
" And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray....."
If Jesus is god or a part of God then why did he pray? In fact, prayer is always from a submitting,needy and dependent one for the mercy of almighty Allah as mentioned in the Qur'an :
" O mankind! It is you who stand in need of Allah but Allah is rich ( Free of all wants and needs), worthy of all praise" ( V.35:15).
And in ( V.19:93) of Qur'an:
" There is none in the heavens and the earth but comes into the Most gracious ( Allah) as a slave.
I request all of you to share this.
Asalām-Alaykum. I recommend and I advise not to do this. Christians are crafty, they will bring their own interpretations, exegesis, other verses. It will make a Muslim enter into a debate with their scripture of which he has no proper knowledge of and what not.
I recommend you to put the Book of Allāh and His Oneness, and explain how the previous scriptures have become corrupted and how we believe in the previous Prophets and give them evidences from the Qur'ān and the Hadīth.
@Tahmid Alpha12 if I know I will answer inshallah.
But i can show her the right way with the grace of Allah...
even though her past was not the way it must have been.. we will learn and grow and lead one another to the righteous path. Insha Allah
This is a very huge mistake, never try to be captain-save-a-hoe , a girl always drags you to her level, you won't be and shouldnt try to help them out of a mess
People cannot change their behaviors easily. Never risk marrying a person with a hope of them changing in the future. She/he will disappoint you in most cases…
Sheikh, a video on back biting. in the video even if the man went to the people who are near to the girl should they talk something about the girl that she might not like in her presence. Also criticising a sinner(or an opresor)in his,her absence, is it backbiting or not.
Or talking of a bad habit or maybe a sin(it may be against the Qur'an even) and suddenly giving eg of someone in his absence..what will that be?
Back biting is a huge minor sin. It is so frequent today. So having clarity and understanding it is a necessity today.
What about those who have no social media at all? I personally don't have anything else except youtube. Like people are never able to know anything about me. Mostly bc of that and bc I don't have many friends or hardly go out💀😅
Same here. I also don’t have any super close friends and I’m the only one in my family who is practicing like with proper hijab and most of my family have issues with aqeeda (like follow ashari creed or deny the punishment in the grave) 🙃 it is very difficult. May Allah find us good, upright husbands
@@GRIMOASIS may Allah guide your family ukhti! Amin. My family also has quite some issues with the Sunnah. Like they practice biddah😔I also practice proper Hijab Alhamdulillah and it has been difficult for both me and my sister as she also wears correct hijab. But now they are too tired to say anything🙃 Alhamdulillah i have gotten to know some very good sisters through my sister and one ukht in particular is very knowledgeable allahumma barik and she is like a big sis for all of us😭😭she tries to find a partner for all the single sisters she knows😭and Allahumma amin!! I guess we are both pretty young so know is the time to gain more knowledge and prepare for marriage in sha Allah
Ask yourself if you are the right man for her or just want to marry her mostly because of her beauty or anything else superficial. Many expect so many things from their wifes while they themselves offer next to nothing
Indeed
But beauty is also a reason why people marry.
Or the other way around.
It might be that simple when marrying in same culture but when people are from different places and culture, you need to learn more about the person. Something considered good in one culture might be rude in another.
InterContinental marriage will be difficult, but I think islamic Sharia law is logical and easy to implement, but people make it difficult, some ask money car house etc ..
May Allah make it easy for all of us
Barakkallahfeek
@@ebuqble33 Asking for dowry isn't a part of Islam. Cultures shouldn't be followed.
My suggestion for additional non-religious characteristics: you can talk with him/her like a friend. because he/she will be your close friend for a long time, you will talk a lot with him/her.
Yes, only after marriage.
What if he's a good man but I have no chemistry with him? He even has that one religious trait that I was hoping for in a future husband, but I'm not attracted to him. Allah knows best but I don't think I really have other good chances to find someone especially that I'm 30 and quite plain. I've prayed istikhara but I'm yet to know how to react. I have no idea what to do.
Sister'It sounds like the person you’re talking to has all the qualities you’re looking for, but you are not sure about your level of attraction and feelings of love towards him.
Ask yourself this: If you were to fast forward a few years, would you have the same hesitations about this person? What is most important to you about a potential husband, and does this man have these characteristics?
Sometimes, in our attempt to seek something better, we overlook the blessings we have. You alluded to that, as you mentioned that you consider him to be a “perfectly great guy” otherwise.
Attraction is important, but often times, it’s the personality and the companionship that builds the attraction over time. If you align in all the important ways, and you feel that you both have a connection, and he is respectful and supportive, then those feelings of attraction and love will develop as you spend more time with him and as you take your relationship to another level.
Consider giving him a chance-it’s not wasted time. Relationship building takes time and a certain leap of faith. He sounds like he is a man with character and depth. If this is your first real and authentic experience, then ask yourself if you’re subconsciously drawing upon your experience talking to attractive men with no “substance” and pushing him away because of that.
Of course, it’s important not to settle in marriage just because you’re getting older. But if this person has all the characteristics you’re looking for, and your feelings are still developing towards him, then it might be wise to give him a chance and pray that God opens your heart
MAY ALLAH SWT GUIDE u and make it easy for u and grant you true' happiness in this world and the next and bless u and be please with u ameen summa ameen. I truly hope inshallah u will get the best spouse for u who really cares for u ameen ya rabb
Attraction is important, do not overlook it
If you have no chemistry with him how could the relationship possibly work out. One of the purposes of marriage is to protect yourself from haram and if theres no attraction this could be very difficult.
what do you mean with 'no chemistry'? and for istikharah I need to make sure you know the function of istikhara and how to do it correctly (my understanding I got it from sheikh mufti menk and others). Before istikharah, you need to analyse and make your decision. Istikharah means asking help from Allah to choose what you have decided. If it is good, Allah will make it easy for you, and if it is not good Allah will make it harder for you (you need to be really careful with the signal from Allah, so you need to increase your taqwa especially in this circumstance). for e.g sheikh said: when you decide that she's maybe a good wife and you do istikharah, the next day you get information that mentions she is a good woman, and so on.
Sounds like you need to learn to appreciate him as a good man or leave him alone
Ask her if she can make a roti. That's the only question you need if your a Pakistani
Allah (SWT) said: impure men are for impure women. If someone was impure in his previous life time but repented, will he still get an impure lady or will he get a lady who also used to do Zina but repented. So my question is, is it a like for like matching or whether you repent or not u will still get an impure woman? Please answer!
Previous life??? Nothing such mentioned in Islam brother...
Maybe or maybe not, Allah knows best. But to my knowledge, Allah(swt) says in surah al-imran, interpretation of the meaning is, the one who repents after sinning is just like the one who never committed the sin.
@@al-khashiyoun375 yes but they must do it sincerely and mean it.
@@testacc3978 yes
@@LazyPepe2359 I meant earlier in life sorry
What if the first wife know that her husband get nikkah other women and the first wife tell her husband that she want that her husband talaq to the second wife can husband say no to he's first wife..
Yes
It s not her who makes the decision
Husband can 4 wives he doesnt need anybody’s permission, 4 wives is his right in islam.
You can put conditions on your nikkah before marrying that my husband is not allowed to take 2nd wife and you as women has a right to put it there.
Please put that on your marriage contract so that you don't have to put up with it!
How do u get divorce from your husband who has neglected u n kid for yr no communication can l get it from his family
Salamu alaikm sister,
It is better tell an imam or the elders to talk to him and try to rebuild the family specially if you have kids. If he don't have any Sharhi excuse, take a promise from him that he won't neglect you and your kids anymore. If that didn't work and you have strong reasons for divorce, talk to an imam who has listened to you and your husband to get a Khulh, which a divorce letter from you to the husband.
@@RibazFont But l don't need him anymore l can't ever trust him,l have no. Love for him,n no respect the only thing l need is divorce .okay even if l want to ,how can we talk he doesn't want to pick up ,so how cam the Iman even talk to him like it's confusing
@@nkangiakramssaavakulumba9523
Go to your trusted scholar, or Imām, consult them. Don't ask for advices on the internet by laymen, over a serious topic which determines your life.
Raid, burn and pillage his house
@@ashbringer78
A'ūdhūbillāh.
If you do that they will kick you out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Sheikh joke😄
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Who are "sufi"
It's a muslim sect.
Sufi = A member of Sufism. There's many different types of Sufis and Sufism itself and because people don't know much about Sufism and the different types of it or have only seen a specific group/sect (ie. "Spinning men" Darwish,, "Turban wearing men with eyeliner" Deobandi, Naqshbandi etc.), they (mostly Muslims) make fun of them and mock the way they practice or call them Kafir, authubillah.
The Sufis I have seen are Sunni Muslims from the Shafi'i madhab, they follow the Qur'an, Hadith and Sunnah, practice Dhikr after each Salah, in either a quiet or vocal tone. They also chant praises to Allah (swt) and the Rasulullah (saw) in group settings ever so often.
Something I rarely see other Sunnis do so passionately (if at all).
That's all I can say from personal interaction, I'm sure there is a lot more behind it.
Allah knows best.
@@K.BT. thank you for your reply....much appreciated
First reply. Haha please reply huda tv. give me a good hadith.
The Prophet (ﷺ) has said, "He who believes in Allāh and in the Last Day, let him speak good or stay silent."
STOP talking
Get lost
@@theradfactor9104
Nobody can stop me.
I just started to fight the mouchrekeen.
Allaah ❤❤❤The Almighty is my Witness Teacher Leader and Protector.
A3oudoubillaah ❤❤❤The Almighty Will INTERVENE.
Woe to the mouchrekeen
Not a great answer.
How?
Give us a great answer
@@pathofthesalaf ask her if she had previous relationships with men(boyfriends). If she says yes then say goodbye and leave. If she says no then stick with it. If she says yes but says she repented, it's up to you the groom to decide if you want to marry or not.
@@DARTH-R3VAN she is not obliged to expose her previous sins.
@@SaifKhan-lq1sp according to what evidence???
Marriage is overrated. Nothing good comes out from it nowadays. Best advice I can offer you is to control your hormones by fasting Monday and Thursday regularly. It works well for me.
Or marry someone who also fasts monday and Thursday ☺️
Marriage is not overrated but it completes half the deen
@@sophiaaj4353 that’s only true if it’s a successful marriage. I know by experience what a toxic marriage does to a family.
The guidance of the Prophet sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam is the best guidance.
@@Mjr8976 I see that you've seen the dark side of the marriage, but always there the other side, right? in every generation, there will be good and bad persons, so you choose the good person.