My husband and I are a team‼️ It’s deeper then money, it’s about the spiritual, and mental for us. Because if a woman or a man can stimulate your mind with a real life conversation. That’s a keeper.
Shuler, you are preaching! My wife and I are equally yoked, but not in the conventional since. Our financial situation isn't what makes our situation work. The ends are more than meeting, but she completes my half to make me whole. She calms my spirit when I'm agitated, aggravated or annoyed. I am her solitude, her support, her anchor, and etc. We uplift, support and bring multiple talents to the table to make the ship sail, and the engine run smoothly. I support her, she supports me, and we need and support each other! Teamwork makes it all work!!
Thanyou Shuler. Finally someone has defined this question correctly and answered correctly. The thinking of this world is so messed up. I hope many men see this video.
@Nicole mcelroy With all do respect you do understand that it takes two to make a child. Men give the women the seed to make said child. Please tell me you do know that you can't make a baby on your own. Even if you make a child through artificial insemination you still are using the sperm of a man and that's the bottom line.
My grandmother brought to the table her beauty and her youth. She brought her homemaking skills that included grocery shopping, cooking meals, packing lunches, cleaning, laundry and keeping a fine home. She brought to the table sexual access and birthed 11 children and was the primary caregiver for all of them and was the babysitter for us grandchildren. She brought to the table constant support and companionship for 50+ years of marriage until death departed them and she passed first.
Shuler told the REAL DEAL in 7 minutes. 👏🏽👏🏽 Quicker and more profound than ALL the male AND female podcasters have EVER done. Common sense isn't common anymore.
I have a friend who married at 45. Financially, she brought nothing to the table and nor did her husband expect it. He wanted a friend, a companion and someone who had his back. He had no problem being a provider. They work well together. She keeps a nice house, manages their affairs, runs the errands, she prepares awesome meals and even bakes home made goodies. He keeps the bills paid and makes sure she is provided for. In addition to working, he helps her out with home projects. When money is tight, she will get a job and work until the money restrictions are lifted. It was a bit bumpy in the beginning because he was a bit needy for her taste but eventually, they worked out and now it has been about 16 years.
Steve has opened the doors to all black relationships coachs, you may not like what he says. But you cannot diminish the impact he made by speaking up for the community to have these conversations
A former coworker gave his wife the option to pay half the bills with him, or he'd pay them. He was financially responsible and capable of doing so. When she became pregnant, she worked three days before she had their sons. They agreed she'd take the first year off to be a mom. He was still managing the household along with her during this time. He was dad, but he knew she was mommy, and he appreciated that. All in all, together, they agreed she'd go back to work when the kids went back to school. He still loves her for that decision to give up four years of her life to be their sons first teacher
It’s not a question to be answered-but to be revealed. If you have to ask, you don’t see any value yourself. Then, there’s no need to ask-only a need to walk away. Do your own work. Everyone.
Thank you!!! They can answer the question with anything you wanna hear..... watch their behavior and the choices/decisions your able to see them make(even the small ones) - don't take long for an irresponsible fool to show him/her self
Bruhh....I 1000% agree with what he is saying... Yall listen to what he is saying... Take it from a man who didn't take his father's advice... My daddy always told me to choose carefully, but I did what I wanted to do...
Thank God my husband never asked me what I bring to the table when we met, I showed him who I am and he loves it so much he married me an been happily married for 18 years.
Since when did Steve Harvey become a relationship expert? Hasn’t he been divorced like 10 times? Just do the opposite of what he says and you’ll be ok 😂
Exactly Schuler... THANK YOU for stating this fact about marriage. It worked for my parents who've been married for 60 years now.. my mother DID NOT WORK until after she birthed all 3 of us and we were school age, THEN she took on a job to help out financially, but before then my father worked on his own and took care of all the bilks and his family.. 💯. What did my mother "bring to the table?" .. she loved my father and took care of her babies and the household while my father worked, until she was able to join the workforce. 👍🏻 💪🏼
Each couple should make a life that works best for them. Stop looking at other couples as goals, especially Hollywood couples. A man doesn't have to make six figures to qualify as a good man. It's his character that is most important. Both men and women should ask questions when dating. And dating should be intentional. If you know someone is not for you early on, don't string that person along until you find someone else. Be cognizant of other people's time. Time is what makes up a person's life. People should stop stealing people's lives because they don't want to be alone.
Money comes and goes. Both ppl need to bring to the table the things money can't buy that will sustain your relationship for a lifetime, loyalty, persistence, ambition, humor, love, respect, support, honor. These are things you never lose and that will never diminish.🤗🤗🤗
💯 Facts, Shuler is right. I can't and won't speak for all Men. At least for me, those are the questions I will ask any Woman who I am attracted to. This is a crazy world we live in. Can what I have and what you have, can we build something. That's what I meant as in What do you bring to the table.
This is a great explanation of how people need to communicate with their significant other as far as expectations. Some people don’t communicate and then get upset when their expectations aren’t met
I Don't understand HOW so many women AND men apparently, get THIS misconstrued!! A Real damn man could care less about a woman's money, degrees, etc. It's simply about (As Shuler SAID) WHAT are YOU bringing into MY life, that's going to enhance me mentally, spiritually, characteristically and physically...
All those questions need to be brought to the table!! Yeap definitely need to dig deeper with whom you planning to spend the rest of your life with! Real talk!!
I have to agree with what Shuler said not because he is Shuler King but because he is speaking to my values! God, spiritually, mentality, character, drama free, etc. Speak!
You don't need to directly ask that question. You ask them other questions about their goals, beliefs and mentality and then watch to see if their words line up with the consist behavior they display. When they show you, believe them.
@@Mr._Moderate The truth of the matter is people say things they think a person wants to hear. Observation allows you to see if their actions are truly in alignment with what was said. It show the true content of their character. Also you may begin to see gifts in her that she hasn't even fully realized yet, because we are ever growing, and can help her cultivate them further.
You shouldn’t ask someone what they are bringing to the table because they would tell you whatever they think you want to hear. You should just ask them questions about the important things you want to know about hear what they say and then observe what they do.
When I hear people ask what can you bring to the table, money is their center focus at the moment. They don't need a family. They'll be willing to "make" money all while their family is lacking. They think making money and spending all this time working is helpful. No, time and love is what your family need!!! Sure money is needed but NOT the priority. That's what people not understanding.
If you ask that question people are going to tell you whatever they think you want to hear but at the end of the day you will have to find out for yourself through your daily interactions with such persons, exactly what it is they bring to the table.
Imagine waiting for the other person to tell you about their character. It seems like you need to discern that person for yourself. They could say anything. You find out about a person's character by getting to know them.
The reality is you can ask as many questions as you want….a person can tell you anything they think you want to hear! So people should ask questions yes but I believe discernment and paying attention to the persons actions and personality along with the questions you are asking …. What murderer is gonna tell you they a murderer or abuser or narcissist or that they stingy as hell or that they whole family mentally ill👀 we need to learn discernment and to look for certain signs to weed out the lies from the truth 👀
Thank you Shuler! So many men don't have your wisdom. I pray that people who ask this stupid question see your video. Kudos to your parents. God bless you & your wife.
People tend to not understand the simple question of "what do you bring to the table" that I didn't even state it like that, I just asked bluntly "how will me taking care of you benefit MY life?".
1000% correct! I'm TIRED of the gender wars!!!
I’m not
My husband and I are a team‼️ It’s deeper then money, it’s about the spiritual, and mental for us. Because if a woman or a man can stimulate your mind with a real life conversation. That’s a keeper.
AMEN
Amen that's it sista 🙏
Shuler, you are preaching! My wife and I are equally yoked, but not in the conventional since. Our financial situation isn't what makes our situation work. The ends are more than meeting, but she completes my half to make me whole. She calms my spirit when I'm agitated, aggravated or annoyed. I am her solitude, her support, her anchor, and etc. We uplift, support and bring multiple talents to the table to make the ship sail, and the engine run smoothly. I support her, she supports me, and we need and support each other! Teamwork makes it all work!!
Simply Beautiful 💯👈🥰
@@andreajohnson6188 Thankyou
Both people need to be FINANCIALLY STABLE & able to stand on their own 2 feet before they come to the table. PERIOD
Thanyou Shuler. Finally someone has defined this question correctly and answered correctly. The thinking of this world is so messed up. I hope many men see this video.
And women.
Steve is just man bashing that all ... because thats an important question to ask ...
Women who can’t or refuse to answer that simple question need to be left alone. She brings nothing to you.
Well said
@Nicole mcelroy With all do respect you do understand that it takes two to make a child. Men give the women the seed to make said child. Please tell me you do know that you can't make a baby on your own. Even if you make a child through artificial insemination you still are using the sperm of a man and that's the bottom line.
“Are you crazy?” 😂😂😂 man that is facts. People talk about money too much vs other things.
He said "big booty axe murderer" I'm done. 😂 😂
My husband always tells me I was the best thing that happen to him and we’re 8 years in .
He upgraded me in my son’s life and we are so grateful!
That's a good Man...
"Are you bringing drama or peace to the table?" Well said! ❤
Shuler- I knew all along you were " Old School " . Need more like you Brother 🙄 You value Family. Thank you.
Shuler, you better say it loud for those in the back!!🗣🗣🗣
My grandmother brought to the table her beauty and her youth. She brought her homemaking skills that included grocery shopping, cooking meals, packing lunches, cleaning, laundry and keeping a fine home. She brought to the table sexual access and birthed 11 children and was the primary caregiver for all of them and was the babysitter for us grandchildren. She brought to the table constant support and companionship for 50+ years of marriage until death departed them and she passed first.
You said it at the beginning. Most normal households need 2 incomes to maintain a descent way of life. Period.
Shuler told the REAL DEAL in 7 minutes. 👏🏽👏🏽 Quicker and more profound than ALL the male AND female podcasters have EVER done. Common sense isn't common anymore.
I have a friend who married at 45. Financially, she brought nothing to the table and nor did her husband expect it. He wanted a friend, a companion and someone who had his back. He had no problem being a provider. They work well together. She keeps a nice house, manages their affairs, runs the errands, she prepares awesome meals and even bakes home made goodies. He keeps the bills paid and makes sure she is provided for. In addition to working, he helps her out with home projects. When money is tight, she will get a job and work until the money restrictions are lifted. It was a bit bumpy in the beginning because he was a bit needy for her taste but eventually, they worked out and now it has been about 16 years.
I LOVE THAT SHULER❤ CHARACTER, MENTALITY, SPIRITUALITY. HEY, HEY, HEY🎉🎉🎉🎉
'What are you bringing into my life?" A whole word and a whole lot of wisdom.
"Do you sleep walk because I got steps!" 😂😂😂😂
People need to stop listening to Steve. You need to be able decide whats right for you. Shuler is 100% right about everything he said.
He took it personally because he knows people are talking about his step daughter and finding out about his wife’s past.
Steve has opened the doors to all black relationships coachs, you may not like what he says. But you cannot diminish the impact he made by speaking up for the community to have these conversations
@@Raray200 no he didn’t lol. Simps been around way before him
@@moneymitchampExactly
@@Raray200
Exactly.
A former coworker gave his wife the option to pay half the bills with him, or he'd pay them. He was financially responsible and capable of doing so. When she became pregnant, she worked three days before she had their sons. They agreed she'd take the first year off to be a mom. He was still managing the household along with her during this time. He was dad, but he knew she was mommy, and he appreciated that. All in all, together, they agreed she'd go back to work when the kids went back to school. He still loves her for that decision to give up four years of her life to be their sons first teacher
The Sistahood won't like you for this comment.
Did she "give up" four years or did she WANT to do the stay at home thing?
Good story. However, she didn't "give up" 4 years of her life. She had the PRIVILEGE and HONOR to have 4 years to grow a strong bond with their baby.
This has to be one of the most responsible comedians I know. Speaks like a man way older than his age
It’s not a question to be answered-but to be revealed. If you have to ask, you don’t see any value yourself. Then, there’s no need to ask-only a need to walk away. Do your own work. Everyone.
Thank you!!! They can answer the question with anything you wanna hear..... watch their behavior and the choices/decisions your able to see them make(even the small ones) - don't take long for an irresponsible fool to show him/her self
Speaking FACTS Shuler
I'm all about Peace and Tranquility and expect the same from my man
CHARACTER.
MATURITY.
SPIRITUALITY.
HONESTY.
Thank you, Shuler. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Bruhh....I 1000% agree with what he is saying... Yall listen to what he is saying... Take it from a man who didn't take his father's advice... My daddy always told me to choose carefully, but I did what I wanted to do...
Steve Harvey is a comedian, just because he got some fame don't make him a expert on relationships.
"THANK YOU!" Well, SAID!💯
True true!!! How many failed marriages did Steve have? 2? 3? 4? IDK
I agree!!!
COPY THAT❗ I dislike him🤬
Absolutely correct 👍🏾
Thank God my husband never asked me what I bring to the table when we met, I showed him who I am and he loves it so much he married me an been happily married for 18 years.
My husband never asked either and it will be 10 years soon. Actions speak louder than words. Good Luck to you and your family ❤🙏🏾
Congratulations to you both on your 10 & 18 years of marriage 🙏🏽
Since when did Steve Harvey become a relationship expert? Hasn’t he been divorced like 10 times? Just do the opposite of what he says and you’ll be ok 😂
shuler king your eyes are beautiful
This is the best breakdown of what people bring to the table that I’ve heard thus far!!😂😂😂 Shuler nailed it! 💯
Agree with you Shuler! Just because someone is famous it doesn't make them and expert. That part!
If people take the time to communicate and get to know each other; then they would know the qualities without asking.
I agree. Lip service is real, and at the end of the day, actions speak louder than words. That person is going to SHOW you what they bring.
@@MissBlutiful 💯
That part Jane ❤ !!!!!
Pure Truth! Have dicernment and be analytical!
TRUE. Also, if more people would stop being fake and selfish they would already know what those qualities SHOULD BE.
Nothing but the truth with humor!
Pure wisdom speaking!
Judging by some of these comments, Schuler stepped on some toes. The truth hurts.
Mr.Shule King you are so right they bring God first and love for their family and pray together ❤️ 🙏
Exactly!!! A man can make his own money. A woman should bring peace to his life. That's what we bring. Boys ask that question.
He absolutely right I'm over here hollering😂😂😂😂
Wooo-weee, go back and listen again. Shuler brought some life lessons with this one. Thank you Sir!!!
Respect to the truth, people need to hear the good honest truth. Respect to you Shuler King.
😂😂😂😂😂
Men bring crazy to the table too.😳!
YES, THEY DO...MORE THEN THE WOMEN. LIES
Exactly Schuler... THANK YOU for stating this fact about marriage. It worked for my parents who've been married for 60 years now.. my mother DID NOT WORK until after she birthed all 3 of us and we were school age, THEN she took on a job to help out financially, but before then my father worked on his own and took care of all the bilks and his family.. 💯. What did my mother "bring to the table?" .. she loved my father and took care of her babies and the household while my father worked, until she was able to join the workforce. 👍🏻 💪🏼
Stop paying attention to Steve Harvey. On his 3rd marriage & choose a woman with more than questionable morals. Pleeeze!
I wish I could like this 17 times! That’s how you answer what you bring to the table.
Each couple should make a life that works best for them. Stop looking at other couples as goals, especially Hollywood couples. A man doesn't have to make six figures to qualify as a good man. It's his character that is most important. Both men and women should ask questions when dating. And dating should be intentional. If you know someone is not for you early on, don't string that person along until you find someone else. Be cognizant of other people's time. Time is what makes up a person's life. People should stop stealing people's lives because they don't want to be alone.
King Shuler u' ve never been this right, thank you ❤
Preach brother! Bring peace to my table..
Preach Shuler!!!
I put Steve in the same box as Dr. Phil. They both love to hear themselves talk.
Money comes and goes. Both ppl need to bring to the table the things money can't buy that will sustain your relationship for a lifetime, loyalty, persistence, ambition, humor, love, respect, support, honor. These are things you never lose and that will never diminish.🤗🤗🤗
💯 Facts, Shuler is right. I can't and won't speak for all Men. At least for me, those are the questions I will ask any Woman who I am attracted to. This is a crazy world we live in. Can what I have and what you have, can we build something. That's what I meant as in What do you bring to the table.
This is a great explanation of how people need to communicate with their significant other as far as expectations. Some people don’t communicate and then get upset when their expectations aren’t met
I've learned that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
Make it make sense! And you did that King!!!🔥
Not one lie told. All facts 💯
Say it again, my brother.💯💯💯
I agree, Shuler. People, stop believing that everyone is a relationship guru.
I Don't understand HOW so many women AND men apparently, get THIS misconstrued!! A Real damn man could care less about a woman's money, degrees, etc. It's simply about (As Shuler SAID) WHAT are YOU bringing into MY life, that's going to enhance me mentally, spiritually, characteristically and physically...
I don't know why anybody listens to Steve Harvey his track record says it all. And you are 100% right
All those questions need to be brought to the table!! Yeap definitely need to dig deeper with whom you planning to spend the rest of your life with! Real talk!!
Most people that ask this question don’t understand the true meaning of the answer. Thank you for defining the answer to this question.
I wonder if Steve asked Marjorie any of these questions?🤔
I have to agree with what Shuler said not because he is Shuler King but because he is speaking to my values! God, spiritually, mentality, character, drama free, etc. Speak!
You don't need to directly ask that question. You ask them other questions about their goals, beliefs and mentality and then watch to see if their words line up with the consist behavior they display. When they show you, believe them.
Shuler is on a rant when the vid passes 2 minutes. 😂 I love it👏
😅😂😂😂
Take the time to truly observe her. If she's the one, you'll see the gifts she brings. 😊
...but the "question" will still be asked 👍
@@Mr._Moderate The truth of the matter is people say things they think a person wants to hear. Observation allows you to see if their actions are truly in alignment with what was said. It show the true content of their character. Also you may begin to see gifts in her that she hasn't even fully realized yet, because we are ever growing, and can help her cultivate them further.
You are absolutely right
I agree 100% with you, Shuler
You shouldn’t ask someone what they are bringing to the table because they would tell you whatever they think you want to hear. You should just ask them questions about the important things you want to know about hear what they say and then observe what they do.
Very well said!!!!!❤❤❤
When I hear people ask what can you bring to the table, money is their center focus at the moment. They don't need a family. They'll be willing to "make" money all while their family is lacking. They think making money and spending all this time working is helpful. No, time and love is what your family need!!! Sure money is needed but NOT the priority. That's what people not understanding.
If you ask that question people are going to tell you whatever they think you want to hear but at the end of the day you will have to find out for yourself through your daily interactions with such persons, exactly what it is they bring to the table.
Shuler you 100% correct
Not a big booty axe murderer! I choked 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That took me OUT!!! 😂😂😂😂
Well stated 💯. I have just one word.... dufflebag 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My guy hit a record with a 7 minute video
👌🏽👌🏽
What are you bringing to the table shouldn't be about cash but about character... Yes
The explanation was brilliant and respectful love Shuler 🙏 ❤❤❤
Imagine waiting for the other person to tell you about their character. It seems like you need to discern that person for yourself. They could say anything. You find out about a person's character by getting to know them.
Amen!!!!!!!! Simply put
Please say it LOUDER for the ppl in the BACK!!!!!
The reality is you can ask as many questions as you want….a person can tell you anything they think you want to hear! So people should ask questions yes but I believe discernment and paying attention to the persons actions and personality along with the questions you are asking …. What murderer is gonna tell you they a murderer or abuser or narcissist or that they stingy as hell or that they whole family mentally ill👀 we need to learn discernment and to look for certain signs to weed out the lies from the truth 👀
Very accurate analysis. Nice hair too Sister, you're looking great.
@@bantoubantu6171 thank you 😊
Thank you Shuler! So many men don't have your wisdom. I pray that people who ask this stupid question see your video. Kudos to your parents. God bless you & your wife.
Shuler King YOU ARE A REAL ONE. 💖💯👏
It's easy for Shuler to speak this way bc he walk it like he talk it. No rehearsed rhetoric.
@@fontainelebrock345 Right😊, it's obvious Shuler lives a peaceful life, look at his hairline.
SHULER LET EM KNOW 💯
Brother I agree with you 1000%
Amen!!! Shuler you always put a smile on my face. God bless you 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 what are you bringing to the table, crazy Or peace! Simple questions sample
King been on 🔥 lately i agree
That Heifer got mo gun's and knives than Rambo 😂
Strong. That comment hits hard lol 😂
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE SUBJECT.
I %1000 AGREE!!! real men don’t ask that.. vet your women… do you sleep walk 😂😂😂😂
Well said, men & women need to know what the other is bringing to the relationship.
Louder for the folks in the back! Well said, Dr.! I appreciate you speaking on this 👏👏👏
Facts 💯💯💯💯
Exactly Shuler.
Facts Shuler King 👊👊💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
People tend to not understand the simple question of "what do you bring to the table" that I didn't even state it like that, I just asked bluntly "how will me taking care of you benefit MY life?".
Straight facts Shuler. 💯 😊
Facts
Very Well Said!