How Do I Help an ISTP Feel Better About Themselves? | CS Joseph Responds
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CS Joseph Responds to the Acolyte question how do i help an ISTP feel better about themselves?
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Sometimes I can't tell if ISTPs know that their awesome or not. They're honestly some of the coolest and most fun people out there!
Many go dunning kruger and don't realize they're on the awesome end stuck thinking they're average.
@@CSJoseph I've known a couple of them who've done this.. Wish they wouldn't. Still love them to pieces though! Thanks for answering:)
As an ISTP, I think I myself am pretty much confident. The only time I'd feel shit or trash, is when my capability disappoints me.
that'd be the death
Exactly or someone successfully getting me to drop my guard only to hurt me.
Same here.
I don’t usually comment on RUclips but this one strikes home for me. I felt good when I was hot shit at sports and being able to use my body to perform work. When that was take away from me I couldn’t even look myself in the eye without thinking of everything i couldn’t do. People preach stoicism to me as a solution but I can’t stop thinking of my lack of capability.
Thankfully after my recent surgery Im starting to have more control of my body but goddamn it’s been a shit show for the past few years.
Thanks for echoing your thoughts on this
Your videos did more than going to the terapist. Thank you.
~ISTP
Exactly. He is more help then any other resource I have found. Amazing work. I’m so proud of him. And so thankful.
As an ISTP, i really agree that gratitude can make me really happy. Especially the word *thanku* and i think for that i say it a lot.
Istps wants to see the results of their efforts;
If they help you learn how to walk, just try your best.
Actions are so important, “express gratitude with actions.”
Thank you very much. CS Joseph. You always hit the nail on the head and your content is incredible. As an ISTP , I dunno if it's hating myself but I often feel as if I'm a burden to other people and I think that they take me for granted and treat me as an errand. Oftentimes, it feel like I'm not even human to their eyes even after all the things I've already done. I agree that I have no sense of self worth at all. Whether it's my fault or theirs, I feel like shit at the end of the day. This is the worst.
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istps are entps supervisee, infps are entps supervisor. entps see all the weaknesses of istps , same with infps to entps
Okay but who see all the weaknesses of the INFP ?
@@littlelight-zi9wx ESFPs
4:06 damn the realest thing I've heard in a while and it took me some time to understand that myself in the past. I never felt conforted by the whole "your worth enough" talk. I need to do stuff and achieve stuff to feel worth. External gratitude really helps.
3:25 "no one likes a baby crying" - you can flip their cries into laughter by making fun of their cries by imitating their cries in a distorted version
Yusss consistent affectionate acknowledgment and physical playfulness Are life essence to me.
Doesn’t even have to be physical gifts, just your desire to give time, affection and physical attention are food for the soul of happiness
YESSS
"Giving unexpectetly" is what I can agree with. I'd bake some cookies etc. for my istp dad. I still feel however that it's only bringing him about 2% of joy 😅
Does he actually want the cookies though? It is very thoughtful of you to make them for him, but if he’s trying to eat healthy, he may really not want them and then might have negative feelings about it. And now he has to accept them and appear grateful. The best gifts are ones that show that the person really knows me and put a lot of effort into thinking about what I’d really want, need, or can use.
@@CuddleClaw. He did really enjoy them and I made them because he always complained that he wants some sweets to his coffee.
I am sure he felt more than what he showed
Any other ISTP watching these to do as much of this him or herself?
Yup (ISTP female)
no it dont, all wrong (ISTP male)
Did you just say.. Senpai 😮
I did.
Hi great video. I learn so much when I hear you. Could you do one especifically on love compatibility between INFPs and ISTPs please? I really like my ISTP but I am nervous about moving in with him.
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@@CSJoseph thank you!
This is a superego relationship , people usually go for it to feel a kind of father-son relationship , your top functions constantly nurture the bottom functions of the other , that makes it difficult but they both deep down actually like it and it makes up for a lot they missed when younger . Sex and then talking are the keys to make it work .
@@malakashraf2801 Why sex? What happens otherwise if there is a lack of it?
@@ALMAGNZLZ80 because of fe inferior weak and fi hero strong and the same with te-ti , communication can be difficult and draining , both have the perceiving functions in the middle so kinda closer in power than the judging ones , so this type of communication is easy and healthy , also chase always puts sex and compatibility of perceiving functions first in sexual relationships because of its importance , I am trying to give you the answer he would give .
I’m and Enfp female and I’ve been speaking to an Istp male recently (we’re both in our early 20’s) and we have amazing chemistry and we feel like we just want to talk and be in each other’s company all the time - I haven’t seen many videos at all online about this pairing, but I have seen a looot of people discouraging it which confuses me so much because I can’t make sense of why me and this Istp are complimenting each other so nicely and getting along so well romantically and yet we’re supposed to be very incompatible types? I would love an explanation to this and to please see some in depth Istp & Enfp content of you can, as there is sooo little out there for these types together. Keep up the good work, thank you :)
That sounds like a good pairing. Even if it weren't, any pairing can work with enough maturity and understanding of the science.
Watch the latest istp video on this channel about the best match for an istp female , istp-enfp is called the bronze or the natural pair and it makes up most of the successful marriages , it's very good .
@@malakashraf2801 thank you so much for letting me know! I just finished watching it and I was wondering if it would be much different with a female ENFP and male ISTP and if it would work just as well?
@@sandstormz625 I think with the Male being istp and the female enfp it's even better cause there is more synchronicity between the masculinity of the istp and femininity of enfps as they are in right places now , they are both secure in their energies .
Bit late so I'll have my take on the general aspect. You like a person but you should not be with that person because you read information here and there telling that you shouldn't, would you give it a single fuck ? No. On that case it's between two people, you and him. As the OG said, it's about maturity and understanding.
Great video chase, thanks for all the work you do :)
Chase I have a serious question: As an Istp how can I improve my Ne? Specifically to protect myself from exploitative manipulation, and to become more aware of it. I know I well always be manipulated easily no matter what, but is there a way to decrease the severity of it? Have you already made a video on it, and I haven’t seen it?
Well, I made how to social engineer ISTPs so they can know what to look out for. Strengthening one's trickster is the journey of a lifetime, not a quick fix, until that point outsource Ne to an Ne user and provide them with the Se they lack, no man is an island.
Loyalty to me is immeasurable. I'll do anything for you until you prove me right and or wrong.
hey chase, I've been thinking about a lot lately especially about things, you have teached me.
a great deal of it has been a benefit for me and i thank you for it.
I recently have seen one of your shorts analyzing the INTP, and their desirability and you came to the conclusion that INTPs are not desirable at all.
this instantly bugged something inside of me, my NE parent started noticing a pattern throughout your videos especially, when it comes to INTPs.
I started reading your goals/motivations, i have come to the conclusion that i should not trust an FI trickster on the evaluation of a certain archetype, and thus not trust your conclusion of the INTP not being desirable.
I started thinking about the fact that you and your Ni nemesis are working together a great deal which, i am glad it is for your own sake.
But it did come at a cost for others and their perception about themselves, which probably hurt a lot of INTPs faith in themselves.
It also increases your value because, the INTPs hurt by this will be less likely to grow and out compete you.
The self preserving INTJ unconcious is a great benefit to you but it comes at a cost for myself if i did not see through this, i will not mindlessly accept it.
I have seen through one of your true goals.
I will become more cautious and critical going forward.
And if it was an Fe evaluation?
@@CSJoseph would've been more accurate, and objective. It clearly wasn't it was based on a personal sense of value, not an objective measurement. It's a trickster for a reason, it's there but it pretends not be there.
Also one of the reasons I suspect it is FI and, it isn't FE is because, it came from a sense of self preservation.
Not out of FE childs sense of duty, to change things for the better for other people.
as i stated before, you have somewhat successfully integrated your INTJ unconscious and it serves you well, yet you aren't fully aware of it either i assume.
Let's be honest about this as well, the ENTP itself shares a lot with the archetype of the fool, and the trickster.
It speaks truth but it will, and can deceive you as well.
Oh, shit, it's like I've been to a psychologist's session! Honestly, I didn't think this video would be useful and missed it a couple of times..BUT, I regret that I didn't look earlier, in any case, I realized my strange behavior and impulses. Although in some moments I do not agree about the inner demon, I agree that I behaved like this in childhood, but now that I am mature, even if I want to throw a tantrum, I just can't do it and I'm looking for a way to relax and unwind instead. Overall, thank you very much.
6:40 "nobody notices me senpai" uwu
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People have to be willing to give even if they don't immediately get something in return. ISTPs are slaves to their desires and whims, which are so frivolous. It may be a while until your favor or kind action is paid back. It's a hard bargain.
I’ve found for myself as an ISTP being kind when I’m being vulnerable.
If I am an ISTP then this is true.. If an ISTP acts at the first glance at the behest or for the other people with according energetic impression that implies that I am helping people (at the individual basis) - ISTP starts to feel better because it feels how Impactful on grateful / friendly people this activity is, so they radiant the energy of our interaction.
Personally this is how it helps me. If I know what I am talking about.
Actually it's an ESFJ feature, come on!
Ok , I realise I should be responsible for my own sake , but if I keep talking to people about what they do but they all form like an irresponsibility team and support one another and no body changes , if I keep being responsible they will take advantage of me , so I won't be towards them but I will be with others who are good to me .
I always tell Templars if you're being irresponsible, then you're being irresponsible. . It's not dependent on what other people do or don't do. If you're responsible and someone takes advantage of you, that's not really a friend, stop hanging out with them.
being an ISTP not surrounded by a motivating crowd is hard. do you really think there's no way ISTPs can gain self esteem within themselves? I do not think relying on external sources such as your peers or a job performance review should be the only source for motivation
Feeling better in the way the question was asked is concerning Fi, they can find motivation for things with their Ni child.
@@CSJosephThank you. That does explain how shaping our desires is the key to continual self love.
"feeling" is gay
@@tmpEngine yeah bro, the gayest ISTPs are emo punks
Sadia Khan says the male love language is acts of service, which makes sense for the ISTP considering we are a masculine type. I think acts of service would work for female ISTP's as well, which is basically what you said in the video.
As an istp I’d have to disagree. I don’t think ISTPs deal with self worth issues like other types do. We are often times very confident people, it’s not just a front on the outside or how we carrry ourselves. When you’re a Ti all the time and you got Se to back you up, I think putting things into perspective when it comes to others and even ourselves isn’t difficult for us. So we would be accountable and know what our own problem is in most cases. The problem we are often times faced with is finding people who can completely accept us for who we are and give us space to do so. Outside of that, I’m sure most of us don’t care what anyone think of us. Plus we do care about our feelings. I just don’t get why people still pretend that we don’t have emotions. We do, we Infact feel very deeply also, it’s just not what we draw our facts from, that’s all.
The easiest way like it or not is to show a bit of vulnerability. Maybe people perceive a lack of emotion because they see a lack of the former. Not everyone can do this right off the bat of course. However, there is different ways to go about it. With Ti you can delve deeper into a subject you aren't well versed in and let the other person play teacher. Passively listening with a bit of input here and there does a lot in regards to earning others appreciation/consideration.
Yup.. very true.. big like
Thoughts of the Frank Burns Istp character in Mash series and Margaret Hoolihan ISFJ?
We hate ourselves??
see? smh
ehhh wdym why...
i mean si demon needs to be taken care of right? so i suppose the same should go for fi demon every now and then. I can see why it would be annoying all the time but they should get the basic love and support right
edit: nvm it was mentioned 😅
5:57 😂
I really try to help just to help tho
But yeah, I am quite interest based
I thought Se was about giving. I know I am an Se user and enjoy giving but not really receiving. Saying “thank you” always sounds fake and you have to do this whole skit where you take a moment to express gratitude. I can encourage other people no problem, and make them feel good about themselves - but gratitude is different. I feel too aggressive for it and I feel like I need no one (which is true). Could I be ISTP?
this sounds like a load of bs bro, "falling apart if no gratitude", "giving unexpectetly", lmao... if anything its just annoying
how about: give space, freedom, talk less listen more dont judge, help them achieve, big and small. achieving is how they feel better about themselves, end of story
BS! People can use that to manipulate you!🤔🤷🏽♂️ do your part and let others do theirs…
The singer Halsey claims to be INFJ. Will you please type Halsey?
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@@CSJoseph Thanks for the response!
i really dont like her lmao i hope she isnt
@@aladdout9454 I believe it's a mistype. I'm INFJ, so I feel that it's off
@@violet18 I'm pretty sure she's a subconscious focused isfp or atleast in that quadra
How to help us wha???-😳🤡💀
Short answer: Be an ESFJ.
how the heck can I put self acceptance into action? Lol.
Lol I see whachu mean. One example I know is taking care of yourself & making sure you meet your own needs. Rather than depleting yourself on meaningless things. Hopefully that clears things up
clean up your room, wake up early despite how you feel, go to bed early.
workout, eat healthy, get a set of beneficiary beliefs and test if they work.
through this your faith in your own being will increase extremely fast.
As a templar I think you should look for any fi models around you or on TV that you can fact check with your ti and reach maybe not perfect conclusion cause your own fi is horrible but you just feel it's indeed a good thing to follow and follow it , as an istp I feel i reach self acceptance when I imagine looking at myself from the outside and I am like " ok maybe she's not the nicest , not the funniest or most beautiful , but she is definitely not a bad person "