If He's Emotionally Unavailable Or Breadcrumbing You, Do This...
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- Опубликовано: 27 авг 2018
- This is an interview with Nicole Elissa on what to do if a man is emotionally unavailable or breadcrumbing you. You can learn more about Nicole at nicoleelissa.com/.
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If he’s emotionally unavailable ladies do yourself a favor and move on. We don’t have time to try to fix these grown men, they’re not stupid they get right for who they want to be with!
Here’s a video Nicole and I recorded on how to let go and move on from this type of man for anyone in this situation: ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html
If your an emotionally unavailable person you'll probably attract needy children in adult bodies. Move on, there's no time to do their parents job.
So now we got this out of the way, what is solved?
Ben O. Verbich so true. We half to fix ourselves, and stop putting t up with their nonsense .mine is playing games. He’s says one thing and does another. He blame it on the war, but I think he’s just lying.
@@judykee636 my man was a marine and I noticed his words dont match as well as emotionally unavailable.
Don't get addicted to anyone is the basic fundamental message. Don't give your great feminine power away so easily. We need to learn to receive instead of giving all the time. Good luck my sisters, you got this 😊
“What we accept, deep down is what we feel we deserve” great reminder
Yes!! ❤️
exactly..and I deserve more
Yep
Andreas Leon Landgren I deserve to be by myself, I don’t need a man again, my last one , I was a caregiver for 11 years, it has almost destroyed me.
So true. when I would attract men who were half interested, only wanted sex, or gave me breadcrumbs instead of backing off completely I would try to overcompensate by getting closer to them and trying to prove my worth. I ad low self-esteem at the time and allowed people to use me and waste my time. Now if you throw me breadcrumbs you get cut off and I keep looking forward to a real man who loves me for me.
This is beautiful Amanda!
thank you
Wow that was like reading about myself. Hardest part for me now is I made such a stupid choice to get married and have children with a man like this that I'm going through possible divorce or trying to figure out if he has the capacity and the desire to become aware and want to change for himself not just me which I really doubt he can fully ever do so I am in a really tight rock and a hard place, hoping Helena can give me some advice.
And trust me, there is more then one man out there who will love &respect you for you. I know there is for me still too, but stuck in this difficult spot right now.
yOU WILL FIND SOMEONE. jUST KEEP HEADING TO WHAT YOU WANT AND DON'T ACCEPT/RUN FROM WHAT YOU DON'T WANT. BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE TRUE.
I love myself, I felt like the most beautiful queen with this person. He ghosted me when i confronted him about his his unavailable behavior. Glad i didn't settle for less and stood up to him about his behavior, I deserve a ton more, I'm a survivor, a great catch and I love me! The universe will deliver a wonderful man for me.
Yes, it will! I’m glad you took a stand for yourself and what you truly deserve. ❤️
Right on!
What are the words you would recommend to say to the man in this situation?
How did it turn out??
@@aishaiam8222 Not so good I'm afraid. We are still friends but no longer dating. Turns out he had issues from being raised by neglectful parents. He understands but isn't willing to heal from it and is emotionally neglectful and abusive to everyone over and over again. And he's a commitment phobe. He won't commit to anyone and won't ever have a family. Being his friend is all i can offer. I'm still looking and studying these videos to better myself for the right one. I seem to attract guys that have issues so im trying to heal my own issues to attract the best guy i can.
When its meant to be.. they will do the work to open up..if they feel something too..but dont stick around and feel under valued. Blessings
Glad it connects with you!
Girlfriends!! Be strong and confident and know your worth!!
You are all winners!! 😉
Yes, absolutely! 💖
A guy will say, "I'm not ready to be in a relationship right now," but will do everything that suggests they do... It's an awful game to play.
Their narcissists giving you false hope
Omg... going through this now. They just want sex. They will end up alone
I hope you do what you feel you need to. I'm done with all that jazz.
It might be he doesn’t want sex but just female company, quite heartbreaking really!
try to love yourself first, sometimes he does not ready for it, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you, it just he can’t put you on priority now
I like the idea of "observing" the emotion rather than "analyzing" it. There's a big distinction there! Because if you're not careful you can believe "whatever" creeps in. If you're not grounded in your true self or worth or even value , you're like a leaf that kinda of just blows with the wind from the outside world! Well done Ladies!
YES!
Thank you! I love what you said here, it's so true!
No more crumb.
I am so happy i'm survived from an email anavialible man, he just wanted sex and showed me how much he liked me, but not ready to have exclusive relationship. I accepted and tried 2 weeks, I realized my negative emotions started to come out, I had to utilize all my coping skills to deal with me, made myself feel unworthy him to love me... I decided to leave him. Even with lots of crying, struggling, etc.for 2 weeks, now i'm glad to do it, and fully wake up. He came back many times and try to continue to keep companion (sex) relationship, I rejected. Sad to meet this kind of guy, but proud of myself made correct decision.
We're proud of you too, thanks for sharing your experience here!
@@HelenaHartCoaching
Thank you!! Your video is so helpful, I will continually learn from you, highly appreciated! now i'm very lucky to find a very kind guy and he love me, actually we love each other with good balance. ☺😀
I’m so happy to hear that! 💗
I so needed to watch this. I’ve been tolerating this for over 2 months and there’s still no sign of commitment and I deserve much better!
I’m glad this was helpful! ❤️
I am glad it helped!
Im sorry but how do women determine whether they deserve better?
Girl, don't waste your time like I did. I waited 5 months for a guy to commit to me. Guess what happened? I mentioned commitment& he ghosted me. It did not end well. You deserve the whole cookie not just the crumbs.
Just Peachy omg same!!! A guy wasted my time for 5 months back in 2018, we both agreed on a relationship and he said “let’s see where it goes” in the beginning but towards the middle he kept saying he doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship but I backed off, but he would still come back ( this happen once actually) it’s funny how guys say after dating you for some time they don’t want to be in a relationship or they don’t know if they want one but yet still want you to hang out with them, have sex with them, give your time to them and keep wasting your time but won’t back off plus he wanted me to buy him things but I was smart enough not to, I dump him after 5 months plus he tried to get me pregnant
I love what was said... However... If you ARE centering yourself every day, you often become a loving giver who isn't even worried about whether you're getting or not getting. Certainly don't settle for less than a genuine marriage commitment, but once committed...you can share your feelings if they are being lazy...but since you can't control them... Just center yourself and fill your home with LOVE. Even if it only comes from you. It is so limited to be doing tit for tat measurements. It is irrelevant. You don't have to carry their whole life on your shoulders, just your own...and Love God, self, and the other as yourself. Get your needs met through God. Expect nothing, appreciate everything. If you say a thank you for every flower, you can walk in God's garden forever. A good balanced man is a bonus! I have an incredible husband who is a fantasy dream come true... But he can't fix my self esteem issues. That's between me and God. I balance out by taking time with God in prayer, bible reading, positive thought, exercise, nutritious food from God and time focusing on my priorities/goals/vision that is in alignment with God's word. A good example of a tit for tat relationship transforming into something unconditional and beautiful is in the movie "Enchanted April." God bless you all in your journey.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
Love this!
Expect nothing, appreciate everything... If you appreciate every flower, you can walk in God's garden forever...
Thank you for this comment
Enlightening! He has been blocked! Now m sitting with the pain trying to love the pain inside n trying to love myself
You got it, Divine Grace!
@@elizabethjones4325 more power to you sister😁
Devine, I can imagine ... you have to say goodbye to an illusion too.
😭 ... is it getting better now?
@@mdmmalou oh yea sooo much better....but m doing the work keep chipping away the trauma n pain
You just described my life. Entrepreneur World trotter : empty. Not attracting crumbs but small bites and many arguments. Thank you
You’re welcome, I’m glad this resonated with you!
Aw wow, I am so happy that it resonated with you. What are you doing to change it around? It's important to feel, connect with yourself and choose love. It will heal a lot
@@NicoleElissaLoveCoach thanks Nicloe, The emptiness had been an internal "darkness" which attracted like-states, good people but who were also dark, emptied by life, kids, marriages, divorces, all of us, pushing hard with our careers, trotting non-stop, having the best. But life goes in 7 or 10 year phases. With this awareness, I am sure, it will pass, but by taking conscious action, sometimes counterintuitive action......so what to do in the meantime, than focus to bring myself to whom I knew that I was in my ultimate state. I could only do this alone, not in the company of another who is also "empty" inside due to life. When one is validated by being in the "fast lane" and outside respect is her identity, any shifts of this spil into her personal life. Unhappiness lingers. As such, there is no one who should- could fix me, as in fact grabbing hold of my "self" is key. When I identify my entire life with exterior success and that got away by some life dynamics, and I no longer feel like "myself" it surely became important to fix that first, since the person whom I would be with in my lower state, with less confidence- would not recognize me when I move back to "me", nor would our relationship produce the necessary dynamics to get me back to "me" So this is what I have done, and doing, and I see a lot of sunshine ahead... :) but ultimately I have had to do it alone....
Crumbs or alone for many years. People may not heal until they do many relationships which help them grow/evolve. It may take dating 10 people. Don't take just the first person who comes along.
True, watching and implementing concepts on videos like this also helps. Coaching too. It accelerates the process and can avoid a lot of the experimenting.
Guys are often just as damaged as any woman that has seen/experienced trauma or developmental interruption of their own life. Dudes can have too much baggage
Yeah totally true. No one thinks from their side. You need to see if that guy is genuine ( he was ur best friend once maybe) and is troubled then you can help him overcome his troubles by supporting him and giving him tools to help himself. And if he is just dating and giving you crumbs and not allowing you to know him then just leave!
Hello. I just want to say thank you. Ive been crying and crying over a man who no matter what does not see me. I am learning that he is fearful-avoidant and I am fearful-anxious. The feeling that this gives me is so overwhelmingly desperate and sad I cry and cry and cry. He hurts me with his emotional distance and avoidance.
You're welcome, sorry to hear you're going through this right now. This video might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html
Sending you so much love. The energy clearing I offered as a gift will support you. It's available in the summary below the video.
A lot of women are desperate and they accept bread crumbling just to be in a relationship.
I truly believe it is a reflection to how we are taught as a society to deal with our feelings and emotions. It has created a culture were a lot of people are checked out emotionally.
Ten years without being attracted to someone who was even more attracted to me. You will put up with a lot, believe me but he couldn't handle when I communicated my need to own his part in a negative outcome of our association. Def. no emotional availability, he has problems he wants to put on me. Told me he wasn't sleeping when I first met him.
So uplifting!
This is right on the button for me...
After watching this great video I have realised that I'm a crumb giver.... Now I'm going to really work on being emotionally available... Not easy after decades of being unable to open up...
Thanks for sharing your experience here!
Thank you for sharing. I am glad it resonated with you! You GOT this!
🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏 now there's a real man. BRAVOO David
It's wonderful your trying. My husband just gets mad won't even he thinks I'm scheming I'm not
Well done in admitting this . It’s the first start wanting to change & making that happen is great .
It's exactly the situation I am currently experiencing. This video just came out of the blue in the right moment. It's awful not feeling worthy enough to deserve love.
I’m glad this came at the right moment for you!
Tesò, ma i gatti neri... 😉
Please bring her back. She have taught me so much.. Thank you.
You’re welcome, I’m glad this was helpful! Nicole and I just recorded two more videos together, I’ll be posting them soon! 💕
Glad it helps Kelly! Your response is what makes it so inspiring to us! I love doing videos with Helena!
I'm powerful but swimming in victim energy...OMG! This resonated with me. Enough is enough.
I’m glad that was helpful for you! 💕
Oh wow, so happy to hear that! That was a tough one for me to receive. It's good to have that wake up call and change things around. What are you creating for yourself now?
Helena you have the BEST people on your show, seriously. none of them are watered down in any way, every single time im just blown away at the wisdom each carries
Thank you Courtney, I’m so happy to hear that! 💞
This was very helpful, I keep feeling a spiritual connection and chemistry w every guy and I hang in there wishing for something more but it never happens.
I’m glad this was helpful! 💕
Same. So painful isnt it Brirtany. Hugs to you 💕
Are you able to assess and articulate how you can feel a spiritual connection and chemistry with every guy you meet? I'm trying to understand how one gets to the point of feeling something as significant as THAT - mulitiple times.
Good things are rejected by people who cannot afford them. Period. I came to this conclusion recently after being ditched by a narc after he found a richer supply.
They only can give only what they can accept cuz they don't feel worthy. Powerful!!
Yes, absolutely!
I am glad it resonates!
The best explanation of the issue I've ever heard
Thank you, Nina! 💕
So happy to hear that Nina!
This was absolutely amazing!
Not what I was expecting but much BETTER! Priceless actually because it is EXACTLY what I needed right now.
Thank you both ! ❤❤
I have noticed my thoughts (asks) do materialize for me. Not always but enough to observe it happening. I have to let it go after I make the request and sometimes I dont do that. I have been accepting "crumbs" from a man who I didnt want to scare away by telling him how i felt. Ironically BEFORE I watched this, I did take some action. Against my better judgment it was thru text. Yesterday he asked me to share my thoughts and we were texting at the time. Tonight I found words I was happy with and sent them. I was respectful and honest. I know I'll be fine either way. I thought to myself he probably doesn't realise how he is showing up. That is how similar we are to one another. Lately I've been asking myself "how am I showing up?" It keeps me observing. I have my own stuff I am working on. The journey continues...
You’re welcome, I’m so glad this was helpful! We’d love to hear how this goes for you. ❤️
You are welcome! I am really glad it was helpful! I agree with Helena, let us know :)
How did it end up for you?
How did it end? Happy?
Shout out to Nicole typically "breadcrumbing" is him feeling inadequate / insecure about himself.
F.Y.I. Ladies take control of the situation and communicate directly with him (preferably by phone or in person)! If he's not responding wait until he does (99% eventually will) politely yet sternly tell him "I really like you. You wanna see me we can do something fun, but if you want to play this on & off game I will disappear like a ghost! I don't deal with inconsistency especially in communication."
Thanks for sharing, H K!
I am 75 years old. With age comes wisdom. This is not just men sweeties. It's also women who are like this. Being emotionally unavailable is gender neutral.
Yes, this video could apply to both men and women.
Women would rarely sleep with someone they are emotionally unavailable for, and that is the first thing that turns men off, not emotional unavailability. Don’t compare men and women. Men are much less likely to invest emotionally and much more likely to be scared of commitment, as they can get sex without commitment.
@@margaritam.9118 These just sound like Dismissive Avoidant attachment styles... Women are like this too.
Wow!! And there you are again! Incredible information! Perfect timing. Love and appreciate you so much! 💖
Thank you, I’m so glad this was helpful for you! ❤️
Great speaker. I was in tears. I have learned so much about acceptance. The Do's and Don't about emotional behavior.
Accept nothing but the good that is due to you and is your birthright.
Pay attention to how you feel ... that is the barometer that will guide all of us.
Let go of what doesn't serve you and welcome the very Best in 2019!!!
Carol Loraine - I love what you said here! 💝
I really like myself and I have a lot to offer but I only seem to attract dead loss, uninteresting men. I have met some 'high quality' guys but they very quickly find me just to close to 'their level', not someone they can educate and control so they walk away.
Great video! I will say it’s not just women that suffer this treatment. My ex fiancé is just like this.. loving ourselves more is the key. Sacrificing ourselves for their love. I didn’t tolerate it but then accused of being too sensitive or him being emotionally unavailable...
Yes, this could apply to both men and women.
Brilliant stuff ladies, every single sentence a piece of wisdom I needed to hear/be reminded of, thank you!
You're welcome, I'm so glad this was helpful for you!
Oh man.. this one is profound hits on so many levels,just applies to owning yourself completely in your life. You should invite her back Helana! I know this was two years ago would be nice to see the energy you two have now and the convo ! Chants -*do it !do it! do it*
Hi Tanika, I’m so glad you enjoyed this! I’ve actually done several videos with Nicole, here are a few more: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/0JiAlESPmVs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/Z-qNbbh6pIU/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/I_BNhfUFXN0/видео.html.
This is laced with good stuff...like the real good stuff on this issue of accepting less that we deserve. Nicole explained it so clearly and honestly. Love it!
Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it! Nicole and I recently recorded another video on this topic, I'll be posting it soon!
Thank you, Glad it resonated!
You ladies are awesome! I'll definitely look out for that new video. Keep on enlightening us so that we really learn how to stand in our boundaries and stay grounded in who we are. Now I'm also gonna listen to the video with Nicole and Rori Raye (her work is phenomenal!) So excited for that!
Love it! You got it!
After being in different relationships at my age. ( I'm 46). Both of us have to put 100% in. I give 100 he gives 100 if I can't find anyone that can't. I'll remain single till I die. I've had enough of giving my all !
Thank you for sharing this perspective.
This is an amazing video, even outside of dating. Knowing our value and knowing what will enrich our soul means we will not settle for anything less from ourselves or from anyone else.
Thank you! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!
Thank you! I love this. It is so true and valuable. It gives us guidance, clarity and it helps us know who we are, what we stand for and what we deserve. Thank you!
This is powerful, thank you. I definitely feel empowered to take action now... even though it feels scary. I find it so interesting to reflect on the insight that I may be avoiding true intimacy myself by choosing a particular person/unavailable partners. Wow.
You're welcome, I'm happy to hear you're feeling more empowered now!
This video is literally so timely and has helped me see so much that I wasn't before. Thank you! Xx
You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful!
That's amazing! I am really happy to hear it helped you!
So powerful. I needed to see this today. It put everything into perspective for me x
I’m glad this was helpful for you! 💕
wow, I am happy to hear that!
Oh wow. So I'm really attracting what I deep subconsciously feel about myself?
Here's an article I wrote that should help clarify this concept: helenahartcoaching.com/are-you-hiring-a-man-to-hurt-you/
The way I describe it is that it is really important for us to be conscious to what our fears, feelings and emotions are. If we are not conscious of them, we can make them real. When we suppress our feelings and fears we tend to make them real and take action based on these fears instead of choosing to claim a new POV. Hopefully that helps.
Dear Helena, I discovered your videos a few weeks ago & heard so many beautiful women speaking, tips from them & you. I want to honestly thank you sharing the training on 'how to stop attracting the wrong kind of men...', it was such a confirming opening and even healing message. It was one of the few audios that really gave me the clue finally what was going on with the masculine & feminine energies around. I could so much relate to your personal story & beliefs that you worked through. And that you shared this program for FREE! That's so amazing. I am once again sooo very much grateful. Bless your femininity & all the work you are doing for all the other women in the world!!!
You're welcome, I'm so happy to hear that training was helpful for you!
Shrinking myself down to be in a relationship with a man and sacrificing myself for a man is just self- defeating behavior. Co-dependency? No! Tolerating misbehavior? No longer!
Whatever I resist persists - so true.
When I feel better about myself, I do better, setting high values and boundaries.
Be with someone who celebrates me vs tolerates or rejects me!
Responding vs reacting is good to remember.
Powerful creator swimming in victim mentality. Wow!
Thank you ladies for these transformational nuggets!
You're welcome, Sausha!
I am glad it supported you Fonda! Much love!
I needed this video. Resonated so much. Especially the chemistry with emotionally unavailable men.
I’m glad this resonated with you, Lauren! These videos should also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/PZ0ZGs4qfnM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html.
This is such a powerful video. I really appreciate this conversation and insight.
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞
Ladies..thank you! Amazing video!! Mind awakening...lessons we all need to learn!
You’re welcome! 💖
So happy to hear that Nicole!
Great recommendations, I'm realizing that I need to break the pattern, please bring her back ! This lady has a very powerful soul 👼
Thank you! Here are two more videos I did with Nicole on this topic that should be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html.
Aw, that's so sweet! Thank you so much! I am glad that it connected with you! Would love to do a video soon!
Over the course of my life I've had the undeniable hunger for personal growth-- to understand the rhyme and reason of things. And, finally to be free of what often felt like the fear of dying old and alone.
Thanks for sharing your experience here!
Wow!!! So deep, so true and so powerful! Thank you! 🙏
You’re welcome! 💖
Thank you Helena this is such great advice! I have been going through this unccessarily for way too long. God bless you girls!
You’re welcome Angie, I’m glad this was helpful! ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. This is what I just went through. I really liked him but not for my self worth.
You're welcome!
This topic, the explanation, the interaction are the best so far...
Thanks Maria! Here’s a livestream I did with Nicole on a similar topic that should also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html
Accepting or rejecting not tolerating three words not to forget when he’s messaging you again damn this video is good
I'm glad that resonated with you Claire, thanks for watching!
Glad it supported you Claire! You got this!
Ladies you are so on point, thanks for sharing for your wise words
You’re welcome, thanks for watching! ❤️
We women sooo need to hear this ...we really do💓
I’m glad this resonated with you, thanks for watching! 💕
Makes me really happy to know it has connected with you Divine Grace!
This video has so many wonderful new ideas for that, as in my unconscious mind is so powerful, it brings me my fears (my words) and I have been working for something like 22 years not to keep doing the same kind of relationship, where it is impossible for me to have my authentic voice and to stand in my own truth. Thank you! I am glad I stumbled across your videos.
You’re welcome! This one might also be helpful for you: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html
The best is when they tell you on your birthday they don't want a relationship but he's being exclusive and then taper off without explanation and then get hurt when they realize you're dating or curious about others because of the lack of connection....
Brittany Digital My “boyfriend” cheated on me three days after my birthday, and at my birthday he acted like a total jerk.
Previous guy dumped me via text message on a Christmas Eve.
I am done with dating, because I will end up hating all male sex, I swear.
I didn’t know how much i needed this video! Thanks! ❤️
You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful!
That's amazing! I am so happy it supports you!
Profound. Blessed and humbled. Thank you for explaining this and awakening me to these truths 😘💕💕
You’re welcome! 💕
You are welcome!
Funny. Nicole, I watched it for the 100th time just this morning. I sent it to my daughter and her best friend. When you and Helena have tough days and wonder why the heck you do what you do, think of me 😘👍🏼. Thank you !!
WOW!!! I love it! That's AMAZING! Thank you so much for sharing for the love. I really do believe it saves a lot of heartache and it helps truly remember who we are. We have more in store :) You've made my morning.
Thank you so much Cindi, that means the world to us! ❤️
Sso good. Guest is very gifted for this process. Thank you.
You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you so much1 I am glad it resonated with you!
A video about chemistry based on feeling safe will be very helpful. Thanks, love you videos.
Thanks for the great suggestion, I can definitely do a video on this!
This interview it’s awesome!! More of this !!! 🙏🏼
Here are some more videos I recorded on this topic with Nicole if you’d like to check them out: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/Z-qNbbh6pIU/видео.html.
Litterally brought me to tears because the truth ne
I’m so glad this resonated with you! ❤️
Ι loved every moment of this video. Thank you so much!!
You're welcome, Joanna!
Amazing stuff, thank you
You’re welcome! These videos might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/EFzjPYsm_Pk/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/it3kv3I7bCU/видео.html.
Totally resonating with the point that I am attracting men who are not emotionally available because it is the safe option as I don't have to be emotionally intimate with them. Also, I am analyzer but it would be good to observe and then respond.
I'm glad that resonated with you!
oh wow, I so hear you R B! Blessings to you. Coming back to your heart will attract the right type of men for you! Being centered in that space and energy, sends out this message that you trust your safety and you trust yourself to receive it. The meditation and clearing I offered is a good way to start!
Ugh, I wish I had seen this sooner. I am in a situation with a man that gave me everything for 4 weeks and then he had a family situation and suddenly he's unavailable. As a result of that, I started to see inconsistencies and broke it off but after 5 days of no contact... I felt guilty for abandoning him in a stressful time. Now I get breadcrumbs. I am just going to slowly disappear and continue dating. Without notice...LOL Oh well, I am too amazing for this inadvertent or not treatment despite his delicate condition. That's what happens when I try to be sensitive to other people's feelings.
Hi Naly, sorry to hear you went through this recently. Here's another video we did on how to let go of a man like this, it might be helpful for your situation: ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html
Blessings to you! Hopefully things are going great for you right now!
I brought it up and he wasn’t even aware that what he was doing was hurting me.
I told him that I knew it wasn’t his intention to hurt me but at least now he can have more awareness around it so he could chose wether or not if he wanted to continue our connection.
He’s been more attentive and loving.
And now, I don’t even need that much attention as long as that time he does spend with me is quality.
He’s a really great man. I tell him that all the time.
@@naylee8569 I am really happy to hear that Naly! That's amazing!
@@naylee8569 I know that this is 2 years later; but, you made the right move by cutting him off. No contact for 5 days? Sounds like he already has another woman and possibly a family if his own. Once a guy is inconsistent, or on again off again, I instantly get suspicious. Especially no contact for days at a time, it usually means that he has another woman.
The way I overcame my own overt emotional vulnerability and regained an enhanced emotional stability as a man was to be willing and courageous enough to express some of that vulnerability to a woman willing to hold a non- judgemental space for me where she created the private setting (protecting my badly bruised ego from further ridicule), displayed her own expression of respect by letting me have "the floor" to say and feel what I felt necessary to say and/or feel(without verbally judging me), and helped restore my sense of agency or a sense of a restored Self-Control where once I was made to feel like someone else's appendage or welcome mat, only with no control of what I said/didn't say or did/didn't do.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience here, Raul!
Thank you - very good timing. Always love your topics and videos. Actually going to watch it again to soak it up.
You’re welcome! ❤️
Oh, great! Let us know what resonated during the second watch!
We’ve been dating long distance for 2 months and I like it. He introduced me to his daughters on FaceTime the other day and she told him I was so pretty. My heart melted 🥰🥰🥰 I love those girls already b cause they’re his and it’s a package deal ♥️
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Aisha! These videos might be helpful if you’re long distance right now: ruclips.net/video/b6yUgQCtrzE/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_Rm3bi1DNT8/видео.html.
Why doesn't a man like this turn to you so you can help him? Also I either attract this type of man or men I have absolutely no attraction to..why is this. This was awesome!
Hi Christine, great question! Men like this often don’t want help because they don’t have the same needs for connection as we do, especially if they’re emotionally unavailable or have an avoidant attachment style. These videos should be helpful: ruclips.net/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/видео.html.
I needed to hear this. Thank you
You’re welcome! 💕
So happy to hear this! You are welcome!
This was awesome!! Many thanks- very informative! Keen to know how this works in long term relationships... where you feel that the person was giving you more than crumbs - had baby, got married, but over time both partners give less & less emotionally... sometimes just due to the realities of day to day life,.. is that what is underneath or just what it becomes when you take each other for granted?
This is a powerful question, a lot of things could be happening but the concept of happiness that was touched on the video applies here too.
Wow! What a great vid! Ty! 💙
You’re welcome! 💕
You are welcome!
I now see how bad I needed this video. I've been dealing with feelings of being unworthy and conforming with certain situations out fear of losing the guy I like. And it's so true, it has to do with my past. Guess it's time to stop hiding that and actually work on it. Thanks sooo much for this video. I would really like to know what are your tips to build long lasting core confidence (maybe in another video) ♥️
You're welcome! I'll keep this in mind for future videos. In the meantime, the other two videos I recorded with Nicole should be really helpful for you because we talk about owning your worthiness and developing core confidence. Here are the links to them (I'd love to hear your thoughts on these!): ruclips.net/video/3chwtR1WrPI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/tPGBYKUe1nU/видео.html.
Yes, I agree. This is so powerful Ailin. This is one of the most loving choices you can do. Let us know how it goes!
My understanding of what emotional availability is is the ability to hold space for someone and to do so in a non- judgemental way.
Since I can never give to someone what I do not have it was necessary for me to find this kind of caring individual who was capable, patient and willing to help me do this kind of Personal growth work.
And now I am preparing to offer her the same loving care, attention and respect that she showed me.
My responsibility towards her is very clear to me and I believe that if she can summon the same kind of courage it took to make herself emotionally available to me to risk being emotionally vulnerable I believe it will help her resolve what I've heard some counselors refer to as "the good/bad split which prevents her and I believe most people from enjoying success or fulfillment in both the personal and business/work realms at the same time.
This kind of resolution is very much needed, but by and large relatively rarely achieved in the world it seems to me.
And it is very much needed as societal problems become compounded over time by inattention, nes pas?
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here!
Very good! Thank you.
You’re welcome! 💕
My favorite so far!!!! 🎯
I'm glad you enjoyed it!
Wow! Good insights.
Thank you! This video should also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html
Definitely need to watch and re-watch
Hi Kayla, these videos should also be helpful for you: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/Q9oHsr6RdP8/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/it3kv3I7bCU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/PZ0ZGs4qfnM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html.
Thank you so much for this video. 😊♥️
You’re welcome! 💕
You are welcome!
Absolutely excellent!!!
Thank you!
Great! Thank you! Glad it clicked with you!
Awwe thanks this is very helpful! :)
You’re welcome, I’m glad it was helpful! 💕
yay!
God, it was sooooo good!
Glad you liked it lovely!
Thank you! 💕
Such good insight.
Thank you, Beth!
Oh my goodness, ladies thank you 💛
You’re welcome! 💜
You are welcome!
To center myself sounds like to internalize my own locus of control so I'm not overly dependent on a partner.
I like the way you put that, thanks for sharing!
Yes I can identify, 11 yes of the breadcrumb diet. 1 sided love as well.
Blessings Gina!
Omg this is me💯manifest anything except I am in victim mode deep down I don’t deserve it. Damn thank you for this !
You’re welcome, Christina! This video might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html
I loved every moment of this video! It gave me courage to endure my loneliness after the breakup. Thank you so much!!
You're welcome, I'm so glad it was helpful!
I am so happy to hear that Joanna! Blessings!
So deep needed this
I'm glad this was helpful!
Happy this connected with you!
HOLY SHIT THIS IS HAPPPENING TO ME RIGHT NOW IM GLAD I WATCHED THIS VIDEO WHAT A FKING WAKE UP CALL.... GOTTA GET THE HELL OUT THIS RELATIONSHIP
Thanks for sharing your experience here. These videos might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/EFzjPYsm_Pk/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/_iPJxM7VwQo/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/it3kv3I7bCU/видео.html.
Thanks so much
You’re welcome! 💕
Wow so deep so true and so every women on the plant need to see this talk women trusting choose.This was very helpful I keep feeling a spiritual connection with the following the success women
I'm so glad this resonated with you and was helpful!
I am so happy this resonated with you Hoili! Blessings!
BEAUTIFUL thoughts
Thank you!
yes!! :)
😍Love, Love, Love!!
Thank you!
Glad you love it!