I have a feeling the awful excuse of a mother is jealous of her daughter because she's beautiful and smarter than her. Or I bet the spineless father said something like OH LOOK HOW BEAUTIFUL SHE IS
Honestly, likely not. It sounds more like it’s a generational trauma thing amongst the maternal family since all the women have been judgmental and cruel to OP. Likely her mom grew up the same way to be callous towards her own daughter and other women, so she ended up being overly doting on her son instead. When OP didnt fit into their familial clique, they tried to ostracize and villainize her.
Raised by a narcissist. Though the details differ, the overall experience with the mom and an enabling father sounds very familiar. It's a similar pattern every time, and often people who are close to narcissists can't see it until they step back and observe the dynamics from afar.
I love the phrase "we'll make it up to you" Like you can do that for a wedding. I like OPs mom is inconsolable about missing the wedding, serves her right for being blind toward her daughter
I betting the brother is a bench warmer. No high level athlete act like that, the work ethic required for that level prevents mamas boys from playing in a high level since they are incapable of that
This. Plus, un OP didn't report it, he has a record for breaking into her apt and you can't play (depending on some schools) if you've got something like theft on your name, and his sister no less? OUT
Except, even bench-warmers make the cut due to their athleticism. Folks like myself aren't able to make the 3rd cut based on our visible physical impairments compared to the other prospective teammates. I clearly recall back in high school making the 1st and 2nd cut, but not the 3rd cut when trying out for the high school's soccer team.
Op, in my opinion, is too nice to her mother's side. I would have forwarded their messages to their friends, spouses, and employers. As a gentle kick in there butt. Before regretting my actions. I guess I'm the type to jump the band wagon. And go ham on people. Even if it ruins people's lives in the process.
I do that too. Actions before thoughts, is how I’ve always functioned. Is it right, no, does it feel good to show everyone how much of an asshat someone is, absofuckinglutely
when I loose my shit I go to all lengths possible to f that person even if I f myself at the same time too and in OP's place I would've lost my shit really fing bad
Despite the brother having destroyed the invites, they’re still not absolved from guilt and responsibility for not being there. Firstly, because if they’d paid the least little bit of attention, they would have known there was a wedding being planned. Secondly, because if they hadn’t established the solid precedent that they ignore all OP ‘s wedding events, OP would have followed up until getting a response.
Egg donor is a narcissist. To get mad at op for calling her out on her lies and treated op plus say she just hated her own daughter for no reason imtells it all. Not to mention getting mad plus blame op that her husband is threatening divorce and finally standing up to her. Parasite is well on his way to be a psycho to get rid of all invitations for no reason other than wanting their attention on him.
The pity party from Op's dad is beyond amazing, the dude actually thinks that divorce will solve everything. Brother is the absolute manchild, I really hope both parents will start blaming him of everything.
Tbf he said he's divorcing her no matter what, so most likely everything that's happened finally broke the camels back, love is one hell of a drug, even if it's for a narcissist like his wife, but it seems he finally grew a bit of a backbone and realized how fucked up he was acting, not to say he's a good person or should be forgiven
@@10jimmy The divorce is just more laughable selfishness. He turned on his wife the same way he turned on his own daughter to benefit himself. I bet he gets back together with the wife after he realizes none of the family that cut him off will let him back in.
He's younger and then got that personality to boot. Ergo he's not married, 100%, and may not have a girlfriend either. I'd say her getting married and having her relationship is the first time he had to experience her getting something he didn't. If I may play armchair psychologist for a second.
To be honest, they probably wouldn’t have gone even if OP’s man-baby brother didn’t get rid of the invites (the messages and paper). Mom already said that she simply didn’t like her daughter and her limp-dick husband would’ve just done whatever his wife told him to do. They already lied about OP’s brother having a football game and instead went to Disney. They probably would’ve ignored the invites while either dismissing them as a prank (which mom thought was the case when hearing about the wedding plans) or not giving a shit.
I think the father was repentant, but at that point it doesnt matter, the damage is done, he has to live with choices he made and the consequenses of his inactions.
Funny how victims of manipulations are seen as victims but husbands being victim of manipulation are their own fault. He is literally divorcing his wife because she is horrible and no one helped him open his eyes. OP is wrong here to consider that her father is the same as the mother even more when she literally said to her father how pathetic he was to be manipulated by this woman. She is just full of rage and don’t want to accept that she isn’t the only victim
He wasn't, he blamed the mother for something that was also HIS responsibility, even if he was forced to favour one child like he's claiming, he could have at least listened to her or be nice in secret but he never bothered
@@tori4730 I guess you don't understand what is manipulation. Funny enough we have thousands of psychologic studies showing that people like him are manipulated to the point he can't think rationally. For example there is the Stockolm syndrome, which makes the people litteraly like the oppressor. Imagine you are listening to someone complaining about something and your manipulator explains to you it's wrong. You will likely believe the manipulator because this person messed up your way of thinking You say it's his responsibility but i think you don't understand the ramification of what was going on. He was totally under her, he had no choosing or even right to talk. As the op, he was a victim of abuse from her. That's why he is divorcing her which will put him in a tough position as they will divide their assets even if she is clearly in hte wrong. Funny also how she is mentioning in a majority her mother for the wrong doings but for you the father has the same wrong doigns as the mother. But i guess it's easier to take out all the things that make him human and the issues about being human and just blame him.
Ya honestly, he should accept responsibility. But I think he is trying by divorcing at the very least. After all, OP has noted that the dad seems to actually care about her, but he’s such doormat that he followed the whims of the wife. He’s both at fault and a victim who can do nothing but accept the consequences of his inaction
Father was mentally & emotionally abused by this rotten excuse of a woman. MEN CAN BE ABUSED BY THEIR WIFE!!!!!!! Her father was brainwashed by the wife. Seriously, put yourself in his place & realistically think of what you would do. I am sure the abuse has been ongoing for YEARS!!!!!!!
If the mom's inconsolable it's because of her own decisions biting her back. She hasn't done anything that shows she should be forgiven. The father should have stood up to the favoritism sooner and been a real father. I wonder what the mother's idiotic reason for hating her daughter was. Because she was better than her brother because she didn't rely heavily on her parents.
Very common scene in Asian societies and the worst is you can't go no contact to parents. They're treat there daughter like a evil monster and treat there son's like Angel.
NTA So the brother was spoilt by both parents and now only cares about attention no matter who he has to throw under bus for said attention, the mother was a rotten person through and through, while the maternal family shows where she got her rotten personality and the father seems to be the most rotten of them all by being a coward that not only let others run over him but also willingly throw others under the bus to escape being targeted by bullies. A coward that doesn't have strenght to stand up to their bully is one thing they have at least some pride in themselves, but a coward that joins their bully to target other victims in order to escape being bullied by the bully is a different kind of cowardice in my opinion
Blah blah just be quiet with the fake story lots of people had an Dysfunctional family life so you people please can it I'm so sick of hearing this is fake when you haven't gone through their pain to understand
A lot of people on reddit tell the almost same thing. I bet it happens more than we care to know. So very sad. My sister is like that with her oldest son from her 1st marriage. She is on her 4,the and final, I think. But he will do anything for a little scrap of attention.
She literally sent them invites. Its sad OP is downplaying even now which is clear trauma, but there is no way in hell they didn't know. Impossible. Period. Several instances in where it was talked about, so anyone with a brain can see they were planning to play dumb to save face. I wanna go as far as to say the dad really didn't give af about OP just his dad. The entire situation is just scummy and pathetic
She said the invites were destroyed and unlike the mother she didn't talk about her wedding in front of dad it seems, or the mother spun BS, the dad seems to have the IQ of a rock, not seeing how dumb or stupid hes being until far far too late when it's being thrown in his face, a literal Muppet who is used by a narcissistic woman
They did know! If you've watched the update, you'd know that the mother admitted she knew OP talked about the wedding, but she assumed it was just OP attention seeking. OP was delusional, and there was no way her fiancé actually liked her. That's what the mother told her to her face when OP met her parents and brother with her husband, grandpa and an aunt who posted about the wedding on FB to shame OPs immediate "family".
Family ignored op and their milestones including her wedding invitation Op "ok so you wouldn't want to come to my wedding " Ops family " wait it was her wedding?"
Mom ultimately knew about the wedding but didn't take it seriously. What did she really cry to her family about, seeing as she did not care about it in the first place?
"Mother is horrible as well as father too. 😔 He admits that he was missing in her entire life, and he also took part in their lies so that all three could enjoy a better vacation, which is very obvious. The sudden realization is only because he didn't get the chance to walk her on the biggest day of her life, her wedding. Because of that shame, he is now reflecting, which means he is still an AH."
Big problem i have with the story is the inconsistencies. For example, Assuming this is in the us. She said her collage fund was spent on her brother, yet she has a masters and bachelors. I guess its possible she got scholarship
Even if the brother didn’t show the invite, don’t tell me that your mom’s sisters and your cousins and so forth never mentioned, like. What are you gonna wear at the wedding? So, to cut the Bullsh*t
(15:45) I have no place in this discussion, but I honestly feel like you should’ve at least given your dad a chance at redemption. Maybe not full forgiveness, not forgetting what happened, but at least closure with a more positive last note.
You told them! If they didn't listen, it's not your fault. Brother can sit and spin! But you told your parents and then said that's nice. Then when you said the date was unchangable, they told you that brother was playing him last game then. So what of this is your fault!? That you didn't kidnap them and force them?
Your perents are the worse their golden child is important than you wish you a happy life with your husband live and forget about them who are with you love you and never leave you
3:54, AH, so the Only Reason that both Brother, Dad, and mom are upset is because they are facing Consequences for their Choices. Sucks to Suck. 5:17, I would post a copy of the list of Everyone you RSVP'd, and those who Didnt Reply, even though they were sent this by Certified Mail meaning they had to Sign for it, as Proof they recieved it. Bet the peanut gallery goes quiet when they realize Mom&Dad Knew about the wedding and Chose to miss it anyways. 12:36, I would have Honestly posted the Truth about brother tearing up the Invitation, and Where Parents ACTUALLY WERE instead of at their daughters wedding. Bet that Torches them.
i would say to the aunts that were belittling op for supposedly hiding the wedding "see thats the thing, i didnt have to hide it, i made no effort to do so, she didnt even care to pay attention throughout my whole life, why should i care enough to go out of my way to make sure she's aware of it? i sent invites, thats my due diligence, maybe tell her to pull her head out of my brothers @$$ long enough to realize other life events are happening"
You need to go NC with your Brother ,Moms side and parents,period. Change your number and Do not give your address to anyone, you could get a po box. Make it very clear to the point that no one other than you or your husband give any info to. Jic they try to find out your address. It's quite obvious that your parents are not worth your time. Your Mom ruled the home and your Dad is whipped and or a coward. Once your Dad found out you got married without him walking you down the isle he should have manned up and came to you. It's time to move on and live your new life with your husband
The dad is a spineless beta. He literally witheld support and care to his only daughter because he wanted to avoid conflict with his absolute monster of a wife.
yes her father is kind of throwing a pity party, but her father saying he will divorce no matter what, just means that her parents's marriage was already in shambles and this was the last straw for her father, yes her father made many bad choices, most maybe because of his wife but also some because of his choices itself, but i do think he has regret for not being there on his daughter's wedding day
OP isn't an AH, but they are kinda dumb. College sport schedules, especially D1, are known well in advance. OP gave them a ready made excuse, and if you know how important that stuff is to a parent, you'd know why choosing between a season finale and a wedding would be a difficult choice, even without the issue of blatant favoritism. Edit: I feel stupid now lol should have finished the story.
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It sounds like you felt overlooked and unappreciated while your brother was given more attention, which can be deeply hurtful, especially when your own achievements and milestones go unnoticed. Not sharing your own significant life events with them might have been a way of reclaiming your independence or setting a boundary. Hopefully, with time, open communication can help bridge some of those feelings and lead to understanding on both sides
Ive always found the way redditors get annoyed when you doubt their stories weird, Like your an anonymous person posting a reasonably vague story, yeah i doubt it.
"I don't actually think you find it weird, I think you want a relationship with your mother." It's because the type of people two not only doubt a story but also comment about it are the armchair psychologist people and the spamming your dm people
I wonder what would happen if you had one of these reddit stories but the mc had gen z humour like "thats why mom likes me more and your a disappointment" and then he just says "erm what the sigma, not very skibidi just gyattmaxed your fanum tax"
I wouldn’t say the dad is completely at fault for this, because by the sound of things mom ran the house. I would see what comes from him trying to change. I think dad is being honest saying he wants to change
I honestly think what she said about her dad was wrong I feel like he really does want to reconnect with his daughter and what she said in response was kinda rude but I get where it is coming from
Op mad because Obviously fake story is fake. She claims her brother archived the message. But earlier she said she TEXTED her parents about it and they left her on read. But we are supposed to believe that they didn’t know. Oh ok. 😂😂😂😂. People really love to make elaborate stories on Reddit.
She needs to stop being so dramatic. Particularly to the dad who said he would divorce her whether his daughter wanted to stay in touch with him or not
ONE good thing doesn't erase literal years of neglect, if it was one for one or maybe one for two I would agree with you but one? To give you an example put a ⚖️ then in one side hundreds of newborns (representing very little things across years), then a very fat guy on the other side (representing the divorce, and by the way is not that much of a gesture since the mother is horrible) even if the guy is heavier that any of the newborns he would not weight as much as hundreds of newborns Plus what they did to OP could hardly consider those as newborns maybe 10 year old and the divorce "gesture" at most a slightly chubby 18 year old so no that father doesn't deserve any kind of atonement
This woman is damaged for good. This poor guy Lucas never shouldn’t married her. She has a lot damage and probably will cheat on him because she will be seeking for affection and validation from another men. Because she never have that growing up and even in her adult years. To much drama for poor Lucas
Boy what are you yapping about she’s literally in therapy for her trauma and problems so it will probably never turn out like that (this is coming from someone who was a people pleaser and used to seek attention before going to therapy)
I agree with the part of Lucas having too much drama but that's it, she is damaged but she is aware and going to therapy so she can heal, I do admit that is a possibility of what you say to happen but is not that high
They don't care about being forgiven by OP. They only want to save whatever shred of reputation they still have. They don't deserve any forgiveness.
Agreed, they're nothing but tyrannical hypocrites
No one on the maternal side does. At least the paternal grandpa was loving enough to walk op down the aisle
All they want is to save face……. Not being forgiven.
The father maybe doesn't want to save face, but by being a doormat he doesn't deserve forgiveness aswell
They're just trying to save face. They don't deserve forgiveness at all.
I have a feeling the awful excuse of a mother is jealous of her daughter because she's beautiful and smarter than her. Or I bet the spineless father said something like OH LOOK HOW BEAUTIFUL SHE IS
Honestly, likely not. It sounds more like it’s a generational trauma thing amongst the maternal family since all the women have been judgmental and cruel to OP. Likely her mom grew up the same way to be callous towards her own daughter and other women, so she ended up being overly doting on her son instead. When OP didnt fit into their familial clique, they tried to ostracize and villainize her.
Raised by a narcissist. Though the details differ, the overall experience with the mom and an enabling father sounds very familiar. It's a similar pattern every time, and often people who are close to narcissists can't see it until they step back and observe the dynamics from afar.
I think it’s something else. Because she’s such a narcissist, she hilariously believes that she’s better than OP
"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"
Glad OP is not a doormat
Yeah, I'm glad too because there are too many OP's on reddit who are absolute doormats tbh.
Unlike her dad
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@@asdaeff8204that’s the crazy part and so weird how that works. Usually when both parents are complete degenerates, the OP would be a doormat
I love the phrase "we'll make it up to you" Like you can do that for a wedding. I like OPs mom is inconsolable about missing the wedding, serves her right for being blind toward her daughter
Wrong
I betting the brother is a bench warmer. No high level athlete act like that, the work ethic required for that level prevents mamas boys from playing in a high level since they are incapable of that
This. Plus, un OP didn't report it, he has a record for breaking into her apt and you can't play (depending on some schools) if you've got something like theft on your name, and his sister no less? OUT
He is the water boy bench warmer to too good 4 a leech
Except, even bench-warmers make the cut due to their athleticism. Folks like myself aren't able to make the 3rd cut based on our visible physical impairments compared to the other prospective teammates. I clearly recall back in high school making the 1st and 2nd cut, but not the 3rd cut when trying out for the high school's soccer team.
Op, in my opinion, is too nice to her mother's side. I would have forwarded their messages to their friends, spouses, and employers. As a gentle kick in there butt. Before regretting my actions. I guess I'm the type to jump the band wagon. And go ham on people. Even if it ruins people's lives in the process.
Yeah, because the family didn't think twice before ruining her life.
Interesting perspective! How do you think she can balance kindness with self-protection in difficult family situations?
I do that too. Actions before thoughts, is how I’ve always functioned. Is it right, no, does it feel good to show everyone how much of an asshat someone is, absofuckinglutely
when I loose my shit I go to all lengths possible to f that person even if I f myself at the same time too and in OP's place I would've lost my shit really fing bad
Despite the brother having destroyed the invites, they’re still not absolved from guilt and responsibility for not being there. Firstly, because if they’d paid the least little bit of attention, they would have known there was a wedding being planned. Secondly, because if they hadn’t established the solid precedent that they ignore all OP ‘s wedding events, OP would have followed up until getting a response.
What really bothers me was the beating she got at fourteen. Damn idk why but I felt that in my soul, along with the gaslighting
Egg donor is a narcissist. To get mad at op for calling her out on her lies and treated op plus say she just hated her own daughter for no reason imtells it all. Not to mention getting mad plus blame op that her husband is threatening divorce and finally standing up to her. Parasite is well on his way to be a psycho to get rid of all invitations for no reason other than wanting their attention on him.
The pity party from Op's dad is beyond amazing, the dude actually thinks that divorce will solve everything.
Brother is the absolute manchild, I really hope both parents will start blaming him of everything.
Tbf he said he's divorcing her no matter what, so most likely everything that's happened finally broke the camels back, love is one hell of a drug, even if it's for a narcissist like his wife, but it seems he finally grew a bit of a backbone and realized how fucked up he was acting, not to say he's a good person or should be forgiven
@@10jimmy The divorce is just more laughable selfishness. He turned on his wife the same way he turned on his own daughter to benefit himself. I bet he gets back together with the wife after he realizes none of the family that cut him off will let him back in.
I suspected the brother destroyed the invite.....unsurprising for golden child to pull that bs to be center of attention.
He's younger and then got that personality to boot. Ergo he's not married, 100%, and may not have a girlfriend either.
I'd say her getting married and having her relationship is the first time he had to experience her getting something he didn't.
If I may play armchair psychologist for a second.
@@ZenoDovahkiin100% he isn't getting married nor have a girlfriend who the tf wants a man like him can't stand up to his parents
To be honest, they probably wouldn’t have gone even if OP’s man-baby brother didn’t get rid of the invites (the messages and paper). Mom already said that she simply didn’t like her daughter and her limp-dick husband would’ve just done whatever his wife told him to do. They already lied about OP’s brother having a football game and instead went to Disney. They probably would’ve ignored the invites while either dismissing them as a prank (which mom thought was the case when hearing about the wedding plans) or not giving a shit.
I think the father was repentant, but at that point it doesnt matter, the damage is done, he has to live with choices he made and the consequenses of his inactions.
Funny how victims of manipulations are seen as victims but husbands being victim of manipulation are their own fault.
He is literally divorcing his wife because she is horrible and no one helped him open his eyes.
OP is wrong here to consider that her father is the same as the mother even more when she literally said to her father how pathetic he was to be manipulated by this woman.
She is just full of rage and don’t want to accept that she isn’t the only victim
He wasn't, he blamed the mother for something that was also HIS responsibility, even if he was forced to favour one child like he's claiming, he could have at least listened to her or be nice in secret but he never bothered
@@tori4730 I guess you don't understand what is manipulation.
Funny enough we have thousands of psychologic studies showing that people like him are manipulated to the point he can't think rationally.
For example there is the Stockolm syndrome, which makes the people litteraly like the oppressor.
Imagine you are listening to someone complaining about something and your manipulator explains to you it's wrong.
You will likely believe the manipulator because this person messed up your way of thinking
You say it's his responsibility but i think you don't understand the ramification of what was going on.
He was totally under her, he had no choosing or even right to talk.
As the op, he was a victim of abuse from her.
That's why he is divorcing her which will put him in a tough position as they will divide their assets even if she is clearly in hte wrong.
Funny also how she is mentioning in a majority her mother for the wrong doings but for you the father has the same wrong doigns as the mother.
But i guess it's easier to take out all the things that make him human and the issues about being human and just blame him.
Ya honestly, he should accept responsibility. But I think he is trying by divorcing at the very least. After all, OP has noted that the dad seems to actually care about her, but he’s such doormat that he followed the whims of the wife. He’s both at fault and a victim who can do nothing but accept the consequences of his inaction
Father was mentally & emotionally abused by this rotten excuse of a woman. MEN CAN BE ABUSED BY THEIR WIFE!!!!!!!
Her father was brainwashed by the wife. Seriously, put yourself in his place & realistically think of what you would do. I am sure the abuse has been ongoing for YEARS!!!!!!!
If the mom's inconsolable it's because of her own decisions biting her back. She hasn't done anything that shows she should be forgiven. The father should have stood up to the favoritism sooner and been a real father. I wonder what the mother's idiotic reason for hating her daughter was. Because she was better than her brother because she didn't rely heavily on her parents.
"and lucas is spoiling me rotten"
That caught me off guard so much Lol
Very common scene in Asian societies and the worst is you can't go no contact to parents. They're treat there daughter like a evil monster and treat there son's like Angel.
NTA
So the brother was spoilt by both parents and now only cares about attention no matter who he has to throw under bus for said attention, the mother was a rotten person through and through, while the maternal family shows where she got her rotten personality and the father seems to be the most rotten of them all by being a coward that not only let others run over him but also willingly throw others under the bus to escape being targeted by bullies.
A coward that doesn't have strenght to stand up to their bully is one thing they have at least some pride in themselves, but a coward that joins their bully to target other victims in order to escape being bullied by the bully is a different kind of cowardice in my opinion
I can't imagine missing your daughters' wedding to take a man-child to Disney
I know OP claims this this story is true, but I seriously hope it's fake, cuz her family is just the worst.
Blah blah just be quiet with the fake story lots of people had an Dysfunctional family life so you people please can it I'm so sick of hearing this is fake when you haven't gone through their pain to understand
@@nekokeishonjordan1171 they were hoping it wasn't fake? Are you slow?
A lot of people on reddit tell the almost same thing. I bet it happens more than we care to know. So very sad. My sister is like that with her oldest son from her 1st marriage. She is on her 4,the and final, I think. But he will do anything for a little scrap of attention.
My family was worst if this is all there is to the story. I’m sure she left 90% of it out.
Bad news: these people exist. Even if OP was making it up, all of these things still happen, just to other people.
She literally sent them invites. Its sad OP is downplaying even now which is clear trauma, but there is no way in hell they didn't know. Impossible. Period. Several instances in where it was talked about, so anyone with a brain can see they were planning to play dumb to save face. I wanna go as far as to say the dad really didn't give af about OP just his dad. The entire situation is just scummy and pathetic
She said the invites were destroyed and unlike the mother she didn't talk about her wedding in front of dad it seems, or the mother spun BS, the dad seems to have the IQ of a rock, not seeing how dumb or stupid hes being until far far too late when it's being thrown in his face, a literal Muppet who is used by a narcissistic woman
They did know! If you've watched the update, you'd know that the mother admitted she knew OP talked about the wedding, but she assumed it was just OP attention seeking. OP was delusional, and there was no way her fiancé actually liked her. That's what the mother told her to her face when OP met her parents and brother with her husband, grandpa and an aunt who posted about the wedding on FB to shame OPs immediate "family".
You can’t make it up if you miss a child’s wedding, graduation, award, funeral, etc
Ok but Lucas ate !! Like he is a great husband
Op I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself. Your family had it coming.
Family ignored op and their milestones including her wedding invitation
Op "ok so you wouldn't want to come to my wedding "
Ops family " wait it was her wedding?"
Mom ultimately knew about the wedding but didn't take it seriously. What did she really cry to her family about, seeing as she did not care about it in the first place?
Mike is seriously giving off "do it for Dan" vibes
"Mother is horrible as well as father too. 😔 He admits that he was missing in her entire life, and he also took part in their lies so that all three could enjoy a better vacation, which is very obvious. The sudden realization is only because he didn't get the chance to walk her on the biggest day of her life, her wedding. Because of that shame, he is now reflecting, which means he is still an AH."
Your family knows how to push your buttons because they are the ones who installed them
Big problem i have with the story is the inconsistencies. For example, Assuming this is in the us. She said her collage fund was spent on her brother, yet she has a masters and bachelors. I guess its possible she got scholarship
Op this is a really good point
Their neglect of you and favoritism towards your brother made your choice to exclude them from your wedding understandable.
My brother always says “it fake it fake” but that don’t stop me from listening
get a lawyer and a lawsuit going. a good dose of court will open their eyes.
I bet they took one of those pictures of the 3 of them at Disney with the man child standing in the middle wearing Mickey ears.
I've heard this so many times but I keep hearing it for the revenge.
I will always listen to all stories even if it’s too good to be true
Even if the brother didn’t show the invite, don’t tell me that your mom’s sisters and your cousins and so forth never mentioned, like. What are you gonna wear at the wedding? So, to cut the Bullsh*t
If it weren't for the internet I wouldn't even know people like this exist.
I think if she did tell them what it was they still would’ve tried to find an excuse
(15:45) I have no place in this discussion, but I honestly feel like you should’ve at least given your dad a chance at redemption. Maybe not full forgiveness, not forgetting what happened, but at least closure with a more positive last note.
Her man child brother going to Disney land cracked me up ☠️
You told them! If they didn't listen, it's not your fault. Brother can sit and spin! But you told your parents and then said that's nice. Then when you said the date was unchangable, they told you that brother was playing him last game then. So what of this is your fault!? That you didn't kidnap them and force them?
Her brother gives us mama's boys with some common sense a bad wrap.
They purposely missed like 3 chances to avoid the wedding and got mad when they missed it
Your perents are the worse their golden child is important than you wish you a happy life with your husband live and forget about them who are with you love you and never leave you
Good for you, you deserve better
3:54, AH, so the Only Reason that both Brother, Dad, and mom are upset is because they are facing Consequences for their Choices. Sucks to Suck.
5:17, I would post a copy of the list of Everyone you RSVP'd, and those who Didnt Reply, even though they were sent this by Certified Mail meaning they had to Sign for it, as Proof they recieved it. Bet the peanut gallery goes quiet when they realize Mom&Dad Knew about the wedding and Chose to miss it anyways.
12:36, I would have Honestly posted the Truth about brother tearing up the Invitation, and Where Parents ACTUALLY WERE instead of at their daughters wedding. Bet that Torches them.
great story
This story rly makes me doubt my family
The sad thing is people like that actually exist
The guy playing subway surfers dies at 9:04, ur welcome
i would say to the aunts that were belittling op for supposedly hiding the wedding "see thats the thing, i didnt have to hide it, i made no effort to do so, she didnt even care to pay attention throughout my whole life, why should i care enough to go out of my way to make sure she's aware of it? i sent invites, thats my due diligence, maybe tell her to pull her head out of my brothers @$$ long enough to realize other life events are happening"
oh so the maternal side is a jerk guess that runs in the family and at least Ik where the mother's golden child attitude came from
I feel Sorry for OP.😢
You need to go NC with your Brother ,Moms side and parents,period. Change your number and Do not give your address to anyone, you could get a po box. Make it very clear to the point that no one other than you or your husband give any info to. Jic they try to find out your address. It's quite obvious that your parents are not worth your time. Your Mom ruled the home and your Dad is whipped and or a coward. Once your Dad found out you got married without him walking you down the isle he should have manned up and came to you. It's time to move on and live your new life with your husband
The dad is a spineless beta. He literally witheld support and care to his only daughter because he wanted to avoid conflict with his absolute monster of a wife.
yes her father is kind of throwing a pity party, but her father saying he will divorce no matter what, just means that her parents's marriage was already in shambles and this was the last straw for her father, yes her father made many bad choices, most maybe because of his wife but also some because of his choices itself, but i do think he has regret for not being there on his daughter's wedding day
3:56 would have sent a message to your father saying there is no way that he or your mother could ever make it up to you.
I’m sorry that happened to you.
21 mail LOL
I have a entitled family I know what you mean that's why I cut all ties with them
Girl, you’ve already started therapy.
Based Grandpa
Op mom and mike was gonna make the wedding abt them selves
Uh hello? THE PARENTS WERE TALKING OVER YOU WHEN TRIED TO TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE GOMING UP???
Football schedules are online not just on the players socmed
OP isn't an AH, but they are kinda dumb. College sport schedules, especially D1, are known well in advance. OP gave them a ready made excuse, and if you know how important that stuff is to a parent, you'd know why choosing between a season finale and a wedding would be a difficult choice, even without the issue of blatant favoritism.
Edit: I feel stupid now lol should have finished the story.
1:45 are they gay or is the owner or the story a girl
Op is a girl
Op is a girl
OP is a girl
Just one word for the mom - karen
Gotta hand this too OPs father 🏆
Mf failed at being a man and a father
What game is playing in the background?
Subway Surfers
@@ColdTRex I'm failing to tell myself that the reason I know the answer to the question isn't because I'm old
@@ColdTRex Thank you
I don't know but it's distracting.
@@ScipioAfricanus_Chrisit's meant to be that way unfortunately. It's a carry over from tiktok. To keep people with short attention spans interested.
OP you and your husband do not prefer soccer, u prefer FOOTBALL
This is what happens when there is no man of the house.
How is this true?
ok tall of a sudden you mentioned abuse was that both your parents? or just your mother
Could have invited her father
Hey i need some help i want to create a reddit anonymous account but i am afraid what if they find my real identity any ideas how to avoid being caught
The robot voice and weird grammatical mistakes are a non-starter. Yikes! The robot obviously is not a native English speaker. 😂
21 mAiL
These bots are getting out of hand 💀
wow D:
Foolish
Uggghhh, can't listen to the lame AI. Real ppl make a story good, robots don't
It sounds like you felt overlooked and unappreciated while your brother was given more attention, which can be deeply hurtful, especially when your own achievements and milestones go unnoticed. Not sharing your own significant life events with them might have been a way of reclaiming your independence or setting a boundary. Hopefully, with time, open communication can help bridge some of those feelings and lead to understanding on both sides
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wait is op a man or a woman? the AI voice confused things 😂
SOCCER DOESN'T EXIST!!IT'S FOOTBALL!! THE OTHER IS FRICKING RUGBY!!
Ive always found the way redditors get annoyed when you doubt their stories weird,
Like your an anonymous person posting a reasonably vague story, yeah i doubt it.
Seems like every story the haters get mentioned.
"I don't actually think you find it weird, I think you want a relationship with your mother." It's because the type of people two not only doubt a story but also comment about it are the armchair psychologist people and the spamming your dm people
I wonder what would happen if you had one of these reddit stories but the mc had gen z humour like "thats why mom likes me more and your a disappointment" and then he just says "erm what the sigma, not very skibidi just gyattmaxed your fanum tax"
Teltales copy
I wouldn’t say the dad is completely at fault for this, because by the sound of things mom ran the house. I would see what comes from him trying to change. I think dad is being honest saying he wants to change
He can change for his own self, his daughter doesn't have obligation to entertain him
Male voice for a female character and talking way too fast.
I honestly think what she said about her dad was wrong I feel like he really does want to reconnect with his daughter and what she said in response was kinda rude but I get where it is coming from
🤡
Op mad because Obviously fake story is fake. She claims her brother archived the message. But earlier she said she TEXTED her parents about it and they left her on read. But we are supposed to believe that they didn’t know. Oh ok. 😂😂😂😂. People really love to make elaborate stories on Reddit.
To delete a text you need to see it right ???
@@ananket.3518 nope. You can swipe to delete texts. Been able to do that since 2008
yea this story is fake as hell..
Smh you people make me sick just ugh 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Even because her brother litterally robbed her and she did nothing
Fr
It happens. You get conditioned to believe you are bad, not deserving of love. It happened to my sister and her son. Believe it.
@sylviajones6745 people from normal families have no idea what it's like with people like these.
She needs to stop being so dramatic. Particularly to the dad who said he would divorce her whether his daughter wanted to stay in touch with him or not
ONE good thing doesn't erase literal years of neglect, if it was one for one or maybe one for two I would agree with you but one?
To give you an example put a ⚖️ then in one side hundreds of newborns (representing very little things across years), then a very fat guy on the other side (representing the divorce, and by the way is not that much of a gesture since the mother is horrible) even if the guy is heavier that any of the newborns he would not weight as much as hundreds of newborns
Plus what they did to OP could hardly consider those as newborns maybe 10 year old and the divorce "gesture" at most a slightly chubby 18 year old so no that father doesn't deserve any kind of atonement
Go troll the family that doesn't love you
This woman is damaged for good. This poor guy Lucas never shouldn’t married her. She has a lot damage and probably will cheat on him because she will be seeking for affection and validation from another men. Because she never have that growing up and even in her adult years. To much drama for poor Lucas
Boy what are you yapping about she’s literally in therapy for her trauma and problems so it will probably never turn out like that (this is coming from someone who was a people pleaser and used to seek attention before going to therapy)
May every woman perceive you the same way and stay far away from
I agree with the part of Lucas having too much drama but that's it, she is damaged but she is aware and going to therapy so she can heal, I do admit that is a possibility of what you say to happen but is not that high
you don't care about women right? only men matter. typical society 😢
Go troll the family that doesn't love you
This never happened😂😂
People like this actually exist
@@BlueYTPMV go bark somewhere else
@@Hahafukyuuu you think i'm just lying
@@BlueYTPMV I don't care either way
@@Hahafukyuuu i wasn't even talking about the story itself
I know OP claims this this story is true, but I seriously hope it's fake, cuz her family is just the worst.