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  • AROACE TikToks (Asexual & Aromantic)
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  • @toothfairy10133
    @toothfairy10133 2 года назад +1101

    when i was 12 i was like "yea why wouldnt i be pan i dont even understand how gender works" and now it turns out im aromantic, asexual, agender and autistic. like damn i really went all-out on the whole "no thanks society" thing huh. call that a AAAA battery

    • @vinn13590
      @vinn13590 2 года назад +27

      Ahaha samee

    • @hiiloveu1521
      @hiiloveu1521 Год назад +53

      The hardest pass humanity has ever seen

    • @iniyama
      @iniyama Год назад +8

      hello, same 🫠

    • @alarmlessRifleman
      @alarmlessRifleman Год назад +30

      Yeah, same story. Turned out I'm still pan tho, but in a "panromantic asexual neurodivergent trans man" way XD

    • @supercharged5-39
      @supercharged5-39 Год назад +8

      as an aroace person with ADHD i agree

  • @evanderc.5771
    @evanderc.5771 2 года назад +1165

    I’m aroace and I do feel really lonely sometimes because I feel like there’s not nearly enough cannon representation in media and I’ve never met another aroace person in real life. Sorry, didn’t mean to dump, but love y’all (platonically lol) and I hope you have a good day😊

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +84

      Ah I understand...I hope there will be more representation:)

    • @devinaghose9318
      @devinaghose9318 2 года назад +80

      today is ur lucky day(coming from an aro-ace) there is a jdrama called Koisenu Futari with two main aro-ace characters trying to live as allies/family and then getting slapped in the face with amatonormatovity every second, by colleagues, family, random people.
      They even use the term aro-ace and their experiences are freaking accurate(probably due to the fact that the show is made by an asexual and takes inputs from real aroaces)
      Please spread the word cuz canon stuff like these is what matters and makes people feel more valid/accepted.(esp for aroaces )

    • @ileas2780
      @ileas2780 2 года назад +8

      @@devinaghose9318 thanks you!!!!
      You are the TV series Angel

    • @ninaarandomhunterofartemis962
      @ninaarandomhunterofartemis962 2 года назад +9

      Have you read the Heroes of Olympus and Trials of Apollo books? One of the characters is canonically ace, and all of what she said made me go: "Holy Schist, I'm ace".

    • @nyxalex8049
      @nyxalex8049 2 года назад +13

      Heyy!! A fellow aroace here! I feel your pain. Im also gonna dump if u dont mind. I personally dont really have irl friends, im more of an online friend person myself but i havent 'met' another aroace either yet, although i really wanna be in a QPR with another aroace person

  • @cakecakecakecakeilovecake
    @cakecakecakecakeilovecake 2 года назад +214

    I used to think I was straight, and I had a only one “crush” on a guy in my math class, but then I actually asked myself whether I wanted to do any actual romantic/sexual things with him, and the answer was no, I just wanted to be friends with someone who really enjoys math like me.

    • @justaceilingfan7881
      @justaceilingfan7881 Год назад +14

      OH MY GOD THISS I kept having “crushes” on people but couldn’t actually imagine myself in romantic relationships with them

    • @bluesusername
      @bluesusername 11 месяцев назад +4

      Same!
      Apart from that, in middle school I wondered if I had a crush on this one guy, but then when I actually got to talk to him I realized I felt absolutely nothing at all

    • @NeneKusanagi-
      @NeneKusanagi- 10 месяцев назад +3

      And that's how i found out i wasn't straight but aroace

    • @-Whoknows-oy7ki
      @-Whoknows-oy7ki 5 месяцев назад

      OMG SAME I USED TO MISTAKE SQUISHES FOR CRUSHES AND THE AND THEN I REALISE I JUST WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH THEM

    • @ArtNerd3
      @ArtNerd3 3 месяца назад +1

      Me too! I was sure I had a crush on this one guy but I realized I just wanted to be friends with him and watch Star Wars 😂

  • @vic9344
    @vic9344 Год назад +88

    As an aroace who doesn’t even want a relationship, I am thankful for this.

  • @hailtothethieflover69
    @hailtothethieflover69 2 года назад +451

    I’m demiromantic and demisexual and I always wondered how people looked at a random person on the street and instantly fell for them. Like you don’t know them. How. Just how.

    • @Turnpost2552
      @Turnpost2552 2 года назад +12

      Lust

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад +1

      @@Turnpost2552 Not true!

    • @ashleypisarts
      @ashleypisarts Год назад +20

      I wonder the SAME thing too!! Like how? Lol

    • @icesquare
      @icesquare Год назад +8

      As a bisexual, we don’t know either. We just sorta roll with it.

    • @thecolorcake
      @thecolorcake Год назад +20

      Exactly. How could you have sexual and romantic attraction to someone if you don’t know what kind of person they are. (Demiromantic and Demisexual too)

  • @ahdden
    @ahdden 2 года назад +674

    omg!!! thank u so much for this. as someone who’s aroace i’ve been rlly struggling w seeing myself in content and media lately so this means sm

  • @probably_noah9417
    @probably_noah9417 2 года назад +562

    I'm polyamorous and bisexual so almost the opposite of aro-ace lol, but I actually have two aro-ace friends and they are great people!
    I support y'all! You are awesome and valid :D

    • @ds986
      @ds986 2 года назад +45

      Your comment makes me feel loved thank you some people in the lgbtqia+ community don't think we're valid so thank you

    • @syserebe
      @syserebe 2 года назад +8

      I’m aroace and polyA lmao

    • @asexualamanita6193
      @asexualamanita6193 2 года назад

      Thank you 🥹🥹🥹

    • @cockadoodledoostudios2778
      @cockadoodledoostudios2778 2 года назад +23

      Plot twist, you actually stole their attraction

    • @probably_noah9417
      @probably_noah9417 2 года назад +16

      @@cockadoodledoostudios2778 *Shh* they aren't supposed to know

  • @art3misplays265
    @art3misplays265 2 года назад +193

    A good test for asexuality: would you rather give up seggs or good food. I personally could not live without garlic bread and cheese.

    • @The_Knight_IsTheVillain
      @The_Knight_IsTheVillain Год назад +12

      Nobody can live without food. Food is good

    • @Toxus8
      @Toxus8 Год назад

      How can you give uo sex if you are asexual and don't have sex? Get a life snowflake

    • @jacepawplayz
      @jacepawplayz Год назад +4

      Well, that means everyones ace then

    • @jacepawplayz
      @jacepawplayz Год назад +3

      @@The_Knight_IsTheVillain yes that is actally the truth because people would die without food

    • @Toxus8
      @Toxus8 Год назад

      @@jacepawplayz Wow people would die without food!?!?! Thank you for confirming!

  • @lavendrrrboygrl
    @lavendrrrboygrl 2 года назад +172

    Love the fruity vibes we’ve created in the studio today

  • @moonlightmoonchild1133
    @moonlightmoonchild1133 2 года назад +256

    this makes me very happy as an aroace person 🥺

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +14

      I'm glad!!!

    • @nyx5661
      @nyx5661 2 года назад +17

      AND you're agender? I love you you're all of the As of the community and I respect you because you were born, looked at the world and just said no/lh

    • @certifiednerd542
      @certifiednerd542 2 года назад +9

      @@nyx5661 fun fact! There’s another A! It stands for abrosexual or abroromantic!! It means your attraction is fluid! This is my letter!! /nm

    • @nyx5661
      @nyx5661 2 года назад +6

      @@certifiednerd542oh yeah you're right I forgot sorry!! Also I love your flag :) /g

    • @mossripalextechno6450
      @mossripalextechno6450 2 года назад +2

      I'm acearo and I'm also non binary. I haven't figured out what label I want to use yet - if I use one - but it is funny that when God created some people he just said no.

  • @transfems4raytoro
    @transfems4raytoro 2 года назад +43

    "but I just can't date" *I relate to that so much* 😭

  • @starscreamthecruel8026
    @starscreamthecruel8026 Год назад +33

    I'm an Aroace who started aro, had one extremely abusive relationship and felt every desire disappear overnight . This was during a time when those labels didnt exist so saying I wasnt interested even decades later, is STILL being called a mental illness. Glad to know the label DOES exist. I'm AroAce and that relationship was a disaster pretty much from day one. There is no conflict between my orientation and my mental disorder. Im sure the two are NOT connected. I was Aro, long before my disorder kicked in. Sorry guys but it was here first!

  • @HelloThere-ki5mg
    @HelloThere-ki5mg 2 года назад +67

    6:03 this really depends on the person. I'm aroace but also LOVE hugs and physical touch (provided it's platonic obviously). It's just good to ask! Everyone is different.

    • @Chirpy-eo8jq
      @Chirpy-eo8jq Год назад +4

      Yes! Agreement!

    • @TheKarret
      @TheKarret Год назад +11

      Same; I'm aroace, but also a very platonically huggy/affectionate person. xP

    • @bugadoodledoo1394
      @bugadoodledoo1394 Год назад

      I have some questions, asexual to me was I thought you didn't want to participate in any sexual interaction, like kissing, sex, or stuff like that, but hugging and just cuddling is different. You still feel attraction, but not sexual attraction. Is this right?

    • @TheKarret
      @TheKarret Год назад +1

      @@bugadoodledoo1394 It's not an internal, inherent drive to have sex for asexuals. Some are more sex favorable, where sex is something they're willing to compromise on, but they don't feel like they need it and would be just as happy to never have it in their life. Or some might want other things, like children, so they're willing to have sex for that goal, but they don't want the sex itself. It's more about the lack of an internal, inherent desire to sexually connect with another person that makes one ace, not necessarily that they'd never participate.

    • @The_Knight_IsTheVillain
      @The_Knight_IsTheVillain Год назад

      I like hugs, high-fives, fist-bumps, handshakes, and I got a talent for giving head massages

  • @thezodiacgirl7166
    @thezodiacgirl7166 Год назад +19

    3:28 props to her for being supportive of his identity and apologetic for making him uncomfortable when she asked him out. We love a sweetheart like that.

  • @strangeranime
    @strangeranime 2 года назад +50

    EVERYONE IS VALID!!

  • @plinko-moss
    @plinko-moss Год назад +6

    I used to think that thinking something was aesthetically attractive was a crush

  • @ilariacapasso520
    @ilariacapasso520 Год назад +41

    This video made me emotional, I'm on a journey to try and understand if I'm aro/ace and this videos made me feel understood and seen, because understanding that asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum and everybody can have a different experience is making me emotional in a good way because I feel like this is helping me finding myself. It's hard to understand if you have never or partially felt something.

  • @dreamsofvoid2023
    @dreamsofvoid2023 Год назад +13

    I love how most of aroaces I met (me included) thought they were pan at first because it's the same type of attraction towards all genders

  • @SippenTeaa
    @SippenTeaa 2 года назад +30

    I’ve been questioning if I’m on the aromatic spectrum lately. I think I only genuinely crushed on someone once. All my other relationships or “crushes” were forced or obsession, not real attraction. I’ve only recently started coming to terms with this, but it’s really difficult. I don’t feel normal, I want to feel attraction like everyone else does and I hate that I can’t

    • @sl33py_fr0g
      @sl33py_fr0g 2 года назад

      You could be demiromantic or greyromantic

  • @emokidsapplesauce
    @emokidsapplesauce Год назад +24

    i think one of the funniest parts of being aroace is having people guess your sexual/romantic orientation because im arocae and have known/heard way too many people who think im gay or bi because i like rainbows and kinda act like a bi person (which i somewhat am, im biromantic, and the easiest way to describe is that i'm aro, but if i ever fell in love i wouldn't mind if it was a girl or a boy. im never having sex tho so don't get me started on that). haha, no, im aroace

  • @nyx5661
    @nyx5661 2 года назад +59

    The timing of this. I'm questioning if I'm on the aro spectrum and I already know I'm ace so haha crisis

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +4

      same im just using aroace flux idk anymore i-

    • @nyx5661
      @nyx5661 2 года назад +3

      @@intend_o_switch402 that's such a mood😭

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      @@nyx5661 honestly ToT like why i just found out wut lithosexual and apothisexual are TOT

    • @Mendoxs_
      @Mendoxs_ 2 года назад +3

      same, am I a lesbian or am I just lonely? who knows by this point 😭😭

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад

      Polyamorous panromantic aegosexual orchidromantic here! if like... anyone knows what that means take this: 🎖

  • @madisonspickler3577
    @madisonspickler3577 2 года назад +58

    The video at 1:24 makes me feel so valid. There are times I get self courses and think "I'm just doing it to get attention" or "Maybe I just haven't met them yet" but I relate to literally everything they listed. It's just a reminder to me and every other AroAce that we are valid, we are real, and we are amazing!

  • @elenamiller1007
    @elenamiller1007 Год назад +12

    0:47-this phrase describes me perfectly ,,Alone but not lonely"

  • @moldybre_d
    @moldybre_d Год назад +18

    me questioning: watches this video
    aroaces: garlic bread
    me again: I'm listening

  • @cherryspice1011
    @cherryspice1011 2 года назад +14

    Bert and Ernie being in a qpr is not the take i was expecting to see in this vid, but I am all here for it
    Aroace over here HAPPY PRIDE MONTH GUYS

  • @abhiswarakumbhare5468
    @abhiswarakumbhare5468 2 года назад +10

    No! Saiki will never be so kind! He'd just say no, push her out of the way, go to wherever he's going, and have coffee jelly

  • @nopunintendo4113
    @nopunintendo4113 2 года назад +39

    Hello, fellow aroaces! Anyone else recently find out that “drooling over someone” isn’t literal? Haha anyways 😶

  • @rat8670
    @rat8670 Год назад +7

    One time I told my mom that I’m not really interested in dating and she asked me why, I simply told her that I don’t really know it just generally doesn’t seem interesting to me and she said that it was fine and not everyone is interested in dating.

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад +1

      Hi just gonna share my expirence and identity
      I'm an aegosexual orchidromantic! Which means i can enjoy sexual things i myself love Yaoi but i myself don't want to have sex ever with anyone! Orchidromantic for me is that i feel romantic attraction but- "HEY THE WHOLE POINT OF AROMANTIC IS THAT THEY EXPIRENCE LITTLE TO NO ROMANTIC ATTRACTION!" Well yes but no... let me finish what i was saying! But i don't have a strong desire or need to have a romantic relationship i don't care for such things or i just feel netural to the whole idea! i don't care either way! However what i do care about is building a pokemon team of awesome people and spending my life with this friend group i don't care if i like them romantically or not that changes nothing! I have no desire or need for a romantic realationship by that i mean no kissing and all that other stuff it's romantic by status and status only! it's the opposite of a queerplatonic relationship! just like orchidromantic is the oppisite of cupidoromantic :)

  • @nigelbottom496
    @nigelbottom496 2 года назад +41

    2:56 I relate to this SO much. Even though I’m some kind of alloromantic (greyromantic or aroflux, I’m not sure), the times when I have no attraction just feel so lonely. I don’t _want_ a relationship, but I long for the experience. I just want to go through such a thrill. I just want to be normal.

  • @-Whoknows-oy7ki
    @-Whoknows-oy7ki 5 месяцев назад +2

    THE PEOPLE REACTING TO ME BEING AROACE IS SO TRUE
    Story time...
    I was sat in lesson and the person sat next to me said are you attracted to boys or girls (totally out of the blue) because everyone thinks I am gay. I was tired and lacked of sleep so, without thinking said neither. They looked at me and said, oh so your attracted to non-binary people then (they said whilst looking at me in disgust) and i sleepily replied No im just not attracted to anyone (which i instantly regretted saying) and they replied THATS NIT NATURAL, YOU SHOULD REALLY GET IT CHECKED OUT AND THEN CARRIED IN RAMBLING ABOUT 'HOW IT WASN'T NORMAL'.
    THEY ABSOLUTELY RUINED MY DAY.

  • @SatinPantsy
    @SatinPantsy 2 года назад +30

    This feel amazing sometimes to just look up your sexuality and just feel validated. Growing up I felt pressured to just get a life with a different family (kids, husband or wife), but I didn't want that. My mom makes it seem like it'll be lonely without them when I'm okay with just friends.(I'm aromatic/ageosexual)

  • @weirdo.4319
    @weirdo.4319 Год назад +8

    A lot of my friends just say “she doesn’t date people.” Whenever we are talking about dating and stuff and it sucks because most of them think I just don’t want to be in a relationship when I’m reality I can’t force myself to love people that way. The end sorry I needed to get that out of my head
    Also the other day my friend asked me out and it was over the phone and I sat there dead silent for a good 30 seconds waiting for her to say it’s a joke. When she didn’t I hung up the phone. Turns out it was a dare so it’s ok now lol

  • @Ann-Abel
    @Ann-Abel 11 месяцев назад +3

    During the early years of primary school my friends started doing that cute thing of having a crush on someone in our year, probably because barbie mentioned it in a movie or something, and my friends had their secret crushes. I didn’t want to feel left out so I kinda just picked a random guy and said to myself “I will have a crush on him”. It’s probably insignificant but looking back I think it’s a clear point in my childhood which indicates that I was at least Aromantic. I also only wanted to marry a prince because my friends did and it would’ve made me a princess

  • @lolymop333
    @lolymop333 2 года назад +31

    A lot of these are new! Nice! I didn't realize it's almost 4 in the morning. I need to go to bed. 🧡💚💙

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +5

      Haha yeah go to bed! ❤

    • @_me_1990
      @_me_1990 2 года назад +5

      i’m doing an all nighter even though i’m going back to school tmr 😚😚

    • @nigelbottom496
      @nigelbottom496 2 года назад +1

      Ha! For me it’s around 2, I’m glad I have people in the same boat!!

  • @KingSaysHello
    @KingSaysHello Год назад +11

    I usually watch Aro/Ace tiktoks on days when I have internalized aphobia. If anyone else has those days I have a suggestion to watch a bunch of aro/ace compilations in cartoons or surrounding a character. Saiki K. from "The Disastrous Life of Saiki K." is a really nice one since he's the main character.
    Just know that when you feel internalized aphobia, you're not alone in your feelings. Just know that you're loved by those surrounding you and you don't need romance to be loved.
    Sending platonic hearts! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  • @lulyy
    @lulyy Год назад +6

    I'm 11 and i am aroace and i always hear, "when you grow up and have a husband" 💀

    • @someoneontheinternet072
      @someoneontheinternet072 Год назад +1

      They trying to be acting like time travelers. Weren’t even close, were they?

    • @lulyy
      @lulyy Год назад

      @@someoneontheinternet072 what

  • @mackenziediaz8780
    @mackenziediaz8780 Год назад +4

    This is very validating :>
    Tbh, I don't meet a lot of ace aros who've genuinely convinced themselves they have crushes then when it works out they go "no no no, this isn't right stooop." And it's nice to see some of these tiktoks mention it

  • @nataliedawnshade9958
    @nataliedawnshade9958 2 года назад +15

    Compilations like this are hard to find, thank you💜🖤💚

  • @dariadaniellemusic
    @dariadaniellemusic 2 года назад +4

    I got an ad about safe sex in the middle of the video 😭😭😭 RUclips didn't understand the assignment

  • @HelloThere-ki5mg
    @HelloThere-ki5mg 2 года назад +12

    10:34 yesss!!! Finally an aroace character that's not a frickin sponge or a robot... 😂

  • @user-ql5wm2wv3h
    @user-ql5wm2wv3h 2 года назад +11

    3:17 Yay! Oriented Aroace representation! Hello to my fellow oriented aroaces

    • @_ducksareresponsibleforww3_
      @_ducksareresponsibleforww3_ Год назад +1

      I never met any non-binary cause I was in a homophobic house so I thought I was bi but if I was around non binary a I’d probably think I was pan

  • @Bexxthearoaceking
    @Bexxthearoaceking Год назад +3

    YES THE GARLIC BREAD SWORDS
    💚💜🖤
    💙💛🧡

  • @WonderXshowtime
    @WonderXshowtime Год назад +5

    3:23 SAIKI the trans Aroace icon for anime people ✨

  • @cambriancreature
    @cambriancreature Год назад +2

    that saiki comic was so cute omg i never knew i needed that

  • @user-pc7po4tx8d
    @user-pc7po4tx8d Год назад +8

    thank you for this video
    i was looking for aroace ppl explaining their feelings bc i always see a lot of ppl validating all lgbt+ orientations but always forgetting the non allo one :( we can be happy without having to be attracted by someone else

  • @tabithaoftoby6087
    @tabithaoftoby6087 2 года назад +17

    Oh yay!!!
    Validation!
    This reminded me I need to start decorating my masculinity jacket with controversial-ish patches and aro/act pride patches.
    And my zodiac cause why the fuck not. I've never befriended another Capricorn. Not that I want to.
    I was sad when it was over...
    I actually verbally said "aww it's over?"

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +1

      Haha! Sadly it ended, but there'll be more of these soon

  • @julibordiglioni6720
    @julibordiglioni6720 2 года назад +45

    Question for all the aro/demiaro: I questioning myself about being part of the aro spectrum, but I fall in love for book/movies character and some times for famous people to. Does it happen for you?

  • @thatgrayarea3166
    @thatgrayarea3166 Год назад +5

    I'm not sure why this frustrates me so much but can I just clarify: being asexual does not mean you don't want to date; it means you do not want to have s-x. You can still be attracted to people if you are asexual.
    If you feel like you don't want to date or have s-x, you are aroace (asexual & aromantic)
    Aromantic means you don't want a romantic relationship but still might want to have s-x with someone while having no feelings toward them.
    Hope this helps 💖🏳️‍🌈

    • @someoneontheinternet072
      @someoneontheinternet072 Год назад

      Oh btw being sexual means that you don’t feel sexual attraction, not that you don’t want sex. There are sex-positive and high libido aces.

    • @thatgrayarea3166
      @thatgrayarea3166 Год назад

      @@someoneontheinternet072 that's what I meant sorry but thanks for clarifying

  • @criesinvariable2493
    @criesinvariable2493 Год назад +3

    as an ace aro, ppl in my highschool kept asking me how hot they were on a scale of 1-10 and i always rated it on their aesthetic attraction

  • @transgenderfroggy
    @transgenderfroggy 2 месяца назад +1

    Found out I'm aroace (with the realization that all of my "crushes" was just platonic attraction) and holy shit every single one of these are super relatable

  • @_mangaddict
    @_mangaddict 2 года назад +9

    12:59
    One of my favorite asexual/aromantic characters of all time are
    - Todd from Horseman
    - Alastor from Hazbin Hotel
    - Peridot from Steven Universe
    - Saiki K from The disastrous life of Saiki K
    - Ibuki Mioda from Danganronpa

  • @user-es6qi2se1i
    @user-es6qi2se1i Год назад +4

    I have a friend...
    They claimed to be pan, but because I sorta felt the same for guys as for girls I decided I'd be bi. BUT I feel the same for non-binary people too? But I didn't wanna copy them so I stuck with bi.
    Now a few years ago they confessed they're ace, right at the time I was questioning if I were aro. I am still not out if I really am, probably somewhere on the spectrum.
    All I do know is that these kind of videos make me laugh and comfort me a lot.

    • @user-es6qi2se1i
      @user-es6qi2se1i Год назад +1

      And ofc I'm not gonna confess it because I have no need to atm 😅 no one asks me out anyway because I'm always inside and don't really meet people.

    • @Mugiwara_carat
      @Mugiwara_carat 8 месяцев назад

      @@user-es6qi2se1i me fr. I don't even bother in say it like... no one's gonna ask me out so..

  • @LunarArsonist
    @LunarArsonist 8 месяцев назад +2

    As an aroace person, I am so lucky that my friends have all been other LGBTQIA+ people or really anyone who knew what it was like to be not normal

  • @PavitrsrealGf
    @PavitrsrealGf Год назад +4

    I’m greysexaul and aromantic and I enjoyed this 🪄

  • @weirdo.4319
    @weirdo.4319 Год назад +4

    I was venting to my friend about the fact that I wasn’t ever going to get married or do relationship stuff and she was like “you could just date people.” And I was like “bitch you could just be straight.” Then she said “well I was just saying you just haven’t found the right person yet.” I left her on read and texted my other friend asking “idk if I should be pissed or sad she wasn’t educated”

  • @SirFae
    @SirFae Год назад +1

    The “put a finger down” thing left me without any fingers. Less than no fingers.

  • @-MistytheYT-
    @-MistytheYT- 2 месяца назад +2

    Me: *Aroace*
    Also me: *listens to some romance songs*

  • @handsome_cool_guy
    @handsome_cool_guy Год назад +1

    My favorite part of being aroace and really confidant with my self is turning down anyone who says i like you

  • @vent845
    @vent845 Год назад +2

    3:09 BROOO SAME. im lesbian oriented aroace too. it’s really confusing to talk about and just generally confusing for us too. i remember telling my friend that i had a “crush” on her but not exactly a crush but also some type of crush (it’s a long story but it was valentine’s day and my other friend told me she liked the same friend i liked and she liked her back. so no my friend didn’t like me but whatever lol). i don’t think either of them really understood completely tho because later they were confused about it so yeah lol
    edit: 8:00 the amount of oriented aroace people in here already makes me so happy

  • @celestewoodworth5627
    @celestewoodworth5627 11 месяцев назад +3

    I was raised in a family that ranges from homophobic to "I'm not homophobic, it's just I don't like gays shoving their bedroom activities in my face." In this family, one of my younger cousins came out as lesbian, which earned reactions on a scale of "confused" to "was she sexually abused?" I had only known about being gay for maybe three years, didn't know about other identities beyond gay and straight, was still kinda homophobic but starting to be an ally, and CERTAINLY didn't have any education that said romantic and sexual attraction were different. However, my reaction was to (internally) defend her by saying maybe it wasn't sexual attraction (she was maybe 10 when she came out, so I figured it wasn't ) maybe she only wants relationships with girls.
    In other words, I really, REALLY should have figured out I was aroace sooner than I did.

  • @esfrnshesegysegt
    @esfrnshesegysegt 8 месяцев назад +2

    i remember watching that one jaiden animations video, where she expressed she's aroace
    i immediately thought, "wait- that makes sense... i said i was bi- wtf- oh wait.. yeah nvm.. it makes so much sense now.."

  • @jan_Majeken
    @jan_Majeken 3 месяца назад +1

    “who’s your crush”
    “garlic bread”

  • @outofpocket8351
    @outofpocket8351 Месяц назад

    I'm so embarrassed at how happy I got towards the news about Bert and Ernie LMAOO

  • @CarnivalChimera
    @CarnivalChimera 2 года назад +2

    In tears at the "But I just can't date" one holy shit yes

  • @lay-zcaffeine
    @lay-zcaffeine 2 года назад +4

    My mom says stuff like “when you grow up how are gonna find a husband that can deal with you?”
    Me: *nervous sweating*

  • @GamerBoy.1761
    @GamerBoy.1761 Месяц назад

    I just love seeing AroAce content to show my love to all of the Aromantics, Asexuals, and AroAces! Y’all valid!

  • @Dokjakim1864
    @Dokjakim1864 Год назад +3

    I remember coming out as aroace when I was 18 and my frnds told me that its sad cuz I won't find happiness and some told me its cuz of my verbally abusive dad. And I had actually believed that until a while ago.

  • @Yodasglitteringass
    @Yodasglitteringass Год назад +1

    its the "right after i get into a relationship i lose feelings right away" for me

  • @reneperez4170
    @reneperez4170 2 года назад +1

    2:17 i can add someones i had
    13) You hate when your family "ships" you with your best friend whem you just platonicaly love them too much.
    14) You think kisses are ugly
    15) Sometimes you're tired of watch a happy and sane friendship betwen a boy and girl starting being romantic
    16) You din't expect a friend looks you in a romanticaly way and if that happen you don't know what to do

  • @unlikelygamer
    @unlikelygamer 3 месяца назад

    0:40 mannnn. A foggy morning at a cabin in the woods, with a library and a cat, in a cozy bed on a loft, reading books by candlelight. Paradise indeed.

  • @aslynmarissawallace7866
    @aslynmarissawallace7866 2 года назад

    It's nice to see all the good ones in one place. Thank you!

  • @LucyTheHorror
    @LucyTheHorror 8 месяцев назад +1

    3:09 that is honestly my brain telling me what I should do with my love life💀

  • @Sparrowspear
    @Sparrowspear 8 месяцев назад +2

    As an oriented aroace, I am valid I think and it does get lonely sometimes but that’s why I remember I still have friends who do love me😅

    • @alistair_yippee
      @alistair_yippee 7 месяцев назад

      what does it mean to be an oriented aro ace? i’ve seen a few people say that but i don’t know what it means!

    • @Sentient-potato
      @Sentient-potato 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@alistair_yippeethey feel a diffrent lgbtq attraction that isn’t romantic or sexual

  • @sanderp9768
    @sanderp9768 2 года назад +7

    I thought I was pan because I genuinely do feel love towards everyone but- yeah... xD not like that
    I don't wanna fuck nor date anyone, I wanna love them in a way where I take care and help them all, offer them resources, my time and energy, and do whatever I can to make them happy, like a parent/guardian or a sibling

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад

      I'm a panromantic orchidromantic and yeah i relate to that a lot!

  • @momochocochan
    @momochocochan Год назад +5

    watching this and remiding myself i used to force myself to feel love the way i idealized it to be with every partner i had before i realized "wait this just aint it"

  • @allywilliams6849
    @allywilliams6849 Год назад +3

    I’m demiromantic and grey ace, but I support y’all and stand with you 🧡💜

  • @KaylaPearlCPNinja
    @KaylaPearlCPNinja Год назад +4

    1:37 I relate. I never had crushes in my life.
    For reference I identify as asexual, aromantic and agender. I only discovered my sexual and romantic orientations when I was 22 years old.

  • @blebs
    @blebs 2 года назад +2

    i recently found myself aroace, demiboy, bisexual (male preference), and i am very happy with these tiktoks. It's great to know that I'm not alone and that there are people like me

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад

      I have decided to make this a competition of: "longest lgbtq+ identity" i'll go first
      i'm a Bigender (agender pangender) who is polyamorous, panromantic, aegosexual and cupioromantic and that's not even starting with the umbrellas i fall under who's next?

    • @C0NTR0LBABY_
      @C0NTR0LBABY_ Год назад

      @@user-un6ik2vf1f i met someone who was a transmasc, agender, boyflux, polyamorous, abrosexual, demiromantic, gay person who identified with xenogenders and used neopronouns

    • @user-un6ik2vf1f
      @user-un6ik2vf1f Год назад

      @@C0NTR0LBABY_ Yeah alright maybe i have lost this one! That is is really cool though!

  • @_not.you_
    @_not.you_ Год назад +2

    Yassss! Finally an aroace one!!!✨✨✨🙏thank you

  • @monarch2984
    @monarch2984 Год назад +3

    I know nobody asked, but sense some people get confused on how aromantic people have “crushes”, let me explain!
    (I’m aroace so don’t come at me- ik what I’m talking about)
    Aromatic is a spectrum, meaning you could be not completely aromantic (such as greyromantic or aroflux) however that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when an aro person feels “romantic” attraction towards another person.
    When a complete aro feels “attraction” to another. It’s usually either platonic or aesthetic attraction, which is mistaken for romantic attraction. A lot of aros also select people to like because it’s what society calls “normal”. For I personally, I have mistaken gender envy for a crush and I’ve selected someone to like because I thought I wouldn’t be normal if not.
    Either way society pressures love onto everyone. and when others can’t feel that kind of love, it makes you feel out of place or lonely. But you’re not alone! Anyways I hope this helps!

  • @orlaith_2910
    @orlaith_2910 Год назад +1

    I’m aroace and pansexual. Most people my age are trying to get into relationships while I’m here playing Minecraft

  • @Sleepy_Sunshine
    @Sleepy_Sunshine 2 года назад +5

    I'm aro/ace, but also not sex repulsed, and i'm touch positive, while having gender envy towards men so i just find them more pleasing in terms of aesthetics, and even smell
    I want to cuddle the hell out of some dudes super platonically, and i'm touch starved beyond all reasonable measures

    • @C0NTR0LBABY_
      @C0NTR0LBABY_ Год назад

      i mean this in the best way possible but you are literally my alter ego if i had one😭 im aroace but sex repulsed and hate psychical touch

    • @Sleepy_Sunshine
      @Sleepy_Sunshine Год назад +1

      @@C0NTR0LBABY_ i cant say i envy you cause touch is so casual for everyone and talking about getting funky in a not so innocent way is as well, so i imagine your uncomfy super often
      but i am the cuddliest bitch i know

    • @C0NTR0LBABY_
      @C0NTR0LBABY_ Год назад

      @@Sleepy_Sunshine there’s only like 3 people i know very well who i let touch/cuddle me if they wanted to😭

    • @Sleepy_Sunshine
      @Sleepy_Sunshine Год назад +1

      @@C0NTR0LBABY_ lucky mfs, i tell you that, you seem like a gem
      i cuddle all my friends

    • @C0NTR0LBABY_
      @C0NTR0LBABY_ Год назад

      @@Sleepy_Sunshine thank you!! you’re a cool person

  • @pako7272
    @pako7272 2 года назад +3

    i hope u reach to 10k keep up the good work

  • @alxbunni
    @alxbunni 2 года назад +6

    Tysm for the video I’ve never seen that much videos like these, I’m recipro aroace btw

  • @HelloThere-ki5mg
    @HelloThere-ki5mg 2 года назад +6

    2:21 every time I question if I'm ace or not I remember that thinking about fazoli's breadsticks brings out more emotion in me than thinking about attractive people
    Like... i'd literally rather have bread
    There is nothing allo about that 😂

  • @TurboBronco239
    @TurboBronco239 2 года назад +3

    *dances in ace demi-romantic*

  • @devinaghose9318
    @devinaghose9318 2 года назад +15

    To the last tiktok- do the creators who labeled the characters asexual know what asexual even means(cuz they did it to avoid talking further about their sexuality)??
    like asexual just means u have no sexual attraction, so the characters could be gay/bi/pan etc while being ace(cuz aces feel romantic attraction). Ace=/=dont like anybody, thats aro-ace.
    so like 😐😐

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +5

      Yep it's more so used to just not have to say they have attraction. Also immediately denies any queer identities for them. It's 100% okay if a character is aroace, but people should atleast know what they're doing and they shouldn't misuse the label

    • @devinaghose9318
      @devinaghose9318 2 года назад +3

      @@ellabella001 yeah , and the fact that they're avoiding making them queer by just making them aroace is just- oof its problematic in so many ways.

  • @leaf_teehee
    @leaf_teehee Год назад +1

    I’m about to ruin childhood for everyone who’s reading this. Burt and Ernie from Sesame Street are brothers

  • @lynxone9434
    @lynxone9434 Год назад +2

    I promise I'll come out to my parents before I turn 18, so I have about 2 years to go

    • @someoneontheinternet072
      @someoneontheinternet072 Год назад +1

      You got this! Just make sure to have your PowerPoint presentation presentation because nobody understands what we are. Anyways good luck again!

  • @jade_1019
    @jade_1019 2 года назад +2

    1:24 maaaan, did not plan on being called out like this... I have not before really entertained the thought of being aro or ace, but except for the fact that I really like the thought of cuddles and kisses, everything else was really scarily accurate... At this point what even am I sure about when concerning my sexuality and gender 😭

  • @rockfan243
    @rockfan243 Год назад +1

    9:07 but when you're in the same d&d group as well
    *internal screening *

  • @Molly-iw1rc
    @Molly-iw1rc 2 года назад +3

    I don't know if any ATINY are here, but I just got into ATEEZ and a lot of the fandom like the sexy stuff and I am just like "tHeY lOOk PreTTy" and I find it so funny, it reminds me that people actually think about sex when they say something is sexy or thirst-trapping.

  • @MoonLaden
    @MoonLaden Год назад +3

    0:20 is so relatable.

  • @Ryker73
    @Ryker73 11 месяцев назад +1

    Lol I can't believe I actually thought I was Pan because everyone felt the same, and now I'm like FCK THAT, I'M AROACE HAH

  • @A_ratzzz
    @A_ratzzz Год назад +2

    1:26 is my life-

  • @kordeliiius9821
    @kordeliiius9821 2 месяца назад

    I just looked up the bert and ernie article and I’m shocked that I’m just finding this out now!! I love writing qprs and hearing more abt historical examples gives me hope for the future. and the article has the audacity to say “guess Sesame Street isn’t that progressive” when both gay AND ace relationships need more rep! imo you could still compromise here bc u could still call them gay, just in a way that’s very different from what we’re used to seeing

  • @SkootletheSnek
    @SkootletheSnek Год назад +2

    12:03 I screenshotted this and sent it to my friend who always says “puberty hasn’t hit hard enough yet” every time I mention being aroace

  • @wonee_
    @wonee_ Год назад +1

    Its like everyone arguing and aroaces Just Sitting in the corner Amusing ourselves

    • @someoneontheinternet072
      @someoneontheinternet072 Год назад

      While eating bread and talking about world domination?

    • @wonee_
      @wonee_ Год назад

      @@someoneontheinternet072 thought that was obvious :D

  • @ds986
    @ds986 2 года назад +3

    Not ganna lie I gasped so loud when I saw this sense I'm aroace

  • @0ofers454
    @0ofers454 2 месяца назад +1

    When 2 siblings are aro ace and one has no hope for relationships- my mother isn't getting grandchildren anytime soon