From what I've seen in Josh's videos, he's a very nurturing, compassionate person who is willing to be emotionally vulnerable in a way that many men aren't. The grief stays, the loss is there, and nothing you do is going to erase that or replace your lost loved one--so you have to choose what to build around it. I think he's just doing his best to build a joyful life for his children, and I respect that. I can understand that it feels fast, but I also know that losing someone you love is a painful reminder of how short life is. Sending love to you and your whole family.
Thanks for supporting Josh for his decision. I saw his video and could see his hurt from things that were said. Just as you said, everyone is different. People should be happy that he has found someone. I'm sure Sarah is. Hugs Theresa, many of us had the same thought. Bless you.
I'm sorry you feel that way. It's just that it wasn't a year, unless he literally just met her and moved his kids in with her, so it was either closely after she passed and he got to know her well or it was sudden and I think people expressing them have concerns for the kids is all. Just bc he chose to mourn this way doesn't mean they did and kids often get abused from step siblings and it was a shock that we were told in a way of yeah the girl I've talked about when zero of his other videos mentioned her. Is what it is, it's not our lives but when someone puts theirs out there they have to expect all different opinions.
You are absolutely correct! Life can be hard enough, there's no need for peolpe to be so judgmental! If Josh has found someone to be wit, good for him! He can still love & miss Sarah, and have a companion.
This is such a loaded situation. It's very easy to sit back and look at another person's experience and say, "this is how I would handle it," whether you're male or female. The truth is, unless you are a widower who lost his wife after a long battle, and you have 3 kids, you have literally zero idea what you would do or what it would be like. It is unbelievably evident that Josh loved Sarah. It's unbelievably evident that he still DOES love Sarah. Simultaneously, Josh started grieving Sarah long before she died, saw how fleeting life is and is choosing to be happy with someone else, not because he no longer loves or misses Sarah, but because as humans we crave companionship, and as humans we are capable of feeling so many feelings Simultaneously.... grief, love, loss, new love, new companionship, etc. Josh isn't replacing Sarah; she will always be his Sarah and the mother of his kids.... but he chose to inject some happiness back into his life and are we really begrudging a grieving man who honored and loved his wife til the bitter end some happiness. That's not ok..... and it's not what Sarah would want. Josh's new relationship does not erase Sarah. Josh's new relationship does not erase his love or loss for Sarah. It may put some smiles on his face.... and if we are judging then we need to judge ourselves. If you watched Josh love and take care of and honor Sarah, you have no business looking in as an outsider and judging. I have a terminally ill daughter. I love her more than anything else in this world. I'm also choosing to have another child. Am I a terrible person to have another child when my first one is dying? No.... because one decision is not reflective of the love and grief of another situation. It's not black and white. You can be barely making it and still make choices that will give you more happiness and if someone thinks you shouldn't, they're not your fucking people.
I lost a dear friend to cervicle cancer that metastasis to her stomach. Within a year of her death her husband also my friend remarried. He has pushed hard for me to meet her. I'm just not ready. I'm glad he is happy and no hard feelings but I just can't move on that fast. Like you said I don't want to hurt their feelings but my heart is still grieving my friend.
I had been waiting for him to come out and state that he was with someone new, he took his time introducing the relationship which had been pursued for many months prior to his announcement. I don't follow him anymore because I began following for Sarah. So it makes sense to me to drop out and move on. I understand your view. Sarah was a brave woman. May she always remain so close to you and your heart. God bless dear woman
I’ve wondered about you since Sarah passed. I’m glad you’re doing ok & are still part of Josh & the kids life. I do think Sarah would be happy for Josh finding someone to love & to join his family.
We saw Josh in video after video caring for Sarah. I don't think of it as him moving on. I think more of it as being part of the living. His beautiful soulmate passed away, she didn't walk away from their marriage. I love that Josh and the kids have hopefully found a light through all the past darkness and I love how your love for your sister manifests in your ability to open your heart and accept someone new as part of your family. Blessings to all of you ❤
Your story has helped me because I have been so angry and hurt by my dad’s engagement only 3 calendar months after we buried my mom. He married soon after and moved across the country. It still bothers me to this day but listening to you helps me see it from a new perspective. Also - great idea to calm down before commenting. Thank you ❤
I'm sorry that's happened to you. I myself would hope someone would wait until the grief settles. It does seem common men can't cope & need a female. I think they also hide the pain of the loss by moving on too quickly. Men & women are different. It's always the children who suffer. I'm sure one day he will come out of the grief fog & realise what he's done. Sending you prayers 🙏
I respect his right to move on, and I don't really agree, but I would never write a negative comment about it. It's not my business, or anybody else's business what he does, or doesn't do. I wish him well, but I do not subscribe to his channel anymore ( I watched it more for Sarah to begin with ). Still miss seeing her kind smile.
Bless your heart - We all loved Sarah - I can only imagine how hard it was for you - I watched the video did not comment - Josh has the right to be happy - loneliness can overtake ones life - some find happiness in other ways - some need companionship - and Josh is young - We all saw how Josh grieved during and after Sarah passed on to heaven - No one has the right to judge - I pray that you will all find peace - Sarah is still with us - her beautiful smile her singing - she always tried to be a friend to everyone - most of all I am sure she wants Josh and her children to live life and experience all the adventures it has to offer - Josh has found love again for himself and his children - And that is a wonderful thing - Warm Hugs God Bless
Theresa, you're a wonderful woman. Anyone following Sarah knew this and those of us that followed you from the start. I understand everything you are saying and thinking. You are a great aunt just fabulous. I'm sure the kids depend on you more than you'll ever know. Comments always hurt really cut deep even when you put them aside and ignore them they still hurt. You really take things well. You'd make a really good teacher your so good at explaining things. I hate seeing you this sad. I wish you only the best. Keep your chin up. People can be heartless and ugly and they think nothing of it. That's the kind of people they are. No real love in their world and how sad that is.
I am a person that has had 2 different cancers and what u said is very powerful. U can either learn from someone's death and move forward or be miserable on a daily basis. I would never want anyone to be miserable because life is so short, caregivers and love ones go through so much with those that battle cancer. Everyone deals with grief differently. The way u explain this is so beautiful. U take care of yourself and a Merry Christmas to u and your family
💜 I think with some of the people they felt like Sarah‘s family and it hurt them to see him move on so fast, when you put your life out there day-to-day, some people become a part of it. I don’t think they mean to be cruel to Josh. Give them time they’ll come around Merry Christmas ☃️🎄
Block , ignore nasty comments. All of you have lost your loved one & its soul crushing. You're all doing your best to carry as Sarah woujd want you too. But you're full of grief & have a broken heart. Your responsibilty is to take care off each other. This is your life , your family. You do your sister proud. She doesn't want you to be sad. But of course you are. I'm so sorry. May you continue to find comfort & love in all that surrounds you. ❤
A death of a loved one changes the dynamics of everything. Behaviours & feelings, grief is the worst, hardest emotion to go through. It hurts! My dad had a little relationship going on with a lady up the road while my mum was in a carehome with dementia. Its more Company & being carried through the painful days of watching our mum go through changes to non verbal & bed bound. Its best to allow the person griefing to go on their own journey to find themselves again. Thank you fir your thoughts. Love & prayers for you & your family ❤🙏
Sarah was a beautiful person and she would want Josh to be happy again. They had a great marriage loved each other dearly , they were made for each other. Josh and the children deserve to be happy again and Sarah would want that. There's no time limit on grief there's no right and wrong time for anything. Sarah will never be forgotten, she was a beautiful soul, she made a big impression on me. Josh was there for her every step of the way when she was ill, now he deserves to have a happy life if he's happy so are the children. Sarah's looking down and she will be happy for them. It must be hard for you Theresa , l don't understand people being unkind, look after yourself and wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas love from Wales ❤
Im happy that Josh has found some happiness after living years of watching his wife suffer. He was left behind to pick up the pieces with his children. I'm so glad you are on his side..and know the side of Josh that matters. I'm glad you were led to open your heart and accept these new folks who are in your niece and nephews' life, as well. I'm so glad Josh has you in his corner. it's never easy for anyone in the family...❤ My continued best wishes for you all.
No one should judge, nor compare Josh to Kyle Apple, everyone’s different and it’s no one’s business. I lost my hub after 45 years and two years later I’m with a man, is two years ok to wait? See how silly it is to judge, just worry about yourselves and be happy for others, being alone is hard! You are very wise and loving . 💕
I am glad you are still a family with Josh and kids. You are such a sweet person. Of course you're going to have moments of hurt and memories and wishes. That's normal. But your love outweighs everything. I wish them well. I wish you well. You are a darling woman. ❤❤❤
I really appreciated your video today, and it was as if Sarah's words were coming out through your heart. She loved you all with all her heart and Josh was a good a caring husband who stood by her side for year after year as she battled through all the various hells that make up cancer treatment. Having lost my father to cancer I know how precious it makes life and how much we want to get back to living to honor them after they are gone. Your own life is put on complete hold when you are caregiving and that sacrifice is something you give willingly and lovingly, but when you start really living again its like you are carrying your loved one with you and living for them too. Sarah would have wanted you all to be happy. If anyone claims to love Sarah and they are mean and negative to the man that was her true love, then it isn't showing much respect for her is it? I know people are thinking well if he loved her he wouldn't have moved on. But that isn't life in the real world. I would also think that those people perhaps have not actually walked in our shoes, but are looking at it through theory. Also all our emotional makeups are different. Respect and love and kindness are all things you learn from the experiences of being tested and coming out the other side. I know honey that confrontation is hard and I am proud of you for being determined to be more brave. Good for you and by doing so you will see that as an adult ,most difficult people are like blowfish that puff themselves up so they can look all big and scary but when confronted, you find they are just frightened and insecure like everyone else. Some difficult people never learn but others can if they try hard enough come to realize that this course of putting others down, never works in the long term. It just lands them in one drama after another. Which is a sad place to live. Staying in your own dramas and the dramas of others will give us a life where we are not able to make a lasting mark. And that leads to a life without purpose. That is why Sarah always said to "be kind". She wanted all the people she loved to have a rich and happy life. Just know dear one that if you decide to stay on RUclips or social media at all, you will be dealing with people who have various levels of emotional maturity, its the nature of the beast and it can't be changed. I am glad you spoke up and I am proud of how dignified you remained. Remember that you have the right to delete comments that are negative. Its totally up to you, but while you want to give people a safe place to comment and express themselves, you don't have to accept hateful comments that go against the message of your channel. Sometime when people find that their comment are deleted they will move on to someone else that they can make miserable. Its just a thought, but whatever you decide I am sure it will be for the best. Hang in there you are growing and learning and really succeeding! If I had a sister like you I would be very proud of her indeed.
Men may move on more quickly but I think people's concern is " the children " . When you have kids, who have a mother that passed away after a long sickness, well that simply changes the other parent's freedom to move on. Kids always have to come first and although they may say that they are "fine "even "happy" about something as major as moving in with a whole brand new family, , using good judgement and moving very slowly is not only important but necessary for their well- being. So I think that was a concern of people who have loved Sarah. You are a special person and I wish you josh and all the family the very best. 🙏🏻🌲
Anyone who makes a judgement, has never been in the position Josh is in. I was widowed suddenly at 51, I’m 67 now. It has been my choice not to look for a relationship even though I had people asking me just weeks after if I would remarry! I love the way you understand him, support him and the kids. You are very special ❤
Everyone grieves differently. I don't know why we all feel the need to immediately accept social norms, even if we don't know where they came from. Its really nobodys business what Josh does. i have always felt he had his families best interest at heart. You. have been so loving, thanks for being you!!
I am proud of Josh. And if he lived his life feeling an obligation to make choices to make other people happy. Then that would be a miserable life. He is doing what he feels is thr right thing for him and his family. No, it isn't to soon. He started the grieving process when Sarah was terminal. He loved and helped her to the very end. It is his time and his childrens time to move forward and start new happy memories. They should not stay stagnant and wallow in sadness and sorrow. It is not healthy for anyone.
When people put their lives on public forums they need to accept that their is going to be lots of opinions,some nice,some not so nice and some that are disgusting,normally by trolls that get a kick out of hurting vulnerable people. If people cannot accept this then maybe putting their lives on a public forum for the world to see is not a good idea. I am a widow and was from the age of 38 with 2 children and I lost the love of my life. I met another partner 4 years after my husband died and I was ready to move on at this point,but some are happy to move on much quicker,everyone’s different.
Very well said Theresa! We shouldn't judge Josh because were not in his shoes and it was very ovious how much Josh loved Sarah! Im happy that Josh is happy and its not anyones business! Sending love to you❤️
Men typically need to find a spouse quickly! With respect, they are more needy than most women. It also means Sarah was such a big person in his life, its a compliment. I think its just hard for some because of the kids. There's only one way to say it and that's, mommy has been replaced! She's all over the place and it has to be awkward and unhealthy. It needed to be slowly introducing and after A WHILE slowly talked about maybe moving in. Regardless, its his life, his children and he's a great dad!
I know Theresa....this is a very difficult subject. 😢 I'm so sorry Sweetheart, that you are having to go through this and I'm so glad you're talking to your counselor about it. Honey, take it from this 79 year old lady who has been through many losses and many new beginnings....this too will pass. Love you! ❤❤
Theresa, I'm sure your sister is proud of you. I think from what has been shown when she was going through all her pain. That her husband did everything he could. And I think the biggest thing we can do . And that your sister probably wanted as hard as it was . Was that he move on and be happy. It didn't take away his love for her at all.
You are beautiful and Sarah would love to see the family happy. Hé was à perfect husband and he is a great daddy Sarah will be there for ever, the kids are a part of her Stay all together that 's Sarah' s wich I am shure ❤ From Belgium
I no longer follow Josh. I was their for Sarah and the kids! I know longer get to see the kids. So know reason to watch anymore. I am glad you have found away to stay in the kids lifes. Bless you Theresa
I’m in the same mindset. I was there for Sarah. Once she died, things changed so much and all the posts were taken down. We don’t get to see those fabulous kiddos any more. So there is no need to stay. I left his channel. I wish them the very best in life. And you as well Theresa. Be well and stay healthy. This too shall pass.
Loss comes with so many feelings and emotions and the person left has to learn to live. We do not know who when or if new bonds will form or love will be with but that is between the people involved .... none of us walks in each other shoes we may walk in simpler shoes along a similar path but it will not be identical.....there are similarities introducing another person after divorce families and feelings are so complex. Formats like YT show us a snapshot into others lives....unless you are there 24/7/365 folks should be mindful on how they express opinion. We i thinkball came together thro Sarah her love of life, family, friends and pets her words of Be Kind, and Make Good Choices I think the foundation of how to behave when commenting on anyones channel...🥰💜x
Just because he moves on doesnt mean he doesn't love Sarah, she would want him to be happy. My dad has been married to my step mom for 31 years but he still loves my mom and talks about her and my step mom goes with him to moms grave.
Josh moved on fast people get mad, idk if you ever watched Kyle Apple….he is having a horrible time still and people keep telling him it’s time to move on…. It’s a lose lose situation on social media. Like you said you saw what you saw when Sarah was ill….none of us did…. making assumptions is not kind. Hugs
It is definitely true no matter what you say that people will get upset. Especially because we all operate on a different frequency and have different morals.
Whaaat?? Why are people upset that Josh has found a new person in his life? That is really upsetting to me! In the old days, men often remarried quickly because they look at things from a more practical view (needing support and help for childcare.) Men are different from women--and most of the commenters that have a problem with it are women! It doesn't mean he didn't have deep love for Sarah.
And many many men do not do this, watch any of kyle apple vlogs, he can barely get thru the day losing his jenny and all his days are devoted to their kids. I'm not saying people shouldn't move forward but invest in your kids for awhile, they lost their mom. They should come first, even if they say they are fine or ok even happy with it, every kid eventually wants to go home from a play date especially when they are mourning so permanently moving them into a new home with a whole new family seems sad.
Your point of view is absolutely valid and you’re absolutely allowed to feel that way. I wasn’t saying not to feel that way, I was just trying to make a point to say it in a respectful way, which you did perfectly because you explained the reasoning behind your feelings. Thank you for saying that in a respectful way, and I can see your point of view.
I was surprised that Josh seem to have moved on quickly as well as when he deleted all the wonderful messages that we all sent to Sarah on her videos, I didn’t understand that ( still don’t ) but it’s his life I don’t judge him for that all Sarah’s followers loved her dearly and were very invested in her journey so yes the way it was presented to us it seemed like we ( the followers ) didn’t matter anymore! I wish nothing but the best for all of you and especially for the kiddos! Love to you al❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts in a respectful way. That was the point I was trying to get across. I can completely see how people would feel that way, and your thoughts are completely valid.
I was not judging whatsoever. I WAS upset that he casually mentioned Carly like we all knew. I commented asking who’s Carly. (Not my exact wording). He commented back something to lead me to believe that I missed the announcement. I went back and watched many videos to see if I missed him saying anything about her. I couldn’t find anything but I still could have missed it? My concern was for you and your relationship with him and more specifically the kids. After Sarah passed, you often mentioned being with Rayla and he would also mention it. I haven’t heard anything for quite awhile about you and Rayla being together. Then he randomly pops the news on his channel and you and the kids were immediately my first thought. What were any of us to think? You are 100% correct that we all have our perspective. 3.5 years ago, I suddenly lost my childhood friend from a heart attack. Within 6 weeks of her passing, her husband and one of her friends were dating. He cut many people out of his life because he knew what everyone was thinking. So, yes, I’m defensive out of love for you. As the oldest sister of three, I can’t even IMAGINE how hard it must be to lose your sister. I want what is best for all involved. A lot of us are deeply invested in this family’s journey. I simply felt that the subject could have been broached in a much better way and saved all of this. Hence my comment about making good choices. It had nothing to do with him moving on. Love from Ohio 💞💞💞💞
From what I've seen in Josh's videos, he's a very nurturing, compassionate person who is willing to be emotionally vulnerable in a way that many men aren't. The grief stays, the loss is there, and nothing you do is going to erase that or replace your lost loved one--so you have to choose what to build around it. I think he's just doing his best to build a joyful life for his children, and I respect that. I can understand that it feels fast, but I also know that losing someone you love is a painful reminder of how short life is. Sending love to you and your whole family.
Thanks for supporting Josh for his decision. I saw his video and could see his hurt from things that were said. Just as you said, everyone is different. People should be happy that he has found someone. I'm sure Sarah is. Hugs Theresa, many of us had the same thought. Bless you.
I'm really happy for josh ,especially for the children to have a lady wanting to love them as her own .That's a blessing ❤❤
I'm sorry you feel that way. It's just that it wasn't a year, unless he literally just met her and moved his kids in with her, so it was either closely after she passed and he got to know her well or it was sudden and I think people expressing them have concerns for the kids is all. Just bc he chose to mourn this way doesn't mean they did and kids often get abused from step siblings and it was a shock that we were told in a way of yeah the girl I've talked about when zero of his other videos mentioned her. Is what it is, it's not our lives but when someone puts theirs out there they have to expect all different opinions.
You are absolutely correct! Life can be hard enough, there's no need for peolpe to be so judgmental! If Josh has found someone to be wit, good for him! He can still love & miss Sarah, and have a companion.
This is such a loaded situation. It's very easy to sit back and look at another person's experience and say, "this is how I would handle it," whether you're male or female. The truth is, unless you are a widower who lost his wife after a long battle, and you have 3 kids, you have literally zero idea what you would do or what it would be like. It is unbelievably evident that Josh loved Sarah. It's unbelievably evident that he still DOES love Sarah. Simultaneously, Josh started grieving Sarah long before she died, saw how fleeting life is and is choosing to be happy with someone else, not because he no longer loves or misses Sarah, but because as humans we crave companionship, and as humans we are capable of feeling so many feelings Simultaneously.... grief, love, loss, new love, new companionship, etc. Josh isn't replacing Sarah; she will always be his Sarah and the mother of his kids.... but he chose to inject some happiness back into his life and are we really begrudging a grieving man who honored and loved his wife til the bitter end some happiness. That's not ok..... and it's not what Sarah would want. Josh's new relationship does not erase Sarah. Josh's new relationship does not erase his love or loss for Sarah. It may put some smiles on his face.... and if we are judging then we need to judge ourselves. If you watched Josh love and take care of and honor Sarah, you have no business looking in as an outsider and judging. I have a terminally ill daughter. I love her more than anything else in this world. I'm also choosing to have another child. Am I a terrible person to have another child when my first one is dying? No.... because one decision is not reflective of the love and grief of another situation. It's not black and white. You can be barely making it and still make choices that will give you more happiness and if someone thinks you shouldn't, they're not your fucking people.
Perfectly said! I’m sorry for what you’re going through ❤.
I lost a dear friend to cervicle cancer that metastasis to her stomach. Within a year of her death her husband also my friend remarried. He has pushed hard for me to meet her. I'm just not ready. I'm glad he is happy and no hard feelings but I just can't move on that fast. Like you said I don't want to hurt their feelings but my heart is still grieving my friend.
Thank you so much for your thoughts and perspective. I am sending so much love to you and your family.
I had been waiting for him to come out and state that he was with someone new, he took his time introducing the relationship which had been pursued for many months prior to his announcement. I don't follow him anymore because I began following for Sarah. So it makes sense to me to drop out and move on. I understand your view. Sarah was a brave woman. May she always remain so close to you and your heart. God bless dear woman
Thank you for sharing
I’ve wondered about you since Sarah passed. I’m glad you’re doing ok & are still part of Josh & the kids life. I do think Sarah would be happy for Josh finding someone to love & to join his family.
Bless you Theresa. You’re a wonderful person and have a beautiful family. Embrace them.
We saw Josh in video after video caring for Sarah. I don't think of it as him moving on. I think more of it as being part of the living. His beautiful soulmate passed away, she didn't walk away from their marriage. I love that Josh and the kids have hopefully found a light through all the past darkness and I love how your love for your sister manifests in your ability to open your heart and accept someone new as part of your family. Blessings to all of you ❤
Josh and I talked earlier about this very thing. That’s it’s not moving on but moving forward. Thank you for your commitment.
Your story has helped me because I have been so angry and hurt by my dad’s engagement only 3 calendar months after we buried my mom. He married soon after and moved across the country. It still bothers me to this day but listening to you helps me see it from a new perspective. Also - great idea to calm down before commenting. Thank you ❤
You are pretty amazing. Much love ❤
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I'm sorry that's happened to you. I myself would hope someone would wait until the grief settles. It does seem common men can't cope & need a female. I think they also hide the pain of the loss by moving on too quickly. Men & women are different. It's always the children who suffer. I'm sure one day he will come out of the grief fog & realise what he's done. Sending you prayers 🙏
I respect his right to move on, and I don't really agree, but I would never write a negative comment about it. It's not my business, or anybody else's business what he does, or doesn't do. I wish him well, but I do not subscribe to his channel anymore ( I watched it more for Sarah to begin with ). Still miss seeing her kind smile.
Thank you for being respectful of his decision even though you don’t agree.
Bless your heart - We all loved Sarah - I can only imagine how hard it was for you - I watched the video did not comment - Josh has the right to be happy - loneliness can overtake ones life - some find happiness in other ways - some need companionship - and Josh is young - We all saw how Josh grieved during and after Sarah passed on to heaven - No one has the right to judge - I pray that you will all find peace - Sarah is still with us - her beautiful smile her singing - she always tried to be a friend to everyone - most of all I am sure she wants Josh and her children to live life and experience all the adventures it has to offer - Josh has found love again for himself and his children - And that is a wonderful thing - Warm Hugs God Bless
Theresa, you're a wonderful woman. Anyone following Sarah knew this and those of us that followed you from the start. I understand everything you are saying and thinking. You are a great aunt just fabulous. I'm sure the kids depend on you more than you'll ever know. Comments always hurt really cut deep even when you put them aside and ignore them they still hurt. You really take things well. You'd make a really good teacher your so good at explaining things. I hate seeing you this sad. I wish you only the best. Keep your chin up. People can be heartless and ugly and they think nothing of it. That's the kind of people they are. No real love in their world and how sad that is.
You are so supportive of your family and I'm happy that you are still a part of their lives 🙏🙏
I am a person that has had 2 different cancers and what u said is very powerful. U can either learn from someone's death and move forward or be miserable on a daily basis. I would never want anyone to be miserable because life is so short, caregivers and love ones go through so much with those that battle cancer. Everyone deals with grief differently. The way u explain this is so beautiful. U take care of yourself and a Merry Christmas to u and your family
Thank you so much for sharing. Much love to you.
💜 I think with some of the people they felt like Sarah‘s family and it hurt them to see him move on so fast, when you put your life out there day-to-day, some people become a part of it. I don’t think they mean to be cruel to Josh. Give them time they’ll come around Merry Christmas ☃️🎄
Block , ignore nasty comments. All of you have lost your loved one & its soul crushing. You're all doing your best to carry as Sarah woujd want you too. But you're full of grief & have a broken heart. Your responsibilty is to take care off each other. This is your life , your family. You do your sister proud. She doesn't want you to be sad. But of course you are. I'm so sorry. May you continue to find comfort & love in all that surrounds you. ❤
A death of a loved one changes the dynamics of everything. Behaviours & feelings, grief is the worst, hardest emotion to go through. It hurts! My dad had a little relationship going on with a lady up the road while my mum was in a carehome with dementia. Its more Company & being carried through the painful days of watching our mum go through changes to non verbal & bed bound. Its best to allow the person griefing to go on their own journey to find themselves again. Thank you fir your thoughts. Love & prayers for you & your family ❤🙏
Bless u Theresa! I'm sorry u feel hurt by someones comment!
I'm happy for Josh, B, & Reylah
Sarah was a beautiful person and she would want Josh to be happy again. They had a great marriage loved each other dearly , they were made for each other. Josh and the children deserve to be happy again and Sarah would want that. There's no time limit on grief there's no right and wrong time for anything. Sarah will never be forgotten, she was a beautiful soul, she made a big impression on me. Josh was there for her every step of the way when she was ill, now he deserves to have a happy life if he's happy so are the children. Sarah's looking down and she will be happy for them. It must be hard for you Theresa , l don't understand people being unkind, look after yourself and wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas love from Wales ❤
Im happy that Josh has found some happiness after living years of watching his wife suffer. He was left behind to pick up the pieces with his children. I'm so glad you are on his side..and know the side of Josh that matters. I'm glad you were led to open your heart and accept these new folks who are in your niece and nephews' life, as well. I'm so glad Josh has you in his corner. it's never easy for anyone in the family...❤ My continued best wishes for you all.
Well said. I 100% agree with all said. Peace
Can’t imagine lost my beloved soulmate after 30 years of wonderful marriage. Married for eternity.
No one should judge, nor compare Josh to Kyle Apple, everyone’s different and it’s no one’s business. I lost my hub after 45 years and two years later I’m with a man, is two years ok to wait? See how silly it is to judge, just worry about yourselves and be happy for others, being alone is hard! You are very wise and loving . 💕
I think people were just concerned about you and Josh's kids. You are a wonderful person to be so supportive
I am glad you are still a family with Josh and kids. You are such a sweet person. Of course you're going to have moments of hurt and memories and wishes. That's normal. But your love outweighs everything. I wish them well. I wish you well. You are a darling woman. ❤❤❤
I really appreciated your video today, and it was as if Sarah's words were coming out through your heart. She loved you all with all her heart and Josh was a good a caring husband who stood by her side for year after year as she battled through all the various hells that make up cancer treatment. Having lost my father to cancer I know how precious it makes life and how much we want to get back to living to honor them after they are gone. Your own life is put on complete hold when you are caregiving and that sacrifice is something you give willingly and lovingly, but when you start really living again its like you are carrying your loved one with you and living for them too. Sarah would have wanted you all to be happy. If anyone claims to love Sarah and they are mean and negative to the man that was her true love, then it isn't showing much respect for her is it? I know people are thinking well if he loved her he wouldn't have moved on. But that isn't life in the real world. I would also think that those people perhaps have not actually walked in our shoes, but are looking at it through theory. Also all our emotional makeups are different. Respect and love and kindness are all things you learn from the experiences of being tested and coming out the other side. I know honey that confrontation is hard and I am proud of you for being determined to be more brave. Good for you and by doing so you will see that as an adult ,most difficult people are like blowfish that puff themselves up so they can look all big and scary but when confronted, you find they are just frightened and insecure like everyone else. Some difficult people never learn but others can if they try hard enough come to realize that this course of putting others down, never works in the long term. It just lands them in one drama after another. Which is a sad place to live. Staying in your own dramas and the dramas of others will give us a life where we are not able to make a lasting mark. And that leads to a life without purpose. That is why Sarah always said to "be kind". She wanted all the people she loved to have a rich and happy life. Just know dear one that if you decide to stay on RUclips or social media at all, you will be dealing with people who have various levels of emotional maturity, its the nature of the beast and it can't be changed. I am glad you spoke up and I am proud of how dignified you remained. Remember that you have the right to delete comments that are negative. Its totally up to you, but while you want to give people a safe place to comment and express themselves, you don't have to accept hateful comments that go against the message of your channel. Sometime when people find that their comment are deleted they will move on to someone else that they can make miserable. Its just a thought, but whatever you decide I am sure it will be for the best. Hang in there you are growing and learning and really succeeding! If I had a sister like you I would be very proud of her indeed.
Your words are bringing so many emotions to my heart. Thank you for your supportive kind words.
Men may move on more quickly but I think people's concern is " the children " .
When you have kids, who have a mother that passed away after a long sickness, well that simply changes the other parent's freedom to move on.
Kids always have to come first and although they may say that they are "fine "even "happy" about something as major as moving in with a whole brand new family,
, using good judgement and moving very slowly is not only important but necessary for their well- being. So I think that was a concern of people who have loved Sarah.
You are a special person and I wish you josh and all the family the very best. 🙏🏻🌲
Anyone who makes a judgement, has never been in the position Josh is in. I was widowed suddenly at 51, I’m 67 now. It has been my choice not to look for a relationship even though I had people asking me just weeks after if I would remarry! I love the way you understand him, support him and the kids. You are very special ❤
Everyone grieves differently. I don't know why we all feel the need to immediately accept social norms, even if we don't know where they came from. Its really nobodys business what Josh does. i have always felt he had his families best interest at heart. You. have been so loving, thanks for being you!!
Well said.
I am proud of Josh. And if he lived his life feeling an obligation to make choices to make other people happy. Then that would be a miserable life. He is doing what he feels is thr right thing for him and his family. No, it isn't to soon. He started the grieving process when Sarah was terminal. He loved and helped her to the very end. It is his time and his childrens time to move forward and start new happy memories. They should not stay stagnant and wallow in sadness and sorrow. It is not healthy for anyone.
When people put their lives on public forums they need to accept that their is going to be lots of opinions,some nice,some not so nice and some that are disgusting,normally by trolls that get a kick out of hurting vulnerable people. If people cannot accept this then maybe putting their lives on a public forum for the world to see is not a good idea. I am a widow and was from the age of 38 with 2 children and I lost the love of my life. I met another partner 4 years after my husband died and I was ready to move on at this point,but some are happy to move on much quicker,everyone’s different.
I’m so sorry people make comments that are upsetting. Sending great big hugs to you❤
Very well said Theresa! We shouldn't judge Josh because were not in his shoes and it was very ovious how much Josh loved Sarah! Im happy that Josh is happy and its not anyones business! Sending love to you❤️
Men typically need to find a spouse quickly! With respect, they are more needy than most women. It also means Sarah was such a big person in his life, its a compliment.
I think its just hard for some because of the kids. There's only one way to say it and that's, mommy has been replaced! She's all over the place and it has to be awkward and unhealthy. It needed to be slowly introducing and after A WHILE slowly talked about maybe moving in.
Regardless, its his life, his children and he's a great dad!
I know Theresa....this is a very difficult subject. 😢 I'm so sorry Sweetheart, that you are having to go through this and I'm so glad you're talking to your counselor about it. Honey, take it from this 79 year old lady who has been through many losses and many new beginnings....this too will pass. Love you! ❤❤
Good hearing from you
Theresa, I'm sure your sister is proud of you. I think from what has been shown when she was going through all her pain. That her husband did everything he could. And I think the biggest thing we can do . And that your sister probably wanted as hard as it was . Was that he move on and be happy. It didn't take away his love for her at all.
You are beautiful and Sarah would love to see the family happy. Hé was à perfect husband and he is a great daddy Sarah will be there for ever, the kids are a part of her
Stay all together that 's Sarah' s wich I am shure
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I no longer follow Josh. I was their for Sarah and the kids! I know longer get to see the kids. So know reason to watch anymore. I am glad you have found away to stay in the kids lifes. Bless you Theresa
I’m in the same mindset. I was there for Sarah. Once she died, things changed so much and all the posts were taken down. We don’t get to see those fabulous kiddos any more. So there is no need to stay. I left his channel. I wish them the very best in life. And you as well Theresa. Be well and stay healthy. This too shall pass.
No, not "know". Learn the difference.
Look at you making yourself proud 😂@@Jaque1961
Loss comes with so many feelings and emotions and the person left has to learn to live.
We do not know who when or if new bonds will form or love will be with but that is between the people involved .... none of us walks in each other shoes we may walk in simpler shoes along a similar path but it will not be identical.....there are similarities introducing another person after divorce families and feelings are so complex.
Formats like YT show us a snapshot into others lives....unless you are there 24/7/365 folks should be mindful on how they express opinion.
We i thinkball came together thro Sarah her love of life, family, friends and pets her words of Be Kind, and Make Good Choices I think the foundation of how to behave when commenting on anyones channel...🥰💜x
Just because he moves on doesnt mean he doesn't love Sarah, she would want him to be happy. My dad has been married to my step mom for 31 years but he still loves my mom and talks about her and my step mom goes with him to moms grave.
Josh moved on fast people get mad, idk if you ever watched Kyle Apple….he is having a horrible time still and people keep telling him it’s time to move on…. It’s a lose lose situation on social media. Like you said you saw what you saw when Sarah was ill….none of us did…. making assumptions is not kind. Hugs
It is definitely true no matter what you say that people will get upset. Especially because we all operate on a different frequency and have different morals.
We all heard Sarah tell him to move on and not stay depressed.
Whaaat?? Why are people upset that Josh has found a new person in his life? That is really upsetting to me! In the old days, men often remarried quickly because they look at things from a more practical view (needing support and help for childcare.) Men are different from women--and most of the commenters that have a problem with it are women! It doesn't mean he didn't have deep love for Sarah.
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Btw, I wasn’t the only one but I will claim my part. 😊
Thank you for giving me that perspective.
And many many men do not do this, watch any of kyle apple vlogs, he can barely get thru the day losing his jenny and all his days are devoted to their kids. I'm not saying people shouldn't move forward but invest in your kids for awhile, they lost their mom. They should come first, even if they say they are fine or ok even happy with it, every kid eventually wants to go home from a play date especially when they are mourning so permanently moving them into a new home with a whole new family seems sad.
Your point of view is absolutely valid and you’re absolutely allowed to feel that way. I wasn’t saying not to feel that way, I was just trying to make a point to say it in a respectful way, which you did perfectly because you explained the reasoning behind your feelings. Thank you for saying that in a respectful way, and I can see your point of view.
@@TheresaPDXwe all love you and loved jenny very much and her kids as well and want what's best and it was just a big shock
I was surprised that Josh seem to have moved on quickly as well as when he deleted all the wonderful messages that we all sent to Sarah on her videos, I didn’t understand that ( still don’t ) but it’s his life I don’t judge him for that all Sarah’s followers loved her dearly and were very invested in her journey so yes the way it was presented to us it seemed like we ( the followers ) didn’t matter anymore! I wish nothing but the best for all of you and especially for the kiddos! Love to you al❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts in a respectful way. That was the point I was trying to get across. I can completely see how people would feel that way, and your thoughts are completely valid.
I was not judging whatsoever. I WAS upset that he casually mentioned Carly like we all knew. I commented asking who’s Carly. (Not my exact wording). He commented back something to lead me to believe that I missed the announcement. I went back and watched many videos to see if I missed him saying anything about her. I couldn’t find anything but I still could have missed it?
My concern was for you and your relationship with him and more specifically the kids. After Sarah passed, you often mentioned being with Rayla and he would also mention it. I haven’t heard anything for quite awhile about you and Rayla being together. Then he randomly pops the news on his channel and you and the kids were immediately my first thought. What were any of us to think?
You are 100% correct that we all have our perspective. 3.5 years ago, I suddenly lost my childhood friend from a heart attack. Within 6 weeks of her passing, her husband and one of her friends were dating. He cut many people out of his life because he knew what everyone was thinking. So, yes, I’m defensive out of love for you. As the oldest sister of three, I can’t even IMAGINE how hard it must be to lose your sister.
I want what is best for all involved. A lot of us are deeply invested in this family’s journey. I simply felt that the subject could have been broached in a much better way and saved all of this. Hence my comment about making good choices. It had nothing to do with him moving on. Love from Ohio 💞💞💞💞
Thank you for your thoughts, Concerns and clarification on feelings. I Appreciate you looking out for the family and your questions.
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