Do You Get Along with Everyone?
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
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"A friend to all is a friend to none!"
Get along with yourself. That’s what matters.
That's where it begins.
Seriously. 🙌
@@incorectulpolitic: 😎Duly Noted Sir!! Will look into each and every one of those. I'll be around...
you can get along with yourself and still not be conducive to community
“Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.”
― Aristotle
true Friendship is real from beginning with no end because the truest friend remains a friend even when their friend is not being one, usually it passes like a storm, we know because of the upward trend in the stat sheets, its just like a corporate downturn, with a strong team, you will be back in the Black, friendships are the same way
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey
Now that you were done talking, let me tell you how wrong your opinion is with the intent of hurting your self esteem just enough so you question what you just said, recant, and get in line behind me as a new victi-I mean follower who will rely on my judgement of the world to navigate it going forward regardless of my own familiarity of the subject you just expressed.
Because i believe I’m better/more educated/wiser than you... even though we’ve never met and thus I have no objective information to make that determination but I am banking on the probability that you already have a damaged self-esteem in someway that I can exploit in any number of ways that lets me obtain my goals ranging from winning the argument to out right manipulating you into bed... or worse.
@weird-new World 2.55M subscribers, growing, and you say last legs? This insurance salesman chose to speak about entrepreneurship a couple years ago, and has passion that's almost palpable! What leads you to think he's forced to speak?
Also, your replies seem to be based on a weird-new interpretation of this quote! I've always understood it as a warning that when you think someone's listening to you, they're actually devoting more energy to planning a response.
Pond Boy I think he might be referring to the original commenters channel which only has a few thousand subscribed. Could be wrong though.
@@brokeneyes6615 perhaps, but that channel appears to only be 6 months old, so it's doing pretty good to have that many subscribers already...idk, I'm confused as heck now!
Geary Kunkel you walked away, you won. 👍
*“If you want to make everyone happy, don’t be a leader, sell ice cream”.*
----Steve Jobs 🙌🙌🙌
Karen: hold my wig.
What's wrong with ice cream?
@@Ligerpride it's not about the problems with ice cream, or the people who sell it. It's a way of saying that leaders step on some toes along the way, so you have to decide which you want more: to lead or to be liked.
The saying isn't perfect, nor the whole picture, but packs a punch with a lot of truth if you don't take it too literally.
Tell that to a vegan
You gotta show your teeth sometimes.
If you get along with everyone then you're not being real with someone
You can still be cordial/diplomatic in all situations
I totally agree
I agree.
Having 5000 'friends' and not a single one really knows you is a sad life. Something everyone should work on is finding a building a real friend. Just 1 real friend is enough.
@@joandrews9391 Very true, but still some people try to be impossible.
I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure - which is: Try to please everybody. - Herbert Bayard Swope
Good quote man
Qy
This is great!
If you try to please everyone you end up pleasing no one😕
Once you understand this, you can truly be happy. 😃 😊 😀
This doesn’t mean to just be an a-hope but to understand no matter what you do, you cannot please everyone.
@@michaelmccloud7506 Very true ;)
Please only those you have something to gain from by applying to their self-interest and don't waste time on anybody else.
More importantly you get to a point where you have no self respect.
I am more aloof as I get older...because when I was younger I did open up more, go out my way for people, etc ..and 9x out of 10 all it did for me was people would use me for their own interests and then get tossed aside when I wasn't useful anymore
You cannot be loved by everyone unless you’re a $100 bill. And even then you can get haters.
As I were younger, I got along with everyone! I’m a natural empath, and it wasn’t hard for me to read people - and adjust to them. Until I got older, got tired, grew up and got fed up with people’s bad tempers and poor thinking. I could not swallow abuse, be it from the boss or from a coworker. I got to the point I cannot be managed anymore :) not a good thing, probably, but I run my own team now.
Olga, when you say “natural empath” it leads me to believe you are high in trait agreeableness according to the Big 5 personality traits. It sounds like you learned to set boundaries, which is healthy, and now you are able to lead more effectively. Just a slight reframing from an observer.
Communication Station Unfortunately I know nothing about Big 5 traits you mentioned - I understood people naturally, so it’s no achievement of mine. It’s the same way I always wrote in my native languages (Russian & Ukrainian) without a single mistake (I’m a published fantasy writer now...). I’ve never even given it a second thought. And I didn’t set boundaries consciously, either. It’s the circumstances that made me more self-confident and mature. At a certain stage, I had no energy to care anymore. It’s not the healthiest thing to set personal boundaries... but that’s what really happened 🙂
Thank you so much for your comment. It made think and remember.
Agree as you age you have less tolerance for BS.
Mike Fisher who are BS? 🙂 sorry for ignorance
Exactly. Thanks
“The art of pleasing is the art of deceiving” some French guy
Shallow relationships are like shallow waters. Sharks, sting rays, eels and other predators are often found in them and require awareness an an open eye to spot the danger.
That book “How to win friends and influence people” changed the way of my behaviours in communication with people!
I tend to be that one person that gets along with everyone. It's usually because I forgive easily and I tend to focus only on the good of people. The ONLY people I try to stay away from us, people with Narcissistic behavior. I've learned to spot them.
When someone doesn't like me, I thank them a lot cause it's one less person I have to talk to.
Thats a different way to look at it.
Wow, I think this explains the issues surrounding my closest friendships. I have had this notion in my head that my closest friends and I should never argue. That, of course, led to my friendships mainly being surface level, and my tighter ones weren't always the best fit - I was a people pleaser (still working on that), and I got run over in my relationships.
Ethical polarization is an important part of life. Spilling ones convictions makes them feel alive, and empowers them with purpose and passion. Enemies that come from that is just the price to pay to be truly alive.
If people ask me about politics, just as every part of the system, I support no sides. The only side is them against us and they are winning. I am on the side of Christ 🙌
To the one reading this, let's meet here after 10 years after we all are successful.
Until then, take care. See you in 2030.
Yep
I'm already successful, but I will happily meet you here again in 2030.
Better not take me 10 years. Back at you though. Real estate is pumping right now. Remember to save that money for the downturn so we can snap up some this time around
There will be no youtube in 2030
Yessir! On it!
I learned in America it's best to keep people at a healthy arms length away, as "most people" seem superficial, fake and toxic past that point... Thus real friendships don't really exist, and to be honest anyone outside of family and friends are best kept there 👍
No doubt, one of my “Best Friends” and I are no longer friends. I remember thinking for years that we weren’t going DEEP. This plandemic hit and we found out quickly that we had never gone to that place. I thought, hey we’re BFs no way we get mad at each other for our thoughts. What I found out is that my thoughts weren’t valued if he disagreed with me. So apparently we found out that it was a surface relationship. Other friends we discussed and debated and we’re still great friends. If communication is not a part of your friendships, are you truly great “Friends” 🤷🏻♂️
Indeed.. They're 'perhaps ' just beyond acquaintances as to me superficial friendships is like having a shovel that's never really been used ~ it's just meh
What do you do in my case when he is the closest person to you, he only come if he needs some help, he mostly force is own opinion on others (if d facts are concrete or not) and you both live close to each other in school, same faulty.
How can I deal with such person
@@olamilekanoluwatobiloba6753 In my experience. Offer *soft* warning(s) if they persist just lessen your interactions with them.
I'll add tentatively that depending upon their mindset they may begin spreading rumours but find your inner strengths, channels on RUclips, read and apply self help /care books and keep studying. Take up a contact sport in private if possible but hold your standards until he complies that 'you've both opinions, neither of you have to always be right or wrong and even though you respect his, you don't currently feel that he's been respecting yours' ~or similar.
Also, remember some people don't realise they're doing something akin to your description. Be gentle but firm as I don't believe it's a confrontation you seek... It's mutual empowerment or at minimum your own as you wouldn't pose the question(in my opinion) as you've framed it?
@@PragmaticOptimist_N7 Thanks bro
@@olamilekanoluwatobiloba6753 pleasure. Stay blessed
I completely agree with the fact that you can't please everyone, you will always be polarizing but only if you show your genuine self. Most people are fake and play it safe to be liked by everyone and that destroys intimate and deep relationships. Great video man, keep up the great work!
0:05 secs. into it. No I don't! It ain't possible to get along with everyone...most of them ain't worth the effort either!
This speaks to me at the perfect moment in my life Pat. I've been following you since 2017 and I always find your videos just when I need them. Today I took a massive step to improve my ego problem; so big that when I told my mom she thought it was an April Fools joke. When you talk about yourself to the point where even you get sick of it, you know its a real issue that needs to be fixed if you're ever going to find true happiness. You bringing up that point in this video has helped reassure me that I'm doing the right thing tomorrow. Thanks again Pat.
"What is today but yesterday's tomorrow? "
- Mr. Krabs
Yes, this happened to me on Facebook. I mean Why? Can you respect my opinion and I give you the same respect to you.
I have such a calm and reasonable personality that helps me so much in life. I feel like I'm the only one who thinks like I do sometimes but I know I am not alone in this world. Stay humble and wise and follow your own path.
I promise you there are others like us out here.
Everyone is perfect in their own way.
Everyone is beautiful.
Everyone is worthy.
Anyone with life is privileged.
Being yourself is all you need and the best thing you could give to a person. People not liking you is as inevitable as rainy days. Just pray for them & move on to the next one. Such as life.
Personally I do respect everyone but that does not mean that I like everyone .
I am who I am .
I am true to myself and others .
I do not live to please everyone .
We all are here to learn and improving ourselfs .
I am friendly to everyone because I changed my connections with people. I no longer go deep with anyone but my 2 best friends.
"Neither Bold Nor Timid"
That's my motto.
Totally true.
Ok, We don't have to get along with everyone in this world. Normal.
Remember the saying 'no matter how good you are, what good you do, someone will still resent you'.
I show interest in other people by asking questions.
Truthfully, I really don't listen to these kinds of videos. But I love what you're saying. You actually taught me something and I'm 50 years old. Kudos to you my friend, keep up the good work!
I have always wanted deep relations with people , however, I have also been told that it is very dangerous... Because when u go deep , you can love deep or hate deep . You have to be willing to feel the best or the worst experiences.. But , undoubtedly, the deep relations are the best relations in life! I am so happy to follow Pat and to know that even he believes in deep relations...
Even if youre that person that "everbody likes", there is always gonna be THAT person that hates you just because everyone else likes you.
It's the opposite for me (:
Some people see in you what they are not.
@@True38 You mean someone likes you because others dont?
@@Likexner I mean that I'm the guy that everyone dislikes, so there's always gonna be that ONE person who likes me. Usually my mom :)
@@True38 But she doesnt like you because other dont, right? She likes you because shes your mom. So thats not the opposite of what i wrote.
the real question is: do we care about getting along with everyone?
Good question to pose also...
I believe we want to get along with the people that matter to us and us to them... A 'support ' structure of banter, friendship and community ~ if that so happens to be 'everyone ',so be it. If it doesn't, Amen and keep stepping
@@PragmaticOptimist_N7 so "no" lol
@@Macheako Well, "yes" AND "no" would be my reply to you as...
I didn't and don't believe that's "the real question " ~not to disrespect *The Art Of Personal Growth*. I "believe" it's a great question that is to be added *into* the conversation. And so *that's* what I responded to.
Hope that clears up my answer somewhat 📌
@@PragmaticOptimist_N7 no
I think getting along with most people is like the same thing as getting along with everyone
Never appear to perfect is one of the 48 laws of power!
Great video! I listened to the audiobook a few weeks back and i really enjoyed it. It's such a powerful book and I don't understand why we're asked to read novels in school when that book alone teaches you so, so much.
Thank you Pat. I really needed this.
Thanks Patrick, always enjoy your content!
It's a real simple answer without even watching the video you don't have to get along with anybody to do business If you allow your emotions to get in the way of simple business deals You've become soft and no longer deserve to hold the position you hold And that's that in business you have to be a killer Figurely speaking right down to your own family members it's the only way to be a successful businessman
Yes, Patrick, it's hard. I like watching your videos but there are some things I don't agree with, but I keep coming back :)
The only way to get along with everyone is to establish mutual respect. The problem is that so many today are not capable of communicating for two reasons. 1. They lack principals 2. Their liberal upbringing did not allow them to mature to the point where they can accept a different viewpoint or constructive criticism. I am not republican or Democrat however I debate people from both sides respectfully. Unfortunately I notice the majority of the democrats stoop to name calling and struggle to debate. I am always willing to dig deep and understand where people are coming from but once someone stoops to name calling they lost their argument and my respect goes with it. I get along with people on both sides who are willing to talk and are willing to get to a point where you can be friends even if you might have to agree to disagree on certain arguments.
Funny how that happens. No communication skills in everyday life. I think the people that post and can't have a dialogue is the plan. Say something negative and move on. These people are either paid obstructionists, unable to communicate and or have the behaviorisms of "adult children." Most of what I have seen is to parrot dem politicians and the MSM networks words. They have been coerced to behave like this. This is the behavior of insecure, weak, low self confidence, low self esteem, etc. . . persons. The attitude of "I am right, you are wrong." I try to educate. They don't want to research facts because they are too lazy and or are paid obstructionists. Have you ever had a worker that tells you they can do something and completed with incompetence. There are people who can't say no, I can't do this, but I will learn how.
We Said !
Yet all your own political videos are anti-Democrat. I’ve found most “conservatives” don’t communicate with truth.
@@mthomas1091 Please, share some truth with me. Would love to hear truth.
M Thomas That’s not true. My videos are anti hypocrisy videos mostly. There isn’t much need for posting videos against the Republicans the media already has 30 channels doing that hence That would just be duplication. I don’t believe in wasting time posting something that has been done to death. I am sure you missed my video on Bernie Sanders! I am very pro Andrew Yang, Tulsi and Bernie and everyone knows it. It is all over my social media. Having said that I am very Anti Joe Biden and Pelosi and Obama! Also stated across my social media.This is the problem with prejudice that I described above... people do a two minute google search and think they know everything about a person and start with the labeling. You don’t even know me yet you already labeled me as disingenuous!
Your memory with names and places is great!
I love these videos! Such words of wisdom.
May The Lord Bless You Pat Bet-David! 💯🙏
Getting along with people I feel like is important man. I mean its better than sabotaging relationships with one person after another. I mean you can learn to put those differences aside and still be civil. Maintaining relationships is a skill in itself
Always great advise Pat, thanks!
This entrepreneur is a MAN to fall deeply in love with. His wife is so blessed.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ha! Gayyyyyy!
@@calvinknowsbest2880 hahahaha
He is blessed to have Jennifer as his wife 😂
@@UdoADHD ok JENNIFER!!!!!😊🤭🤭🤭👍🏿😭
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Thank you for all the knowledge sir!
"Nobody likes a person that gets on a high horse." Fact. 08:32
Such an interesting and eye-opening approach to the topic of "getting along with people".
I have dealt deep into personality types and neuroscience over the past 12 months. I am not an expert or consider myself a guru. I do it for myself, to improve.
The knowledge and evaluated experience I got during the process is extremely valuable. My relationships went to a level of certainty, confidence, and clarity like never before.
It helped me get past many limiting and defensive beliefs I held due to the large emotional baggage I was carrying since childhood and upbringing.
I want to thank Pat and VT for this video and to wish a great week to all the Valuetainers out there. Have a great week everyone. Stay strong.
I keep it short sweet and simple and go on about my business that's all I can do but I respect everyone!
As always, thank you for the insights.
That's why you never show publicly what you actually stand for. Keep that private for the only ones that really understand/agrees with you. But in business, keep everything professional and focus on results only. That will make you go much further in life. Never waste valuable time and energy by arguing with other people. It doesn't matter if you're right, most people are too childish to admit when they are wrong so just leave it.
I used to get in fist fights with my older brother, but after he passed away I miss even those fights we’d have.
What a timely message! Thank you! - RA
Thank you. Im a big fan. Your videos helped me a lot in my business.
What is most important is being able to have a difference off opinion without being shutdown. Which immediately gives no room for a civil discussion.
Great content . Everytime without fail
Wow, what a coincidence that this got posted today. Definitely needed the insight into this, thank you!
I love this. Thank you! Gave me a new perspective.
I definitely not get along with everyone but can work with everyone if needed to reach my goals!
Thank you brother for words of wisdom!!!!!!!
I used to be “used” trying to get along with everyone - till I discovered they use that peacemaker trait I carry to abuse the friendship / relationship to satisfy their selfish controlling narcissism.
Kick today's ass Pat!! Thanks. Appreciate your energy.
Of the 3 types of videos Patrick posts, this is my favorite. I get why he does the interviews and is exploring multi person podcasts. There is nothing wrong with the other formats, I prefer the mentor version most. Please keep doing these types of videos.
Me, myself, and I get along just fine. Just be yourself and for those it pleases great. For those it does not, bend just a little but not too much. That should put you at nice happy medium.
Thank you Pat
You are so right
Some good insights and tips! Thanks bro
This was great thank you
True...prospectives are key
Love listening to your Genius way of thinking 🙏💖👍
Epic! Analysis as always!
I really needed this.
I heard lets unpack this I knew veteran lol great stuff as always thank you for the videos. Looking forward to more.
thank you for the good and helpful message- I do need to end my self-praise. However, I used to have quite a few deep relationships. Prefer not to anymore. I dont have time to sit and dwell on personality and on likes and getting to know somebodies. I am changing the world.
Wow. This was awesome!! THANKS PAT !!
God bless you Pat
"The more you learn, the more you earn" -Warren Buffet
Love the power word "unpack this togeather"! Tried the words for just 1 week and crazy results if you put the work in YOURSELF!
That book is powerful. People like me because I genuinely like them.
God, this guy is so good at dropping knowledge. Always one take too. Kills it.
Dang that's deep. I needed this. Thanks!
This was really great! 🙏
SO TRUE!!
I very much enjoyed this short rant.
I try too, but some times it doesn't go well. Especially if someone violates the personal information rule.
To be honest I must say i could always listen to your videos for a balance opinion or approach even on touchy subjects. Over the years I also couldn't listen too long to you, but that's because you bring alot of solid content so my ability to focus must be up to absorb much of it. But unlike many other speakers I feel I can trust your content since you question topics practically, the ones that people are afraid to ask and due to that I have no choice but to stick around for the debate. Thanks
I Was Worrying About What Happened Why Your Video Not Coming Up From Today Morning Than I Come Here And Saw You Haven't Upload Any Video Today I Said Thank God I Didn't Missed Now I Saw My Mobile And Notification Pop Up I Saw It's Your Video,
Your Video Is Like A Medication For Me Sir You Are The Most Valuable Person In My Love And Your Channel Valuetainment Is The Only Thing I Want To Spend My Time With.
Great video !!
Thank you David for such a amazing values like this. :D
I can't thank you enough for all of your content. I have come to believe that leaders are always readers, with you being a prime example...do you happen to have any videos in which you describe how you go about when reading books? Do you simply highlight, or do you take notes in a special way? Etc.
I relate to this! ❤️❤️❤️
Great video. I just said just today, if everybody loves you then I wouldn't trust thst person. No way can deep relationships can all be perfect. Some people you must agree with or they dont like you. But what if you don't? Great video!
IDEALLY, YES!! REALISTICALLY. NO!! BECAUSE NO MATTER HOW HARD U TRY SOME PPL WILL ALWAYS TRY TO BRING U DOWN. HOWEVER, THE KEY IS NOT TO GIVE THEM THE POWER TO DO SO & THAT TAKES MENTAL CLARITY & MATURITY!! SO, JUST SHAKE IT OFF!! LIVE, :LOVE & LAUGH!
Great video Patrick, Thumbs-up!
Maybe a bit short, maybe just right as a teaser to set people off to think about the subject.
It is an unusual video in that, there's not many videos made that are similar but the subject of how we get along with others who share the planet with us is something that touches us all on an every day basis, perhaps most of the time unconsciously.
I hope that this video causes many people to ponder about the issue, do some soul searching and self evaluation. If we do, it is likely to ONLY produce positive results, make us stronger and better resolved in our convictions whatever they may be.
Keep up the good work!
Top quality perspective, as usual 😉👍