I think it’s more of the fact that her fiancée isn’t standing up for her already that makes me think this is not going to work and she should leave. If he isn’t defending her now, imagine down the line.
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A lot of Nigerian men are spineless in the face of their mothers. Boundaries are extremely important or we’re just perpetuating the toxic elements of our culture. This is so especially necessary for those of us that straddle western culture and Nigerian culture. Our parents have to accept that change and growth is not weak or abandoning our culture. Like, parents… do better. Man babies, like homeboy here, get a spine.
If a man intends to marry you but cannot say to his own family "This will be my wife and you must respect her, a disrespectful statement to her is a disrespect to me!" Then the man will not support you in other issues of life. Genesis 2:24 Matthew 19:6
This mother in law will dictate everything in your marriage, including how many children you will have, when and their names. If will do your budget 😂Your fiance has no backbone. Good luck
The parents thinking that everything is rude is so annoying honestly. I’m Ghanaian and it’s the same for me I wish they realised that we are British as well as Ghanaian, Nigerian etc.
This dilemma is very much like my best friend’s as she’s Sierra Leone and married to a Yoruba man. Her mother in law put the intrusive in intrusive mother in law, she probably even wrote the book for Yoruba mothers to learn how to be intrusive. Anyways long story short, my best friend sat her husband down and told him he needs to back her in front of his mother. Then she told her mother in law some home truths about herself (grated they were after a pressure cooker of sorts) but they are so close now the other two sisters in law are jealous. She also killed her bitterness with kindness, she left no room to be hated by the mother in law.
Love your podcast girls! Well done… as a forty-something year old Yoruba gyal… IMO… Yoruba people are very tribalistic… they don’t want you to marry outside the Yoruba tribe talkless of marrying from another country… back in the day if I wanted to wind my mum up… all I had to say was “my boyfriend is Igbo” 😂😂😂…all hell broke loose……🤣🤣🤣 @ the “you guys” comment, my sister almost lost her life when she tried it one time… o! Chile Yoruba people are just special!… they need to rest abeg!.. to the girl in the dilemma… Omo! Exit while you still can… it only goes downhill from here ❤
Tammy- "theres marriage, theres Beatrize, and then theres me and Sharon" 😂😂😂 I felt that lmaooo. Girls im right there witchu. Havent even been on a date in a few years lol
As Africans usually the men follow the brides tradition not the other way round. Mixing both cultures is an option really. The mother in law is just trying to sabotage the wedding, you can love your culture but respect others culture, just pure ignorance and just horrible. I hate when mother in laws do that, because they married someone else child as well, let your child choose their spouse.
My sisters mother in law wanted to try that shyt, they are igbos, my uncles and mom shut that shyt down. We are from Cameroon. It was so fucking annoying.
This girl should runnaway from this guy and his mom. Usually they wait until you are in the mariage or have kids to show their real colours now this woman right does not like you at all. It will get worse once you have kids with him. Please do yourself a favour and run for your life never look back
When my mom talked to me anyhow twice in a row my husband made it clear never ever....most west african men, im Ghanaian so ik, cannot stand up for themselves and their spouses because they feel they owe their parents honor and respect even at the expense of their marriage...sha
This might be a long comment so bear with me guys. The Yoruba culture is a very proud, ceremonies and very big on respect that's how the culture is set up on its own and when it comes to wedding the mother-in-law really thinks it's her responsibilities to make sure everything looks prime and proper from the groom side even if the bride is Yoruba herself so it's now up to the bride and groom being on the same page before then navigating the parental control. The first red flag1 was not meeting the in-law early on (we Yoruba's have problem among ourself not to talk of someone from another culture there is a cultural shackles that needs to be broken )and this is the guy fault he should have taken her to see his parent at least 6 month before proposing that way everyone have a read on each other character coming up to the wedding you don't just become mother in law and a daughter in law in a day and expect the relationship to be fine. Number 2 the Yoruba culture dictates you do as the bride side does and THIS produces the traditional wedding becoming a blend there is no kicking out other culture the actually wedding ceremony is a religious one Christian with pastor, Muslim with imam. the traditional one causing trouble suppose to be planned mainly by the bride side with the groom side supporting. the groom side travel to the bride side family does whatever the bride side wants in order to get the bride. The reception after that ceremony can then now be heavily influenced by the groom side cause now you are showing off their family and that they have gotten the bride. THIS IS HOW A SUPPOSED YORUBA WEDDING SET UP IS. NOW YOU THIS STORY IS PURE TOXIC. no mother in-law that actually wants her son to be married will call the bride ASEWO am sorry there is no fixing this in yoruba we say 'okoburu losefe ana bure kosefe' meaning you can marry a bad husband, but you can't marry a bad in-law. my dear she is about to marry both bad husband and bad in-law. the family is not for you in fact any daughter that will get married into that family will have to be careful if you are not the apple of the mother-in-law eyes i don't know if you can enjoy you marriage. we Yoruba are not bad o but this family oku di e kaa to (is not up to the standards)
Oh dear, if you must continue your partner has to have your back. No side comments or turning the tables around when you need him to stand up for you. Other than that, my dear do NOT proceed please. It’s crazy! The wedding is only the beginning. She’d successfully control everything else but she might not mean you any harm either way.
I think Junior’s Mom wanted the small hall cos in Igbo culture men take care of most of the wedding bills. That’s why they were looking at you a certain kinda way when your in-laws wanted to pay the difference. I think the clash of cultures in Nigerian weddings is just a lot for inter-tribal 😂😂😂
The problem here is the son. Your future husband SHOULD make sure everybody in the house respects you. If the mother disrespects you openly like this, it’s because the son is disrespecting YOU behind closed doors with her. Ruuuuun, you are going to suffer. This man will never stick up for you.
AHHHH!! I could never say “you guys” omggg If you say it, now they’re getting riled up - could not even finish my sentence before they say “WHO IS YOU GUYS??”
Not to make an excuse but more for information, women's hearing is tuned to hear a baby crying. There is a pitch that women hear more often than a man As for allowing someone I'm dating to meet my mother, I believe, unless I am serious about the person and the relationships future, I will Not let anyone meet my mother. At all. I don't want her or the person to get use to each other if it doesn't go well.
Love your podcasts and I was mad that you skipped a Monday 😂😭 I sat by your channel/pod all Monday waiting and nothing appeared. Glad to have you all back and better!!🥴🤎 Real quick please it’s sometimes hard to catch on conversations when everyone is talking at the same time or talking over someone else so hopefully that can be worked on, otherwise love y’all 🫶🏾
My brother was 21 and with 3 months he knew his now wife of 10 years was he wife and had everyone call her him wife 😂😂😂 so his right when you know you know
I hope whoever wrote in actually found this helpful because y’all were taking a piss at her culture to. It’s all fun and games until ur doing the same as MIL
Even as cultural impact, with due respect in literature most of main impactful intellectual are igbo; in art we had the Nsukka group; in music the main pioneer were P Square. I think the comments in the video were bit superficial and biased
I think it’s more of the fact that her fiancée isn’t standing up for her already that makes me think this is not going to work and she should leave. If he isn’t defending her now, imagine down the line.
This ‼️‼️‼️
The “HEYYYY” in disbelief, will always do it for me LMAOO😂
In unison!😅
😂
One of my fav parts of the podcast, the "chileeee" is another. Can't forget that lol. 🤣🤣
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‘so im lying’ said every african parent when they were indeed, astronomically out of pocket😭
😂😂😂😂 YUP!!!!
A lot of Nigerian men are spineless in the face of their mothers. Boundaries are extremely important or we’re just perpetuating the toxic elements of our culture. This is so especially necessary for those of us that straddle western culture and Nigerian culture. Our parents have to accept that change and growth is not weak or abandoning our culture. Like, parents… do better. Man babies, like homeboy here, get a spine.
Yoruba isn’t actually the majority. Hausa is the largest tribe in Nigeria but as Yoruba people we just have main character syndrome 😅
If we’re talking about the diaspora specifically the UK Yoruba people are the majority amongst Nigerians
@@taii_chii6782they’re not even. OP is right.
My dear. They over inflate the hausa population
@@BarbaraKibira I’m not disagreeing with that. In Nigeria, Hausa people are most definitely the majority for sure
Yep.
If a man intends to marry you but cannot say to his own family "This will be my wife and you must respect her, a disrespectful statement to her is a disrespect to me!" Then the man will not support you in other issues of life.
Genesis 2:24
Matthew 19:6
This mother in law will dictate everything in your marriage, including how many children you will have, when and their names. If will do your budget 😂Your fiance has no backbone. Good luck
Exactly she needs to carry her slippers and run not walk😭😭😭😭
This mother-in-law is literally marrying her own son, that is what is happening here
The parents thinking that everything is rude is so annoying honestly. I’m Ghanaian and it’s the same for me I wish they realised that we are British as well as Ghanaian, Nigerian etc.
Rude to them is not agreeing with them 😂
Ah she needs to run 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️away as fast as she can and that man needs a backbone otherwise he will be single for a long long time
I only found this podcast today but I LOVE these ladies! Such contagious laughter 😂❤
The way you guys break out in song just does it for me 😅😅 now I'm smiling at my laptop in the office instead of solving the issue with this code😂😂🤦
This dilemma is very much like my best friend’s as she’s Sierra Leone and married to a Yoruba man. Her mother in law put the intrusive in intrusive mother in law, she probably even wrote the book for Yoruba mothers to learn how to be intrusive. Anyways long story short, my best friend sat her husband down and told him he needs to back her in front of his mother. Then she told her mother in law some home truths about herself (grated they were after a pressure cooker of sorts) but they are so close now the other two sisters in law are jealous. She also killed her bitterness with kindness, she left no room to be hated by the mother in law.
I’ve been waiting all week for an episode I’m so happy
Love your podcast girls! Well done… as a forty-something year old Yoruba gyal… IMO… Yoruba people are very tribalistic… they don’t want you to marry outside the Yoruba tribe talkless of marrying from another country… back in the day if I wanted to wind my mum up… all I had to say was “my boyfriend is Igbo” 😂😂😂…all hell broke loose……🤣🤣🤣 @ the “you guys” comment, my sister almost lost her life when she tried it one time… o! Chile Yoruba people are just special!… they need to rest abeg!.. to the girl in the dilemma… Omo! Exit while you still can… it only goes downhill from here ❤
I love this podcast. I love the friendship between you all. When you all started singing 😂😂😂😂
Just subbed! I am a British Nigerian (Igbo) … good talk. Sometimes the shouting is peak and I can’t even her some of the things you’re saying!
Tammy- "theres marriage, theres Beatrize, and then theres me and Sharon" 😂😂😂
I felt that lmaooo. Girls im right there witchu. Havent even been on a date in a few years lol
Ten minutes in and I’m living 😂LOL
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As Africans usually the men follow the brides tradition not the other way round. Mixing both cultures is an option really. The mother in law is just trying to sabotage the wedding, you can love your culture but respect others culture, just pure ignorance and just horrible. I hate when mother in laws do that, because they married someone else child as well, let your child choose their spouse.
Something about Nigerian sons who pander to their moms… I want to marry Nigerian but thissss I will choose Ghanaian 😭
Mate, this!!!!!
One word. Tapped!!
Sorry sis but I bet Ghanaians do it too
@@YesIlikebananasSo I bet they do. All men who do this are problematic and their mothers are even more problematic.
_ No need to be sorry.
Love this pod😂❤️👏🏾
Love the podcast😂😂 and so does my mum because this dilemma of the mother in law has her in shock
My sisters mother in law wanted to try that shyt, they are igbos, my uncles and mom shut that shyt down. We are from Cameroon. It was so fucking annoying.
Finally your RUclips is working!!!
This girl should runnaway from this guy and his mom. Usually they wait until you are in the mariage or have kids to show their real colours now this woman right does not like you at all. It will get worse once you have kids with him. Please do yourself a favour and run for your life never look back
the singing at the beginning took me out lmaoooo
4:25 screaminggggggg. Not Joha!
When my mom talked to me anyhow twice in a row my husband made it clear never ever....most west african men, im Ghanaian so ik, cannot stand up for themselves and their spouses because they feel they owe their parents honor and respect even at the expense of their marriage...sha
That's me kinda sorta. Lol you ain't meeting my parents until i know you're serious about me. Im not wasting their time 😒
A new viewer here, I enjoyed it, kudos to you guys ❤
@TheBTSPodcast Guys if only you were about when i was experiencing thissss aaaaaahhhhh!!!
Pod is litt!!!
This might be a long comment so bear with me guys. The Yoruba culture is a very proud, ceremonies and very big on respect that's how the culture is set up on its own and when it comes to wedding the mother-in-law really thinks it's her responsibilities to make sure everything looks prime and proper from the groom side even if the bride is Yoruba herself so it's now up to the bride and groom being on the same page before then navigating the parental control. The first red flag1 was not meeting the in-law early on (we Yoruba's have problem among ourself not to talk of someone from another culture there is a cultural shackles that needs to be broken )and this is the guy fault he should have taken her to see his parent at least 6 month before proposing that way everyone have a read on each other character coming up to the wedding you don't just become mother in law and a daughter in law in a day and expect the relationship to be fine. Number 2 the Yoruba culture dictates you do as the bride side does and THIS produces the traditional wedding becoming a blend there is no kicking out other culture the actually wedding ceremony is a religious one Christian with pastor, Muslim with imam. the traditional one causing trouble suppose to be planned mainly by the bride side with the groom side supporting. the groom side travel to the bride side family does whatever the bride side wants in order to get the bride. The reception after that ceremony can then now be heavily influenced by the groom side cause now you are showing off their family and that they have gotten the bride. THIS IS HOW A SUPPOSED YORUBA WEDDING SET UP IS. NOW YOU THIS STORY IS PURE TOXIC. no mother in-law that actually wants her son to be married will call the bride ASEWO am sorry there is no fixing this in yoruba we say 'okoburu losefe ana bure kosefe' meaning you can marry a bad husband, but you can't marry a bad in-law. my dear she is about to marry both bad husband and bad in-law. the family is not for you in fact any daughter that will get married into that family will have to be careful if you are not the apple of the mother-in-law eyes i don't know if you can enjoy you marriage. we Yoruba are not bad o but this family oku di e kaa to (is not up to the standards)
Oh dear, if you must continue your partner has to have your back. No side comments or turning the tables around when you need him to stand up for you. Other than that, my dear do NOT proceed please. It’s crazy! The wedding is only the beginning. She’d successfully control everything else but she might not mean you any harm either way.
I think Junior’s Mom wanted the small hall cos in Igbo culture men take care of most of the wedding bills. That’s why they were looking at you a certain kinda way when your in-laws wanted to pay the difference.
I think the clash of cultures in Nigerian weddings is just a lot for inter-tribal 😂😂😂
Y’all singing Joha has me screamingggg 😂
They are eating that man alive lol 😂😂😂
Omg I wish y’all would not speak over each other sometimes as you all have amazing things to say and we wanna hear it ❤
The problem here is the son. Your future husband SHOULD make sure everybody in the house respects you. If the mother disrespects you openly like this, it’s because the son is disrespecting YOU behind closed doors with her. Ruuuuun, you are going to suffer. This man will never stick up for you.
Such good conversation and perspective esp towards the end. I love and hate these topics around gender roles and all that. Good job guys!
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I enjoyed every bit of this episode. Keep it up Guys ❤
All cultural considerations aside- it’s really about manners. That’s just poor behaviour.
Did your camera quality upp or am I bugging?
Not an ashawooooo😩😩😩😩 this how i know i aint mature enough to get married cause what I would have said backk👀
Right like who is she talking to?! What gets me is the brazenness to say it to her, in front of HER mum.
Yes I’m Haitian and for the most part my dad wouldn’t be introduced to my man until he is close to proposing
Junior is a treasure
Also for the traditional wedding arent you supposed to follow the brides culture?
You are which is what makes the whole situation worse 😭😭
AHHHH!! I could never say “you guys” omggg If you say it, now they’re getting riled up - could not even finish my sentence before they say “WHO IS YOU GUYS??”
I try to pattern my parents but if it isn’t working I can’t come and kill myself 😂
I love that the African terminology being weaved in like spanglish love your podcast!😊
Y’all my kind of energy
Great Podcast❤😊
My American Parents are definitely Yoruba😂😂😂
Not to make an excuse but more for information, women's hearing is tuned to hear a baby crying. There is a pitch that women hear more often than a man
As for allowing someone I'm dating to meet my mother, I believe, unless I am serious about the person and the relationships future, I will Not let anyone meet my mother. At all. I don't want her or the person to get use to each other if it doesn't go well.
So Jamaican parents are from the Yoruba tribe 😅😂😂😂😂
LOOOOOOOOL the similarities can be a lot!
She needs to start recording them.
Love your podcasts and I was mad that you skipped a Monday 😂😭 I sat by your channel/pod all Monday waiting and nothing appeared. Glad to have you all back and better!!🥴🤎
Real quick please it’s sometimes hard to catch on conversations when everyone is talking at the same time or talking over someone else so hopefully that can be worked on, otherwise love y’all 🫶🏾
You ladies are amazing
thank you! xx
My brother was 21 and with 3 months he knew his now wife of 10 years was he wife and had everyone call her him wife 😂😂😂 so his right when you know you know
This young woman need to get her flat shoes on & RUN FOR HER DEAR LIFE!!! PLS..!
nah bc I would trust these girls w my life absolutely no question
Have yal started to do podcasts on Apple Music????
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Nigerian Parents and Zimbabwean Parents same WhatsApp group 😂
😂😂 not joha
First comment❤️, I clicked so fast lol
If he loved the Nigerian culture the way his mother does he would have married a Nigerian Yoruba woman! So this mother inlaw is being disrespectful! 😮
I feel like Yoruba people are like Zulu people in South Africa 🤣😭
I hope whoever wrote in actually found this helpful because y’all were taking a piss at her culture to. It’s all fun and games until ur doing the same as MIL
Even as cultural impact, with due respect in literature most of main impactful intellectual are igbo; in art we had the Nsukka group; in music the main pioneer were P Square. I think the comments in the video were bit superficial and biased
Jesus not richer and better 😂😂🤣 but for real I agree
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