Cause some people seem to use weddings as a means of showing of their wealth and status plus to make their wedding-pictures find it's way onto Pinterest.
Why is hygiene being banned in any event? How insecure do you have to be that you can't tolerate the thought of someone smelling better than you so you tell them to come dirty? What the hell.
I don't want a bunch of unbathed, unkempt, barefoot people rolling up to my wedding or birthday celebration! 🤣 How insecure do you have to be to feel threatened by your guests brushing their teeth before they come? 😭
I understand the “no alcohol” rule because alcohol is ridiculously expensive in large quantities and some people don’t know their limits. You don’t need alcohol to have fun.
I remembered one show in my country, called "4 weddings", where four women invited and they go on each wedding of each one and rate everything. And there was specific episode, where was one girl, who didn't drink alcohol, because she simply didn't want to. And on wedding of one of contestant, other woman started trying to make her drink, and when she walked away, that woman added vodka in her non alcoholic drink. That's honestly makes my stomach sick. We should start normalizing not wanting to drink alcohol just because you don't want to. Even for my 18th birthday I drank two glasses of champagne, even tho my mom said, that I could go to bar with my friends and boyfriend.
Exactly you don't need to have alcohol to have fun you can have fun without it some people just like to go bother other people who choose not to have alcohol at their wedding and the fact some ppl don't drink alcohol so of course it's they choice not to have it in their wedding
FR, when planning my 18th birthday/grad party, I said I didnt want any alcohol there because I didn't like the smell, and my relatives don't know when to stop. My parents said that people wouldnt come without it, and (honestly, the whole party was a huge disappointment and a much longer story than this lol) went to Costco and bought so much alcohol that we needed two trips to the car. My family and my parent's friends got wasted, while me and my five friends who showed up hid in my bedroom until it was safe to go outside. After that night, I vowed that I would never drink. Normalize not needing to drink to have fun.
All these "rules" just scream Control Freak. If they are this controlling on their Wedding Day, imagine how controlling they must be in everyday life. I feel sorry for the poor souls marrying these lunatics.
Nah, it's their fault for staying with them when they're so obviously mental. The only ones I pity are their future offspring. Imagine being raised by someone like that.
I'm Russian and we usually don't hire anyone for celebrations, although I can't speak for a wedding, having never been to one. But having guests do the work, unless they offer, is usually seen as appalling and absolutely rude. Heck, it's kinda rude not to refuse them first if they offer to help you with dishes or whatever, and agree if they insist. Although again, it's a bit of an older generation thingy, not sure how my generation does it since I don't have many friends 😅
@@atriyakoller136 there is normally an event planner/ host involved to coordinate different parts of the reception and wedding games and in cases of bigger guest numbers some kitchen staff to help out in the beginning with the wedding soup and the buffet set up, unless the reception is held in a restaurant. Other than that, just like every other big family event.
I went to a wedding that had no alcohol, since the bride's father was recovering from addiction. We all knew that and respected it. It was a fun celebration and the parent's speeches had me in tears. So, my point is: Sometimes there is a good and valid reason for a rule or change, but that does not apply to all of the stuff mentioned here!
The only one that's understandable is the "No alcohol" rule. Alcohol is expensive, some people don't know their limit and the pair has a right to have a drug-free party. We need to stop normalizing consuming alcohol as a coping mechanism for social situations. If you change it for some fun virgin drinks or a selection of drinks (tea, coffee, flavored water, juice) then it's all good.
Agree! As someone 6 years sober, i ONLY go to dry weddings. I went to ONE with alcohol and people were fully obliterated and acting like fools. I left. Bride texted me later that she was mad because I did not have champagne with them during the toast and she was disappointed that I left. Um?
I can’t imagine throwing a nice wedding/reception and not offering people something to drink. I don’t even drink alcohol so it’s not for me, it’s for my guests.
@sheneedsme You can buy all the alcohol you want for your wedding, nobody is stopping you. Let's just stop acting like not wanting to participate in drinking culture is a social crime. Nobody is obligated to provide cigarettes or weed at their wedding, therfore they shouldn't be obligated to provide alcohol either.
pretty much. but also I feel like it’s a massive trap. like that girl is definitely gonna use that as ammo to talk bad about her friends if she doesn’t already. you have to be really insecure to feel like your friend just SMELLING NICE is enough to out shine you. and as we all know, insecure people are the ones saying the meanest things both to your face and especially behind your back.
I would understand that post if they are going to a spa or something of that kind (like a pool) for their birthday... but this screams red flag. I wouldn't want to be a friend with this person. Is this a keep your friends close but your enemies closer?
Right it is insane. I can understand wanting youth guest to come on casual clothes and makeup and hair but you phrase it how I just did. Not wanting them to be clean with a shower and brushed teeth is insane
The song thing is easily remedied by having a playlist. The not having a bar thing is not unreasonable, not everyone wants alcohol at their wedding and that's okay! (for example when my cousin got married she and her husband had recently recovered from drug/alcohol abuse, so they didn't want that around) I can even understand the no toasts thing. These are personal preferences I can respect. What's really wild is not having dancing/letting people move freely, making little kids and your grandparents work for you, not hiring a photographer?! WORKING THE DAY AFTER YOUR WEDDING?! NO SHOES?!💀 Yeah, that's crossing a line.
Some of my friends didn’t have alcohol at their wedding ‘cause basically our whole church was there, & that’s OK. *_MY_* (hypothetical) wedding, however, will have a *_HUGE_* cocktail bar for those that do want some booze.
You know what’s easier if you don’t want to spend money? Just get married legally and save money for a big “wedding” at a venue with all the fillings that’s what my aunt did Edit: 1.1k likes? Well damn I didn’t realize this was good enough to warrant that!
Literally, we got married in November 10 relatives for the registry office ceremony and dinner at a microbrewery we like. Then friends joined for drinks. I wore blue satin £27 sale dress, husband wore a grey suit he already had with a tie/handkerchief brought to match my dress. So inexpensive but lovely
that’s what my parents did! they got married legally, no ceremony before I was born because they didn’t have a lot of money.. then when I was 6 they had a huge ceremony because they saved!! ❤❤
The "Please play appropriate music because we have elders" rule seems stupid because it comes across like they think that the elders are innocent in the same sense that children are. Like if it wasn't for the elders banging each other back in the day none of them would be there and old songs were provocative and had swearing as well.
Actually some of the songs from the 1900-1930s were pretty raunchy. There’s a lady on RUclips that plays them and parodies them, I was actually surprised at some of the lyrics
As a kid, I thought some of my aunts and uncles were very prudish, until I was old enough to attend weddings and boy, was I wrong!! Some of these elders are wild once they let their hair down!! They were so much fun!
It really depends on the groups although songs about being a hoe, general infidelity, or viscous breakup songs might not be appropriate but might be requested without set boundaries by drunks
10:02 dude, I’m having a quinceañera (a really big celebration where quince girl/boy celebrates turning 15. It’s been a tradition for a long time, and has things like main dance, surprise dance, brindis, padrinos, father/mother and daughter dance, etc.) and not even I would have these rules! That is just RIDICULOUS!!! For my birthday, I WANT people to get all nice with hair, lash, nail, etc appointments. I want people to look their best for the biggest celebration of my life
@@moniquecharles5926 I mean, I don’t think I’m getting married but for a lot of quinces, yes! Their quince is kind of like a warm up for the craziness of weddings. But for me, personally, even if I do get married, I feel like quinces are on the same level as weddings depending on how plain or extravagant either one is
6:22 - Okay, I can understand wanting to wrap up by a certain time - I've been at weddings where I've gotten tired by a certain point, while the people I came with are still living it up. But scheduling your wedding ON A NIGHT WHEN YOU HAVE WORK THE NEXT DAY?!
Ikr 😂 like hell no I'm taking a few days off to enjoy myself, like if you can't take a day off plan it for the weekend or whenever you'd normally have a break.
Right and you don't enact a last call or curfew like it's a business. You just have the lights subtly go up, the DJ wind down, and foks start folding chairs and taking out gifts. Ppl get the hint 99%of the time
It’s because wedding venues booked on weekdays are way cheaper than the weekends. These people should have just gotten married at the courthouse because they are extremely cheap!
My same exact thoughts. The wending having a curfew is fine bc a lot of the time the venues they rent is only available for a certain amount of time. Not taking at least one day off of work to celebrate the next day of being married is ridiculous
8:47 as someone with autism and severe social anxiety, I could not do that. My phone (as cringey as it sounds) is my safe place and helps with my anxiety, and having it taken away for such a social event is just mind boggling to me
Errgh... I can understand a dry wedding. Some people don't drink (I don't), and the wedding is still a good time. HOWEVER. I've noticed these types of weddings usually take place earlier in the day.... leaves plenty of time for those who want alcohol to hit a bar after!!
I also don't drink, so if I ever get married I plan to have a dry wedding. I sure as hell don't want drunk people there, especially around my parents who hate alcohol even more than I do. However, in my experience, weddings are NEVER a good time and hate them.
@@novastarburst3939 Why even have alcohol at all if you can't get drunk!? What the hell is the point of drinking that nasty poison, then!? Also, it's a LOT easier to avoid having drunks by not having alcohol at all instead of a difficult to impose drink limit.
I don't which weddings give out alcohol But a typical Indian wedding never gives out alcohol.Dry or no wedding , people should just behave properly in presence of drinks
7:09 I have terrible social anxiety and had multiple panic attacks when I have to do public speaking but this is stupid. Don’t have a huge wedding then?
I saved a lot of time, money, and stress by getting married to my husband at our local courthouse almost 7 years ago now...we spent a whapping $30 for our wedding with just our parents there 😅.
@@taryndancer29 10/10 would recommend! I'm not sure how it goes in other places, but when I got married we were allowed up to 12 guests maximum. We had 3 (4th was there in spirit since my stepdad had passed shortly before my wedding) and then went out to eat right after. I really liked that we got to pick any day we wanted to get married. I really wanted to stick with the anniversary date we had at the time so I didn't have to remember a new date..so we got married on a cold rainy Tuesday in October 🤣.
That's what my parents did. My older brother got married at a courthouse both times he got married. If I ever get married, that's probably when I will do, too.
If I wanted to get married, then I'd prefer to do this over a excessively big wedding as well, I don't do well being the center of attention amongst a crowd of hundreds of people.
These people on TikTok need to understand that you don't need to make petty, microscopic rules for anything and everything under the sun. How about LIVING a little?!
People were like this before TikTok. There was a reddit post a few years ago where the bride wanted the ENTIRE WEDDING PARTY TO WEAR A CERTAIN AESTHETIC AND LEARN A CHOREOGRAPH DANCE THAT THEY WOULD HAVE TO PERFORM ON THE BEACH IN THE SUMMER IN HAWAII IN THEIR FREAKING AESTHETIC CLOTHES AND THEY WOULD HAVE PAY LIKE $830 PER PERSON TO HAVE THE PRIVILEGE TO ATTEND AND SHE WANTED HER BRIDESMAIDS TO FOLLOW THESE EXTREMELY STRICT RULES WHICH INCLUDED BUT NOT LIMITED NO GETTING PREGNANT OR GETTING ENGAGED DURING THE WHOLE YEAR, SHORT BRIDES WOULD HAVE TO WEAR PLATFORM SHOES, TALL BRIDES WOULD HAVE TO WEAR FLATS AND NO MEDS (WHICH INCLUDED A DIABETIC BRIDESMAID AND AN Asthmatic BRIDESMAID) AND SHE WANTED THE BRIDESMAIDS TO DYE THEIR HAIR THE SAME COLOR AND WEAR COLORED CONTRACTS
@@mamabear1394 1 Easy on the caps lock 2 The problem started when brides forgot the meaning of and for the wedding and started making the wedding all about her. Probably looking at the 1880s amongst the rich and gradually becoming a bigger menace at present, with some rare occasions before.
Influencers apparently can't simple just live a little, they're more focused on showing the world a look in their perfect daily lives that aren't even so perfect when you take off the rose-colored glasses.
I fucking DESPISE anyone who uses social anxiety as an excuse. I have social anxiety. People joke about by hermit ways, the fact I never go out, the fact I don't talk to anyone, the fact I've never had a relationship. I spent a decade (my 20s) as SUCH a wreck I could barely function, and to this day I struggle to leave my home to do basic shit (like shop) I hate being the centre of attention and DESPISE being complimented in public. ... but I don't use any of that as an excuse. People are aware of my issues and accomodate me as best as possible... but I have to meet them half way. Typically, I throw myself into social interactions to overcome anxiety (action is the best cure :P) and many people read this as confidence (I've been described as a social butterfly) but this is simply bc there is no functional difference between me leaving my house to do my weekly shop, and me socialising at a party. Same internal conflict. Same panic. I can handle one, I can handle the other. And when I DO have an issue... I apologise. Because it is a ME issue, not a THEM issue. I've had full on panic attacks, burst into tears and left social events with no way of getting home and sleeping on the street. Some of these have been triggered by people being mean, but in all instances... I'm a grown adult. My response is in my control, and when I break, it IS my fault. I can't IMAGINE punishing my loved ones and friends over my anxiety... >< (high irony: I'm a support worker and have worked in the care industry for nearly a decade. I help other people with emotional, developmental and physical issues and I like to think I'm damn good at my job. When I'm in work mode, I am able to be sociable, jovial and reassuring to the point I've received routine compliments from my clients, their families and other professionals... but I remain broken)
The reason they’re having the wedding even when they’re socially awkward is they want the wedding gifts? That is why they’re doing it. They want the free stuff. There’s no other logical reason for them to have this party and remove all the fun aspects unless it’s to make sure that people feel they need to give them something which I think is hilarious because making them work seems to be how they gave you a gift; they did come to your boring party and work
WHAT IN THE CORNBREAD HELL?! Like! I get the "don't wear white and don't be absolutely wasted" but NO SHOES AND WE GOTTA WORK FOR FREE? AH *_HELL_*_ NO!_
@@tentenchu8140 it's considered extremely rude to wear the same color as the bride to a wedding--so no wearing white in countries where the bride would wear a white (and that covers off-white, ivory, cream, etc, especially if the bride is choosing that color for her dress)
people usually leave their kids at home with babysitters to go to weddings and wedding receptions. imagine it’s midnight and you can’t even use your phone to contact your kids because you put it in a bin somewhere 🤦🏻♀️
"What do you think they're gonna play at a wedding, CupcakKe?" had me DYING LMAOAOAOAOOAOAOAO (edit: call my phone a toy the way it's been vibrating... this shit blew up)
1:23 fun fact:when Punjabi people are in the guduwara when they finish they're meals they have to go and clean it (i done that for the first time when I was 8 ig?) because my mom said it gives good luck
@Hello_Kitty_FanThey'll eventually come across someone like me who thinks for themself and get pissed off that i dont live in their box. I paint all over it and add decals.
6:00 i was at my cousin’s wedding a few days ago and i don’t do well in social situations and had forgotten my anxiety meds. so i slammed a relatively weak drink to loosen up. i wasn’t even tipsy, just needed a little something. getting shitfaced at someone’s wedding is definitely not okay, but having one or two drinks is fine
That's what I was just saying😂... these have become more n more daft over time now,it's got every kind of thing that folk would be bothered by or complain about at a wedding but amp'd up to the max,and all rolled into one individual wedding ,got something for everyone to get personally triggered by and go off in comments over lol,engagement farming/ rage baiting for suure!
9:25 personally, this has happened to me before. basically my family burnt something and it’s HOT over here so I texted my family. they were at work. (I’m not specifying my family members like mom,dad,brother,sister, etc.)
I dont drink alcohol either but i would absolutely have alcohol as an option at my wedding still lol the audacity to say you love party animals after making rules like these 😂
This sounds like the most morbid wedding ever. And making the elderly work and even children work to cut costs is disappointing at its finest because why even have a wedding
I agree. I live and work on a farm and the whole “one with the land, so don’t wear your shoes” is so stupid. I’ve never been barefoot on the farm and I don’t plan to be. Not with all the random nails, nuts, bolts, chemicals, animal crap, and who knows what else is on the ground I can step on, no thanks. Honestly, those people claiming to be farmers are talking like they’re from the city
Yeah that's what I'm thinking, it's gotta be just rage bait,this stuffs been doing the rounds for a while using topics like weddings,landlords etc to wind folk up n get those annoyed debates going in comment section,boost it in algorithm,anything to go viral now ..or just troll the shyte out of folk just for sh*ts n giggles ?
As someone with actually horrible anxiety, for my future wedding I'd want it to be quite small with only our direct family members there. I have autism and get over stimulated very easily so would design a plan around that where I could take lots of breaks whenever I need it. In that sort of environment I don't really need to outline such strict guidelines as I trust my family to know what is appropriate. There is nothing wrong with making adjustments to suit your needs and capabilities, but it's important to not make it everyone else's problem. Like if I get over stimulated, I wouldn't tell everyone to stop talking and sit in silence, instead I would excuse myself, have some time alone in the quiet and join back when I'm ready.
Imagine a whole room full of people that couldn't wash themselves before attending. That would be rough. Some people have such low self esteem they need to control everything to feel better about themselves and then cry because nobody likes them 🙄
my thing is, how would she even tell? She would never know if the guests showered that day or not, not showering for one day isn't gonna make people smell. It's like the host wanted them to smell. Call it a weird kink I guess. xD
There will be lowkey weddings where people bring their own food, or wtv. My friends' wedding party was at their appartment and there were about ten people there in total. So yeah, some of us brought homemade cupcakes and I made coffee meringues. I stayed at their place a bit longer, so I helped with the clean up... But that was because I wanted to help, not because I was forced to do so. They also made more than enough food, it was just something additional we thought it would be nice to have (I even asked if they wouldn't feel awkward if I did it). These usually do not apply to big weddings with a lot of people?? If you're already spending so much money, stop acting like this, omg.
Every farmer I know wears boots, otherwise you're just walking barefoot in mud and animal shit all day. That part made me think this was fake and possibly rage bait.
The only rule I agree with is the appropriate music one. If there are a bunch of kids at the wedding, it makes sense why there shouldn't be a bunch of raunchy songs playing. Maybe save those for after the kids leave 😂
When I got married, at the reception, the best man gave a short speech. No notes. No awkward delivery. He simply held his glass, spoke for a bit, and toasted us. My reply was equally brief. I stood up, spoke, no notes, and toasted him and the guests. People commented that they had never seen two people speak so eloquently and effortlessly at any wedding they had attended. It helps to plan to some extent, as he and I had worked out and memorized our speeches the night before. There was no bachelor party the night before. Instead, my bride-to-be and I held a small soirée for some of our closest relatives and friends. We kept it simple and put no burden on the guests. To this day, it's one of my three happy memories, along with the birth of my two children.
I can understand the one plate rule if you're hiring servers to bring meals out to people like a sit-down restaurant. What's the point of a buffet with this rule, though? And then making guest clean after to "see them come together"? This isn't the family cleaning the table together after game night, this is a wedding! You are hosting an event! Like others have said, just get married in a court house if you really can't afford it. A wedding is supposed to be fun, a party. I can understand not allowing certain music. I can even understand dry weddings, but honestly, any wedding like this one would make me wanna drown my sorrows
The phones being taken away is a cultural thing! In many weddings in the Middle East, the bride, as well as other women in attendance, will take off their head coverings. Since it is around women, it is permissible. But there is a risk of images being shared with other people, which is why the phones are collected at the entrance. It's annoying for sure, but people are able to leave and return to check their phones as needed!
it didn't say it for that wedding though, it's still a stupid idea. and by the looks of it no names or tags were on the phone coverings so you would have to spend a long time trying to find your phone
actually the phones are not taken away they just seal it in a bag and gave it to the owner the bag just covers front and back camera and the phone can still be used as the bag have transparent part in front of the touch scren enablaing the guest to use the phone and im saying this bc once i have attended such a wedding
@@ProfessionalBugLoverthat doesn’t happen because you keep your own phone, its just in a bag to prevent you from taking pictures of anyone inside and then these photos being leaked. women have been through hell and back due to incidents like thats so as weird as it might sound to you, its a great solution in these communities and the attendees get informed beforehand
The fact they have to go back to work the very next day is actually sad to me. Last wedding I attended had a 11pm everyone out rule but they were in the middle of a residential neighborhood.
I went to a wedding in new york 2 months ago. While I hated it for how long it was and how loud the place we went to was. I can just imagine whoever the person in this video with the music rule would despise my brother and his wife's choice of using video game music during parts of the wedding. In other news, Gusty Garden Galaxy was a great song to hear at it.
Traditions are stupid, just get married on paper and have a small party in a restaurant later. Weddings are too expensive and honestly it ain't even worth it sometimes
Agree! the wedding industry makes it overpriced and overrated, get the paper in the courthouse and put the money into something more worthwhile than whatever this bs is
You should do a vid about the trend thats going around thats “rating things my (lets say) mom did” and than says something traumatizing that happened to them, its ridiculous idk how tiktok allows this.
If someone’s gonna make a wedding where you can’t wear SHOES, then I’m out. I’d constantly be thinking about literal bugs or other insects stinging my feet the whole time instead of having fun. I’d even leave early.
8:50 There’s actually a reason people do this. Us arabs are known for having HUGE weddings. People tend to hire people to keep your phone locked so no one takes a picture of the bride without her hijab. There has been many situations where pictures of the bride (with her hair showing) that went viral without her knowing.
Yess! As a hijabi muslim, no cuss word songs, no alchahol, and no photos! In my causins wedding i didnt even try to take my hijab off there like the others i was scared some one would film since most of the guests are kids or not muslim or hijabis
If it was a backyard wedding or something, then wouldn't expect there to be hired staff. Then, please help clean up, is reasonable. But mostly in a "Take the dishes back to the kitchen. Volunteers to do more would be appreciated" kind of way.
2:53 I think this one is understandable. Some parents or grandparents can be really strict about that, and it's fine to want to keep their wedding appropriate if they want to.
and gifts $100+ , i feel like a gift thinking specially about the person and their interests feels much better to receive even if it's cheap than just an expensive one, not to mention a lot of people can't afford a gift that expensive :P
Personally I would've still showered its not like they can tell if you shower or not by sniffing ya which is disgusting yo🤷(not like I go to weddings anyways)
Hey, just a note for 8:51 If I'm not mistaken the pouch still allows you to use your phone as usual but only blocks the cameras to stop you from taking photos and I'm pretty sure this a thing for Muslim weddings or something out of respect for the bride and others on the women side who probably aren't wearing the hijab (bc u know, it's a wedding and everybody's dressed up...) and to stop people from accidentally (or intentionally) leaking those photos.
9:52 No taking a bath? so.. no baths before going to the birthday party? Or does she mean no baths at birthday girls place for which I'm confused about, because normally you don't take baths at other peoples houses if you are just invited for a party so that rule doesn't make sense. No brushing teeth? Nope. I happily pass being close to people who didn't brushed their teeth and stink from their mouth like trash. that's just disgusting. I won't skip my personal hygiene routine for anyone.
I can understand the time one, especially if the wedding is somewhere touristy/beachy (which I don’t think it was but whatever). A lot of beaches have restrictions on noise and lights and will make you take down a reception by 9 or 10 (they’ll fine you if you don’t), or at venues they have to have cleaners come in because they may have another wedding the next day. But most everything else that woman mentioned was crazy 😨
The birthday is so hilariously bad 'I'm so insecure Imma need you to show up like a straight up ghoul. Also bring me treasures ghouls, for I am a princess and you're just lucky to be in my presence'
i love watching videos of people criticising the dumb side of social media. you have hayley and drama kween on the insane lifestyle videos, miniminuteman debunking fake archaeology and conspiracy theories… it’s so great it genuinely gives me hope that some people still have sense on the internet
Some of these rules are understandable to me. My sister and her husband didn’t have a bar at their wedding because there were children there and they aren’t big drinkers themselves, nor are any of our family members. Having a bar would’ve just kinda been a waste for them. However, forcing your guests to come alone if they lose their partner, remain seated, do physical labor, eat only one plate, etc is just absolutely wild.
As someone who goes to their family farm every thanksgiving *YOU NEED SHOES AT ONE* There is most likely stickers on the ground and the grass is most likely dry so it will itch a lot also ants and everything, also there is animal poop most likely cow poop.
7:29 Honestly the "no Speeches/Toast" rule is one I could agree on simply because I don't know/trust my family to say something positive about me or my future husband and that they might use the opportunity to say something bad. If I would allow some trusted people to hold speeches, then the other family members might complain why they weren't allowed to have a speech too so it's best to just cut it altogether to avoid any drama. If someone wants to tell me they are proud of me they have every other day of the year to do so.
Im having a birthday celebration today with my friends and im expecting them to show me up because we are wearing homemade costumes and im not very good at it, I don’t even except a gift. Last year when we did the same thing one of my friends bought me something and I wasn’t expecting it. Some people are so entitled it’s amazing.
They do realize getting married at the courthouse is nearly free and would save a lot of that social anxiety, right?
well then that wouldn't be "aesthetic" enough for social media
Cause some people seem to use weddings as a means of showing of their wealth and status plus to make their wedding-pictures find it's way onto Pinterest.
Most people I know did that and are planning the party when they can afford it.
THAT'S WHAT I DID. The judge was very nice too.
Why is hygiene being banned in any event? How insecure do you have to be that you can't tolerate the thought of someone smelling better than you so you tell them to come dirty? What the hell.
“Don’t bathe, don’t brush your teeth” is absolutely INSANE!
and no shoes is sane?
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no one said that…?
Imagine if you work with food for a living and you wanna get grease or whatever off and you just have to keep it on you...
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@@Zsider-dj8ebin the post before the couple getting married wanted people to not have shoes because they lived on a farm before.
I don't want a bunch of unbathed, unkempt, barefoot people rolling up to my wedding or birthday celebration! 🤣 How insecure do you have to be to feel threatened by your guests brushing their teeth before they come? 😭
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I understand the “no alcohol” rule because alcohol is ridiculously expensive in large quantities and some people don’t know their limits. You don’t need alcohol to have fun.
I remembered one show in my country, called "4 weddings", where four women invited and they go on each wedding of each one and rate everything. And there was specific episode, where was one girl, who didn't drink alcohol, because she simply didn't want to. And on wedding of one of contestant, other woman started trying to make her drink, and when she walked away, that woman added vodka in her non alcoholic drink.
That's honestly makes my stomach sick. We should start normalizing not wanting to drink alcohol just because you don't want to. Even for my 18th birthday I drank two glasses of champagne, even tho my mom said, that I could go to bar with my friends and boyfriend.
Exactly you don't need to have alcohol to have fun you can have fun without it some people just like to go bother other people who choose not to have alcohol at their wedding and the fact some ppl don't drink alcohol so of course it's they choice not to have it in their wedding
Alcohol kills peoples. I’m surprised it’s not banned.
FR, when planning my 18th birthday/grad party, I said I didnt want any alcohol there because I didn't like the smell, and my relatives don't know when to stop. My parents said that people wouldnt come without it, and (honestly, the whole party was a huge disappointment and a much longer story than this lol) went to Costco and bought so much alcohol that we needed two trips to the car. My family and my parent's friends got wasted, while me and my five friends who showed up hid in my bedroom until it was safe to go outside. After that night, I vowed that I would never drink.
Normalize not needing to drink to have fun.
All these "rules" just scream Control Freak. If they are this controlling on their Wedding Day, imagine how controlling they must be in everyday life. I feel sorry for the poor souls marrying these lunatics.
Is it bad that I think the bride might need intense psychiatric help????
I'm PRAYING these people don't have kids
I think it's they choice to both of them. So they are doing a great couple ❤
Nah, it's their fault for staying with them when they're so obviously mental.
The only ones I pity are their future offspring. Imagine being raised by someone like that.
@@abowcanfixeverythingyes I pray too because imagine the kids rules
That would go south pretty bad
Rule #2 is when I would have tapped out. I'm not working your wedding for a singular plate of food. 😂😂😂😂
I'm Russian and we usually don't hire anyone for celebrations, although I can't speak for a wedding, having never been to one. But having guests do the work, unless they offer, is usually seen as appalling and absolutely rude. Heck, it's kinda rude not to refuse them first if they offer to help you with dishes or whatever, and agree if they insist. Although again, it's a bit of an older generation thingy, not sure how my generation does it since I don't have many friends 😅
@@atriyakoller136 there is normally an event planner/ host involved to coordinate different parts of the reception and wedding games and in cases of bigger guest numbers some kitchen staff to help out in the beginning with the wedding soup and the buffet set up, unless the reception is held in a restaurant.
Other than that, just like every other big family event.
Even the gossiping aunties at desi weddings could never 😐
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Fr... 😔
I went to a wedding that had no alcohol, since the bride's father was recovering from addiction. We all knew that and respected it. It was a fun celebration and the parent's speeches had me in tears.
So, my point is: Sometimes there is a good and valid reason for a rule or change, but that does not apply to all of the stuff mentioned here!
Not being able to get up when you want is crazy💀
That wedding is just one big game of statue lol
Right? What if I have to pee? 😭
@@Sweet_Dee for going to the toilet, you can. But rest aside that rule is pretty stupid.
There also seems to be kids at the wedding...nd uk they won't sit in one place for long.
FR like last time I checked, this is a WEDDING, not a classroom!!
The only one that's understandable is the "No alcohol" rule. Alcohol is expensive, some people don't know their limit and the pair has a right to have a drug-free party. We need to stop normalizing consuming alcohol as a coping mechanism for social situations.
If you change it for some fun virgin drinks or a selection of drinks (tea, coffee, flavored water, juice) then it's all good.
Agree! As someone 6 years sober, i ONLY go to dry weddings. I went to ONE with alcohol and people were fully obliterated and acting like fools. I left. Bride texted me later that she was mad because I did not have champagne with them during the toast and she was disappointed that I left. Um?
I can’t imagine throwing a nice wedding/reception and not offering people something to drink. I don’t even drink alcohol so it’s not for me, it’s for my guests.
@sheneedsme
You can buy all the alcohol you want for your wedding, nobody is stopping you. Let's just stop acting like not wanting to participate in drinking culture is a social crime. Nobody is obligated to provide cigarettes or weed at their wedding, therfore they shouldn't be obligated to provide alcohol either.
@@sheneedsmeit’s a skill issue if you can’t have a nice wedding without alcohol
That last post is unbelievable!! They really expect their guests to roll out of bed and come to the party. LITERALLY
pretty much. but also I feel like it’s a massive trap. like that girl is definitely gonna use that as ammo to talk bad about her friends if she doesn’t already. you have to be really insecure to feel like your friend just SMELLING NICE is enough to out shine you. and as we all know, insecure people are the ones saying the meanest things both to your face and especially behind your back.
I would actually not follow any rules. This host is insane.
I would understand that post if they are going to a spa or something of that kind (like a pool) for their birthday... but this screams red flag. I wouldn't want to be a friend with this person. Is this a keep your friends close but your enemies closer?
i'd cover myself in dirt and mud and then hug the girlie that wrote that text. i'm that petty
Right it is insane. I can understand wanting youth guest to come on casual clothes and makeup and hair but you phrase it how I just did. Not wanting them to be clean with a shower and brushed teeth is insane
The song thing is easily remedied by having a playlist. The not having a bar thing is not unreasonable, not everyone wants alcohol at their wedding and that's okay! (for example when my cousin got married she and her husband had recently recovered from drug/alcohol abuse, so they didn't want that around) I can even understand the no toasts thing. These are personal preferences I can respect.
What's really wild is not having dancing/letting people move freely, making little kids and your grandparents work for you, not hiring a photographer?! WORKING THE DAY AFTER YOUR WEDDING?! NO SHOES?!💀 Yeah, that's crossing a line.
Some of my friends didn’t have alcohol at their wedding ‘cause basically our whole church was there, & that’s OK.
*_MY_* (hypothetical) wedding, however, will have a *_HUGE_* cocktail bar for those that do want some booze.
Influencers are out of touch, like,ONE PLATE?!
Omg I would fill it up so much it would be a little mountain of food lmao
@@isabelp187 "one plate!"
"Ya don't have limits on how much per plate."
But fr me to
If it’s only one plate then i will be filling that plate TO THE BRIM with food
i cannot survive in one plate especially at a wedding-
@@gobacktothejongle my fatass couldn't 😭
Maybe if they wanted to save money they could just get married in a court house. Sounds like they aren’t into a traditional wedding anyway.
You know what’s easier if you don’t want to spend money? Just get married legally and save money for a big “wedding” at a venue with all the fillings that’s what my aunt did
Edit: 1.1k likes? Well damn I didn’t realize this was good enough to warrant that!
They want the gifts.😊
Shoot, that sounds like an excellent idea in this or any economy!
That's what my parent did 40 years ago. They got married legally then went with close family to eat at the retaurant and that's about it.
Literally, we got married in November 10 relatives for the registry office ceremony and dinner at a microbrewery we like. Then friends joined for drinks. I wore blue satin £27 sale dress, husband wore a grey suit he already had with a tie/handkerchief brought to match my dress. So inexpensive but lovely
that’s what my parents did! they got married legally, no ceremony before I was born because they didn’t have a lot of money.. then when I was 6 they had a huge ceremony because they saved!! ❤❤
her wedding sounds like a 5th graders fun friday party, but worse 💀
Nah that's so true at my school 💀💀
where's FUN? cuz the last time I checked 5th graders ain't reserved to ONE MISERABLE PLATE of food and they have a lot else to enjoy
@@ShambhaviUnofficialthat’s why it’s worse😭😭
@ShambhaviUnofficial in 2nd grade the parties were bad back in 5th and 4th grade they made us big backs
The "Please play appropriate music because we have elders" rule seems stupid because it comes across like they think that the elders are innocent in the same sense that children are. Like if it wasn't for the elders banging each other back in the day none of them would be there and old songs were provocative and had swearing as well.
finally someone said it!
Like how did you think you got here, if we not for your elders getting freaky?
Actually some of the songs from the 1900-1930s were pretty raunchy. There’s a lady on RUclips that plays them and parodies them, I was actually surprised at some of the lyrics
As a kid, I thought some of my aunts and uncles were very prudish, until I was old enough to attend weddings and boy, was I wrong!! Some of these elders are wild once they let their hair down!! They were so much fun!
It really depends on the groups although songs about being a hoe, general infidelity, or viscous breakup songs might not be appropriate but might be requested without set boundaries by drunks
10:02 dude, I’m having a quinceañera (a really big celebration where quince girl/boy celebrates turning 15. It’s been a tradition for a long time, and has things like main dance, surprise dance, brindis, padrinos, father/mother and daughter dance, etc.) and not even I would have these rules! That is just RIDICULOUS!!! For my birthday, I WANT people to get all nice with hair, lash, nail, etc appointments. I want people to look their best for the biggest celebration of my life
Quinceaneras are the warm ups to weddings.
@@moniquecharles5926 I mean, I don’t think I’m getting married but for a lot of quinces, yes! Their quince is kind of like a warm up for the craziness of weddings. But for me, personally, even if I do get married, I feel like quinces are on the same level as weddings depending on how plain or extravagant either one is
6:22 - Okay, I can understand wanting to wrap up by a certain time - I've been at weddings where I've gotten tired by a certain point, while the people I came with are still living it up. But scheduling your wedding ON A NIGHT WHEN YOU HAVE WORK THE NEXT DAY?!
Hustle culture bestieeee~ /s
Ikr 😂 like hell no I'm taking a few days off to enjoy myself, like if you can't take a day off plan it for the weekend or whenever you'd normally have a break.
Right and you don't enact a last call or curfew like it's a business. You just have the lights subtly go up, the DJ wind down, and foks start folding chairs and taking out gifts. Ppl get the hint 99%of the time
It’s because wedding venues booked on weekdays are way cheaper than the weekends. These people should have just gotten married at the courthouse because they are extremely cheap!
My same exact thoughts. The wending having a curfew is fine bc a lot of the time the venues they rent is only available for a certain amount of time. Not taking at least one day off of work to celebrate the next day of being married is ridiculous
8:47 as someone with autism and severe social anxiety, I could not do that. My phone (as cringey as it sounds) is my safe place and helps with my anxiety, and having it taken away for such a social event is just mind boggling to me
I’d just sneak it in atp😭
As someone also with autism, I completely understand it is not cringy it's fine!
The dislikes are from the newlyweds
Where?
There’s an extension you can get that shows them
@@coolDude-sx6we tell me how, I’m 33 so I’m ancient but also petty.
I think there should be a website or tutorial somewhere😅
7 dislikes is wild😭
She invited them to fill the backgroung and work for free (decoration, photos, ect) without "bothering" her. It is so simple.
Writing these “rules” is a complete waste of time, because people who write such things have no friends to read them.
At this point, idk if this is a wedding or a school classroom.
Fr 😂
@@Foolqueen57 fr bc they take your phone and you cant get up
Errgh... I can understand a dry wedding. Some people don't drink (I don't), and the wedding is still a good time. HOWEVER. I've noticed these types of weddings usually take place earlier in the day.... leaves plenty of time for those who want alcohol to hit a bar after!!
I also don't drink, so if I ever get married I plan to have a dry wedding. I sure as hell don't want drunk people there, especially around my parents who hate alcohol even more than I do. However, in my experience, weddings are NEVER a good time and hate them.
@@MatthewTheWanderer Drunk people can be avoided if you hire staff members and have a limit for the amount of alcohol drinks per guest ^^.
@@novastarburst3939 Why even have alcohol at all if you can't get drunk!? What the hell is the point of drinking that nasty poison, then!? Also, it's a LOT easier to avoid having drunks by not having alcohol at all instead of a difficult to impose drink limit.
@@novastarburst3939 True, they can also avoid them by not serving alcohol.
I don't which weddings give out alcohol
But a typical Indian wedding never gives out alcohol.Dry or no wedding , people should just behave properly in presence of drinks
7:09 I have terrible social anxiety and had multiple panic attacks when I have to do public speaking but this is stupid. Don’t have a huge wedding then?
I saved a lot of time, money, and stress by getting married to my husband at our local courthouse almost 7 years ago now...we spent a whapping $30 for our wedding with just our parents there 😅.
That's exactly what I plan on doing! I'd rather put the money towards a nice honeymoon and our future.
@@taryndancer29 10/10 would recommend! I'm not sure how it goes in other places, but when I got married we were allowed up to 12 guests maximum. We had 3 (4th was there in spirit since my stepdad had passed shortly before my wedding) and then went out to eat right after. I really liked that we got to pick any day we wanted to get married. I really wanted to stick with the anniversary date we had at the time so I didn't have to remember a new date..so we got married on a cold rainy Tuesday in October 🤣.
Courthouse is the way to go. Least stressful option by far.
That's what my parents did. My older brother got married at a courthouse both times he got married. If I ever get married, that's probably when I will do, too.
If I wanted to get married, then I'd prefer to do this over a excessively big wedding as well, I don't do well being the center of attention amongst a crowd of hundreds of people.
(Most) Influencers are so out of touch, and honestly, some don’t even deserve to be popular at all.
*Most
7:58
Oh, it makes sense now.
She was raised in a barn.
These people on TikTok need to understand that you don't need to make petty, microscopic rules for anything and everything under the sun. How about LIVING a little?!
People were like this before TikTok. There was a reddit post a few years ago where the bride wanted the ENTIRE WEDDING PARTY TO WEAR A CERTAIN AESTHETIC AND LEARN A CHOREOGRAPH DANCE THAT THEY WOULD HAVE TO PERFORM ON THE BEACH IN THE SUMMER IN HAWAII IN THEIR FREAKING AESTHETIC CLOTHES AND THEY WOULD HAVE PAY LIKE $830 PER PERSON TO HAVE THE PRIVILEGE TO ATTEND AND SHE WANTED HER BRIDESMAIDS TO FOLLOW THESE EXTREMELY STRICT RULES WHICH INCLUDED BUT NOT LIMITED NO GETTING PREGNANT OR GETTING ENGAGED DURING THE WHOLE YEAR, SHORT BRIDES WOULD HAVE TO WEAR PLATFORM SHOES, TALL BRIDES WOULD HAVE TO WEAR FLATS AND NO MEDS (WHICH INCLUDED A DIABETIC BRIDESMAID AND AN Asthmatic BRIDESMAID) AND SHE WANTED THE BRIDESMAIDS TO DYE THEIR HAIR THE SAME COLOR AND WEAR COLORED CONTRACTS
@@mamabear1394
1 Easy on the caps lock
2 The problem started when brides forgot the meaning of and for the wedding and started making the wedding all about her. Probably looking at the 1880s amongst the rich and gradually becoming a bigger menace at present, with some rare occasions before.
The most memorable things are the mistakes and little accidents in which everybody laughs!
Influencers apparently can't simple just live a little, they're more focused on showing the world a look in their perfect daily lives that aren't even so perfect when you take off the rose-colored glasses.
Well they live online, they need to do something before reality drags them back.
4:15 you'd be GREAT at disciplining your children if you were a mom.
"Chelsea, that tone STINKS. Now pull your act together😡"
I fucking DESPISE anyone who uses social anxiety as an excuse.
I have social anxiety.
People joke about by hermit ways, the fact I never go out, the fact I don't talk to anyone, the fact I've never had a relationship.
I spent a decade (my 20s) as SUCH a wreck I could barely function, and to this day I struggle to leave my home to do basic shit (like shop)
I hate being the centre of attention and DESPISE being complimented in public.
... but I don't use any of that as an excuse.
People are aware of my issues and accomodate me as best as possible... but I have to meet them half way.
Typically, I throw myself into social interactions to overcome anxiety (action is the best cure :P) and many people read this as confidence (I've been described as a social butterfly) but this is simply bc there is no functional difference between me leaving my house to do my weekly shop, and me socialising at a party. Same internal conflict. Same panic. I can handle one, I can handle the other.
And when I DO have an issue... I apologise. Because it is a ME issue, not a THEM issue. I've had full on panic attacks, burst into tears and left social events with no way of getting home and sleeping on the street. Some of these have been triggered by people being mean, but in all instances... I'm a grown adult. My response is in my control, and when I break, it IS my fault.
I can't IMAGINE punishing my loved ones and friends over my anxiety... ><
(high irony: I'm a support worker and have worked in the care industry for nearly a decade. I help other people with emotional, developmental and physical issues and I like to think I'm damn good at my job. When I'm in work mode, I am able to be sociable, jovial and reassuring to the point I've received routine compliments from my clients, their families and other professionals... but I remain broken)
Keep ur head up u got this ur great ily
Wow❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I hope you get that solved!!! You got this!!!❤❤❤❤❤
I feel you on a different level. Sending love. You've got this ♥️♥️
I also lost my 20's to mental health problems. In a weird way, it's nice to see other people who went through the same thing.
Hermit here I love it
That birthday girl at the end....her rules just made me wanna throw up
The reason they’re having the wedding even when they’re socially awkward is they want the wedding gifts? That is why they’re doing it. They want the free stuff. There’s no other logical reason for them to have this party and remove all the fun aspects unless it’s to make sure that people feel they need to give them something which I think is hilarious because making them work seems to be how they gave you a gift; they did come to your boring party and work
That sounds like the most joyless wedding, hosted by the most joyless people in existence.
WHAT IN THE CORNBREAD HELL?! Like! I get the "don't wear white and don't be absolutely wasted" but NO SHOES AND WE GOTTA WORK FOR FREE? AH *_HELL_*_ NO!_
Are they not allowed to wear shoes *while* they're working?? ;_;
What's wrong with wearing white?
@@tentenchu8140 it's considered extremely rude to wear the same color as the bride to a wedding--so no wearing white in countries where the bride would wear a white (and that covers off-white, ivory, cream, etc, especially if the bride is choosing that color for her dress)
@@easternshore27 but I see people wearing black like the groom all the time
@@tentenchu8140I think that’s because a lot of formal men’s wear is black.
0:03 twinnnnn where have you beennnnn
I bet that last person wouldn't spend a single penny if it was anyone else's birthday
people usually leave their kids at home with babysitters to go to weddings and wedding receptions. imagine it’s midnight and you can’t even use your phone to contact your kids because you put it in a bin somewhere 🤦🏻♀️
"What do you think they're gonna play at a wedding, CupcakKe?" had me DYING LMAOAOAOAOOAOAOAO (edit: call my phone a toy the way it's been vibrating... this shit blew up)
LMAOO
Yeah that’s insane
I prefer one direction
It's important for everyone to know how to perform CPR.
@@SuprousOxideHAHAHAHA
@@SuprousOxideLMAO
1:23 fun fact:when Punjabi people are in the guduwara when they finish they're meals they have to go and clean it (i done that for the first time when I was 8 ig?) because my mom said it gives good luck
This marriage won't last long
Maybe both the wife and husband are complete lunatics with agreeing with each other on these rules
Im saying its lasting like 1 week max
It’s like your average middle school relationship that would last at least a week
@Hello_Kitty_FanThey'll eventually come across someone like me who thinks for themself and get pissed off that i dont live in their box. I paint all over it and add decals.
@@Rocketcow-dx1jd slay
6:00 i was at my cousin’s wedding a few days ago and i don’t do well in social situations and had forgotten my anxiety meds. so i slammed a relatively weak drink to loosen up. i wasn’t even tipsy, just needed a little something.
getting shitfaced at someone’s wedding is definitely not okay, but having one or two drinks is fine
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HAYLEY'S HAIR IS SO PRETTY TODAY IM GONNA START SCREAMING
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Scream all you want
@@alexv3372 I AM SCREAMING
IT'S SO PRETTY
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@ville__nah jits stupid as hell thinking people are gonna do thT
Which is her natural hair color, this or the black?
That's not a wedding party! That's a wedding obligation!
That has to be rage bait. It ticks too many boxes to be real.
That's what I was just saying😂... these have become more n more daft over time now,it's got every kind of thing that folk would be bothered by or complain about at a wedding but amp'd up to the max,and all rolled into one individual wedding ,got something for everyone to get personally triggered by and go off in comments over lol,engagement farming/ rage baiting for suure!
9:25 personally, this has happened to me before. basically my family burnt something and it’s HOT over here so I texted my family. they were at work. (I’m not specifying my family members like mom,dad,brother,sister, etc.)
I dont drink alcohol either but i would absolutely have alcohol as an option at my wedding still lol the audacity to say you love party animals after making rules like these 😂
And grandpa has probably heard/ said worse than the "f word"
@@roxassora2706 lmao let's just face it.. grandpa has probably DONE worse...I think people forget the elderly are whole ass adults
It's more of a gauge the people coming and the venue situation for alcohol, but the juice bar is just an insult.
@@flyingmonkeydeathsquadronc968 I agree...and right lmao at least some Mocktails or something if you're not having alcohol...a juice bar is for kids
@ville__ what
This sounds like the most morbid wedding ever. And making the elderly work and even children work to cut costs is disappointing at its finest because why even have a wedding
The No Shoes Rule was truly the cherry on top of the 💩 sundae, like WTF?!?!! This HAS to be satire!! 🤣🤣😭😭
I agree. I live and work on a farm and the whole “one with the land, so don’t wear your shoes” is so stupid. I’ve never been barefoot on the farm and I don’t plan to be. Not with all the random nails, nuts, bolts, chemicals, animal crap, and who knows what else is on the ground I can step on, no thanks. Honestly, those people claiming to be farmers are talking like they’re from the city
Yeah that's what I'm thinking, it's gotta be just rage bait,this stuffs been doing the rounds for a while using topics like weddings,landlords etc to wind folk up n get those annoyed debates going in comment section,boost it in algorithm,anything to go viral now ..or just troll the shyte out of folk just for sh*ts n giggles ?
anyone who has heard of a farm knows no one goes in there barefoot lol
@@ryand4787Don't these jackasses know about Ringworm and a ton of other infections from standing in grass shit?.
the fact I am eating popcorn 0:27
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I am so done with influencers Being so out of touch and also your hair is absolutely gorgeous
@ville__ I can't even copy that to be able to translate it
@@Val_erie1 It's a bot, just report
As someone with actually horrible anxiety, for my future wedding I'd want it to be quite small with only our direct family members there. I have autism and get over stimulated very easily so would design a plan around that where I could take lots of breaks whenever I need it. In that sort of environment I don't really need to outline such strict guidelines as I trust my family to know what is appropriate.
There is nothing wrong with making adjustments to suit your needs and capabilities, but it's important to not make it everyone else's problem. Like if I get over stimulated, I wouldn't tell everyone to stop talking and sit in silence, instead I would excuse myself, have some time alone in the quiet and join back when I'm ready.
Imagine a whole room full of people that couldn't wash themselves before attending. That would be rough. Some people have such low self esteem they need to control everything to feel better about themselves and then cry because nobody likes them 🙄
my thing is, how would she even tell? She would never know if the guests showered that day or not, not showering for one day isn't gonna make people smell. It's like the host wanted them to smell. Call it a weird kink I guess. xD
There will be lowkey weddings where people bring their own food, or wtv. My friends' wedding party was at their appartment and there were about ten people there in total. So yeah, some of us brought homemade cupcakes and I made coffee meringues. I stayed at their place a bit longer, so I helped with the clean up... But that was because I wanted to help, not because I was forced to do so. They also made more than enough food, it was just something additional we thought it would be nice to have (I even asked if they wouldn't feel awkward if I did it).
These usually do not apply to big weddings with a lot of people?? If you're already spending so much money, stop acting like this, omg.
Off topic but your hair makes you look absolutely ethereal ❤️❤️, also if you're stressing this much about your wedding how do you even enjoy it?
These wedding people would not survive a SECOND In a live volcano😭😭😭😭
FOR REAL 😔
I know ppl who were raised on farms and they still wear shoes. Especially when in the pasture! Going barefoot is just a bad idea!!
Every farmer I know wears boots, otherwise you're just walking barefoot in mud and animal shit all day. That part made me think this was fake and possibly rage bait.
Exactly, do you want me to have ringworms and hookworms?
The only rule I agree with is the appropriate music one. If there are a bunch of kids at the wedding, it makes sense why there shouldn't be a bunch of raunchy songs playing. Maybe save those for after the kids leave 😂
Depends on ages. If the kids are under 7 or 6, that's understandable. But if they are at least teenagers, then they can handle it
@@1989-Elis-Version yeah, most of the kids at my cousins wedding were teens or tweens, but non of the songs had cuss wordds
When I got married, at the reception, the best man gave a short speech. No notes. No awkward delivery. He simply held his glass, spoke for a bit, and toasted us. My reply was equally brief. I stood up, spoke, no notes, and toasted him and the guests. People commented that they had never seen two people speak so eloquently and effortlessly at any wedding they had attended. It helps to plan to some extent, as he and I had worked out and memorized our speeches the night before. There was no bachelor party the night before. Instead, my bride-to-be and I held a small soirée for some of our closest relatives and friends. We kept it simple and put no burden on the guests. To this day, it's one of my three happy memories, along with the birth of my two children.
1:16 THATS CALLED CHILD LABOUR. 😭
Frrr
It's SLAVERY!
Insane
@@Cleared__ ikr
People are WILD. Influencers are SO out of touch!!
I can understand the one plate rule if you're hiring servers to bring meals out to people like a sit-down restaurant. What's the point of a buffet with this rule, though?
And then making guest clean after to "see them come together"? This isn't the family cleaning the table together after game night, this is a wedding! You are hosting an event! Like others have said, just get married in a court house if you really can't afford it.
A wedding is supposed to be fun, a party. I can understand not allowing certain music. I can even understand dry weddings, but honestly, any wedding like this one would make me wanna drown my sorrows
The phones being taken away is a cultural thing! In many weddings in the Middle East, the bride, as well as other women in attendance, will take off their head coverings. Since it is around women, it is permissible. But there is a risk of images being shared with other people, which is why the phones are collected at the entrance. It's annoying for sure, but people are able to leave and return to check their phones as needed!
it didn't say it for that wedding though, it's still a stupid idea. and by the looks of it no names or tags were on the phone coverings so you would have to spend a long time trying to find your phone
actually the phones are not taken away they just seal it in a bag and gave it to the owner the bag just covers front and back camera and the phone can still be used as the bag have transparent part in front of the touch scren enablaing the guest to use the phone and im saying this bc once i have attended such a wedding
@@thedollsworldExactly my point
That is accurate
@@ProfessionalBugLoverthat doesn’t happen because you keep your own phone, its just in a bag to prevent you from taking pictures of anyone inside and then these photos being leaked. women have been through hell and back due to incidents like thats so as weird as it might sound to you, its a great solution in these communities and the attendees get informed beforehand
The fact they have to go back to work the very next day is actually sad to me. Last wedding I attended had a 11pm everyone out rule but they were in the middle of a residential neighborhood.
people these days are WILD!! also love this background
I went to a wedding in new york 2 months ago. While I hated it for how long it was and how loud the place we went to was. I can just imagine whoever the person in this video with the music rule would despise my brother and his wife's choice of using video game music during parts of the wedding. In other news, Gusty Garden Galaxy was a great song to hear at it.
The guests had the full rights to leave
Sounds like they are less like guests and more like hostages.
I would come to that birthday and intentionally break every single rule and bring the worlds cheapest gift, lime, a button or something
Me holding up my plate of mash “please sir, may I have some more”.
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fr the rules got us like Oliver Twist 😭
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3:03
These are starting to sound like strict school rules at a pizza party
Traditions are stupid, just get married on paper and have a small party in a restaurant later. Weddings are too expensive and honestly it ain't even worth it sometimes
Agree! the wedding industry makes it overpriced and overrated, get the paper in the courthouse and put the money into something more worthwhile than whatever this bs is
Couldnt have said it better
I would want a snall cekebration with like friends and fam
reall
@@ProfessionalBugLoverye
You should do a vid about the trend thats going around thats “rating things my (lets say) mom did” and than says something traumatizing that happened to them, its ridiculous idk how tiktok allows this.
TLC needs to invite them to the reboot of extreme cheapstakes
If someone’s gonna make a wedding where you can’t wear SHOES, then I’m out. I’d constantly be thinking about literal bugs or other insects stinging my feet the whole time instead of having fun. I’d even leave early.
Instead of getting BOUGIE potatos, get normal ones and HIRE STAFF?? Nobody cares about different potatos.
@ville__ You're a bot
8:50 There’s actually a reason people do this. Us arabs are known for having HUGE weddings. People tend to hire people to keep your phone locked so no one takes a picture of the bride without her hijab. There has been many situations where pictures of the bride (with her hair showing) that went viral without her knowing.
Yess! As a hijabi muslim, no cuss word songs, no alchahol, and no photos! In my causins wedding i didnt even try to take my hijab off there like the others i was scared some one would film since most of the guests are kids or not muslim or hijabis
I guess she missed the part where she has already paid for all the food that will be there. Whether it gets eaten or not.
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@drivethrupoet The bride probably asked all the guests to bring food, pot-luck style, and plastic containers to take home any leftovers. 😆
Even a funeral is more hyped 💀
If it was a backyard wedding or something, then wouldn't expect there to be hired staff. Then, please help clean up, is reasonable. But mostly in a "Take the dishes back to the kitchen. Volunteers to do more would be appreciated" kind of way.
2:53 I think this one is understandable. Some parents or grandparents can be really strict about that, and it's fine to want to keep their wedding appropriate if they want to.
10:05 I wouldn't want to go to THAT party anyway, it'll be a STINKY party if no one is allowed to have a bath!! 🤣
Telling people they aren't allowed to bathe is truly bizarre.
and gifts $100+ , i feel like a gift thinking specially about the person and their interests feels much better to receive even if it's cheap than just an expensive one, not to mention a lot of people can't afford a gift that expensive :P
Personally I would've still showered its not like they can tell if you shower or not by sniffing ya which is disgusting yo🤷(not like I go to weddings anyways)
I'd probably be like, "Sure!" and cancel last minute.
That bride is an energy vampire, it's Collin Robinson.
Hey, just a note for 8:51
If I'm not mistaken the pouch still allows you to use your phone as usual but only blocks the cameras to stop you from taking photos and I'm pretty sure this a thing for Muslim weddings or something out of respect for the bride and others on the women side who probably aren't wearing the hijab (bc u know, it's a wedding and everybody's dressed up...) and to stop people from accidentally (or intentionally) leaking those photos.
Yes. That's what it is. It's not a big deal, it's just a camera blocker. Other than that, u have fully access to ur phone.
Oppression is real
Im surprised that any one is coming to the wedding
9:52 No taking a bath? so.. no baths before going to the birthday party? Or does she mean no baths at birthday girls place for which I'm confused about, because normally you don't take baths at other peoples houses if you are just invited for a party so that rule doesn't make sense. No brushing teeth? Nope. I happily pass being close to people who didn't brushed their teeth and stink from their mouth like trash. that's just disgusting. I won't skip my personal hygiene routine for anyone.
My mind lost it at the birthday one... I don't even know what to say!!!
Haylo Hayley: screaming at top of her lungs
Also her at the end: thank u guys love u so much *with the prettiest smile*
Love u too
Haylo normally= D:
I can understand the time one, especially if the wedding is somewhere touristy/beachy (which I don’t think it was but whatever). A lot of beaches have restrictions on noise and lights and will make you take down a reception by 9 or 10 (they’ll fine you if you don’t), or at venues they have to have cleaners come in because they may have another wedding the next day. But most everything else that woman mentioned was crazy 😨
8:11 feel that freedom, sounds like something you want everyone to feel 😂 and ew
The birthday is so hilariously bad 'I'm so insecure Imma need you to show up like a straight up ghoul. Also bring me treasures ghouls, for I am a princess and you're just lucky to be in my presence'
10:23 Nothing says "confident" like putting others down to feel better about yourself,
i love watching videos of people criticising the dumb side of social media. you have hayley and drama kween on the insane lifestyle videos, miniminuteman debunking fake archaeology and conspiracy theories… it’s so great it genuinely gives me hope that some people still have sense on the internet
I'm all for having boundaries, but not if they're stupid.
Make it make sense.
I see that common sense and common courtesy are now in short supply.
Some of these rules are understandable to me. My sister and her husband didn’t have a bar at their wedding because there were children there and they aren’t big drinkers themselves, nor are any of our family members. Having a bar would’ve just kinda been a waste for them.
However, forcing your guests to come alone if they lose their partner, remain seated, do physical labor, eat only one plate, etc is just absolutely wild.
As someone who goes to their family farm every thanksgiving
*YOU NEED SHOES AT ONE*
There is most likely stickers on the ground and the grass is most likely dry so it will itch a lot also ants and everything, also there is animal poop most likely cow poop.
It is a wedding or a fucking torture? 💀
2:51 it’s like my school they are like “ SiT iN yOuR sEaT uNlEsS iTs aN eMeRgEnCY” like? 😮
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7:29 Honestly the "no Speeches/Toast" rule is one I could agree on simply because I don't know/trust my family to say something positive about me or my future husband and that they might use the opportunity to say something bad. If I would allow some trusted people to hold speeches, then the other family members might complain why they weren't allowed to have a speech too so it's best to just cut it altogether to avoid any drama. If someone wants to tell me they are proud of me they have every other day of the year to do so.
What..
Im having a birthday celebration today with my friends and im expecting them to show me up because we are wearing homemade costumes and im not very good at it, I don’t even except a gift. Last year when we did the same thing one of my friends bought me something and I wasn’t expecting it. Some people are so entitled it’s amazing.