Exactly, when their daughters become full adults and look back at these videos of their moms showing favoritism they probably won't be surprised.. These parents better hope their daughters still come visits them when they become independent, if not the sons they've been basically worshiping.
Yep. Even me & my sister noticed my mom showing favoritism to me growing up. It's made me guilty over the year even though she doesn't hold it against me.
And when dads so clearly favor their daughters over their sons, people just call it being Daddy's girl/princess. Has him around her finger. Nevermind so many of those girls grow up to be entitled women who can't handle being told no, put their fathers before their husbands, threaten harm to boyfriends via father, and believe men are obligated to not only pay for everything but then also come home and dote on her without doing much in return.
These are the same people who are like “Why do my kids hate me? 😭” “Why do my kids not want to talk to me anymore?” “His/Her Girlfriend/Boyfriend are ruining my relationship with them 😭😭😭” No babe, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
My husband is the eldest of 4 boys. 3 are divorced / seperated from the mothers of their children. She was ALWAYS interfering in our marriage, and even cancelled my Bachelorette party by telling everyone we called off the wedding because I'd cheated! ( Never happened) I only found out when no one showed up, and called one of my friends. It was so bad, my father in law divorced her because of the things she'd do to dry and break up my marriage! I put up with it for years, until I finally had enough! He never said anything to his mum about the horrible abuse she put me through, so I left after 12 years ( and 4 kids). He is 52 years old, and STILL lives with her!! Personally, I think he's got some weird Oedipus complex!! It's weird!
@@TwocanToucan like girls are meant to be raised as “good girls” and boys are loved and allowed to be whoever they want and do whatever they want aka “boys will be boys”.
Children don’t naturally develop s*xual attraction to their family members. It’s ALWAYS the result of grooming and/or trauma. This is really sad and disgusting 🤢
@@repage_ well ppl give kids unsupervised access to the internet where they could discover really disgusting fetish stuffs and its so normal for them cuz they’ve seen it way too many times, well this is only most or some cases since it’s not all cases but this happens and COULD happen
yesss, it feels like they think that a daugther is a competition for them, like that she steals their beauty and a boy replenishes them with masculine energy and they feel protected because they will be always their mom. That's sickening
that second “mother” is raising an abuser, not matter how awful and horrible his day may have been how can she allow him to take it out on his sisters like that? that should never be ok to do what a horrible mother. so pathetic
My intrusive thoughts almost won twice trying to post that clip from the South Park covid special where Cartman was homeless with the caption “y’all sons in the future if you keep coddling and enabling them” I gotta chill.
Someone tell her it's not normal to be attracted to family members yet alone your OWN KIDS. If that was a Dad with his daughter everyone would be saying this is creepy. 🤢
My daughter is 5 and my son is 2. His car seat is behind the drivers seat so I was getting him out of the car first every time we parked. My daughter would ask if she could get out first but I would tell her “he’s just closer to me baby, I’ll get you out in just a second” thinking it was fine. One night she told me “you love brother more” and I was SHOCKED and told her absolutely not, I love you both so much and the same, but she said “but you always get him out of the car first.” THAT WAS ENOUGH to make her feel loved less. Now I make sure to take turns letting each of them go first for everything and these videos hurt me that much deeper.
❤ you so much for hearing her and fixing the behavior. I ❤ that you didn't waste time talking about how you didn't mean to send that message. You heard how she interpreted your actions and you changed them. ❤❤❤❤
something like this happened when I was younger too, I was always the last person to get my food at the table…the only difference is it didn’t matter where I sat 💀
@@nekomeow3161 And the dads who force their daughters into those "purity balls". And the ones who post pictures of themselves aiming their guns directly at their daughters' boyfriends. We just don't see it on TikTok as often.
You couldn’t have timed this any better. Literally doing research on this rn. This type of “emotional covert incest” is going to completely F up these boys future marriages and relationships smh. Not to mention the personal struggles they will have all throughout. Literally destroying these kids mentality for life.
Thank you for using the term. I definitely dealt with this stuff, and didn't realize til like 2 years or so ago that it actually wasn't ok (im 25 now). People just have never heard of it, and the issue itself is definitely significant and impactful into adulthood.
The small girl being pushed after the gender reveal broke my heart. She looked so confused and she had to help herself up. All that just because there’s a boy in the womb, sickening 😕
And the sad part is, you can tell the mom pushed her on purpose. No effing way that child would have fallen had she not been pushed. The mom literally didn’t knock her with her knee or leg or anything. She legit pushed her. I feel so bad for that child. I just know that will stay with her forever
This just reminded me of a video from a wedding where the bride said to her groom “I love you and all of your faults…” and this mom just yells “MY SON HAS NO FLAWS” and just causes a whole mess at the wedding.
Gurl....... favoring 1 child of yours or another child of yours simply because of their gender is weirdo behavior. Like, you should love and care for your children REGARDLESS of what gender they are. Favoritism is never the answer.
Can you imagine certain parents making such an overly big deal out their childrens' gender assigned at birth to the point they treat their child different or better then their siblings cause of their gender?
Sadly this crap happened to me when I was a kid. However my father favored... Children that weren't his. He literally attempted to murder me when i was little. I still am with my father. He still wishes he had a boy instead of a girl.
That's assuming their son ever gets married considering these boy moms are doing everything possible to ensure their sons never develop a social life outside of mom
That’s where the designated wine spiller comes in. (That’s actually a role some bridesmaids take on at weddings where the bride knows that there’s a risk of someone showing up in white it’s exactly as it sounds a bridesmaid gets a glass of red wine and if someone shows up in a white dress than the bridesmaid “trips” and it gets all over the dress forcing whoever showed up in white to either walk around in a red wine soaked dress, leave the wedding or change into a different dress
13:15 this clip actually broke my heart. I can’t believe they just shoved her on the floor like that and then she got up and put her hands up like “why did they just do that to me?” 💔
I had to call child protective services on my ex bff because she was taking her boy mom love a bit too far. Posting photos of them cuddling in bed when he was 16 and kissing him on the lips on Facebook. Needless to say that ended our relationship (and there was more to it than that-- not cleaning up after animals and letting their pee soak through the floor).
Her daughters are gonna grow up, and hate both her and their brother because he was the only one with positive attention. Then that’ll mess up the son, what now?? She’ll lose her daughters and her son won’t understand why they hate him because of how spoiled he was. It’s not funny, it’s child neglect.
@@redroomstudi0don't reply to them. don't like the comment. don't do anything except report and move on. its a bot and any exposure you give it only feeds it.
Trust me, it's horrible being married to a man who has a boy mom. After we got married, she wouldn't let him move out of her house and was acting like he was her husband and not mine. And her passive aggressive behavior towards me was exhausting. If a guy you're dating is a mommas boy, I'd say run.
Ik what it’s like… I live with my bf who has a “boy mom“ and she acts like he’s hers… Still, why would I run? He couldn’t decide what his mom is like yk
@@user-pe2kz8li2wWhen people say run..they mean if the son can’t enforce any kind of boundaries and lets her constantly disrespect you while taking her side. If he’s not like that you definitely don’t have to run, especially if your needs are being met.
I'm a daughter who grew up with my mother acting like this towards my brother. I'm 20 now and it certainly impacts a hell of a lot more than most people realise. In my case, it doesn't just mean my brother was prioritised over me at all times, leading to me feeling unloved for no reason. It also means my brother can do no wrong at all. He became incredibly violent and would break things when things wouldn't go his way (he's 18, I would sleep with a chair against my door because his rages were that intense), as my mum can't shield him forever from the world, he became an alcoholic and ran away from home because my parents wouldn't buy him a car after he crashed my mum's one and tried to hide it by super gluing things back together, I haven't seen him in a year. When trying to address things, my mum still doesn't think there's anything wrong, even though my brother called her every swear in the book and told her to delete herself, "he's just having a bad day" making endless excuses for his verbal, physical abuse, his stealing, his alcoholism. As my dad and I try and protect her and everyone else from getting hurt, we're the bad guys for going against my brother. So it's no wonder the tension resulted in my parents now splitting up. It destroys everything, and all for what? A weird obsesson over what your kid has in their pants for some reason? Go to therapy. Better yet, don't have kids.
Now I know it happens with other ppl too,something similar,my brother like he really young and saying these things and when he says something mostly she will laughs it off,or excuses it And God forgive if I say something at her face,when I'm not even cursing at her and she the one who cursed at me first 💀
@@user-zh2fw7ez7q Thank you, things have been pretty rough the past month but they're thankfully getting better. I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. :)
That's assuming her daughters ever let her near their future children and her son ever gets married considering how she's raising him to be wholly dependent on her
@@somi.glitter Eh, I just took his advice and didn’t translate. I’m not superstitious so if this is what gets his rocks off then it’s no skin off my nose. It may be pretty pathetic, but it’s not my problem. 😂 I like your icon btw
My mom was raised by a boy mom, and even several decades later, she still remembers the (very obvious) favoritism. These daughters absolutely notice it, and are hurt by it.
The whole concept of boy moms and girl dads is just cringe. Love your kids equally, don't make it weird, and just call yourself a damn parent like a normal person.
Unless if you’re an only child has a single mom/dad then that I could understood, this is also different for me I’m an only child and my mom’s pretty abusive and my dad always defend me and actually loved me I’m mostly a dad’s girl I don’t even think my mom even cares if I’m gone tbh. So yeah in my opinion it just depends on the situation and context if it’s right to call it creepy or not
For one thing, like another commenter said, I'd say this is a case of emotional incest/molestation. In which an adult leans on a child for emotional needs that another adult would usually provide; like a spouse, other adult friend, or a therapist. It completely f-ks up a child's future relationships and how they interact with others. It can sometimes be accidental, or it can be purposeful (like in grooming). Not to mention the "boy moms" who have daughters and whose clear favoritism will mess them up too. This is all just very, very icky.
If a dad did ANY of these things with his daughters, he'd IMMEDIATELY (and rightfully) be arrested, or at least punished in some way. That same energy needs to extend to these moms. Because it's no different other than the genders being reversed.
Girl dad's are weird too :/ there was a girl complaining that her dad always hit her butt to wake her up from ages baby-around 10 or something was when she didn't start liking it. ....because it's weird when your dad is constantly grabbing your ass when you sleep... And she asked him to stop but it made him do it more as a 'you don't like it playful thing's but like around 14 or 15 she had to get the mother to make the father stop grabbing his own daughters ass.....
@@roxassora2706girl dads aren't this weird tbh ,they are just overprotective most of the times but boy moms are literally misogynistic and in love with their sons
I'm currently doing a refresher course in Safeguarding children, and this video rang alarm bells. Favouritism is a "sign from the abuser" in the "emotional abuse" section of my coursework. If a parent openly favours one or more siblings, that is an indicator of emotional abuse. Obviously it's not the sole cause for concern, you need to keep an eye out for other signs. However, it is explicitly written that favouritism is something to keep an eye on.
I'm a mom of two boys and I'm just appalled. These mums are just completely toxic. My concern, as a mom of two children (I never cared if I was having boys or girls, I just wanted them to be born healthy), is that they become functional and well adjusted citizens, that will respect and help their future partners with house chores, kids if they decide to become parents, etc.. To educate them in a manner to be so attached to their mom's, so they will always come first, even before their partners, is soooo unhealthy! These boys will surely need a lot of therapy 😢
Totally agree. I have three boys and as a parent, it's my job to support and guide these boys. Not to be possessive about some future partner. It's just weird to me. All I want if for my boys to grow to be happy with what the future brings.
@@kellysouter4381u don’t even know them, many of these boys r probably their moms entire emotional support system. If that’s the case they’ll end up broken & need a lot of help but why would u frame that through any lens but their own. Imagine saying “that lady is depressed, I feel so bad for everyone who ever encounters her.” I’d assume u just didn’t think about how this impacts the boys negatively but if my assumption isn’t true than your comment lacks some humanity.
Freud was correct about a lot of things on a descriptive level, even if not necessarily normatively. A lot of ppl's discomfort about his theories feels like a "shoot the messenger" kind of situation
I know boys who have danced in The Nutcracker though... and girls who like monster trucks. But genuine question, how do these boy moms react when their son comes out as gay???
That last video of the gender reveal absolutely disgusted me. The poor little girl got up by herself and gestured like, what did I do? The loom on her face was just completely heart breaking.
3:30 as someone who grew up with my 10 year old brother s*xually abusing my 7 year old sister, and other young girls, this is so not okay. My parents just play it off as “oh, they’re just playing,” but it’s so much more than that. Along with the lifetime of trauma he’s caused her, he’s being taught that it’s okay to do this. It’s awful, and all these parents excusing abusive behaviours needs to stop.
6:50 You can see how he doesn't want to be with his mom and pushes her away and decides to be with his wife. Toxic boy moms are terrible, there abusively protective behavior makes their "precious boys" want to escape because their moms are over the top crazy, he wants to have at least ONE moment with his wife in his moms presence but i guess his mom won't let him and his wife be. I cant imagen how hard is gonna be for him when he has children and his children have to deal with a grandma like that.
For a while, the daughter will try to win mom's approval through extravagant gifts and superb performances before being disappointed by how mom repeatedly dismisses her attempts in favor of her brother's halfhearted attempts. Will possibly blame her brother for "you are the reason why mom hates me". Though keep it up long enough, daughter will move out and cut contact with her family the moment she gets a taste of freedom
This reminds me of the novel, “The Thorn Birds.” The mother “fee” had 5-6 children. She only had one daughter, “Meggie.” You get her perspective on how she prefers boys because they live on a farm and can help the family business. She treats her daughter poorly through most of the novel and when confronted with this by the priest “Ralph”, she says, “a daughter is a good for nothing. All they are is a reminder of youth you once had and no longer have anymore.” Throughout the book Meggie sees the favoritism her mother has for her siblings and it affects her young life to make many wrong decisions. I will say, Fee gets better later on but because her mother constantly ignored her daughter and treated the boys better, It affected Meggie for years which caused her to make terrible decisions. (The novel is such a good read) what I’m getting at is this, openly showing favoritism to one or more child in front of the none favored one will affect them.
This is triggering horrible memories with my mother in law. She hated how in love with me my husband is and even told me "I wanted him with brittany" (his first gf who would kiss her ass constantly and who my husband wasn't that interested in). We lived with her for 2 years and it was HELL! She did everything she could to make me leave him. While he was at work, she treated me like absolute shit then he would come home and she would talk to me in a baby voice and call me "emmy" like we were best friends. She would then talk bad about me in a group chat with her husband, my husband, and my brother in law. Saying, "She finally did the dishes, but I wanted to take a bath, so now there's no hot water," even though I always did the dishes. Or "maybe someone needs to teach Emmy how to mop better because there was still dog hair on the floor," but I can't stop the dogs from walking on the floor after I fuxking mop! She even screamed at me for 8 days because I CLOSED the lid to the salt shaker which meant I was directly disrespecting her because I was supposed to know to leave it open for her when she wanted to use it!?!?! Thank God she's out of our lives now, and my husband was able to see how narcissistic she is....
Oh my wordd....your mother in law has to understand that you are NOT her servant...if she wants one, she needs to hire one herself! Parents in law NEVER has a right to force their children in law to do ANYTHING for them, eventhough it is a good thing! You are there to be with your husband, NOT with his parents who you never even sign up for...
Imagine for just one second a father acting this way about his daughter. I’m not talking about being really happy and enthusiastic to have a daughter and spend time with her. I’m talking about weirdly sexualising their relationship and becoming jealous of any man that enters their daughter’s life (and also being jealous of any time their sons spend with their wives). It would be weird af.
Like that mom in the video exposing her butt crack dancing with her son like that should be in jail. If a father did this with the daughter, police will be call. Geez
right? people like to diminish the issue by diluting it in the comments from what I've seen. but just imagine that video where she grabbed her sons cheeks and was gonna kiss him, but with a man and his daughter..
7:21- WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!! That lady should be behind bars asap Did anyone here watched American Horror Story Coven? Y'all remember Kyle Spencer? That guy played by Evan Peters who was absd by his own mother and unalived her? It's giving the same vibes. She also used to call him ''my sweet boy'' ''I am your love' etc
Im not a conspiracy theorist, but it's hard not to notice a link between the Chinese run app & all the toxicity its indoctrination the west with. If it doesn't give a person pause, it should
this kind of behavior has been a thing since way way way before tiktok sadly gross that we gotta see so much of it because tiktok for some reason gives people the confidence to boldly post it tho I agree
That's not even the problem, the problem is that they assume their son never wants to have his own life and will live with momma until hes old and gray.
Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if some of these boys become gay as a result of their mothers. Maybe not all but a few might (especially when you take into account that some victims end up being hypersexual as they grow up as a way to cope. So if this happens AND the kid is a menace, he might SA other people. This might be reaching but you never know 😅)
11:36 Then that typically means you are not meant to be a parent because you got no redeeming qualities for it. A decent parent would never say these kind of words. You should love your kid/kids equally irrespective of their gender, that's what's called parenting.
8:41 so I've seen where toddlers have smacked their mom's bum because that's what they see their dad do it and think that's how you say "I love you" or "you're pretty" to mom. At that age it makes sense if they do that on a one off because they're still learning social cues, boundaries and you know life but that also that needs to be nipped in the bud as quickly as possible. Having teen and pre-teen kids smack their mom's bum is disturbing on so many level 🤢
The second mom, she only has two sons and two daughters one of them is transgender, but ever since the boy change into a girl, she’s been obsessing with her other son . Edit: and the only reason the dad spends more time with the girls is because the mom is too busy spending time with the son
Wow, I've actually seen more dads do this because of the moms being a boy mom. Like they try to balance things out by favoring the girl to boast her low self esteem which her mom plummetted.
I’m flabbergasted that these “mothers” even THINK like this! I find it very creepy and disturbing cause this is predator behavior LIKE GROOMER LEVEL and the fact these GROWN WOMEN are mothers that are OPENLY POSTING these videos is just perpetuating this behavior and it’s terrifying!!!!
These moms acting like they dating theirs sons. It's a seriously creepy obsession that fucks with men's development. These are not going to be well rounded kids sadly. itd always gonna be a competition. She's horrible so is any mother jealous of a teenager. Or their sons gf. True love?!?! She's seriously neglectful to their daughters and obsessed with her boy in an unhealthy way. She needs to head to therapy. Likely so will her kids. I feel sorry for the girls in these families. They clearly are obsessed. And see their boys as a future spouse not their kid.
Can you imagine what it would be like if dads were posting about their daughters like this? (I mean, they are, just not on TikTok... especially if those creepy "purity balls" and dads posting pictures aiming guns at their daughters' boyfriends are any indication)
Ever wonder how some moms become like this? Was it neglectfulness on their up bringing? Fear of loneliness? Absent fathers? Internalized misogyny? It’s just all weird and I’m surprised no one is talking about it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 Too many potential reasons. Sometimes it is internalized misogyny due to not growing out of notlikeothergirls or pickme. Sometimes they were raised similarly. Sometimes it's because they feel their husbands aren't doing enough for them.
Hayley being dressed up as the mum killed me. That's the quietest I've heard her speak. And with all those key chains and like 2 keys she stole from her mom for the bit. PS: Have you seen the video of the "boy mom" jumping into the arms of her son after a high school football win?! That was creepy! She had her leg wrapped around him like she was 16.
Many years ago I briefly worked with a lady who had 5 sons and was pregnant with her 6th son. She said she and her husband were going to keep having kids until they got a girl. I was shocked. It seemed cruel to me. The girl would be the favorite and the others were just going to be there because they really wanted a girl. I don’t know what happened to her.
I'm a mom of 3 boys and this shiz is so dang cringe. I just consigned for my okdest and girlfriend first apartment. My mom was one who smothered me and I promised that would never be me. I respect my boys and girlfriends because I won't be here forever and I don't want him alone and unhappy. Love you ❤ too funny😂 I raised my boys with serious disapline because I swore they wouldn't be that man! Now they are incredible men and kiddo!
Okay Im stopping at 9:11 to comment some thoughts I was an only child for the first 8 years of my life. My parents tried years for me and that long for my baby brother because they technically cant have children. My little brother definitely is the favorite. He is. But not because of his gender. Im sick, disabled and traumatized and was always opinionated and argumentative and my little brother is healthy and very shy in comparison to how I was at that age. At least up to recently. Comparing me 0-8 and him 0-8. I fear I might even be more of a boy mom to my little brother than our actual mother. At least in regard to that he is literally the most important person in my life emotionally. Not in a weird way. Hes my baby brother and my parents were abusive and I dont have a partner. Ergo, hes my favorite. When my brother (lets refer to him as b) was younger, he also had some tendencies to touch my butt and boobs a lot, which I was very uncomfortable with. He didnt mean it in a sexual way, he was a child, still. I explained to him over and over again that there is a boundary etc and as he got older that stopped. What has survived is the ongoing war between us regarding slapping the other ones butt. We dont do that in a sexual way, its literally just a way we annoy each other. There never was and never will be any undertone. Similar to how my father pokes us in our ribs or in our sides and we then get back at him or rurn on each other. Idk how that has survived but somehow it did. I have tought b a lot about setting his own physical boundaries aswell. When he sais he doesn't wanna give me a hug to say goodbye, thats fine. When he tells me with uncomfortable with something I do or call him, I dont dismiss it (Or at least try to, there have besn instances where he was younger and I didnt take it that seriously bc of the playful situation and he had to tell me several times, but I apologized and everyone makes mistakes), but give him a high five and thank him for communicating his boundaries. For example I used to do something where I poked his stomach during our goofy time idk what to call it, and he was like "hey Its fine when you touch my head or my back, but I dont like it when you touch my stomach" I handled it as described. To the point where he came to me about something scetchy at school first before going to mom. We told her together after I asured him he was right to speak up even though he was embarrassed. I think its beyond disturbing how some of those moms view their own children. And society isnt as mad about it as they should be, because "men cant be victims of abuse especially when the abuser is a woman" What their doing is bad for everyone. The father, the daughters, the sons and the mom itself. She will probably experience major emotional distress in the future that couldve been avoiding if she just went to therapy.
"Thank God! No little tart will ever replace me in his heart!" And I guarantee she thinks gay love isn't "as real", so it doesn't count as losing him. (Please know I do not think any of these things.)
Unless they are conservative in which case they’ll see it as a betrayal on their son part because how dare their precious toy turn out to be one of them. Then it go downhill.
It makes me so sad to imagine how depressed and traumatised all these girls are gonna grow up to be. I genuinely can't get that poor little girl being knocked over out of my head.
@@davidcook680I think it would be worse for the daughter because she would grow up feeling neglected while the son gets all the love and everything they do is not wrong. I think it depends on what kind of guy they are if they abuse the fact they can do whatever they want without getting in real trouble or if when they grow up they have no idea why their sister despises them. Either way I think it’ll still be harder for the daughter than the son.
This is sadly common and normal in Asia :/ totally due to patriarchal systems that favour men!!! My mum is well aware that her mum prefers the sons and treats them much better than daughters, it’s still hurts her to this day. Also it breeds boys who go on to date and marry women, but their partner will always be second to their mother. Down with the patriarchy!!!
hi Haylo Hayley, I’m an autistic person, and I would love it if you made a video discussing “autism moms” AND the amount of ableism we face and how it could cause us permanent negative effects. If you don’t know what autism moms are, they are moms who exploit their children w/ autism for clout. They also act like they are a professional doctor and that is they know everything abt their child’s autism, even though they don’t bat an eye to help their children. I’m also a big fan of you, you spread good awareness to these topics
As a girl who has three brothers I have no idea why moms think that there “ superior” then everyone heck my mom was sick of having boys until I came and yes she loves all of us she doesn’t play favorites, and I’m glad cause I couldn’t imagine have a mom like that for anyone that does have a mom like that I hope you are doing ok
...Dude this is literally reminding me of that one passage from Lolita about Humbert imagining going on to abuse his female grandchild. Also ppl NEED to talk about girl dads, bc it is WAY more common than ppl think. Speaking from experience, I love my dad but I've always noticed little weird things about him, and it's uncomfortable.
Hey, at least HH was on the hunt for little girls and thats why he became a stepfather. These women carried those babies on them and still think about them that way 😭😭😭
I took a parenting class last year in high school just for fun. We did a project were you took a robot baby home for the weekend. a TON of the freshman/sophmore girls were actually so bummed out when they found out they would be taking a girl robot baby home instead of a boy one. It disgusted me out so bad when some girl said this out loud: "I don't ever want to have a girl baby because I don't want to deal with there attitude and drama".. like if boys weren't as dramatic and had attitudes..
My mean parents had 4 girls in a row. We all knew dad wanted a son and would have been named after him. So we all dodged the Larry bullet. But at 13 they had number 5 girl. Years later mom was bitterly angry and said she always wanted a boy bc "Boys love their mothers but girls hate their mothers and leave!" It had nothing to do with none of us raised as the little prince would have been? No? 🙄
Lol it's ok. In the 80s, the smarmy used car salesman friend on Three's Company was Larry. My own dad is now having DNA kids come out of the woodwork lately, too. All girls. It isn't the kind of name honest characters get, so yeah, please laugh with relief for us. 😂 Were your parents trying for a boy?
I have 4 girls.. always wondered what having a boy would be like.. but I bet he'd be just as much of a grubby, crazy, never ending eater and sweetie as all my girls 😂 I've had friends make comments about being a boy mum and how much "harder/crazier" it is, and I laugh in their faces. Also, my mum started sh*t with my brothers gf when he was like 17, to the point that the girl broke up with him.. so, pretty sure she was one of "those" boy mum's.
My mom had me(girl) and my brother. Thank goodness she was normal(because her mother was a boy mom but not severe one) she thought taking care of my brother because he's the eldest was crazy enough. But unfortunately I had ADHD and asperger combined and was just a wild ball of energy. She said that her daughter is the real reason that she stayed in shape during her 20s. Thou my brother was more calm and collected. Later in the years she showed by her actions that she loves us all equally and fair....and by fair I mean she'd also flip out on us equally if we messed up 😂
You are my new favorite! You really tell it like it is and no BS! I always knew my brother was the favorite from day one. Nobody wins in this situation. 😥😥😥😥
Minus the tik tok part of the title, I have one of these boy moms as a mother in law. My husband and I are working through ending the emotional incest. I literally have to use my womanly wiles to win my husband away from his mom. I should not have to compete with my mother in law for my husband's attention. It is sad that my husband doesn't wear the pants of the family, his mom does.
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I feel bad for their daughters.
Parents think the kids don't notice the favoritism? Yes they do.
Kids notice everything and it stays.
Exactly ..
Exactly, when their daughters become full adults and look back at these videos of their moms showing favoritism they probably won't be surprised.. These parents better hope their daughters still come visits them when they become independent, if not the sons they've been basically worshiping.
Yep. Even me & my sister noticed my mom showing favoritism to me growing up. It's made me guilty over the year even though she doesn't hold it against me.
@@Aaliyah_Bullock they tryna end up in the nursing home
@ville__awww! Guess I’m going to die 🥰
If a father did this about his daughter……we would all label him a creep and be scared that he was assaulting her!
That's exactly what the moms are doing to their sons
@@forest2727yup
This part
Sexism bro..
And when dads so clearly favor their daughters over their sons, people just call it being Daddy's girl/princess. Has him around her finger. Nevermind so many of those girls grow up to be entitled women who can't handle being told no, put their fathers before their husbands, threaten harm to boyfriends via father, and believe men are obligated to not only pay for everything but then also come home and dote on her without doing much in return.
These are the same people who are like “Why do my kids hate me? 😭” “Why do my kids not want to talk to me anymore?” “His/Her Girlfriend/Boyfriend are ruining my relationship with them 😭😭😭”
No babe, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
"i'm a 30+ year o-" 🤖
My husband is the eldest of 4 boys. 3 are divorced / seperated from the mothers of their children. She was ALWAYS interfering in our marriage, and even cancelled my Bachelorette party by telling everyone we called off the wedding because I'd cheated! ( Never happened) I only found out when no one showed up, and called one of my friends.
It was so bad, my father in law divorced her because of the things she'd do to dry and break up my marriage! I put up with it for years, until I finally had enough! He never said anything to his mum about the horrible abuse she put me through, so I left after 12 years ( and 4 kids). He is 52 years old, and STILL lives with her!! Personally, I think he's got some weird Oedipus complex!! It's weird!
what are these bots on about
@@tromboneartistreader idk man I’ve been reporting every single one 💀
What vid?@ville__
I saw someone say that: "Girls are ment to be raised, and boys loved.". Im never gonna recover from that.
Hah, that's my grandma
holy shxtt
What does that quote mean i dont get it
@@TwocanToucan like girls are meant to be raised as “good girls” and boys are loved and allowed to be whoever they want and do whatever they want aka “boys will be boys”.
@@TwocanToucan “boys need to be loved growing up, but girls just need to be growing up”
Children don’t naturally develop s*xual attraction to their family members. It’s ALWAYS the result of grooming and/or trauma. This is really sad and disgusting 🤢
It also could be the result of unsupervised internet
i couldnt agree more
@@lunarscopeshapeshifterprod7004 I doubt that.
@@repage_ well ppl give kids unsupervised access to the internet where they could discover really disgusting fetish stuffs and its so normal for them cuz they’ve seen it way too many times, well this is only most or some cases since it’s not all cases but this happens and COULD happen
@@repage_I developed a piss kink from unsupervised internet, believe me the internet is powerful.
When the little girl got pushed over and fell over, I genuinely felt sad. Is it too much to love your children equally? 😭
that will be a core memory for her :(
So much pain in that scene for that girl…
That’s abuse
IKR like the mum didnt event noticed the girl fell! The dad at least did and went in to check up! TF??
@@m4ttaor probably not because shes 2 yrs old.. still fucked tho
This is just another version of child neglect and predation. Moms viewing their sons as second boyfriends, and daughters as nuisances.
Agreed, childhood is completely under attack from every conceivable side it seems. 🥺
And the daughters can legit be the most kindest and polite well mannered kid you ever encounter
It’s extremely creepy… I swear, this is emotional incest… maybe we should call CPS!
yesss, it feels like they think that a daugther is a competition for them, like that she steals their beauty and a boy replenishes them with masculine energy and they feel protected because they will be always their mom. That's sickening
As the mother of 2 sons and a daughter, that's just gross.
If my mom acted like this over my brothers, i would freak out and think she was a weirdo
@annoying.person.I wish Hayley could do something about it
yeah but wtf will u do about it??
@ville__ I can read it without translations, and I beg you to shut up
I'd rather die than subscribe to a troll 💀
Call the damn police
Nah you won't think she's a weirdo, you'll know she's a weirdo and continue to suffer from it
that second “mother” is raising an abuser, not matter how awful and horrible his day may have been how can she allow him to take it out on his sisters like that? that should never be ok to do
what a horrible mother. so pathetic
Yeah... and imagine her talking to her daughters. "I know it hurts sweety, but he was having a bad day. Boys are like that sometimes."
@@jbird4478 omg that is sickening
My intrusive thoughts almost won twice trying to post that clip from the South Park covid special where Cartman was homeless with the caption “y’all sons in the future if you keep coddling and enabling them” I gotta chill.
And the son thinks it's right so he's most likely gonna do it for the rest of his life? And whose fault is it?? His mother's.
@@Milo-12367 the unfortunate truth
"As a mom we raise them to be the men we never had,of course we want to be with them!!" WHAT 😨😨
Someone tell her it's not normal to be attracted to family members yet alone your OWN KIDS. If that was a Dad with his daughter everyone would be saying this is creepy. 🤢
right, finding a man to date is what the husband part is for
I'm going to completely insult my husband while I groom my child... how do they not see it?
frr
My daughter is 5 and my son is 2. His car seat is behind the drivers seat so I was getting him out of the car first every time we parked. My daughter would ask if she could get out first but I would tell her “he’s just closer to me baby, I’ll get you out in just a second” thinking it was fine.
One night she told me “you love brother more” and I was SHOCKED and told her absolutely not, I love you both so much and the same, but she said “but you always get him out of the car first.”
THAT WAS ENOUGH to make her feel loved less. Now I make sure to take turns letting each of them go first for everything and these videos hurt me that much deeper.
❤ you so much for hearing her and fixing the behavior. I ❤ that you didn't waste time talking about how you didn't mean to send that message. You heard how she interpreted your actions and you changed them. ❤❤❤❤
You’re a fabulous momma ❤
wish i had a mom like you
@@minirth.maggieu have no idea how validating your comment was for my completely different situation, thank you.
something like this happened when I was younger too, I was always the last person to get my food at the table…the only difference is it didn’t matter where I sat 💀
If there were “Girl Dads” acting like this, everyone would be up in arms over it 😵
Girl dads are an entirely different problem
I mean the dads who say "you cant date until you're 30 or 40" gives same vibes
@@nekomeow3161 And the dads who force their daughters into those "purity balls". And the ones who post pictures of themselves aiming their guns directly at their daughters' boyfriends. We just don't see it on TikTok as often.
@@ngarcia103Not mine. This is a first for seeing women overshadow men, not in a good way, either.
Everyone is complaining about "boy moms " so don't make it a gender thing when it isn't
You couldn’t have timed this any better. Literally doing research on this rn. This type of “emotional covert incest” is going to completely F up these boys future marriages and relationships smh. Not to mention the personal struggles they will have all throughout. Literally destroying these kids mentality for life.
agreed.
Gurl when I saw that video of the mom kissing her son, I was literally about to throw up
Thank you for using the term. I definitely dealt with this stuff, and didn't realize til like 2 years or so ago that it actually wasn't ok (im 25 now). People just have never heard of it, and the issue itself is definitely significant and impactful into adulthood.
@ville__I hope it does
I fear these instances might make some think therapy needs to be forced on people sometimes.....
Sorry if that offends anyone.....
The small girl being pushed after the gender reveal broke my heart. She looked so confused and she had to help herself up. All that just because there’s a boy in the womb, sickening 😕
Fr, she was so tiny. Why are people like this?!?
And the sad part is, you can tell the mom pushed her on purpose. No effing way that child would have fallen had she not been pushed. The mom literally didn’t knock her with her knee or leg or anything. She legit pushed her. I feel so bad for that child. I just know that will stay with her forever
This just reminded me of a video from a wedding where the bride said to her groom “I love you and all of your faults…” and this mom just yells “MY SON HAS NO FLAWS” and just causes a whole mess at the wedding.
I've seen that all over yt. You're %100 right
Gurl....... favoring 1 child of yours or another child of yours simply because of their gender is weirdo behavior. Like, you should love and care for your children REGARDLESS of what gender they are. Favoritism is never the answer.
Can you imagine certain parents making such an overly big deal out their childrens' gender assigned at birth to the point they treat their child different or better then their siblings cause of their gender?
Sadly this crap happened to me when I was a kid. However my father favored... Children that weren't his. He literally attempted to murder me when i was little. I still am with my father. He still wishes he had a boy instead of a girl.
@@HerbertEnterprises Wtf??
@@HerbertEnterprises 😢
@ville__half of us are dying
Shoving your small child to the ground for a tik tok to make her seem she's being replaced.. is just f#cking gross.
My jaw dropped at that!
Not gross, rather abomination. A thing to be totally hated. Gross is not extreme enough.
@KarlyNicole Are you a boy mom?
ikr.
It's not hard to tell these women will be wearing white to their sons' weddings.
The amount of stories I've heard of angry/jealous MILs doing this at weddings, I wouldn't be surprised either if all of these mums pulled the same bs.
😂😂😂
THE START OF ALL HMIL’S [Horrible Mother In Laws]
That's assuming their son ever gets married considering these boy moms are doing everything possible to ensure their sons never develop a social life outside of mom
That’s where the designated wine spiller comes in. (That’s actually a role some bridesmaids take on at weddings where the bride knows that there’s a risk of someone showing up in white it’s exactly as it sounds a bridesmaid gets a glass of red wine and if someone shows up in a white dress than the bridesmaid “trips” and it gets all over the dress forcing whoever showed up in white to either walk around in a red wine soaked dress, leave the wedding or change into a different dress
13:15 this clip actually broke my heart. I can’t believe they just shoved her on the floor like that and then she got up and put her hands up like “why did they just do that to me?” 💔
Nooooo💔... Your comment made me in tears...
Fr😭😭🙏like she didn't deserve that...
Fr and the text said “The moment Ava realized she was no longer the favorite” like… this is making me cry
Can't believe people posting shit like this and think it's ok.. 😮
I literally said out loud “ oh poor baby girl, poor baby” 😭
I had to call child protective services on my ex bff because she was taking her boy mom love a bit too far. Posting photos of them cuddling in bed when he was 16 and kissing him on the lips on Facebook. Needless to say that ended our relationship (and there was more to it than that-- not cleaning up after animals and letting their pee soak through the floor).
Is he ok now?
o nome
16?!
Her daughters are gonna grow up, and hate both her and their brother because he was the only one with positive attention. Then that’ll mess up the son, what now?? She’ll lose her daughters and her son won’t understand why they hate him because of how spoiled he was.
It’s not funny, it’s child neglect.
@@anthonytitone wtf did I just read???
@@redroomstudi0probably a bot.
@@redroomstudi0don't reply to them. don't like the comment. don't do anything except report and move on. its a bot and any exposure you give it only feeds it.
@@potatoman7594not a bot, this shit is accurate and I experienced it
Facts!
Trust me, it's horrible being married to a man who has a boy mom. After we got married, she wouldn't let him move out of her house and was acting like he was her husband and not mine. And her passive aggressive behavior towards me was exhausting. If a guy you're dating is a mommas boy, I'd say run.
RUN! The minute you realize your guy and his mom are weird!
Ik what it’s like… I live with my bf who has a “boy mom“ and she acts like he’s hers… Still, why would I run? He couldn’t decide what his mom is like yk
@@user-pe2kz8li2wWhen people say run..they mean if the son can’t enforce any kind of boundaries and lets her constantly disrespect you while taking her side. If he’s not like that you definitely don’t have to run, especially if your needs are being met.
@@shayla106 Yea i get it now
Hopefully ur doing well now ❤
I'm a daughter who grew up with my mother acting like this towards my brother. I'm 20 now and it certainly impacts a hell of a lot more than most people realise. In my case, it doesn't just mean my brother was prioritised over me at all times, leading to me feeling unloved for no reason. It also means my brother can do no wrong at all. He became incredibly violent and would break things when things wouldn't go his way (he's 18, I would sleep with a chair against my door because his rages were that intense), as my mum can't shield him forever from the world, he became an alcoholic and ran away from home because my parents wouldn't buy him a car after he crashed my mum's one and tried to hide it by super gluing things back together, I haven't seen him in a year.
When trying to address things, my mum still doesn't think there's anything wrong, even though my brother called her every swear in the book and told her to delete herself, "he's just having a bad day" making endless excuses for his verbal, physical abuse, his stealing, his alcoholism. As my dad and I try and protect her and everyone else from getting hurt, we're the bad guys for going against my brother. So it's no wonder the tension resulted in my parents now splitting up. It destroys everything, and all for what? A weird obsesson over what your kid has in their pants for some reason? Go to therapy. Better yet, don't have kids.
Well said
Perfectly said. I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. I hope you and your dad are doing better.
You wanna get cyber hug?
Now I know it happens with other ppl too,something similar,my brother like he really young and saying these things and when he says something mostly she will laughs it off,or excuses it
And God forgive if I say something at her face,when I'm not even cursing at her and she the one who cursed at me first 💀
@@user-zh2fw7ez7q Thank you, things have been pretty rough the past month but they're thankfully getting better. I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. :)
A lot of these poor boys are definitely getting gr00med behind the camera and it's so sad
2:39 "That last little boy js hits different 😘😍"
....Ma'am, that is a child, not a food item, love...
I think she saying that because her other son transitioned into a girl
The second mom is going to make the WORST mother in law.
I don't think she will ever be a mother in law because she will perpetually ruin her child's life unless he goes no contact.
@ville__गच्छ स्वयमेव चोदतु
पशु
That's assuming her daughters ever let her near their future children and her son ever gets married considering how she's raising him to be wholly dependent on her
@ville__bros sending death threats for a few subscribers… also guys btw im pretty sure hes speaking sanskrit (an ancient language used in india..)
@@somi.glitter Eh, I just took his advice and didn’t translate. I’m not superstitious so if this is what gets his rocks off then it’s no skin off my nose. It may be pretty pathetic, but it’s not my problem. 😂 I like your icon btw
My mom was raised by a boy mom, and even several decades later, she still remembers the (very obvious) favoritism. These daughters absolutely notice it, and are hurt by it.
My grandma is a boy mom with 2 Boys and one girl (my mom)😮💨😮💨😮💨
These moms are giving “internalised mysogyny”. So sad.
These boy moms are literally groomers
That's a made up term
@@AV-xm5ln.....no it isn't
@@digimonalvatrax2738 Female cope.
@@jimcannibal4911🤨📸
The whole concept of boy moms and girl dads is just cringe. Love your kids equally, don't make it weird, and just call yourself a damn parent like a normal person.
👏👏👏say it louder for the people in the back
If you're going to be overprotective, at least be overprotective of all of your children.
Unless if you’re an only child has a single mom/dad then that I could understood, this is also different for me I’m an only child and my mom’s pretty abusive and my dad always defend me and actually loved me I’m mostly a dad’s girl I don’t even think my mom even cares if I’m gone tbh. So yeah in my opinion it just depends on the situation and context if it’s right to call it creepy or not
For one thing, like another commenter said, I'd say this is a case of emotional incest/molestation. In which an adult leans on a child for emotional needs that another adult would usually provide; like a spouse, other adult friend, or a therapist. It completely f-ks up a child's future relationships and how they interact with others. It can sometimes be accidental, or it can be purposeful (like in grooming). Not to mention the "boy moms" who have daughters and whose clear favoritism will mess them up too. This is all just very, very icky.
If a dad did ANY of these things with his daughters, he'd IMMEDIATELY (and rightfully) be arrested, or at least punished in some way.
That same energy needs to extend to these moms. Because it's no different other than the genders being reversed.
Unfortunately you do have your girl dads
Girl dad's are weird too :/ there was a girl complaining that her dad always hit her butt to wake her up from ages baby-around 10 or something was when she didn't start liking it. ....because it's weird when your dad is constantly grabbing your ass when you sleep... And she asked him to stop but it made him do it more as a 'you don't like it playful thing's but like around 14 or 15 she had to get the mother to make the father stop grabbing his own daughters ass.....
@@roxassora2706 Sadly, yes.
@@roxassora2706girl dads aren't this weird tbh ,they are just overprotective most of the times but boy moms are literally misogynistic and in love with their sons
@@niraxlevi9930 YES TF IT IS DUMMY I DONT WANNA A GAY DAD
I'm currently doing a refresher course in Safeguarding children, and this video rang alarm bells. Favouritism is a "sign from the abuser" in the "emotional abuse" section of my coursework. If a parent openly favours one or more siblings, that is an indicator of emotional abuse. Obviously it's not the sole cause for concern, you need to keep an eye out for other signs. However, it is explicitly written that favouritism is something to keep an eye on.
I'm a mom of two boys and I'm just appalled. These mums are just completely toxic. My concern, as a mom of two children (I never cared if I was having boys or girls, I just wanted them to be born healthy), is that they become functional and well adjusted citizens, that will respect and help their future partners with house chores, kids if they decide to become parents, etc.. To educate them in a manner to be so attached to their mom's, so they will always come first, even before their partners, is soooo unhealthy! These boys will surely need a lot of therapy 😢
You sound like a terrific mom ❤
They'll be horrible spoilt brats for some poor girl.
Totally agree. I have three boys and as a parent, it's my job to support and guide these boys. Not to be possessive about some future partner. It's just weird to me. All I want if for my boys to grow to be happy with what the future brings.
@@annasofiaVttle I far from being a perfect mom. I just try to do my best ❤️
@@kellysouter4381u don’t even know them, many of these boys r probably their moms entire emotional support system. If that’s the case they’ll end up broken & need a lot of help but why would u frame that through any lens but their own. Imagine saying “that lady is depressed, I feel so bad for everyone who ever encounters her.” I’d assume u just didn’t think about how this impacts the boys negatively but if my assumption isn’t true than your comment lacks some humanity.
Boy moms are pick me girls that grew up, decided to have children and finally now have a boy that will always pick them… change my mind
Damn😂
5:13 "you are not in a competition with your daughter" .... perhaps Freud would have loved this era
Freud was correct about a lot of things on a descriptive level, even if not necessarily normatively. A lot of ppl's discomfort about his theories feels like a "shoot the messenger" kind of situation
Oh he would love this era.
I know boys who have danced in The Nutcracker though... and girls who like monster trucks. But genuine question, how do these boy moms react when their son comes out as gay???
I believe they'd be happy because that means their son won't leave them for another woman
@@chrisogara5283 this actually made me laugh but they probably would be happy
@@chrisogara5283what about when they leave them for a man? 😅
Or when they come out as transgender??
@@stardust2938yeah that doesn’t happen if you don’t fuck up raising them.
if I was a son of one of those moms I would feel so embarrassed
@ville__ stop looking for subs. That’s not happening.
@ville__😂😂😂😂😂
That last video of the gender reveal absolutely disgusted me. The poor little girl got up by herself and gestured like, what did I do? The loom on her face was just completely heart breaking.
“No pink clothes, I hate pink” ooo such a quirky moooOoOom💀
So that what happened to those im not like other girls tumbler posters and pick me girls back in 2010s and 00s they became boy moms😂😂
3:30 as someone who grew up with my 10 year old brother s*xually abusing my 7 year old sister, and other young girls, this is so not okay. My parents just play it off as “oh, they’re just playing,” but it’s so much more than that. Along with the lifetime of trauma he’s caused her, he’s being taught that it’s okay to do this. It’s awful, and all these parents excusing abusive behaviours needs to stop.
damn, thats actually VERY MESSED UP.
10 !??
@@Chxesecxke sadly, yes.
it’s a nice time to be an only child with a mom who doesn’t tell people online she wishes different or some contradicting shit 😭
Same
Malheureusement even that doesn't help sometimes, the parents of my only child cousin wishes she was a boy and diminishes her because of it😤
Same.
Same bro.
13:23 That little girl looked so confused 😭 I feel so bad for her, imagine having to grow up with such parents
She even pushed her daughter down, seeing the little girl just fall down like that made me sad
6:50 You can see how he doesn't want to be with his mom and pushes her away and decides to be with his wife. Toxic boy moms are terrible, there abusively protective behavior makes their "precious boys" want to escape because their moms are over the top crazy, he wants to have at least ONE moment with his wife in his moms presence but i guess his mom won't let him and his wife be. I cant imagen how hard is gonna be for him when he has children and his children have to deal with a grandma like that.
6:36 🙄WOO 😱WOO😮 ITS 😘 THE😞 SOUND📢OF 😅THE🤩POLICE 🚔‼️
😨WOO😅WOO ☹️ ITS 😳 THE 📢 SOUND 😓 OF😝 THE 👹 **BEAST**‼️
Song’s a bop
@@marioluigi3122really
some kids don’t deserve parents ❌
some parents don’t deserve kids ✅
Soon enough it'll be "all parents don't deserve kids" if this shit continues
those poor boys, not only are the daughters damaged but so are the sons, everything is messed up
I know I feel bad for all of them now and for their future
I really dont know why mother's like this exist especially if they have daughters like imagine how the daughter feels because she's neglected?
For a while, the daughter will try to win mom's approval through extravagant gifts and superb performances before being disappointed by how mom repeatedly dismisses her attempts in favor of her brother's halfhearted attempts. Will possibly blame her brother for "you are the reason why mom hates me". Though keep it up long enough, daughter will move out and cut contact with her family the moment she gets a taste of freedom
3:44 bold of her to assume she was getting invited to their weddings cuz i was one of the girls i would not invite her
This reminds me of the novel, “The Thorn Birds.” The mother “fee” had 5-6 children. She only had one daughter, “Meggie.” You get her perspective on how she prefers boys because they live on a farm and can help the family business. She treats her daughter poorly through most of the novel and when confronted with this by the priest “Ralph”, she says, “a daughter is a good for nothing. All they are is a reminder of youth you once had and no longer have anymore.” Throughout the book Meggie sees the favoritism her mother has for her siblings and it affects her young life to make many wrong decisions. I will say, Fee gets better later on but because her mother constantly ignored her daughter and treated the boys better, It affected Meggie for years which caused her to make terrible decisions. (The novel is such a good read) what I’m getting at is this, openly showing favoritism to one or more child in front of the none favored one will affect them.
This is triggering horrible memories with my mother in law. She hated how in love with me my husband is and even told me "I wanted him with brittany" (his first gf who would kiss her ass constantly and who my husband wasn't that interested in). We lived with her for 2 years and it was HELL! She did everything she could to make me leave him. While he was at work, she treated me like absolute shit then he would come home and she would talk to me in a baby voice and call me "emmy" like we were best friends. She would then talk bad about me in a group chat with her husband, my husband, and my brother in law. Saying, "She finally did the dishes, but I wanted to take a bath, so now there's no hot water," even though I always did the dishes. Or "maybe someone needs to teach Emmy how to mop better because there was still dog hair on the floor," but I can't stop the dogs from walking on the floor after I fuxking mop! She even screamed at me for 8 days because I CLOSED the lid to the salt shaker which meant I was directly disrespecting her because I was supposed to know to leave it open for her when she wanted to use it!?!?! Thank God she's out of our lives now, and my husband was able to see how narcissistic she is....
Oh my wordd....your mother in law has to understand that you are NOT her servant...if she wants one, she needs to hire one herself! Parents in law NEVER has a right to force their children in law to do ANYTHING for them, eventhough it is a good thing! You are there to be with your husband, NOT with his parents who you never even sign up for...
I think monster in law is a more fitting term at this point 💀
I feel most of these women need to be arrested, like don’t touch your son like that🤢🤢
Imagine for just one second a father acting this way about his daughter. I’m not talking about being really happy and enthusiastic to have a daughter and spend time with her. I’m talking about weirdly sexualising their relationship and becoming jealous of any man that enters their daughter’s life (and also being jealous of any time their sons spend with their wives). It would be weird af.
Omg this is what I commented too! If teachers saw a father post this about one of their female students on social media, they would report them!
Like that mom in the video exposing her butt crack dancing with her son like that should be in jail. If a father did this with the daughter, police will be call. Geez
right? people like to diminish the issue by diluting it in the comments from what I've seen. but just imagine that video where she grabbed her sons cheeks and was gonna kiss him, but with a man and his daughter..
7:21- WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!! That lady should be behind bars asap
Did anyone here watched American Horror Story Coven? Y'all remember Kyle Spencer? That guy played by Evan Peters who was absd by his own mother and unalived her? It's giving the same vibes. She also used to call him ''my sweet boy'' ''I am your love' etc
Why aren’t more people calling out their strange and disgusting incestuous behavior?
TikTok never seems to fail to instill me with the feelings of "WTF".
From Gen Alpha, to Stanley Cup, to this.
Im not a conspiracy theorist, but it's hard not to notice a link between the Chinese run app & all the toxicity its indoctrination the west with. If it doesn't give a person pause, it should
I'm so glad I never got into TikTok for that reason.
this kind of behavior has been a thing since way way way before tiktok sadly
gross that we gotta see so much of it because tiktok for some reason gives people the confidence to boldly post it tho I agree
@@triplesixcrow
Unfair treatment among children? Yes.
But publishing yourself doing the said thing? New trend, yikes.
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Tiktok was a mistake bro
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@@TheofficialEgg. ye
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Every social media platform was. It’s was meant to be an entertaining thing for people to go on from time to time, but it backfired so hard on us
Teenagers realizing they’re gonna have to compete with grown women for guys their age:
Thank god my boyfriend doesn’t have a ‘boy mom’ type of mother that boy loves me with all his heart 😭😭💕
Literally. I am 16 yo and i am already worried about how my future boyfriend's mom will be
Luckily my brothers future gf/bf won't have to deal with it 😭
Me rn 😭
I love how every boy mom is shitting on their son’s non-existing future wife which is heavily implying they assume their sons are straight😐
Because they more than likely will be? 😐
@AV-xm5ln that's not the point, the point is these toxic boy moms need to STOP
That's not even the problem, the problem is that they assume their son never wants to have his own life and will live with momma until hes old and gray.
@@AV-xm5ln don't you know? It's 2024. Everyone is gay until proven straight🙄
Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if some of these boys become gay as a result of their mothers. Maybe not all but a few might (especially when you take into account that some victims end up being hypersexual as they grow up as a way to cope. So if this happens AND the kid is a menace, he might SA other people. This might be reaching but you never know 😅)
watching that little girl get shoved to the ground and the fact that she didn't even cry just makes my heart burn.. this is so disgusting 😭
I love how heated you get! These mothers are damaging their girls AND those poor boys.
My mom does pick favorites, but the favorite is our cat so it's fine
watch out man that cats gonna grow up spoiled!
lol my 19 year old son would say the same thing but a dog 🤣🤣
11:36 Then that typically means you are not meant to be a parent because you got no redeeming qualities for it. A decent parent would never say these kind of words. You should love your kid/kids equally irrespective of their gender, that's what's called parenting.
7:15 why did the mom have to do that wtf 😭like isnt she married
SHE IS LITERALLY FILMING HER OWN CRIME 😭😭😭
I physically FLINCHED at every tiktok. How is this even normalized??? THESE ARE CHILDREN.
8:41 so I've seen where toddlers have smacked their mom's bum because that's what they see their dad do it and think that's how you say "I love you" or "you're pretty" to mom. At that age it makes sense if they do that on a one off because they're still learning social cues, boundaries and you know life but that also that needs to be nipped in the bud as quickly as possible. Having teen and pre-teen kids smack their mom's bum is disturbing on so many level 🤢
These women will be the worst mother in law's. They will be so toxic
The second mom, she only has two sons and two daughters one of them is transgender, but ever since the boy change into a girl, she’s been obsessing with her other son .
Edit: and the only reason the dad spends more time with the girls is because the mom is too busy spending time with the son
Wow, I've actually seen more dads do this because of the moms being a boy mom. Like they try to balance things out by favoring the girl to boast her low self esteem which her mom plummetted.
11:11 soooo she is not on only a toxic boy mom but also is a "not like other girls" type
SO TRUE
I’m flabbergasted that these “mothers” even THINK like this! I find it very creepy and disturbing cause this is predator behavior LIKE GROOMER LEVEL and the fact these GROWN WOMEN are mothers that are OPENLY POSTING these videos is just perpetuating this behavior and it’s terrifying!!!!
13:40 poor baby looked so confused, why'd her mom have to push her so hard😭😭
she even gets up like "🤷 what I do"
Fr though😭✋
It was so sad. I was so angry that I can’t just reach in through the screen and pick up that little gal myself, because she did not deserve that!
These moms acting like they dating theirs sons. It's a seriously creepy obsession that fucks with men's development. These are not going to be well rounded kids sadly. itd always gonna be a competition. She's horrible so is any mother jealous of a teenager. Or their sons gf. True love?!?! She's seriously neglectful to their daughters and obsessed with her boy in an unhealthy way. She needs to head to therapy. Likely so will her kids. I feel sorry for the girls in these families. They clearly are obsessed. And see their boys as a future spouse not their kid.
Can you imagine what it would be like if dads were posting about their daughters like this?
(I mean, they are, just not on TikTok... especially if those creepy "purity balls" and dads posting pictures aiming guns at their daughters' boyfriends are any indication)
Mommy issues eww
Ever wonder how some moms become like this? Was it neglectfulness on their up bringing? Fear of loneliness? Absent fathers? Internalized misogyny? It’s just all weird and I’m surprised no one is talking about it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 Too many potential reasons. Sometimes it is internalized misogyny due to not growing out of notlikeothergirls or pickme. Sometimes they were raised similarly. Sometimes it's because they feel their husbands aren't doing enough for them.
the way they pushed that girl to the ground.. oh my gosh :((
Hayley being dressed up as the mum killed me. That's the quietest I've heard her speak. And with all those key chains and like 2 keys she stole from her mom for the bit.
PS: Have you seen the video of the "boy mom" jumping into the arms of her son after a high school football win?! That was creepy! She had her leg wrapped around him like she was 16.
Many years ago I briefly worked with a lady who had 5 sons and was pregnant with her 6th son. She said she and her husband were going to keep having kids until they got a girl. I was shocked. It seemed cruel to me. The girl would be the favorite and the others were just going to be there because they really wanted a girl. I don’t know what happened to her.
I'm a mom of 3 boys and this shiz is so dang cringe. I just consigned for my okdest and girlfriend first apartment. My mom was one who smothered me and I promised that would never be me. I respect my boys and girlfriends because I won't be here forever and I don't want him alone and unhappy. Love you ❤ too funny😂
I raised my boys with serious disapline because I swore they wouldn't be that man! Now they are incredible men and kiddo!
You seem like a good mom! :)
8:50 there’s a big difference between “boy mom” and “moms who have sons”
Okay Im stopping at 9:11 to comment some thoughts
I was an only child for the first 8 years of my life. My parents tried years for me and that long for my baby brother because they technically cant have children.
My little brother definitely is the favorite. He is. But not because of his gender. Im sick, disabled and traumatized and was always opinionated and argumentative and my little brother is healthy and very shy in comparison to how I was at that age. At least up to recently. Comparing me 0-8 and him 0-8.
I fear I might even be more of a boy mom to my little brother than our actual mother. At least in regard to that he is literally the most important person in my life emotionally. Not in a weird way. Hes my baby brother and my parents were abusive and I dont have a partner. Ergo, hes my favorite.
When my brother (lets refer to him as b) was younger, he also had some tendencies to touch my butt and boobs a lot, which I was very uncomfortable with. He didnt mean it in a sexual way, he was a child, still. I explained to him over and over again that there is a boundary etc and as he got older that stopped.
What has survived is the ongoing war between us regarding slapping the other ones butt.
We dont do that in a sexual way, its literally just a way we annoy each other. There never was and never will be any undertone.
Similar to how my father pokes us in our ribs or in our sides and we then get back at him or rurn on each other. Idk how that has survived but somehow it did.
I have tought b a lot about setting his own physical boundaries aswell. When he sais he doesn't wanna give me a hug to say goodbye, thats fine. When he tells me with uncomfortable with something I do or call him, I dont dismiss it (Or at least try to, there have besn instances where he was younger and I didnt take it that seriously bc of the playful situation and he had to tell me several times, but I apologized and everyone makes mistakes), but give him a high five and thank him for communicating his boundaries. For example I used to do something where I poked his stomach during our goofy time idk what to call it, and he was like "hey Its fine when you touch my head or my back, but I dont like it when you touch my stomach" I handled it as described.
To the point where he came to me about something scetchy at school first before going to mom. We told her together after I asured him he was right to speak up even though he was embarrassed.
I think its beyond disturbing how some of those moms view their own children. And society isnt as mad about it as they should be, because "men cant be victims of abuse especially when the abuser is a woman"
What their doing is bad for everyone. The father, the daughters, the sons and the mom itself.
She will probably experience major emotional distress in the future that couldve been avoiding if she just went to therapy.
I know this is so late but you deserve some serious love 🫂❤️
10:35 SHE LITERALLY HAS PINK CLOTHES
I wonder what some of these boymoms would think if their son became gay?
"Thank God! No little tart will ever replace me in his heart!" And I guarantee she thinks gay love isn't "as real", so it doesn't count as losing him. (Please know I do not think any of these things.)
@@minirth.maggie that's probably what would happen
Unless they are conservative in which case they’ll see it as a betrayal on their son part because how dare their precious toy turn out to be one of them. Then it go downhill.
It makes me so sad to imagine how depressed and traumatised all these girls are gonna grow up to be. I genuinely can't get that poor little girl being knocked over out of my head.
I think it would be worse being the son. Growing up becoming a man. With a mom like these. I couldn't imagine if my mom acted like these mothers.
@@davidcook680 Let's be honest, chances are neither of them are going to end up well adjusted. Google what happens to golden children and scapegoats
@@davidcook680I think it would be worse for the daughter because she would grow up feeling neglected while the son gets all the love and everything they do is not wrong. I think it depends on what kind of guy they are if they abuse the fact they can do whatever they want without getting in real trouble or if when they grow up they have no idea why their sister despises them. Either way I think it’ll still be harder for the daughter than the son.
Only words I have to describe those “boy-moms” is sick and disgusting. It’s genuinely creepy…
This is sadly common and normal in Asia :/ totally due to patriarchal systems that favour men!!! My mum is well aware that her mum prefers the sons and treats them much better than daughters, it’s still hurts her to this day. Also it breeds boys who go on to date and marry women, but their partner will always be second to their mother. Down with the patriarchy!!!
hi Haylo Hayley, I’m an autistic person, and I would love it if you made a video discussing “autism moms” AND the amount of ableism we face and how it could cause us permanent negative effects. If you don’t know what autism moms are, they are moms who exploit their children w/ autism for clout. They also act like they are a professional doctor and that is they know everything abt their child’s autism, even though they don’t bat an eye to help their children.
I’m also a big fan of you, you spread good awareness to these topics
Some of these moms are coming off as more than just "loving"
Definitely emotional incest
@ville__ Ok, I won't. 🗿
I would not be surprised if some TikTok Boy-Mom gets arrested for abusing her son in the name of “sex ed” 😵🤢
@ville__Damn, did we go back in time to 2008 RUclips?
@ville__ cry me a river
As a girl who has three brothers
I have no idea why moms think that there “ superior” then everyone heck my mom was sick of having boys until I came and yes she loves all of us she doesn’t play favorites, and I’m glad cause I couldn’t imagine have a mom like that for anyone that does have a mom like that I hope you are doing ok
...Dude this is literally reminding me of that one passage from Lolita about Humbert imagining going on to abuse his female grandchild. Also ppl NEED to talk about girl dads, bc it is WAY more common than ppl think. Speaking from experience, I love my dad but I've always noticed little weird things about him, and it's uncomfortable.
Hey, at least HH was on the hunt for little girls and thats why he became a stepfather. These women carried those babies on them and still think about them that way 😭😭😭
I took a parenting class last year in high school just for fun. We did a project were you took a robot baby home for the weekend. a TON of the freshman/sophmore girls were actually so bummed out when they found out they would be taking a girl robot baby home instead of a boy one. It disgusted me out so bad when some girl said this out loud: "I don't ever want to have a girl baby because I don't want to deal with there attitude and drama".. like if boys weren't as dramatic and had attitudes..
11:20 i go to the monster jam and im a girl💀
They give off huge predator vibes when talking about their sons. I cant think of anyone who would talk about a kid the way they do who isn't a pedo.
My mean parents had 4 girls in a row. We all knew dad wanted a son and would have been named after him. So we all dodged the Larry bullet. But at 13 they had number 5 girl. Years later mom was bitterly angry and said she always wanted a boy bc "Boys love their mothers but girls hate their mothers and leave!" It had nothing to do with none of us raised as the little prince would have been? No? 🙄
I am so sorry your parents were mean, mine weren’t the greatest either. But “dodging the Larry bullet” is just so funny lol great wording 😂
Also just realized, we are similar in that my youngest sister was also born when I (oldest of 5) was 13!
Lol it's ok. In the 80s, the smarmy used car salesman friend on Three's Company was Larry. My own dad is now having DNA kids come out of the woodwork lately, too. All girls. It isn't the kind of name honest characters get, so yeah, please laugh with relief for us. 😂 Were your parents trying for a boy?
I have 4 girls.. always wondered what having a boy would be like.. but I bet he'd be just as much of a grubby, crazy, never ending eater and sweetie as all my girls 😂 I've had friends make comments about being a boy mum and how much "harder/crazier" it is, and I laugh in their faces. Also, my mum started sh*t with my brothers gf when he was like 17, to the point that the girl broke up with him.. so, pretty sure she was one of "those" boy mum's.
My mom had me(girl) and my brother. Thank goodness she was normal(because her mother was a boy mom but not severe one) she thought taking care of my brother because he's the eldest was crazy enough. But unfortunately I had ADHD and asperger combined and was just a wild ball of energy. She said that her daughter is the real reason that she stayed in shape during her 20s. Thou my brother was more calm and collected. Later in the years she showed by her actions that she loves us all equally and fair....and by fair I mean she'd also flip out on us equally if we messed up 😂
You are my new favorite! You really tell it like it is and no BS! I always knew my brother was the favorite from day one. Nobody wins in this situation. 😥😥😥😥
BRO.. I DONT EVEN- KNOW WHAT TO SAY 8:05
Minus the tik tok part of the title, I have one of these boy moms as a mother in law. My husband and I are working through ending the emotional incest. I literally have to use my womanly wiles to win my husband away from his mom. I should not have to compete with my mother in law for my husband's attention. It is sad that my husband doesn't wear the pants of the family, his mom does.
I genuinely love how Hayley can go from being so mad while talking about a topic like this and when she gets the outro she’s so happy and cheerful
"All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids"
oh my god 😭 i feel terrible for the daughters of these women and i also feel bad for the sons because their mothers are obsessed with them.
Hayley really went through every “disgusted” emotion in this video
11:00
There’s plenty of boy moms who will gladly support their SONS at the nutcracker 🤨
These parents took frued too seriously
12:36 What I hate the most is the " oh look at me how quirky of a BOY MOM am I" attitude, it annoys me so freaking much!