The Difference Between Male & Female Friendships
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- Опубликовано: 29 мар 2023
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I've maintained friendships with women while only talking once or twice a year but each time we do talk it is a long and deep conversation. My boyfriend didn't talk to his best friend for 2 years then they talked because one of them needed some support and it was like no time had passed. So I think I can confirm this is true!
Male friendships are beautiful...i think we guys should appreciate it more.
I have situational friendships like y'all too (most of my friendships actually)
I think it's more nuanced than he put it. I talk with my friends and we discuss the wives driving us crazy, the deals we're chasing, how broke we are, health, what's going on in the world, kids' issues. Sometimes we may not see each other for up to a year or more but we keep in touch.
I think youre not really understanding what hes talking about. He isnt saying that men dont talk to each other, hes saying it isnt necessary for maintaining a friendship the way that it is with women.
I know many men who are annoyed they can’t get real conversation going with other men. Especially the philosopher types.
I know this is just supposed to be broad strokes, but reminded me of those men
I also know many women whose common interest is conversational but also action based. Educators or social workers for example.
Very much agree with you. I myself crave deep conversations, but have learned that they are not readily available. So in response to this reality I've come to adjust to being more like the men depicted in this video when I can and feels appropriate. . . But I will immediately jump at the chance of engaging in a deep conversation when the opportunity presents itself. Trying hard then to foster and cultivate that new found acquaintanceship. . . It's not too easy.
I agree with you fully
Women are difficult to talk to unless they have the time to spare. Some women are just daft and must be avoided!
My thing is that I can talk about a single topic for days on end. But most people can only keep there interest in the conversation. For like 5 to 20 mins and then they get bored of it.
Other times I can sit there for hours not saying a single thing.
I was once in a friend gruppe with 3 boys and 1 girl. We meet op every Friday to hang out, drink and play Games. It was super fun but one day the girl left explain that she felt we didnt really care about her and it was getting to here. So she left, but the rest of us still meet and do dum shit and have fun. I think my story is a perfect example of this difference between male and female relations
I think she felt as of the relationship wasn't about her, oppose it being about the group
It's funny I have guy friends where we don't talk much but are there when necessary but I also have guy friends that demand we spend time and talk. Same goes for the girls in my life. I'm not super sensitive so I'd rather just go do something and focus on the activity unless someone needs attention which I don't mind but I definitely don't want to talk constantly about emotions I like to solve problems and fix stuff or learn 😂 but I know to keep relationships I have to invest time into them but idk my friend group isn't like this tbh
My guys still shoot the shit but most of the time when we’re together we don’t need to speak it’s almost as if we can read each other’s minds. Makes cards so much more fun. After I’m done grinding I’ll definitely see them again
This could sum up xbox live days 70% of the time is dead silent lol
Women chat, men do
Love your content
i find freinding women so much harder. okay im 13 but men freindships are much stronger. like when im with my pals i feel safe and supported in my opions but with girls i cant be myself. i alwats try to fit in with girls. males are based on respect and guys most of thr time get along while with girls it is all about looks how you dress, it is so much more fragile then male freindships. in grade 3, I played with my pals games like cops and robbers, fbi, hot patato, marco polo, tag, soccer, football. no matter what if another guy was hurt or had a idea he was cared and listened to. while with girls we played one game called horses. no jokes no care and only the populer girls were listened to.
Loved this clip! 👍
I miss having friends, unfortunately, for me, my female friends became so competitive, always trying to out do u, that it becomes easier to let the friendship go.. i would love to have more female friends if only it was based on mutual support and try to push each other forward and not letting ur insecurities get the better of u..
Me and my best girlfriend have been friends since kindergarten; even after she went away to college and med school, when she came home we'd act like she was gone for maybe a week instead of months on months. When she moved out of state 5+ hours away, haven't seen her in person for about 2 years at least, and we talk via a once in a blue moon FaceTime and occasional meme exchanges over text, after all that time apart we still call each other sisters from other misters...but no that's just guy friendships. Got it 👌
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.
I have to object!
Women displaying emotions doesn't tell us about empathy or emotional intuition
Men do bond well AND good male friends will see when another in the group is emotionally wounded and lay off the talking a bit but take him to DO something that helps him process
When you say too much, everything starts to count or hit with less impact.
Men are plenty emotional. What you see is NOT what you get.
@@etherspin Women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.
Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons.
The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
@@etherspin Girls and women are better than boys and men at interpreting and sending nonverbal social messages, including skill at reading emotional states conveyed in facial expressions, gesture, and body language and in generating nuance in the social use of these forms of communication. The sex difference for each individual skill (e.g., identifying the emotion associated with a facial expression) is small to moderate.
However, when all nonverbal cues are present, which is a more accurate assessment of these skills in the real world, about 17 out of 20 girls and women are more accurate at decoding the social cues of other people than is the average same-age boy or man.
These advantages are especially large in girls’ and women’s communications with each other, that is, they read other women better than they read men.
That's strange I'm a woman and I don't feel that about girls
Women are wonder effect
I find that it is easy to maintain a very casual friendship with women i have already slept with or dated
I'm sorry but this is not true. What is this based on? Where's the study? From personal experience the men in my life talk more then women. For example my dad can out talk anyone while my mother is the quietest person and rarely talks to her best friend. I also like to be alone a lot and my boyfriend is the one that can talk for hours.
It would be interesting to see their Myers Brigg Types
There have been studies at least into word count and there is a small but significant difference with women clocking into higher words per day and conversation stimulates Oxytocin release for women , less so for men, men using up some necessary neurological resources and needing to wind down more frequently
*sips coffee*
The problem though is if men don’t bond the same way that women do and vice-versa then how do you have male/female friendships then? How do you even have marriages at all as well?
If they found the bond, i dont see any problem.
*Meanwhile, girl math is going on* *vacation with 8 friends and coming* *back with only *3 friends*
How about friendships between women and men then?
@@luxurybuzz3681 that movie made me so sad when I was younger. I think my take away at the time was that men were not interested in getting to know women as *people*. If they couldn’t sleep with us, they didn’t want to get to know is at all. Even if we had similar interests or personalities. It made me think 50% of the population didn’t see me as fully human.
As men age , they look like Sean Connery.
As women age , they too look like Sean Connery. 🙏🙏🙏
Wisest comment here. And I know why you went there with the age thing
How tf is this attitude suppose to make young women less vain and insecure.
I need to get better at staying in contact but that how I feel towards all my friends.
This sounds like a prime example of toxic masculinity. 0%, really? This feels super antiquated. Men, fit in this box and don’t connect on a deeper level. Ok. Why no push back from a guy whose literal job is to talk to people.
That's why male friendships aren't that deep.
This one is total BS, conversation in young men in Europe is a huge part of culture and past time especially during 80’s 90’s regardless of gender. It used to be difficult getting a word in … Woman like to gossip a lot more and men talk theories facts etc. But like they say “you live and learn”, getting older and some of us do get wiser and realise that all our lives especially in our early youth we spend blabbing pointlessly as we are merely new souls trying to seek attention for example then in our late teen to 30’s we do or we think that we understand everything on a conscious level so by that time we talk only when and by the time we are 80 like those old Greek men (their nationality has absolutely nothing to do with it🫤 lol) we realise all our lives we have been loud mouths and that silence is golden and perhaps that at that age purely that talk is cheap…
Meh, it’s not true, men just cannot express themselves with other men, so silence becomes the only mutual understanding of desperation
Really don't agree. men say truly affirming things with low frequency and directly describe emotions infrequently but on the flipside women can display these too easily or with extra emphasis to people they aren't super close to so it counts for less and is part of just nods to each other via lots and lots of chatting.
When men DO reveal emotions or properly affirm each other outside of humour.. it's very memorable
@@etherspin bro, compare male suicide rates to female… there is your answer
Ive came to the conclusion that most men friendship are very surface base, they dont know each other, but either connected through activities, some kind of team mission, hobbies and work, other than that men don't really have a friendship
I am from 1967....In those earlier days 0,04 of the population had 'trans' problems...we've always found them quite heroic havibg such a severe problem and we tried to understand their problem....we felt good for them if their medical treatment felt like help for them .. those people nèver wanted to be in the spotlight...just wanted to live like a 'normal woman' ...never so sexualized........what happens these days is an abhorrent horrorshow !!! 😅😂😢
Feminists will get their panties in a bunch over this lol
This has been known for a long time. It's not controversial. I first learned about this from reading an essay in college written by a woman. But nowadays you never know.
Why should they? And why should men disparage women for being different?
Men stereotyping men.
Yeah, but is it not true? Dudes can sit around and not speak, it's not awkward.
This has been common knowledge for people who read for a long time. I think it was first theorized by a female author actually
@@12xenn45you are the one not chilling though. The guy had every right to express his opinion & you are acting up on it lol …
@@thisGuy481 you’re imagining introverted men and extroverted women.
Extroverted men talk a lot. Introverted women also sit around and dont speak.
@@ivye1826 yep the guy from the video talks a lot :))
Equality is horrible. We MUST maintain our differences to stay sane. No wonder everybody is crazy these days. We are forcefully mixing men with women. Adding women into STEM workplace, into politics. We are NOT EQUAL. We are DIFFERENT
@@12xenn45 women don’t “want” to do hard labor-intensive effort-intensive work. They prefer to do light jobs like nursing and teaching (those are important no doubt). They don’t want STEM field/Politics. The only reason they do is because Hillary Clinton/Kamala Harris promote this stuff constantly, creating an illusion that this stuff is fun and easy. It is presented to little girls as a GAME. Being doctor is fun - you get to wear sexy doctor scrubs with a cool name tag. They skip the part where you have to study day and night for 10 YEARS!
uuh this is a bit extreme... guys do talk to catch up what is going on
He never said that guys “don’t talk”. He simply pointed out that women are like birds they need to chirp non-stop to maintain bonding. Men can talk all the want, but men also can say very little and still be friends for life