I love the first vid, reminds me of how people will downplay autism because ''you look perfectly fine and function perfectly fine around me''. Nah trust me, I am suffering and want to go home.
6:25 ADHD is not JUST a dopamine deficiency. It is a neurotype, much like autism, a fundamentally different type of brain. The differences CAUSE problems with dopamine regulation, yes, but it's not just a chemical imbalance. Adjusting the chemicals doesn't make the ADHD go away it just kind of directs it.
I really appreciate the ones where it's people with Autism, ADHD or another type of neurodivergency that's basically telling/explaining the best ways to interact with them/what to do around them. I'm afraid I'm a bit unsure on how to do that in the best way possible, while not making the person feel embarrassed or something, but still maintaining the conversation. Please, keep those ones in here!
@@ems7623 no yeah for sure, didn't mean to judge harshly, there was just an off energy to the video and the way she talked about her kid! Definitely not saying she's a bad mom, and I can see she means well!
I generally find the videos filming their autistic loved ones while they're behind the cameras invasive. I guess it objectifies us somehow? just a thought
I think many people place someone with autism's identity as autistic rather than the whole person and that's the vibe I got from the video. Her son is much more than that and I hope she realizes that. There has to be a balance between society working with ND's and ND people learning to work in society as well.
4:43 sometimes when one of my friends is being too loud (either for the area or for my ears) i make sure to laugh and smile while saying something like "hey hey! you're a little too loud, tone it down a few notches and continue, though, i'm interested! :)" or like "i want to hear what you have to say but i need you to be a little quieter, i'm a little overstimulated right now." it always works to allow my friends to continue what they were saying with little to no bad emotions. I'm guilty of being way too loud when excited. My friend laughs and smiles and shushes me then signals for me to continue. I go OOPS! feel embarrassed for a few seconds, then move on.
I like this idea. You try to do it in a way that brings them in without totally canceling them out. When I was in college, and out to eat with my friend somewhere, he just simply put his hand up in the air (flat and in a non threatening way) then lowered it to let me know I was too loud. No hard feelings - rather, I wanted to know.
@@-Ray_Moon- try outright communicating that to your friends/family/coworkers. tell them directly that you would like to be talked to in a nice way to calm down and lower your volume instead of shutting down your good energy and making you feel bad.
The short tool video really got to me. I love routine, but I often forget parts and it makes it even harder to hold other things together. Like watching a show while doing laundry, listening to classical music to clean. I'll fall off and forget about the things I've set in place to help me complete tasks.
I am a "there needs to be a party of flavor" autistic. I especially like acid in my foods, tomato (just no chunks), lemon and lime mainly. Need strong, but not muddled flavors and very specific mouth feels.
huh, the last one was interesting, i personally am used to being the one told to "get to the point" so i like it when other people get excited about their interests/advice/life stuff and ramble on and on like i do
6:40 What an excellent explanation. This is one of my me and my wife's biggest communication hurdles. I do want hear about her day and her ideas but she is the most unconcise story teller I've ever met. She cares not that I'm being drained to death by thought mosquitos.
1000%!!! I'm not a "here's a trigger warning" kind of guy, but when startled or with unexpected loud noises I get extremely angry and this definitely did that to me. I about chucked my phone across the room or tried to test it in half 😂. I usually laugh after but COT DAMN that one got me.
Edit: Below is when I am unmasking, I've learned to be short and to the point with everyone else, b/c everyone else in my life is like that guy. NGL I don't know if I would be able to have a conversation with that (red shirt) guy when unmasked, (on private time) between the feeling of being rushed and needing to "get to the point" right away. Just admitting that my neurodivergency (unsure if this is an ASD thing) involves deep diving conversations about whatever interests people (hopefully including my interest but I also get excited about hearing other people's interests).
For me it's not really about interrupting. It's that I get a thought or idea in my mind and all I want to do is just say it out loud or I'm afraid I'll loose context. Let's say we're talking about cars and I have a funny story about cars I've heard somewhere. If we progress and stop talking about cars then I can't say anything about it. I'm an infinite library of knowledge. I store information in giant document folder to pull out and impress people at the right time. And not getting that information out frustrates me. Because of that I recently almost had a meltdown (I have adhd and Aspergers/asd). My brother kept talking to my dad and I had no way to say anything. And I felt alone, like nobody cared about me and I was about to cry because of this. Because I wasn't at home, I came to visit my dad and my dad and my brother were just constantly having their time together while I was the forgotten silent child walking behind them. Now that my brother's gone, I can finally have a conversation with dad without him talking about how hard his job is and how he now works so he's more mature than he used to be.
Sometimes I have this Dancing feeling neirorypical doesen't really exist, like they just managd to fake their ways better to the top or got manners smacked in with physical punishment.
I’m not diagnosed with anything and I’m not going to say I have something until I am diagnosed, so-I’ve grown a hatred for self diagnosers, I’m sadly around a lot so I’m not gonna add to it-But, I have a hunch that I have something, not gonna guess exactly what it is cause thats too far but a lot of the things these people talk about I can relate to-might just me being weird tho.
I don't know where you are, but in the states it is truly difficult to get a diagnosis of any kind, especially after 18, and especially with no $$. And factor in cultural and gender ID issues (YES, there's privilege...) I don't tell people anymore of any Dx except for the actual one I got as a kid, but only because of people like you - you can't seek an official DX if you don't think somethings wrong, amiright?
@@reginaevaslin8053 Exactly, having a hatred for self diagnosers isn't a good thing. It's similar to telling someone "idk maybe you're just exaggerating" when they tell you they broke their leg.
The guy was talking about cheeseburgers why is it written about the light touching I don't like touching I don't think that you should be saying stuff about like touching underneath which is really disgusting if you're talking about cheeseburgers what are you doing
I love the first vid, reminds me of how people will downplay autism because ''you look perfectly fine and function perfectly fine around me''. Nah trust me, I am suffering and want to go home.
6:25
ADHD is not JUST a dopamine deficiency. It is a neurotype, much like autism, a fundamentally different type of brain. The differences CAUSE problems with dopamine regulation, yes, but it's not just a chemical imbalance. Adjusting the chemicals doesn't make the ADHD go away it just kind of directs it.
I really appreciate the ones where it's people with Autism, ADHD or another type of neurodivergency that's basically telling/explaining the best ways to interact with them/what to do around them. I'm afraid I'm a bit unsure on how to do that in the best way possible, while not making the person feel embarrassed or something, but still maintaining the conversation. Please, keep those ones in here!
the first video is giving strange vibes, right? Like the energy is “omg my kid is so quirky and I’m such a hero wow what a difficult child” to me
She obviously means well. I don't see the need to judge her so harshly.
@@ems7623 no yeah for sure, didn't mean to judge harshly, there was just an off energy to the video and the way she talked about her kid! Definitely not saying she's a bad mom, and I can see she means well!
I generally find the videos filming their autistic loved ones while they're behind the cameras invasive. I guess it objectifies us somehow? just a thought
I think many people place someone with autism's identity as autistic rather than the whole person and that's the vibe I got from the video. Her son is much more than that and I hope she realizes that. There has to be a balance between society working with ND's and ND people learning to work in society as well.
4:43
sometimes when one of my friends is being too loud (either for the area or for my ears) i make sure to laugh and smile while saying something like "hey hey! you're a little too loud, tone it down a few notches and continue, though, i'm interested! :)" or like "i want to hear what you have to say but i need you to be a little quieter, i'm a little overstimulated right now." it always works to allow my friends to continue what they were saying with little to no bad emotions. I'm guilty of being way too loud when excited. My friend laughs and smiles and shushes me then signals for me to continue. I go OOPS! feel embarrassed for a few seconds, then move on.
I like this idea. You try to do it in a way that brings them in without totally canceling them out.
When I was in college, and out to eat with my friend somewhere, he just simply put his hand up in the air (flat and in a non threatening way) then lowered it to let me know I was too loud. No hard feelings - rather, I wanted to know.
I get SO guilty because I have no volume control. It’s not fun and I WISH people would do this for me!!!
@@-Ray_Moon- try outright communicating that to your friends/family/coworkers. tell them directly that you would like to be talked to in a nice way to calm down and lower your volume instead of shutting down your good energy and making you feel bad.
@@Star_Rattler thank you I will definitely try :)
The short tool video really got to me. I love routine, but I often forget parts and it makes it even harder to hold other things together. Like watching a show while doing laundry, listening to classical music to clean. I'll fall off and forget about the things I've set in place to help me complete tasks.
I am a "there needs to be a party of flavor" autistic.
I especially like acid in my foods, tomato (just no chunks), lemon and lime mainly.
Need strong, but not muddled flavors and very specific mouth feels.
huh, the last one was interesting, i personally am used to being the one told to "get to the point" so i like it when other people get excited about their interests/advice/life stuff and ramble on and on like i do
6:40
What an excellent explanation. This is one of my me and my wife's biggest communication hurdles. I do want hear about her day and her ideas but she is the most unconcise story teller I've ever met. She cares not that I'm being drained to death by thought mosquitos.
6:39 this sound alone is a crime
1000%!!!
I'm not a "here's a trigger warning" kind of guy, but when startled or with unexpected loud noises I get extremely angry and this definitely did that to me. I about chucked my phone across the room or tried to test it in half 😂. I usually laugh after but COT DAMN that one got me.
agreed
Edit: Below is when I am unmasking, I've learned to be short and to the point with everyone else, b/c everyone else in my life is like that guy.
NGL I don't know if I would be able to have a conversation with that (red shirt) guy when unmasked, (on private time) between the feeling of being rushed and needing to "get to the point" right away. Just admitting that my neurodivergency (unsure if this is an ASD thing) involves deep diving conversations about whatever interests people (hopefully including my interest but I also get excited about hearing other people's interests).
3:27 Grian from Hermitcraft be like XD
Explained my life...i wish I was diagnosed when I was a kid n could get the proper treatment
For me it's not really about interrupting. It's that I get a thought or idea in my mind and all I want to do is just say it out loud or I'm afraid I'll loose context. Let's say we're talking about cars and I have a funny story about cars I've heard somewhere. If we progress and stop talking about cars then I can't say anything about it. I'm an infinite library of knowledge. I store information in giant document folder to pull out and impress people at the right time. And not getting that information out frustrates me. Because of that I recently almost had a meltdown (I have adhd and Aspergers/asd). My brother kept talking to my dad and I had no way to say anything. And I felt alone, like nobody cared about me and I was about to cry because of this. Because I wasn't at home, I came to visit my dad and my dad and my brother were just constantly having their time together while I was the forgotten silent child walking behind them. Now that my brother's gone, I can finally have a conversation with dad without him talking about how hard his job is and how he now works so he's more mature than he used to be.
Always very relatable.
6:36 mm.... Ow, my ears
0:58 now I understand why my friend acts like this
The too much flavor is so me!
Can I please get the link for this tiktok? 4:41 thanks!
3:55 what is that they are talking about? I can't quite tell what it is
Sometimes I have this Dancing feeling neirorypical doesen't really exist, like they just managd to fake their ways better to the top or got manners smacked in with physical punishment.
I’m not diagnosed with anything and I’m not going to say I have something until I am diagnosed, so-I’ve grown a hatred for self diagnosers, I’m sadly around a lot so I’m not gonna add to it-But, I have a hunch that I have something, not gonna guess exactly what it is cause thats too far but a lot of the things these people talk about I can relate to-might just me being weird tho.
I don't know where you are, but in the states it is truly difficult to get a diagnosis of any kind, especially after 18, and especially with no $$. And factor in cultural and gender ID issues (YES, there's privilege...)
I don't tell people anymore of any Dx except for the actual one I got as a kid, but only because of people like you - you can't seek an official DX if you don't think somethings wrong, amiright?
@@reginaevaslin8053 Exactly, having a hatred for self diagnosers isn't a good thing. It's similar to telling someone "idk maybe you're just exaggerating" when they tell you they broke their leg.
The guy was talking about cheeseburgers why is it written about the light touching I don't like touching I don't think that you should be saying stuff about like touching underneath which is really disgusting if you're talking about cheeseburgers what are you doing