I remember when we were still trusting God for the fruit of the womb. I came to church one Sunday,sweetly dressed and a Dcn’s wife walked up to me,called my name and said ,a quick work will the Lord do,I replied her,He will cut it short in righteousness ,and I walked away frowning. Most times,keep your thoughts to yourself,people are going through a lot,don’t add to their pain. Thank you Erinma for this amazing video.
Thanks for talking about this . Like put on small weight or feel a bit under the weather and boom, “ it’s like you’re pregnant ohh “. These gestures actually can put someone under pressure because when multiple people start asking it’s like you’re missing a milestone that should be happening. Please let’s be a bit more sensitive.
That was how my aunty asked me last year, “what am I doing about me being unmarried?” When she asked,I was pissed but I tried not to be disrespectful with my response to her. I just told her, if I have seen husband Shey I will not marry?. I tried to make the conversation as nice as possible. And she end it with I’m praying for you. It was after she left,I started processing everything, I became so angry. I was so angry and disturbed that I started doubting and questioning everything about myself. The thing pained me so much,I cried. I started avoiding her after that day cause I dont want wahala. I don’t know if these people don’t know that we are aware that we don’t have these things(marriage,children) yet. We are very much aware of it. They don’t need to remind us about it. Don’t come and add salt to my injury with your intrusive self. It is well o God will help us all. Abba Father, please visit me and everyone in this comment section believing you for one thing or another.please God by Your mercy,come through for us and give us our answers and evidence in JESUS CHRIST NAME AMEN. Thank You Jesus.
Thank you so much Erinma for this video. I agree with you, people need to do better and stop being intrusive especially when they don’t have a close relationship with the person. I’ve had people who aren’t in anyway close ask me, “Is there a man in the picture? When are you getting married?” For the most part, I just smile and change the topic or walk away because if I say what’s on my mind 🤭😂
This conversation is a must. We must Learn boundries as people. Pray without asking me you will celebrate with me when you see the fruits of your prayer.
I can absolutely relate to this and its annoying. My husband and I are not ready for kids yet but the intrusiveness of people who continue to insinuate all sorts irks us, I remember telling one woman that was disturbing me that we're not ready and she said how can you not be ready? 😂
As in very annoying thing honestly, are you the one that will carry the baby for me or are you one that will raise the child or the up keep for me? At times I don’t understand the kind thinking some of them do have.
This is epic. Erinma thank you for this conservation. Just because you’re close to someone doesn’t give you the leverage to ask them some certain questions. Privacy should be respected.
It's very embarrassing. I stayed four years before I had my son. I can relate. I couldn't go to some places for my mental health. Some people can be insensitive
Oh my… it breaks my heart to read these very hurtful experiences. How can people decide to make someone’s waiting season miserable? I am so sorry you had to go through this 🙏🫂
This particular topic needs alot of attention!!!. I don’t think we speak about it well enough. Very recently I was at a civil service office for a work related stuff and a total stranger, a man i totally didn’t know (but worked at the office)says to me Miss or Mrs? and I say Miss. And he goes on to ask why I am unmarried, and inquires about what I was waiting for? and other related questions . I spent the entire day processing that conversation and honestly I was so hurt. But just as I pondered on it a little longer I realized that he was just completely insensitive and how I need not let his words bother me. As you rightly said,do people think they want better for you than you want for yourself…God’s best will happen to us all at God’s time and until then we are not to let others pressure us.
I really agree with you dear. However many are innocently doing it. Since we don't know the mental space of those involved, we better mind our business.
I think a lot of people need to watch this video and learn about people's feelings. I just watched a video with Akinyi from Akinyi and Benjamin and it was so sad to see the tears and the comments that rude, mean people was saying about her not being pregnant. I like the way how you send the message across. You just get a new subbie.
It’s even surprising that people who truly matter and are important to you,who has right to ask such questions,will never ask. It’s always those who are not really close, that will always poke nose.
I love this video and all the sincerity in it. As an African myself, I believe these kind of topics should be spoken off most often as well as others. Much love for shedding light and educating our society overall.
My dear this is Africa oooo right after you get married the next thing they want to see is bella 😂 not knowing some of us we plan before we execute.Enjoy your marriage and your husband well well.Love from Ghana ❤
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, although not all "intrusive" people mean bad, some just lack the sensitivity approach. However so sorry, for that -ve encounters. ❤❤❤
I agree with you Erinma.... people should learn how to mind their business . Period. Personally,I think it's rude, especially when you are not my parents, pastor or siblings.
Yes I’ve read that book and I enjoyed every bit of it. I’m newly married as well and in as much most persons aren’t saying it outrightly, they drop some hints and all and I’m like ahhh😩.
Hmmmm May God help us sha May we know when we're crossing the line because this issue is a sensitive one😊 I pray we do better in regards to asking about pregnancy n marriage 🎉best wishes sis😊
I remember when my stepmother,told me by this time you should have had children, just because am not married,and don't have a job and living in her home,it was painful even today when I recall i cry
Omo eeeh!You have said it all. People should truly learn to mind their business,in as much as you might be friends with them. God bless you dearly for voicing out. Love you plenty!
If those 'i too care kind of people' truly care, let them do it secretly on their knees, when the result will show, it's never hidden. At least they will know God has answered their prayers. Most people truly should learn how not to be too intrusive. Some level can be very annoying. I can relate Erinma
I can absolutely relate, got pregnant immediately I got married n our son just turned 6, the way ppl are after my neck to give my son siblings is crazy n annoying as if my son means nothing. it’s been 6 years of pressure from family n friends. Some will go as far as pulling my son aside n tell him to ask his mom for siblings. Do u Knw how sad it is when my son would walk up to me n ask me? I’m sick n tired.
Very annoying questions, people should just learn to mind their business and be more sensitive. I like the way Pst Mildred Okonkwo puts it. She always says if they ask you when they are coming to eat rice, politely tell them when they cook it.
That kind of question is so annoying and I take it personal…, I will be blunt with you Cos I never ask people that kind of a question.Not even like I’m even trying for a baby now.people should learn to mind their business
What!!! I am angry on your behalf for not twisting the woman's hand. How dare she? Some people needs proper orientation. That's how one of my colleagues touched another colleague's tummy (she is pregnant). Ahhh! I was so furious 😡. You need to see my reaction.
Mine wasn't about me getting pregnant. My closest friend in church got married in November and a particular woman came up to me asking about my friend thinking I was her because we look alike and then after she realises I'm not the recent bride, she goes on to say, my dear don't worry ehn. God would do it for you.
People kinda like to nose around and don't understand when to stop the rude questioning. It is mostly even in the church settings, like pleasssse give people a break. Someone legit asked me when I am getting married, I wanted to skit around the question with a laugh but I didn't want to seem rude because he was a leader in church. Phew! My sister who was with me almost slapped him. Ask me how my business and career is growing and let us have a great conversation!
The human side of me always wants to slap somebody but Holy Spirit will tell me to smile and be quiet. The information they're asking for can't even benefit them and the advice is usually based on their plans for your life. It still happened to me today and in my head I'm wondering 'Who told you that's what I want?' Lord have mercy!
I Saw this notification nd was like, what the heck??????.... It's the Audacity for me o, why do people thinks getting married Automatically means baby has to happen that moment... Being a mother is another phase of life aside from being a wife, one needs to be readily ready for that journey... So y'all give a breathing space nd let her do her thing according to her nd her God's pace... Hun possibly try nd ignore such comments.
I was thinking if I don’t tell people such then they shouldn’t say such to me but guess what? Some People don’t think that way😂😂😂, they don’t see it as being rude 😩. You’d see such so well on RUclips’s comment sections. I don’t know if there’s a competition for being the first to notice a change in a female RUclipsr and I’m like ah ah, we all watch her and obviously we can easily detect a change but pointing it when she’s yet to say anything. She might have just put on weight and you don’t even know what she’s going through behind closed doors. I hope people would see this video.
🥰🥰when I got married newly years back, I went through a lot, when are you having kids' questions... I wasn't pressured at all. very rude people🙄🙄 one woman will be shouting the prayer on my ear every time I pass by. My Dear, church people are even worst but am not pressured and can't be... The most important thing is that God has answered, and they don't need to know. I even posted something like this on my status last week, stop sending prayer point on my DM for any reason, you are still outdated with What God is doing recently.
Not my secondary school mate that have my number for years but we don't communicate and on father's i posted my hubby and she asked me i quote "precious u get pekin" hmmmmmmmm
It is so annoying! As an adult, it’s not everything that comes to your mind that you blot out, that’s where emotional intelligence comes in and it is what should differentiate us from children. I always wonder how someone will just open their mouth “waaaaa” all in the name of “it’s from a place of love”. I have people I love and care about and I’ve never had to ask them such personal questions. Let’s be guided abeg 😒
Na wa womb watchers. It can be so annoying. I went through it years ago before I had my children. People will be saying hello and it will be my tummy they will be looking at
@@erinmaonwuchekwa this was years ago in the middle 90’s. I see it’s still happening even though people shd know by now that not every young couple wants to start a family straight away so people should be enlightened by now 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
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I remember when we were still trusting God for the fruit of the womb. I came to church one Sunday,sweetly dressed and a Dcn’s wife walked up to me,called my name and said ,a quick work will the Lord do,I replied her,He will cut it short in righteousness ,and I walked away frowning. Most times,keep your thoughts to yourself,people are going through a lot,don’t add to their pain. Thank you Erinma for this amazing video.
Oh my. So sorry you had to go through that and be forced to be nice as well😔
Thanks for talking about this .
Like put on small weight or feel a bit under the weather and boom,
“ it’s like you’re pregnant ohh “.
These gestures actually can put someone under pressure because when multiple people start asking it’s like you’re missing a milestone that should be happening.
Please let’s be a bit more sensitive.
So true 💯💯💯
I lost it at 9:07 😂😂😂😂
I actually said this to someone some years ago and I regretted it.
I know better now.
Thank you for sharing erinma 🙏
Awhhh. Sure we learn everyday. Glad you know better now 🫂🫂🫂❤️
That was how my aunty asked me last year, “what am I doing about me being unmarried?” When she asked,I was pissed but I tried not to be disrespectful with my response to her. I just told her, if I have seen husband Shey I will not marry?. I tried to make the conversation as nice as possible. And she end it with I’m praying for you. It was after she left,I started processing everything, I became so angry. I was so angry and disturbed that I started doubting and questioning everything about myself. The thing pained me so much,I cried. I started avoiding her after that day cause I dont want wahala.
I don’t know if these people don’t know that we are aware that we don’t have these things(marriage,children) yet. We are very much aware of it. They don’t need to remind us about it. Don’t come and add salt to my injury with your intrusive self. It is well o God will help us all.
Abba Father, please visit me and everyone in this comment section believing you for one thing or another.please God by Your mercy,come through for us and give us our answers and evidence in JESUS CHRIST NAME AMEN. Thank You Jesus.
Amennnnnnnn🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am so sorry you had to go through this. And hey, you are more than enough. You are God’s love child ❤️🙏
Some people are so RUDE!!! 🤦🏾♀️ and lack boundaries.
It’s puzzling 🤔
I call them womb watchers . Thank you for speaking for so many ❤❤
Glad I could
Hi sis much love to you and hubby as always, I’m laughing while watching. Real talk sis
Thank you so much Erinma for this video.
I agree with you, people need to do better and stop being intrusive especially when they don’t have a close relationship with the person.
I’ve had people who aren’t in anyway close ask me, “Is there a man in the picture? When are you getting married?”
For the most part, I just smile and change the topic or walk away because if I say what’s on my mind 🤭😂
People really need to do better!!
Yinka where is your husband!!!! I'll recommend this for anyone having issues having a voice especially as a single lady.
People don’t have boundaries at all 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️
This conversation is a must. We must Learn boundries as people. Pray without asking me you will celebrate with me when you see the fruits of your prayer.
So true 💯💯
I can absolutely relate to this and its annoying. My husband and I are not ready for kids yet but the intrusiveness of people who continue to insinuate all sorts irks us, I remember telling one woman that was disturbing me that we're not ready and she said how can you not be ready? 😂
amazing, she asked how can you not be ready....as in, is it her womb or her marriage?
As in very annoying thing honestly, are you the one that will carry the baby for me or are you one that will raise the child or the up keep for me? At times I don’t understand the kind thinking some of them do have.
It’s the how can you not be ready for me🤣🤣🤣🤣
Funny but certainly not funny
Erinma, you are glowing.
The glory of God is upon you. 🙏
How is our Pastor.
Thank you 😊
Pastor Josiah is doing a good job....nah man e be 💪😎
Thank you for sharing❤
This is epic. Erinma thank you for this conservation. Just because you’re close to someone doesn’t give you the leverage to ask them some certain questions. Privacy should be respected.
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It's very embarrassing. I stayed four years before I had my son. I can relate. I couldn't go to some places for my mental health. Some people can be insensitive
Oh my… it breaks my heart to read these very hurtful experiences. How can people decide to make someone’s waiting season miserable?
I am so sorry you had to go through this 🙏🫂
This particular topic needs alot of attention!!!. I don’t think we speak about it well enough.
Very recently I was at a civil service office for a work related stuff and a total stranger, a man i totally didn’t know (but worked at the office)says to me Miss or Mrs? and I say Miss. And he goes on to ask why I am unmarried, and inquires about what I was waiting for? and other related questions . I spent the entire day processing that conversation and honestly I was so hurt. But just as I pondered on it a little longer I realized that he was just completely insensitive and how I need not let his words bother me.
As you rightly said,do people think they want better for you than you want for yourself…God’s best will happen to us all at God’s time and until then we are not to let others pressure us.
Wow!
A very total stranger ?!
Very ridiculous and annoying.
Wow!!! Total stranger!! See me wishing I was there to reply him on your behalf 😡
I really agree with you dear. However many are innocently doing it. Since we don't know the mental space of those involved, we better mind our business.
That’s why videos and conversations like this are necessary 💯💯
I think a lot of people need to watch this video and learn about people's feelings. I just watched a video with Akinyi from Akinyi and Benjamin and it was so sad to see the tears and the comments that rude, mean people was saying about her not being pregnant. I like the way how you send the message across.
You just get a new subbie.
Welcome to the family ❤️
Thank you for this
They are not looking for any prayer point, just being annoying and noisy !
Exactly 💯💯💯
It’s even surprising that people who truly matter and are important to you,who has right to ask such questions,will never ask. It’s always those who are not really close, that will always poke nose.
This!! So true💯It is always strangers that are causing chaos😂😂😂😂
@@euniceamafosuaaaddae9425 I am telling you
Thisssss💯💯💯
I love this video and all the sincerity in it. As an African myself, I believe these kind of topics should be spoken off most often as well as others. Much love for shedding light and educating our society overall.
Thank you 🙏
You are welcome
My dear this is Africa oooo right after you get married the next thing they want to see is bella 😂 not knowing some of us we plan before we execute.Enjoy your marriage and your husband well well.Love from Ghana ❤
Love you right back ❤️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, although not all "intrusive" people mean bad, some just lack the sensitivity approach. However so sorry, for that -ve encounters.
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I totally agree!
I agree with you Erinma.... people should learn how to mind their business . Period. Personally,I think it's rude, especially when you are not my parents, pastor or siblings.
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the bitter truth is....most of these people acting like they care are simply nosy, especially when the person in question is not seen to be moody.
You just said the truth...once they see you are not moody.
They expect you to carry anything going on in your life as a badge 📛.
That last line 🤣🤣🤣
Yes I’ve read that book and I enjoyed every bit of it.
I’m newly married as well and in as much most persons aren’t saying it outrightly, they drop some hints and all and I’m like ahhh😩.
Pls what is the name of the book
Hint it back that you would not tolerate that kind of question. That’s what I do now.
Have been asked that questions for five years now I grew tired nowadays I tell them to ask God
Best response🤣
Hmmmm May God help us sha
May we know when we're crossing the line because this issue is a sensitive one😊
I pray we do better in regards to asking about pregnancy n marriage 🎉best wishes sis😊
I hope so too🙏
I remember when my stepmother,told me by this time you should have had children, just because am not married,and don't have a job and living in her home,it was painful even today when I recall i cry
Oh my! I am so sorry anyone could ever say that to you 😔🥺
So so true, thank you for this video 🎉
Glad I got myself to making it 🙏
I am really bless by your video and i was blessed by this video
So glad 🙏🙏
Omo eeeh!You have said it all.
People should truly learn to mind their business,in as much as you might be friends with them.
God bless you dearly for voicing out.
Love you plenty!
Love you right back ❤️
If those 'i too care kind of people' truly care, let them do it secretly on their knees, when the result will show, it's never hidden. At least they will know God has answered their prayers.
Most people truly should learn how not to be too intrusive. Some level can be very annoying.
I can relate Erinma
Exactly my point 📌
I can absolutely relate, got pregnant immediately I got married n our son just turned 6, the way ppl are after my neck to give my son siblings is crazy n annoying as if my son means nothing. it’s been 6 years of pressure from family n friends. Some will go as far as pulling my son aside n tell him to ask his mom for siblings. Do u Knw how sad it is when my son would walk up to me n ask me? I’m sick n tired.
This is a whole new different level we are not even talking about. Like do they ever back off??!!!
Very annoying questions, people should just learn to mind their business and be more sensitive. I like the way Pst Mildred Okonkwo puts it. She always says if they ask you when they are coming to eat rice, politely tell them when they cook it.
I like dat answer😊
I love this, people need to know 😊
You don't go about telling people that you are praying for them.
When you pray for people, keep calm.
God is the God that answer's prayers.
Someone once said they are watching and praying.🤣😂. Its actually not funny😔
Glowing as always ❤
Thank you!!
That kind of question is so annoying and I take it personal…,
I will be blunt with you Cos I never ask people that kind of a question.Not even like I’m even trying for a baby now.people should learn to mind their business
The problem is they know how to ask, but they are never ready out befitting answers
Firsttttt to commentttt
People find it hardddd to mind their business or keep their opinions to themselves 😡😡
You're glowingggg
That is the matter ooo. Thank you 😊
What!!! I am angry on your behalf for not twisting the woman's hand. How dare she? Some people needs proper orientation. That's how one of my colleagues touched another colleague's tummy (she is pregnant). Ahhh! I was so furious 😡. You need to see my reaction.
My darling, it is so upsetting . I was too shocked to react
Mine wasn't about me getting pregnant. My closest friend in church got married in November and a particular woman came up to me asking about my friend thinking I was her because we look alike and then after she realises I'm not the recent bride, she goes on to say, my dear don't worry ehn. God would do it for you.
So annoying… who says I am worried??!😫
Ah! My goodness! The height of it was the person touching your tummy. What happened to boundaries?? Oh no!
The absolute height!!!
Nah to immediately grab that hand and aggressively twist it in return. Sometimes we gotta keep sentiments aside and put ppl in their place.
My dear, trust me when I say you might not process it until hours later. You would be too shocked to act because you were not expecting it
People think that because they admire you or like you, they deserve access.
This is so true
People kinda like to nose around and don't understand when to stop the rude questioning. It is mostly even in the church settings, like pleasssse give people a break. Someone legit asked me when I am getting married, I wanted to skit around the question with a laugh but I didn't want to seem rude because he was a leader in church. Phew! My sister who was with me almost slapped him. Ask me how my business and career is growing and let us have a great conversation!
Gosh! The stories I am reading 😡😡
I am so sorry
Thank you
Enjoyed this video
Glad you enjoyed it
The human side of me always wants to slap somebody but Holy Spirit will tell me to smile and be quiet. The information they're asking for can't even benefit them and the advice is usually based on their plans for your life. It still happened to me today and in my head I'm wondering 'Who told you that's what I want?' Lord have mercy!
The Holy Spirit restrains us 🙏🙏
I Saw this notification nd was like, what the heck??????.... It's the Audacity for me o, why do people thinks getting married Automatically means baby has to happen that moment... Being a mother is another phase of life aside from being a wife, one needs to be readily ready for that journey... So y'all give a breathing space nd let her do her thing according to her nd her God's pace... Hun possibly try nd ignore such comments.
I wish I can publish this comment on the newspapers. A lot of people actually do not know
Thank you so much maam.
Could you please write the title of the book you talked about.
The name of the book is “Yinka, where is your husband?
I was thinking if I don’t tell people such then they shouldn’t say such to me but guess what? Some People don’t think that way😂😂😂, they don’t see it as being rude 😩.
You’d see such so well on RUclips’s comment sections. I don’t know if there’s a competition for being the first to notice a change in a female RUclipsr and I’m like ah ah, we all watch her and obviously we can easily detect a change but pointing it when she’s yet to say anything. She might have just put on weight and you don’t even know what she’s going through behind closed doors.
I hope people would see this video.
I hope so too 🙏
🥰🥰when I got married newly years back, I went through a lot, when are you having kids' questions... I wasn't pressured at all. very rude people🙄🙄 one woman will be shouting the prayer on my ear every time I pass by. My Dear, church people are even worst but am not pressured and can't be... The most important thing is that God has answered, and they don't need to know. I even posted something like this on my status last week, stop sending prayer point on my DM for any reason, you are still outdated with What God is doing recently.
I like that outdated part🙃
Please what's the title of the book. I have been reading a lot of books by Nigerian authors recently
Yinka where is your husband by Lizzie Damilola Blackburn
@@erinmaonwuchekwa thank you. I’ll look for it on Amazon 🌺
Not my secondary school mate that have my number for years but we don't communicate and on father's i posted my hubby and she asked me i quote "precious u get pekin" hmmmmmmmm
Ahhhhhh…. I want to respond but the love of God constrains me!! What!!
@@erinmaonwuchekwa like u said initially u would be shocked i am still shocked to the point i didn't tell my partner or anyone
That’s it really, people just need to mind their business.
My very own Pastor's wife, don't mind them joorr. Next time tell them to go drink chilled water and mind their business.
This issue 😫😫.
E tie wrapper 😔😓
Deep…people should learn to mind their business. It’s very wrong to invade people with such questions.
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I just started watching but did I just hear someone touched your stomach 😢😳😳😳😳
My dear 🤣🤣🤣
It is so annoying! As an adult, it’s not everything that comes to your mind that you blot out, that’s where emotional intelligence comes in and it is what should differentiate us from children. I always wonder how someone will just open their mouth “waaaaa” all in the name of “it’s from a place of love”. I have people I love and care about and I’ve never had to ask them such personal questions. Let’s be guided abeg 😒
True. That’s really the only thing that differentiates children from adults but some adults have just refused to leave childhood.😓
Aside the conception. Some may choose not to be have children until a year or more...
True. Another point 💯💯💯
Honestly for me asking is been nosey
Learn to mind your business
When pregnancy occurs e go show
Belle no dey hide
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Exactly 💯💯💯
People should learn how to mind their business.
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My daughter read it
UNSOLICITED ADVICE VERY UNNECESSARY.
What..!! Didn't she just get married..? I thought you're supposed to start trying after like a year or 2😕
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Leave our pastors wife alone now
First 🎉🎉
Second
Take your medal 🥇
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Na wa womb watchers. It can be so annoying. I went through it years ago before I had my children. People will be saying hello and it will be my tummy they will be looking at
Thisssssss!!!!! I thought I was the only one 😓
@@erinmaonwuchekwa this was years ago in the middle 90’s. I see it’s still happening even though people shd know by now that not every young couple wants to start a family straight away so people should be enlightened by now 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
That one is crazy. People steady talking to you but their eyes are on your tummy😮😮😮
@@nnennaukoha yes o 😀
Why must she touch you belly is wrong o
Very wrong my dear. Didn’t process it until I got home