I lost my own son just like this the year before you lost Sebastian. I recognise that attempt to get my son back in everything I was doing at the time. A couple of years later I made a radio feature looking at cot death from a Father's perspective and won the Radio Academy award that year. It felt that I'd done something productive at least. You never get over it but I've been a good father and my youngest is now at University. Jack, will never be forgotten.
Anne Diamond turned great personal loss into a positive campaign which has saved many thousands of babies lives over years. I have great respect for her. If we were better informed all those years ago, she would still have Sebastian with her.
I am 60 and I remember so well when Sebastian died, I was mortified for you Anne, especially when I heard it was your eldest Son’s birthday, I remember when you first spoke to a woman’s magazine, I brought it on my way to work and decided to read it in the canteen at lunch, I sat there pinching the back of my neck to so I would feel physical pain to stop the actual tears, but I had to stop halfway through your article. In August 1979 I was 22 weeks pregnant but my baby had died so I had to go into hospital for a termination, because of the stage of pregnancy I had to go through labour and give birth to the baby, the doctor said it would be all over in 8 hours, it was 27 hours, the following day a doctor came and told me the baby had Prunes Belly Syndrome, it’s bowels and bladder had formed but didn’t have any outlet so the bladder just kept expanding until it stop the heart. I left hospital and realised I hadn’t asked if it was a boy or girl, my mother in law told me to leave it, it was best not to know, but I had an appointment with a genetic counsellor 6 weeks later and I just needed to know, it was a boy, apparently only 2% of PBS babies are girls. As, silly as it sounds I remember thinking maybe the baby was less afraid because it was a boy. Absolutely stupid thing to think and I really don’t know why I’d thought that. During the night time I had a radio quietly playing in the room and I heard Judy Tzuke’s record called, Stay with me till Dawn, for the first time and it was played probably once an hour through the night, I still think of my baby whenever I hear that song! I had my daughter a year later and I called her Dawn. A couple of years ago, the daughter of a friend of mine lost a son at 16 weeks, and the hospital dressed the baby in clothes and put it in a Moses basket for the parents to spend some time with, they took photographs of them together, they had a funeral and a church service for her 16 week old baby! I am so glad things have changed for the better, because my little boy was whisked away in a cold metal bowl before I could even see him.
I remember being only young when your baby died but being upset and not really understanding why a small baby had died or why? I’m 38 now and still it upsets me, terrifies me and when it happened to my friend I still felt I had no answers to her question of why? But your campaigning has helped and does help so many, Ann, thank you xx
My son lewis died of sids he was 18 months old 20 years ago and my life has stopped l wished i never went to bed that night we had taken him to hospital we think he had some sort of fit but they sent him home and said he was coming down with something he died in the morning we was asleep we woke up at 7 am he was gone i am so ill because of this i have brake downs all the time seeing him dead have crushed me
So terribly sorry, I lost my Daughter aged 8 weeks the same time as Anne D. I agree with you I have never been the same since. I have grandchildren now the terror comes back, I can remember the trauma of finding her dead like yesterday I won't look after my grandchildren under 6 months, it really is like PTSD.
That is so so sad, i had my son just after this campaign i remember i had just started weaning and he had some sort of chocolate pudding ( baby jar food) i went to check on him he didnt look right i lifted him out of the cot and he threw up, from then on he lay on his back but my friend still did the tummy , thankfully her child was ok
I remember having to be mindful of the possibility of baby cot death when I had kids as I read about them enough when I was still in the UK. However it is interesting to note that in Hong Kong, which is where I am, baby cot deaths are extremely rare. I can't recall reading about any stories in the news about a local cot death. I seem to remember reading once about a possible reason for the low incidence, being that since typical homes in HK are small, most if not all, newborns have their cots in the parents' room so should anything happen, help is on hand immediately.
I lost my own son just like this the year before you lost Sebastian. I recognise that attempt to get my son back in everything I was doing at the time. A couple of years later I made a radio feature looking at cot death from a Father's perspective and won the Radio Academy award that year. It felt that I'd done something productive at least. You never get over it but I've been a good father and my youngest is now at University. Jack, will never be forgotten.
Anne Diamond turned great personal loss into a positive campaign which has saved many thousands of babies lives over years. I have great respect for her. If we were better informed all those years ago, she would still have Sebastian with her.
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I am 60 and I remember so well when Sebastian died, I was mortified for you Anne, especially when I heard it was your eldest Son’s birthday, I remember when you first spoke to a woman’s magazine, I brought it on my way to work and decided to read it in the canteen at lunch, I sat there pinching the back of my neck to so I would feel physical pain to stop the actual tears, but I had to stop halfway through your article. In August 1979 I was 22 weeks pregnant but my baby had died so I had to go into hospital for a termination, because of the stage of pregnancy I had to go through labour and give birth to the baby, the doctor said it would be all over in 8 hours, it was 27 hours, the following day a doctor came and told me the baby had Prunes Belly Syndrome, it’s bowels and bladder had formed but didn’t have any outlet so the bladder just kept expanding until it stop the heart. I left hospital and realised I hadn’t asked if it was a boy or girl, my mother in law told me to leave it, it was best not to know, but I had an appointment with a genetic counsellor 6 weeks later and I just needed to know, it was a boy, apparently only 2% of PBS babies are girls. As, silly as it sounds I remember thinking maybe the baby was less afraid because it was a boy. Absolutely stupid thing to think and I really don’t know why I’d thought that. During the night time I had a radio quietly playing in the room and I heard Judy Tzuke’s record called, Stay with me till Dawn, for the first time and it was played probably once an hour through the night, I still think of my baby whenever I hear that song! I had my daughter a year later and I called her Dawn.
A couple of years ago, the daughter of a friend of mine lost a son at 16 weeks, and the hospital dressed the baby in clothes and put it in a Moses basket for the parents to spend some time with, they took photographs of them together, they had a funeral and a church service for her 16 week old baby! I am so glad things have changed for the better, because my little boy was whisked away in a cold metal bowl before I could even see him.
Absolutely heartbreaking. Thanks to your campaigning I know to put my babies to sleep on their backs. Much love xx
I remember being only young when your baby died but being upset and not really understanding why a small baby had died or why? I’m 38 now and still it upsets me, terrifies me and when it happened to my friend I still felt I had no answers to her question of why? But your campaigning has helped and does help so many,
Ann, thank you xx
My son lewis died of sids he was 18 months old 20 years ago and my life has stopped l wished i never went to bed that night we had taken him to hospital we think he had some sort of fit but they sent him home and said he was coming down with something he died in the morning we was asleep we woke up at 7 am he was gone i am so ill because of this i have brake downs all the time seeing him dead have crushed me
So terribly sorry, I lost my Daughter aged 8 weeks the same time as Anne D. I agree with you I have never been the same since. I have grandchildren now the terror comes back, I can remember the trauma of finding her dead like yesterday I won't look after my grandchildren under 6 months, it really is like PTSD.
I'm sorry Richard, Karla. I truly am.
Heartbreaking I remember it well.😢😢💕💕🙏🙏
That is so so sad, i had my son just after this campaign i remember i had just started weaning and he had some sort of chocolate pudding ( baby jar food) i went to check on him he didnt look right i lifted him out of the cot and he threw up, from then on he lay on his back but my friend still did the tummy , thankfully her child was ok
I put both my babies on their front in the 80's. Very scary when I watch this. They are now 37 and 33 yrs old
Thank you for sharing.
I remember having to be mindful of the possibility of baby cot death when I had kids as I read about them enough when I was still in the UK. However it is interesting to note that in Hong Kong, which is where I am, baby cot deaths are extremely rare. I can't recall reading about any stories in the news about a local cot death. I seem to remember reading once about a possible reason for the low incidence, being that since typical homes in HK are small, most if not all, newborns have their cots in the parents' room so should anything happen, help is on hand immediately.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing
Thank you for sharing. I know exactly how you feel. Heartbreaking.
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