the consultant just pushed the same dress on the bride. They should have let her tried on a few dresses - thats the whole point of the appointment. instead she was like - okay whats not right lets fix it. I dont get this push for bride to choose the first dress she tries on. You can tell the bride herself wasnt very decisive about the dress - usually that means they're not sure if its THE dress. and the mother was right the top just looked awkward on the bride
@@zineguri8515 I hope it will look less awkward when it's sized specifically for her body. I agree w/your feeling the consultant was pushy (tho just to clarify, it was the second dress she tried, not the first).
@@surlygale1082 I know but it was the first that wasn't her mothers pick (which she really only tried that to please her mother) but in the style she was after she only tried one.
@Zine i agree the daughter was looking for moms approval but i agreed with mom. the top didn't flatter the daughter and she has small cleavage and the dress top didn't look good on her. but if she loved the dress trying on others wouldn't have hurt and she would go with what she loved and not what her mom wanted.
First time I've seen Brogan. I love the way she offered the bride options. And put the choice in the bride's hands, right in front of the mother. Go, Brogan! And good for the bride for sticking to her guns.
She's a terrible sales woman. She showed the bride 2 dresses, only one of which she chose and even though it was obvious the bride wasn't sure of it, she kept pushing and pushing it on to the bride anyway
The mom said she didn't like the dip in the second dress and that it exposed "too much" but the dress the mom picked out first had an even bigger dip!! On top of that the sides of the dress were sheer, even though the bride said she wanted to be a bit more modest. It really feels like the mom is only trying to pick it apart and blame minuscule things for not liking the dress. AND THEN the mom says she doesn't like it because the daughter didn't say it's the one?!? She's waiting for your approval how oblivious can she be... I feel so bad for the bride.
Their ought to be a sign in bridal dress shops that says: "All mothers need to listen to their daughters and remind themselves that it is their daughter who will wear the dress!" This mum pushed her daughter too far. The mum deserved to be put in her place.
@@hlondon2408 I also hate the Money move parents always make. "Yes! I agree on gifting you the dress, now I have the power to make you wear what I WANT" excuse me? NO, A gift is a gift! If you want to control it do not agree to pay for it. Geez
I agree with the consultant, Ginny seemed much more able to express how much she loved the dress in the changing room. I actually felt she was a little afraid to be more open with her mum present, and the mum misinterpreted that as Ginny not loving the dress as much as she kept saying how much she liked it. Still, with the consultant's help, and bless her for that, she was able to stick to her guns. The dress was lovely and she looked great in it.
@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 Shouldn't she be able to read her daughter better by now? If she can't maybe she should trust her daughter's words more. I wish people would stop justifying controlling behaviour like this with "mother's love"...
@@bakoyma lol perhaps in their home life she was controlling but there was nothing in this video showing it. Her Mother supported her throughout, she just didn't love the dress as much.
@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 lol if she is controlling in their home life she probably wont stop being that way at the bridal shop. I didn't see a mother "supporting her daughter through and through", I saw someone who was too domineering because she thinks she knows better than her daughter what's best for her. But agree to disagree.
This is exactly why I paid for my own dress. I picked one that I loved and kept going back to it. My group that I brought did not like it cause it was too revealing, but I didn’t care! If you love it then get it! Pay for your own dress that way you don’t have to please anyone but yourself
Good for you. I also bought my own dress. No one could hold money over me to influence me. Just me and my mom, an hour in the shop and I was done. No fighting. It was lovely.
First: Cheers to Brogan. You handled the bride & domineering mother correctly! Second: Yes the mother is domineering. Listen to daughter; its HER wedding. Third: Bride needs to stand up for herself now otherwise mother will also be running the marriage.
I love how Brogan spelled it out in a way that says 'look what you're doing to your daughter and how you are making her doubt herself and feel bad for liking something you don't like' and a lot of these people that brides bring need to hear that and be reminded of that. I also love the MIL's face when sitting next to the brides mom it like 'God give me the strength so I don't slap this woman.'
I will never understand how so many mothers think it's perfectly fine to bully their daughters into dresses they don't want. Hey, mum, it's not YOUR dress. YOU are not wearing it!!
@@lindap8101 were you watching same program as rest of us 🤷♀️ she’s a horrible bully ! Her way or no way !!! Mum Saying “if she’s not fighting for it she doesn’t want it “ No she’s not fighting because she’s terrified and because you will sulk till you get your own way mum
Totally agree. My mom was the same. When i was a kid, i wore out all my clothes till they had holes in them coz i just didn't want to tell my mom that i needed new ones. I still feel uncomfortable accepting gifts coz at the back of my mind is always that though "what will it cost me". My husband drags me by force to the store to buy me something nice. These kind of parents can be very traumatising. The way the brides face changed when speaking to her mother reminded me so much of my experience. That also could be the reason why this girl is marrying so young... To run away. Hope she is with the right person and nicer people around her.
@@SpiritDragoness sameee my boyfriend has to drag me to a sore and be extremely stubborn with me for me to get something new cause all that's running through my mind is all the strings that will be attached to it. even though that the polar opposite of his ways and he would never fantom being that way, it really traumatizes you to the point where you cant help but be skeptical of every gift.
These “indecisive” brides tend to have a really outspoken immediate family member. Almost like they second guess themself because they’ve been told they’re wrong so many times 🤔
agreed. Every time I see a bride declare herself 'indecisive' on one of these shows I make a bet with myself at least one person in her family is going to be overbearing. I have never bet wrong yet. Often too, the bride isn't indecisive at all - she knows what she likes but is told by the overbearing person that she is wrong about her understanding of what she likes. It is a form of gaslighting by the overbearing person, and it is abusive. As @SpiritDragoness noted, narcissistic parents do that to their kids. (other types of abusive parents do so as well).
I do not know why the saleslady did not let the bride try a few more similar glizzy tight-fitting gowns. There are so many choices out there! The bride may like the third or fourth one even better. That could keep everybody happy.
I know so silly to limit the amount of dresses she tries on. Also the top of the dress she chose would suit someone with a slightly bigger bust . It doesn't look amazing..She looks so tiny she can wear so many different styles
@@sandyprofilio4170 Exactly. She (her bust) was swimming in the dress, I think that's what her mother was hinting at but didn't want to say. Hopefully after alterations the top will fit much better.
Mom's pick was indeed flattering, but nothing like what the bride wanted. She looked lovely in both dresses so I'm glad she picked the one SHE liked the most.
Why should she have to "fight for it"? I feel sad for brides whose mums can't see that it's their daughter's day and not theirs. When my daughter and I shopped for her dress, I was thrilled to see her light up when she found THE DRESS. Didn't matter if I loved it or not because I love her!
The “fight for the dress” wasn’t the mother being a jerk. It was “let’s make sure that the £2000 dress is absolutely the right one, and not in a week having her change her mind.” It’s a lot of money, and you do it once, so you want to make sure the dress is THE DRESS! I have a problem with impulse buying, especially when I’m around people whose opinions I value. I now get done shopping, take a lap around the store, then transfer all my stuff from one cart to another so I have to look at everything. Quite often I find that I changed my mind on an item, or 12.
NO. She's so delicate - what she chose is perfect for her slender figure; once they do alterations, they can add a bit of sewn-in padding at the bust to balance the top better.
I agree, the dress doesn't do anything for her. Salesperson should have let her try another dress. You can always come back, but here they just steamroller the personnpaying.
Dear Mothers Everywhere: IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING!!! Lesson: Never allow you mother to pay for your dress. She will blackmail you into something you dislike.
IF you have a mom like this. I told my daughter’s consultant to not tell her the prices because I didn’t want “too expensive” to sway her opinion. She’s a very frugal girl. 😂 She only found out about two years after her wedding because she decided to sell it and needed to know the original price. I’m not sure she has recovered yet! Other than budget, she was completely in charge of everything else.
But the dress mom chose suited her body much better than the dress the bride chose. The bride's choice didn't suit her body at all, she looked flat and shapeless in it. The top did not look right, mom was correct.
I don't understand why so many women are struggeling when they love it. It is their special day, they have to feel like a real bride, they must be happy with the dress ❣️❣️❣️ I love real puffy princess style with tons of bling bling and embroydery in purple Satin. I found my dream dress and honestly I don't ask anybody if they like it cause I love it and that is the most important point 😜✊💝
Women have been brainwashed into being pleasers, and to avoid conflict. When we do stand up for ourselves, we called all kinds of foul names, or accused of all manner of things.
True. I only tried four dresses, the first three on one occasion, didn't feel it except for a illusion top with lots of sparkle... Then I was walking by a store and saw it on the window, tried it on and that was it. It was my dress.
I cheered so hard when the daughter said yes even though her mom was not completely on board. Poor girl loved the dress and said so, even when her mom said she never heard her daughter say she loved the dress. Mom is very controlling and needs to just love her daughter and let her daughter breathe and make her own decisions. I hope the daughter has a lovely wedding day.
Hang on, the mothers pick had a much more dramatic plunging neckline? Seems like she just wanted to find 'something' wrong with it as she didn't pick it!
I think that even tho her mom was a little difficult, I would appreciate that. She wasn’t mean like other moms. I really liked when she said “if she’s not fighting for it, she doesn’t really like it” I just feel like this is how me and my grandmother are and when we finally agree on a dress I never regret it!
I agree. I think she was also trying to make doubly sure that her daughter really loved the dress. I also get what she was taking about about the top of the dress. She probably thought there were flattering options for her.
@@AS-yz2iz Strange, because the first dress her mom chose had an even bigger dip than the second one! It also had cut outs down the sides of the dress. So it was nothing to do with the top of the dress, she was just finding ways not to like it
@@kanyebreast6072 I'm not talking about how low cut or revealing it was. I'm talking about the general fit and how it looked. It seemed a bit heavy for her small frame. I also question the editing, because it was the bride who first mentioned the low cut part of the dress being revealing, if I remember correctly. The mom did mention it later as being fixed, but I'm not sure that the mom liked it fixed because it seemed to fit her better, or because she thought it too revealing? That's not made very clear.
I agree that it's a good line to use when mom really wants the best for her daughter, but on the flipside, it is also a very manipulative line to guilt trip someone. If I like something based on adrenaline (because I'm fighting for it), will I still like it when the adrenaline's gone? If mom really wanted her daughter to be sure she likes it, considering that she's supposedly that outspoken, mom should only be asking if she's sure about her choice, and not faulting her daughter for not fighting for her choice. Also, if someone can't give you a proper reason about why they don't like something, the problem lies with them, not you.
I think the shop assistant was lazy to find another dress for her. She should have given her more options. The bride was a bit indecisive and this could help her to be sure in her choice.
I hope when this young woman gets married, she and her new husband moved away from her mom with enough distance so they can establish their own life together - without her mom interfering, manipulating and being controlling. Because after their wedding, she won't stop. The dress is beautiful and I hope they have a beautiful wedding.
Totally agree! This is the reason why my mom was never at my wedding. My husband got to see her for the first time at her funeral. I know that sounds cruel...
@@SpiritDragoness for those of us with 'That Type' of mother, it doesn't sound cruel. It sounds wise. Actually it sounds like the end of the cruelty. The end of the cruelty suffered at That Type of mother's hands. I went no contact with my own That Type of mother (and by extension enabling father and siblings) more than 10 years ago. If I am in a serious romantic relationship, that guy will never meet her. I am glad that you were able to find your own love and family and freedom from that cruelty.
@@survivedandthriving yeah, her death was a weird experience. The weirdest combo of emotions, sadness mixed with "the witch is dead" kind of relief. I too went no contact with my mom for the last 4 years of her life, and cutting contact with all of my extended family coz my mom was into by proxy cruelty too. Took a while to restore my relationships with my extended family (many of them are the sweetest people ever. I am turning 40 this year, and only now I am begining to build a relationship with my grandfather coz during her life I wasn't allowed, I was sent to my room every time he visited, coz he is HER father but never my grandfather.) Glad you too had the strength and courage togo no contact. It is the best but also the scariest decision I have had to make. These kind of parents never change, they only get worse with age.
Yes. The probable reason why this bride is so much in a hurry to get married so young is so that she can run away from that controling woman she calls her mom.
Deep down I think the mother wants to keep her daughter as she's been with her for so long, on her own! It is difficult to let go of your children, but they have to move on with their lives eventually!
I get where the mom was coming from. The problem wasn’t so much the dip on the top, it just sits strangely on her chest overall. Anyone else seeing this? 🧐
This nightgown dress didn't flatter this bride at all. The bride wasn't overly excited the dress either, no emotional connection, that was why she was hesitant and kept vacillating. Wonder why the consultant couldn't see that and put her in a different silhouette.
Mom is feeling scared of living alone and it’s coming out as drama and tension about the wedding dress. Daughter is excited about her future. I’m proud of her for reaching for reaching for what she wants.
The bride is so beautiful and gorgeous on both dresess, but i do agree with the mom that the top part on 2nd dress doesn't give justice to her beauty and figure.
She's too small busted for it. She needed to try on more dresses and find one that fit her bosom better. She has a lovely figure but the dress didn't fit well in the bust area.
@@joralemonvirgincreche But that dress was a sample size. The alterations will be made to her actual dress to make the size of the bodice fit her torso/breast area perfectly.
Yep, mom said it, the day she hands her daughter over will be a difficult day. She liked the dress, but her daughter getting closer to the wedding is further away from her, so she may always find things to dislike. I think mom realized it
When I got married I knew exactly what I wanted for my wedding gown. I did not try one on. My Mom and I made my wedding gown and it was perfect. We also made my daughters flower girl dresses and they were the same style as mine but in a gorgeous print that matched my bouquet. My Maid and bridesmaids were in a color pulled from that print. Gorgeous. Do what you want it is your day
I hope they tried on more dresses than the 2 they showed us. She only tried on one other dress and immediately picked that one? Theres so many dresses! I can see why the Mum was pushing her to try on more lol
It seems like most mums have a fantasy about their daughters wearing a princess style ball gown, and it gets in the way every time. In this case, the mum pushed her daughter too far. She responded by raising her voice, which she obviously needed to do.
This is one of the few occasions where I feel the mom is right and the dress she picked out for her daughter was absolutely stunning. And really suits the bride
Those of us who grew up in abusive homes often have difficulty expressing how we feel, especially to our main abusers. To me, the fact that the daughter stood up to the mother at all made it seem like she was responding very strongly indeed. I am guessing that that took a great deal of courage for the daughter to do. To me, the fact that she stood up to this mama at all clearly showed that the daughter really liked and wanted that dress.
The sales lady completely pressured her into getting that dress. You could tell she wasn't completely sure. The look on her face when she said she would like to try on another dress.
The bride told the Consultant that she wanted "traditional and glitzy". Her mother then picks out a dress for her, that was NOT traditional and NOT glitzy. Mother: "The day that I have to hand her over to Calum...." - the bride is a grown woman, but it sounds like her mother thinks she is her possession to give.
You know moms….you can always want the best for your daughter, but you don’t have to do it with bullying and forcing your opinions, likes or dislikes on her. Respect your daughters decision and her likes and dislikes.
I would caution against assuming that every mom actually wants what is best for their daughters, and I'm not even remotely convinced that this one does. Too many mothers are more interested in sabotaging their daughters for a variety of reasons: to gain narcissistic supply, to keep control over their child, to ensure the daughter stays 'less than' the mother, to ensure daughter knows her place, to ensure daughter cannot be fully happy, to ensure daughter remains reliant on mother, to ensure mother has someone to project her own insecurities onto, to live something out through the daughter, to just be nasty for the sake of being nasty, etc., etc. Often it is a disgusting, toxic mix of many of the motivations combined. It is enabling of abusers to start with the idea that they 'want what is best' for the victims of their abuse. Abusers only want what is best for themselves. Others' needs and wants only come into it in order to provide knowledge and ammo for the abusers to better hone their abuse.
To me a gift of paying for the dress is a gift of love. There shouldn't be strings attached. It wears on me a tad when brides can't decide for themselves what they like & are so heavily influenced. I wish this Bride & Groom the best.
Hats off to the lovely consultant making sure she got her dream dress!
utterly YES ! the mum didn't seem to realise , or chose Not to realise , how much she makes her daughter lose confidence in her own opinions
the consultant just pushed the same dress on the bride. They should have let her tried on a few dresses - thats the whole point of the appointment. instead she was like - okay whats not right lets fix it. I dont get this push for bride to choose the first dress she tries on. You can tell the bride herself wasnt very decisive about the dress - usually that means they're not sure if its THE dress. and the mother was right the top just looked awkward on the bride
@@zineguri8515 I hope it will look less awkward when it's sized specifically for her body. I agree w/your feeling the consultant was pushy (tho just to clarify, it was the second dress she tried, not the first).
@@surlygale1082 I know but it was the first that wasn't her mothers pick (which she really only tried that to please her mother) but in the style she was after she only tried one.
@Zine i agree the daughter was looking for moms approval but i agreed with mom. the top didn't flatter the daughter and she has small cleavage and the dress top didn't look good on her. but if she loved the dress trying on others wouldn't have hurt and she would go with what she loved and not what her mom wanted.
First time I've seen Brogan. I love the way she offered the bride options. And put the choice in the bride's hands, right in front of the mother. Go, Brogan! And good for the bride for sticking to her guns.
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This young lady had the best sales woman ever. She looked beautiful!
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She's a terrible sales woman. She showed the bride 2 dresses, only one of which she chose and even though it was obvious the bride wasn't sure of it, she kept pushing and pushing it on to the bride anyway
The mom said she didn't like the dip in the second dress and that it exposed "too much" but the dress the mom picked out first had an even bigger dip!! On top of that the sides of the dress were sheer, even though the bride said she wanted to be a bit more modest. It really feels like the mom is only trying to pick it apart and blame minuscule things for not liking the dress. AND THEN the mom says she doesn't like it because the daughter didn't say it's the one?!? She's waiting for your approval how oblivious can she be... I feel so bad for the bride.
Their ought to be a sign in bridal dress shops that says:
"All mothers need to listen to their daughters and remind themselves that it is their daughter who will wear the dress!"
This mum pushed her daughter too far. The mum deserved to be put in her place.
@@hlondon2408 I also hate the Money move parents always make. "Yes! I agree on gifting you the dress, now I have the power to make you wear what I WANT" excuse me? NO, A gift is a gift! If you want to control it do not agree to pay for it. Geez
absolutely agree with you
Me too. I hope she goes home with her dream dress !!
I feel sorry for Callum! This will not end when Ginny is married!
Parents need to STOP using paying for the gown as a way to control what the bride wears.
Or the bride could say "thanks, Mum, but I've got this."
They do it because it was done to them.
I totally agree!! It ruins their day & their wedding 💒
& brides need to STOP asking/having parents pay for gown = she's an ADULT
THANK YOU !
I agree with the consultant, Ginny seemed much more able to express how much she loved the dress in the changing room. I actually felt she was a little afraid to be more open with her mum present, and the mum misinterpreted that as Ginny not loving the dress as much as she kept saying how much she liked it. Still, with the consultant's help, and bless her for that, she was able to stick to her guns. The dress was lovely and she looked great in it.
I could see the Mum trying to read her daughters eyes. She simply wants what is best for her girl. Plus they only show us what they want us to see.
@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 Shouldn't she be able to read her daughter better by now? If she can't maybe she should trust her daughter's words more. I wish people would stop justifying controlling behaviour like this with "mother's love"...
@@bakoyma lol perhaps in their home life she was controlling but there was nothing in this video showing it. Her Mother supported her throughout, she just didn't love the dress as much.
@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 lol if she is controlling in their home life she probably wont stop being that way at the bridal shop. I didn't see a mother "supporting her daughter through and through", I saw someone who was too domineering because she thinks she knows better than her daughter what's best for her.
But agree to disagree.
It’s something in the way that mother’s face is set that suggests she is difficult to deal with. Daughter is beautiful
I agree. That intense stare was unsettling.
mom is no phoney, how easy would it have been for the cameras? her daughter is her only focus.
I think it was because she didn't choose the dress... She was mad about that. What a sour mom.
She is a jealous mum, probably
I have a narcissist mother and I could see on the moms face the same look in my own mom’s eyes. Just sayinggggggg
This is exactly why I paid for my own dress. I picked one that I loved and kept going back to it. My group that I brought did not like it cause it was too revealing, but I didn’t care! If you love it then get it! Pay for your own dress that way you don’t have to please anyone but yourself
I so agree with you. I'm taking me myself and I to my appointment
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Amen. Pay for it yourself, get what YOU like! I did it, and went by myself to most of the appointments, and I'm glad I did.
@@aprilchow-chee5281 Aw when are you getting married?! Congratulations! 🥳🥰
Good for you. I also bought my own dress. No one could hold money over me to influence me. Just me and my mom, an hour in the shop and I was done. No fighting. It was lovely.
For a young lady the sales assistant was very outspoken and pro bride well done for standing up for her
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First: Cheers to Brogan. You handled the bride & domineering mother correctly! Second: Yes the mother is domineering. Listen to daughter; its HER wedding. Third: Bride needs to stand up for herself now otherwise mother will also be running the marriage.
I love how Brogan spelled it out in a way that says 'look what you're doing to your daughter and how you are making her doubt herself and feel bad for liking something you don't like' and a lot of these people that brides bring need to hear that and be reminded of that.
I also love the MIL's face when sitting next to the brides mom it like 'God give me the strength so I don't slap this woman.'
*Understanding Consultant needs to be given a raise immediately and retain her always* 🙌🏽
The dress she chose is so gorgeous 😊
I agree - & I think the alteration did improve it, it became more modest & traditional like she wanted
Perfect for her body shape. The big puffy one, although beautiful, overwhelmed her body shape and personality.
I really love that sales lady! Just kept the positive energy up and kept the bride strong ❤️
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I will never understand how so many mothers think it's perfectly fine to bully their daughters into dresses they don't want. Hey, mum, it's not YOUR dress. YOU are not wearing it!!
I saw a mom not sure if her child truly loved a dress. And given the bride didn't hate the first dress, let her try on more.
She wasn’t bullying.
It’s like bully mothers never got their own way growing up so they have to dominate their kids 😡😡😡
@@lindap8101 were you watching same program as rest of us 🤷♀️ she’s a horrible bully ! Her way or no way !!!
Mum Saying “if she’s not fighting for it she doesn’t want it “ No she’s not fighting because she’s terrified and because you will sulk till you get your own way mum
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What it’s like is you guys are so easily manipulated by these videos. lol
Hate gifts with strings attached 😒.
Totally agree. My mom was the same. When i was a kid, i wore out all my clothes till they had holes in them coz i just didn't want to tell my mom that i needed new ones. I still feel uncomfortable accepting gifts coz at the back of my mind is always that though "what will it cost me". My husband drags me by force to the store to buy me something nice.
These kind of parents can be very traumatising. The way the brides face changed when speaking to her mother reminded me so much of my experience. That also could be the reason why this girl is marrying so young... To run away. Hope she is with the right person and nicer people around her.
@@SpiritDragoness sameee my boyfriend has to drag me to a sore and be extremely stubborn with me for me to get something new cause all that's running through my mind is all the strings that will be attached to it. even though that the polar opposite of his ways and he would never fantom being that way, it really traumatizes you to the point where you cant help but be skeptical of every gift.
These “indecisive” brides tend to have a really outspoken immediate family member. Almost like they second guess themself because they’ve been told they’re wrong so many times 🤔
Narcissistic parents do that to their kids. Those kids doubt their own judgment.
agreed. Every time I see a bride declare herself 'indecisive' on one of these shows I make a bet with myself at least one person in her family is going to be overbearing. I have never bet wrong yet.
Often too, the bride isn't indecisive at all - she knows what she likes but is told by the overbearing person that she is wrong about her understanding of what she likes. It is a form of gaslighting by the overbearing person, and it is abusive.
As @SpiritDragoness noted, narcissistic parents do that to their kids. (other types of abusive parents do so as well).
I do not know why the saleslady did not let the bride try a few more similar glizzy tight-fitting gowns. There are so many choices out there! The bride may like the third or fourth one even better. That could keep everybody happy.
Because we didn't see their entire interaction, just snippets and she knew this was the dress the bride wanted.
These shows are very heavily edited. For all we know, she tried on 50 dresses and they just edited down to show those two.
I know so silly to limit the amount of dresses she tries on. Also the top of the dress she chose would suit someone with a slightly bigger bust . It doesn't look amazing..She looks so tiny she can wear so many different styles
@@sandyprofilio4170 Exactly. She (her bust) was swimming in the dress, I think that's what her mother was hinting at but didn't want to say. Hopefully after alterations the top will fit much better.
@@sandyprofilio4170 Again, this show is heavily edited and we don’t know the amount of dresses she actually tries on.
Mom's pick was indeed flattering, but nothing like what the bride wanted. She looked lovely in both dresses so I'm glad she picked the one SHE liked the most.
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That is one excellent customer service oriented bridal shop! They did a wonderful job. I loved her dress.
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Why should she have to "fight for it"? I feel sad for brides whose mums can't see that it's their daughter's day and not theirs. When my daughter and I shopped for her dress, I was thrilled to see her light up when she found THE DRESS. Didn't matter if I loved it or not because I love her!
The “fight for the dress” wasn’t the mother being a jerk. It was “let’s make sure that the £2000 dress is absolutely the right one, and not in a week having her change her mind.” It’s a lot of money, and you do it once, so you want to make sure the dress is THE DRESS!
I have a problem with impulse buying, especially when I’m around people whose opinions I value. I now get done shopping, take a lap around the store, then transfer all my stuff from one cart to another so I have to look at everything. Quite often I find that I changed my mind on an item, or 12.
1st dress suits her. She has a small petite body, a ball gown or a line dress will be perfect for her.
NO. She's so delicate - what she chose is perfect for her slender figure; once they do alterations, they can add a bit of sewn-in padding at the bust to balance the top better.
Absolutely the first dress was way better for her. The second dress didn’t do anything for her body type.
I think the mom is right...something about the upper part of the dress is not really fitting her daughter's body...but she is beautiful regardless
I agree, the dress doesn't do anything for her. Salesperson should have let her try another dress. You can always come back, but here they just steamroller the personnpaying.
@@Songbirdstress EXACTLY, we know it.
Peak sake dress two was beautiful the mother had herself in mind
Ginny's mother is a control freak, straight up. No wonder the poor girl is so timid and indecisive.
Dear Mothers Everywhere: IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING!!!
Lesson: Never allow you mother to pay for your dress. She will blackmail you into something you dislike.
true so true..it was an enormous mistake letting her pay for it..
IF you have a mom like this. I told my daughter’s consultant to not tell her the prices because I didn’t want “too expensive” to sway her opinion. She’s a very frugal girl. 😂 She only found out about two years after her wedding because she decided to sell it and needed to know the original price. I’m not sure she has recovered yet! Other than budget, she was completely in charge of everything else.
But the dress mom chose suited her body much better than the dress the bride chose. The bride's choice didn't suit her body at all, she looked flat and shapeless in it. The top did not look right, mom was correct.
@@NLR759Exactly what I thought.
I don't understand why so many women are struggeling when they love it. It is their special day, they have to feel like a real bride, they must be happy with the dress ❣️❣️❣️
I love real puffy princess style with tons of bling bling and embroydery in purple Satin.
I found my dream dress and honestly I don't ask anybody if they like it cause I love it and that is the most important point 😜✊💝
They struggle because they never learned to have boundaries.
Women have been brainwashed into being pleasers, and to avoid conflict. When we do stand up for ourselves, we called all kinds of foul names, or accused of all manner of things.
True. I only tried four dresses, the first three on one occasion, didn't feel it except for a illusion top with lots of sparkle... Then I was walking by a store and saw it on the window, tried it on and that was it. It was my dress.
RIGHT
I cheered so hard when the daughter said yes even though her mom was not completely on board. Poor girl loved the dress and said so, even when her mom said she never heard her daughter say she loved the dress. Mom is very controlling and needs to just love her daughter and let her daughter breathe and make her own decisions. I hope the daughter has a lovely wedding day.
She's escaping! Can't wait to be married
She needed a crown because she looked so elegant and regal in her dress.
Hang on, the mothers pick had a much more dramatic plunging neckline?
Seems like she just wanted to find 'something' wrong with it as she didn't pick it!
Exactly.
No mom did want to say that the bride was not bustier enough for the second dress
I think that even tho her mom was a little difficult, I would appreciate that. She wasn’t mean like other moms. I really liked when she said “if she’s not fighting for it, she doesn’t really like it” I just feel like this is how me and my grandmother are and when we finally agree on a dress I never regret it!
I agree. I think she was also trying to make doubly sure that her daughter really loved the dress. I also get what she was taking about about the top of the dress. She probably thought there were flattering options for her.
@@AS-yz2iz Strange, because the first dress her mom chose had an even bigger dip than the second one! It also had cut outs down the sides of the dress. So it was nothing to do with the top of the dress, she was just finding ways not to like it
@@kanyebreast6072 I'm not talking about how low cut or revealing it was. I'm talking about the general fit and how it looked. It seemed a bit heavy for her small frame. I also question the editing, because it was the bride who first mentioned the low cut part of the dress being revealing, if I remember correctly. The mom did mention it later as being fixed, but I'm not sure that the mom liked it fixed because it seemed to fit her better, or because she thought it too revealing? That's not made very clear.
The mom is somewhat pushy and manipulative
I agree that it's a good line to use when mom really wants the best for her daughter, but on the flipside, it is also a very manipulative line to guilt trip someone. If I like something based on adrenaline (because I'm fighting for it), will I still like it when the adrenaline's gone? If mom really wanted her daughter to be sure she likes it, considering that she's supposedly that outspoken, mom should only be asking if she's sure about her choice, and not faulting her daughter for not fighting for her choice. Also, if someone can't give you a proper reason about why they don't like something, the problem lies with them, not you.
I think the shop assistant was lazy to find another dress for her. She should have given her more options. The bride was a bit indecisive and this could help her to be sure in her choice.
This woman looks amazing in everything she put on
I hope when this young woman gets married, she and her new husband moved away from her mom with enough distance so they can establish their own life together - without her mom interfering, manipulating and being controlling. Because after their wedding, she won't stop. The dress is beautiful and I hope they have a beautiful wedding.
Totally agree! This is the reason why my mom was never at my wedding. My husband got to see her for the first time at her funeral. I know that sounds cruel...
@@SpiritDragoness for those of us with 'That Type' of mother, it doesn't sound cruel. It sounds wise.
Actually it sounds like the end of the cruelty. The end of the cruelty suffered at That Type of mother's hands.
I went no contact with my own That Type of mother (and by extension enabling father and siblings) more than 10 years ago. If I am in a serious romantic relationship, that guy will never meet her.
I am glad that you were able to find your own love and family and freedom from that cruelty.
@@survivedandthriving yeah, her death was a weird experience. The weirdest combo of emotions, sadness mixed with "the witch is dead" kind of relief.
I too went no contact with my mom for the last 4 years of her life, and cutting contact with all of my extended family coz my mom was into by proxy cruelty too. Took a while to restore my relationships with my extended family (many of them are the sweetest people ever. I am turning 40 this year, and only now I am begining to build a relationship with my grandfather coz during her life I wasn't allowed, I was sent to my room every time he visited, coz he is HER father but never my grandfather.)
Glad you too had the strength and courage togo no contact. It is the best but also the scariest decision I have had to make. These kind of parents never change, they only get worse with age.
A sweet and lovely young woman who looked beautiful in each dress. Her choice is perfect for her.
Mother in law is supportive and kind. 💖
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Yes. The probable reason why this bride is so much in a hurry to get married so young is so that she can run away from that controling woman she calls her mom.
Good for you for making your OWN choice! The dress was perfect for you.
Deep down I think the mother wants to keep her daughter as she's been with her for so long, on her own! It is difficult to let go of your children, but they have to move on with their lives eventually!
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I agree with mom, she looked so ethereal and beautiful in the simple dress. But obviously the bride was not thrilled with it so it’s not the dress
Nothing like a dominating mother. There's nothing that mom can pick out that she doesn't like about the dress.....except that it wasn't HER decision.
That was exactly my impression. It wasn't not the dress that the mother didn't like, it was that her daughter was taking control away from her.
I get where the mom was coming from. The problem wasn’t so much the dip on the top, it just sits strangely on her chest overall. Anyone else seeing this? 🧐
She's too small busted for that particular dress or size. Hopefully alterations fixed it.
Of course, that dress is wrong for her body. She needed more of a dress.
I agree w her mom. I don't think it was that flattering on her. However, since she loved it, I am glad she stood up for her choice.
I am a mother and it sucked my guts out to see all those control issues her mother has.
It’s her day!
“Hand her over” she’s her own person!
the mom obviously only is paying so she can have control over her dress too, gross.
What a beautiful bride and a beautiful consultant
This consultant always hits the nail on the head
This nightgown dress didn't flatter this bride at all. The bride wasn't overly excited the dress either, no emotional connection, that was why she was hesitant and kept vacillating. Wonder why the consultant couldn't see that and put her in a different silhouette.
She wanted to close the sale and earn a bigger commission
What Mum you have had your day Mum back off. The consultant was excellent. So pleased Ginny-May stood her ground and got the dress she loved,
This bridal consultant is everything
Mom is feeling scared of living alone and it’s coming out as drama and tension about the wedding dress. Daughter is excited about her future. I’m proud of her for reaching for reaching for what she wants.
I think my mom has been the same when I’ve been planning my wedding
I can say they dress she chose is honestly better for her.
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The bride is so beautiful and gorgeous on both dresess, but i do agree with the mom that the top part on 2nd dress doesn't give justice to her beauty and figure.
She's too small busted for it. She needed to try on more dresses and find one that fit her bosom better. She has a lovely figure but the dress didn't fit well in the bust area.
@@joralemonvirgincreche But that dress was a sample size. The alterations will be made to her actual dress to make the size of the bodice fit her torso/breast area perfectly.
Love 💖 Brogan she's the best, the bride is stunning & glowing
Yep, mom said it, the day she hands her daughter over will be a difficult day. She liked the dress, but her daughter getting closer to the wedding is further away from her, so she may always find things to dislike. I think mom realized it
Aaaand welcome once again, to yet another episode of 'It's Not Your Bloody Wedding, Mother!'
I am glad she is getting a nice mother in law.
Fabulous consultant. Need to see more episodes with her.
When I got married I knew exactly what I wanted for my wedding gown. I did not try one on. My Mom and I made my wedding gown and it was perfect. We also made my daughters flower girl dresses and they were the same style as mine but in a gorgeous print that matched my bouquet. My Maid and bridesmaids were in a color pulled from that print. Gorgeous. Do what you want it is your day
Pay for your own dress and leave the moms at home. For real!!
BLESS that sales lady and her mother n law
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Mom has good taste IMO. That first dress was lovely.
Ikr she looks great in the second dress but the first dress was amazing
The mom has to realized it's her daughter day not her.
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I know she was just dead set on deferring to the mom but I'm just not convinced she loved that dress 🤷♀️
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I hope they tried on more dresses than the 2 they showed us. She only tried on one other dress and immediately picked that one? Theres so many dresses! I can see why the Mum was pushing her to try on more lol
Awwww, she looked so beautiful in the dress and I did like it when they sewed up the little dip in the front.
It seems like most mums have a fantasy about their daughters wearing a princess style ball gown, and it gets in the way every time. In this case, the mum pushed her daughter too far. She responded by raising her voice, which she obviously needed to do.
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I don’t think the mother was particularly mean. She has been asked an opinion and she gave it although she didn’t love it she didn’t say she hated it.
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Mum shouldn't have to make her fight for it.
Great consultant. She had the seamstress sew it up....great customer service. Koodos to her. Great job making that bride happy.
"If you love it than that's 'fine'." Not a reassuring word.
I agree with her mom. The top isn’t flattering
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Too petite and flat chest for that style
"I have to keep pushing her" Really?
It's her wedding she should feel beautiful on her special day not the mom
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Im so glad she stuck to her guns and stood up for the dress she *knew* was it.
Mom - "I'm not overbearing". Oh, yes, you are.😢
The second dress had just the amount style she needed.
Keep waiting for that approval honey! It’s never coming.
I absolutely love her dress! She looks gorgeous!
Shame mom cast any doubt. Bride is beautiful and should feel 100% supported and confident.
I do think she settled . She didn't even cry. I hope she really loved it
This is one of the few occasions where I feel the mom is right and the dress she picked out for her daughter was absolutely stunning. And really suits the bride
She s stunning in that dress!!!!!
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Personally I agree with the Mum. Her daughter didn't react strongly enough. If I was her, I'd be encouraging her to try on more dresses too.
Those of us who grew up in abusive homes often have difficulty expressing how we feel, especially to our main abusers.
To me, the fact that the daughter stood up to the mother at all made it seem like she was responding very strongly indeed. I am guessing that that took a great deal of courage for the daughter to do. To me, the fact that she stood up to this mama at all clearly showed that the daughter really liked and wanted that dress.
Glad the bride found her dream dress. But wish she had a few more options. Personally I found the consultant also being a little pushy.
The sales lady completely pressured her into getting that dress. You could tell she wasn't completely sure. The look on her face when she said she would like to try on another dress.
Everything aside, mom's pick was waaaay prettier and flattering
I personally liked the second dress better. She seemed to get absorbed into the poof of the first dress in my opinion
No, it was "swampy"! The bride described it perfectly. There was too much of the dress for her petite size, she was drowning in it.
Yes the mother’s pick was way better. Mom did not want to say that the second dress didn’t fit her well
The bride told the Consultant that she wanted "traditional and glitzy".
Her mother then picks out a dress for her, that was NOT traditional and NOT glitzy.
Mother: "The day that I have to hand her over to Calum...." - the bride is a grown woman, but it sounds like her mother thinks she is her possession to give.
Note to self: only bring one friend with you, and try to pay for it yourself - that way no one can dictate their style to you
That consultant was fighting for her commission. lol
I absolutely love the first dress!!
You know moms….you can always want the best for your daughter, but you don’t have to do it with bullying and forcing your opinions, likes or dislikes on her. Respect your daughters decision and her likes and dislikes.
I would caution against assuming that every mom actually wants what is best for their daughters, and I'm not even remotely convinced that this one does. Too many mothers are more interested in sabotaging their daughters for a variety of reasons: to gain narcissistic supply, to keep control over their child, to ensure the daughter stays 'less than' the mother, to ensure daughter knows her place, to ensure daughter cannot be fully happy, to ensure daughter remains reliant on mother, to ensure mother has someone to project her own insecurities onto, to live something out through the daughter, to just be nasty for the sake of being nasty, etc., etc.
Often it is a disgusting, toxic mix of many of the motivations combined.
It is enabling of abusers to start with the idea that they 'want what is best' for the victims of their abuse. Abusers only want what is best for themselves. Others' needs and wants only come into it in order to provide knowledge and ammo for the abusers to better hone their abuse.
It wasn’t HER pick, that’s what was wrong🙄 Moms paying for the dress, not wearing it. She should let the bride choose
Karen is a very sweet mother in law.. she is lucky with that
I loooved the first one in her, but what matters is she's happy.
This mom though, eesh. The resting face of this mom is very telling.
Idk why but I got a lil bit scary vibes from her. What’s her deal tho.
I like the first dress for her. It is simple so she wants more sparkle than can be done with a sparkly belt or a sparkly adornment.
To me a gift of paying for the dress is a gift of love. There shouldn't be strings attached. It wears on me a tad when brides can't decide for themselves what they like & are so heavily influenced. I wish this Bride & Groom the best.
The mother's choice is actually suits her and her figure.
She should have tried on more styles to know for sure
first dress is better than the second dress but its good she went with her pick
I think maybe the mum is sad about her daughter leaving home and that’s why subconsciously she was sabotaging the appointment.