It seems like this woman really tried, all she wanted was to be respected by her partner and his children in HER HOME. All she asked for was respect and he was so much up his ass that he chose to take his kids and leave rather than him and his brats to just respect her. He made his choice oh well.
That’s weird, what I took from this was that she wanted to be respected in the house that she owns, and that she can only be their step mom when it’s convenient for them not because they like her
Never date anyone with kids…..women OR men. Have your own or don’t have any. You will never be their parent and they will make your life harder when you are helping them. I have no sympathy for those bastards or their weak father. Never date anyone with kids…….ever.
Thank god my stepdad didn’t have this mentality. Me and my siblings now have an awesome dad and some pretty cool little brothers. We see him as our dad and treat his as such.
My 32 year old daughter's dad is not her father. We broke up when she was 5 years old. 27 years later and he is still her dad and a wonderful one at that. He's also a wonderful grandfather and my best friend.
Both my parents had relationships after their separations and I 100% see their partners as parental figures, the kind of behavior in this video is extremely toxic and a real danger to look out for but in no way common
I don't agree with yah OP, it was just wrongly handled. It should have been eased in with a much longer period. And then just test the waters for a few months b4 they fully move in and cancel/cell the old house. My brother did this, his daughter was already adult and out of the house when he found someone else. He lived in her house for a long while before selling his own house. And agreements where made over time and how its handled with her 3 kids etc. By now he sold his house like 7 years ago, and she sold hers 5 years ago and they bought together a new house that was build. They've been in a relation now for total around 12 years. If both sides do it in communication and open and clear, then there is no problem. but if you have no real communication and let the relation grow and bloom fully beyond the early phases of the relation, then it goes much better. They aren't married, just living together etc. 1 kid of hers also already left the house. The fast "fall in love and in 2 months be married and living together" formula does NOT work. For those don't know eachother, don't know how they react to stress from eachother, how they respond to that and the others reaction etc. They took it slow, my brother early on dating for few months, then sleep over a night or 2 per month, then go on vacation together etc. My brother had other relations after his divorce, and those went wrong for some reason, but not being already fully together makes it much easier to untangle.
I disagree. My stepfather got with my mom while she had me. They’ve been married for over 20 years. I have 3 siblings. He treats me with respect so I treat him the same. He’s nice to me. My wife got with me while I had a 10 month old baby girl. She didn’t need to but she took on the role of a mother to her. My daughter calls her mommy. Even tho we have split custody of my daughter. My wife is pregnant with a baby due next month. I’ve heard her whisper to my daughter when she thinks I’m not listening that she’s glad to be her momma, that she’s been incredibly happy. My daughter didn’t need to call her momma, my wife made that clear. She even checked with her biological mom the first time my daughter called her that.
I feel like she over reacted. She does need to get over herself, though they could have been nicer. She doesn't know what those kids went through, especially if there was a divorce she got into like three arguments with her husband, and said "divorce" almost instantly. Girl needs to talk to them in a calm tone, try harder to set boundaries, go to couples counseling, then try again. Not throw a man and three kids into the street because she got pissy. And believe me, I understand her point of view. She was rudely and vigorously disrespected in her own home. But what she did is practically the definition of "if I go down, I'm bring everyone else with me". And in this case it's that she was hurt so she's going to hurt other people. Except the people she's hurting are ones she claimed to love, but I feel like with how quickly she decided to throw them out she didn't really love them that much.
I would almost agree but the OP never said how long it was before the breaking point and if her husband took the side of the mother of their children right away it seems he was only there to get a way to find a home for him and his kids rather than actually loving his new wife and defending her
What utter and complete rubbish. It was the father’s responsibility to coach, mentor and encourage the children into a good relationship with his new wife. He did nothing. He did worse than nothing - he openly encouraged his children’s behaviour. He never took his wife’s view into consideration. Her views and opinions didn’t matter to him because she didn’t matter to him. He was using the new wife as a convenience - she supplied a roof over their heads, did the school run, cooked all the food, provided intimacy without any need for effort on his part and was a free maid service. She probably paid for the honour, too. I suspect that was always the plan - find a gullible woman to do the crappy and mundane stuff. He could waltz about doing nothing for his children and continue to ingratiate himself with his ex-wife (his overcompensating means the divorce was never his desire and he’d go back to her in a shot if she let him). When new wife put her foot down, did he say ‘ok, we need to talk about this’? No. He packed immediately and left. He realised his ruse was up. His way or the highway. He just upped and left, probably to find another gullible woman to support both him and his family without any hope of it being reciprocated. The speed with which he left indicates there was possibly someone in the wings waiting.
His children and the ex wife thought it was okay to disrespect her. He just let it happen. He was also playing house. Teach them kids how to wash their own clothes, cook their own food. Show me how to catch the bus.
Someone isn't hurting people by withdrawing help they are not only not obligated to offer but that has been rejected. It's really as simple as don't bite the hand that feeds you. Those children still have two parents and if none of them wanted a step-parent to be involved in their family unit then what did they expect?
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It seems like this woman really tried, all she wanted was to be respected by her partner and his children in HER HOME. All she asked for was respect and he was so much up his ass that he chose to take his kids and leave rather than him and his brats to just respect her. He made his choice oh well.
It's good that she didn't waste her time.
Dude wanted a servant, not a wife.
never take on some one else's trauma and baggage especially if you not good yourself.
That’s weird, what I took from this was that she wanted to be respected in the house that she owns, and that she can only be their step mom when it’s convenient for them not because they like her
Lady, exit that marriage and horrible situation, asap.
Good for her
Is there a part 2?
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Never date anyone with kids…..women OR men. Have your own or don’t have any. You will never be their parent and they will make your life harder when you are helping them. I have no sympathy for those bastards or their weak father. Never date anyone with kids…….ever.
Thank god my stepdad didn’t have this mentality. Me and my siblings now have an awesome dad and some pretty cool little brothers. We see him as our dad and treat his as such.
My 32 year old daughter's dad is not her father. We broke up when she was 5 years old. 27 years later and he is still her dad and a wonderful one at that. He's also a wonderful grandfather and my best friend.
Both my parents had relationships after their separations and I 100% see their partners as parental figures, the kind of behavior in this video is extremely toxic and a real danger to look out for but in no way common
I don't agree with yah OP, it was just wrongly handled. It should have been eased in with a much longer period. And then just test the waters for a few months b4 they fully move in and cancel/cell the old house.
My brother did this, his daughter was already adult and out of the house when he found someone else. He lived in her house for a long while before selling his own house. And agreements where made over time and how its handled with her 3 kids etc. By now he sold his house like 7 years ago, and she sold hers 5 years ago and they bought together a new house that was build. They've been in a relation now for total around 12 years.
If both sides do it in communication and open and clear, then there is no problem. but if you have no real communication and let the relation grow and bloom fully beyond the early phases of the relation, then it goes much better. They aren't married, just living together etc. 1 kid of hers also already left the house.
The fast "fall in love and in 2 months be married and living together" formula does NOT work. For those don't know eachother, don't know how they react to stress from eachother, how they respond to that and the others reaction etc. They took it slow, my brother early on dating for few months, then sleep over a night or 2 per month, then go on vacation together etc.
My brother had other relations after his divorce, and those went wrong for some reason, but not being already fully together makes it much easier to untangle.
I disagree. My stepfather got with my mom while she had me. They’ve been married for over 20 years. I have 3 siblings. He treats me with respect so I treat him the same. He’s nice to me. My wife got with me while I had a 10 month old baby girl. She didn’t need to but she took on the role of a mother to her. My daughter calls her mommy. Even tho we have split custody of my daughter. My wife is pregnant with a baby due next month. I’ve heard her whisper to my daughter when she thinks I’m not listening that she’s glad to be her momma, that she’s been incredibly happy. My daughter didn’t need to call her momma, my wife made that clear. She even checked with her biological mom the first time my daughter called her that.
I feel like she over reacted.
She does need to get over herself, though they could have been nicer. She doesn't know what those kids went through, especially if there was a divorce she got into like three arguments with her husband, and said "divorce" almost instantly.
Girl needs to talk to them in a calm tone, try harder to set boundaries, go to couples counseling, then try again. Not throw a man and three kids into the street because she got pissy.
And believe me, I understand her point of view. She was rudely and vigorously disrespected in her own home. But what she did is practically the definition of "if I go down, I'm bring everyone else with me". And in this case it's that she was hurt so she's going to hurt other people. Except the people she's hurting are ones she claimed to love, but I feel like with how quickly she decided to throw them out she didn't really love them that much.
I would almost agree but the OP never said how long it was before the breaking point and if her husband took the side of the mother of their children right away it seems he was only there to get a way to find a home for him and his kids rather than actually loving his new wife and defending her
What utter and complete rubbish.
It was the father’s responsibility to coach, mentor and encourage the children into a good relationship with his new wife. He did nothing. He did worse than nothing - he openly encouraged his children’s behaviour. He never took his wife’s view into consideration. Her views and opinions didn’t matter to him because she didn’t matter to him.
He was using the new wife as a convenience - she supplied a roof over their heads, did the school run, cooked all the food, provided intimacy without any need for effort on his part and was a free maid service. She probably paid for the honour, too. I suspect that was always the plan - find a gullible woman to do the crappy and mundane stuff. He could waltz about doing nothing for his children and continue to ingratiate himself with his ex-wife (his overcompensating means the divorce was never his desire and he’d go back to her in a shot if she let him).
When new wife put her foot down, did he say ‘ok, we need to talk about this’? No. He packed immediately and left. He realised his ruse was up. His way or the highway. He just upped and left, probably to find another gullible woman to support both him and his family without any hope of it being reciprocated. The speed with which he left indicates there was possibly someone in the wings waiting.
Sorry but she did NOT overreact
His children and the ex wife thought it was okay to disrespect her. He just let it happen. He was also playing house. Teach them kids how to wash their own clothes, cook their own food. Show me how to catch the bus.
Someone isn't hurting people by withdrawing help they are not only not obligated to offer but that has been rejected. It's really as simple as don't bite the hand that feeds you. Those children still have two parents and if none of them wanted a step-parent to be involved in their family unit then what did they expect?