Tyler, thank you for passing on this great way of thinking. I've been working on a novel series for well over a decade and struggle greatly with impulse control. If I hadn't had the superiority complex, I wouldn't be working on the same subject matter all these years. Insecurity produced COUNTLESS revisions and each one is far better than the last. Day to day impulses are the blight to these successes and this episode has made me see that clearly. Now that I know where my strengths are, it's time to kick that weakness goodbye. Impulse control is a writers arch nemesis. The other two greatly go hand in hand. Keep these going, always looking forward! And thank you!
Great episode as always, Tyler. This humble podcast of yours is the lighthouse for all upcoming writers. Please continue the superior work you are doing. Will definitely stick around for more wisdom from you.
I'm glad you're talking about impulse control in your channels. The other factors are a little bit more natural within your personality so it's much productive to be working on the thing you can make better with just discipline and effort.
Superiority complex, You must learn to be compassionate to feel very dicipline to take consequences of your actions, gradually, like self respect to give within character.
I was really confused about what's wrong with me but this gave me a sense of clarity on certain levels...... Thank you so much man this was much needed...... Keep up the excellent work you are doing........
The superiority complex is a very tricky thing to balance right. It is good to know and acknowledge the areas you succeed and fail in, but it is easy to then get big headed, or vise versa (as is the case with myself) where you actively avoid being big headed but in the process lean too far the other way so you have a low self confidence.
Really enjoyed the episode. I'd suggest there are some who don't view the 'superiority' element as a matter of comparison to others necessarily. They feel that inside they have *it,* whatever it is, and that as a result it's possible to achieve great things. The question and the challenge becomes whether they can achieve with it. It's not a matter of anyone else. The question is about themselves.
I wana touch on procrastination and how to beat that "impulse element" [this is how it worked for me and i assume that since i am human it should work for you as well]. In order to do that i need you to be familiar with Pavlov dogs experiment. Basically what happened is that i was focusing on results instead of enjoying the process of creating and i would always listen to my inner critic saying that i am worthless that i will never make it and that i just am not one of the people that can be successfull cuz i just cant get myself to start or keep working on anything but only watch yt, so whenever i went to work i would focus on that critic instead of the work and being in the moment, so i associated working with the feeling i have when my inner critic speaks to me and that is that my work makes me feel like shit IF YOUR WORK MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT YOU ARENT GONA BE MOTIVATED TO DO IT NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY AND YOU WILL RUN TO ANYTHING ELSE YOU CAN GET YOUR HANDS ON so i stopped paying attention to results and critic and just enjoyed the moment of creating(that feeling of flow when you just think about, ok how do i solve this instead of oh shit its not good enough) and i have managed to increase my productivity a lot and i get much more enjoyment out of it.( it might not be your inner critic it could be your surroundings as well or my god both) Hope this helps some of you. X)
I find impulse control is my problem, sitting down to write when I don't feel like writing is my biggest challenge. I also have a problem where i end up rereading and editing what I've already written rather than adding more pages
Rewriting is part of the process. I do that too especially when my story doesn't want to flow and starts to feel like I force things in it. When that happens it's time to go back and find out why your story doesn't want to work. The reason is usually that your character's needs and wants are not clear to you so your character just does things without a clear, deep motivation. The reason also can be that your philosophical conflict isn't working so your story starts to fall apart. Also editing dialogue or events on their own isn't progress, rewriting starts when you start thinking about your story's skeleton and by fixing the basis you start fixing the whole story. If something feels off, then there is probably a deeper problem in your story than off sounding dialogue lines or silly events.
i Think you can learn insecurity pretty easy though. It really just takes a couple of hard failures to start the process of rethinking what one is doing wrong.
Sorry, but I think the idea of "superiority complex" is of very questionable value. The reality is that there are those who when they fail they view their failure as an indication of who they are and what they can and cannot do and there are people who when they fail they view their failure as pointing to what they still need to do to achieve their goals. Members of the first group view a lack of success as both a state they inhabit and a trait they possess, while members of the second group view their lack of success as an indication that they need to work harder. Nothing there about "superiority". One group continues to work at what they are doing and the other group quits. One groups views themselves as being able to master the challenges and the second group views themselves as being inherently unable to master those challenges. And this applies as much to writing as to athletics, to beer brewing or to scholarship and I suspect that we all belong to BOTH groups when we are engaged in different activities: some activities I think not me, I cannot do and others I think with a little more effort I will achieve my goal, I will be successful.
You're kind of touching on the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. A fixed mindset assumes that your abilities are fixed at birth, and a growth mindset assumes that you can improve over time. I know firsthand how toxic the combination of a fixed mindset and a feeling of superiority can be. You become focused on *not failing*, because any failure is a direct threat to your feeling of superiority. If you fail at something that someone else succeeded at, then you must be inferior to that person. At that point, there's no upside to even trying, so you don't. Having a growth mindset, to my mind, is the fourth ingredient that you need for success.
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Tyler, thank you for passing on this great way of thinking. I've been working on a novel series for well over a decade and struggle greatly with impulse control. If I hadn't had the superiority complex, I wouldn't be working on the same subject matter all these years. Insecurity produced COUNTLESS revisions and each one is far better than the last. Day to day impulses are the blight to these successes and this episode has made me see that clearly. Now that I know where my strengths are, it's time to kick that weakness goodbye. Impulse control is a writers arch nemesis. The other two greatly go hand in hand.
Keep these going, always looking forward! And thank you!
Great podcast. Definitely resonated. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great episode as always, Tyler. This humble podcast of yours is the lighthouse for all upcoming writers. Please continue the superior work you are doing. Will definitely stick around for more wisdom from you.
Thanks for listening!
I'm glad you're talking about impulse control in your channels. The other factors are a little bit more natural within your personality so it's much productive to be working on the thing you can make better with just discipline and effort.
Absolutely!
Thanks for saving me money on a therapist. Love your stuff man.
Superiority complex,
You must learn to be compassionate to feel very dicipline to take consequences of your actions, gradually, like self respect to give within character.
I was really confused about what's wrong with me but this gave me a sense of clarity on certain levels...... Thank you so much man this was much needed...... Keep up the excellent work you are doing........
Glad it helped!
The superiority complex is a very tricky thing to balance right. It is good to know and acknowledge the areas you succeed and fail in, but it is easy to then get big headed, or vise versa (as is the case with myself) where you actively avoid being big headed but in the process lean too far the other way so you have a low self confidence.
Really enjoyed the episode. I'd suggest there are some who don't view the 'superiority' element as a matter of comparison to others necessarily. They feel that inside they have *it,* whatever it is, and that as a result it's possible to achieve great things. The question and the challenge becomes whether they can achieve with it. It's not a matter of anyone else. The question is about themselves.
Another great video. But Tyler, my dude, get a lav mic. My arm cramped just watching you hold that mic up for a half hour lol. Keep up the great work.
I wana touch on procrastination and how to beat that "impulse element" [this is how it worked for me and i assume that since i am human it should work for you as well]. In order to do that i need you to be familiar with Pavlov dogs experiment. Basically what happened is that i was focusing on results instead of enjoying the process of creating and i would always listen to my inner critic saying that i am worthless that i will never make it and that i just am not one of the people that can be successfull cuz i just cant get myself to start or keep working on anything but only watch yt, so whenever i went to work i would focus on that critic instead of the work and being in the moment, so i associated working with the feeling i have when my inner critic speaks to me and that is that my work makes me feel like shit IF YOUR WORK MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT YOU ARENT GONA BE MOTIVATED TO DO IT NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY AND YOU WILL RUN TO ANYTHING ELSE YOU CAN GET YOUR HANDS ON so i stopped paying attention to results and critic and just enjoyed the moment of creating(that feeling of flow when you just think about, ok how do i solve this instead of oh shit its not good enough) and i have managed to increase my productivity a lot and i get much more enjoyment out of it.( it might not be your inner critic it could be your surroundings as well or my god both) Hope this helps some of you. X)
impulses... that's really what struggles me to get my ideas done... i need to learn how to control it, and i dont know where to start...
So good❤️
I find impulse control is my problem, sitting down to write when I don't feel like writing is my biggest challenge. I also have a problem where i end up rereading and editing what I've already written rather than adding more pages
Rewriting is part of the process. I do that too especially when my story doesn't want to flow and starts to feel like I force things in it. When that happens it's time to go back and find out why your story doesn't want to work. The reason is usually that your character's needs and wants are not clear to you so your character just does things without a clear, deep motivation. The reason also can be that your philosophical conflict isn't working so your story starts to fall apart. Also editing dialogue or events on their own isn't progress, rewriting starts when you start thinking about your story's skeleton and by fixing the basis you start fixing the whole story. If something feels off, then there is probably a deeper problem in your story than off sounding dialogue lines or silly events.
i Think you can learn insecurity pretty easy though. It really just takes a couple of hard failures to start the process of rethinking what one is doing wrong.
Its exactly how I am
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Sorry, but I think the idea of "superiority complex" is of very questionable value. The reality is that there are those who when they fail they view their failure as an indication of who they are and what they can and cannot do and there are people who when they fail they view their failure as pointing to what they still need to do to achieve their goals. Members of the first group view a lack of success as both a state they inhabit and a trait they possess, while members of the second group view their lack of success as an indication that they need to work harder. Nothing there about "superiority". One group continues to work at what they are doing and the other group quits. One groups views themselves as being able to master the challenges and the second group views themselves as being inherently unable to master those challenges. And this applies as much to writing as to athletics, to beer brewing or to scholarship and I suspect that we all belong to BOTH groups when we are engaged in different activities: some activities I think not me, I cannot do and others I think with a little more effort I will achieve my goal, I will be successful.
You're kind of touching on the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. A fixed mindset assumes that your abilities are fixed at birth, and a growth mindset assumes that you can improve over time.
I know firsthand how toxic the combination of a fixed mindset and a feeling of superiority can be. You become focused on *not failing*, because any failure is a direct threat to your feeling of superiority. If you fail at something that someone else succeeded at, then you must be inferior to that person. At that point, there's no upside to even trying, so you don't.
Having a growth mindset, to my mind, is the fourth ingredient that you need for success.