“Have a terrible day” ; “You’re ugly” ❤❤❤ I love you guys so much! Thanks for another great message, filled with joy and warmth and burnished by care and thoughtfulness.
What a great episode- it made me think back to imprinting moments from when I was growing up and how deeply those moments affected me, and times where I most likely imprinted on others. Gaining an awareness of your words is so so important to bettering yourself as a person, and also learning how to navigate when people leave negative imprints on you.
Skizz, you kind of did the positive imprinting last season of Last Life. Taking each person aside and telling them what you appreciate and like about them. Sometimes adults don't get to hear those positive words that much, so when it does happen we think about it a lot. On that note, I look forward to your podcasts each week. Hearing two friends be candid with each other, talking about things that not everyone finds easy to talk about, is very refreshing. Thank you very much
Hey Guys, I didn’t realize it but I wanted to let you know that apparently you guys are my top podcast on Spotify, and I’m in the top 1% of your listeners. I appreciate the consistent content of laughs, guests, motivation, inspiration, story telling and honesty. I’ve been listening since Tango first came on and have been hooked ever since. P.S. up to you impulse but I didn’t know about the podcast until it showed up in my feed, maybe plug it every once in a while at the end of Hermitcraft episodes?
Impulse, "Overwhelmed by ambiguity" is a phrase you used in one of your early podcasts and it's something I say to myself least once a week, when my anxiety ramps up. I told my therapist about it and she thought it was brilliant. I credited you of course and told her about this podcast which she said she'd look into. (she might even be reading this comment, who knows). It really resonated with me because it perfectly expressed exactly how I feel, and I'd never been able to do that before. I know you know that you and Skizz have helped a lot of people with that podcast, but I thought I'd add my little tidbit in as well.
What do I need to sign to get this podcast to be longer. Seriously you guys get me in the right mindset, I think, for life in general. Intentionality is a huge focus in my life recently and this came at an impeccable time. Thank you for everything you guys do and please don’t stop.
The end! lol. You guys are really funny I try not to think about the times someone has negatively imprinted on me because for me it tends to re-validate what they've said. and I know its not true. But I do hold close many memories in which someone's words or actions have built me up. One memory I have been revisiting a lot lately was a high school teacher of mine who was the first teacher to have compassion for the stress in my life and how I was (very badly) coping with my ADHD. She recognized that while I got behind on homework and projects, I was still trying my hardest to understand the material. She gave me a packet of every paper I hadn't turned in over the course of the semester, for me to do over break and gave me a chance to make it all up with no late points taken off. I would have failed my first class ever if she hadn't given me this opportunity. I cant remember the exact words she said but it was to the effect of "I want you to learn physics, but I also want you to learn how the real world works. If you miss a deadline at your work, you'll still have to finish it. Highschool missed assignments don't teach you that. I know you'll be great whatever you do because you're smart. You just need to learn how to apply yourself correctly." I passed that class with a high B because of her compassion and guidance and I think about her almost every day.
At the end of my Freshman year of high school, I was helping one of my classmates with reviewing what we had learned that semester. This was in class while the teacher was doing a review. The teacher asked us to go into the hallway so that we wouldn’t disturb the rest of the class. We did, and shortly another classmate joined us, and another, and another, etc until over half the class was in the hallway with me instead of in the classroom with the teacher. Another teacher walked by, saw what we were doing, stuck his head into the classroom and said “You’re being paid to teach these kids.” That stuck with me and was a major factor in my decision to go for an educational degree when I went to college.
I wish I had known about "The three gates of speech" when I was much younger, it would have saved some negative imprints. Your words should pass three gates before they pass your lips. First gate: Is it true? Second gate: Is it necessary? Third gate: Is it kind? (Sometimes two out of three ain't bad)
My parents also taught me that cars are just metal and plastic. Which I'm grateful for, because last year a girl (about 18-20) bounced her front end off mine. Easy to tell it was her first wreck; she had that stunned persona I had with my first one. None of us were injured. I only sighed, checked on both cars, and said they're fixable. We can fix cars all the time or replace them. We cannot replace humans, nor can we take back screaming and raging at someone when they are scared and ashamed.
I was in grade school and I was hanging out with the popular girls and they said if you wanna be cool you have to come with us to beat up this girl. she was my neighbor and friend and I did it and when she told on us. main one she pointed out was me because she new me. I carried that with me my whole life as one of my biggest regrets. A couple years ago married I have my son I saw her. I thought I will never get another chance and I got to tell her how I felt through the years. I felt like I messed up what could have been a good friendship. She could have just written me off but instead she forgave me and thanked me. just wanted to share. this podcast was a tearjerker you jerks just playing I love you guys.
The greatest teacher is your own mistakes & there are plenty of times where you don’t even know you’ve made a mistake unless it’s pointed out by another person. When you want to offer help or advice, the important thing to learn is constructive criticism & how to deal with criticism yourself. Also setting boundaries while respecting other’s is important. Sometimes you just won’t appreciate the help as much as you’d appreciate the chance to deal with a mistake your way. So try to keep that in mind when dealing with other people’s mistakes.
When Spotify wrap comes out and I’ve listened to you all 1362 minutes (22 hours) (not including me listening to you guys on RUclips). You both are amazing and I have really enjoyed listening to you. Thanks for the consistent podcast for my Friday commute.
Everything about this podcast is amazing. I’m definitely subscribing! The fact you treated the girl who crashed into your car with so much kindness is genuinely amazing. Not to mention you both have probably had such a positive impact on so many people. I know Jimmy talked about how skizz has a special place in his heart on one of his episodes, it’s clear to see the positive imprint ❤
This was a really interesting one! It’s amazing how long stuff can stay with you, I still remember remarks from adults I got as a kid. I think when you put trust and authority into people it hurts even more
I totally understand your reference “it’s just tobacco, bro”, Skizz. I’ll never forget the day I was stressed to the max; doing a hundred things and almost hysterical from lack of sleep for days and being stressed out. Another woman was talking to me and I was explaining why I’m having a break down and I’ll never forget what she said. Me: -tears rolling down my face but you can understand me, I’m not quite blubbering- There’s not enough time in the day. I’ll never get everything done and I don’t have time tomorrow bc I have a list of things to do then. Everything is falling through the cracks. I just washed the dishes but the dishwasher didn’t get everything. They’re still dirty so I have to do them again but I’ve got so much else to do, how am I going to fit in hand washing them? Her: wash them again. (Run them through the dishwasher again) Everything snapped into place for me at that moment, just by how she said it. It wasn’t condescending. She wasn’t being patronizing. She wasn’t even trying to say something profound. But to me it was. It released me from the shackles of these arbitrary rules we’ve placed on ourselves because it’s what we’re “supposed to do”. It’s an unspoken rule to only wash dishes once, but it’s made up. . . It’s not real. I took back my power and have stopped letting things stress me out anymore because my priorities have shifted. Things only have power over me if I let them.
Making a big, positive difference in someone's life feels amazing. I've done it once for an acquaintance where it caused them to get a promotion and I felt on top of the world. And now I'm a teacher and so I have the opportunity to do so every day. It's not the career I wanted, but it's a noble one I can be proud of. You guys inspire to make a positive difference in people's lives.
You guys probably won't ever see this, Long time lurker of this podcast and a major fan of both of your Minecraft content. But this discussion of imprinting and the ramifications really made me soul search and think about my teenage years with toxic family influences and really process it. I've been in therapy for years for this but you guys talking about this really put it into a new perspective for me. I started to process things that happened and I will be forever grateful for listening to this podcast today.
The car story reminds me of when I got into my first crash, car totaled, and when my dad shows up and I’m still in shock, shaking and just rambling about what happened, he pulls me into a hug and and says “it’s just stuff”
I just wanted to say; you guys and this podcast has inspired me to strive for self-improvement, for the longest time I've had a difficult time getting myself to do mundane tasks. In the past couple months you've been people I admire and look up to and I've been working on cleaning my room this past week, I have trouble with motivation to do things but I'm keeping at it slowly but surely. I've started to figure out what works for me and gets me to enjoy mundane task, such as cleaning the dishes, and I'd like to thank you, so so much, for opening my eyes and being such an inspiration for many people and myself. Keep up the amazing job! 😊
I appreciate y'all's honesty and vulnerability. Being able to identify what made you-- where you struggled, where you succeeded--who you are today. It's refreshing.
You gentlemen have created one of the best podcasts on youtube. The world needs more thoughtful, positive role models like yourselves. With every episode, my respect deepens even more. I'm always late to the comments because I have to pick a time when I can really pay attention for the whole episode, so you may never see this, but I still felt compelled to say it. Happy Holidays to you and your families!
One thing that I learned in therapy - when things happen, ask yourself "Will this matter at 5pm tomorrow afternoon?". Most of the time, the answer is "no, it won't matter." Then you just let it go. If it WILL matter tomorrow, then ask "Is there anything I can do about this to make it better?". If not, then let it go. If yes, then ask "Okay, what are my options?" Then you just go from there with a plan in mind. It does no good to stress about things that you can't change that will not matter by 5pm tomorrow afternoon
The way you imprinted on me: Skizz said once in this podcast “I truly do believe, i am happiest person on earth” and i just though “challenge excepted buddy”
You guys definitely imprinted on me in a great way, finally overcame fear of judgement/pointless perfectionism and put out an EP, as well as start making music content which I had floating in my head. I needed that push to realize I don't "kinda want it" but "really want it." BTW totally agree for getting Grian to discuss the life series, and would love to see Bdubs talk about content creation as a family man. :)
Skizz, are you sure that teachers comment had a negative imprint? Seems she was spot on and you've done well with it, you're not just an entertainer, you've become an amazing entertainer. An actor is a lier, everything they do is to decieve you into believing they're not acting. An entertainer can be honest, doesn't have to lie. I think that's a huge distinction between the two, enjoy not having to lie for your profession.
I don’t think an actor and a liar is the same thing tbh… There is an unspoken understanding when entering an auditorium or when watching a movie that what you are seeing isn’t reality. It isn’t lying, it is story telling, unless you want to assert that all fiction authors and Role Players are also liars. I really don’t think it’s fair to call actors liars, because liars intend to deceive. You know that the actor in the movie isn’t actually that character, so they aren’t trying to deceive, just tell a story.
You can actually be both an actor and an entertainer. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what Skizz is now. At that point it was a negative imprint because it hurt his dreams.
Every now and then I need to listen to this podcast. It's like sitting down with old friends. You guys are so wholesome and there hasn't been a single episode that didn't make me feel better in one way or another. I hope there's many more to come ❤
There are times when I know I need to speak carefully, and then there are the times when I don't even think about it, and just say whatever is in the front of my head. And either can make a big impression on the person I'm speaking to. That's one of my biggest parenting fears: That that time I snapped at my kid might have more influence on their view of themselves than the careful speech I gave when they came crying to me because a friend said something mean. Obviously what I WANT is for them to remember what I said about them being valuable and loved and someone worth spending time with--but they might just remember me telling them to be quiet because I have a headache and don't want to hear a five minute recounting of last night's dream.
I came on here to say basically the same thing. As a parent, I'm afraid that something I've said in the moment will hurt them long-term. Now, I do take comfort in the fact that they still love me, and hopefully our relationship is strong enough that they can forgive me eventually. But it certainly has a lasting impact on ME when I say something stupid that I end up regretting.
And might I add something as a kid Not really considered one but I think anyone in their early twenties thinking they're adults, know that they're actually still kids Well My parents have said things that have hurt My parents have said things that have helped And easy as it it is to remember the things that hurt you to the core, it's always just beautiful remembering the good things they've said, especially as you go through life learning that what they said or did to show you you're amazing was truth, and that the things they may have said without thinking about it, have a reasoning behind it. Mum and Dad aren't perfect but I've learned to take the good in what they say, even if it's sometimes phrased insensitively Or notice when they're angry and learn to either calm them or give them space, and return when I know I can talk As long as you really do love your kids, it'll show through in some way I've never heard my parents tell me that they love me But I see that they do in the little things they do that are the ways they know how to show affection To try add some context, I've grown up on being hit as punishments But I can't focus on the bad Sometimes the negative imprinting is really hard to escape Like I still am constantly terrified that I'll make someone angry or upset But with parents It's as you get older That you just love them more if they truly love you along the way Because it gets easier to see that It's not an easy journey and I respect you and any parent greatly for taking up this responsibility But know that They'll turn out great And you're doing amazing if you are always wondering is what you're doing is right If you're looking to improve To be the best for them Then you're doing the best thing
really appreciate what you are trying to get across in this episode. I have comments made by people that have stuck with me all these years. Love you guys thanks for doing this
The “it’s just tobacco” comment reminds me of a line in a book I read when my daughter was a baby. The woman (in the book) was watching her husband play with their little kid in the yard, throwing a ball of something, and the kid threw hard in to the flower bed and then trampled the flowers. She saw her husband get mad with the kid, and she went out and said “Remember we are raising a child, not a flower bed.” It stuck with me, to remember the important things are the people around us.
Thank you so much for all that you guys do! I look forward to these podcasts every Friday. Whether they're serious or silly, they bring lots of knowledge, laughter and understanding. Please keep being you❤
What do I need to sign to get this podcast to be longer. Seriously you guys get me in the right mindset, I think, for life in general. Intentionality is a huge focus in my life recently and this came at an impeccable time. Thank you for everything you guys do and please don’t stop. ❤
Hey guys, i just wanted to take a minute to thank you guys for all you guys have talked about and the folks you have talked to. Sadly i haven't watched any of these in order but you guys have helped me realize that i want to get back into content creation. Ive played Minecraft for a few years now but you guys are an inspiration and as folks that are a decade older than me i can relate to a lot of what you guys speak on and I'm grateful. So thank you again and maybe at some point i can possibly say thank you for another reason, only time will tell.
I actually got into a minor car accident/hit and run today, my car got a little damaged and i've probably got some whiplash, but everyone's fine as far as I know. I definitely think the story Skizz shared here imprinted on me for today. Make no mistake, i still had my panic attack about it (not really a thing i can control) and i'm still a little rattled, but after the release of emotion, it's fine. Nothing serious happened, just some damaged metal and plastic, and I can just take it and deal with what I need to
Every time my motivation starts to drop, I listen to the “what’s stopping you” podcast. Thank you both for being you and real and doing your best to entertain and inspire others. I love the Life Series.. the banter is the best
I remember a time when I got imprinted, and it really feels like it shouldn't have affected me but it lives with me to this day. I was a freshman in marching band, it was maybe a month or two into the season, and I had had a rough day, and I made an unnecessary comment about my day, and one of the younger helper staff straight up told me: "Guess what? Nobody cares." And to this day I've had moments where I'm thinking "Should I really say this? Will anyone care? Is it necessary to be said?" I think it's had both a negative and positive impact on my life, but its really interesting that this is literally the first thing that always pops into my head when I think about this topic.
I had a similar interactions quite often as a kid. I always responded with "I care" and it sometimes it became "i care and even if no one else does i will stand for what i believe is right even if the entire world is against me." The people who matter will care and if they don't then they don't matter.
31:14 as an upcoming teacher (although im still 2nd year in a pedagogy university) i would Love to listen to a podcast of you guys talking about teaching. Im from a completely different country with our own laws and rules, but expirienced teachers/tutors always have the universal knowledge about the connection with students no matter what they have taught, or what background they have!
You are absolutely right Impulse. We are all human and we are all gonna make mistakes. Love you guys and you will never truly understand the joy, the laughter and smiles, etc that you have provided to people during some of the darkest hours. In the end, we should be adult enough to understand that we are only human. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have caught myself starting to laugh out loud while I am watching you all and hubby is asleep. Those laughs when I cannot sleep because of chronic pain are PRICELESS to me!
You guys are so insightful to the point that I almost see you two as my extra parents. You two give some amazing advice, and at least one thing from each episode sticks with me to the point that it's completely a part of my everyday life. So, 69 bits of information and advice that I've felt like I'm turning a new leaf. You guys are amazing and have been changing a young woman's life in Wisconsin. Thank you! ❤
On Skizz's 'shameful' words to his co-worker. I have a slightly different perspective at this with something similar that got told to me and imprinted on me! At our(husband & I) old job right as we were leaving, everyone was making a fuss about how much they'd miss us etc. 'What are we going to do without you you're such a great asset to the team' yada yada etc etc. It put a ton of pressure on me. I was leaving, were my teammembers going to be okay? Were they really going to struggle with me leaving? What if they have issues and need to contact the manager!? A girl co-worker I wasn't particularly close with (she was nice tho!) and I came to the topic of how everyone was acting. She told me: 'Oh yeah of course they act like this, but you will leave and everyone will forget about you immediately. Everyone here is replaceable. Everyone will say they will keep in touch but they wont send you a message anymore after 2 months'. One might say this is very rude to say. But she 100% didn't say this with malice, she just wasn't thinking about what she was saying and chatting away. It just hit me as yes, that is exactly how it is. It's how it's going to go, and I was now aware of that. These words brought so much peace to me in so many situations that in the grand scheme of things 'it just doesnt matter'. You live through the chapters of a book, and everything is a part of your story. But the individual things they don't matter. You just treasure that experience you had in a chapter. The people, the memories, the experiences all yours, but it's totally fine if they stick in chapter II and don't carry over to chapter III. In the end from all chapter you have your own unique story from the millions of others you pass throughout your life. Does that make sense? It brought me peace knowing that I was not 'losing friends' by leaving the job, but rather that I was just closing a book on some great people that were a part of my life. Hearing I was replaceable and people don't care took more pressure of me than you could possibly imagine. Of course it depends on the person, time and place. But sometimes something you say just is true, even if socially considered rude. That 'rude truth' can sometimes help someone be grounded and close a door behind themselves, peacefully. That's what it did for me. :) TLDR: Being worried about something and being told nobody cared, people will live on with their lives, I'm replaceable was a reality check that brought me instant peace.
As parents we are so screwed! Of course I haven't purposely tried to hurt my daughter but I have said a few things I regret. So has my mom to me. It's just a natural thing in the parent/child dynamic. I've forgiven those who negatively imprinted on me. It's hard to keep your words in check. I try to think before I speak. I also try to keep in check my basic needs... am I tired, am I hungry, do I have low blood sugar, am I projecting my anger out... things like that before I say something wrong or mean. I really try to give people grace and patience the best I can. Love these podcasts keep them coming!
Such a great dynamic though. I love how Impulse is extremely intelligent with some wisdom, and Skizz is extremely wise with some intelligence. In perfectly equal and opposite ways. It works so well
Hello there! I wanted to say thank you guys for your amazing podcast, it was really interesting to hear your opinion about the power of words and imprinting. I am from Kyrgyzstan, its country that you have probably never heard about. Your podcas is so good that even person like me from extremely distant and tiny county know about you. I appreciate you guys.
The more i watch this podcast the more i fall in love with it I can see more and more what gem means when she says that you guys are like the additional dads that noone knew they needed Like i love my dad so much but hes not great with giving advice and talking about these things so ive learnt more from you guys from this podcast Ive been watching impulse for 5 years now and i never really saw him as an online father figure until this past year and its so comforting I truly love it and i love you guys, i sincerely hope that i get to meet you guys one day Lets get skiz to 100k guys 🎉❤
You guys are right on the money with this one. And I can definitely relate. It’s probably been over a year. I was on social media, reading a post and about to respond. What I first wrote was too long so I deleted and hit the back button to mentally rewrite. As I’m doing so I saw another post in the comments that really made me angry. So as I was rewriting that anger was seeping in. The more I thought about it the angrier I got. I finally just wrote something without even thinking about how it would come across. It was cold and dismissive. It wasn’t even what I meant to say, and the fact that I acted thy way makes me sick. That shame or something I can’t forgive myself for. Can’t take it back. No way to right the wrong in a way that would change anything. And it’s compounded knowing that domino effect that I likely had on someone else.
I can't believe it's already at 69 episodes, and I e watched every single one (since it was uploaded on the imp and Skizz channel). It's neat seeing the views and how they've grown since the start. Especially having over 200k on a couple of eps!
I'm pretty good at not letting negative things people say to me affect me in other areas of my life but they do impact my relationship with the person. I remember forever if someone says something negative to me and it kind of like a point system of how well i like that person. Sometimes 1 thing they say can plummet them from they are fine to not liking them at all, even if they are family. You always remember the negative things alot easier than the good things. That's why it's important to try to make positive comments to children. We criticize each other and children so much.
It's interesting that almost all the stories of imprinting, and moments of imprinting in my life which come to mind all come from people of respect or authority. It makes sense, but I'm happy to be more aware of that now. Good stuff.
I always thought of people as kind of a mirror. We reflect what we see in life and we can be shattered. We can also be fixed but usually you can still see the cracks that were made, even if they're faint.
I have to see the picture. Mostly curiosity, but I too had long hair and shaved the sides. Would love to see what you looked like becoming who you are. It shows a lot about a situation to know how someone sees themselves.
I love all your podcasts, and generally I applaud you for trying to stick to a subject. However, one of my favorite things about these is the tangents you go off on. Therefore, my suggestion; an episode here and there where you have a "starting subject," but then let it go where it goes.
I always hear in the intro "share a life on the Imp and Skizz." The Art of conversation really Imprint on me because of how true it is that is one I do really try to point people to because of how much it means.
"that got a little deep there"! I personally really enjoy the "deeper" episodes. As a relatively young person just leaving college, the insight you two offer is very interesting. I am actually going into education and what you said about teachers was so real, both the potential to make a positive or negative impact and the bit about "are you gonna pay me? "no."
I’m not gonna talk about the countless negative imprinting moments because no one wants to hear that but a therapist you pay for. This is one of my earliest memories and certainly my earliest vivid memory. I was about 5 or 6 and I was at school talking with my friends and playing and our teacher came up to us and asked us, “Do you girls mind help me clearing everything away?” Now what should be understood about me as to why that sentence is important is that I am a trans woman. Back then I didn’t know it. My teacher definitely didn’t know it unless she was psychic. She was just addressing my friends with me who were all cis girls (to my knowledge. Haven’t kept up with them). And I just happened to be there and she wasn’t really thinking. I know that in retrospect. And perhaps I even knew it at the time. But you know that warm fuzzy feeling you get in your chest. The best word I can describe it with is “contented”. Being included in the group “girls” gave me that feeling. It made me happy. And I feel like that’s important to think about when it comes to trans people. Because yes I have a lot of painful memories and experiences that came with and caused gender dysphoria in me. But my earliest memory I can relate to my being trans now is one of gender euphoria. Of happiness.
thank you for bringing to light the fact that words can affect people for years you remember the negative things people say to you more than the positive because it tears you down that is why to day after what happened to me as a kid i now cut people out of my life that can not say things to build people instead of tear them down as far as imprinting on someone or what you say affecting you later on in life i and a teacher when i as in elementary school announce to the entire class when it was my turn to choose a book for read aloud time they told the class that "because she is blind she doe snot need to choose a book for read a loud time she can't read" it messed with me for a long time and that teachers go to became she is blind she can't do this or that by the end of that school year i hated school and a couple years later the teacher that year was a complete opposite she went above and beyond what a teacher is required to do to help me love school again and still to this day over 30 years later it still is in the back of my head her voice saying you can't do it because you are blind even though i have done a lot of things since than and most of the things she thought i could not do i now do and more including making videos doing things a blind person can't do by her standards
This was a great episode. Thanks for sharing your history of being imprinted. It made me think of what has been imprinted on me and what I may have imprinted on other people.
Idk why but skizz's new car story reminds me of a trick i was taught with new sketchbooks. To get the fear of ruining a pristine quality new thing out of the way of trying, just cross it the first page. Or get a toddler to draw on it or scribble and just make it ugly. Anything more you may down on those pages will, at the very least, just become another dent to add.
No coincidence I’m sure how many of these stories are from when you guys were ~10-11. Very susceptible age, and a good reminder to take EXTRA care with kids at that age.
So I’ve been thinking about this for a few days now. And I’m thinking that in order for something to imprint, there would probably need to be some sort of big emotion attached to it. Good or bad. Thanks for talking about this, it’s brought up some situations in my life that have been imprinted.
man i totally get the drumline story skizz told. drumline had both the best and worst imprints on me, and i had something similar happen with an instructor who didn't know how much of an impact his words had on my mental health
this is such a nice episode, and for the record this podcast has been a huge inspiration for me! now I'm learning how to film and edit minecraft videos!
I enjoy your podcasts so much! Never missed a one. I'm personally crossing my fingers that Bdubs will be your next guest. Be good & be good to each other!
You guys need to have Grian on to talk about the life series when it's done
Yes PLEASE!!!! We would LOVE that.
Hell yeah!
I’d love to hear about the behind the scenes, especially for Secret Life!
Yes please! Is he one of the only hermits who haven't been on the podcast yet?
PLEASE.
“Have a terrible day” ; “You’re ugly” ❤❤❤ I love you guys so much! Thanks for another great message, filled with joy and warmth and burnished by care and thoughtfulness.
I saw this comment about 5-10 minutes before the end, and I was very confused.
@@JohnGisMe if you hadn’t already watched the end I can see how you’d be puzzled. Hope it made more sense after the video finished 😉
What a great episode- it made me think back to imprinting moments from when I was growing up and how deeply those moments affected me, and times where I most likely imprinted on others. Gaining an awareness of your words is so so important to bettering yourself as a person, and also learning how to navigate when people leave negative imprints on you.
agreed
Skizz, you kind of did the positive imprinting last season of Last Life. Taking each person aside and telling them what you appreciate and like about them. Sometimes adults don't get to hear those positive words that much, so when it does happen we think about it a lot.
On that note, I look forward to your podcasts each week. Hearing two friends be candid with each other, talking about things that not everyone finds easy to talk about, is very refreshing. Thank you very much
Hey Guys, I didn’t realize it but I wanted to let you know that apparently you guys are my top podcast on Spotify, and I’m in the top 1% of your listeners. I appreciate the consistent content of laughs, guests, motivation, inspiration, story telling and honesty. I’ve been listening since Tango first came on and have been hooked ever since. P.S. up to you impulse but I didn’t know about the podcast until it showed up in my feed, maybe plug it every once in a while at the end of Hermitcraft episodes?
Good thinking. I don't think it would be out of place at all to mention it occasionally at the end of your HC videos.
I always love the little pre sneak peak of what’s to come in the episode. It really grabs my attention.
Impulse, "Overwhelmed by ambiguity" is a phrase you used in one of your early podcasts and it's something I say to myself least once a week, when my anxiety ramps up. I told my therapist about it and she thought it was brilliant. I credited you of course and told her about this podcast which she said she'd look into. (she might even be reading this comment, who knows). It really resonated with me because it perfectly expressed exactly how I feel, and I'd never been able to do that before. I know you know that you and Skizz have helped a lot of people with that podcast, but I thought I'd add my little tidbit in as well.
What do I need to sign to get this podcast to be longer. Seriously you guys get me in the right mindset, I think, for life in general. Intentionality is a huge focus in my life recently and this came at an impeccable time. Thank you for everything you guys do and please don’t stop.
The end! lol.
You guys are really funny
I try not to think about the times someone has negatively imprinted on me because for me it tends to re-validate what they've said. and I know its not true. But I do hold close many memories in which someone's words or actions have built me up.
One memory I have been revisiting a lot lately was a high school teacher of mine who was the first teacher to have compassion for the stress in my life and how I was (very badly) coping with my ADHD. She recognized that while I got behind on homework and projects, I was still trying my hardest to understand the material. She gave me a packet of every paper I hadn't turned in over the course of the semester, for me to do over break and gave me a chance to make it all up with no late points taken off. I would have failed my first class ever if she hadn't given me this opportunity.
I cant remember the exact words she said but it was to the effect of "I want you to learn physics, but I also want you to learn how the real world works. If you miss a deadline at your work, you'll still have to finish it. Highschool missed assignments don't teach you that. I know you'll be great whatever you do because you're smart. You just need to learn how to apply yourself correctly."
I passed that class with a high B because of her compassion and guidance and I think about her almost every day.
At the end of my Freshman year of high school, I was helping one of my classmates with reviewing what we had learned that semester. This was in class while the teacher was doing a review. The teacher asked us to go into the hallway so that we wouldn’t disturb the rest of the class. We did, and shortly another classmate joined us, and another, and another, etc until over half the class was in the hallway with me instead of in the classroom with the teacher. Another teacher walked by, saw what we were doing, stuck his head into the classroom and said “You’re being paid to teach these kids.” That stuck with me and was a major factor in my decision to go for an educational degree when I went to college.
I wish I had known about "The three gates of speech" when I was much younger, it would have saved some negative imprints.
Your words should pass three gates before they pass your lips.
First gate: Is it true?
Second gate: Is it necessary?
Third gate: Is it kind?
(Sometimes two out of three ain't bad)
Sometimes being kind is saying what needs to be said, not saying what they want to hear.
@@mrhollowpoint4524 the difference between being kind and being nice
well that's what id call good rather than kind but same basic thing@@that1fangrl
My parents also taught me that cars are just metal and plastic. Which I'm grateful for, because last year a girl (about 18-20) bounced her front end off mine. Easy to tell it was her first wreck; she had that stunned persona I had with my first one. None of us were injured. I only sighed, checked on both cars, and said they're fixable.
We can fix cars all the time or replace them. We cannot replace humans, nor can we take back screaming and raging at someone when they are scared and ashamed.
I was in grade school and I was hanging out with the popular girls and they said if you wanna be cool you have to come with us to beat up this girl. she was my neighbor and friend and I did it and when she told on us. main one she pointed out was me because she new me. I carried that with me my whole life as one of my biggest regrets. A couple years ago married I have my son I saw her. I thought I will never get another chance and I got to tell her how I felt through the years. I felt like I messed up what could have been a good friendship. She could have just written me off but instead she forgave me and thanked me. just wanted to share. this podcast was a tearjerker you jerks just playing I love you guys.
The greatest teacher is your own mistakes & there are plenty of times where you don’t even know you’ve made a mistake unless it’s pointed out by another person.
When you want to offer help or advice, the important thing to learn is constructive criticism & how to deal with criticism yourself. Also setting boundaries while respecting other’s is important. Sometimes you just won’t appreciate the help as much as you’d appreciate the chance to deal with a mistake your way. So try to keep that in mind when dealing with other people’s mistakes.
When Spotify wrap comes out and I’ve listened to you all 1362 minutes (22 hours) (not including me listening to you guys on RUclips). You both are amazing and I have really enjoyed listening to you. Thanks for the consistent podcast for my Friday commute.
With the first story, a slightly different word order is a significant meaning.
You're not JUST an actor, you're an entertainer.
Everything about this podcast is amazing. I’m definitely subscribing! The fact you treated the girl who crashed into your car with so much kindness is genuinely amazing. Not to mention you both have probably had such a positive impact on so many people. I know Jimmy talked about how skizz has a special place in his heart on one of his episodes, it’s clear to see the positive imprint ❤
This was a really interesting one! It’s amazing how long stuff can stay with you, I still remember remarks from adults I got as a kid. I think when you put trust and authority into people it hurts even more
The metal and plastic story gave me chills! I’ve been binging episodes and you guys are so wise and have some of the greatest life advice and stories!
I totally understand your reference “it’s just tobacco, bro”, Skizz. I’ll never forget the day I was stressed to the max; doing a hundred things and almost hysterical from lack of sleep for days and being stressed out. Another woman was talking to me and I was explaining why I’m having a break down and I’ll never forget what she said.
Me: -tears rolling down my face but you can understand me, I’m not quite blubbering- There’s not enough time in the day. I’ll never get everything done and I don’t have time tomorrow bc I have a list of things to do then. Everything is falling through the cracks. I just washed the dishes but the dishwasher didn’t get everything. They’re still dirty so I have to do them again but I’ve got so much else to do, how am I going to fit in hand washing them?
Her: wash them again. (Run them through the dishwasher again)
Everything snapped into place for me at that moment, just by how she said it. It wasn’t condescending. She wasn’t being patronizing. She wasn’t even trying to say something profound. But to me it was. It released me from the shackles of these arbitrary rules we’ve placed on ourselves because it’s what we’re “supposed to do”.
It’s an unspoken rule to only wash dishes once, but it’s made up. . . It’s not real. I took back my power and have stopped letting things stress me out anymore because my priorities have shifted. Things only have power over me if I let them.
Making a big, positive difference in someone's life feels amazing. I've done it once for an acquaintance where it caused them to get a promotion and I felt on top of the world. And now I'm a teacher and so I have the opportunity to do so every day. It's not the career I wanted, but it's a noble one I can be proud of. You guys inspire to make a positive difference in people's lives.
You guys probably won't ever see this,
Long time lurker of this podcast and a major fan of both of your Minecraft content.
But this discussion of imprinting and the ramifications really made me soul search and think about my teenage years with toxic family influences and really process it. I've been in therapy for years for this but you guys talking about this really put it into a new perspective for me. I started to process things that happened and I will be forever grateful for listening to this podcast today.
I hope you've grown and healed since you realized this🩷
The car story reminds me of when I got into my first crash, car totaled, and when my dad shows up and I’m still in shock, shaking and just rambling about what happened, he pulls me into a hug and and says “it’s just stuff”
I just wanted to say; you guys and this podcast has inspired me to strive for self-improvement, for the longest time I've had a difficult time getting myself to do mundane tasks. In the past couple months you've been people I admire and look up to and I've been working on cleaning my room this past week, I have trouble with motivation to do things but I'm keeping at it slowly but surely. I've started to figure out what works for me and gets me to enjoy mundane task, such as cleaning the dishes, and I'd like to thank you, so so much, for opening my eyes and being such an inspiration for many people and myself. Keep up the amazing job! 😊
I appreciate y'all's honesty and vulnerability. Being able to identify what made you-- where you struggled, where you succeeded--who you are today. It's refreshing.
You gentlemen have created one of the best podcasts on youtube. The world needs more thoughtful, positive role models like yourselves. With every episode, my respect deepens even more. I'm always late to the comments because I have to pick a time when I can really pay attention for the whole episode, so you may never see this, but I still felt compelled to say it. Happy Holidays to you and your families!
One thing that I learned in therapy - when things happen, ask yourself "Will this matter at 5pm tomorrow afternoon?". Most of the time, the answer is "no, it won't matter." Then you just let it go. If it WILL matter tomorrow, then ask "Is there anything I can do about this to make it better?". If not, then let it go. If yes, then ask "Okay, what are my options?" Then you just go from there with a plan in mind. It does no good to stress about things that you can't change that will not matter by 5pm tomorrow afternoon
This is good
The way you imprinted on me: Skizz said once in this podcast “I truly do believe, i am happiest person on earth” and i just though “challenge excepted buddy”
You guys definitely imprinted on me in a great way, finally overcame fear of judgement/pointless perfectionism and put out an EP, as well as start making music content which I had floating in my head. I needed that push to realize I don't "kinda want it" but "really want it." BTW totally agree for getting Grian to discuss the life series, and would love to see Bdubs talk about content creation as a family man. :)
Skizz, are you sure that teachers comment had a negative imprint? Seems she was spot on and you've done well with it, you're not just an entertainer, you've become an amazing entertainer. An actor is a lier, everything they do is to decieve you into believing they're not acting. An entertainer can be honest, doesn't have to lie. I think that's a huge distinction between the two, enjoy not having to lie for your profession.
Couldn't agree more, with that simple comment she confirmed his life calling
I don’t think an actor and a liar is the same thing tbh… There is an unspoken understanding when entering an auditorium or when watching a movie that what you are seeing isn’t reality. It isn’t lying, it is story telling, unless you want to assert that all fiction authors and Role Players are also liars.
I really don’t think it’s fair to call actors liars, because liars intend to deceive. You know that the actor in the movie isn’t actually that character, so they aren’t trying to deceive, just tell a story.
I agree that she was spot on for what did happen but if she hadn’t said that who knows
Excactly! When he told that story, I thought, she saw that correctly, he really is an entertainer, he loves to bring people joy and make people smile.
You can actually be both an actor and an entertainer. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what Skizz is now. At that point it was a negative imprint because it hurt his dreams.
Every now and then I need to listen to this podcast. It's like sitting down with old friends. You guys are so wholesome and there hasn't been a single episode that didn't make me feel better in one way or another. I hope there's many more to come ❤
There are times when I know I need to speak carefully, and then there are the times when I don't even think about it, and just say whatever is in the front of my head. And either can make a big impression on the person I'm speaking to.
That's one of my biggest parenting fears: That that time I snapped at my kid might have more influence on their view of themselves than the careful speech I gave when they came crying to me because a friend said something mean. Obviously what I WANT is for them to remember what I said about them being valuable and loved and someone worth spending time with--but they might just remember me telling them to be quiet because I have a headache and don't want to hear a five minute recounting of last night's dream.
I came on here to say basically the same thing. As a parent, I'm afraid that something I've said in the moment will hurt them long-term. Now, I do take comfort in the fact that they still love me, and hopefully our relationship is strong enough that they can forgive me eventually. But it certainly has a lasting impact on ME when I say something stupid that I end up regretting.
And might I add something as a kid
Not really considered one but I think anyone in their early twenties thinking they're adults, know that they're actually still kids
Well
My parents have said things that have hurt
My parents have said things that have helped
And easy as it it is to remember the things that hurt you to the core, it's always just beautiful remembering the good things they've said, especially as you go through life learning that what they said or did to show you you're amazing was truth, and that the things they may have said without thinking about it, have a reasoning behind it. Mum and Dad aren't perfect but I've learned to take the good in what they say, even if it's sometimes phrased insensitively
Or notice when they're angry and learn to either calm them or give them space, and return when I know I can talk
As long as you really do love your kids, it'll show through in some way
I've never heard my parents tell me that they love me
But I see that they do in the little things they do that are the ways they know how to show affection
To try add some context, I've grown up on being hit as punishments
But I can't focus on the bad
Sometimes the negative imprinting is really hard to escape
Like
I still am constantly terrified that I'll make someone angry or upset
But with parents
It's as you get older
That you just love them more if they truly love you along the way
Because it gets easier to see that
It's not an easy journey and I respect you and any parent greatly for taking up this responsibility
But know that
They'll turn out great
And you're doing amazing if you are always wondering is what you're doing is right
If you're looking to improve
To be the best for them
Then you're doing the best thing
really appreciate what you are trying to get across in this episode. I have comments made by people that have stuck with me all these years. Love you guys thanks for doing this
The “it’s just tobacco” comment reminds me of a line in a book I read when my daughter was a baby. The woman (in the book) was watching her husband play with their little kid in the yard, throwing a ball of something, and the kid threw hard in to the flower bed and then trampled the flowers. She saw her husband get mad with the kid, and she went out and said “Remember we are raising a child, not a flower bed.” It stuck with me, to remember the important things are the people around us.
39:55 Well, not always, sometimes the right image with the caption "B E A N S" will make people laugh lol
Thank you so much for all that you guys do! I look forward to these podcasts every Friday. Whether they're serious or silly, they bring lots of knowledge, laughter and understanding. Please keep being you❤
What do I need to sign to get this podcast to be longer. Seriously you guys get me in the right mindset, I think, for life in general. Intentionality is a huge focus in my life recently and this came at an impeccable time. Thank you for everything you guys do and please don’t stop. ❤
Hey guys, i just wanted to take a minute to thank you guys for all you guys have talked about and the folks you have talked to. Sadly i haven't watched any of these in order but you guys have helped me realize that i want to get back into content creation. Ive played Minecraft for a few years now but you guys are an inspiration and as folks that are a decade older than me i can relate to a lot of what you guys speak on and I'm grateful. So thank you again and maybe at some point i can possibly say thank you for another reason, only time will tell.
I actually got into a minor car accident/hit and run today, my car got a little damaged and i've probably got some whiplash, but everyone's fine as far as I know. I definitely think the story Skizz shared here imprinted on me for today. Make no mistake, i still had my panic attack about it (not really a thing i can control) and i'm still a little rattled, but after the release of emotion, it's fine. Nothing serious happened, just some damaged metal and plastic, and I can just take it and deal with what I need to
Every time my motivation starts to drop, I listen to the “what’s stopping you” podcast. Thank you both for being you and real and doing your best to entertain and inspire others.
I love the Life Series.. the banter is the best
I remember a time when I got imprinted, and it really feels like it shouldn't have affected me but it lives with me to this day. I was a freshman in marching band, it was maybe a month or two into the season, and I had had a rough day, and I made an unnecessary comment about my day, and one of the younger helper staff straight up told me: "Guess what? Nobody cares." And to this day I've had moments where I'm thinking "Should I really say this? Will anyone care? Is it necessary to be said?" I think it's had both a negative and positive impact on my life, but its really interesting that this is literally the first thing that always pops into my head when I think about this topic.
I had a similar interactions quite often as a kid.
I always responded with "I care" and it sometimes it became "i care and even if no one else does i will stand for what i believe is right even if the entire world is against me."
The people who matter will care and if they don't then they don't matter.
You guys are awesome 👌 I've spent the entirety of my day off watching. Keep up the great work 👍
31:14 as an upcoming teacher (although im still 2nd year in a pedagogy university) i would Love to listen to a podcast of you guys talking about teaching. Im from a completely different country with our own laws and rules, but expirienced teachers/tutors always have the universal knowledge about the connection with students no matter what they have taught, or what background they have!
You are absolutely right Impulse. We are all human and we are all gonna make mistakes. Love you guys and you will never truly understand the joy, the laughter and smiles, etc that you have provided to people during some of the darkest hours. In the end, we should be adult enough to understand that we are only human. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have caught myself starting to laugh out loud while I am watching you all and hubby is asleep. Those laughs when I cannot sleep because of chronic pain are PRICELESS to me!
You guys are so insightful to the point that I almost see you two as my extra parents. You two give some amazing advice, and at least one thing from each episode sticks with me to the point that it's completely a part of my everyday life. So, 69 bits of information and advice that I've felt like I'm turning a new leaf. You guys are amazing and have been changing a young woman's life in Wisconsin. Thank you! ❤
This episode really resonated with me. Thank you so much for putting this podcast together.
On Skizz's 'shameful' words to his co-worker. I have a slightly different perspective at this with something similar that got told to me and imprinted on me!
At our(husband & I) old job right as we were leaving, everyone was making a fuss about how much they'd miss us etc. 'What are we going to do without you you're such a great asset to the team' yada yada etc etc. It put a ton of pressure on me. I was leaving, were my teammembers going to be okay? Were they really going to struggle with me leaving? What if they have issues and need to contact the manager!?
A girl co-worker I wasn't particularly close with (she was nice tho!) and I came to the topic of how everyone was acting.
She told me: 'Oh yeah of course they act like this, but you will leave and everyone will forget about you immediately. Everyone here is replaceable. Everyone will say they will keep in touch but they wont send you a message anymore after 2 months'.
One might say this is very rude to say. But she 100% didn't say this with malice, she just wasn't thinking about what she was saying and chatting away.
It just hit me as yes, that is exactly how it is. It's how it's going to go, and I was now aware of that.
These words brought so much peace to me in so many situations that in the grand scheme of things 'it just doesnt matter'. You live through the chapters of a book, and everything is a part of your story. But the individual things they don't matter. You just treasure that experience you had in a chapter. The people, the memories, the experiences all yours, but it's totally fine if they stick in chapter II and don't carry over to chapter III. In the end from all chapter you have your own unique story from the millions of others you pass throughout your life. Does that make sense?
It brought me peace knowing that I was not 'losing friends' by leaving the job, but rather that I was just closing a book on some great people that were a part of my life. Hearing I was replaceable and people don't care took more pressure of me than you could possibly imagine.
Of course it depends on the person, time and place. But sometimes something you say just is true, even if socially considered rude. That 'rude truth' can sometimes help someone be grounded and close a door behind themselves, peacefully. That's what it did for me. :)
TLDR:
Being worried about something and being told nobody cared, people will live on with their lives, I'm replaceable was a reality check that brought me instant peace.
Often times with these vids I just need to take a minute to sit and reflect. Thanks lads, much love.
As parents we are so screwed! Of course I haven't purposely tried to hurt my daughter but I have said a few things I regret. So has my mom to me. It's just a natural thing in the parent/child dynamic. I've forgiven those who negatively imprinted on me. It's hard to keep your words in check. I try to think before I speak. I also try to keep in check my basic needs... am I tired, am I hungry, do I have low blood sugar, am I projecting my anger out... things like that before I say something wrong or mean. I really try to give people grace and patience the best I can. Love these podcasts keep them coming!
Etho needs to get on the podcast!
"So yeah reminds me of that time I saved Antartica exploding from a trash bag..."
I loved this episode, you guys still manage to make more serious topics so entertaining to watch/listen to, thank you!
Such a great dynamic though.
I love how Impulse is extremely intelligent with some wisdom, and Skizz is extremely wise with some intelligence. In perfectly equal and opposite ways. It works so well
whoever decorated the shelves between you guys has a gorgeous sense of style
Iirc that's Mrs Impulse who does the decorating
Love the Life hoodies, they look so cosy!
Great so far, I watch these podcasts in my break at work. Next instalment tomorrow. Can't wait.
on this kind of topic, this podcast has genuinely helped me so much with a lot of my own problems, thank you guys so much
Hello there! I wanted to say thank you guys for your amazing podcast, it was really interesting to hear your opinion about the power of words and imprinting. I am from Kyrgyzstan, its country that you have probably never heard about. Your podcas is so good that even person like me from extremely distant and tiny county know about you. I appreciate you guys.
The last two lines of the show gave me a good chuckle. Great edit Skizz.
The more i watch this podcast the more i fall in love with it
I can see more and more what gem means when she says that you guys are like the additional dads that noone knew they needed
Like i love my dad so much but hes not great with giving advice and talking about these things so ive learnt more from you guys from this podcast
Ive been watching impulse for 5 years now and i never really saw him as an online father figure until this past year and its so comforting
I truly love it and i love you guys, i sincerely hope that i get to meet you guys one day
Lets get skiz to 100k guys 🎉❤
Imp and skiz truly are my positive imprints ❤
You guys are right on the money with this one. And I can definitely relate.
It’s probably been over a year. I was on social media, reading a post and about to respond. What I first wrote was too long so I deleted and hit the back button to mentally rewrite. As I’m doing so I saw another post in the comments that really made me angry.
So as I was rewriting that anger was seeping in. The more I thought about it the angrier I got. I finally just wrote something without even thinking about how it would come across. It was cold and dismissive. It wasn’t even what I meant to say, and the fact that I acted thy way makes me sick.
That shame or something I can’t forgive myself for. Can’t take it back. No way to right the wrong in a way that would change anything. And it’s compounded knowing that domino effect that I likely had on someone else.
I can't believe it's already at 69 episodes, and I e watched every single one (since it was uploaded on the imp and Skizz channel). It's neat seeing the views and how they've grown since the start. Especially having over 200k on a couple of eps!
I'm pretty good at not letting negative things people say to me affect me in other areas of my life but they do impact my relationship with the person. I remember forever if someone says something negative to me and it kind of like a point system of how well i like that person. Sometimes 1 thing they say can plummet them from they are fine to not liking them at all, even if they are family. You always remember the negative things alot easier than the good things. That's why it's important to try to make positive comments to children. We criticize each other and children so much.
Love the life series hoodie you guys are wearing ❤❤❤
It's interesting that almost all the stories of imprinting, and moments of imprinting in my life which come to mind all come from people of respect or authority. It makes sense, but I'm happy to be more aware of that now. Good stuff.
4:41 and sometimes you swing and you hit the pitcher with the bat.
Discomfort drives growth. Its a hard lesson to learn for kids, but its essential
If you guys do a podcast on teaching you could also bring in Cleo and Jimmy! Before they did youtube they were both teachers❤
I always thought of people as kind of a mirror. We reflect what we see in life and we can be shattered. We can also be fixed but usually you can still see the cracks that were made, even if they're faint.
58:46
Whenever people told me that saying as a kid i responed with "physical damage will heal but words will echo in someones head till they're dead"
I have to see the picture. Mostly curiosity, but I too had long hair and shaved the sides. Would love to see what you looked like becoming who you are. It shows a lot about a situation to know how someone sees themselves.
My Life merch should be here after Christmas! I can’t wait!!
I love all your podcasts, and generally I applaud you for trying to stick to a subject. However, one of my favorite things about these is the tangents you go off on. Therefore, my suggestion; an episode here and there where you have a "starting subject," but then let it go where it goes.
I always hear in the intro "share a life on the Imp and Skizz." The Art of conversation really Imprint on me because of how true it is that is one I do really try to point people to because of how much it means.
"that got a little deep there"! I personally really enjoy the "deeper" episodes. As a relatively young person just leaving college, the insight you two offer is very interesting. I am actually going into education and what you said about teachers was so real, both the potential to make a positive or negative impact and the bit about "are you gonna pay me? "no."
Interesting topic, love listening to you guys.
I really love your podcasts.
I’m not gonna talk about the countless negative imprinting moments because no one wants to hear that but a therapist you pay for.
This is one of my earliest memories and certainly my earliest vivid memory. I was about 5 or 6 and I was at school talking with my friends and playing and our teacher came up to us and asked us, “Do you girls mind help me clearing everything away?”
Now what should be understood about me as to why that sentence is important is that I am a trans woman. Back then I didn’t know it. My teacher definitely didn’t know it unless she was psychic. She was just addressing my friends with me who were all cis girls (to my knowledge. Haven’t kept up with them). And I just happened to be there and she wasn’t really thinking. I know that in retrospect. And perhaps I even knew it at the time. But you know that warm fuzzy feeling you get in your chest. The best word I can describe it with is “contented”. Being included in the group “girls” gave me that feeling. It made me happy.
And I feel like that’s important to think about when it comes to trans people. Because yes I have a lot of painful memories and experiences that came with and caused gender dysphoria in me. But my earliest memory I can relate to my being trans now is one of gender euphoria. Of happiness.
thank you for bringing to light the fact that words can affect people for years you remember the negative things people say to you more than the positive because it tears you down that is why to day after what happened to me as a kid i now cut people out of my life that can not say things to build people instead of tear them down as far as imprinting on someone or what you say affecting you later on in life i and a teacher when i as in elementary school announce to the entire class when it was my turn to choose a book for read aloud time they told the class that "because she is blind she doe snot need to choose a book for read a loud time she can't read" it messed with me for a long time and that teachers go to became she is blind she can't do this or that by the end of that school year i hated school and a couple years later the teacher that year was a complete opposite she went above and beyond what a teacher is required to do to help me love school again and still to this day over 30 years later it still is in the back of my head her voice saying you can't do it because you are blind even though i have done a lot of things since than and most of the things she thought i could not do i now do and more including making videos doing things a blind person can't do by her standards
This definitely made me look at life in a whole different perspective
I teach my kids "words can't hurt you, but remember your words can hurt others" love this podcast, love the minecraft, just love you guys
Another nice one fellas! Words matter.
I apparently was in the top 0.5 percent of listeners on spotify... that makes sense. LOVE THE PODCAST!
This was a great episode. Thanks for sharing your history of being imprinted. It made me think of what has been imprinted on me and what I may have imprinted on other people.
Y'all HAVE to get Etho on here
You need to get etho on the podcast!!!!!!
Idk why but skizz's new car story reminds me of a trick i was taught with new sketchbooks.
To get the fear of ruining a pristine quality new thing out of the way of trying, just cross it the first page. Or get a toddler to draw on it or scribble and just make it ugly. Anything more you may down on those pages will, at the very least, just become another dent to add.
Well deal with it you have imprinted positively on me and a lot of others
i love you guys
"Have a terrible day!" "Youre ugly" - I love you guys!!!
No coincidence I’m sure how many of these stories are from when you guys were ~10-11. Very susceptible age, and a good reminder to take EXTRA care with kids at that age.
This whole episode was great, but the last 3 seconds had me cracking up!
So I’ve been thinking about this for a few days now. And I’m thinking that in order for something to imprint, there would probably need to be some sort of big emotion attached to it. Good or bad. Thanks for talking about this, it’s brought up some situations in my life that have been imprinted.
man i totally get the drumline story skizz told. drumline had both the best and worst imprints on me, and i had something similar happen with an instructor who didn't know how much of an impact his words had on my mental health
this is such a nice episode, and for the record this podcast has been a huge inspiration for me! now I'm learning how to film and edit minecraft videos!
I enjoy your podcasts so much! Never missed a one. I'm personally crossing my fingers that Bdubs will be your next guest. Be good & be good to each other!
The life merch item I wanted is sold out. Is there any chance of a restock?
A wonderful day to you too, impulse :D:D. That last sentence made me laugh so hard.
History is important because if you don’t learn it you’re doomed to repeat it
Omg the last "You're ugly" killed me! xD
Thanks for the episode, just starting to listen but noticed the link to Richard Thornton's channel for your jingle is broken.
It sure was! Thank you for pointing that out. All fixed now. :)