Hi! Single mum of 3 girls aged 9,6&3 here. Im 28. I’m from the UK. My girls don’t have contact with their dad so I know how you feel in most videos. I just want to say, You’re a brilliant mum to Penelope and you’re going to be an even better mum when you have both your little girls. You’re doing your very best on your own and no one can ask any more of you. Keep doing what you do and everything will be okay! I love your channel and watch whenever you upload.
Being a mom is hard, life its hard, not having a helping partner is hard, but you know what? You are Stronger than you think! Don't be afraid, God is with you 💪🏼
Honey it’s just potty training it’s not the end of the world, you can’t parent a child by a book, parenting comes natural!! When she is ready she will potty train but not until then so for now keep your head up you are doing a amazing job!!!
It's just a hard day Vanessa...always remember there are better days to come You are not just a single mom, you are a sole mother meaning no dad which is what I went through with my last baby who is now 15 and it's hard...it sure is so dont beat yourself up, your allowed to have these moments
It isnt worth the stress, i promis you. Shes pretty young to be potty training, even with the signs she's been showing. A lot of mums of older kids I speak to day the easiest way to potty train is to wait u til theyre ready. Less accidents, less stress, less preasure for the child. Take a breather from it and then try again in a month or 2 ❤
Vanessa, my wise pediatrician told me a long, long time ago that they basically train themselves when they are ready. O course, you did the right thing by introducting her to the potty and you can still do that. I'm sure at daycare they arenot watching her like a hawk as you are, but she will get it when she's ready. Give yourself some grace and let it go.
Vanessa, I 100% understand the frustration with potty training. Believe me, I know. My son didn’t show interest in the potty until the day of his 3rd birthday. Since then it has been a roller coaster. Many regressions and accidents. I used two potty chairs and one potty ring for the big toilet. Peeing he grasps just fine now. Going number 2, oh great heavens. He is afraid to let it go despite me trying different methods to get him (rewards, probiotics, different potty chairs, underwear). It is very challenging. I’ve told myself that it will come with time and I just have to be patient and keep trying the best that I can. The toddler phase is HARD. I’m sending you my love and support!
Don’t stress about it. She will learn soon. She is still pretty little. Plus when she is at daycare she is probably only thinking about having fun with her friends and not going to the potty. You guys got this!
I was a single Mom of my first daughter for ten years with no help from her father. I know it is very hard. Thank God my Mother helped me a lot. I couldn’t have done it without her. I thought I saw on one of your videos your Mother ❤️had offered to let you move in with her. I think that would be very helpful at least for a while.
Toss the book. It sounds ridiculous. Just be you! Kill the pressure. What's the rush? Why are you on maternity leave so soon? My babies are January birthday's and I was working up to my due date.
Give yourself some credit! A pregnant mama potty training at that! I understand how tired you may be, but you've got this. And you're starting at a great time. My 8 yr old was fully potty trained at 4. My son jack is non verbal and autistic , so we've got some ways to go, but you're doing great! ❤
This is coming from the heart. Nothing more. I work in early childhood in a center for over 15 years potty training there then what you do at home will be completely different. I know in the states you cannot go commando. I'm not sure about Canada but here in us she would have to be in a diaper or pull-up and that also puts a lot of setbacks. Awesome! She's one of what 15 kids. I'm not sure your ratios she's not being watched like a hawk. She's probably being taken maybe every 2 hours if you're lucky. Aunt, she's very young to even start potty training. Most people don't start potty training closer to 3 yrs old when they're off the passy and can talk verbally.
Thank you ❤️ the thing is she shows all signs of readiness and does talk verbally. She also has been going on the potty all on her own. So it’s tough to decide how to do it with daycare. Maybe just keep diapers at daycare and do my thing at home and maybe she’ll keep her diapers dry at daycare soon.
Sending you hugs❤Honestly I know kids can potty train at her age but she is still so young I just wouldn't worry about it until she is 3. My oldest I tried to potty train in when he was 2 and it was just accident after accident. I left it until he was 3.5 and he potty trained in 3 days and literally has never had an accident since even at night. After that I didn't bother trying until my kids were at least 3. Hoping you have a better day tomorrow! 🙏
Your toddler will have a potty training regression when the baby arrives. It can be maddening. Just have lots of patience with her and give yourself grace too. The second baby will be easier because he or she will watch the older sibling.
Awee Mama don’t cry it will all get better❤️ the fact that your crying and are reading books just goes to show that your a great mom keep your head up🥰
I have a 1 yr old, 2.5 yr old and almost 4 yr old. My son didn’t potty train til closer to 3.5. Boys can take longer. My daughter has been practicing for the last 3 months. She does pretty well but still has accidents and still wears an overnight diaper. We aren’t stressing over it and she will continue to develop and mature and the accidents will lessen over time. These kiddos just make it happen when they can physically and mentally understand and handle this new big job we are asking of them. Take it easy on yourself. You can just stop and try again in two months so she’s not feeling upset over the small continual failures of her body isn’t 100% there. The time will come where the stars will align and she will do great. You’ve got this and she will too in time.
Every child is different I so agree and to sit with a book on it bawling is ridiculous hell can you imagine the stress Penelope feels about it watching her freak out about a potty there's mental issues here FACTS
Be very consistent but She may not be ready yet. Hang in there. You are doing great. From one single mom to another, it's going to be ok. Don't stress yourself out.
I had 2 sets of kids 13 months apart. Mine were potty trained early as I put them on the potty, and put a puppet show on for them outside the bathroom. Made a big deal when they went potty. Took only a couple weeks and was a happy experience for them. I also potty trained my grandkids.
First of all you are not a failure. You obviously love your little girl so much. I was a single Mom to my son and I remember potty training him. It requires lots of patience. Don't give up things will get better and all of these things that you are going through will only make you stronger in the end. ❤
I wish i could give you a big hug my friend😊...i am a single mom myself even though the father of my son ..my son and i all live together if that makes any sense...my son is 7 years old and i have basically been raising him all alone this whole 7 years..to make matters worse his father now has glaucoma and has lost all his vision in one eye and most vision in the other and i am now caring for my child and the father of my child at the age of 43 with an autoimmune thyroid condition that i have had for years...there are hard days..sad days..happy days but never EASY days...but always remember that your children will be your best friend for life as mine is and that their love for us is neverending..men will come and go but our children are ours forever...amd their love and happiness for all that we struggle to do for them is enough to keep us going❤❤❤❤you ARE A WONDERFUL MOM TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL PENELOPE AND YOU WILL BE A WONDERFUL MOM TO YOUE NEW LITTLE GIRL AS WELL MY FRIEND..DO NOT LET THE NEGATIVE NANCIES ON HERE GET YOUR SPIRITS DOWN!!!...YOU ARE AMAZING AS A WOMAN AND AS A MOM AND I WANT TO TELL YOU THIS..HUGS FROM ME TO YOU AND PENELOPE AS WELL☺️☺️☺️☺️YOU HAVE GOT THIS MAMA👍👍👍👍
Sending good mom vibes your way 💕 Whenever I’m having a terrible day I wish I had a t-shirt that says…”I don’t have time for the breakdown that I deserve” which always make me laugh.
Never heard of that method of potty training. Pull-ups are great for potty training. I agree with your daycare about wearing diapers to catch acidents. Its not really fair if they have to clean up a child from the waist down several times a day, and the floors too. It's usually harder for a child to understand the pooping in the potty. She will definitely need to wear diapers/pull ups at night for a while after she is trained. I think your expectations might be too high, or maybe you are in a rush because the baby is due in 2 months. Either way, it's not going to work out until SHE is ready. It seems to me it would be less confusing to a child to train them the tried and true way. Children gets excited about wearing big girls or boys underwear when they are ready.
Honey don’t stress it I’ve raised 3 kids on my own mostly and all my kids potty trained pretty much on there own, they all were going potty by 3 years , your baby girl is going to go without too much help because their bodies know when it’s time and if you take her in the bathroom when you’re going, she is going to start wanting to go to so please don’t be so hard on yourself. You seem like a wonderful mother and I am sure your baby girl is gonna go potty very soon on her own
Awee Mama don’t cry it will all get better❤️ the fact that your crying and are reading books just goes to show that your a great mom keep your head up🥰my son turns 2 Dec 27th and isn’t potty trained so don’t stress mama
Being a single mom isn’t what she “asked for”. Absolutely NOT. I’m. Single mom and would’ve never imagined and wanted to be pregnant if I knew I’d be solo. Don’t be rude, y’all. ❤I don’t regret all my kids but nope, I didn’t ask to be the single mother I’ve been . That’s indicative of the man and his character.
I had 3 kids who potty trained within one week. I have 1 child who took 9 months. And I have another child who is developmentally delayed and we're on 10 months and counting. Give yourself some grace, it's not going to be perfect. Parenthood and child rearing is never perfect. Mistakes will be made, lessons will be learned for both mom and child. Yall got this ❤
My daughter is four and we just got there 6 months ago, she’s also able to write all of her letters and spell basic words and count and add and do very basic subtraction. We started before 6 months ago. It took nearly a year. She’s a very smart girl but yes, all children are different. She sat on the toilet and I told her to pee and she said “how? How do I pee?” And I was completely stumped because I had no idea how to explain it to her. Was like trying to think of how to explain to someone how to breathe. I think some kids have a very large disconnect on how to even know when they have to go aside from #2 because they’ve never “held it” they just do it.
Pretty girl, don’t be so hard on yourself. Trust the process. Better days are ahead. There is no right way or perfect way, not everything works out the way we want them to and that’s really tough ( trust me, I’m a perfectionist) she will get there, things are going to be just fine.
There is only so much control you can have when potty training. I sat down with her daycare and we came up with a plan when both sides felt she was ready. She would do great on the wknds and would have FOMO at daycare so she never wanted to go to the bathroom there. We backed off and tried it again a few months later and then it clicked. My daughter was newly 3 once it clicked for her
Good for you Vanessa! I started potty training my son at 21 months and had MULTIPLE emotional breakdowns, and i have a supportive husband. I can’t imagine doing it alone. I completely relate and I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggled through the process. I followed the same method and did a video of my experience on my channel. It’s hard. But there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. My son isn’t even 2 yet and he’s 85% potty trained. We go on a schedule and he doesn’t poo in the potty consistently yet. But you got this!
When it rains, it pours! ❤❤❤ You're a great Mama. My little girl is 7 1/2, but her father and I were both working full time when she was potty training. ❤❤❤ it took soooo long, and I was emotional and thought we'd never get through. ❤❤❤ We did, and now my son turns 2 in 2 days, actually, and he is refusing to even try. 😅 You'll make it through. Things will get easier. Remember, you are super emotional right now, too. ❤❤❤
You are not a terrible mother, you are a fantastic mommy, sweet little Penelope is lucky to have you. As lots of people have said, its just a bad day, start again tomorrow, ultimately in the end all will be ok, sending hugs from the UK ❤
Mama, nothing is perfect, ever! Especially potty training! It goes great and then they take a couple steps back. Once it clicks for her, it’ll stick and you’ll be past it! You are a good mom, and you are doing your best! We all have days where we feel like we failed! But she is happy and healthy and learning!!! ❤❤❤
You are doing great Vanessa. She is ready to potty trained it just takes time. My both boys trained at 26 months and I never looked back. I was told it would never happen because they are boys. So you got this girl just persevere and Penelope will do fine and there will be accidents. Just repeating the instructions and process she will pick it up.
The perfect method is the one that is best for your daughter. She will make alot of mistakes. Parenting does not go by a book and is always a roller coaster. I cannot imagine focusing on this 24/7 and making her go every 1/2 hour. I would be crying hysterically too. I would let her go to daycare in the diaper and do what you need to do to stay sane. You have to take things day by day. You will have alot of pressure with work and 2 children soon. You are doing the best you can.
Mom of 3 here- potty training involves a variety of skill sets they gradually learn! Please realize that it’s no reflection of your parenting or how much you have prepared her. Just like kids grow at different rates physically they also become ready when they are physically and psychologically ready to learn all these steps in the proper order. go easy on yourself Girl! No need to grade yourself on how this process goes prior to your new arrival! When one of mine was not making progress during the process, I would just take a month or longer break and give it a go again. One day at a time, one step at a time one child at a time
Two is very young for most kids to be potty trained. Girls are usually more ready at 2 1/2 or 3. They just don't have the control so early. Would be nice before the second baby comes but she would likely regress when baby sister arrives and you will not have time to watch her every minute then either. Concentrate on Penelope and yourself and do what you can to get ready for your next big challenge when baby comes.
You are doing a great job with Penelope! ❤ I was a Nanny for 20 years before I had my daughter. There are so many ways and methods. She will get it 100% when she is ready. My daughter showed signs for 4 months before we started. She will pee on the potty but won't poop. I have done it all with her! She will get it when she gets it fully. My daughter tells me before she needs to poop. I know she is ready, she is stubborn. 😂 Penelope is great, and I am proud of you! She may regress some when baby number 2 comes. You are a great Mama. Please don't stress over potty- training....she will fully get it on her own timing. ❤ Hang in there...better times are coming. You will be holding your new sweet baby soon. 😊
Don’t be hard on yourself… my youngest daughter was a nightmare with potty training! I couldn’t get her out of nappies until she was 4 years old. And she still wears a pull up to bed every night at 6 😵💫 I don’t know about you guys but in Australia they’re $12-14 a packet of 8. I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to buy them anymore. My eldest daughter was fully trained, went to bed every night with knickers at 3 years old. P is only two, don’t feel defeated, when she is ready it will just happen.
Hi Vanessa! Don’t be hard on yourself. 2 is still young to potty train. As the mom of 4, I’ll tell you, they all get there. It will happen. Hang in there. Jen
Just don’t set unrealistic expectations. You also don’t need to compare your baby and her milestones to other’s. A lot of Moms will see someone else’s kid walk/talk/potty train by a certain age and then we think we’re doing something wrong if ours aren’t accomplishing it. Some kids take a little longer and it’s no reflection on the parents. I promise you she’ll get there. What worked best for me with my grandson was I put a potty in the living room or wherever we were hanging out (at home of course) then I let him just wear a comfy over sized T-shirt with no underwear or pull up. I think your method is good, but I know she can’t do that at daycare so it’s tricky. Regardless everyone needs to stick to the same plan so that it’s not confusing to her. I ordered a travel potty off Amazon that collapses for when we’re out and about that was a lifesaver many times.. you’re going to get through this rough season Momma. I’m praying for you❤ PS: I would play potty cartoons for her off RUclips daily. There’s really some good ones on here.
She’s still young so don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Both my kids were closer to three years old before they were trained. I’m so sorry you’re feeling upset! 😘
Don’t put to much pressure on yourself Mumma your doing a great Job Penelope Is a good Girl and will learn how to use the potty yes Parenting can be hard and challenging @ times give yourself a break as you deserve It keep being you and everything else will fall Into place
awe sending you hugs today . single mom life is hard . some days are easier than others but you got this . i get what ur saying im married but my hubby job takes him away 2 weeks at a time internationally home a week gone another 2 it’s just how it is . i have wished sooo many times that i had my hubby home with a normal job but that isn’t the reality of it . honestly ur in the easy stages wait until the kids get older it gets more complicated not trying to scare you but i swear i don’t know how i managed sometimes . one thing i know kids will make you stronger . go take a long hot soaking bath so you can relax you need it .
I have twins who’ll be 12 tomorrow. My daughter still had accidents at 4 years old and her twin brother still has accidents now (he is neurodivergent and still awaiting diagnosis of autism as it is an extremely slow system here in Nottinghamshire UK!) you would be better really to do potty training when she is a bit older. It’s also best done in the summer months! Don’t beat yourself up about it. There will be plenty of time to focus on it when the new baby naps in the summer. Just turned two is extremely young.
I have an 8 month old and my daughter just turned 4. She didn’t really get potty trained down until 6 months ago. She wasn’t ready. Yes if I put her on the potty sometimes she went, sometimes she peed in her underwear. Her pediatrician told me to give her a break and try again later. So she was 3.5 before* she became 100% potty trained. I don’t think she’s ready. Trust me I know how much it sucks to have a newborn in diapers and a child in diapers - it is not fun - but once I let up and relaxed and tried again - she seemed much readier. And my child is also very intelligent - it doesn’t mean Penelope isn’t - she just may not be ready. 2 is quite young. Not too young to start or try but don’t be surprised she isn’t potty trained yet 😊
I'm a single mom too, my little guy is just over three. My biggest advice for potty training, is wait until they can pull up and down their own pants, not that they will, but they get it. I waited till 3 years old with no pressure on him, and my little boy was fully trained in one month. Literally once they catch on it goes so fast. Also I put an m&m dispenser in my bathroom and everytime he pooped (not pee), he got to crank the arm on the dispenser and have one m&m.
Vanessa don’t over think it. It will all be ok. Potty training takes time. Not every potty training for every child you will have is going to be different. Baby steps. Take a breath. It will be ok.
Mine was 2 in a half and still had accidents, she’s 4 now, and still has them occasionally! I’m sorry it’s getting hard, but it takes time. She still wears pull ups some times, but lately it’s been better, and she calls herself a big girl now, so barely wants a pull up on for night! I hope it gets better for you! I also did the no pants for awhile it worked for us.I’ve also bought a travel potty seat that folds in a bag off amazon that was a life saver! Especially in public, and my child is on the small end. I am just now starting no potty chair for young fives next fall!
Oh gosh Honey dont stress over potty training. I was a single mom of 3 It is the hardest job in the world in my opinion but it does come natural bvecause as a mom you want the very best for them of course. I never read a book about potty training or anything about raising mine, everyone is different sure! and every child is different when it comes to everything. your doing great!! The experience i had in raising mine was when they become teens, now that was difficult compared as to when they were toddlers. In my opinion it is much better to have ger potty trained before the new baby comes ( less expensive to just have one in diapers) we all make mistakes when it comes to parenting but you learn from the mistakes.. your doing fine. everyone needs a good cry now and then it helps. I wouldnt leave a child in a car alone ever ever not even for a second, but i have been watching your videos a long time and i can honestly say your a very involved momma and thats important. Your a Great Mom!! sending Love and hugs..God Bless.
Take this from a mother of 5. You chose this. You chose to BE a mom. YOU are your daughters' entire world. Your kids will see how much you've done when they get older. You are putting way, WAY too much on your plate. She will do it once she is ready. I know it's literally a pain in the butt. You are going to have a little one with a power struggle. It WILL happen, just on her time.
Don’t be so hard on yourself!! She’s just two, don’t force it. You are correct, being a mom is the hardest job you’ll ever do. Once the training happens you’ll wonder why you got yourself so stressed out about it.
When my kids' bio dad and i were together i tried and tried and tried. Never thinking that we would ever get there. My kids were 3 when they first started to go on the potty. They just werent ready. Hang in there momma! You got this and she will go when shes ready. :)
You are way too strong to give up now. Wishing you both well. I think whatever you decide to keep her home or send her to daycare is totally you decision and neither are wrong. Your such a great mom. Sending prayers to you
Take a deep breath. It will be ok 🙏🏻I came across your channel not long ago and I have watched your videos and the one thing I can truly take away from what I have seen is that you are an amazing mom and you are doing a really good job as a mom. Your little one is so lucky to have you. Potty training is HARD. Give yourself a break and know that you are doing exactly what you need to in order to potty train your little one. My kiddos all all older 16, 18 and 21 and I. A tell you from experience that no matter how much we try to do things perfectly as parents it doesn’t always work out that way. Being a parent is a lifetime roller coated ride of emotions, questions and doubts. It still happens to me and mine are almost all grown. The fact that you are feeling the way you are shows what a good mom you truly are. Hang in there and don’t doubt yourself. You are doing a great job!
I potty trained 4. 3 girls 1 boy. My twins trained together, one got it immediately her sister did not. They were about 4 months apart on being fully potty trained at 2.5 yr. The youngest was almost 4 before being fully potty trained and still needed a pull up many nights. Don't Force it. I once met a mom and asked how potty training her kids went. She said the daycare did it all. I was floored! I had no clue that was an option .. Not that we could've aftorded it.
What i did with my 4yr old. Take them every 2hrs. Even if they dont have to go sit them down. Have them watch u innthe bathroom so they know what they need to do. I put in underwear so child feel theybr wet
Vanessa, when you said it wasn’t just about the potty training that makes sense. You have a lot of things going on, please take the time to take care of yourself. Sometimes you have to just sob and feel sad and disappointed in the way things are going, holding it in doesn’t help. Then hopefully you’ll get another burst of strength and determination to deal with all that’s on your plate. I’m thinking of you and hoping you feel better.
you're lucky that the daycare will try to help. on average i think 3 yr is the most successful time to start. both my boys were right at 3! i would push back trying until she gets closer to 3, you'll be changing diapers once the new baby comes anyway so its not worth the stress.
Hi Vanessa , your doing great !. We have been potty training my 2 year old for the past month and he has only just fully got it !. Poos and wees . Alot of stress and frustration but don't give up , if you persist they do get it. Just don't go back to nappies during the day or it will confuse them . Penelope sounds like she is doing really well 😊. I waited until 2 and a half with both my boys but my sister did earlier with her 1st child and did well . Blessings to you and family ❤
I'm sorry your feeling frustrated and sad. I remember how hard it was for my son to be potty trained. He was so scared of the toilet and it was a great stress on him and all of us. Penelope seems to be catching on quite quickly. It will get better, I know it will. Keep the faith. I'm Praying for you. Take care .❤
Also, I do want to say that even tho I have a husband, he really didn't help much in alot of the baby care of my kids or even my granddaughter for that matter. He is better at other aspects of parenting so there are exceptions on how parents take care of the kids. You never know.
Hun your fine ❤❤ there is no right way. Your just a human it's gonna be okay Mama ❤❤❤ don't stress ❤❤❤ He doesn't deserve you and your gonna do great without him❤❤ actually I probably would keep her home, but I'm weird and totally loved just keeping mine home. My daughter did great with #1on the potty but #2 was a slight situation 😂 it's ok Mama everything is going to work out ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️my daughter actually hated potty training it was a situation and it took a while, we actually gave up for a while~
Motherhood is not for the weak.. that's for sure. Being a single mom sucks... but being with someone who doesn't' carry their weight sucks too. You can do hard things. Go easy on yourself. Feel your feels and let it go. Much love.
Please be gentle with yourself pregnancy itself can be a emotional rollercoaster your doing amazing some days seem few steps backwards then forward again Penelope is doing great 👍😊❤
When we started potty training our daughter we used a little plastic potty chair and everytime she pottied we did the "potty dance" and got all excited about it and then she got to put a sticker on the potty chair. It worked great. We had a harder time with the pooping on the potty, she wasn't completely potty trained until almost 3 years. Just wanted to share what worked for us. You're doing great mom, don't doubt that, I could never have raised my daughter on my own, you're a bad ass and don't forget it you're doing wonderful and you can see how much Penelope loves u.
There is no right way. There is no perfect way. I am a mama of 2. I have a 4yr old and a 10m old (he will b 1 in jan). I'm gonna get some neg feedback from this comment. NO BOOK WILL TELL U HOW TO PARENT. Each child is diff... not 1 thing fits all. Follow her lead.. if she isn't ready 🤷♀️ she isn't ready. It's ok to have 2 babies in diapers.
I remember having many days just like the one you are describing when my kids were little. I cried a lot because of frustration from not having the support I needed. It is very very hard to slow down and be patient and let your plans go when you are just trying to get ahead. I learned the hard way that the #1 most important thing for me to do is attend to my child’s needs. Sometimes the other things need to wait. You can train your child better than anyone else, trust me. Those workers might be nice but telling you to keep her in a diaper - no. They will unravel your hard work and confuse Penelope. It will get better one day. Eventually, you will cry less and you will be a stronger person. What you are going through is actually the grief process. Your dreams for a happy family with your children’s father is dying and that is SO hard to accept. But trust me, not having him is a blessing in disguise because he would only drag you down.
When my daughter was 2 and 1/2, I bought her some cute “big girl” panties with ruffles on the booty. I would take her to the potty regularly and we would talk about how she was keeping her big girl panties pretty and not wet. She was ready by 2 and 1/2, but would not have been at 2. They are only ready when they are ready. I know you feel like you are rushing because you have another coming soon. But it would be ok to have two in diapers for a while.
Facts these women need self control like why open your legs and keep having kids when THE GUY SHIWED YOU THE FIRST TIME THAT HE DGAF THESE WOMEN HAVE TO STOP BEING DUMB BEHIND DICK FR
We all break down mamas!! And you are a real one to wait until your child is at school. At least you held yourself together until you were alone, with us.. To break down. I’m sorry you are feeling the way that you are. Hugs to you. To be honest, even mothers with fathers in the picture still break down. Be grateful “not to say you aren’t,” for the support system you do have. Some of us only had the support of our children’s fathers. And they work. I’m just saying.. We all have our trials, and our triumphs. We all go through it. You are a wonderful mother. Penelope is lucky to have you. You are all she needs. She doesn’t know anything different even if you do. I’m praying for your little family. I’m praying you receive peace and blessings ❤🙏❤️
You can do this. Think of this as a time of bonding before the new baby comes. The Lord sometimes gives us what we think as obstacles, our trials are sometimes his blessing to us.
Don’t focus so hard on it that you stress yourself out. All 3 of my girls all trained themselves shortly after turning 2 with zero stress. Introduce her to the concept. Have her sit on her potty for fun. When you go, have her sit on hers. Don’t stress yourself out that she’s not potty trained yet. It’ll happen when she is ready ❤
In my experience potty training takes time its never been smooth sailing/linear . It was never a few day thing. Every child also has success with different methods. My friends kids did great with one method and mine didn't. I found them choosing their own new underwear and feeling themselves get wet helped them learn as well. They do well and then with big life changes they regress. It takes time ... also its ok to stop and try again in a few weeks. I wouldn't keep her home. I did diaper at daycare and we just focused on it at home until it stuck at daycare too.
You can't he upset if she doesn't follow book word by word. My daughter took 3 months with the poop she was scared. 3 weeks with the pee. The daycare helped a lot seeing the other kids go potty.
I don't wanna brag or make you feel bad, I know you are doing what you could and that's perfect, I'm just wanna tell you that don't force it too hard let her wear diaper when she's at the daycare then train her when she's home kids are smart that's what I did to my daughter when she was 2 years old, you are doing fine you don't need a man for this I potty trained my daughter by myself bcoz my husband was working and still in school to finish his degree so I was the only one at home all day training my daughter, it may take a while and always remember to not listen to other mothers and no kids are the same, you'll get there give her time it's frustrating I know just take a deep breath and start over
I have 6 children. My first was fully toilet trained by 18 months old. I can tell you that every child is different and books telling you how to achieve results are setting you up to feel like a failure. One of my daughter's toilet trained great during the day but was a bed wetter till 12 years old. Some children start off really well with toilet training then regress. Take a step back , relax and don't put pressure on yourself.
My daughter would not potty train in pull ups I had to put plastic panties covers over her underwear then she trained in no time. Remember every child is different, some just like to take their time and that’s ok too ❤
Honey, you will be fine... you need to re group your thoughts and focus on things in small amounts. Be proud that your a mom that loves with all her heart. Have blessings this holidays, and remember baby steps... ❤🙏
I have two kids. My oldest is 16 and I promise you it don't matter if he was potty trained at 1,2,3 or 4. It affects our life in no way shape or form. There is no rule book for when kids need to be potty trained. Would the daycare like for them to be potty trained, sure but this is your kid so I say do it when SHE is ready, not when everyone else is ready and not when you're ready. I made the mistake of doing that with my first baby. It was dang miserable! When my second came along I just waited until she showed interest, it was still hard at times but I didn't put the pressure on myself to have her potty trained by a certain age just to please other people. I did not care what anyone else thought. We were a lot happier.
I like your videos. They are so simple and quiet and relaxing and you have a nice voice. Your apt is kept so nice. I can’t wait until you move in to the new place with your mother so you could have more room for yourself and your kids.
I was a married "single" mom to 4 children. I have not figured out if it is better to be married and the father just doesnt care about the kids so I basically handled everything with them. Or to not have the father in the picture. Many of us go through this and it is ok to lose it occasionally. I do agree that P is maybe a bit young to be potty training. Why dont you wait till after you have the baby and try to begin for the summer again. Easier and warmer to have no clothes on. Baby will be about 5 months so it should be easier on you. But I would leave the potty out and maybe P will just potty train herself. As for the haters we all make mistakes in our lives so they have no right to judge anyone. No one is perfect. Sometimes what we feel is love is not and it just confuses so many things in our lives. I would try to take the thought of not having a spouse or the father there in your life and put it in a big box in your mind and shut the darn thing and lock it. then leave it there. Psychologists say this works. You are just going to feel miserable if you just keep wanting this man in your life who just will not be there. When the time is right someone will come into your life. For now try to get support wherever you can. And you always have friends online that you can vent to.
She is not ready. Give it six more months. Work on yourself that’s more important. Do you realize how immature you are? I am not trying to hurt you but if you aren’t aware you cannot work on it.
Hi! Single mum of 3 girls aged 9,6&3 here. Im 28. I’m from the UK. My girls don’t have contact with their dad so I know how you feel in most videos. I just want to say, You’re a brilliant mum to Penelope and you’re going to be an even better mum when you have both your little girls. You’re doing your very best on your own and no one can ask any more of you. Keep doing what you do and everything will be okay! I love your channel and watch whenever you upload.
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When they are ready to potty train, it is easy! Don’t stress too much about it! Preschool teacher here ❤
What she said!!! She will go
Being a mom is hard, life its hard, not having a helping partner is hard, but you know what? You are Stronger than you think! Don't be afraid, God is with you 💪🏼
Honey it’s just potty training it’s not the end of the world, you can’t parent a child by a book, parenting comes natural!! When she is ready she will potty train but not until then so for now keep your head up you are doing a amazing job!!!
She might not be ready. 24 months is early for a lot of children. Wait a couple months and try again.
It's just a hard day Vanessa...always remember there are better days to come
You are not just a single mom, you are a sole mother meaning no dad which is what I went through with my last baby who is now 15 and it's hard...it sure is so dont beat yourself up, your allowed to have these moments
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I'm a single mom of one boy. It's tough but they make you stronger.
It isnt worth the stress, i promis you. Shes pretty young to be potty training, even with the signs she's been showing. A lot of mums of older kids I speak to day the easiest way to potty train is to wait u til theyre ready. Less accidents, less stress, less preasure for the child. Take a breather from it and then try again in a month or 2 ❤
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I can't imagine being a single mama. So my heart goes out to you. You have every right to vent. You are doing a great job ❤
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Vanessa, my wise pediatrician told me a long, long time ago that they basically train themselves when they are ready. O course, you did the right thing by introducting her to the potty and you can still do that. I'm sure at daycare they arenot watching her like a hawk as you are, but she will get it when she's ready. Give yourself some grace and let it go.
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@@lynnbrown9164 exactly!!
My granddaughter is just now potty trained and she’s 3. Kids will do it in their own time.
Almost 4. I’ve had 3 kids and they were all different and did it at different ages.
Vanessa,
I 100% understand the frustration with potty training. Believe me, I know. My son didn’t show interest in the potty until the day of his 3rd birthday. Since then it has been a roller coaster. Many regressions and accidents. I used two potty chairs and one potty ring for the big toilet. Peeing he grasps just fine now. Going number 2, oh great heavens. He is afraid to let it go despite me trying different methods to get him (rewards, probiotics, different potty chairs, underwear). It is very challenging. I’ve told myself that it will come with time and I just have to be patient and keep trying the best that I can. The toddler phase is HARD. I’m sending you my love and support!
Thank you for sharing this!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Don’t stress about it. She will learn soon. She is still pretty little. Plus when she is at daycare she is probably only thinking about having fun with her friends and not going to the potty. You guys got this!
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I was a single Mom of my first daughter for ten years with no help from her father. I know it is very hard. Thank God my Mother helped me a lot. I couldn’t have done it without her. I thought I saw on one of your videos your Mother ❤️had offered to let you move in with her. I think that would be very helpful at least for a while.
Toss the book. It sounds ridiculous. Just be you! Kill the pressure. What's the rush? Why are you on maternity leave so soon? My babies are January birthday's and I was working up to my due date.
Give yourself some credit! A pregnant mama potty training at that! I understand how tired you may be, but you've got this. And you're starting at a great time. My 8 yr old was fully potty trained at 4. My son jack is non verbal and autistic , so we've got some ways to go, but you're doing great! ❤
This is coming from the heart. Nothing more. I work in early childhood in a center for over 15 years potty training there then what you do at home will be completely different. I know in the states you cannot go commando. I'm not sure about Canada but here in us she would have to be in a diaper or pull-up and that also puts a lot of setbacks. Awesome! She's one of what 15 kids. I'm not sure your ratios she's not being watched like a hawk. She's probably being taken maybe every 2 hours if you're lucky. Aunt, she's very young to even start potty training. Most people don't start potty training closer to 3 yrs old when they're off the passy and can talk verbally.
Thank you ❤️ the thing is she shows all signs of readiness and does talk verbally. She also has been going on the potty all on her own. So it’s tough to decide how to do it with daycare. Maybe just keep diapers at daycare and do my thing at home and maybe she’ll keep her diapers dry at daycare soon.
My girls were completely potty trained before age 2.
Sending you hugs❤Honestly I know kids can potty train at her age but she is still so young I just wouldn't worry about it until she is 3. My oldest I tried to potty train in when he was 2 and it was just accident after accident. I left it until he was 3.5 and he potty trained in 3 days and literally has never had an accident since even at night. After that I didn't bother trying until my kids were at least 3. Hoping you have a better day tomorrow! 🙏
Your toddler will have a potty training regression when the baby arrives. It can be maddening. Just have lots of patience with her and give yourself grace too. The second baby will be easier because he or she will watch the older sibling.
Awee Mama don’t cry it will all get better❤️ the fact that your crying and are reading books just goes to show that your a great mom keep your head up🥰
I have a 1 yr old, 2.5 yr old and almost 4 yr old.
My son didn’t potty train til closer to 3.5. Boys can take longer. My daughter has been practicing for the last 3 months. She does pretty well but still has accidents and still wears an overnight diaper. We aren’t stressing over it and she will continue to develop and mature and the accidents will lessen over time. These kiddos just make it happen when they can physically and mentally understand and handle this new big job we are asking of them.
Take it easy on yourself. You can just stop and try again in two months so she’s not feeling upset over the small continual failures of her body isn’t 100% there. The time will come where the stars will align and she will do great.
You’ve got this and she will too in time.
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I question my own sanity when i watch your posts. 😮 2 years old is too young, most children are closer to 3.
All kids are different.....all of mine were potty-trained by the time they were 2-years old. So, 2-years old is definitely not too young.
Every child is different I so agree and to sit with a book on it bawling is ridiculous hell can you imagine the stress Penelope feels about it watching her freak out about a potty there's mental issues here FACTS
This is not true. Both my boys were potty trained by 16 months
Be very consistent but She may not be ready yet. Hang in there. You are doing great. From one single mom to another, it's going to be ok. Don't stress yourself out.
Your amazing mom ❤thanks for being real 💯 not all days are sun shines and rainbows
I had 2 sets of kids 13 months apart. Mine were potty trained early as I put them on the potty, and put a puppet show on for them outside the bathroom. Made a big deal when they went potty. Took only a couple weeks and was a happy experience for them. I also potty trained my grandkids.
First of all you are not a failure. You obviously love your little girl so much. I was a single Mom to my son and I remember potty training him. It requires lots of patience. Don't give up things will get better and all of these things that you are going through will only make you stronger in the end. ❤
I wish i could give you a big hug my friend😊...i am a single mom myself even though the father of my son ..my son and i all live together if that makes any sense...my son is 7 years old and i have basically been raising him all alone this whole 7 years..to make matters worse his father now has glaucoma and has lost all his vision in one eye and most vision in the other and i am now caring for my child and the father of my child at the age of 43 with an autoimmune thyroid condition that i have had for years...there are hard days..sad days..happy days but never EASY days...but always remember that your children will be your best friend for life as mine is and that their love for us is neverending..men will come and go but our children are ours forever...amd their love and happiness for all that we struggle to do for them is enough to keep us going❤❤❤❤you ARE A WONDERFUL MOM TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL PENELOPE AND YOU WILL BE A WONDERFUL MOM TO YOUE NEW LITTLE GIRL AS WELL MY FRIEND..DO NOT LET THE NEGATIVE NANCIES ON HERE GET YOUR SPIRITS DOWN!!!...YOU ARE AMAZING AS A WOMAN AND AS A MOM AND I WANT TO TELL YOU THIS..HUGS FROM ME TO YOU AND PENELOPE AS WELL☺️☺️☺️☺️YOU HAVE GOT THIS MAMA👍👍👍👍
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Sending good mom vibes your way 💕 Whenever I’m having a terrible day I wish I had a t-shirt that says…”I don’t have time for the breakdown that I deserve” which always make me laugh.
Never heard of that method of potty training. Pull-ups are great for potty training. I agree with your daycare about wearing diapers to catch acidents. Its not really fair if they have to clean up a child from the waist down several times a day, and the floors too. It's usually harder for a child to understand the pooping in the potty. She will definitely need to wear diapers/pull ups at night for a while after she is trained. I think your expectations might be too high, or maybe you are in a rush because the baby is due in 2 months. Either way, it's not going to work out until SHE is ready. It seems to me it would be less confusing to a child to train them the tried and true way. Children gets excited about wearing big girls or boys underwear when they are ready.
Honey don’t stress it I’ve raised 3 kids on my own mostly and all my kids potty trained pretty much on there own, they all were going potty by 3 years , your baby girl is going to go without too much help because their bodies know when it’s time and if you take her in the bathroom when you’re going, she is going to start wanting to go to so please don’t be so hard on yourself. You seem like a wonderful mother and I am sure your baby girl is gonna go potty very soon on her own
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In my opinion 2 is too young for potty training.
Same. Like 10 is fine.
Awee Mama don’t cry it will all get better❤️ the fact that your crying and are reading books just goes to show that your a great mom keep your head up🥰my son turns 2 Dec 27th and isn’t potty trained so don’t stress mama
potty training takes ages and day care can't take her to the bathroom every 1/2 hour. That's not a reasonable expectation.
Stay positive Vanessa 🩵I was a single mom of 2 girls and now they are 23 and 21. You can do this! There is power in prayer hugs from California!!
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Being a single mom isn’t what she “asked for”. Absolutely NOT. I’m. Single mom and would’ve never imagined and wanted to be pregnant if I knew I’d be solo. Don’t be rude, y’all. ❤I don’t regret all my kids but nope, I didn’t ask to be the single mother I’ve been . That’s indicative of the man and his character.
I had 3 kids who potty trained within one week.
I have 1 child who took 9 months.
And I have another child who is developmentally delayed and we're on 10 months and counting.
Give yourself some grace, it's not going to be perfect. Parenthood and child rearing is never perfect.
Mistakes will be made, lessons will be learned for both mom and child.
Yall got this ❤
My daughter is four and we just got there 6 months ago, she’s also able to write all of her letters and spell basic words and count and add and do very basic subtraction. We started before 6 months ago. It took nearly a year. She’s a very smart girl but yes, all children are different.
She sat on the toilet and I told her to pee and she said “how? How do I pee?” And I was completely stumped because I had no idea how to explain it to her. Was like trying to think of how to explain to someone how to breathe. I think some kids have a very large disconnect on how to even know when they have to go aside from #2 because they’ve never “held it” they just do it.
Pretty girl, don’t be so hard on yourself. Trust the process. Better days are ahead. There is no right way or perfect way, not everything works out the way we want them to and that’s really tough ( trust me, I’m a perfectionist) she will get there, things are going to be just fine.
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There is only so much control you can have when potty training. I sat down with her daycare and we came up with a plan when both sides felt she was ready. She would do great on the wknds and would have FOMO at daycare so she never wanted to go to the bathroom there. We backed off and tried it again a few months later and then it clicked. My daughter was newly 3 once it clicked for her
Good for you Vanessa! I started potty training my son at 21 months and had MULTIPLE emotional breakdowns, and i have a supportive husband. I can’t imagine doing it alone. I completely relate and I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggled through the process. I followed the same method and did a video of my experience on my channel. It’s hard. But there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. My son isn’t even 2 yet and he’s 85% potty trained. We go on a schedule and he doesn’t poo in the potty consistently yet. But you got this!
Thank you! I will check out your video ❤️
When it rains, it pours! ❤❤❤ You're a great Mama. My little girl is 7 1/2, but her father and I were both working full time when she was potty training. ❤❤❤ it took soooo long, and I was emotional and thought we'd never get through. ❤❤❤ We did, and now my son turns 2 in 2 days, actually, and he is refusing to even try. 😅 You'll make it through. Things will get easier. Remember, you are super emotional right now, too. ❤❤❤
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@@heyvanessamartin youre welcome you are absolutely glowing Mama, just beautiful inside and out!
You are not a terrible mother, you are a fantastic mommy, sweet little Penelope is lucky to have you. As lots of people have said, its just a bad day, start again tomorrow, ultimately in the end all will be ok, sending hugs from the UK ❤
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Mama, nothing is perfect, ever! Especially potty training! It goes great and then they take a couple steps back. Once it clicks for her, it’ll stick and you’ll be past it! You are a good mom, and you are doing your best! We all have days where we feel like we failed! But she is happy and healthy and learning!!! ❤❤❤
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You are doing great Vanessa. She is ready to potty trained it just takes time. My both boys trained at 26 months and I never looked back. I was told it would never happen because they are boys. So you got this girl just persevere and Penelope will do fine and there will be accidents. Just repeating the instructions and process she will pick it up.
The perfect method is the one that is best for your daughter. She will make alot of mistakes. Parenting does not go by a book and is always a roller coaster. I cannot imagine focusing on this 24/7 and making her go every 1/2 hour. I would be crying hysterically too. I would let her go to daycare in the diaper and do what you need to do to stay sane. You have to take things day by day. You will have alot of pressure with work and 2 children soon. You are doing the best you can.
Mom of 3 here- potty training involves a variety of skill sets they gradually learn!
Please realize that it’s no reflection of your parenting or how much you have prepared her. Just like kids grow at different rates physically they also become ready when they are physically and psychologically ready to learn all these steps in the proper order. go easy on yourself Girl!
No need to grade yourself on how this process goes prior to your new arrival! When one of mine was not making progress during the process, I would just take a month or longer break and give it a go again.
One day at a time, one step at a time one child at a time
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Don’t cry it will get better 🩷you are amazing momma 🩷have a blessed night 🙏🏻
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Two is very young for most kids to be potty trained. Girls are usually more ready at 2 1/2 or 3. They just don't have the control so early. Would be nice before the second baby comes but she would likely regress when baby sister arrives and you will not have time to watch her every minute then either. Concentrate on Penelope and yourself and do what you can to get ready for your next big challenge when baby comes.
Hugs honey your hormones are a mess right now and that makes you more emotional. It will work out I promise .
You are doing a great job with Penelope! ❤ I was a Nanny for 20 years before I had my daughter. There are so many ways and methods. She will get it 100% when she is ready. My daughter showed signs for 4 months before we started. She will pee on the potty but won't poop. I have done it all with her! She will get it when she gets it fully. My daughter tells me before she needs to poop. I know she is ready, she is stubborn. 😂 Penelope is great, and I am proud of you! She may regress some when baby number 2 comes. You are a great Mama. Please don't stress over potty- training....she will fully get it on her own timing. ❤ Hang in there...better times are coming. You will be holding your new sweet baby soon. 😊
Don’t be hard on yourself… my youngest daughter was a nightmare with potty training! I couldn’t get her out of nappies until she was 4 years old. And she still wears a pull up to bed every night at 6 😵💫 I don’t know about you guys but in Australia they’re $12-14 a packet of 8. I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to buy them anymore.
My eldest daughter was fully trained, went to bed every night with knickers at 3 years old.
P is only two, don’t feel defeated, when she is ready it will just happen.
Hi Vanessa! Don’t be hard on yourself. 2 is still young to potty train. As the mom of 4, I’ll tell you, they all get there. It will happen. Hang in there. Jen
Just don’t set unrealistic expectations. You also don’t need to compare your baby and her milestones to other’s. A lot of Moms will see someone else’s kid walk/talk/potty train by a certain age and then we think we’re doing something wrong if ours aren’t accomplishing it. Some kids take a little longer and it’s no reflection on the parents. I promise you she’ll get there. What worked best for me with my grandson was I put a potty in the living room or wherever we were hanging out (at home of course) then I let him just wear a comfy over sized T-shirt with no underwear or pull up. I think your method is good, but I know she can’t do that at daycare so it’s tricky. Regardless everyone needs to stick to the same plan so that it’s not confusing to her. I ordered a travel potty off Amazon that collapses for when we’re out and about that was a lifesaver many times.. you’re going to get through this rough season Momma. I’m praying for you❤
PS: I would play potty cartoons for her off RUclips daily. There’s really some good ones on here.
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She’s still young so don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Both my kids were
closer to three years old before they were trained. I’m so sorry you’re feeling upset! 😘
Don’t put to much pressure on yourself Mumma your doing a great Job Penelope Is a good Girl and will learn how to use the potty yes Parenting can be hard and challenging @ times give yourself a break as you deserve It keep being you and everything else will fall Into place
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awe sending you hugs today . single mom life is hard . some days are easier than others but you got this . i get what ur saying im married but my hubby job takes him away 2 weeks at a time internationally home a week gone another 2 it’s just how it is . i have wished sooo many times that i had my hubby home with a normal job but that isn’t the reality of it . honestly ur in the easy stages wait until the kids get older it gets more complicated not trying to scare you but i swear i don’t know how i managed sometimes . one thing i know kids will make you stronger . go take a long hot soaking bath so you can relax you need it .
I have twins who’ll be 12 tomorrow. My daughter still had accidents at 4 years old and her twin brother still has accidents now (he is neurodivergent and still awaiting diagnosis of autism as it is an extremely slow system here in Nottinghamshire UK!) you would be better really to do potty training when she is a bit older. It’s also best done in the summer months! Don’t beat yourself up about it. There will be plenty of time to focus on it when the new baby naps in the summer. Just turned two is extremely young.
No matter how many family members help out, they can never replace another partner/parent that you deserve.
I have an 8 month old and my daughter just turned 4. She didn’t really get potty trained down until 6 months ago. She wasn’t ready. Yes if I put her on the potty sometimes she went, sometimes she peed in her underwear. Her pediatrician told me to give her a break and try again later. So she was 3.5 before* she became 100% potty trained. I don’t think she’s ready. Trust me I know how much it sucks to have a newborn in diapers and a child in diapers - it is not fun - but once I let up and relaxed and tried again - she seemed much readier. And my child is also very intelligent - it doesn’t mean Penelope isn’t - she just may not be ready. 2 is quite young. Not too young to start or try but don’t be surprised she isn’t potty trained yet 😊
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I'm a single mom too, my little guy is just over three. My biggest advice for potty training, is wait until they can pull up and down their own pants, not that they will, but they get it. I waited till 3 years old with no pressure on him, and my little boy was fully trained in one month. Literally once they catch on it goes so fast. Also I put an m&m dispenser in my bathroom and everytime he pooped (not pee), he got to crank the arm on the dispenser and have one m&m.
Give yourself some grace honey ❤ don’t overthink things and don’t be so hard on yourself. ❤
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Vanessa don’t over think it. It will all be ok. Potty training takes time. Not every potty training for every child you will have is going to be different. Baby steps. Take a breath. It will be ok.
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Mine was 2 in a half and still had accidents, she’s 4 now, and still has them occasionally! I’m sorry it’s getting hard, but it takes time.
She still wears pull ups some times, but lately it’s been better, and she calls herself a big girl now, so barely wants a pull up on for night! I hope it gets better for you! I also did the no pants for awhile it worked for us.I’ve also bought a travel potty seat that folds in a bag off amazon that was a life saver! Especially in public, and my child is on the small end. I am just now starting no potty chair for young fives next fall!
Oh gosh Honey dont stress over potty training. I was a single mom of 3 It is the hardest job in the world in my opinion but it does come natural bvecause as a mom you want the very best for them of course. I never read a book about potty training or anything about raising mine, everyone is different sure! and every child is different when it comes to everything. your doing great!! The experience i had in raising mine was when they become teens, now that was difficult compared as to when they were toddlers. In my opinion it is much better to have ger potty trained before the new baby comes ( less expensive to just have one in diapers) we all make mistakes when it comes to parenting but you learn from the mistakes.. your doing fine. everyone needs a good cry now and then it helps. I wouldnt leave a child in a car alone ever ever not even for a second, but i have been watching your videos a long time and i can honestly say your a very involved momma and thats important. Your a Great Mom!! sending Love and hugs..God Bless.
It doesn't have to go perfectly. It didn't go perfectly for any of us. It can wait if you are too overwhelmed. She is not that old.
Take this from a mother of 5.
You chose this. You chose to BE a mom. YOU are your daughters' entire world. Your kids will see how much you've done when they get older.
You are putting way, WAY too much on your plate. She will do it once she is ready. I know it's literally a pain in the butt. You are going to have a little one with a power struggle. It WILL happen, just on her time.
Don’t be so hard on yourself!! She’s just two, don’t force it. You are correct, being a mom is the hardest job you’ll ever do. Once the training happens you’ll wonder why you got yourself so stressed out about it.
When my kids' bio dad and i were together i tried and tried and tried. Never thinking that we would ever get there. My kids were 3 when they first started to go on the potty. They just werent ready. Hang in there momma! You got this and she will go when shes ready. :)
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You are way too strong to give up now. Wishing you both well. I think whatever you decide to keep her home or send her to daycare is totally you decision and neither are wrong. Your such a great mom. Sending prayers to you
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Take a deep breath. It will be ok 🙏🏻I came across your channel not long ago and I have watched your videos and the one thing I can truly take away from what I have seen is that you are an amazing mom and you are doing a really good job as a mom. Your little one is so lucky to have you. Potty training is HARD. Give yourself a break and know that you are doing exactly what you need to in order to potty train your little one. My kiddos all all older 16, 18 and 21 and I. A tell you from experience that no matter how much we try to do things perfectly as parents it doesn’t always work out that way. Being a parent is a lifetime roller coated ride of emotions, questions and doubts. It still happens to me and mine are almost all grown. The fact that you are feeling the way you are shows what a good mom you truly are. Hang in there and don’t doubt yourself. You are doing a great job!
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I potty trained 4. 3 girls 1 boy. My twins trained together, one got it immediately her sister did not. They were about 4 months apart on being fully potty trained at 2.5 yr. The youngest was almost 4 before being fully potty trained and still needed a pull up many nights. Don't Force it. I once met a mom and asked how potty training her kids went. She said the daycare did it all. I was floored! I had no clue that was an option .. Not that we could've aftorded it.
What i did with my 4yr old. Take them every 2hrs. Even if they dont have to go sit them down. Have them watch u innthe bathroom so they know what they need to do. I put in underwear so child feel theybr wet
My son had to go to day care in order for him to learn. He was so stinking stubborn. Hang in there. I’d wait til after the new baby is born.
Vanessa, when you said it wasn’t just about the potty training that makes sense. You have a lot of things going on, please take the time to take care of yourself. Sometimes you have to just sob and feel sad and disappointed in the way things are going, holding it in doesn’t help. Then hopefully you’ll get another burst of strength and determination to deal with all that’s on your plate. I’m thinking of you and hoping you feel better.
you're lucky that the daycare will try to help. on average i think 3 yr is the most successful time to start. both my boys were right at 3! i would push back trying until she gets closer to 3, you'll be changing diapers once the new baby comes anyway so its not worth the stress.
Hi Vanessa , your doing great !. We have been potty training my 2 year old for the past month and he has only just fully got it !. Poos and wees . Alot of stress and frustration but don't give up , if you persist they do get it. Just don't go back to nappies during the day or it will confuse them . Penelope sounds like she is doing really well 😊. I waited until 2 and a half with both my boys but my sister did earlier with her 1st child and did well . Blessings to you and family ❤
I'm sorry your feeling frustrated and sad. I remember how hard it was for my son to be potty trained. He was so scared of the toilet and it was a great stress on him and all of us. Penelope seems to be catching on quite quickly. It will get better, I know it will. Keep the faith. I'm Praying for you. Take care .❤
Also, I do want to say that even tho I have a husband, he really didn't help much in alot of the baby care of my kids or even my granddaughter for that matter. He is better at other aspects of parenting so there are exceptions on how parents take care of the kids. You never know.
Hun your fine ❤❤ there is no right way. Your just a human it's gonna be okay Mama ❤❤❤ don't stress ❤❤❤ He doesn't deserve you and your gonna do great without him❤❤ actually I probably would keep her home, but I'm weird and totally loved just keeping mine home. My daughter did great with #1on the potty but #2 was a slight situation 😂 it's ok Mama everything is going to work out ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️my daughter actually hated potty training it was a situation and it took a while, we actually gave up for a while~
Motherhood is not for the weak.. that's for sure. Being a single mom sucks... but being with someone who doesn't' carry their weight sucks too. You can do hard things. Go easy on yourself. Feel your feels and let it go. Much love.
Please be gentle with yourself pregnancy itself can be a emotional rollercoaster your doing amazing some days seem few steps backwards then forward again Penelope is doing great 👍😊❤
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When we started potty training our daughter we used a little plastic potty chair and everytime she pottied we did the "potty dance" and got all excited about it and then she got to put a sticker on the potty chair. It worked great. We had a harder time with the pooping on the potty, she wasn't completely potty trained until almost 3 years. Just wanted to share what worked for us. You're doing great mom, don't doubt that, I could never have raised my daughter on my own, you're a bad ass and don't forget it you're doing wonderful and you can see how much Penelope loves u.
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Just remember that slowly but surely she will get there, she won't be an untrained adult. Small steps, consistency, and time.
There is no right way. There is no perfect way. I am a mama of 2. I have a 4yr old and a 10m old (he will b 1 in jan). I'm gonna get some neg feedback from this comment. NO BOOK WILL TELL U HOW TO PARENT. Each child is diff... not 1 thing fits all. Follow her lead.. if she isn't ready 🤷♀️ she isn't ready. It's ok to have 2 babies in diapers.
I remember having many days just like the one you are describing when my kids were little. I cried a lot because of frustration from not having the support I needed. It is very very hard to slow down and be patient and let your plans go when you are just trying to get ahead. I learned the hard way that the #1 most important thing for me to do is attend to my child’s needs. Sometimes the other things need to wait. You can train your child better than anyone else, trust me. Those workers might be nice but telling you to keep her in a diaper - no. They will unravel your hard work and confuse Penelope. It will get better one day. Eventually, you will cry less and you will be a stronger person. What you are going through is actually the grief process. Your dreams for a happy family with your children’s father is dying and that is SO hard to accept. But trust me, not having him is a blessing in disguise because he would only drag you down.
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When my daughter was 2 and 1/2, I bought her some cute “big girl” panties with ruffles on the booty. I would take her to the potty regularly and we would talk about how she was keeping her big girl panties pretty and not wet. She was ready by 2 and 1/2, but would not have been at 2. They are only ready when they are ready. I know you feel like you are rushing because you have another coming soon. But it would be ok to have two in diapers for a while.
and to think you /ASKED for this, no sympathy there girl
NOT ASKING FOR SYMPATHY.
Facts these women need self control like why open your legs and keep having kids when THE GUY SHIWED YOU THE FIRST TIME THAT HE DGAF THESE WOMEN HAVE TO STOP BEING DUMB BEHIND DICK FR
Agree how dumb she is
We all break down mamas!! And you are a real one to wait until your child is at school. At least you held yourself together until you were alone, with us.. To break down. I’m sorry you are feeling the way that you are. Hugs to you. To be honest, even mothers with fathers in the picture still break down. Be grateful “not to say you aren’t,” for the support system you do have. Some of us only had the support of our children’s fathers. And they work. I’m just saying.. We all have our trials, and our triumphs. We all go through it. You are a wonderful mother. Penelope is lucky to have you. You are all she needs. She doesn’t know anything different even if you do. I’m praying for your little family. I’m praying you receive peace and blessings ❤🙏❤️
You can do this. Think of this as a time of bonding before the new baby comes. The Lord sometimes gives us what we think as obstacles, our trials are sometimes his blessing to us.
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Don’t focus so hard on it that you stress yourself out. All 3 of my girls all trained themselves shortly after turning 2 with zero stress. Introduce her to the concept. Have her sit on her potty for fun. When you go, have her sit on hers. Don’t stress yourself out that she’s not potty trained yet. It’ll happen when she is ready ❤
In my experience potty training takes time its never been smooth sailing/linear . It was never a few day thing. Every child also has success with different methods. My friends kids did great with one method and mine didn't. I found them choosing their own new underwear and feeling themselves get wet helped them learn as well. They do well and then with big life changes they regress. It takes time ... also its ok to stop and try again in a few weeks. I wouldn't keep her home. I did diaper at daycare and we just focused on it at home until it stuck at daycare too.
You.are a good mom dont stress yourself out
You can't he upset if she doesn't follow book word by word. My daughter took 3 months with the poop she was scared. 3 weeks with the pee. The daycare helped a lot seeing the other kids go potty.
I don't wanna brag or make you feel bad, I know you are doing what you could and that's perfect, I'm just wanna tell you that don't force it too hard let her wear diaper when she's at the daycare then train her when she's home kids are smart that's what I did to my daughter when she was 2 years old, you are doing fine you don't need a man for this I potty trained my daughter by myself bcoz my husband was working and still in school to finish his degree so I was the only one at home all day training my daughter, it may take a while and always remember to not listen to other mothers and no kids are the same, you'll get there give her time it's frustrating I know just take a deep breath and start over
I have 6 children. My first was fully toilet trained by 18 months old. I can tell you that every child is different and books telling you how to achieve results are setting you up to feel like a failure. One of my daughter's toilet trained great during the day but was a bed wetter till 12 years old. Some children start off really well with toilet training then regress. Take a step back , relax and don't put pressure on yourself.
My daughter would not potty train in pull ups I had to put plastic panties covers over her underwear then she trained in no time. Remember every child is different, some just like to take their time and that’s ok too ❤
Honey, you will be fine... you need to re group your thoughts and focus on things in small amounts. Be proud that your a mom that loves with all her heart. Have blessings this holidays, and remember baby steps... ❤🙏
I have two kids. My oldest is 16 and I promise you it don't matter if he was potty trained at 1,2,3 or 4. It affects our life in no way shape or form. There is no rule book for when kids need to be potty trained. Would the daycare like for them to be potty trained, sure but this is your kid so I say do it when SHE is ready, not when everyone else is ready and not when you're ready. I made the mistake of doing that with my first baby. It was dang miserable! When my second came along I just waited until she showed interest, it was still hard at times but I didn't put the pressure on myself to have her potty trained by a certain age just to please other people. I did not care what anyone else thought. We were a lot happier.
I like your videos. They are so simple and quiet and relaxing and you have a nice voice. Your apt is kept so nice. I can’t wait until you move in to the new place with your mother so you could have more room for yourself and your kids.
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I was a married "single" mom to 4 children. I have not figured out if it is better to be married and the father just doesnt care about the kids so I basically handled everything with them. Or to not have the father in the picture. Many of us go through this and it is ok to lose it occasionally.
I do agree that P is maybe a bit young to be potty training. Why dont you wait till after you have the baby and try to begin for the summer again. Easier and warmer to have no clothes on. Baby will be about 5 months so it should be easier on you. But I would leave the potty out and maybe P will just potty train herself.
As for the haters we all make mistakes in our lives so they have no right to judge anyone. No one is perfect. Sometimes what we feel is love is not and it just confuses so many things in our lives.
I would try to take the thought of not having a spouse or the father there in your life and put it in a big box in your mind and shut the darn thing and lock it. then leave it there. Psychologists say this works. You are just going to feel miserable if you just keep wanting this man in your life who just will not be there. When the time is right someone will come into your life. For now try to get support wherever you can. And you always have friends online that you can vent to.
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I want to teach my little girl to potty train too. You are such a hard worker and fighter, I wish I was as strong as you are.
She is not ready. Give it six more months. Work on yourself that’s more important. Do you realize how immature you are? I am not trying to hurt you but if you aren’t aware you cannot work on it.
🙏prayers and love💕