@@Queb1648This is my sentiment too. I mainly give Christmas gifts to children. All year I’m buying for myself anyways, so I really don’t expect or want a gift from others. 🤗🎄
Regarding the NYE party, the person claimed they always had a party but that is actually part of the problem. Sometimes others want an opportunity to host so if a friend group is shared, this was inevitably going to happen. Have your party but know that some years some guests may be asked elsewhere-that’s life.
I have noticed that people do give things that they themselves like. So I look at what they have given me in the past to get a clue as to what they would like.
I was so excited to get presents when I was younger now in my 40s I can buy whatever I want. I would rarher have a coffee or a have a dinner with my friends and people I care about. Even just looking for a present takes time, then wrapping it up l, and then you worry if you’re gonna make someone happy or not - it’s not worth it. We have become such a consumer society and then we depend on social media and then we read and hear all these things and then you put more pressure on yourself. At the end, only our mental health and our well-being suffers because we keep Putting more and more pressure on ourselves. Again, not worth it.
You’re not obligated to buy Betty a gift. Stop buying her gifts. Or if that will be too socially awkward, but her a gift card to an online or big box store. Done. The obligated consumerism of Christmas is awful. Do you and not what the world expects you to.
Give food, experiences, dinner out, movie out or whatever would make her happy. I think some people realize they have enough stuff. And if she would rather stay home, she can regift it.
As a daughter-in-law myself, I understand the sentiment behind wanting to give your mother-in-law thoughtful gifts, but it is clear that you are not hitting that mark. Just give her a gift card. She might appreciate that, which is what you are going for anyway.
I think Betty has a problem, but it doesn't need to be the daughter-in-law's anymore. People will show you who they are. Give to those that appreciate you and don't dim your light.
Give gifts that cannot be returned. Something homemade from your kitchen or made by your children, a family experience to a museum, zoo or some such place.
I feel exactly the same. It's ridiculous that people won't just communicate. I've actually lost "friends" over literally asking a legitimate question they got offended by 🤦♀️
Yea that’s weird to stress over. It’s once a year, the children are out of school, and it’s a short time they will stay. Maybe they really don’t want them there and hoping this drama will deter them from staying over again. 🤷🏽♀️
The ratings will go down, for sure. At least for a while. Jenna is great but she needs a co-host with strong & natural chemistry. Remember when Jenna was a nepo-hire, awkward segment host? She’s come a long way, for sure. A natural now.
One year my husband and i went xmas shopping for his mother, i picked out a nice red sweater, her favorite color! I wanted to get a medium, and my husband insisted she took a large! Well of course it was too big! My mother in law was so incensed that I thought she was a large, as if I did it on purpose! She got gift cards after that.
@jenniferhansen3622 You're so right. I really should've. I even ordered her a gift card online after I had a stroke. When I stopped giving her gift cards ,she pretty much stopped talking to me.
@@jenniferhansen3622 Yeah,when she told me “I’m gonna see how you top this w/the next gift”, I should’ve seen that as a🚩. I wasted so much time and money on gifts that she didn’t appreciate. It took me a year to learn how to walk and talk again but I’m fine. That year helped me clearly see that she never really cared about me. Thanks for your kind words❤️
My daughter in law always returns my gifts (and her mother's and sister's etc, her mother calls them boomerang gifts because they always go back) so we give her money or gift cards from what we know is her favorite stores.
I mainly do Christmas gift for children. Like a classmate’s mom, we know each other because, we would wait together when picking up our children. Elementary school they do small gift exchanges and I would make extra treat bags. The mom was like I’m going to get you a gift too, I was like No, right away. Thanked her and she gave treat bags for my children. Just be honest with people. Try to eliminate this need for giving gifts, especially if the person clearly doesn’t want it. I would stop giving gifts to the mother in-law, and say gifts for children only.
For the Mother-in-law who returns all the gifts I would make her a little something if you want to for something personal...if you're not handy you could even make her some cookies as she would not be able to return them.... and attached to the item you make even if it's a very small thing I would just give her a gift card so she can buy whatever she wants. She'll get what she wants and you won't be offended
RETURNING GIFTS ? In my family each person….young and old…..makes out a Wish List each year. Things can always be added to the list. One family member is assigned to keep all lists. At Christmas the daughter-in-law simply looks on her Mother- in-law’s Wish List and chooses an item that Mother-in-Law HERSELF wrote on it MONTHS ago…..most likely already forgotten about. Since we started this in my own family EVERYBODY is as happy as can be when special gift days come about. Each list needs to be thoughtful, by having a dollar amount not to exceed. 12-30-2024
no -- she is not ungracious --once you give a gift -- it is the receiver who gets to decide what they do with it --you don't give gifts with strings attached.
she is not ungrateful - once you give a gift -- it is up to the receiver what they want to do with the gift. Gifts don't come with strings. However, if she is always giving them away you need to ask yourself, why is she giving it away ? Is it something she does not like or need? Perhaps she would like the gift of time rather than material items.
Ask what people they want! A gift that a person doesn't need or want is a waste of money and effort
So true, happens all the time, I've been dealing w/this with my inlaws for years, keeps happening!
Do adults really need gifts? At a certain point, folks can afford what they want. If they can't afford things, then ask and give.
@@Queb1648This is my sentiment too. I mainly give Christmas gifts to children. All year I’m buying for myself anyways, so I really don’t expect or want a gift from others. 🤗🎄
Give her money next year. Maybe she will give it back!!! Yea.
Good one!
Don't say anything if your mother in law always returns your gifts. Just don't buy her any more gifts. Simple!
Regarding the NYE party, the person claimed they always had a party but that is actually part of the problem. Sometimes others want an opportunity to host so if a friend group is shared, this was inevitably going to happen. Have your party but know that some years some guests may be asked elsewhere-that’s life.
That's true, "that's life"
Agree. This is an opportunity to either invite new people over, or take to the time to check out other people’s party.
I have noticed that people do give things that they themselves like. So I look at what they have given me in the past to get a clue as to what they would like.
Great point!
I was so excited to get presents when I was younger now in my 40s I can buy whatever I want. I would rarher have a coffee or a have a dinner with my friends and people I care about. Even just looking for a present takes time, then wrapping it up l, and then you worry if you’re gonna make someone happy or not - it’s not worth it. We have become such a consumer society and then we depend on social media and then we read and hear all these things and then you put more pressure on yourself. At the end, only our mental health and our well-being suffers because we keep Putting more and more pressure on ourselves. Again, not worth it.
Give her nothing next year or give her a non-refundable gift certificate.
You’re not obligated to buy Betty a gift. Stop buying her gifts. Or if that will be too socially awkward, but her a gift card to an online or big box store. Done. The obligated consumerism of Christmas is awful. Do you and not what the world expects you to.
Stop getting Betty gifts. The end. Oh you know the FIL wouldn't know. Most men are hopeless.
Haha!! I love your "most men are hopeless" comment. 😂 But seriously, I said the same thing. Just don't buy her gifts anymore.
Give food, experiences, dinner out, movie out or whatever would make her happy. I think some people realize they have enough stuff. And if she would rather stay home, she can regift it.
Lol people need to stop buying gifts for each other. If you want to buy gifts, ask them exactly what they want
As a daughter-in-law myself, I understand the sentiment behind wanting to give your mother-in-law thoughtful gifts, but it is clear that you are not hitting that mark. Just give her a gift card. She might appreciate that, which is what you are going for anyway.
NO MORE GIFTS
I think Betty has a problem, but it doesn't need to be the daughter-in-law's anymore. People will show you who they are. Give to those that appreciate you and don't dim your light.
Ask Betty’s son to chose and buy Betty’s gift.
Was waiting for someone to suggest this! 😊
Give gifts that cannot be returned. Something homemade from your kitchen or made by your children, a family experience to a museum, zoo or some such place.
Let her do whatever she wants with it.
Every gift I gave my brothers mother in law she dissed so I stopped giving her any thing no more problems
just curious, but why were you giving your brother's MIL a gift, was she hosting the holiday events at her home?
As the mother of two teenage boys, and therefore a future MIL, all I'd want for Christmas is time with my grandkids.
We got older relatives who really don't need more "things" a trip to the grocery store and bought and changed their furnace filters. They loved it!
Why are people scared of asking legitimate questions? The questions seem so childish. Say what you mean and ask what you want to know.
I feel exactly the same. It's ridiculous that people won't just communicate. I've actually lost "friends" over literally asking a legitimate question they got offended by 🤦♀️
Why not let your own kids stay up a little later when there’s company over? It’s a special time.
Yea that’s weird to stress over. It’s once a year, the children are out of school, and it’s a short time they will stay. Maybe they really don’t want them there and hoping this drama will deter them from staying over again. 🤷🏽♀️
Obligational gift giving culture needs to go away. God loves a cheerful giver.
What on earth are we going to do without Hoda???😢
Enjoy tv !!
The ratings will go down, for sure. At least for a while. Jenna is great but she needs a co-host with strong & natural chemistry. Remember when Jenna was a nepo-hire, awkward segment host? She’s come a long way, for sure. A natural now.
Betty might be a minimalist who doesn’t want to keep anything that she isn’t using or going to use.
One year my husband and i went xmas shopping for his mother, i picked out a nice red sweater, her favorite color! I wanted to get a medium, and my husband insisted she took a large! Well of course it was too big! My mother in law was so incensed that I thought she was a large, as if I did it on purpose! She got gift cards after that.
Make Christmas about Jesus. He is the gift that we all need.
After I realized that my❤ ex mother in law was regifting my gifts to her daughter, I started giving my mil Visa gift cards.
You should have stopped giving her gifts altogether.
@jenniferhansen3622 You're so right. I really should've. I even ordered her a gift card online after I had a stroke. When I stopped giving her gift cards ,she pretty much stopped talking to me.
@@dyoung2739 Oh, wow. You were generous and she was ungrateful. On another note, I hope you're healthy & doing well these days. ❤️
@@jenniferhansen3622 Yeah,when she told me “I’m gonna see how you top this w/the next gift”, I should’ve seen that as a🚩. I wasted so much time and money on gifts that she didn’t appreciate. It took me a year to learn how to walk and talk again but I’m fine. That year helped me clearly see that she never really cared about me. Thanks for your kind words❤️
@@dyoung2739Wow!!
My daughter in law always returns my gifts (and her mother's and sister's etc, her mother calls them boomerang gifts because they always go back) so we give her money or gift cards from what we know is her favorite stores.
I mainly do Christmas gift for children. Like a classmate’s mom, we know each other because, we would wait together when picking up our children. Elementary school they do small gift exchanges and I would make extra treat bags. The mom was like I’m going to get you a gift too, I was like No, right away. Thanked her and she gave treat bags for my children. Just be honest with people. Try to eliminate this need for giving gifts, especially if the person clearly doesn’t want it. I would stop giving gifts to the mother in-law, and say gifts for children only.
the gift now belongs to her. she can do what she wants. get over it !!
Do secret Santa. Pick a limit and have people write down a couple things they like. We started that last year, do $50 and it works out great!
For the Mother-in-law who returns all the gifts I would make her a little something if you want to for something personal...if you're not handy you could even make her some cookies as she would not be able to return them.... and attached to the item you make even if it's a very small thing I would just give her a gift card so she can buy whatever she wants. She'll get what she wants and you won't be offended
RETURNING GIFTS ? In my family each person….young and old…..makes out a Wish List each year. Things can always be added to the list. One family member is assigned to keep all lists. At Christmas the daughter-in-law simply looks on her Mother- in-law’s Wish List and chooses an item that Mother-in-Law HERSELF wrote on it MONTHS ago…..most likely already forgotten about. Since we started this in my own family EVERYBODY is as happy as can be when special gift days come about. Each list needs to be thoughtful, by having a dollar amount not to exceed. 12-30-2024
No social delimas here
Get a gift card for ungracious Betty!
no -- she is not ungracious --once you give a gift -- it is the receiver who gets to decide what they do with it --you don't give gifts with strings attached.
Money! Problem solved!!
Have her son buy his Mom’s gift!
His mother? Let him handle the gifting to her, and you just ignore it. or give her a small "conveyance" gift with a gc. Let it be a non-issue for you.
Just give gift cards
Don’t buy her gifts
NO.
Donate money to a charity in her name
Betty is ungrateful I would talk to her ask her why she returns your gifts.
she is not ungrateful - once you give a gift -- it is up to the receiver what they want to do with the gift. Gifts don't come with strings. However, if she is always giving them away you need to ask yourself, why is she giving it away ? Is it something she does not like or need? Perhaps she would like the gift of time rather than material items.
@ she returns the item doesn’t give it away.
@@victoriadelbando3283 and once you give a gift, it is no longer yours -- and up to the receiver to do what they want with it
I disagree , your house, your rules.
Oh Hoda and Jenna shut up ! What are you “dear Abby”. ! Just go away !
But why are you here????