It's so hard not to check their social media and it truly becomes a habit. You do it once, see no one liked her newest photos you feel good, but then you start coming back to see who else liked, and everyone seems suspicious, you start thinking they are seeing someone else. When you stalk them you feel relieve for a couple minutes, but then anxiety comes back and you want to do it again and again, if you dont check you still feel anxious, hope this feeling goes away soon.
hi how are you today? your comment is exactly i am feeling this days, she blocked me for 2 months and i just discover she unblocks me but ddn't reach out to me, i kept seeing her on messenger being online, and i cant help stalking her all the time and became my hobby it feels like all the pain are coming back. 😭
@@ssjrosethanos1996 yes it did. It's been almost 2 years, my advise is to block them, if possible get away from social media at all. Focus on other things, watch movies, play games, call friends, thats it.
Not only did I stop posting on social media, i deactivated all of them entirely and it greatly changed my life for the better 🙂 Its so empowering to no longer seek digital validation and makes it a lot easier to get into other activities I never made time for before. I would highly recommend for everyone to consider leaving social media altogether; the water is nice here 😊
You're exactly right. Regardless, of an EX, social media is unhealthy. I deactivated my fb and could care less. I'm walking again, reading books etc. Thanks.
I am so happy to see that I am not the only one who did this, and yes it has greatly reduced my anxiety. On another note, I reactivated my fb and went to her page and looked at pics....needless to say, not mu best idea as I started to well up with tears and felt like I was missing out....nope! Going back to deactivating fb, and living life for me!!!!
Everyone fuckin does it. Regardless of who broke up with who. Some people might do it more often than others. But i'm sure your ex is/has looked up your social media accounts at some point.
Chau, at least you were able to see your ex’s fb. I’ve gone through multiple breakups with my ex and we were always having problems with Facebook. It would get to the point where if we’d have an argument or breakup, we’d automatically block the other person. Our last reconnection in the summer that ended again a month ago, she had me blocked on Facebook as opposed to the last time we were together when we shared Facebook. So not only has the relationship been on again off again, so was Facebook. Social media is nothing more than a problem for couples! We broke up a month ago and no more than 4 days later she posted in a relationship on fb. I was told by a friend! I don’t know what the status is today or care to know.
Ugh it's so painful why do I do it? I go a few days and then boom I'm back stalking him. He's a narc POS. I want to see him as miserable as I am but he's not. He has no feelings.
That is exactly what I do, I see all the time if he is online or not. If he is online, my head say he is talking to an other woman, if he is of line, I concluded that he closed his phone cause he is with an other. These thought drive me crazy! So, I decide to not going to Facebook to get out from their ! Sorry for my English lol
Everyone does that. Most of the time, you're wrong. Lol, usually when you come with ideas in fearful state, you're wrong. He's probably sitting home doing the same thing you are.
Same here. We are online at the same time but instead of chatting to each other we're chatting to other people which makes me so sad. Why can't we just talk normally again 😔
Don't do this. For god's sake, DO NOT do this. It will set you back. It will make you feel awful and worse. I am kicking myself. She's having a great time travelling while I'm stuck at home, going to work every day. Listen to Rory.
Facts bro❗️every time I look at my ex’s stories I get set back I start thinking about her and boom depression, it’s best just not to look. But it can be hard also
General Waste it’s extremely hard I got into a bad habit of automatically checking her snap profile as soon as I get on sc but I’m trying bro fuckkk its so unhealthy for me🤦🏾♂️
@@xonlytyrek3601 It won't help you. I know you're desperate for contact (believe me I am with my ex) and even just seeing her will help, but that person isn't posting whatever it is in your company or your presence and it hurts. Don't do it to yourself.
General Waste yeah man that’s exactly what I think too its crazy though it’s like I check in hopes of it benefiting me or her stories somehow being about me but in reality that will never be the case unless we together, it’s either her posting her friends or her having a good time while I’m not there and I hate that shit lol which makes it even worse . Your right just not worth checking.
It sucks. We want to be someone who clearly doesn’t want to be with us. We make stories in our minds saying maybe if this happens or if that happens or if anything happens we will still have a chance again. But all of this is so destructive. Accepting it is hard like really hard but you gotta do it for you. You don’t deserve being with someone who rejected you even once. Let them go
My ex dumped me. Blocked me on IG stories. I guess he muted my account. But then I saw his friends who doesn’t follow me seeing my stories 🙄. I don’t understand. You don’t wanted me in your life and you’re probably sending your friends to check on me? I was sad at the beginning now I’m starting to think that I had so many possibilities out there that I didn’t see before. I have to admit this breakup affected my confidence and self-esteem but watching these videos I’ve doing better. Thank you so much 🙏
Yes Rory! I'm counting all the days I'm working out, the days my mental health is getting heal... I'm counting the days I'm increasing my push ups and not counting the days I'm in NC, it's helping tremendously. I stopped stalking his social media and I Uninstalled IG, messenger and my friends FB. Because I'm starting to love and value myself finally and I don't want to hurt myself like I used to do it before... thank you Rory!!
Social media doesnt mean anything to me... i blocked her and disable my fb account for her to really have my total absence...she has my phone and wassap...so if she wants to reach out she can... but i really dont believe in social media crap...it doesnt help in anything im working on myself and distracting from this nightmare...
I unfollowed/unfriended them but did not block them. I don't want to see their posts, don't want any reminders of them as I grow and work on myself. It's not to be mean or get back at them, it's for me!
Asking "what am I hoping I'll find?" Is very helpful. Because you want a photo of them being sad right? I know thats what I wanted. Logically, that is never gonna happen. Social media is a highlight reel. What your looking for isnt there. Will you feel better? You know you wont. Put it down, go outside, read a book. Like any bad habit, I find just asking what my intention is helps to stop me from doing it
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
This helped me so much! My ex blocked me for 2 months, but unblocked me last week and since then I can‘t stop stalking them, and I hate it. I even feel like he wants to hurt me, because since he unblocked me he started to post pictures with other girls. I wish he never unblocked me. I just feel so devastated, he seems like he does not care about me anymore. Really thank you so much!! I am going to watch this video more than one time!
I challenged myself to two weeks of no social media. I’m currently on a week of no social media and it feels great, but not going to lie I miss it. I know two weeks isn’t a lot of time, but I’ve never taken more than 2 days away from social media since the days of MySpace 😂.
What if you unfollowed because it hurts you to see their new relationship and to prevent stalking? I felt that was the best thing to do to mentally and emotionally detach myself and heal
The Love Chat i blocked her and inactivate my fb account... honestly i dont want to know anything having to do with social media..mine or hers... is this ok? I want her to really have my total absence... and me too..i just want to disappear of all this and work entirely on me...she still has my phone and wassap....me too...but 0 contact...as long as it takes for her to reach...
The Love Chat you’re the best Rory, much love from the UK, also good news I have a couple of dates lined up for next week and the week after, all really nice girls, just gonna have fun and apply your wisdom
If she came back and had slept with someone else before she did, what then? Isn’t that my business? I know she’s rebounding right now but I also know that personally for me if she came back after sleeping with someone else that means she loved me while sleeping with them and that’s cheating in my eyes.
I unfollowed my ex and removed them from my following. My reasoning is that I was still checking any story I posted on Insta to see if she had viewed it. This was very harmful because day after day she viewed and viewed and it made me anxious that she was just indifferent to me. It also gave me access to seeing her Insta stories (I muted her posts and stories but could still see them via her listing on my story viewers and I had such a hard time resisting.) So I unfollowed and haven’t checked her stuff since, she hasn’t checked mine but at least I know if she does then she made the effort to come to my page and do so. Who knows.
It's interesting whenever I am needing something to hear, I stumble on what I need .. I so needed to hear this, in the way you described it.. I am here in my journey of healing from a 2 year relationship, where we lived together .. Thank You !
Thank you once again for your videos. I actually blocked him from Instagram because I post everyday on my beauty page. I did not want to leave aside what I like to do most because of him, but at the same time I don't think he deserves seeing anything I do. He changed his phone number so I am calm with the decision of blocking him. I tried to tell him how I was doing through DM but he ignored my messages. If he ever wants to know how I am he knows my number which is still the same.
M N hi sis. I made a new fb account and i changed my phone number. If he really want to reach out, he knows my address. And i also used my complete name in my new fb account. I changed my fb account for me to escape to some people who are so judgemental. And i have lots of friends in my old fb and it sucks and toxic. They always asking me about the break up and they giving me screenshots of my ex's recent status update. :(
I unfollowed on FB, but I didn't unfriend him. And I've been very good at resisting looking at his page. It's so tempting to make sure they're not with someone else and to see if the pics of you are still on their profile. But the temporary relief means nothing. I don't want to see his face. Not yet.
I have wasted a lot of time stalking my ex on social media and to be honest the urge to stalk them is so so so powerful that my mind immediately takes over and i can't stop it
It's so true I've been looking to see when my ex has been on whatsapp she was always in bed early so when I see it's like last seen 10 11 at night my anxiety goes mad but could be anyone and I look on Facebook and her tiktok etc to see who she follows its like my little addiction at the minute can't wait to look until one day I look and see something I don't like and go back to square one on my path to healing
1 week after the breakup and my ex is going on a trip. It broke my heart when I found out. I’m waiting for the time I don’t miss him anymore. Waiting for the time he becomes a stranger to me. Part of me wanted to see him suffer as much as I do.
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
Why do dumpers always have to be the bad guys? I feel like a lot of dumpees don’t want to recognize the part they played in the falling out. Like, any kind of relationship takes maintenance, and some of these dumpees, they’re complacent and make no effort or try. It should always be a 2 way street.
What if she is stalking mines even two weeks after she played me ? We don’t follow each other but she always watching my story and knows I’m dating someone.
I try to not stalk her on Instagram but I still get the anxiety at times as if something's wrong and I end up looking up at her profile. I don't follow her and her profile is private but whenever I get a feeling a new post is added to her profile and I'm like wondering and sad what's the new post about ☹️ It's hard to move on as well. No girl's been so attractive to me emotionally and I end up making them friends and not a potential partner 😩
After 2 weeks of no contact, I literally couldn't stop myself from looking at his fb profile bc I was hurting so bad. I knew I wasn't able to stop looking at his page. So, I sent him a brief private message telling him that for me to move on in a healthy way, I would need to unfriend him on fb bc I couldn't keep seeing him in front of me every day. I told him I didn't want to unfriend him bc I still still care about him...But I need to, to move on. He sent me back a message that was kind and told me I'm wonderful and if I ever need anything that he's there for me. I sent him that message bc I didn't want to just unfriend him and come across as petty. Since then, it has been another 3 weeks of no contact (5 weeks all together since he wanted to be just friends... which I told him I couldn't do). I wish I was stronger and was able to just keep him as my fb friend. But I wasn't able and I had to prioritize my own mental health at that point. Is there still a chance he will contact me if I stay in no contact, even though I'm not friends with him on fb anymore? Or did that ruin everything? Thanks.
I did the same thing. The way I look at it, if they dumped you, their concerns should no longer factor into your decisions. You have to do what is best for you at that point. You went above and beyond by telling them it wasn't out of anger, but out of hurt and you needed time to heal. There's this thing with social media that you are supposed to portray this "who can care less" persona, which is fake, just like social media. You were hurting and it's okay to admit that and do what you need to heal. :)
Thanks for this video - it's my ex's birthday today and I've been waiting for this day since things ended in early March. We've had surface contact since then (a couple of texts and brief Twitter exchanges, 99% initiated by him). We were friends for 11 years, so normally I'd be inclined to reach out and say "happy birthday" via text (he did so for mine in January). But what happened with the break up was so underhanded, thoughtless, and hurtful. So part of me is hoping that he posts on Twitter that it's his birthday so that I can just "like" it and move on, lol. Either way, because we've been somewhat friendly, I feel that this is the last day I actually owe him anything, and things will really change on my end. As much as it still hurts, I'm really looking forward to a new chapter.
No believe me she will think that she’s something I’m a girl and I know how girls think As for me my ex he act like he’s so happy and that’s also a weak minded person
Man I’ve been watching her IG stories with my low key account. We broke up at the end of 2019 and I still find myself watching her shit. Funny thing is, I see her face now and I don’t feel attracted to her anymore but I can’t figure out why I keep watching it.
I'm glad to have found this I don't stalk his Instagram since that's the only social media I have him on there and his number and her been liking every post but then I think about and I try to think otherwise but I don't post so much as I have before after the breakup I've been focusing on myself and post once a week but nothing crazy just showing how I'm glowing but again I try not to think about it because he also has a girlfriend
Just focus on creating the best version of yourself that you can! Be the awesome person they fell for in the first place, any other details don't concern you!
The way I look at it is like this. When you're assessing what your ex is posting, are they posting on social media in ways that are not normal? I.E, are they posting a lot more than they usually do?... Also, are they posting on social media that they know you can see, or both, social media you can see, and social media that you can't. Because if they're only posting on social media that you can see, and they don't seem to be very active on social media they don't have you on, there's probably a good chance they're posting literally for you. Whether it be to make you jealous, make you wonder, make you wanna reach out in some neurotic state. etc. I have a girl I was dating on snapchat (only snapchat) and since we've been in no contact for 3 weeks, she's posted more snapchat stories in these 3 weeks than she has the entire Ive known her, yet, doesn't seem to be posting any new pictures on any other social media, and we don't follow each other on anything else. Coincidence? Fuck no lmao
My ex was doing exactly the same with WhatsApp stories. And if I posted something, then she posted another thing. Quite ridiculous. And that was during no contact, about a month
I know what you mean.. mine has never really posted on Facebook she at cinema with her boys watching the new sonic out on the big screen since we connected. Before our 4 day catch up end of January she took the boys again to the cinema and didn't post that on Facebook. We had a kinda discussion that ended up her saying heat of the moment words, when I returned home from there she distant herself abit from me, well dunno if it's because we both need time and space. Or she feels guilty for her lash out or when I said not to visit again anytime soon.. I need to heal! So I'm thinking it was an attempt to reach out via a post. I can just sense her eyes are of sadness, certainly wasn't a happy photo like other's before the break up.
7:00 Well she actually liked another guy for a long time and I was kinda the guy she was with so she can forget about it. All of that in 6 months of relationship + an extra 7 months of friendship (before that, obviously) Sooo yea, how I take it, is that "If you don't like the way I changed, then fuck off" It hurts but I must do it, and for me it's definitely way more important to be myself. More than anything else.
I only unfollowed her on all social media after she dumped me.. than a day later she unfollowed me (it’s ok for me) but what I didn’t understand is that another day later she blocked me?? The brake up was no drama, she dumped me over what’s app voicemail and her behavior was like she is the victim.. no begging writing calling or what ever I just don’t understand her.. sometimes I don’t get it how a mature person with 32 years is behaving like this..
I have a question. You said “blocking your ex on social media is showing that you don’t want any more contact with them” however in other videos you said it means that being blocked means they just don’t want to be pestered/seeing your stuff/ etc. So which one is it? He blocked me, I didn’t do anything to him. I’m finally getting over it, I just distract myself with everything else in my life. It’s just tough because he lives in my street. And shops at the same grocery store I do. So I started shopping elsewhere, but I occasionally see him jogging outside or driving by. I’m the one being avoidant now because I don’t want anything to do with them anymore. But I haven’t blocked them. In fact, I want them to see how better off I am. I started my second business, I’m graduating college, I am moving soon! He walked away so easily and I do agree with your videos that some people do regret it or go through some stuff. But he is a prideful person and he would rather rip his balls off than admitting he was wrong. Anyway, I love your videos and your voice is soothing hahha
I didn’t see this video before I did this. I blocked her on IG and Facebook to not obsess over her social media and then realized I shouldn’t. Then unblocked. Then the same day, she ended up blocking me. Did I screw myself?
I was so hurt and upset at the start of the break up I unfriended my ex on Facebook, after pleading my ex said getting back together will put a lot of pressure on us both, now 1 month of no contact I am slowly healing and I want to friend him again, should I or not? We were in a long distance relationship, only 50 miles apart, but we parted ways on good terms, would I look stupid to request a friend? Already embarrassed myself enough. Any advice? X
I ask her to block me from everywhere because if I keep her in my Social media I know I would talk with her ,she did blocked me and now waiting for her to text me. Is there any hope she will reach out again
To be honest. You need to stop having high hopes on someone who no longer with you. You'll need to move forward, because in the end of day. The only person who will be there for you is yourself. Time could be tedious in the beginning , but I do believe you can move past this. You can do it. Don't think of what if's, work on yourself
We need a video from you that's about being accused of cheating when you weren't cheating and caught in a situation that looked like you were but really weren't! That leading to them blocking you on everything and breaking up with you.
it is either of he became insecure or he sabotaged the relationship to end it , if he tried to return in a month or so he was insecure if he didnot . he probably wanted to end it and try to make a reason to break up with you
What if I blocked her first? I didnt want to see anything she posted and I only blocked her just on facebook...but then the next day I came to find out she blocked me on facebook and also instagram and snapchat..saying she doesnt want to see what Im doing and I dont need to see what shes doing. YET she said shes doing nothing with my number... what the fuck kind of game is that? Does that mean she’ll reach out? Or does it mean nothing?
What if i blocked them? Can i unblock them now?! She still stalking me from fake account, even when she’s in a relationship Thank you rory, and hope you answer my question.
My ex recently deleted me off social media after almost 5 months of the break up. I really don’t understand the theory behind this. I did not delete or block as I wanted to keep the lines of communication open should they want to speak again. Is this a sign that they are definitely over the relationship, if they have deleted me months after it has ended?
It could be that or it could also be a way of getting your attention to see if you'll respond. I've had woman do this. Only way to know is to just ask. If you still care, just ask. Life is to short to wonder.
Too late. I already blocked his number and he knows it but it’s not really blocked lol. I never heard back from him 🤦🏻♀️ Don't be like me. I'm happy now, though. I've moved on. But sometimes, I miss him and wants him back. Idk anymore 🙆♀️🏻
Rory. I deleted my ex after the breakup on all social media for me JUST for me, so i could be able to move on with my life. But right after i deleted i got a message telling me how cold and stupid i was and then i got blocked. This action really affected my healing process because i didn't get the "end" i wanted. Any suggestions on what i should do? should i just ignore it or contact again somehow?
False. I'm blocking... Deleting....Unfriending .... Unfollowing.... no contacting... new phone numbering...🙋🏻 Can I get it in a combo deal and go large with it? cause I want everything boo.💁🏻
I unfriended her after a month. The. She breadcrumbs and I ended up blocked her on Facebook because I couldn’t stop looking at her page. I left her open on snap she looks at every story even tho I don’t look at hers(easier to avoid snap because they’ll know if you look. But ever since I blocked a month ago she has not reached out and she ignored me a few weeks ago when I saw her in public. So I wouldn’t recommend blocking either just delete the app. I probably f ed up and I guess I just gotta deal with it.
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
My ex said let's be friends. I was for 1 month. But then she started talking ti new people and kept reminding me that we are not getting back together. And all the time she kept saying that 'it's not you its me' But I was hurting myself in that period, so I started no contact. I told her I can't be your friend. She blocked me from everywhere. Now she is posting bad things about me on her instagram stories. I didn't react, but I don't understand what am I supposed to do. Should I keep doing no contact or msg them and ask them what all of this is about ?
He stalks mine..but this No contact really fecKing hard. I'm 3wks in NC but I occasionally look on his whatsapp & see his online but reread our old txts but I read the vile ones & then i realise why I went into NC.
I have a Facebook and Snapchat. I have family and friends on both and no contact by not posting anything will be a bit unfair to my friends and family. Luckily, both places have the option to choose who you want to see your stuff. ;) So, I chose him, his family and mutual friends to not being able to see any of my new posts. I also unfollowed them so they don't pop up on my news feed. As curious as I am, I don't want to see what he and his friends have been up to. I admit I used to peek but it does make the healing process slower plus, you'll just be reopening wounds. As Rory here says, you're never gonna see what you want to see on their social media so let them go, let them miss you, let them feel the mistake they made. I agree on not blocking your ex because that will raise a lot of negativity and drama that you don't want that might come to bite you later on.
PEOPLE LISTEN UP! Social media allows you to MUTE THEM NOW! Mute!! It saves my ass from seeing my ex’s posts. It’s like blocking, without the blocking 😌
I stopped looking at her social media after finding out she was with someone else (alight monkey branch) however I gave in earlier and looked at hers after a week or two without. Such a bad decision just made me feel worse. I’m not sure if I should unblock her though ?
Not sure if true but no contact 7 months and is it true if they still follow you on pintrest and Instagram but unfriend you Facebook that keeping those doors open means she still wants access and me in her life in a certain way? She would not hesitate to block anyone ever or any ex some I’m just curious.
The Love Chat yea I haven’t tried she is used to that but she tried for so long to get me and she did then long distance killed it last second when I was on my way with her emotions I did save it to a t but I messed up but she was ok and with it but I had to let her be 7 months now and did all the work that she didn’t do but I moved past and forward and I’m 20 minutes from her but I did not chase bother her nor anything else and I accepted everything and she knows that I think and she’s used to everyone begging pleading but I will not do that or show her that just be myself and the person I was when she found me that made her fall in love in the first place lol
Love chat should I stop posting positive snaps on my Snapchat story? My ex is currently in the relief stage but she ALWAYS checks my story. It's a tough question I've been having trouble with. P.S. it's only been around a week since the break up.... And holy shit, I've recovered so quickly it's almost as if I'm superhuman😦😦😦
I can't look at my ex's social media. It would tear me apart. However, I never blocked her. I know she still looks at my Instagram but I don't look at hers.
I had to block him and even his friends because he kept appearing it's like they are purposely hurting me. It's not like knows I blocked him, he probably doesn't give a shit. I'm hurting while he's really happy. I just can't. He initiated the break up.
What if he blocked me, and we had a great relationship, not a bad break up at all, he decided to block me one day, but didn't block me on txt and calls. He left a coworker of mine on fb but deleted all my other friends, he knows I can see his fb through her fb. I'm so hurt I don't get it! I've been blocked over a week now and been in no contact! Well started no contact again after I txt him about blocking me how hurt I was! Ugh he's been doing confusing things since the break up, he's confused so I am too
He probably wants to prevent you from stalking his social media, so you don't hurt yourself this way. And also he might still have feelings for you. By blocking you he makes sure, there is no contact between you two, so the break up is easier for both sides.
N Mollo i don’t know but how can someone just erased you in his life and move on with someone new instantly? Well, i am the one stalking now. Abrupt break up left me with a lot of questions and blocking me means no answer. It’s hard to move on and just accept.
What’s the protocol with photos on social media? In NC. I still have mine up, my ex still has hers when I checked. If I take them down will it look a bit like a manipulation, a dig? Alternatively I don’t want them up for such a long time my ex think I’m not moving on
I unfriended her On Fb right when she broke up with me. I told her I am sorry I cannot be your friend I have plenty of friends. You are my lover not my friend. I did not block her so she still could message me on messenger if she wanted to. I’ve learned from my past to do no contact. If you sit message them too much they will just block you. That’s why NC is important and she still has the option to reach out. Also it helps me because then I won’t stock her page either because I’m not her friend on FB
why, after 9 months post break up and totally out of the blue did she block my Instagram? Mind you, she already unfollowed it right after the breakup and we're still friends on Facebook... makes no sense.
What if you've become more active on social media? For me, it wasn't to get back at her and show off, but because I started to make new friends after the breakup and we tag/comment on things all the time. Even on platforms like Instagram I have started posting more because I have more things to post about. I barely posted in the relationship. Could she take these things the wrong way?
i agree with rory for the most part, but sorry no i dont think it was caused at all by me not being authetic. i was always the same. all of a sudden he just acts cold, says he has "lost himself" and he wants a breakup...even though i was an amazing supporting partner for 4 years. and long distance for a long time so wasnt even smothering him...hes just selfish.
I deleted my fb and messanger. Eventhough she still has my phone number.. currently doing my own thing work and school.. What does it mean when she txt mad or frustrated. Thank you for your video it has helped me
You're welcome for the video. It sounds like you are in contact with your ex, I need more information before I can give you good advice. Email me at TheLoveChat@Gmail.com!
I don’t follow him on Instagram but he doesn’t set it private. I know I am not discipline enough, I check it often. And one and two months after break-up, he posted pictures that show so much of his happiness, I was shocked, still remember towards the end of break-up, he was so unhappy due to some personal life situation which affected our relationship. And in one month’s time he looked so happy..!? I was angry, I was in disbelief.. And many new followers that are of opposite gender.. He has started seeing new people.. Again, it striked me. What did our relationship mean to him...? :( I guess I need to be more discipline and stop checking :(
If i cannot stop from stalking him, should i just block him? We are not fb friends but i became obess in stalking his social media and i even saw he posted a picture of him with his new girlfriend and it breaks my heart seeing them happy while i am here feeling left out and miserable. I even check his online and last seen status everytime. 😔
I recently contacted my ex who I haven't seen in a bit over 8yrs. She told me that she has a family now and that she is very happy, then she asked me if I still looked the same and that my profile picture looked old. I sent her a picture of me and she said: " that's the same one I saw." I ask myself if she is so dam happy why is she checking my profile? How would she know how old my profile picture is unless she constantly looks at my profile? Do you think she still has feelings for me? I believe if you are really happy you wouldn't be checking out your ex profile out.
The Love Chat I understand, but if she is so happy why is she checking my social media profile? I believe that if somebody is really happy they wouldn't be checking their ex's profile.
Duuuuuude... Lol 8 fucking years? That's too much man, you should be LONG moved on at this point. Anyone reaching out to me after 1-2 years is getting a "who tf is this" message. Nevermind 8 years.
rambo god I would have moved on a long time ago if we weren't going to have a kid. You see if it were going to be your first child you never forget bout the person no matter how long it has been. That is true love, if it wasn't for the child I would have forgotten about her a long time ago
My ex has viewed all of my ig stories since the day of the breakup (2 months ago) even though we unfollowed each other... so confusing :/ but I’m gonna stay strong and stay off of his social media
Anything that you would recommend in this pandemic setting, because all my work revolves around social media right now and its difficult to go out and do something else :(
I got a question for you maybe you can make a video Did i lose her/him forever? I mean to the point that it's impossible for us to be in a relationship again
We were not Facebook friends. But on messenger. I couldn't take it anymore. I blocked him. So he won't think im spying on him. That irritates him.he left because of third party. He lied about it and i caught it. I love him and miss him but hey gotta work on me. And if i was being cheated on who wants sloppy seconds. Good bye
I didn't unfollow/blocked him. He then unfollowed me then blocked and unblocked me on Instagram. So now we both not following each other. He then made his account public so I can't help but check it out so should I block him to prevent myself checking his page out?
I'm in a group chat with all my friends and my ex is in it, shall I not speak in there or is it acceptable to speak in there as long as its not directly to them?
So I'm a millennial but I have no social media shockingly. Does this make your ex more curious and more likely to message you considering they don't see anything and know anything about you?
Do you think i follow my ex on linkedin but before when we fight she told me i will give your details to embassy so that you will not enter in my country? Is this possible that somebody can give information to embassy authorities so that you will not be able to enter in her country?
It's so hard not to check their social media and it truly becomes a habit. You do it once, see no one liked her newest photos you feel good, but then you start coming back to see who else liked, and everyone seems suspicious, you start thinking they are seeing someone else. When you stalk them you feel relieve for a couple minutes, but then anxiety comes back and you want to do it again and again, if you dont check you still feel anxious, hope this feeling goes away soon.
hi how are you today? your comment is exactly i am feeling this days, she blocked me for 2 months and i just discover she unblocks me but ddn't reach out to me, i kept seeing her on messenger being online, and i cant help stalking her all the time and became my hobby it feels like all the pain are coming back. 😭
@@JesusLovesYou14344 do yourself a favor and block her on everything
It will go away, just try and keep busy or delete the apps
Did it get better?
@@ssjrosethanos1996 yes it did. It's been almost 2 years, my advise is to block them, if possible get away from social media at all. Focus on other things, watch movies, play games, call friends, thats it.
Not only did I stop posting on social media, i deactivated all of them entirely and it greatly changed my life for the better 🙂 Its so empowering to no longer seek digital validation and makes it a lot easier to get into other activities I never made time for before. I would highly recommend for everyone to consider leaving social media altogether; the water is nice here 😊
You're exactly right. Regardless, of an EX, social media is unhealthy. I deactivated my fb and could care less. I'm walking again, reading books etc. Thanks.
I did the same thing
Did the same as well. If my ex wants to get ahold of me, she knows where to find me. Until then, I’m living in the now 🤙🏻
I am so happy to see that I am not the only one who did this, and yes it has greatly reduced my anxiety. On another note, I reactivated my fb and went to her page and looked at pics....needless to say, not mu best idea as I started to well up with tears and felt like I was missing out....nope! Going back to deactivating fb, and living life for me!!!!
Yes I totally agree! But I still stalk though. 😅 I wish I can stop.
You make me feel so normal. No contact is the hardest thing to do. Stalking on fb is something that i subconsciously do and it makes me so sad.
Chau Ham You are normal! But it's not subconscious! You are aware that you're doing it!
The Love Chat ..damn Rory you got me again. Its nice to have someone hold me accountable.
Everyone fuckin does it. Regardless of who broke up with who. Some people might do it more often than others. But i'm sure your ex is/has looked up your social media accounts at some point.
Chau, at least you were able to see your ex’s fb. I’ve gone through multiple breakups with my ex and we were always having problems with Facebook. It would get to the point where if we’d have an argument or breakup, we’d automatically block the other person. Our last reconnection in the summer that ended again a month ago, she had me blocked on Facebook as opposed to the last time we were together when we shared Facebook. So not only has the relationship been on again off again, so was Facebook. Social media is nothing more than a problem for couples! We broke up a month ago and no more than 4 days later she posted in a relationship on fb. I was told by a friend! I don’t know what the status is today or care to know.
Ugh it's so painful why do I do it? I go a few days and then boom I'm back stalking him. He's a narc POS. I want to see him as miserable as I am but he's not. He has no feelings.
Dont waste time on social media, live your life! Have fun! Meet new people!! Real life is much more exciting than cyber life!!!
100%
Then why are you watching this video and commenting on it too?
That is exactly what I do, I see all the time if he is online or not. If he is online, my head say he is talking to an other woman, if he is of line, I concluded that he closed his phone cause he is with an other. These thought drive me crazy! So, I decide to not going to Facebook to get out from their ! Sorry for my English lol
Everyone does that. Most of the time, you're wrong. Lol, usually when you come with ideas in fearful state, you're wrong. He's probably sitting home doing the same thing you are.
Same here. We are online at the same time but instead of chatting to each other we're chatting to other people which makes me so sad. Why can't we just talk normally again 😔
Holy shit I’ve done the same, I thought I was crazy🤦🏻♀️
Yes. You're telling it right! It's not being bitter but for self healing!
I needed to watch this again. It's good to know I'm not alone.
Don't do this. For god's sake, DO NOT do this. It will set you back. It will make you feel awful and worse. I am kicking myself. She's having a great time travelling while I'm stuck at home, going to work every day.
Listen to Rory.
Facts bro❗️every time I look at my ex’s stories I get set back I start thinking about her and boom depression, it’s best just not to look. But it can be hard also
@@xonlytyrek3601 Definitely. DO NOT DO IT. Be kind to yourself.
General Waste it’s extremely hard I got into a bad habit of automatically checking her snap profile as soon as I get on sc but I’m trying bro fuckkk its so unhealthy for me🤦🏾♂️
@@xonlytyrek3601 It won't help you. I know you're desperate for contact (believe me I am with my ex) and even just seeing her will help, but that person isn't posting whatever it is in your company or your presence and it hurts. Don't do it to yourself.
General Waste yeah man that’s exactly what I think too its crazy though it’s like I check in hopes of it benefiting me or her stories somehow being about me but in reality that will never be the case unless we together, it’s either her posting her friends or her having a good time while I’m not there and I hate that shit lol which makes it even worse . Your right just not worth checking.
I don't care she can stalk all she want it's her that made that decision 😂😂 😂 you see that I grew up to be a real man god bless you to
It sucks. We want to be someone who clearly doesn’t want to be with us. We make stories in our minds saying maybe if this happens or if that happens or if anything happens we will still have a chance again. But all of this is so destructive. Accepting it is hard like really hard but you gotta do it for you. You don’t deserve being with someone who rejected you even once. Let them go
My ex dumped me. Blocked me on IG stories. I guess he muted my account. But then I saw his friends who doesn’t follow me seeing my stories 🙄. I don’t understand. You don’t wanted me in your life and you’re probably sending your friends to check on me? I was sad at the beginning now I’m starting to think that I had so many possibilities out there that I didn’t see before. I have to admit this breakup affected my confidence and self-esteem but watching these videos I’ve doing better. Thank you so much 🙏
Same here 😔
Update?
Yes Rory! I'm counting all the days I'm working out, the days my mental health is getting heal... I'm counting the days I'm increasing my push ups and not counting the days I'm in NC, it's helping tremendously. I stopped stalking his social media and I Uninstalled IG, messenger and my friends FB. Because I'm starting to love and value myself finally and I don't want to hurt myself like I used to do it before... thank you Rory!!
Social media doesnt mean anything to me... i blocked her and disable my fb account for her to really have my total absence...she has my phone and wassap...so if she wants to reach out she can... but i really dont believe in social media crap...it doesnt help in anything im working on myself and distracting from this nightmare...
I unfollowed/unfriended them but did not block them. I don't want to see their posts, don't want any reminders of them as I grow and work on myself. It's not to be mean or get back at them, it's for me!
Asking "what am I hoping I'll find?" Is very helpful. Because you want a photo of them being sad right? I know thats what I wanted. Logically, that is never gonna happen. Social media is a highlight reel. What your looking for isnt there. Will you feel better? You know you wont. Put it down, go outside, read a book. Like any bad habit, I find just asking what my intention is helps to stop me from doing it
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin
And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you
N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk
I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her
Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
Watching this rn bcs I can't stop stalking my ex. :/
You'll never find what you're looking for - you'll only find reasons to be hurt!
Uninstall your social media (don't deactívate) just uninstall it for 21 days
This helped me so much! My ex blocked me for 2 months, but unblocked me last week and since then I can‘t stop stalking them, and I hate it. I even feel like he wants to hurt me, because since he unblocked me he started to post pictures with other girls. I wish he never unblocked me. I just feel so devastated, he seems like he does not care about me anymore.
Really thank you so much!! I am going to watch this video more than one time!
Nicole Asuna same is my situation at present
Time to.move on
Block him
Block him so I dont have to c it
Same thing happened with my ex. Same exact thing 💯🤦🏽
I challenged myself to two weeks of no social media. I’m currently on a week of no social media and it feels great, but not going to lie I miss it. I know two weeks isn’t a lot of time, but I’ve never taken more than 2 days away from social media since the days of MySpace 😂.
I learned the hard way that if you unblock someone, then you have to wait forty-eight hours to block them again...
What if you unfollowed because it hurts you to see their new relationship and to prevent stalking? I felt that was the best thing to do to mentally and emotionally detach myself and heal
Unfollowing is fine! Be wary of blocking them.
Richard Doherty it is bro, you gotta do what’s best for you
The Love Chat i blocked her and inactivate my fb account... honestly i dont want to know anything having to do with social media..mine or hers... is this ok? I want her to really have my total absence... and me too..i just want to disappear of all this and work entirely on me...she still has my phone and wassap....me too...but 0 contact...as long as it takes for her to reach...
So glad i found you 🙂
I only listen to you and the dating guy !
Thanks so much for all your videos x
Nearly 2 months in, god bless you Rory think I’d have a meltdown without you
You are stronger than you know, Matt!
The Love Chat you’re the best Rory, much love from the UK, also good news I have a couple of dates lined up for next week and the week after, all really nice girls, just gonna have fun and apply your wisdom
This video is really helpful after listening to it. It made me prevent myself from stalking him.
If she came back and had slept with someone else before she did, what then? Isn’t that my business? I know she’s rebounding right now but I also know that personally for me if she came back after sleeping with someone else that means she loved me while sleeping with them and that’s cheating in my eyes.
I unfollowed my ex and removed them from my following.
My reasoning is that I was still checking any story I posted on Insta to see if she had viewed it. This was very harmful because day after day she viewed and viewed and it made me anxious that she was just indifferent to me. It also gave me access to seeing her Insta stories (I muted her posts and stories but could still see them via her listing on my story viewers and I had such a hard time resisting.)
So I unfollowed and haven’t checked her stuff since, she hasn’t checked mine but at least I know if she does then she made the effort to come to my page and do so. Who knows.
It's interesting whenever I am needing something to hear, I stumble on what I need .. I so needed to hear this, in the way you described it.. I am here in my journey of healing from a 2 year relationship, where we lived together .. Thank You !
Thank you once again for your videos. I actually blocked him from Instagram because I post everyday on my beauty page. I did not want to leave aside what I like to do most because of him, but at the same time I don't think he deserves seeing anything I do. He changed his phone number so I am calm with the decision of blocking him. I tried to tell him how I was doing through DM but he ignored my messages. If he ever wants to know how I am he knows my number which is still the same.
M N hi sis. I made a new fb account and i changed my phone number. If he really want to reach out, he knows my address. And i also used my complete name in my new fb account. I changed my fb account for me to escape to some people who are so judgemental. And i have lots of friends in my old fb and it sucks and toxic. They always asking me about the break up and they giving me screenshots of my ex's recent status update. :(
I unfollowed on FB, but I didn't unfriend him. And I've been very good at resisting looking at his page. It's so tempting to make sure they're not with someone else and to see if the pics of you are still on their profile. But the temporary relief means nothing. I don't want to see his face. Not yet.
I have wasted a lot of time stalking my ex on social media and to be honest the urge to stalk them is so so so powerful that my mind immediately takes over and i can't stop it
It's so true I've been looking to see when my ex has been on whatsapp she was always in bed early so when I see it's like last seen 10 11 at night my anxiety goes mad but could be anyone and I look on Facebook and her tiktok etc to see who she follows its like my little addiction at the minute can't wait to look until one day I look and see something I don't like and go back to square one on my path to healing
1 week after the breakup and my ex is going on a trip. It broke my heart when I found out. I’m waiting for the time I don’t miss him anymore. Waiting for the time he becomes a stranger to me. Part of me wanted to see him suffer as much as I do.
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin
And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you
N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk
I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her
Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
Why do dumpers always have to be the bad guys? I feel like a lot of dumpees don’t want to recognize the part they played in the falling out. Like, any kind of relationship takes maintenance, and some of these dumpees, they’re complacent and make no effort or try. It should always be a 2 way street.
What if she is stalking mines even two weeks after she played me ? We don’t follow each other but she always watching my story and knows I’m dating someone.
I try to not stalk her on Instagram but I still get the anxiety at times as if something's wrong and I end up looking up at her profile. I don't follow her and her profile is private but whenever I get a feeling a new post is added to her profile and I'm like wondering and sad what's the new post about ☹️
It's hard to move on as well. No girl's been so attractive to me emotionally and I end up making them friends and not a potential partner 😩
After 2 weeks of no contact, I literally couldn't stop myself from looking at his fb profile bc I was hurting so bad. I knew I wasn't able to stop looking at his page. So, I sent him a brief private message telling him that for me to move on in a healthy way, I would need to unfriend him on fb bc I couldn't keep seeing him in front of me every day. I told him I didn't want to unfriend him bc I still still care about him...But I need to, to move on. He sent me back a message that was kind and told me I'm wonderful and if I ever need anything that he's there for me. I sent him that message bc I didn't want to just unfriend him and come across as petty. Since then, it has been another 3 weeks of no contact (5 weeks all together since he wanted to be just friends... which I told him I couldn't do). I wish I was stronger and was able to just keep him as my fb friend. But I wasn't able and I had to prioritize my own mental health at that point. Is there still a chance he will contact me if I stay in no contact, even though I'm not friends with him on fb anymore? Or did that ruin everything? Thanks.
I did the same thing. The way I look at it, if they dumped you, their concerns should no longer factor into your decisions. You have to do what is best for you at that point. You went above and beyond by telling them it wasn't out of anger, but out of hurt and you needed time to heal. There's this thing with social media that you are supposed to portray this "who can care less" persona, which is fake, just like social media. You were hurting and it's okay to admit that and do what you need to heal. :)
Is there any update!?
You did it wrong man.
Thanks for this video - it's my ex's birthday today and I've been waiting for this day since things ended in early March. We've had surface contact since then (a couple of texts and brief Twitter exchanges, 99% initiated by him). We were friends for 11 years, so normally I'd be inclined to reach out and say "happy birthday" via text (he did so for mine in January). But what happened with the break up was so underhanded, thoughtless, and hurtful. So part of me is hoping that he posts on Twitter that it's his birthday so that I can just "like" it and move on, lol. Either way, because we've been somewhat friendly, I feel that this is the last day I actually owe him anything, and things will really change on my end. As much as it still hurts, I'm really looking forward to a new chapter.
After I got dumped by my ex-girlfiend, I blocked her number and her Facebook page. Including, her family members.
Brandon Oats but why! By this action you telling her that you care!!
@@maryammary8404 Bullshit! Cause if I did, I'll still be contacting them instead of blocking them.
No believe me she will think that she’s something I’m a girl and I know how girls think
As for me my ex he act like he’s so happy and that’s also a weak minded person
I don’t have time to stalk nobody’s social media. I went straight and block him same day he dumped me
How long had you dated?
Man I’ve been watching her IG stories with my low key account. We broke up at the end of 2019 and I still find myself watching her shit. Funny thing is, I see her face now and I don’t feel attracted to her anymore but I can’t figure out why I keep watching it.
my ex is stalking me on discord and ive told her countless times to stop. im gonna send this to her so she hopefully stops
yo same!
I'm glad to have found this I don't stalk his Instagram since that's the only social media I have him on there and his number and her been liking every post but then I think about and I try to think otherwise but I don't post so much as I have before after the breakup I've been focusing on myself and post once a week but nothing crazy just showing how I'm glowing but again I try not to think about it because he also has a girlfriend
Just focus on creating the best version of yourself that you can! Be the awesome person they fell for in the first place, any other details don't concern you!
Your turning into my therapist🙏
Don't forget the importance of seeking a qualified mental health professional!
The way I look at it is like this. When you're assessing what your ex is posting, are they posting on social media in ways that are not normal? I.E, are they posting a lot more than they usually do?... Also, are they posting on social media that they know you can see, or both, social media you can see, and social media that you can't. Because if they're only posting on social media that you can see, and they don't seem to be very active on social media they don't have you on, there's probably a good chance they're posting literally for you. Whether it be to make you jealous, make you wonder, make you wanna reach out in some neurotic state. etc. I have a girl I was dating on snapchat (only snapchat) and since we've been in no contact for 3 weeks, she's posted more snapchat stories in these 3 weeks than she has the entire Ive known her, yet, doesn't seem to be posting any new pictures on any other social media, and we don't follow each other on anything else. Coincidence? Fuck no lmao
My ex was doing exactly the same with WhatsApp stories. And if I posted something, then she posted another thing. Quite ridiculous. And that was during no contact, about a month
I know what you mean.. mine has never really posted on Facebook she at cinema with her boys watching the new sonic out on the big screen since we connected. Before our 4 day catch up end of January she took the boys again to the cinema and didn't post that on Facebook. We had a kinda discussion that ended up her saying heat of the moment words, when I returned home from there she distant herself abit from me, well dunno if it's because we both need time and space. Or she feels guilty for her lash out or when I said not to visit again anytime soon.. I need to heal! So I'm thinking it was an attempt to reach out via a post. I can just sense her eyes are of sadness, certainly wasn't a happy photo like other's before the break up.
7:00 Well she actually liked another guy for a long time and I was kinda the guy she was with so she can forget about it. All of that in 6 months of relationship + an extra 7 months of friendship (before that, obviously) Sooo yea, how I take it, is that "If you don't like the way I changed, then fuck off" It hurts but I must do it, and for me it's definitely way more important to be myself. More than anything else.
I only unfollowed her on all social media after she dumped me.. than a day later she unfollowed me (it’s ok for me) but what I didn’t understand is that another day later she blocked me?? The brake up was no drama, she dumped me over what’s app voicemail and her behavior was like she is the victim.. no begging writing calling or what ever I just don’t understand her.. sometimes I don’t get it how a mature person with 32 years is behaving like this..
4:12 well, what if they do post that they’re sad though?
Sometimes for attention
What if the ex is stalking you while she’s in a relationship ?
I have a question. You said “blocking your ex on social media is showing that you don’t want any more contact with them” however in other videos you said it means that being blocked means they just don’t want to be pestered/seeing your stuff/ etc. So which one is it? He blocked me, I didn’t do anything to him. I’m finally getting over it, I just distract myself with everything else in my life. It’s just tough because he lives in my street. And shops at the same grocery store I do. So I started shopping elsewhere, but I occasionally see him jogging outside or driving by. I’m the one being avoidant now because I don’t want anything to do with them anymore. But I haven’t blocked them. In fact, I want them to see how better off I am. I started my second business, I’m graduating college, I am moving soon! He walked away so easily and I do agree with your videos that some people do regret it or go through some stuff. But he is a prideful person and he would rather rip his balls off than admitting he was wrong. Anyway, I love your videos and your voice is soothing hahha
Can you do a video on if they broke up with you and unfriended you immediately?
Might be cuz it makes it easier for them to move on
What if I will just deactivate my account?
I didn’t see this video before I did this. I blocked her on IG and Facebook to not obsess over her social media and then realized I shouldn’t. Then unblocked. Then the same day, she ended up blocking me. Did I screw myself?
I was so hurt and upset at the start of the break up I unfriended my ex on Facebook, after pleading my ex said getting back together will put a lot of pressure on us both, now 1 month of no contact I am slowly healing and I want to friend him again, should I or not? We were in a long distance relationship, only 50 miles apart, but we parted ways on good terms, would I look stupid to request a friend? Already embarrassed myself enough. Any advice? X
Update
I ask her to block me from everywhere because if I keep her in my Social media I know I would talk with her ,she did blocked me and now waiting for her to text me. Is there any hope she will reach out again
To be honest. You need to stop having high hopes on someone who no longer with you. You'll need to move forward, because in the end of day. The only person who will be there for you is yourself. Time could be tedious in the beginning , but I do believe you can move past this. You can do it. Don't think of what if's, work on yourself
yep...unfollowed on facebook.... does feel like relief...didnt unfriend or block... didnt want to send that message..... Went NC for like 12 weeks now
We need a video from you that's about being accused of cheating when you weren't cheating and caught in a situation that looked like you were but really weren't! That leading to them blocking you on everything and breaking up with you.
it is either of he became insecure or he sabotaged the relationship to end it , if he tried to return in a month or so he was insecure if he didnot . he probably wanted to end it and try to make a reason to break up with you
What if I blocked her first? I didnt want to see anything she posted and I only blocked her just on facebook...but then the next day I came to find out she blocked me on facebook and also instagram and snapchat..saying she doesnt want to see what Im doing and I dont need to see what shes doing. YET she said shes doing nothing with my number... what the fuck kind of game is that? Does that mean she’ll reach out? Or does it mean nothing?
What if i blocked them? Can i unblock them now?!
She still stalking me from fake account, even when she’s in a relationship
Thank you rory, and hope you answer my question.
My ex recently deleted me off social media after almost 5 months of the break up. I really don’t understand the theory behind this. I did not delete or block as I wanted to keep the lines of communication open should they want to speak again. Is this a sign that they are definitely over the relationship, if they have deleted me months after it has ended?
It could be that or it could also be a way of getting your attention to see if you'll respond. I've had woman do this. Only way to know is to just ask. If you still care, just ask. Life is to short to wonder.
Too late. I already blocked his number and he knows it but it’s not really blocked lol. I never heard back from him 🤦🏻♀️
Don't be like me. I'm happy now, though. I've moved on.
But sometimes, I miss him and wants him back.
Idk anymore 🙆♀️🏻
Rory.
I deleted my ex after the breakup on all social media for me JUST for me, so i could be able to move on with my life. But right after i deleted i got a message telling me how cold and stupid i was and then i got blocked. This action really affected my healing process because i didn't get the "end" i wanted. Any suggestions on what i should do? should i just ignore it or contact again somehow?
False. I'm blocking... Deleting....Unfriending .... Unfollowing.... no contacting... new phone numbering...🙋🏻 Can I get it in a combo deal and go large with it? cause I want everything boo.💁🏻
I unfriended her after a month. The. She breadcrumbs and I ended up blocked her on Facebook because I couldn’t stop looking at her page. I left her open on snap she looks at every story even tho I don’t look at hers(easier to avoid snap because they’ll know if you look. But ever since I blocked a month ago she has not reached out and she ignored me a few weeks ago when I saw her in public. So I wouldn’t recommend blocking either just delete the app. I probably f ed up and I guess I just gotta deal with it.
It gets worse when you find out they left you to go be with their cousin
And all this time they was in love with their cousin while they dealt with you
N then dumps you abruptly, after blocking u from everywhere just to go be with her in uk
I stalk him hoping to find out some clue that he unhappy with her
Cuz i still can not believe how he can just do me soo dirty n move his ass on to uk so happily without ever feeling guilty once on what he did to me
My ex said let's be friends. I was for 1 month. But then she started talking ti new people and kept reminding me that we are not getting back together. And all the time she kept saying that 'it's not you its me'
But I was hurting myself in that period, so I started no contact. I told her I can't be your friend. She blocked me from everywhere. Now she is posting bad things about me on her instagram stories.
I didn't react, but I don't understand what am I supposed to do.
Should I keep doing no contact or msg them and ask them what all of this is about ?
He stalks mine..but this No contact really fecKing hard. I'm 3wks in NC but I occasionally look on his whatsapp & see his online but reread our old txts but I read the vile ones & then i realise why I went into NC.
Yup I avoid it at all cost but its annoying when close mutual friends/families of his contact me 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ like stop
I have a Facebook and Snapchat. I have family and friends on both and no contact by not posting anything will be a bit unfair to my friends and family. Luckily, both places have the option to choose who you want to see your stuff. ;) So, I chose him, his family and mutual friends to not being able to see any of my new posts. I also unfollowed them so they don't pop up on my news feed. As curious as I am, I don't want to see what he and his friends have been up to. I admit I used to peek but it does make the healing process slower plus, you'll just be reopening wounds. As Rory here says, you're never gonna see what you want to see on their social media so let them go, let them miss you, let them feel the mistake they made. I agree on not blocking your ex because that will raise a lot of negativity and drama that you don't want that might come to bite you later on.
PEOPLE LISTEN UP! Social media allows you to MUTE THEM NOW! Mute!! It saves my ass from seeing my ex’s posts. It’s like blocking, without the blocking 😌
I stopped looking at her social media after finding out she was with someone else (alight monkey branch) however I gave in earlier and looked at hers after a week or two without. Such a bad decision just made me feel worse. I’m not sure if I should unblock her though ?
Not sure if true but no contact 7 months and is it true if they still follow you on pintrest and Instagram but unfriend you Facebook that keeping those doors open means she still wants access and me in her life in a certain way? She would not hesitate to block anyone ever or any ex some I’m just curious.
We can't claim to know for sure what is on her mind, but it is safe to say that you haven't badgered her enough to get blocked!
The Love Chat yea I haven’t tried she is used to that but she tried for so long to get me and she did then long distance killed it last second when I was on my way with her emotions I did save it to a t but I messed up but she was ok and with it but I had to let her be 7 months now and did all the work that she didn’t do but I moved past and forward and I’m 20 minutes from her but I did not chase bother her nor anything else and I accepted everything and she knows that I think and she’s used to everyone begging pleading but I will not do that or show her that just be myself and the person I was when she found me that made her fall in love in the first place lol
Love chat should I stop posting positive snaps on my Snapchat story? My ex is currently in the relief stage but she ALWAYS checks my story. It's a tough question I've been having trouble with.
P.S. it's only been around a week since the break up.... And holy shit, I've recovered so quickly it's almost as if I'm superhuman😦😦😦
I can't look at my ex's social media. It would tear me apart. However, I never blocked her. I know she still looks at my Instagram but I don't look at hers.
I had to block him and even his friends because he kept appearing it's like they are purposely hurting me. It's not like knows I blocked him, he probably doesn't give a shit. I'm hurting while he's really happy. I just can't. He initiated the break up.
What if he blocked me, and we had a great relationship, not a bad break up at all, he decided to block me one day, but didn't block me on txt and calls. He left a coworker of mine on fb but deleted all my other friends, he knows I can see his fb through her fb. I'm so hurt I don't get it! I've been blocked over a week now and been in no contact! Well started no contact again after I txt him about blocking me how hurt I was! Ugh he's been doing confusing things since the break up, he's confused so I am too
What if he dumped me and blocked me in all forms of social medias/phone number?
Same question here!
He probably wants to prevent you from stalking his social media, so you don't hurt yourself this way. And also he might still have feelings for you. By blocking you he makes sure, there is no contact between you two, so the break up is easier for both sides.
N Mollo i don’t know but how can someone just erased you in his life and move on with someone new instantly? Well, i am the one stalking now. Abrupt break up left me with a lot of questions and blocking me means no answer. It’s hard to move on and just accept.
I tottally understand you😔
So if you blocked them, should you unblock them? Wouldn't that make you appear like you're like weak if they noticed that you've unblocked them?
Unblock them when you're over them and it wont matter what they think
I think I did a whoopsie. I deleted her because I couldn't help my self from stalking, next day she blocked me withouth a word, now what chief?
What’s the protocol with photos on social media? In NC. I still have mine up, my ex still has hers when I checked. If I take them down will it look a bit like a manipulation, a dig? Alternatively I don’t want them up for such a long time my ex think I’m not moving on
I just did a video on this yesterday, check it out!
I don't have any social media other than this and even that I don't know anyone way ahead of you
I unfriended her On Fb right when she broke up with me. I told her I am sorry I cannot be your friend I have plenty of friends. You are my lover not my friend. I did not block her so she still could message me on messenger if she wanted to. I’ve learned from my past to do no contact. If you sit message them too much they will just block you. That’s why NC is important and she still has the option to reach out. Also it helps me because then I won’t stock her page either because I’m not her friend on FB
my ex posted picture with his new gf...
Everything Under the Sun sad to hear that but, that’s probably a rebound
What percentage of ex's do you think "stalk" or "check" their partners social media and how often? I wonder if there are any studies.
rambo god they do it , might not be often , but it happens
what if they break up with you & stalk you
The dumper is basically testing you and they get curious, stay in no contact and let the dumper come towards you
What if your x blocks you off of FB a month after break up.
andrew petersen that means your ex wants to avoid you or she might just be showing off.
why, after 9 months post break up and totally out of the blue did she block my Instagram? Mind you, she already unfollowed it right after the breakup and we're still friends on Facebook... makes no sense.
either she found a new boyfriend or shes mad that you dont contact her
What if you've become more active on social media? For me, it wasn't to get back at her and show off, but because I started to make new friends after the breakup and we tag/comment on things all the time. Even on platforms like Instagram I have started posting more because I have more things to post about. I barely posted in the relationship. Could she take these things the wrong way?
Rory my ex deleted our photos on his social media on my birthday... why is he trying to hurt me more?
I deleted her number though and told her kindly why, because it never felt good or was nice texting...since then i’m in no contact, 2 weeks now.
i agree with rory for the most part, but sorry no i dont think it was caused at all by me not being authetic. i was always the same. all of a sudden he just acts cold, says he has "lost himself" and he wants a breakup...even though i was an amazing supporting partner for 4 years. and long distance for a long time so wasnt even smothering him...hes just selfish.
I deleted my fb and messanger. Eventhough she still has my phone number.. currently doing my own thing work and school.. What does it mean when she txt mad or frustrated. Thank you for your video it has helped me
You're welcome for the video. It sounds like you are in contact with your ex, I need more information before I can give you good advice. Email me at TheLoveChat@Gmail.com!
I don’t follow him on Instagram but he doesn’t set it private. I know I am not discipline enough, I check it often. And one and two months after break-up, he posted pictures that show so much of his happiness, I was shocked, still remember towards the end of break-up, he was so unhappy due to some personal life situation which affected our relationship. And in one month’s time he looked so happy..!? I was angry, I was in disbelief.. And many new followers that are of opposite gender.. He has started seeing new people.. Again, it striked me. What did our relationship mean to him...? :( I guess I need to be more discipline and stop checking :(
If i cannot stop from stalking him, should i just block him? We are not fb friends but i became obess in stalking his social media and i even saw he posted a picture of him with his new girlfriend and it breaks my heart seeing them happy while i am here feeling left out and miserable. I even check his online and last seen status everytime. 😔
I recently contacted my ex who I haven't seen in a bit over 8yrs. She told me that she has a family now and that she is very happy, then she asked me if I still looked the same and that my profile picture looked old. I sent her a picture of me and she said: " that's the same one I saw." I ask myself if she is so dam happy why is she checking my profile? How would she know how old my profile picture is unless she constantly looks at my profile? Do you think she still has feelings for me? I believe if you are really happy you wouldn't be checking out your ex profile out.
Its been 8 years & your ex has a family now, you need to move on from this one my friend.
The Love Chat I understand, but if she is so happy why is she checking my social media profile? I believe that if somebody is really happy they wouldn't be checking their ex's profile.
Duuuuuude... Lol 8 fucking years? That's too much man, you should be LONG moved on at this point. Anyone reaching out to me after 1-2 years is getting a "who tf is this" message. Nevermind 8 years.
rambo god I would have moved on a long time ago if we weren't going to have a kid. You see if it were going to be your first child you never forget bout the person no matter how long it has been. That is true love, if it wasn't for the child I would have forgotten about her a long time ago
Well that obviously changes the dynamic but you didn't mention that at first. Nonetheless, 8 years a long fuckin time dude, kid or not.
My ex has viewed all of my ig stories since the day of the breakup (2 months ago) even though we unfollowed each other... so confusing :/ but I’m gonna stay strong and stay off of his social media
Anything that you would recommend in this pandemic setting, because all my work revolves around social media right now and its difficult to go out and do something else :(
I got a question for you maybe you can make a video
Did i lose her/him forever? I mean to the point that it's impossible for us to be in a relationship again
mike mcgeady Sure!
We were not Facebook friends. But on messenger. I couldn't take it anymore. I blocked him. So he won't think im spying on him. That irritates him.he left because of third party. He lied about it and i caught it. I love him and miss him but hey gotta work on me. And if i was being cheated on who wants sloppy seconds. Good bye
I didn't unfollow/blocked him. He then unfollowed me then blocked and unblocked me on Instagram. So now we both not following each other. He then made his account public so I can't help but check it out so should I block him to prevent myself checking his page out?
Loved this !
I'm in a group chat with all my friends and my ex is in it, shall I not speak in there or is it acceptable to speak in there as long as its not directly to them?
yeah i'd get out that group chat
So I'm a millennial but I have no social media shockingly. Does this make your ex more curious and more likely to message you considering they don't see anything and know anything about you?
this is me rn. im wondering the same thing
Do you think i follow my ex on linkedin but before when we fight she told me i will give your details to embassy so that you will not enter in my country? Is this possible that somebody can give information to embassy authorities so that you will not be able to enter in her country?