To be honest with you Dr Apoki, you really don’t need to be sharing this with online people. Every family has their own issues. As long as your conscience is clear, you have nothing to worry about.
How else do we stick it out there that such dysfunctional pattern is not only toxic but also consequential? You see this tradition of secrecy and enabling/ rewarding toxicity just because 'na my brother or sister or relative' is one of the major root causes why we as a people are in this mess of a country. He that covers a sin shall not prosper. Call out the wrong objectively and hope that unproductive person will take a leaf and change their ways for a productive future. Entitlement kills deep.
To be fair to Dr. Charles Apoki also, he didn't call names, itbis called, TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN. You watch movies and you see the introduction: these are true events and we adjust our seats because this is REALITY.
Sir, everything about your experience and advice are FACTS ‼️🙌🏾 I'm the first Child of 5 and, I have been there and don't that. I received all kinds if insults and disrespect from My Siblings that I was trying to help with my money and advice. I finally received sense and distance myself from them except My Sister who quickly embraced my help and advises and she's currently on her path to greatness by God's grace. I'm abroad, married and a Mother. My priorities now are : Myself My Husband Son Mother. Everyone else can kick rocks for all I care.
Powerful message Dr Apoki. I have learnt this even from a friend who refuses to motivate himself. It is difficult enough to pull yourself out of a well let alone pull people up with you.
The truth is it is easier to raise or help a total stranger than some relative because usually the outsiders value and respect your input to their lives. Family members often times are lazy and entitled. Same reason it was difficult for Jesus to do much in his own town than what He did outside. Do not allow any sibling or relative make you feel guilty for their own downfall. Our first given responsibility according to the bible is our Aged parents,wife and children.
U are very correct, I got to realise this through my experience in life and dealings with people, some can never be helped regardless, instead u pay a big price 😊
The family demon line is real. These demons are hard to do away with, unfortunately. You are a great man, Dr. Charles and a hard worker to break out of such energy.
Daddy, I want to reach out to you .. You are an inspiration I'm Joshua a final year medical student of UNTH. I wish I can call or visit you. I'm reside in Enugu.
When they want your help on their terms. They think you should be egbon but only when it comes to money. The money you suggest they apply themselves and put in work. Chai the resistance and then you realise you are the fool. I am so traumatised that i am starting think i am the one that needs them. I am now off to heal praying they never need me.
I thought i was doing wrong by cutting ties with relatives and friends that mess up my efforts to assist them. After listening to this message, i know I'm on track. Thank you so much sir
@@edafejoshua5625 once you are done cutting ties with everyone, you will be sitting lonely in house full of cash but empty inside. Try to live peacefully with everyone, the people you are cutting ties with today, their kids might be in positions to help your kids or you.
A man told me money is useless, and all that am working on is useless. He told me all you need to do is have kids that's all. And as a wife you work and provide for your husband and kids. And your provision is useless only the man and the kids is everything. I knew he can never be helped.
Exactly then in the future these imbeciles will begin to say it is village people and imaginary enemies causing their wahala(trouble) when in reality they are the architects of their own misery.
Dr Charles, i love your content and wisdom, but for this one, Why not lead by love and prayers, you don't beat people for smoking weeds, you counsel them and pray with them, some people are bounded spiritually so is not their faults, until that demon is cast out, they cannot be free
Oga I remember Jesus cast out demons from those he flogged in the temple court by praying for them. I need to be more spiritual sir. Remember to cast out the demon of corruption from Nigeria. God bless you oga.
Sometimes when Nigerians talk, you can immediately see why everything is wrong with the country. Did Dr Apoki say he wasn't praying for him? Not sparing the rod, does it imply a lack of love? Does love exclude rebuke? No wonder a criminal will steal public funds running into billions and you see people praying that he be forgiven without appropriate penance and considered for another public office because he sang alleluia at our church convention. We live our lives not bothered that our actions have consequences. It's a terrible mindset. Little wonder we are a joke to everyone.
Nothing to learn from this sincerely . Full of shit. The guy you gave 150k and called you back 4 years later wanting to buy a piece of land did good in my view.proud of him. I bought cars for my cousins and helped even though they didn’t turn out exactly as I expected, I will still do it again. The only advice I will give to your viewers is. HELP FROM A DISTANT. They don’t have to live with you. They don’t have to call you. The attitude of the person you are giving a chance shouldn’t bother you much. Just help as much as you can and believe God ONLY to reward you.
Jesus healed 10 leapers only one came back to say thank you, it grieved Jesus. It is very difficult to help ungrateful people, you do it once you may not be able to do it again. If i helped someone the least i should get is 'Thank you' because it is my hardwork and sweat i am giving away free of charge. Even God demands thanksgiving, these are the basics we teach our children. If an adult lacks this virtue even God will find it difficult to help him
@@Ericjohnson23book I agree with you too. I learn a lot from Dr Apoki when it comes to personal development & entrepreneurship and others. However, I don’t condone bashing others online especially when the person he is bashing is not present to share their own side of the story. No matter how we love anybody, we must be courageous enough to let them know if they are doing something wrong. I don’t believe in blind loyalty.
@@awharetayevictor3338 Yes like you just said, direct him to Jesus cause everything you have and gave came from above and his thanksgiving is the Lord’s and not yours. I encourage you to even help in secret not letting your left hand know what your right hand is doing. I trained my sister in one of the most expensive professions in the world and I keep reminding her it’s God that trained her not me. She owe me nothing. She owe God everything. I personally pray and believe God for the things I want. All my life, never begged a man, and I’m not from a privileged family. I pray and work hard and God has been faithful, he has blessed me beyond my expectations. I will never beg any mortal man! I have absolutely no expectations from men cause I know where I get my comfort . I know my source. I don’t care about the character of the person God blesses through me. If he likes he can go to Jesus and give thanks like the leper you mentioned , that is completely his business not mine. It’s between them and God. Dont be fooled
@@edwinoseruvwoja9268Yes Father does, and not just that. he has giving us something else called CHOICE …learn to give the people you help CHOICE. Can you imagine Father sitting down making a video blabbing about all the people he helped in their time of need that smoked marijuana? Brethren, Let’s get serious.
To be honest with you Dr Apoki, you really don’t need to be sharing this with online people. Every family has their own issues. As long as your conscience is clear, you have nothing to worry about.
There is nothing wrong sharing family dysfunctional
How else do we stick it out there that such dysfunctional pattern is not only toxic but also consequential? You see this tradition of secrecy and enabling/ rewarding toxicity just because 'na my brother or sister or relative' is one of the major root causes why we as a people are in this mess of a country.
He that covers a sin shall not prosper. Call out the wrong objectively and hope that unproductive person will take a leaf and change their ways for a productive future. Entitlement kills deep.
To be fair to Dr. Charles Apoki also, he didn't call names, itbis called, TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN. You watch movies and you see the introduction: these are true events and we adjust our seats because this is REALITY.
I understand you but sometimes certain people need to get the shock treatment in life and for others to learn.
Your opinion is not bad. However, we online people have learnt from his sharing, which is a very good thing.
I will never light myself on fire to keep other people warm. Not even for family and children.
I just sent this to my nephew, I hope he will learn from this great message. The entitlement mentality has eaten deep into them.
They think you will be there forever
This is heavy truth . Thanks for sharing sir. You are my friend Dr 😅
Above all, as an elder please be patient with your siblings because you’re a parent to them.
You reach a certain stage and you need to distance yourself from relatives to save your sanity.
Sir, everything about your experience and advice are FACTS ‼️🙌🏾
I'm the first Child of 5 and, I have been there and don't that.
I received all kinds if insults and disrespect from My Siblings that I was trying to help with my money and advice.
I finally received sense and distance myself from them except My Sister who quickly embraced my help and advises and she's currently on her path to greatness by God's grace.
I'm abroad, married and a Mother.
My priorities now are :
Myself
My Husband
Son
Mother.
Everyone else can kick rocks for all I care.
Powerful message Dr Apoki. I have learnt this even from a friend who refuses to motivate himself. It is difficult enough to pull yourself out of a well let alone pull people up with you.
Honestly sir
The truth is it is easier to raise or help a total stranger than some relative because usually the outsiders value and respect your input to their lives. Family members often times are lazy and entitled. Same reason it was difficult for Jesus to do much in his own town than what He did outside. Do not allow any sibling or relative make you feel guilty for their own downfall. Our first given responsibility according to the bible is our Aged parents,wife and children.
You are on point. This is what am passing through from the hand of my siblings.
Dr Apoki, please correct yourself. ... You are NOT a fool. Some people in the world are just wicked. Thanks for the video.
U are very correct, I got to realise this through my experience in life and dealings with people, some can never be helped regardless, instead u pay a big price 😊
I learnt this lesson late, I wish I learnt it earlier.
Migowo sir, these stories are filled with alot wisdom.
Vrendo oniovo
I am a use case, so Oga you talk the truth. I have been able to free my energy since I learned this lesson.
The family demon line is real. These demons are hard to do away with, unfortunately.
You are a great man, Dr. Charles and a hard worker to break out of such energy.
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. This has become an epidemic in most African families.
You are on point dad. You can't help everybody.
70×70 =4900,sir
That's my guy, loving you from the Republic of Ghana
Hahahahahahahahaaaaa.... "Demon of harshness" got me laughing out loud 😂😂😂😂
Honestly, some relatives are indeed a source of distraction. You try to help them , but get insulted and hurt in the process.
Kindness is different from foolishness
Appreciating your wisdom from Zambia🇿🇲
Dr Charles Apoki thank you for another master piece of advice. I have always said many people in Nigeria suffer from ACUTE DENIAL SYNDROME!!!!
Too much Wisdom from a Sage.
Thanks Dr. Apoki!
I have shared this message to some persons to know this wisdom. Thanks a million Doc.🙏
I agree, you can try to tell people the truth and they won’t hear it even though there is CLEARLY EVIDENCE
You're a caring Father... The Good Lord God surely will reward your labour of love...
U are a great man, may God continue to bless you
This message is powerful. Thanks for sharing your experience.
It's good to share this type of wisdom
Superb advice for the living
Truth is being told .
You're right sir
Blessings Grandpa.
Really there are people you cannot help
you are a Wise man
Am listening 🎧...
It's a thankless world 🌍, you do your part,God will do his part 😊..
This message is very impactful
Messages that have to be replayed.
Daddy Daddy😇😇
Daddy, I want to reach out to you ..
You are an inspiration
I'm Joshua a final year medical student of UNTH.
I wish I can call or visit you.
I'm reside in Enugu.
Thank you for this message.
When they want your help on their terms. They think you should be egbon but only when it comes to money. The money you suggest they apply themselves and put in work. Chai the resistance and then you realise you are the fool. I am so traumatised that i am starting think i am the one that needs them. I am now off to heal praying they never need me.
Thank you so much Sir. So helpful❤
I thought i was doing wrong by cutting ties with relatives and friends that mess up my efforts to assist them. After listening to this message, i know I'm on track. Thank you so much sir
@@edafejoshua5625 once you are done cutting ties with everyone, you will be sitting lonely in house full of cash but empty inside. Try to live peacefully with everyone, the people you are cutting ties with today, their kids might be in positions to help your kids or you.
My distant father 😂👌 always spitting facts
Just be careful with some of these relatives, some of them can even poison you
@@jabulanisena6288 Comment of the day
you are just too epic!
Ndi Ekperima everywhere......
Las las people wey get head no plenty for your family.
Sad Truth sir
😂😂😂😂😂😂
A man told me money is useless, and all that am working on is useless. He told me all you need to do is have kids that's all. And as a wife you work and provide for your husband and kids. And your provision is useless only the man and the kids is everything. I knew he can never be helped.
You tried o dad! See how far you went to help your people but they disappointed you. You can't really help some people.
Exactly then in the future these imbeciles will begin to say it is village people and imaginary enemies causing their wahala(trouble) when in reality they are the architects of their own misery.
@@charlesadoghor In every family tree 🌳, you must find some nuts 😄
Confirm matter 😊sir 🫡
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Interesting story, yet pathetic. At least you tried your best for these people.
Dr Charles, i love your content and wisdom, but for this one, Why not lead by love and prayers, you don't beat people for smoking weeds, you counsel them and pray with them, some people are bounded spiritually so is not their faults, until that demon is cast out, they cannot be free
Demon or what did you just mentioned ok ooo na You sabii
Oga I remember Jesus cast out demons from those he flogged in the temple court by praying for them.
I need to be more spiritual sir. Remember to cast out the demon of corruption from Nigeria. God bless you oga.
No harm intended just my opinion, Dr you are doing a great job by sharing your wisdom, still a fan of yours
Sometimes when Nigerians talk, you can immediately see why everything is wrong with the country. Did Dr Apoki say he wasn't praying for him? Not sparing the rod, does it imply a lack of love? Does love exclude rebuke? No wonder a criminal will steal public funds running into billions and you see people praying that he be forgiven without appropriate penance and considered for another public office because he sang alleluia at our church convention.
We live our lives not bothered that our actions have consequences. It's a terrible mindset. Little wonder we are a joke to everyone.
@@akpukpujohn more blessings sir I love your reply ❤️❤️❤️❤️
😂Daddy Apoki, your teachings are terrible. 70*70 forgiveness, I do not have that time either.
Nothing to learn from this sincerely . Full of shit. The guy you gave 150k and called you back 4 years later wanting to buy a piece of land did good in my view.proud of him. I bought cars for my cousins and helped even though they didn’t turn out exactly as I expected, I will still do it again. The only advice I will give to your viewers is. HELP FROM A DISTANT. They don’t have to live with you. They don’t have to call you. The attitude of the person you are giving a chance shouldn’t bother you much. Just help as much as you can and believe God ONLY to reward you.
Jesus healed 10 leapers only one came back to say thank you, it grieved Jesus. It is very difficult to help ungrateful people, you do it once you may not be able to do it again. If i helped someone the least i should get is 'Thank you' because it is my hardwork and sweat i am giving away free of charge. Even God demands thanksgiving, these are the basics we teach our children. If an adult lacks this virtue even God will find it difficult to help him
@@Ericjohnson23book Indeed, we should give without expectations. But it's easier said than done. Does almighty God give without expectation? 🤔
@@Ericjohnson23book I agree with you too. I learn a lot from Dr Apoki when it comes to personal development & entrepreneurship and others. However, I don’t condone bashing others online especially when the person he is bashing is not present to share their own side of the story. No matter how we love anybody, we must be courageous enough to let them know if they are doing something wrong. I don’t believe in blind loyalty.
@@awharetayevictor3338 Yes like you just said, direct him to Jesus cause everything you have and gave came from above and his thanksgiving is the Lord’s and not yours. I encourage you to even help in secret not letting your left hand know what your right hand is doing. I trained my sister in one of the most expensive professions in the world and I keep reminding her it’s God that trained her not me. She owe me nothing. She owe God everything. I personally pray and believe God for the things I want. All my life, never begged a man, and I’m not from a privileged family. I pray and work hard and God has been faithful, he has blessed me beyond my expectations. I will never beg any mortal man! I have absolutely no expectations from men cause I know where I get my comfort . I know my source. I don’t care about the character of the person God blesses through me. If he likes he can go to Jesus and give thanks like the leper you mentioned , that is completely his business not mine. It’s between them and God. Dont be fooled
@@edwinoseruvwoja9268Yes Father does, and not just that. he has giving us something else called CHOICE …learn to give the people you help CHOICE.
Can you imagine Father sitting down making a video blabbing about all the people he helped in their time of need that smoked marijuana? Brethren, Let’s get serious.