SINGLE MOM ADVICE| WHY I DON'T TALK ABOUT HIM| Tres Chic Mama
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- Опубликовано: 30 июн 2018
- Hey guys! You've been asking what is going on with Sydney's father and how I handle being a single mom. I finally decided to address the questions and give the little advice I have on how to be a successful single mom. I know you all will understand and respect my decision to stay relatively quiet with what is going on as I am protecting and respecting my daughter. I want my channel to be all about myself and my daughter! Thank you for understanding! THUMBS UP & SUBSCRIBE!! xoxo
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As someone who was a single mom, I applaud you for not talking bad about the father of your child...regardless of what you think of him, he’s her father and she can make her decision about him when she gets old enough....
Erica Sigley this is exactly how I feel about my child. It’s her choice.
@Smart Play i have 3 kids dat my asshole husband deserted...do u do forgiving meditation to help u keep happy
My mom always talked poorly about my dad. I’m 32 years old and she still says negative things about him. It makes me uncomfortable. You’re awesome and I applaud you.
Mindy Bolduc same. And my dad is an amazing person. It's really hurt my relationship with my mom.
We got a same type of mom. everytime she complains I feel so angry and annoyed.
My mom and dad always curse each other out but they work really good together as parents so when the other is talking about the other I just change the subject
I love your channel, not because you’re a single mom,but because you’re more real. A lot of RUclips moms are super wealthy and a lot harder to relate to. Not that I’m not happy for them and I still watch them,but I like you better lol
I get you,it's hard to relate
"You just do it". Girl, I live by that.
I’m not a single mom. But I’m a stay at home mom and my husband works very long days 12+ hours and this video really helped me with how I was feeling about the harder days with a newborn. Love your channel❤️
Life as Mommy Being at home with the kiddos is absolutely exhausting! Amazing & the best job on earth but damn it’s a lot sometimes! 😘
Same, husband comes mostly once a week he travels a lot for work. So I feel like a single mom it’s definitely hard ! Respect is everything ! Thank you for being humble and being true to yourself @treschicmama
I'm a single mom and I definitely understand... Us single mothers got this
I am not kidding this just made me love your channel a million times more. My parents were in a terrible divorce and the hands down worst thing from my perspective of being a child was when other people (or my other parent) would talk bad about my mom or dad. I agree fake happiness as much as you can when it comes to your kids. ❤️❤️❤️you’re an amazing mom!!
We no longer accept angry deadbeats in our lives 💃🥰 I’m a happily single mom as well 👏
I admire the fact that you refrain from talking bad about Sydney’s father in front of her. My father has made a lot of bad decisions and has never been in my life. I’m so thankful that my mother chose to never bash him in front of me. His absence from my life spoke for itself. I never needed anyone to make that worse and rub it in. Single Moms are so unbelievably strong! I’m proud of you for being so strong and level-headed for Sydney.
Your advice is amazing! My first sons dad has never been there since i was 4 months pregnant. Hes 8 now and as he got older i found myself lost about to explain things to him. I never wanted to tell my son that his dad was a pile of crap so i never said anything. I did go to a counselor when he was in kinder for some behavior stuff he was dealing with and that came up. Helped me a ton to find the right words and way to say it! By that time i was seeing someone else and had been for 2 years but i chose to let him decide when or if he wanted to call him dad. It all came together but it all takes time! My now husband adopted him in April. Being a single mom is so hard to balance life, work and time with your baby/child. Takes a lot of prayer!!
Yolanda Brown You are such a strong mama!!! I’m so glad you are in a better place in life ❤️
Thank you! It took a lot of time to heal and figure out things. Its hard to be patient with things like that. Gpod luck mama
Im 36 weeks and freaking out of beeing single .... some days are better but I was feeling depressed today and thank you for this video 🤕💁🏻😊
Single mom as well! You are doing great momma!
😭 I needed this, your are so motivational. I’m in the place where you were. There’s nothing worse in my opinion than to not know if your life will be okay in the end.
New Momma here who was raised by a single mom. You’re a freaking rockstar girl! I love your channel and you helped me through my pregnancy a lot. Just wanted to thank you for your channel and give you major props for being such an amazing Momma! Single moms are heroes and your little girl is going to appreciate all of this and you even more than ever.
I became a single mom in January when my husband left me for another woman when my son was 2 and daughter was 3 months old. I just started seeking out other single moms because I really need the support on how to do this. My kids dad gets them one or two nights a week now, but I hate it because he lives with the woman he left me for and it feels like a slap in the face that my kids stay with the woman who helped ruin my marriage.
Amen girl!! I am 31 and I had my daughter at 22. There was a lot that happened with her "sperm donor" ... sorry but true! He hasn't seen her since she was 2 weeks old. Not my doing...but it happened. I met my husband when she was 4. He was everything I hoped and prayed for. I was so young but I did it. No matter what, I did it...for her. Now married with a 2 year old boy and we couldn't be any happier. Kendyll loves her daddy. A dad has to be there for the child, physically and emotionally. Just like a mother. Great video girl.
What kind of a simp he is?.
Wow looking at y'all looks like none of ye have been in the situation, hence talking trash. There are some irresponsible women, yes. But there are also those who wholeheartedly believe the man they're with will be a good father and it was clear they both know the risks and are in it for the long haul. But sometimes the perception and reality don't match and the actual birth and feeling of responsibility scares the guy. Some leave for good, some come around after a while. I was lucky as mine did and is really a loving dad. But y'all should stop talking smack because nobody is going into a relationship to intentionally end up being a single mum...
Hayley is talking about positivity and you guys are acting the opposite of that. You don’t know what happened. Just crazy how insensitive people can be to someone they don’t even know.. like what?? are you that starved for entertainment?? Read a book.
The stigma of being a single mom. She’s the one there everyday, she kisses all the boo-boos, helps with all the homework, makes all the tough decisions and sacrifices what she needs to do. The dad? He’s too busy on Tinder to see his child. But she’s the one who’s looked down on. She’s the one who made the ‘bad decision’. But abortion? You’re evil! And a murderer! Keep the baby? You better breastfeed! It’s what’s best! But eww don’t do it in public!! Also do it for a year! Also they changed it to two years now! Welfare to help because the dad isn’t around? Get a better job you bum. No better jobs available? Should have stayed with the father. He didn’t stick around? Hmm... still your bad decision. All your fault. The dad’s fine.
I’m not a single mom but this is how I see it
You are so well spoken! I can't tell you how much I respect your perspective and parenting style in letting Sydney make judgments and decisions for herself. You are humble, mature, SO strong, and I can't begin to tell you how much I admire you. I'm home with my son (15 mos!) for the summer and any time I have a difficult moment I always think of you and channel my inner Tres Chic Mama :) Please keep doing what you are doing and don't be discouraged by anyone who thinks they 'deserve' to know more about your life just because you choose to share some of it on social media.
Just subscribed 🙌🏽 love love the msgs in this video. Can relate so much. I’m a single mum too, my daughter is 2.5 and her father has never met her - despite me trying to facilitate some sort of relationship. He has since had other children. It took a long time for me to heal but prayer and positivity helped me through the dark days. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have so much respect for you! Your positivity and outlook on life and how you’re handling everything for Sydney is refreshing to hear, esp bc there is so much oversharing and immaturity and drama out there! Your doing an amazing job with RUclips and with Sydney. Keep it up mama!
Maybe it’s because I’m pregnant but this video made me cry, and I’m not even a single mother. This video was so honest and insightful . I have so much respect for a women like you that can respect her daughters father regardless of your relationship w him. You called this video negative but tbh it was encouraging! Thank you 💓
Hayley- You are so full of positivity and light. Its refreshing to see watch someone with this type of attitude. Sydney is so blessed to have such an awesome mommy! Love your videos 💕
AMAZING ADVICE!!!! Really great video. God bless you and Sydney. You are an awesome mother to that baby girl ❤️
This video was heaven sent. I’m 9 weeks pregnant with my first child and I’m contemplating whether to be single or not. Thank you for your advice 🙏 I’m officially subscribed 💕
i love the positivity!!! coming from a preggo lady who"s single ever since!
22 weeks pregnant with twins and I'm preparing for the single mom life... Really needed to hear this. 😎✌️
Awww you will do just great!! It's so scary and I can't imagine having twins, but just know that you will rock it!!!! xoxo
Child support.get it
Hey Kristen, how is your situation now? How are you coping? Wishing you all the best.
I like u I m alone ❤❤🌷🌷
I like u I m alone ❤❤🌷🌷
This video just shows me that you have the best heart and that you have way more maturity than a lot of people in the world! ❤️ I wish my parents had this mindset during my childhood. Sydney has an amazing role model!
Thank you so much for this video Hayley. I’m a single mama and I had asked you on through Snapchat for advice on being a single mama and I totally agree with you and respect you so much. You’re a huge role model for me and I’m so thankful for you and your videos. 💜
This is why I LOVE your channel!! I am expecting my 1st baby in a week and I started watching your breastfeeding and baby update videos. I love that you talk about and rely on God, it truly helps!! Thanks for your positivity!! 😊🤗
This REALLY helped me. My son’s dad and I broke up a few months ago and I’ve been having a hard time dealing with the hurt and anger but this video really helped give me some peace about the whole situation. THANK YOU ❤️ You seem like such a wonderful mom
Thank you for sharing! You know I feel like now after you put all this encouragement out there even better things are going to happen!
Good for you!! Your mindset is so amazing. Sydney is a lucky little girl ❤️ being a mom, I can only imagine how challenging it must be at times to be doing this on your own. I applaud you girl!
I think you handled this beautifully! And I love your advice to pray for the other person I’ve been working on that myself lately 💕
shaelurr Thank you!!
It is so refreshing to hear that there are still civil parents like you out there. Kudos to you, seriously!
I got prego at 17 and was a single mom for four years. Its scary and hard but I never felt stronger and more proud of myself that I was able to provide for us. Now Im married for 8years and have three more! Life happens how it should. Just give it time for u to see what God has planned
Your husband has the classic smile of a simp.
@@babyboy8597 I was thinking the same. She's posting her Simp success story lmao
You are such an incredible mama! I admire you so much. Keep pushing and keep praying 🙏🏼❤️ Sydney is so lucky ✨ Your positivity radiates!!
Aww I love this video💕
I can 100% relate! Thank you for reminding us about the power of positive thinking
Thank you for reminding that positivity will come back to me. I needed to hear that.
You're such an inspiration for me as well❤️❤️ I started watching your videos today and I can't stop..
Yes! What you put out in the universe is what you get back!! So so so true!
Well said! I love your perspective on life and doing what you have to do for you, your daughter and your family!
I’m sorry I’m only getting to watch this video now but thank you so much for sharing your story! I’m also a full time single mom and I’m so happy I found another mom whose situation is very similar mine, I don’t feel so alone anymore so thank you!!❤️ currently snuggling with my almost 3 year old daughter and loving moments like this 🥰
So much respect for you ❤ I pray that you will get your big family one day. You are an amazing mother and Sidney will appreciate this in the future!
You are beyond amazing, not only as a mom but as a person. You’re so mature and smart. I wish there were more people like you.
Susan K Awww thank you!!! I certainly am human & it took me a lot of time & life to become who I am today ❤️
i needed this. thank you thank you thank you
You handled this subject so gracefully. Good job!
I love your videos soo much! I love the way you think , i think exactly the same . My baby daddy commited suicide almost 1 year ago. I went through a dark road alot of counselling. Im only 23 years old and alot of people ask me how i do it. I pay everything myself i never rely on anyone and im still not done grieving but, like you said... You just do it! My mom put us through alot of things growing up.. She has BPD and i always said i wouldn't do to my kids what she did to us. ( act all crazy). I could chosen drugs or drinking to numb the pain of loosing my baby daddy ( boyfriend of 4 years) but i decided to stay strong and get help. I had suicidal thougths myself and I knew drugs and drinking wern't the answer. Thats what my baby daddy did and it ended up in him taking his own life. Its amazing the strenght our children give us to get through all of this. My son saved my life , he is the reason if fight my way through life eachday. He never sees me cry i always try to hold it until he is sleeping. I try to stay positive even though it is not easy. When i hear moms complain about their baby daddy... Guhhh.. It gets me soo angry because at least they have one .. My kid doesnt all he knows is mommy and my family. I have to find out a way to explain to him later how his daddy died because i know the day will come. But for now he's little. I have a picture of his daddy in his room on a wall full of stars. We kiss him goodnight each night. I will never ever speak any bad to my child about his father because he was ill and needed help. I promised him to only talk good about him to our son. Im not such a religious person either. But i do believe there is life after death for sure. So i pray alot and it helps me to get through alot. My faith has grew alot since his death. I do thank life everyday though for what i have. My son. My home i can afford by myself even if its an apartment, and small things in life that make me happy. I believe God gave me my son to help me through all of this. 6 months after his daddy passed.. My brother also commited suicide. If Tyler(my son) wern't here lord knows how i would of gotten through this, cause i dont even know. You are right on being our childrens rock. Im the only parent Tyler has and there is no way i will ever let him down. Even if its to hard to handle... I'll always keep pushing and try to be positive and show him the beautiful things in life. Ill be the best mom he could ever ask for ❤ we are strong us momma's. Were all super mamma's ! Sorry for long text 🙊 your honestly my favorite youtube mommy and trust me i watch alot... But your the best 😘
Jesus loves you, your story really touched me. Thank you for sharing you and May God bless you and continue to keep you and your faith continue to grow and be established in Him.
You're doing amazing!!! You're advice is amazing too! Keep being a boss mom, and a great role model to all of the young women who look up to you. ❤
This video wasn’t a downer! You’re an incredibly positive person and inspirational as well. Thank you for sharing.
You are the strongest person I have ever seen. In everyof your video I watched, I'm always thinking ''wow... if I could be as strong as this'' I wish you and your daughter all the best. You're amazing!
I just have to say.. I admire you SO so much! I absolutely love your positivity and outlook on life and all of these situations in general. I was a single mom for about 4 years so I know exactly what it’s like and how easy it is to turn it into a negative situation if you let it. But now I can say I’m happily engaged with a man that took on a father role with no hesitation and now we have a 7 month of our own... that being said, it all works out :) whatever the outcome may be
Was your husband a single father?
This inspired me. I’m in a bad relationship, and also 6 months pregnant. I’m thinking of being a single mom but it’s hard when I’m having troubles finding a job and in school full time online. You really do make me feel like if I need to do that for myself I can and I WILL figure it out. God always makes a way, and he doesn’t put you through things for no reason. Wish you luck . God bless
I commend you so much for this!! I’m almost 32 years old with a 7 month old and another coming in March. I am not a single mom but was raised by my grandparents. My mom to this day, still talks badly about my dad, my grandparents, pretty much anyone that was involved in my life growing up. Her and I have never had a good relationship for multiple reasons but I completely agree it is NEVER okay to talk poorly about a parent or guardian figure or anyone that is important in your child’s life to your child or in front of your child or to anyone else that could potentially talk to your child about it.
So much respect for you Hayley!!! You are doing a great job. Sydney is one lucky girl to have you!
UticaNIA Thank you so much!!!
You are such an inspiration!! ❤️❤️
Just found your channel, I am just catching up on everything! Love your content, you seem like such a wholesome kind person. You got this momma
I have been waiting for this video since finding out you were a single mama 😊 So happy to hear you be open and honest and real
Wow!!! Honestly i wanted to hear details but in the end you’re right it’s no ones business. I needed to hear this. I agree, our kids need create their own opinion. And just focus on giving our kids the best. 💕💕💕love you
God bless you and your daughter! You are doing an amazing job! I have followed you for a long time and my daughter is just a few months behind Sydney and i always look to u for mommy advice! 💖
Wow. You are a strong woman and an amazing woman 😍 thank you for sharing and being so honest and real❤️❤️
Thank you so much for saying, time heals etc. I needed the correct words to say to my Mom. We lost my grandpa back in April; and i never have the right words for her, and what you said... really just touched me. Thank you 💕
You are wise beyond your years, girl! Love your videos! 💜
I admire what you did here. I want you to know that I got to know my dad when I was an adult and it’s awesome that you’re going to let Sydney form her own opinions about her dad. That’s what I did. She will make up her own mind. Very mature of you and (I think) it will be a great learning experience for her - speaking from experience there. I’m also a very private person and also try to be very positive. People seem to be extremely interested in others who choose to keep private life just that. I think it’s a hard concept for some people. I’ll continue to watch, keep on going!
You do an amazing job raising your beautiful little girl. My hats off to you gorgeous. It’s not easy being a single parent
I couldn’t agree with you more! Coming from a split home myself and having gone through a parent talking poorly about the other, it really wasn’t good for my sister or I and in the end it backfired on the parent that was being bitter. You are doing such a good job as a single momma! Keep it up!
Love this video, love how you said every day be great full for something also praying everyday too. I pray everyday and I feel like it gives me a peace of mind. Love your message about staying positive.
Thank you for opening up to us, I know it’s not easy! You are doing a great job and are an inspiration to many mamas out there. Also random thought but your videos make me want to live on the east coast!
I found you from a comment on another video! Single momma here of 2! One with special needs. It’s definitely hard and everyone always ask how I do it and I agree you JUST DO IT. You do it for them. ❤️
I just came across your channel and I appreciate you making this video. I'm a single dad with two young daughters and I agree with you about not wanting to put too much out there that may come back to affect are children at a later time. Thanks again, I look forward to watching more of your videos. God bless you and your family.
Great advice. Very mature of you to not talk bad about sydney's father. You're a rockin single parent ♡ totally respect your need for privacy
I agree w/ everything you said, but some people don’t deserve respect. Respect is earned not given.
I believe respect is automatically given no matter what. BUT a person can do things that make you automatically LOSE respect for them. That's just my view❤I do get what you are saying😆
This video is everything to me right now I really really love your personality is insane 😮😮😮😮 I love how genuine and authentic you are ❤👌
This was such great advice ! Love your channel
I’m a teen mom and I really do love to watch your videos you are a great mom and I really enjoying watching!
Hi Hayley! I just subbed to your channel after watching this vid. Let me tell you....I am 100% with you on this. I am also a single mum since my son was 3 months old (he's now 10 months as of Feb 2019) and I'll be turning 32 in March. He's also a 'wild child' Lol. You're absolutely right, it's nobody's business but yours and the father's and however I feel about my son's dad, I wouldn't ever stop him having a good relationship with my boy or comment negatively to others. I just say it was a bad situation. You're so amazing and strong and I'm so grateful to find you on RUclips! I've been having a hard time but it's good to know I'm not alone and that we can persevere together on this, all of us! :-) x
Keep on keepin’ on, beautiful babe!! ❤️
It’s definitely not easy - you’re awesome girl! 💕
Single mom here ( 2, 5 & 6 years old) supporting another single mom, I subscribed. You go mama! Look forward to your future videos.
You have all my respect and I wish u & Sidney all the best things in this Universe
Totally respect your decision, I definitely agree with you. And you are amazing!
Honestly thank you my boyfriend and I are young parents. My daughter just turned a year. And well he is always working so I can be a stay at home mom, it is rough! I try to be positive and just loving and the best I can be even when I am so young and still learning myself. Hearing how you stay positive is inspiring! Keep making videos you will only gain as you go😘❤️
I've had an awful day and really needed to watch this. I don't have any children but still love watching your videos. Thank you so much Hayley.
Youve got a new subscriber here! So much damn respect for you and your morals. Good outlook!
You are so inspirational.. I am 4 months pregnant and while I am married, I am still scared for how I'm going to be a good mom.. Watching you and your confidence and your will to do the best you can on your own inspires me.. Thanks for being you - I've been around since the beauty days before you had this channel and I always loved your spirit!
Amen! Keep going Girl! Your a good Momma!
just discovered your youtube channel. I love it and I respect it. Very positive, strong and a Christian! I have just started my youtube journey as well and I am inspired by you. Keep been you for your lil one and keep on going, God's got you both! xx
You are awesome!!!! Great advice ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yesss Thank you!!! I dont agree with parents who talk bad about the other parent infront of their kids or on social media or anywhere love this video we need more positivity
Such good advice! Thank you!! ♥️♥️
I was your 1K like because I’m a single mom too and you’re awesome. Her hat is so cute!!! Good luck and best wishes.
you are an amazing person and mom ! this video really helped me thank you
I'm so happy I found you. I'm a single mom too and I agree with every single word you said in this video. Thank you for sharing! ♥
You get it women 💪🏼No pain meds your a true hero to women everywhere your videos are so helpful I don’t have a baby but, love watching you and Sydney I was raised. Y single mom too please never stop making videos!!’🙏🏼
I love that you drew the line in how much you would share! Yes folks put themselves out there in RUclips but that doesn’t entitle viewers to know everything! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 you are smart, wise and strong mother!! You give such a strong positivity to others. Just listening to you makes me live positive every moment and appreciate for whatever I am in. I am not a single mom or mother at all. But I cheer every single mothers out there! You guys deserve platinum medals!! Cheers!!!
I've been a single Mom for almost 13 years and I totally agree about not talking bad about the Father no matter what. Honestly I have in the past and it always makes you look worse than what you say. I had to be the bigger person and stay positive. Your an amazing Mom!
So true... when you talk badly about other people... it doesn't make them look bad, it makes you look bad! And it makes you feel bad, too. I needed to read this!
Thanks girl! It took me some time to figure this out but by 35 I finally did lol
Layla Hudson I’m certainly guilty as well. We can only learn from our past ❤️😘
I just found your channel ! What a beautiful page ! Thank you so much for helping others 💖💖
This video made me a subscriber. You are so very inspirational and such an awesome mother!
I'm LOVING the short hair on you! Soo cute!
You are such a great communicator. You handled the topic topics core factor with true grace. Very inspiring for myself and for a million other woman im sure. God bless you sweetie
I'm a newly single parent (a week) and this was so helpful!!