As someone who was a single mom, I applaud you for not talking bad about the father of your child...regardless of what you think of him, he’s her father and she can make her decision about him when she gets old enough....
My mom always talked poorly about my dad. I’m 32 years old and she still says negative things about him. It makes me uncomfortable. You’re awesome and I applaud you.
My mom and dad always curse each other out but they work really good together as parents so when the other is talking about the other I just change the subject
I love your channel, not because you’re a single mom,but because you’re more real. A lot of RUclips moms are super wealthy and a lot harder to relate to. Not that I’m not happy for them and I still watch them,but I like you better lol
I admire the fact that you refrain from talking bad about Sydney’s father in front of her. My father has made a lot of bad decisions and has never been in my life. I’m so thankful that my mother chose to never bash him in front of me. His absence from my life spoke for itself. I never needed anyone to make that worse and rub it in. Single Moms are so unbelievably strong! I’m proud of you for being so strong and level-headed for Sydney.
Your advice is amazing! My first sons dad has never been there since i was 4 months pregnant. Hes 8 now and as he got older i found myself lost about to explain things to him. I never wanted to tell my son that his dad was a pile of crap so i never said anything. I did go to a counselor when he was in kinder for some behavior stuff he was dealing with and that came up. Helped me a ton to find the right words and way to say it! By that time i was seeing someone else and had been for 2 years but i chose to let him decide when or if he wanted to call him dad. It all came together but it all takes time! My now husband adopted him in April. Being a single mom is so hard to balance life, work and time with your baby/child. Takes a lot of prayer!!
I’ve been on my own since my pregnancy. I don’t talk about my son’s dad because I don’t know what to say - he’s almost 5 now. It bothers me a lot when strangers ask him where his dad is - people are so rude!!!! He usually says my dad lives in another city. Which is basically all he knows. We talk about our Heavenly Father. Idk I keep holding onto hope that someone will come to love my son because it’s so unfair. He’s so loving and sweet and deserves so much
I’m not a single mom. But I’m a stay at home mom and my husband works very long days 12+ hours and this video really helped me with how I was feeling about the harder days with a newborn. Love your channel❤️
Same, husband comes mostly once a week he travels a lot for work. So I feel like a single mom it’s definitely hard ! Respect is everything ! Thank you for being humble and being true to yourself @treschicmama
I am not kidding this just made me love your channel a million times more. My parents were in a terrible divorce and the hands down worst thing from my perspective of being a child was when other people (or my other parent) would talk bad about my mom or dad. I agree fake happiness as much as you can when it comes to your kids. ❤️❤️❤️you’re an amazing mom!!
😭 I needed this, your are so motivational. I’m in the place where you were. There’s nothing worse in my opinion than to not know if your life will be okay in the end.
This inspired me. I’m in a bad relationship, and also 6 months pregnant. I’m thinking of being a single mom but it’s hard when I’m having troubles finding a job and in school full time online. You really do make me feel like if I need to do that for myself I can and I WILL figure it out. God always makes a way, and he doesn’t put you through things for no reason. Wish you luck . God bless
New Momma here who was raised by a single mom. You’re a freaking rockstar girl! I love your channel and you helped me through my pregnancy a lot. Just wanted to thank you for your channel and give you major props for being such an amazing Momma! Single moms are heroes and your little girl is going to appreciate all of this and you even more than ever.
I became a single mom in January when my husband left me for another woman when my son was 2 and daughter was 3 months old. I just started seeking out other single moms because I really need the support on how to do this. My kids dad gets them one or two nights a week now, but I hate it because he lives with the woman he left me for and it feels like a slap in the face that my kids stay with the woman who helped ruin my marriage.
Just subscribed 🙌🏽 love love the msgs in this video. Can relate so much. I’m a single mum too, my daughter is 2.5 and her father has never met her - despite me trying to facilitate some sort of relationship. He has since had other children. It took a long time for me to heal but prayer and positivity helped me through the dark days. Thank you for sharing your story.
This video was heaven sent. I’m 9 weeks pregnant with my first child and I’m contemplating whether to be single or not. Thank you for your advice 🙏 I’m officially subscribed 💕
This video just shows me that you have the best heart and that you have way more maturity than a lot of people in the world! ❤️ I wish my parents had this mindset during my childhood. Sydney has an amazing role model!
You are the strongest person I have ever seen. In everyof your video I watched, I'm always thinking ''wow... if I could be as strong as this'' I wish you and your daughter all the best. You're amazing!
I just came across your channel and I appreciate you making this video. I'm a single dad with two young daughters and I agree with you about not wanting to put too much out there that may come back to affect are children at a later time. Thanks again, I look forward to watching more of your videos. God bless you and your family.
I commend you so much for this!! I’m almost 32 years old with a 7 month old and another coming in March. I am not a single mom but was raised by my grandparents. My mom to this day, still talks badly about my dad, my grandparents, pretty much anyone that was involved in my life growing up. Her and I have never had a good relationship for multiple reasons but I completely agree it is NEVER okay to talk poorly about a parent or guardian figure or anyone that is important in your child’s life to your child or in front of your child or to anyone else that could potentially talk to your child about it.
I found you from a comment on another video! Single momma here of 2! One with special needs. It’s definitely hard and everyone always ask how I do it and I agree you JUST DO IT. You do it for them. ❤️
Amen girl!! I am 31 and I had my daughter at 22. There was a lot that happened with her "sperm donor" ... sorry but true! He hasn't seen her since she was 2 weeks old. Not my doing...but it happened. I met my husband when she was 4. He was everything I hoped and prayed for. I was so young but I did it. No matter what, I did it...for her. Now married with a 2 year old boy and we couldn't be any happier. Kendyll loves her daddy. A dad has to be there for the child, physically and emotionally. Just like a mother. Great video girl.
Wow looking at y'all looks like none of ye have been in the situation, hence talking trash. There are some irresponsible women, yes. But there are also those who wholeheartedly believe the man they're with will be a good father and it was clear they both know the risks and are in it for the long haul. But sometimes the perception and reality don't match and the actual birth and feeling of responsibility scares the guy. Some leave for good, some come around after a while. I was lucky as mine did and is really a loving dad. But y'all should stop talking smack because nobody is going into a relationship to intentionally end up being a single mum...
Hayley is talking about positivity and you guys are acting the opposite of that. You don’t know what happened. Just crazy how insensitive people can be to someone they don’t even know.. like what?? are you that starved for entertainment?? Read a book.
The stigma of being a single mom. She’s the one there everyday, she kisses all the boo-boos, helps with all the homework, makes all the tough decisions and sacrifices what she needs to do. The dad? He’s too busy on Tinder to see his child. But she’s the one who’s looked down on. She’s the one who made the ‘bad decision’. But abortion? You’re evil! And a murderer! Keep the baby? You better breastfeed! It’s what’s best! But eww don’t do it in public!! Also do it for a year! Also they changed it to two years now! Welfare to help because the dad isn’t around? Get a better job you bum. No better jobs available? Should have stayed with the father. He didn’t stick around? Hmm... still your bad decision. All your fault. The dad’s fine. I’m not a single mom but this is how I see it
This is why I LOVE your channel!! I am expecting my 1st baby in a week and I started watching your breastfeeding and baby update videos. I love that you talk about and rely on God, it truly helps!! Thanks for your positivity!! 😊🤗
You are such a great communicator. You handled the topic topics core factor with true grace. Very inspiring for myself and for a million other woman im sure. God bless you sweetie
This REALLY helped me. My son’s dad and I broke up a few months ago and I’ve been having a hard time dealing with the hurt and anger but this video really helped give me some peace about the whole situation. THANK YOU ❤️ You seem like such a wonderful mom
Maybe it’s because I’m pregnant but this video made me cry, and I’m not even a single mother. This video was so honest and insightful . I have so much respect for a women like you that can respect her daughters father regardless of your relationship w him. You called this video negative but tbh it was encouraging! Thank you 💓
Thank you so much for this video Hayley. I’m a single mama and I had asked you on through Snapchat for advice on being a single mama and I totally agree with you and respect you so much. You’re a huge role model for me and I’m so thankful for you and your videos. 💜
You are so well spoken! I can't tell you how much I respect your perspective and parenting style in letting Sydney make judgments and decisions for herself. You are humble, mature, SO strong, and I can't begin to tell you how much I admire you. I'm home with my son (15 mos!) for the summer and any time I have a difficult moment I always think of you and channel my inner Tres Chic Mama :) Please keep doing what you are doing and don't be discouraged by anyone who thinks they 'deserve' to know more about your life just because you choose to share some of it on social media.
Wow!!! Honestly i wanted to hear details but in the end you’re right it’s no ones business. I needed to hear this. I agree, our kids need create their own opinion. And just focus on giving our kids the best. 💕💕💕love you
Hayley- You are so full of positivity and light. Its refreshing to see watch someone with this type of attitude. Sydney is so blessed to have such an awesome mommy! Love your videos 💕
I love your videos soo much! I love the way you think , i think exactly the same . My baby daddy commited suicide almost 1 year ago. I went through a dark road alot of counselling. Im only 23 years old and alot of people ask me how i do it. I pay everything myself i never rely on anyone and im still not done grieving but, like you said... You just do it! My mom put us through alot of things growing up.. She has BPD and i always said i wouldn't do to my kids what she did to us. ( act all crazy). I could chosen drugs or drinking to numb the pain of loosing my baby daddy ( boyfriend of 4 years) but i decided to stay strong and get help. I had suicidal thougths myself and I knew drugs and drinking wern't the answer. Thats what my baby daddy did and it ended up in him taking his own life. Its amazing the strenght our children give us to get through all of this. My son saved my life , he is the reason if fight my way through life eachday. He never sees me cry i always try to hold it until he is sleeping. I try to stay positive even though it is not easy. When i hear moms complain about their baby daddy... Guhhh.. It gets me soo angry because at least they have one .. My kid doesnt all he knows is mommy and my family. I have to find out a way to explain to him later how his daddy died because i know the day will come. But for now he's little. I have a picture of his daddy in his room on a wall full of stars. We kiss him goodnight each night. I will never ever speak any bad to my child about his father because he was ill and needed help. I promised him to only talk good about him to our son. Im not such a religious person either. But i do believe there is life after death for sure. So i pray alot and it helps me to get through alot. My faith has grew alot since his death. I do thank life everyday though for what i have. My son. My home i can afford by myself even if its an apartment, and small things in life that make me happy. I believe God gave me my son to help me through all of this. 6 months after his daddy passed.. My brother also commited suicide. If Tyler(my son) wern't here lord knows how i would of gotten through this, cause i dont even know. You are right on being our childrens rock. Im the only parent Tyler has and there is no way i will ever let him down. Even if its to hard to handle... I'll always keep pushing and try to be positive and show him the beautiful things in life. Ill be the best mom he could ever ask for ❤ we are strong us momma's. Were all super mamma's ! Sorry for long text 🙊 your honestly my favorite youtube mommy and trust me i watch alot... But your the best 😘
Jesus loves you, your story really touched me. Thank you for sharing you and May God bless you and continue to keep you and your faith continue to grow and be established in Him.
I just have to say.. I admire you SO so much! I absolutely love your positivity and outlook on life and all of these situations in general. I was a single mom for about 4 years so I know exactly what it’s like and how easy it is to turn it into a negative situation if you let it. But now I can say I’m happily engaged with a man that took on a father role with no hesitation and now we have a 7 month of our own... that being said, it all works out :) whatever the outcome may be
Good for you!! Your mindset is so amazing. Sydney is a lucky little girl ❤️ being a mom, I can only imagine how challenging it must be at times to be doing this on your own. I applaud you girl!
Hi Hayley! I just subbed to your channel after watching this vid. Let me tell you....I am 100% with you on this. I am also a single mum since my son was 3 months old (he's now 10 months as of Feb 2019) and I'll be turning 32 in March. He's also a 'wild child' Lol. You're absolutely right, it's nobody's business but yours and the father's and however I feel about my son's dad, I wouldn't ever stop him having a good relationship with my boy or comment negatively to others. I just say it was a bad situation. You're so amazing and strong and I'm so grateful to find you on RUclips! I've been having a hard time but it's good to know I'm not alone and that we can persevere together on this, all of us! :-) x
I 100% agree with your decision not to air things about Sydney's Dad. I split with my husband when my son was 4 months old and it was a very messy situation with lots of hurt on my side. My family were/are so so angry at him and wanted me to tell my son exactly how he treated me when he was old enough but have refused. That was my story...my son sees his Dad and enjoys time with him, although he made his own decision not to sleep over at his house. I think this shows that he loves him but isnt 100% comfortable with him and he made that himself...not because I told him things about his Dad. He is now 9 and he still doesnt know much about my relationship with his Dad. There may come a time when I need to answer questions and I will in an age friendly way as much as I can but I won't emotionally dump on my child to spite my ex (however much I personally dislike him).
Thank you so much for saying, time heals etc. I needed the correct words to say to my Mom. We lost my grandpa back in April; and i never have the right words for her, and what you said... really just touched me. Thank you 💕
just discovered your youtube channel. I love it and I respect it. Very positive, strong and a Christian! I have just started my youtube journey as well and I am inspired by you. Keep been you for your lil one and keep on going, God's got you both! xx
I'm glad that you've chosen to keep certain things private. It's clearly been the best decision for your daughter and your own peace of mind. So my personal story: My mom and sperm donor of a father broke up before I was born and still adored each other. They never spoke negatively about each other, and spoke very positively of one another sometimes. I was incredibly conflicted with my growing hatred toward my abusive deadbeat "father" because of my mom's praise of him. Since he was "such a good man", I wondered if his lack of presence and financial or emotional contribution were fine, or if the punishments were because I must have been the problem. I absolutely agree with not going out of your way to bash their other parent; but I learned that a parent giving unearned praise can cause damage as well. I'm simply a child of a single parent, not a parent myself; so I'm not trying to act like I know better than any of you on how to handle this very delicate situation. To the wonderful single parents out there, I appreciate you ❤
I’m sorry I’m only getting to watch this video now but thank you so much for sharing your story! I’m also a full time single mom and I’m so happy I found another mom whose situation is very similar mine, I don’t feel so alone anymore so thank you!!❤️ currently snuggling with my almost 3 year old daughter and loving moments like this 🥰
Hi! I'm also a single mom. Congrats on how you manage your energy levels! My baby is 5 months now and my husband had a double life for like 2 years with another woman. Every single day I try to be grateful for those little things you mention as well. It's very difficult but you have to stay positive for your baby as you say. I've lived more than 10 years abroad with my husband and now back in my country I feel like I'm a stranger but without my family support I cannot deal right now so that's why I'm back in my home country.
I really look up to you Hailey, even though we're the same age. My baby is 9 months old, been following you since I was pregnant. My relationship is in a very a rocky place right now. And I've been so angry and frustrated. But seeing how you handle your difficulties with such grace has made me sober up a little. Everything will be ok.
I totally agree. You should never talk badly about someone in front of children when it could taint them or affect them badly. My son is my world and I try my hardest to provide everything for him! We just live life as much as we can and that's all we can do.
I got prego at 17 and was a single mom for four years. Its scary and hard but I never felt stronger and more proud of myself that I was able to provide for us. Now Im married for 8years and have three more! Life happens how it should. Just give it time for u to see what God has planned
Thank you so much for this video.. my son is 3 and a half weeks old and his father and I were separated since before we found out we were pregnant at 7 weeks. Only after I had our son, I started to have feelings for him again, something I swore to everyone and myself would never happen. And I'm just trying to figure out if it's the postpartum hormones & yearning for my son to have what I never did family wise, or if I'm actually falling for this guy again. He's such a good dad and a good man at heart. So I thank God everyday for him and our bundle of blessings. Thank you for the upload ! God bless you and your beautiful daughter ❤ wishing you and your family the very best in life
Yesss Thank you!!! I dont agree with parents who talk bad about the other parent infront of their kids or on social media or anywhere love this video we need more positivity
I get why people are curious about the situation but I’m so glad you aren’t talking about it more than what you said. Sydney is all that matters. If the situation isn’t good right now I pray it gets better. If it’s good I pray it stays that way. Much love and respect for you, your channel, and your honesty.
I have so much respect for you! Your positivity and outlook on life and how you’re handling everything for Sydney is refreshing to hear, esp bc there is so much oversharing and immaturity and drama out there! Your doing an amazing job with RUclips and with Sydney. Keep it up mama!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 you are smart, wise and strong mother!! You give such a strong positivity to others. Just listening to you makes me live positive every moment and appreciate for whatever I am in. I am not a single mom or mother at all. But I cheer every single mothers out there! You guys deserve platinum medals!! Cheers!!!
I’m a 26 year old single mom since my son was 9 months old and he’s 2 years now. I live by not talking bad or about his father he will know who he is when he gets to that age. And he will make his own opinions on him. I even tell my mom not to bring up his name or say anything rude about him. But seriously props on being a single mom. It’s not easy but it does get better in the long run !
I love that you drew the line in how much you would share! Yes folks put themselves out there in RUclips but that doesn’t entitle viewers to know everything! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
You get it women 💪🏼No pain meds your a true hero to women everywhere your videos are so helpful I don’t have a baby but, love watching you and Sydney I was raised. Y single mom too please never stop making videos!!’🙏🏼
Wow! I am in this exact situation but with a 5 year old and a 1 year old. Despite my difficult relationship with their father I have never ever talked bad about him infront of them. The complete opposite, I try to teach them to love and respect him. If we love our children we shouldn't hurt them by destroying the image of their parent. Good job!
You are so inspirational.. I am 4 months pregnant and while I am married, I am still scared for how I'm going to be a good mom.. Watching you and your confidence and your will to do the best you can on your own inspires me.. Thanks for being you - I've been around since the beauty days before you had this channel and I always loved your spirit!
I couldn’t agree with you more! Coming from a split home myself and having gone through a parent talking poorly about the other, it really wasn’t good for my sister or I and in the end it backfired on the parent that was being bitter. You are doing such a good job as a single momma! Keep it up!
I agree and relate to so much that you are saying! Thank you for sharing this video! Being a single mom is hard but like you said God gives these situations to those who can handle it
I've been a single Mom for almost 13 years and I totally agree about not talking bad about the Father no matter what. Honestly I have in the past and it always makes you look worse than what you say. I had to be the bigger person and stay positive. Your an amazing Mom!
So true... when you talk badly about other people... it doesn't make them look bad, it makes you look bad! And it makes you feel bad, too. I needed to read this!
Also i am a stay at home mom of 2, and its HARD, BUT wouldnt have it any other way, subcribing to you because i FULLY support the stay ar home mom and how beneficial it will be for Sydney! ❤❤
Thank you for this video! I’m not a single mom but the beginning of the video talking about just dealing with mom life one day at a time and the bad will end helped me so much. June 19th my first baby was born and she’s premature and is in the NICU. It’s killing me wanting to get her home especially since I’m struggling with postpartum depression and this made me feel so much better!
Honestly thank you my boyfriend and I are young parents. My daughter just turned a year. And well he is always working so I can be a stay at home mom, it is rough! I try to be positive and just loving and the best I can be even when I am so young and still learning myself. Hearing how you stay positive is inspiring! Keep making videos you will only gain as you go😘❤️
Honestly I did say things about my kids dad. But more of advice/just needed someone to talk to. Then the relization of "things will never get better" I filed for divorce. I have learned allot in the past three months. Self love. Self care. Self respect.
I know this is not a new video but good for you for keeping quiet! Im just happy she gets to see her dad. I think that's the most important thing is her dad is still in the pic and he's still a good guy for her at least! You go! I'm sure it was hard on you and her!
Thank you for opening up to us, I know it’s not easy! You are doing a great job and are an inspiration to many mamas out there. Also random thought but your videos make me want to live on the east coast!
I admire what you did here. I want you to know that I got to know my dad when I was an adult and it’s awesome that you’re going to let Sydney form her own opinions about her dad. That’s what I did. She will make up her own mind. Very mature of you and (I think) it will be a great learning experience for her - speaking from experience there. I’m also a very private person and also try to be very positive. People seem to be extremely interested in others who choose to keep private life just that. I think it’s a hard concept for some people. I’ll continue to watch, keep on going!
Wow, I respect that you want to keep it private. I was hoping for a reason why y'all split up but this made me realize that whatever the reason is won't change what I think of you and your life story. I actually respect you more for not "spilling the tea" and creating drama!
NeyFam Vlogs Thank you so much! I appreciate that you are honest with me & was hoping for the “reason” and why things aren’t “normal.” I too would feel the same of someone I followed on RUclips! We are only human and are naturally curious. Thank you so much for your respect and understanding ❤️❤️❤️
Love this video, love how you said every day be great full for something also praying everyday too. I pray everyday and I feel like it gives me a peace of mind. Love your message about staying positive.
As someone who was a single mom, I applaud you for not talking bad about the father of your child...regardless of what you think of him, he’s her father and she can make her decision about him when she gets old enough....
Erica Sigley this is exactly how I feel about my child. It’s her choice.
@Smart Play i have 3 kids dat my asshole husband deserted...do u do forgiving meditation to help u keep happy
My mom always talked poorly about my dad. I’m 32 years old and she still says negative things about him. It makes me uncomfortable. You’re awesome and I applaud you.
Mindy Bolduc same. And my dad is an amazing person. It's really hurt my relationship with my mom.
We got a same type of mom. everytime she complains I feel so angry and annoyed.
My mom and dad always curse each other out but they work really good together as parents so when the other is talking about the other I just change the subject
I love your channel, not because you’re a single mom,but because you’re more real. A lot of RUclips moms are super wealthy and a lot harder to relate to. Not that I’m not happy for them and I still watch them,but I like you better lol
I get you,it's hard to relate
"You just do it". Girl, I live by that.
I admire the fact that you refrain from talking bad about Sydney’s father in front of her. My father has made a lot of bad decisions and has never been in my life. I’m so thankful that my mother chose to never bash him in front of me. His absence from my life spoke for itself. I never needed anyone to make that worse and rub it in. Single Moms are so unbelievably strong! I’m proud of you for being so strong and level-headed for Sydney.
Your advice is amazing! My first sons dad has never been there since i was 4 months pregnant. Hes 8 now and as he got older i found myself lost about to explain things to him. I never wanted to tell my son that his dad was a pile of crap so i never said anything. I did go to a counselor when he was in kinder for some behavior stuff he was dealing with and that came up. Helped me a ton to find the right words and way to say it! By that time i was seeing someone else and had been for 2 years but i chose to let him decide when or if he wanted to call him dad. It all came together but it all takes time! My now husband adopted him in April. Being a single mom is so hard to balance life, work and time with your baby/child. Takes a lot of prayer!!
Yolanda Brown You are such a strong mama!!! I’m so glad you are in a better place in life ❤️
Thank you! It took a lot of time to heal and figure out things. Its hard to be patient with things like that. Gpod luck mama
I’ve been on my own since my pregnancy. I don’t talk about my son’s dad because I don’t know what to say - he’s almost 5 now. It bothers me a lot when strangers ask him where his dad is - people are so rude!!!! He usually says my dad lives in another city. Which is basically all he knows. We talk about our Heavenly Father. Idk I keep holding onto hope that someone will come to love my son because it’s so unfair. He’s so loving and sweet and deserves so much
I’m not a single mom. But I’m a stay at home mom and my husband works very long days 12+ hours and this video really helped me with how I was feeling about the harder days with a newborn. Love your channel❤️
Life as Mommy Being at home with the kiddos is absolutely exhausting! Amazing & the best job on earth but damn it’s a lot sometimes! 😘
Same, husband comes mostly once a week he travels a lot for work. So I feel like a single mom it’s definitely hard ! Respect is everything ! Thank you for being humble and being true to yourself @treschicmama
I am not kidding this just made me love your channel a million times more. My parents were in a terrible divorce and the hands down worst thing from my perspective of being a child was when other people (or my other parent) would talk bad about my mom or dad. I agree fake happiness as much as you can when it comes to your kids. ❤️❤️❤️you’re an amazing mom!!
I'm a single mom and I definitely understand... Us single mothers got this
😭 I needed this, your are so motivational. I’m in the place where you were. There’s nothing worse in my opinion than to not know if your life will be okay in the end.
This inspired me. I’m in a bad relationship, and also 6 months pregnant. I’m thinking of being a single mom but it’s hard when I’m having troubles finding a job and in school full time online. You really do make me feel like if I need to do that for myself I can and I WILL figure it out. God always makes a way, and he doesn’t put you through things for no reason. Wish you luck . God bless
Im 36 weeks and freaking out of beeing single .... some days are better but I was feeling depressed today and thank you for this video 🤕💁🏻😊
New Momma here who was raised by a single mom. You’re a freaking rockstar girl! I love your channel and you helped me through my pregnancy a lot. Just wanted to thank you for your channel and give you major props for being such an amazing Momma! Single moms are heroes and your little girl is going to appreciate all of this and you even more than ever.
I became a single mom in January when my husband left me for another woman when my son was 2 and daughter was 3 months old. I just started seeking out other single moms because I really need the support on how to do this. My kids dad gets them one or two nights a week now, but I hate it because he lives with the woman he left me for and it feels like a slap in the face that my kids stay with the woman who helped ruin my marriage.
Just subscribed 🙌🏽 love love the msgs in this video. Can relate so much. I’m a single mum too, my daughter is 2.5 and her father has never met her - despite me trying to facilitate some sort of relationship. He has since had other children. It took a long time for me to heal but prayer and positivity helped me through the dark days. Thank you for sharing your story.
This video was heaven sent. I’m 9 weeks pregnant with my first child and I’m contemplating whether to be single or not. Thank you for your advice 🙏 I’m officially subscribed 💕
This video just shows me that you have the best heart and that you have way more maturity than a lot of people in the world! ❤️ I wish my parents had this mindset during my childhood. Sydney has an amazing role model!
AMAZING ADVICE!!!! Really great video. God bless you and Sydney. You are an awesome mother to that baby girl ❤️
It is so refreshing to hear that there are still civil parents like you out there. Kudos to you, seriously!
You are the strongest person I have ever seen. In everyof your video I watched, I'm always thinking ''wow... if I could be as strong as this'' I wish you and your daughter all the best. You're amazing!
I just came across your channel and I appreciate you making this video. I'm a single dad with two young daughters and I agree with you about not wanting to put too much out there that may come back to affect are children at a later time. Thanks again, I look forward to watching more of your videos. God bless you and your family.
I commend you so much for this!! I’m almost 32 years old with a 7 month old and another coming in March. I am not a single mom but was raised by my grandparents. My mom to this day, still talks badly about my dad, my grandparents, pretty much anyone that was involved in my life growing up. Her and I have never had a good relationship for multiple reasons but I completely agree it is NEVER okay to talk poorly about a parent or guardian figure or anyone that is important in your child’s life to your child or in front of your child or to anyone else that could potentially talk to your child about it.
I found you from a comment on another video! Single momma here of 2! One with special needs. It’s definitely hard and everyone always ask how I do it and I agree you JUST DO IT. You do it for them. ❤️
Amen girl!! I am 31 and I had my daughter at 22. There was a lot that happened with her "sperm donor" ... sorry but true! He hasn't seen her since she was 2 weeks old. Not my doing...but it happened. I met my husband when she was 4. He was everything I hoped and prayed for. I was so young but I did it. No matter what, I did it...for her. Now married with a 2 year old boy and we couldn't be any happier. Kendyll loves her daddy. A dad has to be there for the child, physically and emotionally. Just like a mother. Great video girl.
What kind of a simp he is?.
Wow looking at y'all looks like none of ye have been in the situation, hence talking trash. There are some irresponsible women, yes. But there are also those who wholeheartedly believe the man they're with will be a good father and it was clear they both know the risks and are in it for the long haul. But sometimes the perception and reality don't match and the actual birth and feeling of responsibility scares the guy. Some leave for good, some come around after a while. I was lucky as mine did and is really a loving dad. But y'all should stop talking smack because nobody is going into a relationship to intentionally end up being a single mum...
Hayley is talking about positivity and you guys are acting the opposite of that. You don’t know what happened. Just crazy how insensitive people can be to someone they don’t even know.. like what?? are you that starved for entertainment?? Read a book.
The stigma of being a single mom. She’s the one there everyday, she kisses all the boo-boos, helps with all the homework, makes all the tough decisions and sacrifices what she needs to do. The dad? He’s too busy on Tinder to see his child. But she’s the one who’s looked down on. She’s the one who made the ‘bad decision’. But abortion? You’re evil! And a murderer! Keep the baby? You better breastfeed! It’s what’s best! But eww don’t do it in public!! Also do it for a year! Also they changed it to two years now! Welfare to help because the dad isn’t around? Get a better job you bum. No better jobs available? Should have stayed with the father. He didn’t stick around? Hmm... still your bad decision. All your fault. The dad’s fine.
I’m not a single mom but this is how I see it
We no longer accept angry deadbeats in our lives 💃🥰 I’m a happily single mom as well 👏
Single mom as well! You are doing great momma!
This is why I LOVE your channel!! I am expecting my 1st baby in a week and I started watching your breastfeeding and baby update videos. I love that you talk about and rely on God, it truly helps!! Thanks for your positivity!! 😊🤗
You are such a great communicator. You handled the topic topics core factor with true grace. Very inspiring for myself and for a million other woman im sure. God bless you sweetie
This REALLY helped me. My son’s dad and I broke up a few months ago and I’ve been having a hard time dealing with the hurt and anger but this video really helped give me some peace about the whole situation. THANK YOU ❤️ You seem like such a wonderful mom
Maybe it’s because I’m pregnant but this video made me cry, and I’m not even a single mother. This video was so honest and insightful . I have so much respect for a women like you that can respect her daughters father regardless of your relationship w him. You called this video negative but tbh it was encouraging! Thank you 💓
Thank you so much for this video Hayley. I’m a single mama and I had asked you on through Snapchat for advice on being a single mama and I totally agree with you and respect you so much. You’re a huge role model for me and I’m so thankful for you and your videos. 💜
You are so well spoken! I can't tell you how much I respect your perspective and parenting style in letting Sydney make judgments and decisions for herself. You are humble, mature, SO strong, and I can't begin to tell you how much I admire you. I'm home with my son (15 mos!) for the summer and any time I have a difficult moment I always think of you and channel my inner Tres Chic Mama :) Please keep doing what you are doing and don't be discouraged by anyone who thinks they 'deserve' to know more about your life just because you choose to share some of it on social media.
You are beyond amazing, not only as a mom but as a person. You’re so mature and smart. I wish there were more people like you.
Susan K Awww thank you!!! I certainly am human & it took me a lot of time & life to become who I am today ❤️
Wow!!! Honestly i wanted to hear details but in the end you’re right it’s no ones business. I needed to hear this. I agree, our kids need create their own opinion. And just focus on giving our kids the best. 💕💕💕love you
Hayley- You are so full of positivity and light. Its refreshing to see watch someone with this type of attitude. Sydney is so blessed to have such an awesome mommy! Love your videos 💕
I love your videos soo much! I love the way you think , i think exactly the same . My baby daddy commited suicide almost 1 year ago. I went through a dark road alot of counselling. Im only 23 years old and alot of people ask me how i do it. I pay everything myself i never rely on anyone and im still not done grieving but, like you said... You just do it! My mom put us through alot of things growing up.. She has BPD and i always said i wouldn't do to my kids what she did to us. ( act all crazy). I could chosen drugs or drinking to numb the pain of loosing my baby daddy ( boyfriend of 4 years) but i decided to stay strong and get help. I had suicidal thougths myself and I knew drugs and drinking wern't the answer. Thats what my baby daddy did and it ended up in him taking his own life. Its amazing the strenght our children give us to get through all of this. My son saved my life , he is the reason if fight my way through life eachday. He never sees me cry i always try to hold it until he is sleeping. I try to stay positive even though it is not easy. When i hear moms complain about their baby daddy... Guhhh.. It gets me soo angry because at least they have one .. My kid doesnt all he knows is mommy and my family. I have to find out a way to explain to him later how his daddy died because i know the day will come. But for now he's little. I have a picture of his daddy in his room on a wall full of stars. We kiss him goodnight each night. I will never ever speak any bad to my child about his father because he was ill and needed help. I promised him to only talk good about him to our son. Im not such a religious person either. But i do believe there is life after death for sure. So i pray alot and it helps me to get through alot. My faith has grew alot since his death. I do thank life everyday though for what i have. My son. My home i can afford by myself even if its an apartment, and small things in life that make me happy. I believe God gave me my son to help me through all of this. 6 months after his daddy passed.. My brother also commited suicide. If Tyler(my son) wern't here lord knows how i would of gotten through this, cause i dont even know. You are right on being our childrens rock. Im the only parent Tyler has and there is no way i will ever let him down. Even if its to hard to handle... I'll always keep pushing and try to be positive and show him the beautiful things in life. Ill be the best mom he could ever ask for ❤ we are strong us momma's. Were all super mamma's ! Sorry for long text 🙊 your honestly my favorite youtube mommy and trust me i watch alot... But your the best 😘
Jesus loves you, your story really touched me. Thank you for sharing you and May God bless you and continue to keep you and your faith continue to grow and be established in Him.
I just have to say.. I admire you SO so much! I absolutely love your positivity and outlook on life and all of these situations in general. I was a single mom for about 4 years so I know exactly what it’s like and how easy it is to turn it into a negative situation if you let it. But now I can say I’m happily engaged with a man that took on a father role with no hesitation and now we have a 7 month of our own... that being said, it all works out :) whatever the outcome may be
Was your husband a single father?
Good for you!! Your mindset is so amazing. Sydney is a lucky little girl ❤️ being a mom, I can only imagine how challenging it must be at times to be doing this on your own. I applaud you girl!
i love the positivity!!! coming from a preggo lady who"s single ever since!
Hi Hayley! I just subbed to your channel after watching this vid. Let me tell you....I am 100% with you on this. I am also a single mum since my son was 3 months old (he's now 10 months as of Feb 2019) and I'll be turning 32 in March. He's also a 'wild child' Lol. You're absolutely right, it's nobody's business but yours and the father's and however I feel about my son's dad, I wouldn't ever stop him having a good relationship with my boy or comment negatively to others. I just say it was a bad situation. You're so amazing and strong and I'm so grateful to find you on RUclips! I've been having a hard time but it's good to know I'm not alone and that we can persevere together on this, all of us! :-) x
Yes! What you put out in the universe is what you get back!! So so so true!
I 100% agree with your decision not to air things about Sydney's Dad. I split with my husband when my son was 4 months old and it was a very messy situation with lots of hurt on my side. My family were/are so so angry at him and wanted me to tell my son exactly how he treated me when he was old enough but have refused. That was my story...my son sees his Dad and enjoys time with him, although he made his own decision not to sleep over at his house. I think this shows that he loves him but isnt 100% comfortable with him and he made that himself...not because I told him things about his Dad. He is now 9 and he still doesnt know much about my relationship with his Dad. There may come a time when I need to answer questions and I will in an age friendly way as much as I can but I won't emotionally dump on my child to spite my ex (however much I personally dislike him).
Thank you so much for saying, time heals etc. I needed the correct words to say to my Mom. We lost my grandpa back in April; and i never have the right words for her, and what you said... really just touched me. Thank you 💕
just discovered your youtube channel. I love it and I respect it. Very positive, strong and a Christian! I have just started my youtube journey as well and I am inspired by you. Keep been you for your lil one and keep on going, God's got you both! xx
I'm glad that you've chosen to keep certain things private. It's clearly been the best decision for your daughter and your own peace of mind.
So my personal story: My mom and sperm donor of a father broke up before I was born and still adored each other. They never spoke negatively about each other, and spoke very positively of one another sometimes.
I was incredibly conflicted with my growing hatred toward my abusive deadbeat "father" because of my mom's praise of him. Since he was "such a good man", I wondered if his lack of presence and financial or emotional contribution were fine, or if the punishments were because I must have been the problem.
I absolutely agree with not going out of your way to bash their other parent; but I learned that a parent giving unearned praise can cause damage as well. I'm simply a child of a single parent, not a parent myself; so I'm not trying to act like I know better than any of you on how to handle this very delicate situation.
To the wonderful single parents out there, I appreciate you ❤
I’m sorry I’m only getting to watch this video now but thank you so much for sharing your story! I’m also a full time single mom and I’m so happy I found another mom whose situation is very similar mine, I don’t feel so alone anymore so thank you!!❤️ currently snuggling with my almost 3 year old daughter and loving moments like this 🥰
Hi! I'm also a single mom. Congrats on how you manage your energy levels! My baby is 5 months now and my husband had a double life for like 2 years with another woman. Every single day I try to be grateful for those little things you mention as well. It's very difficult but you have to stay positive for your baby as you say. I've lived more than 10 years abroad with my husband and now back in my country I feel like I'm a stranger but without my family support I cannot deal right now so that's why I'm back in my home country.
You are a great mama. We moms with complicated situations need to unite and support each other. You are truly a rockstar boss mom.
I think you handled this beautifully! And I love your advice to pray for the other person I’ve been working on that myself lately 💕
shaelurr Thank you!!
I really look up to you Hailey, even though we're the same age. My baby is 9 months old, been following you since I was pregnant. My relationship is in a very a rocky place right now. And I've been so angry and frustrated. But seeing how you handle your difficulties with such grace has made me sober up a little. Everything will be ok.
I totally agree. You should never talk badly about someone in front of children when it could taint them or affect them badly. My son is my world and I try my hardest to provide everything for him! We just live life as much as we can and that's all we can do.
I got prego at 17 and was a single mom for four years. Its scary and hard but I never felt stronger and more proud of myself that I was able to provide for us. Now Im married for 8years and have three more! Life happens how it should. Just give it time for u to see what God has planned
Your husband has the classic smile of a simp.
@@babyboy8597 I was thinking the same. She's posting her Simp success story lmao
Single mom here ( 2, 5 & 6 years old) supporting another single mom, I subscribed. You go mama! Look forward to your future videos.
Thank you so much for this video.. my son is 3 and a half weeks old and his father and I were separated since before we found out we were pregnant at 7 weeks. Only after I had our son, I started to have feelings for him again, something I swore to everyone and myself would never happen. And I'm just trying to figure out if it's the postpartum hormones & yearning for my son to have what I never did family wise, or if I'm actually falling for this guy again. He's such a good dad and a good man at heart. So I thank God everyday for him and our bundle of blessings. Thank you for the upload ! God bless you and your beautiful daughter ❤ wishing you and your family the very best in life
This video wasn’t a downer! You’re an incredibly positive person and inspirational as well. Thank you for sharing.
Yesss Thank you!!! I dont agree with parents who talk bad about the other parent infront of their kids or on social media or anywhere love this video we need more positivity
I get why people are curious about the situation but I’m so glad you aren’t talking about it more than what you said. Sydney is all that matters. If the situation isn’t good right now I pray it gets better. If it’s good I pray it stays that way. Much love and respect for you, your channel, and your honesty.
I have so much respect for you! Your positivity and outlook on life and how you’re handling everything for Sydney is refreshing to hear, esp bc there is so much oversharing and immaturity and drama out there! Your doing an amazing job with RUclips and with Sydney. Keep it up mama!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 you are smart, wise and strong mother!! You give such a strong positivity to others. Just listening to you makes me live positive every moment and appreciate for whatever I am in. I am not a single mom or mother at all. But I cheer every single mothers out there! You guys deserve platinum medals!! Cheers!!!
I’m a 26 year old single mom since my son was 9 months old and he’s 2 years now. I live by not talking bad or about his father he will know who he is when he gets to that age. And he will make his own opinions on him. I even tell my mom not to bring up his name or say anything rude about him. But seriously props on being a single mom. It’s not easy but it does get better in the long run !
I love that you drew the line in how much you would share! Yes folks put themselves out there in RUclips but that doesn’t entitle viewers to know everything! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
You get it women 💪🏼No pain meds your a true hero to women everywhere your videos are so helpful I don’t have a baby but, love watching you and Sydney I was raised. Y single mom too please never stop making videos!!’🙏🏼
Wow! I am in this exact situation but with a 5 year old and a 1 year old. Despite my difficult relationship with their father I have never ever talked bad about him infront of them. The complete opposite, I try to teach them to love and respect him. If we love our children we shouldn't hurt them by destroying the image of their parent. Good job!
So much respect for you Hayley!!! You are doing a great job. Sydney is one lucky girl to have you!
UticaNIA Thank you so much!!!
You are so inspirational.. I am 4 months pregnant and while I am married, I am still scared for how I'm going to be a good mom.. Watching you and your confidence and your will to do the best you can on your own inspires me.. Thanks for being you - I've been around since the beauty days before you had this channel and I always loved your spirit!
I couldn’t agree with you more! Coming from a split home myself and having gone through a parent talking poorly about the other, it really wasn’t good for my sister or I and in the end it backfired on the parent that was being bitter. You are doing such a good job as a single momma! Keep it up!
I agree and relate to so much that you are saying! Thank you for sharing this video! Being a single mom is hard but like you said God gives these situations to those who can handle it
Thank you for sharing! You know I feel like now after you put all this encouragement out there even better things are going to happen!
I've been a single Mom for almost 13 years and I totally agree about not talking bad about the Father no matter what. Honestly I have in the past and it always makes you look worse than what you say. I had to be the bigger person and stay positive. Your an amazing Mom!
So true... when you talk badly about other people... it doesn't make them look bad, it makes you look bad! And it makes you feel bad, too. I needed to read this!
Thanks girl! It took me some time to figure this out but by 35 I finally did lol
Layla Hudson I’m certainly guilty as well. We can only learn from our past ❤️😘
I just feel so bad for you. I'm not a mom but I can't imagine doing it alone. You seem like a good person who deserves someone great.
Michele Rees Don’t feel bad for me!! I’m happy & have faith that everything will turn out to be amazing ❤️
Better alone than dragging an angry deadbeat around
You do an amazing job raising your beautiful little girl. My hats off to you gorgeous. It’s not easy being a single parent
Also i am a stay at home mom of 2, and its HARD, BUT wouldnt have it any other way, subcribing to you because i FULLY support the stay ar home mom and how beneficial it will be for Sydney! ❤❤
Thank you for this video! I’m not a single mom but the beginning of the video talking about just dealing with mom life one day at a time and the bad will end helped me so much. June 19th my first baby was born and she’s premature and is in the NICU. It’s killing me wanting to get her home especially since I’m struggling with postpartum depression and this made me feel so much better!
I am praying for you and your sweet baby!!! Things will get better love!! Stay as positive as you can in these tough tough days!! You are so strong!
Honestly thank you my boyfriend and I are young parents. My daughter just turned a year. And well he is always working so I can be a stay at home mom, it is rough! I try to be positive and just loving and the best I can be even when I am so young and still learning myself. Hearing how you stay positive is inspiring! Keep making videos you will only gain as you go😘❤️
22 weeks pregnant with twins and I'm preparing for the single mom life... Really needed to hear this. 😎✌️
Awww you will do just great!! It's so scary and I can't imagine having twins, but just know that you will rock it!!!! xoxo
Child support.get it
Hey Kristen, how is your situation now? How are you coping? Wishing you all the best.
I like u I m alone ❤❤🌷🌷
I like u I m alone ❤❤🌷🌷
Great advice. Very mature of you to not talk bad about sydney's father. You're a rockin single parent ♡ totally respect your need for privacy
I've had an awful day and really needed to watch this. I don't have any children but still love watching your videos. Thank you so much Hayley.
im a first time single mom. Been raising a beautiful 5 month old son. you gave me hope
Honestly I did say things about my kids dad. But more of advice/just needed someone to talk to.
Then the relization of "things will never get better" I filed for divorce. I have learned allot in the past three months. Self love. Self care. Self respect.
You're such an inspiration for me as well❤️❤️ I started watching your videos today and I can't stop..
You are a beautiful Mama, very wise words. Thank you for sharing your insight 💕
I know this is not a new video but good for you for keeping quiet! Im just happy she gets to see her dad. I think that's the most important thing is her dad is still in the pic and he's still a good guy for her at least! You go! I'm sure it was hard on you and her!
Thank you for reminding that positivity will come back to me. I needed to hear that.
I'm so happy I found you. I'm a single mom too and I agree with every single word you said in this video. Thank you for sharing! ♥
Thank you for opening up to us, I know it’s not easy! You are doing a great job and are an inspiration to many mamas out there. Also random thought but your videos make me want to live on the east coast!
I admire what you did here. I want you to know that I got to know my dad when I was an adult and it’s awesome that you’re going to let Sydney form her own opinions about her dad. That’s what I did. She will make up her own mind. Very mature of you and (I think) it will be a great learning experience for her - speaking from experience there. I’m also a very private person and also try to be very positive. People seem to be extremely interested in others who choose to keep private life just that. I think it’s a hard concept for some people. I’ll continue to watch, keep on going!
I was your 1K like because I’m a single mom too and you’re awesome. Her hat is so cute!!! Good luck and best wishes.
This video is everything to me right now I really really love your personality is insane 😮😮😮😮 I love how genuine and authentic you are ❤👌
So much respect for you ❤ I pray that you will get your big family one day. You are an amazing mother and Sidney will appreciate this in the future!
Well said! I love your perspective on life and doing what you have to do for you, your daughter and your family!
You are such an incredible mama! I admire you so much. Keep pushing and keep praying 🙏🏼❤️ Sydney is so lucky ✨ Your positivity radiates!!
i needed this. thank you thank you thank you
Youve got a new subscriber here! So much damn respect for you and your morals. Good outlook!
I’m a teen mom and I really do love to watch your videos you are a great mom and I really enjoying watching!
You're doing amazing!!! You're advice is amazing too! Keep being a boss mom, and a great role model to all of the young women who look up to you. ❤
I like positive person and I like you. Thanks for spreading positive power to everybody, thanks for that.
I just found your channel ! What a beautiful page ! Thank you so much for helping others 💖💖
Wow, I respect that you want to keep it private. I was hoping for a reason why y'all split up but this made me realize that whatever the reason is won't change what I think of you and your life story. I actually respect you more for not "spilling the tea" and creating drama!
NeyFam Vlogs Thank you so much! I appreciate that you are honest with me & was hoping for the “reason” and why things aren’t “normal.” I too would feel the same of someone I followed on RUclips! We are only human and are naturally curious. Thank you so much for your respect and understanding ❤️❤️❤️
Love this video, love how you said every day be great full for something also praying everyday too. I pray everyday and I feel like it gives me a peace of mind. Love your message about staying positive.
I love your videos... im 37 weeks and single... i relate a whole lot to your experience... new subbie here.