In my early 20s I had lots of friends because I made it a priority to be well-liked by everyone, even if it meant changing certain aspects about myself in order to fit in with some groups. Those friends ultimately faded away with the exception of one true friend who liked me for the person I genuinely am.
You are literally an art piece… like the way you film your videos and have everything put together is visually fabulous… that on top of how introspective and committed you are to self-betterment is just awesome. Anyone who does not want to be your friend is the one missing out…
I've grown apart from almost all my friends this year. I tried starting a business in 2024 and failed, and now I’m stuck with no clear direction. But I’d still rather face this uncertainty than go back to the old routines we used to share-those were even more unfulfilling.
Reading through the comments is really interesting. Theres like a lot of different opinions on this topic. I have enjoyed watching your channel over the year. I think it would be interesting to see you do a live conversation with your viewerships about the topic in general. Because friendship might be one of the vaguest topics of what it is, what it means to be a good friend, are they about being functional or about love, how many is enough. What do we owe to others etc. I find your conclusion about your struggle with finding friends is because you have more drive, and ambition and want more out of life for yourself than most people a little off putting. I believe that most people have drive and want a lot out of life and have dreams and passions. Your not in there head, you don't go home with them and see what they are grinding on. Their self improvement and ambition might just look different to you or someone hasn't paid attention or poured into them to light that spark of drive. Or their self improvement is improving their soul by connecting and helping others and caring less about themselves. And i think you made some good points in the video and i think maybe you not having a lot of people who are like minded and compatible and functional and fit into the lifestyle you want to live was part of the issue. But thats not the only reason you struggled to make friends. From your other videos it just seems your comfortable with being alone with your wife and yourself. Which is totally fine as well. Anyway I appreciate your videos they are thought provoking. Happy New Years!
I feel you man. New year's eve tommorow. My third year in a row where I'm alone. It was so easier back in the day to be a part of a group, get invited, and get "yes" as a response when you invited someone. (I'm 30 now)
@@JoshHitti Not really. I used to get invited places, or we planned something together. I don't wanna invite myself over to other people's places. I feel unwanted. Some of my closest friends have moved far away, so they're out of the question. I'm goin to visit my sick mom and make some dinner for her. After that I'm going home and getting drunk. Maybe watch some fireworks.
The best thing about the new year is it gives you the motivation and boost to make positive changes. Seeing all your videos, you have come so far from when you first started this RUclips series. Looking forward to seeing even more progress from you as it also motivates me. I had a good two year friendship go south because of money owed to me. However, there are other relationships out there that I’m reaching out to, thank you for putting yourself out there have an amazing new year Josh!!! 💪❤
Josh, I always enjoy hearing your thoughts, and I think you're onto something. I've definitely seen the circle of people I want to hang out with shrink, and that's okay. It's also a great observation that the people you want to be with are folks who are as busy as you. I've always got a lot going on, too, and so the first attempt to get together doesn't always work out. (I have also let some old friendships weaken, sometimes because of their behaviors that trouble me, but that's another subject.) For several years, I have posted some goals on my blog, and then at the end of the year, I report on my progress. These are mostly career goals related to my writing. For this year, my big goal was something that was already done in terms of my input, but my latest novel came out in February, and the rest of the year I've been doing things to promote it. I had some secondary goals, almost none of which I accomplished! I'm not beating myself up about that. I'm working on a new book, so the goal for this year is to get close to finishing the first draft of that book. Anything else writing-wise will be gravy. I've got some personal goals, too, but I'll keep those to myself. They're of the "just do the thing" variety. Happy New Year to you and Emily. I hope you have a great 2025! Cliff
I feel you. I don't know where I would be if I were not in church and was constantly exposed to people every Saturday when I go to church. I wish you the best in your relationships!
Thank you for the video Josh ! Well said. You are in no way a narcissist , but people will have there opinions. happy New Year to you & Emily ! Love from canada
Happy new year's eve tomorrow! I've been an outcast all my life. I never fit in but I truly believe in friendship and I'd like to have friends that believe in my projects and goals
You will join a group either locally or online or both of people interested in the same . Such as a hobby . I've made connections on Instagram that way .
I really needed to hear this right now, thanks for sharing. I can totally relate to feeling different from most people and wanting more for myself, so it makes sense why making adult friends feels impossible. I like the idea that it's a superpower and something to be embraced because I'd sure like some friends to evolve with on this journey! I haven't travelled in 5 years now (probably been holding myself back) so TRAVEL is my big goal to commit to in the new year. It's always been the best confidence booster to nourish my soul ☺
Greetings! I loved the insight of what you stated here. In relation to you, I too aspire to do more and to find those kinds of friends in my adult life is freaking difficult, but I’d rather those who, like you can feed off of in terms of pushing for better always than remaining stagnant in old ways. Congrats on your new home. Happy New Year to you and your wife.
Thanks for the new video. And appreciate you sharing your personal thoughts on how you’re progressing on your personal journey with friends and work and all your relationships. Thanks and Happy 2025🎉❤
I've reconised that no amount of growth I do can be reflected in those who don't grow. I've worked hard on growing my life, social, conversational skills, but as I get older I see most people haven't worked on social skills EVER, and the rest were able to adapt to successful surface level interaction. I agree, I need a bit more, I'm too aware that I'm going to die someday and recognise like everyone else that it's our relationships that matter most. Screw the doom though, let's keep trying. The right people are in our area right now, just insanely difficult to find.
I often feel these things... but when I meditate for 20 minutes first thing in the morning, I feel pretty happy to engage in time with myself. Feeling like you need friends and experiencing loneliness is mostly about the relationship you have with yourself and being uncomfortable alone. Do you ever truly give yourself time to stop and just embrace and even try to enjoy just being with yourself? I don't know you but I would bet you are constantly trying to avoid yourself. Try meditating for 20 minutes first thing when you wake up and see what happens.
Positive interactions, consistency, common bonds, and openness I think are what build relationships. It's seems that these various elements are hard to find if you don't fit into a small window of behaviors. Your experiences run so closely parallel to my own; it is uncanny. Hopefully, with more discussion and openness, this paradigm of current social thinking will change. Your cander is a strength, and I am sure it is helping others.
From the invisible live builds up. It is therefore likely that the invisible has more knowledge than the visible Iam a jobcoach for many years now. You remind me of a prophet. If you are a prophet then everything makes sense to me. It could be that you can make a deeper connection with God then others. And that God is the One, the Friend, that is calling you and waiting for you to become an even greater blessing to others, then you already are. A man of God, of nature, of silence, of feeling, thinking and giving. A man that goes to God and after that to the people with a message/gift. You are taking steps to search your purpose. That is very strong of you! Respects for that! Seek and you will find brother!! Blessings on your way🙏
Hidy hey Josh! Happy New Year brother! I still do wish I had quite a few guy friends to hangout with. It'd be truly awesome getting to be a friend of yours!
Thanks for sharing! 🙂 Maybe try some art, go social dancing, sing in a chorus, volunteer, take a class, do woodworking, go hiking, gardening, nurture your soul. Socializing doesn't have to be around sports and alcohol. Just do some hobbies and try some arts and volunteering and such and relax in the process. Hope you have a good year 2025!
You exude a beautiful soul... In french, we say: un je-ne-sais-quoi ( am french canadian, that's why here). Coupled with the looks, all the better for you! I also feel you're surrounded by beautiful souls upthere😇🖖. Very close. I know, life is not easy.. Being humans, what a contract we have accepted to come and experience everything through human form I'll tell you... througher times and patches etc.😐 But also, congrats, you seem to have a beautiful house☺. The colors and lighting reflects pretty well your deep nature and personality, and I guess your lady partner too. Colors of light the sun. You do well to express your emotions.. I know, in the U.S., I guess you're in, there's still that machismo that reflects old-fashioned mentality still I guess. Here in Québec, it's more open-minded and outgoing in that specific sense. So you're outspokeness and liberty to express your emotions as a man, (even more so as a straight man, is a trail-blazer for other men. You must inspiring men to be more real and genuine.Beautiful model. Bravo being yourself. Voilà cher ami. 👍✌
I’ve done that in the past without much success because it was a bit forced. Now, I have a couple of friends which is more than enough for the time being
Tbh, I think only looking at friends as a means to an end, i.e. they must also want to seek maximal self-improvement for you to click with them, is a pretty toxic trait to seek out and exhibit to others. Obviously seeking friends that fit that criteria is difficult, but it's a criteria you created. Self-improvement starts at the *self* but you desire others to lift you up and shun those that don't. You sound like an exhausting friend to be with where just talking and hanging out isn't enough. The friendship is transactional and emotional support is the currency. If you are okay with that difficulty, that's awesome. You're entitled to seek what you want. But it's a self-inflicted problem and you shut out potential friends that don't help with that problem. You will not lay on your deathbed proud that you distilled your friend group down to maximal self-improvers. You will wonder about all the friendships and experiences you pushed away because they weren't enough for you. *That* is why you come across as a narcissist.
I can't speak for Josh, but what you described is an individualism issue. Not a narcissism issue. Cole Hastings has a really good video about how our entire society is way more individualistic than in the 60s/70s, and that affects the friendship dynamic.
I’m much (way) older than you and I’m curious how you respond or answer the viewers comments that if I looked like you and had a wife I wouldn’t care if I had friends? Just curious. Happy New Year!
I feel like its hard for guys to have deeper friendships which is what I believe you are looking for, so I can empathize, but I would like to remind you that it can be isolating to think about how special, unique, different, etc you are than others, when in reality we all have much more in common than you would think. you are kind of giving what girls might call "pick me"/ "im not like other girls, Im cool" and that mentality usually results in other girls not liking her. also it could be interesting for you to make friends with more women I believe.
None of this is narcissism, in fact its the opposite. If you were truly narcissistic, you would relish the opportunity to offload to your partner all the time; you would have absolutely no self awareness and you most certainly would not be constantly analysing your relationships and yourself and trying to figure out what isnt working in you and why. Anyone using the term narcissist in your video has absolutely no idea what the word even means.
Hi Josh, I have tried to understand you, and your message to your audience, but you are confusing and its hard to understand why you feel like you do. It's ok not to like people. It's ok not to have friends. People are mean, superficial and will never fit our image of what the perfect friend should be. They dont exist. Your life is full and seems to be filled with what you want it to be filled with. It seems like you really don't want to devote the little downtime you have into cultivating a friendship that will never live up to your expectations of what that perfect friend should be. Your friend the photographer seems to be the best friend you have because you're both so busy that you hardly ever get to see each other. So there's no chance to build a deeper relationship, ever, which is safe. Not everyone's cut out to be a friend or have friends, and that's ok.
@@tjwithanak7517 I do, my best friend in middle school was black and my friend from my hometown who I talked about here (lived with his parents) was mixed (black/asian). The photographer friend of mine is Hispanic and my other friend I’ve spoken about is also Hispanic. I have only ever had a few white friends come to think of it
Please seek some talk therapy Josh. Have been following for a few years now and still feel you keep pushing yourself when YOU DONT NEED TO. Heal that past trauma which maybe forced you to have friends. I have Autism and realised I dont need to force having friends just to fit in. Also seen a comment about women friends, they will be more in depth and less sarcastic than men, which may be more suited to what you need! Get in touch with your feminine side for 2025
Dude, you‘ve been doing these types of videos for some years now and there seems to be zero progress. Its all about various excuses for why you can not connect with people. Reaffirming yourself (your „drive“) is not the solution. Accept that for you its just you and your little Misses. As for the rest - just let it go.
@@Monzaman30E How so? I’ve understood myself more every year, have left old relationships behind, and now have friends again. What does “zero progress” mean?
I didn't read anything in the way of actual advice or literally anything of actual value, just unempathetic dickishness, which is very easy to find everywhere and there are a ton of people like you. Reality of relationships is something we all need to contend with. Life is difficult and there are a ton of people that clearly empathize with him.
You know I've never had very many friends and honestly don't care. I am an introvert and normally prefer my own company. My brother and I share a house and that's fine. He is also an introvert which is ok by me. Most people I either don't completely understand, don't like or just plain old don't care.
C.S. Lewis says “lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly ever about their friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends side by side, absorbed in some common interest.”
You seem to be a nice guy, and you are married. Aren’t your wife your best friend? You don’t seem to have a strong need to have other friends, and it’s ok to have little or no friends. Work on yourself (the self-improvement you mentioned) and let true friends find you~
Ughhh sounds like you're describing business partners/associates/affiliates, rather than "friends"... here let me fix everybody's "friend problem": All you need is a bottle. You don't need no damn friends. Ultimately in life there is no such thing as "friends"... In the end, each and every single one leaves, ghosts, or trades you in for newer/better version of a "friend". Its a tiresome quest this Sonic the Hedgehog race to the top to reach the highest rung of society. But guess what, THEN WHAT??? "Self-improvement" my A$$.... sigh... sorry N/M I'm drunk and ranting here about something else... I dunno what I'm saying... Carry on, I'll go away now...
In my early 20s I had lots of friends because I made it a priority to be well-liked by everyone, even if it meant changing certain aspects about myself in order to fit in with some groups. Those friends ultimately faded away with the exception of one true friend who liked me for the person I genuinely am.
You are literally an art piece… like the way you film your videos and have everything put together is visually fabulous… that on top of how introspective and committed you are to self-betterment is just awesome. Anyone who does not want to be your friend is the one missing out…
I don’t know, the more I watch and listen to him, the more gay he seems.
@@whatever3041 he is not gay
@@whatever3041 If he's not gay he's at least _bisexual._ Nothing wrong with that.
I've grown apart from almost all my friends this year. I tried starting a business in 2024 and failed, and now I’m stuck with no clear direction. But I’d still rather face this uncertainty than go back to the old routines we used to share-those were even more unfulfilling.
It's it truly failed or could it with with more time and help?
Reading through the comments is really interesting. Theres like a lot of different opinions on this topic. I have enjoyed watching your channel over the year. I think it would be interesting to see you do a live conversation with your viewerships about the topic in general. Because friendship might be one of the vaguest topics of what it is, what it means to be a good friend, are they about being functional or about love, how many is enough. What do we owe to others etc. I find your conclusion about your struggle with finding friends is because you have more drive, and ambition and want more out of life for yourself than most people a little off putting. I believe that most people have drive and want a lot out of life and have dreams and passions. Your not in there head, you don't go home with them and see what they are grinding on. Their self improvement and ambition might just look different to you or someone hasn't paid attention or poured into them to light that spark of drive. Or their self improvement is improving their soul by connecting and helping others and caring less about themselves. And i think you made some good points in the video and i think maybe you not having a lot of people who are like minded and compatible and functional and fit into the lifestyle you want to live was part of the issue. But thats not the only reason you struggled to make friends. From your other videos it just seems your comfortable with being alone with your wife and yourself. Which is totally fine as well. Anyway I appreciate your videos they are thought provoking. Happy New Years!
I feel you man. New year's eve tommorow. My third year in a row where I'm alone. It was so easier back in the day to be a part of a group, get invited, and get "yes" as a response when you invited someone. (I'm 30 now)
@@CarlFredrik-uo1cu do you know anyone that would be down to grab a drink or do something on NYE?
@@JoshHitti Not really. I used to get invited places, or we planned something together. I don't wanna invite myself over to other people's places. I feel unwanted. Some of my closest friends have moved far away, so they're out of the question. I'm goin to visit my sick mom and make some dinner for her. After that I'm going home and getting drunk. Maybe watch some fireworks.
The best thing about the new year is it gives you the motivation and boost to make positive changes. Seeing all your videos, you have come so far from when you first started this RUclips series.
Looking forward to seeing even more progress from you as it also motivates me. I had a good two year friendship go south because of money owed to me.
However, there are other relationships out there that I’m reaching out to, thank you for putting yourself out there have an amazing new year Josh!!! 💪❤
Josh, I always enjoy hearing your thoughts, and I think you're onto something. I've definitely seen the circle of people I want to hang out with shrink, and that's okay. It's also a great observation that the people you want to be with are folks who are as busy as you. I've always got a lot going on, too, and so the first attempt to get together doesn't always work out. (I have also let some old friendships weaken, sometimes because of their behaviors that trouble me, but that's another subject.)
For several years, I have posted some goals on my blog, and then at the end of the year, I report on my progress. These are mostly career goals related to my writing. For this year, my big goal was something that was already done in terms of my input, but my latest novel came out in February, and the rest of the year I've been doing things to promote it. I had some secondary goals, almost none of which I accomplished! I'm not beating myself up about that.
I'm working on a new book, so the goal for this year is to get close to finishing the first draft of that book. Anything else writing-wise will be gravy. I've got some personal goals, too, but I'll keep those to myself. They're of the "just do the thing" variety.
Happy New Year to you and Emily. I hope you have a great 2025!
Cliff
Hi Josh. Happy New Year! Hello from NYC. I wish for a GREAT 2925!
I missed the last 900 years. Great.
Wow, this video was made for me. I, too, cannot relate to 90 % of my collegues and have very little tollerance for those who have less to do than me.
I feel you. I don't know where I would be if I were not in church and was constantly exposed to people every Saturday when I go to church. I wish you the best in your relationships!
Thank you for the video Josh ! Well said. You are in no way a narcissist , but people will have there opinions. happy New Year to you & Emily ! Love from canada
Happy new year's eve tomorrow! I've been an outcast all my life. I never fit in but I truly believe in friendship and I'd like to have friends that believe in my projects and goals
You will join a group either locally or online or both of people interested in the same . Such as a hobby . I've made connections on Instagram that way .
Love your videos, going through the same thing struggling making friends and feel lonely! Hey from Ireland 🇮🇪
I feel you, man! It gets better with effort and understanding yourself and your needs. Also, I’d love to visit Ireland one day!
Absolutely relate. The older I get the more I seek friendships based on shared goals and values - not interests or hobbies
Happy New Year Josh & Emily!
I really needed to hear this right now, thanks for sharing. I can totally relate to feeling different from most people and wanting more for myself, so it makes sense why making adult friends feels impossible. I like the idea that it's a superpower and something to be embraced because I'd sure like some friends to evolve with on this journey! I haven't travelled in 5 years now (probably been holding myself back) so TRAVEL is my big goal to commit to in the new year. It's always been the best confidence booster to nourish my soul ☺
Greetings! I loved the insight of what you stated here. In relation to you, I too aspire to do more and to find those kinds of friends in my adult life is freaking difficult, but I’d rather those who, like you can feed off of in terms of pushing for better always than remaining stagnant in old ways. Congrats on your new home. Happy New Year to you and your wife.
Thanks for the new video. And appreciate you sharing your personal thoughts on how you’re progressing on your personal journey with friends and work and all your relationships. Thanks and Happy 2025🎉❤
I've reconised that no amount of growth I do can be reflected in those who don't grow. I've worked hard on growing my life, social, conversational skills, but as I get older I see most people haven't worked on social skills EVER, and the rest were able to adapt to successful surface level interaction.
I agree, I need a bit more, I'm too aware that I'm going to die someday and recognise like everyone else that it's our relationships that matter most.
Screw the doom though, let's keep trying. The right people are in our area right now, just insanely difficult to find.
I often feel these things... but when I meditate for 20 minutes first thing in the morning, I feel pretty happy to engage in time with myself. Feeling like you need friends and experiencing loneliness is mostly about the relationship you have with yourself and being uncomfortable alone. Do you ever truly give yourself time to stop and just embrace and even try to enjoy just being with yourself? I don't know you but I would bet you are constantly trying to avoid yourself. Try meditating for 20 minutes first thing when you wake up and see what happens.
Positive interactions, consistency, common bonds, and openness I think are what build relationships. It's seems that these various elements are hard to find if you don't fit into a small window of behaviors. Your experiences run so closely parallel to my own; it is uncanny. Hopefully, with more discussion and openness, this paradigm of current social thinking will change. Your cander is a strength, and I am sure it is helping others.
From the invisible live builds up. It is therefore likely that the invisible has more knowledge than the visible
Iam a jobcoach for many years now. You remind me of a prophet. If you are a prophet then everything makes sense to me. It could be that you can make a deeper connection with God then others. And that God is the One, the Friend, that is calling you and waiting for you to become an even greater blessing to others, then you already are. A man of God, of nature, of silence, of feeling, thinking and giving. A man that goes to God and after that to the people with a message/gift.
You are taking steps to search your purpose. That is very strong of you! Respects for that!
Seek and you will find brother!! Blessings on your way🙏
Thanks for the great video. Happy New Year to you both. Hello from the other side of lake Washington 👋
Hidy hey Josh! Happy New Year brother! I still do wish I had quite a few guy friends to hangout with. It'd be truly awesome getting to be a friend of yours!
Happy New Year plus many more Josh and Emily 😇🙏💝
Happy New Year from Portland OR!
Happy New Year Josh! Thanks for your videos
Thanks Andy, you too!
Thanks for sharing! 🙂 Maybe try some art, go social dancing, sing in a chorus, volunteer, take a class, do woodworking, go hiking, gardening, nurture your soul. Socializing doesn't have to be around sports and alcohol. Just do some hobbies and try some arts and volunteering and such and relax in the process. Hope you have a good year 2025!
Josh, may you & Emily experience serenity & contentment in 2025.
Hey Josh, Happy New Year.
You too, Michael! 💪🏼
You exude a beautiful soul... In french, we say: un je-ne-sais-quoi ( am french canadian, that's why here). Coupled with the looks, all the better for you! I also feel you're surrounded by beautiful souls upthere😇🖖. Very close. I know, life is not easy.. Being humans, what a contract we have accepted to come and experience everything through human form I'll tell you... througher times and patches etc.😐 But also, congrats, you seem to have a beautiful house☺. The colors and lighting reflects pretty well your deep nature and personality, and I guess your lady partner too. Colors of light the sun. You do well to express your emotions.. I know, in the U.S., I guess you're in, there's still that machismo that reflects old-fashioned mentality still I guess. Here in Québec, it's more open-minded and outgoing in that specific sense. So you're outspokeness and liberty to express your emotions as a man, (even more so as a straight man, is a trail-blazer for other men. You must inspiring men to be more real and genuine.Beautiful model. Bravo being yourself. Voilà cher ami. 👍✌
Happy new year Josh🎉
Wassup Josh. Happy New years brother 🥂🎊
happy new year, from ho chi mihn, josh and emily (:
Happy new year Josh
Off topic but your voice is so nice, you should do a podcast 😅
Youre married, do you guys have couples friends where you could hang out with just the male?'(straight couple)
I’ve done that in the past without much success because it was a bit forced. Now, I have a couple of friends which is more than enough for the time being
Why dont you do live chats and we can chat and get to know each other!? Take action instead of just talking about no friends?
I have a couple of friends now! If I have more time, a live one may be nice. What’s a good platform for lives?
Tbh, I think only looking at friends as a means to an end, i.e. they must also want to seek maximal self-improvement for you to click with them, is a pretty toxic trait to seek out and exhibit to others. Obviously seeking friends that fit that criteria is difficult, but it's a criteria you created. Self-improvement starts at the *self* but you desire others to lift you up and shun those that don't. You sound like an exhausting friend to be with where just talking and hanging out isn't enough. The friendship is transactional and emotional support is the currency. If you are okay with that difficulty, that's awesome. You're entitled to seek what you want. But it's a self-inflicted problem and you shut out potential friends that don't help with that problem. You will not lay on your deathbed proud that you distilled your friend group down to maximal self-improvers. You will wonder about all the friendships and experiences you pushed away because they weren't enough for you. *That* is why you come across as a narcissist.
You clearly have zero understanding of narcissism
I can't speak for Josh, but what you described is an individualism issue. Not a narcissism issue. Cole Hastings has a really good video about how our entire society is way more individualistic than in the 60s/70s, and that affects the friendship dynamic.
@@paullopez2021Cole’s channel is great
Why did you delete a lot of your videos? 😢
I miss the Scandinavian minimalist background. 😁
Happy New Year Josh I wish you and Emily all the best for 2025. Chris M UK
I’m much (way) older than you and I’m curious how you respond or answer the viewers comments that if I looked like you and had a wife I wouldn’t care if I had friends? Just curious. Happy New Year!
I feel like its hard for guys to have deeper friendships which is what I believe you are looking for, so I can empathize, but I would like to remind you that it can be isolating to think about how special, unique, different, etc you are than others, when in reality we all have much more in common than you would think. you are kind of giving what girls might call "pick me"/ "im not like other girls, Im cool" and that mentality usually results in other girls not liking her. also it could be interesting for you to make friends with more women I believe.
None of this is narcissism, in fact its the opposite. If you were truly narcissistic, you would relish the opportunity to offload to your partner all the time; you would have absolutely no self awareness and you most certainly would not be constantly analysing your relationships and yourself and trying to figure out what isnt working in you and why. Anyone using the term narcissist in your video has absolutely no idea what the word even means.
Having a wife heightens your status.
In which way? Curious to hear!
@@JoshHittiSociety respects you more and places like churches, organizations, all prefer a married guy even swingers parties.
Happy New Year to you and Emily!!♥️♥️
Hi Josh, I have tried to understand you, and your message to your audience, but you are confusing and its hard to understand why you feel like you do. It's ok not to like people. It's ok not to have friends. People are mean, superficial and will never fit our image of what the perfect friend should be. They dont exist. Your life is full and seems to be filled with what you want it to be filled with. It seems like you really don't want to devote the little downtime you have into cultivating a friendship that will never live up to your expectations of what that perfect friend should be. Your friend the photographer seems to be the best friend you have because you're both so busy that you hardly ever get to see each other. So there's no chance to build a deeper relationship, ever, which is safe. Not everyone's cut out to be a friend or have friends, and that's ok.
Random question, and not trying to trap you into a judgmental answer. But do you have any black friends?
@@tjwithanak7517 I do, my best friend in middle school was black and my friend from my hometown who I talked about here (lived with his parents) was mixed (black/asian). The photographer friend of mine is Hispanic and my other friend I’ve spoken about is also Hispanic. I have only ever had a few white friends come to think of it
Id love to have you as a friend but dont know how to reach out? to you.....
Again, I dont think your problem is (not) having friends. Your problem is some kind of ocd around friendship
Thanks for the comment! I think I was non-selective at one point and the pendulum swung the other way. I’m finding a happy middle
He's beautiful
Please seek some talk therapy Josh. Have been following for a few years now and still feel you keep pushing yourself when YOU DONT NEED TO. Heal that past trauma which maybe forced you to have friends. I have Autism and realised I dont need to force having friends just to fit in.
Also seen a comment about women friends, they will be more in depth and less sarcastic than men, which may be more suited to what you need! Get in touch with your feminine side for 2025
Dude, you‘ve been doing these types of videos for some years now and there seems to be zero progress. Its all about various excuses for why you can not connect with people. Reaffirming yourself (your „drive“) is not the solution. Accept that for you its just you and your little Misses. As for the rest - just let it go.
@@Monzaman30E How so? I’ve understood myself more every year, have left old relationships behind, and now have friends again. What does “zero progress” mean?
I didn't read anything in the way of actual advice or literally anything of actual value, just unempathetic dickishness, which is very easy to find everywhere and there are a ton of people like you. Reality of relationships is something we all need to contend with. Life is difficult and there are a ton of people that clearly empathize with him.
Thank you for saying that and I agree there's clearly a lot of issues going on here that really related to having or not having friends
i wish I could be your friend mate
You know I've never had very many friends and honestly don't care. I am an introvert and normally prefer my own company. My brother and I share a house and that's fine. He is also an introvert which is ok by me. Most people I either don't completely understand, don't like or just plain old don't care.
C.S. Lewis says “lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly ever about their friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends side by side, absorbed in some common interest.”
You can be my friend
You seem to be a nice guy, and you are married. Aren’t your wife your best friend? You don’t seem to have a strong need to have other friends, and it’s ok to have little or no friends. Work on yourself (the self-improvement you mentioned) and let true friends find you~
You're overthinking your life.
i want to be your friend but maybe your not consider me as a friend 😂
Ughhh sounds like you're describing business partners/associates/affiliates, rather than "friends"... here let me fix everybody's "friend problem": All you need is a bottle. You don't need no damn friends. Ultimately in life there is no such thing as "friends"... In the end, each and every single one leaves, ghosts, or trades you in for newer/better version of a "friend". Its a tiresome quest this Sonic the Hedgehog race to the top to reach the highest rung of society. But guess what, THEN WHAT??? "Self-improvement" my A$$.... sigh... sorry N/M I'm drunk and ranting here about something else... I dunno what I'm saying... Carry on, I'll go away now...