#3 grew up in a home where my dad had Thursday night bowling with the guys. Mom would have a girls day. They spent 50 years together and set a wonderful example. My man asked about his brother day, I told him I want him to always have that. We were two individuals who are growing together, he trust me and I him because he has shown himself trustworthy and loves time with me. Loving myself first brought this love between us. God has shown me what a good, trustworthy man is by healing me.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I don’t understand women who don’t understand #3 I want him to have a healthy group of friends, guys night please go go go, fill that tank!
1. Men don't always take hints 2. Give compliments/praise 3. Give them "hangout " time with his in peace 4. They want commitment too (Understand if it didn't work, there wasn't compatibility on all aspects)
@@a.d.b535 Thats what I was about to say . This guy that claims he wants to be with me has a friend that whenever that one calls him he will.leave immediately no matter what we were doing even if we were at a restaurant he will make sure he cut everything short and go because "he can't refuse that hos friend anything" and he has told me that he tells him everything and he meant everything, he said he can't hide anything from his friend. So I told him to go be with his friend 😅 I'm out .
I always give compliments. He does not compliment me a lot, but the way he looks at me is enough compliment for me. He smiles and can't keep his eyes of me🥰
#4, it's good to know. I hope men take this as a learning opportunity. Women are leading the healing journey from fixing past traumas, past hurts, past heartbreaks. Women are more likely to put in the work to self development and growth. Now it's the men's turn. If you want commitment, commit to yourself to healing first, stop holding on to past loves, grow your emotional intelligence, understand that women want commitment, loyalty, priority, effort, growth, and communication. When you grow into your healthy masculine, we women can get into our healthy feminine. We've put in the work, if you want commitment, work for it. We'll be waiting...
I’m always giving compliments! Yes I agree ☝️ you should give compliments too your man. If I hang out with my friends he should spent time with his friends as well!! That’s important Thanks Stephen Speaks
@susanamoreno2032 A thing that I have found out about Stephan's videos is, even if I don't relate to the primary subject or points, he often always ends up talking about something in between the points on them that I do relate to.
My man and I met as friends and through conversations and a lot of me not believing he was my person, the one who sees me for me good, bad, flaws and all. He loves me as much as I love him. I compliment him, support him in everything as he does me. He has his time to spend to do what he wants and I have mine. We're in a grown relationship and in love with each other. The wedding is New Years Eve 2025. We're taking our time and not living together until after we're married. But we will be spending time together in each household. I will keep these words of advice for reference.
Excellent video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️ I agree with everything you spoke about💯💯💯 As women, we want to be complimented… we shouldn’t forget our men. We should always treat others how we would want to be treated.
I think when women think of commitment, they think of the responsibility of a relationship (nurturing, caring, kindness, cooking meals, having a family, etc), but when men think of commitment, they are wanting their woman to settle down/ not run around/flirt with others/etc.
Very well said. They want us to pay a huge price for just being able to say "I have a man" (the nerve...). Only in their dreams this might work on me - or any other woman who isn't desperate.
I understand this but most men are also horrible at dropping hints. They will look and never approach you and some men like looking at all the girls but most women only like looking at one guy. 🤷🏻♀️
I tried all your tips Stephan, i believe with the of personality that I have one day God will reward me with a great man,i love family and marriage life especially with the right partner.
Clingyness is a toxic trait, and correct concerning the having a balance between relationships and friends, being realistic and honest about the matter helps concerning how much time is being spent with friends, etc.
If we put our time and attention into communicating and being honest is so more productive than spending All the time and energy that goes into thinking and strategy in dating! Get out of the MIND and do what you want, say what you want being genuine! That’s it!
I wish people would get out of their heads and just be honest and say what you want! We shouldn’t have to hint or play games period! Get into your heart and out of the MIND!!
I don’t agree with men want commitment more than women. I think that you are right that yes women desire it a lot more than men but when they been with a lot of bad men they just stay single but on the flip side of it for me it Seems like it takes one heartbreak with them and they are done with women.
Not this guy. I've had my heart broken. I've broken a heart or two. I didn't feel good about ending a relationship. But I knew we were not going to survive long term. I've found after 2 marriages Im a lot more guarded. I want a real relationship. Not another woman that decides how it's going to be.
Stephan, what about the age groups beyond that though? As most of us roll into our fifties we have been through multiple relationships most likely and the statics are not as good as for men wanting to marry in mid life as this is past the baby making years and people dredging through the dating scene and not healed from their past trauma and wounds.
It'll be 15yrs in Dec for my marriage. I love the advice. Please partner with a woman, who is an expert as well, to explain to men in like fashion as you, about women. This is bc at some point men & women have to meet each other in the middle. No real, loving, respectful & lasting relationship is one-sided. Men, too, should understand, respect & regard how women are as well.
I somewhat disagree with points on reason 4. I think women are choosing to be single over men because women have experienced what comes with being married or in a long term relationship. A lot of men have an easier life when married because the wife is left to pick up the slack. A lot of women have an easier life when they are single or living separately from their SO. Is this how it should be? No, but majority of the time the women end up with a “child” and not a partner
1 min n 53 seconds in n I'm already laughing😂 I'm soaking up my pouty-ness right now n u tryna make me laugh; wtf mane!? 😂😂😂😋 Jayyykayyyyy, ty ty ty!! 😂👯♀️😬
@@FavDogBisquit That doesn't sound accurate. Women want marriage in their earlier years to be taken care of financially and provide the gift of legacy before their pregnancies are considered geriatric pregnancy, still giving the best of themselves. Men want to get married when they have hypertension, enlarged prostates, and erectile dysfunction.
Please do not perpetuate the irritating myth that "men are simple". I've struggled far, *far* less with learning one of the world's most difficult languages than with learning how the human male functions.
@2okaycola Overcompensating what exactly? You're not clear. If they really were this simple, there wouldn't be *millions* of videos about "how to understand and work with" them (even though the vast majority of these videos are useless at "best"). As for "women being more complicated", isn't this you also oVeRcOmPeNsAtiNg?
I got a feeling this is going to backfire on us women especially if he’s not interested. Complimenting and giving him a compliment, I don’t know about this. Certain men thinks that’s means we give him the go ahead if you know what I mean and can com on a little strong. How do you think that will hold up in court. Better tell them to proceed with caution.💅🏼
I really don't trust "all" studies...It's like whom all did they ask concerning the study? Have you ever watched Family Feud and wondered why some of the answers on the survey board seem off or weird? I know I have...
@@MeetStephanSpeaks lmao cuzzzzzz😬😑😩 ...I gots ta watch/listen to some prayer vids before I watch this cuz the last clip I posted, ...well ... I wasn't quite mentally prepared for that 😞😩😂
1. It was a joke…because he literally just said it in the video that women are notice everything and he went a year with his friend not noticing a tat 2. You care for commenting vs gaining clarity about context in my comment …yeah keeping healing
I'm sorry I was following you I can't sit and listen to anything because you're like something he wishes you knew if he doesn't have the balls to tell me then I don't even want to be with somebody like that be with somebody if he wants me to know something he better tell me. I'm done following you this makes no sense there's a lot of s*** that you do make sense of but there's some s*** that you don't make sense of so I'm done thank you though start rewording these things for us females because if there's something he wants me to know he better tell me
“Start rewording things for us females.” Your comment is very wordy and convoluted that it’s hard to follow and understand. Ironic isn’t it? He has good information. This may not be the video for you or the speaker.
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#3 grew up in a home where my dad had Thursday night bowling with the guys. Mom would have a girls day. They spent 50 years together and set a wonderful example. My man asked about his brother day, I told him I want him to always have that. We were two individuals who are growing together, he trust me and I him because he has shown himself trustworthy and loves time with me. Loving myself first brought this love between us. God has shown me what a good, trustworthy man is by healing me.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I don’t understand women who don’t understand #3 I want him to have a healthy group of friends, guys night please go go go, fill that tank!
That’s lovely. I’m so glad you found the right person. I hope I will find what you have someday too. ❤
1. Men don't always take hints
2. Give compliments/praise
3. Give them "hangout " time with his in peace
4. They want commitment too
(Understand if it didn't work, there wasn't compatibility on all aspects)
I like when a man hangs out with his friends. It's one masculine and speaks to his character of his ability to build friendships! Also I need space..
As long as they keep their phone on😂😂😂😂
My ex had a friend he constantly hung with where I felt like they were the couple, and my relationship was an option.
@@a.d.b535
Thats what I was about to say . This guy that claims he wants to be with me has a friend that whenever that one calls him he will.leave immediately no matter what we were doing even if we were at a restaurant he will make sure he cut everything short and go because "he can't refuse that hos friend anything" and he has told me that he tells him everything and he meant everything, he said he can't hide anything from his friend. So I told him to go be with his friend 😅 I'm out .
I always give compliments. He does not compliment me a lot, but the way he looks at me is enough compliment for me. He smiles and can't keep his eyes of me🥰
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Everytime he gives you a compliment. Kiss him or hug him. That's positive reinforcement to compliment you more without telling him what to do
#4, it's good to know. I hope men take this as a learning opportunity. Women are leading the healing journey from fixing past traumas, past hurts, past heartbreaks. Women are more likely to put in the work to self development and growth. Now it's the men's turn. If you want commitment, commit to yourself to healing first, stop holding on to past loves, grow your emotional intelligence, understand that women want commitment, loyalty, priority, effort, growth, and communication. When you grow into your healthy masculine, we women can get into our healthy feminine. We've put in the work, if you want commitment, work for it. We'll be waiting...
I’m always giving compliments! Yes I agree ☝️ you should give compliments too your man. If I hang out with my friends he should spent time with his friends as well!! That’s important
Thanks Stephen Speaks
Thanks for sharing 🙏
As a single woman, I don’t even use these tips, but I utterly enjoy hearing you, Stephan!
@susanamoreno2032 A thing that I have found out about Stephan's videos is, even if I don't relate to the primary subject or points, he often always ends up talking about something in between the points on them that I do relate to.
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My man and I met as friends and through conversations and a lot of me not believing he was my person, the one who sees me for me good, bad, flaws and all. He loves me as much as I love him. I compliment him, support him in everything as he does me. He has his time to spend to do what he wants and I have mine. We're in a grown relationship and in love with each other. The wedding is New Years Eve 2025. We're taking our time and not living together until after we're married. But we will be spending time together in each household. I will keep these words of advice for reference.
Love that you went from friend to now your man ❤
"" Its not that some men don,t CARE it,s just that they may not be AWARE "" love this coach Steph this statement is packed with truths
Thank you so much 🙏
When I tell my Man how incredible, fine, sexy and special HE is, he tells me the same… I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!
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Excellent video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️
I agree with everything you spoke about💯💯💯
As women, we want to be complimented… we shouldn’t forget our men.
We should always treat others how we would want to be treated.
Well said 🙏
I think when women think of commitment, they think of the responsibility of a relationship (nurturing, caring, kindness, cooking meals, having a family, etc), but when men think of commitment, they are wanting their woman to settle down/ not run around/flirt with others/etc.
Very well said. They want us to pay a huge price for just being able to say "I have a man" (the nerve...). Only in their dreams this might work on me - or any other woman who isn't desperate.
This man always speaks reality. I clearly understand after listening to you!
Thanks for talking about this. 1:01 be straightforward 4:50 👂 5:22
Your advice is literally priceless!! Thank you so much Stephan for keeping it real
I understand this but most men are also horrible at dropping hints. They will look and never approach you and some men like looking at all the girls but most women only like looking at one guy. 🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for sharing your opinion 🙏
Loved the rant!! 😊
Thank you 🙏
😂 Rant?
I tried all your tips Stephan, i believe with the of personality that I have one day God will reward me with a great man,i love family and marriage life especially with the right partner.
Clingyness is a toxic trait, and correct concerning the having a balance between relationships and friends, being realistic and honest about the matter helps concerning how much time is being spent with friends, etc.
Thanks for your response 🙏
If we put our time and attention into communicating and being honest is so more productive than spending All the time and energy that goes into thinking and strategy in dating! Get out of the MIND and do what you want, say what you want being genuine! That’s it!
I have been transparent, direct and asked direct questions. It’s not me…
I wish people would get out of their heads and just be honest and say what you want! We shouldn’t have to hint or play games period! Get into your heart and out of the MIND!!
India waiting for your tour. 🙌🙌.
On that note I feel like when he does notice little things it speaks volumes lol
I don’t agree with men want commitment more than women. I think that you are right that yes women desire it a lot more than men but when they been with a lot of bad men they just stay single but on the flip side of it for me it
Seems like it takes one heartbreak with them and they are done with women.
Not this guy. I've had my heart broken. I've broken a heart or two. I didn't feel good about ending a relationship. But I knew we were not going to survive long term. I've found after 2 marriages Im a lot more guarded. I want a real relationship. Not another woman that decides how it's going to be.
I appreciate your perspective 🙏
@@davidsisson2026probably guarded with the wrong one & open with the right one inhale
Stephan, what about the age groups beyond that though? As most of us roll into our fifties we have been through multiple relationships most likely and the statics are not as good as for men wanting to marry in mid life as this is past the baby making years and people dredging through the dating scene and not healed from their past trauma and wounds.
It'll be 15yrs in Dec for my marriage. I love the advice. Please partner with a woman, who is an expert as well, to explain to men in like fashion as you, about women. This is bc at some point men & women have to meet each other in the middle. No real, loving, respectful & lasting relationship is one-sided. Men, too, should understand, respect & regard how women are as well.
I somewhat disagree with points on reason 4. I think women are choosing to be single over men because women have experienced what comes with being married or in a long term relationship. A lot of men have an easier life when married because the wife is left to pick up the slack. A lot of women have an easier life when they are single or living separately from their SO.
Is this how it should be? No, but majority of the time the women end up with a “child” and not a partner
We just need clarity that all, between the man and then waman.
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What year was that survey taken. That’s not what they are saying on line.
Right?😂
I literally had a man tell me, "Im not good at hints!" LOL
Some women have been rejected by men you know..
1 min n 53 seconds in n I'm already laughing😂 I'm soaking up my pouty-ness right now n u tryna make me laugh; wtf mane!? 😂😂😂😋 Jayyykayyyyy, ty ty ty!! 😂👯♀️😬
Lol Thank you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks lmao my pleasure, Stephannnnnnn😜
Yohhhhhh!!!! 🪀yohhhhhh!!!!!
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Thank You.💚💚💚
You are so welcome 🙏
Interesting video!🤔🙏🏾
Thank you 🙏
Men want marriage once they are 50 years old and up so they can have someone to take care of them as they get older.
So do women
@@FavDogBisquit That doesn't sound accurate. Women want marriage in their earlier years to be taken care of financially and provide the gift of legacy before their pregnancies are considered geriatric pregnancy, still giving the best of themselves. Men want to get married when they have hypertension, enlarged prostates, and erectile dysfunction.
Please do not perpetuate the irritating myth that "men are simple". I've struggled far, *far* less with learning one of the world's most difficult languages than with learning how the human male functions.
I appreciate your opinion on this subject 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaksclassy response 😂
@thetoyavshow He gave a very similar response to everyone who disagreed with something he said. And it looks like quite a few people agree with me.
Men are simple tho. Simpler than a woman is. You're overcompensating things.
@2okaycola Overcompensating what exactly? You're not clear.
If they really were this simple, there wouldn't be *millions* of videos about "how to understand and work with" them (even though the vast majority of these videos are useless at "best"). As for "women being more complicated", isn't this you also oVeRcOmPeNsAtiNg?
Hi Stephan I appreciate your relationship advice. I would like to do a collaboration
I'm going to test with the "hint" theory.
What does this mean?...🌺
Wo😂men do tell men....men ignore us and interpret us telling them as nagging
I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Ok..What does this mean?☕🌞
Hollah at your girl!
Why wouldn't you stroke the ego of the man you love or are simply interested in? Sure independence and interdependence go hand and hand
❤
Like #1...hmmm
Respectful, I need to see a video regarding “Mama’sBoys”
I got a feeling this is going to backfire on us women especially if he’s not interested. Complimenting and giving him a compliment, I don’t know about this. Certain men thinks that’s means we give him the go ahead if you know what I mean and can com on a little strong. How do you think that will hold up in court. Better tell them to proceed with caution.💅🏼
Men who deal with a lot of women have trouble being in tuned…..
-Stephen knows this
I really don't trust "all" studies...It's like whom all did they ask concerning the study? Have you ever watched Family Feud and wondered why some of the answers on the survey board seem off or weird? I know I have...
Well why don't they just ask us clearly? 😅
I'm so scared to watch this 😬😩😂
Why is that?
@@MeetStephanSpeaks lmao cuzzzzzz😬😑😩 ...I gots ta watch/listen to some prayer vids before I watch this cuz the last clip I posted, ...well ... I wasn't quite mentally prepared for that 😞😩😂
I hate men that will not mower and trimming a yard. And just leave here free not do anything to help.
Just not the truth
Thank you for your feedback 🙏
I know this is an older recording since your newest tat in your forearm is gone 👀
I appreciate that he is doing it, I have recently started watching him
Who cares, it’s still information. This information is old to you, but new to me and thousands of others.
Everyone does it !
1. It was a joke…because he literally just said it in the video that women are notice everything and he went a year with his friend not noticing a tat
2. You care for commenting vs gaining clarity about context in my comment …yeah keeping healing
@fitz2523
I was there with you 😀
I'm sorry I was following you I can't sit and listen to anything because you're like something he wishes you knew if he doesn't have the balls to tell me then I don't even want to be with somebody like that be with somebody if he wants me to know something he better tell me. I'm done following you this makes no sense there's a lot of s*** that you do make sense of but there's some s*** that you don't make sense of so I'm done thank you though start rewording these things for us females because if there's something he wants me to know he better tell me
“Start rewording things for us females.” Your comment is very wordy and convoluted that it’s hard to follow and understand. Ironic isn’t it? He has good information. This may not be the video for you or the speaker.
Wow I'm really sorry but I think you're the one with the problem. Your bitterness, anger and hostility is what is keeping you single ❤
@@jaimecherie3430 good answer. You can tell something is off by her attitude and words. Some people need to hear that.
Stephan
Are you ok? Give me your number.