How to Overcome Shyness - My Story
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I hate being shy it's really annoying but when I'm with people in really comfortable with I'm literally the loudest person 😂😂
OMG SAME. I feel like I'm my true self, I'm loud and crazy and funny and talkative then when I'm with others I'm quiet as hell xD
+Taylor Dawn same with me
Ikr!
same
same, when i was in 4th grade, i used to be one of the loudest people, but really quiet. :)
i think one of the things that can cause people to become shy is the experiences that theyve gone through. i was a confident girl back then but because all of a sudden i experienced betrayal from friends and people around school, the pain slowly ate me up and i developed some trust issues. i believe family is also a huge part in developing confidence or shyness. i was raised in a family that didnt really teach me about communicating with others, i was surrounded by books and toys and walls so dealing with people became such a hard thing to do up until now. it feels like there's this cage that's trapping the real me inside. it really suck and is very very hard to overcome. only people whove expereinced shyness can understand. it really is a serious issue for us. i wish i could become like you someday, im still practicing... And btw you're really inspiring and beautiful. Thank you for making this video!
same
Its true I was never shy around people but my family and enimeys changed that. I'm hoping that once I write a book people will begin to see me and love me for it which'll hopfuly build up my confidence and help me make some vids.
I don't mind being shy, but other people do. Except my friends. The others are like: ''Why is she so shy?'. I feel like saying: 'I just am, have you got a problem with that or something?'. But i can't. I just don't want to talk to the people at my school, they're all really loud and mean and i just don't need to know them. I want to move schools but i don't know if i can.. :c
I'm so talkative at home, but at school I get the lump in your throat feeling and my voice goes all weird and I'm really shy when teachers are talking to me and when my friends aren't in my classes I panic and I start sweating. I really don't know how to deal with this
hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to uncover exercises to overcome shyness try Renkarter Stop Shyness Report ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.
I do the same thing and it sucks especially if u have a crush and its so hard to over come it
You just told the story of my life haha :(
Red Fish same school is horribe i start get nervous and shy and my mind starts to race when my friends arnt in my class
Shii G interesting points ,if anyone else wants to uncover try Megarno Shyness Magician (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my mate got great results with it.
I hate being shy😭👎🏽HELP😩😭😭🔫
Don't worry about it, I am super shy too and sometimes it sucks but sometimes being shy is kind of nice it's who we are, you can over come it everyone does in time so hold on in there x
+Giovanni Arellano hey ,if anyone else trying to find out best ways to overcome shyness try Wiltapar Simple Shyness Secrets ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my neighbor got excellent success with it.
+Giovanni Arellano I\'m not sure but ,if anyone else wants to uncover books about overcoming shyness try Renkarter Anxiety Method Report (just google it ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my cousin got cool results with it.
+Giovanni Arellano Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else needs to find out about how to cure shyness naturally try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my cousin got cool success with it.
+Giovanni Arellano I'm not sure but ,if anyone else wants to uncover best ways to overcome shyness try Skyarza Stop Shyness Star (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my colleague got great success with it.
im really shy like when someone I dont no tries to have a conversation with me I become speechless and my cheeks and face goes red its embarrassing or if my teacher asks me to explain to my class my answer or anything I just sit in my seat speechless and red in the face :(
I understand... :(
does it happen to u
I'm really trying to overcome my shyness .. because its crushing me inside. I feel as though it holds me back and I'm so comfortable around people that I know but people I'm not familiar with I'm quiet and people take that as a negative thing, and they make it seem like I'm arrogant but I'm not.. I'm just shy and awkward and I have trouble with eye contact as well! I also blush really easily and this ALL really lowers my self-esteem that's why I am not as confident because it ways on my mind and I feel like so many people are judging me. People I don't want to judge me. i am also very sensitive so it doesn't help at all :(
Same!!!!
Me too
TIRED OF THIS!!😭JUST TIRES OF BEING BORED IN SCHOOL BC I HAVE NO FRIENDS!😔I just want to have confidence and to talk to make friends and to just not have wierd conversations bc I can't make eye contact!😞Help
Yea had that problem with my own friends I just got done with sleep over and I could barely be myself
My advice is with eye contact don't look them straight in the eye look in the middle of your eyes, like the nose part. It relaxes you because you aren't actually looking in their eyes, it just looks like it
dont miss out on opportunities!! go for it man. look at it this way, the worst thing that can happen is her saying no. and there's so many other girls in the world. you're never going to know what she'll say if you don't try. go for ti!! if she says no, than it will help you build your confidence ANYWAY! go for it
I've always been really shy myself (Unless its with people who are close to me)
wow, i just grew a new love for you. Thank you for opening up and showing me that I am not the only person that deals with anxiety like this. I realize that there are other amazingly beautiful people out there that struggle with anxiety, fear and shyness as well.
One of the worst things I feel with shyness is feeling like people are judging me. It's really bad and it makes me not want to talk to those people. I know is just my mind, but still bothers me. 😔😔😔😔😔😔
The pika RIVERA same I always feel like people are looking at me or judging me.
I decided that enough is enough. I was getting so angry with myself not being able to be who I really am! You asked how I dealt with my problem (shyness)? I faced it with strength! It was through several school discussions and speeches that I took out powers from within, my core. It was a process to deal with this problem, I stared go to the gym and train like a BEAST. I thought to myself, "No more will I be the little scary kid which got afraid of people being bigger than me." So do you know what I did?
I got bigger than them.
That helped me, and still does today. Gym is a part of my life now, it saved me.
Hi, I just don't know what to do anymore. My self-esteem has completely shattered. I feel alone, I feel like I have nobody to talk to. Nobody understands. Everyone always says "just talk" but, I just can't do it. The thought of having to talk to another person is daunting for me. I need somebody. School is the worst, people make fun of me for various reasons. One of them being that I don't socialise. I have no friends. I mean don't get me wrong, I'd love to talk to people in my class. I just can't though because I always get sweaty, my voice gets shaky, hands begin to start shaking and I stutter a lot! I feel like people get the wrong impression from me that I'm rude and I just can't deal with this anymore. It's gotten better, I never wanted to go outside; I got a lot of anxiety over that and sometimes I still do. Especially, when I see people I know. I've struggled from shyness as long as I can remember. I just hate it, I wish I was confident talking to other people. It sucks a lot!!
:( It isnt fair is it ?
IM Going to try and conquer shyness once and for all please kik me (bf171999) we could help each other and encourage each other and conquer shyness together 👌👌👌👌
+beckijr17 To be yourself you gotta do what you truly feel. You won't ever feel like yourself unless you are yourself. It's like a paradox. But once your in, trust me - there's no going back.
And remember, we actually NEED people who are no other but their very own selves.
I understand. I have an anxiety disorder, it's killing me from the inside out, I feel that I act so different, I lost three friendships during college. I just want to heal.
I'm here because I have m ok mild acne it's going away, I am now 19, anyways I learn not to care what people think, if your talking to them and you think their judging you in your head who cares, it's not like when their talking to you their gonna pole out a gun and shoot you, and even if they do judge you in their head it's not like your going to know what their saying so you should care less and if it's a person that's in your life, and they do judge you in their head, they will get use to you and look at you normally. And if it's a random person it's not like your going to see them again, most of us humans think the same, for instance, let's say a funny looking guy comes up to you, your gonna want to laugh ( that's only I'd your insane,I'm insane) anyways you'll fight the laughter and just smile, you don't want to judge him but no matter what the smile comes out, ya you think he's funny but do you want to hurt him? No, why ? Because he's human and deserves respect and at the same time you want to be respected, so that makes you respect him, then he walks away after you help him or meet him, and every one his happy, now let's talk about a normal looking guy who is no brad Pitt or Ben Affleck looking guy, he's not attractive or funny looking, your going to look at him normal rite ? Your not going to judge him. Most people think like this most people think like you when they meet someone new, you have to brain wash your self that people think like you, obviously you don't judge, so they don't, no one wants to hurt anyone. in the end no body cares if someone is ugly or not
This is the best video on shyness I've seen. Thank you.
I'm 14 and starting high school this Wednesday (Aug. 12), and I'm shy. I don't have severe anxiety issues, but I do start to feel small when I'm put in uncomfortable positions. In 7th grade I went to a new middle school and didn't really socialize. So, when I went to 8th, I tried, and it didn't go as planned :/
For some reason I just became a class clown. I was never bad, but I just acted out. I was afraid of being myself, and being rejected or made fun of, so I acted out so that if anybody wanted to say, "Haha, she's crazy," it wouldn't hurt because they would know me as a clown. But I'm going to a new high school, and I want to change. I went to freshman orientation, and that didn't go as planned. I kept to myself, and I shrank when they split us up into groups. I actually enjoyed it because the leaders assigned partners, and we did a small auto-biography with pictures and shared it with our partners. It made me feel proud, and like myself, but after that activity everybody fled back to their friends, and that left me alone. I'm loud, and I overthink things. I talk too much, and I never know what to say. I'm afraid that nobody is going to like me, or more like nobody is going to 'get' me. Unlike you, my sister is not my best friend. If anything, she's my only enemy. It's hard living with somebody who talks to her friends about you, and does nothing but tear you down.
I don't know if I'm looking for sympathy, or if I'm just very desperate and distressed, but thank you for this video. It really has made my night :)
I hate being this way.. I have anxiety and I struggle to talk to people really bad.. I can't keep eye contact. I look at the ground when I look I talk to people.. It's the worst talking to people I don't know well or people I barely talk to! I'm fine at home loud, confident and well able to talk and ask for things because I was born into my family and I know them my whole life so obviously I'm gonna be confident around them.. But when I'm in school it's the worst I can't start a conversation I don't know what to talk about and I feel like people don't want to talk to me I really really really need help I actually hate school becaus I'm so shy and not able to talk in class or make friends with people I know years.. I'm leaving school in May and I can't wait because school is torture!! When I leave I think I'll be a lot happier but still I'm not able to do interviews or anything without being awkward and shy and quiet I hate it!! How am I supposed to get into college or anything or get along with people make new friends etc if I can't speak :'( :'( I think about it all the time and I get really upset about it :(
We're in the same boat here!
I can't think of conversation topics!!
I always leave to the other person and I just reply quick short answers I hate it!!
I'm loud at home too but at school it's like I'm a completely different person
I hate not being able to talk due to shyness
And then I go to a girls school!!
I've had Boys come up to me and try start a conversation but I always "push people away "
By not saying a thing
I realise I replace my words with nodding or "uhmm's"
andreaxxfarrellyxoxo The best way to overcome being shy is to work in a customer service environment where you talk to people face to face and over the phone. Trust me, that worked well for me. You gain confidence and social skills. You're forced to basically. I've always been confident but shyness was just a natural problem with me. You have to learn to not care what people might be thinking of your actions and to know that you are a great person and have confidence in yourself. Don't force yourself to have to make a lot of friends. You may not be the, hang out with friends everyday type of person. If you can find someone that you have things in common with, that's a start. They'll have friends that you hopefully click with and those friends will have friends. Soon enough you'll have a circle of good friends and good acquaintances. School and college may be hard to navigate if you don't naturally have an outgoing personality or great social skills but just be yourself. Don't be afraid. REMEMBER if someone has a problem with you and you're a good peaceful person, THEY are the ones that are screwed up. SCHOOL IS DIFFERENT. In the real world people are more accepting of your unique personality and appreciate you being yourself. In school people are superficial and are trying to fit in and FIND themselves. Anything or anyone different may be taunted. LEARN from interactions and don't be afraid to make mistakes, be yourself. If someone reacts badly to you being yourself DON'T let that affect you. NOT EVERYONE WILL GET YOU OR LIKE YOU, and sometimes it's for the most petty reasons. Plenty of people WILL like you though, and you should be one of those people. KNOW yourself, love yourself.
andreaxxfarrellyxoxo I'm not sure but ,if anyone else needs to find out about best ways to overcome shyness try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my friend got excellent success with it.
Does anyone know about starting conversations. I have no problem i just literally dont know what topics or things to talk about thats my main problem. This then leads to me being shy
andreaxxfarrellyxoxo hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to learn about best ways to overcome shyness try Megarno Shyness Magician ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my mate got great success with it.
thank you so much, im 16 years old and i suffer from social anxiety, i get constantly made fun of for not keeping eye contact, ive even had teachers say rude comments about it. its so hard to deal with, but thank yuo so much for making this video it made me feel so much better
hi loved your video, im 52 yr old man been very shy all my life always hiding from others never wanting to be in the limelight, its tough i live alone have no friends it seemed like i was invisable. But now im determined to change that as its only me that can change my life! just wished i,d started earlier.....my goal is to go in macdonalds and get served sit down inside & eat a meal, before i die,thanks.
You're such a sweet and open-minded person and I think it's very courageous of you to put this out there. I feel like hugging you right now. :)
I can be incredibaly shy, my weekend went like this....
My mum wanted me to go buy some milk up the road, but i saw someone I knew from class at a distance. Instant panic. I would frantically look anywhere to hide, but i'm 14 now so i can't jump into a bush like when I was little, so i decided to let my hair out to cover my face so he wouldn't recognize me. Then I remembered that I have like really curly hair which is really distinctive. Then I started to almost have another one of my anxiety attacks so i pretended to be tying my shoelace...I forgot to put shoes on before i left the house and he was coming closer. I ran.......this is why i don't speak to kids at school. The problem is that i'm really tall and have really bushy hair i feal like i'm always sticking out.
+PASTAAAAAAAA!!!(o^^o) hi everyone ,if anyone else needs to find out about how to cure shyness naturally try Megarno Shyness Magician (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my m8 got great success with it.
IM Going to try and conquer shyness once and for all please kik me (bf171999) we could help each other and encourage each other and conquer shyness together 👌👌👌👌
I'm sorry, i don't have kik, I only have email and facebook
PASTAAAAAAAA!!!(o^^o) my email is handles139@gmail.com
interesting points ,if anyone else wants to discover how to cure shyness naturally try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my colleague got amazing success with it.
I have already whatched this video few months ago, before I started overcoming my shyness. And now when I feel a bit more confident about myself I am watching this video and thinking how I understand you so much better than before. Now I can totally relate to everything you said.
Thank you for bringing my hope back. :)
Girl afraid of shopping... Marry me
Tell me about it Lol
I hate shopping >_> unless it's for video games ~(*-*)~
hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to learn about best books for getting over shyness try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (just google it ) ? Ive heard some great things about it and my mate got amazing success with it.
I'm not sure but ,if anyone else trying to find out how to cure shyness naturally try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
interesting points ,if anyone else wants to learn about exercises to overcome shyness try Megarno Shyness Magician (just google it ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my friend got amazing success with it.
im going through this right now, i think once you've acknowledged it then thats the start, i know ill get better it'll take some work but i will get there. Thanks for making the video you are a lovely lovely person
I Blush so much, I mean I'm not that shy of a guy usually, it's only in class when I raise my hand to say the answer I blush like wtf... it's been 1 week it's doing this idk why... please help... btw you're very pretty
Sera phim it's been 3 mounths now... still blushing like hell... but thank you, hopefully you're right and it will go away :)
Aww, so cute >.
Cami The Wolf Yeah it's totally confidence... If I didn't have the thought of blushing (that it could happen to me) I wouldn't blush...
Kaitlin Garai I feel you, don't worry, I'm going to try to take medication because I can't take it anymore, to make me less stressed, because that's what's causing it all, and then I think and hope I'll forget even about blushing and I'll be like a used to be, hopefully it all be that easy... It's been like 6 mounths and it's still the same, try seeing a doctor they're made for that...
Wow, I really take my hat of to you!!!! That must have taken a lot for you to open up like that, good on you Sinead!!!!!! Im going to show my brother this video, he gets stressed so easily and lacks confidence he now takes panick attacks too. Seeing this video helped me understand how he feels at times too as it now affects him on a daily basis!!!!! Thank you......
idk why it feels weird when i walk past people it's just i don't know where to look and it becomes a real problem i have to face it everyday:(
There is some one in the world who care about you and you are not annoying anyone. A lot of us have had that feeling so don't feel alone.
I"M very shy and quite and i also have very bad anxiety issues my self and by watching your veido i hope it will help me!!
When I was little I was a little shy but I could easily go to other and discuss ... But after its a lot worse even what became crippling shyness, I try several times to convince me that I am a normal girl her but I always fails! but It goes back to the moral view that I am not alone
I was shy and I am STILL shy,
It all started at Elementary School, when I was young.
I only had 2 Best Friends, but they also were mean and one of them was a Big Liar.
And in class I was very shy, I was like embarrassed/shy "They are gonna laugh at me" so I never really had friends...
Also...some of the kid's were bullying me, so I was like "Why? Why is this happening to ME?!?" I was sad I was shy, embarrassed.
I'm trying my best to overcome shyness!
I am Turkish so the 2 Best Friends of mine are Turkish too. I live in the NL (Netherlands) !
And I also was very jealous, 'cause I had a small bike wich was small for me and I needed a New Bike...so I asked my Mom&Dad to buy a new bike! They said "We don't have enough money for that right now." so that happend when I was in the 6th Grade! Monday I'm going to the 7th grade and I'm waiting for my New Bike...but we didn't purchased it yet :( . So I'm STILL shy but I'mma try my best thus year...hopefully!
I am Quiet-Shy-Jealous!
Don't give up. Start to overcome your shyness now. Since you are still young you have a higher chance for overcoming shyness. I started around the end of High school and although I have improved, I still have a long way to go. And if you're alone don't worry. No human in this world is alone. There are people who care about you. So don't give up and try to overcome shyness. I suggest you look for tips in the Internet in sites like succeed socially and many others. Or you could look for professional help if you can. Hope everything goes well for you.
I am seriously shy which I hate because I'm 19 years old and I always go around the street as if I'm a shy 12 year old. in fact, loads of people think I'm a lot younger because I am shy. I really want to overcome it because I'm supposed to be an adult but I feel like a shy child. Every time I smile or laugh, I cover my mouth with my hands because I'm insecure. If I'm with my mum, and we're in a restaurant together, I let her order my food instead of myself which is stupid at my age but I'm so scared to talk in case I embarrass myself. I get really nervous just before I leave the house as well. Also quite a lot of people seem to stare at me in the streets which I think makes me more anxious. I struggle to show any emotion in my face so my face can look so youthful because of that. I don't know what to do about it.
Imagine a place where everyone can only be no other but their selves.
That place is right here on earth. Solution to shyness: "There is no value to others opinions about ourselves. That is the rational truth. If they are judgmental, than they aren't people to be concerned with. Fuck them." We're on this earth to be ourselves, instead of giving in to society's BS standards. Be a lion, be different. You become confident, rational, and BETTER than those who judge you and put you down. Note this isn't being arrogant, it is simply being in the right.
Well I was/still am quite terrible everything you described is me but as you say you find ways of coping and build on them initially though if someone said something to me and I didn't know them or there was no purpose to it i.e a stranger at a bus stop passing the time of day I would completely internally start to panic, thinking what do they want from me-and then I got a job where I have to speak to customers everyday so that kind of exposed me in a way that helps me now.
No disrespect, but you're really pretty and you speak well. So, it's easy for you to overcome your shyness. It's harder for someone who is not attractive or has a speech problem.
Good advice, though. Thanks.
haha her story is a lie, she is actually not a shy girl.
such a beautiful girl what do you think? if it's true then it's normal for good looking face but for ugly fellows like me suffer the worst .
i do have speech proplem my ideas disorganized whenever i want to talk :(
i am shy too . i could not talk to girl, everytime i talk i just cant think what to say . but i realised that does not bring any benefit for me, and i start to work out slowly not taking much step but building step. and i have to say this i am more confident now . my tip is just talk to them , dont be fear of rejection .
thank you, thank you, thank you. i really needed this.
hey ,if anyone else wants to discover exercises to overcome shyness try Megarno Shyness Magician (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my buddy got amazing results with it.
+foreverMello
I still cry. The reason for people's shyness is not because they are afraid. It's because their feelings have been hurt. My parents complains and attacks the soul and heart like everyday every so often. Then, getting my cousins, relatives, friends, and everybody to attack my heart and soul too makes me sad. I am deeply saddened. I do cry in front of people. And then, when I'm done, I go back to play. It takes a just an unarmed and harmless girl to say something, and I'm tear-rized. Yeah.
I really liked the video. I go through these sort of things that you have mentioned. I have real trouble in making eye contact with people, I get extremely shy, nervous and anxious when I am around people because I keep thinking that may be I would say something or behave in a way that would make me appear as really silly and stupid in front of the people that am around and I will be laughed at and ridiculed. I have real difficulty in initiating a conversation or holding a conversation with people. I get nervous if random people sitting beside me laugh because I fear that may be they are laughing about something that is related to me and I am coming across as weird and silly to them when it is actually not the case. Probably they are laughing about something else that has no relation with me. Yet I cannot make my mind understand and realize these things and keep getting anxious. I never have much interesting things or topics to talk about with people and therefore have difficulty in participating in conversations when I am at a social setting. Therefore, I generally prefer to avoid attending any social function and even if I do attend, I remain mostly quiet and listen to others. I also have expression issues. So, my facial expression is always flat and bland. I smile very less. My voice is always so low and bland when I am talking to people. My voice does not sound enthusiastic and exciting. It mostly remains at a constant flat tone. It makes me look awkward to other people. Therefore, I always get asked questions like whether I am enjoying, or am I sad, or why I am so cold and silent. These questions make me feel even more embarrassed and shy and also somewhat irritated and make me want to avoid people more. I just wish that I could be like everyone else who can confidently interact with others and form relationships. Your video made me feel better. Thanks a lot.
Hi sinead, loved this video, you are so brave and thoughtful for doing this :) I cant imaging how difficult it must have been for you sufering all that anxiety and I think its amazing you overcame it :) I am really shy and quiet myself and always have been, im 18 now. People describe as 'the girl that doesnt talk' and they also more than likely think I am a weirdeo. :/ shyness has ruined my chances of havin a bf cause I cant talk wit them :( also being friends with some girls has been prevented
Thank you so much for this.
You looks so pretty, it's so easy for you to overcome shyness.
I am sooo ridiculously shy and if you don't mind, i'll share my little story. I have never grew out of it. Even being in IMR groups. I always feel like im just the oddball of the bunch and granted other people have issues and some people are shy in there, but they sure don't show it. They are able to overcome, at least from my point of view. Well for me, its just plain-fully obvious, that i am not very outspoken, keep to my self and i blush constantly when im called up on to say something.
I am actually an intelligent person, at least i think so but articulating what your able to think into verbal communication is just a whole another thing and it becomes a real challenge because like this person says in the video. You have to take time and carefully think, to get the write words out. This has been something that i have never been able to break free of for along time ever sincei was in middle school and i was always kind of the person that was anti-social to begin with probably due to the fact that i got messed around with alot, picked on and even my teachers looked down upon me. I got very little recognition from anyone.
All of this definitely has a major factor later on in life. Perhaps one of the worst things is about 2 years after i graduated from highschool, i came down with a sever medical disability with seizures and i have isolated my self for years in that amount of time. Never wanted to talk to anyone, just didn't get out enough. I have had no practice talking to people or conversing. Now a days, its getting alot easer to handle my disability, but its at a point now where so many years have gone by, its really challenging when im suddenly placed in a situation with people or groups of people, which is something i am absolutely not used to. It is nice that in my IMR groups that people actually treat you with respect and compliment you alot, which to me is something is very shocking to me cause of my early childhood life where literally no one gave me any recognition or acceptance in anything.
Same
Do you have a British background. Im hearing 2 accents lol. Anyways thanks for this inspiring video, you're truly gorgeous. Bask in that B-)
Shyness will go away over time. The more you are in the public working or going to school, the more people you have to talk to. Eventually you will meet someone and have kids, then they will do something embarrassing in public and you will get used to talking to people.
It is not that easy dear.
Prada Versace I know, but I am speaking from my parents experiences. They were both shy, but now they are not.
Exactly! Not easy! It will still be there but you CAN control it.
Your story is my Story, I to skipped school, even dropped out of school, couldn't leave the house, had 0 confidence in myself what so ever. I would imagine I was someone else.
Same
im so painfully shy and i always think that there's something wrong with me. growing up everyone would always tell me i was so quiet or shy but now im wondering if i have selective mutism also. i kinda self-diagnosed myself with anxiety issues and never talked to a professional about it.. lol
I wish you had made this video 5 years ago - then I would know why my sister never wanted to go to school :( But I did try to help her like you were describing. When I was going to a store, I always asked if she wanted to come. She never wanted to buy anything - didn't like to deal with going up to the counter and pay. So first, I bought things for her, then I asked her to stand by me when I did it (for a long time)...
You are so gorgeous God bless you
@MiracleMira He was a friend of a friend, kind of love at first sight even though we never spoke.I called off our first and second date because I was too nervous and a week later I had no choice but to go I couldn't put it off any more but it was great. No other guy was able to made me feel so at easy which is why he was the one for me. I was so stressed and sick over it but I managed to face it in the end and I was so glad I did. Go for it hun, you never know when you could meet THE ONE! :)
I m extremely quite girl I can't even talk when there are like about more than 3 people
Me too
I didn't have any confidence in highschool. I often missed days as well. I've gotten better with it, but I still can't seem to talk to girls and I also have a lot of trouble ancting like myself around new people.
Omg you are so like me. thats how I feel.
seriously you are so amaing, I'm really going to try this cause I'm always upset all the time. I can definetly relate to what you had to say so thank you so mcuh again for sharing your story with me.
i'm also a kind of a shy person, and i really struggle a lot with this and only a person who experience shyness will be able to understand this when im the center of attraction i sweat a alot my voice become very shaky and i wont make eye contact
me too!!!
Me too!!!!!
When I'm with people I'm comfortable with (good friends and family) I'm ok, but when meeting new people,mi make eye contact and talk a little because it's really polite, but I'm still shy when I talk.
New People my group of friends hang out with I'll talk and make eye contact and try to seem as normal as can be but I'm still really shy and don't act the way I usually do
I also am fine with talking to cashiers and people who are working, or just greeting randoms but meeting people my age (usually people I kinda like) I'm just shy
that is exactly like me , i am full of stress ,shyness and anxity and that prevents me from getting to what i want .. people dont see my anxious side and everyone says that i even look very confident ,,
i have tried to overcome my shyness but it just doesnt feel like my self any more ,, so i just want to get rid of the social anxity part and learn to be cool around new people without getting rid of the shy part cuz that ( within the limits ) could be a good thing. i dont really have anyone to talk to about this and i tend to overthink everything like you said and things get stuck in my head and repeat over and over again and they build up those layers of anxity and stress that you were talking about ,, i want to be a confident person cuz i know i am capable of so much but when ever i try to build my self up it all goes down again ...
great video it really helps to know its not just me.
p.s.
i dont speak as much as i write hhhhh
i just had to get it out
i know how you feel
@MySecretLove4Makeup Well its not some thing you can just overcome and that's it, its some thing I have to work at I think in the past year (I'm 23) that things have improved and I don't have as much fear now but I still have issues. RUclips has help too.
Now why didn't I discover this video 2 years earlier when this was my biggest problem in life and have the opportunity to realize that I'm not alone? Anyway, thank you so much for uploading this video because it makes me glad to know that there are lovely people who have experienced it and who are willing to help others :) x
@jessewalla I know, try early morning shopping when its quiet and slowing work up to more busy times. A concert might seems impossible but give it time and you'll be there dancing and singing with the rest of them :)
thank you for this video!
@galwayy2012 Hey, there are so great website that give tips to control blushes, you can also contact your doctor. Search google for the blushing site there are some great ones :)
I didnt go to school for a total of 4 years. Now I'm still struggling. I tried to study at home but learning in school is so much better.I love to learn.bit its make me so depressed going to school....bcuz of my anxiety n all the stuff u had told.
CAN YOU MADE MORE VIDEO LIKE THIS!!!
I know how you feel.
@coolfann1 Maybe just focus on building your confidence in other areas before you think about getting a boyfriend.
The ultimate reason why people are shy is because they have programmed themselves subconsciously. It is not because they simply dont want to talk to people, yet it is a habit they have formed in their early life and because they have not changed it, it haunts them in all social situations. Just consciously knowing that you have a desire to walk up and talk to a random person does not make it happen because the subconscious controls the body - therefore the action which is needed to produce the result. Changing a habit is certainly not easy, but if you are willing to push yourself and change your routine on a daily basis, you will start to feel more confident in social situations because the habit in the mind will be changed.
Also, i recommend to watch Bob Proctor. He's an incredible man and he talks about the mind in a very eye-opening way :)
Bob Proctor is also in the book called The Secret
Glad you like the video, I didn't take medication I know a few people did though :)
see for me the story goes that when i was in middle school i used to be really talkative, i used to be the class clown almost, and i had no problem talking to people and i used to have a lot of friends and was semi popular. i also used to have this girl that i used to like, then i told her i liked her and she liked me back so everything was great. that was also the last time we talked in person. my shyness kind of took over me and i could not bring myself to even go near her and the same thing happened to her, we couldnt talk. It went on like that for like 2 years until she moved away and i havent seen her since. then when i got to high school it just went from being just her to everybody. im a senior now and i have a couple of friends but all my conversations are so dull and they always hit the awkward silences when i just have noithing else to say then when i think about it later i can think of a million things i couldve said in that scenario. it's really frustrating becasue i know whats wrong i just cant figure out how to fix it. its very poopy
+steven Alvarez You literally have spoken my mind. I used to be so crazy and confident in middle school but once I hit high school I am literally the shyest person there... I don't know what happens, I think we are worried that if we embarrass ourselves, theres no one to go to? Maybe its because we are expected to act mature and we worry too much about saying something that other people don't find funny or interesting... Whatever it is I know what you're going through
Lool that is literally me. I was one of the most popular people in my school, but instead I moved into the top sets and it was full of nerds; so Yh I couldn't really relate to them, they only talked about school and exams; I began talking less and Yh. Worst year of my life. I'm never going to top sets.
@ajfaries Totally agree with you! Recharge their batteries is how I put it too!! xxx
This is exactly what I am going through :(
I just dont like being shy😓 Im always The one that doesnt talk at school. Im always trying to over come shyness before school starts. And i just keep trying. Why cant i be like anyone else😩?. Im dealing with social anxiety and pánic attacks. I always have to be The center of attention as being The shyest one.
I like your accent :)
@iwonavoll I hope you don't feel alone now, we are alike so don't feel alone.
I have had panic attacks since 11 yrs old I am now 19 almost 20 and still have panic attacks but I only get them every now and then. I'm very shy in big groups of people and it takes me a very long time to get comfortable with people . I am able to get up in front of a class and present my projects and I can talk tp people if I'm in a small group but if I'm in a big group I don't talk . If people talk to me first I will talk. I need to learn how to overcome my shyness. I know shyness will always be a part of who I am and I accept that but I want to become a little bit outgoing
OMG we the same way dude. i had panic attacks since i was 12 now i'm 16.
Hey, you will be allright! I'm 28, I change a lot! I had kindoff the same problems when I was 17yrs. What really boosted me was: finished school, and started working.
I was around adult people and treated like that, I got forced to have contact with costumers, I got way more adult and after a while was not affraid to talk with strangers anymore but absolutely still was't confident.
I stopped working fulltime and went back to school at age of 20, I choosed graphic design. And because it's a more specific education more people have the same interests and somehow are in the same mindset, I had such a connection with all these creative minds! + it was in the city, there was the life, not in my boring hometown. Met so much great new people there! Everybody around me started saying, Wow! you're doing so well, you really look happy, you have more charisma etc. That really boosted me!
And now years later, I realized I lost that feeling, many things happened lost my father, break up, school did'nt went well, financial problems etc.. for 6 years I became slightly depressed but just woke up and admitted I was'nt doing so well.
Now I'm aware of that again, I can work on it! In a few weeks so many things already changed!
So stay and keep positive! And you know what!? If you don't like your shyness, don't say 'it will be a part of who you are', because people can change! As long if you want to!
Go search for "Joe Dispenza"
He is a neurologist that studied the human brain, he won't believe you If you say that shyness is a part of you.
Theres a dvd called evolve your brain, maybe it's on youtube, very interesting.
Oh yes, and I commented for someone else before, maybe for you the same. Sport can really really help. It makes the hormone endorfine, if you train hard you will feel more happy and confident. If you keep this up a few times a week, it will get into your system. And martial arts many times helps people to act calmly in stress and panic situations. True Japanese martial art is more than just fighting moves and tricks, it's about body and mind balance, find peace in yourself.
;-)
You are just like me! We even kinda look alike. When you started tearing up I did too because I know exactly how you feel, and because everything makes me tear up lol.
She is beautiful...
She looks like a princess.
Wow you are incredible! I hate being depressed after some conversations after realizing better responses that I could've said them but I didn't
i am really really shy. I dont think ill ever be able to overcome my shyness.
I know how u feel.
Lilyanna McVeigh yep. I really wish i could stop being shy. Btw i love your profile picture :) its so cute.
Breezy Kersey I am super shy also. I know exactly how you feel, and it feels like it can never go away. It's hard, but I know we can all overcome it
Eva Fox Yes i hate being shy. Im shy alot especially at school. And yeah like you said it feels it will never go away. I hope when i become an adult i wont being shy anymore. It really sucks being shy but im glad im not the only one :)
***** thanks for the advice.
Your situation is totally same as mine ... I definitely agree with you .. Talking to someone working in a shop is the most difficult thing for me and I am still hesitate to go to school. Fot me, my everyday life is just a big challenge that I have to overcome. I thought I was alone and I was only one who is undrgoing these symptoms, but you encouraged me so much. Thank you ! I hope you will be able to help a lot more people including me through your video clips.
I was really shy all throughout my school career, and I am a freshman in high school now!
I also dont like my personality its shyness. when I was teenager its worst and I regret it but thnks for thr bcoz im a good student like reading books so tht made me be able to enter top university. now im gettin better tryin to get out of comfort zone. join active learnin class tht let student give presentation in class.
you know what? you really spoke from your heart and it is such a wonderful feeling to know someone so successful on youtube who has overcome shyness ... you have gone a long way! congratulations for your courage in sharing your story ... you are such an inspiration.
@iloveflorencewelch Oh yeah totally!! :) We are all so alike!
great video! thanks for your courage to told about it in front of us :-) it show how you have improve since this bad periode of your life ! you can be so so so proud of you!!! xx
@kittiperry1 No just the sun on my face. :)
U r beautiful teacher
Your story is my life right now. And i think this can help me alot! Thank you so much! :)
i'm glad i found you on youtube.
you are such a special youtuber. :)
That girl is perfect
You have very kind eyes.
Aw honey, I am sending you a hug :)
When i walked to class and bumped into people i wouldnt even dare to make eye contact with them and i would walk weirdly just to avoid them. And my voice would become weird when im presenting something in front of class. Im starting my degree on 27th jan, i hope i could overcome my shyness and be confidence than now.
Oh dear. We have same problem. Bt we'll work on it further.
Eye contact is hard for me, because I think it is awkward.
3:35 same here. I always look down. Even at Starbucks.
I say the order over and over, because my anxiety will make me forget and slur my speech.
You're cute. I don't know what it is that I like about you in this video.
Usually when I get in social situations my hands get all sweaty and I've been known to shake a bit. About a month ago I decided to try to socialize so I signed up to volunteer at a local thrift store. I went in thinking the worst but I was wrong. Everyone I've met is just so nice and they're all great. I've been back to volunteer every week. It's helped me open up a bit more and talk to people. Now I have a new problem. I've developed a crush on this girl who also volunteers there.
Thanks for sharing your story. I suffer from really embarrassing panic attacks where I can't stop perspiring and end up all blotchy and red and people start to stare and wonder what's wrong. But I find that it helps if I focus really hard on the present moment and not think about anything else. Just focus on the breathing and what exactly I'm doing right now. It's a constant struggle, I know, but it gets better everyday :)
Thank you! In school, I can talk to my teachers, but when other people talk to me, I tend to just freeze up and talk really softly, so I don't have any close friends that I feel like I can talk to. When ever I go out, people constantly have to ask me to speak up, which can make me come off as rude sometimes.I can't stand crowds, and I live in a city that is packed with tourists in the Summer. I don't even trust my family. I have a whole list of other things, so it is good to know I'm not alone.
And I also get panic atacks sometimes. Right now I'm actually kind of panicked because all these advice are too much and I know I need to take it slowly and be patient....but there are so many things I want to change about myself, I don't even know who I want to be....I like doing so many different things but that freaks me out, because I get panic atacks! OMG I dont' know what I'm going to do with myself! :/
I REALLY have a question: how did you get a job? I really need to find a job soon and I have so much anxiety about talking to a manager and asking for applications and interviews and even after getting a job, having to come in to work... employers want super confident, upbeat, able workers and I don't know how to project that when I know I'm not there yet. Can you tell me how you did it???
I'm the same way, but worse, because i'm older and I still let my fear hold me back. I remember as a teen, going to the mall with my mom and sisters and i'd want to go up and order or pay for something too and I remember breaking down crying so hard I couldn't breathe right in the middle of the food court, because I was so scared to walk up to that counter. And my mom ended up going up & doing it for me, as she always did. I wish so much now that she had of just let me sink or swim.
I am 44 and have dealt with anxiety & panic attacks since I was in my teens. I still deal with anxiety today, but the words of wisdom I can pass on to others is: Never give up. Keep trying. My big problem is going to the mall alone. Having a friend with you that understands is a wonderful thing. I have a friend that also has panic attacks and we tend to bounce off each other. The situations that trigger her panic attacks are not the same for me. We are very good at calming each other down.
I still have some shyness. That is why I came to youtube as well because I'm alone in my room and can talk about things. Now I'm making videos.
interesting points ,if anyone else wants to learn about exercises to overcome shyness try Megarno Shyness Magician (just google it ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my work buddy got amazing results with it.
@antwenet Good for you! :) x