No need for a explanation...black men have made it VERY clear that they want no parts of Black women. -Black Men are entitled to there feelings. -Sisters be free, be yourself, and explore good options outside your ethnicity!
I think a lot of black women are seen as "too strong" cause we've always HAD to be. We've never really had a chance to to have it easy and we've been through more than other races. Black men often don't get us either that or they just want other races and won't admit it. That's fine, but why bash black women? There's good black women. Plenty of bw don't have a relationship with their father, but they won't take it out on all bw. This whole thing needs to stop. Stop bashing black women and marry Becky if you want her. I prefer white men, but don't hate my race.
I'm a South African black male and we love our black women with all their flaws kept in consideration, simply because their good qualities outweigh any flaws they might have... Sad to see how African Americans are divided amongst each other
+Tshepo Mosito you're closer to where we were in the 1960s and 1970s, the time of Black consciousness. Martin, Malcolm, the Black Panthers. After the government suppressed our Movement, allowed a compromised black bourgeois and petty bourgeois strata to emerge, decimated our poor and working class majority with prisons, drugs and unemployment, you eventually got the madness that you now see. Nonetheless, the more SANE among American Black men still love our black sisters, and our more sane sisters still love us. By the way, I was an active supporter of the South African freedom movement during the 1980s when I was a university student. Mandela got a hero's welcome when he visited Harlem. I'm interested in knowing more about the progress of things in your country. I know here must be the great challenges of poverty and inequality which is the legacy of the racist, fascistic regime of apartheid.
Tshepo Mosito ...good morning. I think that's beautiful. But also when you have a place to truly identify with, the unity and pride is at a higher level. Most of us as african americans...what country do we really fit in with? I'm not trying to be disagreable, but look at others who have a place they truly identify with, and for the most part, they will marry and or unify with their own with pride. If I'm wrong I apologize.
AfroAngloFrenchie Chick yeah it's sad. I myself am not part of the black community (pretty alien to it) but it's weird to see that this is what I'm missing out on.
Keep in mind that most Black men do date black women, and black women date black men. That's a FACT that people continue to ignore when they make videos about Black male/female relationship. We need to talk about what can improve our relationships, and improve our community.
Louis Van gaal In every racial or ethnic group I know of, most people of BOTH genders marry within their particular group. That's simply a FACT. Even among Asian Americans, who probably marry "out" mor on average than other groups, those who marry "in" are still the majority. Whites marry "Out" LESS than any other group in America (partly because they are still the majority). And Blacks marry out LESS than any other groups except whites. For most of us it is simply natural. Most live in predominantly black neighborhood (even when members of the middle class), go to mainly black churches and (below the university level) go to predominantly schools. What would you expect? Now these are facts, facts accessible to anyone willing to do a little research. But many people will just disregard or dance around any facts they don't like in order to make their debatable opinion seem an indisputable truth.
Louis Van gaal Come to think of it, white men are more likely to opt for Asian women, Latin women than Black women. And white women are more likely to opt for Latino men before Black men. But white women differ from white men in opting more often for Black men than Asian men. While Asian women are first choice for white men, Asian men seem to be the last choice for white women And that's in addition to the fact that whites marry out LESS than any other group. Anybody can check US Bureau of Statistic, or data by Pew, etc
To all the black women out there. Here is the EXACT reason why some brothers dont date you. In black culture the women demean and refuse to submit to the man regardless of what he brings to the table. They act like our mothers instead of our wives. We are not attracted to our mothers. We need women who will respect us and allow us to lead..... No if's ands or buts. the same women that complain about not finding a good men will pass over a regular guy to find a thug who has a "image". Say guys are "too nice". If you want to land a successful man be submissive and dont look to destroy his ego in a argument. Its that simple.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 um okay. Wow. You really think that's a good excuse. No all black woman are the same. And are non-black that don't let men take the lead. Get to know people. Talk to them. Also,I believe marriage is a partnership. You need to talk and communicate. The man needs to listen to the woman as much as a he needs to her to listen to him. No one way shit. Women are people too. Listen ,talk, discuss. Stop blaming others. Talk to us. Cause you're not only affecting your life. You're affecting hers too.
How about bm lead by example. Like other cultures put valie on family and children. Show these young women (daughters) healthy loving relationships with both showing mutual respect. Most young ladies are raised by their mothers only. The first man in their lives abandon them. And mom bf leave and in most cases sexually abuse them. Bm are more in tune with women because they are raised by females aunts sisters. So they know how to treat and respect women
The sad reality is that a lot of women love pooky and Ray Ray and they look at Marcus and Jordan as boring. And for the ones who love Marcus and Jordan, have extreme high expectations of them. It's very sad.
The good girl / bad boy thing happens because we humans like challenges and most of us good guys spent our youth studying and didn't get up on game until later in life. So when we were younger, the girls who didn't have a good man in the home to teach them how a man should be, were choosing the boys who were more of a challenge to manage (the bad boys) and passing on the boys that were push overs (the good ones). Then fast forward 10 years and now that young lady has 4 kids by 3 lousy men. She's used up and vocally critical of ALL MEN while secretly hoping that one of us good guys will throw on our "captain save-a-hoe cape" swoop down and rescue her. But as she's come to find out, the universe doesn't work like that... That good guy ship has sailed because dime pieces from all over the world are checking for us good black men. So while she was asleep at the switch, they were choosing. And THAT'S the problem!
The bad boys raised in the street were busy learning how to be accomplished, slick "playas" and pimps. Ignorant chicken-heads only see this type as real men. Good guys are shamed and marginalized and withdraw. Later on they realize that although their self esteem was damaged it really was a blessing in disguise.
Sean Carrington "So while she was asleep at the switch, they were choosing. And THAT'S the problem!" i agree with your statement, but with a twist on your conclusion. the "problem" is why the hell aren't mothers teaching their daughters not to go for these thug/playa/dumb fuck type of guys? THAT's the problem! additionally, the fact that soooooooo many (black american) females are in denial of, or are apologists for, rachet behavior, despite the preponderance of video evidence, is truly stunning. how can this NOT be viewed as psychotic? MGTOW Ten Commandments
Sean Carrington yeah i'm hip. we men also have a problem not teaching our sons about this stupid shit. i make it a point to share this information with every young man i know. this is one of the reasons why i wrote MGTOW Commandment III -- Thou Shalt Assist Thy Fellow Man (and i will until the day i die). MGTOW Ten Commandments
***** Absolutely I don't blame the man in the slightest because I myself cannot stand loud mouthed woman,PS I am glad I am not overweight hahahahaha :) A woman is supposse to be gentle and be at home with the kids and cooking and cleaning,A man loves and wants a old fasioned woman.
***** Wow really? That surprises me you obviously need stimulation in the mind like me,Except I am old fashioned I believe we have our different roles.I have a job naturally but my first and most important job is being a Mum :)
***** Ah yes the double minded one hahaha :) I was a city Gal but I moved to The country about 8 years ago and I could never live in the drama filled city life again.I was going to sell my house for my sons to be closer to Town and at the very day someone came and looked at our house my sons go.Mum we love it here hahaha I wanted to kill them because I was only selling it for them!Once you go country you can never loose that beautiful peace :)
I dated a Black chick at work for 2 months. She started get get a bit out of line with her mouth. I told her we "needed to let go." I had bought her a pair of Diamond ear rings for Christmas. She's now dating another guy at work. She gave the ear rings to him and he wears them almost everyday. I understand, they're her ear rings and she can do what she wants with them. But, it was a Shitty thong to do. I will Never date or give a damn about another Black Woman every again. My loss? Ok, I'll take the loss.
Thank you brother. Black men have Black mothers. We all have suffered brokenness, how do we love enough and heal each other to be better women and men. Black women have had to carry a lot and want to be loved by our black men because you are the greatest lovers in the whole world but have lost their place just as black women have lost their places. finding each other is hard but it can be done.
+michelle collins yeah ugly fat really white Bo Bo cheese white women or plastic blond white women if I were a black woman I would say fuck you find a good black guy or white there's some good looking white guys that will love you who cares if they go for those white women
Live moder time everything. Change. Relate culture people. Slave time is past time today world open new rich relate interacial. Thanks lord. But some one. Still stuck slave thinking. So sad and funny people who is blind deaff changes who.come today world past in the past black man is king smart be. Tie relate r another woman who make him happy grows up.girl.
I am a strong beautiful black woman who never dated out my race, I love Black Men. So sad to know that there are black men in the world that don't love us
Before world. Can tame one standart blacknes. But wprld and everything era is changes acctept this strong fact is u problm. Black man love challenge come thim time open mind heart worlds relate bless Beauty universal fact
we have to get the black women back we have been running from the real problems with the black family structure its time to rebuild the black family from the ground up
Time is change. Time keep tie only one standart is done is good slave time is past never back today is new modern time strong beauty. New code interacial stricte family love couple that is fact. No exuse
I applaud you on that comment. This comment should be a damn slogan! You are ON POINT!!!!!!!!! I have to write your comment down because this is so powerful. You ain't NEVER lie!!
Everything said here has less to do w/ Black women and much more to do w/ American CULTURE. The USA Isn't the greatest place for dating, and Im not interested in marrying a non Black woman
Find woman who make u happy feel great give u good mood calm home love care respect does matter skin color we are humian all beauty is universal world have many type pretty
Oh my goodness this was ignorant. Guys every race has the same issues. stop looking at the color of the skin and examine the state of the mind. And if you come across people like this with these very small minded streotypes pass them up and look for someone with a stable mind. I am a black woman who is married to a white man and the color was never an issue. He is a very intelligent man who understands that all races has certain types of people. The type of black woman he is talking about appears in all races. It is the way a person was raised and taught, it has nothing to do with the color of the skin. so my fellow black women and men keep your heads up and don't pay attention to the color look at the heart and mind if a individual and be happy for those who have it and it will come to you too. Date who want, but don't date due to a streotype, because you would be selling yourself short.
Agree with u 100% recism is bouce reflect small mind who stuck still racism epic is sick. World culture have more beauty universal no dyscriminate everybody. Look heart no one eye and. Stop judge people
You is absolutely true about seeking someone the same likeness as being equally yoked a single mother needs to seek a single father & a single woman needs to seek a single man. That goes into play with understanding the courtship of a good healthy relationship plus you hit it on the nail with the church & seek advice from other people who are not professionals to help fix a problem not add gas to the flames. Well spoken my brother...
You are contradicting yourself in this video. You should really take the time to re-evaluate your mindset and change the video title to "TOP 3 REASON WHY I....." Because not all black men feel this way and not ALL black women are what you're describing in this video. How could you frown upon women of your own nature? It's black men like you that bring black queens down instead of uplifting them. This video was absolutely pointless.
i am christian and in my church i am always told to raise my value, get an education to get the job i need and leave the lifestyle that i wan to leave. I am taught to have a plan, short-term and long-term, i am taught if fail to plan I plan to fail. I am taught that i shouldn't expect a man to give all I want.....etc
***** The Virtuous Wife 10 Who[b] can find a virtuous[c] wife? For her worth is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. 15 She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. 18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle. 20 She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants. 25 Strength and honour are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN INDUSTRIOUS INDEPENDENT WOMEN TO ME.DON'T YOU THINK?
Pesi Belau No, she sounds like a HELPMATE! The woman the scriptures describes manage the household and take the tedious work off the hands of her husband. This isnt independence, this is operating in her role as a wife. She still depends on her husband which dispells the whole independent thing all together. This woman is wise, humble, slow to speak, thoughtful, meek, dependable, respectable, resourceful, and understand her role. None of that you posted says she independent.
Actually, I think you need to study your bible because tithing and offering aren't 21st century principals.They are biblical. Ask the leading of the Holy Spirit and be open minded.
Jason has some valid points that are not limited to black women. It's heart breaking to have been raised with high morals and values, be educated, single, physically attractive, no children out of wedlock, funny, open-minded, nurturing and ambitious and still be thought and spoken of so negatively. Black Men, please keep in mind that your daughters (biracial included) will grow up to become black women. How will you feel when men who look like their fathers tear them down? Will you hate your black daughters like you hate the rest of us? What have we done, as a whole, to deserve such hate? I guess the same thing you did to make some people hate you because of the way you look. We were born black. Thanks for the video Mr. Winn.
Black women, these Black American men who rebuke their own women are infatuated by the colour, or lack there of, and hair texture of non Black women. Just date an African man particularly from west Africa and you will be happy to submit and serve these distinguished and proud men. My husband is from Burkina Faso and i worship him. i am a Jamaican woman.
again its not black its the American blacks....its a culture things cus I lov ishh hell out of sum Caribbean black woman or Afro Latin woman they are soo different mental wise and so also to you black woman get you a black men from Hispanic country or the Caribbean trust me yall be pleased
*sips green tea* Who the cap fits, let them wear it! You are the only person I have come across so far who did this in a respectable manner without having to bash black women, as well as thinking of solutions rather than just complaining. You have my respect. And my thumbs up.
There are plenty of of single black men and single black women. Stats state that when a marriage takes place its usually to the same race. There is a minority that marry outside but most of the time black men are marrying black women and vise versa. Let's not ignore that fact.
It ain’t about what’s wrong with the BW. It’s about what’s wrong with the BM. Here’s why I say this. Men are supposed to be the Coaches. Women and children are the team. It’s the JOB of the Coaches to get the team to at least the playoffs…not to mention the super-bowl. These BM today are NOT providers (they want to know what type of work a woman does or how much she makes, because they are looking for someone to do what is THEIR God given responsibility - - they should be asking or be concerned with what type of home maker and house manager she’ll be), they don’t take the SPIRITUAL lead, they are not teachers and barely want to protect. That’s what being a MAN is. Instead these males today are looking for females that are Bimbos, have no self-esteem or common sense. Why…. because they want someone they can pimp, abuse, disrespect and take advantage of and when BW stand up for themselves and let them know they are NOT having it, they are ready to say how difficult and no good she is. This is where the problem lies. The man is supposed to be the BOSS and the woman is the MANAGER. To manage a home it takes finances. At your job when something needs to be ordered or funds are needed to manage things, who do you turn to? You go to the BOSS. These BM want to be the Boss and want all this “Be Submissive” without realizing…you have to pay the Cost to be the Boss. If a man is not bringing at least bare minimum of $700.00 a month to the table, he gets NO respect and should not be allowed in your home. If they had to take care of themselves on their own they are going to pay at least $550-$600 a month for JUST rent alone. They will spend at least $50.00 a week on food to keep themselves alive. That totals more than $700.00. That’s not a woman being a gold digger or greedy for money, that’s a woman who wants to let a MAN be a MAN. A lot of women are Emasculating these males today and it is so, so sad and disturbing. If you're going to be a good BM, then why not be a good BM for your own race of women.....EMPOWER them!!!!!!!
I personally find black women absolutely beautiful and have dated a few and it was very nice so this guy is full of shit, just fucking say you prefer white women and be done with it but to make excuses is just sad and you shouldn't be putting all black women down like this not all black women are like that and not all white women are good either yes I'm a white guy and I just love black women.
Can someone please explain to me what is wrong with the African American community ? Like, you guys always have some sort of problems. I don't see African men nor Afro Carribean men posting videos on RUclips, bashing their women 24 hours a day. So why the African American community ? I think as Blacks we have enough problems coming from elsewhere, so why do you feel the need to create more from the inside ? And please don't come and tell me shxt about Black women doing this and that, because both males and females are to blame. I've noticed in this community, Black men go out with the wrong type of BW then they blame them all BW and Black women date the wrong type of BM then they blame/bash them. The only way for the African American community to help the Black race worldwilde is to start by fixing the problems going on in their community. And both Black men AND Black women are the problem ! Doing videos on RUclips isn't doing shxt, it's making the whole world laugh at you.
Hathennah no no no ! i cant let that slide ! cause its precisely that we havent had the conversation is why its as bad as it is . Because sisters have had the floor for 30 years almost unadulterated black male bashing now that we have a place to retaliate you all come back with this why cant we be friends again ! No way we got a chance to speak our peace now youre trying to shut us up ! but its not gonna work this saga will play out for better or for worse.
thegreatonecometh200 I'm not African American so the "you all" you can keep it for African American women. I'm not trying to shut anyone up sir. You're all acting like little babies. That stupid mentality of "They bash us ! It means we can bash them too !" is pure child behavior. Act like frickin' adults for God's sake ! Plus if Black women "took the male spot" in the couple or "bashed Black men" it's maybe because some Black males did things that forced Black women to do this. If you want to be the man in your relationship, act like one. Stop complaining and grow some balls ! Why did Black men back in the day could handle their women ? They were independent. They built things. They created the Black Wall Street. Where are those Black men now ? Bashing Black women to justify them dating interracialy ? Where's you pride, sir ?! Where ?!! Some of the most powerfull Black men that ever existed had Black women by their sides. Who had the balls ? Who was the man ? Tell me, in the King family, who do you think was the man ? Mr. King or his wife ?
thegreatonecometh200 Hum .. Excuse me where have I said "why are yall niggas in jail" ? Where in my previous comment did I talk about that ? Nowhere as far as I can remember. "foot draggers" "tongue suckers" "shemales" Wow .. And you're still surprised as to why your women bash you and don't respect you when you do the exact same thing. (Thank God Afro Carribean and African men don't act that way. I always knew there was something wrong with America, all people here are so weird and hateful.) All African American women twerk ? All African American women sleep around ? All African American women fight ? All African American want a guy wearing Jordans as a boyfriend ? All African American women want a boyfriend ? All African American are unproductive ? (I've heard African American women were actually more productive then their male counter parts.) Because African American men don't fight ? All African American men are well-behaved ? All African American men are productive ? African American men don't .. (Excuse the expression) fuck around as well ? So you think that by dating out you're making your community better .. Unless of course, you don't care about African Americans and you wish they should breed themselves out/die out. I know some people who would like that. (//coughs//Klansmen//cough//) African American have been running communities because you African American men let them. As soon as you found at that you could finally date the White American women you lusted for so long, you abandonned your communities. Black women then took over. And, to gain their Black men back, they wear weaves (Since Black men love the European hair) and they are really easy (Since a lot of Black men claim that White girls are easier.) Oh! And I'm also sure that "Black girls only date thugs" goes both ways. A lot of African American men like a certain type of woman. If they see a thin African American girl, with no ass, not the prettiest, who is shy and nerdy but really smart, doesn't talk much but would be a perfect wife and a thick African American girl with a nice ass, nice breasts, with one of the most beautiful faces they've ever seen, who's very confident and outgoing but is more of a one night stand girl. Who would they choose tell me ?
thegreatonecometh200 I defend them because if I don't, nobody will. I'm not saying they're right, but I don't go bashing at them, because it just won't change anything at all ! You can bashing them will change them, but it won't. They're just going to bash you more. Besides, more and more Black men end up dating women of other races and the good Black women end up lonely, and they start to think Black men don't want them and either they'll end up marrying outside their race while not bashing Black men, either they will marry outside their race and bash Black men. The only way to change those bad Black women, is to talk to them. Not bash them. Just talk. Try at least !
thegreatonecometh200 Black people just can't win. Instead of making videos of those women, how about you ignore them ? Because now, the only thing you're doing is giving them attention and putting other Black women in a hard position.
THANK YOU BROTHER! I've recently decided to disconnect from a certain church building for two reasons. (1) They keep roped up reserved seats...even when they're empty (2) They asked me to write down my phone number and email address for them, as a "new member" and I've haven't gotten a single peep from them either way. I am SO glad that I get into the word, for myself, first of all. Malachi 3:16 🤕 THANK you Brother!
This was sad to watch because it just reiterates the different forms of self-hatred that our culture is afflicted with. Read the Willie Lynch letter. This type of backwards mindset was strategically placed in the Black American culture hundreds of years ago when slaveholders devised a way to control the slaves, that if effectively done would carry on for hundreds of years. Your words are confirmation that they were very successful in doing so. I urge us to use our words and actions to lift each other up (including all cultures and people) instead of tearing each other down. Shalom and God bless!
thank you for this video brother I appreciate this I wish there were more real and unbrain washed people in our community thanks king peace and blessings to you 🔱
+Jason Winn 1. church 2. bitter friend advice 3. choosing pookie and ray ray over marcus and jordan I thought you were able to dissect the issue better than this. 1. Black men in AMERICA were enslaved and NOT ALLOWED to marry the black women they loved. Jumping the broom is still a tradition for that very reason. 2. Black men were not allowed to marry outside their race which further imaged the white woman as forbidden and more desirable. 3. White men killed black men for even the perceived disrespect of white women. The black woman had no such protection and still doesn't. 4. Black men are purposely denigrating the black image by ridiculing Black hair (which they have) and Black bodies (which they desire in other women) 5. The black woman must accept struggle as the status quo and never desire more for herself or children. She is labeled a gold digger for desiring what white women accept as the minimum. 6. No one uplifts the little black girl - she's bitter before she's 18. She's often raped. She's often called a whore for not aborting her child created 'in sin'. She's labeled a murderer complicit in black genocide by aborting the child. They say she has dick sucking lips while praising the collagen injected....i could go on but you get the point I hope. 7. The black woman is never singular. The mistake of one is the burden of all. Sounds like how those racists paint black men. Thank god the Black men who raised me and the Black brothers that looked out for me did not adopt the scapegoating that is the American Black man's battle cry.
Get some of these things, but why is this talk FOR black women? All black women are bitter? All black women are struggling with groceries? Can't relate at all lmao. This would work if you knew ALL black women. Lets talk to black men. Black women are now the group with the most diplomas (:
princess jackson If you're not those bw Mr. Winn is speaking of then there should be no problem with you being able to stand out right? You hold bw accountable that perpetuate this illogical thinking and destructive behavior right? You love your fellow black woman enough to call her out on her bs and set a good example right? In other words if you're not bitter then there has to be constructive dialogue instead of commenting on topic about bm and bw relationships?
P Evans Why call black women out on something that is a stereotype? I don't know any black women like this. I know tv characters. I think there is just a stigma.
Black women are now the group with the MOST USELESS diplomas (gender studies, Afro-american studies, arts, humanities etc).. not useful STEM degrees so they stay broke with no demand for their "skills" and are now in tons of student debt. Education in useless skills is a scam to keep minorities and women poor. Close the wage gap by getting a useful degree or trade.
Ashley Smith Shouldnt you be asking yourself why are you watching.commenting and supporting a video you dont like.Common sense should tell you he is expressing his self the way he want on his video not yours.If your gonna recommend anything.You should tell yourself to watch videos you like and support.Instead of wasting your time here,Trying to tell someone else what the should and should not do.SHOULD EVERYBODY DO WHAT YOU DO??YOU DONT MAKE VIDEOS ABOUT BLACK MEN.SO HE SHOULD NOT MAKE ANY ABOUT BLACK WOMEN.DOES HE KNOW YOU?? IS HE SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO READ YOUR MIND??IF YOU GO BUY A MAZDA.DOES THAT MEAN HE SHOULD GO BUY ONE.IF YOU EAT FISH DOES THAT MEAN HE SHOULD EAT IT TO??YOU BLACK BITCHES KILL ME WITH THIS SHIT.NOBODY SHOULD OR NEED TO FOLLOW YOUR FUCKING PATH OR THINK YOUR THOUGHTS.ARE YOU GOD NOR JESUS??? IF YOU CANT STAND APPLES DOES THAT MEAN I SHOULD DISLIKE THEM TO?WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS BLACK BITCH SAY BLACK MEN DO?
i am a single mother and i unerstand a person not wanting to date a person with children beause everyone has their own lives and it takes a special stronger MAN not just male love to help raise children thats not theirs. i would give that man way more props than a man that is a being a father to their own.
"Greetings, Andrew. First of all the Black Community as a whole is suffering greatly due to relying upon the church. This is FACT. From economics to marriages (high divorce rate/community falling apart monetarily). I would be willing to bet that 90% of churches across the US have several dirty deals going on as this response is being written. From the two timing preacher and his staff to the people in the congregation."
Speaking of half-truths, I think the speaker has also offered up some. Probably most people whom he call "Pookie" and "Ray Ray" are not drug dealers ("street pharmacists"), but persons with low income jobs. "Pookie" and "ray Ray" have become generic stereotypical names for "brothers in the hood." Well I grew up in the ghettoes of Baltimore, and MOST brothers in the hood (some of whom may be named "Marcus", "Jordan", Vincent, James, Jonathan, Robert, Anthony, etc) are NOT drug dealers even though there is mainly low income jobs and widespread unemployment or underemployment. Also, I've seen (since entering the professional middle class) that a lot of educated men (his "Marcus" and "Jordan" types) abuse women and children. (That's even MORE true of middle class white men. Records show that white men more often murder their wives than do black men). Wise sisters will look at a brother's heart, whether he be "Ray Ray" or "Marcus".
Your first point seems to be driven by a personal beef with a church, not 'the' church; In my experience I've never met a pastor who has the flossy lifestyle but I understand there are fakes and exploiters hiding behind the mask of ministry. Just wanted to draw a distinction between good churches that have pre- marriage counselling / ongoing support and those that don't.
I think black men don't date black women is because of their bad experiences with them in relationships or maybe getting abused by their black mothers. If that's the case, they have to let go of the past and open their hearts more.
We all want to be with someone that makes us happy. Someone that completes us. Someone that understands us. Someone that supports our ambitions. If we find these things in someone from another ethnic background, than so be it. I'll say this, no one wants to be with someone that constantly bites our head off over kibbles and bits. No one wants to be accused of shit we didn't do. No one wants to be with someone who doesn't appreciate our efforts, doesn't give us piece of mind. We have to think long term because life is a marathon, not a sprint to the finish.
thanks bro, you're so on point, of course some won't like it, but i say you're right on point and i like it, not to mention logical and very fair. keep it up bro.
Do you not see why you may have influenced my tone? "What you have is a rendering of a Existence that is being explain w/ limited knowledge."-These are your words. You began this convo by telling "ME" my understanding of Christ.And when I responded w/pts that really had nothing to do with you, you took them personally and felt I was being defensive.Then you asked me if I were a woman as though that would matter in my opinion.That tone is what set the tone for this convo.
All I can say is never get out of character when online. It forever goes on record and can always come back to haunt u. If u r going to say something, make sure it concrete and something u can live with.
Amen about the whole pastor situation. The vast majority of them won't do jack crap for you, outside of maybe taking up an offering for you (after the church has already taken up its offering of course)--I've seen this happen a few times to other ppl in church. Blk women seem to always want a "thug". I've heard several blk females state this verbatim. But then they want a "good guy" after they've had their "thug loving". Blk women seem to want a brutha with no kids, while they have a small army of kids of their own. I have a few friends/relatives who've fallen into that trap & regret it.
first off. interesting video. thought provoking. my view: familiarity breeds contempt. i use a line on an ebony female and she goes for it hook line and sinker. (i'm caucasian). my black friend uses the same line and she assumes he is lying or deceiving her or playing her in some way. we reverse it ... he lays the line on a caucasian female and she buys into it easily. i use that same line on her and she thinks i'm lying or playing her in some way. familiarity breeds contempt.
I know u do brotha, just as I truly respect urs. The Torah is only 5 of the Old biblical writings, while the tanakh make up the entire Hebrew writings studied amongst the common grounds of Judaism. Although the Quran takes some of its stories from the Hebrew and Aramaic writings, it also adds it own stories influenced by the folklore of those Arab tribes, mainly the Quraysh. All 3 religions however, take their stories from Summerian, Babylonian and Egyptian stories dating much further back.
See: Egypt Ann's Black Men Don't Like Children. Nothing wrong with standards, but the REALITY is both bm and bw have a child or two out of wedlock. Black women are ALWAYS caring for other people's children. I just finished a case as I am a nurse, caring for a foster child. I taught her numbers, alphabet, short words, colors, how to feed herself and potty training...and black self love before she got adopted at 19 months. Her foster mom ONLY takes in foster babies, usually blacks, but had a latino baby or two. Foster home is beautiful, and clean and the babies have EVERYTHING they need(besides the obvious...THEIR PARENTS). Now, when have you heard of a black man fostering children?...let's say he has a wife? The need is out there...I'm waiting. I can name 5 bw off the top that fosters children and for the record...its NOT about the money because new rules require foster parents to have an income of their own OUTSIDE of a foster income. Also, remember the foster parent does EVERYTHING a normal healthy and present parent(s) would do...feed clean baby...teach baby...doctors appt. etc... and NO amount of money can cover that love and affection. Think about it black folks that can foster BLACK children...the rewards are incalculable. Peace.
He made some valid points in general but i can't agree with the 1st point for two reasons: 1. it feels like to me his answer is kind of biased. because the way he worded some of his rhetorical questions he doesnt seem like a Christian but i can't blame him for having an opinion about religion. 2. it seems like that he is assuming that every person that goes to church idolizes the pastor as a saint and that we should follow in his likeness when it comes to relationships and life as a whole. Well i feel that if your idolizing the pastor and his family you're at church for the wrong reason. You are solely there to worship God and fellowship. Yes we look to the pastor for guidance but ultimately when you look for clarity on a situation you go to God directly. that is what prayer is for. You go to God for comfort and peace, not for material things you can go out and get on your own. HE doesn't ordain that. Some situations you can't help being in, for instance,an abusive relationship; however it doesn't mean your faith should wain because of a bad situation. He could be right but hey this is just my opinion on of what i received from what he was saying. Other than that though he hit the nail on the head.
Oh yes, the Pastor can bait them in and fool them. He is pushing a Lexus, a BMW, Mercedes, and when a brother has a Honda, a Buick, or a Ford, he may not qualify. The Pastors I know, have known have been known to deny people the help they need, after they've been in the church for 5 to 10 years. I know this, from a sister who was rumored to be on drugs, when she actually had a disease, and surgery. But the church sold her out, and this shocked me and I am asked, why I stopped going-!
Actually, as a young black female, I have been asked out a lot of times by black men. I think it's because we sometimes are mostly obese and "stereotypical" (not all black women though). .
Okay. Some good points. Not ALL black women and girls (who are theists) are this way though. If you're gonna point fingers be sure to check the brothas too. Remember, "both sides"...
As a Black Woman, without weave, a bad attitude, not obese, no baby daddies, well educated, and i certainly don't have any manly features nore do i behave like a man! My comment to these BS videos is this.... I LOVE BLACK MEN WHO LOVE BLACK WOMEN. Im not worried about the so called black men who thinks we are undateble/lovable.....simple!
She perfectly summarizes why I don't date blacks. I came up in a two family home with a strong family support system around it. Too many knuckle head black chicks just have no understanding of decency or what it takes to maintain a strong family foundation. hence, We'll never see eye to eye no matter how much I earn or "take care of my kids".
The church I follow online helps people. God intended for a man and woman to be married. As a white woman it's hard as well, white men don't know what they want.
Many of these comments are just some angry dudes who don't know how to vent right. I will say this. A lot of black men are lonely and we are not obsessed with white women or any other race of woman, we just want a woman who WANTS us.
No need for a explanation...black men have made it VERY clear that they want no parts of Black women.
-Black Men are entitled to there feelings.
-Sisters be free, be yourself, and explore good options outside your ethnicity!
Cadeshia Kamara that’s not true, I love my black woman, even though each one has broke my heart, I still love and protect mines
I think a lot of black women are seen as "too strong" cause we've always HAD to be. We've never really had a chance to to have it easy and we've been through more than other races. Black men often don't get us either that or they just want other races and won't admit it. That's fine, but why bash black women? There's good black women. Plenty of bw don't have a relationship with their father, but they won't take it out on all bw. This whole thing needs to stop. Stop bashing black women and marry Becky if you want her. I prefer white men, but don't hate my race.
I'll just date other races of men that do like black women
@Kane Abel you never did like us and we black women did nothing wrong nothing stop blaming your insecurities on black women
@@shimmer4771 what do you mean.... Too strong? So black women have gone through so much and we black men have know idea what that's like?
I'm a South African black male and we love our black women with all their flaws kept in consideration, simply because their good qualities outweigh any flaws they might have... Sad to see how African Americans are divided amongst each other
+Tshepo Mosito you're closer to where we were in the 1960s and 1970s, the time of Black consciousness. Martin, Malcolm, the Black Panthers. After the government suppressed our Movement, allowed a compromised black bourgeois and petty bourgeois strata to emerge, decimated our poor and working class majority with prisons, drugs and unemployment, you eventually got the madness that you now see. Nonetheless, the more SANE among American Black men still love our black sisters, and our more sane sisters still love us. By the way, I was an active supporter of the South African freedom movement during the 1980s when I was a university student. Mandela got a hero's welcome when he visited Harlem. I'm interested in knowing more about the progress of things in your country. I know here must be the great challenges of poverty and inequality which is the legacy of the racist, fascistic regime of apartheid.
brothers
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Tshepo Mosito ...good morning. I think that's beautiful. But also when you have a place to truly identify with, the unity and pride is at a higher level. Most of us as african americans...what country do we really fit in with? I'm not trying to be disagreable, but look at others who have a place they truly identify with, and for the most part, they will marry and or unify with their own with pride. If I'm wrong I apologize.
Derese Perkins-Lucien realtalk
Wow the American black community has issues. :p
Lol, word.
***** Haha
you have no idea
I know
AfroAngloFrenchie Chick yeah it's sad. I myself am not part of the black community (pretty alien to it) but it's weird to see that this is what I'm missing out on.
Keep in mind that most Black men do date black women, and black women date black men. That's a FACT that people continue to ignore when they make videos about Black male/female relationship. We need to talk about what can improve our relationships, and improve our community.
Amen
This is the best comment I've seen
Louis Van gaal In every racial or ethnic group I know of, most people of BOTH genders marry within their particular group. That's simply a FACT. Even among Asian Americans, who probably marry "out" mor on average than other groups, those who marry "in" are still the majority. Whites marry "Out" LESS than any other group in America (partly because they are still the majority). And Blacks marry out LESS than any other groups except whites. For most of us it is simply natural. Most live in predominantly black neighborhood (even when members of the middle class), go to mainly black churches and (below the university level) go to predominantly schools. What would you expect?
Now these are facts, facts accessible to anyone willing to do a little research. But many people will just disregard or dance around any facts they don't like in order to make their debatable opinion seem an indisputable truth.
Louis Van gaal Come to think of it, white men are more likely to opt for Asian women, Latin women than Black women. And white women are more likely to opt for Latino men before Black men. But white women differ from white men in opting more often for Black men than Asian men. While Asian women are first choice for white men, Asian men seem to be the last choice for white women
And that's in addition to the fact that whites marry out LESS than any other group. Anybody can check US Bureau of Statistic, or data by Pew, etc
+SagesseNoir You need to watch Sarge WP why we struggle with black women
youtube this video.
To all the black women out there. Here is the EXACT reason why some brothers dont date you. In black culture the women demean and refuse to submit to the man regardless of what he brings to the table. They act like our mothers instead of our wives. We are not attracted to our mothers. We need women who will respect us and allow us to lead..... No if's ands or buts. the same women that complain about not finding a good men will pass over a regular guy to find a thug who has a "image". Say guys are "too nice". If you want to land a successful man be submissive and dont look to destroy his ego in a argument. Its that simple.
Kay You who told you these lies?
Kay You ,what world are you dreaming in?Lying and making FALSE excuses will NOT help the black relationship out, stop it honey,stop it now!!!
most women crave and need stability. if you can bring that to the table plus others , she will happily submit to her man.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 um okay. Wow. You really think that's a good excuse. No all black woman are the same. And are non-black that don't let men take the lead. Get to know people. Talk to them. Also,I believe marriage is a partnership. You need to talk and communicate. The man needs to listen to the woman as much as a he needs to her to listen to him. No one way shit. Women are people too. Listen ,talk, discuss. Stop blaming others. Talk to us. Cause you're not only affecting your life. You're affecting hers too.
How about bm lead by example. Like other cultures put valie on family and children. Show these young women (daughters) healthy loving relationships with both showing mutual respect. Most young ladies are raised by their mothers only. The first man in their lives abandon them. And mom bf leave and in most cases sexually abuse them. Bm are more in tune with women because they are raised by females aunts sisters. So they know how to treat and respect women
The sad reality is that a lot of women love pooky and Ray Ray and they look at Marcus and Jordan as boring. And for the ones who love Marcus and Jordan, have extreme high expectations of them. It's very sad.
The good girl / bad boy thing happens because we humans like challenges and most of us good guys spent our youth studying and didn't get up on game until later in life. So when we were younger, the girls who didn't have a good man in the home to teach them how a man should be, were choosing the boys who were more of a challenge to manage (the bad boys) and passing on the boys that were push overs (the good ones). Then fast forward 10 years and now that young lady has 4 kids by 3 lousy men. She's used up and vocally critical of ALL MEN while secretly hoping that one of us good guys will throw on our "captain save-a-hoe cape" swoop down and rescue her. But as she's come to find out, the universe doesn't work like that... That good guy ship has sailed because dime pieces from all over the world are checking for us good black men. So while she was asleep at the switch, they were choosing. And THAT'S the problem!
The bad boys raised in the street were busy learning how to be accomplished, slick "playas" and pimps. Ignorant chicken-heads only see this type as real men. Good guys are shamed and marginalized and withdraw. Later on they realize that although their self esteem was damaged it really was a blessing in disguise.
Sean Carrington "So while she was asleep at the switch, they were choosing. And THAT'S the problem!"
i agree with your statement, but with a twist on your conclusion. the "problem" is why the hell aren't mothers teaching their daughters not to go for these thug/playa/dumb fuck type of guys?
THAT's the problem!
additionally, the fact that soooooooo many (black american) females are in denial of, or are apologists for, rachet behavior, despite the preponderance of video evidence, is truly stunning.
how can this NOT be viewed as psychotic?
MGTOW Ten Commandments
Sean Carrington yeah i'm hip. we men also have a problem not teaching our sons about this stupid shit. i make it a point to share this information with every young man i know. this is one of the reasons why i wrote MGTOW Commandment III -- Thou Shalt Assist Thy Fellow Man (and i will until the day i die).
MGTOW Ten Commandments
Do you have an Asian girlfriend/wife/partner? I feel that Asian women are a good match for "nice" Black men.
No, my wife is from Brazil. She moved here in her late teens.
Personally I think it all boils down to attraction. You either have a spark or you don't and no man wants a loud mouthed woman of any color.
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Absolutely I don't blame the man in the slightest because I myself cannot stand loud mouthed woman,PS I am glad I am not overweight hahahahaha :) A woman is supposse to be gentle and be at home with the kids and cooking and cleaning,A man loves and wants a old fasioned woman.
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Wow really? That surprises me you obviously need stimulation in the mind like me,Except I am old fashioned I believe we have our different roles.I have a job naturally but my first and most important job is being a Mum :)
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Ah yes the double minded one hahaha :) I was a city Gal but I moved to The country about 8 years ago and I could never live in the drama filled city life again.I was going to sell my house for my sons to be closer to Town and at the very day someone came and looked at our house my sons go.Mum we love it here hahaha I wanted to kill them because I was only selling it for them!Once you go country you can never loose that beautiful peace :)
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Arohanui bro :)
Theresa Mischeski you are AMAZING loool. Preach this lol
At what point are Black Men and Black Women going to stop acting like children and begin acting like adults?
I dated a Black chick at work for 2 months. She started get get a bit out of line with her mouth. I told her we "needed to let go." I had bought her a pair of Diamond ear rings for Christmas. She's now dating another guy at work. She gave the ear rings to him and he wears them almost everyday. I understand, they're her ear rings and she can do what she wants with them. But, it was a Shitty thong to do. I will Never date or give a damn about another Black Woman every again. My loss? Ok, I'll take the loss.
I would date a black women black women are beautifullll and this coming for from a black man
Thank you brother. Black men have Black mothers. We all have suffered brokenness, how do we love enough and heal each other to be better women and men. Black women have had to carry a lot and want to be loved by our black men because you are the greatest lovers in the whole world but have lost their place just as black women have lost their places. finding each other is hard but it can be done.
michelle collins lol
+michelle collins yeah ugly fat really white Bo Bo cheese white women or plastic blond white women if I were a black woman I would say fuck you find a good black guy or white there's some good looking white guys that will love you who cares if they go for those white women
Beauty is universal. Numbe 2 stop define one standart. Is sick try clasyficati grow up is time open frozzen mind who stuck slave epic
Good for you!
as a Black women, i have never had a problem with Black men. Too many wonderful Black men; so little time!!
Behavior like that gets you nowhere.
+JMT Not so . . . preparing for my wedding next year.
Right! Lots of great black men out there. The media wants to portray otherwise. Stop being brainwashed people
@@chevybrown3931 I'm not into playing Russian Roulette with my 🐈
Live moder time everything. Change. Relate culture people. Slave time is past time today world open new rich relate interacial. Thanks lord. But some one. Still stuck slave thinking. So sad and funny people who is blind deaff changes who.come today world past in the past black man is king smart be. Tie relate r another woman who make him happy grows up.girl.
Dating has become too complicated, anyway.
Pookie & Ray Ray! Street pharmacist LMAO
I am a strong beautiful black woman who never dated out my race, I love Black Men. So sad to know that there are black men in the world that don't love us
Black women are too confrontational.
@@williej1722 very its annoying for no reason at all as well
talk to your peers about being messy miserable and low budget weave wearing masculine looking pin ups girls that will never land you real love
I care less
Before world. Can tame one standart blacknes. But wprld and everything era is changes acctept this strong fact is u problm. Black man love challenge come thim time open mind heart worlds relate bless Beauty universal fact
Pookie and RayRay need to be replaced by Marcus and Jordan. IMAO LOL
lol lol 😁😁😁,, that was so funny made my stomach hurt I laughed so hard
+shortywompwomp01 thank you
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we have to get the black women back we have been running from the real problems with the black family structure its time to rebuild the black family from the ground up
100% agree. The black family has been destroyed and needs to be rebuilt
How can we rebuild the elders are now only 50 years old and NOT all are wise
Then you would have to eradicate the ass shaking hoes in the face tating so called thugs
We really don’t need them
Time is change. Time keep tie only one standart is done is good slave time is past never back today is new modern time strong beauty. New code interacial stricte family love couple that is fact. No exuse
TO BLK WOMEN #LET BECKY HAVE EM!
Yeah black men want you to keep chasing the white man
Black women stop being mad...
We should thank these black men, they're helping us improve ourselves for non black men.
So I am grateful...
:)
and there are plenty of white and other race men who LOVE black women!
Oh, so you have to "improve" for non-black men?
Ima badbytch yes you are right, and actually I usually always say white and others!...not just white..., ...I now edited my original comment..
I applaud you on that comment. This comment should be a damn slogan! You are ON POINT!!!!!!!!! I have to write your comment down because this is so powerful. You ain't NEVER lie!!
Why not too improve yourselves for good Black men?
On point! Precise advice Brotha. Respect👍👍👍
Black women are Relationship Lazy in terms of dating or interacting one on one her cell phone is her boyfriend in Reality
Not all black women😠
She Babygyal most bw
Facts!!
Well i can't put my phone up my ass and kiss it
@@irvinggreene4086 have you dated most
Everything said here has less to do w/ Black women and much more to do w/ American CULTURE. The USA Isn't the greatest place for dating, and Im not interested in marrying a non Black woman
Find woman who make u happy feel great give u good mood calm home love care respect does matter skin color we are humian all beauty is universal world have many type pretty
Oh my goodness this was ignorant. Guys every race has the same issues. stop looking at the color of the skin and examine the state of the mind. And if you come across people like this with these very small minded streotypes pass them up and look for someone with a stable mind. I am a black woman who is married to a white man and the color was never an issue. He is a very intelligent man who understands that all races has certain types of people. The type of black woman he is talking about appears in all races. It is the way a person was raised and taught, it has nothing to do with the color of the skin. so my fellow black women and men keep your heads up and don't pay attention to the color look at the heart and mind if a individual and be happy for those who have it and it will come to you too. Date who want, but don't date due to a streotype, because you would be selling yourself short.
Agree with u 100% recism is bouce reflect small mind who stuck still racism epic is sick. World culture have more beauty universal no dyscriminate everybody. Look heart no one eye and. Stop judge people
dude. very eloquent. not just for the black community but for the dating community as a whole.
I love black women regardless. I love all the sisters no matter what. We need to show them more Respect, Love & Affection too.
Preach brother! I CONCURR!
You is absolutely true about seeking someone the same likeness as being equally yoked a single mother needs to seek a single father & a single woman needs to seek a single man. That goes into play with understanding the courtship of a good healthy relationship plus you hit it on the nail with the church & seek advice from other people who are not professionals to help fix a problem not add gas to the flames. Well spoken my brother...
You are contradicting yourself in this video. You should really take the time to re-evaluate your mindset and change the video title to "TOP 3 REASON WHY I....." Because not all black men feel this way and not ALL black women are what you're describing in this video. How could you frown upon women of your own nature? It's black men like you that bring black queens down instead of uplifting them. This video was absolutely pointless.
PLEASE make more videos!!! You make quality stuff.
i am christian and in my church i am always told to raise my value, get an education to get the job i need and leave the lifestyle that i wan to leave. I am taught to have a plan, short-term and long-term, i am taught if fail to plan I plan to fail. I am taught that i shouldn't expect a man to give all I want.....etc
***** The Virtuous Wife
10 Who[b] can find a virtuous[c] wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN INDUSTRIOUS INDEPENDENT WOMEN TO ME.DON'T YOU THINK?
Pesi Belau No, she sounds like a HELPMATE! The woman the scriptures describes manage the household and take the tedious work off the hands of her husband. This isnt independence, this is operating in her role as a wife. She still depends on her husband which dispells the whole independent thing all together.
This woman is wise, humble, slow to speak, thoughtful, meek, dependable, respectable, resourceful, and understand her role.
None of that you posted says she independent.
Gary Lamb she can think for herself she is not a drone (16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard.)
Actually, I think you need to study your bible because tithing and offering aren't 21st century principals.They are biblical. Ask the leading of the Holy Spirit and be open minded.
And I say read the bible and ask holy spirit to help you rightly divide the word of God.
3 reasons the majority of black women care less. Becky enjoy them!
Black women raised black men out of WEDLOCK and talk sh t
Jason has some valid points that are not limited to black women. It's heart breaking to have been raised with high morals and values, be educated, single, physically attractive, no children out of wedlock, funny, open-minded, nurturing and ambitious and still be thought and spoken of so negatively. Black Men, please keep in mind that your daughters (biracial included) will grow up to become black women. How will you feel when men who look like their fathers tear them down? Will you hate your black daughters like you hate the rest of us? What have we done, as a whole, to deserve such hate? I guess the same thing you did to make some people hate you because of the way you look. We were born black. Thanks for the video Mr. Winn.
Black women, these Black American men who rebuke their own women are infatuated by the colour, or lack there of, and hair texture of non Black women. Just date an African man particularly from west Africa and you will be happy to submit and serve these distinguished and proud men. My husband is from Burkina Faso and i worship him. i am a Jamaican woman.
Kam Kam Sister nope African men are to controlling American women crave freedom
I'm african and I don't want to date a black American woman, they view black men worldwide all bad.
I AM A WHITE GUY but well said SIR.Those girls should be listening to you and not thIer PASTORS.HOPE THEY LISTEN MY FRIEND
again its not black its the American blacks....its a culture things cus I lov ishh hell out of sum Caribbean black woman or Afro Latin woman they are soo different mental wise and so also to you black woman get you a black men from Hispanic country or the Caribbean trust me yall be pleased
I think it's an American culture too
Robert, thx you, hook a sistah up...
Western thing because I hear men of all races in the us and uk complain about their women.
*sips green tea* Who the cap fits, let them wear it! You are the only person I have come across so far who did this in a respectable manner without having to bash black women, as well as thinking of solutions rather than just complaining. You have my respect. And my thumbs up.
Well said my brother
5:53 "street pharmacist " Lol very funny & Yes! Your video was very helpful.
Very sage advice for these ladies.
There are plenty of of single black men and single black women. Stats state that when a marriage takes place its usually to the same race. There is a minority that marry outside but most of the time black men are marrying black women and vise versa. Let's not ignore that fact.
It ain’t about what’s wrong with the BW. It’s about what’s wrong with the BM. Here’s why I say this. Men are supposed to be the Coaches. Women and children are the team. It’s the JOB of the Coaches to get the team to at least the playoffs…not to mention the super-bowl. These BM today are NOT providers (they want to know what type of work a woman does or how much she makes, because they are looking for someone to do what is THEIR God given responsibility - - they should be asking or be concerned with what type of home maker and house manager she’ll be), they don’t take the SPIRITUAL lead, they are not teachers and barely want to protect. That’s what being a MAN is. Instead these males today are looking for females that are Bimbos, have no self-esteem or common sense. Why…. because they want someone they can pimp, abuse, disrespect and take advantage of and when BW stand up for themselves and let them know they are NOT having it, they are ready to say how difficult and no good she is. This is where the problem lies. The man is supposed to be the BOSS and the woman is the MANAGER. To manage a home it takes finances. At your job when something needs to be ordered or funds are needed to manage things, who do you turn to? You go to the BOSS. These BM want to be the Boss and want all this “Be Submissive” without realizing…you have to pay the Cost to be the Boss. If a man is not bringing at least bare minimum of $700.00 a month to the table, he gets NO respect and should not be allowed in your home. If they had to take care of themselves on their own they are going to pay at least $550-$600 a month for JUST rent alone. They will spend at least $50.00 a week on food to keep themselves alive. That totals more than $700.00. That’s not a woman being a gold digger or greedy for money, that’s a woman who wants to let a MAN be a MAN. A lot of women are Emasculating these males today and it is so, so sad and disturbing. If you're going to be a good BM, then why not be a good BM for your own race of women.....EMPOWER them!!!!!!!
Can we all just come together!! Please!!! And love one another. I love my black brothers and sisters.
Make more videos dude get your points out ...You are dead on correct that is why I can't do it.....ty man please keep this going
ITS A FACT MOST BLACK MEN DATE BLACK WOMEN!!!!!
Until they wake up and see how horrible they are.Black women are not good people especially Mothers
I personally find black women absolutely beautiful and have dated a few and it was very nice so this guy is full of shit, just fucking say you prefer white women and be done with it but to make excuses is just sad and you shouldn't be putting all black women down like this not all black women are like that and not all white women are good either yes I'm a white guy and I just love black women.
Your right,,,
Very funny ,yet very true. Thanks for sharing
Can someone please explain to me what is wrong with the African American community ? Like, you guys always have some sort of problems. I don't see African men nor Afro Carribean men posting videos on RUclips, bashing their women 24 hours a day. So why the African American community ? I think as Blacks we have enough problems coming from elsewhere, so why do you feel the need to create more from the inside ? And please don't come and tell me shxt about Black women doing this and that, because both males and females are to blame. I've noticed in this community, Black men go out with the wrong type of BW then they blame them all BW and Black women date the wrong type of BM then they blame/bash them. The only way for the African American community to help the Black race worldwilde is to start by fixing the problems going on in their community. And both Black men AND Black women are the problem ! Doing videos on RUclips isn't doing shxt, it's making the whole world laugh at you.
Hathennah no no no ! i cant let that slide ! cause its precisely that we havent had the conversation is why its as bad as it is . Because sisters have had the floor for 30 years almost unadulterated black male bashing now that we have a place to retaliate you all come back with this why cant we be friends again ! No way we got a chance to speak our peace now youre trying to shut us up ! but its not gonna work this saga will play out for better or for worse.
thegreatonecometh200 I'm not African American so the "you all" you can keep it for African American women. I'm not trying to shut anyone up sir.
You're all acting like little babies. That stupid mentality of "They bash us ! It means we can bash them too !" is pure child behavior. Act like frickin' adults for God's sake !
Plus if Black women "took the male spot" in the couple or "bashed Black men" it's maybe because some Black males did things that forced Black women to do this. If you want to be the man in your relationship, act like one. Stop complaining and grow some balls !
Why did Black men back in the day could handle their women ? They were independent. They built things. They created the Black Wall Street. Where are those Black men now ? Bashing Black women to justify them dating interracialy ? Where's you pride, sir ?! Where ?!!
Some of the most powerfull Black men that ever existed had Black women by their sides. Who had the balls ? Who was the man ? Tell me, in the King family, who do you think was the man ? Mr. King or his wife ?
thegreatonecometh200 Hum .. Excuse me where have I said "why are yall niggas in jail" ? Where in my previous comment did I talk about that ? Nowhere as far as I can remember. "foot draggers" "tongue suckers" "shemales" Wow .. And you're still surprised as to why your women bash you and don't respect you when you do the exact same thing. (Thank God Afro Carribean and African men don't act that way. I always knew there was something wrong with America, all people here are so weird and hateful.)
All African American women twerk ? All African American women sleep around ? All African American women fight ? All African American want a guy wearing Jordans as a boyfriend ? All African American women want a boyfriend ? All African American are unproductive ? (I've heard African American women were actually more productive then their male counter parts.)
Because African American men don't fight ? All African American men are well-behaved ? All African American men are productive ? African American men don't .. (Excuse the expression) fuck around as well ?
So you think that by dating out you're making your community better .. Unless of course, you don't care about African Americans and you wish they should breed themselves out/die out. I know some people who would like that. (//coughs//Klansmen//cough//) African American have been running communities because you African American men let them. As soon as you found at that you could finally date the White American women you lusted for so long, you abandonned your communities. Black women then took over. And, to gain their Black men back, they wear weaves (Since Black men love the European hair) and they are really easy (Since a lot of Black men claim that White girls are easier.)
Oh! And I'm also sure that "Black girls only date thugs" goes both ways. A lot of African American men like a certain type of woman. If they see a thin African American girl, with no ass, not the prettiest, who is shy and nerdy but really smart, doesn't talk much but would be a perfect wife and a thick African American girl with a nice ass, nice breasts, with one of the most beautiful faces they've ever seen, who's very confident and outgoing but is more of a one night stand girl. Who would they choose tell me ?
thegreatonecometh200 I defend them because if I don't, nobody will. I'm not saying they're right, but I don't go bashing at them, because it just won't change anything at all ! You can bashing them will change them, but it won't. They're just going to bash you more. Besides, more and more Black men end up dating women of other races and the good Black women end up lonely, and they start to think Black men don't want them and either they'll end up marrying outside their race while not bashing Black men, either they will marry outside their race and bash Black men. The only way to change those bad Black women, is to talk to them. Not bash them. Just talk. Try at least !
thegreatonecometh200 Black people just can't win. Instead of making videos of those women, how about you ignore them ? Because now, the only thing you're doing is giving them attention and putting other Black women in a hard position.
THANK YOU BROTHER! I've recently decided to disconnect from a certain church building for two reasons. (1) They keep roped up reserved seats...even when they're empty (2) They asked me to write down my phone number and email address for them, as a "new member" and I've haven't gotten a single peep from them either way.
I am SO glad that I get into the word, for myself, first of all. Malachi 3:16 🤕
THANK you Brother!
That's who they want pookie and Ray Ray
THE UNIVERSE BLESS YOU BROTHER!
This was sad to watch because it just reiterates the different forms of self-hatred that our culture is afflicted with. Read the Willie Lynch letter. This type of backwards mindset was strategically placed in the Black American culture hundreds of years ago when slaveholders devised a way to control the slaves, that if effectively done would carry on for hundreds of years. Your words are confirmation that they were very successful in doing so. I urge us to use our words and actions to lift each other up (including all cultures and people) instead of tearing each other down. Shalom and God bless!
Facts brother. Sadly people aint hearing ya
thank you for this video brother I appreciate this I wish there were more real and unbrain washed people in our community thanks king peace and blessings to you 🔱
I am a Black man and i don't care what you other Black men say. I love Black women, not White/Asian/Latina and Indian women.
Hey Mr. Winn .great advice. Loved your book on atheism.
mrScififan2 "Thanks!"
+Jason Winn 1. church
2. bitter friend advice
3. choosing pookie and ray ray over marcus and jordan
I thought you were able to dissect the issue better than this.
1. Black men in AMERICA were enslaved and NOT ALLOWED to marry the black women they loved. Jumping the broom is still a tradition for that very reason.
2. Black men were not allowed to marry outside their race which further imaged the white woman as forbidden and more desirable.
3. White men killed black men for even the perceived disrespect of white women. The black woman had no such protection and still doesn't.
4. Black men are purposely denigrating the black image by ridiculing Black hair (which they have) and Black bodies (which they desire in other women)
5. The black woman must accept struggle as the status quo and never desire more for herself or children. She is labeled a gold digger for desiring what white women accept as the minimum.
6. No one uplifts the little black girl - she's bitter before she's 18. She's often raped. She's often called a whore for not aborting her child created 'in sin'. She's labeled a murderer complicit in black genocide by aborting the child. They say she has dick sucking lips while praising the collagen injected....i could go on but you get the point I hope.
7. The black woman is never singular. The mistake of one is the burden of all. Sounds like how those racists paint black men.
Thank god the Black men who raised me and the Black brothers that looked out for me did not adopt the scapegoating that is the American Black man's battle cry.
+YEUPHONIC I think much of what you say makes sense.
thank you SagesseNoir
+YEUPHONIC Are you married brother??
I'm a black man; for me black women are the best
awesome video.
Loved the video also I laughed when you said "Marques and Jordan" because you said my name & my brothers lol
Get some of these things, but why is this talk FOR black women? All black women are bitter? All black women are struggling with groceries? Can't relate at all lmao. This would work if you knew ALL black women.
Lets talk to black men. Black women are now the group with the most diplomas (:
princess jackson If you're not those bw Mr. Winn is speaking of then there should be no problem with you being able to stand out right? You hold bw accountable that perpetuate this illogical thinking and destructive behavior right? You love your fellow black woman enough to call her out on her bs and set a good example right? In other words if you're not bitter then there has to be constructive dialogue instead of commenting on topic about bm and bw relationships?
P Evans Why call black women out on something that is a stereotype? I don't know any black women like this. I know tv characters. I think there is just a stigma.
Black women are now the group with the MOST USELESS diplomas (gender studies, Afro-american studies, arts, humanities etc).. not useful STEM degrees so they stay broke with no demand for their "skills" and are now in tons of student debt. Education in useless skills is a scam to keep minorities and women poor. Close the wage gap by getting a useful degree or trade.
The most diplomas don't mean shit. Knowledge of self is the key and a lot of black women don't have a clue.
Its the attitude its not just black american women im african been around african and foreign black women my whole life they have the same problem
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Discovered your channel not even an hour ago and have since subbed and began binge-watching all your videos. Keep up the good work
Why do u have to put this on youtube if u don't date them then keep that to yourself i can't stand black men but i dont make videos about it
Ashley Smith Shouldnt you be asking yourself why are you watching.commenting and supporting a video you dont like.Common sense should tell you he is expressing his self the way he want on his video not yours.If your gonna recommend anything.You should tell yourself to watch videos you like and support.Instead of wasting your time here,Trying to tell someone else what the should and should not do.SHOULD EVERYBODY DO WHAT YOU DO??YOU DONT MAKE VIDEOS ABOUT BLACK MEN.SO HE SHOULD NOT MAKE ANY ABOUT BLACK WOMEN.DOES HE KNOW YOU?? IS HE SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO READ YOUR MIND??IF YOU GO BUY A MAZDA.DOES THAT MEAN HE SHOULD GO BUY ONE.IF YOU EAT FISH DOES THAT MEAN HE SHOULD EAT IT TO??YOU BLACK BITCHES KILL ME WITH THIS SHIT.NOBODY SHOULD OR NEED TO FOLLOW YOUR FUCKING PATH OR THINK YOUR THOUGHTS.ARE YOU GOD NOR JESUS??? IF YOU CANT STAND APPLES DOES THAT MEAN I SHOULD DISLIKE THEM TO?WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS BLACK BITCH SAY BLACK MEN DO?
i am a single mother and i unerstand a person not wanting to date a person with children beause everyone has their own lives and it takes a special stronger MAN not just male love to help raise children thats not theirs. i would give that man way more props than a man that is a being a father to their own.
3 reasons why we don't care
To be honest, I've never met a man named Jermaine who was a decent person... Facts 😂
"Greetings, Andrew. First of all the Black Community as a whole is suffering greatly due to relying upon the church. This is FACT. From economics to marriages (high divorce rate/community falling apart monetarily). I would be willing to bet that 90% of churches across the US have several dirty deals going on as this response is being written. From the two timing preacher and his staff to the people in the congregation."
That was good. Points made were valid. You gained a subscriber. We need positivity, and action. thanks Jason Winn...
Speaking of half-truths, I think the speaker has also offered up some. Probably most people whom he call "Pookie" and "Ray Ray" are not drug dealers ("street pharmacists"), but persons with low income jobs. "Pookie" and "ray Ray" have become generic stereotypical names for "brothers in the hood." Well I grew up in the ghettoes of Baltimore, and MOST brothers in the hood (some of whom may be named "Marcus", "Jordan", Vincent, James, Jonathan, Robert, Anthony, etc) are NOT drug dealers even though there is mainly low income jobs and widespread unemployment or underemployment. Also, I've seen (since entering the professional middle class) that a lot of educated men (his "Marcus" and "Jordan" types) abuse women and children. (That's even MORE true of middle class white men. Records show that white men more often murder their wives than do black men). Wise sisters will look at a brother's heart, whether he be "Ray Ray" or "Marcus".
For me personally I just find white girls more attractive and more feminine and more submissive, it's just a preference for me. No hate 🎉🤧
Your first point seems to be driven by a personal beef with a church, not 'the' church; In my experience I've never met a pastor who has the flossy lifestyle but I understand there are fakes and exploiters hiding behind the mask of ministry. Just wanted to draw a distinction between good churches that have pre- marriage counselling / ongoing support and those that don't.
I think black men don't date black women is because of their bad experiences with them in relationships or maybe getting abused by their black mothers. If that's the case, they have to let go of the past and open their hearts more.
"Now that's what I call cosigning. Could not have said it better myself."
Ok now do a video on why black,men don't attend college as much as black women.
As a black man I'm tired of paying all those tax dollars to take care of a race kids.
Thank you!!! At first I thought this would be just another video BASHING Black women but you DID make valid points.
"Greetings,Willa? I hope that this video was helpful to you."
Yes this was a very helpful video. You did an excellent video
We all want to be with someone that makes us happy. Someone that completes us. Someone that understands us. Someone that supports our ambitions. If we find these things in someone from another ethnic background, than so be it. I'll say this, no one wants to be with someone that constantly bites our head off over kibbles and bits. No one wants to be accused of shit we didn't do. No one wants to be with someone who doesn't appreciate our efforts, doesn't give us piece of mind. We have to think long term because life is a marathon, not a sprint to the finish.
thanks bro, you're so on point, of course some won't like it, but i say you're right on point and i like it, not to mention logical and very fair. keep it up bro.
So to all of the single black mothers struggling especially, just know that someone cares about you & loves you. I care...
Good info. Jason. Truth
The main caused of this is that most black women are quick to speak and slow to listen.
Do you not see why you may have influenced my tone? "What you have is a rendering of a Existence that is being explain w/ limited knowledge."-These are your words. You began this convo by telling "ME" my understanding of Christ.And when I responded w/pts that really had nothing to do with you, you took them personally and felt I was being defensive.Then you asked me if I were a woman as though that would matter in my opinion.That tone is what set the tone for this convo.
All I can say is never get out of character when online. It forever goes on record and can always come back to haunt u. If u r going to say something, make sure it concrete and something u can live with.
so 1. they don't realize its gonna take work 2. they are negative 3. have realistic expectations. i like
Amen about the whole pastor situation. The vast majority of them won't do jack crap for you, outside of maybe taking up an offering for you (after the church has already taken up its offering of course)--I've seen this happen a few times to other ppl in church.
Blk women seem to always want a "thug". I've heard several blk females state this verbatim. But then they want a "good guy" after they've had their "thug loving".
Blk women seem to want a brutha with no kids, while they have a small army of kids of their own. I have a few friends/relatives who've fallen into that trap & regret it.
first off. interesting video. thought provoking.
my view:
familiarity breeds contempt. i use a line on an ebony female and she goes for it hook line and sinker. (i'm caucasian). my black friend uses the same line and she assumes he is lying or deceiving her or playing her in some way.
we reverse it ... he lays the line on a caucasian female and she buys into it easily. i use that same line on her and she thinks i'm lying or playing her in some way.
familiarity breeds contempt.
Great point
I know u do brotha, just as I truly respect urs. The Torah is only 5 of the Old biblical writings, while the tanakh make up the entire Hebrew writings studied amongst the common grounds of Judaism. Although the Quran takes some of its stories from the Hebrew and Aramaic writings, it also adds it own stories influenced by the folklore of those Arab tribes, mainly the Quraysh. All 3 religions however, take their stories from Summerian, Babylonian and Egyptian stories dating much further back.
See: Egypt Ann's Black Men Don't Like Children. Nothing wrong with standards, but the REALITY is both bm and bw have a child or two out of wedlock. Black women are ALWAYS caring for other people's children. I just finished a case as I am a nurse, caring for a foster child. I taught her numbers, alphabet, short words, colors, how to feed herself and potty training...and black self love before she got adopted at 19 months. Her foster mom ONLY takes in foster babies, usually blacks, but had a latino baby or two. Foster home is beautiful, and clean and the babies have EVERYTHING they need(besides the obvious...THEIR PARENTS). Now, when have you heard of a black man fostering children?...let's say he has a wife? The need is out there...I'm waiting. I can name 5 bw off the top that fosters children and for the record...its NOT about the money because new rules require foster parents to have an income of their own OUTSIDE of a foster income. Also, remember the foster parent does EVERYTHING a normal healthy and present parent(s) would do...feed clean baby...teach baby...doctors appt. etc... and NO amount of money can cover that love and affection. Think about it black folks that can foster BLACK children...the rewards are incalculable. Peace.
He made some valid points in general but i can't agree with the 1st point for two reasons:
1. it feels like to me his answer is kind of biased. because the way he worded some of his rhetorical questions he doesnt seem like a Christian but i can't blame him for having an opinion about religion.
2. it seems like that he is assuming that every person that goes to church idolizes the pastor as a saint and that we should follow in his likeness when it comes to relationships and life as a whole. Well i feel that if your idolizing the pastor and his family you're at church for the wrong reason. You are solely there to worship God and fellowship. Yes we look to the pastor for guidance but ultimately when you look for clarity on a situation you go to God directly. that is what prayer is for. You go to God for comfort and peace, not for material things you can go out and get on your own. HE doesn't ordain that. Some situations you can't help being in, for instance,an abusive relationship; however it doesn't mean your faith should wain because of a bad situation. He could be right but hey this is just my opinion on of what i received from what he was saying. Other than that though he hit the nail on the head.
Oh yes, the Pastor can bait them in and fool them. He is pushing a Lexus, a BMW, Mercedes, and when a brother has a Honda, a Buick, or a Ford, he may not qualify. The Pastors I know, have known have been known to deny people the help they need, after they've been in the church for 5 to 10 years. I know this, from a sister who was rumored to be on drugs, when she actually had a disease, and surgery. But the church sold her out, and this shocked me and I am asked, why I stopped going-!
Actually, as a young black female, I have been asked out a lot of times by black men.
I think it's because we sometimes are mostly obese and "stereotypical" (not all black women though).
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Okay. Some good points. Not ALL black women and girls (who are theists) are this way though. If you're gonna point fingers be sure to check the brothas too. Remember, "both sides"...
Rap music killed it. and black women watch too many reality shows and wanna act like those ratchets on tv.
Thank you so much brother, sisters needed to hear that.
As a Black Woman, without weave, a bad attitude, not obese, no baby daddies, well educated, and i certainly don't have any manly features nore do i behave like a man! My comment to these BS videos is this.... I LOVE BLACK MEN WHO LOVE BLACK WOMEN. Im not worried about the so called black men who thinks we are undateble/lovable.....simple!
Sonja Betts well I wouldn't date u i like white girls lol
She perfectly summarizes why I don't date blacks. I came up in a two family home with a strong family support system around it. Too many knuckle head black chicks just have no understanding of decency or what it takes to maintain a strong family foundation. hence, We'll never see eye to eye no matter how much I earn or "take care of my kids".
Dee Ja why did you wait so long to stop messing with bw?? Leave them alone!
Problem is people usually used to dating a certain type..and they don't like to change up.
The church I follow online helps people. God intended for a man and woman to be married. As a white woman it's hard as well, white men don't know what they want.
He said, "Pushing a skateboard" LMAOOOOOO!!!! #CLASSIC
Many of these comments are just some angry dudes who don't know how to vent right. I will say this. A lot of black men are lonely and we are not obsessed with white women or any other race of woman, we just want a woman who WANTS us.