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Considering how obnoxious his family is, it’s pretty amazing how nice of a kid Kevin is when he’s alone. The family quite literally brings out the worst in him
Kevin is only a nice kid when he’s away from his toxic family. He’s always been a nice kid, but his family makes him act like a jerk because that’s how their family is.
The framing of Kevin learning his family "disappeared" is so well made. We see how he's initially scared and confused only to be gradually reminded that they treated him horribly.
Notice Kevin's thoughts too, and rewatch the scenes where those lines were said. You'll notice how they're much more exaggerated, or not even said at all. As this is to show things from Kevin's perspective. Therefore, in his mind, they’re all the bad guys and he’s the innocent one.
It’s kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy. They treat Kevin like he’s going to cause issues and then when he does they point the finger. This family has always infuriated me.
It’s even proven to be false at the end when the family returns and even without Kevin they are all still yelling and arguing with each other showing that despite their claims he was never the true source behind their conflicts
In my family the older kids are meant to be a good example for the younger ones. Buzz’s bad attitude, in my opinion, is the head of the snake in terms of all the other kids’ behavior toward each other. My parents would have raked that punk over the coals.
I could not imagine calling my nieces jerks for any reason (even if they are acting like jerks). My brother and maybe even my more even tempered sister in law would throw hands.
@@PodyTheCirateA parent may call their kid a jerk in the heat of the moment (not saying it’s okay), but there’s a huge difference between that and allowing an another adult to call you kid that.
Catherine O'Hara and Macaulay Culkin are still close to this day, with her stating that he still calls her "Mom." She was even present when he received his Hollywood Star on the Walk of Fame.
Me watching this when I was 5 years old in 1990: "Kevin's family are all awful people." Me watching this when I was 38 last year in 2023: "Kevin's family are all awful people."
The most profound thing about the church scene is Kevin is taking a complex and complicated adult problem and breaking it down with his childlike innocence. As adults, we say that it’s not that simple, but the truth is we just make it complicated. I love it when TV shows and movies allow adults to learn and grow from the child’s perspective. We might already know it in our heads, but there’s something about hearing it from a child and wanting that kind of optimism and assurance.
A child's brain thinks in a different way than an adult's brain does. Both can engage in logical thinking, but they do it in ways that sometimes make it difficult to translate between each other. As we grow older, we transition to adult logic and forget how to think logically as a child does.
Kevin’s a really compassionate kid. To his whole family he may come off as a jerk, but he’s really selfless and kind. When he gets over his fear of Marley and the Pigeon Lady and learns what truly good people they are, he offers advice and talks to them and is genuinely a nice kid. And he risks his life (especially in the second movie) to help people he cares about (his family and the sick kids in the hospital). I wish Kevin’s family got to see the compassionate person Kevin in, cause he’s a real sweet and courageous kid.
Exactly, I love how Marly's like "I'm scared to talk to my son, I don't know if we can reconcile" and Kevin's like "yeah, I was scared of my basement, but when I turned on the light, I wasn't scared" and it works so beautifully
Honestly Kevin is only so sarcastic and snarky in that scene because not only was his entire family insulting and excluding him, buzz right before was actively antagonizing him, and then blaming him for stuff that was not his fault.
I feel like the old man in the church is the "real Santa Claus" of the story. Kevin meets a fake Santa in one scene, and even acknowledges that he's a fake Santa, then encounters this old man with a white beard who gives him exactly what he needed (and who saves his life at the end).
He then goes through the same thing with a bird feeding woman in New York in the second movie. He's initially afraid of her, he eventually warms up to her, and as fate would have it, she saves him from the same two bandits that tried to "do away with him".
I always appreciate the lengths this one went to, to rationalize how Kevin got left behind. The ticket in the trash, the late start, the neighbor kid being included in the head count, everything they did, somehow foiled by external circumstances. Very clever.
That's why it's annoying when people dismiss nonsensical behavior from characters saying "They had to do it that way because if they didn't the movie would have been over in 10 minutes." That's lazy writing. The writers could have just had Kevin's alarm clock not go off and left it at that, and people would have excused it as necessary for the plot to happen, but instead they put in the work to construct a complex but plausible series of events that made it make sense that Kevin was left behind.
I watch a lot of "air crash investigation"-type shows and they talk a lot about what's called the Swiss Cheese Model, in which you have slices of swiss cheese that more often than not don't have any holes align (so you can't go "through" them without hitting the solid part of the next slice of cheese) but SOMETIMES a hole in each slice will line up perfectly with each other and you can "go through" that hole in each slice without anything stopping you, IOW if one thing doesn't occur the incident won't happen (or at least is much less likely to). This is the Swiss Cheese Model of this movie, i.e. if any one of those hadn't happened Kevin very likely wouldn't have gotten left behind.
exactly. scape goat. when he says his little 'sorry'- i dont think hes trying to be manipulative. i think hes trying to deal with all the adult stuff thats been thrown on him. hes taking the responsibility that he shouldn't have to.
But there's a big difference: Bruno decided to take on that role by his own free will by hiding from his family and only did that when he was 40 years old. So he was an adult unlike Kevin and has even been described as having been the "golden child" when he was a kid until the villagers turned against him. Except for that his attempt to cheer Pepa up on her wedding day failed, it is never stated that Bruno's family talked negatively about him before he "left" them. And nobody in Julieta's side said anything negative about him even after that...
The sequel, like many was peimarily a cash grab seeking to make money off the first movies success, but the first movie didn't expect to have a sequel, so feel free to view as the standalone experience it was originally designed as
@@ladygeneveve3805 It might have been a cash grab, but it was a fun and satisfying cash grab. Modern film makers should take note. Also, the circumstances reset because the parents never disciplined Buzz for being a creep, it was easier for them to punish Kevin for reacting than to deal with the bullying he was reacting to.
Honestly the fact that this wasn’t some magical ending where everything was perfect from this day on and everyone never fell back into their old ways is WHAT makes the second movie so believable. Lol falling into old habits and having to relearn lessons, especially older people and teens stuck in their ways, makes a lot of sense.
One of my favorite details in this movie is Marley's hand. When Kevin sees him at the store, it's bloody which symbolizes that Marley's relationship with his son is wounded. In the church scene, he has a band aid on, symbolizing that Kevin has helped Marley begin to heal, and at the end of the movie when Marley hugs his grandaughter his hand (and by extension his relationship with his son) is completely healed
Re-watching this movie now as I'm older and know psychology better than before makes me feel so bad for Kevin. He's not only a scapegoat, but he is also constantly in a defence mode, and I relate to this so much as someone who lived in an abusive home with irresponsible adults who were too proud to apologize or accept their faults. When you live with those who constantly attack you - verbally or physically - and you feel vulnerable/unsafe, you automatically enter fight or flight response; Kevin seems to choose the latter. His aggression is usually passive, hidden behind snarkiness and suppression, but eventually it can easily spill into full-on aggression, like when he attacks Buzz. No one helps him alleviate the stress, and instead only push him more into that defence mode. It's a vicious cycle that will continue for as long as the person is in a place where they constantly feel the need to defend themselves. This has to be traumatic, especially for someone so young.
This put into words something I still deal with as an adult. I wasn’t a scapegoat and I wasn’t in nearly as awful a situation as Kevin, but the Y-Chromosome Donor was, not a great person. It led to so much tension over years. And as the oldest, I took the brunt of it. I even (verbally) snapped a few times, leading to him becoming Physical. I’m glad it was to me and not my mother or siblings. I still hate that he held so much power over us all though, especially after he gave me a black eye once while it was just me and him in the house, and I had to lie to my mother, bosses, and coworkers that I fell while cleaning, because he would have likely done far worse if I didn’t, but additionally he “put on good boy shoes” for a while since I easily could have spilled the beans and had that over him in return. I’m still defensive, but I do my best to avoid bottling now thanks to some friends that let me vent when I’m upset, and I’ve moved out on my own. My mother is divorcing my Y-Chromosome Donor, and while he attempted to make contact with me, the moment my mother and youngest sibling had the Law protecting them, I stopped talking to him since I didn’t have to worry about him retaliating towards them. While I have heard he’s FINALLY going to therapy like my other sibling told him last year he needed, and he’s trying to deal with his alcoholic tendencies, I’m not talking to him unless I truly feel safe and comfortable doing so. I am never putting myself to be under his control again.
This might be the first character examination I've ever seen of Kevin McAlister that hasn't labled him as a psychopathic monster. Once you ignore the hunger games like traps it truly is a lovely family film.
I've never really understood that mindset. Marv and Harry were deliberately trying to break into a house they knew was occupied by an eight year old who was all alone. There was no version of that plan that was ever going to end well whether or not he went Die Hard on them.
What I love about the first two films is how Kevin has a profound impact on two hurting adults lives because they listened to him. Kevin's family largely ignores him and ignores or devalues what he has to say... Then this little kid shows up and is friendly with lonely older people and they don't brush him off as an annoyance like his family does and they truly listen to Kevin's profound advice. Not only is it a good message to kids that adults are capable of listening but it reminds us adults to actually listen to kids. I also like how Kevin must feel like an angel came to those adults in the form of a child to say something that will change the direction of their lives. Kevin preforms a few Christmas miracles by reconnecting a family, giving a woman the courage to love again and he selflessly puts himself in danger to protect the money meant to go to sick kids in the hospital. But I think it's also hilarious how the little psycho may also be perceived as an angel in disguise lol
It helps too that just like Kevin, Marley and the pigeon lady were outcasts, and in Marley’s case he was an outcast within his own family. Kevin was able to bond with them because he genuinely understood what they were going through
A reminder for those who've gone low or no contact with someone abusive... The pressure to reconcile because "it's Christmas" does not apply here. Sometimes the best thing you can do for Christmas is to gift yourself protection against relationships that aren't safe or healthy.
Very true. I do think it's a nice message that Jono has at the end, but for those that are waiting to hear that "I'm sorry", it's a different situation entirely.
I think the real question for the family is “is Kevin a sarcastic jerk because the rest of the family treats him like crap or does the rest of the family treat him like crap because he’s a sarcastic jerk?”. I think there’s a serious case for Kevin needing to be put into protective custody from his abusive family; even Jonathan acknowledged that the parents completely abandoned Kevin when the rest of the family dogpiles him with complaints and insults.
It's true. Even though he was disrespectful to Kate at the start and it wasn't his place to teach Buzz a lesson, it's unfair that Buzz gets no consequences for picking on him and causing this whole situation in the first place. But, only Kevin gets disciplined and it makes me mad.
@@megabladechronicles962 Yeah, Kevin is genuinely a very nice, good-hearted kid when he needs to be and when he's not been riles up by Buzz or any of his other older siblings. We see how nice he is when he gives advice to Marley in the church and also, in Home Alone, he gives advice to the homeless lady and is even able to admit that he gets into trouble. Just don't cross him like Buzz or like Harry and Marv 😠😠
That church scene was fantastic. The simplistic innocent wisdom of youth sitting down and talking with a more rigid jaded seasoned outlook of old age if that's a good way to describe it. Kevin and Marley had a genuine down-to-earth dialogue while Kevin still sounded like a kid and Marley humoring him a bit. It was very mature. Shows that the youth and the elderly can both learn from each other. Also, thanks to Alan (fellow John Williams Enjoyer) for giving me a new word to add to my vocabulary compendium, 'avuncular'. I'll find a way to use that.
Strictly speaking, "avuncular" doesn't mean "fatherly"; it means "uncle-ly" - an older male who isn't directly responsible, but has some personal connection/authority.
The fact that Kevin can give such solid advice to lonely adults and show genuine compassion to others outside his family? I don’t think he’s a sociopath. I think he has a lack of impulse control from adhd more than exasperated by the routine scapegoating/emotional abuse and neglect he receives from literally everyone except his mother by the end of the first movie and into the second-she’s literally the only one he even has the emotional energy for by the end. He lashes out with his sarcasm, sure. And let’s be real, the Deathtraps for the Wet/Sticky Bandits is intentionally 3 Stooges Cartoonish. But if he senses others just as isolated and misunderstood as he is, or having a greater need than him, he shows up with a kinda heartbreaking level of emotional maturity for how stunted he is within his own family unit
“Everyone hones in on anything that reaffirms [Kevin being the source of unpleasantness] and ignores anything that doesn’t.” Reminds me of Mirabel’s feelings towards her family in ENCANTO, except she’s less sarcastic and more helpful and cheerleading but still gets stepped on because her door ceremony ended with her not getting a superpower and thus being ostracized from her family for at least a decade.
@@darkecofreak23 But I don't see how Mirabel was ostracized from her family since she lived with them and got a lot of love from her parents and Luisa and Antonio.
@@lordfreerealestate8302 But when did Pepa or Félix or Dolores or Camilo do anything to her? Abuela and Isabela had their own struggles and reconciled with Mirabel in the end.
One thing that I always hated was when Kate McAllister calls the police to check on Kevin, she NEVER specifies that he's an 8 year old. Yes, the cops are incompetent, but no one would ever think that someone would leave an 8 year old by themselves and it's probably why they didnt take her seriously. They probably assumed it was a teenager who was left alone at the house
Watching Kevin as a child I remember thinking how cool and capable he seemed. Now as an adult I recently saw clips and just thought to myself wow, he really was just a baby. I always loved Home Alone growing up and its taking on new meaning for me as an adult nearing having children myself. Excited to finish this video fellas, Happy Holidays!!
@ lol speak for yourself dude. I still think Kevin is just as cool and capable as an adult. The gravity and weight of how actually young and vulnerable he was when left alone with no contact or reassurance never hit me until I myself was no longer a child, plus working in childcare and understanding how many kids Kevin’s age are it really puts a different spin on things vs my past viewings. It’s heavy, scary and sad, and as capable as Kevin was it’s a situation he never should have been put in. Children are resilient and capable asf in many situations, doesn’t mean it’s okay or fair they have to be though my friend. That’s not an underestimate, it’s empathy.
The family watching "It's a Wonderful Life" holds more significance when you compare the stories. Like George Bailey, Kevin makes a wish that turns out to not be so great, and in the end, he appreciates his family more. Old Man Marley is basically who he'd become if he never reconciled with his family.
The fact that they are watching it in French underscores the lack of communion in the family, and also, their desire to be home where things make sense, even if they aren't perfect.
I remember last year when nostalgia critic did his review on this movie. He commented on the flack the family gets because they’re so mean but he said “ it helps if you’ve known a big family” saying that things in a big family can be stressful especially when it’s the holidays. According to legal eagle, the McAllister parents would be facing some serious legal problems.
It's a bit different with this family because they are nasty to each other *all the time.* And to poor Kevin the most. If they can't all get along under the same roof, then maybe it's time for a second one or a third.
@ they are horrid. Frank is really toxic. He has to be the worst of Peter’s brothers and I have to wonder why he gets invited to these destination Christmases. And Buzz? He’s the oldest. Shouldn’t he be made accountable? If not for being a Class A troll, then for the fact he’s in a position of influence as many first born are
It's also worth bearing in mind that we're seeing them at their very worst - everyone's amped up because of the upcoming holiday, all their routines have been disrupted, so everyone's bumping into everyone else, and the normally responsible adults are stressed because of all the planning and organising they've had to do. On a normal day, they wouldn't have the extra 8 bodies, and they'd be following their routines that let them work around each other more smoothly, and people wouldn't be so excited...
@@michellecrocker2485it’s refreshing seeing the oldest not get in trouble simply because they’re the oldest but Buzz was a bully and bullies should be punished many times they’re not like even in a workplace or classroom or other setting
I’m from a big family (I have 5 siblings) and I am horrified every single time I watch home alone by how toxic and nasty Kevin’s family is. They are horrible people, and horrible parents to let their children treat eachother so badly.
The poor child genuinely believes he can wish his family away again. But it's probably very wholesome that he may never find out he's wrong, he doesn't try to wish them away.
@@jaynnnewell4722It makes me think of when kids first go off to school or move out on their own, how one has to find one's self before rejoining the party.
20:45 a lot of people point to the fact the Mom barely got there ahead of the rest of the family because they took a flight she didn’t want to wait for as a plot hole, but imagine what would have happened if she had sat and waited? The whole journey she takes in the movie is to show she cares about and loves Kevin, a moral that would have been lost if she had just said “even if I jump flights all the way back I only get there a little ahead of the morning flight, I’ll just wait it out with the rest of you”
I loved how relatable the sibling dynamics were, with Kevin's siblings constantly teasing him, yet they are shown to miss him in a deleted scene. Also, when Kevin is flashing back to mean things that his family said to him, he recalls Buzz threatening to feed him to his tarantula, which he never actually did on screen. However, this could be something that Buzz told Kevin before the movie.
One big critique I have of this movie as an adult is Kevin’s mom response to, “Everybody in this family hates me.” Why, instead of asking why he feels that way or assuring him no one hates him, would she instead take it as if he’s trying to be smart or antagonizing and say, “Well if you feel that way, you should wish that we weren’t your family”? As a mom, I would never make my child believe, even for a second, that our family hated them, and especially not me.
The ending of the movie always felt to me like Kevin validating his family’s belief that he’s a problem by just… not being a problem anymore and making them happy. That doesn’t sit well with me at all. Then again, I could be misinterpreting.
Right? I’d love to see more representations of scapegoating in children’s movies. It can mess with a kid’s head so much because, no matter what they do, whether they fulfill parental demands or not, they are always lacking, in trouble, etc. They grow up thinking they’ll never be worth anything, so why even try? It’s heartbreaking, and in the worse cases, horribly destructive.
@@daniellelarsen9767 I have wished so many times that I could be "perfect" in my parents eyes, so that I could prove to them and myself, that their disapproval was not a reflection of me, but of them. Alas, I cannot be that for them or anyone, so in some small way, I'll never know for sure. This little nagging question of "Am I really the problem?" lingers.
New rule, if the movie has John Candy in it you must include at least one clip of him. He was the best, he brings joy, and we could all use a bit more joy
Cause they're a big family. It could specifically be cause, to them, he's the most visibly annoying, stubborn and bratty out of all the other kids, who are also just as bad, but hide it better.
I pointed this out to my mom, as an oldest child, theres no way in hell that the youngest wouldnt be catered to their every whim. If my youngest sister wanted cheese pizza, that's all there'd be. I also agree about Mr. McAllister, he should have stepped up. I remember one time my incredibly rude aunt, criticizing my sister that she was late to dinner because she out at a friend's birthday brunch. Saying she was irresponsible and selfish. Dad laid into her in a way ive never seen him, yelling that his daughter was incredibly responsible to her family, and that she had no right to speak to her that way. Aunt shut up after that. So yeah, the McAllister family is in desperate need of therapy
@TKZells16 I wish my dad was like that. Nope. He be mad at me for crying when his brother teased me because "it's not hurtful." And my dad wonders why I'm cold and emotionless to him.
As a youngest let me say that this isn’t always true. My parents treated my sister and me completely equally as far as I can remember. We took turns picking things (when we got to pick), were defended and punished equally as deserved. If anything I got punished more, because I pushed more lol. If anything it was always my dad’s wants that were catered to, boring and plain as they were. 😂
I would think there’d be a variety of pizza but yea what about food allergies then what? You’d force your older children to eat something the younger siblings want?
For those where it's unsafe to contact the people you miss: You're doing great and are more at ease without them. Take a deep breath in and out and be grateful for your ability to reach this point. You should be very proud of knowing your limits and what you deserve. Also Happy Holidays and be sure to treat yourself if this triggered you (it sure did for me lol)
This! There's always so much pressure to reconcile "because it's Christmas," but sometimes the best thing you can do for Christmas is to gift yourself safety.
I watched this movie last year for the first time after starting therapy and realized that I, like Kevin was the family scapegoat and the movie made me cry. #cryingwithalan
The sad thing is this family learns Nothing from this. The proof of this is Home Alone 2. Kevin is still the scapegoat. And once again, his family can't care enough about him to keep track of him, so much so that he ends up on a completely different flight than them.
As a child my mom had us fast forward through the beginning of the movie because she didn’t like how mean the family was and how Kevin talked to his parents
We have the same rule in my house. The family is unbearable and I still wish he would have been adopted by the old neighbor or the guy who owns the toy store in the second movie.
And to contradict what you guys have said regarding the father: Any father that looks at his son with pure disgust and loathing like Kevin's father did is unfit to be a father. That wasn't just a failure to protect him. That was a complete failure as a father and he should be equally chastised for it.
I’m so glad you did Home Alone but I feel like this needed to be a multi-part series. Emotional abuse, parental stress, sibling bullying, violent (psychopathic?) behavior in children, reconciliation…there’s a lot to work with here!
I already made a comment moments ago, but when I watched this the other day and watched the scene where his mom sends Kevin upstairs, their exchange made me think to myself, man, I want Jono to talk about this SO BAD!! The part where she tells him maybe he should ask Santa for a new family was just like... holy shit, mom, you don't say that to your kid!! Now here you are making a video! Hooray!
I can see why she'd say something like that in the moment; she thought Kevin was just being melodramatic (which he kind of was, even though his emotions were legitimate), but she should've come back up after she was calmer and apologized for it, and make it clear that, despite everything that went down, they still love him.
My mom wasn't the greatest but one of her rules is you will NOT call your siblings names and if you did, you'd get punished. They just ignore how everyone dumps on him and calls him names, especially the jerk uncle, and don't say a word to them. I really hated how his family treated him and I think he acted out because he got treated as the "bad" kid. I sure don't see his parents treating him like a golden child, so it couldn't be that. Kids just forget what brats they were at a younger age and want to blame them for acting how they did or even worse. Buzz was the absolute WORST and I thought it was crap he didn't get punished for eating pizza he knew was the only one Kevin would eat and then even called him names. Of course we know all this had to happen for the movie but showing crappy parents like this are shameful
My grandpa really loved this movie mostly because of the sticky bandits. When I was younger, like most, never picked up on the toxicity the family had. Oh the parents annoy me to no end now. Whenever Kevin acts out, it's mostly due to Buzz pushing him over the edge. Yes he should learn how to handle it properly but he's a child. Buzz, while I'm not entirely sure what his age is, is older and should know when enough is enough. Kevin's parents just put the blame on him because they don't want to deal with it.
The thing that always struck me about Kevin’s kinda bratty behaviour is that even at his worst I can’t really blame him. Even aside from his just being a kid he behaves the way he does because he’s constantly having to defend himself from his jerk siblings, his bully of an uncle and his neglectful parents. He feels as if the world is against him and he’s kinda right.
I gotta say that while Uncle Frank is a bully to Kevin I just enjoy his character he’s pretty funny like the travelers checks remark and the nosy pervert scene lol such an underrated actor imo and who wouldn’t want a free vacation?
Harry and Marv are thieves. They are trying to steal the treasures the families in the neighborhood have stored up on earth. Kevin, the scape goat, takes it upon himself to protect the house and to grow up a little. God bless John Hughes, the writer of the script.
@@Passions5555 Who in 1 script was the mastermind behind the robbery and let Harry and Marv into the house because Frank was jealous of his brother Peter. So in that script he was even worse and nearly got his nephew killed.
@@Xehanort10this makes so much sense! We have a theory in my family that the dad and uncle are in the mob. The marriage is arranged. The kids may or may not be adopted to keep up the image. The wet bandits are just a couple of low level guys sent to send a message cuz the dad has screwed up somehow- also the cops are on the payroll. Anyway, the nasty uncle script should have stayed.
Kevin being Deadpool For Kids is going to be my new head canon from now on. Kevin McCallister grows up, decides to channel his thirst for violence into going after bad guys, and eventually changes his name to Wade Wilson. Plot twist: He was a scoutmaster at one point while trying to be "fully good" and his love for sex and violence almost got the best of him. He now references this as if it was a different person as a coping mechanism: Scoutmaster Kevin. The Wet Bandits? They were secretly mutants which is why they didn't die after all of Kevin's traps. They don't have any really good super powers. They can just take abuse without easily dying. (Perhaps a low level healing factor that keeps them from dying but doesn't really prevent long lasting injuries.)
Such impeccable timing from y'all because I was rewatching this movie a few days ago and wondered how being left behind TWO YEARS IN A ROW would affect him long term. 😭 I would sob as a child if I was one aisle over in the grocery store from my parents, let alone in an entirely different state or country.
I think Macaulay Culkin actually did a web video that was intended to be his own fan fiction on that. He plays an adult Kevin who's become a cab driver. I think he got carjacked or something in the video and he just unloads emotionally on the would be assailant. That said, I've always thought a non-comedy sequel should have been made where an adult Kevin attends weekly meetings of a violence survivors' group due to his encounters with Harry and Marv. One day he goes in to find out that Harry and Marv have started attending after getting out of prison to deal with the trauma he caused them.
My best friend and I haven’t spoken for several years. There was no fight or disagreement, instead I was supposed to travel to visit him (we live on opposite ends of the country) but had to cancel my flight the day before due to some issues I was having with my wife. I honestly don’t know why he stopped talking to me after that, but ever since I have been too afraid to call him because of exactly what the old man said to Kevin. That scene hit me so hard I had to pause the video to wipe my eyes. If there ever was a sign saying that I need to try reaching out to my friend again, then this was it. I just hope I can find the courage to make the call today. Thanks for the video guys, it was fantastic as always.
To answer Cathetine O'Hara's character's question: A horrible, awful mother who openly allows abuse to her son because she is tired. Standing on her high horse all the while not realizing he is the only one that gets shafted by ever other person in the family including the adults
There are many, many moments when you have to suspend your disbelief to make this movie work, but I could never get past how hard the entire McCallister family piled on their 8 year-old son.
@ladygeneveve3805 A child getting the best of two adult men using booby traps? No. Verbal abuse? Yes. Which is exactly what I implied with my comment, if you'd taken two extra seconds to think about it.
18:55 - The year that we got a DVD player for Christmas, Home Alone was the first DVD we rented (having already watched many times on VHS). My brothers and I spent HOURS just on the home invasion part, enjoying the novelty of pausing on funny faces, reversing, playing it again in slow motion, etc.
I would love a family therapy episode with the John Candy film Uncle Buck, and it has a young Macaulay Culkin before Home Alone. You have a family member that the core family doesn’t really trust to watch the kids, the eldest daughter going through teenage rebellion, Uncle Buck actually having to be responsible and in a way grow up.
I always felt bad for Kevin, I thought initially it was as we were both youngest children in a big family, but it’s more than that. Whatever mistakes Kevin makes, he’s 8. He doesn’t know better yet, but the adults in his family should. His parents should be noticing how much buzz bullies him and intervening; they also should know better than to lash out at him when he says something hurtful, because again, he’s 8 and they’re not.
I feel it may also be imperative to point out that this movie is also very representative of a society that sees acknowledging that children are people with valid emotions and needs as being less important than the parent being in charge and having their authority respected. Being anything other than authoritarian in the household was seen as being "soft" and "coddling". I'm glad that we've moved away from that mindset more and hope we continue to do so.
"You can be a little old for a lot of things, but you're never too old to be afraid." That's such a wise thing and I honestly kinda love that it comes from this movie. It's like Die Hard and putting yourself aside to truly apologise, it's such an incredibly mature mindset and because it comes from a fun film I feel like it's more likely to stick.
Just watched this a few nights ago. With all the comedy and whatnot, the MOST emotional point for me is the neighbor with his granddaughter at the end. THAT is the meaning of Christmas, and the movie.
My little boy is obsessed with the Home Alone movies... even the badly written ones. It makes my heart so happy that he loves this series, and it is something we bond over for the holidays and will continue to make a tradition together. I didn't understand why he loved the movies so much this year in particular until I thought about- in the first three movies, the mom always comes home. My ex and I divorced this year, and I was the one who moved out, so this movie has been helping him with the transition from one household to two. Growing up, my family was very similar and it helped me feel less alone, and it helps my son know he isn't alone either. The series is so much more than a Christmas movie. Thank you for talking on this video.
16:20 I love this scene because it shows that kids, in some ways, are wiser than we are because they're able to be. They don't have the burden of expectations and experiences quite to the extent that they will when they reach adulthood, so they can look at situations more clearly. I also love the reveal, in general, that Marley isn't scary. He's a sweet elderly man with a lot of regrets but has anxiety about taking the steps to lighten his emotional load. It's moments like this that make the movie a classic to me.
And lastly, this isn't true accountability. The fact that there is a second movie where the exact same thing happens only a year later means that this a temporary measure meant to console the mother's guilty conscience. In reality no accountability is met and it needs to be called out.
The exact same thing DOESN'T happen, though. Like, the broader plot problem is the same, but the "why" isn't. There's no familial abuse or neglect involved, Kevin just gets separated from his family in the rush to the airport. They notice almost immediately this time.
As the family scapegoat, this family always infuriated me. When I watched this as a kid I always thought the message of the movie was supposed to be "better a toxic family than no family" and I always hated that.
I feel the same about this with the family from the movie Krampus. The cousins are genuinely unlikable, the aunt only ever makes rude remarks towards the other family members who worked hard to make their Christmas dinner, and I hate how the dad’s response to his son asking why they have to hang out with them is because “that’s what families all about”. Uhh……..NO. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to cut off ties with family if they’re awful to you. Doing so really helps heal your mental health and build back confidence. Toxic people aren’t just extended to friends, but can also include family members.
This movie was my childhood. Every Christmas we watch it as a family. I always thought everyone was too harsh on Kevin and for an 8 year old, he's a smart boy
that is also why so many dads never came back. they went out for milk but as everyone did that there was just not enough. now they still didn't come back because they are still tryng to find some milk.
It's something that's used in a lot of things, so having a supply on hand is always useful, but doesn't keep very well, so you can't (usefully) lay in a month's supply and need to buy more every few days. Unless, of course, you live somewhere where milk routinely gets delivered.
This has been amazing to see and thank you for all your videos, they really helped me. I'm having a really difficult time right now, I fell out with my father over a year and a half ago because I faced up to his emotional abuse and one incident of SA when I was a child which he denies. For his anger issues and how he talked to me in the past, he doesn't see a problem in it and never said sorry. He did try to reach out a few times last year, this time last year being the last I saw him. It wasn't him apologising but demanding to see my Mum who has dementia and is safely in a home. They divorced over 15 years ago and she never wished to see him again so I'm honouring her wish. But I'm struggling in not having my father in my life. I have a wonderful partner and friends but there's times I worry about him and honestly I still love him as my Dad. I don't know if he will ever see what he's said and done in the past is wrong and will take responsibility for it. But watching things like this, I want to see him and yet I don't know if that's really a good idea and if there's a scenario that we could be in contact safely. I don't know, I'm just emotionally struggling and miss having a Dad in my life. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD for everything I went through with my Dad and myself caring for my Mum. I doubt I will find the answer through here but it's good to let it out. Love to everyone in this holiday season
Jono, you are DRIPPED out! WOW! I love your outfit so so much!! I LOVE this movie. As someone who does not like Christmas, this is one of the fewest movies I'm willing to bear lol And Kevin is so relatable damn
Alan's use of "avuncular" made me look up the definition, and it's my new favorite word! It means "like an uncle", being nice, patient, and generous, especially towards younger people. As an uncle myself, I love it!
I don’t talk to my mom anymore because she won’t take accountability and atone for abusing me. I’m sick of being hurt. Watching family movies like this is always hard. It shows me what I’ve missed out on, even if it isn’t completely realistic.
Yeah it seems like (ideally) no one is modeling that behavior for him because they're all very busy with their own worries. I think if Kevin were a girl he would've been the "good kid" at school 😂
I’m surprised it took me until now to realize I related to Kevin. My parent do frequent blame me for a lot of things and whenever I have disagreements with my parents I’m always the one in the wrong. Or how they’ll use my own words against me when I don’t talk to them and they say how “I say that they never talk to me but when they try I never talk to them.” When it could easily be motivated by past interactions where they never wanted to talk to me. I’m always seen as disrespectful when I’m never trying to be. I will eventually be going no contact with them in the foreseeable future, and while I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point I’ll miss them, I do very much not want to see them when I do leave.
Haven't watched this in forever... The scene in the church about father and son hits a little hard. The last time I saw my father was while I was laying in an ICU bed after a car accident in '95, and I was doped up on morphine, so it was more like a shadowy figure hovering over me than a visit from my dad... Before that it had been almost 4 years since the last time I had spoken with him when his new wife had managed to poison our relationship (both mine and my sister's before me). I had dug up his address about a year or two ago, and have been planning to go by at some point and let him know about his 5 grandchildren. Well, a few days ago I found my bookmarks from when I was tracking him down, and clicked on one randomly, only to find an obituary as the first result. He died in August. To say that we didn't have much of a relationship would be an understatement. Almost 35 years since we last spoke, when I was a Junior in highschool.... You could say legitimately that we didn't have a relationship at all, and reading his obituary and seeing nothing about his son or daughter, or his grandchildren drove this home. Half of me feels like it shouldn't really bother me. That I've grown up and become a grandfather myself at this point, just fine without him in my life. Then there's the other part of me that hurts tremendously.
I always felt Kevin was treated unfairly and I absolutely LOATHED Buzz but as an adult, it’s almost hard to watch. Those parents let a borderline adult man bully a 9 year old. If I ordered a cheese pizza because I know my youngest child is picky and this is the only food we’re getting before our trip and my oldest scarfed the whole pizza down just to torment him, I’d make him call the pizza place, order a new one, make him pay for it, and leave a generous tip for the driver too. I’d tell him he’s old enough to stay home so if he wants to enjoy an expensive Christmas vacation with the family, this behavior better get in check *now.* How in the world is Kevin reacting to having his food stolen make him the bad guy? I’d be proud of him for sticking up for himself. Buzz would be put with the bed wetter. With that said, the scene of the old man and his son also hits different as an adult. I used to just think “oh that’s nice” because my whole family was always together on Christmas so it didn’t seem that moving to me but knowing what I know now, it always makes me cry. Also, John Williams is amazing, yes. But you’re giving him way too much credit. The score is beautiful but this movie would be nothing without Kevin. He’s one of the best child actors to ever grace the stage. That 70% needs to go to McCauley. To say “1% is everything else” is diabolical.
Slight correction that I feel is significant: "Avuncular" does not mean "fatherly," but refers to an uncle. "Uncle-ly"? I think the distinction can be important because there's not generally an existing responsibility that an uncle has to their niece/nephew the way a father has, so the relationship dynamics can be really different (generally less serious).
The exchange at the foot of the attic stairs feels like the beginning of a horrible, magical transformation... "say it again..." // "third times a charm!" "Betelgeuse!" Just for a moment those two movies almost come together and cross the streams...
This movie makes me extra thankful for my mom. I like to jokingly call her crazy because ever since she retired from a very emotionally taxing job that often left her without the spoons to close to me when i was a kid, she's always treated me with respect, compassion and understanding. Rather then yelling she'll often take time to really think about things and we can just talk it out civilly. Just recently we got into a fight about a decision i was making she didn't agree with, and after we both had some time to cool off and talk it out properly she said she was proud of me for sticking to my guns against her! Im incredibly lucky to have her
I was Kevin's age when the movie came out and i remember thinking that the family was a buch of jerks. Like, i have siblings with whom i fought, i was certainly reprimanded when i did something wrong, but i think my folks tried their best to be fair and to listen (they didn't always succeed, but that's ok) and that's what made seeing how Kevin was treated at the start so very jarring
yep. no matter how many times I see it, that scene where the Old Man reconciles with his son and hugs his granddaughter never fails to make me tear up. 🥰
My sibling and i LOVE these movies. I grew up with 3 siblings, and 2 more got adopted a few years ago so the first 3 growing up and i always joked with eachother like: "yeah this would totally happen to us" "who do you think would get left behind?" "Probably robin" "yeah, you're right" 😂
As someone who moved away from my home to get some distance from my family (who I love, but I need the space from to self-determine), I always related super strongly to Kevin. I saw some of them for the first time in a few years, and even had the chance to see Home Alone live in concert at the Sydney Opera House, but instead I chose to do a filmmaking networking event. They understood and supported my decision even though I would have loved to go. I re-watched the movie last night at home, and it brought me so much joy. When Kevin hugs his mom after she apologizes, where she wouldn't do the same for him at the beginning of the movie... god it sends me every time.
Fun fact: after the movies, Kevin from Home Alone was caught in a magical accident (parental negligence may have been involved) that teleported him back in time to the Greyhawk setting from Dungeons and Dragons, where he was adopted by Vecna who taught him magic. He then changed his name to Acererak the Eternal. His phylactery is all of his murder dungeons collectively linked by the Negative Energy Plane, at the center of which lie the magically preserved skulls of two men from Acererak's home world.
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Considering how obnoxious his family is, it’s pretty amazing how nice of a kid Kevin is when he’s alone. The family quite literally brings out the worst in him
Honestly people bring out different sides of others
It’s almost like being away from them and their emotional abuse helped him heal
All he wanted was to be treated right, and that's why he goes all out when he sees injustice happen to him or to others.
He was always on the defensive around them.
Kevin is only a nice kid when he’s away from his toxic family. He’s always been a nice kid, but his family makes him act like a jerk because that’s how their family is.
The framing of Kevin learning his family "disappeared" is so well made. We see how he's initially scared and confused only to be gradually reminded that they treated him horribly.
Notice Kevin's thoughts too, and rewatch the scenes where those lines were said. You'll notice how they're much more exaggerated, or not even said at all. As this is to show things from Kevin's perspective. Therefore, in his mind, they’re all the bad guys and he’s the innocent one.
Which lines exactly, @@osmanyousif7849?
@@osmanyousif7849 to be fair the whole family is awful to Kevin. He’s a child, if he learns bad things from his family that’s not on him.
It’s kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy. They treat Kevin like he’s going to cause issues and then when he does they point the finger. This family has always infuriated me.
YEP YEP YEP. There it is.
It’s even proven to be false at the end when the family returns and even without Kevin they are all still yelling and arguing with each other showing that despite their claims he was never the true source behind their conflicts
@@FenDweller13Absolutely!
@@FenDweller13 Absolutely. I never thought of that
In my family the older kids are meant to be a good example for the younger ones. Buzz’s bad attitude, in my opinion, is the head of the snake in terms of all the other kids’ behavior toward each other. My parents would have raked that punk over the coals.
If any adult had called me or my sister a "little jerk", my mom would've made sure you never found the body.
That’s nothing compared to what he calls him in the second movie, lol.
😂😅
Can you picture calling a nine year old a “Nosy little pervert?”
My mom would’ve been the one calling me a little jerk.
I could not imagine calling my nieces jerks for any reason (even if they are acting like jerks). My brother and maybe even my more even tempered sister in law would throw hands.
@@PodyTheCirateA parent may call their kid a jerk in the heat of the moment (not saying it’s okay), but there’s a huge difference between that and allowing an another adult to call you kid that.
@@karrihart1 that is definitely one way of looking at it.
Catherine O'Hara and Macaulay Culkin are still close to this day, with her stating that he still calls her "Mom." She was even present when he received his Hollywood Star on the Walk of Fame.
I view Home Alone as a prequel to Schitt’s Creek.
That’s awesome
That's so heart-warming
That's really wholesome
Aw. That's so sweet. I'm so glad they have that relationship.
The first time I watched this after becoming a parent, I thought "This family is horrible! The parents are horrible!"
"They're all irredeemable monsters!!!"
"Ohhhh uhhhh! What took you so long?"
@@AbMaSyncIdiot! *flick*
When I was younger I thought Kevin was the problem and the family were all innocent. Now I realize it’s almost the other way around.
@@AbMaSync "IDIOT!"
*flicks you away*
Me watching this when I was 5 years old in 1990: "Kevin's family are all awful people."
Me watching this when I was 38 last year in 2023: "Kevin's family are all awful people."
The most profound thing about the church scene is Kevin is taking a complex and complicated adult problem and breaking it down with his childlike innocence. As adults, we say that it’s not that simple, but the truth is we just make it complicated. I love it when TV shows and movies allow adults to learn and grow from the child’s perspective. We might already know it in our heads, but there’s something about hearing it from a child and wanting that kind of optimism and assurance.
Same, I love that! Well put!
A child's brain thinks in a different way than an adult's brain does. Both can engage in logical thinking, but they do it in ways that sometimes make it difficult to translate between each other. As we grow older, we transition to adult logic and forget how to think logically as a child does.
Kevin’s a really compassionate kid. To his whole family he may come off as a jerk, but he’s really selfless and kind. When he gets over his fear of Marley and the Pigeon Lady and learns what truly good people they are, he offers advice and talks to them and is genuinely a nice kid. And he risks his life (especially in the second movie) to help people he cares about (his family and the sick kids in the hospital). I wish Kevin’s family got to see the compassionate person Kevin in, cause he’s a real sweet and courageous kid.
I want Kevin as my therapist now 😄
Exactly, I love how Marly's like "I'm scared to talk to my son, I don't know if we can reconcile" and Kevin's like "yeah, I was scared of my basement, but when I turned on the light, I wasn't scared" and it works so beautifully
Honestly Kevin is only so sarcastic and snarky in that scene because not only was his entire family insulting and excluding him, buzz right before was actively antagonizing him, and then blaming him for stuff that was not his fault.
YEP, its a defense mechanism, his verbal prickliness is no different than the litteral prickles of a hedgehog or porcupine
I feel like the old man in the church is the "real Santa Claus" of the story. Kevin meets a fake Santa in one scene, and even acknowledges that he's a fake Santa, then encounters this old man with a white beard who gives him exactly what he needed (and who saves his life at the end).
He then goes through the same thing with a bird feeding woman in New York in the second movie. He's initially afraid of her, he eventually warms up to her, and as fate would have it, she saves him from the same two bandits that tried to "do away with him".
I always appreciate the lengths this one went to, to rationalize how Kevin got left behind. The ticket in the trash, the late start, the neighbor kid being included in the head count, everything they did, somehow foiled by external circumstances. Very clever.
That's why it's annoying when people dismiss nonsensical behavior from characters saying "They had to do it that way because if they didn't the movie would have been over in 10 minutes." That's lazy writing. The writers could have just had Kevin's alarm clock not go off and left it at that, and people would have excused it as necessary for the plot to happen, but instead they put in the work to construct a complex but plausible series of events that made it make sense that Kevin was left behind.
I watch a lot of "air crash investigation"-type shows and they talk a lot about what's called the Swiss Cheese Model, in which you have slices of swiss cheese that more often than not don't have any holes align (so you can't go "through" them without hitting the solid part of the next slice of cheese) but SOMETIMES a hole in each slice will line up perfectly with each other and you can "go through" that hole in each slice without anything stopping you, IOW if one thing doesn't occur the incident won't happen (or at least is much less likely to). This is the Swiss Cheese Model of this movie, i.e. if any one of those hadn't happened Kevin very likely wouldn't have gotten left behind.
Kevin was to his family why Bruno was in Encanto. It’s relatable unhealthy family dynamics. I always felt sorry for little Kevin.
exactly.
scape goat.
when he says his little 'sorry'- i dont think hes trying to be manipulative.
i think hes trying to deal with all the adult stuff thats been thrown on him. hes taking the responsibility that he shouldn't have to.
But there's a big difference: Bruno decided to take on that role by his own free will by hiding from his family and only did that when he was 40 years old.
So he was an adult unlike Kevin and has even been described as having been the "golden child" when he was a kid until the villagers turned against him.
Except for that his attempt to cheer Pepa up on her wedding day failed, it is never stated that Bruno's family talked negatively about him before he "left" them.
And nobody in Julieta's side said anything negative about him even after that...
@@Furienna he left because his mother blamed him for everything
Man, I need to watch Encanto.
@@rachaelknudsen8801 lol its cool, in a lin manuel miranda way.
but not so 90s kevin, apart from this
This ending is beautiful until you realize that in the 2nd movie, no one learns anything, and it just starts all over again.
The sequel, like many was peimarily a cash grab seeking to make money off the first movies success, but the first movie didn't expect to have a sequel, so feel free to view as the standalone experience it was originally designed as
Progress isn't a straight line, people learn, people forget, people relearn, people fight their habits
@@ladygeneveve3805 It might have been a cash grab, but it was a fun and satisfying cash grab. Modern film makers should take note. Also, the circumstances reset because the parents never disciplined Buzz for being a creep, it was easier for them to punish Kevin for reacting than to deal with the bullying he was reacting to.
in my family Kevin would have had to hold his parent's hands when on a roadtrip until he went to college! xD
Honestly the fact that this wasn’t some magical ending where everything was perfect from this day on and everyone never fell back into their old ways is WHAT makes the second movie so believable. Lol falling into old habits and having to relearn lessons, especially older people and teens stuck in their ways, makes a lot of sense.
One of my favorite details in this movie is Marley's hand.
When Kevin sees him at the store, it's bloody which symbolizes that Marley's relationship with his son is wounded. In the church scene, he has a band aid on, symbolizing that Kevin has helped Marley begin to heal, and at the end of the movie when Marley hugs his grandaughter his hand (and by extension his relationship with his son) is completely healed
That's a neat story telling element catch
That’s a very observant thought. I never even imagined that.
@@megabladechronicles962 Neat, I never realised that, I'll have to watch the film again to pick up on this detail.
Re-watching this movie now as I'm older and know psychology better than before makes me feel so bad for Kevin. He's not only a scapegoat, but he is also constantly in a defence mode, and I relate to this so much as someone who lived in an abusive home with irresponsible adults who were too proud to apologize or accept their faults.
When you live with those who constantly attack you - verbally or physically - and you feel vulnerable/unsafe, you automatically enter fight or flight response; Kevin seems to choose the latter.
His aggression is usually passive, hidden behind snarkiness and suppression, but eventually it can easily spill into full-on aggression, like when he attacks Buzz. No one helps him alleviate the stress, and instead only push him more into that defence mode. It's a vicious cycle that will continue for as long as the person is in a place where they constantly feel the need to defend themselves.
This has to be traumatic, especially for someone so young.
This put into words something I still deal with as an adult. I wasn’t a scapegoat and I wasn’t in nearly as awful a situation as Kevin, but the Y-Chromosome Donor was, not a great person. It led to so much tension over years. And as the oldest, I took the brunt of it. I even (verbally) snapped a few times, leading to him becoming Physical. I’m glad it was to me and not my mother or siblings. I still hate that he held so much power over us all though, especially after he gave me a black eye once while it was just me and him in the house, and I had to lie to my mother, bosses, and coworkers that I fell while cleaning, because he would have likely done far worse if I didn’t, but additionally he “put on good boy shoes” for a while since I easily could have spilled the beans and had that over him in return.
I’m still defensive, but I do my best to avoid bottling now thanks to some friends that let me vent when I’m upset, and I’ve moved out on my own. My mother is divorcing my Y-Chromosome Donor, and while he attempted to make contact with me, the moment my mother and youngest sibling had the Law protecting them, I stopped talking to him since I didn’t have to worry about him retaliating towards them. While I have heard he’s FINALLY going to therapy like my other sibling told him last year he needed, and he’s trying to deal with his alcoholic tendencies, I’m not talking to him unless I truly feel safe and comfortable doing so. I am never putting myself to be under his control again.
This might be the first character examination I've ever seen of Kevin McAlister that hasn't labled him as a psychopathic monster. Once you ignore the hunger games like traps it truly is a lovely family film.
I've never really understood that mindset. Marv and Harry were deliberately trying to break into a house they knew was occupied by an eight year old who was all alone. There was no version of that plan that was ever going to end well whether or not he went Die Hard on them.
What I love about the first two films is how Kevin has a profound impact on two hurting adults lives because they listened to him. Kevin's family largely ignores him and ignores or devalues what he has to say... Then this little kid shows up and is friendly with lonely older people and they don't brush him off as an annoyance like his family does and they truly listen to Kevin's profound advice.
Not only is it a good message to kids that adults are capable of listening but it reminds us adults to actually listen to kids.
I also like how Kevin must feel like an angel came to those adults in the form of a child to say something that will change the direction of their lives. Kevin preforms a few Christmas miracles by reconnecting a family, giving a woman the courage to love again and he selflessly puts himself in danger to protect the money meant to go to sick kids in the hospital.
But I think it's also hilarious how the little psycho may also be perceived as an angel in disguise lol
It helps too that just like Kevin, Marley and the pigeon lady were outcasts, and in Marley’s case he was an outcast within his own family. Kevin was able to bond with them because he genuinely understood what they were going through
"But I think it's also hilarious how the little psycho may also be perceived as an angel in disguise lol"
Angel of Death
A reminder for those who've gone low or no contact with someone abusive... The pressure to reconcile because "it's Christmas" does not apply here. Sometimes the best thing you can do for Christmas is to gift yourself protection against relationships that aren't safe or healthy.
Very true. I do think it's a nice message that Jono has at the end, but for those that are waiting to hear that "I'm sorry", it's a different situation entirely.
@@DFTBA221B I spent a long...long time waiting to hear "I'm sorry" from my abuser. Too long. Not anymore.
The moment where Marv screams because of the spider is so memorable that my parents recognized it from a completely different room 😂
Fun fact! The scream was dubbed in! They didn’t want to spook the spider so he had to scream silently. I’m pretty sure it bit him anyway…
@@takkycat Not true, the actor said he really screamed because of his fear of spiders lol.
That is the most relatable scream in the history of film
Watching this movie as a kid, I felt bad for Kevin. Watching this as an young adult, I felt bad for Kevin
Until now, I never noticed that Kevin had tears in his eyes when he saw Old Man Marley reconnect with his family. Perfect ending!
It’s beautiful! Also his red headed granddaughter was singing in the choir so the family must have lived in town or at least nearby
I think the real question for the family is “is Kevin a sarcastic jerk because the rest of the family treats him like crap or does the rest of the family treat him like crap because he’s a sarcastic jerk?”. I think there’s a serious case for Kevin needing to be put into protective custody from his abusive family; even Jonathan acknowledged that the parents completely abandoned Kevin when the rest of the family dogpiles him with complaints and insults.
I lean towards the former. Kevin proves to be a genuinely nice kid when he’s alone, it’s his family that brings the worst out of him
@@megabladechronicles962 True, just don't cross him like the burglars did. Kevin's a good kid, but boy can he be ruthless!
The parents allow it to happen
It's true. Even though he was disrespectful to Kate at the start and it wasn't his place to teach Buzz a lesson, it's unfair that Buzz gets no consequences for picking on him and causing this whole situation in the first place. But, only Kevin gets disciplined and it makes me mad.
@@megabladechronicles962 Yeah, Kevin is genuinely a very nice, good-hearted kid when he needs to be and when he's not been riles up by Buzz or any of his other older siblings. We see how nice he is when he gives advice to Marley in the church and also, in Home Alone, he gives advice to the homeless lady and is even able to admit that he gets into trouble.
Just don't cross him like Buzz or like Harry and Marv 😠😠
That church scene was fantastic. The simplistic innocent wisdom of youth sitting down and talking with a more rigid jaded seasoned outlook of old age if that's a good way to describe it. Kevin and Marley had a genuine down-to-earth dialogue while Kevin still sounded like a kid and Marley humoring him a bit. It was very mature. Shows that the youth and the elderly can both learn from each other.
Also, thanks to Alan (fellow John Williams Enjoyer) for giving me a new word to add to my vocabulary compendium, 'avuncular'. I'll find a way to use that.
Strictly speaking, "avuncular" doesn't mean "fatherly"; it means "uncle-ly" - an older male who isn't directly responsible, but has some personal connection/authority.
@rmsgrey I appreciate that, I looked it up myself as well for accuracy sake.
The fact that Kevin can give such solid advice to lonely adults and show genuine compassion to others outside his family? I don’t think he’s a sociopath. I think he has a lack of impulse control from adhd more than exasperated by the routine scapegoating/emotional abuse and neglect he receives from literally everyone except his mother by the end of the first movie and into the second-she’s literally the only one he even has the emotional energy for by the end. He lashes out with his sarcasm, sure. And let’s be real, the Deathtraps for the Wet/Sticky Bandits is intentionally 3 Stooges Cartoonish. But if he senses others just as isolated and misunderstood as he is, or having a greater need than him, he shows up with a kinda heartbreaking level of emotional maturity for how stunted he is within his own family unit
“Everyone hones in on anything that reaffirms [Kevin being the source of unpleasantness] and ignores anything that doesn’t.”
Reminds me of Mirabel’s feelings towards her family in ENCANTO, except she’s less sarcastic and more helpful and cheerleading but still gets stepped on because her door ceremony ended with her not getting a superpower and thus being ostracized from her family for at least a decade.
Mirabel was a ...*door* mat 😎
@@darkecofreak23 But I don't see how Mirabel was ostracized from her family since she lived with them and got a lot of love from her parents and Luisa and Antonio.
@@Furienna The rest of the family was awful to her though, esp Isabella and Abuela.
@@lordfreerealestate8302 But when did Pepa or Félix or Dolores or Camilo do anything to her?
Abuela and Isabela had their own struggles and reconciled with Mirabel in the end.
One thing that I always hated was when Kate McAllister calls the police to check on Kevin, she NEVER specifies that he's an 8 year old. Yes, the cops are incompetent, but no one would ever think that someone would leave an 8 year old by themselves and it's probably why they didnt take her seriously. They probably assumed it was a teenager who was left alone at the house
I've always hated that!
Watching Kevin as a child I remember thinking how cool and capable he seemed. Now as an adult I recently saw clips and just thought to myself wow, he really was just a baby. I always loved Home Alone growing up and its taking on new meaning for me as an adult nearing having children myself. Excited to finish this video fellas, Happy Holidays!!
Adults often underestimate children
@ lol speak for yourself dude. I still think Kevin is just as cool and capable as an adult. The gravity and weight of how actually young and vulnerable he was when left alone with no contact or reassurance never hit me until I myself was no longer a child, plus working in childcare and understanding how many kids Kevin’s age are it really puts a different spin on things vs my past viewings. It’s heavy, scary and sad, and as capable as Kevin was it’s a situation he never should have been put in. Children are resilient and capable asf in many situations, doesn’t mean it’s okay or fair they have to be though my friend. That’s not an underestimate, it’s empathy.
The family watching "It's a Wonderful Life" holds more significance when you compare the stories. Like George Bailey, Kevin makes a wish that turns out to not be so great, and in the end, he appreciates his family more. Old Man Marley is basically who he'd become if he never reconciled with his family.
Of course the character named Marley is a cautionary tale for the main character - that's what Marley was in A Christmas Carol.
The fact that they are watching it in French underscores the lack of communion in the family, and also, their desire to be home where things make sense, even if they aren't perfect.
I remember last year when nostalgia critic did his review on this movie. He commented on the flack the family gets because they’re so mean but he said “ it helps if you’ve known a big family” saying that things in a big family can be stressful especially when it’s the holidays. According to legal eagle, the McAllister parents would be facing some serious legal problems.
It's a bit different with this family because they are nasty to each other *all the time.* And to poor Kevin the most. If they can't all get along under the same roof, then maybe it's time for a second one or a third.
@ they are horrid. Frank is really toxic. He has to be the worst of Peter’s brothers and I have to wonder why he gets invited to these destination Christmases. And Buzz? He’s the oldest. Shouldn’t he be made accountable? If not for being a Class A troll, then for the fact he’s in a position of influence as many first born are
It's also worth bearing in mind that we're seeing them at their very worst - everyone's amped up because of the upcoming holiday, all their routines have been disrupted, so everyone's bumping into everyone else, and the normally responsible adults are stressed because of all the planning and organising they've had to do.
On a normal day, they wouldn't have the extra 8 bodies, and they'd be following their routines that let them work around each other more smoothly, and people wouldn't be so excited...
@@michellecrocker2485it’s refreshing seeing the oldest not get in trouble simply because they’re the oldest but Buzz was a bully and bullies should be punished many times they’re not like even in a workplace or classroom or other setting
I’m from a big family (I have 5 siblings) and I am horrified every single time I watch home alone by how toxic and nasty Kevin’s family is. They are horrible people, and horrible parents to let their children treat eachother so badly.
I’m glad this is being talked about, seriously Kevin was always verbally abused by his family.
The poor child genuinely believes he can wish his family away again.
But it's probably very wholesome that he may never find out he's wrong, he doesn't try to wish them away.
He does comment in the second movie that it’s a good thing he has his own ticket, so it seems he did learn what happened.
@@jaynnnewell4722It makes me think of when kids first go off to school or move out on their own, how one has to find one's self before rejoining the party.
20:45 a lot of people point to the fact the Mom barely got there ahead of the rest of the family because they took a flight she didn’t want to wait for as a plot hole, but imagine what would have happened if she had sat and waited? The whole journey she takes in the movie is to show she cares about and loves Kevin, a moral that would have been lost if she had just said “even if I jump flights all the way back I only get there a little ahead of the morning flight, I’ll just wait it out with the rest of you”
She thought she could get there faster thats the point
loving the suit jono
It makes an appearance on the channel once a year! 😁
I loved how relatable the sibling dynamics were, with Kevin's siblings constantly teasing him, yet they are shown to miss him in a deleted scene. Also, when Kevin is flashing back to mean things that his family said to him, he recalls Buzz threatening to feed him to his tarantula, which he never actually did on screen. However, this could be something that Buzz told Kevin before the movie.
One big critique I have of this movie as an adult is Kevin’s mom response to, “Everybody in this family hates me.” Why, instead of asking why he feels that way or assuring him no one hates him, would she instead take it as if he’s trying to be smart or antagonizing and say, “Well if you feel that way, you should wish that we weren’t your family”? As a mom, I would never make my child believe, even for a second, that our family hated them, and especially not me.
The ending of the movie always felt to me like Kevin validating his family’s belief that he’s a problem by just… not being a problem anymore and making them happy. That doesn’t sit well with me at all. Then again, I could be misinterpreting.
Right? I’d love to see more representations of scapegoating in children’s movies. It can mess with a kid’s head so much because, no matter what they do, whether they fulfill parental demands or not, they are always lacking, in trouble, etc. They grow up thinking they’ll never be worth anything, so why even try? It’s heartbreaking, and in the worse cases, horribly destructive.
@@daniellelarsen9767 I have wished so many times that I could be "perfect" in my parents eyes, so that I could prove to them and myself, that their disapproval was not a reflection of me, but of them. Alas, I cannot be that for them or anyone, so in some small way, I'll never know for sure. This little nagging question of "Am I really the problem?" lingers.
I always found Kevin relatable when watching Home Alone
New rule, if the movie has John Candy in it you must include at least one clip of him. He was the best, he brings joy, and we could all use a bit more joy
Seconded.
I like the theory of him being an angel
@@GeekyGirl80 I had always heard it as a Fallen angel.
@@redbear6 I've heard both, I think angel works.
This is such a good movie, but I've always felt so sad for Kevin. I never understood why his entire family was so mean to him.
Trust me. All our families are mean to us lol.
Cause they're a big family. It could specifically be cause, to them, he's the most visibly annoying, stubborn and bratty out of all the other kids, who are also just as bad, but hide it better.
Wow, last time I was this early Kevin's plane ticket didn't get thrown out yet.
True dat.
My mom's mind was blown when I showed her that detail.
wait, I never noticed!
I pointed this out to my mom, as an oldest child, theres no way in hell that the youngest wouldnt be catered to their every whim.
If my youngest sister wanted cheese pizza, that's all there'd be.
I also agree about Mr. McAllister, he should have stepped up.
I remember one time my incredibly rude aunt, criticizing my sister that she was late to dinner because she out at a friend's birthday brunch. Saying she was irresponsible and selfish.
Dad laid into her in a way ive never seen him, yelling that his daughter was incredibly responsible to her family, and that she had no right to speak to her that way.
Aunt shut up after that.
So yeah, the McAllister family is in desperate need of therapy
"If my younger sister wanted cheese pizza, that's all there'd be." 🤣🤣 I felt that. As a middle child, I felt that so much 💀
@TKZells16 I wish my dad was like that. Nope. He be mad at me for crying when his brother teased me because "it's not hurtful." And my dad wonders why I'm cold and emotionless to him.
As a youngest let me say that this isn’t always true. My parents treated my sister and me completely equally as far as I can remember. We took turns picking things (when we got to pick), were defended and punished equally as deserved. If anything I got punished more, because I pushed more lol. If anything it was always my dad’s wants that were catered to, boring and plain as they were. 😂
@@ApostlicNinjaGirl Same. I was the scapegoat and the youngest of two.
I would think there’d be a variety of pizza but yea what about food allergies then what? You’d force your older children to eat something the younger siblings want?
For those where it's unsafe to contact the people you miss: You're doing great and are more at ease without them. Take a deep breath in and out and be grateful for your ability to reach this point. You should be very proud of knowing your limits and what you deserve. Also Happy Holidays and be sure to treat yourself if this triggered you (it sure did for me lol)
I was just starting to weep and my eyes landed on this comment. Thank you so much for it. I really needed it.
This! There's always so much pressure to reconcile "because it's Christmas," but sometimes the best thing you can do for Christmas is to gift yourself safety.
Maybe I will celebrate by jumping on the bed, eating whatever I want, and watching shows. Thanks to moving away, I made my family disappear.
I watched this movie last year for the first time after starting therapy and realized that I, like Kevin was the family scapegoat and the movie made me cry. #cryingwithalan
The sad thing is this family learns Nothing from this. The proof of this is Home Alone 2. Kevin is still the scapegoat. And once again, his family can't care enough about him to keep track of him, so much so that he ends up on a completely different flight than them.
As a child my mom had us fast forward through the beginning of the movie because she didn’t like how mean the family was and how Kevin talked to his parents
Kevin was mean back but it’s understandable
We have the same rule in my house. The family is unbearable and I still wish he would have been adopted by the old neighbor or the guy who owns the toy store in the second movie.
And to contradict what you guys have said regarding the father: Any father that looks at his son with pure disgust and loathing like Kevin's father did is unfit to be a father. That wasn't just a failure to protect him. That was a complete failure as a father and he should be equally chastised for it.
Yes, he is worse than the mom imo
When did he look at him with disgust?
@@oooh19 go back to when the scene happens and you will see it
I’m so glad you did Home Alone but I feel like this needed to be a multi-part series. Emotional abuse, parental stress, sibling bullying, violent (psychopathic?) behavior in children, reconciliation…there’s a lot to work with here!
I already made a comment moments ago, but when I watched this the other day and watched the scene where his mom sends Kevin upstairs, their exchange made me think to myself, man, I want Jono to talk about this SO BAD!! The part where she tells him maybe he should ask Santa for a new family was just like... holy shit, mom, you don't say that to your kid!!
Now here you are making a video! Hooray!
...my dads totally said that to me 😅 i was surprised to find this video new, i swore they did this movie already. So glad they are doing it
I can see why she'd say something like that in the moment; she thought Kevin was just being melodramatic (which he kind of was, even though his emotions were legitimate), but she should've come back up after she was calmer and apologized for it, and make it clear that, despite everything that went down, they still love him.
Given that my mom's said horrible things like that to me, that scene makes me uncomfortable. lol. Completely agree wit you on this!
My mom wasn't the greatest but one of her rules is you will NOT call your siblings names and if you did, you'd get punished. They just ignore how everyone dumps on him and calls him names, especially the jerk uncle, and don't say a word to them. I really hated how his family treated him and I think he acted out because he got treated as the "bad" kid. I sure don't see his parents treating him like a golden child, so it couldn't be that. Kids just forget what brats they were at a younger age and want to blame them for acting how they did or even worse. Buzz was the absolute WORST and I thought it was crap he didn't get punished for eating pizza he knew was the only one Kevin would eat and then even called him names. Of course we know all this had to happen for the movie but showing crappy parents like this are shameful
My grandpa really loved this movie mostly because of the sticky bandits. When I was younger, like most, never picked up on the toxicity the family had.
Oh the parents annoy me to no end now. Whenever Kevin acts out, it's mostly due to Buzz pushing him over the edge. Yes he should learn how to handle it properly but he's a child. Buzz, while I'm not entirely sure what his age is, is older and should know when enough is enough. Kevin's parents just put the blame on him because they don't want to deal with it.
I don't think the actor playing the old man gets enough credit (Roberts Blossom); he and Candy were perfect additions who elevated the entire movie.
The thing that always struck me about Kevin’s kinda bratty behaviour is that even at his worst I can’t really blame him.
Even aside from his just being a kid he behaves the way he does because he’s constantly having to defend himself from his jerk siblings, his bully of an uncle and his neglectful parents. He feels as if the world is against him and he’s kinda right.
I gotta say that while Uncle Frank is a bully to Kevin I just enjoy his character he’s pretty funny like the travelers checks remark and the nosy pervert scene lol such an underrated actor imo and who wouldn’t want a free vacation?
2:25 The real villains of the first 2 Home Alones aren't Harry and Marv. It's Kevin's family.
Harry and Marv are thieves. They are trying to steal the treasures the families in the neighborhood have stored up on earth. Kevin, the scape goat, takes it upon himself to protect the house and to grow up a little. God bless John Hughes, the writer of the script.
More specifically, his uncle.
@@Passions5555 Who in 1 script was the mastermind behind the robbery and let Harry and Marv into the house because Frank was jealous of his brother Peter. So in that script he was even worse and nearly got his nephew killed.
@@Xehanort10this makes so much sense! We have a theory in my family that the dad and uncle are in the mob. The marriage is arranged. The kids may or may not be adopted to keep up the image. The wet bandits are just a couple of low level guys sent to send a message cuz the dad has screwed up somehow- also the cops are on the payroll.
Anyway, the nasty uncle script should have stayed.
Kevin being Deadpool For Kids is going to be my new head canon from now on. Kevin McCallister grows up, decides to channel his thirst for violence into going after bad guys, and eventually changes his name to Wade Wilson.
Plot twist: He was a scoutmaster at one point while trying to be "fully good" and his love for sex and violence almost got the best of him. He now references this as if it was a different person as a coping mechanism: Scoutmaster Kevin.
The Wet Bandits? They were secretly mutants which is why they didn't die after all of Kevin's traps. They don't have any really good super powers. They can just take abuse without easily dying. (Perhaps a low level healing factor that keeps them from dying but doesn't really prevent long lasting injuries.)
Such impeccable timing from y'all because I was rewatching this movie a few days ago and wondered how being left behind TWO YEARS IN A ROW would affect him long term. 😭 I would sob as a child if I was one aisle over in the grocery store from my parents, let alone in an entirely different state or country.
I think Macaulay Culkin actually did a web video that was intended to be his own fan fiction on that. He plays an adult Kevin who's become a cab driver. I think he got carjacked or something in the video and he just unloads emotionally on the would be assailant.
That said, I've always thought a non-comedy sequel should have been made where an adult Kevin attends weekly meetings of a violence survivors' group due to his encounters with Harry and Marv. One day he goes in to find out that Harry and Marv have started attending after getting out of prison to deal with the trauma he caused them.
“Deadpool for kids”
… amazing!!!
I cackled 😂
I always thought it was Saw for kids.
My best friend and I haven’t spoken for several years. There was no fight or disagreement, instead I was supposed to travel to visit him (we live on opposite ends of the country) but had to cancel my flight the day before due to some issues I was having with my wife. I honestly don’t know why he stopped talking to me after that, but ever since I have been too afraid to call him because of exactly what the old man said to Kevin. That scene hit me so hard I had to pause the video to wipe my eyes. If there ever was a sign saying that I need to try reaching out to my friend again, then this was it. I just hope I can find the courage to make the call today. Thanks for the video guys, it was fantastic as always.
Did you do it yet? 😃♥️
To answer Cathetine O'Hara's character's question: A horrible, awful mother who openly allows abuse to her son because she is tired. Standing on her high horse all the while not realizing he is the only one that gets shafted by ever other person in the family including the adults
There are many, many moments when you have to suspend your disbelief to make this movie work, but I could never get past how hard the entire McCallister family piled on their 8 year-old son.
Disbelief? You think this kind of crap doesn't happen in the real world?
@ladygeneveve3805 A child getting the best of two adult men using booby traps? No.
Verbal abuse? Yes. Which is exactly what I implied with my comment, if you'd taken two extra seconds to think about it.
This happens in real life too
@@CaptainPikeachu Do you know what it means to suspend your disbelief?
18:55 - The year that we got a DVD player for Christmas, Home Alone was the first DVD we rented (having already watched many times on VHS). My brothers and I spent HOURS just on the home invasion part, enjoying the novelty of pausing on funny faces, reversing, playing it again in slow motion, etc.
I would love a family therapy episode with the John Candy film Uncle Buck, and it has a young Macaulay Culkin before Home Alone. You have a family member that the core family doesn’t really trust to watch the kids, the eldest daughter going through teenage rebellion, Uncle Buck actually having to be responsible and in a way grow up.
Little Kevin grew up and changed his name to Wade Wilson. The rest, as they say, is history.
Or John Kramer. Either way, he made history.
Given how mucky Wade’s backstory intentionally is, I find it highly likely.
John Cramer, idk about.
I always felt bad for Kevin, I thought initially it was as we were both youngest children in a big family, but it’s more than that. Whatever mistakes Kevin makes, he’s 8. He doesn’t know better yet, but the adults in his family should. His parents should be noticing how much buzz bullies him and intervening; they also should know better than to lash out at him when he says something hurtful, because again, he’s 8 and they’re not.
Adults really don’t always know better though and honestly even being an adult we definitely say hurtful words when others treat us like that
I remember the 90s respect adults no matter what mentality. I am glad we now see how toxic that upbringing can be.
I feel it may also be imperative to point out that this movie is also very representative of a society that sees acknowledging that children are people with valid emotions and needs as being less important than the parent being in charge and having their authority respected. Being anything other than authoritarian in the household was seen as being "soft" and "coddling". I'm glad that we've moved away from that mindset more and hope we continue to do so.
"fear is like running on a treadmill. keeps you going but gets you nowhere" - saw it in a comic once; don't know origin
"You can be a little old for a lot of things, but you're never too old to be afraid." That's such a wise thing and I honestly kinda love that it comes from this movie. It's like Die Hard and putting yourself aside to truly apologise, it's such an incredibly mature mindset and because it comes from a fun film I feel like it's more likely to stick.
The neighbor that saves Kevin in the end of the first movie is the one positive person in his life
Yea what a kind man Marley was!
Just watched this a few nights ago. With all the comedy and whatnot, the MOST emotional point for me is the neighbor with his granddaughter at the end. THAT is the meaning of Christmas, and the movie.
I can feel the Christmas jolliness radiating from Jono's suit from beyond the screen.
My little boy is obsessed with the Home Alone movies... even the badly written ones. It makes my heart so happy that he loves this series, and it is something we bond over for the holidays and will continue to make a tradition together. I didn't understand why he loved the movies so much this year in particular until I thought about- in the first three movies, the mom always comes home. My ex and I divorced this year, and I was the one who moved out, so this movie has been helping him with the transition from one household to two.
Growing up, my family was very similar and it helped me feel less alone, and it helps my son know he isn't alone either. The series is so much more than a Christmas movie.
Thank you for talking on this video.
16:20 I love this scene because it shows that kids, in some ways, are wiser than we are because they're able to be. They don't have the burden of expectations and experiences quite to the extent that they will when they reach adulthood, so they can look at situations more clearly. I also love the reveal, in general, that Marley isn't scary. He's a sweet elderly man with a lot of regrets but has anxiety about taking the steps to lighten his emotional load. It's moments like this that make the movie a classic to me.
And lastly, this isn't true accountability. The fact that there is a second movie where the exact same thing happens only a year later means that this a temporary measure meant to console the mother's guilty conscience. In reality no accountability is met and it needs to be called out.
The exact same thing DOESN'T happen, though.
Like, the broader plot problem is the same, but the "why" isn't. There's no familial abuse or neglect involved, Kevin just gets separated from his family in the rush to the airport. They notice almost immediately this time.
As the family scapegoat, this family always infuriated me. When I watched this as a kid I always thought the message of the movie was supposed to be "better a toxic family than no family" and I always hated that.
I feel the same about this with the family from the movie Krampus. The cousins are genuinely unlikable, the aunt only ever makes rude remarks towards the other family members who worked hard to make their Christmas dinner, and I hate how the dad’s response to his son asking why they have to hang out with them is because “that’s what families all about”. Uhh……..NO. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to cut off ties with family if they’re awful to you. Doing so really helps heal your mental health and build back confidence. Toxic people aren’t just extended to friends, but can also include family members.
This movie was my childhood. Every Christmas we watch it as a family. I always thought everyone was too harsh on Kevin and for an 8 year old, he's a smart boy
Late 80s and 90s really was the Milk decade. It's literally the benchmark for this family to decide if they need to shop.
that is also why so many dads never came back. they went out for milk but as everyone did that there was just not enough. now they still didn't come back because they are still tryng to find some milk.
It's something that's used in a lot of things, so having a supply on hand is always useful, but doesn't keep very well, so you can't (usefully) lay in a month's supply and need to buy more every few days.
Unless, of course, you live somewhere where milk routinely gets delivered.
@@johnthedutchman564😂
Before a blizzard 🌨️ that’s what most customers pick up along with bread! 🥖 it’s still the case even in 2024
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This has been amazing to see and thank you for all your videos, they really helped me. I'm having a really difficult time right now, I fell out with my father over a year and a half ago because I faced up to his emotional abuse and one incident of SA when I was a child which he denies. For his anger issues and how he talked to me in the past, he doesn't see a problem in it and never said sorry. He did try to reach out a few times last year, this time last year being the last I saw him. It wasn't him apologising but demanding to see my Mum who has dementia and is safely in a home. They divorced over 15 years ago and she never wished to see him again so I'm honouring her wish. But I'm struggling in not having my father in my life. I have a wonderful partner and friends but there's times I worry about him and honestly I still love him as my Dad. I don't know if he will ever see what he's said and done in the past is wrong and will take responsibility for it. But watching things like this, I want to see him and yet I don't know if that's really a good idea and if there's a scenario that we could be in contact safely. I don't know, I'm just emotionally struggling and miss having a Dad in my life. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD for everything I went through with my Dad and myself caring for my Mum. I doubt I will find the answer through here but it's good to let it out. Love to everyone in this holiday season
Jono, you are DRIPPED out! WOW! I love your outfit so so much!!
I LOVE this movie. As someone who does not like Christmas, this is one of the fewest movies I'm willing to bear lol
And Kevin is so relatable damn
“Kevin, as a therapist is giving advice he needs to take himself” as a therapist, that slapped 😂
Alan's use of "avuncular" made me look up the definition, and it's my new favorite word! It means "like an uncle", being nice, patient, and generous, especially towards younger people. As an uncle myself, I love it!
I don’t talk to my mom anymore because she won’t take accountability and atone for abusing me. I’m sick of being hurt. Watching family movies like this is always hard. It shows me what I’ve missed out on, even if it isn’t completely realistic.
I've always disliked the family. Is Kevin a perfect little angel? No, hes 8 and he acts like an 8 year old.
Yeah it seems like (ideally) no one is modeling that behavior for him because they're all very busy with their own worries. I think if Kevin were a girl he would've been the "good kid" at school 😂
@@austincdeboys can be good kids and plenty of girls are seen as bad even if they’re not but they expect more from girls
@@oooh19 yes, exactly!
I’m surprised it took me until now to realize I related to Kevin. My parent do frequent blame me for a lot of things and whenever I have disagreements with my parents I’m always the one in the wrong. Or how they’ll use my own words against me when I don’t talk to them and they say how “I say that they never talk to me but when they try I never talk to them.” When it could easily be motivated by past interactions where they never wanted to talk to me. I’m always seen as disrespectful when I’m never trying to be.
I will eventually be going no contact with them in the foreseeable future, and while I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point I’ll miss them, I do very much not want to see them when I do leave.
Haven't watched this in forever... The scene in the church about father and son hits a little hard. The last time I saw my father was while I was laying in an ICU bed after a car accident in '95, and I was doped up on morphine, so it was more like a shadowy figure hovering over me than a visit from my dad... Before that it had been almost 4 years since the last time I had spoken with him when his new wife had managed to poison our relationship (both mine and my sister's before me).
I had dug up his address about a year or two ago, and have been planning to go by at some point and let him know about his 5 grandchildren. Well, a few days ago I found my bookmarks from when I was tracking him down, and clicked on one randomly, only to find an obituary as the first result. He died in August.
To say that we didn't have much of a relationship would be an understatement. Almost 35 years since we last spoke, when I was a Junior in highschool.... You could say legitimately that we didn't have a relationship at all, and reading his obituary and seeing nothing about his son or daughter, or his grandchildren drove this home.
Half of me feels like it shouldn't really bother me. That I've grown up and become a grandfather myself at this point, just fine without him in my life.
Then there's the other part of me that hurts tremendously.
I love Johno’s wishful thinking that these kind of mothers would ever go to therapy or accept that they have done anything wrong
I always felt Kevin was treated unfairly and I absolutely LOATHED Buzz but as an adult, it’s almost hard to watch. Those parents let a borderline adult man bully a 9 year old. If I ordered a cheese pizza because I know my youngest child is picky and this is the only food we’re getting before our trip and my oldest scarfed the whole pizza down just to torment him, I’d make him call the pizza place, order a new one, make him pay for it, and leave a generous tip for the driver too. I’d tell him he’s old enough to stay home so if he wants to enjoy an expensive Christmas vacation with the family, this behavior better get in check *now.* How in the world is Kevin reacting to having his food stolen make him the bad guy? I’d be proud of him for sticking up for himself. Buzz would be put with the bed wetter.
With that said, the scene of the old man and his son also hits different as an adult. I used to just think “oh that’s nice” because my whole family was always together on Christmas so it didn’t seem that moving to me but knowing what I know now, it always makes me cry.
Also, John Williams is amazing, yes. But you’re giving him way too much credit. The score is beautiful but this movie would be nothing without Kevin. He’s one of the best child actors to ever grace the stage. That 70% needs to go to McCauley. To say “1% is everything else” is diabolical.
Slight correction that I feel is significant: "Avuncular" does not mean "fatherly," but refers to an uncle. "Uncle-ly"?
I think the distinction can be important because there's not generally an existing responsibility that an uncle has to their niece/nephew the way a father has, so the relationship dynamics can be really different (generally less serious).
I think "Avuncular" should have its definition changed to mean "Uncle Iroh"
The exchange at the foot of the attic stairs feels like the beginning of a horrible, magical transformation... "say it again..." // "third times a charm!" "Betelgeuse!" Just for a moment those two movies almost come together and cross the streams...
This movie makes me extra thankful for my mom. I like to jokingly call her crazy because ever since she retired from a very emotionally taxing job that often left her without the spoons to close to me when i was a kid, she's always treated me with respect, compassion and understanding. Rather then yelling she'll often take time to really think about things and we can just talk it out civilly. Just recently we got into a fight about a decision i was making she didn't agree with, and after we both had some time to cool off and talk it out properly she said she was proud of me for sticking to my guns against her! Im incredibly lucky to have her
19:25 always makes me want to hug my mom
I was Kevin's age when the movie came out and i remember thinking that the family was a buch of jerks. Like, i have siblings with whom i fought, i was certainly reprimanded when i did something wrong, but i think my folks tried their best to be fair and to listen (they didn't always succeed, but that's ok) and that's what made seeing how Kevin was treated at the start so very jarring
yep. no matter how many times I see it, that scene where the Old Man reconciles with his son and hugs his granddaughter never fails to make me tear up. 🥰
My sibling and i LOVE these movies. I grew up with 3 siblings, and 2 more got adopted a few years ago so the first 3 growing up and i always joked with eachother like: "yeah this would totally happen to us" "who do you think would get left behind?" "Probably robin" "yeah, you're right" 😂
As someone who moved away from my home to get some distance from my family (who I love, but I need the space from to self-determine), I always related super strongly to Kevin. I saw some of them for the first time in a few years, and even had the chance to see Home Alone live in concert at the Sydney Opera House, but instead I chose to do a filmmaking networking event. They understood and supported my decision even though I would have loved to go. I re-watched the movie last night at home, and it brought me so much joy. When Kevin hugs his mom after she apologizes, where she wouldn't do the same for him at the beginning of the movie... god it sends me every time.
6:57 A perfect use of a Sopranos clip if I've ever seen one
I’m so confused, you guys HAVEN’T made a Home Alone Video before?! I’m shocked!
We're righting wrongs this holiday season!
25:38 Possibly the greatest moment in Cinema Therapy history. 🤣
I came to see if you guys had any Home Alone videos after watching it over the weekend, and saw this was posted less than 10 minutes ago. Awesome.
Fun fact: after the movies, Kevin from Home Alone was caught in a magical accident (parental negligence may have been involved) that teleported him back in time to the Greyhawk setting from Dungeons and Dragons, where he was adopted by Vecna who taught him magic. He then changed his name to Acererak the Eternal. His phylactery is all of his murder dungeons collectively linked by the Negative Energy Plane, at the center of which lie the magically preserved skulls of two men from Acererak's home world.