Who would do such a thing? Not you, you would never do such a thing. The hag, idolizing the king of lies, she'd never do such a thing... Just as i'd never use irony, ever!
"How's it going" is a generalized opening to give someone the opportunity to jump to just about anything. "Not so good, my dog died." "Great, just found a new favorite movie." The "scripted" response "good, how are you" just means they are declining taking that opportunity.
She's so real for this. As a retail employee for god knows how long small talk is so annoying. It's even more annoying when they DON'T lie and start to break down.
I actually preferred to discuss real stuff instead of small talk pleasantries. unless I was really tired, then the whole world can burn for annoying me.
@happybuttersblast8334 to talk about deep real shit start with small talk, seeing if people want to talk and are interested in the topic. Its not pretending and its checking if the other person want to talk
Small talk serves to maintain a friendly relation to the person, and then it could evolve or not, you test the waters about how the person talks, how their mood is, etc. so you see if it is worth to go further or not. If they show no interest in your small talk you leave without exposing much of yourself to them. That is the logic I came up with, I don't actually know.
people who make "hating small talk" part of their personality are the ones who want to word vomit about how things aren't going well for them but know they can't get away with it socially
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxI believe the opposite can be true. People asking "How's things?" are sometimes relying on the reverse being asked (as it is generally expected), so they're granted a socially acceptable opportunity to word vomit about how things aren't going well for them. It can be viewed as taking advantage of somebody politely going with the motions of small talk.
If someone asks me how I'm doing I answer honestly and comprehensively, with an opening to share conversation of interests. "Oh I'm fretting about what I'm going to do about my patio plants this winter. Leave them out to die or risk brining insects in to the house. Do you do any gardening?"
If you start a conversation and want someone to understand you do in fact care for them, simply mention something you have observed, like: Hey, how have you been, how" has x been working out for you?" It makes it personal, and despite sounding like small talk, it actually conveys you are interested.
I don't like small talk either but its difficult to engage with strangers and because elders get mad when you ignore them or you'll come off as a rude person
What get me isn't the scripted courtesy. It's the few cases where they unload their baggage. *Comes up to me as I scan and bag. "Hello." "Hello. How are you?" "Doing alright. You?" "Not good. I'm going through a divorce right now." Or "My great aunt just died last week and I had to attend her funneral." I mean, I feel bad but WHAT AM I, A STRANGER, SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THAT FACT?!
I'd imagine the best way to handle that type of thing would be to politely say "I'm sorry to hear about that", in a professional manner. You know? A blanket catch-all response to establish distance without technically saying anything wrong. I hope that makes sense? I mean, shit happens, but it's not a cashier's job to comfort some random customer during hardship. I don't work in retail but I am selective as to who/when to ask "How are you?" in return, precisely because of what you've described.
You just acknowledge their situation with a small token of your feelings. You just say "wow Im sorry to hear that" and continue your business. This is not hard to understand unless your whole life is watching videos on RUclips instead of talking to people.
People who willing to do small talk are putting in effort at possibly the other person's expense. That's enough proof of them bring a psychopath she needs, lol.
Some people are uncomfortable with silence and also lack personality to have a real conversation. Skill issue. That's why when people ask me, "How are you?" All they get is a meh. Conversation over.
I was having a discussion about this the other day ... My friend suggested that I not jump over small talk and straight to the possibility of Moai being a warning from an ancient, technologically advanced civilization that all the dangerous stuff is buried under Easter Island; lest randos think I'm crazy. She didn't understand why I didn't think that was a problem.
The words don't matter, it's how they're said that matter. The tone conveys the person's mood, and a simple "Hi" is not enough to convey that. Only a psychopath would fail to understand this.
No, only a psychopath would think pretending you actually care about how the person you're making small talk with's day is going is enough to make them feel like they actually matter to you. Nobody likes making small talk. It's just something everyone does because it's rude no to once someone initiates it.
@@Omicron9999"no one likes small talk" I promise you this is an internet cope on par with everyone actually being an introvert. A lot of people actually like talking for the sake of talking.
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imagine LYING especially on the INTERNET 💢💢💢💢
Yea no one lies here
I know right
Who would do such a thing? Not you, you would never do such a thing. The hag, idolizing the king of lies, she'd never do such a thing... Just as i'd never use irony, ever!
@@kaminariclara here she is, folks
Hi Clara, how are you? 🙂
"How's it going" is a generalized opening to give someone the opportunity to jump to just about anything. "Not so good, my dog died." "Great, just found a new favorite movie." The "scripted" response "good, how are you" just means they are declining taking that opportunity.
Clara has expressed my feelings on small talk while working at retail.
A simple "hello" is enough of a greeting.
Clara's mistake for being the moderately attractive girl at the cash register
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Nah seriously she's actually cooking for once. Too true, *all of it.*
She's so real for this. As a retail employee for god knows how long small talk is so annoying. It's even more annoying when they DON'T lie and start to break down.
I actually preferred to discuss real stuff instead of small talk pleasantries. unless I was really tired, then the whole world can burn for annoying me.
It’s definitely one of the reasons people find retail soul crushing. Man I hated retail lol
@happybuttersblast8334 to talk about deep real shit start with small talk, seeing if people want to talk and are interested in the topic. Its not pretending and its checking if the other person want to talk
Small talk serves to maintain a friendly relation to the person, and then it could evolve or not, you test the waters about how the person talks, how their mood is, etc. so you see if it is worth to go further or not. If they show no interest in your small talk you leave without exposing much of yourself to them. That is the logic I came up with, I don't actually know.
people who make "hating small talk" part of their personality are the ones who want to word vomit about how things aren't going well for them but know they can't get away with it socially
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxI believe the opposite can be true. People asking "How's things?" are sometimes relying on the reverse being asked (as it is generally expected), so they're granted a socially acceptable opportunity to word vomit about how things aren't going well for them. It can be viewed as taking advantage of somebody politely going with the motions of small talk.
If someone asks me how I'm doing I answer honestly and comprehensively, with an opening to share conversation of interests. "Oh I'm fretting about what I'm going to do about my patio plants this winter. Leave them out to die or risk brining insects in to the house. Do you do any gardening?"
Don't worry. I'll never pretend to care about how you're feeling.
If they say how I'm doing I say "ok" and end the conversation there.
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I pray to battle unicorn deity's drenched in blood that clara lies to us and her brain really isnt pure chaos gremlin inside.
the point of small talk is I don't trust most people enough to reveal my powerlevel.
If you start a conversation and want someone to understand you do in fact care for them, simply mention something you have observed, like: Hey, how have you been, how" has x been working out for you?" It makes it personal, and despite sounding like small talk, it actually conveys you are interested.
Im a small talk hater, but im a big talk enthusiast
3:33 amogus
I don't like small talk either but its difficult to engage with strangers and because elders get mad when you ignore them or you'll come off as a rude person
What get me isn't the scripted courtesy. It's the few cases where they unload their baggage. *Comes up to me as I scan and bag. "Hello." "Hello. How are you?" "Doing alright. You?" "Not good. I'm going through a divorce right now." Or "My great aunt just died last week and I had to attend her funneral." I mean, I feel bad but WHAT AM I, A STRANGER, SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THAT FACT?!
I'd imagine the best way to handle that type of thing would be to politely say "I'm sorry to hear about that", in a professional manner. You know? A blanket catch-all response to establish distance without technically saying anything wrong. I hope that makes sense? I mean, shit happens, but it's not a cashier's job to comfort some random customer during hardship.
I don't work in retail but I am selective as to who/when to ask "How are you?" in return, precisely because of what you've described.
You just acknowledge their situation with a small token of your feelings. You just say "wow Im sorry to hear that" and continue your business. This is not hard to understand unless your whole life is watching videos on RUclips instead of talking to people.
@@anagittigana Not sure if finding this situation to be uncomfortable can be boiled down to a lack of life experience.
Facts
People who willing to do small talk are putting in effort at possibly the other person's expense. That's enough proof of them bring a psychopath she needs, lol.
1:03 Isn't that under small talk?
My go to is “Hey! Got something fun planned for the weekend?”
Atleast has a chance at getting a convo started
I prefer the milk talk in live chat
Some people are uncomfortable with silence and also lack personality to have a real conversation. Skill issue. That's why when people ask me, "How are you?" All they get is a meh. Conversation over.
Deadly combination, is that! Especially in a coworker.
I was having a discussion about this the other day ... My friend suggested that I not jump over small talk and straight to the possibility of Moai being a warning from an ancient, technologically advanced civilization that all the dangerous stuff is buried under Easter Island; lest randos think I'm crazy. She didn't understand why I didn't think that was a problem.
Yeah, nah. Just get to the point, no matter how obtuse 👌
The words don't matter, it's how they're said that matter. The tone conveys the person's mood, and a simple "Hi" is not enough to convey that.
Only a psychopath would fail to understand this.
No, only a psychopath would think pretending you actually care about how the person you're making small talk with's day is going is enough to make them feel like they actually matter to you. Nobody likes making small talk. It's just something everyone does because it's rude no to once someone initiates it.
@@Omicron9999"no one likes small talk"
I promise you this is an internet cope on par with everyone actually being an introvert. A lot of people actually like talking for the sake of talking.
How am I supposed to maintain small talk when I can't even maintain eye contact with people?