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What an amazing interview, I could relate on so many levels. Kerry is one of my most favorite actresses, she is so talented. I definitely got to get a copy of her book.
A message for Kerry: I was born in 1978 and discovered I was donor conceived via a dna test. I could relate to a lot of your comments. My parents asked for a Jewish doctor to be my donor but there was a mixup so I somehow ended up being biracial - they only person in my family who is not white (genetically, I am 1/2 African American) and fully Jewish. It was so confusing growing up, not matching my family, but not knowing why. Your comment about the soup of secrecy and shame perfectly deceived my experience. I also wonder if our parents used the same doctor. I was also ‘made’ in New York City. I look forward to reading your book.
Jay I have admired you and your offerings always. This one was very special. When the shoes came off..what a blessing! This particular offering is impeccable. Kerry, an utter delight and so are you!
Kerry's way of expressing her emotions and experiences are so palpable, so relatable and so thought provoking! Her expressions gave me the language to express myself better. She represents humanity well. Her vocal artistry transcends race and gender! I was moved, truly!
I love Kerry. She’s one of those rare gems that you can actually feel how special she is without knowing her. Her laugh is soul soothing. There is something completely angelic about her energy.
@@michaeld.williamsiii9026 I’m so sorry your bio parents weren’t there for you as a child, but I hope your adopted parents were there for you. Sometimes the families we are born into aren’t the right people, so we have to build our on village of love and security. Praying for peace , love and happiness for you as you navigate this thing called life.
I think the shot with both of you at the end, sitting comfortably, shoes on the floor between each other, is a beautiful representation of this entire conversation. ✨
Her revealing this on her own time is so beautiful. A lot of what she speaks about her learning about her biological father reminds me of her role in Little Fires Everwhere and how well she played it.
Kerry Washington 🐐❤ no matter how she was brought into this lifetime, she was meant to share her light to the world. I LOVE this woman’s soul ✨ she is so profound. Thank you Kerry for being you.
What so resonated with me was Kerry saying she'd require empathy & compassion training, & that notion of your truth; finding it, owning it. I knew early on something within my body wasn't right. I had odd sensations, pain, exhaustion from as early as I can remember. Like Kerry, I feel/express emotionally, I'm perceptive, intuitive, always wanting everyone around me happy, fulfilled, over myself. I worked really hard, & self harmed just as Kerry did striving to please, keep peace, you name it. I shut up about my pain really early on as doctors found nothing, said I was attention seeking, culminating in me believing that I was weak physically & mentally. Things worsened when puberty hit, I stayed quiet. In HS I had to quit what had been my passion, soccer, because I'd begun to be in so much pain, not recovering. The load of that, school, family members with terminal cancer.. I was falling asleep, couldn't concentrate at school. My teachers were very worried. I rebounded some, switching my focus to art, painting/drawing, & headed to college on that talent. I struggled, but I somehow managed that & working, graduating with an excellent GPA. I headed into working adulthood in 2008, horrible job market period. I continued nannying & working with animals, primarily dogs - training, exercising, care when clients were away on vacation, business, etc. Then, suddenly, the rug was yanked out from under me & my body just went into chronic horrific pain that never let up. I couldn't function. I ended up practically bed ridden, the intense pain causing nausea, so I could hardly eat. I was 24, & forced back into my parents home as I couldn't support, nor easily care for myself. I saw so many doctors, had so many tests done revealed nothing. I was told so frequently that women are weak, that I was attention seeking, that I just had an eating disorder, that it was all in my head. I started having panic attacks because of the endless agony throughout my body, new symptoms, & my thoughts of suicide. I was terrified to be alone because I feared myself. I truly didn't want to die, but I needed the pain within my body to just, cease. Just as I was contemplating admitting myself because of my suicidal thoughts, I met the doctor who believed me. He knew my pain was real, & he was going to get me answers. It started with figuring out pain control. Trying out meds & therapies, & also seeing a therapist who specializes in patients with chronic diseases. I was able to slowly start living a bit more normally again, & finally when I was 27 I had skin biopsies done that revealed I have Small Fiber Neuropathy. I have far far fewer small fiber nerves than normal individuals, & those I do have are now in a constant state of misfiring. There is hardly anything known about this disease, no cure, no trials. I'm on numerous meds that help mask the nerve pain, & also do therapies, PT, yoga, to help me cope with the pain, lead as normal a life as possible. I'm now 36, & this disease is hard. Turns out small fiber nerves play a huge role in so many of our bodies functions. It has taught me so much about empathy & compassion; I fully came to understand empathy & compassion. The medical community failed me in this way repeatedly. I've learned never judge others, as you never know what someone is going through. We're not taught how to react, to cope with some of the really awful realities of life. We're too often taught to hold everything in, don't make other's uncomfortable, different = scary, or wrong. It makes us unequipped to really hold space for empathy, compassion, for understanding. Within myself I've learned to give more grace when it comes to empathy & compassion. I have flares within this disease; heightened pain, fatigue. It can all be physically & mentally draining. I've had to learn to listen to, nurture my body. To seek help mentally when I'm struggling. I'm still learning to balance my go go go, please everyone! disposition. Realizing that it's ok to not be ok. We aren't perfect. We are ever evolving, growing, gaining wisdom; I'm here for that journey. I'm an entrepreneur, I run my own dog services business training, pack hiking, boarding, & I love it. I can't exercise in all the ways I would like, but hiking I strove for because being out in nature, hiking, is so therapeutic for me, it's necessary for my happiness. Dogs are the added bonus. They're far more intuitive beings, can sense when I'm having harder days, need extra lovin'. Concerning truth, I knew within my core something was wrong within me, & for a time I stifled seeking, crying out for help. As an adult I fought & fought for myself knowing something was very wrong. I found out the hard truth, but it's taught me so much, ..I'm far stronger than I ever thought possible. I continue to undergo medical testing in the hopes that the case study I am will help other's with this disease. I desperately want to bring light to this disease, strive for more awareness, interest in treatment & a cure. Thank you for this chat. Thanks to Kerry for writing her memoir, being vulnerable, being human. Thank you @jayshetty, @kerrywashington for passionately, positively, giving to the world, fighting for betterment. You are both so appreciated, so loved. With utter gratitude, Briana
The ways she express herself, her emotions are so special. The right words, gestures, emotions and passion that easily drive home the point to anyone listening. Goodluck and God’s blessings to you and your family 💛
This was such a beautiful convo! So much power in the vulnerability of your thoughts and how you cope with life. Kerry seems so real and genuine and I love how driven she is! Thank you for this convo!
This conversation was such a healing tool for me! My mother and I had a long conversation over the weekend where she shared with me some family secrets that have opened up my heart and soul and I’m now ready to heal! Thank you, Kerry for writing this book, I know it will help many people!
The beauty of these two energies sharing space in their present moment with truth, compassion and complete vulnerability was not only human in its rawest form but love in the most unconditional, unapologetic way! Thank U both Simply…..🙏🏾
I normally do not have the attention span to watch for an hour and a half interview these days but Kerry's way of articulating her story had me glued to this podcast... not to mention Jay's interracting and relating to her every step of the way. Her story completely resonated with me and in fact, was a real awakening on how secrets in my family have affected my own family unit. I am blown away. Thank you!
This was great thank you, Carrie, Washington, one of the moments in my life that defined me as when I marched when Martin Luther King Junior got shot, and my father was working along the way that this riot was going to Massachusetts. I was in the riot. He spotted me grab me and grab me out of the crowd before the state troopers were gonna put the water hose on everybody, I must’ve been 13 and he worked in a bar brought me inside and told everybody what I was doing was saying wow that’s cool and all I felt was love and support today I am a organizer in Massachusetts working to abolish solitary confinement ❤ MASC is the name of our coalition.
This is the best interview that I have ever seen!!! I pray for Kerry's healing as she goes on her journey to finding her real father. She is one of my favorite actors. The interviewer is spot on with the questions and so indepth and thought provoking.
I just finished her book. I found it so endearing and real. I didn't know it was possible to adore her more than I already did...but this interview was just the cherry on top of my admiration for such an incredibly multifaceted and talented woman.
What a gift to be a part of this conversation. There is nothing more powerful than a human being who is authentic and own their truth. It gives us permission and the inspiration to live in the same way. Kerry offered that here. “When you teach a person to believe that their internal truth is a lie, you take from them the very thing that is most important to each of us, our ability to know and trust ourselves” hit me in my core. Thank you Kerry and Jay for bringing healing to my heart and soul 🙏🏽.
The story of how she came to exist and how her parents did not want to tell her.... reminds me of my mother and how she was diagnosed with a terminal illness when I was in college and she didn't tell me. She didn't tell me until after I graduated. At first, I was furious. I felt robbed in a way... but then, when she passed away.... and even right before that... I understood. I understood that she saw me and all the work I had put into my scholarship and my dreams and she wanted me to succeed. I understood that she wanted me to stay strong and not fall apart in the midst of so much pain and uncertainty. I understood that she made the best choice she could as a mother. I understand why Kerry's parents did what they did... they saw their child and wanted what was best for them and what they understood at that point in time. We are all this way.... I believe we do what we can with what we know and have at the time. Sometimes those choices are not the best, but we made them. And that's part of our life story. We get to decide how we react to things. We get to live what is true for us. We have the capacity to heal. And this is what makes life so terrifyingly beautiful.
My goodness, Kerry is such a beautiful human being. Her words touched my soul , so much to learn from her! I wish I had just a quarter of the character she has. Such a wonderful episode 😊❤ coming from a family of secrets, this has opened me to the possibility of bringing those secrets to light and learn to be loved and love with my true self, no secrets in between 😊🙏🏼 I'm rewatching this for sure
This is so timely ❤. I have always hated secrets as my spirit always reminded me of the long term affect. My family was full of denial and secrets. My separating to discover my true self at 50 caused so much disruption in their lives. I silently made the decision yet they publicly tried to humiliate me because of their fears of my revealing secrets. Thank you for your reassurance of my journey. I am so grateful for the love within that helps to move forward.
Kerry, wow. This was an incredible piece of yourself that your shared with the world and I been a fan of yours since Scandal. I love hearing about how your intuition was speaking to you on your journey, I wish more women would talk about that! Thank you for pioneering and sharing in the Information Age about self awareness. Love one of your admirers!
That part about unconditional love hit me in places I didn’t think it would. The father wound is so tough to work through, but this story is so beautiful. Ordered the book asap ❤.
That sigh Jay lets out as Kerry is sharing about the different kind of love she's able to express and experience... felt that in waves. Thank you Kerry for letting us witness and learn true strength that breaks notions of comfort, tradition, and safety.
The connection between the two in this interview was 😮mind blowing. Both lived and spent time in India too! Think Like A Monk is a life changing book for me! ❤I need Kerry’s too! The part she mentioned here in saying I love you to her father in Truth and not a Lie! Woooooooo! High level vibrations 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I had to rewatch this episode. The exchange between Jay and Kerry was so beautiful!❤Kerry's aura is so amazing. I like Jay style of interviewing, it is calm, gracious, respectful, and very welcoming, he makes every guest feels special!
It’s the way that she flows with the natural energy of this show. She pulled him right in and he opened like a flower. Wish Kerry offered a class on this. ❤
I love Kerry.❤ She is an amazing communicator! Her spirit & her aura is so beautiful. She has so much compassion for humanity and I am glad she got to live her authentic truth! God bless you!❤
This episode is EVERYTHING my soul needed in this moment!! Talk about timing and synchronicity. Thank you Jay & Kerry for creating this safe and vulnerable space. ❤️🔥💎👏🏽
God Kerry, you are soo self aware, In this aspect you are truly a role model for many. Thanks Jay for bringing her in. She is soo at peace with herself it's almost contagious!!!
This was an awesome conversation! Two beautiful souls came together and the conversation kept me engaged the entire 1 hour 43 minute conversation. I plan to come back to this video and conversation over and over again, there were so many gems that will help me on this healing and personal growth journey that I'm on. Thank you, Jay and Kerry 💛💛
Kerry is such a breath of fresh air and so self aware. I am inspired. I felt many of the things she felt in childhood and have a similar story. I learned something about myself today I was not aware of and I am so grateful that she is so compassionate as to share her story. Thank you Kerry.
Kerry had 5 yrs of healing and therapy before sharing with the public which is very wise because she has done the work shes able to share in a way that also is healing and helpful to us. Bravo 👏🏾 to her and I hope she finds what she’s looking for. I hope there’s a village waiting for her on the other side of this revelation 🙏🏾
As a BIPOC (half Chamorro/half white) listening to this interview was extremely empowering. I'm grateful for the strides of many Black women who have come forward to tell their stories, especially for those of us that felt the same kinds of discrimination and struggle--and how we've used those experiences to create value for our adult lives. Loved Kerry's stories of loving and validating the little girl inside her.
Love this segment. I learn that I shouldn't feel bad for having the empathy I have and the ability to share two truth simultaneously. People have always made me feel bad of all of that when I feel that's what is needed is this dark world. Thank you.
This is such a beautiful conversation that is life affirming for me, especially this part about self-care as part of service and sacrifice. I’m learning to come into balance with allowing and receiving love without feeling the need to earn it.
This interview, Kerry Washington, full of wisdom. The interviewer seemed additionally blessed as well!This is one of the best! Continued success to both!❤️
Such a beautiful interview, full of grace, awareness, honesty, spirituality, healing, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, in such a profound and raw expression of love. Blessings to Kerry and her beautiful family! Blessings to Jay & his beautiful family! I have both Jay & Kerry's book ready to pick up! Can't wait to read them both! Peace, love, & blessings! ✌🏽❤🙏🏽
Omg..I love @kerrywashington.. one my favorite actress . Thank you for sharing your story and letting us in your worl..The interview was so profound, and sharing your truth makes me have even more respect and love for you Sis.. you Rock Sis.. Great interview Jay..
Thank you so much Kerry. I am still searching for family secrets and I am the piece of the puzzle that has never fit. My journey will continue until I find the truth. I need my soul to be set free. It's been too long. I admire your strength.
This was such a great interview, I finally understand how Kerry Washington became the admired and talented person we see today. . I hope her story and vulnerability, honesty/truth inspire us all to go to therapy and learn how to safely free these skeletons out of our family closets in a healthy way. . What stood out to me /my personal takeaway-was how beautiful we can became when we take off our mask /let go of those secrets and show up as our true selves in the world. . No longer bound to playing a fake role to fit into a fake society/or being a character in a fake story. . My biggest take away from Kerry today is that When we do these types of deep self work we get to live in our true divine essence and walk our truest Devine path. Amazing interview thanks again Jay!!
Beautiful energy! Positively heartfelt I enjoyed getting to know her better. Family can be so complicated but I love how she said “…my dad is my dad; I’m his and he’s mine.” Well done Jay!
I had shivers all over as Kerry described her love for her dad after the revelation. ❤❤❤❤❤❤. The ability to accept 2 opposite and contrasting issues..that is strength. Lack of it is definitely the reason the world is so messed up today. Thanks for sharing. You both are awesome.😊😊
There's a saying, "you're as sick as you secret." I believe the only way you can have a healthy relationship is to tell the truth...Thank you for sharing your story...
Kerry is such a deep empath with a beautiful spirit. I love what she says about her dad and the grace she holds for her parents in light of the circumstances of her conception. Love and light to Kerry and her family.
So much to be learned from this exchange and that I can relate to, especially that our true self needs to be loved . The entire conversation is warmly felt
❤❤❤*"@YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE'S DISTORTED PERCEPTION OF YOU. WHENEVER YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE RUBS OFF ON THEIR INSECURITY, IT WILL BE MISINTERPRETED AS ARROGANCE. STAND🧍♀️FIRM IN YOUR OWN LIGHT AND TRUTH BUT, FOR SANTITY AND SANITY, WALK AWAY FROM THE DARK SPOT AND THEIR NEGATIVE ENERGY."* *WARIE PORBENI RADIOZEATERCLUB.10.10.2023*❤❤
Being in a family with siblings with different fathers, cause me to be withdrawn, shy and an outcast with friends. I had to learn how to push my family problems aside and find myself. Who am I what was the reason for being born. Today, I’ve push my past behind me and stepped out on faith. I was blessed with the gift of sewing and now I share my skills with others. This has strengthened my confidence and helped me to grow within myself. Listening to Keri, let me know I’m not alone. Do I still have issues? Yes, but I’m handling them better.
Thank you Jay and Kerry for this profound conversation! It would be transforming if everyone had this level of communication with one another. Blessings to you and your families.
So encouraging to hear her truths. All Sharks Under sounds so fun. My age is 66 I wasn't told about my real father. Still today I'm in question. To see her, and listen is powerful. Truly you both have given a place to have thoughts of goodness to exist in adverse parts of our lives.❤❤
This was such a beautiful episode. I love how she articulates her feelings, thoughts and emotions. It was also a very informative episode. I can’t wait to get my hands on her book
As a creative, Kerry just validated me on so MANY LEVELS! The struggle is SO REAL!! It's been holding me back...thank you Jay for all of your interviews...Dr Joe Dispenza's, Kevin Hart's and Kerry Washington's have been LIFE CHANGING! I am manifesting my interview. ✨
This interview resonated deeply with me. Being born under circumstances similar to Trevor Noah's "Born a Crime" in South Africa, I always had doubts about the person they claimed to be my father. It wasn't until I turned 25 and confronted everyone, insisting on the truth, that they finally confirmed my suspicions. The emotional trauma caused by such a revelation is immense. I want to extend my congratulations to Kerry; her interview felt incredibly genuine.
Like others I found this interview amazing! The emotional intelligence of both you and her was off the charts. Really so introspective which cause me to dig deep into my own personal experiences. I also found it so interesting that during the interview you began to physically mirror each other. I’m a new subscriber and want to read the book! Wow, mind blown!
I love how she unpacks her feelings retrospectively. The word I use is "suspended" to retrospectively depict my feelings. As a child, I often felt suspended in my feelings as if there was some significant knowledge missing. Some significant knowledge I needed to feel and be complete in my being. I couldn't explain it but I felt it deeply and frequently. It put me on a quest to seek knowledge and be hyper curious about all things and all people. It is a delicious journey which feels never ending because the destination is undefined. I look forward to experiencing Kerry's book. Be well!
Louise Hay which Kerry and Jay discuss, speaks about the spiritual meaning of cancer as un-forgiveness within a body. I think Kerry has taken the time to understand her Mother’s journey to bring her into this world was a duality / double edged sword, which has over the decades manifested within her Mother as cancer. Let us pray that their love for each other and their healing through therapy will bring about physical healing for her mother. Love to you all!!!❤
Listening to Kerry speak about her ability to be present and express, shines a light on being present with your own core. We all have a purpose here, and the meek should hold space for each other as we resonate with her message.
As an Aquarian Life Path 11 like Kerry, I get her 100%! We hold two opposing truths in every situation in our lives. It is the balance that we hold spiritually but is like a physical electrocution all at the exact same moment of knowing. Love you Kerry 💚
I appreciate this conversation. I really think parents need to stop forcing their children to abandon the truth because it makes them uncomfortable. This is so damaging and controlling. Love requires truth. The truth is reality, and it doesn't always sound good or feel good, but it's necessary for love❤.
So powerful! I’m finally learning to love myself and to be loved by my humanity and for being able to open up regardless of the tough situation ❤ Thank you thank you thank you for opening this space of healing, compassion and empathy.
Whew, seeking to unlearn the belief that I am not enough. Many things touched me in this interview, but that. Man. Absolutely beautiful. I’ve always gravitated towards her in movies, shows, and social media. Even though Kerry has been more private Her beauty is truly inside and out. Thanks so much for sharing!
Oh my word… how you have unarmed every enemy of love with your bravery to pursue truth!!! I know this emotional moat in my bones- and the “safety deposit box” secret that never made it to the bank. I’ve always internalized and assumed fault for the conditional love lines-in-the-sand and never thought once that might have come from my parents. Wow. I am so glad for you and truly amazed and hopeful to know that the work can be done! This was a gift, thank you!
The level of respect & admiration I have for this intelligent, multidimensional, compassionate woman is simply on another level at this at this point. We are ALL better for having had the privilege of being witness to this conversation.
Kerry Washington is so amazing and expresses her feelings so beautifully. I often struggle with clearly articulating how I feel sometimes and look forward to learning the vocabulary and practicing to express myself more clearly. I could relate to so much of what she was sharing, self trust is so real. This was one of my favorite conversations. It felt so human, honest and real. Thank you so much for sharing this with us all.
I want to say how beautiful this was portrayed. If only everyone knew forgiveness and understood where their parents were coming from, we could learn from one another. I am not saying there aren't some exceptions to the rule, but if you didn't pick up what she is putting down, there are steps prior to taking her advice that needs to be done. I will be buying this book and adding it to my library. Her explanation was so thoughtful and delivered lovingly. I love it.
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What an amazing interview, I could relate on so many levels. Kerry is one of my most favorite actresses, she is so talented. I definitely got to get a copy of her book.
This is the podcast I didn't know I needed to be able to reconcile things with my parents that I didn't realize were still causing me pain. Thank you.
A message for Kerry: I was born in 1978 and discovered I was donor conceived via a dna test. I could relate to a lot of your comments. My parents asked for a Jewish doctor to be my donor but there was a mixup so I somehow ended up being biracial - they only person in my family who is not white (genetically, I am 1/2 African American) and fully Jewish. It was so confusing growing up, not matching my family, but not knowing why. Your comment about the soup of secrecy and shame perfectly deceived my experience. I also wonder if our parents used the same doctor. I was also ‘made’ in New York City. I look forward to reading your book.
THANK YOU!!! SERIOUSLY😢😢😢
Jay I have admired you and your offerings always.
This one was very special.
When the shoes came off..what a blessing!
This particular offering is impeccable.
Kerry, an utter delight and so are you!
Kerry Washington, in my eyes, has ALWAYS been one of the most beautiful women on earth!
And a natural beauty at that.
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She is an amazing actress too!
I have said this same thing
Physically as well as her deep, introspective, spiritual, inner beauty. Kerry is an awesome, person! Loved this interview.
Kerry's way of expressing her emotions and experiences are so palpable, so relatable and so thought provoking! Her expressions gave me the language to express myself better. She represents humanity well. Her vocal artistry transcends race and gender! I was moved, truly!
You are not bad either in expressing yourself! @annanims
@@exodus134I thought the same thing!
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She is definitely intelligent, well read , versatile, articulate and so astute.
The way you expressed that was awesome. Words are so powerful
I love Kerry. She’s one of those rare gems that you can actually feel how special she is without knowing her. Her laugh is soul soothing. There is something completely angelic about her energy.
Love Kerry more than ever!! She’s so self aware, not blaming yet understanding how all things work together!!!!
Oh I absolutely agree, she is so amazing.
"I survived a childhood of what truth doesn't look like". That really hit home for me💯
💯As an adoptee and abandoned/orphaned individual I too felt this deeply as well.❤️🩹🙏🏾😔
@@michaeld.williamsiii9026are you saying your adopted parents abandoned you? How did you become an orphan?
@@keepingit763 I was abandoned and neglected by my biological mother loss my biological father to an overdose tragically.💔💔💔
@@michaeld.williamsiii9026 I’m so sorry your bio parents weren’t there for you as a child, but I hope your adopted parents were there for you. Sometimes the families we are born into aren’t the right people, so we have to build our on village of love and security. Praying for peace , love and happiness for you as you navigate this thing called life.
Mee Too Shannon
I think the shot with both of you at the end, sitting comfortably, shoes on the floor between each other, is a beautiful representation of this entire conversation. ✨
Jay's ability to converse with all kinds of people is beyond phenomenal! Absolutely loved this unfiltered convo with Kerry (Gorgeous 🤩 )
Jay is a legend! ❤
Thank you ❤
Wow
Her revealing this on her own time is so beautiful. A lot of what she speaks about her learning about her biological father reminds me of her role in Little Fires Everwhere and how well she played it.
You should Google her DOB and compare it to the year the first IVF baby was born.
Kerry Washington 🐐❤ no matter how she was brought into this lifetime, she was meant to share her light to the world. I LOVE this woman’s soul ✨ she is so profound. Thank you Kerry for being you.
This conversation is so healing...
Jay and kerry radiate higher levels of awareness. Thank you guys for this.
Glad you enjoyed the conversation!
What so resonated with me was Kerry saying she'd require empathy & compassion training, & that notion of your truth; finding it, owning it. I knew early on something within my body wasn't right. I had odd sensations, pain, exhaustion from as early as I can remember. Like Kerry, I feel/express emotionally, I'm perceptive, intuitive, always wanting everyone around me happy, fulfilled, over myself. I worked really hard, & self harmed just as Kerry did striving to please, keep peace, you name it. I shut up about my pain really early on as doctors found nothing, said I was attention seeking, culminating in me believing that I was weak physically & mentally. Things worsened when puberty hit, I stayed quiet. In HS I had to quit what had been my passion, soccer, because I'd begun to be in so much pain, not recovering. The load of that, school, family members with terminal cancer.. I was falling asleep, couldn't concentrate at school. My teachers were very worried. I rebounded some, switching my focus to art, painting/drawing, & headed to college on that talent. I struggled, but I somehow managed that & working, graduating with an excellent GPA. I headed into working adulthood in 2008, horrible job market period. I continued nannying & working with animals, primarily dogs - training, exercising, care when clients were away on vacation, business, etc. Then, suddenly, the rug was yanked out from under me & my body just went into chronic horrific pain that never let up. I couldn't function. I ended up practically bed ridden, the intense pain causing nausea, so I could hardly eat. I was 24, & forced back into my parents home as I couldn't support, nor easily care for myself. I saw so many doctors, had so many tests done revealed nothing. I was told so frequently that women are weak, that I was attention seeking, that I just had an eating disorder, that it was all in my head. I started having panic attacks because of the endless agony throughout my body, new symptoms, & my thoughts of suicide. I was terrified to be alone because I feared myself. I truly didn't want to die, but I needed the pain within my body to just, cease. Just as I was contemplating admitting myself because of my suicidal thoughts, I met the doctor who believed me. He knew my pain was real, & he was going to get me answers. It started with figuring out pain control. Trying out meds & therapies, & also seeing a therapist who specializes in patients with chronic diseases. I was able to slowly start living a bit more normally again, & finally when I was 27 I had skin biopsies done that revealed I have Small Fiber Neuropathy. I have far far fewer small fiber nerves than normal individuals, & those I do have are now in a constant state of misfiring. There is hardly anything known about this disease, no cure, no trials. I'm on numerous meds that help mask the nerve pain, & also do therapies, PT, yoga, to help me cope with the pain, lead as normal a life as possible. I'm now 36, & this disease is hard. Turns out small fiber nerves play a huge role in so many of our bodies functions. It has taught me so much about empathy & compassion; I fully came to understand empathy & compassion. The medical community failed me in this way repeatedly. I've learned never judge others, as you never know what someone is going through. We're not taught how to react, to cope with some of the really awful realities of life. We're too often taught to hold everything in, don't make other's uncomfortable, different = scary, or wrong. It makes us unequipped to really hold space for empathy, compassion, for understanding. Within myself I've learned to give more grace when it comes to empathy & compassion. I have flares within this disease; heightened pain, fatigue. It can all be physically & mentally draining. I've had to learn to listen to, nurture my body. To seek help mentally when I'm struggling. I'm still learning to balance my go go go, please everyone! disposition. Realizing that it's ok to not be ok. We aren't perfect. We are ever evolving, growing, gaining wisdom; I'm here for that journey. I'm an entrepreneur, I run my own dog services business training, pack hiking, boarding, & I love it. I can't exercise in all the ways I would like, but hiking I strove for because being out in nature, hiking, is so therapeutic for me, it's necessary for my happiness. Dogs are the added bonus. They're far more intuitive beings, can sense when I'm having harder days, need extra lovin'. Concerning truth, I knew within my core something was wrong within me, & for a time I stifled seeking, crying out for help. As an adult I fought & fought for myself knowing something was very wrong. I found out the hard truth, but it's taught me so much, ..I'm far stronger than I ever thought possible. I continue to undergo medical testing in the hopes that the case study I am will help other's with this disease. I desperately want to bring light to this disease, strive for more awareness, interest in treatment & a cure. Thank you for this chat. Thanks to Kerry for writing her memoir, being vulnerable, being human. Thank you @jayshetty, @kerrywashington for passionately, positively, giving to the world, fighting for betterment. You are both so appreciated, so loved.
With utter gratitude, Briana
“I don’t even know what I don’t know, I just know I don’t have everything I need to feel safe.” Whew😭
The ways she express herself, her emotions are so special. The right words, gestures, emotions and passion that easily drive home the point to anyone listening. Goodluck and God’s blessings to you and your family 💛
This was such a beautiful convo! So much power in the vulnerability of your thoughts and how you cope with life. Kerry seems so real and genuine and I love how driven she is! Thank you for this convo!
This conversation was such a healing tool for me! My mother and I had a long conversation over the weekend where she shared with me some family secrets that have opened up my heart and soul and I’m now ready to heal! Thank you, Kerry for writing this book, I know it will help many people!
My goodness I love the way she expresses herself. The way she articulates her words is so touching to me.
Wow, lesson learned from Kerry is that “I need to be just as important as those people that I am helping”POWERFUL. Thank you 🙏
The beauty of these two energies sharing space in their present moment with truth, compassion and complete vulnerability was not only human in its rawest form but love in the most unconditional, unapologetic way! Thank U both Simply…..🙏🏾
Beautifully said
" I don't even know what I don't know, I just know that I don't have everything I need to feel safe." To feel safe emotionally, that is...YES!!
I normally do not have the attention span to watch for an hour and a half interview these days but Kerry's way of articulating her story had me glued to this podcast... not to mention Jay's interracting and relating to her every step of the way. Her story completely resonated with me and in fact, was a real awakening on how secrets in my family have affected my own family unit. I am blown away. Thank you!
This was great thank you, Carrie, Washington, one of the moments in my life that defined me as when I marched when Martin Luther King Junior got shot, and my father was working along the way that this riot was going to Massachusetts. I was in the riot. He spotted me grab me and grab me out of the crowd before the state troopers were gonna put the water hose on everybody, I must’ve been 13 and he worked in a bar brought me inside and told everybody what I was doing was saying wow that’s cool and all I felt was love and support today I am a organizer in Massachusetts working to abolish solitary confinement ❤ MASC is the name of our coalition.
Kerry Washington, I am in tears. Just to hear you speak is powerful and touching.
This is the best interview that I have ever seen!!! I pray for Kerry's healing as she goes on her journey to finding her real father. She is one of my favorite actors. The interviewer is spot on with the questions and so indepth and thought provoking.
Biological father. She already knows her real dad.
I know what I meant when I said that apparently you didn't.@@leee646
I just finished her book. I found it so endearing and real. I didn't know it was possible to adore her more than I already did...but this interview was just the cherry on top of my admiration for such an incredibly multifaceted and talented woman.
What a gift to be a part of this conversation. There is nothing more powerful than a human being who is authentic and own their truth. It gives us permission and the inspiration to live in the same way. Kerry offered that here. “When you teach a person to believe that their internal truth is a lie, you take from them the very thing that is most important to each of us, our ability to know and trust ourselves” hit me in my core. Thank you Kerry and Jay for bringing healing to my heart and soul 🙏🏽.
I stayed awake watching and rewinding and rewatching this entire episode at 2am. What an awesome Gift from God you are to this world Kerry!
"So that I can make sure that in my life time that I'm living my story and not anyone else's." Profound words.
Kerry is SUCH A CLASS ACT!
Cast her as Tiana in Princess and the Frog. She's beautiful
The story of how she came to exist and how her parents did not want to tell her.... reminds me of my mother and how she was diagnosed with a terminal illness when I was in college and she didn't tell me. She didn't tell me until after I graduated. At first, I was furious. I felt robbed in a way... but then, when she passed away.... and even right before that... I understood. I understood that she saw me and all the work I had put into my scholarship and my dreams and she wanted me to succeed. I understood that she wanted me to stay strong and not fall apart in the midst of so much pain and uncertainty. I understood that she made the best choice she could as a mother.
I understand why Kerry's parents did what they did... they saw their child and wanted what was best for them and what they understood at that point in time.
We are all this way.... I believe we do what we can with what we know and have at the time. Sometimes those choices are not the best, but we made them. And that's part of our life story. We get to decide how we react to things. We get to live what is true for us. We have the capacity to heal. And this is what makes life so terrifyingly beautiful.
Her mom is selfish
thank you for the deep share ❤
My goodness, Kerry is such a beautiful human being. Her words touched my soul , so much to learn from her! I wish I had just a quarter of the character she has. Such a wonderful episode 😊❤ coming from a family of secrets, this has opened me to the possibility of bringing those secrets to light and learn to be loved and love with my true self, no secrets in between 😊🙏🏼 I'm rewatching this for sure
This is so timely ❤. I have always hated secrets as my spirit always reminded me of the long term affect. My family was full of denial and secrets. My separating to discover my true self at 50 caused so much disruption in their lives. I silently made the decision yet they publicly tried to humiliate me because of their fears of my revealing secrets. Thank you for your reassurance of my journey. I am so grateful for the love within that helps to move forward.
Kerry, wow. This was an incredible piece of yourself that your shared with the world and I been a fan of yours since Scandal. I love hearing about how your intuition was speaking to you on your journey, I wish more women would talk about that! Thank you for pioneering and sharing in the Information Age about self awareness. Love one of your admirers!
That part about unconditional love hit me in places I didn’t think it would. The father wound is so tough to work through, but this story is so beautiful. Ordered the book asap ❤.
That sigh Jay lets out as Kerry is sharing about the different kind of love she's able to express and experience... felt that in waves. Thank you Kerry for letting us witness and learn true strength that breaks notions of comfort, tradition, and safety.
I can’t stop reading your last 4 words. Reality is this is what keeps us bound. So succinctly put! I’ll be thinking about this for a while.
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The connection between the two in this interview was 😮mind blowing. Both lived and spent time in India too! Think Like A Monk is a life changing book for me! ❤I need Kerry’s too!
The part she mentioned here in saying I love you to her father in Truth and not a Lie! Woooooooo! High level vibrations 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This interview (more a conversation) was simply beautiful. The energy shared between Jay and Kerry is magical. Thank you both.
Thank you for watching!
@@JayShettyPodcast. Absolutely! ♥️✨
I had to rewatch this episode. The exchange between Jay and Kerry was so beautiful!❤Kerry's aura is so amazing. I like Jay style of interviewing, it is calm, gracious, respectful, and very welcoming, he makes every guest feels special!
It’s the way that she flows with the natural energy of this show. She pulled him right in and he opened like a flower. Wish Kerry offered a class on this. ❤
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I love Kerry.❤ She is an amazing communicator! Her spirit & her aura is so beautiful. She has so much compassion for humanity and I am glad she got to live her authentic truth! God bless you!❤
This has to be one of the most beautiful interviews! That unconditional love part was so powerful. she is a phenom.
This episode is EVERYTHING my soul needed in this moment!! Talk about timing and synchronicity.
Thank you Jay & Kerry for creating this safe and vulnerable space. ❤️🔥💎👏🏽
Thank YOU!
God Kerry, you are soo self aware, In this aspect you are truly a role model for many. Thanks Jay for bringing her in. She is soo at peace with herself it's almost contagious!!!
This was an awesome conversation! Two beautiful souls came together and the conversation kept me engaged the entire 1 hour 43 minute conversation. I plan to come back to this video and conversation over and over again, there were so many gems that will help me on this healing and personal growth journey that I'm on. Thank you, Jay and Kerry 💛💛
Everytime I watch Jay and his guests I find such a connection, and my heart opens to tears
Jay, you and your team are saving a life, if not many, by doing this podcast. This was such a beautiful gift. Thank you
I was so engaged the entire time, I love her even more, Kerry possesses so much grace I can’t wait to read the book ❤
Kerry is such a breath of fresh air and so self aware. I am inspired. I felt many of the things she felt in childhood and have a similar story. I learned something about myself today I was not aware of and I am so grateful that she is so compassionate as to share her story. Thank you Kerry.
This was such a beautiful and compassionate conversation. I cannot wait to read her book
agreed! I will get it as soon as it comes out
Kerry had 5 yrs of healing and therapy before sharing with the public which is very wise because she has done the work shes able to share in a way that also is healing and helpful to us. Bravo 👏🏾 to her and I hope she finds what she’s looking for. I hope there’s a village waiting for her on the other side of this revelation 🙏🏾
I could have never imagined how much I could relate to Kerry Washington. I love this for her and I look forward reading her words on paper.
As a BIPOC (half Chamorro/half white) listening to this interview was extremely empowering. I'm grateful for the strides of many Black women who have come forward to tell their stories, especially for those of us that felt the same kinds of discrimination and struggle--and how we've used those experiences to create value for our adult lives. Loved Kerry's stories of loving and validating the little girl inside her.
So compassionate, exceptional self-awareness, and great expression.
i can't just listen to her... i need to watch her!! her energy is so magnetising
Love this segment. I learn that I shouldn't feel bad for having the empathy I have and the ability to share two truth simultaneously. People have always made me feel bad of all of that when I feel that's what is needed is this dark world. Thank you.
The beauty of this show is that this a private therapy session made public.
This is such a beautiful conversation that is life affirming for me, especially this part about self-care as part of service and sacrifice. I’m learning to come into balance with allowing and receiving love without feeling the need to earn it.
This interview, Kerry Washington, full of wisdom. The interviewer seemed additionally blessed as well!This is one of the best! Continued success to both!❤️
Such a beautiful interview, full of grace, awareness, honesty, spirituality, healing, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, in such a profound and raw expression of love. Blessings to Kerry and her beautiful family! Blessings to Jay & his beautiful family! I have both Jay & Kerry's book ready to pick up! Can't wait to read them both! Peace, love, & blessings! ✌🏽❤🙏🏽
Kerry Washington is a spectacular actor who adds extra meaning to an A-list actor. I'm glad she has found healing.
Omg..I love @kerrywashington.. one my favorite actress . Thank you for sharing your story and letting us in your worl..The interview was so profound, and sharing your truth makes me have even more respect and love for you Sis.. you Rock Sis..
Great interview Jay..
Thank you so much Kerry. I am still searching for family secrets and I am the piece of the puzzle that has never fit. My journey will continue until I find the truth. I need my soul to be set free. It's been too long. I admire your strength.
This was such a great interview, I finally understand how Kerry Washington became the admired and talented person we see today.
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I hope her story and vulnerability, honesty/truth inspire us all to go to therapy and learn how to safely free these skeletons out of our family closets in a healthy way.
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What stood out to me /my personal takeaway-was how beautiful we can became when we take off our mask /let go of those secrets and show up as our true selves in the world.
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No longer bound to playing a fake role to fit into a fake society/or being a character in a fake story.
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My biggest take away from Kerry today is that When we do these types of deep self work we get to live in our true divine essence and walk our truest Devine path.
Amazing interview thanks again Jay!!
Beautiful energy! Positively heartfelt I enjoyed getting to know her better. Family can be so complicated but I love how she said “…my dad is my dad; I’m his and he’s mine.” Well done Jay!
I had shivers all over as Kerry described her love for her dad after the revelation. ❤❤❤❤❤❤. The ability to accept 2 opposite and contrasting issues..that is strength. Lack of it is definitely the reason the world is so messed up today. Thanks for sharing. You both are awesome.😊😊
I can relate with her on certain things. Things like this make us stronger. It is my strength that keeps me going.❤
tough times don't laugh forever but tough people do!
Kerry takes off her shoes. Not too long after, Jay takes off his shoes. Respect.
There's a saying, "you're as sick as you secret." I believe the only way you can have a healthy relationship is to tell the truth...Thank you for sharing your story...
Seeing Kerry vulnerable show such a beautiful side of here. Got so emotional just watching this.
This conversation was so authentic 💕 thank you Jay and Kerry
Kerry is such a deep empath with a beautiful spirit. I love what she says about her dad and the grace she holds for her parents in light of the circumstances of her conception. Love and light to Kerry and her family.
So much to be learned from this exchange and that I can relate to, especially that our true self needs to be loved . The entire conversation is warmly felt
Strengthening conversation on the podcast into shifting shame into strength & anger into compassion! Keep up the great work Jay 😊❤
What a wholesome interview...I just love her aura so calm and authentic...❤ 🇿🇦
❤❤❤*"@YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE'S DISTORTED PERCEPTION OF YOU. WHENEVER YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE RUBS OFF ON THEIR INSECURITY, IT WILL BE MISINTERPRETED AS ARROGANCE. STAND🧍♀️FIRM IN YOUR OWN LIGHT AND TRUTH BUT, FOR SANTITY AND SANITY, WALK AWAY FROM THE DARK SPOT AND THEIR NEGATIVE ENERGY."*
*WARIE PORBENI RADIOZEATERCLUB.10.10.2023*❤❤
Being in a family with siblings with different fathers, cause me to be withdrawn, shy and an outcast with friends. I had to learn how to push my family problems aside and find myself. Who am I what was the reason for being born. Today, I’ve push my past behind me and stepped out on faith. I was blessed with the gift of sewing and now I share my skills with others. This has strengthened my confidence and helped me to grow within myself. Listening to Keri, let me know I’m not alone. Do I still have issues? Yes, but I’m handling them better.
Thank you Jay and Kerry for this profound conversation! It would be transforming if everyone had this level of communication with one another. Blessings to you and your families.
So encouraging to hear her truths. All Sharks Under sounds so fun. My age is 66 I wasn't told about my real father. Still today I'm in question. To see her, and listen is powerful. Truly you both have given a place to have thoughts of goodness to exist in adverse parts of our lives.❤❤
This was such a beautiful episode. I love how she articulates her feelings, thoughts and emotions. It was also a very informative episode. I can’t wait to get my hands on her book
As a creative, Kerry just validated me on so MANY LEVELS! The struggle is SO REAL!! It's been holding me back...thank you Jay for all of your interviews...Dr Joe Dispenza's, Kevin Hart's and Kerry Washington's have been LIFE CHANGING! I am manifesting my interview. ✨
This interview resonated deeply with me. Being born under circumstances similar to Trevor Noah's "Born a Crime" in South Africa, I always had doubts about the person they claimed to be my father. It wasn't until I turned 25 and confronted everyone, insisting on the truth, that they finally confirmed my suspicions. The emotional trauma caused by such a revelation is immense. I want to extend my congratulations to Kerry; her interview felt incredibly genuine.
46:00 I FREAKING LOVE KERRY WASHINGTON. MY gosh she is such a beautiful soul. this whole episode speaks so much to me.
Absolutely beautiful interview. I’ve become a fan . So much of her words resonate with me. Thank you!
Incredible interview. Much love to you Kerry. I resonated with this deeply.
Wow!!!! I love this woman. She has the calmest aura about her. I could listen to her for days! Great great interview.
Like others I found this interview amazing! The emotional intelligence of both you and her was off the charts. Really so introspective which cause me to dig deep into my own personal experiences. I also found it so interesting that during the interview you began to physically mirror each other. I’m a new subscriber and want to read the book! Wow, mind blown!
I love how she unpacks her feelings retrospectively. The word I use is "suspended" to retrospectively depict my feelings. As a child, I often felt suspended in my feelings as if there was some significant knowledge missing. Some significant knowledge I needed to feel and be complete in my being. I couldn't explain it but I felt it deeply and frequently. It put me on a quest to seek knowledge and be hyper curious about all things and all people. It is a delicious journey which feels never ending because the destination is undefined. I look forward to experiencing Kerry's book. Be well!
Louise Hay which Kerry and Jay discuss, speaks about the spiritual meaning of cancer as un-forgiveness within a body. I think Kerry has taken the time to understand her Mother’s journey to bring her into this world was a duality / double edged sword, which has over the decades manifested within her Mother as cancer. Let us pray that their love for each other and their healing through therapy will bring about physical healing for her mother. Love to you all!!!❤
It's funny how the truth always finds a way to come out and the whole "knowing" part..you always know, that's cray...it's a feeling❤
4 minutes in and I’m loving how this conversation is going already!
Kerry Washington is one of the most beautiful souls! So much courage she's shown in her vulnerability. So much love.
Listening to Kerry speak about her ability to be present and express, shines a light on being present with your own core. We all have a purpose here, and the meek should hold space for each other as we resonate with her message.
As an Aquarian Life Path 11 like Kerry, I get her 100%! We hold two opposing truths in every situation in our lives. It is the balance that we hold spiritually but is like a physical electrocution all at the exact same moment of knowing.
Love you Kerry 💚
I appreciate this conversation. I really think parents need to stop forcing their children to abandon the truth because it makes them uncomfortable. This is so damaging and controlling. Love requires truth. The truth is reality, and it doesn't always sound good or feel good, but it's necessary for love❤.
well said ❤
Exactly 💯💯💯
I agree totally.💞
So powerful! I’m finally learning to love myself and to be loved by my humanity and for being able to open up regardless of the tough situation ❤
Thank you thank you thank you for opening this space of healing, compassion and empathy.
Whew, seeking to unlearn the belief that I am not enough. Many things touched me in this interview, but that. Man. Absolutely beautiful. I’ve always gravitated towards her in movies, shows, and social media. Even though Kerry has been more private Her beauty is truly inside and out. Thanks so much for sharing!
Oh my word… how you have unarmed every enemy of love with your bravery to pursue truth!!! I know this emotional moat in my bones- and the “safety deposit box” secret that never made it to the bank. I’ve always internalized and assumed fault for the conditional love lines-in-the-sand and never thought once that might have come from my parents. Wow. I am so glad for you and truly amazed and hopeful to know that the work can be done! This was a gift, thank you!
The level of respect & admiration I have for this intelligent, multidimensional, compassionate woman is simply on another level at this at this point. We are ALL better for having had the privilege of being witness to this conversation.
Kerry Washington is so amazing and expresses her feelings so beautifully. I often struggle with clearly articulating how I feel sometimes and look forward to learning the vocabulary and practicing to express myself more clearly. I could relate to so much of what she was sharing, self trust is so real. This was one of my favorite conversations. It felt so human, honest and real. Thank you so much for sharing this with us all.
I want to say how beautiful this was portrayed. If only everyone knew forgiveness and understood where their parents were coming from, we could learn from one another. I am not saying there aren't some exceptions to the rule, but if you didn't pick up what she is putting down, there are steps prior to taking her advice that needs to be done. I will be buying this book and adding it to my library. Her explanation was so thoughtful and delivered lovingly. I love it.
Me too! I felt her entire vibe, and understanding of still working for her hearts message to herself 😊❤
Wow! Shes so great at explaining how she feels. Amazing