That's definitely what my Ex and I had. The Lord also told me if 2 people are wounded, who is it that can bring healing? Im like Wow. It wasnt that we were the only ones who understood eachother, it was that we had the same brokenness and spirits connected us making us think we can be healed by being "understood" lol But neither of us knew the way to healing which was always in Jesus Christ. Super deep revelation.
My boyfriend and I are waiting to kiss until marriage it's so hard sometimes but I know we will be blessed by doing so. I have talked to other Christian men before I started courting my boyfriend and I remember in my prayers I would ask God...."If this ain't my husband Lord cut him out of my life" and surely enough He did. Ladies, pray, be patient, obedient and wise Jesus gots you!
Just curious, why do you feel you'll be blessed because you didn't kiss before your wedding? I've heard people say this and because kissing isn't a sin. I wonder what the basis of this is?
JBxBEAUTY That's what was placed in my man's heart not to do. I on the other hand was all for us kissing he wasnt. I'm a not saying you won't be blessed if you do, but I know we will be out of obedience.
"I was focused on the wedding more than I was focused on the marriage" wow! Thank you ladies for your honesty and reminding us the importance of hearing from God 💜
Yes that is very great tip that just because two christians are dating does not mean they will get married. A lot of times they get married from the pressure we put on them. Very strong young ladies to share their testimony. I am happily married and I feel encouraged to tell you both that you will be excited to marry the man of your dreams.
Wow this really blessed me. I went through this very thing in 2011. After being celibate for 6 months I gave in and slept with my then boyfriend. I got pregnant, being in the church and wanting to do the right thing I thougbt the best thing to do was to get married. I bought my dress, my girls got their dresses. I should've knew something was up. He was always talking to girls on the phone or texting. He would always say that they were just friends. He also REFUSED PRE MARRIAGE COUNSELING. So I sincerely prayed and asked for answers. I got an answer from 3 completely different people, one of which I didn't even know. Long story short GOD BLOCKED IT. I maybe a single mother but I THANK GOD I didn't end up in a unequally yoked marriage. I am yet trusting and believing that God will send my husband, I am doing all I can to make sure I am prepared.
Also, do everything to make sure that you're prepared if God doesn't send him. In other words, be prepared for whatever God chooses to do! We need to prepare ourselves for God, and He'll prepare us for our mates. But, we need to have the will to wait on God. Wait on God and be of good courage.
I love Erin's story. As much as we may try to be pure in a dating relationship, it doesn't happen like that for everyone and to hear someone else say that you can still have purpose even after that is so encouraging. Thank you for sharing your stories!!
Thank you sis! You definitely have purpose, regardless of the mistakes you make. It's all in how you allow God to use that mess to turn into a message that can be used for His glory!
Erin! Well done you, you're bold. There was so much shame when you began speaking I knew you had been sexual with him, (you kept your head down) you couldn't even look at heather, girl you've moved on, give the glory to God. Your story is so relatable! No judgement here, glory to God!
Thank you sis. I don't think I really felt ashamed, I think that was me taking my mind back to that place in time, lol, and I just happened to put my head down at that moment.
This month makes 3 years since my engagement ended. I didn't realize that more people go through broken engagements than I thought. It bothers me sometimes that I still haven't met the man GOD has for me, but at least I'm not locked in a miserable marriage and sneaking around trying to see who he's cheating on me with this time. I've been given another chance to experience marriage GOD's way. I'm so much happier being single than I would be if I had married him. Every time I think about it I thank GOD! PRAISE HIM!!!
Thanks for sharing your stories ladies. I was to be married Sept 3, 2016 and broke off the engagement in May 2016. I too thought it was of God because we both were Christians and courted God's way, but there were so many red flags and I ignored them thinking that God was stretching me and trying to build my faith. I was more sad than happy in the relationship. I thank God that I had the courage to walk away. I felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. Please, if you know that you should wait or call off the wedding. Do not worry what people will say. You are the one that will have to live with the individual. Peace and blessings to all!
I also broke off my engagement because of God led conviction. I refused to listen until he made it really plain as to what I needed to do . Dealt with alot of the things these ladies did. That was two years ago in May. Took these years to heal from it. This video is like a closure confirmation for me to move on now 🙌🙇👏
I’m glad they shared their story. I’ve been through a similar situation. I feel like some men pretend to be a good Christian but in reality they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Love the very last point that Erin made! Courtship does NOT automatically equal marriage! Courtship is a time for evaluation, in a God honoring, community-centered way! This was a great video! Thanks for sharing your stories ladies
Very inspiring! I'm not engaged or even dating...single as single can be lol but just seeing this transparency about struggling and triumphing in obedience towards God really hits home. It's a blessing to have the type of accountability that you guys do. Thanks for sharing guys. Really bold!
Jasmine W. lol I feel you Jasmine, I was just thinking the same thing! I'm not married, courting, dating or engaged I'm not even talking to anyone of the opposite sex, that's how good it is lol. But this brought so much revelation, the crazy part of all of this is that these were not even men of the world! I am confident in the love God has for us, and He will not let us go astray. I always say pay close attention to the conversations you all are having, if he is not on the same page, you will know. And make sure you are not compromising on your beliefs, the moment you even begin to consider doing that, that's a red flag.
It hurts so much when things don’t work but I love how God is taking care of my broken little heart and healing me and building me while God brought end to a toxic situation-ships and it left me bitter and broken but now i can only thank god because he’s saving me for someone who deserves me and to be more close to Him. 💜💛💛💛 stay strong if anyone see my comment i didn’t think i could go through but i am thanks to God 🙌🏾💜✝️ Just when you think it’s the end it’s just the beginning to something greater ! God ways are not our ways the journey may get hard but push through and stay true to the lord because his plans are always for our good not to harm us✝️🙌🏾💜💛💛💛
Wow this is a great example that obedience is greater than sacrifice. Thank you ladies for sharing your stories. I believe it is going to bless and help alot of people.
I love that these women were so brave to share their story. Especially Erin's disclaimer that not all relationships God's way will work. I think that's so important. I think sometimes we tend to broadcast that we're dating God's way or use the hashtag just to brag to the world. When that's not God's purpose for us to live His way. He doesn't want us to be like the hypocrites in the street fasting so everyone can see or "dating God's way" to show others up. No, He wants us to minister to others through our courtship or even after it didn't work out which is what these women date. God bless!!!
Excellent!. This young lady did the right thing when she sought the face of God and acted obediently in cutting it off totally. Those women who choose the remain "friends" are only leaving an open crack in the door for the snake to re-enter. Praise the Lord.
Now I see why the Lord gave you a Tv show!!! So engaging and sound! I'm happily single :D or "hidden" as I like to say. And I found great value in the testimonies of all you ladies! Love having big sisters!
So needed this 6 months ago! Thank you ladies for sharing this! Broke off my engagement last March. This was (and still is) the hardest season. I totally agree with church men (some of them) having sex and repenting the next day. I experienced this a couple of months ago and thought he was the one.
I relate sooo much to Erin (?)!! I just broke it off with a guy who I knew was not the one for me; but not because I wanted to. I was just tired of being disobedient to God. Thanks for sharing your story!
It's learning your self-worth in the midst of healing after this happens! Sometimes a woman doesn't truly know her purpose as these ladies shared prior to stepping in to a relationship. After stepping into very similar shoes I felt labeled as the ex. We get so blinded like buying a car it looks good on the outside but inside it has all these issues that need to pursue to improve /fix. Also, our desires take over from our choices of not letting go or choosing to sin. I think when we know Jesus says No! We think Jesus is not faithful in the details of our love lives when He truly is. Sometimes we magnify marriage so much because the focus and faith is not on God. It sounds like they are saying In many ways a dream has died the dream Of "marriage" or to be "married" and yet the Lord knows all and all your desires and future spouse.Thank you for posting ladies &being bold!my encouragement is Jesus is faithful in all areas of our lives and it's His protection to keep trustworthy counselors and friends while single, engaged, courting, and married. He is our healer and He walks with us in the storm in the boat and in the healing process. There is much joy ahead!
Family members can cause other toxic attachments so it was pretty awesome to hear how easy it was to let go, when you are walking in obedience. This is full of wisdom!
I'm not married, yet, but this video has truly blessed me! I love Heather! She speaks on topics that the church sometimes be too afraid to speak on!!! I can't wait for July to attend The Pinky Promise Conference
Wow-that was my God-sent answer!!! :-o :-D I was engaged until 2012, have been single since then and have been almost constantly contemplating whether the break-up was a mistake and how/if I could have prevented it (especially since most people I now had been getting married/pregnant during the last years, even though I was the first one to be in a relationship/engaged)... But something always felt not quite right...Like what you said about not being able to submit to that person... Interestingly this morning I watched a Joyce Meyer preaching, where she said the exact same thing! So, thank thank thank you (and God of course :D) for this testimony of yours! :)
Thank you, Jesus, for Heather Lindsey! I am so happy in my single life. Jesus brings me so much joy and I go through a lot in my life because of my physical disability.
This video was a true God send. It resonates with me and my current journey. I pray that it frees alot of women. I too ended an engagement 2 yrs ago. Since that time I experienced God sharing my purpose to teach women that they are valuable in him and there is no need to look at the world, society or a male partner to validate their innate worthiness that comes from being born. I just can't express how much your continued obedience blesses my walk with God. Heather sister I love you!
Thank. You. For. This!! You have no idea how much it blessed me to hear other stories like mine. I broke off my wedding (September of 2017) THE NIGHT BEFORE the wedding when everyone had already flew into town. I lost a LOT of money and it still hurts my heart to this day. But it is like therapy to the soul to hear stories like yours. Your words are wise, and I'm so proud of you women for keeping in sight your identity in Christ!! 💗💗💗
Great testimonies ladies and I pray that you both are blessed soon with God fearing, God sent husbands... Thanks Heather for the share. God bless all three of my beautiful sister in Christ in Jesus name~ Amen
This speaks volumes to me . I was about to marry a year and a half ago After 2+ years of courting all the arrangements were done and I ignored all the red flags God's angels literally took me out off the engagement after 3 attempts to marry him it was difficult but God used Heather videos to help me understand some truths and he revealed what really was behind it all. He was a good man but the foundation was not right and glorifying to the Lord. To God be the Glory😇😇
Being vulnerable and transparent is such a beautiful thing. I commend these women for sharing their stories because it reminded me of the purpose of courting. Courting doesn't automatically mean marriage, its the process of learning if someone is right for marriage and that answer can sometimes be no. Thank you so much for this video! love hearing stories of other women for encouragement and revelation for myself. :-) stay blessed dear ones.
islandslim ting same I'm slowly giving up too complicated would of thought it would been easier with Christian men not saying you won't have any hardships
Wow Ladies, Especially Erin, thanks for sharing your story. Definitely encourged me to stay focused on Jesus and allow him to bring by husband (if thats his will for me to be married). The whole hidding my man to simple just have one is also a temption for me. But from your story, I see that its truely not worth it. So thank you.
Wow, the vulnerability here is beautiful. God bless all of you for being so open. it's not easy to be vulnerable, but I know this blessed me and will do the same for others. God bless
THIS IS CRAZY GOOD! praise the Lord for your channel Heather (and your team😁). I have never contemplated these issues before- and their testimonies have deeply affected me! God bless you women!
Loved this video! I feel like I am a part of a very intimate moment with my sisters in Christ. It is so important to have videos like this because unfortunately, women today are "just going with the flow" because we either weren't taught by mature women in Christ or countless other reasons. Thankful for sharing your knowledge and experience ladies!
When she said "make the decision first and let your feelings catch up with it" whew I got set free right there. Let your feelings catch up because letting him go will allow you to get one step closer to God and what God has for you which as the Bible says (forgive the run-on) will be greater than we could ever ask, or imagine. Trust that and get your better sis!
This is a much needed video. My fiance (soon to be ex-fiance) won't pray with me, he always has an excuse as to why the time is not right to pray together. With the relationship being internationally long-distant and having to deal with time commitment, financial and immigration struggles we need Jesus in the midst of the chaos- not the periphery....I never even thought this would be an issue because he has his own personal relationship with Christ- but clearly he intends for it to be just that, his OWN PERSONAL relationship with Christ. Breaking up with him is going to be so hard, but prayer is not optional. :(
Thank you for this video. I've been in a 4 year relationship that's been hard to break free from, but this has encouraged me so much. The gut feeling I have has become so strong that I needed to call off from work... and I thank the Lord that I did bc I found this video. :)
This is so eye opening. I wish we have all these fasting and prayer right at the beginning the moment you start dating or talking. Will save us so much trouble and time.
just got our of an engagement and i NEEDED to hear this . I'm notable to go to church like i need to , but my RUclips church family is bigger then I could ask for . thank you for Th is great video :)
Thank you so much for sharing your testimonies, I truly needed to hear this... I've been struggling with failed relationships the past 3 years and this has truly helped me and made me realize a lot of things!
Thank you for sharing your stories. Opening up about your life difficulties is learning to be vulnerable. Thank you, and I hope the Lord heals you and makes you happy in His presence.
Thanks so much for this video Heather. I really enjoyed it and it resonated with me a lot since I broke off my engagement as well. However I felt like it really didn't address 'healing from a broken engagement'. I felt like it focused more on those in ungodly relationships and having the courage to break things off among other things. If you could do a video on what people tend to do after a broken engagement, like their emotions, their relationship with others, poor decisions, dating after a failed engagement etc. That'll be really helpful. Thanks and God bless you.
Wowwwww thanks so much for sharing your stories sisters. You are brave and courageous in The Lord and so many people will be blessed by your testimonies. God will heal, restore you both and will bring the right man in the right season for you beautiful God-fearing women. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you ladies for sharing your stories and being so transparent and bold for the Lord! I am truly encouraged by you all, awesome women of God. Thank you. ♥️
Heather Lindsey thank you for this video. Its crazy how the "good guy" who's is in ministry going to church and reading the Word is not the one for you.
God bless you for sharing. I got engaged very fast on the first date while in restaurants, and got married after few months at early age 20 that I didn't thought that I would. I don't regret doing so coz it's was the perfect time for God . and was the best decision I made in my life . God has his ways if he says yes nobody can say no .
Of all your videos, this one is still my favorite. I panicked when I was ready to watch it some weeks ago and it mysteriously disappeared. I started rationalizing that maybe I was crazy and imagining things. You are such a blessing to women across the globe Heather and I cannot thank you enough. God bless you.
Thanks you for sharing this. I'm sure this could be a series because there are probably a lot of people who can share their process of breaking an engagement. Thank you so much!
Making that decision & letting my feelings catch up with it. Sigh. The embarrassment now is definitely better than a covenant, children, and years of hot mess. Thanks Erin. Thanks Sabine: I'm the same way and will have to cut off all sources of communication immediately! I knew I couldn't be the only one. We can't be friends. All of this was good you guys. Thanks for sharing.
this video really blessed me. i commend those young ladies for sharing their story. Heather Lindsey continue doing what you do. God is using you mightily.
I've literally been searching for a video Erin made that gave so many good tips about courting, and books to read if you come from a dysfunctional family and are in a courtship. I was looking forward to finding that video, so I could watch it again, and found her here instead with more awesome wisdom. Great video!
Such a helpful video. Just broke off my engagement and relationship last week and I know God was saving me but I struggle with my emotions everyday trying to get them to catch up with my trust in the God.
heather your channel has really blessed me and im thankful one of my friends told me about you.. keep going women of God. Im excited for your show as well.
Well, it seems Erin dodged a bullet, a HUGE bullet, based on MAFS. Although I'm not a religious person, all of us has intuition and gut feelings. Please use it and trust it. It's there for a reason. Hope she is doing ok and feels validated by her decision not to marry him.
I really needed this, few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend because of that same gut feeling that's been mentioned in the video that nudged me time and again deep down, reminding that it's because of the like minded brokenness we are drawn towards one another, and the devil knew how to take complete advantage of it. We were in relationship for 6 long years and i have to mention that i wasn't wise while choosing him because I was not Godly 6 years prior. And the worst part was that I kept it secret from my side of the family for the entire time. They never ever had even a tiny little hint that I was dating a guy. Few months ago from this day I got saved, and I accept Jesus as my savior and I prayed for my then bf, now ex. When I realized that it was all lust not love. So I prayed to cut the ties off of me yet I was fearful enough about how much it will hurt when we get apart from one another. However God, very gracefully through my mother made it seemed so obvious that now it's not hurting at all.. It's been only couple of weeks but I am free. And let me tell you what God spoke to me through my mother, he said, "it's okay that you love him but what about the family generation before him and what about the generation that is going to be produced after him, from you? Don't be selfish. Think about your children. "... Ouch that was harsh for me at that time. But again through a RUclips video God spoke, " Listen to your mother, she is mine. " I God abundant courage and strength from it to redirect my life. There was this guilt within me tormenting me saying, "how can you hurt such a good man who gave 6 years to you. He was there everytime you needed him. Especially during the time when your father passed away. You are never gonna get a man as good as him. " But God gave me a counter reply for it.. " I knew that man for 6 years but I know my mother from the very beginning of my life, so whose words has more weight. " Also praying and reading Bible has done it's part pretty well for redirecting my thoughts.. Hallelujah🙌 All praise to the Father our Lord in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen🙏
Who is here After watching Chris on MAFS?
Ya’ll are faster than the FBI 😭
@@HeatherLLove 🤣🤣🤣🤣and the stpry is just getting more crazy hey..did u catch episode 8?
Wait.. what’s the connection? Lol
"A lot of times it's not love...it's likeminded brokenness" 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 THAT was some HEAVY revelation right there!
Lynn Douglas Yes this comment was deep!!! Oh so real!
That's definitely what my Ex and I had. The Lord also told me if 2 people are wounded, who is it that can bring healing? Im like Wow. It wasnt that we were the only ones who understood eachother, it was that we had the same brokenness and spirits connected us making us think we can be healed by being "understood" lol But neither of us knew the way to healing which was always in Jesus Christ. Super deep revelation.
Lynn Douglas That was deep.
so deep !
My boyfriend and I are waiting to kiss until marriage it's so hard sometimes but I know we will be blessed by doing so. I have talked to other Christian men before I started courting my boyfriend and I remember in my prayers I would ask God...."If this ain't my husband Lord cut him out of my life" and surely enough He did. Ladies, pray, be patient, obedient and wise Jesus gots you!
I pray like that as well... and God always cut those I didn't need off somehow
And He will do it every time!
Just curious, why do you feel you'll be blessed because you didn't kiss before your wedding? I've heard people say this and because kissing isn't a sin. I wonder what the basis of this is?
JBxBEAUTY That's what was placed in my man's heart not to do. I on the other hand was all for us kissing he wasnt. I'm a not saying you won't be blessed if you do, but I know we will be out of obedience.
Love this! "Pray, be patient, obedient..."
"I was focused on the wedding more than I was focused on the marriage" wow! Thank you ladies for your honesty and reminding us the importance of hearing from God 💜
Yes that is very great tip that just because two christians are dating does not mean they will get married. A lot of times they get married from the pressure we put on them. Very strong young ladies to share their testimony.
I am happily married and I feel encouraged to tell you both that you will be excited to marry the man of your dreams.
Wow this really blessed me. I went through this very thing in 2011. After being celibate for 6 months I gave in and slept with my then boyfriend. I got pregnant, being in the church and wanting to do the right thing I thougbt the best thing to do was to get married. I bought my dress, my girls got their dresses. I should've knew something was up. He was always talking to girls on the phone or texting. He would always say that they were just friends. He also REFUSED PRE MARRIAGE COUNSELING. So I sincerely prayed and asked for answers. I got an answer from 3 completely different people, one of which I didn't even know. Long story short GOD BLOCKED IT. I maybe a single mother but I THANK GOD I didn't end up in a unequally yoked marriage. I am yet trusting and believing that God will send my husband, I am doing all I can to make sure I am prepared.
Wava's Way love and blessings to you and your sweet baby. There is a master plan.
Wava's Way So proud of you!
Also, do everything to make sure that you're prepared if God doesn't send him. In other words, be prepared for whatever God chooses to do! We need to prepare ourselves for God, and He'll prepare us for our mates. But, we need to have the will to wait on God. Wait on God and be of good courage.
I love Erin's story. As much as we may try to be pure in a dating relationship, it doesn't happen like that for everyone and to hear someone else say that you can still have purpose even after that is so encouraging. Thank you for sharing your stories!!
Thank you sis! You definitely have purpose, regardless of the mistakes you make. It's all in how you allow God to use that mess to turn into a message that can be used for His glory!
Msladybug So true!
Erin Nichole Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I pray you are in a much better place today!
Erin! Well done you, you're bold. There was so much shame when you began speaking I knew you had been sexual with him, (you kept your head down) you couldn't even look at heather, girl you've moved on, give the glory to God. Your story is so relatable! No judgement here, glory to God!
Thank you sis. I don't think I really felt ashamed, I think that was me taking my mind back to that place in time, lol, and I just happened to put my head down at that moment.
Erin Nichole oh great just seen this. Thank God!
This month makes 3 years since my engagement ended. I didn't realize that more people go through broken engagements than I thought. It bothers me sometimes that I still haven't met the man GOD has for me, but at least I'm not locked in a miserable marriage and sneaking around trying to see who he's cheating on me with this time. I've been given another chance to experience marriage GOD's way. I'm so much happier being single than I would be if I had married him. Every time I think about it I thank GOD! PRAISE HIM!!!
Thanks for sharing your stories ladies. I was to be married Sept 3, 2016 and broke off the engagement in May 2016. I too thought it was of God because we both were Christians and courted God's way, but there were so many red flags and I ignored them thinking that God was stretching me and trying to build my faith. I was more sad than happy in the relationship. I thank God that I had the courage to walk away. I felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. Please, if you know that you should wait or call off the wedding. Do not worry what people will say. You are the one that will have to live with the individual. Peace and blessings to all!
I also broke off my engagement because of God led conviction. I refused to listen until he made it really plain as to what I needed to do . Dealt with alot of the things these ladies did. That was two years ago in May. Took these years to heal from it.
This video is like a closure confirmation for me to move on now 🙌🙇👏
I’m glad they shared their story. I’ve been through a similar situation. I feel like some men pretend to be a good Christian but in reality they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Love the very last point that Erin made! Courtship does NOT automatically equal marriage! Courtship is a time for evaluation, in a God honoring, community-centered way! This was a great video! Thanks for sharing your stories ladies
Very inspiring! I'm not engaged or even dating...single as single can be lol but just seeing this transparency about struggling and triumphing in obedience towards God really hits home. It's a blessing to have the type of accountability that you guys do. Thanks for sharing guys. Really bold!
Jasmine W. lol I feel you Jasmine, I was just thinking the same thing! I'm not married, courting, dating or engaged I'm not even talking to anyone of the opposite sex, that's how good it is lol. But this brought so much revelation, the crazy part of all of this is that these were not even men of the world! I am confident in the love God has for us, and He will not let us go astray. I always say pay close attention to the conversations you all are having, if he is not on the same page, you will know. And make sure you are not compromising on your beliefs, the moment you even begin to consider doing that, that's a red flag.
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It hurts so much when things don’t work but I love how God is taking care of my broken little heart and healing me and building me while God brought end to a toxic situation-ships and it left me bitter and broken but now i can only thank god because he’s saving me for someone who deserves me and to be more close to Him. 💜💛💛💛 stay strong if anyone see my comment i didn’t think i could go through but i am thanks to God 🙌🏾💜✝️ Just when you think it’s the end it’s just the beginning to something greater ! God ways are not our ways the journey may get hard but push through and stay true to the lord because his plans are always for our good not to harm us✝️🙌🏾💜💛💛💛
Wow this is a great example that obedience is greater than sacrifice. Thank you ladies for sharing your stories. I believe it is going to bless and help alot of people.
I love that these women were so brave to share their story. Especially Erin's disclaimer that not all relationships God's way will work. I think that's so important. I think sometimes we tend to broadcast that we're dating God's way or use the hashtag just to brag to the world. When that's not God's purpose for us to live His way. He doesn't want us to be like the hypocrites in the street fasting so everyone can see or "dating God's way" to show others up. No, He wants us to minister to others through our courtship or even after it didn't work out which is what these women date. God bless!!!
Excellent!. This young lady did the right thing when she sought the face of God and acted obediently in cutting it off totally. Those women who choose the remain "friends" are only leaving an open crack in the door for the snake to re-enter. Praise the Lord.
Now I see why the Lord gave you a Tv show!!! So engaging and sound! I'm happily single :D or "hidden" as I like to say. And I found great value in the testimonies of all you ladies! Love having big sisters!
So needed this 6 months ago! Thank you ladies for sharing this! Broke off my engagement last March. This was (and still is) the hardest season. I totally agree with church men (some of them) having sex and repenting the next day. I experienced this a couple of months ago and thought he was the one.
I relate sooo much to Erin (?)!! I just broke it off with a guy who I knew was not the one for me; but not because I wanted to. I was just tired of being disobedient to God. Thanks for sharing your story!
It's learning your self-worth in the midst of healing after this happens! Sometimes a woman doesn't truly know her purpose as these ladies shared prior to stepping in to a relationship. After stepping into very similar shoes I felt labeled as the ex. We get so blinded like buying a car it looks good on the outside but inside it has all these issues that need to pursue to improve /fix. Also, our desires take over from our choices of not letting go or choosing to sin. I think when we know Jesus says No! We think Jesus is not faithful in the details of our love lives when He truly is. Sometimes we magnify marriage so much because the focus and faith is not on God. It sounds like they are saying In many ways a dream has died the dream
Of "marriage" or to be "married" and yet the Lord knows all and all your desires and future spouse.Thank you for posting ladies &being bold!my encouragement is Jesus is faithful in all areas of our lives and it's His protection to keep trustworthy counselors and friends while single, engaged, courting, and married. He is our healer and He walks with us in the storm in the boat and in the healing process. There is much joy ahead!
“Make the decision first and then let your feelings catch up with it” 👏
I met both of these ladies in Atlanta! they are so kind!
This video was awesome - felt like I was sitting in a room with friends.
Joanzie's Life definitely! me too! such a blessing
Family members can cause other toxic attachments so it was pretty awesome to hear how easy it was to let go, when you are walking in obedience. This is full of wisdom!
I'm not married, yet, but this video has truly blessed me! I love Heather! She speaks on topics that the church sometimes be too afraid to speak on!!! I can't wait for July to attend The Pinky Promise Conference
Erin that was so real. . Thank you ladies!
Thank you sis!
I am only hear to ear about Chris William ex-fiancee number 1
Me too LOL
Seems like she’s why he really moved to ATL!
@@tashemafacey5280 😂😂😂😂 same
She's probably watching #MarriedatFirstSight feeling like she dodged a bullet.
likeminded brokenness mistaken for chemistry yohhh that hit me. That is deep!!It made me think of friendships too
Wow-that was my God-sent answer!!! :-o :-D
I was engaged until 2012, have been single since then and have been almost constantly contemplating whether the break-up was a mistake and how/if I could have prevented it (especially since most people I now had been getting married/pregnant during the last years, even though I was the first one to be in a relationship/engaged)... But something always felt not quite right...Like what you said about not being able to submit to that person... Interestingly this morning I watched a Joyce Meyer preaching, where she said the exact same thing! So, thank thank thank you (and God of course :D) for this testimony of yours! :)
Thank you, Jesus, for Heather Lindsey! I am so happy in my single life. Jesus brings me so much joy and I go through a lot in my life because of my physical disability.
This video was a true God send. It resonates with me and my current journey. I pray that it frees alot of women. I too ended an engagement 2 yrs ago. Since that time I
experienced God sharing my purpose to teach women that they are valuable in him and there is no need to look at the world, society or a male partner to validate their innate worthiness that comes from being born. I just can't express how much your continued obedience blesses my walk with God. Heather sister I love you!
This was awesome, and I ain't even dating or engaged. 😬
Thank. You. For. This!! You have no idea how much it blessed me to hear other stories like mine. I broke off my wedding (September of 2017) THE NIGHT BEFORE the wedding when everyone had already flew into town. I lost a LOT of money and it still hurts my heart to this day. But it is like therapy to the soul to hear stories like yours. Your words are wise, and I'm so proud of you women for keeping in sight your identity in Christ!! 💗💗💗
Great testimonies ladies and I pray that you both are blessed soon with God fearing, God sent husbands... Thanks Heather for the share. God bless all three of my beautiful sister in Christ in Jesus name~ Amen
This speaks volumes to me . I was about to marry a year and a half ago After 2+ years of courting all the arrangements were done and I ignored all the red flags God's angels literally took me out off the engagement after 3 attempts to marry him it was difficult but God used Heather videos to help me understand some truths and he revealed what really was behind it all. He was a good man but the foundation was not right and glorifying to the Lord. To God be the Glory😇😇
Being vulnerable and transparent is such a beautiful thing. I commend these women for sharing their stories because it reminded me of the purpose of courting. Courting doesn't automatically mean marriage, its the process of learning if someone is right for marriage and that answer can sometimes be no. Thank you so much for this video! love hearing stories of other women for encouragement and revelation for myself. :-) stay blessed dear ones.
This is so discouraging, the complexities of it all. I wish love was easy and effortlessly secure.
islandslim ting same I'm slowly giving up too complicated would of thought it would been easier with Christian men not saying you won't have any hardships
Wow! thank you so much! I am healing from a broken engagement. i needed to hear this!
Wow Ladies, Especially Erin, thanks for sharing your story. Definitely encourged me to stay focused on Jesus and allow him to bring by husband (if thats his will for me to be married). The whole hidding my man to simple just have one is also a temption for me. But from your story, I see that its truely not worth it. So thank you.
Wow, the vulnerability here is beautiful. God bless all of you for being so open. it's not easy to be vulnerable, but I know this blessed me and will do the same for others. God bless
This video made me so excited for your upcoming show! Looking forward to more content like this.
You're in for a treat! I have so much fun stuff brewing!
Yessss!!!!:)
Heather Lindsey when will your 2018 conference be??? Just so anxious 😩 to go next year... my husband and I both want to come.
THIS IS CRAZY GOOD! praise the Lord for your channel Heather (and your team😁). I have never contemplated these issues before- and their testimonies have deeply affected me! God bless you women!
such a wonderful video...almost got engaged, so I know the heartache. However, I am thankful for God's protection over our lives.God is so faithful!
I needed this 5 years ago. I felt my institution but, did not listen to it. I will use this going forward. Always listen to what GOD is telling you.
a simple thank you is not enough but I don't have the words to express what I feel!
Loved this video! I feel like I am a part of a very intimate moment with my sisters in Christ. It is so important to have videos like this because unfortunately, women today are "just going with the flow" because we either weren't taught by mature women in Christ or countless other reasons. Thankful for sharing your knowledge and experience ladies!
I SO needed this! I want thank you all for sharing your stories. You literally will be saving lives because of the video. Glory be to God!
I love this videos, It just fells like all of us girls are setting in your room talking about God. :)
I wish there were women like you around to talk about this 10 years ago
When she said "make the decision first and let your feelings catch up with it" whew I got set free right there. Let your feelings catch up because letting him go will allow you to get one step closer to God and what God has for you which as the Bible says (forgive the run-on) will be greater than we could ever ask, or imagine. Trust that and get your better sis!
This is a much needed video. My fiance (soon to be ex-fiance) won't pray with me, he always has an excuse as to why the time is not right to pray together. With the relationship being internationally long-distant and having to deal with time commitment, financial and immigration struggles we need Jesus in the midst of the chaos- not the periphery....I never even thought this would be an issue because he has his own personal relationship with Christ- but clearly he intends for it to be just that, his OWN PERSONAL relationship with Christ. Breaking up with him is going to be so hard, but prayer is not optional. :(
You are a blessing to women 😇
This was amazing!! God is faithful and I am so happy God stepped in!!
Thank you for this video. I've been in a 4 year relationship that's been hard to break free from, but this has encouraged me so much. The gut feeling I have has become so strong that I needed to call off from work... and I thank the Lord that I did bc I found this video. :)
(I'm re-engaged but will be breaking it off again...pls pray for me ❤️ And God bless your channel!!!)
Soooo good 🙌🏾😭
Probably watch it every year as a reminder to not settle
I wished you were in my personal circle, Heather. Every girl should have a blunt friend like you, an accountability partner.
That first sister's story started out EXACTLY like an experience I've just gone through.
This is so eye opening. I wish we have all these fasting and prayer right at the beginning the moment you start dating or talking. Will save us so much trouble and time.
just got our of an engagement and i NEEDED to hear this . I'm notable to go to church like i need to , but my RUclips church family is bigger then I could ask for . thank you for Th is great video :)
Thank you Heather, Erin, & Sabine for your transparency! May God continue to be with you all and give you strength!
Thank you for this video. God is always right on time!
Thank you God for the transparency of this video! Learned so much!
Thank you so much for sharing your testimonies, I truly needed to hear this... I've been struggling with failed relationships the past 3 years and this has truly helped me and made me realize a lot of things!
Love this video! Youre the best Heather and thanks to Erin and Sabine for being brave and sharing! You ladies are lovely! To God be the glory
Thank you for sharing your stories. Opening up about your life difficulties is learning to be vulnerable. Thank you, and I hope the Lord heals you and makes you happy in His presence.
Thanks so much for this video Heather. I really enjoyed it and it resonated with me a lot since I broke off my engagement as well. However I felt like it really didn't address 'healing from a broken engagement'. I felt like it focused more on those in ungodly relationships and having the courage to break things off among other things. If you could do a video on what people tend to do after a broken engagement, like their emotions, their relationship with others, poor decisions, dating after a failed engagement etc. That'll be really helpful. Thanks and God bless you.
Wowwwww thanks so much for sharing your stories sisters. You are brave and courageous in The Lord and so many people will be blessed by your testimonies. God will heal, restore you both and will bring the right man in the right season for you beautiful God-fearing women. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Three gorgeous ladies! God bless 😊 thanks again Heather sis 💛
Thank you ladies for sharing your stories and being so transparent and bold for the Lord! I am truly encouraged by you all, awesome women of God. Thank you. ♥️
Does anyone know of either of them got married?
Heather Lindsey thank you for this video. Its crazy how the "good guy" who's is in ministry going to church and reading the Word is not the one for you.
Brittany Gatson Not every good man is meant to be your husband. Or even your boyfriend. Because he's a good guy doesn't make him the guy for you.
loverofallthingsbeautiful this is so powerful! Every good guy may not be your good guy
May God help us all because it gets some of us so discouraged
I'm only 6 minutes in AND Heather you have already blessed me!
I am so thankful that God dropped the idea for this video in your spirit. Thanks to everyone who shared their testimony. This video really blessed me.
great... more video like this
God bless you for sharing. I got engaged very fast on the first date while in restaurants, and got married after few months at early age 20 that I didn't thought that I would. I don't regret doing so coz it's was the perfect time for God . and was the best decision I made in my life . God has his ways if he says yes nobody can say no .
Of all your videos, this one is still my favorite. I panicked when I was ready to watch it some weeks ago and it mysteriously disappeared. I started rationalizing that maybe I was crazy and imagining things. You are such a blessing to women across the globe Heather and I cannot thank you enough. God bless you.
what more can I say but Thank you! Thank you all very much!
Thanks you for sharing this. I'm sure this could be a series because there are probably a lot of people who can share their process of breaking an engagement. Thank you so much!
both strong women definitely praying for you guys 😊😊😊😊
Beyond amazing! Love the transparency! God is not a God of confusion, but peace.
I wish I could join their group "Dream girls." The fact they fasted with each other and pray when she asked them to, is so nice.
SOOOO POWERFUL!!!!! Thanks for sharing! So proud of you ERIN! love you sis! Powerful story with Sabine!!!
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Great video. thank you Ladies for the transparency. this should come in handy when marriage comes knocking on my door. Blessings
Making that decision & letting my feelings catch up with it. Sigh. The embarrassment now is definitely better than a covenant, children, and years of hot mess. Thanks Erin. Thanks Sabine: I'm the same way and will have to cut off all sources of communication immediately! I knew I couldn't be the only one. We can't be friends.
All of this was good you guys. Thanks for sharing.
this video really blessed me. i commend those young ladies for sharing their story. Heather Lindsey continue doing what you do. God is using you mightily.
This was so timely . You all shared with grace and transparency and I appreciate that so much. God bless you all ❤
Oh so liberating.... thank you, ladies, for your raw honesty. Be blessed abundantly 💫🙌🏼💫
Heather I love this video. I really appreciate these women sharing their stories. I needed to hear this as a single waiting on the Lord.
Thank you ladies for sharing your journey ❤
I've literally been searching for a video Erin made that gave so many good tips about courting, and books to read if you come from a dysfunctional family and are in a courtship. I was looking forward to finding that video, so I could watch it again, and found her here instead with more awesome wisdom. Great video!
Hey sis! You can check out my blog site where I write more in depth at www.loveerinnichole.com
Hey! I will!
Such a helpful video. Just broke off my engagement and relationship last week and I know God was saving me but I struggle with my emotions everyday trying to get them to catch up with my trust in the God.
Heather I thank God for your obedience to put out such a video. And the ladies who shared their stories- May God also richly bless your obedience.
Wow.. I can relate to Erin's testimony.. Thanks for your honesty and courage WOG!
heather your channel has really blessed me and im thankful one of my friends told me about you.. keep going women of God. Im excited for your show as well.
Well, it seems Erin dodged a bullet, a HUGE bullet, based on MAFS. Although I'm not a religious person, all of us has intuition and gut feelings. Please use it and trust it. It's there for a reason. Hope she is doing ok and feels validated by her decision not to marry him.
I really needed this, few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend because of that same gut feeling that's been mentioned in the video that nudged me time and again deep down, reminding that it's because of the like minded brokenness we are drawn towards one another, and the devil knew how to take complete advantage of it. We were in relationship for 6 long years and i have to mention that i wasn't wise while choosing him because I was not Godly 6 years prior. And the worst part was that I kept it secret from my side of the family for the entire time. They never ever had even a tiny little hint that I was dating a guy.
Few months ago from this day I got saved, and I accept Jesus as my savior and I prayed for my then bf, now ex. When I realized that it was all lust not love. So I prayed to cut the ties off of me yet I was fearful enough about how much it will hurt when we get apart from one another. However God, very gracefully through my mother made it seemed so obvious that now it's not hurting at all.. It's been only couple of weeks but I am free. And let me tell you what God spoke to me through my mother, he said, "it's okay that you love him but what about the family generation before him and what about the generation that is going to be produced after him, from you? Don't be selfish. Think about your children. "... Ouch that was harsh for me at that time. But again through a RUclips video God spoke, " Listen to your mother, she is mine. " I God abundant courage and strength from it to redirect my life. There was this guilt within me tormenting me saying, "how can you hurt such a good man who gave 6 years to you. He was there everytime you needed him. Especially during the time when your father passed away. You are never gonna get a man as good as him. " But God gave me a counter reply for it.. " I knew that man for 6 years but I know my mother from the very beginning of my life, so whose words has more weight. "
Also praying and reading Bible has done it's part pretty well for redirecting my thoughts.. Hallelujah🙌
All praise to the Father our Lord in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen🙏