Hello, maniacs!! So I realize this isn’t a typical Killbot video. Not exactly the subject matter I usually discuss. However, with years of perspective and with everything going on in the United States concerning reproductive rights, I thought maybe this would resonate with people in more ways than one. Maybe it could offer comfort to those thinking of having this done themselves. Also, men typically don’t talk about this type of stuff, so I want to be the antithesis to that and offer a supportive place to do so. Don’t worry, music stuff will be coming up after this. Thank you for watching!!
It’s ok to talk about something else because then it isn’t just the same thing all the time but music is always fun so it never gets boring but you get my point
Thank you for this video I am 18 and considering getting the snip due to multiple scares I’ve had previous and realized if I want the peace of mine getting the snip is the way to go for me this video is easing me more into getting the surgery done soon!
I can completely relate. I remember being told at a very young age “You’ll have kids someday”, and thinking “Why? Does every person have to?” That never changed. I’ve never, ever had any desire to reproduce. I was an only child, I’m the end of my bloodline, so what? I care very much about children, but I just don’t really like them and can’t force myself to. I’ve always taken precautions, and at this point I’m at the age that my fertility is probably dropping off (though I take pretty good care of my health so my… um… other functions are alive and well, not trying to go TMI), but I still want a vasectomy to make sure there is no risk at all.
Good topic. I will say something about it from my perspective as a parent. I am 40 years old and have 2 small children, a 5-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. When I was a teenager, I had many hobbies: computer games, music (listening and composing), collecting audio CDs, books, writing novels and short stories and many others. When my then longtime ex-girlfriend asked me to have a baby, I freaked out and backed out. With this decision, I lost a long-term relationship, but I was able to continue doing what I love. My hobbies. And it was the right decision because she wasn't the one. In addition, I fully focused on work and hobbies, created my RUclips channel and met my wife, with whom I have two children. This time the children did not come forced, but naturally. I knew my wife was the one. And maybe it also helped that I had children until I was 35 years old and dedicated my youth to my hobbies. Even now, I still do most of my hobbies, as well as the RUclips channel, but with the children there is not so much time for that. But still, every second with children is priceless. It's about making the right compromises in life. Nevertheless, I am now thinking about a vasectomy so that my wife does not use birth control unnecessarily.
I told my parents that there's a very strong chance that I'll end up not having kids and they were totally fine with it. "We're retired educators and we've seen what little shits are out there. Having grandkids is the last thing on our minds."
I'm at the 4:20 mark and you hit it right on the nail, my mom constantly talks about how she wishes me and my sibling were young because she feels like she has no purpose besides raising us, I fucking hate this because I think about when I was young and I remember being suicidal and not understanding why that was a problem as well as just shitty things happened. Another one of her reasons is that 'you guys were so cute' which kinda sucks because I already have no self esteem and constantly being reminded that I use to be so much cuter doesn't help in the slightest.
I'm 13, luckily, I was born into a family who wanted (as far as i know) wanted children. I am also very lucky to be a child of very kind parents, who raise me how I think parents should, the main rule? respect people. as far as I know for my future, I have no clue. all I know is I defiently wanna be in a band sometime. "when you have children", who the hell can tell you "when"? It's your life, your decision. random i know but its awesome to see so many killbot videos in a week! thank you! :)
Personally even if I wanted kids I would adopt. Why bring another life into the world when you could improve another one. I feel like a lot of reasons people don't adopt is selfishness and the narcissism of wanting to see them selves in their kid rather than seeing their kids as their own person
Because the moment you have kids your biochemistry change. If you never have biological children you will never fully experience life. I don't want to go into details, but in case of a man your testosterone level drops to some degree, and your reflexes can go into the superhuman range when it comes to protecting your children. I once saw it with my own eyes a father moving like 8 meters in a second punching a tile away from the head of his son that could have end him. You will also start to become more of a protector who looks out for other kids as well. Unless the parent is mentally ill like someone whith narcissitic personality disorder, having your own kids changes you for the better and it will motivate you to improve so you can provide for your kids. Obviously alcohol, drugs and mental illneses would interfere with this, but healthy men do change after they have a biological kid. The world needs more humans, there will be a huge population collapse soon dou to a fool spreading the misinformation that the planet cannot take more humans which was debunked a long time ago.
Thats also narcissistic, having a savior complex about the kid youre adopting or stepfather/mothering.
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The foster/adoption system is very bad. Most foster families try to foster/adopt for literal slave labor, or a check. But it's also a bad system for that rare couple that legimately wants a kid to cherish and love. Foster system gives parents lots, and lots of gremlins..... 2ndly, adoption system is ridiculously long and full of stress. It quite literally takes less time for a mother to grow a baby in their stomach than adopt a kid.
Thanks for this important, but still kinda taboo topic. I am 28, and never wanted kids. For me this decision is final. It really baffles me, how many people don't take it serious and just say stuff like "eh, just wait 2 or 3 years, this will change!" Well they have been saying that since I was 17 or so, and guess what: it never changed.
When I was in late 20s. Whenever I went on dates when the question came up about having kids it always ended there. Thankfully I met someone who was recently divorced and doesn't want kids.
I want to adopt a child because I completely agree that it's selfish to bring a child into this miserable existence, but it is selfless to make it less miserable for one that's already been brought into it
You go, dude! I’m also childfree and have much of the same reasoning. Have considered a hysterectomy due to this (also because of health problems). Love to see more and more people living the life they actually want to live and not just going down society’s prescribed path of becoming a parent
I got one, since my wife already had two kids and didn't want anymore, and I'm very happy for it. We've been together for 20 years now. Best decision we made as a couple. NEVER had any ill effects from the procedure and I was back on the feet the next day.
I had a girl immediately end our conversation on a dating app because she saw on my profile that I selected the “not sure” option on wanting kids lol, oh well
As a general rule, I won’t date anyone unless they 100% don’t want kids. For better luck, maybe you could word it to something more definitive. Good luck! :)
@KillbotAndGorGorAttack your channel has. The songs and bands I've learned to love simply by watching, the fact I know that I can find like minded people in the comments make me feel warm and at home.
I’m surprised you were allowed to. Where I am, doctors will tell both men and women no, and they make us wait until we’re in our 40s before getting snipped, because “we might change our minds” it’s so stupid.
My friend's mom admitted het to the hospital. Her mom is extremely abusive and narcissistic, and she only acts nice around other people who believe the act. That said, her health has my friend severely stressed out and i just ask "why have a kid if you're going to be treating her like a servant and not your kid?"
After my crappy home life, I can't see myself having kids. Why do I need to have a kid to heal my inner child? I can just give myself what I never had. My "family" is my boyfriend, me, and my hamster. I'd rather just be a fairy godmother and be there for other people's kids. I'd rather not have kids of my own.
I'm in a pretty weird spot, i wouldn't mind a child but i know that due to my fragile mental health and financial issues i would be a terrible parent. Better to not be a parent than be a shitty parent.
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Oh definitely. I just don't want to be a terrible parent. My parents have been an enormous pillar of support for my struggles and if I am not good enough for the child in question I would have failed as an han being, even if I have all the money in the world and the best things for the child.
Damn! Recent uploads are so frequent, freaking amazing. Was truly interesting to hear your story and reasons behind such decision! Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much! This was a video I was wondering if I should even put out. But since I was in the rhythm of working, and this is a subject I feel passionate about, I thought I’d just throw it at the wall
Oh man, I took my ex to see Spiderman: No Way Home in the theater. Two kids were running up and down the aisles with their video games, laughing, giggling. Finally, I went “SHH!!” and they shut right up. But the mom gave me a death stare the rest of the movie
this was a difficult subject to broach with my parents since I'm the last male of my name, and to a degree, I felt like denying the continuation of the familial lineage was an exilable act. I also once told a close friend that I believed it to be a selfish decision, but he explained that it was really the opposite. In actuality, it is more selfish to have a child when you know from the onset that your full attention and effort will at no point be made available to the child. the politics surrounding reproductive rights are certainly digressing, especially in the american south. i think at some point I will tread this same path and get the snip.
I’m probably in the minority where I feel like the concepts of “lineage” and “family name” are taken way too seriously by a lot of people. Individually, what matters is what’ll make you happy. Don’t stop looking
My wife and me choose to have 1 kid at the age of 36 (we are both born in 1968) , only 1 because the world is overpopulated , you met me and my wife on our last tour in the states and you know that we are a happy couple and I can tell you our son (20) is the most amazing thing that came out of our love and I don't feel that I had to sacrifice anything for it , his childhood was an amazing time with so much new things to experience , but I understand your opinion and in a lot of situations you are wright . People really have to think about it (a few years) before putting someone new on this planet .
finally someone with a similar opinion on the matter. i'm a teen and its rough enough for me, i would NEVER force this upon anyone else and also i am not good with people in general. i tend to start screaming when i get angry and i am so unstable and have always been so, sometimes i tend to even get violent or have the thought of becoming violent, its not just a teenage thing i think. i'm probably neurodivergent too. plus being born with a uterus makes people think that i'll regret saying that i dont want em and that children will magically turn me happy. it wont. if i really want to hang out with kids or babies i can just hang out with my extended family or just get an animal, i've taken care of horses before and thats well and enough for me, plus horses last mostly for like 35 years if you raise them from when they're foals n all, and if you just cant do it anymore you can sell it or let someone else take care of it. ANYWAYS, great video. keep it up!
Thank you! See, and I live in NC, so I know what it entails to take care of horses and livestock. That’s difficult enough, let alone a child that you have to talk to and really commit to. I’m just trying to remind people that when you have kids, you’re not signing up to get a pet goldfish.
I want children, but at the same time, I dont. I want children to continue the family name and that I think I'll make a great dad like my dad was to us. The reason I dont want kids is because this world is messed up, and I dont want to bring a kid in this world if I dont have nothing to offer him/her. To each their own I guess. You do you brother!
The reason for me to not have children (or atleast not untill later in my life) is become I’m a career guy. I totally get the appeal of having a child but I already have a goal in life and I can’t let anything get in the way towards my dreams or else my life wouldn’t be complete. That’s my reason.
I relate to everything you said about this video. Being on the autism spectrum, incessant loud noises from children drive me nuts (especially when the parents are ignoring it). Hell, even adults drive me nuts as well. The "you'll change your mind one day" or the "you were a kid once" as well as the "who's going to take of you when you're old" responses are among the most annoying things you can say to childless and/or childfree people. I don't like or trust people in general, so I'd prefer to have an animal companion instead. I'd love to have snakes or turtles or geckos as pets because they won't abuse my senses, won't require much from me to take care of them, and will give me plenty of personal space whenever I need it.
My great uncle is in his early 90s, he lives alone and takes care of himself greatly and he doesn't want to go to ANY old person's home and he is doing great.
Just turned 24 in February and got the same thing done. I do well for myself but I'd rather not the financial dent, and I don't think I'd forgive myself for bringing a child into a world so perpetually fucked up and volatile. That being said, if I ever decide I'd want a child (unlikely, but who knows) I reckon there's foster children out there that'd appreciate a parent.
This is an ideology I’ve agreed with ever since I realized nobody was ever going to actually force me to get married and have kids. The thought of giving birth is genuinely horrifying to me. I haven’t had any surgeries since I’m female (wayyy more invasive for us lol) and gay anyways, but regardless it’s always cool to see people talk about this stuff. Completely agree with everything that was said in this video, and I heavily dislike the notion that wanting to improve your own quality of life is selfish at all.
Even as the last to arrive in my somewhat large family (like, I probably wasn't necessary for anyone's fulfillment) I have seen to it I don't have offspring; it's a selfish act, it's more burden on the environment, another consumer, and it's expensive. You're free to travel, take on creative projects, do what you desire etcetera when you're free of having to dedicate huge amounts of energy and resources over years and years to someone else or multiple elses. Kudos to you and anyone bringing this subject out. People should explain why they need or want to have children - it's a miserable, crowded and polluted place too!
Right?? Yeah, resources can be replaced. And I hear the arguments about “you can fit the whole population in Texas!” But human beings don’t live like that
@@Milo-it1tf honestly. Id build the wall myself and im in agreement that jd vance is a South-bashing con-man who screws both ottomans and indians. What a dumb vp pick, john fetterman would be a better spastic for the job.
My man got his vasectomy a few months ago, best decision ever for us🎉 lol children are not a easy decision at all! Not everyone is meant for parenthood and that's okay. I don't tell anyone not to have kids so no one should tell me I need to have them. Simply that. Also, glad to know you're pro-choice .❤
This video was actually very informative for me I live in North Carolina as well and I thought the same thing for years that I don’t want kids I actually didn’t know that there was no scalp away thank you for the information!
Having been a bit of a long time viewer of this channel I take a lot of solace in knowing you're childfree, as I feel the exact same way in terms of hobbies and personal livelihood. I am too hobby and career-focused to want to put my life on pause for something like bearing kids.
Thank you so much for your viewership!! Coming soon will be a video on some Black Sabbath tribute albums :) Yeah it seems more people are going in the career-oriented direction. Even though this video’s left-field for me, I just wanted to offer support and a safe place for anyone thinking of having this done. Maybe those struggling with peers on the issue.
Nice video, now I respect you even more! I would never want to have biological children due to my antinatalist and VHEMT views and would want to get sterilized but I have to still wait 10 years for it because I have to be 30 in my country to get it. I'd like to adopt children in the future though if I'm at a position where I can afford raising kids without giving up my interests that require money (basically buying and collecting stuff). But in a more realistic sense, I'll probably be childfree because finding potential partners is easier with that requirement (explaining my views would be too complicated anyways).
i’m childfree as well. i feel like i’d be too selfish to raise a tiny human, though i think babies are pretty cute when they’re not screaming lol. if anything, i’d adopt a teen instead as they’re often overlooked due to so many young children being in the foster care system or orphanages.
I have schizophrenia now. Now I have to think twice about having kids. I wouldn't have this burden put on anyone since it's heritary. You make some pretty good points.
I'm glad to find out that we have the same lookout on things here. My family has brought up the same stupid ass argument "you were a kid once" it's like WOW no shit! Anyways, I appreciate this video and respect your choices and opinions. Also don't let the hate comments or people saying "L take" in this comment section get to you man. Grind on dude.
Good for you! I couldn't stand kids when I was a child, either. I'm not even cut out to be a babysitter. My brother found that out when his daughters were little. But, he deserved to know the deal. I HATED being a kid. Many medical issues, constantly being picked on in school, domestic violence from my scumbag father. Yeah, it goes without saying that my life got far better once I graduated from high school. The ONLY thing that me through my formative years was music. Without that, I would have been dead before I got out of grade school. Yeah, I am and have been way too screwed up to have a small person depending on me for anything at all. No child needs that.
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Indeed, I did. The one silver lining to that was this. I don't get trapped in the same things I see other people say: "I miss the good old days. Life was so much better." I have NEVER thought or said it and I never will. BUT, I always look back on music related things from that time and smile. THAT was the only time I was happy. In my bedroom with my stereo and, later, my guitar. Thanks to Bill Steer on that one. The early 90s SUCKED in most ways. But, musically, it was so amazing.
It’s 2024, but still often our social norms say get married have kids or something is wrong with you. Theirs too many people bringing kids in the world who aren’t ready mentally or financially and fail and the child is who deals with the problems in their lives..it’s much better to know who you are and make a thoughtful decision to or not to have kids.
Being a parent isn't that bad, my kids are pretty cool. My oldest son and my one stepdaughter loves metal and i love sharing my passion for it with them and my oldest is a comic and anime fan and thats cool because I am too. My youngest is funny and full of life and a good kid. My gf n i make time for us as well while raising some awesome kids. We still have tons of fun and we both have gotten stronger as people too. I know kids aren't for everyone but i wouldn't trade mine for anything in this world
No one I mean no one should feel fucking ashamed for getting a vasectomy or Salpingectomy at all! It is so bs people trying make them feel should they feel regret or shaming afterwards or before
I agree with everything except the “why would i bring them into this horrible world” argument. You like your life right? Just because the world isnt the best right now doesnt mean you cant have a good life and that we should just give up on it. I also believe that when nobody wants to have kids anymore it simply makes the world worse in different ways like the economy. Overall people just need to try to have a more optimistic outlook on life.
To me it’s just being realistic. I’m a happy person, but I gotta think about the future. Lots of climate issues, lots of wealth disparity and unemployment/housing issues. Half the country lives paycheck to paycheck, I think a lot’s gonna have to happen before thay changes
I feel kinda the same about having kids, though I'm still on the fence in a way. I have some mental problems that for one, I don't really fel like passing on, and two, I feel they wouild make me feel as though I'm not good enough as a parent, plus I don't do very good under stress, and having a kid would be 24/7 stress, I'm good thanks. I nneed less stress in life, not more. I'm fine being an uncle.
I loved this video, man! Yeah, I want to get my vasectomy soon. I love my hobbies too much, like gaming and music, to sacrifice it for 18 years. Plus, it's a responsibility that I would rather not have for me personally. Having kids when you don't want to sounds selfish.
I am 28 and I want a vasectomy but I was told I have to have kids first. I told them that if I do get married I am getting one and it's not getting reversed. I cannot stand kids and know that I shouldn't have any,.
I’ve been thinking about getting a Vasectomy but some of the side effects terrify me as does the pain and the idea of a doctor fondling my balls kinda makes me uncomfortable. Glad you brave enough to get it done🤘
Around 7:45 you stray a little towards eugenics suggesting people with the possibility of passing on a medical condition to their kids shouldn't have kids. I volunteer at a summer camp for kids with muscular dystrophy. Those kids don't have an easy life but I've never seen kids so present, in the moment and appreciative of everything. I never get the impression they regret life. You should volunteer at a camp next summer. You can do it, it's not like you don't travel regularly. Every additional volunteer means one more kid gets to go to camp. Make a video about it to encourage others. Rock on!
That’s a noble thing you do. All I’m saying is if you’re suffering a LOT, why pass that on? I was talking to someone recently who has Crohn’s disease, her husband also has Crohn’s. They have kids, and the kids are already having a lot of problems. This couple, mind you, spend months in the hospital sometimes, lost all their teeth, have to walk with canes… I just feel like having kids with that kind of problem is just setting them up for needless, you know what I mean?
There is absolutely nothing similar between eugenics, which was a process that involved various governments forcing people to be sterilized for a variety of reasons, not all of which had anything to do with people’s health (it was often about skin color, or being too short, etc), and people actively deciding and discussing whether they want to pass on whatever they feel would be a negative trait to pass on.
Personally, I like the idea of being a Dad whether it’s to biological or adopted children doesn’t really bother me but the fact people are gonna get mad at you for not wanting kids that’s just hilarious because you’re better off not having kids then a kid you don’t want like it’s basic math lol
Speaking of kids when you live in Japan when men start to learn how to be professional to your job they dont find time for relationships but they decide when they turn 40 sometimes. You need to make your decision as wise as possible cause nobody wants to make famliy with full of pressure and force. The force for your family goals you have to do it on your own instead commended by others. They keep asking when i will marry is like they want to upgrade their fantasy world in my opinion to see me with kids and wife that i dont have one and know one. I hate people telling me what to do
Word for word sentence for sentence I agree with you 1000% I'm a 19 year old guy that doesn't want kids under any circumstance and just want to be with my partner till the day I die nothing wrong with that in my opinion. And planning on getting the snip when I'm 20 . Amazing video btw kill bot
Thank you for this! People need to fucking think more dude. I am about to be 39 and no kids but just a gf and two cats lol. People are fucking selfish and irresponsible as fuck. Yeah this world is awful to bring a child into.
Thank you for not being one of the closed-minded commenters that don’t understand what a vasectomy is and wanna judge my decisions :) Hey, gotta love the kitties! I like cats more than people at this point, haha! If its something you wanna look into, it’s really quite a simple operation and recovery. Op itself took 20 minutes maybe
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack You're welcome and thank you! I feel exactly the same way and people need to fuck off and mind their business! Oh me too and yeah I have been thinking about it for a long time but just scared with the procedure. good ol fucking anxiety man. Yeah I do too and why I decided to go vegetarian because I would never kill an animal so why I am I allowed to consume them. Thanks for all the uploads and glad I found your channel! (Thanks Agalloch haha)
Huh, in Finland (my home country) you can’t get a vasectomy until you’re 30, unless you have at least three children before the age of 30. I don’t think that I’ll do a vasectomy even though I don’t want children. And gotta say that I can’t but just admire that bottle of hot sauce behind you😁
also children make you age faster. yes, children are annoying. I can't stand to hear them cry, it's just as bad as listening to an angle grinder cutting metal. and I'm not willing to take the huge responsibility to raise them.
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack that's awesome man. I just know for myself, having kids was the greatest thing that I ever did. And as I get older, the more I see that.
Couldn'tve said it bettrr myself. Never cared to have kids, no time, don't like 'em too much, and hrt chemically castrated me and I'm in a relationship with another trans woman, lol. Rock on dude.🤘
Bruh,i was raised by a single mothee since that asshole of my father left us and she had to cancel her life in order to raise us,when i was little i evem felt guilty thinking it was my fault. That's why i'm pretty sure i'll never have kids,you have to cancel parts of urself,some want to,some of us don't and it should be ok.
Hello, maniacs!! So I realize this isn’t a typical Killbot video. Not exactly the subject matter I usually discuss. However, with years of perspective and with everything going on in the United States concerning reproductive rights, I thought maybe this would resonate with people in more ways than one. Maybe it could offer comfort to those thinking of having this done themselves. Also, men typically don’t talk about this type of stuff, so I want to be the antithesis to that and offer a supportive place to do so. Don’t worry, music stuff will be coming up after this. Thank you for watching!!
It’s ok to talk about something else because then it isn’t just the same thing all the time but music is always fun so it never gets boring but you get my point
I like this post and video team no kids myself it's not for me hmm I might get a vasectomy myself anyway good content.
Thank you for this video I am 18 and considering getting the snip due to multiple scares I’ve had previous and realized if I want the peace of mine getting the snip is the way to go for me this video is easing me more into getting the surgery done soon!
Ayyyy you don't gotta pull out now
Well, I can confidently say I wasn’t expecting this video.
Definitely not on my bingo card for 2024
Nobody was. But, with everything going on in the country right now, I figured maybe this will resonate with some people in more ways than one
Me too man to be honest
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack You're a real one. 🤘
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack ahh my favorite topic vasectomy
I can completely relate. I remember being told at a very young age “You’ll have kids someday”, and thinking “Why? Does every person have to?” That never changed. I’ve never, ever had any desire to reproduce. I was an only child, I’m the end of my bloodline, so what? I care very much about children, but I just don’t really like them and can’t force myself to. I’ve always taken precautions, and at this point I’m at the age that my fertility is probably dropping off (though I take pretty good care of my health so my… um… other functions are alive and well, not trying to go TMI), but I still want a vasectomy to make sure there is no risk at all.
Better to be safe than sorry
Good topic. I will say something about it from my perspective as a parent. I am 40 years old and have 2 small children, a 5-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. When I was a teenager, I had many hobbies: computer games, music (listening and composing), collecting audio CDs, books, writing novels and short stories and many others.
When my then longtime ex-girlfriend asked me to have a baby, I freaked out and backed out. With this decision, I lost a long-term relationship, but I was able to continue doing what I love. My hobbies.
And it was the right decision because she wasn't the one.
In addition, I fully focused on work and hobbies, created my RUclips channel and met my wife, with whom I have two children. This time the children did not come forced, but naturally. I knew my wife was the one. And maybe it also helped that I had children until I was 35 years old and dedicated my youth to my hobbies. Even now, I still do most of my hobbies, as well as the RUclips channel, but with the children there is not so much time for that. But still, every second with children is priceless. It's about making the right compromises in life.
Nevertheless, I am now thinking about a vasectomy so that my wife does not use birth control unnecessarily.
I told my parents that there's a very strong chance that I'll end up not having kids and they were totally fine with it. "We're retired educators and we've seen what little shits are out there. Having grandkids is the last thing on our minds."
Good!!
I'm at the 4:20 mark and you hit it right on the nail, my mom constantly talks about how she wishes me and my sibling were young because she feels like she has no purpose besides raising us, I fucking hate this because I think about when I was young and I remember being suicidal and not understanding why that was a problem as well as just shitty things happened. Another one of her reasons is that 'you guys were so cute' which kinda sucks because I already have no self esteem and constantly being reminded that I use to be so much cuter doesn't help in the slightest.
There’s periods in my life where I wouldn’t mind having an offspring, then I walk into a Walmart or Winco.
Hahaha!!
Going to Walmart on the weekend is the most effective form of birth control.
Going to Walmart on the weekend is the most effective form of birth control.
I'm 13, luckily, I was born into a family who wanted (as far as i know) wanted children. I am also very lucky to be a child of very kind parents, who raise me how I think parents should, the main rule? respect people. as far as I know for my future, I have no clue. all I know is I defiently wanna be in a band sometime.
"when you have children", who the hell can tell you "when"? It's your life, your decision.
random i know but its awesome to see so many killbot videos in a week! thank you! :)
Thanks for your insight!
im 14 you seem fucking awesome man
Personally even if I wanted kids I would adopt. Why bring another life into the world when you could improve another one. I feel like a lot of reasons people don't adopt is selfishness and the narcissism of wanting to see them selves in their kid rather than seeing their kids as their own person
Plenty of kids in the foster care system who are perfectly healthy
Because the moment you have kids your biochemistry change. If you never have biological children you will never fully experience life.
I don't want to go into details, but in case of a man your testosterone level drops to some degree, and your reflexes can go into the superhuman range when it comes to protecting your children. I once saw it with my own eyes a father moving like 8 meters in a second punching a tile away from the head of his son that could have end him. You will also start to become more of a protector who looks out for other kids as well.
Unless the parent is mentally ill like someone whith narcissitic personality disorder, having your own kids changes you for the better and it will motivate you to improve so you can provide for your kids.
Obviously alcohol, drugs and mental illneses would interfere with this, but healthy men do change after they have a biological kid.
The world needs more humans, there will be a huge population collapse soon dou to a fool spreading the misinformation that the planet cannot take more humans which was debunked a long time ago.
Maybe it’s different in US, here in Serbia ofc i would adopt if I can’t have my own, but if i can have my own blood im gonna have it
Thats also narcissistic, having a savior complex about the kid youre adopting or stepfather/mothering.
The foster/adoption system is very bad. Most foster families try to foster/adopt for literal slave labor, or a check.
But it's also a bad system for that rare couple that legimately wants a kid to cherish and love. Foster system gives parents lots, and lots of gremlins..... 2ndly, adoption system is ridiculously long and full of stress. It quite literally takes less time for a mother to grow a baby in their stomach than adopt a kid.
Thanks for this important, but still kinda taboo topic.
I am 28, and never wanted kids. For me this decision is final. It really baffles me, how many people don't take it serious and just say stuff like "eh, just wait 2 or 3 years, this will change!"
Well they have been saying that since I was 17 or so, and guess what: it never changed.
Right?!
Whats next is he gonna confess that he has a secret Hatsune Miku closet with all of the merch
I would love that
When I was in late 20s. Whenever I went on dates when the question came up about having kids it always ended there. Thankfully I met someone who was recently divorced and doesn't want kids.
That’s good. See, one of my dating criteria is if they don’t say with 100% certainty they don’t want kids, I don’t wanna waste my time with them
I want to adopt a child because I completely agree that it's selfish to bring a child into this miserable existence, but it is selfless to make it less miserable for one that's already been brought into it
I've been asked about children since I was 13, which is ridiculous. I'm 26 now and I'm content with spoiling my niece and nephews.
You know what you want!
The line, ‚the stuff you did to me as a kid, I wouldn’t even allow it as an adult.‘ is a gem.
You go, dude! I’m also childfree and have much of the same reasoning. Have considered a hysterectomy due to this (also because of health problems). Love to see more and more people living the life they actually want to live and not just going down society’s prescribed path of becoming a parent
I got one, since my wife already had two kids and didn't want anymore, and I'm very happy for it. We've been together for 20 years now. Best decision we made as a couple. NEVER had any ill effects from the procedure and I was back on the feet the next day.
That’s amazing, man. Sounds like a happy marriage!
What least unexpected video from Killbot&GorGorAttack…what a actually great video and actually generally has some great information thank you Tony!
Thank you so much!! :) and don’t worry, next video will be about metal
I had a girl immediately end our conversation on a dating app because she saw on my profile that I selected the “not sure” option on wanting kids lol, oh well
As a general rule, I won’t date anyone unless they 100% don’t want kids. For better luck, maybe you could word it to something more definitive. Good luck! :)
I like that you're so honest like this. It's nice to know that I'm not alone on this
Glad this resonated with you
@KillbotAndGorGorAttack your channel has. The songs and bands I've learned to love simply by watching, the fact I know that I can find like minded people in the comments make me feel warm and at home.
I’m surprised you were allowed to. Where I am, doctors will tell both men and women no, and they make us wait until we’re in our 40s before getting snipped, because “we might change our minds” it’s so stupid.
I agree, they’re dumb. What’s gonna stop me from going to some other state to have it to done?
It can be reversed and if you REALLY change your mind you can have your sperm extracted by syringe and your partner can be artificially inseminated.
My friend's mom admitted het to the hospital. Her mom is extremely abusive and narcissistic, and she only acts nice around other people who believe the act. That said, her health has my friend severely stressed out and i just ask "why have a kid if you're going to be treating her like a servant and not your kid?"
After my crappy home life, I can't see myself having kids. Why do I need to have a kid to heal my inner child? I can just give myself what I never had.
My "family" is my boyfriend, me, and my hamster.
I'd rather just be a fairy godmother and be there for other people's kids. I'd rather not have kids of my own.
Hey there! :) I had a hamster when I was a kid. It bit me a lot.
I'm in a pretty weird spot, i wouldn't mind a child but i know that due to my fragile mental health and financial issues i would be a terrible parent.
Better to not be a parent than be a shitty parent.
You could also adopt. Plenty of kids in foster care who need a home
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Oh definitely. I just don't want to be a terrible parent. My parents have been an enormous pillar of support for my struggles and if I am not good enough for the child in question I would have failed as an han being, even if I have all the money in the world and the best things for the child.
Totally understand
Damn! Recent uploads are so frequent, freaking amazing. Was truly interesting to hear your story and reasons behind such decision! Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much! This was a video I was wondering if I should even put out. But since I was in the rhythm of working, and this is a subject I feel passionate about, I thought I’d just throw it at the wall
I definitely relate, I’ve always hated going out to eat and hearing kids crying in the background. Glad there’s others that feel this way.
Oh man, I took my ex to see Spiderman: No Way Home in the theater. Two kids were running up and down the aisles with their video games, laughing, giggling. Finally, I went “SHH!!” and they shut right up. But the mom gave me a death stare the rest of the movie
killbot is on a uploading streak 😹 was definitely not expecting this one though
Haha! Something I personally feel passionate about. But metal will definitely be the next video, and soon
this was a difficult subject to broach with my parents since I'm the last male of my name, and to a degree, I felt like denying the continuation of the familial lineage was an exilable act. I also once told a close friend that I believed it to be a selfish decision, but he explained that it was really the opposite. In actuality, it is more selfish to have a child when you know from the onset that your full attention and effort will at no point be made available to the child.
the politics surrounding reproductive rights are certainly digressing, especially in the american south. i think at some point I will tread this same path and get the snip.
I’m probably in the minority where I feel like the concepts of “lineage” and “family name” are taken way too seriously by a lot of people. Individually, what matters is what’ll make you happy. Don’t stop looking
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack "Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law"
I had a vasectomy when I was 25 years old in 1995 for about $400 cash. My doctor didn’t give me much crap about having it.
That’s amazing
My wife and me choose to have 1 kid at the age of 36 (we are both born in 1968) , only 1 because the world is overpopulated , you met me and my wife on our last tour in the states and you know that we are a happy couple and I can tell you our son (20) is the most amazing thing that came out of our love and I don't feel that I had to sacrifice anything for it , his childhood was an amazing time with so much new things to experience , but I understand your opinion and in a lot of situations you are wright . People really have to think about it (a few years) before putting someone new on this planet .
Absolutely. This video was just my personal musings on the subject. You all seem like happy people and I’m glad about that :)
Thank you so much for posting this. This is a subject I don’t hear talked about nearly enough and I totally agree. 👍
That’s why I posted it!
finally someone with a similar opinion on the matter. i'm a teen and its rough enough for me, i would NEVER force this upon anyone else and also i am not good with people in general. i tend to start screaming when i get angry and i am so unstable and have always been so, sometimes i tend to even get violent or have the thought of becoming violent, its not just a teenage thing i think. i'm probably neurodivergent too. plus being born with a uterus makes people think that i'll regret saying that i dont want em and that children will magically turn me happy. it wont. if i really want to hang out with kids or babies i can just hang out with my extended family or just get an animal, i've taken care of horses before and thats well and enough for me, plus horses last mostly for like 35 years if you raise them from when they're foals n all, and if you just cant do it anymore you can sell it or let someone else take care of it. ANYWAYS, great video. keep it up!
Thank you!
See, and I live in NC, so I know what it entails to take care of horses and livestock. That’s difficult enough, let alone a child that you have to talk to and really commit to. I’m just trying to remind people that when you have kids, you’re not signing up to get a pet goldfish.
63 Here and knew since I was 17 I didn't want the responsibility or expense. Snipped at 22. I like kids, just didn't see a reason to have them.
And I’m sure you’ve been able to live a cool life!
I want children, but at the same time, I dont. I want children to continue the family name and that I think I'll make a great dad like my dad was to us.
The reason I dont want kids is because this world is messed up, and I dont want to bring a kid in this world if I dont have nothing to offer him/her.
To each their own I guess. You do you brother!
Good luck with whatever you do!
Got mine at 31 ❤
Hell yeah!
The reason for me to not have children (or atleast not untill later in my life) is become I’m a career guy. I totally get the appeal of having a child but I already have a goal in life and I can’t let anything get in the way towards my dreams or else my life wouldn’t be complete. That’s my reason.
I relate to everything you said about this video. Being on the autism spectrum, incessant loud noises from children drive me nuts (especially when the parents are ignoring it). Hell, even adults drive me nuts as well. The "you'll change your mind one day" or the "you were a kid once" as well as the "who's going to take of you when you're old" responses are among the most annoying things you can say to childless and/or childfree people. I don't like or trust people in general, so I'd prefer to have an animal companion instead. I'd love to have snakes or turtles or geckos as pets because they won't abuse my senses, won't require much from me to take care of them, and will give me plenty of personal space whenever I need it.
My great uncle is in his early 90s, he lives alone and takes care of himself greatly and he doesn't want to go to ANY old person's home and he is doing great.
Just turned 24 in February and got the same thing done. I do well for myself but I'd rather not the financial dent, and I don't think I'd forgive myself for bringing a child into a world so perpetually fucked up and volatile. That being said, if I ever decide I'd want a child (unlikely, but who knows) I reckon there's foster children out there that'd appreciate a parent.
That’s good you got it done! And responsible
This is an ideology I’ve agreed with ever since I realized nobody was ever going to actually force me to get married and have kids. The thought of giving birth is genuinely horrifying to me. I haven’t had any surgeries since I’m female (wayyy more invasive for us lol) and gay anyways, but regardless it’s always cool to see people talk about this stuff. Completely agree with everything that was said in this video, and I heavily dislike the notion that wanting to improve your own quality of life is selfish at all.
Baptized in blood
Even as the last to arrive in my somewhat large family (like, I probably wasn't necessary for anyone's fulfillment) I have seen to it I don't have offspring; it's a selfish act, it's more burden on the environment, another consumer, and it's expensive. You're free to travel, take on creative projects, do what you desire etcetera when you're free of having to dedicate huge amounts of energy and resources over years and years to someone else or multiple elses. Kudos to you and anyone bringing this subject out. People should explain why they need or want to have children - it's a miserable, crowded and polluted place too!
Right?? Yeah, resources can be replaced. And I hear the arguments about “you can fit the whole population in Texas!” But human beings don’t live like that
JD Vance hates you 😂
The feeling is mutual!! Keep him away from my couch!
Any normal person hates JD Vance, I always called him jerk dick Vance
I’m pretty sure any normal person doesn’t like JD Vance, I call him jerk dick Vance
I’m pretty sure no normal person likes JD Vance
@@Milo-it1tf honestly. Id build the wall myself and im in agreement that jd vance is a South-bashing con-man who screws both ottomans and indians. What a dumb vp pick, john fetterman would be a better spastic for the job.
The good news for me is I never have to worry about kids or a vasectomy. Don't need to worry about it if you can't get girls in the first place lol.
Ha! Or you could go gay
My man got his vasectomy a few months ago, best decision ever for us🎉 lol children are not a easy decision at all! Not everyone is meant for parenthood and that's okay. I don't tell anyone not to have kids so no one should tell me I need to have them. Simply that. Also, glad to know you're pro-choice .❤
I’m sure it’s also taken a lot of stress off the both of you! It has for me.
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack definitely has! It's great lol
Yes the early years are rough but worth it.
This video was actually very informative for me I live in North Carolina as well and I thought the same thing for years that I don’t want kids I actually didn’t know that there was no scalp away thank you for the information!
I’m glad I could show you something you didn’t know!
Having been a bit of a long time viewer of this channel I take a lot of solace in knowing you're childfree, as I feel the exact same way in terms of hobbies and personal livelihood. I am too hobby and career-focused to want to put my life on pause for something like bearing kids.
Thank you so much for your viewership!! Coming soon will be a video on some Black Sabbath tribute albums :)
Yeah it seems more people are going in the career-oriented direction. Even though this video’s left-field for me, I just wanted to offer support and a safe place for anyone thinking of having this done. Maybe those struggling with peers on the issue.
Most underrated youtube channel
Thank you!! Be sure to tune in for my upcoming video on Black Sabbath tribute albums!
@KillbotAndGorGorAttack of course. Can't wait. I've been watching your videos like everyday Lol.
Nice video, now I respect you even more!
I would never want to have biological children due to my antinatalist and VHEMT views and would want to get sterilized but I have to still wait 10 years for it because I have to be 30 in my country to get it. I'd like to adopt children in the future though if I'm at a position where I can afford raising kids without giving up my interests that require money (basically buying and collecting stuff). But in a more realistic sense, I'll probably be childfree because finding potential partners is easier with that requirement (explaining my views would be too complicated anyways).
What country are you from?
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Finland
i’m childfree as well. i feel like i’d be too selfish to raise a tiny human, though i think babies are pretty cute when they’re not screaming lol. if anything, i’d adopt a teen instead as they’re often overlooked due to so many young children being in the foster care system or orphanages.
Killbot took the materialistic pill
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No, he wont ever impose the harms of coming into existence on another person good thing
Pull out. Worked 50 years for me. No kids.
I have schizophrenia now. Now I have to think twice about having kids. I wouldn't have this burden put on anyone since it's heritary. You make some pretty good points.
You could always adopt if you wanted :)
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack I'll think about that. Thank you.
I'm glad to find out that we have the same lookout on things here. My family has brought up the same stupid ass argument "you were a kid once" it's like WOW no shit! Anyways, I appreciate this video and respect your choices and opinions. Also don't let the hate comments or people saying "L take" in this comment section get to you man. Grind on dude.
Why thank you
You got a what I don’t like kids either
I agree with you
Haha thank you
Good for you! I couldn't stand kids when I was a child, either. I'm not even cut out to be a babysitter. My brother found that out when his daughters were little. But, he deserved to know the deal.
I HATED being a kid. Many medical issues, constantly being picked on in school, domestic violence from my scumbag father. Yeah, it goes without saying that my life got far better once I graduated from high school. The ONLY thing that me through my formative years was music. Without that, I would have been dead before I got out of grade school.
Yeah, I am and have been way too screwed up to have a small person depending on me for anything at all. No child needs that.
Sorry your childhood sucked. But hey, you made it!
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Indeed, I did. The one silver lining to that was this. I don't get trapped in the same things I see other people say: "I miss the good old days. Life was so much better." I have NEVER thought or said it and I never will. BUT, I always look back on music related things from that time and smile. THAT was the only time I was happy. In my bedroom with my stereo and, later, my guitar. Thanks to Bill Steer on that one. The early 90s SUCKED in most ways. But, musically, it was so amazing.
It’s 2024, but still often our social norms say get married have kids or something is wrong with you. Theirs too many people bringing kids in the world who aren’t ready mentally or financially and fail and the child is who deals with the problems in their lives..it’s much better to know who you are and make a thoughtful decision to or not to have kids.
Being a parent isn't that bad, my kids are pretty cool. My oldest son and my one stepdaughter loves metal and i love sharing my passion for it with them and my oldest is a comic and anime fan and thats cool because I am too. My youngest is funny and full of life and a good kid. My gf n i make time for us as well while raising some awesome kids. We still have tons of fun and we both have gotten stronger as people too. I know kids aren't for everyone but i wouldn't trade mine for anything in this world
Glad to hear it!
No one I mean no one should feel fucking ashamed for getting a vasectomy or Salpingectomy at all! It is so bs people trying make them feel should they feel regret or shaming afterwards or before
I agree, that’s why I posted this
that was a wild ass thumbnail Killbot
Gotta have humor
Respect to you dude
Gracias!
Woah he didn’t say “Grind on” at the end 😮
I agree with everything except the “why would i bring them into this horrible world” argument. You like your life right? Just because the world isnt the best right now doesnt mean you cant have a good life and that we should just give up on it. I also believe that when nobody wants to have kids anymore it simply makes the world worse in different ways like the economy. Overall people just need to try to have a more optimistic outlook on life.
To me it’s just being realistic. I’m a happy person, but I gotta think about the future. Lots of climate issues, lots of wealth disparity and unemployment/housing issues. Half the country lives paycheck to paycheck, I think a lot’s gonna have to happen before thay changes
I feel kinda the same about having kids, though I'm still on the fence in a way. I have some mental problems that for one, I don't really fel like passing on, and two, I feel they wouild make me feel as though I'm not good enough as a parent, plus I don't do very good under stress, and having a kid would be 24/7 stress, I'm good thanks. I nneed less stress in life, not more. I'm fine being an uncle.
You know where your priorities are. That’s good
I completely understand 👍 edit: worrysome in the sense that this is the intelligent choice. It appears most new parents i see didnt think much at all
Groovy
I do not want to have kids either
Gnarly
My kids have paws 🐾
I loved this video, man! Yeah, I want to get my vasectomy soon. I love my hobbies too much, like gaming and music, to sacrifice it for 18 years. Plus, it's a responsibility that I would rather not have for me personally. Having kids when you don't want to sounds selfish.
It’s no sweat if you do as the doctor says. Good luck!
Very important topic and video! Hopefully more men will be encouraged 💪
Thank you
I got mine back in 2016 and I don't regret it!
Right?!
Fair play, different strokes for different folks.
Indeed
I am 28 and I want a vasectomy but I was told I have to have kids first. I told them that if I do get married I am getting one and it's not getting reversed. I cannot stand kids and know that I shouldn't have any,.
Look at that CF-friendly doctors list on reddit that I show in the video. Someone somewhere will give you one
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack I found one about 30 minutes north of where I live so I will look into it.
I’ve been thinking about getting a Vasectomy but some of the side effects terrify me as does the pain and the idea of a doctor fondling my balls kinda makes me uncomfortable. Glad you brave enough to get it done🤘
Haha! It’s not a big thing, you’ll do fine if you go through. Come back and tell us how it went if you do
Around 7:45 you stray a little towards eugenics suggesting people with the possibility of passing on a medical condition to their kids shouldn't have kids. I volunteer at a summer camp for kids with muscular dystrophy. Those kids don't have an easy life but I've never seen kids so present, in the moment and appreciative of everything. I never get the impression they regret life. You should volunteer at a camp next summer. You can do it, it's not like you don't travel regularly. Every additional volunteer means one more kid gets to go to camp. Make a video about it to encourage others. Rock on!
That’s a noble thing you do. All I’m saying is if you’re suffering a LOT, why pass that on? I was talking to someone recently who has Crohn’s disease, her husband also has Crohn’s. They have kids, and the kids are already having a lot of problems. This couple, mind you, spend months in the hospital sometimes, lost all their teeth, have to walk with canes… I just feel like having kids with that kind of problem is just setting them up for needless, you know what I mean?
There is absolutely nothing similar between eugenics, which was a process that involved various governments forcing people to be sterilized for a variety of reasons, not all of which had anything to do with people’s health (it was often about skin color, or being too short, etc), and people actively deciding and discussing whether they want to pass on whatever they feel would be a negative trait to pass on.
I wouldn't say you're life goes on hold for 18 years more like 15-16 but I understand the point
I’d wager even longer than 18, the number of kids leaving home later is growing with the economy in shambles
Bro is cooked 💀💀💀
Nah, totally sober!
Personally, I like the idea of being a Dad whether it’s to biological or adopted children doesn’t really bother me but the fact people are gonna get mad at you for not wanting kids that’s just hilarious because you’re better off not having kids then a kid you don’t want like it’s basic math lol
Hey good luck to you on that! :)
Did not expect this video you but nonetheless it’s a killbot video and i know you’ll make it interesting😂
Hopefully you find it so. Musical videos coming next
"Who's gonna take care of you when you get older" the worms!! 😂
You're absolutely correct I agree with you I feel the same way
Speaking of kids when you live in Japan when men start to learn how to be professional to your job they dont find time for relationships but they decide when they turn 40 sometimes. You need to make your decision as wise as possible cause nobody wants to make famliy with full of pressure and force. The force for your family goals you have to do it on your own instead commended by others. They keep asking when i will marry is like they want to upgrade their fantasy world in my opinion to see me with kids and wife that i dont have one and know one. I hate people telling me what to do
I snipped ping and pong in my early 30s!
Excellent! Worth it
Damn I thought I was weird, you live you learn🤘😂 anyone ever tell you you like a bit like a young Dave Ellefson ✌️😁🎸
Well that notification was unexpected
Glad you clicked anyway!
Video full of valid points. I'm wondering why you didn't wait until 30 when you're sexually active?
You’re awesome tony
Gracias!
Word for word sentence for sentence I agree with you 1000% I'm a 19 year old guy that doesn't want kids under any circumstance and just want to be with my partner till the day I die nothing wrong with that in my opinion. And planning on getting the snip when I'm 20 . Amazing video btw kill bot
Thank you for this! People need to fucking think more dude. I am about to be 39 and no kids but just a gf and two cats lol. People are fucking selfish and irresponsible as fuck. Yeah this world is awful to bring a child into.
Thank you for not being one of the closed-minded commenters that don’t understand what a vasectomy is and wanna judge my decisions :)
Hey, gotta love the kitties! I like cats more than people at this point, haha! If its something you wanna look into, it’s really quite a simple operation and recovery. Op itself took 20 minutes maybe
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack You're welcome and thank you! I feel exactly the same way and people need to fuck off and mind their business! Oh me too and yeah I have been thinking about it for a long time but just scared with the procedure. good ol fucking anxiety man. Yeah I do too and why I decided to go vegetarian because I would never kill an animal so why I am I allowed to consume them. Thanks for all the uploads and glad I found your channel! (Thanks Agalloch haha)
One of my favorite videos I’ve done
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack I still go back and watch it time to time lol. Oh did you hear the new Opeth single!? I love it!
Not yet
Huh, in Finland (my home country) you can’t get a vasectomy until you’re 30, unless you have at least three children before the age of 30. I don’t think that I’ll do a vasectomy even though I don’t want children. And gotta say that I can’t but just admire that bottle of hot sauce behind you😁
"Dovg Stanheip - Deadbeat Hero"
Isn't fair to the Offspring?! What isn't fair is that the Offspring still exist............wait. What are we talking about?
I don't really dislike children but I just don't want to be responsible for one. And i've heard enough horror stories about childbirth
I wanted to get one when I was 24... but I started transitioning from Male to Female at 26 so yeah lol
That works, too! Haha! :)
also children make you age faster. yes, children are annoying. I can't stand to hear them cry, it's just as bad as listening to an angle grinder cutting metal. and I'm not willing to take the huge responsibility to raise them.
Oh you better believe it, lack of sleep and all that stress
Getting the snip soon. This video made me feel validated.
A good time to get one, too!
@KillbotAndGorGorAttack in light of recent events very much so
You'll never have a offspring you can teach to love metal. Oh well, to each there own
I like teaching metal to kids in record stores
@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack that's awesome man. I just know for myself, having kids was the greatest thing that I ever did. And as I get older, the more I see that.
"14:22...nan aw their god damn bvsiness, their not tha 'doctors'."
Dude, why are you typing like that?
Couldn'tve said it bettrr myself. Never cared to have kids, no time, don't like 'em too much, and hrt chemically castrated me and I'm in a relationship with another trans woman, lol. Rock on dude.🤘
May you two live happily! :)
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Bruh,i was raised by a single mothee since that asshole of my father left us and she had to cancel her life in order to raise us,when i was little i evem felt guilty thinking it was my fault. That's why i'm pretty sure i'll never have kids,you have to cancel parts of urself,some want to,some of us don't and it should be ok.
Ugh, I hear ya. I’ve met people who’ve had to raise their siblings because a parent ran out on them. That was enough child raising for them
I'm afraid to ask what the next topic will be
Probably the Black Sabbath tribute albums