If there's one thing I've learned over the years, it is to get out of your own head. You have a beautiful soul and need to give yourself a break from too many thoughts about letting others down. Life will give you joy and pain and over thinking it only makes it much harder. Embrace the bad along with the good. A hard thing to do but gives you understanding. You are so much like my granddaughter who is of the same biological makeup. You are warm, loving, talented, gifts not all receive. Your videos are a blessing to many. Take care.
I love the band KISS name, when they started out many years ago they had issues coming up with a name they ended up with Keep It Simple Stupid, that is a good way to be with living life the simpler the better less worries lol
Something i've heard a lot since developing a chronic illness and has resonated with me is that if you don't take the time out yourself, you'll be forced to take time out when you're body can no longer handle the burdens you place upon it. It has taken me time to learn how to rest, both physically and emotionally, it takes time and sometimes its a luxury we can't afford but then so is illness. Nature and faith are truly the best healers i've found, and accepting myself for who i am and where i am in my life.
I deal with chronic illness as well, and find this is so true!! I get bad flare ups when I don't take the time to be mindful of my energy on a regular basis.
My 9 year old daughter watches your videos with me every week and she wants to share this advice with you about finding peace: 1. Be in nature because being in quiet nature calms down. 2. Be with pets and family because it makes you feel good. 3. Do something you like because it distracts the mind from stress. (Wise kid 😃)
I live in a country where a war is going on, and it’s very difficult to find any corner of peace. Your videos, your channel have become that corner of peace and quiet for me. Thank you for this.
I'm so sorry to hear you are in a war zone Maryam. Gosh that must be so hard. I'm in Australia and we've just had so many floods. I'm saying a little prayer for you Maryam. Sending Love from Australia.
I wrote your comment down in my journal. I felt immediate peace after asking myself that question, and I hope it will always help when I’m feeling anxious. Thank you 🧡
Oh, my dear one, I’m 75 years old, and have suffered from general anxiety disorder my entire life. You are handling this well; getting out in nature, getting in touch with your body through the breath. These are the things that have kept me in the present moment, which is really all we have. May you be well, may you be peaceful, and at ease.
This is my little story. I was about to scrub my very first liver transplant. It is a difficult surgery with a high mortality rate and as you could imagine I was feeling the weight of performing my best at my job. To play my part in ensuring that this person survived this operation, even though my part was small compared to the attending or anesthesia. I had already worked a full shift and was exhausted. But this was my time to learn and liver transplants are not scheduled ahead of time. I was sitting in the staff lounge. It was 1am and I saw through the lounge window, the patient being wheeled to the room. And I was hyperventilating at what I was about to undertake. So I drank a cup of water and took a deep breath in. Held it for about two seconds and slowly exhaled. I did this several times and I cannot tell you all how much calmer I felt. I breathed like that all the way down the hall thinking about how nervous the patient must be. It wasn’t about me after all. And I kept breathing in and slowly out. It told myself, you’ve scrubbed in on so many surgeries already (this was in the beginning of my career), and the charge nurse wouldn’t let me scrub this if she thought I couldn’t. And I breathed as I put on my mask. I breathed in and slowly out as I scrubbed my arms. I gowned and gloved myself like always…I helped drape the patient like always, set up suction lines, light handles and it hit me. I knew exactly what I was doing. I had done ALL of this before. And I was freaking myself out over one portion of the procedure that I’d not yet done. Everything else was the same. Everything else I knew like the back of my hand. Everything else I could do blindfolded. That lesson has stayed with me all these years later. The process (no matter which process it may be) is always the same. Fear and trepidation will always surround the unknown to some extent. So breathe deeply and look for the parts of the process that you DO know. In those is where you will find the confidence and peace to make the next step. ✨
I know that feeling so well. This week I was going to assist in a surgery that I had never seen before. I had seen countless videos and read theory and prepared myself. But at the last moment I was nervous. Because I was going to be the first assistant to surgeon I had to be quick and confident. Breathing slowly and becoming aware of myself helped. Also prayed silently before entering operating room. The surgery went for 9 hours and the patient is doing fine now. But the anxiety was real. Almost made me throw up.
Thank you so much for posting this story. I've often wondered how surgeons feel before they perform surgery and it's good to know that they too have some fear about what they are about to do. That they do see the patients as someone's loved one and that they want to make sure they do their best. It is very reassuring to us to know that. Thank you for sharing.
@@tarannumafreen6320 Wow, I've had several surgeries in my lifetime and never realized or thought the medical staff also feel nervous before surgeries. Thank You all for your wonderful service to mankind. Many Blessings :)
I will be back the week after next ❤️ I will be taking some time to re-center while continuing my little Etsy shop (I will be available for anyone who needs to reach me related to that) - thank you so so much 🌸 A while ago I compiled an hour long video of all my favorite music I’ve used on this channel, so I will share that next week as a small thank you for your understanding of taking a little time to ground myself in the midst of so much change 🙏 www.etsy.com/shop/thecottagefairyart Thank you for your words of wisdom!
Thank you Paola I’m excited to hear the beautiful songs. The music in today’s video was so beautiful that I was going to ask what the song was…and I’m going through some intense anxiety and migraines lately and so needed this video. Reading the comments is so helpful as well. Love this community so much! Sending love from your neighbour to the North.
It is interesting that even as a bystander and watcher of your videos, I feel a sense of loss of your adorable little cottage with all it's windows and light, decor. I am not so good with change, particularly if I feel like it is a step down instead of a step up. I try to remember the Buddhist wisdom of the impermanence of life. It is the number one inescapable, and essentially painful, fact of life. Nothing lasts so should not be grasped or held onto. When we do, we suffer.
Hi Paola , I hope you read my message, I have been watching your channel for awhile now and just like you am an artistic and creative person. But I suffered from childhood trauma which affected my life with anxiety and depression, but I managed to get it all under control with therapy. I am now a wife and mother, but now and again I still suffer emotionally and I use gardening and nature as my therapy. It's great for my soul, and very in tune with nature when I go out, the sounds and textures give me calmness in my life. I found you because you where, what I was looking for, someone who understands what nature does to the mind. You touch those aspects of life that are not part of this world but still in the world. You have really inspired me and helped me find peace and healing. I hope you find rest and peace in your mind, love yourself and take care good of yourself. Keep doing what you are doing, ❤️❤️❤️
I am almost 64 years old and something I’ve learned over the years is that with change you go through a sort of mourning period. You think about what was and what might have been a lot . I have been through a huge change myself this past year. My husband lost his job because owner sold the farm he managed and his son would now be the farm manager. Along with losing his job we lost the house that was included in the job. So we moved into his brothers run down camper and had to get rid of most of our furniture and store what we managed to keep which wasn’t much. I am disabled due to multiple spinal surgeries but I ended up going back to work part time in order to purchase a shed home which I put behind my youngest sons home. It hasn’t been easy but it is something I don’t have a choice about. I wake up worrying about everything and can’t go back to sleep and that’s especially not good during week because I have to get up at 330 am in order to get to work by 6. I get up early to have a little time to myself and I also make time for myself before bedtime. Change is hard but it gets easier
Oh Leslie, that God be with you at such a trying difficult time. I know God will put something in front of you that you would not have experienced at the farm because God works mysterious ways! Hang in there!
I’m in the middle of exam season at my university, so making time to take care of myself is a challenge right now. One thing I do that rejuvenates me is hugging trees actually, and since you live in a forest now, I thought this was worth sharing! Trees have so much wisdom and compassion, and hugging them for even just a minute and letting yourself connect with them is always so helpful to me. Trees have often been here far longer than we have and have lived through so much, yet are still standing and providing for both themselves and giving shelter and air and nutrients to those around them. I like to picture them taking all of my anxiety away through their roots. They’re pretty great!
Payton, I have to admit that I have spontaneously hugged a very bushy tree once or twice in my life! They are marvelous creations. I do take photos of trees because like humans they are unique, and I think most people take trees and the beauty of nature for granted. So now that is how I honor trees and nature, by taking photos and when I am stuck in a building someplace waiting in a never-ending line, I pull out my phone and just enjoy!😃
I have been wanting to read this book titled “The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse” because I heard a quote that I think is very wise, it is a dialogue between the Boy and the Horse - “I can’t see a way through”, said the Boy. “Can you see your next step?” “Yes”. “Just take that”, said the horse. We can focus only the next small step, try not to look far ahead at the finish line. ~Much love and thank you for opening this up for everyone to share. ❤️
I remember before I moved to China, I was a bit nervous. I prayed. I felt God impress me, "Just put one foot on the plane and I will take care of the rest." I did. He did.
Yes! This is such a beautiful book, it made me cry. Every page is filled with beautiful art, and every word is so simple, and yet it’s meaning is so clarifying. It was an incredibly peaceful experience to read it.
Hi Paola, the advice I was given a few years ago is ..... take one day at a time. Yesterday has gone, tomorrow may not be, so take pleasure in the day you are living and count your blessings. Xxx
True story! My life changed dramatically when I began to truly LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Yesterday is over and tomorrow hasn't happened yet. Live each breath as it comes. The very next moment isn't promised to us...so live in the NOW. You got this, Earth Angel 😇💕✌ !
Advice I wish I'd known at your age: let go of things you can't control. Stop thinking too much by being in the present moment (focus on your breath, or the beautiful nature where you're living). The autonomic nervous system drives our thoughts, so listen to your body before your mind. In other words, you're on the right path! Congratulations on your new home. ❤️
Something that really helped me was to know, even though spring is so beautiful and a relief after long dark winters, the energy rising can be quite harsh and exhausting. It has an effect on a cellular level, so don't fight it. You may feel the need to burst with that new spring energy but if it hurts to do that, step back, do the basics that are needed for now. Let the seasons shift and settle and then you might also start to feel settled and clear minded again. If you have bursts of ideas and plans, write them down and come back to them when you feel ready. Seasonal shifts can be hard on the body, don't bother fighting it, we are not above nature. Things will flow more easily again. Breathe and know this will pass 🙏
Thank you for this. I know that the changing seasons in the fall is really hard, with the days getting shorter, but it was good to be reminded that there can be a similar stress even as spring is coming.
Today was a rough day for me. I was sad as I was going to pick up groceries. I stopped by the mail box to pick up my mail on the way and a package of fairy prints from the cottage fairy was in my mail. It gave me such a lift and a smile to receive my order. I plan to frame them for my little granddaughter's bedroom. I love your videos so very much. The music, the scenery, Aiger, Mr. Darcey, the plants, the cooking and crafts. All of it is so mesmerizing to me as I unwind at the end of the day. Thank you so much for listening to your own heart. You have brought so much joy and comfort to mine!
I got married two years ago (mid pandemic!) after more than 20 years of living alone, and moved to a totally different area shortly after, so I can sympathise with the upheaval and stress you are going through. Be gentle with yourself, and remember that this is a time of great physical, mental and emotional stress, so you need to allow for that, maybe by reducing some of your daily activities (like skipping on making a video, or making a shorter one, as you are doing). Saying goodbye to your single life is a kind of grieving. You can be sad to let go of that old life while still being excited for the new one. Two years on, I still miss some things about my old home and my single life - it doesn't mean I love my husband any less. Make time for the little things that help you. For me, my biggest help was the Bible (especially the Psalms - I love Psalm 91 and 27!) and prayer. Also, spending a little time each day doing something I love, that calms me - for me, that was walking my dog and caring for my pot plants (watching your videos was another thing that helped!). Good nutrition is important too - when I am busy or stressed, the temptation is to skip meals or not to eat well, but our bodies need good nutrition more than ever when we are under increased pressure. And don't worry about not being able to support others - relationships are multi-way. In the past, you have supported others. Right now, you need support from others. The wheel will turn again, and soon you will be able to give support again, but right now, you just need to be able to rest and receive. xxx
Pippa S♡♡♡ I Thank GOD for this Beautiful comment ♡♡♡ PSALMS 91 is one of my favorite chapters as well♡♡♡ GOD IS SO GOOD♡♡♡ Have A Beautiful Blessed Peaceful Day ♡♡♡
What has come to my mind listening to you is that you may be grieving , it is something that newlyweds go through , it was recognized in ancient cultures ,the bride wearing a black band on her leg under her skirt .like a garter .. Sending you peace and love light .
Yes, grieving for your single life and apprehension about the big commitment of marriage and having children and whether you have chosen the right life partner to have children with. Some apprehension is normal, but it will pass.
I have a little black book. Each page has a very short Bible scripture verse. I am memorizing them and have memorized 16 so far. When I am anxious I repeat them silently. It helps my breathing and calms my spirit.
One day at a time sweet lady. You inspire so many and I wish you knew what a difference you make in this world. Right now I have just sold my house and moving back to my home country. Looking forward to it.. for sure. Exciting... of course, but oh so scary in so many ways as I am completely on my own and moving to a new area. You give me confidence, you give me hope, you give me joy. I am sending you strength, love and happiness. X
Hi Paola, me and my wife and two young boys discovered your RUclips channel a few weeks ago and it is all we watch now. My older son has autism and he said he loves the videos because they help him feel calm. We are so grateful for what you do. Thank you for all the beauty and goodness you put out into the world.
So healing. I've noticed the closer I get to God, the more comfortable I am being out in nature and just taking in creation as a fellow creation myself
@@deborahpellerito6117 no it is not false, try to read about it from reliable sources and not from people's rumors! If u want me to send u reliable websites where u can read about the true Islam then tell me and I'll be happy to share!💞💞
@@msmd4976 lol it's okay! It was actually because of a couple of things. When I was growing up I learned a lot about Islam from my family and through Arabic classes that I attended here in the states, which I am so grateful for. I practiced Islam as faithfully as I could but I was also curious why Christianity and other religions said they were true. I wondered, "how can it be possible that we all say our religion is true?" Since I believed ultimate truth as a Muslim, I asked Allah to help me understand Him more and I sought truth. I had some revelations that first led me to Christianity, but I also did heavy research between Islam and that one too. The biggest thing that convinced me was learning the Gospel: we are all sinners and because of that we can't save ourselves through our own actions. Since God is so Holy, how could we ever fully please him? That is why I had to accept Jesus came fully man and fully God in order to meet the standards Himself for me. Only God can meet his holy standards in this fallen world. It was hard to accept that because growing up Muslim, I followed the 5 pillars; performing salah, professing the shahadah, etc. I always thought if I did good enough Allah would decide to let me in to Jannah once I die. Understanding that God is Holy, everything suddenly made sense. It has been 3 1/2 years now since I professed Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, though I am still learning lol :) Also Ramadan Mubarak to you, I no longer participate but I hope you are doing well
When life is becoming overwhelming, I find solace in the smallest things. A quiet cup of tea, watching the trees slowly sway, going to bed early and breathing slowly. But also very importantly allowing myself to feel. Know that it will pass and that you can hold sacred space for yourself. I wish you all of the happiness that is coming to you. Buying a house is scary and can feel endless but you will get there and you can do this. Lots of love, Maddie xx
you are on the right path of identifying your emotions. if you can take time out every morning to journal your thoughts in a book, and then handing it over to God, andjust present it to Him, and ask Him to take over the unmanagable things, then your burden wil shift .. i read a Devotional book by Sarah Young, the books name is: Jesus Calling.....which reaaally make me experience Him talking to me in my daily challenges. this book will be available to purchase online in your country. one of her devotions , I will type out here, i think it appropiate on our busy busy lives......... i am calling you to a life of constant communion with Me. Basic training includes learning to live above your circumstances., even while interacting on that cluttered plane of life. You yearn for a simplified lifestyle, so that your communication with Me can be uninterrupted. But I challenge you to relinquish the fantasy of an uncluttered world. Accept each day just as each comes, and find Me in the midst of it all. Talk with Me about every aspect of your day, including your feelings'. Remember your ultimate goal is not to control or fix everything around you, ,it is to keep communing with Me. a Succesful day is one in which you have stayed in touch with Me, even if many things remain undone at the end of the day. Do not let your Do do list (written or mental) become an idol directing your life' instead, ask My Spirit to guide you moment by moment.He will keep you close to Me 1 Thessaloninas 5: 17 Proverbs 3:6 this devotional brought me much peace, and to experience HIScalm and His peace ,in my day, even if my day started with anxious thoughts
For me, music is mood altering. To feel peaceful, I put on French cafe music or Bossa Nova, close my eyes and instantly I’m on vacation. In my mind, I’m drifting on a lovely boat or relaxing on a beach.
Paola. I love your videos. You are so gifted... and so beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I get peace from this abd other favorite Bible verses. Isaiah 41:10 "... do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Blessings
I tell myself, “ you are exactly where you need to be, you are learning what you need to learn, and it will all work out in the end the way it was meant to” 💚💖
Ohhhh boy, do I feel this! I’ve been feeling exactly the same way. One thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I would wake up every morning with almost no time to spare. I would quickly drink a cup of coffee and then get ready for work and leave. I had no peace in the morning. So…I set my alarm for 20 minutes earlier. I’ve been forcing myself not to hit snooze but to leisurely wake up and sit by the window with my coffee and read one chapter of a book (currently revisiting Anne of Green Gables). I even made some new bird friends I’d never noticed before in the tree outside the window. It is absolutely lovely and gives me a chance to greet the day in peace instead of chaos. I’ve been trying to do the same at night before bed. Fingers crossed that it takes hold.
Your videos are so peaceful.❤️ Thank you for sharing. My husband and I have four children 11 and under, one with special needs. Quiet may not be my season at the moment 🙂but I have peace. Being in nature, slowing down to breath and let go of control is a big help. Through many storms of life, Jesus has been my anchor. He always carries me through and is beside me each step. Thank you for sharing so honestly. You're not alone dear one.
Moving IS a TRAUMATIC event. I learned that this year when we moved into our new home, and started having severe panic attacks that would last for days on end. My therapist told me that moving is a huge change, to your comfort zone, your safe space and that that can be a traumatic event for some people. So don't feel bad that you need time or feel lost after moving, your recovering. Take all the time you need.
Living and caring for an elderly ill person in my home, I become "spent" for a lack of a better word, from time to time. I read recently a bit from a Guidepost writer, Edward Grinnar, "My fears, worries are internal...and too often my worries occupy the space where God's love and grace can abide." I try to remember this. It helps.
What a gorgeous quote, thank you so much for sharing it. You have my respect - caregiving can be such a simultaneously exhausting and rewarding thing, an example of beautiful generosity and serious patience. I hope you've found some treasured ways to recharge yourself when you need it. 💛
Wow, this was incredibly helpful. Thanks for sharing. I don't often remember that when I am full of fear or negativity, I might be crowding out something precious God wants to offer me.
From an older woman's perspective, I have had similar panics and found I was lacking in some nutrient or allergic to some food. Mine was milk products. Magnesium will help. All of us need Vitamin D living in the north. Also watch for tick bites.Just a bit of old woman advice, take it or leave it. I wish you well.
We “old women” need to offer our support to each other and those women who are will be coming after! I love 💕 your take it or leave it, so that each of us can take wisdom and value and leave some for others who need the same! Enjoyed reading your comment 🙏🏻💛💙
I had a tough time recently, as my Abuelo passed away Friday. With family I helped take care of him at home and it was hard even though I tried not to show it, I certainly felt it in my body. My anxiety peaked and it always felt like a heavy weight was on my chest that didn't lift until I got thru it and he passed. I am the kind of person that gives my all in what I do. I have learned to respect my limits and retreat to a quiet place in nature and be alone to recharge for a day or at least several hours. Sometimes you can escape and sometimes you cannot, but hang on and ride the waves of life until things calm down once again reminding yourself all is temporary and this too shall pass. Sending you love and prayers mi amiga! Draw strength from your family when you need too and laugh.
Today for me it was coming here to watch your videos. I lost my job, at first I was strong (probably in denial) it came out of nowhere….then it set in and almost overwhelmed with panic. I turned to meditation, walked in the forest, picked some wildflowers then came here for a visit. Thank you, I realized that I’m ok, that I will be ok.🌿
Setting aside some time for prayer and the Word of God daily, by the Lord's grace, helps me keep my peace. Sometimes it's a fight to keep those times so one has to make a conscious effort to win them back. You're a champion!
The 70% rule has given me a lot of peace recently. I ask myself, did I complete this to 70%. Good enough time to move on. As a bit of a perfectionist I am slowly realizing that the mindset of doing everything to 110% was burning me out. I still have a long way to go but that helps me get through the harder days
Hi Michelle, at 64 I'm finally accepting that realisation myself. The sky won't fall if certain projects aren't finished, we perfectionist's put too much pressure on ourselves. Time to take time to smell the roses ☺️ xxx
@@pixiedustthemakerofmagic2339 I grew up very religious where shame and guilt were a part of my thoughts at a young age. Be kind to yourself and don't forget to have fun 😊
My mom gave me this little plaque when I was going through some hard times and I have it on my windowsill in my kitchen and read it from time to time. DON'T QUIT: When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road your trudging, seem all up hill, When funds are low, and the debts are high, and you want to smile, But you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit. Rest if you must , but don't you quit! You are a beautiful soul so take time to heal yourself. We will always be in your corner supporting you in whatever you do. You have brought joy to so many with your channel, myself included. My wish for you is a beautiful new life in your new home with your soulmate.
It's natural to go through periods of anxiety with a new move. It's helpful to know that it's just a temporary state, and that things will begin to settle soon.
I needed this right now. Seriously...right this minute. I'm packing to move. While it's a happy move after reading your comment, I'm in...tears. I didn't expect all the emotional stuff that has popped up recently.
I remember hearing this advice on Tumblr once and I never forgot it: Creating something physical will make you feel better and can break you out of that depression rut, whether it’s drawing a picture or knitting something or writing something. That’s kind of what cooking has become for me. It’s something I really look forward to every weekend. I feel happy enjoying a meal that I put together myself, especially if it’s a new recipe I haven’t tried before.
@@hopefulheritage I also love to cook, but after going to work I spend less and less time on my hobby, so I always go anxious and angry (I will be glad if you look at my culinary channel)
Very sage advice. When you are 'creating' with your hands - 'time and mind-chatter disappear - suspended as you make each brushstroke, knit each stitch, etc. ... creating parks the ego giving you a time out of time...gives your mind a rest.
In my experience so many changes at one time have an impact - leaving a place of safety, working more, marriage, purchasing a house, a new family to build relationships with. For some of us we need more time for things, doesn’t make you weaker or less anything you just need more time. Give it to yourself because you deserve everything in your own time!
You are experiencing a period of huge change. They only happen a few times in life. It’s understandable you have a lot of feelings about it. As someone with anxiety you videos bring so much peace and joy to me. They are a Devine peace of art. Thank you.
The comments are all so supportive and kind, what a great community, I’ve taken some days off work due to pain in my neck, I know my body is trying to tell me something and I need to rest, listen to your body and soul as you navigate the changes going on in your life 🌺 be gentle and caring to yourself 💓 as Nelson Mandela said, “ May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”. Much love and blessings 🙏🏻
Paola, don’t feel pressured to upload every single week! I mean, we love your videos, that’s why we’re here, but we can understand that you need some time. Get a well deserved break! We’ll miss you, but I’m sure we’ll see you soon!
I agree with Gonzalo. I learned the hard way that I forced myself to "run on fumes" way too long and it took such a toll on my body physically and emotionally. Take whatever time you need to rest and recoup. Also, know that your followers love you, want the best for you and will remain loyal to you and your channel. You have made such a difference in my life. Thank you.
It’s so hard when we get caught in the cycle of thoughts about “what if”. What if everything turns out just fine? That’s how I like to think about it. While buying a new house and making life changes are scary, they are also so exciting. As a 54 year old mom of 2 grown girls, one your age, I’d like to say, “you totally got this”. Also, you are not going it alone. :-)
I have been on a quest in the last 3-4 years to become more undomesticated animal to get back to the basics. My husband and I hiked the Appalachian Trail (2200) miles, and I learned that I need only food, water, and shelter. We carried everything we needed on our backs. I learned so many of my truths on that journey. Painful lessons, but so rewarding. Since we finished, I continue to place myself in circumstances to allow growth. I just started cold bathing. It lets you know you’re ALIVE! It’s empowers such feelings of confidence and strength in knowing I can survive the exposure. The worries I once held around so many non essential to life things have subsided. It has been difficult to accept that I allowed my fight or flight response to focus on such trivial “what if” triggers. By truly being present in my existence, with the sun and moon as my guides in the here and now, I’ve found the much needed distractions to remind me I’m rarely ever in true peril. Continue to explore the edges of your wild animal! Know that your perception is the only thing you can influence to guide your reactions. Thank you for your beautiful videos. You’ve inspired me to explore my creative spirit and more fully enjoy the fairyland I live in! Take good care of yourself and know I’m sending love and healing your way. 🥰
Paola, I’m so sorry you’re feeling so much pressure at the moment. I have definitely gone through a time like that in my life and it ended up making me very sick. Real burn out is a horrible thing and leaves you lifeless and tired. One thing I would suggest and it was suggested to me in my final years of high school is to schedule each week 7 hours of PWOP = Pleasure Without Pressure. Choose any activity/ activities that make you happy but have no pressure attached to them. To actually book in this time with yourself and not miss it. It’s very therapeutic because no matter how busy or stressful your days are you know that those hours are all yours and are going to be fun and have no stress attached to them. You can do one hour every day or a few hours on one or two days. I hope this stressful, pressure filled time come to an end for you very soon. You are a beautiful person and I would hate to see you loose any part of yourself to burn out. Sending all my love from Australia ❤️ Rebekah
After 41 years of marriage & every time I had to move it was always hard. Now my husband passed away & it’s another journey in my life. Thank you for your videos It has encouraged me to start painting again. Thank you! You are lovely. Alicia Jean’nette from Arkansas
You are at the top of the wave, everything that you have been doing has led up to this moment in time. The wave is cresting and soon you will flow evenly onto the shores of your new way of being. The salt stings, but the beauty of what you endure will be your inspiration for your future. Keep on witnessing and breathing deep, everything will be ok.
Hi Paola. Last week my grandmother passed, and I found myself asking “can I even handle this?” But at every step, I found myself resoundingly stronger than I ever thought possible. I was there, I showed up, I cried, but with that same numbness, I made it through one step at a time. I think of the quote “perhaps this is the moment you were made for.” I don’t think we have to be perfect, or “strong” even. Just show up. Be vulnerable. You’re doing amazing, and let those emotions flow through you. Blessings.
Hello beautiful Paola, nature is so grounding and you can see how happy it makes you.. panic attacks are never pleasant. I get the exact same experiences and have had panic attacks now for the last 30 years. A wise doctor once said to me "Katherine you cannot die from a panic attack, breathe through it" breathe work is so beneficial and is Free. I can write a book on it I've experienced all the symptoms. Just know this: you bring the world Peace. You really do make us feel like we are in another place and for that I thank you dear Paola.. God bless.. Katherine
The first line of Chaim Potok’s book In the Beginning says “All beginnings are hard.” I have found that observation to be very helpful in my life. Everything new upsets the flow and pattern of life whether it be a new job, a new house, a new baby, a marriage. As longed for as these events may be, they disrupt the internal life. I have learned that acknowledging uncertainty, seeing and feeling the chaos for what it is, and finding ways to calm my system like you did by sitting outside in this video, all help me ride out the turbulence as a necessary step in finding the new life. I hope you feel more grounded soon!
I'm so very sorry that it's like this for you, Diana--because we spend far more time traveling that we do reaching destinations. Heck, much of the time we don't even have destinations; we're just ambling around encountering other fellow amblers and saying "huh?" to each other! Wishing you easier travels and, btw, your name is beautiful. ❤️
I'm from the Philippines and I just want you to know that your videos comforts me Ms. Paola. It makes me want to get better. To leave people behind and work on myself until I am able to move out and live the life I wanted. You give me hope Ms. Paola. You have that big impact on me and I'm sure that other people feel the same way about u. I hope u know that we are proud of u. Of how strong you are as a woman. You are an inspiration. I hope you get all the things that u deserve in life! You are an awesome lady and I look up to you. Please keep going:D
I am a very high strung worrier and have found the only thing that can calm me down is reading the Bible. I never expected to be saying that. I never read the Bible and I would never have thought of myself as a religious person in the least. Even an atheist at various points in my life. I’ve come about this very gradually and not without questions, a lot of them. I love nature and am happiest when I’m outside seeing the beautiful landscape, whatever it may be. Realizing none of that is man made, knowing that the higher power of God has created this beauty is so strengthening, humbling, and gives me such gratitude.
there are so many healing scriptures in the bibe. I also just realized this over the past few years. I had no idea how calming and amazing these words are. Words to live by and full of wisdom us humans need.
I was brought up atheist but have also come to love various Bible verses. During the pandemuc one that helped was " Be awake and strengthen what remains." I couldnt go dancing so I made up dances to music at home. What remained was my body plus my creativity as I choreographed dances. We always have a lot of beauty remaining within limitations.
Thank you for making this video ❤️ it brought me back to when I burned out 5 years ago. My doctor said one thing that stuck with me: if your life was a basket, and in your basket you reserved space for work, relationships, rest etc… if you decide to take more space for work, your basket isn’t bigger! You just gave all the space for work! Meaning, mental health is all a matter of balance. And only you can make the choices you need to make to find that balance to take care of yourself ❤️ just like, it doesn’t matter if you drive a Ferrari, if you don’t know how to drive, you’re still gonna find yourself in the ditch. Mental health is SO important! You gotta learn how to listen to your body and mind to take care of it when it needs it. I hope you (and everybody reading my comment) can take some time to rest ❤️
When I don’t have the time or can’t make the time I do little things like consciously taking a deep breath, enjoying every bit about a cup of tea (the cup, color of the tea, the taste, the curls of the steam, etc.) Basically I just strive to be more aware of the things I do daily.
Yes. Litterally just enjoying the feel of a blanket, of a cup of tea, of every food you put into your body, observing nature if you can!! Lying down in the grass and looking at all the minuscule processes happening when we're too busy to pay attention. Looking at the clouds, observing people, every word they say every wrinkle on their face every expression...
When I am feeling anxious and overwhelmed I spend more time in nature. Take advantage of walking barefoot in your beautiful forest. Times of change are hard and we want you to take care of yourself. ❤️
Prayer is what truly helps me! Even in a time of chaos I can take a moment to talk to Creator and ask help to keep me grounded and balanced. Stay strong, many blessings. 💜
I also just moved in with my partner into a new house in a new city and I deeply resonate with how you’re feeling. It is enough to notice what’s happening, in your body, in your life, in your relationships. It is so much more than enough ❤️
I relate so much, Paola. I'm glad you're making space for yourself in this time. Since you asked, I have a lot to say on this subject and will share some of my thoughts below. I sincerely hope it's helpful to you and anyone else here. 💛 I've spent the last two years honing in on my relationship with work, examining and reflecting and turning things over with a great therapist. It was all brought on by an acute, brutal situation of burnout, but truthfully it had been building up for me for over a decade. When I was a new grad, it was shortly after the Great Recession, and the job market was awful. I struggled for months to get a foot in the door at any job, I could barely pay my rent, let alone buy food, and it absolutely messed with me. Once I got my first "yes" I was absolutely determined that I would NEVER again experience that kind of fear and desperation. Working meant safety. After that, I never questioned whether I actually enjoyed working so much - it didn't even occur to me to question it, until my body caught up with me. I manifested a lot of the same symptoms you describe here, actually - insomnia, racing thoughts, even palpitations, rashes, hair falling out. In retrospect, I've learned that I had been using work in the way some use things like emotional eating, compulsive spending or recreational drugs. Beneath that compulsion to work as much as I physically could, was a desire to avoid unpleasant emotions, to numb out painful and unprocessed memories, to feel safe and secure, to feel "good enough." But in our culture, working hard is considered respectable, even noble, right? Shouldn't that automatically make it fulfilling, and instill pride? Wasn't I just doing what I was supposed to? I feared what would happen if I took a step back, having a deeply held belief that in order to be worthy as a human being, I had to "pull my weight." On some unarticulated level, taking breaks was not an option. Even when I did have them, I spent them trying to force myself to rest (because I understood intellectually that I needed it, even if my subconscious disagreed) and never truly and fully resting, but never doing anything "productive" either, creating a cycle of ruthless self-criticism that only fueled me to push myself even harder the next day. The pressure in our culture to hustle, the unquestioned assumption that working hard is *always* a good thing, and particularly the fruits of your labor - feeling like you're making it easier for yourself and your family to be secure and safe - makes it a lot harder to suss out when you might be doing it for reasons that ultimately aren't healthy for you. For those of us who have experienced times where there truly is no option to slow down or stop, it can be downright traumatic. It's no wonder we hold on tighter to that which feels safe, even when it's hurting us. I know that my relationship with work will be something I will continue to grapple with, but I am really proud of the steps I've taken and things I've learned. Likewise, you should feel proud of yourself for recognizing these feelings, voicing them, and taking steps to care for yourself. I get the sense from past videos that you have experienced financial trauma, the deep feelings of fear and helplessness that come with it, and can really shape our sense of what's "normal" when it comes to our livelihoods. So I applaud you for being mindful, and taking a pause. A few things that help me when I am feeling burned out or especially anxious are 1) gratitude practice. I'd love to say I have some fancy journal I write in everyday, but I don't. Sometimes it's just a matter of taking a few moments to make a cup of tea and feel grateful for the comfort and the warmth it brings. Or to list things in my head that I know are making my situation easier than it could be, and/or the list of people I know I can count on to help me when I need it. 2) I'll do a mental exercise taking an anxiety to its conclusion, asking myself "what's the worst that can happen" - make sure you take some nice deep breaths (or some other way to regulate your nervous system) first and use it with caution lol, but it does help me interrogate where I might be magnifying something in my mind. And lastly 3) reminding myself that even when "doing the Work," living a completely anxiety-free life is not a realistic goal. Worrying is incredibly human, it's part of how we survive as a species. And you're undergoing a lot of change right now. So I hope you don't take these feelings as a sign that there's something "wrong" with you or that you're somehow not doing enough to cultivate peace and contentment. You are. 💛
Thankyou for writing this. Maybe if the therapy that's available now, was available decades ago, someone could have broken through my head for me. I read into my ex-h in here, only he took the road to hurt everyone to protect himself from hurt. I understand that technology has made self awareness and paths to personal reconciliation to oneself very accessible, but your composition here is gentle, open, and to the point and resourceful to whomever it resonates with. Do you blog or write already? I believe this is bookworthy. God bless. Trudi 🌼
Praying for you for strength, healing and peace! That God will calm you like only He can! My go to is prayer in the mist of anxiety! Love you and your videos!
I sometimes wake up with anxiety in the middle of the night. I reach my hands out to the ceiling and praise the Creator and then I can usually go back to sleep. By day I find there are times I only feel everything is right when I sit down and write... something... anything. What flows through me then often becomes an essay, a short story, and even a novel. Your videos are just a part of your deep creativity flowing out of you.
Hi Paola, in the past few years since I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, Sjogren's, it has brought on a lot of anxiety and learned that I needed to make myself, and my health, my number one priority. I'm also a Reiki practitioner and may I offer the suggestion of taking time to ground yourself. Nature is very grounding and I share your love of Nature and being outdoors but a simple practice is to release that anxiety and any energy that is weighing you down. Mother Gaia can handle our burdens. I love to do an earthing practice by standing with my feet in the grass and then imagine my anxiety, worries, and negative energy that does not serve me flowing through my body, out of my feet, and into the Earth. Then I ask the Earth to transmute that energy--I see it as recycling that energy. Since you are so in tune with Nature, imagine the Sun's energy warming you, melting away anything else left inside your body and mind that does not serve your Higher Self. The Sun has amazing healing qualities besides our much-needed dose of Vitamin D. You are a sweet, beautiful empathic soul and may you be well, may you be happy, and be at peace. I send you white light and Mother Gaia's supportive, loving energy showering upon you. Meditation/a grounding practice really helps me and find what feels right for you. Just connecting with Nature can be very meditative. Love, light and peace from Northern California. 🙏🕯🌼🦋🌲🌹🌻☀️
First I want to say, You are a gem. A beautiful soul. I have learned throughout my life that my body filling with anxiety is a gift. I realize that at those times my body is shouting at me to listen. When I stop and listen, I find myself going into a healthier direction with my life. I admire your honesty. And, the beautiful community of people you have brought together, sending love and care...
I’ve found that finding brief moments of quiet throughout the day to take deep breaths, and focus my attention to the sounds, smells, sights around me has helped me a lot. The more you look for these brief moments is the busyness of life, the more you will find them and the more they will help you. Lots of Love.
I'm old now. What ever helped me when I was tired just like you are was listening to my inner voice, accepting the simplest answers to the most disturbing questions, even if they showed me the most uncomfortable way out.
agree fully. i listen to my inner voice, (the Holy Spirit talking to me), and if i have to scale down on activities, i do it. our seasons change , ...and if you need a break and make less videos, then it is great... we will still be here when you come back.... listen to your body . listen to your inner voice' Dr Caroline Leaf ... her podcast; 5 steps to identify and eliminate the root of anxiety (or any mental ill-health issue) will reaally help any one having an issue with anxiety she is world renowned for her book: Clearin g up your mental mess, as well as for the ground breaking work she did with people who were in accidents, who had traumatic brain injury, to recover completely.
Watching this stirred up memories of times where I too have felt the crushing weight of “what if I fail…” specifically when others are relying on you. (It’s so heavy) Times where things were changing and I didn’t feel nowhere near prepared enough. Times where I felt alone and completely at the mercy of that inner tyrant Anxiety. I found peace and relief (which is so often what we need when the turmoil gets loud) in Jesus. When I felt like it was “all on me” and “what if I fail” I learned that Jesus will take that burden on him for my sake, and he will free me. He promises to do what we try to do on our own: “Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your Heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?” And “Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: and yet I say to you, Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.” (Matthew 6:26, 28-29) These beautiful words - if we really truly believe them and take them as our hope - can free us. In other place in the Bible it says (and this is Jesus speaking) “come all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest” Slowly, little by little, the more I trusted in Jesus to fight my battles for me (especially the battle with Anxiety) the more I trusted him to keep his word and provide all my needs, the more freed I became. I still struggle at times - usually when I haven’t spent enough time taking to Jesus, listening to him, and spending time reading his words in the Bible… but I’ve learned that the sooner I go do those things the quicker I can be at peace and rest again. So that is how I have learned to find peace for my soul What I love about your channel is how you portray the beauty of God’s creations… I believe we can experience much healing in our hearts and souls by enjoying nature and taking the time to soak it in (as you are so wonderful at doing). I am not sure what your own experience is with faith or with the Lord but I just wanted to share mine in hopes it can bless you or somebody reading this. Everything you were describing was familiar to me and something in sure most of us have felt at one time or another. It’s so lovely that you go do things that “make for peace” when you’re feeling that way - like spending time barefoot amongst the trees ♥️ Prayer too is so powerful and healing and I hope it is a refuge for you ♥️ Two extra resources that came to mind when I was writing this was: An article by Brad Hambrick (you can Google it) called 10 Types of Thinking that Undergird Depression-Anxiety… learning to recognize patterns of thought that lead to anxiety and depression was v helpful for me! The second thing I thought of was Morgan Harper Nichols and her Instagram page. I think a lot of what she writes would speak to you in your current season ♥️ God bless you I pray you feel better soon ♥️
having lived with chronic health issues and anxiety for some years now, i want to encourage everyone who battles with similar circumstances, to pause, evaluate and begin to simplify. there comes a time when we have to accept that we can't do all the things that we once did. we must be kind to ourselves, take care of ourselves because, if we don't, we can't possibly take care of others. paola, i hope that you are consulting a physician about your symptoms. yes, there's a lot of stress around us right now but sometimes there is something that needs medical attention. we may need medication to help get us through a difficult time. as my medication manager told me, 'better living through chemistry!' praying for you and hoping that you will feel much better soon. sending love. 🦋💙
Yes, there may be an underlying health issue that is creating these feelings. I was having similar symptoms and my functional doctor ordered labs that resulted in showing I was deficient in B6 and amino acids. B6 is a precursor of neurotransmitters and can also be the cause of skin conditions, numbness of hands and feet - the list goes on. My thyroid T3 level was way below normal. Upon increasing my B vitamins, including weekly B12 injections, and increasing T3 dosage I am feeling much better mood and energy wise. Nutrition is so important to overall health and caring for others, without re-nourishment, will take a toll on overall mental and physical health.
@@trylliumt5441 And B vitamins are difficult to get if you eat a plant based diet. Not to say stop, but to say consider being tested for B deficiency and ways to remediate the situation. I also had B injections and it made a world of difference.
"All is well that ends well and if it isn't well then it hasn't ended." these are the wise words my mother has been telling me constantly as I'm struggling with my anxiety and stress hope this helps someone ❤️
@@jennyc5132 It has been really helpful! It just calms my soul down a lot whenever I am feeling down or anxious about something I just remember that the chapter of my life that is happening rn is not currently over if I'm upset and then when I'm happy and calm then it will be over! And I would love to travel to Australia someday! It's so beautiful there!
@@laurenwilliams5815 Its always a beautiful way to remember your mum too Lauren....Australia is a land of such diversity although its rather waterlogged on the east coast right now. I hope you do get here one day..make sure you come to Western Australia, particularly the 'south west' region, its so pretty down here...have a happy day🥰🦘🦘
At one very busy point in my life, I was walking home in the middle of a snowstorm, pretty late at night. I was so tired. But it was also so beautiful, and I danced in the snow on my way home. I think even when life demands us to be busy, there is still beauty and chances for relaxation if we are paying attention.
You are so brave. 🌻💛 Life is really hard and difficult sometimes. What we do (also including our children) is to meditate on the Psalms (from the Bible). We find a Psalm we like, then learn it by heart - saying it out loud. Again and again. Daily. Intill the words lives in our hearts. ❤️ A long time ago, before internett and even before books, parents and children learned by speaking. By repeating. 💛Something so calming by focusing on Scripture like that. ❤️🙏 When you know the words by heart - you can always find them - even in the middle of the night trying to fall asleep. ❤️🙏Blessings from Norway 🇳🇴
Something I've been learning recently is to ask for help and to receive it graciously when its offered. Also being consistently kind to the folk around me has made a big difference and enhanced my relationships, as kindness often produces kindness. Times of change can be difficult and make us anxious, I find that yoga exercises are so helpful, breathing and stretching and I've even started doing tai chi walking! Something mindful is so helpful. A good bedtime routine is helpful too, bath with candles and some restful music, spray of lavender on the pillow and a hot water bottle! Love and hugs Paula Madie x
I definitely have been there where I wake up with heart palpitations and extreme anxiety. I'm actually coming out of that feeling, I've recently had a huge loss in my immediate family and it has been extremely difficult to say the least, but what has helped me is, as cliche as it sounds; journaling, exercising, and definitely drinking enough water. Basically self care, and believing you're worth taking care of, putting yourself first. Sending much love and hope this helps you or someone that is going through difficult times.
paola, i understand the out-of-place and anxious feeling you're experiencing right now. im about to turn 19, finishing up my first year of college and going home next week to care for my mom after a surgery. a couple weeks later ill come back to campus for a 4 week local history internship. ive had severe generalized anxiety disorder since i was a baby. oftentimes day to day life is extremely stressful for me to handle. here are some things ive learned to keep my mind peaceful when things are hectic: -remember that you are not a machine, you are a garden. you need different kinds of care at different times. listen to your body and take breaks to rest when you can. rest is so important for change and growth to feel stable. -plant yourself deep in projects you love. my favorite thing to do when im really stressed out is to walk to the art building on campus, turn on some music or a podcast, and do art for hours. ill be in there making a sculpture or a painting until the early hours of the morning sometimes getting all of my emotions out with this art medium. it works wonders when im too anxious to find peace. -find little bits of comfort in your daily life. it may be a movie you watch when youre stressed, or a pen you really like using, or a hug from somebody that makes you feel safe. small moments of comfort go a long way to finding a sense of peace, they're just as important as the super time consuming or higher energy forms of comfort like traveling or large projects. i hope some of these help you paola. you are an amazing person and you inspire me to find peace in my daily life. be safe and love yourself :)
Im 60 and love and need to stop by and give all of you a hug if you need one today. This young lady has bought us all here together to help each other. Bless you all xxxxx
I motivate myself/find peace amid work by always making sure I have something to look forward to when I get a break! Whether it's planning a little getaway over a long vacation or even thinking of getting myself ice cream after work, it helps me to have or create something positive to look forward to.
Be gentle with yourself, beautiful girl. You have been such a comfort to so many during difficult times. Life is a series of seasons. I pray this season will be full of peace & deep joy. Love to you , Paola xx
One thing I've learned over many difficult years is that our heart's desire lies directly on the other side of our fear. This (especially once experienced directly for myself) has helped me to persevere, taking as much time and kindness as needed, knowing that it'll all be worth it. The result is nothing short of magical, every time. Keep going my dear, I know you'll do well. 🌻💕
I have learnt that unless I care for myself, the quality of my time that I have for others/work is lacking. We often have limited time for ourselves and I find that the quality versus the quantity of my self care matters most, eg. sitting outside at dusk while watching the beautiful colours of the clouds fill me. Enjoying the glow of my candles calms me immensely. At night when my noisy neighborhood is quiet, the stillness & the fresh air refreshes me. On occasion I’ve had to work through the night, & the birds start singing at 3am & it feels like they are saying good morning! :) When I have to work late & drive home, my gift is a beautiful sunset. During very stressful/trying times I have found that God will send me gifts; a favorite plant in my garden will flower, the day’s devotional will speak into my situation etc, ie. we are deeply loved & are never alone. Always look for the gifts, be blessed 🤗
Which is very true if you can't/don't help yourself foremost you can not help others quite as much, because if you aren't careful they take away your energy ❤️
Hi Paola, i’m not feeling too good myself after having had Covid it’s taking me ages to get my energy back. I try not to worry about the future as we cannot predict what’s going to happen, I try to live daily and in the moment and always do my best I can’t do any more than that. I love walking in our New Forest or being in our garden and with our pets. A simple pleasure this week was the small birds moving into the bird house we have, there so sweet and it’s lovely to watch them. Take care of yourself and remember to just deal with one thing at a time otherwise we get stressed from the overload. 😊💕🇬🇧
Sorry to hear you've been feeling overwhelmed. I recently had a panic attack followed by health issues that are yet to resolve. So far the only thing that really helped is "resetting the vagus nerve" which I now do at bedtime. Also I was just told by a fellow anxiety sufferer to think of 10 positive things before an attack takes hold and it can shift your mind into a whole different place as well as create new habits to replace the worrying ones. Hope you feel much better very soon :)
What helped me is to think of something absolutely ridiculous when I feel panicky, to distract myself and being able to catch my breath.. I really hope she feels better soon..
Hello gorgeous soul! One of the number one things I would recommend when struggling with anxiety (I used this in liason with my psychologist to recover from ptsd) is movement as a way of processing emotions. So closing the eyes down, putting on some music and feeling whatever arises (try to not think about it or give the emotions a "story", just feel, and move in a way that expresses that feeling. There is no right or wrong, and they can be big or subtle movements. Eventually you may find yourself dancing, or on the floor in a ball crying, or screaming into a pillow, (if you can't scream where you are just sound it out and make the face it works too). This is called embodiment practice and has completely changed my life in the last 6 months. Sending you so much love xox
Paola, like many of us, change is hard. I think that for some reason our bodies go into this protective mode whenever it feels it is being compromised. Moving is one of the top 5 stresses we as creatures of habit endure. Your living in the moment now but you will get on the other side soon enough. Just keep reminding yourself that there is light at the end of this tunnel. Once you’ve established your home how you want it and get used to it you will be back to your normal self. Breathing in nature daily will certainly help. I am wishing you well. I look forward to your videos. Take care.
When I start to feel like you, usually the only thing that helps is taking proper care of my body - starting from healthy food to enough sleep and other mindful practices such as doing my favourite type of exercise and having a footbath! I put lavender oil in mine but I'm sure you can also use dried herbs and flowers. Sending you much love
This! When it's too much on the inside, strange I find that taking care of my outside helps. Add to that daily meditation and art making. Those are the things I do, to take care of myself. Shielding myself from negativitet for periods also helps - such as ignoring news for a while. Sometimes you just gotta do you.
My moment of peace is when I'm able to wake up in the morning sit outside and watch the birds. I listen to their songs/callings. I watch as the butterflies come to my garden. I look at every plant to see what's in bloom. Only after this time by myself I'm ready to drink my coffee and start my day. When I do this I find peace and strength. I hope you find what your spirit needs. Blessings to you!
Paola, change is usually stressful, trying to find your comfort zone again is quite a task. But I have found the times I had to leave my comfort zone, I was more alert to what could be. I find comfort and peace in knowing life is a huge classroom, full of experiences that God has control of, for our good. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your gifts to so many. ❤️
If there's one thing I've learned over the years, it is to get out of your own head. You have a beautiful soul and need to give yourself a break from too many thoughts about letting others down. Life will give you joy and pain and over thinking it only makes it much harder. Embrace the bad along with the good. A hard thing to do but gives you understanding. You are so much like my granddaughter who is of the same biological makeup. You are warm, loving, talented, gifts not all receive. Your videos are a blessing to many. Take care.
I resonate a lot with what you said. ❤️ Such good advice.
Such good advice Cheri 💕
Well said 👌🏼🙏🏼💝
After one long exsausting day, thank you ❤❤❤
I love the band KISS name, when they started out many years ago they had issues coming up with a name they ended up with Keep It Simple Stupid, that is a good way to be with living life the simpler the better less worries lol
Something i've heard a lot since developing a chronic illness and has resonated with me is that if you don't take the time out yourself, you'll be forced to take time out when you're body can no longer handle the burdens you place upon it. It has taken me time to learn how to rest, both physically and emotionally, it takes time and sometimes its a luxury we can't afford but then so is illness. Nature and faith are truly the best healers i've found, and accepting myself for who i am and where i am in my life.
Qué gran verdad!!! Sino nos damos tiempo de descanso y paz un día nuestro cuerpo lo exigirá cuando ya no de más!!! Éste comentario me enseña gracias
Very well stated❤
“Nature and Faith “. I love that.
I deal with chronic illness as well, and find this is so true!! I get bad flare ups when I don't take the time to be mindful of my energy on a regular basis.
Very, very true! 💞
My 9 year old daughter watches your videos with me every week and she wants to share this advice with you about finding peace:
1. Be in nature because being in quiet nature calms down.
2. Be with pets and family because it makes you feel good.
3. Do something you like because it distracts the mind from stress.
(Wise kid 😃)
Your daughter is very wise and smart. Excellent advice. ❤👍
Love this so much ♥️
Your child is very special ❤️
She is so very wise for 9! Please tell her that she's right on target & thank her for sharing such good advice!
Bravo!😊
I live in a country where a war is going on, and it’s very difficult to find any corner of peace. Your videos, your channel have become that corner of peace and quiet for me. Thank you for this.
I'm so sorry to hear you are in a war zone Maryam. Gosh that must be so hard. I'm in Australia and we've just had so many floods. I'm saying a little prayer for you Maryam. Sending Love from Australia.
I cannot imagine what you are going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
@@starbrightangela thank you 🙏🏼 Much love to Australia from Ukraine💙
@@juliamalott6225 thank you for your kind words 💛
@Prerna Chhetri thank you for your support 💛
One question can help transcend fear, "What would I choose if I weren't afraid?" Feel the relief in that question while you sit in contemplation.
I wrote your comment down in my journal. I felt immediate peace after asking myself that question, and I hope it will always help when I’m feeling anxious. Thank you 🧡
I LOVE this! Big changes for me coming and I’m not one who embraces change. Thank you for changing my perspective on things 💖🙏
Oh, my dear one, I’m 75 years old, and have suffered from general anxiety disorder my entire life. You are handling this well; getting out in nature, getting in touch with your body through the breath. These are the things that have kept me in the present moment, which is really all we have.
May you be well, may you be peaceful, and at ease.
This is my little story. I was about to scrub my very first liver transplant. It is a difficult surgery with a high mortality rate and as you could imagine I was feeling the weight of performing my best at my job. To play my part in ensuring that this person survived this operation, even though my part was small compared to the attending or anesthesia. I had already worked a full shift and was exhausted. But this was my time to learn and liver transplants are not scheduled ahead of time. I was sitting in the staff lounge. It was 1am and I saw through the lounge window, the patient being wheeled to the room. And I was hyperventilating at what I was about to undertake. So I drank a cup of water and took a deep breath in. Held it for about two seconds and slowly exhaled. I did this several times and I cannot tell you all how much calmer I felt. I breathed like that all the way down the hall thinking about how nervous the patient must be. It wasn’t about me after all. And I kept breathing in and slowly out. It told myself, you’ve scrubbed in on so many surgeries already (this was in the beginning of my career), and the charge nurse wouldn’t let me scrub this if she thought I couldn’t. And I breathed as I put on my mask. I breathed in and slowly out as I scrubbed my arms. I gowned and gloved myself like always…I helped drape the patient like always, set up suction lines, light handles and it hit me. I knew exactly what I was doing. I had done ALL of this before. And I was freaking myself out over one portion of the procedure that I’d not yet done. Everything else was the same. Everything else I knew like the back of my hand. Everything else I could do blindfolded. That lesson has stayed with me all these years later. The process (no matter which process it may be) is always the same. Fear and trepidation will always surround the unknown to some extent. So breathe deeply and look for the parts of the process that you DO know. In those is where you will find the confidence and peace to make the next step. ✨
I know that feeling so well. This week I was going to assist in a surgery that I had never seen before. I had seen countless videos and read theory and prepared myself. But at the last moment I was nervous. Because I was going to be the first assistant to surgeon I had to be quick and confident. Breathing slowly and becoming aware of myself helped. Also prayed silently before entering operating room. The surgery went for 9 hours and the patient is doing fine now. But the anxiety was real. Almost made me throw up.
You are so wonderful, telling this story and how you learned from it and used it for the rest of your life.
💖 Words of wisdom worth more than gold.
Thank you so much for posting this story.
I've often wondered how surgeons feel before they perform surgery and it's good to know that they too have some fear about what they are about to do. That they do see the patients as someone's loved one and that they want to make sure they do their best. It is very reassuring to us to know that.
Thank you for sharing.
@@tarannumafreen6320 Wow, I've had several surgeries in my lifetime and never realized or thought the medical staff also feel nervous before surgeries. Thank You all for your wonderful service to mankind. Many Blessings :)
I will be back the week after next ❤️ I will be taking some time to re-center while continuing my little Etsy shop (I will be available for anyone who needs to reach me related to that) - thank you so so much 🌸 A while ago I compiled an hour long video of all my favorite music I’ve used on this channel, so I will share that next week as a small thank you for your understanding of taking a little time to ground myself in the midst of so much change 🙏 www.etsy.com/shop/thecottagefairyart
Thank you for your words of wisdom!
I am looking forward to it…but please take time for yourself! We will be here when you are feeling better!😘
Thank you Ms. Paola. Take care 🌸
Thank you Paola I’m excited to hear the beautiful songs. The music in today’s video was so beautiful that I was going to ask what the song was…and I’m going through some intense anxiety and migraines lately and so needed this video. Reading the comments is so helpful as well. Love this community so much! Sending love from your neighbour to the North.
It is interesting that even as a bystander and watcher of your videos, I feel a sense of loss of your adorable little cottage with all it's windows and light, decor. I am not so good with change, particularly if I feel like it is a step down instead of a step up. I try to remember the Buddhist wisdom of the impermanence of life. It is the number one inescapable, and essentially painful, fact of life. Nothing lasts so should not be grasped or held onto. When we do, we suffer.
Hi Paola , I hope you read my message, I have been watching your channel for awhile now and just like you am an artistic and creative person. But I suffered from childhood trauma which affected my life with anxiety and depression, but I managed to get it all under control with therapy. I am now a wife and mother, but now and again I still suffer emotionally and I use gardening and nature as my therapy. It's great for my soul, and very in tune with nature when I go out, the sounds and textures give me calmness in my life. I found you because you where, what I was looking for, someone who understands what nature does to the mind. You touch those aspects of life that are not part of this world but still in the world. You have really inspired me and helped me find peace and healing. I hope you find rest and peace in your mind, love yourself and take care good of yourself. Keep doing what you are doing, ❤️❤️❤️
I am almost 64 years old and something I’ve learned over the years is that with change you go through a sort of mourning period. You think about what was and what might have been a lot . I have been through a huge change myself this past year. My husband lost his job because owner sold the farm he managed and his son would now be the farm manager. Along with losing his job we lost the house that was included in the job. So we moved into his brothers run down camper and had to get rid of most of our furniture and store what we managed to keep which wasn’t much. I am disabled due to multiple spinal surgeries but I ended up going back to work part time in order to purchase a shed home which I put behind my youngest sons home. It hasn’t been easy but it is something I don’t have a choice about. I wake up worrying about everything and can’t go back to sleep and that’s especially not good during week because I have to get up at 330 am in order to get to work by 6. I get up early to have a little time to myself and I also make time for myself before bedtime. Change is hard but it gets easier
Keep strong 🌺❤️ God bless you and may fill your heart with peace
You will be fine i pray from Jesus 💟
I hope you find devine help in all you do and things become easier and a way for your health to improve, Insha'Allah. You're very strong.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. I commend your strength and adaptability. (Oy vey, waking and worrying…it’s the pits.)
Oh Leslie, that God be with you at such a trying difficult time. I know God will put something in front of you that you would not have experienced at the farm because God works mysterious ways! Hang in there!
I’m in the middle of exam season at my university, so making time to take care of myself is a challenge right now. One thing I do that rejuvenates me is hugging trees actually, and since you live in a forest now, I thought this was worth sharing! Trees have so much wisdom and compassion, and hugging them for even just a minute and letting yourself connect with them is always so helpful to me. Trees have often been here far longer than we have and have lived through so much, yet are still standing and providing for both themselves and giving shelter and air and nutrients to those around them. I like to picture them taking all of my anxiety away through their roots. They’re pretty great!
Beautiful.
Payton, I have to admit that I have spontaneously hugged a very bushy tree once or twice in my life! They are marvelous creations. I do take photos of trees because like humans they are unique, and I think most people take trees and the beauty of nature for granted. So now that is how I honor trees and nature, by taking photos and when I am stuck in a building someplace waiting in a never-ending line, I pull out my phone and just enjoy!😃
I have been wanting to read this book titled “The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse” because I heard a quote that I think is very wise, it is a dialogue between the Boy and the Horse - “I can’t see a way through”, said the Boy. “Can you see your next step?” “Yes”. “Just take that”, said the horse. We can focus only the next small step, try not to look far ahead at the finish line. ~Much love and thank you for opening this up for everyone to share. ❤️
This is an excellent book. Would also make a special gift.
I remember before I moved to China, I was a bit nervous. I prayed. I felt God impress me, "Just put one foot on the plane and I will take care of the rest." I did. He did.
Yes! This is such a beautiful book, it made me cry. Every page is filled with beautiful art, and every word is so simple, and yet it’s meaning is so clarifying. It was an incredibly peaceful experience to read it.
this is gold! And I hope Paola reads this!!!
@@pamwilliams6630 beautiful
Hi Paola, the advice I was given a few years ago is ..... take one day at a time. Yesterday has gone, tomorrow may not be, so take pleasure in the day you are living and count your blessings. Xxx
True story! My life changed dramatically when I began to truly LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Yesterday is over and tomorrow hasn't happened yet. Live each breath as it comes. The very next moment isn't promised to us...so live in the NOW. You got this, Earth Angel 😇💕✌ !
Advice I wish I'd known at your age: let go of things you can't control. Stop thinking too much by being in the present moment (focus on your breath, or the beautiful nature where you're living). The autonomic nervous system drives our thoughts, so listen to your body before your mind. In other words, you're on the right path! Congratulations on your new home. ❤️
Something that really helped me was to know, even though spring is so beautiful and a relief after long dark winters, the energy rising can be quite harsh and exhausting. It has an effect on a cellular level, so don't fight it. You may feel the need to burst with that new spring energy but if it hurts to do that, step back, do the basics that are needed for now. Let the seasons shift and settle and then you might also start to feel settled and clear minded again. If you have bursts of ideas and plans, write them down and come back to them when you feel ready. Seasonal shifts can be hard on the body, don't bother fighting it, we are not above nature. Things will flow more easily again. Breathe and know this will pass 🙏
Thank you for this. I know that the changing seasons in the fall is really hard, with the days getting shorter, but it was good to be reminded that there can be a similar stress even as spring is coming.
Thank you for your kindness. This is truly lovely.
Thank you so much! This is all so beautiful to hear. I needed to hear this
Beautiful, Thanks for this
Today was a rough day for me. I was sad as I was going to pick up groceries. I stopped by the mail box to pick up my mail on the way and a package of fairy prints from the cottage fairy was in my mail. It gave me such a lift and a smile to receive my order. I plan to frame them for my little granddaughter's bedroom. I love your videos so very much. The music, the scenery, Aiger, Mr. Darcey, the plants, the cooking and crafts. All of it is so mesmerizing to me as I unwind at the end of the day. Thank you so much for listening to your own heart. You have brought so much joy and comfort to mine!
I got married two years ago (mid pandemic!) after more than 20 years of living alone, and moved to a totally different area shortly after, so I can sympathise with the upheaval and stress you are going through. Be gentle with yourself, and remember that this is a time of great physical, mental and emotional stress, so you need to allow for that, maybe by reducing some of your daily activities (like skipping on making a video, or making a shorter one, as you are doing).
Saying goodbye to your single life is a kind of grieving. You can be sad to let go of that old life while still being excited for the new one. Two years on, I still miss some things about my old home and my single life - it doesn't mean I love my husband any less.
Make time for the little things that help you. For me, my biggest help was the Bible (especially the Psalms - I love Psalm 91 and 27!) and prayer. Also, spending a little time each day doing something I love, that calms me - for me, that was walking my dog and caring for my pot plants (watching your videos was another thing that helped!). Good nutrition is important too - when I am busy or stressed, the temptation is to skip meals or not to eat well, but our bodies need good nutrition more than ever when we are under increased pressure. And don't worry about not being able to support others - relationships are multi-way. In the past, you have supported others. Right now, you need support from others. The wheel will turn again, and soon you will be able to give support again, but right now, you just need to be able to rest and receive. xxx
Amen and Awomen!!!
Pippa S♡♡♡ I Thank GOD for this Beautiful comment ♡♡♡ PSALMS 91 is one of my favorite chapters as well♡♡♡ GOD IS SO GOOD♡♡♡ Have A Beautiful Blessed Peaceful Day ♡♡♡
Yes, so beautifully said 🤍🌻🌿❤️🌈🙏
What has come to my mind listening to you is that you may be grieving , it is something that newlyweds go through , it was recognized in ancient cultures ,the bride wearing a black band on her leg under her skirt .like a garter .. Sending you peace and love light .
That's interesting!
What a wonderful and illuminating thing to learn! Thank you!
This makes sense, it's such a huge commitment and life changing event. Hugs to all❤️
Yes, grieving for your single life and apprehension about the big commitment of marriage and having children and whether you have chosen the right life partner to have children with. Some apprehension is normal, but it will pass.
Thanks for sharing. These things do take us by surprise grieving our old life while re adjusting to the new. Questioning over thinking 😊
I have a little black book. Each page has a very short Bible scripture verse. I am memorizing them and have memorized 16 so far. When I am anxious I repeat them silently. It helps my breathing and calms my spirit.
Wow this could actually work for me. Although I am Muslim, I can do the same with Quran verses. Thanks
This is so beautiful. Thank you
reading the bible and also bible journaling (coloring and painting art in a bible) has helped my anxiety immensly!)
Love this! I find doing a gratitude journal helps me slow down when I am super stressed. 💚
Que lindo
“ We don’t have to do life perfect, we just have to show up and give the best we’ve got one day at a time “
One day at a time sweet lady. You inspire so many and I wish you knew what a difference you make in this world. Right now I have just sold my house and moving back to my home country. Looking forward to it.. for sure. Exciting... of course, but oh so scary in so many ways as I am completely on my own and moving to a new area. You give me confidence, you give me hope, you give me joy. I am sending you strength, love and happiness. X
Best of luck Jay B.
Hi Paola, me and my wife and two young boys discovered your RUclips channel a few weeks ago and it is all we watch now. My older son has autism and he said he loves the videos because they help him feel calm. We are so grateful for what you do. Thank you for all the beauty and goodness you put out into the world.
So healing. I've noticed the closer I get to God, the more comfortable I am being out in nature and just taking in creation as a fellow creation myself
Hii try to read about Islam you shall find peace in it 💞
@@deborahpellerito6117 no it is not false, try to read about it from reliable sources and not from people's rumors! If u want me to send u reliable websites where u can read about the true Islam then tell me and I'll be happy to share!💞💞
@@msmd4976 I was actually brought up Muslim, and am now Christian but thanks
@@justapseudonym7 Is it okay to ask u why u converted to Christianity? Sorry if this is not polite..
@@msmd4976 lol it's okay! It was actually because of a couple of things. When I was growing up I learned a lot about Islam from my family and through Arabic classes that I attended here in the states, which I am so grateful for. I practiced Islam as faithfully as I could but I was also curious why Christianity and other religions said they were true. I wondered, "how can it be possible that we all say our religion is true?"
Since I believed ultimate truth as a Muslim, I asked Allah to help me understand Him more and I sought truth. I had some revelations that first led me to Christianity, but I also did heavy research between Islam and that one too. The biggest thing that convinced me was learning the Gospel: we are all sinners and because of that we can't save ourselves through our own actions. Since God is so Holy, how could we ever fully please him? That is why I had to accept Jesus came fully man and fully God in order to meet the standards Himself for me. Only God can meet his holy standards in this fallen world.
It was hard to accept that because growing up Muslim, I followed the 5 pillars; performing salah, professing the shahadah, etc. I always thought if I did good enough Allah would decide to let me in to Jannah once I die. Understanding that God is Holy, everything suddenly made sense.
It has been 3 1/2 years now since I professed Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, though I am still learning lol :)
Also Ramadan Mubarak to you, I no longer participate but I hope you are doing well
When life is becoming overwhelming, I find solace in the smallest things. A quiet cup of tea, watching the trees slowly sway, going to bed early and breathing slowly. But also very importantly allowing myself to feel. Know that it will pass and that you can hold sacred space for yourself. I wish you all of the happiness that is coming to you. Buying a house is scary and can feel endless but you will get there and you can do this. Lots of love, Maddie xx
you are on the right path of identifying your emotions. if you can take time out every morning to journal your thoughts in a book, and then handing it over to God, andjust present it to Him, and ask Him to take over the unmanagable things, then your burden wil shift ..
i read a Devotional book by Sarah Young, the books name is: Jesus Calling.....which reaaally make me experience Him talking to me in my daily challenges.
this book will be available to purchase online in your country.
one of her devotions , I will type out here, i think it appropiate on our busy busy lives.........
i am calling you to a life of constant communion with Me.
Basic training includes learning to live above your circumstances., even while interacting on that cluttered plane of life.
You yearn for a simplified lifestyle, so that your communication with Me can be uninterrupted.
But I challenge you to relinquish the fantasy of an uncluttered world.
Accept each day just as each comes, and find Me in the midst of it all.
Talk with Me about every aspect of your day, including your feelings'.
Remember your ultimate goal is not to control or fix everything around you, ,it is to keep communing with Me.
a Succesful day is one in which you have stayed in touch with Me, even if many things remain undone at the end of the day.
Do not let your Do do list (written or mental) become an idol directing your life'
instead, ask My Spirit to guide you moment by moment.He will keep you close to Me
1 Thessaloninas 5: 17
Proverbs 3:6
this devotional brought me much peace, and to experience HIScalm and His peace ,in my day, even if my day started with anxious thoughts
I read your msg .. so lovely it made my heart feel peace and Joy Thanks Maddie 😌🙏❤️🌷
@@bellec4453 Aww thank you Belle, I am happy you felt at peace. Have a great day xx
For me, music is mood altering. To feel peaceful, I put on French cafe music or Bossa Nova, close my eyes and instantly I’m on vacation. In my mind, I’m drifting on a lovely boat or relaxing on a beach.
Paola. I love your videos. You are so gifted... and so beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I get peace from this abd other favorite Bible verses.
Isaiah 41:10
"... do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Blessings
I tell myself, “ you are exactly where you need to be, you are learning what you need to learn, and it will all work out in the end the way it was meant to” 💚💖
Ohhhh boy, do I feel this! I’ve been feeling exactly the same way. One thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I would wake up every morning with almost no time to spare. I would quickly drink a cup of coffee and then get ready for work and leave. I had no peace in the morning. So…I set my alarm for 20 minutes earlier. I’ve been forcing myself not to hit snooze but to leisurely wake up and sit by the window with my coffee and read one chapter of a book (currently revisiting Anne of Green Gables). I even made some new bird friends I’d never noticed before in the tree outside the window. It is absolutely lovely and gives me a chance to greet the day in peace instead of chaos. I’ve been trying to do the same at night before bed. Fingers crossed that it takes hold.
hi from PEI
🤞I’m rooting for you Melissa! 💖
I love this, been trying to do the same 🤎
Melissa, that is just so lovely. Especially that you made new friends. So sweet!
I wish we could all meet pure souls like paola in our lives.
ugh i know literally all i ever need
She is an angel
She is a very rare soul - that's for sure.
Your videos are so peaceful.❤️ Thank you for sharing. My husband and I have four children 11 and under, one with special needs. Quiet may not be my season at the moment 🙂but I have peace. Being in nature, slowing down to breath and let go of control is a big help. Through many storms of life, Jesus has been my anchor. He always carries me through and is beside me each step. Thank you for sharing so honestly. You're not alone dear one.
Moving IS a TRAUMATIC event. I learned that this year when we moved into our new home, and started having severe panic attacks that would last for days on end. My therapist told me that moving is a huge change, to your comfort zone, your safe space and that that can be a traumatic event for some people. So don't feel bad that you need time or feel lost after moving, your recovering. Take all the time you need.
Living and caring for an elderly ill person in my home, I become "spent" for a lack of a better word, from time to time. I read recently a bit from a Guidepost writer, Edward Grinnar, "My fears, worries are internal...and too often my worries occupy the space where God's love and grace can abide." I try to remember this. It helps.
Caregiving is exhausting- remember self care- it’s critical
Love this! Thank you. I travel 3 hrs round trip every week to help my mom and stepdad. About 14 mos and counting. Needed this. ❤️
I loved Edward Grinnan's book "Always By My Side". I couldn't put it down.
What a gorgeous quote, thank you so much for sharing it. You have my respect - caregiving can be such a simultaneously exhausting and rewarding thing, an example of beautiful generosity and serious patience. I hope you've found some treasured ways to recharge yourself when you need it. 💛
Wow, this was incredibly helpful. Thanks for sharing. I don't often remember that when I am full of fear or negativity, I might be crowding out something precious God wants to offer me.
“This too shall pass.” The good- so relish, and be grateful, the bad- so endure, and learn.
Comforting advice! I wrote it in my journal. Thanks:)
From an older woman's perspective, I have had similar panics and found I was lacking in some nutrient or allergic to some food. Mine was milk products. Magnesium will help. All of us need Vitamin D living in the north. Also watch for tick bites.Just a bit of old woman advice, take it or leave it. I wish you well.
That's true! I took a magnesium bath when I felt anxious and I didn't feel so relaxed in at least 2 years!
We “old women” need to offer our support to each other and those women who are will be coming after! I love 💕 your take it or leave it, so that each of us can take wisdom and value and leave some for others who need the same! Enjoyed reading your comment 🙏🏻💛💙
Wise words...thank you.
I had a tough time recently, as my Abuelo passed away Friday. With family I helped take care of him at home and it was hard even though I tried not to show it, I certainly felt it in my body. My anxiety peaked and it always felt like a heavy weight was on my chest that didn't lift until I got thru it and he passed. I am the kind of person that gives my all in what I do. I have learned to respect my limits and retreat to a quiet place in nature and be alone to recharge for a day or at least several hours. Sometimes you can escape and sometimes you cannot, but hang on and ride the waves of life until things calm down once again reminding yourself all is temporary and this too shall pass. Sending you love and prayers mi amiga! Draw strength from your family when you need too and laugh.
Today for me it was coming here to watch your videos. I lost my job, at first I was strong (probably in denial) it came out of nowhere….then it set in and almost overwhelmed with panic. I turned to meditation, walked in the forest, picked some wildflowers then came here for a visit. Thank you, I realized that I’m ok, that I will be ok.🌿
Setting aside some time for prayer and the Word of God daily, by the Lord's grace, helps me keep my peace. Sometimes it's a fight to keep those times so one has to make a conscious effort to win them back.
You're a champion!
God Bless! 🙏🏻
The 70% rule has given me a lot of peace recently. I ask myself, did I complete this to 70%. Good enough time to move on.
As a bit of a perfectionist I am slowly realizing that the mindset of doing everything to 110% was burning me out. I still have a long way to go but that helps me get through the harder days
Hi Michelle, at 64 I'm finally accepting that realisation myself. The sky won't fall if certain projects aren't finished, we perfectionist's put too much pressure on ourselves. Time to take time to smell the roses ☺️ xxx
I struggle from religious trauma and feel everything I do needs to be perfect. Your comment has helped me a lot and I’ll be thinking of this often❤️
@@pixiedustthemakerofmagic2339 I grew up very religious where shame and guilt were a part of my thoughts at a young age. Be kind to yourself and don't forget to have fun 😊
My mom gave me this little plaque when I was going through some hard times and I have it on my windowsill in my kitchen and read it from time to time. DON'T QUIT: When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road your trudging, seem all up hill, When funds are low, and the debts are high, and you want to smile, But you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit. Rest if you must , but don't you quit! You are a beautiful soul so take time to heal yourself. We will always be in your corner supporting you in whatever you do. You have brought joy to so many with your channel, myself included. My wish for you is a beautiful new life in your new home with your soulmate.
When I feel my heart restless, or overwhelmed, I find a walk on a nearby reserve alone in prayer steadies my spirit.
It's natural to go through periods of anxiety with a new move. It's helpful to know that it's just a temporary state, and that things will begin to settle soon.
I needed this right now. Seriously...right this minute.
I'm packing to move. While it's a happy move after reading your comment, I'm in...tears.
I didn't expect all the emotional stuff that has popped up recently.
I remember hearing this advice on Tumblr once and I never forgot it: Creating something physical will make you feel better and can break you out of that depression rut, whether it’s drawing a picture or knitting something or writing something. That’s kind of what cooking has become for me. It’s something I really look forward to every weekend. I feel happy enjoying a meal that I put together myself, especially if it’s a new recipe I haven’t tried before.
Thank you for that share of wisdom. Leslie
I love this, thank you for sharing 🤍 This gives me the idea to write in my journal more..
@@hopefulheritage I also love to cook, but after going to work I spend less and less time on my hobby, so I always go anxious and angry (I will be glad if you look at my culinary channel)
Very sage advice. When you are 'creating' with your hands - 'time and mind-chatter disappear - suspended as you make each brushstroke, knit each stitch, etc. ... creating parks the ego giving you a time out of time...gives your mind a rest.
In my experience so many changes at one time have an impact - leaving a place of safety, working more, marriage, purchasing a house, a new family to build relationships with. For some of us we need more time for things, doesn’t make you weaker or less anything you just need more time. Give it to yourself because you deserve everything in your own time!
This. Great comment. Thank you.
You are experiencing a period of huge change. They only happen a few times in life. It’s understandable you have a lot of feelings about it. As someone with anxiety you videos bring so much peace and joy to me. They are a Devine peace of art. Thank you.
Make time for play, everyday!
Sing for pleasure whenever you can!
The comments are all so supportive and kind, what a great community, I’ve taken some days off work due to pain in my neck, I know my body is trying to tell me something and I need to rest, listen to your body and soul as you navigate the changes going on in your life 🌺 be gentle and caring to yourself 💓 as Nelson Mandela said, “ May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”. Much love and blessings 🙏🏻
Paola, don’t feel pressured to upload every single week! I mean, we love your videos, that’s why we’re here, but we can understand that you need some time. Get a well deserved break! We’ll miss you, but I’m sure we’ll see you soon!
I agree with Gonzalo. I learned the hard way that I forced myself to "run on fumes" way too long and it took such a toll on my body physically and emotionally. Take whatever time you need to rest and recoup. Also, know that your followers love you, want the best for you and will remain loyal to you and your channel. You have made such a difference in my life. Thank you.
It’s so hard when we get caught in the cycle of thoughts about “what if”. What if everything turns out just fine? That’s how I like to think about it. While buying a new house and making life changes are scary, they are also so exciting. As a 54 year old mom of 2 grown girls, one your age, I’d like to say, “you totally got this”. Also, you are not going it alone. :-)
I have been on a quest in the last 3-4 years to become more undomesticated animal to get back to the basics. My husband and I hiked the Appalachian Trail (2200) miles, and I learned that I need only food, water, and shelter. We carried everything we needed on our backs. I learned so many of my truths on that journey. Painful lessons, but so rewarding.
Since we finished, I continue to place myself in circumstances to allow growth. I just started cold bathing. It lets you know you’re ALIVE! It’s empowers such feelings of confidence and strength in knowing I can survive the exposure. The worries I once held around so many non essential to life things have subsided. It has been difficult to accept that I allowed my fight or flight response to focus on such trivial “what if” triggers.
By truly being present in my existence, with the sun and moon as my guides in the here and now, I’ve found the much needed distractions to remind me I’m rarely ever in true peril. Continue to explore the edges of your wild animal! Know that your perception is the only thing you can influence to guide your reactions.
Thank you for your beautiful videos. You’ve inspired me to explore my creative spirit and more fully enjoy the fairyland I live in! Take good care of yourself and know I’m sending love and healing your way. 🥰
Truly inspired.💙
Paola, I’m so sorry you’re feeling so much pressure at the moment. I have definitely gone through a time like that in my life and it ended up making me very sick. Real burn out is a horrible thing and leaves you lifeless and tired.
One thing I would suggest and it was suggested to me in my final years of high school is to schedule each week 7 hours of PWOP = Pleasure Without Pressure. Choose any activity/ activities that make you happy but have no pressure attached to them. To actually book in this time with yourself and not miss it. It’s very therapeutic because no matter how busy or stressful your days are you know that those hours are all yours and are going to be fun and have no stress attached to them.
You can do one hour every day or a few hours on one or two days.
I hope this stressful, pressure filled time come to an end for you very soon. You are a beautiful person and I would hate to see you loose any part of yourself to burn out.
Sending all my love from Australia
❤️ Rebekah
Thank you for this comment, Rebekah. Also, I have a dear sister who spells her name like you.
After 41 years of marriage & every time I had to move it was always hard. Now my husband passed away & it’s another journey in my life. Thank you for your videos It has encouraged me to start painting again. Thank you! You are lovely.
Alicia Jean’nette from Arkansas
You are at the top of the wave, everything that you have been doing has led up to this moment in time. The wave is cresting and soon you will flow evenly onto the shores of your new way of being. The salt stings, but the beauty of what you endure will be your inspiration for your future. Keep on witnessing and breathing deep, everything will be ok.
This is beautiful and I think these words hold a lot of truth.
Beautiful 😍
Hi Paola. Last week my grandmother passed, and I found myself asking “can I even handle this?” But at every step, I found myself resoundingly stronger than I ever thought possible. I was there, I showed up, I cried, but with that same numbness, I made it through one step at a time. I think of the quote “perhaps this is the moment you were made for.” I don’t think we have to be perfect, or “strong” even. Just show up. Be vulnerable. You’re doing amazing, and let those emotions flow through you. Blessings.
Hello beautiful Paola, nature is so grounding and you can see how happy it makes you.. panic attacks are never pleasant. I get the exact same experiences and have had panic attacks now for the last 30 years. A wise doctor once said to me "Katherine you cannot die from a panic attack, breathe through it" breathe work is so beneficial and is Free. I can write a book on it I've experienced all the symptoms. Just know this: you bring the world Peace. You really do make us feel like we are in another place and for that I thank you dear Paola.. God bless.. Katherine
The first line of Chaim Potok’s book In the Beginning says “All beginnings are hard.” I have found that observation to be very helpful in my life. Everything new upsets the flow and pattern of life whether it be a new job, a new house, a new baby, a marriage. As longed for as these events may be, they disrupt the internal life. I have learned that acknowledging uncertainty, seeing and feeling the chaos for what it is, and finding ways to calm my system like you did by sitting outside in this video, all help me ride out the turbulence as a necessary step in finding the new life. I hope you feel more grounded soon!
Congratulations Cottage Fairy! Remember, enjoy the PROCESS. Life is about the "journey", not the "destination."
I disagree respectfully. The destination is always the best part. The journey is fraught with anxiety and other “crap” .
@@dianaray1470 The destination is how you "grow". It causes the spirit to advance.
I'm so very sorry that it's like this for you, Diana--because we spend far more time traveling that we do reaching destinations. Heck, much of the time we don't even have destinations; we're just ambling around encountering other fellow amblers and saying "huh?" to each other! Wishing you easier travels and, btw, your name is beautiful. ❤️
I'm from the Philippines and I just want you to know that your videos comforts me Ms. Paola. It makes me want to get better. To leave people behind and work on myself until I am able to move out and live the life I wanted. You give me hope Ms. Paola. You have that big impact on me and I'm sure that other people feel the same way about u. I hope u know that we are proud of u. Of how strong you are as a woman. You are an inspiration. I hope you get all the things that u deserve in life! You are an awesome lady and I look up to you. Please keep going:D
I am a very high strung worrier and have found the only thing that can calm me down is reading the Bible. I never expected to be saying that. I never read the Bible and I would never have thought of myself as a religious person in the least. Even an atheist at various points in my life. I’ve come about this very gradually and not without questions, a lot of them. I love nature and am happiest when I’m outside seeing the beautiful landscape, whatever it may be. Realizing none of that is man made, knowing that the higher power of God has created this beauty is so strengthening, humbling, and gives me such gratitude.
there are so many healing scriptures in the bibe. I also just realized this over the past few years. I had no idea how calming and amazing these words are. Words to live by and full of wisdom us humans need.
I was brought up atheist but have also come to love various Bible verses. During the pandemuc one that helped was " Be awake and strengthen what remains." I couldnt go dancing so I made up dances to music at home. What remained was my body plus my creativity as I choreographed dances. We always have a lot of beauty remaining within limitations.
Thank you for making this video ❤️ it brought me back to when I burned out 5 years ago. My doctor said one thing that stuck with me: if your life was a basket, and in your basket you reserved space for work, relationships, rest etc… if you decide to take more space for work, your basket isn’t bigger! You just gave all the space for work! Meaning, mental health is all a matter of balance. And only you can make the choices you need to make to find that balance to take care of yourself ❤️ just like, it doesn’t matter if you drive a Ferrari, if you don’t know how to drive, you’re still gonna find yourself in the ditch. Mental health is SO important! You gotta learn how to listen to your body and mind to take care of it when it needs it. I hope you (and everybody reading my comment) can take some time to rest ❤️
"Change is often desirable, frequently necessary, and always inevitable."
Hello Beautiful One: You give so much of yourself to this community - so please don't ever feel guilty for taking some time for yourself ... 🥰
When I don’t have the time or can’t make the time I do little things like consciously taking a deep breath, enjoying every bit about a cup of tea (the cup, color of the tea, the taste, the curls of the steam, etc.)
Basically I just strive to be more aware of the things I do daily.
that's such a great advice tbh. focusing on the little things is both reassuring and relaxing
Yes. Litterally just enjoying the feel of a blanket, of a cup of tea, of every food you put into your body, observing nature if you can!! Lying down in the grass and looking at all the minuscule processes happening when we're too busy to pay attention. Looking at the clouds, observing people, every word they say every wrinkle on their face every expression...
When I am feeling anxious and overwhelmed I spend more time in nature. Take advantage of walking barefoot in your beautiful forest. Times of change are hard and we want you to take care of yourself. ❤️
Prayer is what truly helps me! Even in a time of chaos I can take a moment to talk to Creator and ask help to keep me grounded and balanced. Stay strong, many blessings. 💜
I also just moved in with my partner into a new house in a new city and I deeply resonate with how you’re feeling.
It is enough to notice what’s happening, in your body, in your life, in your relationships. It is so much more than enough ❤️
I relate so much, Paola. I'm glad you're making space for yourself in this time. Since you asked, I have a lot to say on this subject and will share some of my thoughts below. I sincerely hope it's helpful to you and anyone else here. 💛
I've spent the last two years honing in on my relationship with work, examining and reflecting and turning things over with a great therapist. It was all brought on by an acute, brutal situation of burnout, but truthfully it had been building up for me for over a decade. When I was a new grad, it was shortly after the Great Recession, and the job market was awful. I struggled for months to get a foot in the door at any job, I could barely pay my rent, let alone buy food, and it absolutely messed with me. Once I got my first "yes" I was absolutely determined that I would NEVER again experience that kind of fear and desperation. Working meant safety. After that, I never questioned whether I actually enjoyed working so much - it didn't even occur to me to question it, until my body caught up with me. I manifested a lot of the same symptoms you describe here, actually - insomnia, racing thoughts, even palpitations, rashes, hair falling out.
In retrospect, I've learned that I had been using work in the way some use things like emotional eating, compulsive spending or recreational drugs. Beneath that compulsion to work as much as I physically could, was a desire to avoid unpleasant emotions, to numb out painful and unprocessed memories, to feel safe and secure, to feel "good enough." But in our culture, working hard is considered respectable, even noble, right? Shouldn't that automatically make it fulfilling, and instill pride? Wasn't I just doing what I was supposed to? I feared what would happen if I took a step back, having a deeply held belief that in order to be worthy as a human being, I had to "pull my weight." On some unarticulated level, taking breaks was not an option. Even when I did have them, I spent them trying to force myself to rest (because I understood intellectually that I needed it, even if my subconscious disagreed) and never truly and fully resting, but never doing anything "productive" either, creating a cycle of ruthless self-criticism that only fueled me to push myself even harder the next day.
The pressure in our culture to hustle, the unquestioned assumption that working hard is *always* a good thing, and particularly the fruits of your labor - feeling like you're making it easier for yourself and your family to be secure and safe - makes it a lot harder to suss out when you might be doing it for reasons that ultimately aren't healthy for you. For those of us who have experienced times where there truly is no option to slow down or stop, it can be downright traumatic. It's no wonder we hold on tighter to that which feels safe, even when it's hurting us.
I know that my relationship with work will be something I will continue to grapple with, but I am really proud of the steps I've taken and things I've learned. Likewise, you should feel proud of yourself for recognizing these feelings, voicing them, and taking steps to care for yourself. I get the sense from past videos that you have experienced financial trauma, the deep feelings of fear and helplessness that come with it, and can really shape our sense of what's "normal" when it comes to our livelihoods. So I applaud you for being mindful, and taking a pause.
A few things that help me when I am feeling burned out or especially anxious are 1) gratitude practice. I'd love to say I have some fancy journal I write in everyday, but I don't. Sometimes it's just a matter of taking a few moments to make a cup of tea and feel grateful for the comfort and the warmth it brings. Or to list things in my head that I know are making my situation easier than it could be, and/or the list of people I know I can count on to help me when I need it. 2) I'll do a mental exercise taking an anxiety to its conclusion, asking myself "what's the worst that can happen" - make sure you take some nice deep breaths (or some other way to regulate your nervous system) first and use it with caution lol, but it does help me interrogate where I might be magnifying something in my mind. And lastly 3) reminding myself that even when "doing the Work," living a completely anxiety-free life is not a realistic goal. Worrying is incredibly human, it's part of how we survive as a species. And you're undergoing a lot of change right now. So I hope you don't take these feelings as a sign that there's something "wrong" with you or that you're somehow not doing enough to cultivate peace and contentment. You are. 💛
Thanks for writing such a thoughtful helpful comment for us all 🙏
Wow yes thank you for these thorough pieces of advice and for sharing your experiences 🥰
Very well articulated! Thanks for sharing. I wish you well. 😘
Thankyou for writing this. Maybe if the therapy that's available now, was available decades ago, someone could have broken through my head for me.
I read into my ex-h in here, only he took the road to hurt everyone to protect himself from hurt.
I understand that technology has made self awareness and paths to personal reconciliation to oneself very accessible, but your composition here is gentle, open, and to the point and resourceful to whomever it resonates with.
Do you blog or write already? I believe this is bookworthy.
God bless. Trudi 🌼
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It is both reassuring and calming.
Praying for you for strength, healing and peace! That God will calm you like only He can!
My go to is prayer in the mist of anxiety! Love you and your videos!
I agree! Gods love is all we need! Our world needs to bring him back into our lives! With God we find true peace! 🙏🏻
Absolutely! 🙏❤️🙏
@@kellyt4447 💯🙏🏿
I sometimes wake up with anxiety in the middle of the night. I reach my hands out to the ceiling and praise the Creator and then I can usually go back to sleep. By day I find there are times I only feel everything is right when I sit down and write... something... anything. What flows through me then often becomes an essay, a short story, and even a novel. Your videos are just a part of your deep creativity flowing out of you.
Hi Paola, in the past few years since I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, Sjogren's, it has brought on a lot of anxiety and learned that I needed to make myself, and my health, my number one priority. I'm also a Reiki practitioner and may I offer the suggestion of taking time to ground yourself. Nature is very grounding and I share your love of Nature and being outdoors but a simple practice is to release that anxiety and any energy that is weighing you down. Mother Gaia can handle our burdens. I love to do an earthing practice by standing with my feet in the grass and then imagine my anxiety, worries, and negative energy that does not serve me flowing through my body, out of my feet, and into the Earth. Then I ask the Earth to transmute that energy--I see it as recycling that energy. Since you are so in tune with Nature, imagine the Sun's energy warming you, melting away anything else left inside your body and mind that does not serve your Higher Self. The Sun has amazing healing qualities besides our much-needed dose of Vitamin D. You are a sweet, beautiful empathic soul and may you be well, may you be happy, and be at peace. I send you white light and Mother Gaia's supportive, loving energy showering upon you. Meditation/a grounding practice really helps me and find what feels right for you. Just connecting with Nature can be very meditative. Love, light and peace from Northern California. 🙏🕯🌼🦋🌲🌹🌻☀️
First I want to say, You are a gem. A beautiful soul. I have learned throughout my life that my body filling with anxiety is a gift. I realize that at those times my body is shouting at me to listen. When I stop and listen, I find myself going into a healthier direction with my life. I admire your honesty. And, the beautiful community of people you have brought together, sending love and care...
I’ve found that finding brief moments of quiet throughout the day to take deep breaths, and focus my attention to the sounds, smells, sights around me has helped me a lot. The more you look for these brief moments is the busyness of life, the more you will find them and the more they will help you. Lots of Love.
Reading my bible, listening to music, and living in the moment as much as possible. Enjoy whatever you are doing by living one day at a time!
I'm old now. What ever helped me when I was tired just like you are was listening to my inner voice, accepting the simplest answers to the most disturbing questions, even if they showed me the most uncomfortable way out.
This is lovely and true
agree fully. i listen to my inner voice, (the Holy Spirit talking to me), and if i have to scale down on activities, i do it.
our seasons change , ...and if you need a break and make less videos, then it is great...
we will still be here when you come back.... listen to your body . listen to your inner voice'
Dr Caroline Leaf ... her podcast; 5 steps to identify and eliminate the root of anxiety (or any mental ill-health issue) will reaally help any one having an issue with anxiety
she is world renowned for her book: Clearin g up your mental mess, as well as for the ground breaking work she did with people who were in accidents, who had traumatic brain injury, to recover completely.
Paola, you could get a little aquarium. I spend hours watching my fish friends and it is such a peaceful, relaxing hobby. Hugs!
You are homesick until you settle into your new life. Change is hard. You will make everything beautiful wherever you go…
Watching this stirred up memories of times where I too have felt the crushing weight of “what if I fail…” specifically when others are relying on you. (It’s so heavy)
Times where things were changing and I didn’t feel nowhere near prepared enough.
Times where I felt alone and completely at the mercy of that inner tyrant Anxiety.
I found peace and relief (which is so often what we need when the turmoil gets loud) in Jesus.
When I felt like it was “all on me” and “what if I fail” I learned that Jesus will take that burden on him for my sake, and he will free me. He promises to do what we try to do on our own:
“Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your Heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?”
And “Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: and yet I say to you, Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.” (Matthew 6:26, 28-29)
These beautiful words - if we really truly believe them and take them as our hope - can free us.
In other place in the Bible it says (and this is Jesus speaking) “come all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest”
Slowly, little by little, the more I trusted in Jesus to fight my battles for me (especially the battle with Anxiety) the more I trusted him to keep his word and provide all my needs, the more freed I became.
I still struggle at times - usually when I haven’t spent enough time taking to Jesus, listening to him, and spending time reading his words in the Bible… but I’ve learned that the sooner I go do those things the quicker I can be at peace and rest again.
So that is how I have learned to find peace for my soul
What I love about your channel is how you portray the beauty of God’s creations… I believe we can experience much healing in our hearts and souls by enjoying nature and taking the time to soak it in (as you are so wonderful at doing).
I am not sure what your own experience is with faith or with the Lord but I just wanted to share mine in hopes it can bless you or somebody reading this. Everything you were describing was familiar to me and something in sure most of us have felt at one time or another. It’s so lovely that you go do things that “make for peace” when you’re feeling that way - like spending time barefoot amongst the trees ♥️ Prayer too is so powerful and healing and I hope it is a refuge for you ♥️
Two extra resources that came to mind when I was writing this was:
An article by Brad Hambrick (you can Google it) called 10 Types of Thinking that Undergird Depression-Anxiety… learning to recognize patterns of thought that lead to anxiety and depression was v helpful for me!
The second thing I thought of was Morgan Harper Nichols and her Instagram page. I think a lot of what she writes would speak to you in your current season ♥️
God bless you I pray you feel better soon ♥️
having lived with chronic health issues and anxiety for some years now, i want to encourage everyone who battles with similar circumstances, to pause, evaluate and begin to simplify. there comes a time when we have to accept that we can't do all the things that we once did. we must be kind to ourselves, take care of ourselves because, if we don't, we can't possibly take care of others. paola, i hope that you are consulting a physician about your symptoms. yes, there's a lot of stress around us right now but sometimes there is something that needs medical attention. we may need medication to help get us through a difficult time. as my medication manager told me, 'better living through chemistry!' praying for you and hoping that you will feel much better soon. sending love. 🦋💙
You are so right
Yes, there may be an underlying health issue that is creating these feelings. I was having similar symptoms and my functional doctor ordered labs that resulted in showing I was deficient in B6 and amino acids. B6 is a precursor of neurotransmitters and can also be the cause of skin conditions, numbness of hands and feet - the list goes on. My thyroid T3 level was way below normal. Upon increasing my B vitamins, including weekly B12 injections, and increasing T3 dosage I am feeling much better mood and energy wise. Nutrition is so important to overall health and caring for others, without re-nourishment, will take a toll on overall mental and physical health.
@Pops absolutely.
@@trylliumt5441 i'm so glad that you paid attention and got the help that you needed. it's nice to find and answer. happy you are feeling better!
@@trylliumt5441 And B vitamins are difficult to get if you eat a plant based diet. Not to say stop, but to say consider being tested for B deficiency and ways to remediate the situation. I also had B injections and it made a world of difference.
"All is well that ends well and if it isn't well then it hasn't ended." these are the wise words my mother has been telling me constantly as I'm struggling with my anxiety and stress hope this helps someone ❤️
What a great saying!!!....but is it helping you? Cheers from Western Australia 🇦🇺 🦘🦘🦘🦘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘
thank you so much for this, have a blessed day ❤️
@@jennyc5132 It has been really helpful! It just calms my soul down a lot whenever I am feeling down or anxious about something I just remember that the chapter of my life that is happening rn is not currently over if I'm upset and then when I'm happy and calm then it will be over! And I would love to travel to Australia someday! It's so beautiful there!
@@yveaszz Of course! I'm so glad it helped someone! ❤️
@@laurenwilliams5815 Its always a beautiful way to remember your mum too Lauren....Australia is a land of such diversity although its rather waterlogged on the east coast right now. I hope you do get here one day..make sure you come to Western Australia, particularly the 'south west' region, its so pretty down here...have a happy day🥰🦘🦘
At one very busy point in my life, I was walking home in the middle of a snowstorm, pretty late at night. I was so tired. But it was also so beautiful, and I danced in the snow on my way home. I think even when life demands us to be busy, there is still beauty and chances for relaxation if we are paying attention.
You are so brave. 🌻💛 Life is really hard and difficult sometimes. What we do (also including our children) is to meditate on the Psalms (from the Bible). We find a Psalm we like, then learn it by heart - saying it out loud. Again and again. Daily. Intill the words lives in our hearts. ❤️ A long time ago, before internett and even before books, parents and children learned by speaking. By repeating. 💛Something so calming by focusing on Scripture like that. ❤️🙏 When you know the words by heart - you can always find them - even in the middle of the night trying to fall asleep. ❤️🙏Blessings from Norway 🇳🇴
“Embrace feeling lost,it’s the beginning state of doing it your way”
We hope this helps you find your way :)
Something I've been learning recently is to ask for help and to receive it graciously when its offered. Also being consistently kind to the folk around me has made a big difference and enhanced my relationships, as kindness often produces kindness.
Times of change can be difficult and make us anxious, I find that yoga exercises are so helpful, breathing and stretching and I've even started doing tai chi walking! Something mindful is so helpful. A good bedtime routine is helpful too, bath with candles and some restful music, spray of lavender on the pillow and a hot water bottle! Love and hugs Paula Madie x
I definitely have been there where I wake up with heart palpitations and extreme anxiety. I'm actually coming out of that feeling, I've recently had a huge loss in my immediate family and it has been extremely difficult to say the least, but what has helped me is, as cliche as it sounds; journaling, exercising, and definitely drinking enough water. Basically self care, and believing you're worth taking care of, putting yourself first. Sending much love and hope this helps you or someone that is going through difficult times.
im so sorry Kari. 💛
@@maleeka6312 Thank you for your virtual support, Maleeka
Yes, it’s like taking care of a plant. We think it’s something horrible when most of the time we just need some water, nutrients and some sunlight☀️🥰
@@pixiedustthemakerofmagic2339 I definitely agree!
paola, i understand the out-of-place and anxious feeling you're experiencing right now. im about to turn 19, finishing up my first year of college and going home next week to care for my mom after a surgery. a couple weeks later ill come back to campus for a 4 week local history internship. ive had severe generalized anxiety disorder since i was a baby. oftentimes day to day life is extremely stressful for me to handle.
here are some things ive learned to keep my mind peaceful when things are hectic:
-remember that you are not a machine, you are a garden. you need different kinds of care at different times. listen to your body and take breaks to rest when you can. rest is so important for change and growth to feel stable.
-plant yourself deep in projects you love. my favorite thing to do when im really stressed out is to walk to the art building on campus, turn on some music or a podcast, and do art for hours. ill be in there making a sculpture or a painting until the early hours of the morning sometimes getting all of my emotions out with this art medium. it works wonders when im too anxious to find peace.
-find little bits of comfort in your daily life. it may be a movie you watch when youre stressed, or a pen you really like using, or a hug from somebody that makes you feel safe. small moments of comfort go a long way to finding a sense of peace, they're just as important as the super time consuming or higher energy forms of comfort like traveling or large projects.
i hope some of these help you paola. you are an amazing person and you inspire me to find peace in my daily life. be safe and love yourself :)
Im 60 and love and need to stop by and give all of you a hug if you need one today. This young lady has bought us all here together to help each other. Bless you all xxxxx
I motivate myself/find peace amid work by always making sure I have something to look forward to when I get a break! Whether it's planning a little getaway over a long vacation or even thinking of getting myself ice cream after work, it helps me to have or create something positive to look forward to.
Be gentle with yourself, beautiful girl. You have been such a comfort to so many during difficult times. Life is a series of seasons. I pray this season will be full of peace & deep joy. Love to you , Paola xx
One thing I've learned over many difficult years is that our heart's desire lies directly on the other side of our fear. This (especially once experienced directly for myself) has helped me to persevere, taking as much time and kindness as needed, knowing that it'll all be worth it. The result is nothing short of magical, every time. Keep going my dear, I know you'll do well. 🌻💕
I am excited for the playlist🥹🥹
Get well soon Paola💙🙏🏼
I have learnt that unless I care for myself, the quality of my time that I have for others/work is lacking. We often have limited time for ourselves and I find that the quality versus the quantity of my self care matters most, eg. sitting outside at dusk while watching the beautiful colours of the clouds fill me. Enjoying the glow of my candles calms me immensely. At night when my noisy neighborhood is quiet, the stillness & the fresh air refreshes me. On occasion I’ve had to work through the night, & the birds start singing at 3am & it feels like they are saying good morning! :) When I have to work late & drive home, my gift is a beautiful sunset. During very stressful/trying times I have found that God will send me gifts; a favorite plant in my garden will flower, the day’s devotional will speak into my situation etc, ie. we are deeply loved & are never alone. Always look for the gifts, be blessed 🤗
Which is very true if you can't/don't help yourself foremost you can not help others quite as much, because if you aren't careful they take away your energy ❤️
Hi Paola, i’m not feeling too good myself after having had Covid it’s taking me ages to get my energy back. I try not to worry about the future as we cannot predict what’s going to happen, I try to live daily and in the moment and always do my best I can’t do any more than that. I love walking in our New Forest or being in our garden and with our pets. A simple pleasure this week was the small birds moving into the bird house we have, there so sweet and it’s lovely to watch them. Take care of yourself and remember to just deal with one thing at a time otherwise we get stressed from the overload. 😊💕🇬🇧
Sorry to hear you've been feeling overwhelmed. I recently had a panic attack followed by health issues that are yet to resolve. So far the only thing that really helped is "resetting the vagus nerve" which I now do at bedtime. Also I was just told by a fellow anxiety sufferer to think of 10 positive things before an attack takes hold and it can shift your mind into a whole different place as well as create new habits to replace the worrying ones. Hope you feel much better very soon :)
This helped me to hear this :)
I’ve been learning about the vagus nerve and it’s HUGE in terms of our health and well-being as is the microbiome 💕 reset before bed, fantastic idea!
What helped me is to think of something absolutely ridiculous when I feel panicky, to distract myself and being able to catch my breath.. I really hope she feels better soon..
Cinematography is unbelievable. Hollywood status. If not better. Super talented woman.
Slowing down is what helps me when I’m in a place where I can’t stop. When I have to continue to work, simply going about it slowly brings me peace.
Lol i cried while reading comments, such a lovely and warm community ☁️
it truly is. :)
Hello gorgeous soul! One of the number one things I would recommend when struggling with anxiety (I used this in liason with my psychologist to recover from ptsd) is movement as a way of processing emotions. So closing the eyes down, putting on some music and feeling whatever arises (try to not think about it or give the emotions a "story", just feel, and move in a way that expresses that feeling. There is no right or wrong, and they can be big or subtle movements. Eventually you may find yourself dancing, or on the floor in a ball crying, or screaming into a pillow, (if you can't scream where you are just sound it out and make the face it works too). This is called embodiment practice and has completely changed my life in the last 6 months. Sending you so much love xox
Paola, like many of us, change is hard. I think that for some reason our bodies go into this protective mode whenever it feels it is being compromised. Moving is one of the top 5 stresses we as creatures of habit endure. Your living in the moment now but you will get on the other side soon enough. Just keep reminding yourself that there is light at the end of this tunnel. Once you’ve established your home how you want it and get used to it you will be back to your normal self. Breathing in nature daily will certainly help. I am wishing you well. I look forward to your videos. Take care.
When I start to feel like you, usually the only thing that helps is taking proper care of my body - starting from healthy food to enough sleep and other mindful practices such as doing my favourite type of exercise and having a footbath! I put lavender oil in mine but I'm sure you can also use dried herbs and flowers. Sending you much love
Yes! 🤍🌻🌿❤️🌈🙏
This! When it's too much on the inside, strange I find that taking care of my outside helps. Add to that daily meditation and art making. Those are the things I do, to take care of myself. Shielding myself from negativitet for periods also helps - such as ignoring news for a while. Sometimes you just gotta do you.
You are a lovely young lady. Please take care of yourself and looking forward to having you come back on your channel. Prayers for you and be well!
My moment of peace is when I'm able to wake up in the morning sit outside and watch the birds. I listen to their songs/callings. I watch as the butterflies come to my garden. I look at every plant to see what's in bloom. Only after this time by myself I'm ready to drink my coffee and start my day. When I do this I find peace and strength. I hope you find what your spirit needs. Blessings to you!
Paola, change is usually stressful, trying to find your comfort zone again is quite a task. But I have found the times I had to leave my comfort zone, I was more alert to what could be. I find comfort and peace in knowing life is a huge classroom, full of experiences that God has control of, for our good. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your gifts to so many. ❤️