But you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they don't have a narcissist as a spouse cuz I am a Christian and I have learned very well about narcissist. They are the epitome of evil
I understand this question completely. After 30 years I love my wife and I want her to have access to anything that makes her happy. I realized we were not compatible about year 2-3 sexually, culturally and in conversational interest. But we always had the others back and worked hard on common interest like work, kids and financial interest. Most of my family and friends have always dealt with her at a distance because she has an abrasive personality and it has limited my relationships. Don't get me wrong, she has many good qualities that I admire greatly but I have also limited my emotional connection in order to stay and continue to serve in love. In my experience, you can love and not really like especially when a hurt has occurred that causes serious emotional damage. That hurt can be anything that challenges a core belief about a person. I just try to serve and perform request that make her happy which in turn buys me peace.
I understand this completely! I don't think this person is asking this thinking that everything should be perfect in order to like them. They could be unequally yoked and the Christian spouse is doing the Godly, Biblical thing by loving them as themselves but they don't like them because maybe their spouse has no integrity in their life. Or the spouse just isn't a nice person. I have had this dynamic in my own life and I totally get this! I love my husband beyond my own emotions but I don't like him because of the way he treats me and others. This very much can happen and is a real thing! People are and can be a narcissist or have the tendency of of those behaviors. And I can first hand say that the "heaping the hot coals" or "love them and without saying a word and they will turn to the Lord" does not work when dealing with this type of person. This isn't an arrogant question or something that this person has to examine if they are dealing with this type of person. I've pulled out all the stops, used every trick, and my husband still struggles with treating me right.
I'm with you. I don't see arrogance there at all. As I stated in my comment, it's hard to like someone who isn't nice or who is neglectful. Bless you in your struggle.
Yeah. My husband and I are unequally yoked. When a spouse is not wanting to follow God, then they most likely aren't treating their spouse well. How can they when they aren't learning what is right? I would like to hear advice about how to stay strong in an unequally yoked marriage.
I was disappointed to hear condemnation toward the party in question. I think it's wrong to label someone as arrogant if they are having a hard time liking their spouse, if they are committed to loving them. It would be hard to like a spouse who is neglectful, withdrawn, or mean. I generally like this podcast, but those comments about arrogance seemed judgy.
Thank you. My hubby and I are doing the Marriage devotional daily and it is helping our marriage grow
Thank you for sharing!
It's so hard when you live with a narcissist
But you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they don't have a narcissist as a spouse cuz I am a Christian and I have learned very well about narcissist. They are the epitome of evil
I understand this question completely. After 30 years I love my wife and I want her to have access to anything that makes her happy. I realized we were not compatible about year 2-3 sexually, culturally and in conversational interest. But we always had the others back and worked hard on common interest like work, kids and financial interest. Most of my family and friends have always dealt with her at a distance because she has an abrasive personality and it has limited my relationships. Don't get me wrong, she has many good qualities that I admire greatly but I have also limited my emotional connection in order to stay and continue to serve in love. In my experience, you can love and not really like especially when a hurt has occurred that causes serious emotional damage. That hurt can be anything that challenges a core belief about a person. I just try to serve and perform request that make her happy which in turn buys me peace.
What do you do with a narcissist?
I love listening to you guys. This little short video seriously just made it click for me.
I understand this completely! I don't think this person is asking this thinking that everything should be perfect in order to like them. They could be unequally yoked and the Christian spouse is doing the Godly, Biblical thing by loving them as themselves but they don't like them because maybe their spouse has no integrity in their life. Or the spouse just isn't a nice person. I have had this dynamic in my own life and I totally get this! I love my husband beyond my own emotions but I don't like him because of the way he treats me and others. This very much can happen and is a real thing! People are and can be a narcissist or have the tendency of of those behaviors. And I can first hand say that the "heaping the hot coals" or "love them and without saying a word and they will turn to the Lord" does not work when dealing with this type of person. This isn't an arrogant question or something that this person has to examine if they are dealing with this type of person. I've pulled out all the stops, used every trick, and my husband still struggles with treating me right.
I'm with you. I don't see arrogance there at all. As I stated in my comment, it's hard to like someone who isn't nice or who is neglectful. Bless you in your struggle.
Yeah. My husband and I are unequally yoked. When a spouse is not wanting to follow God, then they most likely aren't treating their spouse well. How can they when they aren't learning what is right? I would like to hear advice about how to stay strong in an unequally yoked marriage.
Thank you, this has been very helpful!
Im.doing the LOVE DARE on my husband. He has no idea. having a hard time lately. Im.hoping it helps us. I just started😊
What if you’re the only one trying to
I was disappointed to hear condemnation toward the party in question. I think it's wrong to label someone as arrogant if they are having a hard time liking their spouse, if they are committed to loving them. It would be hard to like a spouse who is neglectful, withdrawn, or mean. I generally like this podcast, but those comments about arrogance seemed judgy.
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