Kristin And Brie Share Their Wedding Day Regrets | Kitchen & Jorn

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  • @kitchenandjorn
    @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +723

    We talk about our WEDDING! No pictures because we don't have the rights to use them, Sorrrrryyyyyyy. We love you.

    • @kacee_is_bored
      @kacee_is_bored Год назад +159

      how do you not have the rights to share your own wedding photos?

    • @pcbassoon3892
      @pcbassoon3892 Год назад +57

      ​@@kacee_is_bored I don't know. That photographer is scamming. Also, didn't anyone just take casual snapshots? It's not like they got married before smart phones.

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +256

      @@kacee_is_bored it was part of the contract that if I used photos in videos I'd have to pay a fee per photo per use and it's too expensive for us to justify it unfortunately

    • @SinaJulia
      @SinaJulia Год назад +242

      @@kitchenandjorn makes it even more clear why „choose your photographer wisely“ was a big takeaway from your experience I’d say 🙈

    • @yesterdaydream
      @yesterdaydream Год назад +54

      @@kitchenandjorn Thanks for so many practical tips! This will make me a much better (,braver, littler) toaster, if that time ever arrives.

  • @jnbg61584
    @jnbg61584 Год назад +1085

    Whenever Brie is ready, on a special anniversary, y’all could renew your vows and Brie can wear whatever she feels beautiful in

  • @quinnwinter6361
    @quinnwinter6361 Год назад +584

    As a photographer for 5+ years who won’t do weddings again, my biggest piece of advice is to do an engagement shoot to make sure you and your photographer are a good fit!! Those photos can be a trial run so the wedding day is smooth(er)

    • @bethmichel7969
      @bethmichel7969 Год назад +10

      YES!!! That is what we did and we loved our photographer because of it! She did such an amazing job on our wedding day. And usually she does smaller weddings, but because we had already worked with her, she agreed!

    • @PSPJDW9914
      @PSPJDW9914 Год назад +5

      YEP. We did our engagement shoot, the photographer did *not* mesh very well with us, which is fine, but we were able to find a better fit. I always thought engagement photos seemed like overkill until we were engaged but they mean so much and can set a tone. Definitely don’t be afraid to put money towards the pictures!! Lol

  • @katherinemerrell621
    @katherinemerrell621 Год назад +822

    The toast thing is 100% accurate. At my sisters wedding the best man decided to roast the groom and the words sugar momma and blow up doll were used….

    • @krose6451
      @krose6451 Год назад +43

      Oof

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +208

      NOOOO

    • @Imberis
      @Imberis Год назад +42

      Yeah. The maid of honor toast at the last wedding I went to was... woof. The maid of honor was already drunk and went off script.

    • @Ana-ns7ek
      @Ana-ns7ek Год назад +1

      llllooooooordy

    • @TheNinnyfee
      @TheNinnyfee Год назад +2

      WHYYYY?

  • @the.jamie.turner
    @the.jamie.turner Год назад +326

    Re: the not eating - I was a bridesmaid for a friend who has ADHD and rarely remembers food even when there isn’t a bunch of chaotic wedding prep going on. For several days leading up to and through the wedding (with her permission), I set up regular reminders in our bridesmaid/bride group chat for “Make sure _____ has eaten.” It ended up being a good idea because she usually had not.

    • @AnniCarlsson
      @AnniCarlsson Год назад +9

      Oh good one. Ig I ever bother to get married I need that

    • @AnniCarlsson
      @AnniCarlsson Год назад +4

      I also needed to think if I eat today but have dishes so yes I did

    • @nameless568
      @nameless568 Год назад +1

      So sweet

  • @k.jean.l4324
    @k.jean.l4324 Год назад +882

    I was my BFFs "Hawkeye" at her wedding. Her biggest regret was being bullied into inviting awful people for "because family" reasons so she told me I was allowed to do whatever necessary to keep her peace. I oversaw the event. She has only three regrets (the season, the photographer, and the guestlist) because she let me be stressed on her behalf and let me handle the people and situations that would have destroyed her peace.
    Did I sneak the psychic damage toasts away and then cut the mic when those people got up to speak anyway? Yes. Did I stop someone from proposing at the reception by 'accidently' dropping my cake on his head when he went down on one knee and someone noticed? Yes. Did I take their guest book and cut out all the nice messages and scrapbook them into an album with corresponding pictures when the wedding pictures came back so neither bride or groom had to see mean messages? Yes (I had permission). Did I take her kids/her nephew out to the outdoor part of the venue to help them deal with PTSD, tired, and angry meltdowns because some adults didn't know how to be good people for one day? Yes. And this was the tip of the iceberg.
    Bridesmaids were often decoys to keep the bride safe/protect her from evil in ye old times and she thinks that everyone should adhere to that principle when picking your bridal party. She says you'll regret it if you don't.

    • @martynkal.1248
      @martynkal.1248 Год назад +160

      Dang you're a good friend. Who the hell leaves mean messages in a wedding guest book and bullied little kids

    • @6percentbattery
      @6percentbattery Год назад +87

      I’m getting married in a month. I’m screenshooting and sending this to my bridal party. I need them to be like the Heisman to whatever bs comes my way like you
      F/u: my maid of honor was the most stressful part of the entire affair 🤣

    • @gingerninja2487
      @gingerninja2487 Год назад +12

      Thank you for this. You are a great friend ❤

    • @TheNinnyfee
      @TheNinnyfee Год назад +41

      THIS! Your bridesmaids are your body- and soulguards for the day! ❤❤❤
      I never understood a big bridal entourage who you embarrass with ugly dresses, they should be your most important people! And they should look amazing.

    • @abigailrandall7520
      @abigailrandall7520 Год назад +5

      Yes! Pick your brides maids well!

  • @ApatheticXer
    @ApatheticXer Год назад +201

    My only wedding regret was the groom. The dissolution was more expensive than the wedding. The happy ending is that we remain friends. Sometimes a marriage just doesn't work out, and we were lucky to be amicable throughout the process and to this day.

    • @brandiehammond
      @brandiehammond Год назад +11

      Mine too. But mine ended not good. Met then literally two months later we married at the court house. Then about not even 2 years later we split. More of his personality came through and horrible red flags popped up and I wasn’t staying with a dead beat. I’m glad u guys were able to stay friends and on good terms.

  • @cattlin6957
    @cattlin6957 Год назад +293

    As the daughter of a wedding photographer, love the shoutout to good wedding photographers!!! It's such a specific set of skills.

  • @allisongetscrafty545
    @allisongetscrafty545 Год назад +193

    Our wedding photographer required an engagement shoot as part of her wedding package, and that was actually really great - we don’t always feel comfy with having our photo taken so we got to get comfortable with her in advance, which made our wedding photos look way more relaxed. We like most of our wedding photos but only like half of the engagement photos, which is how you know we needed a warm-up session 😂

  • @danitsaandaluz4116
    @danitsaandaluz4116 Год назад +774

    1. I love Kristin’s hair
    2. I love Kristin’s earrings
    3. I love Kristin’s dress
    4. Dare i say the glasses look better on Brie 😬

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +255

      They do look better on Brie, she is a nugget, I am not offended

    • @rgs8970
      @rgs8970 Год назад +52

      Adding to the list: I love Brie's lipstick

    • @rachelhuitsing1876
      @rachelhuitsing1876 Год назад +26

      I live for Kristin's earrings every new video! They have such amazing taste!

    • @lreppy10
      @lreppy10 Год назад +7

      The glasses look great on both of them! 👓

    • @sarahgoldberg6614
      @sarahgoldberg6614 Год назад +5

      You dare. Brie has impeccable taste in frames.

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +98

    My Adrenaline Levels show up when I heard “Expensive wedding dress hanging near a window and has a risk of falling down the street.”.

  • @clarebiging6081
    @clarebiging6081 Год назад +112

    I think the reason I absolutely loved my wedding photographer was because he wasn't a cut and dry wedding photographer. He photographed lots of different events and especially a lot of comedians/performers on stage (we actually knew him because my husband had met him at a show years earlier). But basically what I had found was he could really capture gorgeously effortless candids in a dimly lit venue (we got married at an Italian restaurant). My tip: don't overlook a photographer who isn't solely in the wedding market

  • @1redchief1
    @1redchief1 Год назад +126

    Kristin -- the clean-up -- YES! We did not think about it, too. So, folks drove their vehicles down onto the grass and, as it became darker, made big circle around the wedding party area and turned on their headlights -- folks helped cleanup and kept drinking whist our band played on -- it was amazing -- we felt the love and no one complained or teased us afterwards :) HAHA -- that is the best tip you gave!

    • @myerklamb8529
      @myerklamb8529 Год назад +1

      It kinda baffles me that people wouldn't consider this. Maybe not consider the amount of work it takes (much more than you think), but not really consider it much at all.
      And I'm not even the most organized guy either lol 😂

  • @Minnie_Stronni
    @Minnie_Stronni Год назад +159

    I 100% agree on the toasts comment! I would add tell your DJ, MC, wedding planner, etc that only certain people are allowed to have the mic. I was at my friend's wedding and the soon to be ex girlfriend of the best man, drunk off her ass, grabbed the mic after the speeches and went on a ten minute spheal about how happy she was at being invited, how nice their families were, and how she wanted her and the best man's own wedding to be just as special, etc. Thankfully the bride and groom found it more funny than anything else, but I can see how that could have easily take a turn for the worse!
    Also, if you buy glass ring boxes for your wedding, make sure they are not sitting in full sun during the entire ceremony. My husband's friend literally described being branded, because no one thought to keep the ring boxes in the shade. 😂

  • @alliedearie9167
    @alliedearie9167 Год назад +162

    Wedding photographer here - I loved hearing you explain this so well! It's truly a calling, because it is a ton of work. It's expensive for a good reason! After the entire day is over, all that's left from a tangible standpoint are you & your marriage, your rings, and your photos/videos. Everything else you spend $$$ on will be done! So you want all of that captured well so you can look back on it forever.

  • @catherinesvideos156
    @catherinesvideos156 Год назад +69

    I was at a wedding last summer and when I tell you I was in AWE of the wedding photographer. Giant wedding party, divorced parents, lots of navigate and she was ON IT. Got every iteration of family photos to keep everyone happy, kept it moving, knew everyone's relation to the bride and groom, it was really something to behold. I hadn't ever thought through the soft skills needed to be good at this until I watched a master at work!

  • @thatcactusboi
    @thatcactusboi Год назад +301

    me, a trans masc who has been engaged twice and realized I was seen as a woman in both relationships and fled like my life depended on it: SCRIBBLING NOTES FURIOUSLY AND FOAMING AT THE MOUTH just in case I decide marriage is for me one day

  • @rue353
    @rue353 Год назад +203

    I love how open and honest you two are, it's so refreshing

  • @JamieSanford
    @JamieSanford Год назад +376

    I tell everyone to get married at a hotel if possible. Someone else can dump all of the wedding stuff into your room and you can deal with it the next day. Also, totally agree with not spending enough on the photographer! I have nothing but regrets about that one.

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +75

      Oooooooooooooooo good ideas

    • @krose6451
      @krose6451 Год назад +32

      Yeah. Adding in for anyone thinking it's something worth cutting cost on. My mom got family to take care of it. The photos went great because we had several photographers in the family/wedding party but the video was a disaster. Her to be brother-in-law who was considered a responsible guy, handed it off to his teenage son who was fidgeting and bored to occupy him then didn't watch to see what he did. Whole sections are zoomed in on random things including 10 minutes of a very close zoom in on his brother's ear.

    • @susanheld
      @susanheld Год назад +48

      I really thought that I would regret not having our wedding at somewhere interesting and cool, but the thing is that your local Hilton Garden Inn does a bajillion weddings and knows what they're doing and if 95% of your guests are staying at the hotel it's very hard for them to be late! Hotel weddings are underrated.

    • @MeganHitachiin
      @MeganHitachiin Год назад +6

      Honestly this is such a good point

    • @perksofbeinganna
      @perksofbeinganna Год назад +7

      So, the hotel idea is smart but do wedding venues in the USA don't generally offer/include rooms? where i live the restaurants/venues targeted for wedding parties always have an upper floor with rooms to rent - one for the married couple is usually included and you can rent more for your guests (most likely as a place for kids to go to sleep, or if someone travels from far away).

  • @rinesserin
    @rinesserin Год назад +42

    I love these life videos. I feel like there are a lot of "big sister" style advice videos for people in their late teens to early 20s, but not a lot for us 25+ crowd who still have no idea what's going on. I really feel like I've learned a lot from the three of you just talking about your experiences with different things like this.

    • @seedylee
      @seedylee Год назад

      omgosh yes totally agree, esp as someone who's never thought about a wedding/event planning or how to hire people

  • @galactics
    @galactics Год назад +115

    "make someone be in charge of putting something in your mouth" perfect synonym for marriage!

  • @66262ggfdetuj
    @66262ggfdetuj Год назад +24

    The matching glasses are adorable

  • @TheMacnChz
    @TheMacnChz Год назад +18

    "I'm glad I didn't make the list" I love Brie's humor so much

  • @BoredSoprano
    @BoredSoprano Год назад +83

    Worked as a wedding singer for many years, the number of people who ask for Nothing Compares 2 U to be sung at their wedding is staggering, we had to gently explain the meaning behind the song and run through the lyrics with couples so many times.
    Please make sure you know what the songs you are picking are about!

    • @LemonGrinder
      @LemonGrinder Год назад +22

      Ohh my goodness, you must have so many stories! Apparently people tell Sting all the time about how Every Breath You Take by the Police is "their" song...

    • @summere.6225
      @summere.6225 Год назад +11

      @@LemonGrinder Oh. Oh no. I like that song, but that song is CREEPY.

    • @BoredSoprano
      @BoredSoprano Год назад +5

      @@LemonGrinder oh wow! That one should definitely be on the don’t play list

    • @s.p.734
      @s.p.734 Год назад +9

      @@dd4850 There are *some* songs that can be interpreted in *more than one* way, but it doesn't follow that *every* song can be interpreted in *any* way that you please. There is, for example, no amount of subjective interpretation that can turn Baby Got Back by Sir Mix-A-Lot into a touching ode to a father-daughter relationship, and there is no amount of subjective interpretation that can turn Nothing Compares 2 U into anything other than a break-up song.

    • @jillvasquez1010
      @jillvasquez1010 Год назад +7

      Yes! A friend of my sister was considering Sia "Chandelier" and I was like "you do know what that song is about right?"

  • @thebigkapowski
    @thebigkapowski Год назад +48

    When I got married, we had an officiant that made it his practice to stand between us and the audience, and he stood on one side of it or the other, walking back and forth. It made us look at each other, and the pictures were all of just us and a beautiful background instead of us and a random dude. Fully recommend this.

    • @myerklamb8529
      @myerklamb8529 Год назад

      I'm trying to picture this but I can't. He made an effort to stand behind one of you so as not to be in photos?

    • @thebigkapowski
      @thebigkapowski Год назад +8

      @@myerklamb8529 Instead of standing in the middle of us like usual, he stood off to one side literally behind one of us, depending on who was giving their vows, etc. So in every picture, it was just me and my ex instead of the usual me, my ex, and the officiant. We didn't really know him, so it worked out for us. For those that have a special person officiating, it would be different.

    • @JuliaRaffo1
      @JuliaRaffo1 Год назад +7

      @@thebigkapowski I’m officiating on Saturday and I will step aside for the vows! Great idea. I already knew I’d peace out for the kiss but this is also helpful

  • @neallierichardson3275
    @neallierichardson3275 Год назад +23

    I regret letting my MIL start pacing up the wedding as soon as the cake was cut. It cut the whole reception short and we didn’t get a chance to enjoy it. We were doing everything ourselves so she just wanted the help of the groomsmen to break down tables and whatnot but when she asked if we could “start to pack up because everyone has left. But it’ll only be the small things inside the church” it turned into everyone help clean everything up and we barely even got to enjoy it.

  • @kiyara01
    @kiyara01 Год назад +22

    most of our group of friends had never met the bride before our friend's recent wedding to her (due to distance) but we ended up becoming her food protection squad who hid her from other guests and fetched snacks and drinks so she could actually eat and have a little time to herself and she was like I LOVE YOU GUYS and we all had a great time, highly recommend

  • @audjusushi
    @audjusushi Год назад +102

    I have zero regrets about my budget wedding. Had 30 of the most important people in our lives to witness our union, didn't bother with any of the traditions/expectations that weren't important to us, and just generally made it about the union and not the party/performance. We've been together for 11 years and married for 6 years and I'm looking forward to the rest of our lives together.

    • @sarahkinsey5434
      @sarahkinsey5434 Год назад +5

      I like to watch Say Yes to the Dress, clips on wedding snapchat channels, and read Reddit stories about weddings. I definitely know my wedding will be lowkey and inexpensive. I'm not going to spend a down payment of a car on a dress or a down payment of a house on ONE day.

  • @knottynumbers44
    @knottynumbers44 Год назад +39

    Eloping to do a Las Vegas wedding was one of the better decisions I have made in my life. Had a party/"reception" about a month later at home and it was beautiful and relaxed. There is no way I would have survived a more traditional wedding.

  • @jessicachurchill3619
    @jessicachurchill3619 Год назад +19

    The best thing I did at my wedding was have my husband and I eat in a separate room during meal time. It made it so that we could have a moment to take it in and made sure that we had the ability to eat. So proud of that!

  • @marianataliasaezsampson1021
    @marianataliasaezsampson1021 Год назад +62

    Married almost 8 years. Only regret was no videographer 😢 But prioritized photos and other things.
    I also always recommend creating a wedding email for the process of planning and then deleting it after it’s done. That way you don’t have a million vendors to unsubscribe from.
    Love when y’all make videos together. Love how much more comfortable Brie is getting in front of the camera! I think you both are such a great example of a loving couple who have supported each other through it all and look better than ever.
    Yay love!

  • @annagregory6331
    @annagregory6331 Год назад +19

    A "what we loved" wedding video sounds lovely! I'd LOVE to watch that. 🥰 Celebrate that happy stuff and we'll celebrate with you 🎉

  • @mikayla4081
    @mikayla4081 Год назад +19

    I’m a photographer, and everything you said about wedding photography is SO true!
    Family and family friends have asked me to do the photography at their weddings as a wedding gift (so for free) and I’ve had to be like yeah no, I am not a wedding photographer, I’m not at that level, I don’t have the experience or skill set necessary for those photos to be something you’ll be happy with. Some of them have understood, some of them haven’t and have been upset with me. I don’t really care, I’d rather them be mad at me for awhile because they had to pay a photographer then be mad at me forever because they have bad photos.

  • @SCB-il8ez
    @SCB-il8ez Год назад +49

    Glad you two are working through all of the changes together! It’s inspiring! You both are very lucky to have each other’s love and support unconditionally-💕

  • @southerngypsy13
    @southerngypsy13 Год назад +54

    Aw man my biggest regret was not knowing my husband's family was an eat and run family. I had to go back outside after cutting the cake for bridal shots because it was raining before the ceremony and everyone started leaving and breaking down the decor. Didn’t get to throw the bouquet or do a first dance 😅.

  • @kianalee5375
    @kianalee5375 Год назад +15

    Not yet to have been in a relationship or get married; however, the point where Kitchen brought up waiting for late friends resonated with me a few years back when I spent the majority of my birthday party waiting for the arrival of one friend. To this day, I think back to that birthday with poor memories not only because it broke the peace of the day for me, but after all that, I haven't seen stayed friends with that person :( don't wait for late people to enjoy those days that are made to be about YOU!!!!

  • @kymbot
    @kymbot Год назад +29

    Love this ❤
    Honestly I could write so many tips for weddings (I did a course because I really wanted to be a wedding planner, however I am bad at networking 😂) but the biggest ones are
    1) Remember this is about you and your partner(s) not anyone else - so don't let anyone (even family!) dictate your day
    2) Have a point person! Whether this is a wedding planner or someone in your party, make sure this person knows the main pieces of the day and can take the control away from you so that you can enjoy your day! Being stressed shows so have someone else take on those roles.
    3) Your biggest expenses should be photography and food.
    - Find a photographer whose photos you enjoy. Meet with them beforehand & if you have the $ get an engagement shoot done by then to see if you vibe. If they don't ask for a photo list MAKE ONE ANYWAY!
    - Our photosgraphers asked for a photolist and I made a very detailed list I wanted (our wedding was small at 21 of us total) and we immediately did the family photos right after the ceremony. It was super quick and my partner and I had loads of time for our couples photos. The photographers said the photos list (and Pinterest board lol) made such a difference.
    You need food to eat before you do anything. Please please eat on your day. And having a good reception/meal for your guests is something they'll remember.
    Actually! One last piece of advice - no one will remember what went wrong if you don't bring it up. No one is going to remember or care about the small details you noticed and stressed over. Stay calm and enjoy your love.

  • @lavendarcrash2941
    @lavendarcrash2941 Год назад +21

    Love this. Totally understand the shoes thing, that's why mine were the "something old" twice over: my stilettoes from prom for pictures/ceremony, and vintage chunky heels for the reception. No breaking in, and the sandals weren't needed until cleanup.

  • @kyrascrimgeour5825
    @kyrascrimgeour5825 Год назад +6

    Yes to the photographer! I had so many people give this advice and so our photographer was one of our highest line items and it was so very worth it.

  • @justrenthx
    @justrenthx Год назад +8

    the thing I learned most in this video is confirmation of my lack of desire to ever have a wedding. all love to those who do, but me protecting my peace is not doing that ever 😊

  • @rachaelreis6530
    @rachaelreis6530 Год назад +9

    Thank you for talking about how important wedding photographers are! My sister and i used to have a photography business and weddings were our main gigs. People dont understand how much goes into being a wedding photographer. We always recommended having us take engagement photos so we could get to know eachother and that way they would feel more comfortable with us on their wedding day. We would also have meetings where we asked what their esthetic was (what style we should edit the pictures in) what photos are important to get & with what people etc.

  • @livinginthenow
    @livinginthenow Год назад +36

    The single most important decision about your wedding is one you both got 100% right. You picked the right person to marry. Everything else will become water under the bridge as time goes by.

  • @kathrynbrill5805
    @kathrynbrill5805 Год назад +21

    we had a micro wedding because of Covid with only 6 guests, and I thought we would have tons of regrets as a result - but almost 3 years later, while I do wish we could have celebrated with everyone we had planned to have, the day itself felt perfect and I look back on it with contentment and joy. It’s totally natural to be stressed about everything going to plan - but even if you can’t make everything happen the way you want it to, you can still have an incredible day celebrating the love between you and your partner!
    Oh, and if you’re going to wear a wedding dress, see if there are any wedding consignment shops in your area. You can find some really beautiful dresses for really good prices. My wedding dress was from a consignment shop and it saved me a ton of money. (And if you have a wedding dress you don’t want to keep storing, consider consigning it so someone else can use it for their wedding!)

    • @kaelakeluskar
      @kaelakeluskar Год назад +2

      Dear Lord yes! Because of COVID I only had about 15 people total and because of that, everything was manageable. We didn't go bankrupt trying to please a bunch of guests.

  • @kaitlyn1421
    @kaitlyn1421 Год назад +2

    “It was a small wedding.. only 62 people”. 😮 I can’t even think of 5 😂

  • @beckie10
    @beckie10 Год назад +10

    Thank you for acknowledging that you have regrets! So many people say regret is a wasted emotion but I think as long as you don’t become consumed by it that regret can actually teach us a lot. And here you are paying those lessons forward! I’m not sure I’ll ever get married, but I appreciate all the advice just the same😀
    And a Happy Anniversary to you both as well!💕🎉

  • @bethanythatsme
    @bethanythatsme Год назад +84

    Yay! Y'all are my lil ray of sunshine when I'm exasperated from this bonkers planet. Thank you 🌻🌞
    Edit: you both are rocking fantastic lip shades!

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +17

      Thank you!!!!

    • @drsamthefrog
      @drsamthefrog Год назад +8

      Right?! I was so distracted by Kristen's perfect coral-y lipstick and Brie's lace sleeves, thinking dang, I should get a top like that!

    • @bethanythatsme
      @bethanythatsme Год назад +4

      @@drsamthefrog those lace sleeves are fabulous

  • @m_here1
    @m_here1 Год назад +3

    The wedding photographer advice is so real. Event photography is incredibly difficult, and not just any photographer can do it. You better vet that person and their team THOROUGHLY.

  • @liz9843
    @liz9843 Год назад +7

    We used 10:34 prepared vows, and I’m SO GLAD. Lovely vows, very simple, and we both meant them.
    11:06 I wore $25 flats! Best choice ever. Changed into jazz shoes for dancing at the reception.

  • @ilyadstory
    @ilyadstory Год назад +2

    Oh my god that kiss at the end and Brie's little wave was the purest sweetest thing I've ever seen

  • @missycp09
    @missycp09 Год назад +22

    I wish I could like this video more than once! You both are so cute and your love is very much shown. Congrats on 6 years may there be many more! 🎉
    Also Kitchen EARRINGS AND DRESS (and ofc Bries taste in glasses) are FIRE. Drop the stores plz!

  • @aliyahpulido953
    @aliyahpulido953 Год назад +2

    You lovely people are some of my favorite folks on the internet for the simple fact that you're so candid. You've really opened up about your struggles with mental wellness, self-image, and even your friendships and your marriage and now your WEDDING of all things! So thank you for sharing lessons you've learned and things you remember from times when you didn't know stuff you wish you did or didn't realize you needed. This kind of honesty and realness can be lacking in other forms of media I consume.
    (P.s., Those glasses look so precious on BOTH of you! I have a very similar pair that are not prescription, but they're blue-light blockers so I use them when I'm on my for computer a long time.)

  • @lushiousification
    @lushiousification Год назад +9

    also with the shoes: If you are going to wear heels and then take them off later your floor length dress is now too long. Make sure you wear comfy shoes that make you feel pretty and/or happy. I wore black satin shoes with the smallest kitten heel, I didn't have to take them off because they were comfy, but if I did take them off my dress was still the same length and I didn't have to have fistfuls of dress while I was running around the reception.

  • @AN-tw7uj
    @AN-tw7uj Год назад +15

    Man, I hope the thing I said at my younger brother's wedding was okay. I was one of the only people to go up when invited to speak. They are high school sweethearts (started dating at 15, got married at 26). I'm not good at public speaking and get pretty close to passing out when I do, but I was a little disappointed neither of my parents wanted to say anything, so I went up to the microphone said, "I'm so thankful that I got to watch you grow up together, and now I get to watch you grow old together. Congratulations! I love you both." That was all I could really get out. Neither of them really seemed to care one way or the other.
    I was a bridesmaid, and was almost kicked out of the wedding over something really stupid. I confided to one of my other brothers that I felt so awful in my bridesmaid dress that I wasn't even sure I wanted to be a bridesmaid. I'm plus sized and we had to wear those infinity dresses. Whoever said those dresses look good on everyone was a liar. No matter how I wrapped that thing, it looked terrible and unflattering. I said that I felt uncomfortable and hideous in the dress, and it made me feel like not being in the wedding if it was what I had to wear. It was a statement about the way the dress made me feel about my body, not a statement about the wedding itself, said privately after a few drinks to a person that I thought was a confidant. But, of course, my brother gossiped about it to my SIL, who then wanted me to give my PLUS SIZED dress to her size 2 friend to be a bridesmaid instead (purchased on Etsy, on my own dime, with no returns, and it was more expensive than her wedding dress, which she got for less than $100). So I had to explain what I actually said and what I was actually feeling to my SIL, who eventually offered to let me try to find something in the same color (I couldn't - burgundy is hard to match).
    The day of the wedding, I finally got to talk to my SIL's younger sister (she lives in another state). She is very very very thin, and she hated her body in that dress too. For me, it was really unflattering and kept slipping off. I spent the entire wedding readjusting the dress. For her sister, she's so thin that the straps were wrapped around her middle a dozen times to keep it on. We were both miserable and uncomfortable. The only person who liked the dress was her older sister/MoH who picked the dress out (and who was probably one of the worst MoHs, but that's another story).

  • @TheHonorsKid
    @TheHonorsKid Год назад +4

    This was such a great video, as a bride trying to get everything done for her October 13th wedding, I needed to hear from folks that have been through the process

  • @Aster_Risk
    @Aster_Risk Год назад +7

    I don't regret the person I married. I regret having a wedding, because we were pressured/guilted into it.

  • @ladymess1
    @ladymess1 Год назад +35

    I had stomach flu on our wedding day and felt like death on toast the whole damn day 😩

  • @tbeavs10
    @tbeavs10 Год назад +14

    How are you two so adorable?!?!?! These videos always make my day, thank you for adding some light into the world 😊

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +3

      Thanks I was worried I was being too loud and too much here

    • @gryffyleelee
      @gryffyleelee Год назад

      ​@@kitchenandjorn that's why we're here! Be proudly "too much"!

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +7

    11:15 In India, there was this famous female actor (Sonam Kapoor) who wore sneakers with her wedding outfit (there was a floor-length skirt involved) and I thought it was unusual but also a genius idea.

  • @katieweeman5007
    @katieweeman5007 Год назад +3

    This is so relatable lol, I’m glad I’m not alone in having regrets about my wedding… sometimes I think about redoing our wedding with the most casual, no-pressure party where we all wear leisure wear and have no schedule and no stress

  • @TROQUE4
    @TROQUE4 4 месяца назад +1

    well, now there is nothing i want more than to hear that toast!

  • @AmandaCef_Art
    @AmandaCef_Art Год назад +3

    I have been a day-of wedding coordinator more than once and I genuinely think everyone should have one. Even if it’s a friend you can pay a little bit, it’s so nice to have somebody navigate a lot of this for you!

  • @marljusweety
    @marljusweety Год назад +9

    When I was a kid some relatives asked me if I would be their flower girl. I cried hysterically and hid under the table, terrified at the thought of everyone looking at me. Now, Im getting married soon and I tell my family its not gonna be a wedding. We are getting married and then having dinner at a restaurant. With only our closest family. The youngest participants only focus is having cake and that sounds great. I do enjoy weddings, I just dont want to be the bride and have all eyes on me. Lets just do the formalities and then enjoy cake!
    (And yes, of course no one pressured me as a kid. They got married without a flower girl and the groom kept his status as my favorite uncle.😅)

  • @shireensasani6224
    @shireensasani6224 Год назад

    Ooh, another lovely peek behind the curtain into the lives of Kitchen and Brie! Thank you for always being so candid and open about your feelings and struggles (and triumphs!) in different situations. And belated congrats on the anniversary!

  • @stormmcguire1928
    @stormmcguire1928 Год назад +16

    Maybe renew your vows! You both can fix regrets and Brie can wear a beautiful gown!

  • @rawritsataco
    @rawritsataco Год назад +5

    my wedding regret: almost marrying a person who actually preferred 14 year old girls. Found evidence and kicked him out less than 2 months from the set date.

  • @enmanley
    @enmanley Год назад +4

    Absolutely my favorite RUclips couple, your two are such a good match for each other and everyone there’s a Kristen and Brie video, it just makes me smile. Even after 6 years of marriage, the energy and love between you two, feels like newlyweds💕💕💕

  • @alysonworks3811
    @alysonworks3811 Год назад +18

    I regret letting my get ready time be a thoroughfare for anyone and everyone. We had a big BBQ buffet for food and I regret forgetting the BBQ sauce at home. We had GALLONS of bbq sauce to go through, and we ended up throwing half of it away after a year when we moved. I also regretted my shoe choices, my heels were gorgeous knockoffs of Carrie Bradshaws Manolo Blaniks but OH MY GOD my feet hurt. I did have back up sparkly sneakers for the reception at least. I also regretted not having my dress properly cinched up (corset back) because my boobs are al over the place in the photos, as well as forgetting my Spanx...

  • @janetshepherd7872
    @janetshepherd7872 Год назад +2

    A really good piece of wedding advice I used a lot was ‘splurge on things you can’t replace last minute’. That will be different for everyone depending on priorities but for us it was photographer & reception venue. Our photographer was amazing, and we did a trial as well which were such beautiful pics and helped massively.

  • @glndreamer
    @glndreamer Год назад +1

    As someone who is planning on getting engaged this summer I love the wedding content! I think a great way to spin the “things I liked about my wedding” into a video could be “things to make sure you do” at your wedding. I would love to see it!

  • @MariahRayneArt
    @MariahRayneArt Год назад

    This was so nice to hear a really honest review of your wedding. Thank you!

  • @chicgirl85
    @chicgirl85 Год назад

    The removal plan is SO key. I had planners who were on top of it, but day of, I was absolutely so grateful for it.

  • @kaleshabastion2332
    @kaleshabastion2332 Год назад

    I totally agree with the photographer advice! The photos are like the one thing you always look at from your wedding and not loving them really sucks!

  • @herzetty
    @herzetty Год назад +1

    omg yes the amount of song selections required was a total surprise to me! I didn't realize we'd need like 30 minutes of pre-ceremony music. Planning the music was stressful but ended up being one of my favorite things after because I could listen to a "soundtrack" from that day and it's so, so lovely

  • @bella_zuk
    @bella_zuk Год назад +2

    This video made me look for pictures from the wedding, and can I just say that Kristin looked absolutely gorgeous like omg xx

  • @Reina-mu1bd
    @Reina-mu1bd Год назад

    I LOVED THIS VIDEO THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
    also to everyone commenting additional advices thank you!

  • @elliotholloway-dowd2769
    @elliotholloway-dowd2769 Год назад +4

    The photographer point is SO important. Also make sure you will have the digital rights to ALL your photos, or at least indefinite free access from the photographer. For our commitment ceremony, we will be much more choosy, meaning we will be having a trusted friend who is a wonderful photographer take our photos, instead.

  • @disneygirl8694
    @disneygirl8694 Год назад +8

    Lol about the late thing, most POC communities tend to be late to their own wedding. I was a bridesmaid at one where the bride was at least like an hour late.

    • @kitchenandjorn
      @kitchenandjorn  Год назад +2

      Yeah it's like I said: I wouldn't stress about holding the wedding if it were to happen again and I would just go for it!

    • @disneygirl8694
      @disneygirl8694 Год назад

      @@kitchenandjorn wedding redo? 👀

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +46

    AAAAAAAAAA We have a Kristin x Brie video at last! Sending my warmest regards to both of you. Also, Happy Anniversary!

  • @yellodello1221
    @yellodello1221 Год назад

    Loved this video. I would definitely watch one where you talked about what you liked at your wedding/tips for wedding planning. I love seeing people's wedding strategies.

  • @Falany
    @Falany Год назад +9

    I was the maid of honor at my friend's wedding. I wasn't in any of the main pictures 😂 I took most of them though, and they still use them and framed a few so in that way I was still there! I also did her make-up, which was a very important thing for both of us ❤
    Also making sure the bride was fed was indeed a job on its own and very important! She was so stressed she kept putting everything down to go do something else and the bridal party just going NOPE ONE BITE AT LEAST really helped

  • @Olivia-ns1mq
    @Olivia-ns1mq Год назад +6

    I work at a wedding band company as a coordinator and live sound engineer, and if you have a live band, try to stick to the schedule as much as possible! If timing is thrown off by more than 15 minutes, then you lose soooo much dancing time down the line. It's a little easier to pay the DJ to stay late, but paying an entire band full of multiple people, it can cost a lot to pay for extra time! Also recommend not using venues who don't allow dancing between meal courses, that also eats up a ton of dancing time!

  • @kiraanthoney5566
    @kiraanthoney5566 Год назад +23

    One of my regrets for my wedding speaking about small weddings we had a 50 person guest list and only about 40 people said they could come which is fine everyone said they were coming they rsvpd everything was great and we wanted to do more people but with our budget we had to be really choosey with who came and who didn't day of more than half the people didn't even show up we maybe had 15 people and 40 chairs and enough food for 40 and we were missing my husband's best man because on the day he called saying he wasn't going to be able to make it it was awful I was so stressed I had an anxiety attack and we were already running behind because the weather was not what we planned for it ended up raining the night before and it was rainy and gross the day of so everything was wet and it was just awful so I regret being so stressed about that situation and also like our pictures looked awful because you could see all the empty chairs in them and it makes me so sad to this day

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +4

    1:10 It’s like that moment when Sandra Oh called out Emma Stone and the latter yelled “I’M SORRY!” from across the stage.

  • @AlishaH-fo8qv
    @AlishaH-fo8qv Год назад +4

    Brie, "we just had our anniversary...uhhh" *looks at wedding ring to see when anniversary was lol 🤣😆😝

  • @samanthaflo477
    @samanthaflo477 Год назад +2

    Totally agree about the photographer!

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +5

    Delegating someone to make you’re slightly fed sounds awesome!

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +4

    18:32 The punchline at many Indian (Hindu Savarna) weddings is that the wedding photographer will take a photo of someone eating and being awkward while eating.

  • @DCSquirrel
    @DCSquirrel Год назад

    This was way WAY more interesting than I thought it would be. Very informative.

  • @eustacia03
    @eustacia03 Год назад +2

    I love that your first dance was Talking Heads!

  • @lesliemoiseauthor
    @lesliemoiseauthor Год назад +1

    The earrings and the dress color together! 🔥

  • @TheBlueWind
    @TheBlueWind Год назад +1

    Wild times, glad the net experience was positive!! Thanks for the tips~

  • @athenaatwar475
    @athenaatwar475 Год назад

    I love y’all sm that this made me start a playlist for actually useful wedding videos. The comments section is really helpful too omg. Your chemistry and how your wedding sounded makes me so excited for mine in a couple years :’)

  • @shiloh2575
    @shiloh2575 Год назад +1

    The Twinsies glasses are so cute 😭😭

  • @meljac9649
    @meljac9649 Год назад

    OMG LOVE THE LUCY AND YAKS!!! SUCH A CUTE OUTFIT BRIE!!

  • @alexandramather7071
    @alexandramather7071 Год назад

    I love ending the week with you gems! ❤❤❤

  • @marianneshepherd6286
    @marianneshepherd6286 Год назад +2

    Aw happy anniversary guys! ❤

  • @crystalcandles752
    @crystalcandles752 Год назад

    This video has so many funny and adorable moments.

  • @erinusmax
    @erinusmax Год назад

    Both of your makeup is IMPECCABLE 😍

  • @nicolebrown6450
    @nicolebrown6450 9 месяцев назад +1

    You truly married your best friend! God Bless you. Such a cute couple❤

  • @sleebyfaif
    @sleebyfaif Год назад

    Your outfits are so cute 😭 the glasses as well!!!