When I was 22 I had a college degree, a full time job, buried a husband, and was a working, single grieving mother to my 3month old… I didn’t make my mother pay for any of those choices.
While I commend your efforts and dedication not everyone has the same life or will or motivation. Everyone is different and not in a good way sometimes she’s clearly raised a certain way I think she was spoiled and now this is the outcome
@ that’s very fair. You’re right. But I say that from a place of knowing it is super hard, everything was - and still is- for me still! And none of us want to adult, it’s hard! But she’s playing an “adult” in costume but needs to start embodying that in reality too. Her mother will be gone one day if nature takes a natural course, and she’ll be gobsmacked by duties if she doesn’t before then. I hope they’re all well regardless
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child.
This is what I know about addiction from my family experience. These ppl were already selfish, self centered, arrogant, and usually narcissistic. The drugs only intensified the horribly personality traits. Maybe not all addicts, but a huge majority of them were already not very stable, or decent ppl.
@@aprilpinketon2567that's typically because they have some deep rooted character flaws, usually from some type of trauma or stress as a child, which leads them into the illness of addiction. Sure, some people are already irreparably sick before addiction, but it's more common for addiction to grow from a person who is trying to change how they feel inside...❤️🙏🏻
This. This is what I've found with a large majority of addicts and ex addicts. I was once an addict many many years ago and most of us try to hide from what we're feeling and the pain of reality, past and present. It was easy for me to walk away, thank God. For the majority, it isn't. Addiction of anything sinks into you and is like a parasite. @@debIGASnz
Threatening your own motber to raise the child YOU had at 15 is insane. Saying youre gonna break her windows if shd doesn't put your child to bed?? Youre lucky she even has a bed, which you cant provide her because youre too busy doing drugs.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child. I thank God everyday that I have good smart children that don't do drugs & know my grandchildren are in very good hands 🙏🏼
Personally, I would (as the Grandmother) go to court and get 100% full custody of that girl ( Grandchild ) and make sure Adriana never sees her kid again. Adriana YOU ARE DESTROYING THAT GIRLS LIFE!!!! Look what are you doing Adriana, too your Child!!!!!!
I'd say supervised visitation honestly as well. Because Mom is in and out the child knows her and her being suddenly gone may cause some regression and had behavior in her like acting out. Grandma can do it. she's healthy, they have the resources and so on. However, She's in her years of caring for her and her husband and doing as they please peacefully. Not to raise another child completely. @@madamezeroni7121
Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
"I take issue with how my mother is raising my daughter." Okay? Then take her back and raise her yourself. You cant complain about being a mom if youre not even raising your kid.
No offense to you. But you are a terrible mother. You’re choosing your boyfriend over your daughter for crying out loud. I don’t give a damn what the reason is your daughter comes first.
I’m employed, got two traffic infringements at 18 but that’s it, I don’t have a heroin addiction but I do smoke a bit of weed sometimes but it helps my long term medical issues so meh
She's a parent. If she doesn't put her CHILD first, she shouldn't have her at all. What a selfish piece of work. Making a child, then treating her like a burden. Disgusting.
That comment of “I resented being a teenage mom, being home alone all the time and being stuck inside with my daughter all day, I was depressed and unhappy” heartbreaking. I know firsthand that being a stay at home mom can get very lonely, but she talks about her daughter like she’s a burden. She has no idea how blessed she is to have a daughter.
He's the one who introduced her to drugs which is why she doesn't care for her daughter so yeah I would blame him too. Not that she's not to blame because she is
Naw she stopped being a mom before him he isn’t helping but that’s not his daughter he isn’t obligated they are not married he owns them nothing and she is accepting the behavior and abandon her daughter
You must not watch dr Phil much. When your kids are grown and causing problems in your healthy adult relationship, you don’t just choose your kids!!!!!!! They aren’t kids anymore and if they don’t have a good reason other than “ I don’t like him” then they need to grow up.
At 23 I got pregnant by my ex and he left me. I picked myself up and put myself through dental school and graduated two days before my daughter was born. Now I work full time and I’m a single mother. I finally worked hard enough to where my daughter and I are able to get our own place. She can choose to have a better life. She just doesn’t want to. Just pure laziness.
1) this “mom” needs to go to rehab 2) when she comes back from rehab she needs to live in sober living with her daughter 3) the young man needs to be away from her and get sober 4) young man’s mother needs to hold her son accountable. 5) mom’s mom needs to let her be a parent or get full custody of the little girl.
In an update that was done a few years after this, we learn Adriana was flirting with other people in rehab, and that her daughter was still living with her grandmother full time.
And when all that don't work, then what? Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
I completely lost any compassion I might have had for the mother when she tried to justify her violent behavior towards her own mother! The granddaughter deserves a better mother.
Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
I have a 23 year old and a 21 year old. The older one is living on a college campus and the younger one is living with his gf in a rented home. They are both, thankfully, thriving in life and doing what is needed in life to stay away from living with me. Proud of them!!
You can tell from the expressions on the daughter’s face that she just wants her Mommy. And the fact that she’s taking pictures of her to bed with her and saying “I want to see my Mommy when I wake up in the morning.” 💔 That’s just heart wrenching.
the audacity of this woman is insane. for her to sit there screaming "i am trying, that’s all that matters." your mom is telling you how to parent your child because YOU DON’T 💀
I got pregnant at 15. Had my son at 16. Went to school, had a car, got a house and a job and took care of my son without the dad’s help. I never put any of my responsibilities on anyone. I would feel 100% ashamed to do this.
The grandparents need to take full custody of their grandchild, the daughter is a full time Narcissis and does not care for her daughter. Grandma forget your grown daughter and just focus on your granddaughter
Babe, I would require full custody or my daughter would have to come get her child. Once I get full custody, I would put a restraining order on my daughter. If the grand parents don’t draw boundaries, her daughter & her boyfriend are going to bring them another baby home for them to take care of. His parents are full on enablers b/c there’s no way my ADULT son AND his gf would be living with me, especially rent free.
No, this world is full of women acting as baby making machines without know that this is humans operate. They are grown and challenging. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
That's part of the human condition. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
Grandma and grandpa needs to blame their daughter for her issues, not the boyfriend. He certainly may not be the best ‘catch’ but the daughter is to blame, not him. Make HER take some accountability.
I think that drug use before the brain is fully mature causes irreparable damage to the brain. The IQ is proven to drop, but the ability to think abstractly, self-control and social behavior also suffer enormously. You shouldn't hope for insight and further development in these people, but rather make decisions for them and stick to them.
The young mother should not have the child. I think the grandma just needs to step forward and get guardianship. Sorry grandma, but your daughter just doesn’t get it. That poor sweet child… The four-year-old
At 30 my husband left me for my best friend. I had a four year old & a 9 month old baby - no job, no family. I picked myself up; got a job and eventually remarried an amazing man who has been an incredible step father. We’ve been married for 13 years and going strong. It can be done!
They were still together a few years after this aired, and appeared on an update. The daughter was still living with her grandmother full time, and Adriana was reported to have been kicked out of rehab and allegedly flirting with some guys in rehab.
Mum obviously doesn’t have a job or cares enough about her child to be responsible. Someone needs to step up and look after this child, and not expose her to drugs and violence. Both mums should kick em both out. Force them to grow up, get jobs, a place to live. One mum had daughter pregnant at 15, taking drugs and violent, the other has a criminal son with no job and a girlfriend with a toddler she don’t care about. I’d say they all pretty much fail as parents.
Yes, the biological father should be paying child support. Susie should petition for temporary guardianship until or if her daughter becomes sober, accountable and responsible. Otherwise, the child is going to be used as a pawn.
Hey parents, what happened to believing/teaching ,"you are responsible for your own behavior!" It's her choice to use drugs,to live with that guy and to not take care of her child. HE ,is not responsible for her horrible behavior. THAT is not his doing! It's her choice. OMG
All the same,knowing she has a young child,he should get his act together,and insist that she does the same.They are co-dependant,and together,they will never do the right thing.Individually they are responsible,and together they are responsible.
The problem is that she's showing no remorse or desire to change. Maybe if she started with her attitude and learning how to have a civil disagreement, there wouldn't be all this "confrontation" she's worried about her child seeing. If her mom is calling her all these names, I guarantee you she doesn't just walk up and start talkin smack. Adriana instigates it 100% and her mother does really care about her but Adriana is too delusional and selfish to listen to her so she sees every piece of advice from her mom as an attack. If every time she dropped off her daughter she said "thank you so much for watching her for a little bit, I'm gonna go out and apply for some more jobs today, see who's hiring and then I'll be able to come back and feed her and get her ready for bed in a couple hours. I love you." That would dramatically improve this entire situation. But instead she just expects her mom to raise her kid for however long so she can go out with her boyfriend and they can enable each other to never amount to anything in life.
It's not just grandparents raising kids. My husband and I have had my great niece since she was 7 months old (she's 6 years old now). Unfortunately, I have a spinal injury that has prevented me from working since 2015 and my husband is 66 with health issues of his own. I'm grateful that he is still working and thank God every day for providing for all of us. We've been trying to save enough money in order to adopt her, but it's difficult to save much with only one income.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child. I thank God everyday that I have good intelligent children that don't do drugs & I know that my grandchildren are in good hands🙏🏼
I agree with Doctor Phil 100 %i.Have a daughter, he's 22 now, but, after she had her first child, she wanted to disrespect me so I had a lot, I just stopped talking to her and it was the best thing I ever done.We're like best friends now
Adriana is 20 years old? Absolutely she should say "Thank you"! Also, OMG, you talk that way to your mom, and you're obviously not "at home all the time," you're leaving YOUR BABY in a parked car and lying, lazy, and ungrateful. OMG! Who's breathing down your neck NOW? You're on stage with Dr. Phil, and the people who came with you aren't saying a word -- and yes, Adriana, Dr. Phil has your texts, including the ones you thought you deleted. OMG! But good answer, Susie. "No."
Methadone is just another form of a narcotic, supposedly not addictive 😩. My aunt was on methadone & eventually died of a massive heart attack. I could tell they both were on something with the cotton mouth.
The daughter is a drug addict free loading selfish loser! What a difficult situation for the grandmother to be in knowing the child is going to potentially be neglected or in danger if they cut off contact.
I feel Sorry for this Child involved. If the Grandmother doesn’t want to care for Her, the State needs to be involved. The Mothers unfit ! Guessing the Fathers a Deadbeat Too ??? (SAD) 😢
A mom that chooses a guy over their kids is in my eyes a real pos. My kids live with me and their mom did the same and I been with them thru it all and i see what it did to them. I can’t stand this girl. And the boyfriend. What a champ lol
Methadone is just another drug you Don't think about heroin because methadone is synthetic heroin period..I took it for ten years so I know first hand..
I was a single mother at 21, received no support and bought my own house with my own money. My son is now 31 and thanks me for being a strong role model. This girl is a disgrace and doesn’t deserve to be a mother.
I get it can be hard finding a job with a criminal record but how can he blame not getting a job because of his tattoos when none of them show when he’s wearing a shirt? If they didn’t constantly mention how heavily tattoed he is no one would have known
I so enjoy you candid comments in trying to being sanity to such insane lives. Thank you for your willing to be real and bring clarity to so many lives...🎉
I never had a family, my mom left when I was a baby, I hurt for her most of my life, but when I got pregnant at 16 I stepped up to my own motherhood and never relied on anyone for anything...I always wished I had that support system....I would have loved and cherished a mother like what she has, she is so ungrateful and lazy
Isn't it amazing how drugs totally destroys a person mentally, physically and morally?...Leaving a child with this so called mother would be equal to child abuse.
That this guy, thinks it's ok to sponge off parents, and the girl, and not work, (even if he wasn't doing all that: Just the fact that's he's ok, with how she treats her mother (!), Thats reason enough, to not like him🤦♀️ 😂 Jesus
10:02 So you want her to step up n be a parent to her child then you say how bad and VIOLENT she is?!? I don’t care, if it’s my Grand baby and I know/can prove she’s violent, there is NO WAY I’m leaving my Grand baby there!! If you do y want to raise her then call DCF, at least give her chance at a better life and not one drill of an angry Mom and Grandma.
When I was 22 I had a college degree, a full time job, buried a husband, and was a working, single grieving mother to my 3month old… I didn’t make my mother pay for any of those choices.
While I commend your efforts and dedication not everyone has the same life or will or motivation. Everyone is different and not in a good way sometimes she’s clearly raised a certain way I think she was spoiled and now this is the outcome
@ that’s very fair. You’re right. But I say that from a place of knowing it is super hard, everything was - and still is- for me still! And none of us want to adult, it’s hard! But she’s playing an “adult” in costume but needs to start embodying that in reality too. Her mother will be gone one day if nature takes a natural course, and she’ll be gobsmacked by duties if she doesn’t before then. I hope they’re all well regardless
Your a wonderful person. But it's ok if mom helps you time to time. But you do sound like a Super mom. 😊 👏
@@courtneynichols5060I agree totally with all you said. 😊
I take my hat off to you courtney.
The hold of addiction on this mother is soo profound she doesn't realize how ignorant she sounds
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child.
This is what I know about addiction from my family experience. These ppl were already selfish, self centered, arrogant, and usually narcissistic. The drugs only intensified the horribly personality traits. Maybe not all addicts, but a huge majority of them were already not very stable, or decent ppl.
@@aprilpinketon2567that's typically because they have some deep rooted character flaws, usually from some type of trauma or stress as a child, which leads them into the illness of addiction. Sure, some people are already irreparably sick before addiction, but it's more common for addiction to grow from a person who is trying to change how they feel inside...❤️🙏🏻
This. This is what I've found with a large majority of addicts and ex addicts.
I was once an addict many many years ago and most of us try to hide from what we're feeling and the pain of reality, past and present. It was easy for me to walk away, thank God. For the majority, it isn't. Addiction of anything sinks into you and is like a parasite. @@debIGASnz
Threatening your own motber to raise the child YOU had at 15 is insane. Saying youre gonna break her windows if shd doesn't put your child to bed?? Youre lucky she even has a bed, which you cant provide her because youre too busy doing drugs.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child. I thank God everyday that I have good smart children that don't do drugs & know my grandchildren are in very good hands 🙏🏼
I’d always step up to raise my children’s children if needed . They look after their own very well but you would not turn your back.
@@tina6651.one hundred percent.
You are correct
exactly. insane😳
Personally, I would (as the Grandmother) go to court and get 100% full custody of that girl ( Grandchild ) and make sure Adriana never sees her kid again. Adriana YOU ARE DESTROYING THAT GIRLS LIFE!!!! Look what are you doing Adriana, too your Child!!!!!!
Theoretically that’s a perfect solution. Just don’t know if grandma is capable of that
I'd say supervised visitation honestly as well. Because Mom is in and out the child knows her and her being suddenly gone may cause some regression and had behavior in her like acting out.
Grandma can do it. she's healthy, they have the resources and so on. However, She's in her years of caring for her and her husband and doing as they please peacefully. Not to raise another child completely. @@madamezeroni7121
That’s harsh !
Poor child 🥺🥺🥺💔
I agree, i fear for child. If she punching her mom what will she do with a defenseless child..😟
This mother is way too immature to raise her daughter.. She still acts like a child herself..
She seems to be mentally stuck at 15. When she had the kid. See it a lot
Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
"I take issue with how my mother is raising my daughter."
Okay? Then take her back and raise her yourself. You cant complain about being a mom if youre not even raising your kid.
Unbelievable chutzpah.
She can't be trusted to keep that babies needs first !!
The addiction is written all over her. She's a major addict.
Exactly
Daughter didn't try too hard to raise her kid ....
@aw2589
She looks like Methany.
Exactly ,they all use the same responses and excuses
I bet she doesn't have the phone anymore because its been swapped for "other things'
No offense to you. But you are a terrible mother. You’re choosing your boyfriend over your daughter for crying out loud. I don’t give a damn what the reason is your daughter comes first.
NOOOO QUESTION about that!!!!!!!!!
No offense? Why not? Like, why should you care about sparing her feelings?
No its okay, total offense to her. No need to sugarcoat it 😂
no all offense, this is a bad mother.
All offense in the world to this pathetic egg donor!
I can't imagine the conditions of his probation wouldn't include having a job.
The grandparents need to petition the court for permanent custody.
They don't like me because of my being unemployed and having felonies and a heroin addiction, he says while hitting a bong. LOL
I’m employed, got two traffic infringements at 18 but that’s it, I don’t have a heroin addiction but I do smoke a bit of weed sometimes but it helps my long term medical issues so meh
PRECISELY.
Imagine that. 🤔
The bong isn't the reason for the felonies. But yes, the irony is funny AF!
2losers
She's a parent. If she doesn't put her CHILD first, she shouldn't have her at all. What a selfish piece of work. Making a child, then treating her like a burden. Disgusting.
Any animal can make a baby
she had an offspring, she's not a parent. Horrible so many pop out babies and couldn't care less about raising them like insects dropping an egg sac.
That comment of “I resented being a teenage mom, being home alone all the time and being stuck inside with my daughter all day, I was depressed and unhappy” heartbreaking. I know firsthand that being a stay at home mom can get very lonely, but she talks about her daughter like she’s a burden. She has no idea how blessed she is to have a daughter.
yes and taking off at midnght.. If the grand parents went out really early thinking she was still in the house the child would be totally alone.
@@StealthMode3924 err.. yes.. and that is what I said in effect. lol
It's not the boyfriends fault she isn't a mother!! She's been with him 2 years but been a mother for 4. It's on her, not him
He's the one who introduced her to drugs which is why she doesn't care for her daughter so yeah I would blame him too. Not that she's not to blame because she is
Naw she stopped being a mom before him he isn’t helping but that’s not his daughter he isn’t obligated they are not married he owns them nothing and she is accepting the behavior and abandon her daughter
Child services need to remove the four year old from the drug users!!!
That is NOT fair for the four yr old, Shame on them!!!!!
My ex asked me to choose between him and my eldest.i choose my son hes an ex for a reason.your children should put first over any men
Or women
You must not watch dr Phil much. When your kids are grown and causing problems in your healthy adult relationship, you don’t just choose your kids!!!!!!! They aren’t kids anymore and if they don’t have a good reason other than “ I don’t like him” then they need to grow up.
@@adamhunt1694 You should ask WHY they don't like him if that's the case.
right
@@salazar556 I said healthy adult relationship witch includes good treatment and such
At 23 I got pregnant by my ex and he left me. I picked myself up and put myself through dental school and graduated two days before my daughter was born. Now I work full time and I’m a single mother. I finally worked hard enough to where my daughter and I are able to get our own place. She can choose to have a better life. She just doesn’t want to. Just pure laziness.
He’s been without a job for 2 years? He’s a deadbeat and his mom is an enabler
1) this “mom” needs to go to rehab
2) when she comes back from rehab she needs to live in sober living with her daughter
3) the young man needs to be away from her and get sober
4) young man’s mother needs to hold her son accountable.
5) mom’s mom needs to let her be a parent or get full custody of the little girl.
In an update that was done a few years after this, we learn Adriana was flirting with other people in rehab, and that her daughter was still living with her grandmother full time.
And when all that don't work, then what?
Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
@@StealthMode3924Matt is clean and sober. Matt did the work.
Arianna is not. Got kicked out of rehab
I completely lost any compassion I might have had for the mother when she tried to justify her violent behavior towards her own mother! The granddaughter deserves a better mother.
Exactly. That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
The mother/grandmother along with the father/grandfather should have raised their daughter better.
I have a 23 year old and a 21 year old. The older one is living on a college campus and the younger one is living with his gf in a rented home. They are both, thankfully, thriving in life and doing what is needed in life to stay away from living with me. Proud of them!!
She was begging for the money off her mum so she could go and score.
If she is on heroin/drugs, she does not need custody of, or for her daughter to be alone with her anyways unfortunately.
You can tell from the expressions on the daughter’s face that she just wants her Mommy. And the fact that she’s taking pictures of her to bed with her and saying “I want to see my Mommy when I wake up in the morning.” 💔 That’s just heart wrenching.
That's so so so sad and literally the mom doesn't care. Like she showed no feeling at all when he said that.
the audacity of this woman is insane. for her to sit there screaming "i am trying, that’s all that matters." your mom is telling you how to parent your child because YOU DON’T 💀
I got pregnant at 15. Had my son at 16. Went to school, had a car, got a house and a job and took care of my son without the dad’s help. I never put any of my responsibilities on anyone. I would feel 100% ashamed to do this.
And plenty says W ''arent strong.''
We keep proving that we are. They'll never aknowledge.
The grandparents need to take full custody of their grandchild, the daughter is a full time Narcissis and does not care for her daughter.
Grandma forget your grown daughter and just focus on your granddaughter
Babe, I would require full custody or my daughter would have to come get her child. Once I get full custody, I would put a restraining order on my daughter. If the grand parents don’t draw boundaries, her daughter & her boyfriend are going to bring them another baby home for them to take care of. His parents are full on enablers b/c there’s no way my ADULT son AND his gf would be living with me, especially rent free.
No, this world is full of women acting as baby making machines without know that this is humans operate. They are grown and challenging.
That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
That's what I would do too but still they don't have to. The only reason they're doing it is because they don't want the girl going to foster care.
Why isn’t Adriana working?
“Feed her sometimes” lol what a joke. She has terrible insight and the daughter isn’t safe with her anyway her parents need to file for custody
I heard that too ! Shes so immature and entitled .
Being a mom is a 24/7 lifestyle NOT part time !
This kid is unbelievably immature, and a jerk
“Jerk” is a very kind word to describe this girl.
That's part of the human condition.
That's why these republican women need to think for yourself before having kids. Many variables determine how kids will turn out including genetics. The good doctor doesn't tell young people that millions of people deal with this dynamic every day,, and there's not easy fix. Men want women to be baby making machines. Haviing kids is not the fairy tale that we are brainwashed to believe. Fight for your right to choose in regards to abortion.
That mom is dealing with addicts. She needs to go get full custody of her grandchild.
Grandma and grandpa needs to blame their daughter for her issues, not the boyfriend. He certainly may not be the best ‘catch’ but the daughter is to blame, not him. Make HER take some accountability.
I think that drug use before the brain is fully mature causes irreparable damage to the brain. The IQ is proven to drop, but the ability to think abstractly, self-control and social behavior also suffer enormously.
You shouldn't hope for insight and further development in these people, but rather make decisions for them and stick to them.
15:03 ,so that’s where the trending sound came from 😂😂
The young mother should not have the child. I think the grandma just needs to step forward and get guardianship. Sorry grandma, but your daughter just doesn’t get it.
That poor sweet child… The four-year-old
At 30 my husband left me for my best friend. I had a four year old & a 9 month old baby - no job, no family. I picked myself up; got a job and eventually remarried an amazing man who has been an incredible step father. We’ve been married for 13 years and going strong. It can be done!
The daughter and fellah sound pissed. Pair of them have no idea. She doesn't think part time is enough. Parenting is 24/7 and the rest.
She has the mind of a 15 year old inside a grown woman. That's the price you pay, and the wee daughter is paying the price.
Something tells me that Matt’s not around anymore.
They were still together a few years after this aired, and appeared on an update. The daughter was still living with her grandmother full time, and Adriana was reported to have been kicked out of rehab and allegedly flirting with some guys in rehab.
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The mother is choosing drugs over her daughter, the boyfriend is just an accessory
Mum obviously doesn’t have a job or cares enough about her child to be responsible. Someone needs to step up and look after this child, and not expose her to drugs and violence. Both mums should kick em both out. Force them to grow up, get jobs, a place to live. One mum had daughter pregnant at 15, taking drugs and violent, the other has a criminal son with no job and a girlfriend with a toddler she don’t care about. I’d say they all pretty much fail as parents.
There is no comparison,I would pick my child over any man !!!!!!
Well where is the father of this child??
I wondered the same thing. but does she even know who the father is?
Now that is a Maury show. 😢😢
Yes, the biological father should be paying child support. Susie should petition for temporary guardianship until or if her daughter becomes sober, accountable and responsible. Otherwise, the child is going to be used as a pawn.
Probably another drug addict
It’s not just Matt!!! It’s her
She doesn't want to be a parent. She is choosing herself. Unfortunately, her child is better off with her parents.
Clearly she really needed that $15 for her fix.
Why doesn't she understand that she has to spend all of her time with her daughter
Hey parents, what happened to believing/teaching ,"you are responsible for your own behavior!" It's her choice to use drugs,to live with that guy and to not take care of her child. HE ,is not responsible for her horrible behavior. THAT is not his doing! It's her choice. OMG
All the same,knowing she has a young child,he should get his act together,and insist that she does the same.They are co-dependant,and together,they will never do the right thing.Individually they are responsible,and together they are responsible.
The problem is that she's showing no remorse or desire to change. Maybe if she started with her attitude and learning how to have a civil disagreement, there wouldn't be all this "confrontation" she's worried about her child seeing. If her mom is calling her all these names, I guarantee you she doesn't just walk up and start talkin smack. Adriana instigates it 100% and her mother does really care about her but Adriana is too delusional and selfish to listen to her so she sees every piece of advice from her mom as an attack. If every time she dropped off her daughter she said "thank you so much for watching her for a little bit, I'm gonna go out and apply for some more jobs today, see who's hiring and then I'll be able to come back and feed her and get her ready for bed in a couple hours. I love you."
That would dramatically improve this entire situation. But instead she just expects her mom to raise her kid for however long so she can go out with her boyfriend and they can enable each other to never amount to anything in life.
It's not just grandparents raising kids. My husband and I have had my great niece since she was 7 months old (she's 6 years old now). Unfortunately, I have a spinal injury that has prevented me from working since 2015 and my husband is 66 with health issues of his own. I'm grateful that he is still working and thank God every day for providing for all of us. We've been trying to save enough money in order to adopt her, but it's difficult to save much with only one income.
'I take issue with how my mother is raising my daughter' ....well why don't you step and choose to be a mother. Adriana is acting entitled and bratty.
It’s no one’s fault but her own. Y’all are dragging Mike but this was her decision, no one forced her to be in that relationship.
I absolutely agree with that.
As a grandmother I would WANT to take on that role, instead of seeing my grandchild live in squalor with 6 ppl I don't know & a mother on drugs! At least until my daughter got her act together & was clean & sober & living in a good environment for a child. I thank God everyday that I have good intelligent children that don't do drugs & I know that my grandchildren are in good hands🙏🏼
You are fantastic, Dr. Phil . Keep it up.❤
I hope this grandmother gets custody. At least for now.
The girl is such an idiot yet self righteous and pedantic in her misguided rage.
She shouldn't use that kind of language in front of her child ! 😮
I agree with Doctor Phil 100 %i.Have a daughter, he's 22 now, but, after she had her first child, she wanted to disrespect me so I had a lot, I just stopped talking to her and it was the best thing I ever done.We're like best friends now
Wish there was an update on all these episodes.
Excuses will destroy you both! The only way this could work is if she grows up and faces reality.
The girls parents are the root cause of this dynamic. Glad Dr. Phil pointed this out
“I have an issue with the way my Mother is raising my daughter.” Girl. Repeat what you just said, slowly.
Adriana is 20 years old? Absolutely she should say "Thank you"! Also, OMG, you talk that way to your mom, and you're obviously not "at home all the time," you're leaving YOUR BABY in a parked car and lying, lazy, and ungrateful. OMG! Who's breathing down your neck NOW? You're on stage with Dr. Phil, and the people who came with you aren't saying a word -- and yes, Adriana, Dr. Phil has your texts, including the ones you thought you deleted. OMG! But good answer, Susie. "No."
I wouldn’t have a drug addict living in my house,not for all the tea in China.
Methadone is just another form of a narcotic, supposedly not addictive 😩. My aunt was on methadone & eventually died of a massive heart attack. I could tell they both were on something with the cotton mouth.
Both of them are so enabled and already provided for so they will not change.
how can these awful people even be real?
If entitled was a person it's this girl
The mum shouldn’t give them any money they seem to still be addicts
Who is the father of Adriana's daughter? He needs to pay child support.
What a horrible entitled brat. Both of them. Doing nothing but leeching off of their parents and giving them attitude.
Matt’s mother was probably the most rational one here.
16:24 watch for that smirk.. she knows he's right and knows what she's doing works.
I think we'd all love an update on this one
The daughter is a drug addict free loading selfish loser! What a difficult situation for the grandmother to be in knowing the child is going to potentially be neglected or in danger if they cut off contact.
Where are these two getting money to buy drugs ? The parents are ENABLERS ! 😡😡
I feel Sorry for this Child involved. If the Grandmother doesn’t want to care for Her, the State needs to be involved. The Mothers unfit !
Guessing the Fathers a Deadbeat Too ??? (SAD) 😢
The boy can get a job. I work with a brilliant machinist who is covered with tats. He makes bank.
I don't think tats is the problems, more like the drugs and felonies
It's not the tats it's that he has a felony record and still using drugs
A mom that chooses a guy over their kids is in my eyes a real pos. My kids live with me and their mom did the same and I been with them thru it all and i see what it did to them. I can’t stand this girl. And the boyfriend. What a champ lol
Why are these kids not working??????
Does he walk with a banner : "Do not hire me, I WAS on drugs and probation"?
He's probably high at the interviews or just bullshitting just enough to SAY he's trying
maybe since she got pregnant while she was a minor herself, she feels the child is also (at least partially) her parents' responsibility
Methadone is just another drug you Don't think about heroin because methadone is synthetic heroin period..I took it for ten years so I know first hand..
This daughter is a nightmare! Total input, ZERO output. She should lose custody of her child.
Why havnt the parents taken full custody already? 🙄 No way would I be dealing with that shi…
These people are still clearly using
Both of those kids need rehab and nothing's gonna change until they get real rehab
I was a single mother at 21, received no support and bought my own house with my own money. My son is now 31 and thanks me for being a strong role model. This girl is a disgrace and doesn’t deserve to be a mother.
Idc what the mom's deal is. She brought that little girl into the world just to treat her like shi . t
I get it can be hard finding a job with a criminal record but how can he blame not getting a job because of his tattoos when none of them show when he’s wearing a shirt? If they didn’t constantly mention how heavily tattoed he is no one would have known
The entitlement is astounding.
I so enjoy you candid comments in trying to being sanity to such insane lives. Thank you for your willing to be real and bring clarity to so many lives...🎉
I never had a family, my mom left when I was a baby, I hurt for her most of my life, but when I got pregnant at 16 I stepped up to my own motherhood and never relied on anyone for anything...I always wished I had that support system....I would have loved and cherished a mother like what she has, she is so ungrateful and lazy
I love how he called them the stormtroopers lol those mothers need some peace
exactly Dr. Phil these 2 young pp have zero to none about a life-long relationship together!
16:11 Dr. Phil ATE with this one
Huh?
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Look at that smirk on Adriana’s face when he’s describing it!!!
Pray for freedom, salvation and a RENEWAL of her mind!
Isn't it amazing how drugs totally destroys a person mentally, physically and morally?...Leaving a child with this so called mother would be equal to child abuse.
That this guy, thinks it's ok to sponge off parents, and the girl, and not work, (even if he wasn't doing all that: Just the fact that's he's ok, with how she treats her mother (!), Thats reason enough, to not like him🤦♀️
😂 Jesus
10:02 So you want her to step up n be a parent to her child then you say how bad and VIOLENT she is?!? I don’t care, if it’s my Grand baby and I know/can prove she’s violent, there is NO WAY I’m leaving my Grand baby there!! If you do y want to raise her then call DCF, at least give her chance at a better life and not one drill of an angry Mom and Grandma.
Are you kidding 🤦♀️me, I left home at 17.
Got my own child support for the 3 months I was under 18
Then, I was on my own
Just wondering where this girl is today. seeing this was almost 10 years ago
Out of the group of five debating this matter, only the boy's mother is applying reason and expressing an answer to the problems.