I love Your talks. I am a Jewish woman, had a bas mitzvah, am 75 years young, and disagree with the position to hire an art tutor. Art is not about technique on the canvas. Going to art school, which I did after being a teacher and being a therapist with my own center for 35 years. Being in a creative atmosphere and community can lead to creative ideas, spiritual art, being original to one’s Self, and inspire the culture in many Ways. Who says that this young girls soul was not calling her to listen to a voice that is out of the box . I’ve written on the soul and identified it into 5 realms, one of which I call the Creative Soul. The soul of an artist is a G-d given gift. Until and unless one has inhabited that realm, one cannot know or comment on its potential value, meaning or creative vision that came come forth to head individual souls and the planet. Also, I am an art therapist. Thank You for considering my opinion and wisdom. Shoshana💖
Boy, are you speaking to me. I agree and have tried to parent this way naturally. I have a 19-year-old daughter who moved out months ago to be free from the "constraints of religion." To be fair, there were a few years of instability after having a baby and my husband going through mid-life crisis. I know firsthand what these tough conversations are like and how much courage and strength they take. Thankfully, she is getting more humble and receptive and loves her parents. She's a very strong person.
Wow. Great, great speech! I am a Catholic, and for us Jesus was that teacher with disciples, who was patient and loving and encouraging, and accepting people with their faults and weaknesses.
I feel as if I have been blessed with a second childhood to hear how through kindness is the best way to be raised. Listening to this I can see how I could resent less and I now can rejoice to hear these amazing talks. I can feel where the child craves an educated parent and their educated partner who are truly devoted to the task as the most significant act of a life. I feel less broken and neglected bc i came to this by way of pain, but i am fulfilled to get here. Thank you.
I believe the Jewish people will bring the rest of us to know the fullness of our fathers love in the end. Thank you for making these videos. I was brought up with rage and violence. My family function in narcism. Yet god was with me all the way through. I left it all. Iv done my best to teach my two daughters that truth and love are the answer to everything. They seem so secure and free because of it.
Thank you gratefully for this video, too! A child, I learned it from a Rabbi so it might not be new for many but I always felt it since I was born and you mentioned it in much beautiful words, is a loan from God to some parents, in order to take care of it for a certain amount of time, never belongs to them actually. A part of Him gets to stay with them in its most fragile and innocent form. That's why we like to say, sometimes even believe it, "we are all God's children." We are all coming from Him, we are a soul part of him. When we left our lives and bodies behind and returned home to Him, how we would have cherished and enjoyed that part of Him, those children?
Shalom Rabbi! I am not Jewish, but have a great deal of respect for the Torah as I crew up Christian and had numerous friends in college who were on track to attend seminary, I spent most Friday evenings in Bible study with them. One of the things I learned was that "Abba" (forgive me if I misspelled this) had the connotation of a loving, gentle grandfather. I think of this often when I turn to Father God, as this stands in stark contrast to the some Protestant images of God as angry and punitive. We certainly must be held accountable for our sins, but if we understand that The Most High desires to look after us in a gentle way, then I think it makes it easier to trust and obey. Thank you for this teaching.
Yep, this video made it clear. Fear based living/education is not working for me anymore. I am baffled by how to do it otherwise. I'm grateful to have signed up to the course all the way from Moscow. Thank You for believing in all of us.
Amazing! Looking forward to seeing you virtually on the course Tuesday night (although you’ll probably be watching the recording due to the time difference.)
You mean the story about the father buying the gift for his son? The father was Rabbi Sholom Ber Schneerson and the son was Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson.
You know, something I never understood was that "the rod" wasn't equivalent to "the stick" (as in, the carrot and the stick), but rather the staff, or the symbol of authority. So sparing the child the parental authority is what spoils, not the lack of spanking. What say you? I would really love to understand the bible in its true cultural context. Seeing it through the English culture makes it confusing. God bless you and thank you for sharing your wisdom. I think your talk is discussing how to apply loving parental structure. I'm learning a lot. Again, thank yoi for making this available to a wider audience.
This sounds amazing, but seems to fairy-tale-like. My 5-year-old son won't his breakfast, and wants cake. No amount of teaching will convince him that the cake is not the best choice for breakfast. Do I allow him to eat cake, and wait until he understands for himself that breakfast is better?
You ask a very legitimate question. I think the answer is that you guide your son to the healthy breakfast but you do it gently and with the assumption that he wants to make the right choice. There’s no struggle.
This was truly excellent, I am so so grateful that you put this out there and am so excited to share this with others. I want to add one thing and that is the Rebbe always referred to a Yid beetzem as neshama bguf. This is who we are essentially and what expresses us the most. (and BTW, my own feeling is that this neshama includes both the nfhk and nfhb like a tzaddik gomur. Ie they both have the same agenda which is to have a relationship with and serve Hashem.) so perhaps as you said at the end, when we stand in awe of our children, it is in awe of all of them. (meaning if when we say bc they're a chelek Eloka, what people hear is that it's to the exclusion of say their nfhb or body etc, they will understandably get triggered, but that is because the truth is that all of the Yid is expressing his true Etzem.) Thank you so much for inviting your audience to join in the conversation!
This rings true. It makes me wish I was just starting out again as a parent. Any advice on how to turn the tide with our grown children -- or is it too late, and we can only hope they listen to this when they become parents themselves?
You ARE talking to the whole world!!! I'm not jewish but the wisdom you speak has no religion boundaries❤
I really enjoy your talks, as a reform Jew, I totally respect our differences and similarities.
I love Your talks. I am a Jewish woman, had a bas mitzvah, am 75 years young, and disagree with the position to hire an art tutor. Art is not about technique on the canvas. Going to art school, which I did after being a teacher and being a therapist with my own center for 35 years. Being in a creative atmosphere and community can lead to creative ideas, spiritual art, being original to one’s Self, and inspire the culture in many Ways. Who says that this young girls soul was not calling her to listen to a voice that is out of the box . I’ve written on the soul and identified it into 5 realms, one of which I call the Creative Soul. The soul of an artist is a G-d given gift. Until and unless one has inhabited that realm, one cannot know or comment on its potential value, meaning or creative vision that came come forth to head individual souls and the planet. Also, I am an art therapist. Thank You for considering my opinion and wisdom. Shoshana💖
Boy, are you speaking to me. I agree and have tried to parent this way naturally. I have a 19-year-old daughter who moved out months ago to be free from the "constraints of religion." To be fair, there were a few years of instability after having a baby and my husband going through mid-life crisis. I know firsthand what these tough conversations are like and how much courage and strength they take. Thankfully, she is getting more humble and receptive and loves her parents. She's a very strong person.
Wow. Great, great speech! I am a Catholic, and for us Jesus was that teacher with disciples, who was patient and loving and encouraging, and accepting people with their faults and weaknesses.
I wish you or this knowledge was prevalent in the world 40 years ago before I grew up in narcissist America.
I feel as if I have been blessed with a second childhood to hear how through kindness is the best way to be raised.
Listening to this I can see how I could resent less and I now can rejoice to hear these amazing talks.
I can feel where the child craves an educated parent and their educated partner who are truly devoted to the task as the most significant act of a life.
I feel less broken and neglected bc i came to this by way of pain, but i am fulfilled to get here. Thank you.
I believe the Jewish people will bring the rest of us to know the fullness of our fathers love in the end. Thank you for making these videos.
I was brought up with rage and violence. My family function in narcism.
Yet god was with me all the way through. I left it all.
Iv done my best to teach my two daughters that truth and love are the answer to everything. They seem so secure and free because of it.
Thank you gratefully for this video, too!
A child, I learned it from a Rabbi so it might not be new for many but I always felt it since I was born and you mentioned it in much beautiful words, is a loan from God to some parents, in order to take care of it for a certain amount of time, never belongs to them actually. A part of Him gets to stay with them in its most fragile and innocent form. That's why we like to say, sometimes even believe it, "we are all God's children." We are all coming from Him, we are a soul part of him. When we left our lives and bodies behind and returned home to Him, how we would have cherished and enjoyed that part of Him, those children?
Beautifully put
Shalom Rabbi! I am not Jewish, but have a great deal of respect for the Torah as I crew up Christian and had numerous friends in college who were on track to attend seminary, I spent most Friday evenings in Bible study with them. One of the things I learned was that "Abba" (forgive me if I misspelled this) had the connotation of a loving, gentle grandfather. I think of this often when I turn to Father God, as this stands in stark contrast to the some Protestant images of God as angry and punitive. We certainly must be held accountable for our sins, but if we understand that The Most High desires to look after us in a gentle way, then I think it makes it easier to trust and obey. Thank you for this teaching.
Awesome video Love it.
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im gonna rewatch the video completly rabbi my focus is elsewhere right now , digesting a meal
I'm impressed with this video. Love It....!!
I want to say just WOW!!!
Yep, this video made it clear. Fear based living/education is not working for me anymore. I am baffled by how to do it otherwise. I'm grateful to have signed up to the course all the way from Moscow. Thank You for believing in all of us.
Amazing! Looking forward to seeing you virtually on the course Tuesday night (although you’ll probably be watching the recording due to the time difference.)
The first story about the sticks, where is that found and what are the english names for the men?
You mean the story about the father buying the gift for his son? The father was Rabbi Sholom Ber Schneerson and the son was Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson.
You know, something I never understood was that "the rod" wasn't equivalent to "the stick" (as in, the carrot and the stick), but rather the staff, or the symbol of authority. So sparing the child the parental authority is what spoils, not the lack of spanking. What say you? I would really love to understand the bible in its true cultural context. Seeing it through the English culture makes it confusing. God bless you and thank you for sharing your wisdom. I think your talk is discussing how to apply loving parental structure. I'm learning a lot. Again, thank yoi for making this available to a wider audience.
This sounds amazing, but seems to fairy-tale-like. My 5-year-old son won't his breakfast, and wants cake. No amount of teaching will convince him that the cake is not the best choice for breakfast. Do I allow him to eat cake, and wait until he understands for himself that breakfast is better?
You ask a very legitimate question. I think the answer is that you guide your son to the healthy breakfast but you do it gently and with the assumption that he wants to make the right choice. There’s no struggle.
Make HEALTHY cookies or pancakes and explain the nutritional principles behind what you’re doing. You’re respecting his desire AND yours
I’d love to hear what others think. It’s ok if you disagree with me but we NEED to have this conversation.
This was truly excellent, I am so so grateful that you put this out there and am so excited to share this with others. I want to add one thing and that is the Rebbe always referred to a Yid beetzem as neshama bguf. This is who we are essentially and what expresses us the most. (and BTW, my own feeling is that this neshama includes both the nfhk and nfhb like a tzaddik gomur. Ie they both have the same agenda which is to have a relationship with and serve Hashem.) so perhaps as you said at the end, when we stand in awe of our children, it is in awe of all of them. (meaning if when we say bc they're a chelek Eloka, what people hear is that it's to the exclusion of say their nfhb or body etc, they will understandably get triggered, but that is because the truth is that all of the Yid is expressing his true Etzem.)
Thank you so much for inviting your audience to join in the conversation!
@@leahzlatathat’s an amazing thought. thank you.
This was incredibly meaningful to me. Thank you for sharing
@@tshallmanthank you. I’m glad it resonates with you.
This rings true. It makes me wish I was just starting out again as a parent. Any advice on how to turn the tide with our grown children -- or is it too late, and we can only hope they listen to this when they become parents themselves?