I'm working on my Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy and this was very useful for my multicultural competencies class and related paper. Thank you for providing this as a free resource.
"Sexualized Racism" to me, sounds like we are brow beating someone who is not attracted to (to use the same example as the speaker), "black men or asian men." Sexual attraction and preference does not make you a racist. People are attracted to whom they are attracted to. That is like saying a homosexual male who is not attracted to women is a sexist. Here's the problem I am having with this webinar. I am doing my best as an "old soul in a new world" to stay as open minded as possible bc i want to work with people. I care about the mental health needs of others and i am very interested in working in this field. I currently work with young adults of all races, creeds, sexes, and orientations as a residential counselor. What i am finding is that It seems like we are trying to rationalize a lot of these issues within the framework of an incessant victimhood mentality, instead of teaching people that you dont have to feel like a victim or feel traumatized just because someone said something offensive or even abusive to you. I suppose im having a hard time with the idea that it is everyone's responsibility to create a safe space for others where everyone feels accepted, valued, and loved. Traditionally speaking it is not everyone's responsibility to create that space for you. That flies in the face of everything we know about natural social interactions between people. It is unprecedented. We have always lived in a world where it is our individual job to figure out where and with whom we fit in. So are we in the business of changing society to defy our natural social tendencies as human beings? Or are we as counselors and therapists in the business of helping individuals find there own sense of peace and contentment within the tumultuous seas of this world? Are we trying to be a map and compass for the captain of the ship? Or are we trying to change the pattern of the sea and the ship itself?
I really like how Nina addressed how substance misuse and tunnel vision in working with populations. Not because there is something intrinsic about something around queerness and transness, but because it is about coping with oppression how much oppression or gaslighting is trying to be drank away. I think as therapists we always have to challenge our own unconscious bias.
The reason why some people say "I don't colour is that they come from a good place. What they mean is it doesn't matter to them what colour you are. However, it doesn't mean they can't address the specific needs to a racialized person. Making this statement a derogatory one is further causing separation. I guess everyone now want to be segregated into their own race. I thought we were trying to get away from this?
What we are trying to get away from is racism, is mistreating people, ignoring their culture, assuming everyone is the same, trying to force them to conform, ignoring the complexity of who someone is, ignoring inter-generational trauma, ignoring the impact of being marginalized on a person's psyche, making people feel unwelcome, and excluding them. It's impossible to avoid those things if you "don't see colour". Not seeing colour allows you to pretend that everything is fine so you don't have to feel uncomfortable. Discomfort is inevitable when learning and growing. If you believe we are all the same then there is no point in listening to anyone because they can't tell you anything new. When you live in a racist society not being racist and not contributing to racism takes active effort, while ignoring race allows you to stay comfortable and contribute to racism inadvertently.
Lol i get it! But you literally do see color, we all do. Its the beauty of the world especially in societies where human rights are respected for all. And i think we should all be aware enough to accept that not everyone's rights are equally fulfilled and respected. At work especially. But if you are able to also be aware in personal relationships the role that differences play in societt you might be able to give others more empathy AND yourself.
This can be googled and we don’t need to listen any further… thanks for the deep insight…
I’m going to keep listening anyway.
I'm working on my Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy and this was very useful for my multicultural competencies class and related paper. Thank you for providing this as a free resource.
Please I need help for me and my girlfriend 😩 we need to talk to a therapist
"Sexualized Racism" to me, sounds like we are brow beating someone who is not attracted to (to use the same example as the speaker), "black men or asian men." Sexual attraction and preference does not make you a racist. People are attracted to whom they are attracted to. That is like saying a homosexual male who is not attracted to women is a sexist. Here's the problem I am having with this webinar. I am doing my best as an "old soul in a new world" to stay as open minded as possible bc i want to work with people. I care about the mental health needs of others and i am very interested in working in this field. I currently work with young adults of all races, creeds, sexes, and orientations as a residential counselor.
What i am finding is that It seems like we are trying to rationalize a lot of these issues within the framework of an incessant victimhood mentality, instead of teaching people that you dont have to feel like a victim or feel traumatized just because someone said something offensive or even abusive to you. I suppose im having a hard time with the idea that it is everyone's responsibility to create a safe space for others where everyone feels accepted, valued, and loved. Traditionally speaking it is not everyone's responsibility to create that space for you. That flies in the face of everything we know about natural social interactions between people. It is unprecedented. We have always lived in a world where it is our individual job to figure out where and with whom we fit in.
So are we in the business of changing society to defy our natural social tendencies as human beings? Or are we as counselors and therapists in the business of helping individuals find there own sense of peace and contentment within the tumultuous seas of this world?
Are we trying to be a map and compass for the captain of the ship? Or are we trying to change the pattern of the sea and the ship itself?
I really like how Nina addressed how substance misuse and tunnel vision in working with populations. Not because there is something intrinsic about something around queerness and transness, but because it is about coping with oppression how much oppression or gaslighting is trying to be drank away. I think as therapists we always have to challenge our own unconscious bias.
Great job
The reason why some people say "I don't colour is that they come from a good place. What they mean is it doesn't matter to them what colour you are. However, it doesn't mean they can't address the specific needs to a racialized person. Making this statement a derogatory one is further causing separation. I guess everyone now want to be segregated into their own race. I thought we were trying to get away from this?
What we are trying to get away from is racism, is mistreating people, ignoring their culture, assuming everyone is the same, trying to force them to conform, ignoring the complexity of who someone is, ignoring inter-generational trauma, ignoring the impact of being marginalized on a person's psyche, making people feel unwelcome, and excluding them. It's impossible to avoid those things if you "don't see colour".
Not seeing colour allows you to pretend that everything is fine so you don't have to feel uncomfortable. Discomfort is inevitable when learning and growing.
If you believe we are all the same then there is no point in listening to anyone because they can't tell you anything new.
When you live in a racist society not being racist and not contributing to racism takes active effort, while ignoring race allows you to stay comfortable and contribute to racism inadvertently.
Lol i get it! But you literally do see color, we all do. Its the beauty of the world especially in societies where human rights are respected for all. And i think we should all be aware enough to accept that not everyone's rights are equally fulfilled and respected. At work especially. But if you are able to also be aware in personal relationships the role that differences play in societt you might be able to give others more empathy AND yourself.