Just found your video and it really resonated with me. I’ve probably got 30 years on you. I have zero awake friends and only a couple of friends that I see on a semi regular basis. They don’t understand my quiet lifestyle at all. I wish I could explain all that I’ve learned but they would just laugh at me. It’s really like living in 2 different worlds,one with the normies and the one where you “know”. Good job with your explanation. Subscribed.
Your words resonate with me. I know exactly what you mean by "wishing to explain" and "they would just laugh". Always trying to talk about the subtle aspects and mechanism that effect/govern our world, but getting either blank stares or a compressed/reduced understanding in return. The equivalent of people only being able to put your 3D description into a 2D landscape. I too have no friends that are truely awake, some that are perhaps on the border of waking, and I spend semi-regular time with them. What gets me is you say you have 30 yrs on the gentleman, which means you have at least as much on me aswell. It gets me because you sound like a window in to my future. Does it really get hard to find others with "knowing"? I feel intellectually starved at times, not having others that can discuss issues and concepts at higher levels. So far it really does feel like I'm living in a second world to those I know. From what I can make out of my future from this vantage point is, it resembles your description. Living a quiet peaceful life, away from the city, mostly alone, accepting that speaking to others on the same conscious level (or higher) will be a rare occurrence. I guess, I'm asking to know more of your experience dealing with this 2 worlds phenomena. 🙏🏼📿
I’ve been experiencing this myself. I’m not interested in hanging out with people as much and their conversations are not stimulating to me and I’m bad at pretending to be interested. I’m studying my masters program in Consciousness and transformative Studies and everything I’m learning is soooo mind blowing and fascinating. It’s a mix of psychology, science, philosophy, spiritual psychology, cultural and professional development.
The most ironic thing about it is that you can't go back. Not that you're not capable, but you'd probably feel that «something is wrong about doing this and going back». And obviously it is another dimension or way of living, different story. And recently I've been thinking about how to live with those new ideas and concepts. However, I suppose there are ways, because obviously it is not a new thing, this thing probably existed long ago, but in different forms and there were different possibilities.
I've lost a lot of friends on the path, though I've learned that such is the cycle of life. People come, people go. I try to practice Aparigraha, the yogic value of non-attachment. Easier said than done, but that's why it's a practice. It helps to allow yourself to grieve the loss, practice forgiveness, and invest your energy into nurturing the relationships that are present in your life, as well as cultivate new ones. There are lots of amazing people in the world and it doesn't have to be hard to make new friends as an adult-that's just a perception that too many people have. 🕊
When you get to the top you’ll have finally realized that EVERYTHING comes from within so most of the demands of friends, family and society in general, fade away as you get busy living an amazing life, fully immersed in the present moment. Thanks for sharing 🙏
@@yoyoma17 personally, I have a military pension that more than meets my needs. Some lucky real estate and investment decisions left me with a fairly substantial pot of liquidity that will soon be invested once I locate the right property where I will become as self-sufficient as possible. I don't need very much to live a very fulfilling life - the eye of the needle is really close. 😉
I tried explaining this to my friend yesterday, before I even saw this video. And he got very aggressive with me and I saw why I was even telling him these things. We don’t have the same frequencies and he didn’t respect that. I told him I don’t listen to rap or smoke weed anymore and he was like “oh so you just think you’re better than us”. And I said “no naturally because I’m growing into a new person, our connection isn’t the same. I don’t like the same things he does, and I don’t like how he puts himself first every time we hangout. Almost like me needs and wants aren’t important to him AT ALL. He has the need to prove he’s right about absolutely everything and I’ve gotten to the point where I’m like “yeah bro you know what? You’re right” and just walk away because I don’t care whose right or wrong I just wanna have a good time with my friend. But I see the universe is telling me it’s time to move on. Not in a bad way as I explain to him, sometimes people just change for the better and in doing so, they cut the connection of the friendship because we don’t share the same wants and needs and He just doesn’t respect me in a lot of ways.
Man i related with that, got one that brings up old things i dropped and let him win just to re-prove his rightness (even when he's wrong) When I'm wrong it's like " oh shit youre right, sorry I'm a dumbass" and laugh it off. I literally don't care. The tiniest little thing with him it's a big ego trip and argument. I told myself years that I'll never argue again. If you can't have a loving mature discussion to get to the bottom of something, I will respectfully agree to dissagree and leave it at that. it's became really obvious when i started seeing him do it 10x as bad with his new girlfriend when she's usually just trying to tell him how she feels. He respects me as a man so he doesn't try to dominate me as much as he does his gf, but watching a man bully around someone who isn't as confruntational is pretty clarifying. Seeing her just drop things and let him think he's right too. I can only bring up so much friction about this stuff without him feeling like I'm cornering him. I guess at some point you just gotta realize it's a vibe mismatch. Problem is it's really hard to find people to vibe at all with these days
If you guys friendship was brought up on smoking weed and drinking then you were guys were never true friends. The addiction was the only thing that brought you guys together. Once you stop the addiction watch them leave. That'll let you know where they stood with you. As you get older it's about being with one person male or female until it's your time to go or aka die
We each have our own experiences in this world. You can only do so much as to make people aware, its up to them to accept the message or not. There is no right or wrong in this 'world'. Just look for the type of friends you want. Always be your own best friend and continue to improve yourself before anything else, if you choose to.
I was stuck in the pleasure-seeking phase for most of my adult life. Now, at 38 I’m 4 years sober and definitely in to growth and expanding my consciousness. Great little video
So i am not only in this situation. But i realised that universe wants me to be isolated to save my energy from negativity of the people that are not up to my level.
It is very hard and heart breaking to see friendships that you used to treasure, to spiral downwards when you start to improve yourself. But I think that's only a sign that you're making some right decisions and to keep going even stronger.
If someone is excessively inviting you out drinking, it's a red flag. In my case they were trying to cost me my apartment by spending and also making noise in my place. Sometimes people, especially at work, can pretend to be your best friend when really they are playing a game with your life and other people's too...
I haven’t heard it phrased or explained this way. I love this logic. Thank you! I had to let go of 10 different friends who were stuck in pleasure seeking. I like the concept of seeking growth minded individuals now.
The chart reminded me of when you are at a higher level in school. Your on a different wavelength usually to pupils in the year below you. If earth is a school, then when we move up a grade in our own "growth" we resonate with people on that wavelength and don`t feel the same satisfaction hanging out with people below that wavelength. They don`t engage us in the same way, so we let go to create room for more friendship`s that fill us with Joy, feel like home and are more fulfilling. Where there is deeper communication and less drama.
Yes, some of us have 'graduated' to a different frequency/wavelength, and we can't go back(who would want to go backwards?). There is a 'separating process' going on and it's a spiritual process. I've had to remove myself from toxic people and situations because we no longer think or feel alike. That's okay, I have very few friends and don't associate with gossipy toxic family members anymore. 🙏
Really appreciate that you said to love everyone. Being a spiritual person does not mean that you are better than others. Growth is being compassionate and expanding our understanding of differences. The hardest part of this is acceptance. Be kind to yourselves first so you can project that love onto others. ❤️
Really well put. Zen master Richard Rose heavily emphasized to his students that they should work with others in general, but especially on different rungs of the ladder. Helping those one rung below your and being helped by those a rung or two above us. Friends on the path also help keep us accountable and keep us from rationalizing!
yes you are right i found people i mixed with once i would not mix with now.. i feel enlightened and a better person more peaceful.. I have seen people waste their lives and money on crazy things.. we saved for retirement which I am pleased we did i am alone now due to cancer and losing a lot of people I knew. I am very spiritual.
I really appreciate this video because this is exactly what has happened to me. I didn’t know what was going on. Setting boundaries was huge for me & people don’t like that. It’s hard when you no longer resonate with family. That’s been the hardest. They like the ‘broken’ me. They can’t see me for who I am now. But it’s ok. I really like this video I am going to watch the other one now 😊
I feel the exact same way. I truly feel like I'm being called to solitude because I just don't resonate with the same people I use to kick it with. Like you, I feel that people only like the "broken me" and that's disheartening. When I talk about growth and changing my life I find that people all of a sudden got "something to do" but will endlessly wanna talk about gossip and nonsense. I really feel like I be dumbing myself down to converse these people nowadays and I'd rather just be alone at this point
@@maameesialaska908 You could look at it as a spiritual process of you getting to know who you really are without distractions. It could be a hard slow process, but you can get to a point as to where, you are your best company, and enjoy your time being alone. Not lonely, but alone.
The coming to terms with being "different" has been really helpful to me recently. I had to leave my family and I felt a lot of guilt about being "better" by leaving them. I came to the realization we aren't better then each other but just different and I need to live my own life.
I've always thought of it as.... Light. The further you get the brighter you become. This makes the shadows around you longer and longer until the disappear.
So beautifully explained. Thanks. Setting boundaries has rattled some of my longest standing friendships and I'm so surprised at how much defensiveness is out there. Amazing how visible certain behaviours become once you address them in yourself. So many friends averse to conscious relating. What a helleva surprise!
It happend to me all my life, in three phases as an adult.. it’s sad, and difficult, i just loose interest. I have nothing to learn from them anymore… I know it’s right and i know people who align more with me will come along, but you need to be alone for a while until that happens.
Very interesting topic. I am going through the same experience in the last 9 months. I am meeting friends much less than use to be, but I love people and I wish everyone the best ❤
You gained a sub 🎉 well said. I found your video at just the right time. Over the last 6 + months I lost pretty much all of my old friends with whom I used to sit around and smoke weed and party with. Even I was the biggest stoner of them all before. But for over 3 years I was one foot in and one foot out. I finally got the courage to dissociate myself from this lifestyle completely. Moving foward to today I’ve been going to the gym consistently for 1 and a half years, stopped everything including alcohol, got promoted at my job, started a business and got a girlfriend that’s oriented towards growth as well! I wondered for so long If I made the right move getting out of those friendships. I think the answer is pretty obvious now.
For me, one of the biggest steps in my path was drastically cutting down on alcohol. This made me realize a lot of my existing 'friends' were really just drinking buddies. It also made me less tolerant of disrespectful behavior, and I got ostracized for it, which I try my best to be OK with, but it's not always easy as I am still a social creature at heart.
This will be one of _the_ best decisions you will ever make. If alcohol causes problems in your social life then you may have a hereditary predisposition to it. Listen to 'Jordan Peterson How To Overcome An Alcohol Addiction' which outlines it pretty well.
I honestly am so alone that I feel like that astronaut in the movie planet of the apes; no one I have met understands or even want to understand the truth of this thing we call reality. I have zero chance of meeting a compatible woman because honestly I don't think she exists unless maybe she is from another more advance planet. The truth is a very lonely journey.
You have put that very well, I knew I was moving into growth but I didn't realise its from pleasure. I'm changing and my friends aren't in same place, sometimes they frustrate me when I try to explain I'm not into that stuff anymore. If that went on I would lose friends I'm sure. As much as I do hope to find new friends who mirror this growth area, thank you for helping me understand I just need to love current ones and keep my awareness to myself. Thanks again, lovely tone also. Peace
For each of us, it’s a personal journey. Friends and family, are additions to our lived life. Where I’m finding difficulty, is with my wife. I’m a naturist, being close to a natural living space, fills me. (Yes I know, we don’t truly have any fully healthy ecosystems any more). My wife is certain, that we are from spirits in space. She could be right? The trouble lies in her disappointment, that I’m not at her level. My disappointment, is that she looks down upon me affection and sex, as below her. Bumping into partners, in hookups, is shallow. Finding depth of experience with your trusting partner. Can be as much as you make it. The path, was never meant to be easy.
I really like this, and the calm way you present it. People do naturally drop away when you develop spiritually and they stay where they are (and sometimes they can be nasty about the path you are on). Not being judgmental of them is so important, as you relate. We are all developing at different rates---and some never move from the material self-serving mindset.
Nail on the head Will. I've had such a journey. I felt awakened sort of as a kid, not buying all the regular bs most fall for, but was still really naive. I've lived rich and poor, and I look back and remember how I felt then, and I see that I was going through stages, and then forcefully kicked into other stages as life dealt it's hand. I see now how different I am. Some parts of me want to go back, I was so relaxed and carefree while living on the edge at every second, had some real crazy times too that I'd hate to have missed. But I've changed so much, and once your eyes are open you see so much more. Some of us move forward, some don't and never do. We can move back and forth sometimes too. I'm a lot less judgmental these days. I know I've changed, but I know many haven't and never will. I have this inner feeling from childhood, that maybe we have to keep doing this over and over until we finally understand? Maybe graduate and become angels or something? I'd be alright with that. Take good care out there dude.
I’ve currently lost some of my friends because of my depression and anger. I feel like I can entertain myself without people. I did it before and I can do it again. 😊
@DaoTzu I don't assume anything. I hold open the possibility that she is a good person who is ill and needs compassion. Unlike you. You jump to an automatic conclusion that she deserves to be abandoned and yet you know nothing about her situation beyond a short comment. Your automatic judgement says more about you than her. It tells me you're heartless by default. Hopefully people react to your negativity in the way that you proscribe for others
Indeed, I agree with this statement. In the past 12 years, I have undergone a significant transformation in my personality and character. However, regrettably, the majority of individuals who were once my companions have not experienced such a change. I believe that this is due to differences in energy and wavelengths. Individuals who seek truth emit dissimilar frequencies than those who indulge in excessive partying or drinking. As we are all composed of energy, we are drawn to those with whom we resonate. This can be either fortunate or unfortunate depending on the circumstances.
Yes, yesterday I said to my life time friend no, when she want to go on a party. I said I do not drink, I do not watch TV, I do not eat meat and I really do not want to go on a party. 🙃 Yes, really I have a partner and a 12 years old daughter and they understand me. They are still in pleasure state, but at the same time they are moveing up. So I can meditate, I can be in peace and alone. Sometimes I am really sad because of all, like a stranger in this world, but I have support also from nature and animals, books, music and such kind people from u tube like you. And lot of times I feel amazing and really grateful that I can smell, touch and just be.
Makes me feel quite guilty thou. I was so so religious as a teen and in my early 20s. I created strong friendships which were based on ... all of us having the personality of a sacrificed saint or victim who is so holy because "she endures a lot". That kind of phylosophy about .... being poor because its holier, being so humble all the time never taking care of yourself. Now I am 27 and I steped out of it, I still believe in God but I dont belong to just one religion and I understood I have to love myself and take care of myself and I worked on that kind of ego of " being a good girl super holy". Because of that I lost some friends, because also some of my friends got so bitter with time that they really cannot stand somebody being joyfull or just dancing enjoying life or doing things for herself. I feel quite guilty to leave them thou. I dint wanna abandon them. Its just that I feel there is nothing there anymore. Makes me a bit sad thou. Just 3 or 4 years ago we were still great friends.
But is it Christian or written in the Bible that you have to be poor and miserable and act like a holy saint? If I’m not mistaken, none of the Abrahamic religions say that.
I'm so glad for you, because you're so young and you've understood and experienced this liberation. Guilt will pass away. ;) And you will make new friends from your 'new' you perception, wills, joy, freedom. You did not kill them, you did not betray. Please consider your act as an act of radical self Love. And this will also serve these past friends, not to teach them anything, but just to allow them not to stay with you even if you've changed, allowing yourself to be true, and maybe one day allowing them to come back to you knowing who you're really are. Many joyful blessings to you. Enjoy your life! :)
Great summary of spiritual transition - easily digestible information and so important that love for all others is underlined as a consistent foundation. Thank you for this superb short video 😊
3:02 - 3:13. This is so true. Its hard to find the right people to the point I feel like quitting, then I regress to pleasures but I havent given up completely because I still think its possible to achieve my dream of writing
What do you need to achieve your dream of writing? Being alone I guess? You can be a social writer, a lonely writer... be the writer you want to be. ;) This starts by considering you're already writing, don't wait for it any longer, put your dreams into reality. I wish you to make it true. (a peer writer)
@@Marioncosmicwiiz thankyou alot. I love to write fantasy stories and I want to animate them. Ive been taking a writing class and now im reading into buddhism to calm my nerves whenever I get anxious about life.
That image of the hot air balloon has been in my mind for a while in relation to how I've had to 'cut some toxic people sandbags' loose so that I could move forward (and upward) in my life's journey. I live by myself (and my cat) have few friends and have a more peaceful existence now.🙏
I like how you describe things, alot of the other spiritual youtube 'gurus' arent realistic and just say to avoid anyone negative or at a different level like you said, that's very limited thinking. I think we have to be open to other layers of thinking, but also be practical about what we let in.
4:22 you do understand to love others one needs to love themselves? You cannot give something you don’t have! Being spiritual is about being aware? Not just loving, being loving is higher on level, and not everyone has reached that stage yet, SBS accepting that brings peace
Thank you, I'll save this so i could be back into the old abandoned me, that i left before depression, pleasure, addiction, and fulfiling my needs everysingle day, i was on that path for 3-4 years, for 8 years i suffer with anxiety
In life, we come across many closed doors. When I opened the door of pleasure, it was overcrowded over there. but most of them are mechanics. Then I closed it off, and I opened another door titled "intellect and purpose," and I found a select few there. However, in this door, I observed a tiny, hidden corridor that was overpacked with scammers and parasites who would kill to take credit for the intellectual property of the visionaries. The more you become spiritual, the more you seek out a purpose for your existence. Why are you here?
I’ve always wondered why it’s hard for me to make friends, but listening to this put it in a perspective that I had considered before. Hearing it from someone else makes it that much clearer for me. Thanks!
People pleasing is such a hard topic for me….I’ve been going through a huge rut with my very best friend of 6+ years. We met online and talked every day, the distance never made it difficult to be friends. But for the past few months, i’ve been so convicted in my relationship with God. Ive felt less and less drawn to the things of this world, called to bigger and better things that will grow me further. I believe what you explained in your video is us exactly, me going into the growth phase while she is still in the pleasure phase. It’s nothing against herI still love her friendship. the only thing is, i love her so much that it hurts to see her still chasing the things of this world. I’ve experienced her growing up and begin to feel more drawn to worldly things, cursing, drinking, a lotta dark humor that makes me uncomfortable. I don’t hold it against her, but it’s just a very painful process to go through. For a long time i’ve been wondering and fighting this feeling, fighting a judge mental mindset. I think the problem is just that we’re in different parts of our life right now. And I forget that that’s okay. I wanna say thank you for the video and the wise words…It brought a lot of closure and explanation to all of my questions and pain. Thanks for the new outlook on things, man. ❤
I like your calm voice and your point of view (: I agree with it (: And it also explains a lot to me about a few situations. So thank you for your video (:
Growing up means growing while apart. Similar to when you first leave the comfort of your parents' love, you must also be able to strive independently without the love from your friends. With that being said, I am turning 40 next year and all I can say is that there are only a handful of people who actually care about you (outside of your biological family.) Stay strong and stay vigilant my friends.. The world can feel like a very cold place these days.
I loved this video, it really explains why I have had lot's of friends but wasn't truly happy spending time with them, I am now nearing into my 50's and am also a carer for two people, I don't get out much but I enjoy spending time with myself, most especially now I am no longer a roman catholic and now a Jainist. They have a certain level of detachment from others due to the amounts of time spend meditating with yourself. So, this video was very interesting for me as I phase out of one path and into another.
thank you ... slowly slowly keep away from pleasure people ( out of site out of mind ) less disturbance will be there in growth , and keep money for survival
in my humble opinion, the spiritual focus is simply about being present and the self improvement focus is a mind/ego quest. They are not opposing pairs of the same duality. I don't believe someone can be more spiritual than someone else much like how something can't exist more than something else. It simply is, all is spirit. You may be a very intellectually developed person who has mastered discipline with a sophisticated understanding of cause and effect, I'm not challenging that, but that in particular isn't the be all end all of spirituality
There's also a lot you can learn from those people once you've realized a few things. You see them falling into all the old traps you used to. Which is kind of an affirmation of your progress. Not that you'd dwell on that or anything, but it's there none the less.
Thanks for your video You describes my life and my feelings; i feel alone with my old friends whom i dont get anymore and they dont get me either, have no new friends-hard to make and being an alien in family reunions because their conversations dont interest me at all. So i prefer to be alone and read, draw, go to the park,... Funny how we re passing through this the same way all and feeling alone - (sorry for my english)
This was a really interesting video to watch. It happened to me back in 1997. I changed and two people that I had been close to dropped me like a hot potato. Any regrets? No. My spiritual journey has brought me new friends. And closer to God.
I actually find it "easier" to find peoples with the same vibe as me lately. These days it’s to common to be just random and it can be overwhelming. Video was good in format and content toi
Great video, haven't heard it explained quite like this before. I've always used analogy of low to high vibration and resonance. What level you are at, dictates what resonates, or is interesting to you. And when you start your "spiritual" life, you will start rising faster your frequency than people who are not on the same path and that can cause friction. But as you said, it's natural and completely ok.
The pursuit of joy leads to pleasure seeking when we aren't able to be pleasant within ourselves. You can't BE joyful or pleasant if you think these experiences are something to be sought outside you rather than the outside inspiring this within you. The most oppressive lie is that you have to seek in order to have what's within. If you can "be" you can be anything.
Sure but when i went out with people from my past it feels like i can’t really me the new version of me. It keeps reminding me about my past… I don’t want to judge them but they do not participate in healthy behavior towards themselves or others. I removed my self from these peoples because eventually you’ll just have to if you want to keep going… i do not hate them but I don’t need to surround myself with it either 🤷
It could be that, but be aware that you might also be losing friends due to a character or behavioural flaw which you are unaware of. For years I thought I was pretty 'advanced', only to realise I was pushing people away with my superior attitude and lack of humility.
Someone I thought was a best friend of 20 years I believe has done this (been radical and literally cut me off mid-convo and stopped speaking to me 2 month ago) when I told him I need a friend and in suffering with something emotionally. I think he is in his growth stage (I went through a massive one about 7 years ago when I discovered Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle) and as he could see I was going through something, I went from being a homie to a hindrance. But this just makes me realise he was only a friend for the pleasure so I believe it says a lot more about him
As a compassionate being it seems prudent to accept that I am motivated by pleasure, as are the others around me, and that there is nothing wrong with pleasure seeking, and that there is pleasure derived from the spiritual growth I pursue and pleasure derived from imparting spiritual growth on others. Pleasure can be a mechanism for spiritual growth. A life without pleasure seems unnecessarily lonely and placid.
Ironically, years after my spiritual awakening I learned to enjoy my pleasures more without beating myself up about it like I did in past. I found biggest lesson was to be your authentic self (as flawed as that may appear) because those self perceived imperfections is actually what makes you the perfect version on you.
Started my journey early 2000s, last few years tested me big time but I feel Ive come through more enlightebed than before BUT, I have this "negativity" inside noe; how people acted and reacted over last few years on top of everything and how theyre acting, or not, to current goings-on, not to me, but generally speaking, its like most are just asleep on life. I need to let that go, but am struggling tbh. This video has helped.
Thanks for saying the truth. 80% to 90% of people are not on a journey of growth.
Just found your video and it really resonated with me. I’ve probably got 30 years on you. I have zero awake friends and only a couple of friends that I see on a semi regular basis. They don’t understand my quiet lifestyle at all. I wish I could explain all that I’ve learned but they would just laugh at me. It’s really like living in 2 different worlds,one with the normies and the one where you “know”. Good job with your explanation. Subscribed.
Your words resonate with me. I know exactly what you mean by "wishing to explain" and "they would just laugh".
Always trying to talk about the subtle aspects and mechanism that effect/govern our world, but getting either blank stares or a compressed/reduced understanding in return. The equivalent of people only being able to put your 3D description into a 2D landscape.
I too have no friends that are truely awake, some that are perhaps on the border of waking, and I spend semi-regular time with them. What gets me is you say you have 30 yrs on the gentleman, which means you have at least as much on me aswell. It gets me because you sound like a window in to my future.
Does it really get hard to find others with "knowing"?
I feel intellectually starved at times, not having others that can discuss issues and concepts at higher levels.
So far it really does feel like I'm living in a second world to those I know.
From what I can make out of my future from this vantage point is, it resembles your description. Living a quiet peaceful life, away from the city, mostly alone, accepting that speaking to others on the same conscious level (or higher) will be a rare occurrence.
I guess, I'm asking to know more of your experience dealing with this 2 worlds phenomena.
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I’ve been experiencing this myself. I’m not interested in hanging out with people as much and their conversations are not stimulating to me and I’m bad at pretending to be interested. I’m studying my masters program in Consciousness and transformative Studies and everything I’m learning is soooo mind blowing and fascinating. It’s a mix of psychology, science, philosophy, spiritual psychology, cultural and professional development.
The most ironic thing about it is that you can't go back. Not that you're not capable, but you'd probably feel that «something is wrong about doing this and going back». And obviously it is another dimension or way of living, different story. And recently I've been thinking about how to live with those new ideas and concepts. However, I suppose there are ways, because obviously it is not a new thing, this thing probably existed long ago, but in different forms and there were different possibilities.
How can we connect with each other?
Same experience here
I've lost a lot of friends on the path, though I've learned that such is the cycle of life. People come, people go. I try to practice Aparigraha, the yogic value of non-attachment. Easier said than done, but that's why it's a practice. It helps to allow yourself to grieve the loss, practice forgiveness, and invest your energy into nurturing the relationships that are present in your life, as well as cultivate new ones. There are lots of amazing people in the world and it doesn't have to be hard to make new friends as an adult-that's just a perception that too many people have. 🕊
When you get to the top you’ll have finally realized that EVERYTHING comes from within so most of the demands of friends, family and society in general, fade away as you get busy living an amazing life, fully immersed in the present moment. Thanks for sharing 🙏
But then how do you exist in this "social" world? Like making money, buying food, etc.
@@yoyoma17 personally, I have a military pension that more than meets my needs. Some lucky real estate and investment decisions left me with a fairly substantial pot of liquidity that will soon be invested once I locate the right property where I will become as self-sufficient as possible. I don't need very much to live a very fulfilling life - the eye of the needle is really close. 😉
@@davidj231 Good for you man. Wish you all the best.
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If everything comes from within wouldn't you just create new friends that have similar goals rather than depriving yourself of social contact :P.
If family is fading away other than from old age and death you made a mistake
I think I manifested this isolation. Told the universe keep all the wrong people away from me. It happened
Yeah, true.
2 aquaintances I talkto no friends come around
I tried explaining this to my friend yesterday, before I even saw this video. And he got very aggressive with me and I saw why I was even telling him these things. We don’t have the same frequencies and he didn’t respect that. I told him I don’t listen to rap or smoke weed anymore and he was like “oh so you just think you’re better than us”. And I said “no naturally because I’m growing into a new person, our connection isn’t the same. I don’t like the same things he does, and I don’t like how he puts himself first every time we hangout. Almost like me needs and wants aren’t important to him AT ALL. He has the need to prove he’s right about absolutely everything and I’ve gotten to the point where I’m like “yeah bro you know what? You’re right” and just walk away because I don’t care whose right or wrong I just wanna have a good time with my friend. But I see the universe is telling me it’s time to move on. Not in a bad way as I explain to him, sometimes people just change for the better and in doing so, they cut the connection of the friendship because we don’t share the same wants and needs and He just doesn’t respect me in a lot of ways.
Man i related with that, got one that brings up old things i dropped and let him win just to re-prove his rightness (even when he's wrong) When I'm wrong it's like " oh shit youre right, sorry I'm a dumbass" and laugh it off. I literally don't care. The tiniest little thing with him it's a big ego trip and argument. I told myself years that I'll never argue again. If you can't have a loving mature discussion to get to the bottom of something, I will respectfully agree to dissagree and leave it at that. it's became really obvious when i started seeing him do it 10x as bad with his new girlfriend when she's usually just trying to tell him how she feels. He respects me as a man so he doesn't try to dominate me as much as he does his gf, but watching a man bully around someone who isn't as confruntational is pretty clarifying. Seeing her just drop things and let him think he's right too. I can only bring up so much friction about this stuff without him feeling like I'm cornering him. I guess at some point you just gotta realize it's a vibe mismatch. Problem is it's really hard to find people to vibe at all with these days
If you guys friendship was brought up on smoking weed and drinking then you were guys were never true friends. The addiction was the only thing that brought you guys together. Once you stop the addiction watch them leave. That'll let you know where they stood with you. As you get older it's about being with one person male or female until it's your time to go or aka die
I like the analogy in The Matrix of people turning into Agent Smith when you try to speak the truth.
We each have our own experiences in this world. You can only do so much as to make people aware, its up to them to accept the message or not. There is no right or wrong in this 'world'. Just look for the type of friends you want. Always be your own best friend and continue to improve yourself before anything else, if you choose to.
@@NIN_THUG Its like the devil running away from the light, or like vampires from garlic.
I was stuck in the pleasure-seeking phase for most of my adult life. Now, at 38 I’m 4 years sober and definitely in to growth and expanding my consciousness. Great little video
Thank you.People find me sad and boring and I can't bear nonsense small talk or being cool. Your video gave me much needed clarity.
Nice to know im not the only one
Exactly the same here.
Yeah me too. I’ve been having a really hard time with this lately but am finally starting to embrace this change within myself.
Interesting. I tend to go by the saying... People come and people go, but the memories last a lifetime.
So i am not only in this situation. But i realised that universe wants me to be isolated to save my energy from negativity of the people that are not up to my level.
It is very hard and heart breaking to see friendships that you used to treasure, to spiral downwards when you start to improve yourself. But I think that's only a sign that you're making some right decisions and to keep going even stronger.
If someone is excessively inviting you out drinking, it's a red flag. In my case they were trying to cost me my apartment by spending and also making noise in my place. Sometimes people, especially at work, can pretend to be your best friend when really they are playing a game with your life and other people's too...
“Friendship” is relative. We all are connected and any “toxicity” is out of place. We can only relate to others in a healthy way by being authentic.
Completely agree. It's not even a matter of spiritual evolution, it's just about being true to ourselves and others...
All emotions are feminine and/DNA 🧬 y lack logic...👁️
I haven’t heard it phrased or explained this way. I love this logic. Thank you! I had to let go of 10 different friends who were stuck in pleasure seeking. I like the concept of seeking growth minded individuals now.
it's a very simplistic explanation, you might consider a similar division through the 7 chakras
I am on a path of growth personally and businesswise seeking like minded individuals like me
Not logic
@@pmac5934 explain how not?
Now...
The chart reminded me of when you are at a higher level in school. Your on a different wavelength usually to pupils in the year below you. If earth is a school, then when we move up a grade in our own "growth" we resonate with people on that wavelength and don`t feel the same satisfaction hanging out with people below that wavelength. They don`t engage us in the same way, so we let go to create room for more friendship`s that fill us with Joy, feel like home and are more fulfilling. Where there is deeper communication and less drama.
Yes, some of us have 'graduated' to a different frequency/wavelength, and we can't go back(who would want to go backwards?). There is a 'separating process' going on and it's a spiritual process. I've had to remove myself from toxic people and situations because we no longer think or feel alike. That's okay, I have very few friends and don't associate with gossipy toxic family members anymore. 🙏
Really appreciate that you said to love everyone. Being a spiritual person does not mean that you are better than others. Growth is being compassionate and expanding our understanding of differences. The hardest part of this is acceptance. Be kind to yourselves first so you can project that love onto others. ❤️
Well said 🌠🌠💗💗
very wise
true.
Really well put. Zen master Richard Rose heavily emphasized to his students that they should work with others in general, but especially on different rungs of the ladder. Helping those one rung below your and being helped by those a rung or two above us. Friends on the path also help keep us accountable and keep us from rationalizing!
yes you are right i found people i mixed with once i would not mix with now.. i feel enlightened and a better person more peaceful.. I have seen people waste their lives and money on crazy things.. we saved for retirement which I am pleased we did i am alone now due to cancer and losing a lot of people I knew. I am very spiritual.
The universe and God remove people from your life. He is listening to their conversations about you. It's a 👍 good thing. Good video!
the universe?
I really appreciate this video because this is exactly what has happened to me. I didn’t know what was going on. Setting boundaries was huge for me & people don’t like that.
It’s hard when you no longer resonate with family. That’s been the hardest. They like the ‘broken’ me. They can’t see me for who I am now. But it’s ok. I really like this video I am going to watch the other one now 😊
36 of us so far liked your comment. I can relate to your experiences.
I feel the exact same way. I truly feel like I'm being called to solitude because I just don't resonate with the same people I use to kick it with. Like you, I feel that people only like the "broken me" and that's disheartening. When I talk about growth and changing my life I find that people all of a sudden got "something to do" but will endlessly wanna talk about gossip and nonsense. I really feel like I be dumbing myself down to converse these people nowadays and I'd rather just be alone at this point
You may not want to push people out of your life but what happens when the universe ripped everybody out of your life and you're alone
That's exactly what I'm going through right now :(
Try going within with meditation. Everything that one needs is available once you silence the voices of your ego’s many conflicting personalities.
Same here. The more I tried to keep them the more they left
Eres afortunada si te dejan sola , porque dejan espacio para verdaderas amistades.
@@maameesialaska908 You could look at it as a spiritual process of you getting to know who you really are without distractions. It could be a hard slow process, but you can get to a point as to where, you are your best company, and enjoy your time being alone. Not lonely, but alone.
The coming to terms with being "different" has been really helpful to me recently. I had to leave my family and I felt a lot of guilt about being "better" by leaving them. I came to the realization we aren't better then each other but just different and I need to live my own life.
I've always thought of it as.... Light. The further you get the brighter you become. This makes the shadows around you longer and longer until the disappear.
Intriguing.
Shadow became more intense u guys DELUSIONAL
Andramalexh - That makes sense to me.
This would apply to Family too.
True, I learned you can learn from everyone people be so quick to judge people who aren’t spiritual but they can still be wise 🧠
So beautifully explained. Thanks. Setting boundaries has rattled some of my longest standing friendships and I'm so surprised at how much defensiveness is out there. Amazing how visible certain behaviours become once you address them in yourself. So many friends averse to conscious relating. What a helleva surprise!
It happend to me all my life, in three phases as an adult.. it’s sad, and difficult, i just loose interest. I have nothing to learn from them anymore…
I know it’s right and i know people who align more with me will come along, but you need to be alone for a while until that happens.
I think what you describe as “pleasure seeking” is avoidant/ numbing behavior. They don’t want to feel.
Very interesting topic. I am going through the same experience in the last 9 months. I am meeting friends much less than use to be, but I love people and I wish everyone the best ❤
You gained a sub 🎉 well said.
I found your video at just the right time.
Over the last 6 + months I lost pretty much all of my old friends with whom I used to sit around and smoke weed and party with. Even I was the biggest stoner of them all before. But for over 3 years I was one foot in and one foot out.
I finally got the courage to dissociate myself from this lifestyle completely.
Moving foward to today I’ve been going to the gym consistently for 1 and a half years, stopped everything including alcohol, got promoted at my job, started a business and got a girlfriend that’s oriented towards growth as well!
I wondered for so long If I made the right move getting out of those friendships.
I think the answer is pretty obvious now.
For me, one of the biggest steps in my path was drastically cutting down on alcohol. This made me realize a lot of my existing 'friends' were really just drinking buddies. It also made me less tolerant of disrespectful behavior, and I got ostracized for it, which I try my best to be OK with, but it's not always easy as I am still a social creature at heart.
This will be one of _the_ best decisions you will ever make. If alcohol causes problems in your social life then you may have a hereditary predisposition to it. Listen to 'Jordan Peterson How To Overcome An Alcohol Addiction' which outlines it pretty well.
I honestly am so alone that I feel like that astronaut in the movie planet of the apes; no one I have met understands or even want to understand the truth of this thing we call reality. I have zero chance of meeting a compatible woman because honestly I don't think she exists unless maybe she is from another more advance planet. The truth is a very lonely journey.
You have put that very well, I knew I was moving into growth but I didn't realise its from pleasure. I'm changing and my friends aren't in same place, sometimes they frustrate me when I try to explain I'm not into that stuff anymore. If that went on I would lose friends I'm sure.
As much as I do hope to find new friends who mirror this growth area, thank you for helping me understand I just need to love current ones and keep my awareness to myself.
Thanks again, lovely tone also. Peace
In that fase my friends used to call me "The Moralizer"... I understand
"love everyone no matter what level your at...you're at a different frequency". =. KEY -----ty for this video,.
For each of us, it’s a personal journey. Friends and family, are additions to our lived life. Where I’m finding difficulty, is with my wife. I’m a naturist, being close to a natural living space, fills me. (Yes I know, we don’t truly have any fully healthy ecosystems any more). My wife is certain, that we are from spirits in space. She could be right?
The trouble lies in her disappointment, that I’m not at her level. My disappointment, is that she looks down upon me affection and sex, as below her.
Bumping into partners, in hookups, is shallow. Finding depth of experience with your trusting partner. Can be as much as you make it.
The path, was never meant to be easy.
I really like this, and the calm way you present it. People do naturally drop away when you develop spiritually and they stay where they are (and sometimes they can be nasty about the path you are on). Not being judgmental of them is so important, as you relate. We are all developing at different rates---and some never move from the material self-serving mindset.
Nail on the head Will. I've had such a journey. I felt awakened sort of as a kid, not buying all the regular bs most fall for, but was still really naive. I've lived rich and poor, and I look back and remember how I felt then, and I see that I was going through stages, and then forcefully kicked into other stages as life dealt it's hand. I see now how different I am. Some parts of me want to go back, I was so relaxed and carefree while living on the edge at every second, had some real crazy times too that I'd hate to have missed. But I've changed so much, and once your eyes are open you see so much more. Some of us move forward, some don't and never do. We can move back and forth sometimes too. I'm a lot less judgmental these days. I know I've changed, but I know many haven't and never will. I have this inner feeling from childhood, that maybe we have to keep doing this over and over until we finally understand? Maybe graduate and become angels or something? I'd be alright with that. Take good care out there dude.
Most people do not live for pleasure seeking. They ALL seek security then comfort. Pleasure is result of security and comfort.
very true, its human nature. Many ways to look at this :)
Love one another despite our differences ❤
That's what I'm experiencing right now
how are you now?
Your video was recommend to me, clicked because of the title was not dissapointed.
This helped me normalize my thoughts, thank you for that
I’ve currently lost some of my friends because of my depression and anger. I feel like I can entertain myself without people. I did it before and I can do it again. 😊
depressed angry people arent at a spiritual place.. is that not obvious
@@tarawillis3995 where is this "spiritual place" you speak of that doesn't permit suffering people?
@DaoTzu who are you to tell a person what to be proud of? Maybe her friends were shallow people who abandoned her for being unwell
@DaoTzu I don't assume anything. I hold open the possibility that she is a good person who is ill and needs compassion. Unlike you. You jump to an automatic conclusion that she deserves to be abandoned and yet you know nothing about her situation beyond a short comment. Your automatic judgement says more about you than her. It tells me you're heartless by default. Hopefully people react to your negativity in the way that you proscribe for others
@@tarawillis3995 Everyone and everything is spiritual/holy. Get out of here with that toxic new-age nonsense.
Indeed, I agree with this statement. In the past 12 years, I have undergone a significant transformation in my personality and character. However, regrettably, the majority of individuals who were once my companions have not experienced such a change. I believe that this is due to differences in energy and wavelengths. Individuals who seek truth emit dissimilar frequencies than those who indulge in excessive partying or drinking. As we are all composed of energy, we are drawn to those with whom we resonate. This can be either fortunate or unfortunate depending on the circumstances.
Yes, yesterday I said to my life time friend no, when she want to go on a party. I said I do not drink, I do not watch TV, I do not eat meat and I really do not want to go on a party. 🙃 Yes, really I have a partner and a 12 years old daughter and they understand me. They are still in pleasure state, but at the same time they are moveing up. So I can meditate, I can be in peace and alone. Sometimes I am really sad because of all, like a stranger in this world, but I have support also from nature and animals, books, music and such kind people from u tube like you. And lot of times I feel amazing and really grateful that I can smell, touch and just be.
Makes me feel quite guilty thou.
I was so so religious as a teen and in my early 20s.
I created strong friendships which were based on ... all of us having the personality of a sacrificed saint or victim who is so holy because "she endures a lot". That kind of phylosophy about .... being poor because its holier, being so humble all the time never taking care of yourself.
Now I am 27 and I steped out of it, I still believe in God but I dont belong to just one religion and I understood I have to love myself and take care of myself and I worked on that kind of ego of " being a good girl super holy".
Because of that I lost some friends, because also some of my friends got so bitter with time that they really cannot stand somebody being joyfull or just dancing enjoying life or doing things for herself.
I feel quite guilty to leave them thou. I dint wanna abandon them. Its just that I feel there is nothing there anymore. Makes me a bit sad thou. Just 3 or 4 years ago we were still great friends.
You’re not necessary abandoning them because you simply moved up and will always welcome them back with open arms when/if they’re ever ready.
they will awaken when the game is over
But is it Christian or written in the Bible that you have to be poor and miserable and act like a holy saint? If I’m not mistaken, none of the Abrahamic religions say that.
I'm so glad for you, because you're so young and you've understood and experienced this liberation. Guilt will pass away. ;) And you will make new friends from your 'new' you perception, wills, joy, freedom. You did not kill them, you did not betray. Please consider your act as an act of radical self Love. And this will also serve these past friends, not to teach them anything, but just to allow them not to stay with you even if you've changed, allowing yourself to be true, and maybe one day allowing them to come back to you knowing who you're really are. Many joyful blessings to you. Enjoy your life! :)
@@Marioncosmicwiiz thanks a lot I feel so blessed by your wise comment.
Great summary of spiritual transition - easily digestible information and so important that love for all others is underlined as a consistent foundation.
Thank you for this superb short video 😊
I needed to hear this today! Thank you!
Wow, loved this video! So amazingly you explained everything! Thank you!
3:02 - 3:13. This is so true. Its hard to find the right people to the point I feel like quitting, then I regress to pleasures but I havent given up completely because I still think its possible to achieve my dream of writing
What do you need to achieve your dream of writing? Being alone I guess? You can be a social writer, a lonely writer... be the writer you want to be. ;) This starts by considering you're already writing, don't wait for it any longer, put your dreams into reality. I wish you to make it true. (a peer writer)
@@Marioncosmicwiiz thankyou alot. I love to write fantasy stories and I want to animate them. Ive been taking a writing class and now im reading into buddhism to calm my nerves whenever I get anxious about life.
And family.
Some will never understand,
just accept that and keep moving.
That image of the hot air balloon has been in my mind for a while in relation to how I've had to 'cut some toxic people sandbags' loose so that I could move forward (and upward) in my life's journey. I live by myself (and my cat) have few friends and have a more peaceful existence now.🙏
I like how you describe things, alot of the other spiritual youtube 'gurus' arent realistic and just say to avoid anyone negative or at a different level like you said, that's very limited thinking. I think we have to be open to other layers of thinking, but also be practical about what we let in.
4:22 you do understand to love others one needs to love themselves? You cannot give something you don’t have! Being spiritual is about being aware? Not just loving, being loving is higher on level, and not everyone has reached that stage yet, SBS accepting that brings peace
You are so good in what you 're explaining.
Its so hard to find that kind of people. Nobody is interested in growth.
Excellent video. Thank you for posting this! 👍
totaly relavent to my day yesterday great video thanks.
excellent video dude! keep it coming. much love
Thank you, I'll save this so i could be back into the old abandoned me, that i left before depression,
pleasure, addiction, and fulfiling my needs everysingle day, i was on that path for 3-4 years, for 8 years i suffer with anxiety
You're better, not just different. In order to come to that realisation that you no longer identify with pleasure seeking, means you transcended it.
Simple, clear and easily understood. Great video.
In life, we come across many closed doors. When I opened the door of pleasure, it was overcrowded over there. but most of them are mechanics. Then I closed it off, and I opened another door titled "intellect and purpose," and I found a select few there. However, in this door, I observed a tiny, hidden corridor that was overpacked with scammers and parasites who would kill to take credit for the intellectual property of the visionaries. The more you become spiritual, the more you seek out a purpose for your existence. Why are you here?
I’ve always wondered why it’s hard for me to make friends, but listening to this put it in a perspective that I had considered before. Hearing it from someone else makes it that much clearer for me. Thanks!
People pleasing is such a hard topic for me….I’ve been going through a huge rut with my very best friend of 6+ years. We met online and talked every day, the distance never made it difficult to be friends. But for the past few months, i’ve been so convicted in my relationship with God. Ive felt less and less drawn to the things of this world, called to bigger and better things that will grow me further. I believe what you explained in your video is us exactly, me going into the growth phase while she is still in the pleasure phase. It’s nothing against herI still love her friendship. the only thing is, i love her so much that it hurts to see her still chasing the things of this world. I’ve experienced her growing up and begin to feel more drawn to worldly things, cursing, drinking, a lotta dark humor that makes me uncomfortable. I don’t hold it against her, but it’s just a very painful process to go through. For a long time i’ve been wondering and fighting this feeling, fighting a judge mental mindset. I think the problem is just that we’re in different parts of our life right now. And I forget that that’s okay. I wanna say thank you for the video and the wise words…It brought a lot of closure and explanation to all of my questions and pain. Thanks for the new outlook on things, man. ❤
I like your calm voice and your point of view (:
I agree with it (:
And it also explains a lot to me about a few situations. So thank you for your video (:
Amazing video - so easy and on point. Thank you so much that helps alot ♥️💓♥️
Growing up means growing while apart. Similar to when you first leave the comfort of your parents' love, you must also be able to strive independently without the love from your friends.
With that being said, I am turning 40 next year and all I can say is that there are only a handful of people who actually care about you (outside of your biological family.)
Stay strong and stay vigilant my friends.. The world can feel like a very cold place these days.
Thx for the inspiring Vid. I started right now, to blame my selve for the lost.
Very clear explications and video rhythm
It’s about balance. Some pleasure is good every once in a while ❤ don’t have to burn bridges either just keep distance
Welcome to the “club”
You are young but has wisdom.
Congrats
This is excellent! Thank you for sharing this.
I loved this video, it really explains why I have had lot's of friends but wasn't truly happy spending time with them, I am now nearing into my 50's and am also a carer for two people, I don't get out much but I enjoy spending time with myself, most especially now I am no longer a roman catholic and now a Jainist. They have a certain level of detachment from others due to the amounts of time spend meditating with yourself. So, this video was very interesting for me as I phase out of one path and into another.
Wow! Great video! Thank you so so much! Everything makes more sense! ❤️
You made this simple to understand. Clear and concise. Thank you!!
thank you ...
slowly slowly keep away from pleasure people ( out of site out of mind ) less disturbance will be there in growth , and keep money for survival
in my humble opinion, the spiritual focus is simply about being present and the self improvement focus is a mind/ego quest. They are not opposing pairs of the same duality. I don't believe someone can be more spiritual than someone else much like how something can't exist more than something else. It simply is, all is spirit. You may be a very intellectually developed person who has mastered discipline with a sophisticated understanding of cause and effect, I'm not challenging that, but that in particular isn't the be all end all of spirituality
Interesting point on presence... still, might some self-improvement be needed to develop the gifts we are here to share on our spiritual path?
@@KevinTPLim Yeah probably, sometimes I just talk out of my ass lol
@@King_of_Sofa haha I have no idea myself really... I like your point anyway. No need for striving, just letting things unfold naturally
@@DeeKay68 is that your opinion? haha. Maybe you are right
Wow. Your graphic is so effective an accompaniment with your narrative. Thank you. May I use that graphic please?
There's also a lot you can learn from those people once you've realized a few things. You see them falling into all the old traps you used to. Which is kind of an affirmation of your progress. Not that you'd dwell on that or anything, but it's there none the less.
Great stuff my guy! Thank you for making this.
Good explanation, thank you.
Thanks for your video
You describes my life and my feelings; i feel alone with my old friends whom i dont get anymore and they dont get me either, have no new friends-hard to make and being an alien in family reunions because their conversations dont interest me at all.
So i prefer to be alone and read, draw, go to the park,...
Funny how we re passing through this the same way all and feeling alone - (sorry for my english)
This was a really interesting video to watch. It happened to me back in 1997. I changed and two people that I had been close to dropped me like a hot potato. Any regrets? No. My spiritual journey has brought me new friends. And closer to God.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything explained quite so beautifully!❤ thank you for changing my perception!♑️🤪
I actually find it "easier" to find peoples with the same vibe as me lately. These days it’s to common to be just random and it can be overwhelming.
Video was good in format and content toi
had a new love interest and when i spoke about my beliefs she asked me to change the subject. thank you next.
Thxs for ur time
Ur content
Great video, haven't heard it explained quite like this before.
I've always used analogy of low to high vibration and resonance. What level you are at, dictates what resonates, or is interesting to you.
And when you start your "spiritual" life, you will start rising faster your frequency than people who are not on the same path and that can cause friction.
But as you said, it's natural and completely ok.
What a great message
The pursuit of joy leads to pleasure seeking when we aren't able to be pleasant within ourselves. You can't BE joyful or pleasant if you think these experiences are something to be sought outside you rather than the outside inspiring this within you. The most oppressive lie is that you have to seek in order to have what's within. If you can "be" you can be anything.
Thanks for your help, bro! ❤
Sure but when i went out with people from my past it feels like i can’t really me the new version of me. It keeps reminding me about my past… I don’t want to judge them but they do not participate in healthy behavior towards themselves or others. I removed my self from these peoples because eventually you’ll just have to if you want to keep going… i do not hate them but I don’t need to surround myself with it either 🤷
It could be that, but be aware that you might also be losing friends due to a character or behavioural flaw which you are unaware of. For years I thought I was pretty 'advanced', only to realise I was pushing people away with my superior attitude and lack of humility.
Someone I thought was a best friend of 20 years I believe has done this (been radical and literally cut me off mid-convo and stopped speaking to me 2 month ago) when I told him I need a friend and in suffering with something emotionally. I think he is in his growth stage (I went through a massive one about 7 years ago when I discovered Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle) and as he could see I was going through something, I went from being a homie to a hindrance. But this just makes me realise he was only a friend for the pleasure so I believe it says a lot more about him
thank you 😊💛
I'm going through this now. Thank you for posting ❤
Straight and to the point
As a compassionate being it seems prudent to accept that I am motivated by pleasure, as are the others around me, and that there is nothing wrong with pleasure seeking, and that there is pleasure derived from the spiritual growth I pursue and pleasure derived from imparting spiritual growth on others.
Pleasure can be a mechanism for spiritual growth. A life without pleasure seems unnecessarily lonely and placid.
Ironically, years after my spiritual awakening I learned to enjoy my pleasures more without beating myself up about it like I did in past. I found biggest lesson was to be your authentic self (as flawed as that may appear) because those self perceived imperfections is actually what makes you the perfect version on you.
Started my journey early 2000s, last few years tested me big time but I feel Ive come through more enlightebed than before BUT, I have this "negativity" inside noe; how people acted and reacted over last few years on top of everything and how theyre acting, or not, to current goings-on, not to me, but generally speaking, its like most are just asleep on life. I need to let that go, but am struggling tbh. This video has helped.
Very true, congratulations man